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I Am Pansexual and Gender Fluid

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    Out As Pan Closet As Fluid

    I have been out as pansexual for a while now. And I've always felt gender fluid. But being gender fluid is hard. And more recently have I myself been coming to terms with it. I wish that I had a gender nutral nickname to go by or that people would use the Cingular them or they...
    Jcat1006 Jcat1006 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 30, 2013

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    Confuzzled

    I finally figured it out. After years of struggling with my body, dysmorphia, and sexual problems, I realized that I'm genderqueer. I'm a married mother in my twenties, and I have am effeminate figure. I've always idealized a boyish physique, and I've hated myself for years...
    wordsand wordsand 26-30, F Mar 4, 2013

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    Me=Therian, Empath, Vampire, Pansexual...girl

    I am Pansexual and Gender Fluid occasionaly. I started out as bisexual, then I switched to lesbian, then bisexual again, then I discovered Pansexuality. In my ind I cheered *YES!!! FINALLY A MATCH!!!* I'm not very Gender Fluid, but in some situations, I tend to go...
    careyjonz95 careyjonz95 13-15 2 Responses Jun 30, 2009

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    I Love My Family

    Told my parents two weeks ago and told my sister today about my gender fluidity. Needless to say, much confusion on their end, and many questions and me fixing misconceptions. But in the end, everyone is totally fine with it, and my sister is even wanting to participate a little...
    ViewtifulMe ViewtifulMe 26-30, T 1 Response Dec 2, 2012

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    Definitions

    OK, for those of you who haven't studied the differences between sex and gender, let me throw out some definitions for you: 1. Sex refers to a person's reproductive organs: male, female (and others, but let's start simple). 2. Gender refers to how a person identifies his/her...
    SunnieDelite SunnieDelite 31-35, T 9 Responses Apr 12, 2009

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    Me - Pansexual, Polyamorous, And Genderfluid....the Rest Still An Evolving Whirling Pool Of Strange

    I started in a good bible church, became a naughty kinky bastard after vo tech, got kinkier, became a submissive, then a really good one, became polyamorous, decided i was heteroflexible......then pansexual....then.....well i heard about gender queer and then dismissed it...
    tech53 tech53 26-30 5 Responses Mar 8, 2010

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    I Am Pansexual And Gender Fluid But I've Kept It A Secret From Everyone

    Hey my name is 'Frankie' (not legally this is just so I could be Francesca or Francisco) and I'm 21. My story really starts properly at 16 and I was in my last year of school before dropping out; I came out as bisexual because I wanted to be accepted and not seen as this weird...
    EnglishFrankie EnglishFrankie 22-25 1 Response Jul 16, 2013

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    Still Fishing In The Label Sea For A Perfect Catch

    I'm only 18, but I have been through a roller coaster of identities over the past few years since I realized I wasn't straight at 15. I started with bisexual, because it was familiar to me, and it felt safe to me because it wasn't a complete 180 degree change, which would make...
    Comet713 Comet713 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 20, 2012

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    Friends Can Be Supportive And Still Not Understand.

    My name is Ashlyn. I've been out as a pansexual for a few years but im still hiding. My parents and friends, once I explained what pansexual means, were basically the best group of people to be aroundc immediate acceptance. But for even longer I've been hiding something else. I...
    Auvryani Auvryani 18-21 1 Response Aug 1, 2013

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    Be all the genders and be attracted to all the

    genders - what's not to like? You'd think with so many options I'd get lucky, but no. Still a virgin. :( Still, it's incredibly freeing to have the possibility of anything. :D
    NateTron NateTron 18-21, M Apr 10

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    Gender is nothing but a social construct.

    Sometimes I act and dress in a manner some people would consider feminine, other times I act/dress masculine, and sometimes the two combine and overlap. I may have "female" anatomy, but ever since I can remember, I've been rebelling against the whole gender stereotype.
    ShesAVeryKinkyGirl ShesAVeryKinkyGirl 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 24

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    And I'm so scared to tell my parents.

    They think depression and anxiety are fake so I'm not sure what they'll think when I say "I'm sometimes a boy and sometimes a girl. Plus I fall in love with people regardless what they identify as." They'll think I'm a joke! I tried hinting my sexuality to my mom and began...
    SpaceCasey SpaceCasey 16-17 4 Responses Jan 24

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    Growing up I was an EFFEMINATE GAY

    or TG (Transgender) Boi who was mostly friends with girls or other gay men who were out. Being an ADORABLE SUBMISSIVE BOTTOM/TG who really needs a GAY TOP who is DOMINATE and could love and take care of his Princess! I don't care if your Gay, BiSexual, Straight, Pansexual...
    FemGayBottom FemGayBottom 26-30, T Apr 5

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    Bisexual Seemed Right At First, Now It Just Doesn't Fit Anymore.

