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I Am Not Where I Wanted to Be At This Age

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    Stupid Genius

    When I was a kid, I was constantly told how smart I was and how one day I'm going to make it.  When I was 8 years old I was put into the G.A.T.E. (Gifted And Talented Education) program and had to attend a new school.  I was a little worried about what was going to be...
    TheIdeaOfMe TheIdeaOfMe 31-35, F 60 Responses Oct 6, 2009

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    Nobody's Mother-When I had my first children,

    identical twin boys at age 17,I wanted to be the best Mommy and soldier I could be. My Army career ended after 5 years leaving me Stripping to pay the bills though thank god there daddy wasn't a deadbeat. It was around this time I met a foreigner, from Israel, and by the end of...
    BabylessMommy BabylessMommy 41-45, F 1 Response Jun 29

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    Stuck In A High Paying Job

     I am not where I wanted to be at this age.  I"m 49, divorced with 3 adult kids that live with me.  I have a great job and earn a great salary but I end up spending most of my income on my kids, my ex-wife, and the house.  At work, I am an "in charge...
    preston95842 preston95842 46-50, M 11 Responses Dec 29, 2009

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    I am stuck in a low-paying job unable to pay

    the bills, can't figure out how to go to back to school at my age, lost so many friends and girlfriends over the years, and I don't know where to go or what to do. Wish I had a do-over on life.
    Resticon Resticon 26-30, M 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    I'm 29 and not at all

    where I wanted to be at this age. When I was 21 I had a bowel obstruction and and developed pneumonia and that landed me into a coma for 9 months on life support. My doctors said I shouldn't have survived and that if I did I would be a vegetable. Well I did come out of the...
    Ambizzle Ambizzle 26-30, F 1 Response May 2

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    This Is Not What I Expected At 24...

    I've been at a 2 year community college for going on 5 years now. I'm finally graduating in May, which I know is a big accomplishment for me...yet, I look around at every other person my age who seems to be a world ahead of me. Granted, I've struggled with a learning disability...
    caityxchaos caityxchaos 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 18, 2011

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    I thought i ll be a well off guy.

    ..settled and i would have soted out in my life...but things are different...its not even close...still looking for a perfect job...the perfect life...and the perfect partner
    sandy281985 sandy281985 26-30, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I thought I would of finished my bachelors by

    now just like most people I know. It seems that everyone I know is moving forward with their lives to bigger and better things. People are either in happy relationships, getting married, or having children. Here I am unhappy stuck in the same spot. Nothing ever works out in my...
    goldengirl24 goldengirl24 22-25, F 5 Responses Apr 9

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    It seems like everyone at my age is becoming

    successful... Wish I can just rewind back time to when I was 16 and start over..
    TearfulNights22 TearfulNights22 22-25, F 6 Responses Feb 21

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    I thought I'd have my life

    and my career going for me at this point. One of my wishes did come true, as I have a girlfriend and a daughter. I just wish everything else would fall into place, though.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 5

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    Hard work hasn't gotten me anywhere.

    .!! I've worked, ...HARD, for 20+ years; my job will be eliminated in just a few months when the program I work for closes (thru no fault of mine or my remaining few colleagues); and I'm already experiencing age-discrimination in my new job search! I'm not even old yet!! Is this...
    jamie1977jamie jamie1977jamie 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 28

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    I'm not completely unhappy with my life.

    In fact, I'm actually pretty happy with it overall with the exception of my education and career. When the economy collapsed, my education was interrupted repeatedly when my husband and I had to keep moving around frequently. He lost his job, which made us have to move from...
    PunkinH2O PunkinH2O 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 12

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    But I'm not entirely surprised

    that this is the case. Things rarely go as we plan them to. But I'm still trying to make progress in all aspects of my life.
    utahwriter utahwriter 36-40, M 1 Response Apr 27

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    Hope For The Future

    Just as I was beginning to feel completely worthless and like a waste of space, a miracle happened! I was cleaning the mirror in the bathroom, and contemplating what a failure I am, when out of the corner of my eye I spotted it; a completely empty roll of toilet paper. I knew...
    MyNameIsHurl MyNameIsHurl 31-35, F 15 Responses Feb 29, 2012

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    I am 27. Still working the same job I had

    when I was 16...even if it's in another state. No kids.
    anm52309 anm52309 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 22

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    I wanted to be on my own.

