I Am Painfully Shy

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    TylerAndTrevor TylerAndTrevor
    13-15, M
    1 Response Jan 12

    I'M Shy And A Loner

    I'm painfully shy like not even kidding it hurts to talk to people I don't know and even when Im with my friends I can't talk I have to push so so hard just to get words out I am so tired of it.If my teacher asks me a question it takes me a minute to even start talking and even...
    Ifuckinhatemyself Ifuckinhatemyself
    18-21, M
    1 Response Aug 25, 2013

    Especially around cute girls,

    whom I kinda want to get in bed with in some part of my mind. I am still in love with my girlfriend that I asked to marry me back in my sophomore year of high school. My boyfriend is fine with me having girl fun and accepts it.
    SkitLaberge SkitLaberge
    18-21, F
    Mar 18, 2014

    Have I left it too late?

    I'm 14 missed out on a heap of opportunities because of my shyness but I've got better recently and I need some glimpse of help to get better please..i have a few skilled talents but I'm so bad under pressure as it builds too quickly for me
    jimmygonzalez jimmygonzalez
    22-25, M
    Jun 29, 2014

    Ever Feel Like You Just Have Nothing To Say?

    One thing that bothers me is when people call me "quiet". I could be in a social setting and someone would go "Why are you so quiet?" as if by magic I'll snap out of it and suddenly become talkative. It bothers me that when I'm in a group setting and everyone is talking and being...
    EndlessApathy EndlessApathy
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Jun 14, 2012

    Can't Fight Back

     I've been painfully shy all my life I thought it would be something i'd eventualy grow out of but i haven't, I've never been able to get a girlfriend, I've been in the same job for 30 years becouse i'm to shy to go for interviews and  I tend to get bullied at work as a...
    Gaz7 Gaz7
    51-55, M
    14 Responses May 8, 2009

    I Don't Want To Be Lonely Anymore

    I don't know when it happened. I used to be popular, I used to be fun, I used to like myself. Now all i feel like is that i am broken. My life is ruled and ruined within my own head. I have a large personality and nice sense of humour but i don't let it show. I feel caged inside...
    ully89 ully89
    26-30, M
    Dec 2, 2013

    "what's Her Name Again?"

    As a child, I was naturally shy, but a lot of issues in my life made it worse. I grew up in a very abusive household, and everything was supposed to be kept a secret. I was always told that If I talked about what was going on, the physical abuse, the drugs, the...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Jan 12, 2010

    I'm really too shy and 'socially awkward'.

    I do have friends, but it's difficult for me to hang out with even them. When I do hang out with one of my closest friends, I can't help but feel that I'm boring her. I don't have the courage to talk to any new people and keep my distance from others. I heard that I should 'be...
    icantseeit icantseeit
    1 Response Jun 26, 2014

    As I Pace the hallway to my locker,

    I notice that someone I'd been meaning to talk to is feet away from my position. Should I approach them and ask if they'd like to hang out sometime? Or shouldn't I? What if they reject me? What if they don't like me or find me weird that I'm talking to them? I slowly ants down...
    Cooper802 Cooper802
    18-21, M
    May 17, 2015

    Participating In Class

    Currently I am in an advanced placement history class, and so there are only seven other students not counting me. Everyone in that class is very outspoken, not afraid at all to hold back their views and opinions. I, however, almost never speak at all. Because it's a small class...
    flyingintherain flyingintherain
    18-21, F
    9 Responses Dec 21, 2008

    Used To Be Shy

    hi i used to be really shy and that caused me problems in my school and even in my life in general.i know shy people choose to be lonely afraid from people's point of view about them and that's what i did at first untill one day i woke up and decided just to be "my self " no...
    justme11111 justme11111
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Nov 8, 2013

    People Scare Me A Little

    I don't know why I almost expect everyone to attack me or something. I walk around tense and nervous. I'll still get into an argument with people who really bother me, so I'm not afraid to stand up for myself. I just prefer to avoid those situations. I would rather go off and be...
    TigersEyeAndTurquoise TigersEyeAndTurquoise
    70+, F
    Aug 17, 2013

