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I Am Not Where I Wanted to Be At This Age

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    I have struggled working hard half of my life

    honestly but I guess it needs enough money as well with you to succeed. Mere hard work doesn't pay. I am educated person in business but earning hand to mouth with so many liabilities. I did job for few years but guess Am not fit for job coz of my problem with denial to obey...
    Raajan71 Raajan71 41-45, M 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Ok I am not where I thought I would be at this

    age. I am making changes. Owning my financial problems that I did not create but have to resolve. I have a part time with our local Jc penny. This will help with Christmas in many ways. This will teach me to be more independent too. I am a bit proud of myself.
    Gingersmiles Gingersmiles 41-45, F 6 Responses Oct 22

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    I am definitely not where I wanted to be at my

    age. Ive had 2 broken relationships and I feel like a few years of my life have been eaten away by scum. I wonder where I would be had I kept things simple. Of this I am certain: I would have been better off. I would not be posting this on EP
    tan54321 tan54321 31-35, F 9 Responses 2 days ago

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    Right now I'm back where I was 20 years ago,

    in my old room at my parents house, When i should still be in the house my husband and i shared together, although i hated the house we were in I would give my right foot to be there right now, I hate that we are going through a divorce, Our anniversary was yesterday and i spent...
    Calmriver70 Calmriver70 41-45, F 6 Responses Oct 18

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    Aaaah, the endless lists of "the things I want

    to do"..."I will learn another language, learn to play an instrument, become a businesswoman/teacher, visit the USA" etc. And you end up doing a dead-end job you hate, you do not have that special person in your life (indeed you more or less give up on it), you're still full of...
    2095TwistedTransistor3684 2095TwistedTransistor3684 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 18

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    I thought I might have a career

    and a plan. I have neither.
    catsNbooks catsNbooks 26-30, F 10 Responses Oct 12

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    It seems like everyone at my age is becoming

    successful... Wish I can just rewind back time to when I was 16 and start over..
    SweetRose22 SweetRose22 22-25, F 5 Responses Feb 21

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    I am 33 and married for 4 years.

    We have 2 perfect kids ages 2 & 3. I do not think I love my husband anymore. To be perfectly honest, I am not really sure why we got married. I get annoyed with every single things he does. He is lazy and chooses a very unhealthy and inactive lifestyle. Being a mother and a...
    MomofIrishTwins MomofIrishTwins 31-35, F 17 Responses 3 days ago

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    Life has not exactly been kind

    and I have had to struggle to maintain an even keel of being okay......... I wish I could learn how to be satisfied with where I am but seriously, I am so lonely.
    glassingal glassingal 56-60 3 Responses Oct 23

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    anasteel2 anasteel2 41-45, F 14 Responses Aug 4

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    Stupid Genius

    When I was a kid, I was constantly told how smart I was and how one day I'm going to make it.  When I was 8 years old I was put into the G.A.T.E. (Gifted And Talented Education) program and had to attend a new school.  I was a little worried about what was going to be...
    TheIdeaOfMe TheIdeaOfMe 31-35, F 60 Responses Oct 6, 2009

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    I wish my parents pushed me into doing more

    things before it was too late.
    Ashash146 Ashash146 13-15, F 16 Responses Jul 24

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    I just turned 45 at the end of August.

    Thought my life would be totally different at this age than how it has turned out to be. It's not a bad life..don't get me wrong. But I just thought that I would still be married, living in a decent sized house, have some savings, not be worried about bills, not living...
    RubyLane RubyLane 41-45, F 9 Responses Sep 19

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    I'm 27 years old. My boyfriend of a year

    and a half broke up with me almost a month ago. After that I started thinking I have a degree in criminal justice but can't find a job. I live with my parents. I've never been engaged. I want to be married with a house maybe kids and a better job that pays more than minimum wage...
    NikLee1987 NikLee1987 26-30, F 4 Responses Apr 1

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    I'm young. Turning 15 in January.

    And I've already had sex. With two guys. One of them I regret. The other is my bf. I've been on and off for two years with and in the middle of those two years I had sex with the other guy.. I've done coke. I've done Molly. I've done LSD. I've done xanax. I've done salvia. I...
    fckerr fckerr 18-21, F 7 Responses Oct 18

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    My life changed in 2008.

    ..after a 30 year career in Information Technology, I lost my job. I lived off my savings for the next 2 years, but finally lost my home to foreclosure after 18 years in my home. It was devastating. I filed for bankruptcy in 2010 and moved in with my only daughter and her 3...
    SistaSilvatress SistaSilvatress 61-65, F 1 Response Oct 13

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    It's time for a positive life changing

    experience and I know I have to begin with my inner self but I need to learn how.
    cjjb55 cjjb55 41-45, F 9 Responses Aug 19

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    I am 25 and I am a trucker

    that doesn't drive because I hate driving, honestly don't know where my life is going. I gave up my job and apartment to move down to Texas and nothing is working out the way it should and I just want to go back home but I don't want to be labeled as a quitter
    cmsullivan cmsullivan 22-25, M 7 Responses Aug 12

