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I Am Pansexual and Gender Fluid

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 363 People

    So, I Just Confessed To My Friends

    3 of my best friends (2 guys, 1 girl) in fact. I let them know that I am bigendered tonight, and that I identify as a girl much of the time. And much to my delight, they all accepted me without question. My two guy friends felt honored that I came out to them and that this doesn...
    ViewtifulMe ViewtifulMe 26-30, T Nov 10, 2012

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    I know who and what I am

    and want to be. Love isn't about what's in someones pants or even the sex they were "assigned" at birth. Some days I do want to dress myself up and look girly. Other days I just want to look like the guy I often feel I am. There are some days where I really just am not sure so I...
    alexEmay alexEmay 13-15, F 2 Responses Nov 25, 2014

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    Trying to explain these things to ppl can be

    exhausting. I'm open about who I am, I'm not ashamed because there is nothing to be ashamed of. I've had feelings for ppl of all walks of life and I express myself in the way they make me feel. The fact that I found love with a strait women doesn't negate how I've felt towards...
    CDrixieXXY CDrixieXXY 31-35, T 2 Responses Feb 18

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    I just recently realized this.

    .. A week ago i was straight but i got the hots for a transgender female and i realized i liked boys too.. I'm pansexual and even though gay isn't tru, it feels so good to be called it because i can date whoever i want
    grantfilm95 grantfilm95 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 13

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    I'm asexual and panromantic

    and genderfluid. Not a lot of people understand all of this and it's hard. (Especially when everyone thinks I'm gay). Sometimes I feel alone and I've almost completely given up on relationships with anyone who totally would understand, so... Also, I fear my dad may disown me if...
    SmplyM3 SmplyM3 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 16, 2014

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    I came out to my lesbian boss today,

    I feel so much lighter. She gave me some solid and honest advice on how to transition myself into the life I always knew I should have.
    BrokenOneX BrokenOneX 31-35 1 Response Sep 10, 2014

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    What is the best way to tell some

    that I am Pansexual & Gender Fluid?
    meme0181996 meme0181996 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 3, 2014

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    I came out about a year ago with my

    pansexuality, but have more recently come to the realization that I am gender fluid. I feel that I won't share with anyone that fact about myself (aside from you wordeful people) because for the time being, I'm still experiencing the emotional aspect of the "realization" but if...
    whatthefuckami whatthefuckami 18-21, M 1 Response Oct 2, 2014

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    Realized

    i realized i am a strong person , which means i am a strong woman a strong man a strong in between a strong person and beautiful for all those things , i identify with beindg more feminine in the socially accepted term physically somewhat and enjoy bein g a non gendered brain...
    JelloFloor JelloFloor 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 16, 2012

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    It can be hard sometimes cause im not out

    yet so i cant really be myself but i love who i am. I wish i could show people who i really am but im scared of judgement from others especially my parents. I would love to talk to other gender fluid pansexuals! I just need a friend whos like me
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Aug 15, 2014

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    I Am Confused.

    Basically, this female-to-male transgender talked in my woman as hero class today about being transgender. He gave out a worksheet that had the different terms on it, such as gender-queer, pan sexual, gender fluid, bisexual and so on. It was hard to hear because the things he...
    darkdaugterofpersephone darkdaugterofpersephone 18-21 6 Responses Jan 16, 2013

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    Confuzzled

    I finally figured it out. After years of struggling with my body, dysmorphia, and sexual problems, I realized that I'm genderqueer. I'm a married mother in my twenties, and I have am effeminate figure. I've always idealized a boyish physique, and I've hated myself for years...
    wordsand wordsand 26-30, F Mar 4, 2013

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    my girlfriend finished me

    because I told her I am gender fluid and she said and I quote " I want a GIRLfriend not a confused little girl who like playing dress up with the boys"
    anonymousgirl5567 anonymousgirl5567 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 31

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    And I'm so scared to tell my parents.

