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I Am Polyamorous

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    The thing I hate most about polyamory .

    .. is the freaking laundry! Changing your bed sheets more often than your underwear can be a tiring thing.
    rchkb rchkb 31-35, M 1 Response Oct 7, 2014

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    My Feelings About Polyamory

    I have known for awhile that I was polyamorous because I don't believe in monogamy in terms of the societal norm of thinking that one person can satisfy all your needs. I believe in loving multiple people because each relationship with each person is unique and you can get...
    Fall123 Fall123 36-40, F 4 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    totally!!!! i have a boyfriend.

    . yet im still getting gaga over other guys. i had once an MU before apart from my bf.. i love that MU. i also love my bf.. but i rejected my MU and never talked to him before jusy because of the guilt that i am engaging in infidelity!!!!!! i thought i was so abormal loving two...
    blitzkrieg7 blitzkrieg7 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 6

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    Poly

    When I try and explain my feelings about relationships to most people, they see me as a loose person just looking for more people to ****. This couldn't be farther from the truth. When I first started "dating" I found myself getting mixed up with more than one person. Not because...
    charismaticenigma charismaticenigma 22-25, F 7 Responses Aug 23, 2013

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    My Reason For Polyamory

    I feel that relationships which are based around fortifying and feeding the self-worth of yourself and your partner are deleterious to the phenomenon of true, selfless love. True, selfless love is ego-free. Without the desire to feed the ego, there is no jealousy when the loved...
    saintbryan saintbryan 21-25, M 10 Responses Dec 15, 2007

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    I think that you can be in more

    than one sexual/romantic relationship at one time. It's not all that hard to understand.
    brokenbutalive brokenbutalive 13-15, T 1 Response Jun 16, 2014

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    This is a big step for me,

    writing again in EP. It has been years since I was last here, and so much has changed in my life. Once upon a time I was Wildernessgirl and Isshe...it seems like a universe away in time now. I met some of my dearest friends here on EP, who after five or so years continue to...
    asmoi asmoi 41-45, F 3 Responses Sep 1, 2014

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    Hubby has a second date tonight with his new

    girlfriend and I'm so excited & nervous & turned on. I feel like it's my date! LOL
    moonmaiden69 moonmaiden69 31-35, F 9 Responses Dec 5, 2014

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    I am happy to say that I am officially

    polyamorous. I have always had the support from my Fiance but we have been talking about it a lot lately and I am happy to say that it's official. I love my Fiance very much for allowing me to be my own person and find my own personal happiness in any way that I choose. I feel...
    MoostacheKitteh MoostacheKitteh 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 7, 2014

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    I've always been comfortable with the idea

    that people love each other. I met two girls at the same time at the Disneyworld campground when I was 15 and spent the whole day kissing both of them and feeling the compersion from each as they shared me between themselves. I'd had girlfriends but never two and it felt fine...
    pcflvly pcflvly 46-50, M 2 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    My Crazy Dream

    Well, right now, I have a husband and four loves.  I'm inspired by the works of Robert Heinlein and we are hoping for some sort of line marriage arrangement down the line.  We have dreams of a commune and all sorts of happiness and good times.
    snuzzlejunkie snuzzlejunkie 26-30, F 5 Responses Jun 11, 2007

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    I feel so alone. I am a lesbian woman,

    living in Michigan and currently seeing three women. Those women all know about each other, but they are all pushing me to choose between them and just be with one person. I can't do that. I honestly am in love with all three of them. I have connections with each one of them...
    SamathaA SamathaA 26-30, F 4 Responses Sep 29, 2014

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    I Get It.

    I've been haunting polyamory forums ever since my boyfriend-turned-husband mentioned he is polyamorous. I had no idea of the concept before I read about it, and it made a lot of sense, but it seemed very risky. It seemed many bad things, so much so that I ended up on webpages...
    Wonderatrix Wonderatrix 31-35, F 5 Responses Nov 26, 2011

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    Looking for some feedback.

