I Am Not Where I Wanted to Be At This Age

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    I know we shouldn't compare ourselves to others.

    However, one of the worst things for me is reconnecting with childhood friends on Facebook(or other social media) & Seeing how much they have going for them. How great their lives turned out. I mean, I am happy for others! I guess I'm a bit ashamed that I'm not doing more in my...
    moniekita1988 moniekita1988
    31-35, F
    8 Responses Aug 11, 2015

    Sometimes hearing about people's successes

    makes me realize how much I've failed in life.
    Eechay Eechay
    31-35, M
    9 Responses Jan 12, 2015
    macfullking macfullking
    26-30, M
    Feb 21

    I just turned 30 and I can't seem to stop

    crying. I'm not where I thought I'd be at this age. Most of my peers are doing great things, but I can't seem to get it together. I know I shouldn't compare, but it's so hard not to
    mamiof313 mamiof313
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Mar 17

    I'm 25. By now, I wanted to have been done with

    a college education, and have a good career and get married and have a family after. I'm doing things backwards. I dropped out of high school, was married at 19, got my GED at 23, had my daughter at 24 and I'm planning to go to nursing school in the near future. I don't regret...
    piecesofmiss piecesofmiss
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Feb 19

    i was never really afraid of getting old

    as a kid but i still wasnt looking forward to it. so i wanted everything done while i was young. i wanted to have a baby by the time i was 20, so i also wanted to be married with a house by then too. my reasoning for this was that i didnt want to be old while my child was...
    cillasavage cillasavage
    18-21, F
    9 Responses Nov 9, 2015

    I am a 41 year old mom of 3 children ages 11,

    14, and 16. I don't have a college degree and I don't have a driver's license. Did I plan on being totally dependent on my husband and family members? Did I plan on having to give up on friendships because I couldn't drive to any get togethers? Did I plan on living paycheck to...
    rrj1012 rrj1012
    41-45, F
    15 Responses Jan 2, 2015

    no I'm not I want to be

    as far away from the earth as I can get
    Thewingedwolfserpent Thewingedwolfserpent
    56-60, M
    2 Responses Feb 21

    Stupid Genius

    When I was a kid, I was constantly told how smart I was and how one day I'm going to make it.  When I was 8 years old I was put into the G.A.T.E. (Gifted And Talented Education) program and had to attend a new school.  I was a little worried about what was going to be...
    TheIdeaOfMe TheIdeaOfMe
    31-35, F
    60 Responses Oct 6, 2009

    I may not where I want to be

    but I'm sure as hell glad not to be where I used to be. although I still live with my mom, I have an interview so things are looking up.
    sarah025 sarah025
    22-25, F
    6 Responses Apr 1, 2015

    Jobless, depressed, no money,

    doubting everything in existence. What else is there? No friends, separated from family, feeling crazy.
    jackilla77 jackilla77
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Mar 26

    I thought that by now I would be married with

    at least one child. Unfortunately, my life didn't turn out that way. I don't have anyone special in my life and had I not make a decision I thought was best for me at the time, I'd at least have a child to love. I've been on my job for nearly 20 years, which I am very grateful...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    9 Responses Apr 21, 2015

    “I have come to accept the feeling of not

    knowing where I am going. And I have trained myself to love it. Because it is only when we are suspended in mid-air with no landing in sight, that we force our wings to unravel and alas begin our flight. And as we fly, we still may not know where we are going to. But the miracle...
    rescuemuttsrule rescuemuttsrule
    41-45
    3 Responses Apr 17, 2015
    anasteel2 anasteel2
    41-45, F
    15 Responses Aug 4, 2014

    When younger I thought

    so much about my future and the things I wanted to do and places where I wanted to be but I as growth older my motivation was disappearing and with it almost all my dreams and now I feel stock in time even thought the later is running and is not waiting fir anyone feel like my...
    OrangeCaramel OrangeCaramel
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Mar 23

    I'm such a loser I rarely get out

    because I'm afraid of people and it drives me insane, I need to work on getting out more otherwise I won't make it
    Isaokomori22 Isaokomori22
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Feb 27

    I know it's cliche to say life is a journey,

    not a destination. More to the point, if you talk to people that are somewhat successful, the story is never a straight line. It has odd twists and turns, events of pure luck and random opportunities that were never planned. Regardless of what you plan and work for your life...
    Tonejunky Tonejunky
    51-55, M
    Feb 27

    We never get, what we want.

