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I Am Not Where I Wanted to Be At This Age

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    I am 44 years old and struggling with empty

    nest syndrome (oldest and only son moved out to be closer to college ), a very lonely marriage, a job I hate, friends I cannot relate to anymore and family I Have no real connection to. I have 2 teenage daughters that really are my only shining light. I Need to turn it all...
    delhimom delhimom 41-45, F 4 Responses Feb 3

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    Nobody desires a VBIED ruining there career of

    15 yrs. But it happened n I'm struggling. F it just a job.
    Averageguy41074 Averageguy41074 36-40, M 2 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    Stupid Genius

    When I was a kid, I was constantly told how smart I was and how one day I'm going to make it.  When I was 8 years old I was put into the G.A.T.E. (Gifted And Talented Education) program and had to attend a new school.  I was a little worried about what was going to be...
    TheIdeaOfMe TheIdeaOfMe 31-35, F 60 Responses Oct 6, 2009

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    I am 33 years old. in my 20es i hade it all

    figured out...and now I'm feeling I'm not going anywhere with my life:boring job,no husband,no kids...i do have friends though....but I'm feeling i failing life all the time...everyone thinks i have it all...but it's not true...i can't fall asleep without taking medication for...
    Nesigurna Nesigurna 31-35, F 5 Responses Feb 7

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    This is where I wanted to be by

    now it's didn't happen hopefully it will bring this year. Goals to fulfill in 5 years. 1. Get my GED. 2. Go to college . 3. Major in criminal justice and minor in music. 4. Have my own place. 5. Have the car in my name. 6. Finish College. 7. Have your dream job. 8. Put your...
    Aries1884 Aries1884 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 9

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    So... I'm headed to work

    and asking myself the same question I ask myself everyday. Why am I, an intelligent hard working person in my 30s, still working at a hobby store with no hope of promotion? Who knows.
    kristy22010 kristy22010 31-35, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    Why does it seem like I'm going nowhere

    and I'm almost 30. Every aspect of my life is just a mess right now.
    mlia48 mlia48 26-30, F 30 Responses Aug 19, 2014

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    I have no job, no car,

    no money, too much bills & too much pride to admit I need help.
    kathornes kathornes 22-25, F 8 Responses 3 days ago

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    Not where I thought I'd be

    but I'm grateful...I've been blessed with a determination that keeps me going even when circumstances say I'm not supposed to. I'm just thankful.
    easynuh easynuh 26-30, F 8 Responses Sep 11, 2014

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    Damn! I'm nearing 27 years old

    and I've still yet to get my GED. I had it almost complete last year but I failed the math portion of it and could not retake it due to everyone taking test near the end. Well, when 2014 rolled around, the GED test changed, so if you didn't have it done before January 1 2014...
    TJPink TJPink 26-30, F 12 Responses Dec 19, 2014

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    I'm afraid to leave my family.

    I'm finally moving away and now I'm having second thoughts about leaving everything I know and love behind.
    eurodarling eurodarling 22-25, F 7 Responses 6 days ago

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    It seems like everyone at my age is becoming

    successful... Wish I can just rewind back time to when I was 16 and start over..
    SleepyRose22 SleepyRose22 22-25, F 4 Responses Feb 21, 2014

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    I'm 28 years old with a 2 year degree working

    for a large corporation selling mobile plans and this is definitely not where I wanted to be. I have no idea what I want to do with this life. I survived 4 years in the military. I've worked over seas after the military. I'd like to go back to college but I refuse to bury myself...
    justanotherguy86 justanotherguy86 26-30, M 8 Responses Dec 14, 2014

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    I hate where I am in life.

    My relationship, my career, my educational endeavors. I feel as though no one appreciates me, and I'm constantly surrounded by ******** I can't can't away from. I mostly just hate being around anyone.
    aliiceblue aliiceblue 22-25, F 7 Responses a week ago

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    I'm 25 & spent the last yr living with my

    family again... needless .to say I haven't dated for a year, not since my ex-fiance kicked me and my dog out. in 3 years, I lost my best friend/soulmate, then my fiance decided maybe we shouldn't get married, which I don't blame him- I lost my **** for a while when my friend...
    slovek slovek 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 3

