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I Am Pale In a World That Tans

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    I Just Hate It When Someone Says . . . .

    that i need to tan or get some sun or whatever words they choose. it ticks me off. first of all sun exposure is the cause of wrinkles and also skin cancer. i do not think the leathery skin of the tanning bed queens is very attractive because they look 50 years old when they...
    bpryczynski bpryczynski 51-55, F 2 Responses Mar 9, 2012

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    I Just Realized I Am Turned Off By The 'zebra Effect.'

    I have written about being more attracted to fair skin and the probability of it coming from not being able to be in the sun so much. It doesn't seem to matter that I'm Latin. I just like fair skin better. Well just recently I discovered that I find the 'zebra effect' completely...
    FlauntTheImperfections FlauntTheImperfections 41-45, M 3 Responses Jul 2, 2012

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    PALEFACE ...=-D

    I guess I joined this group after my friend was teasing me and told me "For the love of god , get under a tanning lamp and tan!!" I had not realized till then , how , here where I live so many people are running after the elusive perfect tan .. some get it right though in a...
    softkitti softkitti 22-25, F 50 Responses Nov 6, 2010

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    Tans Are Nasty.

    I will never ever EVER get tan. First off, I personally think non natural tans look gross. Especially when people go to tanning salons to get them done. Why would anyone in the world find orange skin attractive? It's friggen disgusting looking and in the long run your skin is...
    KawaiiDoll KawaiiDoll 18-21, F 3 Responses Oct 2, 2011

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    Rebecca321 Rebecca321 22-25, F Jan 16

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    Milk Bottle Legs...

    I have always been the pallor of death... with very faint freckles... growing up was a nightmare... all the children playing in the hot Summer sun and there I sat, in the shade  of a tree too afraid to venture forth for fear of yet another sunburn. You must remember that...
    palevixen palevixen 41-45, F 5 Responses Oct 3, 2010

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    I hate being pale. I feel like my paleness

    makes my thighs seem wider. I can't wear shorts or skirts without burning or getting weird looks. What kind of lotion should I use to tan, but not burn?
    dannielise dannielise 18-21 Apr 1

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    I Love Pale Skin..

    Pale skin is the most beautiful, Elegant skin , The best thing about pale skin, it look's amazing next to the Dark Chocolate color of my skin..
    fingers4351 fingers4351 36-40, M Mar 18, 2012

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    No, I'm Not A Vampire.

    Nor am I a scene or emo kid, i don't wear sunscreen every second of the day, and i don't slather white face paint on. I'm just very pale. I used to be harassed being raised in an arab-latin community but i've learned to laugh it off when a young boy asked me if i was an undead...
    aliceXIONU aliceXIONU 18-21, F 3 Responses May 26, 2012

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    Chemical Tanning Lotions And Sprays

    I would be way too scared to go to a spray tanning place where I may come out looking orange. I am using this fake tanning creme that is supposed to be used like a lotion once a day, and you can gradually get to the color you want. I'm on day 3 of it, and it does look pretty...
    BiForce BiForce 26-30 Sep 14, 2012

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    Too bad the girls that tan are going to look

    even more aged and wrinkly down the road than ones who don't tan!
    kaylinrae kaylinrae 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 17, 2013

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    Call Me Casper

    My entire family tans. Not me. I have been teased and called Casper the friendly ghost for years. Being porcelain skinned has its advantages though. I never have to waste money on tanning. Therefore, I do not have a lot of wrinkles. My freckles stand out more. ( Yes, I like my...
    emptyheart emptyheart 41-45, F 2 Responses Sep 17, 2007

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    Red Hair and Fair Skin

    Red hair runs in my family as well as the very fair skin that goes with it.  I spent one whole summer during high school doing everything I possibly could to get a real tan.  By the time I went back to school, I had a light honey sheen but that was it.  I never...
    liza425 liza425 46-50, F 4 Responses Apr 27, 2008

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    Peaches And Cream

    I have fair skin, auburn hair and blue eyes which means the sun and I are not exactly friends. I don't have to be in the sun very long (15 minutes maybe) before I start turning pink. During the summer I try to wear sunscreen when I know I'm going to be in the sun for long periods...
    ACuriousStudent ACuriousStudent 26-30, F Apr 2, 2012

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    The Curse of the White Skin.

