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I Am Pansexual

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    When I first hear the term pansexual I thought

    it was being bisexual. I was in 8th grade and that's when I first came out to myself as being some type of gay person. I looked up YouTube videos and I remember coming across this girl who said she is pansexual. She explained how it wasn't the physical that attracted her but the...
    ponycupcake ponycupcake 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 14

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    Why Don't You Get It? I am Pansexual.

    It's not rocket science. It's not complicated. It's not wrong. I don't care who are, what you've got, or who you are attracted to. I will love you if you love me, I don't see the difference. Love is transparent, it doesn't have any additives. It is what it is. Whoever you are, I...
    utterlysmitten utterlysmitten 22-25 3 Responses Apr 20, 2013

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    Ok, I feel the need to address this: PANSEXUAL

    means you're attracted to people of every gender ie. male, female, transvestite, or transgender. It's a sexuality for crying out loud. It DOES NOT mean you don't care about their other features. Their weight, race, age, religion, ect have nothing to do with sexuality nor does it...
    LilMissMandy LilMissMandy 18-21, F Jun 22

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    My Story Is Similar, I Suppose.

    Like many, I first identified as bisexual, unaware that there was a term that much more appropriately encompassed a capacity for love much larger than just "male" and "female." I tend to fall for people on a individual basis, regardless of what gentialia they...
    lastleafoffall lastleafoffall 26-30, F 22 Responses Apr 21, 2009

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    dO yUo hAVe AnY ideA OF h0w hARD it Is TO

    cOnTrOl MysElf in an "All Girl's Changing Room" evEry Thursday afTEr GYM claSS???? Thursday more like Thirst-day
    Colourfi Colourfi 13-15, F 6 Responses Nov 2

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    So, I Read This The Other Day:

    "Why Pansexual and Bisexual are not the same thing To assert that pan and bi are the same thing is to assert that there are only two genders and/or sexes to possibly be attracted to. This is incorrect. Many people fall outside of the gender binary (e.g. genderqueer, agendered...
    ilikecakes ilikecakes 22-25, F 5 Responses Nov 28, 2012

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    Sexuality has never been a problem

    for me. I've honestly never had to put much thought into it. I just enjoy people. I've been in relationships with men and women and never thought about it. (I wouldn't be opposed to a relationship with anyone trans, I've just never had the opportunity.) There was something in...
    BeastTreets BeastTreets 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 24

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    Recently just discovered what pansexual means!

    I was always into girls and guys as well but what i am really into-is personality, if someone can make me happy regardless of gender and vise versa then i dont see whats wrong with loving that person and yeah thats about it. Haha!
    Islandkween Islandkween 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 27

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    After being with an FTM transgender,

    I've really opened my eyes to the wonders of being pansexual. There was a time where I was only attracted to masculinity, but after several times of making love I've come to adore the feminine qualities that my transman still has. This is not to say that I am automatically...
    TheAlbinoGirl TheAlbinoGirl 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 14

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    I pretty much fall in love with the person

    regardless of their gender. It is definitely a secondary thing that I look at. If you can make me laugh you are instantly attractive to me. :)
    1234Ideclareathumbwar 1234Ideclareathumbwar 18-21, F 6 Responses Apr 11

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    I couldn't care less about the gender of the

    person that I am dating or their sexuality as long as we are mentally and emotionally compatible and love each other. Also, just because I am pansexual doesn't mean that I am not picky. If a person doesn't take care of themselves or their appearance I will simply not be...
    NekomataHime NekomataHime 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 8

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    It is so awesome and a relief

    when you find a sexuality that truly belongs to you. To me being pansexual means I don't have to limit myself when I see someone I like. Their looks wouldn't be as important to me as their personality.
    purplezebra14 purplezebra14 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 8

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    That Moment

    That moment when you realize that your still not comfortable with your sexuality because it confuses the **** out of you. That moment when you realize hearing people condemning you really f***ing hurts. That moment when you wish fluidity wasn’t such a f**ing bi**h. That moment...
    Nita2 Nita2 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 18, 2013

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    I forgot how easily people make assumptions,

    myself included. When I came out as a pansexual one of the first questions someone asked me was if I would have a relationship with someone who is transgender. I was thrown. Of course I would. I thought everyone one would too. Apparently not.
    ErraticallyGrey ErraticallyGrey 22-25, F 11 Responses Jul 13

