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I Am Polyamorous

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    Last night, my husband went on a date with his

    poly girlfriend. They discussed the breakup between me and her husband, and the confusing emotions therein. I'm happy to say that my husband had my back and supported me during this subject, and I feel very loving toward him for this. He has struggled with making me feel like...
    Keritastic Keritastic 26-30, F Jan 29

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    So I was in a poly relationship

    for 8 months. It ended on good terms. I chose to leave because it was getting a too little messy (time spent with each other was uneven causing some loneliness.) It's been over a year and recently the other 2 just broke up. At first I was talking to both of them. But them I...
    SC27 SC27 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 17

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    Im Poly :)

    Im currently in a Poly Triad.  The couple i join'd with are married.  Thus far things go well, we're trying to find a house so that we can all live together.  none of us have children at this time, but we would like to in the future, we live in Michigan and have a...
    Simplysloan Simplysloan 21-25, F 24 Responses Nov 24, 2006

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    Connections

    For me, it is best to keep my connections loose. Nothing in life stays the same, and yet most people pretend that love and desire are immune to the passage of time. People evolve, and grow and move. Change is inevitable. And if the connections I make are tight, if they have very...
    Fayerweather Fayerweather 36-40, F 6 Responses May 27, 2013

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    Punished For Being Poly

    I am poly, but my husband is monogamous. Up until recently I've had a relationship with one woman, and my husband. The two relationships are separate, because he didn't want to know, hear, or even think about my bisexuality. No matter how I've tried to share, suggested marriage...
    ElleNoir ElleNoir 31-35, F 3 Responses Oct 6, 2013

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    Enlightened

    For the longest time, ever since I began to venture into the world of dating, I came across one failed relationship after another. I found myself unwilling to commit completely to one individual, and although I never cheated, I unwittingly drew closer and closer to someone else...
    Deanna3911 Deanna3911 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 24, 2013

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    My Poly Journey

    When I first became involved with my boyfriend D, He insisted that the relationship be an open one. He'd never been in an open or poly relationship, but he'd wanted to live that way for many years. I'd grown up with some pain and loss and the idea of sharing the person I love...
    Fayerweather Fayerweather 36-40, F 6 Responses Oct 17, 2012

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    Just want to say! I have enjoyed reading a lot

    of stories. Before I found the EP app. I never seen or talk to anybody about this life style. It's cool to know that it's not only me that feels this way about love
    Horachio513 Horachio513 22-25, M 1 Response Feb 7

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    I'm still "curious" about this lifestyle.

    I realized to divide is NOT to take away. I want to indulge. Can we all just fall in love?
    polylovhers polylovhers 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 27

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    I read a novel called "Proposition 31"

    when I was in my late teens and that sparked the idea of polyamory. I had always been interested in having more than one boyfriend but I was always met with "I don't like to share" from my boyfriend so I never thought too much about it until I became single. The swinging...
    coconutgirl27 coconutgirl27 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 18

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    I love loving people

    and expediting what different peoe have to offer. I would only enter into a relationship with somebody who understood and respected this.
    thenymphomanic thenymphomanic 26-30, F 5 Responses Jan 28

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    3 Is A Wonderful Number

    I was around 16 when I realized that I was attracted not only to men, but to women as well. It wasn't until I was around 24 and dating my current boyfriend (of 11 years, no plans for marriage) that I even considered the possibility of being in a relationship with two people at...
    LighthouseKeeper LighthouseKeeper 26-30, F Dec 12, 2012

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    My Boyfriend, My Girlfriend, And Me.

