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I Am Polyamorous

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 2,362 People

    It took me years to realize that

    for me I'm happiest when I'm with someone who is also open minded and polyamorous:) Now just to find Mr Right.
    Roxy1114 Roxy1114 31-35, F 4 Responses Jun 17

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    Multiple Loves Make Me Glow

    I have always loved many people at once, in many ways. In almost all of my adult relationships, there has been me, a boyfriend and a long distance girlfriend and/or male slaves (I am a BDSM Dominant). I am single now but own and adore one long distance slave and have two men who...
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman 31-35, F 11 Responses Sep 25, 2008

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    I Get It.

    I've been haunting polyamory forums ever since my boyfriend-turned-husband mentioned he is polyamorous. I had no idea of the concept before I read about it, and it made a lot of sense, but it seemed very risky. It seemed many bad things, so much so that I ended up on webpages...
    Wonderatrix Wonderatrix 31-35, F 8 Responses Nov 26, 2011

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    i have been since i was 10 tbh.

    i cant stand being tied down since i know i have more than one "soulmate" im attracted to so many different people. i adore the concept of polyamory since you have multiple partners and its all consensual and there is no sneaking around!! that jealousy just isnt there which is...
    griefseed griefseed 13-15, F 3 Responses Jul 24

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    This is a big step for me,

    writing again in EP. It has been years since I was last here, and so much has changed in my life. Once upon a time I was Wildernessgirl and Isshe...it seems like a universe away in time now. I met some of my dearest friends here on EP, who after five or so years continue to...
    asmoi asmoi 41-45, F 2 Responses Sep 1

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    I am married and we have

    both been through a lot in the past few years. I am bisexual, he knows, and it's been a long while since I've been with a woman. I want a girlfriend but I don't know how to break it to him.
    BeautifullyWeird BeautifullyWeird 22-25, F 4 Responses Jun 15

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    I have stated before

    that I am very new to this. I've always know I was poly but could never express it. My current relationship is amazing and she is ok with me being poly. My past is causing problems. I have been made to feel wrong for so long that old habits are dying very hard and slowly and I'm...
    ChancesT ChancesT 41-45, T 1 Response Sep 2

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    I'm still "curious" about this lifestyle.

    I realized to divide is NOT to take away. I want to indulge. Can we all just fall in love?
    polylovhers polylovhers 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 27

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    We have been married

    for well over a decade and have been together for much longer than that. While most of our life we have been strictly monogamous, we have not been vanilla. Recently we've moved into opening up our bedroom and learning to share each other with other people. It has been the...
    PaintedPoemCpl PaintedPoemCpl 36-40 5 Responses Aug 30

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    Discovering Myself

    When I was about 14 I came to a firm conclusion (how anyone can be at that age is beyond me, but firm it was) that I was only interested in girls and the next two years I had a string of quite short term relationships with girls about my own age or older Then I was about 17 and...
    BreadCatkin BreadCatkin 18-21, F 6 Responses Jun 4, 2013

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    The thing I hate most about polyamory .

    .. is the freaking laundry! Changing your bed sheets more often than your underwear can be a tiring thing.
    rchkb rchkb 31-35, M 1 Response Oct 7

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    My Crazy Dream

    Well, right now, I have a husband and four loves.  I'm inspired by the works of Robert Heinlein and we are hoping for some sort of line marriage arrangement down the line.  We have dreams of a commune and all sorts of happiness and good times.
    snuzzlejunkie snuzzlejunkie 26-30, F 5 Responses Jun 11, 2007

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    My Poly Journey

    When I first became involved with my boyfriend D, He insisted that the relationship be an open one. He'd never been in an open or poly relationship, but he'd wanted to live that way for many years. I'd grown up with some pain and loss and the idea of sharing the person I love...
    Fayerweather Fayerweather 36-40, F 7 Responses Oct 17, 2012

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    I feel so alone. I am a lesbian woman,

    living in Michigan and currently seeing three women. Those women all know about each other, but they are all pushing me to choose between them and just be with one person. I can't do that. I honestly am in love with all three of them. I have connections with each one of them...
    SamathaA SamathaA 26-30, F 4 Responses Sep 29

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    Kitty and I maintain partners outside our own

    marriage. I haven't been in a serious relationship outside Kitty in a long time though. Just don't have the time with life getting in the way for another super serious partner :(
    jojokarel jojokarel 26-30, F Oct 13

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    My Boyfriend Has To Move Out

      For several reasons, my boyfriend has to move out after living with my family for 5 years.  He is not happy about, I am not happy about it, but we don't have much of a choice.  After 5 years of being poly, it seems strange to me that the vast majority of...
    mexpat mexpat 41-45, F 4 Responses Dec 20, 2009

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    Im Poly :)

    Im currently in a Poly Triad.  The couple i join'd with are married.  Thus far things go well, we're trying to find a house so that we can all live together.  none of us have children at this time, but we would like to in the future, we live in Michigan and have a...
    Simplysloan Simplysloan 21-25, F 24 Responses Nov 24, 2006

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    I'm a bi, polyamorous guy

    who has mostly been with men. I've been with women, but not many times -- and never in an enduring relationship. I enjoy sex, but am not interested in casual sex with strangers, or outside of relationships involving real affection and connection. I have a partner who loves me...
    riverwarm riverwarm 46-50, M 3 Responses Jun 4

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    And so is my girlfriend.

