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I Am Polyamorous

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    Looking for some feedback.

    How have people explained poly relationships to their kids? Other family members?
    LookingForIt987 LookingForIt987 41-45, M 5 Responses Jan 23

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    Connections

    For me, it is best to keep my connections loose. Nothing in life stays the same, and yet most people pretend that love and desire are immune to the passage of time. People evolve, and grow and move. Change is inevitable. And if the connections I make are tight, if they have very...
    Fayerweather Fayerweather 36-40, F 4 Responses May 27, 2013

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    I want a relationship in

    which I stay married to my husband but find the right lesbian partner too. Does this sound realistic? Who would actually agree to this kind of lifestyle...
    sosieq sosieq 26-30, F 8 Responses Feb 4, 2014

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    I found out yesterday

    that my husband's girlfriend is unexpectedly pregnant. I don't know how to feel. I am completely numb right now. I'm not really mad, I know it wasn't done on purpose or anything.
    koiress koiress 26-30, F 5 Responses Mar 22

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    Multi-Loving not "Open Relationship".

    ... am I alone in that I need to be in love to have sex? I am not into casual sex, but I want to love all the people that actually want to love me. I feel so alone in this point of view.
    TheWomanWhoDid TheWomanWhoDid 36-40 8 Responses Jul 25, 2014

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    I've just recently begun to say I'm polyamorous

    out loud. Just the idea of it put all of my past relationships into perspective. The caged bird feeling. Why I was always an emotional yoyo. That alone feels great. The thought of it makes me smile. Makes me finally feel free, but also as if I've stepped out of the closet...
    KareemAndre KareemAndre 22-25, M 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    I am in a monogamous relationship.

    I am curious as to what polyamorous means. I love my partner but I desire one or two other intimate and meaningful relationships, as well. What are the "rules" to be polyamorous? Do both of the main partners need to be polyamorous? Thank you.
    Joei005 Joei005 46-50, M 4 Responses Jan 17

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    So, I'm pretty new to accepting this.

    I've thought of it for a few years (I'm 18) but I could never really decide. I have a girlfriend currently, and at first when I admitted it to her she said she was perfectly okay with it. But I noticed she was acting down and such and she admitted she felt like she wasn't good...
    WanderingNotQuiteLost WanderingNotQuiteLost 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 29, 2014

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    currently in a longtime relationship with a lady

    who is very monogomous. about 3-4 months ago a friend of hers moved in with us and we were all sexually active with each other. but my girlfriend decided it wasn't for her and basically pushed the other female out. well. I'm miserable and I feel very alone most of the time. I...
    sabortoooth sabortoooth 26-30, M 2 Responses Dec 26, 2014

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    It took me years to realize that

    for me I'm happiest when I'm with someone who is also open minded and polyamorous:) Now just to find Mr Right.
    Roxy1114 Roxy1114 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 17, 2014

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    I am seriously battling my jealousy.

    With everything going on, I feel very much like she is trying to be me or replace me with my husband. I know in my head she isn't but she keeps taking all my ideas and plans for things and trying to change them or use them for herself.
    koiress koiress 26-30, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    I would love to be in a poly relationship,

    I'm bisexual and find that I miss aspects from both genders when in mono relatuonships
    Shikeji Shikeji 22-25, M 1 Response Jan 31

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    To me I've always felt this way,

    it seemed strange to limit who I could love to just one person, and I think it's more natural for us to have many loving relationships.
    ashtt ashtt 22-25, F 7 Responses Sep 11, 2014

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    We have been married

    for well over a decade and have been together for much longer than that. While most of our life we have been strictly monogamous, we have not been vanilla. Recently we've moved into opening up our bedroom and learning to share each other with other people. It has been the...
    PaintedPoemCpl PaintedPoemCpl 36-40 6 Responses Aug 30, 2014

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    The thing is, my partner isn't AND we've opted

    not to label our relationship because it's long distance and fairly new, which makes everything quite complicated. I would like to be able to have relationships with other people, but she wouldn't like that because she knows she'd get jealous, but she doesn't want to tell me...
    mokkingjay mokkingjay 18-21, T Dec 28, 2014

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    My Crazy Dream

    Well, right now, I have a husband and four loves.  I'm inspired by the works of Robert Heinlein and we are hoping for some sort of line marriage arrangement down the line.  We have dreams of a commune and all sorts of happiness and good times.
    snuzzlejunkie snuzzlejunkie 26-30, F 5 Responses Jun 11, 2007