    I'm so pale and my skin burns so easily I have to wear long clothes even during a heatwave. I can't use a sunscreen either, because it causes a very bad rash and it burns too. My skin is over-sensitive. After a few very bad experiences with burnt skin I've come to avoid...
    HoofFoot HoofFoot 19-21, F 5 Responses Aug 17, 2007

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    Milky White.

    I am very pale, i never really liked that much but i hate fake women who have fake hair and fake eyelashes and fake tan and fake everything else. I have darkish reddish brown hair and dark eyebrows and it shows of my pale skin. I have been told i need to get in the sun or that i...
    deleted deleted 26-30 16 Responses Nov 16, 2011

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    Love Your Skin

    I can tan fairly easy but I prefer the natural unintended way. If I am going to sport a tan, let it be because I had a blast at the beach rather than going there for a tan. I could care less whether I have a tan or not. I have never stepped foot in a tanning room and probably...
    hazelwoodd hazelwoodd 26-30, F Aug 24, 2013

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    I Hate Sunbathing

    I am pale not because I can't be tanned- my mum is very pale, being natural blonde, and she always tells me to sunbathe more. But, seriously, I hate that. Not to mention medical risks (skin cancer people !!!), more wrinkles ( suntan is just a damage of cells, and then because of...
    nicerain nicerain 18-21, F 6 Responses Dec 31, 2007

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    Thattttssss Me!

    Ever hear the saying "Mirror, mirror on the wall, who's the fairest of them all?"? well this wasnt just said to claim the queen or snow white as a good sport. Fairest ment beautiful. They called it fair becuase fair pale skin is beautiful. I love my pale skin. i don't want to...
    enemyinthemirror enemyinthemirror 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 11, 2011

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    Fake Tan

    A few years ago I discovered fake tan as a way of hiding how pale my skin is. People would always comment on my skin and I got so sick of it... Where I'm from, not having a tan in the summer or after a vacation aborad is a huge failure, lol. Anyway, I got obsessed with fake tan...
    untethered90 untethered90 22-25, F 4 Responses Jun 15, 2013

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    Pale Is Awesome!

    I'm proud of my paleness. Pale skin and dark hair/makeup are absolutely beautiful. I honestly don't see the attraction in the Oompa Loompa look. Not to mention the skin damage you're causing yourself. I'd rather not resemble the skin of an alligator when I'm 50, thanks.
    dollfacezombie dollfacezombie 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 23, 2012

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    Living Dead Girl

    Haha. Not really but Dead Girl was my nickname for many years, for a few reasons. I have always been pale. All my life, I've tried to tan, but I only burn and then turn white again. Now that I am older, I notice that my arms are catching a slight tan from driving, but it's weird...
    FellidayaFiresong FellidayaFiresong 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 8, 2012

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    It's Not Pale!!...

    It's porcelain-skinned :)
    Saew Saew 26-30, F Mar 19, 2012

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    Yeah For Us Pale People

    my sister is approaching 30 and well the tanning is catching up to here. i am 3 yrs younger but my skin is clear and no wrinkles....... she is always complimenting me now saying she wishes she had my skin..... for the last 10 years i was secretly jealous of her skin.... how she...
    JadedGrace JadedGrace 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 14, 2008

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    Pasty-ness =(

    I have a sort of "tanned-colored" face, but, my face is naturally slightly dark (I think "olive" is the word?) But, my body is pale and pasty, even for someone who doesn't have contrasting face and body tones. =S Although some of this maybe natural, allot...
    Hairstyle Hairstyle 22-25, M 1 Response Dec 12, 2007

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    I'M So Pale I Look Ill

    My skin tone seem to lack any pink undertones at all. Instead I'm borderline yellow. Forget finding make-up in my shade everything looks like fake tanner and doesn't blend at all. Also forget tanning in the sun I burn quickly and painfully then peel like crazy. I'm German are...
    rainbowdasher rainbowdasher 18-21, F 6 Responses Mar 7, 2013

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    Been Pale All My Life.