    My own house, car, gf or wife, maybe a kid, definitely a dog. I was hoping to own or manage a bar. A high class one too. Not some dive where drunk idiots go to get laid or contemplate suicide. A place where you have fun, socialize, and take a break from life for just a few...
    FallenPride FallenPride 22-25, M 3 Responses Jun 28

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    Miles Away From Where I Wanted To Be

    I thought by the time I was in my 30's I would have had at least 2 kids, a job, a house, a hubby, a life but no.I am 33, I have no kids, no job, no house, no hubby, no nothing really.
    NobodiesDaughter NobodiesDaughter 31-35, F 3 Responses Oct 16, 2013

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    In this age I like to be in my house ,

    beside My Husband and I will Have cute baby's too but I'm here in my parent home with my sad times 👀
    Honeyyas Honeyyas 26-30, F 5 Responses Jun 29

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    I'm A Failure

    I am a complete total failure and there is no way for me to change it. I'm to old to do what it'd take.I did not even graduate high school. I had no vision as to the future and no interests in a career. What I wouldn't give to be young again and have my school years back.The only...
    cinch cinch 46-50, F 7 Responses Dec 25, 2010

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    I was abused from birth by family members

    and then by my husband, from whom I finally escaped. I have had a few other very traumatic things happen in my life as well. Because I know I have talents and expect a lot of myself, for years now I have completely cut myself off from all my old friends and make myself...
    JaneG8 JaneG8 31-35, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    I Thought I'd Be More.

    I am 20 years old. I wanted to have graduated from high school and be half way through nursing school at Linfield right now. I wanted to be working as a CNA on the side. There are a whole bunch of community groups I wish I was involved in. I was in a relationship with the man of...
    Coffinnail Coffinnail 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 30, 2011

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    Hell No

    I suppose at this age I would have ideally been married by now and had my own counseling practice. That was the dream I had in college. I was thinking of going for my masters degree and having my own office. Now it seems I am the perpetual patient. A lot of crap has happened...
    Kittychanel Kittychanel 41-45, F 17 Responses Jun 3, 2012

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    I don't think I am where I should be

    because of my fiancée. He keeps putting me in constant debt and expenses. At first I thought all relationships struggle when they start off but 6 yrs n we r not married yet, we hav a child together. I want my own home and all he wants is to buy a car. After he wrecked ours. I...
    reasonseasonlifetime reasonseasonlifetime 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 22

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    I thought I'd be preparing to leave my current

    college at this time, but due to bs that happened this semester I ended up doing poorly and lost my hope scholarship. I still have to go back to my college to get my grades up. I feel like such a failure because now my family and I will have to pay my tuition in full.
    EmmieyCathiey EmmieyCathiey 18-21, F Jun 20

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    I am definitely not where I wanted to be at

    this age. By now, I expected to have a degree, full time job and my own place. I had my life all planned out until I came out with the truth about my parents and had to move to grandparents. Everything changed, I dropped out of my first course at uni and ended up on the dole...
    BeautyOfSuffering BeautyOfSuffering 22-25, F 6 Responses Jul 12

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    Feel like im crawling in my sking.

    My soul is at unrest. And I'm ready to end it all.
    lucidity91 lucidity91 22-25 10 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    I'm 27 years old. My boyfriend of a year

    and a half broke up with me almost a month ago. After that I started thinking I have a degree in criminal justice but can't find a job. I live with my parents. I've never been engaged. I want to be married with a house maybe kids and a better job that pays more than minimum wage...
    NikLee1987 NikLee1987 26-30, F 4 Responses Apr 1

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    I'm A Loser

    I was full of promises at school. I was a good student, and good at sciences, good at arts. I've started doing artistic stuff since quite young. But now I have a little job to beraly survive. I have been struggling about so many things I didn't have the time or the strenght to...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses May 29, 2012

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    Mainly, Not Having Kids

    I feel old by not having kids, when most women have them at a much younger age than mine. The vast majority of women would have children at some point, and most start at around 20 years old, and I would like to have been a young mom, even a teen mom.  Not having biological kids...
    MDenise MDenise 31-35, F 4 Responses Jun 14, 2013

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    DancingFox DancingFox 31-35, F Oct 22, 2012

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    Life has proven one thing to me,

    that's how tough and relentless it can be towards you if you get caught behind. You can take so much for granted when you are young but it's true I guess when they say you learn from your mistakes and obviously it does make you a stronger person. If only I could get those...
    PeteG121 PeteG121 22-25, M 2 Responses May 10

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    converted converted 46-50, M 1 Response Jun 8

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    My Dream Life

    I'm 25. I dreamed of being a faithful husband and a loving father. With a house of my own and a family to play in the backyard. Not the American dream, but my dream. But I have not made progress towards my goals. I feel like a failure.
    collegestag08 collegestag08 26-30, M 6 Responses Dec 26, 2011

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    Not At All.....

