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I Am Over 40

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    I'm 42 and it's horrible,

    my knees hurt, I look like crap and I noticed a few gray hairs poking through the other day. Luckily I plucked them because we can't have that happening at least not yet. Besides now I have the horrible title of being middle aged which carries a very negative connotation. Plus...
    StupidRobert StupidRobert 41-45, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I was told recently by a man I'm dating

    that a woman in her 40s shouldn't have so many demands on a man. I think it's called standards, not demands..why should I settle for less than love, respect and happiness just because I'm in my 40s? Does a woman lose her worth after a certain age? I honestly don't get it...
    LOOKN4NSIGHT43 LOOKN4NSIGHT43 41-45, F 9 Responses Sep 30

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    The Next Step

    2 years ago, I was full of energy and would eat/drink and stay out all night. I was able to bounce back the next morning and do it again. Life was exciting and I really had a passion for it. Now I am feeling a change that I cannot adjust to.  I am always getting tired...
    Jinsei Jinsei 36-40 2 Responses Jun 17, 2009

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    I'm Single, Fit & Italian.

    .and.. If Life Begins @ 40... Then it's Nifty @ 50.. And It's Really Sexy @ 60.. Hell, I can't wait till I'm 70!:) See you all in the Funnies! David
    SouthernItaliano SouthernItaliano 51-55, M Oct 24

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    Over 40 - Really In the Middle!

    I feel like there is such a distance between those younger and older than me.  The people below 30 don't have the same interests, problems, etc as I do.  Those over 60 are mostly retired, with health concerns.  Yet it is hard to find friends in my own age group...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 17, 2007

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    40 Yo Empty Nester

    I just turned 40 and I am now wondering whats next. Happy with most things in my life.
    Tflash40 Tflash40 36-40, M Jan 2, 2013

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    I am currently 44 years old

    and was born in 1969. I will be 45 later this year.
    momwearingpink momwearingpink 41-45, F 3 Responses Feb 11

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    Fun 40's... Not!

    I can't say I'm enjoying this. My 30's rocked, but man is the party over! I need glasses for the first time in my life. I'm pretty sure my hearing isn't quite up to snuff either. My hair is more than 50% white (thank goodness for hair dye), and it doesn't matter whether it's...
    a68taurus a68taurus 46-50, F 4 Responses Jul 28, 2012

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    Around 36 I Really Started To Notice

    I had a child at the age of 24 and one at 28 and I didn't feel any different.I noticed the first changes, in myself, around 36 when I needed glasses full time and not just for reading.  The opt. said that once we hit our 30s the eye starts to change shape, from round to oval and...
    MsBlueDreamer MsBlueDreamer 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 4, 2011

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    Almost My Birthday

    Well my birthday is almost here, and I look back and see how I have travelled down this path of life, if I have learned my lessons, and gained much wisdom.  I have become wiser with many situations.  So far I have a couple of grey hairs, the...
    tatteredwings tatteredwings 36-40 3 Responses Jun 20, 2009

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    God Has A Great Twisted Sense Of Humour. Wife And I Are In Our 40s, And Her Doc Say's "baby?"

    Soooo....My Wife saw her gyno this week. We don't have intercourse due to her being in sever pain when ever we try. She mentions this to the gyno, cause she hates the speculum (sp:?) and I can totally understand. Well, sure enough, it hurts her, so when it's time for the gyno...
    another40 another40 46-50, M 1 Response Sep 22, 2010

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    I Am 40 Plus , But I Feel Young Than That... Why? Read My History And Philosophy Of Life.

    I'm 40 plus, but I feel young than that.. I am a mother of two young sons who are my life, wife a wonderful man, after 27 years of married we still in love, I love him more than ever is my best friend, is all. We believe that in order to achieve the emotional stability...
    leo29 leo29 41-45, F May 24, 2012

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    Sadly:( My eyes are dim my hair is grey oh

    where is my walking stick today....lol
    picklebobble picklebobble 46-50, M 1 Response Oct 24

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    Just Loney

    hi i,m 53 and just started dating agan i was marred for 23 years .and this aug. i,ve ben sept from my wife for a year now
    krk357 krk357 46-50 2 Responses Jul 9, 2011

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    Having a birthday soon

    and I have no idea what I want! I know I don't want 42 candles on my cake! :))
    seaglass72 seaglass72 41-45, F 7 Responses May 14

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    Where Did That Girl Go?

