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I Am Pansexual

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    When I first hear the term pansexual I thought

    it was being bisexual. I was in 8th grade and that's when I first came out to myself as being some type of gay person. I looked up YouTube videos and I remember coming across this girl who said she is pansexual. She explained how it wasn't the physical that attracted her but the...
    ponycupcake ponycupcake 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 14, 2014

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    I Am Pansexual

    For a long time, I knew that I felt differently towards people, male and female alike. I only had two friends in my early elementary years, two girls, one was really mean and bossy towards everyone.. the type where if you wanted to hang out with someone outside "her group" she...
    RazielGalizur RazielGalizur 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 13, 2012

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    After being with an FTM transgender,

    I've really opened my eyes to the wonders of being pansexual. There was a time where I was only attracted to masculinity, but after several times of making love I've come to adore the feminine qualities that my transman still has. This is not to say that I am automatically...
    TheAlbinoGirl TheAlbinoGirl 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 14, 2014

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    to me, it dosent matter

    if you are a boy or a girl. If you treat me good, and show me love; you'll get the same back. I dont care what gender you are.
    macibabyy macibabyy 16-17, F 2 Responses Sep 17, 2014

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    I feel like i could never come out to my family

    unless I had a good support system of friends or other family :) not really sure how they would react.
    churchdadatnight churchdadatnight 18-21, F Jan 4

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    Does it really matter what gender I am?

    In every situation I am soft and sassy.
    standinginthecorner standinginthecorner 31-35, M 1 Response Jan 2

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    What I am is not a "fancier"

    or "cooler" word for bisexual. Just to let everyone who thinks otherwise know.
    Reagssb Reagssb 13-15, F Jan 12

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    I'M Learning To Embrace My Diverse Attractions.

    WARNING: This is really long...probably longer than it should be and longer than other stories here. But it felt so good and so therapeutic to write this that I decided to just go with it. If you have the patience to read it, I thank you kindly in advance. For fifteen years, I...
    Nayahri Nayahri 31-35 5 Responses Jun 26, 2013

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    Okay so seriously, I'm tired of the stigma

    that bi and pan sexual people are more likely to cheat. All we have is a wider spectrum. That's it. Cheating isn't a sexuality thing. It's a self esteem thing.
    ErraticallyGrey ErraticallyGrey 22-25, F 4 Responses Aug 9, 2014

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    GalaxyJumper GalaxyJumper 16-17, M 2 Responses Aug 25, 2014

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    I hate using labels. I search more

    for the personality rather than the gender.
    ShyLilBoi ShyLilBoi 18-21, T 2 Responses Jan 12

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    I am so tired of heteronormativity.

    Like, just because I'm a woman, it doesn't mean I'm straight.
    ErraticallyGrey ErraticallyGrey 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 25, 2014

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    I've known I wasn't straight from the time I

    was 6 or 7. I finally realized a few years ago that I identify as pansexual. I haven't been able to come out to my parents though. They used to joke they wished I was a lesbian so I wouldn't have any more kids but they've also made it clear they believe that liking more than one...
    notjustthegirlnextdoor notjustthegirlnextdoor 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 23

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    So I'm thinking about telling my mom about me

    being pansexual, I'm really shy and worry what she'll think. What do I do.
    TheFandomAttack TheFandomAttack 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 4

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    Ok, I feel the need to address this: PANSEXUAL

    means you're attracted to people of every gender ie. male, female, transvestite, or transgender. It's a sexuality for crying out loud. It DOES NOT mean you don't care about their other features. Their weight, race, age, religion, ect have nothing to do with sexuality nor does it...
    LilMissMandy LilMissMandy 18-21, F Jun 22, 2014

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    It's hard to tell people

    that I'm pansexual when no one knows what it means. No, I'm not attracted to pans.
    HurricaneAshlyn HurricaneAshlyn 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 23

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    It feels like no one understands

    that I'm attracted to the mind of a person, not the gender...
    panikki panikki 18-21, F 12 Responses Aug 20, 2014

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    Chained By My Own Mind

    I actually figured that I was pansexual quite easily. I was attracted to girls so I figured I was lesbian, but I realized I was still attracted to men so I figured I was bisexual. And then I fell in love for the first time with a friend of mine- who was a genderless, intersexed...
    MaskedSolitude MaskedSolitude 18-21, F 5 Responses Sep 19, 2012

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    My Story Is Similar, I Suppose.

