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I Am Pale In a World That Tans

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    It's my choice. I can tan,

    quite easily actually. It's just, I don't want to. I know it's a childish thing to say, but I don't. I like being pale. Being compared to the other air headed tanning addicts wasn't fun. So I put on tons of sun screen and go to gyms instead of going outside. I'm never going to...
    lostfollower lostfollower 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 21

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    I Am Now

    When I was younger I used to spend a lot of time sunbathing but since having a wee health scare about two years ago when a mole on my neck turned out to be a tumour, (fortunately for me, a benign one), I take more care when I'm out in the sun. Being athletically built I always...
    Goshuujin Goshuujin 46-50, M Mar 10, 2013

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    Porcelain

    My skin is light. Lighter than anyone I've met. People tease me. They tell me I need to be darker. They tell me i should change who I am. But I don't care what they say or think. For if you dismiss a person for what they are on the outside, you aren't thinking at all. So...
    BlackTattooedEverything BlackTattooedEverything 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 24, 2013

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    I DO NOT tan.LOL I'm very white.

    I burn (had many sunburns as a kid & some as an adult as well), I peel & then I'm white again! I used to want to be one of those people who tanned really easily, but it wasn't meant to be. It's not as important to me now.
    RubyLane RubyLane 41-45, F 1 Response Jan 28

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    Alabaster

    I used to tan somewhat when I was younger, but stopped sunning so much when I was twelve. I can get tan still but veer on the side of a burn before it fades to one. I used to get teased sometimes but now it is something I enjoy. I do tend to have more youthful looking skin than...
    BebeKitten BebeKitten 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 25, 2013

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    Tan But White In A Day

    During the summer I get sun tans like no one else. I am always outside and living it up. Everything goes great but the first week of fail... I become as white as a ghost. I have even had doctors question if I am albino (they didn't see my dark brown eyes). Everything on my body...
    Beatenrodent Beatenrodent 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 26, 2013

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    Tans Are Nasty.

    I will never ever EVER get tan. First off, I personally think non natural tans look gross. Especially when people go to tanning salons to get them done. Why would anyone in the world find orange skin attractive? It's friggen disgusting looking and in the long run your skin is...
    KawaiiDoll KawaiiDoll 18-21, F 3 Responses Oct 2, 2011

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    If I only had a dollar

    for everyone who tells me "wow you're so white!" as if I'm not aware.
    alexxaaa alexxaaa 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 4

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    The Skin I Am In

    My mother Beverly had gorgeous caramel -floored skin and she told me that my father had a dark complexion as well. So I am American Indian and Italian. You would think I would have dark pigmentation but nooooo... The last time I went to the DMV to change my address on my license...
    choctawgrrrl choctawgrrrl 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 26, 2012

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    Ask Me If I Care

    I can get tan if i want to but I choose not to. If I try to get tan my freckles will come out and I hate my freckles. They just dont fit me well. Id rather be pale with no freckles than tan with a bunch of freckles. Ill get a spray tan first lol
    angeliceyes11 angeliceyes11 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 27, 2012

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    The Curse of the White Skin.

    I'm so pale and my skin burns so easily I have to wear long clothes even during a heatwave. I can't use a sunscreen either, because it causes a very bad rash and it burns too. My skin is over-sensitive. After a few very bad experiences with burnt skin I've come to avoid...
    HoofFoot HoofFoot 19-21, F 5 Responses Aug 17, 2007

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    No, I'm Not A Vampire.

    Nor am I a scene or emo kid, i don't wear sunscreen every second of the day, and i don't slather white face paint on. I'm just very pale. I used to be harassed being raised in an arab-latin community but i've learned to laugh it off when a young boy asked me if i was an undead...
    aliceXIONU aliceXIONU 18-21, F 3 Responses May 26, 2012

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    Red Hair and Fair Skin

    Red hair runs in my family as well as the very fair skin that goes with it.  I spent one whole summer during high school doing everything I possibly could to get a real tan.  By the time I went back to school, I had a light honey sheen but that was it.  I never...
    liza425 liza425 46-50, F 4 Responses Apr 27, 2008

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    Love It

    I love how pale my skin is. I have tanned in the past (both natural and self-tan), but it never looked right on me. My mother and grandmother both have terrible sun spots (actinic keratosis) from baking out in the sun. I will never understand why putting yourself at risk for...
    ThistleWeed ThistleWeed 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 21, 2009

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    Too bad the girls that tan are going to look

    even more aged and wrinkly down the road than ones who don't tan!
    kaylinrae kaylinrae 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 17, 2013

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    Pale and Proud!

    I am just naturally pale. I live in Scotland and we didn't have a summer this year(well okay, we had a week of sunshine but that was it). You see all these girls walking around with fake, orange tan, trying to look like they've just got back from Italy or Hollywood, but it looks...
    AnimeAnima AnimeAnima 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 7, 2008

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    Milky White.