    Shyness Is Ruining My Career

    I've just started a new job in finance, I've been to university and have a degree in accounting. I am too shy to talk to my colleagues and they never even bother to try and talk to me. They've invited me to a lunch for the whole branch but I've said no because it stresses me out...
    Alipink Alipink
    22-25, F
    1 Response May 15, 2013

    Me And Shyness

    Some people just don't get it about shy people, I don't want to be shy. I've attempted about five times at school, not to be shy. One day, in 8th grade I made myself a promise. On the first day of school I would hang around with only the outgoing kids. However that turned into...
    terrablast765 terrablast765
    1 Response Mar 2, 2013

    Shyness is nice and shyness can stop you from

    doing all the things in life you'd like to so if there's something you'd like to try, if there's something you'd like to try, ask me i won't say no, how could i? Spending warm summer days indoors, writing frightening verse to a buck-toothed girl in Luxembourg. Ask me ask me...
    deleted deleted
    Nov 22, 2015

    I fell in love with every face I saw,

    because I would create stories and find the good in that person; It was easier to fall in love that way than if I had the courage to say “Hi, my name is…
    Giia Giia
    16-17, F
    Jun 5, 2014

    I am so shy when I look back my life feels like

    a 32 year awkward silence. I sit and think about what I think other people are thinking and it paralyzes me. I think about what I said my facial expressions. I over analyze their reactions. It's like I'm trapped in these nonsensical emotions. I sometimes rehearse situations in...
    teetoe1 teetoe1
    31-35, M
    1 Response Mar 19, 2014

    I wasn't as much when I was younger,

    but it's increased as I've gotten older. I can hardly look at people in the eye when they talk to me and I swear if one more person makes the comments, "I didn't know you could talk", "Why are you so quiet?", or "Why don't you ever talk?" I will personally stab, said person.
    vlop vlop
    16-17, F
    3 Responses Mar 17, 2014

    I have missed so much of life - getting to know

    people, going to parties and events, taking opportunities, even enjoying the company of others is hard for me because I know that I probably won't say anything and will appear boring. People have made fun of me because of my shyness, and I have trouble making friends. I am a...
    thedarksideofmylife thedarksideofmylife
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Feb 10, 2014

    I dont know if I'm introvert

    or just shy. But I get this voice in my ear saying "what is wrong with you?" "He doesn't like you he thinks you're just some creep." And it just f***s me up. I push a every boy away when I start to like them. I always feel like the third wheel when I'm in a group. What's wrong...
    lonelygirl2619 lonelygirl2619
    16-17, F
    Nov 23, 2014


    I am positive that I was born shy, but I also think many things layered to create more shyness as I grew older instead of growing out of it. One example, I was physically punished for being shy, which only created more anxiety, fear and shame. When I was feeling shy around people...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Jan 21, 2009

    So Shy...........

    I'm shy everytime I have to get along with people. Even if I want to talk to them, my social anxiety just gets the better of me....and I hate it. Whether if it's around school, family gatherings, and meeting new people....I  just feel like I'm too shy to talk to them because...
    quietgurl14 quietgurl14
    16-17, F
    1 Response Jan 8, 2011

    My Story Of Shyness And How Much I Want To Change It With My Passion For Music!

    It is a longer story,because i never was different. But hopefully i want to find some people,who understand me. So,write me if you want to. I am happy about every nice message! It all began at a very young age. Somehow i was just more calm than the others. And i never had many...
    ThePersistenceOfMemory ThePersistenceOfMemory
    18-21, F
    Oct 2, 2013


    I am shy more in person. I am shy in relationships, to the point where I get emotionally hurt very badly. This has happened on several occasions. I am a quiet person, and am not outgoing.
    Rezsosangel Rezsosangel
    2 Responses Apr 23, 2008

    I hide when I want to be left alone.

    But today I am just being silly
    nevets68 nevets68
    46-50, M
    Dec 11, 2015
    TrentKandinski TrentKandinski
    22-25, M
    6 Responses Feb 15, 2014

    And Totally Misunderstood.