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    I wanted to be a world traveler

    and learn new languages. Now I only travel to the store and work. I have never left the Midwest. Married and pregnant at seventeen put s bump in the road. Don't get me wrong. I love my family. Been married for twenty-five years and have great successful kids and a...
    bateyegirl bateyegirl 41-45, F 8 Responses Sep 28

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    Not where I thought I'd be

    but I'm grateful...I've been blessed with a determination that keeps me going even when circumstances say I'm not supposed to. I'm just thankful.
    easynuh easynuh 26-30, F 8 Responses Sep 11

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    I live with a man who cheats

    and lies but I choose to stay for my own gain. (I'm female) I want children and it's too hard to adopt or do on my own. He wants kids too and most of the time it's fine. But every now and then it hits me hard what a crap relationship I ended up with. Today is one of those days...
    nicobabe nicobabe 31-35, M 9 Responses Oct 23

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    I am only 14 but i thought i would be doing

    something more in my life than just living high school, i want to be someone, i want to follow my dreams now. but how?
    neverweather neverweather 13-15, F 8 Responses Oct 2

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    I have an opportunity to really get into my

    field of choice. This is what I went to school for. I know I can so the job. I really want to go for it. There is one hesitation this is at my husband's office. He is the one that have me the info. We have been on the outs and almost separated last month. If I get this job and...
    Gingersmiles Gingersmiles 41-45, F 3 Responses Oct 13

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    I had so much hopes for myself

    when I was younger I thought by 19 I would have my **** together I am no where where I want to be and I am not reaching it any time soon. I thought I would have a better life and be happier in so many aspects, I can't help but feel that my life turned out to be a failure.
    melonladyy melonladyy 18-21, F 4 Responses Aug 4

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    I am happy with my lot generally

    but I know what I want to achieve in life and I know that it took me a while to start. I know that I am going to have to work hard to get myself caught up. I also know that the fight will be worth it, I am making the change in 2015 to be completely happy with my life. Next...
    ultimatehacker ultimatehacker 26-30, M 2 Responses Oct 20

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    Im divorcing my abusive husband

    and I'm terrified of life
    EMG1258 EMG1258 26-30, F 7 Responses Aug 18

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    When I was a sophomore in high school I thought

    my senior year would be the best year of my life the irony in this is my sophomore year was the best school year of my life
    mrloweco mrloweco 18-21, M 3 Responses Oct 10

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    I should be doing so much better off financially

    and healthier than what I am. I should be able to go anywhere in town when I want, without worrying about running out of gas before leaving the parking lot of the apartments that I should not have settled for. I have allowed too many distractions to alter my life's direction and...
    SinimanCheryl SinimanCheryl 41-45, T 3 Responses Oct 20

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    People are always asking about our short term

    and long term goals. Where we'll see ourselves in 5 years, in 10 years. In high school , if you asked me where I would want to be by this time, I would've said, "Engaged." Finishing college and getting ready to marry the love of my life. But where am I really? I am finishing...
    ismalbergher ismalbergher 18-21, F 7 Responses Oct 21

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    I should be running around outside

    and getting cuts from playing too hard but instead I'm stuck inside because of my parents and because I fear being social cutting myself with pencil sharpeners.
    Theycallherelly Theycallherelly 13-15, F 1 Response Oct 13

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    Just had a birthday. I'm 38

    and while some parts of my life (professional) are getting where I had hoped they would be when I was 34/35 - other parts of my life are not. Each year I promise to make myself healthier and I don't. I thought I'd have a kid or two by now, but my husband isn't working now and...
    been2 been2 36-40, F 3 Responses Oct 18

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    Boy can i agree with this.

    . I at least thought I would be married by now, but that hasnt happened. I mean, I still live at home with my parents barely making enough to get by because of debt from school and bills... i wish i could just.. nevermind.
    lostandlooking4answers lostandlooking4answers 31-35, F 4 Responses Sep 26

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    Hope For The Future

    Just as I was beginning to feel completely worthless and like a waste of space, a miracle happened! I was cleaning the mirror in the bathroom, and contemplating what a failure I am, when out of the corner of my eye I spotted it; a completely empty roll of toilet paper. I knew...
    MyNameIsHurl MyNameIsHurl 31-35, F 14 Responses Feb 29, 2012

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    All around me are familiar faces Worn out

    places, worn out faces Bright and early for the daily races Going nowhere, going nowhere. (Precise description of where I am)
    Ajliveup Ajliveup 26-30, M 2 Responses Aug 14

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    Ok, sigh...so this has been the absolute

    hardest time in my entire life. I am 31, going through a divorce from a 12 yr abusive and controlling relationship, come from a broken home where my sister accuses my father of rape, and am dating a drug addict addicted to prescription pills I have been working over 100 hours...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses 6 days ago

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    Sometime failure isn't an option.