    We never want what we get. We never have, what we like. We never like, what we have. Still we live, still we love, still we hope.
    visaforlove visaforlove
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Jul 27, 2015

    I need a ******* job.

    how do people expect you to have experience if they won't allow you to gain experience?!
    evynray evynray
    22-25, F
    8 Responses Nov 16, 2014

    I'm always haunted by the idea

    that I'm wasting my life away...
    LavenderDarling LavenderDarling
    26-30, F
    9 Responses Feb 21

    I'm not sure what I'm suppose to be doing I

    need a mother and a best friend- I live frozen in time. I didn't know people wanted children what did I miss out on. I never had one life conversation with a parent. I will probably find that here - I guess that is something beautiful being born in this time thank goodness I...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Mar 13
    CODECRACKER2014 CODECRACKER2014
    41-45, M
    5 Responses Feb 19

    Yeah I know I'm young

    and stuff but I'm in community college and live at home until I'm ready to leave for university. I want to be out partying like everyone else. I just feel like I'm wasting my youth.
    SwedishDoll SwedishDoll
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Mar 4

    I wanted to be a graphic designer by this time,

    or at least have two novels published, and enjoying some degree of success. Instead, I am just now paying off my home, and stuck in this dead end town that I live in.
    moondiva moondiva
    36-40, F
    Apr 19

    Honestly I am not where i planned

    or wanted to be at in this point in my life. I had wanted to be in college right now and on my way to my career but life threw me a curveball!. But long story short some things happened in my family and i dropped out of high school and it has been a few years now and have been...
    ReallyConfusedTeen ReallyConfusedTeen
    18-21, M
    6 Responses Mar 14

    sitting in my room, alone in the dark

    while the weather outside is beautiful and there are plenty of things to do but I'm too busy thinking about how much I hate where my life is going right now. I'm slacking in school and I'm desperately trying to quit my job for a career. i thought by this age I would have been...
    asiacakes asiacakes
    18-21, F
    8 Responses Mar 10
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    5 Responses Mar 4

    Very frustrated with my life at the moment.

    I never taught I would be ere at this age. I have accomplished nothing I have been having major set backs. everything I try to do jus never works out. I jus need some new opportunities
    kimberlee1876 kimberlee1876
    22-25, F
    8 Responses May 9, 2015

    Sometimes I just feel like no matter how old I

    get I'm always in some type of childhood position. All I've done in my life and yet still I feel I am back to square one. I seriously have to progress. Living a life almost by default. Not actively making decisions just dealing with whatever comes from my day to day actions. I...
    lovelife84 lovelife84
    31-35, F
    9 Responses May 30, 2015
    lovelybrigid lovelybrigid
    41-45, F
    6 Responses Apr 29, 2015

    When I was young I thought wow I'm going to be

    some where else by my 30's. So here I am 30 something and I'm just starting to learn how to decide what I want for myself personally and professionally. Finally getting a handle on my weight and my job.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Feb 21

    I just want to make my family

    and myself proud. I know I have been working so hard to get where I want to be, but I sometimes feel it isn't enough. I'm only 18, I constantly remind myself that I have so much time ahead of me, but I constantly hear older people talk about how fast it flies by. That scares me...
    dabrielle dabrielle
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Feb 16

    i hate it here, i hate my family,

    i hate being at home! i hate my job, i hate that i don't hear from my friends anymore, i being single, i hate feeling alone! i cannot take this anymore!! this isn't how my life should be going!
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Feb 22

    I'm 25 years old. I've never had a drivers

    license and I only have a high school education. Never really held a job. I did just get out of a 7 year abusive marriage. I lost a lot of opportunities along the way and I regret it. I'm ashamed... Hopefully I can catch up to where I need to be now that I'm out of that.
    Cordale10 Cordale10
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Feb 22

    Almost 53, single, rent,

    no car, and work retail. Not at all what I had planned. Not sure what went wrong.
    jefl jefl
    51-55, M
    14 Responses Jul 24, 2015

    well, I just reached my six month anniversary

    at my job. I work in a factory, which is odd seeing as how I have 3 degrees, several years of teaching experience and am a veteran of Iraq and Afghanistan. Most people think I'm not living up to my potential but here's the thing- I make way more money and have a lot more job...
    jstephens4 jstephens4
    31-35, M
    9 Responses Feb 14, 2015

    okay at 16 I wanted to start working

    and saving up so I can move out quicker but I'm 17 now and I don't see myself actually getting a job sooner cause of my stuttering disorder. I thought I was gonna become a better speaker but I feel like I got worse. But some good things happened that I wasn't expecting like I...
    bloodyzombie19 bloodyzombie19
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Oct 25, 2015

    In four months I will be turning 40.