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    People are always asking about our short term

    and long term goals. Where we'll see ourselves in 5 years, in 10 years. In high school , if you asked me where I would want to be by this time, I would've said, "Engaged." Finishing college and getting ready to marry the love of my life. But where am I really? I am finishing...
    ismalbergher ismalbergher 22-25, F 6 Responses Oct 21, 2014

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    I just received notice

    that I've completed my bachelor's degree. I was hoping that I'd be in grad school by now but due to a mix up, I had to postpone that for a year. Honestly, it's not so bad but at some point when enough things go wrong a person may start to lose motivation...but I have hope that...
    Arija18 Arija18 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 7

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    Hope For The Future

    Just as I was beginning to feel completely worthless and like a waste of space, a miracle happened! I was cleaning the mirror in the bathroom, and contemplating what a failure I am, when out of the corner of my eye I spotted it; a completely empty roll of toilet paper. I knew...
    MyNameIsHurl MyNameIsHurl 31-35, F 15 Responses Feb 29, 2012

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    I need a ******* job.

    how do people expect you to have experience if they won't allow you to gain experience?!
    evynray evynray 22-25, F 9 Responses Nov 16, 2014

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    charlessteven1967 charlessteven1967 46-50, M 1 Response Jan 29

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    Idek right now, I thought by

    now I'd have more figured out. I thought I'd be happy.
    newbeginnings22 newbeginnings22 18-21, F 6 Responses 6 days ago

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    There are times when I just feel extremely

    incompetent. I used to be so assertive when it came to choosing my course and the path I wanted to take in my life but now I'm just not so sure anymore. I've gathered so much disapproval from my parents with my academic standing. It's just that I find my course extremely hard...
    jinxedwithink jinxedwithink 22-25, F 5 Responses Feb 16

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    I wanted to be a world traveler

    and learn new languages. Now I only travel to the store and work. I have never left the Midwest. Married and pregnant at seventeen put s bump in the road. Don't get me wrong. I love my family. Been married for twenty-five years and have great successful kids and a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Sep 28, 2014

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    49 years of age. Not only that,

    but closing on halfway to the Big 5-0! The time in a person's life – especially a man's, by today's cultural norms – when I ought to be nearing the peak of my wealth, power, and productivity: closing on the top of the corporate ladder, or at least securely established in a...
    Oldr4SubGrrl1965 Oldr4SubGrrl1965 46-50, M 6 Responses Feb 15

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    I am a 41 year old mom of 3 children ages 11,

    14, and 16. I don't have a college degree and I don't have a driver's license. Did I plan on being totally dependent on my husband and family members? Did I plan on having to give up on friendships because I couldn't drive to any get togethers? Did I plan on living paycheck to...
    rrj1012 rrj1012 41-45, F 15 Responses Jan 2

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    I always thought I'd be an artist growing up.

    At a young age, I was told by teachers and counselors that I showed immense potential. But I've come to learn that that's not enough to be successful. My parents were engineers and I was the first one in the family that you could call an artist--the total black sheep. They...
    SMArchangel SMArchangel 36-40, M 2 Responses Jan 28

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    I'm 40 with 3 kids (who I adore),

    living as a single mum, separated for over 2 years but still not able to break free from the relationship. Life seems mundane most days and I never seem to have time to even scratch myself. I thought at this stage I would be happy in love, have a lovely group of friends and just...
    Mikino Mikino 41-45, F 3 Responses Feb 3

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    Gosh!! Just came home from outside

    and let me tell you people NEVER EVER... EVER plan an holiday in BELGIUM apart from wafels, chocolate and now the artist Stromae who looks like a stick-insect this country simply sucks and boooooooring as ****!! 1 day ill move out here for gooood!! :O the f***!!!
    Bluerosered Bluerosered 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 17

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    I wish my parents pushed me into doing more

    things before it was too late.
    Ashash146 Ashash146 13-15, F 13 Responses Jul 24, 2014

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    AkilaHM AkilaHM 18-21, M 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    tbh, i kind of wanted to run away from home

    (without my parents worrying). i'm more like curious about the world. any ideas/tips/recommendations?
    Chronom Chronom 22-25, M Feb 21

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    I thought a person ages gradually.

