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I Am Polyamorous

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    My Boyfriend, My Girlfriend, And Me.

    I have been with my fiance for 8 years now and with my girlfriend for one year. My fiance has known since before we got together that I am (and always have been, as far as I can remember) bisexual. I also told him I could not see a future for me without female partners in it. He...
    cutieplaything cutieplaything 31-35, F Nov 19, 2013

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    Awesome weekend with my wife

    and our partner. We didn't do anything that requires us to leave the house. Kids were out of town and we didn't even get out of PJs. Awesome movie and Super Bowl weekend.
    Lovein3s Lovein3s 46-50, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    We have been married

    for well over a decade and have been together for much longer than that. While most of our life we have been strictly monogamous, we have not been vanilla. Recently we've moved into opening up our bedroom and learning to share each other with other people. It has been the...
    PaintedPoemCpl PaintedPoemCpl 41-45 7 Responses Aug 30, 2014

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    Being in a poly relationship made me feel

    so free. I'm never going back to monogamy. Ever.
    ladysapio ladysapio 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 1, 2015

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    Today i realized how much being rejected by

    women hurts my wife even though she longs for a lasting relationship with one. I think she is starting to feel like she can't have both me and a woman but doesn't want to loose me. Maybe its just the fear of judgement and rejection.
    hidden0ne hidden0ne 31-35, M 6 Responses Jan 30

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    It took me years to realize that

    for me I'm happiest when I'm with someone who is also open minded and polyamorous:) Now just to find Mr Right.
    Roxy1114 Roxy1114 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 17, 2014

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    It's been a rocky year,

    between the transition from mono to poly and planning a wedding/getting married at the same time, but after the smoke finally cleared and everything settled down, I'm in a marriage with a woman I love, and dating a wonderful woman whose boyfriend I really get along with. I also...
    SomeoneMaybe SomeoneMaybe 36-40, M 3 Responses Jan 9

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    That moment you realize your "mono" friends may

    not be so mono after all.... And you realize they may be trying to date you and your husband.....
    sugarbabysub sugarbabysub 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 28

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    I Get It.

    I've been haunting polyamory forums ever since my boyfriend-turned-husband mentioned he is polyamorous. I had no idea of the concept before I read about it, and it made a lot of sense, but it seemed very risky. It seemed many bad things, so much so that I ended up on webpages...
    Wonderatrix Wonderatrix 31-35, F 3 Responses Nov 26, 2011

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    To me I've always felt this way,

    it seemed strange to limit who I could love to just one person, and I think it's more natural for us to have many loving relationships.
    ashtt ashtt 22-25, F 9 Responses Sep 11, 2014

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    The truth came out today.

    She told me that I started reminding her if her ex-girlfriend. Apparently, I m a cruel ***** because I tried to help her through a difficult situation and she kept focusing on the negative no matter what I said and I got fed up with it. Truth be told, she reminds me of people...
    sugarbabysub sugarbabysub 31-35, F 4 Responses Dec 28, 2015

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    Not to be confused with swinging,

    whoring around, or being a pervert. My perversions are entirely separate from my relationship lifestyle, thank you.
    teadaze teadaze 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 22, 2014

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    A Little Unconventional

    i guess its not quite a lifestyle for everyone. it wasnt really easy for me for a long time to get to grips with being in love, sexually/physically as well as on the emotional side, with two people, but now i couldnt be happier. i first met my girlfriend when i was 20 (and she 17...
    AirheadSmiles AirheadSmiles 22-25, F 6 Responses Aug 24, 2013

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    Poly Proud

    I look around me at the veritable sea of monogamous relationships from my little island of polyamory, and I feel and incredible sense of pride. I was raised by a very liberal mother, who despite being what amounts to a bohemian gypsy, still told me from the very beginning of my...
    Fayerweather Fayerweather 36-40, F 5 Responses Nov 13, 2012