    I have been with my fiance for 8 years now and with my girlfriend for one year. My fiance has known since before we got together that I am (and always have been, as far as I can remember) bisexual. I also told him I could not see a future for me without female partners in it. He...
    cutieplaything cutieplaything 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 19, 2013

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    Hi guys, I came across this group

    and after reading some of your stories, I am intrigued! It is so refreshing to hear about happy relationships that work really well! I am a feature writer in the UK and write for a number of women's magazines and I'm always looking for interesting stories to feature in some of...
    littlestar89 littlestar89 22-25, F Mar 21

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    Poly Proud

    I look around me at the veritable sea of monogamous relationships from my little island of polyamory, and I feel and incredible sense of pride. I was raised by a very liberal mother, who despite being what amounts to a bohemian gypsy, still told me from the very beginning of my...
    Fayerweather Fayerweather 36-40, F 8 Responses Nov 13, 2012

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    Ok so why is it that I want to run away from

    the life that I have now and want ti start over with another couple who will treat me right. I do everything that I am supposed to to as a good girlfriend is supposed to do. I cook and clean, I make sure she has nothing to worry about except for him and I make sure the children...
    BellaDona84 BellaDona84 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 5, 2013

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    First Poly Meet Up

    So we went to our first poly meetup last night. It was different. Was a bit disappointed because there weren't any other triads there. I personally would have loved to ask questions in regards to being in a triad. We are going on our first year and running blind. However it was...
    Safirestar Safirestar 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 24, 2013

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    I have a husband, who has a girlfriend.

    I was dating her husband, and for a few months we were a quad. I temporarily moved, due to some poly-newbie-drama, taking some space to reflect on what I really wanted. It's been a difficult road, especially since the metamour and I have notoriously not gotten along and it's...
    Keritastic Keritastic 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 22

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    Amazing video about open sexuality.

    . http://youtu.be/LJhklPJz9U8
    Keritastic Keritastic 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 22

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    And we're enjoying it.

    I currently have two boyfriends and two girlfriend, and we are enjoying our lives right now. We love all of us, and it's great for us. We enjoy times together, and though sometimes we have to explain to people that all of us are dating, most people think that all of us are good...
    LongtailZ LongtailZ 18-21, M 1 Response Dec 15, 2013

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    I am poly and pansexual

    and I LOVE IT!!!
    justanotherboi justanotherboi 22-25, T 14 hrs ago

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    I am a new poly girl

    although it was all my idea my hubby wasn't on good terms with the mother of his other child and we didn't not get along bcos our children are 1 month apart (both 2 now) and she felt like he chose me over her bcos neither of us were seriously dating him i dated him monogamously...
    prettypolyprincess prettypolyprincess 18-21, F 8 Responses Jan 7

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    I want a relationship in

    which I stay married to my husband but find the right lesbian partner too. Does this sound realistic? Who would actually agree to this kind of lifestyle...
    sosieq sosieq 26-30, F 9 Responses Feb 4

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    I've always been comfortable with the idea

    that people love each other. I met two girls at the same time at the Disneyworld campground when I was 15 and spent the whole day kissing both of them and feeling the compersion from each as they shared me between themselves. I'd had girlfriends but never two and it felt fine...
    pcflvly pcflvly 46-50, M 4 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    Multiple Loves Make Me Glow

    I have always loved many people at once, in many ways. In almost all of my adult relationships, there has been me, a boyfriend and a long distance girlfriend and/or male slaves (I am a BDSM Dominant). I am single now but own and adore one long distance slave and have two men who...
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman 31-35, F 9 Responses Sep 25, 2008

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    My Reason For Polyamory

    I feel that relationships which are based around fortifying and feeding the self-worth of yourself and your partner are deleterious to the phenomenon of true, selfless love. True, selfless love is ego-free. Without the desire to feed the ego, there is no jealousy when the loved...
    saintbryan saintbryan 21-25, M 10 Responses Dec 15, 2007

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    Poly and Proud!