    Like many, I first identified as bisexual, unaware that there was a term that much more appropriately encompassed a capacity for love much larger than just "male" and "female." I tend to fall for people on a individual basis, regardless of what gentialia they...
    lastleafoffall lastleafoffall 26-30 21 Responses Apr 21, 2009

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    IngensImpetum IngensImpetum 18-21, M 1 Response Jan 18

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    I just wanted to let the people I know

    that didn't know. I am a Pansexual, and no..it does not mean I have a sexual attraction towards cook ware.
    Waffl3s Waffl3s 13-15, F 5 Responses Feb 1

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    I think the thing i hate most is

    when people say .... "why dont you just say your bi?" usually i just give up and tell ppl when they ask.. "so are you gay or bi?" "I prefer Unicorn."
    EvaLolita EvaLolita 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 2, 2014

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    Recently just discovered what pansexual means!

    I was always into girls and guys as well but what i am really into-is personality, if someone can make me happy regardless of gender and vise versa then i dont see whats wrong with loving that person and yeah thats about it. Haha!
    Islandkween Islandkween 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 27, 2014

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    Well, this is the best term I ever found to

    define me. It is the fire under their skin that catches my attention, and that burns regardless of gender.
    rainbowgirlx rainbowgirlx 22-25, F Dec 22, 2014

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    I'M A Odd Duck

    I'm identifying myself as bisexual but I've started to consider my love for people of all shapes, sizes, genders, etc. I feel bi but I'm not really bi, I guess. What's the deal?
    ASBC ASBC 18-21, M 3 Responses Nov 27, 2013

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    I couldn't care less about the gender of the

    person that I am dating or their sexuality as long as we are mentally and emotionally compatible and love each other. Also, just because I am pansexual doesn't mean that I am not picky. If a person doesn't take care of themselves or their appearance I will simply not be...
    NekomataHime NekomataHime 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 8, 2014

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    Screw it! I am done with being straight just

    because that's "normal" I am pretty damn tired of dating guys because the way I've been treated but I'm still attracted to them so maybe I'll try in the future again. I'm also attracted to girls. I also think they would understand certain situations better than previous guys I...
    lostmelody lostmelody 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 5

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    For as long as I've known I always liked

    both genders. For awhile I thought it was wrong because I figured I'd be judged. Then I came out as bisexual. Bisexuals like both genders. I soon figured out I was pansexual. Pansexuals are physically or emotionally attracted to people of all genders. They are attracted...
    crimsonrosebud crimsonrosebud 18-21, F Jan 19

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    I just need to get it out somewhere.

    Somewhere that I won't be judged for who I am. I am pansexual. I can't help it. If you don't approve, please don't leave nasty comments. You'll just make things worse.
    InsanelyEpic InsanelyEpic 13-15, F 1 Response Feb 8

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    My mom's pretty ok with my preferences

    but I'm scared to death to tell my dad :( He's really religious and I wouldn't want to hurt him. i know he wouldn't harm me or anything but I don't wanna seem like I'm spitting all the things he had taught me in his face just to be defiant. I want him to understand that this is...
    lizzieso815 lizzieso815 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 9

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    Sexually i am attracted to women more,

    but in my mind sex is not important at all. I am not in love with sex or any other form of sexual activity no matter how pleasing it is. i am in love with the people i meet. I can not judge people based on what they look like or what gender they are. I love who people. I am...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Dec 22, 2014

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    I hate having to explain what pansexual is

    and then having people tell me that t'm bi... because i know what and who i am thank you very much
    bamala bamala 18-21, F 5 Responses Aug 11, 2014

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    Jeanbeau Jeanbeau 16-17, F Oct 1, 2014

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    That Moment

    That moment when you realize that your still not comfortable with your sexuality because it confuses the **** out of you. That moment when you realize hearing people condemning you really f***ing hurts. That moment when you wish fluidity wasn’t such a f**ing bi**h. That moment...
    Nita2 Nita2 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 18, 2013

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    At first I always thought I was bi.