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    Discovering

    For the past few years I've liked the two main genders. A year ago, I came across the word 'pansexual'. After seeing the definition, I knew that's what I was. Gender doesn't matter. Looks don't matter. Personality matters. I dated a girl who everybody thought was beautiful, her...
    TheRogueWolf TheRogueWolf 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    I think I'm going I try coming out to my mom

    tonight if I can get the courage to tell her xD wish me luck <3
    NerdForLife NerdForLife 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 8

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    I realized I was pansexual

    and it made me really happy to finally decide on who I really was and be honest with myself 😊
    pansarecute pansarecute 13-15, F 3 Responses Nov 3

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    I'M A Odd Duck

    I'm identifying myself as bisexual but I've started to consider my love for people of all shapes, sizes, genders, etc. I feel bi but I'm not really bi, I guess. What's the deal?
    ASBC ASBC 18-21, M 3 Responses Nov 27, 2013

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    Chained By My Own Mind

    I actually figured that I was pansexual quite easily. I was attracted to girls so I figured I was lesbian, but I realized I was still attracted to men so I figured I was bisexual. And then I fell in love for the first time with a friend of mine- who was a genderless, intersexed...
    MaskedSolitude MaskedSolitude 18-21, F 5 Responses Sep 19, 2012

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    Deal with it. If I can handle homophobia,

    then you can handle being told that I don't care about gender. Welcome to 2014.
    SecretIsOut SecretIsOut 13-15, F Oct 12

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    And so scared. I'm also agender.

    I'm a hardcore feminist. And I'm scared to let anyone know these things because I live in the Deep South with conservative parents. I'm so scared.
    shorthare shorthare 13-15, T 4 Responses Sep 20

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    to me, it dosent matter

    if you are a boy or a girl. If you treat me good, and show me love; you'll get the same back. I dont care what gender you are.
    macibabyy macibabyy 16-17, F 2 Responses Sep 17

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    I really don't like putting labels on myself

    like "gay" or "bi" so "pan" is pretty much the closest to how to describe me. All I know is that I like both guys and girls, and I believe love is love no matter the gender or race.
    Barakaflacka Barakaflacka 16-17, M 1 Response Sep 6

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    I realized that i was

    when i was about six years old, and yes i had to realize it because i didn't know there was an attraction to personality so i thought i was just bisexual.
    DrakeTheWolf DrakeTheWolf 22-25, M 2 Responses Sep 10

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    im not attracted to your face,

    or hair, or lack thereof, I am not attracted to your boobs or butt. I am not attracted to your pot belly or your washboard abs. All those things are great, and yes they are beautiful, bit what attracts me if YOU. who you are in side. The you that has nothing to do with your...
    MoragaroM MoragaroM 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 8

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    I don't go for looks most the time going

    that way you can get hurt. It's personality that matters. Might get hate bit life goes on so you gotta stay strong
    Nicolajane14 Nicolajane14 13-15, F 3 Responses Sep 24

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    It feels like no one understands

    that I'm attracted to the mind of a person, not the gender...
    panikki panikki 18-21, F 12 Responses Aug 20

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    I think the thing i hate most is

    when people say .... "why dont you just say your bi?" usually i just give up and tell ppl when they ask.. "so are you gay or bi?" "I prefer Unicorn."
    EvaLolita EvaLolita 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 2

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    This my first day here,

    and certain people,that I'm Pansexual. like what everyone had to say . I"am relax with whom I"m. love freely without gender or sexual orientation AS the"Normals say. I kind think they the ones that that denying,who they are...And are living in an box,
    jamieso jamieso 46-50, M Nov 9

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    And my girlfriend is demisexual (I'm the only

    person she's ever had sex with, or even thought about having sex with), and somehow, in some strange way, we make that work. And its amazing.
    infintyandbeyond infintyandbeyond 18-21, F Nov 7

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    And no, it doesn't mean i like to have sexual

    relations with kitchen utensils. :p
    aviodthisnoid aviodthisnoid 13-15, F 1 Response Nov 16

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    I always knew I was different,

    but I'm happy to know there is a name for who I am, and I can identify with it.
    mschickennugget mschickennugget 16-17, F 2 Responses Sep 22

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    No. I'm not sexually attracted to kitchenware.