    I discovered poly after I was already practicing! Currently, I live with two partners and play with more, though I'm only fully sexual with the two primaries. We are not in a triad, but we play with mostly the same people. I enjoy the family aspects of polyamoury, and the...
    silvermoon silvermoon 31-35 6 Responses Oct 24, 2007

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    I'm Perfectly Capable of Loving More Than One Person

    I know most people aren't, at least they say they aren't anyway. I do love multiple people at a time naturally, and that's ok and it's even ok to explore that. But I am in a committed relationship as well, so anyone I want to get physical with needs to pass screening from my...
    AngelaDark AngelaDark 31-35, F 20 Responses Nov 25, 2007

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    Random Thoughts Of My Poly Life

    I am polyamorous. I am not looking for a third partner to "enhance" my relationship. I am not looking for what is little more than a live sex toy to help "fix" my partner and my sex life. I am not "curious" to "explore" being poly. I happened to fall in love with a man...
    Persephyne27 Persephyne27 26-30, F 7 Responses Jul 27, 2013

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    I just had the most pleasant reconnection phone

    chat with an old relationship from high school, who I haven't spoken to in over 10 years. He's in an open relationship too now, and we are having coffee this week :) I'm actually feeling really happy about this.
    Keritastic Keritastic 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 24

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    Post-Break-Up Angst: The presence of my poly-ex

    was all around me, as I settled back home with my husband. His toothbrush was still in the drawer, his body wash still in my shower. I picked them up and moved toward the trash, nearly unable to let go of them, since that would mean that he was really never coming back to use...
    Keritastic Keritastic 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 11

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    Poly

    When I try and explain my feelings about relationships to most people, they see me as a loose person just looking for more people to ****. This couldn't be farther from the truth. When I first started "dating" I found myself getting mixed up with more than one person. Not because...
    charismaticenigma charismaticenigma 22-25, F 8 Responses Aug 23, 2013

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    I am trying to come up with the poly term

    for lonely. I am married. Happily. My wife is madly in love with her girlfriend who I think is one of the better people out there. I have found myself ready to date again outside of her. What do you call lonely for a secondary partner?
    mutesaint mutesaint 26-30, M Feb 10

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    A Little Unconventional

    i guess its not quite a lifestyle for everyone. it wasnt really easy for me for a long time to get to grips with being in love, sexually/physically as well as on the emotional side, with two people, but now i couldnt be happier. i first met my girlfriend when i was 20 (and she 17...
    AirheadSmiles AirheadSmiles 22-25, F 5 Responses Aug 24, 2013

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    Several of my stories on here mention my

    breakup with my first poly-ex. It's been a few months, and I still love him nearly as much as I did when we were together. I'm still so baffled by our split, during which it felt like I did nothing wrong, that I'm having a hard time moving on. Last night I had a dream about him...
    Keritastic Keritastic 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 16

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    Well in practice I'm not,

    but I am very interested. I am loving reading peoples experiences.
    GypsyMiss GypsyMiss 31-35, F 6 Responses Dec 4, 2013

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    I consider myself poly

    and my husband and I have an open relationship but I'm looking for more poly instead of just casual relationships on the side. I don't know how to go about meeting other poly folks.
    imme26 imme26 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 19

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    Looking in FTW, Texas.

    ..... My husband and I are hoping to find a female to add to our lives. We both have an abundance of love to give and want to be able to share it with the right person/people. You would not be treated as a secret and will be a part of our family in every aspect. If you have...
    PolyParadise PolyParadise 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 1

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    My Boyfriend Has To Move Out

      For several reasons, my boyfriend has to move out after living with my family for 5 years.  He is not happy about, I am not happy about it, but we don't have much of a choice.  After 5 years of being poly, it seems strange to me that the vast majority of...
    mexpat mexpat 41-45, F 4 Responses Dec 20, 2009

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    I am currently in a polyamorous relationship.

    I am married, and I have a girlfriend who is also married.
    guyonthefence guyonthefence 31-35, M 1 Response Jan 20

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    Hi my name is Sandra

    and I am married his name is Bubba. I am looking for a women to get to know her as friends and hopefully more latter one. Ask me any thing. I am 29 he is 33. we are 420 friendly.
    SandraBubba1 SandraBubba1 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 28

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    I am 21 years old and polyamorous.