    Maybe I shouldn't have had a child at age 30. It's like overnight I have more gray hair. I see lines on my face that won't go away with better sleep. I don't have my own house and I've still never been married. I expected nice cars, nice house, shopping sprees, good husband...
    morrginme morrginme 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 3

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    18 years old. Im supposed to be at the

    University of Memphis. Undergrad. Major in biology. Preparing myself for medical school and becoming a neurologist. Im supposed to be in advanced yoga classes and doing contortion work. Stretching. Im suppose to be driving. Im supposed to be going to ballet, hip hop, zumba...
    Acebo Acebo 18-21, F 12 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    Just had a birthday. I'm 38

    and while some parts of my life (professional) are getting where I had hoped they would be when I was 34/35 - other parts of my life are not. Each year I promise to make myself healthier and I don't. I thought I'd have a kid or two by now, but my husband isn't working now and...
    been2 been2 36-40, F 4 Responses Oct 18, 2014

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    I just graduated beauty school

    for esthetics. Yes it took me this long. I have a mental illness, and have been moving all over and in and out of hospitals. No fun. But I did it. I have to take my state board's. I still want to take the make up artistry program. I'm going to be 32 in August. I feel like I'm...
    ashleythis ashleythis 31-35, F 3 Responses Feb 11

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    I always thought that I'd be married

    and have another child and a family. That obviously isn't in the cards for me. I'm accepting that and looking forward to the freedom I will have. It's sad that I won't have anyone to take care of soon but for once in my life perhaps I can find someone to take care of me....who...
    455cargirl 455cargirl 36-40, F 8 Responses Oct 21, 2014

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    I am 30 years old, living with my mother still,

    working at a restaurant with $7.00 in my bank account and $11.00 in my wallet. I just recently got put into the friend zone with the one I love because I am not doing anything to better myself to get to be with her and her boys. I am exceedingly above average in the brains area...
    bpbeard84 bpbeard84 26-30, M 13 Responses Dec 2, 2014

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    I am definitely not where I wanted to be at my

    age. Ive had 2 broken relationships and I feel like a few years of my life have been eaten away by scum. I wonder where I would be had I kept things simple. Of this I am certain: I would have been better off. I would not be posting this on EP
    tan54321 tan54321 31-35, F 9 Responses Oct 29, 2014

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    At this age, I was suppose to already have a

    PhD, a family, a car. I just built my house but I still feel stagnant. I am awaiting a promotion at work but yet still I feel am way behind.
    Blissoled Blissoled 31-35, F 6 Responses Feb 2

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    a lot of us feel like this.

    there are so many obstacles in life. how do we navigate them? I've lost a lot chasing what I wanted in this life. now I'm simply going to live and forget about what I want as much as possible. a quote that I've been thinking about lately. ... I have to let go of the...
    AlwaysPersevere71 AlwaysPersevere71 41-45, M 8 Responses Feb 3

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    well, I just reached my six month anniversary

    at my job. I work in a factory, which is odd seeing as how I have 3 degrees, several years of teaching experience and am a veteran of Iraq and Afghanistan. Most people think I'm not living up to my potential but here's the thing- I make way more money and have a lot more job...
    jstephens4 jstephens4 31-35, M 9 Responses Feb 14

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    Joined infantry Rifles British Army my dream

    since i was little only to leave during training. I decided i wanted to be a combat medic the only problem is i dont know how long its going to take.
    dean70 dean70 16-17, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    anasteel2 anasteel2 41-45, F 18 Responses Aug 4, 2014

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    I thought I would have an idea of

    who I am at this point, but lately I'm more confused than ever. Nothing makes sense anymore. So many people I know are continuing on in the simple life and I can't do it. I want something more...something better.
    rocky39580 rocky39580 18-21, F 5 days ago

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    Im not to happy about

    where im at in this stage of my life. I know people tend to say it all depends on YOURSELF to change your situation but sometimes I just feel helpless.
    donydonderson donydonderson 26-30, M 3 Responses Nov 7, 2014

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    i spend all of my days with hope,

    ,but i am tired ,,i need something ,,i am not happy ,,i don't like be depress i wanna be positive and make other happy,, but i cant do it any more..what should i do..i know all of the advice about happiness ,,i don't need advice,,i need just change something in my life,,but what...
    CassieJess CassieJess 22-25, F 8 Responses Aug 28, 2014

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    amandaRose22 amandaRose22 16-17, F 5 Responses a week ago