    How have people explained poly relationships to their kids? Other family members?
    LookingForIt987 LookingForIt987 41-45, M 5 Responses Jan 23

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    Random Thoughts Of My Poly Life

    I am polyamorous. I am not looking for a third partner to "enhance" my relationship. I am not looking for what is little more than a live sex toy to help "fix" my partner and my sex life. I am not "curious" to "explore" being poly. I happened to fall in love with a man...
    Persephyne27 Persephyne27 26-30, F 7 Responses Jul 27, 2013

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    I am a polyamorous black man in a predominantly

    white part of the United States. I am currently with a woman I love very much who is also seeing someone she greatly enjoys. The problem I am having is that I can't get a date to save my life. I am no slouch by any means. I am fit, attractive, reasonably intelligent, and always...
    Wanderartist Wanderartist 31-35, M 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    Not to be confused with swinging,

    whoring around, or being a pervert. My perversions are entirely separate from my relationship lifestyle, thank you.
    teadaze teadaze 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 22, 2014

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    Connections

    For me, it is best to keep my connections loose. Nothing in life stays the same, and yet most people pretend that love and desire are immune to the passage of time. People evolve, and grow and move. Change is inevitable. And if the connections I make are tight, if they have very...
    Fayerweather Fayerweather 36-40, F 4 Responses May 27, 2013

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    I am a new poly girl

    although it was all my idea my hubby wasn't on good terms with the mother of his other child and we didn't not get along bcos our children are 1 month apart (both 2 now) and she felt like he chose me over her bcos neither of us were seriously dating him i dated him monogamously...
    prettypolyprincess prettypolyprincess 18-21, F 7 Responses Jan 7, 2014

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    Well in practice I'm not,

    but I am very interested. I am loving reading peoples experiences.
    GypsyMiss GypsyMiss 36-40, F 6 Responses Dec 4, 2013

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    We have been married

    for well over a decade and have been together for much longer than that. While most of our life we have been strictly monogamous, we have not been vanilla. Recently we've moved into opening up our bedroom and learning to share each other with other people. It has been the...
    PaintedPoemCpl PaintedPoemCpl 36-40 6 Responses Aug 30, 2014

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    Poly Proud

    I look around me at the veritable sea of monogamous relationships from my little island of polyamory, and I feel and incredible sense of pride. I was raised by a very liberal mother, who despite being what amounts to a bohemian gypsy, still told me from the very beginning of my...
    Fayerweather Fayerweather 36-40, F 5 Responses Nov 13, 2012

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    I'm still "curious" about this lifestyle.

    I realized to divide is NOT to take away. I want to indulge. Can we all just fall in love?
    polylovhers polylovhers 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 27, 2014

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    A Little Unconventional

    i guess its not quite a lifestyle for everyone. it wasnt really easy for me for a long time to get to grips with being in love, sexually/physically as well as on the emotional side, with two people, but now i couldnt be happier. i first met my girlfriend when i was 20 (and she 17...
    AirheadSmiles AirheadSmiles 22-25, F 6 Responses Aug 24, 2013

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    currently in a longtime relationship with a lady

    who is very monogomous. about 3-4 months ago a friend of hers moved in with us and we were all sexually active with each other. but my girlfriend decided it wasn't for her and basically pushed the other female out. well. I'm miserable and I feel very alone most of the time. I...
    sabortoooth sabortoooth 26-30, M 2 Responses Dec 26, 2014

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    Poly and Proud!

    I discovered poly after I was already practicing! Currently, I live with two partners and play with more, though I'm only fully sexual with the two primaries. We are not in a triad, but we play with mostly the same people. I enjoy the family aspects of polyamoury, and the...
    silvermoon silvermoon 31-35 6 Responses Oct 24, 2007

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    My journey into poly life really started about 1

    and a half ago when I started discussing it with my husband. It didn't come to the forefront until about 6 months ago when I met someone I wanted a romantic relationship with. There was a lot of emotion and things to work through but we have learnt a lot, have made connections...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jan 30

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    So I'm curious as to what the hell is going on.

    I'm in a relationship with my wife and girlfriend. But my girlfriend just seems to be getting so distant. I told her months ago that I didn't know if I could feel about her the way I feel about my wife. She's told me that she always feels second or something similar. She brings...
    canyouhearthedrums canyouhearthedrums 26-30, M 4 Responses Feb 1

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    I May Be Polyamorous

    I have been involved three times in a multiple relationship. Twice in a MMF and once in a MFF. They didn't work out for various reasons. I still think it is a workable thing (YMMV). One thing I really hate is that newbies who don't understand what the word means will think it...
    alstephens alstephens 46-50, M 11 Responses Mar 16, 2013

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    Multi-Loving not "Open Relationship".

    ... am I alone in that I need to be in love to have sex? I am not into casual sex, but I want to love all the people that actually want to love me. I feel so alone in this point of view.
    TheWomanWhoDid TheWomanWhoDid 36-40 8 Responses Jul 25, 2014

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    It took me years to realize that

    for me I'm happiest when I'm with someone who is also open minded and polyamorous:) Now just to find Mr Right.
    Roxy1114 Roxy1114 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 17, 2014

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    I am in a monogamous relationship.