    They think depression and anxiety are fake so I'm not sure what they'll think when I say "I'm sometimes a boy and sometimes a girl. Plus I fall in love with people regardless what they identify as." They'll think I'm a joke! I tried hinting my sexuality to my mom and began...
    SpaceCasey SpaceCasey 16-17 5 Responses Jan 24, 2014

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    Out As Pan Closet As Fluid

    I have been out as pansexual for a while now. And I've always felt gender fluid. But being gender fluid is hard. And more recently have I myself been coming to terms with it. I wish that I had a gender nutral nickname to go by or that people would use the Cingular them or they...
    Jcat1006 Jcat1006 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 30, 2013

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    Bisexual Seemed Right At First, Now It Just Doesn't Fit Anymore.

    Ever since it first occurred to me a few years ago that just because my parents assumed and acted as though I was straight, and expected that, I might not be. At first, I was just experimenting with the idea that I might be bisexual, and eventually came out to my friends as that...
    mysterygirl13 mysterygirl13 18-21 1 Response Dec 17, 2011

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    I just told my friends

    and cried about how much they supported me. Seriously without them... No I won't think about it, I need them. But on a funny note I got called a tranny. LMAO LIKE IF THATS OFFENSIVE. Seriously.
    Brogann Brogann 16-17 2 Responses Apr 9

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    Being Pansexual And Genderqueer

    I just wanted to give a shout out to two aspects of people which I don't believe there is enough coverage or knowledge about. I never really felt either straight nor gay. I've gotten crushes on guys and had a few boyfriends, and I've fallen for girls and even had a girlfriend. I...
    IamZie IamZie 18-21, T 2 Responses Dec 30, 2012

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    Gender only restricts you of being able to find

    that awesome person to spend your life with
    SluttyNymph SluttyNymph 18-21, F Aug 8, 2014

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    I am really sad nobody knows in my family

    or friends and im confused, sometimes I like being, acting being one of the lads and dressing like a lad and other times I like being and dressing like a girl but I'm around people who force me too wear dresses.
    anonymousgirl5567 anonymousgirl5567 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 20

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    Be all the genders and be attracted to all the

    genders - what's not to like? You'd think with so many options I'd get lucky, but no. Still a virgin. :( Still, it's incredibly freeing to have the possibility of anything. :D
    NateTron NateTron 22-25, M 2 Responses Apr 10, 2014

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    I don't know if I am pansexual

    or gender fluid. I am just questioning a lot of things. It's all very new to me. Help?
    Gregarious16 Gregarious16 18-21, M 2 Responses Nov 4, 2014

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    Gender is nothing but a social construct.

    Sometimes I act and dress in a manner some people would consider feminine, other times I act/dress masculine, and sometimes the two combine and overlap. I may have "female" anatomy, but ever since I can remember, I've been rebelling against the whole gender stereotype.
    ShesAVeryKinkyGirl ShesAVeryKinkyGirl 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 24, 2014

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    I Love My Family

    Told my parents two weeks ago and told my sister today about my gender fluidity. Needless to say, much confusion on their end, and many questions and me fixing misconceptions. But in the end, everyone is totally fine with it, and my sister is even wanting to participate a little...
    ViewtifulMe ViewtifulMe 26-30, T 3 Responses Dec 2, 2012

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    Coming To Terms With My Pansexual/genderfluid Identity

    I have been struggling with my sexual and gender identity my entire life. At a very young age I wanted to ware my older sisters clothes. At the age of about 5, my Dad found my sisters dress under my bed. I was scolded for taking her things and was made to feel that what I had...
    IamJgurlyboi IamJgurlyboi 26-30 6 Responses Sep 30, 2012

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    I'm pansexual, I am capable of loving any

    gender. I also tend to fall in love for personality, not just looks. I'm capable of bring sexually attracted to someone with just a attractive personality. I am also gender fluid, my gender changes over time too. It's kinda weird, sometimes I feel gender queer, sometimes I feel...
    ponycupcake ponycupcake 18-21, F 4 Responses Sep 12, 2014

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    I finally found it! This is what I feel.

    This is what I am! I've been: Straight Straight submissive Straight submissive feminized Closeted Gay Heteroflexible Bisexual Possibly transgender. I just didn't know what I was feeling. I read what people posted here and it just felt so ME!
    AndroTaylor AndroTaylor 18-21 6 Responses Aug 19, 2014

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    Dear Family, This is

    who I am, not what I am. I don't care if you don't like it, and I certainly don't care if you think it's "wrong" or "unnatural". I can't help what I feel. Believe me, I've tried. I know you won't understand, because you never have, and most likely never will, but that's not my...
    KyrBella KyrBella 13-15, F Feb 28

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    I've always known I was a little bit different.

