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I Am Over 40 and Dating

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    I am three months away from being 50.

    I've been married twice. I have tried online dating and it seems like every man on there has problems..unresolved issues...I don't want to get married..I don't want to have a one night stand...anyone else in this situation? Ready to just hang it up..
    cas1965 cas1965 46-50, F 7 Responses Jan 20, 2015

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    So I'm 43, been off and on various Internet

    dating sites over the last three years or so. Currently using PlentyOfFish (AKA P.O.F.), and finding that while there are indeed plenty of fish around, very few are my species. But whatever, I frequently get MeetMe invites from women, so I check out their profiles and write them...
    cobalt61 cobalt61 36-40, M 2 Responses Dec 17, 2014

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    On a whim, I joined a few online dating sites.

    I added the usual. A few pics, a short bio. Now I'm juggling conversations with 6 different women. I guess there are worse problems to have.
    DefineItFromNow DefineItFromNow 41-45, M 3 Responses Jun 19, 2015

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    Anyone for a chat? Tired of thinking alone?

    Need someone to bounce conversation off
    WyoDoug WyoDoug 46-50, M Apr 22, 2015

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    Dating sugar mommies can be a very exciting

    experience for young men nowadays. It can also get quite intimidating if you are not fully prepared for whatever it is that lies ahead of you. If it is your first time dating sugar mommies in person, you must focus more on making it a memorable experience instead of worrying...
    GarthPasche GarthPasche 51-55, F Jun 24, 2014

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    Was An 'over 40 And Dating'

    I was a bachelor all the way through my 40's.  I met and married my bride when both of us were both out of our 40s.  We met on line in late February and were married in November of the same year.  That was nine years ago and internet dating was a fairly...
    wernwal wernwal 56-60, M May 11, 2010

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    Scary Deal!

      I woke up to the sound of rain tapping on the window. I rolled over and sat up lit a cigarette took a deep draw from it. For just a split second I didnt really know what day it was or where Jacki my girlfriend was or hell even where the cat was since they both slept...
    magicwolf magicwolf 51-55, M 4 Responses Mar 23, 2009

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    Lonely Night

    My husband moved out today. He had abruptly said that he wanted a divorce earlier this year but I have since discovered that was after he had begun an affair. This house is very large and lonely and I'm not sure what to do with myself. I have a 'to do' list a mile long but no...
    fyrecroft fyrecroft 51-55, F 1 Response Jun 25, 2011

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    I have been dating a number of men

    that I have met either through friends or online. I want friendship first with these men, then see where it goes from there, but sometimes I feel like I'm just shopping around, enjoying the companionship and attention, but really haven't found the "right" one yet. Is this wrong...
    earthyogi earthyogi 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 7, 2014

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    Can't It Get Any More Depressing?

    I was surfing the net when a pop-up came up and said....Seniors Dating....ages 40 and up.  Age 40 is now considered a senior????
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Apr 21, 2010

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    I never thought I was gonna turn 40

    and have to start all over again.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jun 5, 2015

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    Timing

    Is it just me or is dating post divorce so 30's 40s' all about timing? I see 3 stages people go through post divorce. 1) people who want to get married and or be in relationship very quickly after a divorce. 2) People who are just emotionally wrecked and incapable of having a...
    beputty beputty 36-40, M 1 Response Dec 3, 2012

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    College Night Or Bingo

    In all fairness dating in 40's is actually pretty fun because with a little style can go to venues where its under 40 and venues where its over 40 and still work it. That said, there are almost zero venues that are mostly 40s. Its either college night or they are about to play a...
    SEANCURIOS SEANCURIOS 41-45, M Jan 13, 2012

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    Let'S Cut To The Chase -- It'S Time For Me To Have A GF, I'M In Los Angeles And Age Doesn'T Matter

    That about says it all. There's no need to fit any relationship with me into a conventional or stereotypical paradigm ! Everyone is uniques and some of us are more unique than others ! I've been specializing in unique relationships forr a long time, anyway, now. Just make a...
    JustinBriefs JustinBriefs 56-60, M May 12, 2013

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    Older Men Younger Women Dating Site - AgeMeet.

    com AgeMeet.com is the # 1 dating for Older Men Younger Women Dating Site, it offers a meeting place where younger women seeking older men and older men dating younger women. This will also set you free from the embarrassment and annoyance of general dating places. Here at...
    sallycc17 sallycc17 26-30, F Apr 3, 2014

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    My Daughter's View On Mom Dating

    Ever since my daughter was young, I've always started the coversation with "after graduate school, you can start considering to date."  Well now that she's the ripe old age of ten, she asks me...."Mom, seriously, at what age can I date?"  I tell her okay, I will allow...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 17, 2010

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    How do you even get back in the dating scene?