    She has had a couple of other lovers outside of our relationship, and I've had no problem with that. But it's been hard for me to find anyone else. I don't know if it's my friend-group or the area where I live but it's been very difficult for me to find another poly person to...
    AlexDMaldo AlexDMaldo 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 21

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    I think that you can be in more

    than one sexual/romantic relationship at one time. It's not all that hard to understand.
    brokenbutalive brokenbutalive 13-15, T 1 Response Jun 16

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    Poly Proud

    I look around me at the veritable sea of monogamous relationships from my little island of polyamory, and I feel and incredible sense of pride. I was raised by a very liberal mother, who despite being what amounts to a bohemian gypsy, still told me from the very beginning of my...
    Fayerweather Fayerweather 36-40, F 6 Responses Nov 13, 2012

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    My girlfriend and I are looking

    for a live-in second in our relationship... Any interested females hit me up. Women only, thanks :)
    BigBadWolff BigBadWolff 26-30, M Oct 8

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    Polyamory literally means “loving many,

    ” it's the practice of engaging in more than one intimate relationship at a time. A lot of people in the polyamory community consider their definitive relationships as romantic and sexual in nature. But it's also possible to engage in nonsexual polyamory and even nonromantic...
    InhuldibleCrelk InhuldibleCrelk 36-40 1 Response Aug 25

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    Who would like to **** my wife?

    We've just decided to start having affairs and IDE like to know cuz it turns me on to think of of a guy going inside her
    abillawolf abillawolf 26-30, T 4 Responses Aug 9

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    My wife and I are both bisexual

    and trying to define an open relationship for us. She has a girlfriend she is intimate and sexual with. I don't get to be involved. She says she doesn't mind if I want to have a relationship with another guy , but would not be happy if I found another girl.
    jasonwishingwell jasonwishingwell 36-40, M 2 Responses Jun 27

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    Poly and Proud!

    I discovered poly after I was already practicing! Currently, I live with two partners and play with more, though I'm only fully sexual with the two primaries. We are not in a triad, but we play with mostly the same people. I enjoy the family aspects of polyamoury, and the...
    silvermoon silvermoon 31-35 6 Responses Oct 24, 2007

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    Not to be confused with swinging,

    whoring around, or being a pervert. My perversions are entirely separate from my relationship lifestyle, thank you.
    teadaze teadaze 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 22

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    Hello everyone, We're trying to find some

    polyamory families based in the UK for a one-hour programme that celebrates love and raises awareness, just as England is expressing it's perhaps uninformed opinions. The TV network would pay a generous fee for anybody who takes part - we've got two poly families who are already...
    bebg2 bebg2 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 16

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    My Reason For Polyamory

    I feel that relationships which are based around fortifying and feeding the self-worth of yourself and your partner are deleterious to the phenomenon of true, selfless love. True, selfless love is ego-free. Without the desire to feed the ego, there is no jealousy when the loved...
    saintbryan saintbryan 21-25, M 10 Responses Dec 15, 2007

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    My Feelings About Polyamory

    I have known for awhile that I was polyamorous because I don't believe in monogamy in terms of the societal norm of thinking that one person can satisfy all your needs. I believe in loving multiple people because each relationship with each person is unique and you can get...
    Fall123 Fall123 36-40, F 5 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    I am a new poly girl

    although it was all my idea my hubby wasn't on good terms with the mother of his other child and we didn't not get along bcos our children are 1 month apart (both 2 now) and she felt like he chose me over her bcos neither of us were seriously dating him i dated him monogamously...
    prettypolyprincess prettypolyprincess 18-21, F 9 Responses Jan 7

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    i have recently become polyamorous with my wife

    and it has been an interesting test over the last few weeks since it started. Over the last few days i have made some real progress and look forward to the future!
    omniversereality omniversereality 31-35, M 4 Responses Oct 17

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    in Belgium and looking

    for connections in here/France/Luxembourg and any other bordering regions of other countries. Friendship or a bit more :-)
    leilasi leilasi 22-25, F Aug 4

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    I've always been comfortable with the idea

    that people love each other. I met two girls at the same time at the Disneyworld campground when I was 15 and spent the whole day kissing both of them and feeling the compersion from each as they shared me between themselves. I'd had girlfriends but never two and it felt fine...
    pcflvly pcflvly 46-50, M 2 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    First Poly Meet Up

    So we went to our first poly meetup last night. It was different. Was a bit disappointed because there weren't any other triads there. I personally would have loved to ask questions in regards to being in a triad. We are going on our first year and running blind. However it was...
    Safirestar Safirestar 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 24, 2013