    Over 40...I cant seem to get used to it.  I feel better now than I did in my late 20s.  I see the wrinkles, if only I could photo shop them out.  I earned everyone of them honestly, but they are hard to get used to. My body changes each year, as well as my vision.  My...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Jul 29, 2011

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    Me Too

    Sometimes I feel my age but other days I feel 12. It also being like an old motor car. Once you reach the top of the hill, parts start to fall off as you come down the other side.
    yfronts36 yfronts36 41-45, M Mar 3, 2012

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    I Am Actually Fuming Right Now!!

    I've only noticed blatant AGEISM over the past couple of years when I hit my late 40's Before that and STILL NOW I do feel young at heart but MANY people cannot help but REMIND me for some reason that I AM OLD! lol Over the past month alone I have had an ex boyfriend message me...
    cazzap06 cazzap06 46-50 3 Responses Jan 24, 2012

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    Hi All

    I hated the thought of being 40, i was constantly in a bad mood for a good couple of months before and after my birthday.. Once i had confronted my demons I then started going down hill again as my 41st loomed. I am now counting down towards the 42nd year as of now I am coping...
    theradar theradar 41-45, M 2 Responses Feb 5, 2012

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    The Golden Years

    I had wondered what "being old" would mean to me. I'd heard that every year I would feel worse. I was told that if I didn't lose weight I'd be doomed to develop diabetes because it "runs in the family". I'd been warned that if I didn't save enough money I wouldn't be able to...
    123willow 123willow 56-60, F 1 Response Dec 1, 2013

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    The 40's Are The New 20's?

    Well.... here I am, one week into the dreaded 40's...Got a bit blue thinking about old times and the things on my list I had not accomplished... Even gave a thought to cosmetic surgery. Like I could recapture time that passed if I look in the mirror and see my forehead wrinkles...
    MsFriday MsFriday 36-40, F 4 Responses Jun 13, 2011

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    I am 46 and starting over.

    That is scary. I was recently divorced and now I find myself in my 40s, unemployed, and a single Mom. This was not what I had planned. I feel like I was a fool for being tricked for 17 years by my husband. I have many regrets, but now...how does one start over when others my age...
    Mazy46 Mazy46 46-50, F 5 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    Is It A Bad Thing?

    I am over 40. I don't know why, but is it a bad thing? As I sit here, I don't think it is a bad thing. I am still me. But going out into the world, and inviting part of the world into my home via the TV and movies and computer, I am bombarded by a youth culture that now excludes...
    Els3 Els3 41-45, F 4 Responses Jul 19, 2013

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    Hi. I Am 46 And Going Through A Major Mid Life Crisis!

    I just don't know what I want to do when I grow up lol. I've been married for 28 fabulous years. We've spent 25 of those years raising our kids. Now our baby is grown and we are working very hard on reinventing ourselves and getting to know each other again. He is my soul...
    jands85 jands85 46-50, F 3 Responses Apr 10, 2013

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    Mid-Life Crisis Is Real?

    I am over 40 and seem to be coming to the realization that the mid-life crisis is real!  (Oh nooo!) When I was younger I always thought it was a myth, like the Loch Ness monster or "Bigfoot" but recently I seem to be caught in the middle of it. I have a good...
    Ladybird1503 Ladybird1503 41-45, F 8 Responses Feb 2, 2008

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    Over 40

    Hi, I am wondering how many people are over 40. I am female. Kids are grown and gone. I am trying to get a life, find someone to talk to about life in general and share experiences. I love to read. I am a depressed, low self esteem, anxieties etc. but sometimes I think it is...
    Cassandra Cassandra 51-55, F 11 Responses Apr 10, 2007

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    Thoughts On Being Over 40

    In a few short words I can sum up my total experience being over 40..."If I Only Knew Then, All I Know Now"...............................................But as an old Japanese Proverb says:"Let what is past flow away downstream."   
    Dlyn Dlyn 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 19, 2010

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    Been There, Done That and Could Care Less About It.

