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I Am Not Where I Wanted to Be At This Age

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    Stupid Genius

    When I was a kid, I was constantly told how smart I was and how one day I'm going to make it.  When I was 8 years old I was put into the G.A.T.E. (Gifted And Talented Education) program and had to attend a new school.  I was a little worried about what was going to be...
    TheIdeaOfMe TheIdeaOfMe 31-35, F 60 Responses Oct 6, 2009

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    I married a man who I wasn't in love with

    but loved. We have been together 9 years, 5 married. We are not very compatible. I basically wanted to find security and so I settled. He is a good person but some things that have happened between us seem so hard to forgive. Now I met someone else who is actually one of his...
    earthangel35 earthangel35 31-35, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    I'm seventeen. I graduated this past May.

    I made the decision of going to college next year for the sake of working, saving money, and just not ready for it. I don't have a job yet and no one wants to hire me.
    Samaccino Samaccino 16-17, F 2 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    Almost 40. No kids.

    Crappy husband who devalues me. No job. Non confidence and experience to get a job. I feel like a loser. I have no real friends. It's hard to be human and navigate people and experiences. The only good thing is I have a golden retriever/Brittany spaniel mix. She makes me...
    mrsklemzak mrsklemzak 36-40, F 6 Responses 2 days ago

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    My Dream Life

    I'm 25. I dreamed of being a faithful husband and a loving father. With a house of my own and a family to play in the backyard. Not the American dream, but my dream. But I have not made progress towards my goals. I feel like a failure.
    collegestag08 collegestag08 26-30, M 6 Responses Dec 26, 2011

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    I thought I would of finished my bachelors by

    now just like most people I know. It seems that everyone I know is moving forward with their lives to bigger and better things. People are either in happy relationships, getting married, or having children. Here I am unhappy stuck in the same spot. Nothing ever works out in my...
    goldengirl24 goldengirl24 22-25, F 5 Responses Apr 9

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    I am pushing to keep posting.

    I want to be brave about all this and honest. This one is harder for me to say. I am not were I wanted to be at all, I am 21 and already married because at the time I was scared of being alone. We already have a baby girl and I love her, but this is not were I wanted to be at...
    CrashingComet CrashingComet 22-25 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    Feel like im crawling in my sking.

    My soul is at unrest. And I'm ready to end it all.
    lucidity91 lucidity91 22-25, F 10 Responses Jul 22

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    I'm 44, half way through life

    if all goes well. This is not how I pictured things, but that isn't necessarily bad. There are things in life that matter more to me than being rich, famous, adored, etc. I am rich, famous and adored enough by my two little boys. I'm also at a point where I am learning new...
    myguitarisbusted myguitarisbusted 41-45, M 5 Responses Jun 26

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    Ilovesummer01 Ilovesummer01 26-30, F 4 Responses Apr 11

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    Anybody else out there have a brain injury?

    I don't go to support groups b/c I don't have time or energy, but maybe I can find something online.
    abbyc22 abbyc22 46-50, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I have a quite complicated confusing lonely

    life. I am married I do have children. Not any friends. I have 3 degrees and work at a convenience store and hotel. My self image and self worth are going away. My mind feels like it wants to leave too. I recently had my grandmother and mother both pass, and I can't get a grip...
    serajolee serajolee 26-30, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    My mind wants me to be older already.

    I'm only 20 and I see kids from Highschool older and my age gettin married, finding their own place, almost done with college, popping out kids for Christ sakes. And I'm stuck, I feel like I will never get out of this rut. And this moment in my life I thought id be in a long...
    jayybbyx jayybbyx 18-21, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    I look at this experience sometimes

    and I wonder what to put down. I"m 39 going back to college in the fall to work on my A.S. Degree in Child Development. 39 isn't old but when it comes to going back to school it is. I may not be where i want to be on the outside or the outer man as I was told in Church, but...
    mlcockrell mlcockrell 36-40, M 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    I'm 19, married, and a mother of a beautiful

    daughter. I feel like I lived my life too fast. Growing up as a child I was forced to mature faster than my peers. As a young girl I was abused and often neglected. The only safe haven for me was at my grandparents house. But as usual, all good things come to an end. My...
    journeyyy journeyyy 18-21, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    I am 27. Still working the same job I had

    when I was 16...even if it's in another state. No kids.
    anm52309 anm52309 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 22

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    Mainly, Not Having Kids

    I feel old by not having kids, when most women have them at a much younger age than mine. The vast majority of women would have children at some point, and most start at around 20 years old, and I would like to have been a young mom, even a teen mom.  Not having biological kids...
    MDenise MDenise 31-35, F 4 Responses Jun 14, 2013

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    When I was in my 20s I was extremely afraid of

    settling down and getting married. I remember sweating at friends wedding ceremonies. I kept picturing myself taking the vows and I was terrified. I swore that I wouldn't be married before I was 30. Now I'm 32. I couldn't be farther away from getting married and having a...
    OscarP OscarP 31-35, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I should have been done backpacking Europe,

    a year or 2 into college getting smug with a random guy in my firm rim
    jenneruz jenneruz 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 8

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    I have been married 4 times .

