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I Am Pansexual

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    I'm a 17 year old girl

    and people always ask me when I plan to get a boyfriend. I was just thinking and I wondered this... What if for a moment we pretend (rather acknowledge) that we are all human. Eliminate the labels of heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual. We all develop preferences (including...
    Fitnesschick Fitnesschick 18-21, F 10 Responses Apr 17, 2014

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    I'm just really attracted to people

    that excite me and make me laugh a lot. Hence, why I fell in love with one of my female best friends. Everything was exciting with her. We were always laughing. Nothing made me know more than the day we were at the lake. We had been taking pictures of each other randomly. I...
    TheRogueWolf TheRogueWolf 18-21, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I've known I wasn't straight from the time I

    was 6 or 7. I finally realized a few years ago that I identify as pansexual. I haven't been able to come out to my parents though. They used to joke they wished I was a lesbian so I wouldn't have any more kids but they've also made it clear they believe that liking more than one...
    notjustthegirlnextdoor notjustthegirlnextdoor 22-25, F 1 Response a week ago

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    It feels like no one understands

    that I'm attracted to the mind of a person, not the gender...
    panikki panikki 18-21, F 12 Responses Aug 20, 2014

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    Ok, I feel the need to address this: PANSEXUAL

    means you're attracted to people of every gender ie. male, female, transvestite, or transgender. It's a sexuality for crying out loud. It DOES NOT mean you don't care about their other features. Their weight, race, age, religion, ect have nothing to do with sexuality nor does it...
    LilMissMandy LilMissMandy 18-21, F Jun 22, 2014

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    I hate using labels. I search more

    for the personality rather than the gender.
    ShyLilBoi ShyLilBoi 18-21, T 2 Responses Jan 12

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    I pretty much fall in love with the person

    regardless of their gender. It is definitely a secondary thing that I look at. If you can make me laugh you are instantly attractive to me. :)
    1234Ideclareathumbwar 1234Ideclareathumbwar 18-21, F 6 Responses Apr 11, 2014

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    Does it really matter what gender I am?

    In every situation I am soft and sassy.
    standinginthecorner standinginthecorner 70+ 1 Response Jan 2

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    IngensImpetum IngensImpetum 18-21, M 1 Response Jan 18

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    Watched a couple videos on YouTube.

    One "What lesbians think about bisexuals" and "What gays think about bisexuals" and I could not believe how ignorant and hateful they are. You would think that people who have experienced this same hate would be more opened minded and understanding. It makes it harder for people...
    mwiltshire mwiltshire 22-25, F 5 Responses Dec 20, 2014

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    I love you all! Everyone!

    :) It took me a long time to identify my sexuality but I think i'm finally there.
    staygoldenbaby staygoldenbaby 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 18

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    My first girlfriend Broke up with me a few

    month ago. Im now in a new relationship with a girl who's my besfriend ex's. I haven't came out to my parents yet, Only my classmate knows. Im terrified to come out to my family. It hard to explain to my family that I love people for who they are, not their genital.
    starzfire starzfire 13-15, F Dec 18, 2014

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    I have always known that to me in a

    relationship it doesn't matter what they look like or what gender they are, but I always brushed it off, like I was being foolish. I'm only coming to terms with it now that I know that there was a name for it. I've only known for a week and I'm still unsure on how to tell people...
    Livy1579 Livy1579 13-15, F 2 days ago

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    That Moment

    That moment when you realize that your still not comfortable with your sexuality because it confuses the **** out of you. That moment when you realize hearing people condemning you really f***ing hurts. That moment when you wish fluidity wasn’t such a f**ing bi**h. That moment...
    Nita2 Nita2 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 18, 2013

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    I am pansexual and I am

    so tired of explaining what it means. I wish more people were educated in all this. Also I love that I can just say I love absolutely everyone
    JKenagy JKenagy 18-21, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    My mom's pretty ok with my preferences

    but I'm scared to death to tell my dad :( He's really religious and I wouldn't want to hurt him. i know he wouldn't harm me or anything but I don't wanna seem like I'm spitting all the things he had taught me in his face just to be defiant. I want him to understand that this is...
    lizzieso815 lizzieso815 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 9

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    That's me XD I get a lot of people saying "well

    you don't look like you'd be that way" okay how about I just paint myself rainbow? I accept everyone no matter how they choose to be =] and for people that don't know what a pansexual is it's a person who dates guys,girls,and those who are transgender............. Regardless of...
    Imkenzie1010 Imkenzie1010 16-17, F 2 Responses Oct 21, 2014