    Ever since it first occurred to me a few years ago that just because my parents assumed and acted as though I was straight, and expected that, I might not be. At first, I was just experimenting with the idea that I might be bisexual, and eventually came out to my friends as that...
    mysterygirl13 mysterygirl13 18-21 1 Response Dec 17, 2011

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    Gender-fluid Pansexual; An Enhanced Life Experience

    I am a gender-fluid pansexual (GFP), and have been all my life, before the labels had time to catch up with me. I am male-sexed and I love my "apparatus" LOL! I embrace my gender fluidity & pansexuality. I love the fact that I can find any type of person attractive, satisfy and...
    bound1 bound1 41-45 2 Responses Nov 20, 2011

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    Realized

    i realized i am a strong person , which means i am a strong woman a strong man a strong in between a strong person and beautiful for all those things , i identify with beindg more feminine in the socially accepted term physically somewhat and enjoy bein g a non gendered brain...
    JelloFloor JelloFloor 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 16, 2012

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    Just Now Realizing

    I've identified as Pansexual for about a year now, but before that I didn't know what it was. I'm also just now finding out about Genderqueer and Gender Fluid. I used to think that I would change into a guy one day, feeling like I should be a boy, but other days I'm completely...
    BurningFlames BurningFlames 13-15 2 Responses Apr 11, 2013

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    The fact that I'm pansexual is something I

    stumbled across quite awhile ago and had no trouble accepting, seeing as I've been raised by very open and accepting mothers, in a very open and accepting city. It's not as if I have a problem with being gender fluid either, it's just a newer revelation of mine and a little...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 18

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    There's Perks To Both Sides!

    I am a man that is not content with being JUST a man. There is a girl in me. And she wants to dress frilly, shop with girls, hug and say sweet things like hon and sweetie. I want the emotional liberty to say and act however I feel whenever that may be, and have people treat me...
    ViewtifulMe ViewtifulMe 26-30, T 2 Responses Nov 7, 2012

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    Being Pansexual And Genderqueer

    I just wanted to give a shout out to two aspects of people which I don't believe there is enough coverage or knowledge about. I never really felt either straight nor gay. I've gotten crushes on guys and had a few boyfriends, and I've fallen for girls and even had a girlfriend. I...
    IamZie IamZie 18-21, T 2 Responses Dec 30, 2012

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    Peace At Both Genders

    In my life, I've pretty much established myself as being a gay FTM (female-to-male transgender), but sometimes I don't feel I belong to one set gender. Even though I prefer that people use male pronouns when referring to me, I still have that part of me that will always be a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jan 13, 2013

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    I've always known I was a little bit different.

    In the LGBT community, I've never found much support. I feel as though being gender fluid is the best way to describe myself. Most days, it's like being a very fashionable man. I'm glad someone else knows what this is like.
    alettertoeva alettertoeva 18-21 Jan 14

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    So, I Just Confessed To My Friends

    3 of my best friends (2 guys, 1 girl) in fact. I let them know that I am bigendered tonight, and that I identify as a girl much of the time. And much to my delight, they all accepted me without question. My two guy friends felt honored that I came out to them and that this doesn...
    ViewtifulMe ViewtifulMe 26-30, T Nov 10, 2012

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    I Am Confused.

    Basically, this female-to-male transgender talked in my woman as hero class today about being transgender. He gave out a worksheet that had the different terms on it, such as gender-queer, pan sexual, gender fluid, bisexual and so on. It was hard to hear because the things he...
    darkdaugterofpersephone darkdaugterofpersephone 18-21 5 Responses Jan 16, 2013

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    I Came Out As Gender Fluid.

    So Ryan’s the first person I’ve told. And I was so scared to. … I’m gender fluid. Ryan was surprisingly understanding, I thought he’d be upset or creeped out but he took it really well. Then I asked him about if we were in public together on one of my more masculine...
    TheAlicat TheAlicat 16-17, F 1 Response May 5, 2013

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    I Am Gender Fluid And Okay With It

    I live in a not strict really, but a devoted Christian household. My parents love god and don't "hate" gay people, but aren't too fond of them. I, on the other hand, have been atheist for a few years now, and am pan sexual and gender fluid. When I was younger, really religious...
    BlackRose877 BlackRose877 16-17 Jan 16, 2013

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    I'm asexual and panromantic

    and genderfluid. Not a lot of people understand all of this and it's hard. (Especially when everyone thinks I'm gay). Sometimes I feel alone and I've almost completely given up on relationships with anyone who totally would understand, so... Also, I fear my dad may disown me if...
    SmplyM3 SmplyM3 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 16