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    Poly

    When I try and explain my feelings about relationships to most people, they see me as a loose person just looking for more people to ****. This couldn't be farther from the truth. When I first started "dating" I found myself getting mixed up with more than one person. Not because...
    charismaticenigma charismaticenigma 22-25, F 7 Responses Aug 23, 2013

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    My boyfriend and I are looking

    for a third, (female). We have been happily together for six years and have yet to be successful in finding the right fit. We live in Northern California east bay area. We are eager for suggestions and inquiries.
    ksc3 ksc3 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 11, 2014

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    My Reason For Polyamory

    I feel that relationships which are based around fortifying and feeding the self-worth of yourself and your partner are deleterious to the phenomenon of true, selfless love. True, selfless love is ego-free. Without the desire to feed the ego, there is no jealousy when the loved...
    saintbryan saintbryan 18-21, M 10 Responses Dec 15, 2007

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    Poly Proud

    I look around me at the veritable sea of monogamous relationships from my little island of polyamory, and I feel and incredible sense of pride. I was raised by a very liberal mother, who despite being what amounts to a bohemian gypsy, still told me from the very beginning of my...
    Fayerweather Fayerweather 36-40, F 5 Responses Nov 13, 2012

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    Hubby has a second date tonight with his new

    girlfriend and I'm so excited & nervous & turned on. I feel like it's my date! LOL
    moonmaiden69 moonmaiden69 31-35, F 9 Responses Dec 5, 2014

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    I May Be Polyamorous

    I have been involved three times in a multiple relationship. Twice in a MMF and once in a MFF. They didn't work out for various reasons. I still think it is a workable thing (YMMV). One thing I really hate is that newbies who don't understand what the word means will think it...
    alstephens alstephens 46-50, M 11 Responses Mar 16, 2013

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    I am having the best experience of my life.

    .I have made amazing poly friends who continue to test my value boundaries with lots of discussions...but the brightest moments come from my mono best friends..Who are making my poly concepts part of their everyday vocabulary...The one that makes them giggle is referencing their...
    warriormama warriormama 41-45, F 6 Responses Mar 21

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    My Poly Journey

    When I first became involved with my boyfriend D, He insisted that the relationship be an open one. He'd never been in an open or poly relationship, but he'd wanted to live that way for many years. I'd grown up with some pain and loss and the idea of sharing the person I love...
    Fayerweather Fayerweather 36-40, F 6 Responses Oct 17, 2012

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    Im Poly :)

    Im currently in a Poly Triad.  The couple i join'd with are married.  Thus far things go well, we're trying to find a house so that we can all live together.  none of us have children at this time, but we would like to in the future, we live in Michigan and have a...
    Simplysloan Simplysloan 18-21, F 24 Responses Nov 24, 2006

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    Poly and Proud!

    I discovered poly after I was already practicing! Currently, I live with two partners and play with more, though I'm only fully sexual with the two primaries. We are not in a triad, but we play with mostly the same people. I enjoy the family aspects of polyamoury, and the...
    silvermoon silvermoon 31-35 6 Responses Oct 24, 2007

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    I think that you can be in more

    than one sexual/romantic relationship at one time. It's not all that hard to understand.
    brokenbutalive brokenbutalive 16-17, T 1 Response Jun 16, 2014

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    Not to be confused with swinging,

    whoring around, or being a pervert. My perversions are entirely separate from my relationship lifestyle, thank you.
    teadaze teadaze 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 22, 2014

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    I am a new poly girl

    although it was all my idea my hubby wasn't on good terms with the mother of his other child and we didn't not get along bcos our children are 1 month apart (both 2 now) and she felt like he chose me over her bcos neither of us were seriously dating him i dated him monogamously...
    prettypolyprincess prettypolyprincess 18-21, F 7 Responses Jan 7, 2014

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    I Get It.

    I've been haunting polyamory forums ever since my boyfriend-turned-husband mentioned he is polyamorous. I had no idea of the concept before I read about it, and it made a lot of sense, but it seemed very risky. It seemed many bad things, so much so that I ended up on webpages...
    Wonderatrix Wonderatrix 31-35, F 5 Responses Nov 26, 2011

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    totally!!!! i have a boyfriend.