    Not Pansexual. A month or so ago I finally realized what I was after figuring a lot more things out. I haven't came out yet, but I'm happy at where I am right now.
    Reagssb Reagssb 13-15, F Jan 10

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    I forgot how easily people make assumptions,

    myself included. When I came out as a pansexual one of the first questions someone asked me was if I would have a relationship with someone who is transgender. I was thrown. Of course I would. I thought everyone one would too. Apparently not.
    ErraticallyGrey ErraticallyGrey 22-25, F 11 Responses Jul 13, 2014

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    I just like people...

    I didn't notice until I realized I was attracted to people without questioning their gender first.
    Kreddi Kreddi 16-17, F Feb 10

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    Why Don't You Get It? I am Pansexual.

    It's not rocket science. It's not complicated. It's not wrong. I don't care who are, what you've got, or who you are attracted to. I will love you if you love me, I don't see the difference. Love is transparent, it doesn't have any additives. It is what it is. Whoever you are, I...
    utterlysmitten utterlysmitten 22-25 3 Responses Apr 20, 2013

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    I have always known i was different.

    Growing up my crushes consisted over both genders but it wasn't about their physical being more like i loved their personality. Love is love and nothing as silly as gender should stop you from loving who you love :)
    Jewels2145 Jewels2145 18-21, F 3 Responses Feb 1, 2014

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    I am pansexual and I am

    so tired of explaining what it means. I wish more people were educated in all this. Also I love that I can just say I love absolutely everyone
    JKenagy JKenagy 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 26

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    I am happily pansexual.

    To me, it's not seeing race, gender, or other things that could make people less desirable. I just fall or crush on people. It doesn't matter.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Dec 24, 2013

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    I love you all! Everyone!

    :) It took me a long time to identify my sexuality but I think i'm finally there.
    staygoldenbaby staygoldenbaby 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 18

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    I didn't realize it at first,

    and I am still coming to terms with the implications, but, after reading other people's experiences, I realized I fit here. I am still technically in the closet. This is my first figurative "outing", figurative because you people don't know who I am. As far as support, I don't...
    DacianaNorte DacianaNorte 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 27

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    I've always known there was something different

    about me compared to other people. And over time this feeling got worse, especially with finding out there was such thing as gender identity and I pretty much turned into the typical straight person in denial (mostly because of my religious family and community), but with...
    asterialsapphire asterialsapphire 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 2

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    Hello..just Making An Introduction :>)

    My name is Vanessa. I am a 35 year old female. There are so many labels anymore but I guess this is the one that I fit most accurately into. I would like to chat with people like myself. Some part of me is confused. I have had trouble connecting with just one sex in all the ways...
    butterflyz2726 butterflyz2726 31-35, F 26 Responses Apr 10, 2012

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    I pretty much fall in love with the person

    regardless of their gender. It is definitely a secondary thing that I look at. If you can make me laugh you are instantly attractive to me. :)
    1234Ideclareathumbwar 1234Ideclareathumbwar 18-21, F 6 Responses Apr 11, 2014

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    It is so awesome and a relief

    when you find a sexuality that truly belongs to you. To me being pansexual means I don't have to limit myself when I see someone I like. Their looks wouldn't be as important to me as their personality.
    purplezebra14 purplezebra14 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 8, 2014

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    God I hate when people find out

    that I like both men and women and immediately assume I like 3somes or am in a relationship with multiple people. Just because I'm attracted to multiple genders, does not mean I'm not monogamous.
    ErraticallyGrey ErraticallyGrey 22-25, F 4 Responses Apr 16, 2014

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    andylovesyou23 andylovesyou23 18-21, M Feb 2

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    Sexuality has never been a problem

    for me. I've honestly never had to put much thought into it. I just enjoy people. I've been in relationships with men and women and never thought about it. (I wouldn't be opposed to a relationship with anyone trans, I've just never had the opportunity.) There was something in...
    BeastTreets BeastTreets 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 24, 2014

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    I'm pansexual. My mom's really strict withy the

    whole 'It's wrong and it's a sin' stuff. Which is why I'm so nervous about telling her. I honestly don't plan on telling her unless I find someone that I care about and want to be with and introduce to her.
    LostWanderer97 LostWanderer97 16-17 2 Responses Jan 9

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