    My girlfriend however ever is not. She is willing to work on it with me, and try it. The problem is that I can't find another partner and I feel like I am missing a vital part of me when it comes to relationships.
    whambamthankyousam whambamthankyousam 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 17

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    My Feelings About Polyamory

    I have known for awhile that I was polyamorous because I don't believe in monogamy in terms of the societal norm of thinking that one person can satisfy all your needs. I believe in loving multiple people because each relationship with each person is unique and you can get...
    Fall123 Fall123 36-40, F 5 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    I Get It.

    I've been haunting polyamory forums ever since my boyfriend-turned-husband mentioned he is polyamorous. I had no idea of the concept before I read about it, and it made a lot of sense, but it seemed very risky. It seemed many bad things, so much so that I ended up on webpages...
    Wonderatrix Wonderatrix 31-35, F 7 Responses Nov 26, 2011

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    My Crazy Dream

    Well, right now, I have a husband and four loves.  I'm inspired by the works of Robert Heinlein and we are hoping for some sort of line marriage arrangement down the line.  We have dreams of a commune and all sorts of happiness and good times.
    snuzzlejunkie snuzzlejunkie 26-30, F 5 Responses Jun 11, 2007

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    My boyfriend and I have been together

    for 14 years and for the last couple of years now we have open our relationship to polyamory. We have come to an agreement that he is willing to let me have a girlfriend as long as she is cool with him. Once I have a girlfriend then I will let him have some female friends, he...
    CapturingMoments CapturingMoments 26-30, F Jan 29

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    Zabet Zabet 31-35, T 2 Responses Feb 14

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    This Is An Exerpt From My Blog - Id Like 2 Know If Any1 Else Here Is Dealing With This...

     Opening Pandora's Box ( AKA : The secret life of women who fly, when men aren't looking )     Well, I've gone and done it...  I've opened Pandora's box.  There's no turning back, and now I am paying - BIG TIME.  I've always lived my life...
    JusDifferent JusDifferent 41-45, F 71 Responses Feb 2, 2010

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    Raising A Family

    I've never been in a poly relationship but am curious as to how raising a family in an triad or multiple adult unit would be like. I imagine that kids would have more attention and parents would be less stressed because of shared responsibilities and more free personal time...
    kimosh kimosh 31-35, F 7 Responses Nov 18, 2013

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    I've been in a polyamorous relationship

    for about six months and I believe in the rule of two, so a two partners per person. Recently my girlfriend messed around with another guy, which I typically wouldn't mind but she didn't talk to me or her other partner about it which made me angry, I love her like no other and...
    dfschei dfschei 22-25, M 1 Response Jan 3

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    Always Knew I Was 'different'

    Growing up, I was taught like everyone else that I could only have one true love; that loving more than one person at a time was cheating, hurtful and wrong.   As I got older and started being in relationships myself, I found it almost impossible to not want to be with...
    Huggyface Huggyface 26-30, F 8 Responses Aug 16, 2008

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    Related Experiences

    Ready for a polyamorous relationship in British Columbia Canada, I am sure the woman of our dreams is out there somewhere.
    247slave4u 247slave4u 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 7

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    My husband and I are very curious and interested about the polygamous lifestyle. We have recently decided to have an open marriage and are swingers with other couples from our...
    birthdaypartyforme birthdaypartyforme 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 1

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    I like when guys pee in me as i ride them
    100slut 100slut 18-21, M 2 Responses Apr 6

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    I find I may be polyamorous "in some ways"--that is if I compare my definition and hopes for it with my currently, possibly flawed perception of the poly lifestyle. I believe that...
    Wonderatrix Wonderatrix 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 29

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    I have been married once so I am familiar with monogamy. I know the downside and the upside of it very well. My curiousity in polygamy stems from the fact that our society is not...
    carlyistortious carlyistortious 22-25, F 5 Responses Mar 20

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