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I Am Painfully Shy

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    Shyness Is Ruining Everything.

    I've been shy all my life and I hate it because it just makes it so hard to connect with new people and to make new friends. My shyness has got a little better than it was a few years ago but it's still really bad. There are very few people I can be myself around and even...
    BrokenAngelWishes BrokenAngelWishes 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 25, 2009

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    I am not the same person at home

    and outside. When I'm home I can be crazy, stupid, childish, confident, very outgoing but whenever I go out I' m completely out of control, really really shy. Except when I hang out with very close friends, which still rare (as my shyness hinders me to befriend with people...
    nowherewego nowherewego 16-17, F 1 Response Oct 14

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    I am way to shy endless I feel ok with

    who I am talking with sigh
    sweetkisser sweetkisser 22-25, M May 1

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    I am so shy when I look back my life feels like

    a 32 year awkward silence. I sit and think about what I think other people are thinking and it paralyzes me. I think about what I said my facial expressions. I over analyze their reactions. It's like I'm trapped in these nonsensical emotions. I sometimes rehearse situations in...
    teetoe1 teetoe1 31-35, M 1 Response Mar 19

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    I am extremely shy when it comes to men

    and flirting. The only men who end up getting to me are the one's who romance me and help bring me out of my shell.. kudos to persistent fellows!
    Alliwoo Alliwoo 18-21, F Jun 9

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    At First I Am But After Awhile...

    at first i am but after awhile i open up and then u cant shut me up..LOL
    irishwannabeky irishwannabeky 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 12, 2007

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    Shyness Is A Killer

    I get frustrated, why am i so shy, but so out going, Avoiding peopole, because i think they think im wierd or i will screw up, why is it so Dang hard, Why because its a fear the I dont know how to handle...
    JoshoMG JoshoMG 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 13, 2013

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    I Don't Want To Be Lonely Anymore

    I don't know when it happened. I used to be popular, I used to be fun, I used to like myself. Now all i feel like is that i am broken. My life is ruled and ruined within my own head. I have a large personality and nice sense of humour but i don't let it show. I feel caged inside...
    ully89 ully89 22-25, M Dec 2, 2013

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    I Am Painfully Shy

    I am 27 years male. I am very shy and fearful of strangers from my childhood till now. I have my own theory for the plight I am in- My parents don't talk much either and for that reason, I learnt my mother tongue too late. My parents aren't social enough and hence I was afraid of...
    vinodkmar vinodkmar 26-30 2 Responses Oct 27, 2010

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    It's usually when I don't know someone well.

    And most people just stop talking to me after like a week because they get annoyed at how shy I am. But some days I just don't care and I say whatever the **** I want. Usually because I'm pissed. So I digress.
    JayyPsythe JayyPsythe 13-15, M Aug 12

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    True

    I am shy more in person. I am shy in relationships, to the point where I get emotionally hurt very badly. This has happened on several occasions. I am a quiet person, and am not outgoing.
    Rezsosangel Rezsosangel 16-18 2 Responses Apr 23, 2008

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    I'm really too shy and 'socially awkward'.

    I do have friends, but it's difficult for me to hang out with even them. When I do hang out with one of my closest friends, I can't help but feel that I'm boring her. I don't have the courage to talk to any new people and keep my distance from others. I heard that I should 'be...
    icantseeit icantseeit 13-15 1 Response Jun 26

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    And Totally Misunderstood.

    So I am the shyest person I know. By a long shot. Sadly people confuse it with rudeness. When I hang out with people I'm not familiar with, I keep to myself. Hands in my pockets, tensed up, face red from blushing, and usually pretty fidgety. I always get comments like "Did I...
    LunaKye LunaKye 22-25, F 4 Responses Sep 21, 2013

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    Choked.

    My mind is an autobahn of words, thoughts, opinions, and life. I make myself laugh at my own inside jokes, music plays in my head, and I know that I'm very quick witted. There's plenty of action going on inside my mind. The problem arises when it comes time to share this action...
    lostinwunderland lostinwunderland 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 10, 2011

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    Awkward

    I am a very shy person and I hate it. I'm very quiet when introduced to a new group of people. When you get to know me I will give you hugs all the time and be crazy and funny. When I first meet people though their first impression is either I'm to awkward or shy. I just moved to...
    imaginativespirit imaginativespirit 16-17, F 7 Responses Oct 19, 2013

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    My Story Of Shyness And How Much I Want To Change It With My Passion For Music!