    Pansexual is when you aren't limited or inhibited in sexual choice by gender or activity. I don't fall for people just because they're "attractive". I fall for their personality. It's weird. If I know a really super hot guy for example; but his personality totally contradicts...
    BringMePierceTheSirensAtSix BringMePierceTheSirensAtSix 13-15, F 1 Response Oct 1

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    That's me XD I get a lot of people saying "well

    you don't look like you'd be that way" okay how about I just paint myself rainbow? I accept everyone no matter how they choose to be =] and for people that don't know what a pansexual is it's a person who dates guys,girls,and those who are transgender............. Regardless of...
    Imkenzie1010 Imkenzie1010 16-17, F 2 Responses Oct 21

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    Yup. I'm finally opening up to my friends about

    my not-straightness. yikes, it's really unnerving, but I'm glad I told them
    fallingintowonderrland fallingintowonderrland 16-17, F 5 Responses Oct 17

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    I'm pansexual and really couldn't care less

    about anyone's opinion. (:
    DezSheeran DezSheeran 13-15, F 6 Responses Dec 6, 2013

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    I am happily pansexual.

    To me, it's not seeing race, gender, or other things that could make people less desirable. I just fall or crush on people. It doesn't matter.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Dec 24, 2013

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    My parents are super homophobic

    and its super hard them not knowing im pansexual..
    PCOSstrength PCOSstrength 16-17, F 21 hrs ago

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    I've only recently come to terms with the fact

    that I am something other than completely straight. This sorta came to me when my friend and I were having a conversation about falling in love and I thought about it hard. I realized that I can fall in love with anyone, no matter what their appearance or gender may be.
    JazzyWazzy1232 JazzyWazzy1232 16-17, F 3 Responses Sep 9

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    God I hate when people find out

    that I like both men and women and immediately assume I like 3somes or am in a relationship with multiple people. Just because I'm attracted to multiple genders, does not mean I'm not monogamous.
    ErraticallyGrey ErraticallyGrey 22-25, F 4 Responses Apr 16

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    I have always known i was different.

    Growing up my crushes consisted over both genders but it wasn't about their physical being more like i loved their personality. Love is love and nothing as silly as gender should stop you from loving who you love :)
    Jewels2145 Jewels2145 18-21, F 3 Responses Feb 1

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    I Am Pansexual

    For a long time, I knew that I felt differently towards people, male and female alike. I only had two friends in my early elementary years, two girls, one was really mean and bossy towards everyone.. the type where if you wanted to hang out with someone outside "her group" she...
    RazielGalizur RazielGalizur 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 13, 2012

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    I hate having to explain what pansexual is

    and then having people tell me that t'm bi... because i know what and who i am thank you very much
    bamala bamala 18-21, F 5 Responses Aug 11

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    Societal norms had taught me

    that a person should be attracted to the opposite sex and I was attracted to boys. But over the years I found myself attracted to other genders as well. In high school I had a crush on a lesbian, I read books where I was more in love with a genderless character than the male...
    blueamber blueamber 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 11

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    Can't i compliment someone without them thinking

    that I want to get into there pants!? I'M TALKING TO YOU SOCIETY
    Penginkoibito Penginkoibito 13-15, M 5 Responses Nov 11

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    I've told 7 people in pan,

    and I'm happy and I want to come out to pretty much everybody but I know that not everybody is as open-minded as me...... *sigh*
    pansarecute pansarecute 13-15, F Nov 4

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    i love all people and think you shouldnt date

    someone based on their looks/race/gender just their personality and how they carry theirselves
    cookingaubrey cookingaubrey 13-15, F 1 Response Nov 20

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    I'M Learning To Embrace My Diverse Attractions.

    WARNING: This is really long...probably longer than it should be and longer than other stories here. But it felt so good and so therapeutic to write this that I decided to just go with it. If you have the patience to read it, I thank you kindly in advance. For fifteen years, I...
    Nayahri Nayahri 31-35 5 Responses Jun 26, 2013

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    Yes I am pansexual and proud :) If you don't

    know that it means, it says that I'm attracted to people, regardless of gender (male, female, trans, non-binary etc)
    allsummer allsummer 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 15

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    Hello..just Making An Introduction :>)

    My name is Vanessa. I am a 35 year old female. There are so many labels anymore but I guess this is the one that I fit most accurately into. I would like to chat with people like myself. Some part of me is confused. I have had trouble connecting with just one sex in all the ways...
    butterflyz2726 butterflyz2726 31-35, F 26 Responses Apr 10, 2012

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    I'm pretty sure girls just keep getting hotter

    and hotter as time goes on.....
    JazzyWazzy1232 JazzyWazzy1232 16-17, F 2 Responses Sep 21

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    I'm kinda in the closet about being panseuxal

    and don't know how to come out. I already decided that I won't come out to my mom until I have a girlfriend(im a girl) because one time the topic of panseuxlaity came up between my mother, my 21-year-old brother, and i, and they said they didn't believe it existed, and kinda...