    I am very pale, i never really liked that much but i hate fake women who have fake hair and fake eyelashes and fake tan and fake everything else. I have darkish reddish brown hair and dark eyebrows and it shows of my pale skin. I have been told i need to get in the sun or that i...
    deleted deleted 26-30 15 Responses Nov 16, 2011

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    English Rose.

    I have pale skin. Alabaster skin. In the sunlight, I practically look white. Partly because I don't get enough sunlight, but mostly I was just born with pale skin, I guess. I'm not sure how, as my family can all tan easily and have skin colour in all various nice tones. My skin...
    tianajade tianajade 18-21, F 12 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    I Hate Sunbathing

    I am pale not because I can't be tanned- my mum is very pale, being natural blonde, and she always tells me to sunbathe more. But, seriously, I hate that. Not to mention medical risks (skin cancer people !!!), more wrinkles ( suntan is just a damage of cells, and then because of...
    nicerain nicerain 18-21, F 6 Responses Dec 31, 2007

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    Love Your Skin

    I can tan fairly easy but I prefer the natural unintended way. If I am going to sport a tan, let it be because I had a blast at the beach rather than going there for a tan. I could care less whether I have a tan or not. I have never stepped foot in a tanning room and probably...
    hazelwoodd hazelwoodd 26-30, F Aug 24, 2013

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    It's not even possible

    for me to tan. When exposed to the sun, I go red and then after a while revert back to pasty white, although maybe not quite as pasty as before. Maybe more of an off-white.
    purplemusicprincess purplemusicprincess 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 27

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    Born to Be Pale

    I have been pale all my life. I was sick of it one year, so I went to the park and literally burned. I was dead set on getting tan. I must have laid there for like two to three hours trying to get somewhere. This guy came up to flirt with me, I wasn't interested, he was grouse...
    joslyn joslyn 26-30, F 6 Responses Oct 24, 2007

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    I Would Hate It

    I would hate it if I were tan.  I've never thought tans looked good on anyone.  Plus, tans just cause sun cancer.  I like being really pale.  Pale people are more beautiful than tanned people in my opinion.  I remember wearing shorts one day back when I...
    NostalgicLies NostalgicLies 22-25, F 8 Responses May 4, 2008

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    Thattttssss Me!

    Ever hear the saying "Mirror, mirror on the wall, who's the fairest of them all?"? well this wasnt just said to claim the queen or snow white as a good sport. Fairest ment beautiful. They called it fair becuase fair pale skin is beautiful. I love my pale skin. i don't want to...
    enemyinthemirror enemyinthemirror 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 11, 2011

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    I have two colors: white

    as a ghost and red as a lobster, nothing in between.
    anonymousfraud anonymousfraud 26-30, F Jan 16

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    I'm the palest one in my family besides my

    grandma. Everyone has golden tans and when I get back from the beach or from hiking I always ask "did I get tan?" And they always reply "you tried" haha
    nemophilist8 nemophilist8 18-21, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I love my pale skin,

    and also i dont have more options since i cant have a decent tan like ever :(
    FunnyEnglish FunnyEnglish 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 21

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    I go outside for more

    than ten minutes and i will burn I carry around sunblock in my purse just in case
    WendyDarlin WendyDarlin 18-21, F May 21

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    Yeah For Us Pale People

    my sister is approaching 30 and well the tanning is catching up to here. i am 3 yrs younger but my skin is clear and no wrinkles....... she is always complimenting me now saying she wishes she had my skin..... for the last 10 years i was secretly jealous of her skin.... how she...
    JadedGrace JadedGrace 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 14, 2008

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    I have fair skin and I never tan!

    !! The only colors I ever turn is from white to red and back to white again!!! I'm literally so white I glow in the dark lol!!! It's ok but most of the time I wish I had a little more pigment to my skin!!!
    highhopes4baby highhopes4baby 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 21

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    Pale Is Awesome!

    I'm proud of my paleness. Pale skin and dark hair/makeup are absolutely beautiful. I honestly don't see the attraction in the Oompa Loompa look. Not to mention the skin damage you're causing yourself. I'd rather not resemble the skin of an alligator when I'm 50, thanks.
    dollfacezombie dollfacezombie 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 23, 2012

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    Pale Is Beautiful

    All my life i've had stick about how pale I am, off family and people I don't even know! My family thinks it's funny to make up names about me,  names such as casper (very origional) and make comments how 'I look like i've been dead for 6 months and dug up!'. To make matters...
    Evernight Evernight 31-35, F 7 Responses Nov 3, 2009

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    The Curse Of Red Hair

    I will never tan because I can't. All I do is burn and then turn pale again.
    DemonKitty DemonKitty 26-30, F 4 Responses Sep 5, 2011