    I tried a couple of sites and the men seem to only look for the hook ups or I get responses from people who are far away from me
    granny1969 granny1969 46-50, F 3 Responses Jun 19, 2015

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    It's Fun!

    When I was in my 20s, I thought that there WAS no life after 30, let alone 40. But, since I got rid of my husband and started dating again at 40, I have had the time of my life! I always thought that it would be so hard to actually meet single worthwhile men at this age, but it...
    Glleza Glleza 46-50, F 2 Responses Mar 19, 2008

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    Dating Requirement From My Daughter

    I was driving in the car yesterday when my daughter says she wants to be Mrs Justin Beiber so badly. Now, she's only ten and this is not the first time she's ever wanted to be someone's Mrs. I ask her why is she in such a rush to get married? She says because Mom, I don't want...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Jun 29, 2010

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    Up For Bids My Best Friend

    ok i have been reading about how many of you ladies are lonely want someone to love, crave intimacy want a sex life want romance want a guy to love them well here is your chance. the heart of one best friend up for taking. all offers will e accepted but any a few will actually...
    waynedawsxx waynedawsxx 36-40, M Nov 11, 2012

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    Beyond "been There And Done That"...

    ... now , yea, that was fun, but I really want to just cuddle tonight. Do you want some more wine? Here, let me rub that for you. Thanks, dear...
    bordendazed bordendazed 46-50 Oct 15, 2011

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    Next Please?

    I am 43 and recently started dating again... I joined a dating website and I am meeting a ton of new people.  I have had some pretty funny experiences with this.  I am thinking of changing my profile to read the following... If you have huge amounts of missing or...
    HeavenBesideYou HeavenBesideYou 41-45, F 52 Responses Jun 28, 2009

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    Wtk If Anyone Here Started Dating Right Out Of An Unhappy Marriage...any Advice?

    I am in a situation where I MAY be getting involved with someone who is ending a bad marriage. Don't know for sure...our conversations have been somewhat discreet lately...but I somehow see it coming, based on our history. I have posted other stories about this; the main story is...
    cobalt61 cobalt61 36-40, M 3 Responses Sep 26, 2010

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    A Lot To Learn

    Dating, ....OMG I never thought I would ever use that word to describe my current relationship status. Things have changed so much, either I'm so completely out of touch with the rest of the world, or dare I say it......I'm getting...OLDER....god forbid. I guess the term, teach...
    jackdaniels1967 jackdaniels1967 46-50, M 1 Response May 15, 2013

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    Our 7th Date

    It was a chore Friday. I had to give blood for doc's test, drop off form at docs, plus various other chores. So I took the Friday off. Texting my lover through out the chores, scheduale. She was commenting on how poor her day was at work. She liveas around 80 miles north of me. I...
    1changingheart 1changingheart 51-55, M 2 Responses Mar 23, 2012

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    I Have A Decision To Make

    Anyone who bothers to read the garbage I write on this site knows that relationships of any kind are probably an issue for me. I finally met a really great guy. He's quite a bit older than me, a year older than the last guy I dated. I have 2 sons. One is about to turn 17, and...
    ampand ampand 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 8, 2013

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    Dating Via Speed Dating - Some Questions

    Recently came across a speed dating (SD) site that offers an SD event for Males - ages 49 to 65 and Females - ages 44 to 54. This appears to be both a large age range per gender, and, a huge gap between genders (the under 40 events tend to have a gap of 3 to 4 years between...
    sailon sailon 61-65, M 1 Response Feb 16, 2010

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    What a jungle...lol..

    .still so many phony and inconsiderate women out there. It seems they aren't interested in a good man.
    loyalguy loyalguy 41-45, M 6 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    Alive & Kicking

    I've been divorced for nearly 4 years & since then I've have several dates with little success. I've found myself working more & more often the last 2 years so I don't get a chance to go out & socialize as often as I want. Most of my friends who I knew 10-15 years ago either...
    newage67 newage67 41-45, M Apr 30, 2011

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    Dating Over 40

     The Browser wont let me post my story but I wrote an article for a website called CoolOldGuys.org. I think its pretty interesting and relevant it might be worth your time to check out. You can read my story at www.videoproductionprimeau.com. Its the top entry in my blog...
    PrimeauProductions PrimeauProductions 51-55, M Dec 15, 2009

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    Not 40 Til Next Month But Who's Counting? Lol

    I want to date, but geez, where do I start? Sometimes, I can barely think of what to say, because my mind has gone blank.  The really scary part is when someone wants to meet up right away.  It sets off warning bells, and makes me back up really fast.   My...
    lowheart lowheart 36-40, F 4 Responses Dec 13, 2009

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    possyhat possyhat 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 17, 2014

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