I Am On the Verge of Divorcing My Lazy Husband

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    Contemplating Divorce

    I am 27 and just graduated law school. I am studying for the Bar. Last summer while I was still in school my husband had an affair I caught him in multiple situations with the girl but he denied and I wanted to believe. I finally called her this past feb and found out everything...
    sheenalynn27 sheenalynn27
    5 Responses Jul 1, 2013

    Tired Mom of Three Fed Up With Lazy Husband!

    When I met my husband, I knew he was the one. I married him after two years and promised him I would stay with him as long as he never cheated or hit me (I was in an abusive relationship in the past). I knew he was lazy when I married him but I never thought it would get this bad...
    MommaO379 MommaO379
    22-25, F
    31 Responses May 5, 2009

    Divorce Or Remain Exhausted

    I am a mother of 2 children from a prior marriage. My husband has 2 children from a prior marriage. We have adopted one son together. My husband and I have been married for 6 years. He has become a mean, angry, hateful, man. He drinks daily and falls asleep on the couch several...
    Sonshine02 Sonshine02
    31-35, F
    7 Responses May 29, 2007

    Had It!!

    I have absolutely had it with my husband. We have one child. I am a stay at home mom and he is a trucker. I know, I know, I stay at home, but there is lots to do when you're home with a toddler, pretty much raising them alone. He is home a few days every 2 weeks or so. The only...
    mlousmommy mlousmommy
    2 Responses Jun 22, 2013

    Still A Newlywed And Over It!

    I've been married for only 15 months and my husbands lazyness and carelessness has me wondering if I made a mistake... We have a two year old and another on the way and we both work part time and I just finished school. I take care of our daughter and the house while he is at...
    Franmb Franmb
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Sep 11, 2013

    At My Wits End!

    My husband and I will be married for three years next year, and I'm already considering divorce! This man is one of the laziest people I have ever met in my life and he seems to get worse every day. He didn't have a job when we married, but ended up with a start up lawn care...
    needabackbone needabackbone
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Dec 1, 2012

    Beyond Tired.......help!!!!!!!!!!!

    I don't even know where to begin... I'm soon to be 26 years old... I got married at 22 and at the time it seemed to be a perfect fairy tale... He was in the Military and I was a Stay At Home Wife... Who did all the Wifey Chores and didn't mind not one bit in fact I loved my new...
    Neyla Neyla
    Jun 15, 2012

    The Talk

    So I just told him I'm thinking of leaving him. He was calm. He asked that I give it a little more time. I told him that since we don't have massive crisis issues, and could easily stay friends and roommates, I would take it day to day. I did not tell him I was having an...
    Sumpin Sumpin
    56-60, F
    1 Response Aug 13, 2013


    I've been with my husband for 5 years. We have a two year old son. My husband is 7 years older than me. Two years out of the five years we've been together he was unemployed and in those two years did nothing to better himself. I've been the good partner and tried to encourage...
    BellaLaJa BellaLaJa
    3 Responses Aug 28, 2013

    I have been married to my husband

    for almost 5 years. He is the laziest person I have ever met. I can be extremely lazy too, but it depends on the situation; I hate a messy home. And while I sometimes procrastinate on getting laundry done or some other household chores, I hate feeling like I'm living in straight...
    catlady880 catlady880
    22-25, F
    1 Response Nov 5, 2015

    Blessed, But Soooo Stressed!

    My husband and I have been married for six years. We have been together since high school. We have had several ups and downs in our relationship prior to our marriage. One resulting in me concieving a child outside of our relationship. We got married four months after I had my...
    toblesssedtobestressed toblesssedtobestressed
    2 Responses Oct 14, 2012

    I have been married almost 20 years to my

    husband. We have been divorced and remarried because he was a cheater and abusive. I feel really stupid after marrying him again and having twins when I was forty six with this man and now aim writing this email because I cannot stand to be around him. He is lazy, selfish, does...
    Joyness500 Joyness500
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Jan 3, 2014

    I Need Your Advice

    We have been married for 9 years have a child together and I also have a daughter from a previous relationship..He has 4 children from a previous relationship. My husband is $150000 in debt with child support and is a recovering ice addict..We lost our house to his drug addiction...
    topaz76 topaz76
    41-45, F
    6 Responses Jun 28, 2013

    Lazy Hubby What to Do....