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    Well, this is the best term I ever found to

    define me. It is the fire under their skin that catches my attention, and that burns regardless of gender.
    rainbowgirlx rainbowgirlx 22-25, F Dec 22, 2014

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    Sexually i am attracted to women more,

    but in my mind sex is not important at all. I am not in love with sex or any other form of sexual activity no matter how pleasing it is. i am in love with the people i meet. I can not judge people based on what they look like or what gender they are. I love who people. I am...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Dec 22, 2014

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    Liking trans men was hard

    for a little bit because I did not want to have someone who was trying to be an alpha male. Now I have found that I enjoy everyone's presence. I never wanted to date for anything more than brightening someone's life and being attracted to everyone improves that quality.
    ResidentGoddessAstraea ResidentGoddessAstraea 18-21 Dec 28, 2014

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    I feel like i could never come out to my family

    unless I had a good support system of friends or other family :) not really sure how they would react.
    churchdadatnight churchdadatnight 18-21, F Jan 4

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    My Story Is Similar, I Suppose.

    Like many, I first identified as bisexual, unaware that there was a term that much more appropriately encompassed a capacity for love much larger than just "male" and "female." I tend to fall for people on a individual basis, regardless of what gentialia they...
    lastleafoffall lastleafoffall 26-30 21 Responses Apr 21, 2009

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    I've always felt rather comfortable with my

    sexuality, it's just been the labeling it and telling people about it that has been a trial and tribulation. I came out to my immediate family as bisexual when I was maybe 17 and then pansexual when I was 19-20 ish. Gender is socially constructed and non-binary. Given this, I'm...
    Mittons Mittons 18-21 1 Response Jan 3

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    I'M A Odd Duck

    I'm identifying myself as bisexual but I've started to consider my love for people of all shapes, sizes, genders, etc. I feel bi but I'm not really bi, I guess. What's the deal?
    ASBC ASBC 18-21, M 3 Responses Nov 27, 2013

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    After being with an FTM transgender,

    I've really opened my eyes to the wonders of being pansexual. There was a time where I was only attracted to masculinity, but after several times of making love I've come to adore the feminine qualities that my transman still has. This is not to say that I am automatically...
    TheAlbinoGirl TheAlbinoGirl 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 14, 2014

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    Chained By My Own Mind

    I actually figured that I was pansexual quite easily. I was attracted to girls so I figured I was lesbian, but I realized I was still attracted to men so I figured I was bisexual. And then I fell in love for the first time with a friend of mine- who was a genderless, intersexed...
    MaskedSolitude MaskedSolitude 18-21, F 5 Responses Sep 19, 2012

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    I am happily pansexual.

    To me, it's not seeing race, gender, or other things that could make people less desirable. I just fall or crush on people. It doesn't matter.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Dec 24, 2013

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    Demonb524 Demonb524 13-15, T 3 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    It's hard to tell people

    that I'm pansexual when no one knows what it means. No, I'm not attracted to pans.
    HurricaneAshlyn HurricaneAshlyn 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 23

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    I'M Learning To Embrace My Diverse Attractions.

    WARNING: This is really long...probably longer than it should be and longer than other stories here. But it felt so good and so therapeutic to write this that I decided to just go with it. If you have the patience to read it, I thank you kindly in advance. For fifteen years, I...
    Nayahri Nayahri 31-35 5 Responses Jun 26, 2013

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    I have found that when I am attracted to a

    person or when I find someone attractive, their gender and sex have never made me reconsider, to be honest. If I do reconsider, it will involve much more important factors. When I was very, very young I did think I was heterosexual, but quickly learned I was not.
    likeahorrorinadream likeahorrorinadream 18-21, T 1 Response Dec 20, 2014

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    What I am is not a "fancier"

    or "cooler" word for bisexual. Just to let everyone who thinks otherwise know.
    Reagssb Reagssb 13-15, F Jan 12

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    Hello..just Making An Introduction :>)

    My name is Vanessa. I am a 35 year old female. There are so many labels anymore but I guess this is the one that I fit most accurately into. I would like to chat with people like myself. Some part of me is confused. I have had trouble connecting with just one sex in all the ways...
    butterflyz2726 butterflyz2726 31-35, F 26 Responses Apr 10, 2012

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    I think the thing i hate most is

    when people say .... "why dont you just say your bi?" usually i just give up and tell ppl when they ask.. "so are you gay or bi?" "I prefer Unicorn."
    EvaLolita EvaLolita 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 2, 2014

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    I Am Pansexual

    For a long time, I knew that I felt differently towards people, male and female alike. I only had two friends in my early elementary years, two girls, one was really mean and bossy towards everyone.. the type where if you wanted to hang out with someone outside "her group" she...
    RazielGalizur RazielGalizur 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 13, 2012

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    Discovering

    For the past few years I've liked the two main genders. A year ago, I came across the word 'pansexual'. After seeing the definition, I knew that's what I was. Gender doesn't matter. Looks don't matter. Personality matters. I dated a girl who everybody thought was beautiful, her...
    TheRogueWolf TheRogueWolf 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    I am so tired of heteronormativity.

