I Am Pansexual and Gender Fluid

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 461 People

    I love love, what I wear outside my body is not

    relevant to my genetalia. I choose not to wear clothes that scream i am female or I am male. I am uncomfortable with gender segregation. If I'm attracted to you, I will tell you.
    Earthdaughter Earthdaughter
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jul 30, 2015

    Gender is nothing but a social construct.

    Sometimes I act and dress in a manner some people would consider feminine, other times I act/dress masculine, and sometimes the two combine and overlap. I may have "female" anatomy, but ever since I can remember, I've been rebelling against the whole gender stereotype.
    ShesAVeryKinkyGirl ShesAVeryKinkyGirl
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Apr 24, 2014

    The Title of this group sort of explains it all

    :) I have a lot of issues with gender identity, and right now I am settled on fluid, but I am still not sure if that is right. Sometimes I wish I were just Trans or Cis, something Solid and that doesn't sway (after the acceptance phase of course.. I know that being trans is no...
    WidowedNerdyNurse WidowedNerdyNurse
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Sep 7, 2014

    I was born female and recently changed my name

    from Karen to Magnolia. I have always felt different than other people when it comes to my sexuality and gender. Last year I realized I identify as being gender fluid and panromantic. I came out to my friends and family and teachers. Most of my friends are supportive but my...
    Magnolia201997 Magnolia201997
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 18, 2015

    I'm Abbie, otherwise known

    as Donnie. I realised I was pansexual when I was 13 after hearing about it on Catfish. All my family have been very accepting of it so i was lucky :) They found it a little harder to come to terms with the fact that I was genderfluid and sometimes wanted to be classed as male...
    abbiecinnamon abbiecinnamon
    Jul 30, 2015

    I Am Confused.

    Basically, this female-to-male transgender talked in my woman as hero class today about being transgender. He gave out a worksheet that had the different terms on it, such as gender-queer, pan sexual, gender fluid, bisexual and so on. It was hard to hear because the things he...
    darkdaugterofpersephone darkdaugterofpersephone
    6 Responses Jan 16, 2013

    Gender-fluid Pansexual; An Enhanced Life Experience

    I am a gender-fluid pansexual (GFP), and have been all my life, before the labels had time to catch up with me. I am male-sexed and I love my "apparatus" LOL! I embrace my gender fluidity & pansexuality. I love the fact that I can find any type of person attractive, satisfy and...
    bound1 bound1
    3 Responses Nov 20, 2011

    And I'm so scared to tell my parents.

    They think depression and anxiety are fake so I'm not sure what they'll think when I say "I'm sometimes a boy and sometimes a girl. Plus I fall in love with people regardless what they identify as." They'll think I'm a joke! I tried hinting my sexuality to my mom and began...
    SpaceCasey SpaceCasey
    4 Responses Jan 24, 2014


    i realized i am a strong person , which means i am a strong woman a strong man a strong in between a strong person and beautiful for all those things , i identify with beindg more feminine in the socially accepted term physically somewhat and enjoy bein g a non gendered brain...
    JelloFloor JelloFloor
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jan 16, 2012

    Friends Can Be Supportive And Still Not Understand.

    My name is Ashlyn. I've been out as a pansexual for a few years but im still hiding. My parents and friends, once I explained what pansexual means, were basically the best group of people to be aroundc immediate acceptance. But for even longer I've been hiding something else. I...
    Auvryani Auvryani
    1 Response Aug 1, 2013

    It can be hard sometimes cause im not out

    yet so i cant really be myself but i love who i am. I wish i could show people who i really am but im scared of judgement from others especially my parents. I would love to talk to other gender fluid pansexuals! I just need a friend whos like me
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses Aug 15, 2014

    I just told my friends

    and cried about how much they supported me. Seriously without them... No I won't think about it, I need them. But on a funny note I got called a tranny. LMAO LIKE IF THATS OFFENSIVE. Seriously.
    Brogann Brogann
    2 Responses Apr 9, 2015

    I came out about a year ago with my

    pansexuality, but have more recently come to the realization that I am gender fluid. I feel that I won't share with anyone that fact about myself (aside from you wordeful people) because for the time being, I'm still experiencing the emotional aspect of the "realization" but if...
    whatthefuckami whatthefuckami
    22-25, M
    1 Response Oct 2, 2014

    umm so this is uh my first post

    so I'm uh genderfluid. I was born male but but I've always felt weird. I've always felt like a boy but also something else. at one point in time I believed I was trans but I didn't really feel comfortable with that tittle. I feel like a boy some times and a girl the next and I...
    shiveredwolf23 shiveredwolf23
    18-21, T
    Jul 30, 2015