    I feel time just slipping away and the chances of me getting to where I want to be becoming slimmer and slimmer. Ugh nobody wants to be that hamster stuck in the turning wheel; running its little heart out and never getting anywhere. I work hard....very hard. I want to be...
    snowberry75 snowberry75
    36-40, F
    12 Responses Jun 5, 2015

    How does one come to acknowledge

    that they've reached their purpose, is it something to do with spirituality?
    KarenKD KarenKD
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 21

    49 years of age. Not only that,

    but closing on halfway to the Big 5-0! The time in a person's life – especially a man's, by today's cultural norms – when I ought to be nearing the peak of my wealth, power, and productivity: closing on the top of the corporate ladder, or at least securely established in a...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Feb 15, 2015

    I’m 33 . . . I am living with my family

    (again, I am very grateful). I just got out of an eight year relationship in which my ex only cared about himself and I got really sick. Then he changed and cheated on me twice and left me for another girl. I went back to my family (father’s side). My father causes more stress...
    RebekahWriter13 RebekahWriter13
    31-35, F
    6 Responses Feb 22

    Did I want to be 15 and a mom no

    but God's will is not always our plans. I wouldn't give up my son for anything though. Neither would his dad.
    sassygirl15 sassygirl15
    16-17, F
    3 Responses Dec 27, 2015

    I'm writing an entire essay about everything

    wrong with school and the solutions to such problems. About time I bring this little anonymous reality into real life. Who knows? One moment I'm writing a little essay, next I'm speaking as president. I call this beautiful piece of work the Fat Man Manifesto! Brilliant right? It...
    NameIsMailbox NameIsMailbox
    16-17, M
    Apr 1

    by the age of 26 I thought by

    now I would have graduated with my masters degree and on my way to having my dream job, and maybe even in a relationship. it took me 7 years to complete my undergrad. a little thing called life got in my way. I don't regret putting my family and friends over my education. I...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Jun 16, 2015

    A good article to ponder http://www.

    huffingtonpost.com/jamie-varon/to-anyone-who-thinks-theyre-falling-behind_b_9190758.html
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    5 Responses Feb 11

    Never been married, never

    even had a long-term partner. No kids, no career, nothing to my name. But I still have my whole life ahead of me, so I can make it happen.
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic
    31-35, F
    13 Responses Nov 3, 2015

    well.. 2 years before i joined an engineering

    college just to make my parents happy as they always wanted me to become an engineer. The thing is i really sucked in this course and i'm doing terrible in my studies. I'm really depressed right now. I don't really what to do now coz i've already completed half my course.
    Thricety Thricety
    18-21, M
    1 Response Feb 28

    16 years ago, I blew up my life.

    Not intentionally ........ well not with conscious intention, that is. I felt empty, invisible, and lonely in a 10 year relationship. But we had a good life. We traveled, had good friends, and good jobs. We were on the right track for a long future together. I knew my SO...
    vermontsurfer vermontsurfer
    56-60, F
    12 Responses Aug 8, 2015

    I am 23 year old married loser.

    I thought by now that I would hVe a great group of friends and have overcame this depression. I have never had friends and no one seems to like me... Idk maybe it has to do with my lack of personality. I try and try but my husband seems to be the one people want to be around and...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    6 Responses Jan 1

    It's only a matter of time,

    'till I make it there. Everyone isn't always guaranteed. Some will fall, but eventually get back up.
    NaomiSunshineJourney NaomiSunshineJourney
    31-35, F
    Feb 27

    At 24- I just want to die- to sleep,

    forever. No job, SSI, my life has no purpose.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Feb 10

    I had a broken wrist 3yrs ago got a lawyer help

    me to seek damage recovery but the lawyer is dead but left a dead wish about my case to the assistant. Why did he hate me so much?
    maywong maywong
    31-35, T
    1 Response Feb 27

    I feel like I got cheated out of an education.

    I truly do. I haven't felt such a feeling of loss in quite a while. What a waste of life.
    NameIsMailbox NameIsMailbox
    16-17, M
    4 Responses Mar 9

    Going to start a new job soon

    and hopefully when things get settled start taking classes to do what my heart has always wanted to do. I really want to just leap and go for it this time no backing out no excuses.Gonna put on my spiked big girl boots and step all over my feelings of self doubt. Any one who...
    Ladykytten Ladykytten
    31-35, F
    8 Responses Mar 10

    Why does it seem like I'm going nowhere

    and I'm almost 30. Every aspect of my life is just a mess right now.
    mlia48 mlia48
    26-30, F
    24 Responses Aug 19, 2014

    i'm 22 and I'm no where near

    where I wanted to be at this age. I had high expectations for myself and dreams but those are all long gone now. Life for me has now turned into little more than a waking dream, I do the same thing everyday and it all has so little meaning to me. I don't know where I want to...
    lmpulsive lmpulsive
    22-25, M
    8 Responses Oct 9, 2015

    Hope For The Future

    Just as I was beginning to feel completely worthless and like a waste of space, a miracle happened! I was cleaning the mirror in the bathroom, and contemplating what a failure I am, when out of the corner of my eye I spotted it; a completely empty roll of toilet paper. I knew...
    MyNameIsHurl MyNameIsHurl
    36-40, F
    12 Responses Feb 29, 2012
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