    I have alway's been fair skinned and burn at the drop of a hat. I get what the call a farmer's tan each year that only cover's my neck and arm's. I have had one tan in my life and that was while I was in the service and stationed at Gitmo, Cuba. I burnt and peeled five time...
    Robert1256 Robert1256 51-55, M 1 Response Apr 1, 2012

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    I have two colors: white

    as a ghost and red as a lobster, nothing in between.
    anonymousfraud anonymousfraud 26-30, F Jan 16

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    Redhead

    i'm so pale that i could be transparent. i actually enjoy being very pale. i don't have to fret about being tan because it would look so weird on me. i'm a redhead (by choice) & so when people see my pale skin & red hair, they assume it's normal. back when i was a blonde, i would...
    gardenbeauty gardenbeauty 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 8, 2012

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    The Skin I Am In

    My mother Beverly had gorgeous caramel -floored skin and she told me that my father had a dark complexion as well. So I am American Indian and Italian. You would think I would have dark pigmentation but nooooo... The last time I went to the DMV to change my address on my license...
    choctawgrrrl choctawgrrrl 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 26, 2012

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    Do You Tan?

    I  have  never  layed  in  the   sun.  I  can   usually  get  enough  sun  just  by  going  out  15  minutes  and  I  have  a  great  tan. ...
    rockybear397 rockybear397 47, F 3 Responses Apr 13, 2008

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    Wanna Know Why So Many People In Tokyo Don't Tan?

    Now that I live here I realize why---the buildings are so tall that it blocks out the sun! I don't need to wear sunscreen and carry around an umbrella or anything anymore! XD
    Zerelja Zerelja 18-21, F Dec 31, 2011

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    The Curse Of Red Hair

    I will never tan because I can't. All I do is burn and then turn pale again.
    DemonKitty DemonKitty 26-30, F 4 Responses Sep 5, 2011

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    Pale and Proud!

    I am just naturally pale. I live in Scotland and we didn't have a summer this year(well okay, we had a week of sunshine but that was it). You see all these girls walking around with fake, orange tan, trying to look like they've just got back from Italy or Hollywood, but it looks...
    AnimeAnima AnimeAnima 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 7, 2008

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    I don't get why people want to be

    so different, or just different from what they are. Most of the time, it's not what they are that makes them hurt, because it's a lot about hurt, even these who look to be so shallow. I can understand someone hurting beside, what society thinks. Actually, I can understand all of...
    WickedScullyOfTheWest WickedScullyOfTheWest 31-35, F Dec 14, 2013

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    Porcelain

    My skin is light. Lighter than anyone I've met. People tease me. They tell me I need to be darker. They tell me i should change who I am. But I don't care what they say or think. For if you dismiss a person for what they are on the outside, you aren't thinking at all. So...
    BlackTattooedEverything BlackTattooedEverything 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 24, 2013

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    Summer Skin No Year Round

    I was playing with my friend’s hand the other day and he said for the first time he actually noticed how light I am compared to him and the other people. Unfair he’s comaring me to him though, since he has a really nice shade of skin and a tan it the finishing...
    Floydess Floydess 18-21, F 12 Responses Aug 21, 2010

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    English Rose.

    I have pale skin. Alabaster skin. In the sunlight, I practically look white. Partly because I don't get enough sunlight, but mostly I was just born with pale skin, I guess. I'm not sure how, as my family can all tan easily and have skin colour in all various nice tones. My skin...
    tianajade tianajade 18-21, F 12 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    I Would Hate It

    I would hate it if I were tan.  I've never thought tans looked good on anyone.  Plus, tans just cause sun cancer.  I like being really pale.  Pale people are more beautiful than tanned people in my opinion.  I remember wearing shorts one day back when I...
    NostalgicLies NostalgicLies 22-25, F 7 Responses May 4, 2008

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    Love It

    I love how pale my skin is. I have tanned in the past (both natural and self-tan), but it never looked right on me. My mother and grandmother both have terrible sun spots (actinic keratosis) from baking out in the sun. I will never understand why putting yourself at risk for...
    ThistleWeed ThistleWeed 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 21, 2009

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    Tan But White In A Day

    During the summer I get sun tans like no one else. I am always outside and living it up. Everything goes great but the first week of fail... I become as white as a ghost. I have even had doctors question if I am albino (they didn't see my dark brown eyes). Everything on my body...
    Beatenrodent Beatenrodent 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 26, 2013