    Have made so many mistakes . Am now 53 . So worried about the future . Am on my own and estranged from my children . Have lost my way .
    jackie1961winchester jackie1961winchester 51-55, F 8 Responses 2 days ago

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    Hell No

    I suppose at this age I would have ideally been married by now and had my own counseling practice. That was the dream I had in college. I was thinking of going for my masters degree and having my own office. Now it seems I am the perpetual patient. A lot of crap has happened...
    Kittychanel Kittychanel 41-45, F 17 Responses Jun 3, 2012

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    Stuck In A High Paying Job

     I am not where I wanted to be at this age.  I"m 49, divorced with 3 adult kids that live with me.  I have a great job and earn a great salary but I end up spending most of my income on my kids, my ex-wife, and the house.  At work, I am an "in charge...
    preston95842 preston95842 46-50, M 11 Responses Dec 29, 2009

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    I'm not at all where I wanted to be at this age.

    Not financially, not in my work career , not socially ......
    boxersoff4u boxersoff4u 51-55, M 3 days ago

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    Ashash146 Ashash146 13-15, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I am stuck in a low-paying job unable to pay

    the bills, can't figure out how to go to back to school at my age, lost so many friends and girlfriends over the years, and I don't know where to go or what to do. Wish I had a do-over on life.
    Resticon Resticon 26-30, M 5 Responses Jul 21

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    Life has proven one thing to me,

    that's how tough and relentless it can be towards you if you get caught behind. You can take so much for granted when you are young but it's true I guess when they say you learn from your mistakes and obviously it does make you a stronger person. If only I could get those...
    PeteG121 PeteG121 22-25, M 2 Responses May 10

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    I always try to remain positive

    and happy, and I normally do, but I always have worries on what my future might hold for me, why can't I just settle down and enjoy to the fullest of everything?
    Jshangle64 Jshangle64 18-21, M 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    Hello, second depressive post from here on here.

    I'm currently in a dead end job which is undervalued and definitely underpaid. I always had this one plan in my life since I was small to be a nurse. I started a nursing degree but was too ill to continue and I've watched all my friends become nurses and they've been nurses for...
    minicloud minicloud 22-25, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    I have never related to a character

    as much as I relate to Kristen Wiig in Bridesmaids.
    jbuggirl jbuggirl 31-35, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Sooo I am a student, model,

    jazz singer, Polynesian dancer (any kind of dancer in general), an actress, a writer, an artist, a musician, a girlfriend... But I'm asian... I think all of those things I do are unimportant because of how society praises any other ethnicity but asian in American films and music...
    Rkfj Rkfj 18-21, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I want to live in New York with my best friend

    like right now. But I don't have a job, I'm only 17 and a senior in high school and she's a Junior. We both want to get out of this **** hole of a town and live in NYC but have no way of being able to live there.
    Brudy6 Brudy6 18-21, M 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    Does anybody else out there just get tired of

    being responsible--always doing the right thing? I feed the cats be4 I take a shower (wouldn't want them to go hungry). I'm tired. I've had 5 hours sleep. I need to give away these kittens b/c I wouldn't let the shelter put them to sleep.l
    abbyc22 abbyc22 46-50, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    18 years old. Im supposed to be at the

    University of Memphis. Undergrad. Major in biology. Preparing myself for medical school and becoming a neurologist. Im supposed to be in advanced yoga classes and doing contortion work. Stretching. Im suppose to be driving. Im supposed to be going to ballet, hip hop, zumba...
    Acebo Acebo 18-21, F 16 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    I cry silently and I am alone.

    I seriously don't consider my mom and brother as friends because they are family. I am not confident about myself. Every friends I make leave me just because of different classes. Think of it this way, I'm a teenager turning 18 in a few days and I've been through a lot in life...
    Fatimatam Fatimatam 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 23

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    I just feel like my life has to much potential

    and purpose, yet everyday everything is so dead. I can't find work, I have no money, and I just don't know what direction I should be going in. Everything is just so confusing and everyday I feel like something life changing will occur but everyday it's the same old same old. I...
    carlgj carlgj 18-21, M 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I was abused from birth by family members

    and then by my husband, from whom I finally escaped. I have had a few other very traumatic things happen in my life as well. Because I know I have talents and expect a lot of myself, for years now I have completely cut myself off from all my old friends and make myself...
    JaneG8 JaneG8 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 18