    Hi, First let me say I do not believe in divorce unless a spouse has cheated. When I met my hubby and for about a year after he was the most wonderful man in the world. He would help with EVERY chore on a regular basis, plus he went to work everyday he had to. Now that we...
    unhappywife71 unhappywife71
    5 Responses Jul 13, 2008

    My 'Husband' Acts Like A Teenager, Doesn'T Help With Anything, And Uses His Anxiety As An Excuse For Absolutely Everything!

    I am a proud mother of a beautiful and healthy 19 month old and the girlfriend of a lazy anxiety ridden man. We are not married but ladies just because i don't sport the bling doesn't mean i am not a wife. I do everything in this family, all the cooking cleaning errands...
    myhusbandactslikeateenager myhusbandactslikeateenager
    4 Responses Mar 14, 2013

    He's Cheating On Me For The Couch.

    I have been with my fiance for three years now, and while I always gathered he wasn't a neat freak, however recently his laziness is driving me away. He works hard, and I understand that. I work full time as well, in addition to having to raise my son. Before I met him I remember...
    waleli waleli
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Sep 26, 2012

    My Sad Lazy Husband

    I am a mom of two beautiful little girl one is 5 months and one is 23 months i pretty much do every thing around our house i work 30 hours a week i clean clothes mop floors dishes dinner breakfast lunch my husband wont cook unless its mircowaveable he goes to work and comes home...
    am421 am421
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Aug 4, 2013

    So Sick Of Him

    I do everything, I plan it, i work ,I purchase, I cook. From the beginning it has been this way because, to wait on him meant it just didn't happen or happened too late. I always said help plan or just help. We have been together 8 years now. He works and sleeps. Oh yeah and...
    Taybird Taybird
    Jul 30, 2012

    Tired Of His Laziness

    Help, I feel like such a wimp. I have been married for twenty-four years, and in twenty four years, I have been cheated on multiple time, lied to comstancly , There is no physically abuse . he has help me raised four kids only one is his. I always forgiven him for things he...
    Fedup54 Fedup54
    56-60, F
    4 Responses Aug 11, 2013

    Tomorrow Is My 11th Wedding Anniversary But....

    Tomorrow is my 11th wedding anniversary, but I'm not really happy about it.  I want a divorce. I'm not happy with my life, or my husband. We've actually been together for 18 years now, and we have 2 kids together. I really want to get out of this relationship but don't know...
    gg0507 gg0507
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Apr 16, 2009

    Retired Marine With Secrets

    my boyfriend, who is a 20 year retired marine, has lied to me thru our relationship. i keep forgiving him when things come to light. since we moved in together, i found out he is married to a ********. they havent talked in 6 yrs. he was recently fired. he drinks a lot at night...
    Julietwhite Julietwhite
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Nov 7, 2013

    My husband and I have been married 2 years now.

    We've had employment problems during the course of our marriage as a result we've had to move in with his parents. He is said to have always been the laziest among the 3 children and I personally think that mom never put her foot down to set him straight and get him out of his...
    Mpho12 Mpho12
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Feb 15, 2016

    Husband With No Ambition!

    My husband rarely goes to work and I can count on one hand the times he has made it a full week. He does use FMLA for back purposes which prevents him from being fired due to absences....BUT....it's very suspicious when his back NEVER bothers him on the weekends! I have tried to...
    tammyrindahl tammyrindahl
    1 Response May 21, 2013

    Lazy Because I Allow It!!!

    Sometimes I wish he would just cheat on me already!!! lol..I kind of joking but not really. Sometimes I feel like he would just cheat on me already so i can get out of this marriage without being an adultress. Well he is 7 years older than me and by him being 31 you would think...
    mills06 mills06
    3 Responses Apr 26, 2013

    Too Lazy

    Been married almost 7 years and I do everything. I work full time and make more than him, pay all the bills, bring our two kids to daycare and pick them up every day even if he doesn't have to work or starts work later. If he gets done with work early, he just goes home and sits...
    rramwolf rramwolf
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Aug 12, 2013

    Constant Fear Of My Loving Husband

    I really don't know where to begin, there is sooo much love, hurt and CONFUSION. My husband and I have been together for 5yrs.  We were never the social or dating type so when we found each other it was utterly god commanding and meant-to-be. Seriously magical and...
    lotsofheart lotsofheart
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Nov 14, 2009

    Is My Fiance Lazy?