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    I spent my day with my two men,

    moving the rest of Beans stuff from his old house to our house. It's officially official now. Well he's been there since November but I'll love adding his personal stuff to our house. Having them as part of my triad is just amazing :)
    RowmanTriad RowmanTriad 22-25, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I miss my gf. The last 2 nights were amazingly

    wonderful . Glad to be home in a sense because I missed my husband and my fur babies but I still wish I was laying on her chest snuggling and just enjoying each other's company . We don't get much time alone
    ArtsyFaerie32 ArtsyFaerie32 31-35, F May 24, 2015

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    I've been in a prolly relationship

    for about two years, but haven't found anyone who's really clicked. My partner didn't get along with our first attempt. Recently we found a woman who is infatuated with us, my partner and I like her a lot, but I see qualities in her that don't match with ours. She'll be fun to...
    Jinx2cherry Jinx2cherry 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 26

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    Today, he is acting like nothing happened.

    I feel jerked around. I want to be strong and not be a bother during what is probably a difficult time for him. However, don't I deserve to know where I stand?
    sugarbabysub sugarbabysub 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 4

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    I am in a new and confusing situations which,

    after much research, the best description of is polyamory. I have been with my husband for five years, married for two and have a one year old son. I also am in love with my best friend (male) who is also married (and also in love with me). We both love our respective spouses...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 27, 2015

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    I'm new to this life perspective.

    It was like something clicked when I discovered polyamory. I'm also finding it hard to come out as poly. I've already come out once because I just assumed I was homosexual. Its an odd situation to have to come out a second time.
    BenEvan10 BenEvan10 22-25, M 6 Responses Jan 21

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    I want a relationship in

    which I stay married to my husband but find the right lesbian partner too. Does this sound realistic? Who would actually agree to this kind of lifestyle...
    sosieq sosieq 26-30, F 8 Responses Feb 4, 2014

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    DaddyTonyB DaddyTonyB 36-40, M Jan 29

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    It would be nice to have a good,

    serious conversation with someone about this
    zellanna zellanna 26-30, F 8 Responses a week ago

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    Of course, now, after telling me

    that my relationship with him is separate from my relationship with her, he is taking her side. Why wouldn't he, right? Do I respect the boundaries set by our D/s dynamic, and try to salvage a friendship wth Him? Or do I just end it on my own? My heart is hurting so badly. It...
    sugarbabysub sugarbabysub 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 29, 2015

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    I discovered I was polyamorous

    when I was 22 years old. I'm 27 now and with two of the best men in my life I could ever ask for!! I've had many crushes on the way, but none of them understand that I'm not the type to cheat... So I won't be opening my heart up to anyone new, anytime soon. To my boys, Nick and...
    TenderBeauty TenderBeauty 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 26, 2015

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    Well I dropped the poly-bomb on A yesterday in

    the car as we were going back to my place. I was really nervous to have the conversation and I just kind of spewed the whole thing out...stressing the fact that these relationships were completely independent and that I wasn't trying to get her into a 3 some. Lol. She was...
    SweetHeresy SweetHeresy 26-30, F 4 Responses Dec 30, 2015

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    I am Poly and I don't have to be to be happy.

    Single or even a monogamous relationship can bring happiness. I just like being pushed to be better. May not always be but having help makes getting going again easier.
    hidden0ne hidden0ne 31-35, M Jan 2

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    I started an instagram account specifically to

    connect with other poly couples and families. we're pretty new to being a triad and we would like other people to connect with and that understand. Rowman_triad :)
    RowmanTriad RowmanTriad 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 28

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    My Reason For Polyamory

    I feel that relationships which are based around fortifying and feeding the self-worth of yourself and your partner are deleterious to the phenomenon of true, selfless love. True, selfless love is ego-free. Without the desire to feed the ego, there is no jealousy when the loved...
    saintbryan saintbryan 18-21, M 10 Responses Dec 15, 2007

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    My boyfriend and I want a woman

    for a long term relationship. A honest person is very important. And someone who is willing to accept our flaws.
    angelaandmikel angelaandmikel 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 30, 2015

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    I'm so in love. Squee!