    I Am Gender Fluid And Okay With It

    I live in a not strict really, but a devoted Christian household. My parents love god and don't "hate" gay people, but aren't too fond of them. I, on the other hand, have been atheist for a few years now, and am pan sexual and gender fluid. When I was younger, really religious...
    BlackRose877 BlackRose877
    1 Response Jan 16, 2013


    I finally figured it out. After years of struggling with my body, dysmorphia, and sexual problems, I realized that I'm genderqueer. I'm a married mother in my twenties, and I have am effeminate figure. I've always idealized a boyish physique, and I've hated myself for years...
    wordsand wordsand
    26-30, F
    Mar 4, 2013

    I Love My Family

    Told my parents two weeks ago and told my sister today about my gender fluidity. Needless to say, much confusion on their end, and many questions and me fixing misconceptions. But in the end, everyone is totally fine with it, and my sister is even wanting to participate a little...
    ViewtifulMe ViewtifulMe
    26-30, T
    2 Responses Dec 2, 2012

    I am really sad nobody knows in my family

    or friends and im confused, sometimes I like being, acting being one of the lads and dressing like a lad and other times I like being and dressing like a girl but I'm around people who force me too wear dresses.
    anonymousgirl5567 anonymousgirl5567
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 20, 2015

    Today my school nurse actually talked to me

    about being genderfluid. It really brightened up my day, cause she actually used my correct pronouns (they/them or he /him)
    Spacememe Spacememe
    18-21, T
    1 Response Feb 16, 2016

    I've always known I was a little bit different.

    In the LGBT community, I've never found much support. I feel as though being gender fluid is the best way to describe myself. Most days, it's like being a very fashionable man. I'm glad someone else knows what this is like.
    alettertoeva alettertoeva
    Jan 14, 2014

    What is the best way to tell some

    that I am Pansexual & Gender Fluid?
    meme0181996 meme0181996
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Oct 3, 2014

    Being Pansexual And Genderqueer

    I just wanted to give a shout out to two aspects of people which I don't believe there is enough coverage or knowledge about. I never really felt either straight nor gay. I've gotten crushes on guys and had a few boyfriends, and I've fallen for girls and even had a girlfriend. I...
    IamZie IamZie
    18-21, T
    2 Responses Dec 30, 2012

    I know who and what I am

    and want to be. Love isn't about what's in someones pants or even the sex they were "assigned" at birth. Some days I do want to dress myself up and look girly. Other days I just want to look like the guy I often feel I am. There are some days where I really just am not sure so I...
    alexEmay alexEmay
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Nov 25, 2014

    I'm asexual and panromantic

    and genderfluid. Not a lot of people understand all of this and it's hard. (Especially when everyone thinks I'm gay). Sometimes I feel alone and I've almost completely given up on relationships with anyone who totally would understand, so... Also, I fear my dad may disown me if...
    SmplyM3 SmplyM3
    18-21, F
    Feb 16, 2014

    I'm a grey-asexual demiromantic pansexual.

    Oh yeah, I'm also gender fluid. I really don't know how it came to be. In grade five, I couldn't identify my feelings for another female classmate. My heart would get all jumpy and everything, I would blush, say a few words, run away. Having agay teacher at the time, I wondered...
    Moontwine Moontwine
    18-21, F
    May 11, 2015

    Dear Family, This is

    who I am, not what I am. I don't care if you don't like it, and I certainly don't care if you think it's "wrong" or "unnatural". I can't help what I feel. Believe me, I've tried. I know you won't understand, because you never have, and most likely never will, but that's not my...
    KyrBella KyrBella
    16-17, F
    Feb 28, 2015

    Pansexual means I like all genders INCLUDING

    TRANSGENDERS all genders . And I look at personality and not looks. Gender fluid. Basically I feel like I'm a boy some times and some times i feel like I don't have a gender. While other times I feel like my real gender which is female
    smileforme14 smileforme14
    16-17, F
    1 Response Nov 3, 2015

    The only problem is,

    if I have a gay boyfriend, and then I get a gender change... What happens then?
    metallic28 metallic28
    18-21, M
    Mar 1, 2015

    Hi, my name is Peyton.

    I 've struggled my whole life with my gender and sexuality. Recently, I have realized that, even since a young age, I have always been attracted to anyone and that I liked feeling like a boy(I was born a female) and I have found out that I am Pansexual a Gender Fluid. I haven...
    SimpleSiezures SimpleSiezures
    16-17, F
    1 Response Jan 27, 2016

    I don't know if I am pansexual

    or gender fluid. I am just questioning a lot of things. It's all very new to me. Help?
    Gregarious16 Gregarious16
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Nov 4, 2014

    I'm with this super amazing guy😍 He is my

    world and I finally came out to him as Gender Fluid a couple of weeks ago. And he's okay with it. I love him. He even calls me baby boy when I'm a boy. And calls me his boyfriend. 😍 it makes my heart melt that someone that would have never considered dating a person like me...
    buggalue00 buggalue00
    16-17, F
    1 Response Apr 15, 2015