    Like, just because I'm a woman, it doesn't mean I'm straight.
    ErraticallyGrey ErraticallyGrey 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 25, 2014

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    I forgot how easily people make assumptions,

    myself included. When I came out as a pansexual one of the first questions someone asked me was if I would have a relationship with someone who is transgender. I was thrown. Of course I would. I thought everyone one would too. Apparently not.
    ErraticallyGrey ErraticallyGrey 22-25, F 11 Responses Jul 13, 2014

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    At first I always thought I was bi.

    Not Pansexual. A month or so ago I finally realized what I was after figuring a lot more things out. I haven't came out yet, but I'm happy at where I am right now.
    Reagssb Reagssb 13-15, F Jan 10

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    When I first hear the term pansexual I thought

    it was being bisexual. I was in 8th grade and that's when I first came out to myself as being some type of gay person. I looked up YouTube videos and I remember coming across this girl who said she is pansexual. She explained how it wasn't the physical that attracted her but the...
    ponycupcake ponycupcake 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 14, 2014

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    I didn't realize it at first,

    and I am still coming to terms with the implications, but, after reading other people's experiences, I realized I fit here. I am still technically in the closet. This is my first figurative "outing", figurative because you people don't know who I am. As far as support, I don't...
    DacianaNorte DacianaNorte 18-21, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I couldn't care less about the gender of the

    person that I am dating or their sexuality as long as we are mentally and emotionally compatible and love each other. Also, just because I am pansexual doesn't mean that I am not picky. If a person doesn't take care of themselves or their appearance I will simply not be...
    NekomataHime NekomataHime 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 8, 2014

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    God I hate when people find out

    that I like both men and women and immediately assume I like 3somes or am in a relationship with multiple people. Just because I'm attracted to multiple genders, does not mean I'm not monogamous.
    ErraticallyGrey ErraticallyGrey 22-25, F 4 Responses Apr 16, 2014

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    So I'm thinking about telling my mom about me

    being pansexual, I'm really shy and worry what she'll think. What do I do.
    TheFandomAttack TheFandomAttack 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 4

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    For as long as I've known I always liked

    both genders. For awhile I thought it was wrong because I figured I'd be judged. Then I came out as bisexual. Bisexuals like both genders. I soon figured out I was pansexual. Pansexuals are physically or emotionally attracted to people of all genders. They are attracted...
    crimsonrosebud crimsonrosebud 18-21, F Jan 19

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    Sexuality has never been a problem

    for me. I've honestly never had to put much thought into it. I just enjoy people. I've been in relationships with men and women and never thought about it. (I wouldn't be opposed to a relationship with anyone trans, I've just never had the opportunity.) There was something in...
    BeastTreets BeastTreets 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 24, 2014

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    Jeanbeau Jeanbeau 16-17, F Oct 1, 2014

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    to me, it dosent matter

    if you are a boy or a girl. If you treat me good, and show me love; you'll get the same back. I dont care what gender you are.
    macibabyy macibabyy 16-17, F 2 Responses Sep 17, 2014

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    I accept I am pansexual.

    But my mother keeps making remarks about how everyone is either just straight or gay. No in between. And nothing against anyone who believes in god, but I don't. I've had it shoved down my throat all my life and don't believe. She forces me to go her church and act like I do. I...
    novak67 novak67 16-17, F 3 Responses Dec 13, 2014

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    Okay so seriously, I'm tired of the stigma

    that bi and pan sexual people are more likely to cheat. All we have is a wider spectrum. That's it. Cheating isn't a sexuality thing. It's a self esteem thing.
    ErraticallyGrey ErraticallyGrey 22-25, F 4 Responses Aug 9, 2014

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    Maybe its because I'm older

    and therefore more confident but I'm very happy and open with the fact that I am am pansexual. I don't hide it from anyone and I'm not deterred by the fact that society and even the LGBT community don't understand what it means or that it's a legitimate orientation. I have...
    newasexy newasexy 26-30, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    It is so awesome and a relief

    when you find a sexuality that truly belongs to you. To me being pansexual means I don't have to limit myself when I see someone I like. Their looks wouldn't be as important to me as their personality.