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    Coming To Terms With My Pansexual/genderfluid Identity

    I have been struggling with my sexual and gender identity my entire life. At a very young age I wanted to ware my older sisters clothes. At the age of about 5, my Dad found my sisters dress under my bed. I was scolded for taking her things and was made to feel that what I had...
    IamJgurlyboi IamJgurlyboi 26-30 4 Responses Sep 30, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    This is sort of getting out of hand. I can't control it any longer. It seems that my efforts to appear as normal and okay as can be are... failing. Never in my entire life have I...
    minecrafter4343 minecrafter4343 13-15, T Jul 17

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    *clears throat* hey guys, everyone out there curious about gender queer people I am here to help! My name is Marley, though naturally that's just the name that I chose for myself...
    Cryingsmile Cryingsmile 16-17, T 5 days ago

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    I first found out I was attracted to girls the same time I was attracted to boys. Which was around 13 yrs old. Anyway for a while I thought I was bi. I didn't know any better and I...
    KateyCake KateyCake 18-21, F Jul 6

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    I've only just come out saying it without fear and confusion. I'm not coming out of the closet, I like men and women, I'm pansexual in that sense, I like the person regardless of...
    segreti segreti 22-25, F 5 days ago

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    For the past year maybe, I've been learning more about my gender and sexuality and learning about those in general. I'm a confirmed pansexual, but I'm wary and confused about my...
    galaxyclockwork galaxyclockwork 13-15, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    I've known that I was attracted to both genders since I was a young girl, but I never knew what that meant. I grew up silent. I didn't ask questions- although I had many. Most of...
    Villane Villane 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 1

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    So I'm pansexual and I'm proud of it. I think gender doesn't define who you can love. No matter if you're male, female, transgender, bigender, or anything! Love is love ❤
    ForeverLostPoet ForeverLostPoet 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 3

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    Unless you are my mother. She's homophobic, and I have fear to tell her about my preferences. Im afraid than she took my daughter away just because she thinks than a non-straight...
    SarahiK SarahiK 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 8

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    personally speaking, I don't like labels, period. but this is the closest I get to not giving into to factoring gender into my decisions of dating. I see people, not race gender or...
    motherearth227 motherearth227 22-25, F Jul 2

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    I just got this S.A.G.E. Test Results Your Raw Score is: -660, which indicates that overall you are Masculine Your appearance is Androgynous Your brain processes are mostly...
    Mynameistooweird Mynameistooweird 16-17, F 22 hrs ago

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    With a preference for trans men at the moment. But it always changes because I feel like my sexuality is just so fluid. I really just fall for people's mind regardless of what...
    starstuff79 starstuff79 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 12

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    I've never really liked one specific gender. I can see a male, female, transgender, transvestite and think they are all attractive. I've been in relationships with all the above...
    LiamCruz LiamCruz 18-21 1 Response Jul 3

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    Sexuality has never been a problem for me. I've honestly never had to put much thought into it. I just enjoy people. I've been in relationships with men and women and never thought...
    BeastTreets BeastTreets 22-25, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I've always had an attraction to both males and females, but more females, so I labeled myself as a lesbian, but when I found the term pansexual, I knew it was me. I have always...
    waffles0113 waffles0113 13-15 Jul 14

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    For my 16th birthday, I wanted to do something small. We held a very tiny party for about 30 (about 5 friends showed up and the rest were family and others). It was a wonderful day...
    princessslothie princessslothie 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 27

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    I have always known about my preferences since I was young, but I didn't have a name for it. I thought I was bisexual for the longest time until I realized that bisexuality didn't...
    Lostintheden Lostintheden 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 8

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    I forgot how easily people make assumptions, myself included. When I came out as a pansexual one of the first questions someone asked me was if I would have a relationship with...
    ErraticallyGrey ErraticallyGrey 22-25, F 11 Responses Jul 13

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    After being with an FTM transgender, I've really opened my eyes to the wonders of being pansexual. There was a time where I was only attracted to masculinity, but after several...
    TheAlbinoGirl TheAlbinoGirl 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 14

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    Alright, this became a thing recently. Why does it matter if I am male or female. I believe in gender non-binary, a thing where I refuse to conform to the gender roles & stigma...
    RokerVazi RokerVazi 18-21 2 Responses Jul 6

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    This might seem like it has no relevance to the subject, but its why i hesitate with decision concered with gender identification,,,, Right ive wrote several stories that are...
    pascal2012 pascal2012 18-21 5 Responses Jul 8

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    I think we Should feel as we want and dont let conservative and unwritten rules steer our lives. We are many on this earth anyway so we might aswell embrace the diffrences and...
    vickepicke vickepicke 16-17, M Jul 13