    I am curious as to what polyamorous means. I love my partner but I desire one or two other intimate and meaningful relationships, as well. What are the "rules" to be polyamorous? Do both of the main partners need to be polyamorous? Thank you.
    Joei005 Joei005 46-50, M 4 Responses Jan 17

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    I want a relationship in

    which I stay married to my husband but find the right lesbian partner too. Does this sound realistic? Who would actually agree to this kind of lifestyle...
    sosieq sosieq 26-30, F 8 Responses Feb 4, 2014

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    I have too much love to give

    for just one person :p I was introduced to the lifestyle when I was pretty young, and I've fallen in love with it. It fits me too perfectly! I'm not jealous or controlling, and sometimes there are things I can't get from one person that I can from another.
    EllieGendron EllieGendron 18-21, F 8 Responses May 22, 2014

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    My Boyfriend Has To Move Out

      For several reasons, my boyfriend has to move out after living with my family for 5 years.  He is not happy about, I am not happy about it, but we don't have much of a choice.  After 5 years of being poly, it seems strange to me that the vast majority of...
    mexpat mexpat 41-45, F 4 Responses Dec 20, 2009

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    I've only ever been close to being in a poly

    relationship. It was one of those where they all live together, had the 'master' of the house and such. I was going to actually be a secondary for Tigirus as was her nickname, but they got really controlling and ended up in us of numerous arugments. It was one of those cases...
    WanderingNotQuiteLost WanderingNotQuiteLost 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 1, 2014

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    obviously I'm Polyamorous otherwise I wouldn't

    be posting here but I'm also Pansexual and the main thing I want to post about will be explicit. so if you are sensitive/easily offended please DON'T read on. any negative comments will be ignored/deleted. It comes down to the fact that if you don't have anything nice to say...
    LewisCollins LewisCollins 31-35 1 Response Dec 21, 2014

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    My Poly Journey

    When I first became involved with my boyfriend D, He insisted that the relationship be an open one. He'd never been in an open or poly relationship, but he'd wanted to live that way for many years. I'd grown up with some pain and loss and the idea of sharing the person I love...
    Fayerweather Fayerweather 36-40, F 6 Responses Oct 17, 2012

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    I would love to be in a poly relationship,

    I'm bisexual and find that I miss aspects from both genders when in mono relatuonships
    Shikeji Shikeji 22-25, M 1 Response Jan 31

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    The thing is, my partner isn't AND we've opted

    not to label our relationship because it's long distance and fairly new, which makes everything quite complicated. I would like to be able to have relationships with other people, but she wouldn't like that because she knows she'd get jealous, but she doesn't want to tell me...
    mokkingjay mokkingjay 18-21, T Dec 28, 2014

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    To me I've always felt this way,

    it seemed strange to limit who I could love to just one person, and I think it's more natural for us to have many loving relationships.
    ashtt ashtt 22-25, F 7 Responses Sep 11, 2014

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    So, I'm pretty new to accepting this.

    I've thought of it for a few years (I'm 18) but I could never really decide. I have a girlfriend currently, and at first when I admitted it to her she said she was perfectly okay with it. But I noticed she was acting down and such and she admitted she felt like she wasn't good...
    WanderingNotQuiteLost WanderingNotQuiteLost 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 29, 2014

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    FayeSeashells FayeSeashells 26-30, F Nov 4, 2014

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    My husband and I have been married

    for almost 7 years. In April of this year, we had a female roommate move in and it quickly turned into a triad. Hubby and I had discussed swinging in the past, and had a couple of one night stands with people. We had talked about possibly having a polyamorous relationship with...
    JenniferKworth JenniferKworth 26-30, F 4 Responses Dec 29, 2014

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    Wonder Woman creator lived a polyamorous

    relationship. Superman, George Reeves, when he died; found a 13 year old girl. 'Twin Souls'
    SkipperRoberts SkipperRoberts 61-65 1 Response Dec 31, 2014

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    Multiple Loves Make Me Glow

    I have always loved many people at once, in many ways. In almost all of my adult relationships, there has been me, a boyfriend and a long distance girlfriend and/or male slaves (I am a BDSM Dominant). I am single now but own and adore one long distance slave and have two men who...
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman 31-35, F 11 Responses Sep 25, 2008

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    I discovered I was polyamorous

    when I was 22 years old. I'm 27 now and with two of the best men in my life I could ever ask for!! I've had many crushes on the way, but none of them understand that I'm not the type to cheat... So I won't be opening my heart up to anyone new, anytime soon. To my boys, Nick and...
    standingfirm standingfirm 26-30, F 1 Response 6 days ago