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    I Cannot Tan For The Life Of Me

    When I was a child I was the little indian of the family as they would say, I had beautiful dark tanned skin and blonde hair with big blue green eyes. Now that I am older I look nothing like what I did as a child, my skin stopped tanning! I never burn but nor do I...
    Jesusfoundme Jesusfoundme 31-35, F 6 Responses Jan 20, 2010

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    I get people asking me

    if I'm feeling ok because of how white I look. "Yeah, fine thanks" and it's this raised eyebrows expression. Eurgh! It's my natural skin shade ok, get over it. I rarely ever tan, even if I go somewhere really hot. My doctor even requested for my blood count once commenting it...
    AngelofPink AngelofPink 18-21, F 9 Responses Apr 1

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    Oh yes I am very fair.

    ..Irish skin, no tanning here!!
    formieyesonly formieyesonly 41-45, F 2 Responses Jun 17

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    AnorexicHiddlestoner AnorexicHiddlestoner 18-21, F 1 Response May 21

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    Embrace Your Paleness

    I find it ironic in the extreme that we live in a world where both 'minorities' (i.e. African American, Indigenous people) and the very pale are discriminated against [not that I think anyone should be!]. I have always had very, very pale skin. Have always needed to apply...
    Pixie87 Pixie87 22-25, F 4 Responses Jun 19, 2009

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    Fake Tan

    A few years ago I discovered fake tan as a way of hiding how pale my skin is. People would always comment on my skin and I got so sick of it... Where I'm from, not having a tan in the summer or after a vacation aborad is a huge failure, lol. Anyway, I got obsessed with fake tan...
    untethered90 untethered90 22-25, F 4 Responses Jun 15, 2013

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    I'M So Pale I Look Ill

    My skin tone seem to lack any pink undertones at all. Instead I'm borderline yellow. Forget finding make-up in my shade everything looks like fake tanner and doesn't blend at all. Also forget tanning in the sun I burn quickly and painfully then peel like crazy. I'm German are...
    rainbowdasher rainbowdasher 22-25, F 6 Responses Mar 7, 2013

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    I hate being pale. I feel like my paleness

    makes my thighs seem wider. I can't wear shorts or skirts without burning or getting weird looks. What kind of lotion should I use to tan, but not burn?
    tinywoman tinywoman 18-21 Apr 1

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    Milk Bottle Legs...

    I have always been the pallor of death... with very faint freckles... growing up was a nightmare... all the children playing in the hot Summer sun and there I sat, in the shade  of a tree too afraid to venture forth for fear of yet another sunburn. You must remember that...
    palevixen palevixen 41-45, F 5 Responses Oct 3, 2010

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    PALEFACE ...=-D

    I guess I joined this group after my friend was teasing me and told me "For the love of god , get under a tanning lamp and tan!!" I had not realized till then , how , here where I live so many people are running after the elusive perfect tan .. some get it right though in a...
    softkitti softkitti 22-25, F 49 Responses Nov 6, 2010

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    Rebecca321 Rebecca321 22-25, F Jan 16

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    Summer Skin No Year Round

    I was playing with my friend’s hand the other day and he said for the first time he actually noticed how light I am compared to him and the other people. Unfair he’s comaring me to him though, since he has a really nice shade of skin and a tan it the finishing...
    Floydess Floydess 18-21, F 12 Responses Aug 21, 2010

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    Living Dead Girl

    Haha. Not really but Dead Girl was my nickname for many years, for a few reasons. I have always been pale. All my life, I've tried to tan, but I only burn and then turn white again. Now that I am older, I notice that my arms are catching a slight tan from driving, but it's weird...
    FellidayaFiresong FellidayaFiresong 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 8, 2012

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    I Just Realized I Am Turned Off By The 'zebra Effect.'

    I have written about being more attracted to fair skin and the probability of it coming from not being able to be in the sun so much. It doesn't seem to matter that I'm Latin. I just like fair skin better. Well just recently I discovered that I find the 'zebra effect' completely...
    FlauntTheImperfections FlauntTheImperfections 41-45, M 3 Responses Jul 2, 2012

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    Snow White,,,

    ... was beautiful! And I bet she never had melanoma! Personally, I don't understand the appeal of the Oompa Loompa look. I mean, look at Dita over there! She's an icon and she's practically transparent! Gorgeous! Pasty faces represent!
    OFFthecuff OFFthecuff 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 12, 2007

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    I am of pure Northern European descent.

    My skin is naturally quite pale, like a few levels above albino. I rarely am even able to tan while in the sun, just burn. I don't even like the heat, and am prone to heat sickness if exposed to above 85 degree heat for too long with no relief. Anyway..I used to be jealous...
    Smoray100 Smoray100 22-25, F 4 Responses Jun 17

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