    It is a longer story,because i never was different. But hopefully i want to find some people,who understand me. So,write me if you want to. I am happy about every nice message! It all began at a very young age. Somehow i was just more calm than the others. And i never had many...
    ThePersistenceOfMemory ThePersistenceOfMemory 16-17, F Oct 2, 2013

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    People Scare Me A Little

    I don't know why I almost expect everyone to attack me or something. I walk around tense and nervous. I'll still get into an argument with people who really bother me, so I'm not afraid to stand up for myself. I just prefer to avoid those situations. I would rather go off and be...
    Dyssey Dyssey 70+, F Aug 17, 2013

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    I have missed so much of life - getting to know

    people, going to parties and events, taking opportunities, even enjoying the company of others is hard for me because I know that I probably won't say anything and will appear boring. People have made fun of me because of my shyness, and I have trouble making friends. I am a...
    thedarksideofmylife thedarksideofmylife 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 10

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    Especially around cute girls,

    whom I kinda want to get in bed with in some part of my mind. I am still in love with my girlfriend that I asked to marry me back in my sophomore year of high school. My boyfriend is fine with me having girl fun and accepts it.
    SkitLaberge SkitLaberge 18-21, F Mar 18

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    I dont know if I'm introvert

    or just shy. But I get this voice in my ear saying "what is wrong with you?" "He doesn't like you he thinks you're just some creep." And it just f***s me up. I push a every boy away when I start to like them. I always feel like the third wheel when I'm in a group. What's wrong...
    lonelygirl2619 lonelygirl2619 16-17, F Nov 23

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    Shyness That Gets Worse

    I wanted to share my story. Maybe someone else can relate. I am in my early 30s. I am married (2nd marriage). I've had a nice childhood. I was always rather shy, you know typical child shyness I would say. As I got to my teens it was hard on me I was very rebellious. My...
    guineverre77 guineverre77 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 18, 2011

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    Me And Shyness

    Some people just don't get it about shy people, I don't want to be shy. I've attempted about five times at school, not to be shy. One day, in 8th grade I made myself a promise. On the first day of school I would hang around with only the outgoing kids. However that turned into...
    terrablast765 terrablast765 16-17 1 Response Mar 2, 2013

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    I hate being shy, I'm

    so shy and I'm so awkward. People try to talk to me but because of my shyness I just come off as a *****. I can't make conversation idk what to say I don't talk in school I just don't talk every day I get a comment about how I don't talk and some guy one day said I'm weird and...
    ustt ustt 13-15, F 1 Response Oct 18

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    Around New People I Am Really ...

    Around new people I am really shy.  I don't really talk to new people.  I am always too worried about what people think about me.  Around my friends it is a different story.
    renegadeangel renegadeangel 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 12, 2007

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    How I Overcomemy Shy...

    Im an extremely shy once...as time passed by my age become older....im 18 now..im i can fully control my shyness now..here how i manage to overcome it.. 1)When you do something that make you feel shy to other people all you need to do is smile/laugh...some people blushing when...
    RaidaraX RaidaraX 18-21, M Dec 2, 2012

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    Yaz1998 Yaz1998 16-17, F 2 Responses Jun 9

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    .o.

    I am positive that I was born shy, but I also think many things layered to create more shyness as I grew older instead of growing out of it. One example, I was physically punished for being shy, which only created more anxiety, fear and shame. When I was feeling shy around people...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jan 21, 2009

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    Bad Timing To Lose Confidence...

    So im not usually a shy guy. I find it easy to make new friends, im possibly the most talkative guy youll meet, but lately ive been having trouble trying to talk to a girl i work with. Its no secret that i have a massive crush on her, but theres something else to it. I can start...
    GuruKisuke GuruKisuke 18-21, M Jul 11, 2013

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    Used To Be Shy

    hi i used to be really shy and that caused me problems in my school and even in my life in general.i know shy people choose to be lonely afraid from people's point of view about them and that's what i did at first untill one day i woke up and decided just to be "my self " no...
    justme11111 justme11111 22-25, M 1 Response Nov 8, 2013

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    I wasn't as much when I was younger,

    but it's increased as I've gotten older. I can hardly look at people in the eye when they talk to me and I swear if one more person makes the comments, "I didn't know you could talk", "Why are you so quiet?", or "Why don't you ever talk?" I will personally stab, said person.
    vlop vlop 13-15, F 3 Responses Mar 17

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    I don't like that about myself.

    When im presenting in class im like "i can do this" but once im up there all of a sudden i forget what im going too say and uuugh its so frustrating!!! Then i start shaking and jeez i need to stop being so shy. Ive missed a lot of opportunities in my life fir being so shy 😞
    chillynights024 chillynights024 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 23

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    Please Help With Psychology Research

    Hi, I am researching avatars and their naturalness. The more research that is done the better we will understand how to make avatars look more human like, which could lead to better online experiences for individuals. It's a pretty quick online survey. It takes about 10...
    hpruitt12 hpruitt12 22-25 Jun 12, 2013

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    I Think Im Just Scared

    I'm really shy sometimes when someone tries to talk to me i blush,avoid eye contact and hope they will stop talking, notice i'm unconfortable, or leave... I don't really know how I became like this but i'm just scared of talking to people sometimes I can't eve talk to people...
    0whatsername 0whatsername 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 20, 2013

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    "what's Her Name Again?"