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    RicRaver RicRaver 41-45, M 5 Responses Jun 16

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    A Little Unconventional

    i guess its not quite a lifestyle for everyone. it wasnt really easy for me for a long time to get to grips with being in love, sexually/physically as well as on the emotional side, with two people, but now i couldnt be happier. i first met my girlfriend when i was 20 (and she 17...
    AirheadSmiles AirheadSmiles 22-25, F 7 Responses Aug 24, 2013

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    Connections

    For me, it is best to keep my connections loose. Nothing in life stays the same, and yet most people pretend that love and desire are immune to the passage of time. People evolve, and grow and move. Change is inevitable. And if the connections I make are tight, if they have very...
    Fayerweather Fayerweather 36-40, F 4 Responses May 27, 2013

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    Am I really polyamorous?

    I love my husband who I have been with for 22 years and I love his ex-best friend who I have been friends with for 21 years. My heart is split in two. I love them both, I would not leave my marriage and me and the other guy are not having an affair. I have felt this way for all...
    smitten4ever smitten4ever 41-45, F 4 Responses Jun 6

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    After many years of living in a monogamous

    heterosexual marriage I think I must return to my true poly self. In the last couple of weeks I've had amazing slightly sexual experiences with another mum from my kids' school and a handsome naked man in the woods. It would be a dream to make them regular lovers. And to keep...
    bosieboy bosieboy 41-45, F 2 Responses Jun 28

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    I have too much love to give

    for just one person :p I was introduced to the lifestyle when I was pretty young, and I've fallen in love with it. It fits me too perfectly! I'm not jealous or controlling, and sometimes there are things I can't get from one person that I can from another.
    EllieGendron EllieGendron 18-21, F 7 Responses May 22

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    Problem that I am experiencing.

    Two of the women that I am seeing keep comparing themselves to one another. I have explained to them that each of my relationships are completely different and that all that comparing does is make everything awful. So... they need to stop doing that. One of them I actually see...
    SamathaA SamathaA 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 12

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    Random Thoughts Of My Poly Life

    I am polyamorous. I am not looking for a third partner to "enhance" my relationship. I am not looking for what is little more than a live sex toy to help "fix" my partner and my sex life. I am not "curious" to "explore" being poly. I happened to fall in love with a man...
    Persephyne27 Persephyne27 26-30, F 7 Responses Jul 27, 2013

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    My Boyfriend, My Girlfriend, And Me.

    I have been with my fiance for 8 years now and with my girlfriend for one year. My fiance has known since before we got together that I am (and always have been, as far as I can remember) bisexual. I also told him I could not see a future for me without female partners in it. He...
    cutieplaything cutieplaything 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 19, 2013

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    And live in the Dallas area.

    Looking to find more like-minded people. I don't have any openly poly friends. Feel free to message me :)
    AlexDMaldo AlexDMaldo 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 23

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    I want a relationship in

    which I stay married to my husband but find the right lesbian partner too. Does this sound realistic? Who would actually agree to this kind of lifestyle...
    sosieq sosieq 26-30, F 11 Responses Feb 4

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    I read over many of the stories here,

    and the experiences all sound familiar. People enriching their lives and their pre-existing relationship with the up take of polyamory. People realising that there are other ways to live their life of relationships. The excitement of exploring others, sharing the adventures and...
    asmoi asmoi 41-45, F 3 Responses Sep 2

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    To me I've always felt this way,

    it seemed strange to limit who I could love to just one person, and I think it's more natural for us to have many loving relationships.
    ashtt ashtt 22-25, F 5 Responses Sep 11

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    I have felt poly most of my life.

    I remember as a teenager telling my gf that I wanted to date more than one person. This didn't end well and so I didn't talk about it anymore. I then had several affairs in multiple relationships. I was never meant to only love one person. It makes me feel confined and...
    ChancesT ChancesT 41-45, T 3 Responses Aug 26

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    Poly

    When I try and explain my feelings about relationships to most people, they see me as a loose person just looking for more people to ****. This couldn't be farther from the truth. When I first started "dating" I found myself getting mixed up with more than one person. Not because...
    charismaticenigma charismaticenigma 22-25, F 10 Responses Aug 23, 2013

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    My husband and I are in a polyamorous

    relationship and looking for our "unicorn." We have been searching, pretty much since we started dating. We know for sure this is the lifestyle we want to live. I guess tech. You can say we have had 2 ex' sour first and very dear to us left and our second before we could meet in...
    hppyfmly hppyfmly 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 21

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    Multi-Loving not "Open Relationship".

    ... am I alone in that I need to be in love to have sex? I am not into casual sex, but I want to love all the people that actually want to love me. I feel so alone in this point of view.
    TheWomanWhoDid TheWomanWhoDid 36-40 10 Responses Jul 25

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    I get concerned when my girlfriends husband

    and her are not getting along. I feel like I should be around less. It's hard to hear how much she enjoys me and not him.
    FairWindz FairWindz 41-45, M Aug 28

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