    I am amazed.  What have we done?  We elders are supposed to be preparing our youth to lead, but we seem to have abandoned that idea to attempt to play along with the feebleminded for fun; to amuse ourselves to death. I am near the point of letting go and doing my...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 11, 2009

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    Almost to the End

    50 is approaching faster than I thought it would.  It only seems like yesterday I turned 40.  I do not feel any different than 30 or 20.  It is true once you get to a certain age you don't care about age anymore because time goes by so fast you don't have the time...
    Grits4life Grits4life 46-50, F 4 Responses Feb 11, 2009

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    If You Are Over 40...you May Find This Hilarious

    When I was a kid, adults used to bore me to tears with their tedious diatribes about how hard things were. When they were growing up; what with walking twenty-five miles to school every morning....Uphill....Barefoot....Both Ways....yadda, yadda, yadda. And I remember promising...
    Blueeyedaquarian Blueeyedaquarian 41-45, F 8 Responses Jun 4, 2010

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    Omg I'm Over 40?

    I had my son at 38 and I focused on raising him and next time I looked in the mirror, poof! I was this older person... I feel like my life just fast-forwarded over a decade and I am now part of a group called "mature" "older".
    B3lla01 B3lla01 46-50, F 14 Responses Feb 20, 2011

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    40+

    I am 40+ now. Thinking back i realize time has flown so fast. Where did all these 40 long year go mate. No doubt, as a person I am much better than what I was so many years. I guess the years went into make me what I am today. Little by little things did change. But man... 4...
    rohitra rohitra 36-40, M Dec 11, 2012

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    Over 40

    Over 40,That's me,Goin' through life,Wanna live,Another hundred please,Maybe more,Who ever knows?One might be lucky!
    lazycrazybasket lazycrazybasket 46-50, M Feb 2, 2012

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    And I want to know exactly how the hell

    that happened??LOL I was freaking out about turning 40 BIG TIME. My husband at the time (who is only a couple of weeks older than me) wasn't at all. Yet he's the one that ended up finding someone else on-line (and leaving me for her) & getting a new car!! Very ironic. Now...
    RubyLane RubyLane 41-45, F 3 Responses Jan 28

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    40's....the New 20s'??

    How I got to be this old, I'm not quite sure.  I remember like yesterday being 18 and then BAM!!!!  I'm in my 40s and some might say middle aged. Midlife crisis and all, the 40's both suck and rock!!  I'm not feeling the need for a corvette but I do enjoy finding...
    Roaring20s Roaring20s 41-45, M 20 Responses Nov 25, 2008

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    I Am Over 40 And It Is A Blast!

    WOW! I am over the age of 40 years young. As a matter of Fact I am 48! In my days as a child, thinking about being an old age was scary because to us 48 was soooooo...old. lol! As a Adult I have never been intimadated by age and find that in aging you become wise through life...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Apr 7, 2012

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    Over 40

    Over 40,Maybe,However,I'm not over the hill just yet!
    storywriter2 storywriter2 46-50 Aug 12, 2012

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    Reveling In My Femininity!

    Wonder of wonders but I have never enjoyed being feminine than right now when I am over 40. I am almost always wearing dresses that flatter or accentuate my curves. I also love wearing lacy and silky undergarments, it feels delicious! But more than what can be seen outside, it is...
    alexisalex alexisalex 41-45, F 5 Responses Jul 30, 2011

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    I'm Over 40

    I'm over 40, and life begins at 40. Therefore I must now be living as I haven't stopped rocking to the beat. Still, you're only as old as you feel, and I still feel quite young!
    cndrewdrvr8 cndrewdrvr8 46-50, M Jul 2, 2011

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    Chadra Chadra 51-55, F 3 hrs ago

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    Now that song is 'Horny' by cerelo green I mean im not horny as the song but the song is very fun lol I llisten it again and over and the funny thing is that I cant sing lol...
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    I said college would be a rebirth experience for me, because I truly am starting from zero. But in order to start over successfully, I needed to have already gained the skills...
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    So.. I'm having the hardest time getting over this and I need help.. advice.. anything. my boyfriend and I have been together for about a year. we met online while I was away at...
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    I am an empty nester. My only daughter moved out, not to college, but because she. hates me. It has been just the two of us for 27 years. Now I sit in an empty house, no friends...
    NO12TALK2 NO12TALK2 56-60, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I have tendencies towards Overeating sometimes and when I do it's nearly uncontrollable and hard to stop. Food is just amazing. Haha My last Overeating spell was something along...
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