I Am Philophobic

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    I Am Philophobic

    I am a 35 year old female, who has never ever been in a meaningful relationship. I have always chosen guys with an expirey date (as in, they or I were about to move interstate or overseas), or guys I really didn't like.  Any time any one of them said I love you, I packed up...
    HopeFeat HopeFeat
    3 Responses May 21, 2010

    I already knew I had a problem,

    but I found out its name just a couple hours ago. Now I can say that I'm philophobic. Most of the people are afraid to fall in love because they've been hurt in the past. However, this is definitely not my case, since I never fell in love nor had any kind of relationship. I'm...
    pixiedustmwah pixiedustmwah
    Jan 3, 2015

      I think, I am falling

    for someone. I have started dating (since last 1 month and a half) a man who is married and separated with his wife years back. He came to have a look at our house to move in when I met him for the first time. Back then I did not know much about him. Only later did he tell me...
    AasthaPrakash AasthaPrakash
    Aug 20, 2014


    People tell me that I'm being paranoid, but I don't like being emotionally committed to or with a person. I don't like the idea of falling in love with someone. When I hear that someone wants to go out with me, I immediately avoid that person and do something to make them not...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jul 27, 2013


    I'm afraid of love. Or more it's that I'm afraid to open up to people. I've come up with 2 possible reasons for it: 1.) My mother is a codependent. She was always trying to get me to tell her everything and I was always uncomfortable with it. At first I thought "Why do I feel...
    whatuhhidk whatuhhidk
    3 Responses May 6, 2011

    I Don't Know

    None of my friends believe I'm philophobic, and maybe they're right. I guess all teenagers have hesitations about relationships to some degree. I just can't help but think that how I feel about getting close to a person isn't normal. I'll be interested in a boy right until the...
    littlemissdooom littlemissdooom
    18-21, F
    Aug 25, 2013

    For me it is for the same reasons I don't like

    drinking too much or taking drugs doctors prescribe or being around people during that time of the month. My anxiety acts up when I start feeling out of control of my body or emotions and when I start get anxious I will either do stuff I feel is stupid or embarrassing or both or...
    CelestialRuby CelestialRuby
    Dec 9, 2013

    I think I'm philophobic,

    and it's beginning to annoy me when people say 'it's normal to get nervous' or 'it's just a phase'. My situation is, I have crushes and things, until someone likes me back. When I'm daydreaming about them I'll imagine us together or them liking me back, but when it actually...
    dontyoudare dontyoudare
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Mar 6, 2014

    Maybe.. Maybe Not

    people think so at least. :P I just let them think that. :) I'm just highly independant, I don't want to lose who I am just because I like a guy. I don't understand how some girls center their whole lives around a guy they really like. They tend to lose themselves in who...
    wack1985 wack1985
    31-35, F
    Apr 5, 2010


    I'm not sure if I am philophobic since I have not been professionally examined to find out. I just really think that I am because I get extremely terrified whenever someone gets too close to me. I'm always searching for love but when it's in arm's reach I become extremely nervous...
    aem28 aem28
    Oct 1, 2013

    I used to be afraid. I was afraid of getting

    hurt, of being hurt. I was afraid of being used, of being unnecessary, or loving someone who would never love me back. Because who would love me. Who did, who would, who could, who had. I used to be afraid of calling people I was close to my friend. Because oh God, what if they...
    thischickiswack thischickiswack
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jan 17, 2015

    It Seems So

    Since I always feel to runaway whenever I think I will be in relationship.. That's the reason I never in relationship with anybody. Just to think about that makes me uncomfortable. I guess love like in twilight movie is good for somebody else. Not me. It is scary.
    cantma cantma
    22-25, F
    Nov 14, 2012

    I Think?

    But don't know...As I have had - what I thought - were meaningful relationships  however I have not been able to keep any of them!    Perhaps this is why??    Have never heard of it! I know I have a very bad habit of hurting the people that...
    MysticShell MysticShell
    26-30, F
    4 Responses May 21, 2010

    I Just Don'T Mean To Hurt Anymore...

    I think I'm philophobic... I'm afraid when a guy actually thinks on me as a possible girlfriend, I'm afraid he may fall in love with me and maybe I won't correspond... Some years ago, when I was still a kid (I was like 14 or 15), a boy (who was 9 or 10) wanted to be my boyfriend...
    Hadara205 Hadara205
    26-30, F
    Apr 6, 2013

    3 day ago, i met a guy on the concert.

    He was so adorable and when i start to think him i feel unsecure, it is hard to breath and my heart starts to beat very fast. He is kind of ex-boyfriend of my one of the good friends. And we met because of her. And actually we could not talk to much. I feel something very...
    dulover dulover
    31-35, F
    Nov 3, 2014

    My friends, they just dont get it they said im

    being all paranoid and its only in my mind and how i should be brave and stuff i mean, really? i want to date someone more than they cant even imagine, but i cant whats weird is that i had a crush on someone, it went so well for me as secret admirer or a stalker, but then he...
    Chocang Chocang
    22-25, F
    Aug 30, 2014
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