    In the LGBT community, I've never found much support. I feel as though being gender fluid is the best way to describe myself. Most days, it's like being a very fashionable man. I'm glad someone else knows what this is like.
    alettertoeva alettertoeva 18-21 Jan 14, 2014

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    There's Perks To Both Sides!

    I am a man that is not content with being JUST a man. There is a girl in me. And she wants to dress frilly, shop with girls, hug and say sweet things like hon and sweetie. I want the emotional liberty to say and act however I feel whenever that may be, and have people treat me...
    ViewtifulMe ViewtifulMe 26-30, T 2 Responses Nov 7, 2012

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    The way I look at it way be in box called an

    stereotype,In which,I'm in in an box nor do i go labels or streotypes . I"m enjoy being myself in which erases all the above.
    jamieso jamieso 46-50, M 1 Response Nov 19, 2014

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    Definitions

    OK, for those of you who haven't studied the differences between sex and gender, let me throw out some definitions for you: 1. Sex refers to a person's reproductive organs: male, female (and others, but let's start simple). 2. Gender refers to how a person identifies his/her...
    SunnieDelite SunnieDelite 31-35, T 9 Responses Apr 12, 2009

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    I'm a grey-asexual demiromantic pansexual.

    Oh yeah, I'm also gender fluid. I really don't know how it came to be. In grade five, I couldn't identify my feelings for another female classmate. My heart would get all jumpy and everything, I would blush, say a few words, run away. Having agay teacher at the time, I wondered...
    Moontwine Moontwine 16-17, F May 11

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    The only problem is,

    if I have a gay boyfriend, and then I get a gender change... What happens then?
    metallic28 metallic28 16-17, M Mar 1

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    Friends Can Be Supportive And Still Not Understand.

    My name is Ashlyn. I've been out as a pansexual for a few years but im still hiding. My parents and friends, once I explained what pansexual means, were basically the best group of people to be aroundc immediate acceptance. But for even longer I've been hiding something else. I...
    Auvryani Auvryani 18-21 1 Response Aug 1, 2013

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    The Title of this group sort of explains it all

    :) I have a lot of issues with gender identity, and right now I am settled on fluid, but I am still not sure if that is right. Sometimes I wish I were just Trans or Cis, something Solid and that doesn't sway (after the acceptance phase of course.. I know that being trans is no...
    WidowedNerdyNurse WidowedNerdyNurse 22-25, F 5 Responses Sep 7, 2014

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    I'm with this super amazing guy😍 He is my

    world and I finally came out to him as Gender Fluid a couple of weeks ago. And he's okay with it. I love him. He even calls me baby boy when I'm a boy. And calls me his boyfriend. 😍 it makes my heart melt that someone that would have never considered dating a person like me...
    buggalue00 buggalue00 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 15

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    Gender-fluid Pansexual; An Enhanced Life Experience

    I am a gender-fluid pansexual (GFP), and have been all my life, before the labels had time to catch up with me. I am male-sexed and I love my "apparatus" LOL! I embrace my gender fluidity & pansexuality. I love the fact that I can find any type of person attractive, satisfy and...
    bound1 bound1 41-45 5 Responses Nov 20, 2011

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    Growing up I was an EFFEMINATE GAY

    or TG (Transgender) Boi who was mostly friends with girls or other gay men who were out. Being an ADORABLE SUBMISSIVE BOTTOM/TG who really needs a GAY TOP who is DOMINATE and could love and take care of his Princess! I don't care if your Gay, BiSexual, Straight, Pansexual...
    FemGayBottom FemGayBottom 26-30, T Apr 5, 2014

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    The fact that I'm pansexual is something I

    stumbled across quite awhile ago and had no trouble accepting, seeing as I've been raised by very open and accepting mothers, in a very open and accepting city. It's not as if I have a problem with being gender fluid either, it's just a newer revelation of mine and a little...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Mar 18, 2014

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    I"m start to learn that I"m PAnsexual

    and gender Fluid. HAS Not been easy but that is coool.
    jamieso jamieso 46-50, M 2 Responses Nov 9, 2014

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