    So I am the shyest person I know. By a long shot. Sadly people confuse it with rudeness. When I hang out with people I'm not familiar with, I keep to myself. Hands in my pockets, tensed up, face red from blushing, and usually pretty fidgety. I always get comments like "Did I...
    SgtWalrus SgtWalrus
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Sep 21, 2013

    How I Overcomemy Shy...

    Im an extremely shy once...as time passed by my age become older....im 18 now..im i can fully control my shyness now..here how i manage to overcome it.. 1)When you do something that make you feel shy to other people all you need to do is smile/laugh...some people blushing when...
    RaidaraX RaidaraX
    18-21, M
    Dec 2, 2012

    Shyness That Gets Worse

    I wanted to share my story. Maybe someone else can relate. I am in my early 30s. I am married (2nd marriage). I've had a nice childhood. I was always rather shy, you know typical child shyness I would say. As I got to my teens it was hard on me I was very rebellious. My...
    guineverre77 guineverre77
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jul 18, 2011

    Hess so shyy...he's so shy.

    .why is that little fat boy oh so shy?
    Cocrispy Cocrispy
    22-25, M
    1 Response Nov 3, 2015

    I hate being shy, I'm

    so shy and I'm so awkward. People try to talk to me but because of my shyness I just come off as a *****. I can't make conversation idk what to say I don't talk in school I just don't talk every day I get a comment about how I don't talk and some guy one day said I'm weird and...
    ustt ustt
    16-17, F
    1 Response Oct 18, 2014


    My mind is an autobahn of words, thoughts, opinions, and life. I make myself laugh at my own inside jokes, music plays in my head, and I know that I'm very quick witted. There's plenty of action going on inside my mind. The problem arises when it comes time to share this action...
    lostinwunderland lostinwunderland
    18-21, F
    1 Response Aug 10, 2011

    I am way to shy endless I feel ok with

    who I am talking with sigh
    sweetkisser sweetkisser
    26-30, M
    May 1, 2014

    I am really, really shy,

    although I don't seem it. - I can't talk to Disney characters at Disney World - I am scared to join online communities - I don't like showing my art to people - I hate group projects - I can't even make my Sims be friends with default Sims!
    thelastfirstchoice thelastfirstchoice
    13-15, F
    Jun 22, 2014

    Almost Too Shy to Function

    Actually I'm no shy i can barely even chat with people on the internet. Really, at my age I should have got over that.
    cyberkitty cyberkitty
    6 Responses Sep 8, 2008

    I am not the same person at home

    and outside. When I'm home I can be crazy, stupid, childish, confident, very outgoing but whenever I go out I' m completely out of control, really really shy. Except when I hang out with very close friends, which still rare (as my shyness hinders me to befriend with people...
    nowherewego nowherewego
    18-21, F
    1 Response Oct 14, 2014
    Yaz1998 Yaz1998
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Jun 9, 2014

    I don't like that about myself.

    When im presenting in class im like "i can do this" but once im up there all of a sudden i forget what im going too say and uuugh its so frustrating!!! Then i start shaking and jeez i need to stop being so shy. Ive missed a lot of opportunities in my life fir being so shy 😞
    chillynights024 chillynights024
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 23, 2014

    Is parrot here? does anyone knows ,

    is here? if you here, would you please burry me on the ground. not, in the mountains? would you come to North valley to pick up my body? and buy fine Cotton and plz come visit me on Friday, after the zummah.. plz don't send your other brother..I don't want them to touch me
    proudmuslimwoman proudmuslimwoman
    41-45, F
    Nov 4, 2015
    Iamalostcause Iamalostcause
    22-25, M
    2 Responses May 21, 2014


    I am a very shy person and I hate it. I'm very quiet when introduced to a new group of people. When you get to know me I will give you hugs all the time and be crazy and funny. When I first meet people though their first impression is either I'm to awkward or shy. I just moved to...
    imaginativespirit imaginativespirit
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Oct 19, 2013

    It's usually when I don't know someone well.

    And most people just stop talking to me after like a week because they get annoyed at how shy I am. But some days I just don't care and I say whatever the **** I want. Usually because I'm pissed. So I digress.
    deleted deleted
    Aug 12, 2014

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