    !!! I wish I could shout it from the rooftops. He touches me and my heart skips a beat. She kisses me and I glow. How did I get so lucky?!?
    sugarbabysub sugarbabysub 31-35, F 7 Responses Apr 1, 2015

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    I'm five months into my first polyamorous

    relationship with two men, one being my husband of two years, and it's honestly the best relationship I've ever been in. We are so all open with each other, both those men love me to the moon and back just like I love them and they're best friends so there's no competition...
    RowmanTriad RowmanTriad 22-25, F 7 Responses Jan 27

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    Poly and Proud!

    I discovered poly after I was already practicing! Currently, I live with two partners and play with more, though I'm only fully sexual with the two primaries. We are not in a triad, but we play with mostly the same people. I enjoy the family aspects of polyamoury, and the...
    silvermoon silvermoon 31-35 7 Responses Oct 24, 2007

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    Something is happening.

    He said he was sorry for wasting my time, and said he was a fool for not seeing things as they are. Stay tuned for updates.
    sugarbabysub sugarbabysub 31-35, F 3 Responses Jan 3

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    Random Thoughts Of My Poly Life

    I am polyamorous. I am not looking for a third partner to "enhance" my relationship. I am not looking for what is little more than a live sex toy to help "fix" my partner and my sex life. I am not "curious" to "explore" being poly. I happened to fall in love with a man...
    Persephyne27 Persephyne27 26-30, F 6 Responses Jul 27, 2013

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    gothikprince gothikprince 31-35, M Jan 29

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    Poly

    When I try and explain my feelings about relationships to most people, they see me as a loose person just looking for more people to ****. This couldn't be farther from the truth. When I first started "dating" I found myself getting mixed up with more than one person. Not because...
    charismaticenigma charismaticenigma 22-25, F 7 Responses Aug 23, 2013

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    I am poly and bi. I identified

    as poly in high school. I had a few open relationships in high school and college, but due to time and energy, began to default to monogamy. -- I found my husband after an emotionally and sexually abusive relationship. My husband is truly kind and our interests and talent are a...
    frostyflower frostyflower 31-35, F 8 Responses Aug 18, 2015

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    My Poly Journey

    When I first became involved with my boyfriend D, He insisted that the relationship be an open one. He'd never been in an open or poly relationship, but he'd wanted to live that way for many years. I'd grown up with some pain and loss and the idea of sharing the person I love...
    Fayerweather Fayerweather 36-40, F 5 Responses Oct 17, 2012

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    I'm in a poly relationship

    but struggling with my secondary boyfriends need to keep dating more and more women. I hate that I'm jealous but I am. it makes me feel not enough.
    amiwithstars amiwithstars 26-30, F 6 Responses Jan 5

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    My Feelings About Polyamory

    I have known for awhile that I was polyamorous because I don't believe in monogamy in terms of the societal norm of thinking that one person can satisfy all your needs. I believe in loving multiple people because each relationship with each person is unique and you can get...
    Fall123 Fall123 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    Connections

    For me, it is best to keep my connections loose. Nothing in life stays the same, and yet most people pretend that love and desire are immune to the passage of time. People evolve, and grow and move. Change is inevitable. And if the connections I make are tight, if they have very...
    Fayerweather Fayerweather 36-40, F 4 Responses May 27, 2013

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    ManifestoOfThePhoenix ManifestoOfThePhoenix 26-30, M Dec 28, 2015

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    Lightbulb moment! I think I had a breakthrough

    today while catching up on Poly: Married & Dating. On my end, the reason there is tension between me and Sir's slave/wife, might have something to do with feeling jilted when she said she didn't want a relationship with me if He and I were going to be in a relationship. I don't...
    sugarbabysub sugarbabysub 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 27

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    sugarbabysub sugarbabysub 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 30

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