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    Born to Be Pale

    I have been pale all my life. I was sick of it one year, so I went to the park and literally burned. I was dead set on getting tan. I must have laid there for like two to three hours trying to get somewhere. This guy came up to flirt with me, I wasn't interested, he was grouse...
    joslyn joslyn 26-30, F 6 Responses Oct 24, 2007

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    I Cannot Tan For The Life Of Me

    When I was a child I was the little indian of the family as they would say, I had beautiful dark tanned skin and blonde hair with big blue green eyes. Now that I am older I look nothing like what I did as a child, my skin stopped tanning! I never burn but nor do I...
    Jesusfoundme Jesusfoundme 31-35, F 6 Responses Jan 20, 2010

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    Fair Is Sexy.

    I think the natural color of my skin is beautiful. Milky (or whichever hue you are) and smooth is sexy. My fair skin complements my bright green eyes and honey-brown hair. The best thing about staying out of the sun is that, when I'm older, my skin will have aged much more...
    wonderlust wonderlust 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 25, 2007

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    Pale Is Beautiful

    All my life i've had stick about how pale I am, off family and people I don't even know! My family thinks it's funny to make up names about me,  names such as casper (very origional) and make comments how 'I look like i've been dead for 6 months and dug up!'. To make matters...
    Evernight Evernight 31-35, F 7 Responses Nov 3, 2009

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    Snow White,,,

    ... was beautiful! And I bet she never had melanoma! Personally, I don't understand the appeal of the Oompa Loompa look. I mean, look at Dita over there! She's an icon and she's practically transparent! Gorgeous! Pasty faces represent!
    OFFthecuff OFFthecuff 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 12, 2007

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    Just Don't Care

    about tanning anymore. I used to care, and I used to hate pale skin. I was dyeing my hair blonde and tanning for years. People expected me to be tan as a blonde, and would tell me I was to pale if I didn't. I got sick of it all, I stopped tanning in December 2011, and I got my...
    ktd23 ktd23 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 18, 2012

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    I get people asking me

    if I'm feeling ok because of how white I look. "Yeah, fine thanks" and it's this raised eyebrows expression. Eurgh! It's my natural skin shade ok, get over it. I rarely ever tan, even if I go somewhere really hot. My doctor even requested for my blood count once commenting it...
    AngelofPink AngelofPink 18-21, F 7 Responses Apr 1

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    Embrace Your Paleness

    I find it ironic in the extreme that we live in a world where both 'minorities' (i.e. African American, Indigenous people) and the very pale are discriminated against [not that I think anyone should be!]. I have always had very, very pale skin. Have always needed to apply...
    Pixie87 Pixie87 22-25, F 4 Responses Jun 19, 2009

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    Ask Me If I Care

    I can get tan if i want to but I choose not to. If I try to get tan my freckles will come out and I hate my freckles. They just dont fit me well. Id rather be pale with no freckles than tan with a bunch of freckles. Ill get a spray tan first lol
    angeliceyes11 angeliceyes11 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 27, 2012

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    Why Tanning Is Popular...

    My french teacher in 9th grade told us that in the 1920s (I'm pretty sure it was around that time), Coco Chanel declared tan was beautiful after a recent visit to the French Riviera (she was tan after that, I'm guessing). She was such an influential person in the world of fashion...
    sublimex sublimex 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 26, 2007

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    I Am Lady Casper

    i look so pale, i feel like im casper when I see myself in pictures! My skin also glows like a ghost! but I love my self and thank god! the other day I was thinking i look like casper in my pics! but really its not bad to have pale skin, but we have issues . I cant stand change...
    HelenParis HelenParis 22-25 Mar 30, 2012

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    Alabaster

    I used to tan somewhat when I was younger, but stopped sunning so much when I was twelve. I can get tan still but veer on the side of a burn before it fades to one. I used to get teased sometimes but now it is something I enjoy. I do tend to have more youthful looking skin than...
    BebeKitten BebeKitten 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 25, 2013

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    I DO NOT tan.LOL I'm very white.

    I burn (had many sunburns as a kid & some as an adult as well), I peel & then I'm white again! I used to want to be one of those people who tanned really easily, but it wasn't meant to be. It's not as important to me now.
    RubyLane RubyLane 41-45, F 1 Response Jan 28

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