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    I'm 47 and I'm just now beginning to figure out

    who I am and what I want. I'm getting a late start. But I guess late is better than not at all. :D
    coffeeflavoredkisses coffeeflavoredkisses 46-50, F 11 Responses Jun 16

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    I feel like I'm stuck in this never ending

    cycle of no progression in life. All I think and dream about is the things I should be doing in life but I just don't know how to reach that point. It just feels like I don't belong in this world
    carlgj carlgj 18-21, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    When I was a little girl,

    I used to have a weird but cute fixation on the number 24. As I was good at math and times tables, I found the number 24 interesting because it has so many factors for a relatively small number. I also liked the fact that there are 24 hours in a day and 24 ribs in the human body...
    Rivalry0x Rivalry0x 22-25, F 5 Responses Jan 3

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    It seems like everyone at my age is becoming

    successful... Wish I can just rewind back time to when I was 16 and start over..
    TearfulNights22 TearfulNights22 22-25, F 6 Responses Feb 21

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    I wish my parents pushed me into doing more

    things before it was too late.
    Ashash146 Ashash146 13-15, F 19 Responses a week ago

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    I expected to be out partying

    and drinking. Instead I'm tied down having too obey my husband every command.
    BitchYouGaveMeTheFuckingClap BitchYouGaveMeTheFuckingClap 18-21, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Retirement? Yeah right.

    Two kids through college... A devastating injury and a surgery I had to sell our house to be able to pay for. At one time retirement was something to work towards. But so many unforseen things have come up and taken what money we had saved.... Gonna have to work til the day I...
    smokethis smokethis 51-55, M 1 day ago

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    I'm only 17 but I feel like all my friends are

    becoming adults while I'm not. All my friends found jobs this summer and are learning to drive. I've applied nearly everywhere in my small town and have only had 3 unsuccessful interviews, two were I lacked experience & one were I wasn't seen as assertive enough for the position...
    genericidiot genericidiot 16-17, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I'm 27 years old. My boyfriend of a year

    and a half broke up with me almost a month ago. After that I started thinking I have a degree in criminal justice but can't find a job. I live with my parents. I've never been engaged. I want to be married with a house maybe kids and a better job that pays more than minimum wage...
    NikLee1987 NikLee1987 26-30, F 4 Responses Apr 1

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    Not At All.....

    I'm 35 - not old by any means, but no longer young either.... I remember being a kid, thinking that those who were in their 30's had one foot in the grave, past it, too old to have fun anymore...  I had no concept of age as a child, but then who does... but whilst I had no...
    lostlittlefirefly lostlittlefirefly 36-40, F 5 Responses Jun 15, 2012

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    I really expected to be at the top of my game,

    in a well paid job, and a participative parent, but that's not been the case. My first marriage imploded when my daughter was only one, and after a terrible bout of depression, I found myself eventually working in retail - as a stop gap measure. I left that to work in the public...
    BJH72 BJH72 41-45, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Iamevolved Iamevolved 16-17, F 4 Responses Jun 29

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    I Thought I'd Be More.

    I am 20 years old. I wanted to have graduated from high school and be half way through nursing school at Linfield right now. I wanted to be working as a CNA on the side. There are a whole bunch of community groups I wish I was involved in. I was in a relationship with the man of...
    Coffinnail Coffinnail 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 30, 2011

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    I expected to have a Master's

    and a career, financially independent at the age of 25. But I'm not, I accept that I made alot of poor decisions and I am paying those decisions now. But I also realize that my situation currently is not permanent, and I could have had it so so much worse. So, I have quite alot...
    INTPScorpio INTPScorpio 26-30 3 Responses a week ago

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    Hope For The Future

    Just as I was beginning to feel completely worthless and like a waste of space, a miracle happened! I was cleaning the mirror in the bathroom, and contemplating what a failure I am, when out of the corner of my eye I spotted it; a completely empty roll of toilet paper. I knew...
    MyNameIsHurl MyNameIsHurl 31-35, F 14 Responses Feb 29, 2012

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    This Is Not What I Expected At 24...

    I've been at a 2 year community college for going on 5 years now. I'm finally graduating in May, which I know is a big accomplishment for me...yet, I look around at every other person my age who seems to be a world ahead of me. Granted, I've struggled with a learning disability...
    caityxchaos caityxchaos 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 18, 2011

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    I wanted to be on my own.

    My own house, car, gf or wife, maybe a kid, definitely a dog. I was hoping to own or manage a bar. A high class one too. Not some dive where drunk idiots go to get laid or contemplate suicide. A place where you have fun, socialize, and take a break from life for just a few...
    FallenPride FallenPride 22-25, M 3 Responses Jun 28

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