    I finally came out back in april,

    i havent come out as gf yet. I dont even know if im pan but thats the only fitting appelation for how i feel. I am happy now.
    karasummit karasummit
    18-21, M
    Dec 26, 2015


    OK, for those of you who haven't studied the differences between sex and gender, let me throw out some definitions for you: 1. Sex refers to a person's reproductive organs: male, female (and others, but let's start simple). 2. Gender refers to how a person identifies his/her...
    SunnieDelite SunnieDelite
    31-35, T
    10 Responses Apr 12, 2009

    Out As Pan Closet As Fluid

    I have been out as pansexual for a while now. And I've always felt gender fluid. But being gender fluid is hard. And more recently have I myself been coming to terms with it. I wish that I had a gender nutral nickname to go by or that people would use the Cingular them or they...
    Jcat1006 Jcat1006
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Aug 30, 2013

    The way I look at it way be in box called an

    stereotype,In which,I'm in in an box nor do i go labels or streotypes . I"m enjoy being myself in which erases all the above.
    jamieso jamieso
    51-55, M
    1 Response Nov 19, 2014

    I have noticed a lot of people

    that identify as pansexual are only attracted to people by their personality and not at all by peoples looks. I'm honestly really attracted to some of the physical traits of ALL genders, as well as personality.
    pandachair pandachair
    22-25, T
    1 Response Dec 21, 2015

    There's Perks To Both Sides!

    I am a man that is not content with being JUST a man. There is a girl in me. And she wants to dress frilly, shop with girls, hug and say sweet things like hon and sweetie. I want the emotional liberty to say and act however I feel whenever that may be, and have people treat me...
    ViewtifulMe ViewtifulMe
    26-30, T
    2 Responses Nov 7, 2012

    I just recently realized this.

    .. A week ago i was straight but i got the hots for a transgender female and i realized i liked boys too.. I'm pansexual and even though gay isn't tru, it feels so good to be called it because i can date whoever i want
    grantfilm95 grantfilm95
    22-25, M
    1 Response Apr 13, 2015

    I'm pansexual, I am capable of loving any

    gender. I also tend to fall in love for personality, not just looks. I'm capable of bring sexually attracted to someone with just a attractive personality. I am also gender fluid, my gender changes over time too. It's kinda weird, sometimes I feel gender queer, sometimes I feel...
    ponycupcake ponycupcake
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Sep 12, 2014

    I came out to my lesbian boss today,

    I feel so much lighter. She gave me some solid and honest advice on how to transition myself into the life I always knew I should have.
    BrokenOneX BrokenOneX
    1 Response Sep 10, 2014

    I"m start to learn that I"m PAnsexual

    and gender Fluid. HAS Not been easy but that is coool.
    jamieso jamieso
    51-55, M
    2 Responses Nov 9, 2014

    my girlfriend finished me

    because I told her I am gender fluid and she said and I quote " I want a GIRLfriend not a confused little girl who like playing dress up with the boys"
    anonymousgirl5567 anonymousgirl5567
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Jan 31, 2015

    Bisexual Seemed Right At First, Now It Just Doesn't Fit Anymore.

    Ever since it first occurred to me a few years ago that just because my parents assumed and acted as though I was straight, and expected that, I might not be. At first, I was just experimenting with the idea that I might be bisexual, and eventually came out to my friends as that...
    mysterygirl13 mysterygirl13
    1 Response Dec 17, 2011

    I came out to all my friends

    that i was pansexual and that i dont find people attractive by their looks. I feel like they judge me every time i bring it up. I hate that i really have no one to talk about it with. Also i believe im gender fluid but if i came out no one would believe me and say im just being...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Dec 13, 2015

    Coming To Terms With My Pansexual/genderfluid Identity

    I have been struggling with my sexual and gender identity my entire life. At a very young age I wanted to ware my older sisters clothes. At the age of about 5, my Dad found my sisters dress under my bed. I was scolded for taking her things and was made to feel that what I had...
    IamJgurlyboi IamJgurlyboi
    7 Responses Sep 30, 2012

    That moment when you finally told your lgbt mom

    that you're pansexual , then she looks at you with confusion and disgust and says so you're basically bi and like that one eyed snake???! Really mom? Really?! Ok I would assume that you welcome me with open arms.... but ok I'm more amused then upset really @_@
    Buutasctic Buutasctic
    18-21, T
    1 Response Dec 12, 2015

    Trying to explain these things to ppl can be

    exhausting. I'm open about who I am, I'm not ashamed because there is nothing to be ashamed of. I've had feelings for ppl of all walks of life and I express myself in the way they make me feel. The fact that I found love with a strait women doesn't negate how I've felt towards...
    CDrixieXXY CDrixieXXY
    36-40, T
    2 Responses Feb 18, 2015
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