    . I wanted to start my own thing and possibly make money at it too.. I am very talented I am told so I suppose I should just go for it.
    g1800 g1800 41-45, F 6 Responses Oct 12

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    I wish I followed my own gut

    and made my own decision instead of letting people influence me. Now I feel like I'm playing catch up to get back to where I wanted to be all along
    lemurgirl09 lemurgirl09 26-30, F 6 Responses Oct 11

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    i spend all of my days with hope,

    ,but i am tired ,,i need something ,,i am not happy ,,i don't like be depress i wanna be positive and make other happy,, but i cant do it any more..what should i do..i know all of the advice about happiness ,,i don't need advice,,i need just change something in my life,,but what...
    CassieJess CassieJess 18-21, F 8 Responses Aug 28

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    I was always told I had a good head on my

    shoulders, that I'd go far. 20 with a baby (with a guy who already had a kid with another woman) and dropped out of college is NOT where I thought I'd be. 99% effective is bs. For that 1% it's 100% life changing.
    NotFirstNotLast NotFirstNotLast 18-21, F 8 Responses Oct 8

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    I'm 29 years old, married

    for 2 years and with a lovely 5 month old baby,, but i'm behind career wise, i graduated from medical school, in this career path, gaps in the cv are a big problem, i love kids but i'm Torn between, pursuing my career goals or staying at home with my baby a little longer ..
    Dnino Dnino 26-30, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    Stuck In A High Paying Job

     I am not where I wanted to be at this age.  I"m 49, divorced with 3 adult kids that live with me.  I have a great job and earn a great salary but I end up spending most of my income on my kids, my ex-wife, and the house.  At work, I am an "in charge...
    preston95842 preston95842 46-50, M 11 Responses Dec 29, 2009

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    I am in army... I am a brilliant officer

    but i dont do that much work hard.. I think if i could do more than i can get more goals in my life..
    dukedom4ever dukedom4ever 26-30, M 1 Response Oct 11

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    i had always hoped i'd be more outgoing.

    a thinner, prettier me. someone who spends the weekends helping the planet by doing community service and volunteer work. i wanted to be a better person all around. but i'm not there. i really need to be....i need to find the time and the willpower.
    aciddreams aciddreams 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 13

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    Hell No

    I suppose at this age I would have ideally been married by now and had my own counseling practice. That was the dream I had in college. I was thinking of going for my masters degree and having my own office. Now it seems I am the perpetual patient. A lot of crap has happened...
    Kittychanel Kittychanel 41-45, F 17 Responses Jun 3, 2012

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    I always thought that I'd be married

    and have another child and a family. That obviously isn't in the cards for me. I'm accepting that and looking forward to the freedom I will have. It's sad that I won't have anyone to take care of soon but for once in my life perhaps I can find someone to take care of me....who...
    455cargirl 455cargirl 36-40, F 6 Responses Oct 21

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    I'm 47 and I'm just now beginning to figure out

    who I am and what I want. I'm getting a late start. But I guess late is better than not at all. :D
    coffeeflavoredkisses coffeeflavoredkisses 46-50, F 12 Responses Jun 16

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    Why does it seem like I'm going nowhere

    and I'm almost 30. Every aspect of my life is just a mess right now.
    mlia48 mlia48 26-30, F 32 Responses Aug 19

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    At this state I've been feeling suicidal

    and I've done stupid things like trying to take my own life away :( I'm heart broken and letting go of someone is not easy for me, I just don't know who I am anymore. I've become so crazy and suicidal. But I know it needs to stop.
    Melissa7414 Melissa7414 16-17, F 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    I'm twenty two years old

    and I still live with my mother, I know it isn't exactly uncommon but it's not what I want. At this age I always thought I'd be off on my own with apartment somewhere but with what I make, that's just impossible. Not everyone peeks in their twenties but I still envy those who do...
    Theorion32 Theorion32 22-25, M 4 Responses Sep 29

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    At age 31 I hoped to be married with kids.

    I don't have either. I still live at home with my parents and 2 younger sisters. I work at a job that I hate. I am miserable and it gets so tiring faking it, like I'm okay. I have so many issues but I swear to you, at age 31 I thought they would be gone. Who knew 11 years later...
    Hopeless314 Hopeless314 31-35, F 19 Responses Oct 15

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    I've been thru different career paths

    for the past 10 years of my working life. I just couldn't find happiness or fulfillment. Even if my superiors tell me I'm brilliant, I still believe I'm just ordinary. My present state is not what I've envisioned myself to be, especially at this age and time. I feel left out. I...
    surrealgizmo surrealgizmo 31-35, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    When I was younger I used to watch Peter Pan

    and wonder why he never wanted to grow up. I couldn't wait to grow up and hang out with all my friends and stay up late. Little did I know I would have very few friends and I would stay up late every night crying from a broken and depressed heart, waking up with scars and red...
    deamonsinside deamonsinside 16-17, F 2 Responses Sep 18

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    18 years old. Im supposed to be at the

    University of Memphis. Undergrad. Major in biology. Preparing myself for medical school and becoming a neurologist. Im supposed to be in advanced yoga classes and doing contortion work. Stretching. Im suppose to be driving. Im supposed to be going to ballet, hip hop, zumba...
    Acebo Acebo 18-21, F 14 Responses Jul 30

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