    As a child, I was naturally shy, but a lot of issues in my life made it worse. I grew up in a very abusive household, and everything was supposed to be kept a secret. I was always told that If I talked about what was going on, the physical abuse, the drugs, the...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jan 12, 2010

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    Almost Too Shy to Function

    Actually I'm no shy i can barely even chat with people on the internet. Really, at my age I should have got over that.
    cyberkitty cyberkitty 18-21 6 Responses Sep 8, 2008

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    Shyness Is Ruining My Career

    I've just started a new job in finance, I've been to university and have a degree in accounting. I am too shy to talk to my colleagues and they never even bother to try and talk to me. They've invited me to a lunch for the whole branch but I've said no because it stresses me out...
    Alipink Alipink 22-25, F 1 Response May 15, 2013

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    So Shy...........

    I'm shy everytime I have to get along with people. Even if I want to talk to them, my social anxiety just gets the better of me....and I hate it. Whether if it's around school, family gatherings, and meeting new people....I  just feel like I'm too shy to talk to them because...
    quietgurl14 quietgurl14 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 8, 2011

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    Can't Fight Back

     I've been painfully shy all my life I thought it would be something i'd eventualy grow out of but i haven't, I've never been able to get a girlfriend, I've been in the same job for 30 years becouse i'm to shy to go for interviews and  I tend to get bullied at work as a...
    Gaz7 Gaz7 51-55, M 12 Responses May 8, 2009

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    I Hate The Awkward Silences I Create.

    I can't help it... I freeze up when people talk to me. I know that what you're meant to do when someone talks to you is ask them a friendly question about themself in return... but I always neglect to do so because I freak out, and then they think I'm rude!
    iamabirdnow iamabirdnow 18-21 1 Response May 29, 2010

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    Have I left it too late?

    I'm 14 missed out on a heap of opportunities because of my shyness but I've got better recently and I need some glimpse of help to get better please..i have a few skilled talents but I'm so bad under pressure as it builds too quickly for me
    jimmygonzalez jimmygonzalez 22-25, M Jun 29

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    I am really, really shy,

    although I don't seem it. - I can't talk to Disney characters at Disney World - I am scared to join online communities - I don't like showing my art to people - I hate group projects - I can't even make my Sims be friends with default Sims!
    thelastfirstchoice thelastfirstchoice 13-15, F Jun 22

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    TrentKandinski TrentKandinski 18-21, M 6 Responses Feb 15

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    Ever Feel Like You Just Have Nothing To Say?

    One thing that bothers me is when people call me "quiet". I could be in a social setting and someone would go "Why are you so quiet?" as if by magic I'll snap out of it and suddenly become talkative. It bothers me that when I'm in a group setting and everyone is talking and being...
    EndlessApathy EndlessApathy 16-17, F 2 Responses Jun 14, 2012

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    Fallenprinceofthedarkside Fallenprinceofthedarkside 18-21, M 2 Responses May 21

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    Too Shy

      I've always been very shy, more so during my adolescence when I was extremely sef-conscious than I am now. During junior high and high school I was very apprehensive about going to class. It felt as if a dark cloud was always hanging over me and the closer it...
    Powderblue Powderblue 36-40, F 3 Responses Jun 7, 2009

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    I'M Shy And A Loner

    I'm painfully shy like not even kidding it hurts to talk to people I don't know and even when Im with my friends I can't talk I have to push so so hard just to get words out I am so tired of it.If my teacher asks me a question it takes me a minute to even start talking and even...
    Ifuckinhatemyself Ifuckinhatemyself 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 25, 2013

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    I fell in love with every face I saw,

    because I would create stories and find the good in that person; It was easier to fall in love that way than if I had the courage to say “Hi, my name is…
    Giia Giia 13-15, F 1 Response Jun 5

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    Participating In Class

    Currently I am in an advanced placement history class, and so there are only seven other students not counting me. Everyone in that class is very outspoken, not afraid at all to hold back their views and opinions. I, however, almost never speak at all. Because it's a small class...
    flyingintherain flyingintherain 18-21, F 9 Responses Dec 21, 2008

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    I joined this group as a result of lilreddress's post as I felt it also applied to me. It's fascinating how many facets of our personalities are displayed, depending on the...
    2BlossomBlue 2BlossomBlue 51-55, F 5 Responses Dec 13

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    I am painfully shy especially when going into a new situation or meeting people I do not know.
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