    Iv'e recently fallen pregnant and been in and out of hospital with terrible morning sickness i feel tired and sick all day everyday. i used to work and do all the cleaning/cooking. But since i've been ill i can't do it anymore. My partner begged me for kids as hes 10 years older...
    heatherX heatherX
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 21, 2013

    Demotivated Lazy Husband

    We have been together for 12 years, not all of them bad, not all of them good? This is my 2nd marriage, I have 2 children from previous. I lost my children in my first divorce and took me many years to come to terms with this, my 2nd husband has never had children of his own...
    help69 help69
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Apr 28, 2010

    My Husband Is Dragging Me Down

    I try not to live with regrets, but sometimes it's hard not to think that I should have left my husband a long time ago. He is a very intelligent and talented man who I love very much, but he is constantly moody and has been depressed for much of our relationship. He lives in...
    fedupgrad fedupgrad
    5 Responses Sep 7, 2012

    My husband works, as

    that seems to be the most important thing to him and he does his job well....but at home its a totally different story. He doesnt want to do anything. he refuses to do most stuff, but he wont say that...he just "forgets"....or there's always an excuse....I basically run this...
    julsofthenile julsofthenile
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Mar 12, 2014

    I'm not married, in my country,

    marriage is not that common, even though it's basically the same thing. I work full time at a very stressful job, my partner still study. I pay all the groceries, the errands (toothpaste, mattress, dishes, etc.) and the car plus my half of the rent. One time he told me that...
    Tiredandstress Tiredandstress
    41-45, F
    1 Response Mar 2, 2014

    I Can't Stand the Sight of My Husband

    My husband and l have been together for seven years.l saw him in a bar in my hometown.The trouble is we partied every night and drank alot until l fell pregnant. In the cold light of day l took a good hard look at him and decided that l didn't much like him after all. We split up...
    Whenwe Whenwe
    8 Responses Feb 18, 2009

    Great Thanks To Dr, Moko Who Help Me Bring Back My Ex Wife.

    My name is Mark, from USA. I never believed in love spells or magic until I met this spell caster when i went to see my friend in Indian this year on a business summit, I meant a man who’s name is DR Moko he is really powerful and could help cast spells to bring back one’s...
    mark2222 mark2222
    1 Response Jul 10, 2013

    I Can'T Take It Any More!

    He is so cold and careless. I seriously can't take any more. For better or for worse does not mean his behavior is acceptable or should be tolerated. I'm waiting for him to get back into town and then I'm going to tell him, "Billy I don't know you anymore, you don't care about me...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jun 11, 2013

    Second Chance?

    I met my husband while I was at Stanford Law School and he was a fork lift driver for Costco living with his parents at 25 (he is an only child). My friends and church leaders warned me that getting married probably wasn't a good idea but I did it anyway. For the past 5 years, I...
    Freedominsight Freedominsight
    31-35, F
    1 Response Nov 20, 2013

    The Biggest Procrastinator

    My husband is always professing his "undying" love for me. Unfortunately, he makes my life so stressful as he procrastinates with everything. Recently, our toilet was clogged and he promised me he would get a snake to fix it. This went on for over three months' time! He is...
    nichaturtle nichaturtle
    4 Responses Sep 15, 2013

    Lazy Hubby What to Do....

    Hi, First let me say I do not believe in divorce unless a spouse has cheated. When I met my hubby and for about a year after he was the most wonderful man in the world. He would help with EVERY chore on a regular basis, plus he went to work everyday he had to. Now that we...
    unhappywife71 unhappywife71
    1 Response Jul 13, 2008

    I Was Hoping Things Would Change...

    I've put off finding a site/forum like this, because I never wanted to admit that I was in a situation that I didn't know how to mitigate or make better. But, I'm now willing to take some constructive criticism and receive some sound advice. My husband and I have been married...
    MissE1984 MissE1984
    26-30, F
    2 Responses May 18, 2012

    Beyond Tired

    I've been married for 39 years, and have been living with him for 40 this coming August.  We both worked, and shared in all the household chores until the second child was born.  When our second child was born we just couldn't find adequate child care, and therefor the decision...
    awibrandy awibrandy
    3 Responses May 16, 2012

    I Want To Leave

    Second marriage. First one ended because we were both military and I found out he had gotten into drugs. Well, this guy is so very sweet and I admired that about him. We discussed things we believed in like not drinking and walking and getting out of the house. Then like two...
    alostlover alostlover
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Sep 25, 2013

    Craving Something Better.

    Sometimes I catch myself dreaming of something better. I want a man that doesn't want to have sex in the same position all the time. Someone that doesn't just lay on their back for most of the time. Someone that will actually take the time to plan a "date" or surprise me and...
    leggypeggy leggypeggy
    26-30, F
    Sep 15, 2015
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