    I'm 35 - not old by any means, but no longer young either.... I remember being a kid, thinking that those who were in their 30's had one foot in the grave, past it, too old to have fun anymore...  I had no concept of age as a child, but then who does... but whilst I had no...
    lostlittlefirefly lostlittlefirefly 36-40, F 5 Responses Jun 15, 2012

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    I'm currently 19 years old

    and I'm not where I want to be . Some laugh but as of right now I'm a criminal justice major. But is that what I really want ? Do I just want to be a cop and rank up? When I ask myself this I freeze. What I woul really love is to become an actor . I'm extremely fit and I'm a...
    Neverstraightonlyfoward Neverstraightonlyfoward 18-21, M Mar 28

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    So ive been an addict most my life using drugs

    or alcohol to make me feel better until it stopped working and I had to focus on myself. That's when things got hard. I am working on finishing a unique school to get a ba hope I can finish but at this school I'm sure I can. But I still stugle I'm 31 without a job but I stopped...
    Katymoon Katymoon 31-35, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    I'm 44, half way through life

    if all goes well. This is not how I pictured things, but that isn't necessarily bad. There are things in life that matter more to me than being rich, famous, adored, etc. I am rich, famous and adored enough by my two little boys. I'm also at a point where I am learning new...
    myguitarisbusted myguitarisbusted 41-45, M 5 Responses Jun 26

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    I'm 47 and I'm just now beginning to figure out

    who I am and what I want. I'm getting a late start. But I guess late is better than not at all. :D
    coffeeflavoredkisses coffeeflavoredkisses 46-50, F 9 Responses Jun 16

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    I am 27. I am going nowhere.

    .... At primary and secondary school i was consatntly achieving the highest marks, with very little effort. By 3rd year though (14 years of age) my personal life had become so hectic i stopped caring about school, or much else. I didnt even sit any standard grades in the end...
    aloneandunknown aloneandunknown 26-30, M 6 Responses Jun 29

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    I struggled with this,

    mainly because I'm the oldest child, in college, and my brothers moved out of the house before I did, they have jobs in the military, and I felt like a failure in life. But then I was thinking, I didn't choose the military, it's not for me. I have a college degree and working on...
    ariecon23 ariecon23 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 31, 2013

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    Life Is A Rollercoaster.

    I am reading the stories on here about not being where you want to be because that is how I feel. Most of you are so young though and I want to tell you that getting there is an uphill climb. I am 43 and I am not where I thought I would be - A college grad with a career,a family...
    blackcloud1313 blackcloud1313 41-45, F 4 Responses Nov 11, 2011

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    When I was a little girl,

    I used to have a weird but cute fixation on the number 24. As I was good at math and times tables, I found the number 24 interesting because it has so many factors for a relatively small number. I also liked the fact that there are 24 hours in a day and 24 ribs in the human body...
    Rivalry0x Rivalry0x 22-25, F 5 Responses Jan 3

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    I should have been done backpacking Europe,

    a year or 2 into college getting smug with a random guy in my firm rim
    jenneruz jenneruz 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 8

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    Iamevolved Iamevolved 16-17, F 4 Responses Jun 29

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    I expected to be a Forensic Criminologist at

    this point in my life, but God shows us that we are not the ones in control. He shifts things around to work for our good even though we cannot see it at the time and cry out "WHY?". We are not to be discouraged but to follow His lead and allow Him to guide our lives in the way...
    bestillandknow1 bestillandknow1 41-45, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I thought I would be happy

    but no ... I lost my stepdad almost a year ago and live in an unfinished ugly house with my mom and her and my brother keep fighting over money sh*t ..
    oOMissDiorOo oOMissDiorOo 13-15, F 3 Responses Jun 29

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    36? Really? It's funny,

    I remember being 16. 20 years ago - it blows my mind. When I was young and pictured myself around this age I definitely didn't picture this: single and still struggling to establish myself in life. I've been to college a couple of times in different programs. For personal...
    internalreflection internalreflection 36-40, M 4 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    Ilovesummer01 Ilovesummer01 26-30, F 4 Responses Apr 11

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