    . yet im still getting gaga over other guys. i had once an MU before apart from my bf.. i love that MU. i also love my bf.. but i rejected my MU and never talked to him before jusy because of the guilt that i am engaging in infidelity!!!!!! i thought i was so abormal loving two...
    blitzkrieg7 blitzkrieg7 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 6

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    I am a polyamorous black man in a predominantly

    white part of the United States. I am currently with a woman I love very much who is also seeing someone she greatly enjoys. The problem I am having is that I can't get a date to save my life. I am no slouch by any means. I am fit, attractive, reasonably intelligent, and always...
    Wanderartist Wanderartist 31-35, M 3 Responses Feb 27

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    I've only ever been close to being in a poly

    relationship. It was one of those where they all live together, had the 'master' of the house and such. I was going to actually be a secondary for Tigirus as was her nickname, but they got really controlling and ended up in us of numerous arugments. It was one of those cases...
    WanderingNotQuiteLost WanderingNotQuiteLost 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 1, 2014

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    So I'm curious as to what the hell is going on.

    I'm in a relationship with my wife and girlfriend. But my girlfriend just seems to be getting so distant. I told her months ago that I didn't know if I could feel about her the way I feel about my wife. She's told me that she always feels second or something similar. She brings...
    canyouhearthedrums canyouhearthedrums 26-30, M 4 Responses Feb 1

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    There are so many things i still struggle with.

    ..like a "monogamy hangover" am comfortable building connections with single people...It naturally takes me a long time to feel a strong emotional connection ....However, the minute a polyfriend makes his other relationships known to me...Something really bad happens i just want...
    warriormama warriormama 41-45, F 5 Responses 5 days ago

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    My journey into poly life really started about 1

    and a half ago when I started discussing it with my husband. It didn't come to the forefront until about 6 months ago when I met someone I wanted a romantic relationship with. There was a lot of emotion and things to work through but we have learnt a lot, have made connections...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jan 30

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    Hello. My wife and I are in a triad.

    It's a long story but the short version is that our third is our room mate that moved in last year. We both love her very much and she loves us. We were all happy and I feel as if I'm screwing everything up. My wife went to seek a friends with benefits type thing and...I can't...
    canyouhearthedrums canyouhearthedrums 26-30, M 8 Responses Dec 29, 2014

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    Random Thoughts Of My Poly Life

    I am polyamorous. I am not looking for a third partner to "enhance" my relationship. I am not looking for what is little more than a live sex toy to help "fix" my partner and my sex life. I am not "curious" to "explore" being poly. I happened to fall in love with a man...
    Persephyne27 Persephyne27 26-30, F 7 Responses Jul 27, 2013

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    I have too much love to give

    for just one person :p I was introduced to the lifestyle when I was pretty young, and I've fallen in love with it. It fits me too perfectly! I'm not jealous or controlling, and sometimes there are things I can't get from one person that I can from another.
    EllieGendron EllieGendron 18-21, F 7 Responses May 22, 2014

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    I've always been comfortable with the idea

    that people love each other. I met two girls at the same time at the Disneyworld campground when I was 15 and spent the whole day kissing both of them and feeling the compersion from each as they shared me between themselves. I'd had girlfriends but never two and it felt fine...
    pcflvly pcflvly 46-50, M 2 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    My Boyfriend, My Girlfriend, And Me.

    I have been with my fiance for 8 years now and with my girlfriend for one year. My fiance has known since before we got together that I am (and always have been, as far as I can remember) bisexual. I also told him I could not see a future for me without female partners in it. He...
    cutieplaything cutieplaything 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 19, 2013

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    My Feelings About Polyamory

    I have known for awhile that I was polyamorous because I don't believe in monogamy in terms of the societal norm of thinking that one person can satisfy all your needs. I believe in loving multiple people because each relationship with each person is unique and you can get...
    Fall123 Fall123 36-40, F 4 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    Last night my fiance & I went to a hotel with

    one of my friends. Me and him had plans to try to turn her out cause I know she's a freak in the past me and her had a 3 sum and everyrhing. So when we finally got there we was drinking and got so messed up to the point she wanted to do it. He had sex with her infront of my face...
    bonnieloyalty bonnieloyalty 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 8

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    I'm still "curious" about this lifestyle.

    I realized to divide is NOT to take away. I want to indulge. Can we all just fall in love?
    polylovhers polylovhers 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 27, 2014

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    obviously I'm Polyamorous otherwise I wouldn't

    be posting here but I'm also Pansexual and the main thing I want to post about will be explicit. so if you are sensitive/easily offended please DON'T read on. any negative comments will be ignored/deleted. It comes down to the fact that if you don't have anything nice to say...
    LewisCollins LewisCollins 31-35 1 Response Dec 21, 2014

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    This is a topic I have really struggled with,

    and am just newly accepting. As a teen, I was in a relationship where it was understood that it may one day turn into something polygamous. After coming to terms with all of the religious and cultural things I have been told my entire life and seeking out the truth of the matter...
    WeMermaid WeMermaid 18-21, F 6 Responses Feb 24

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    FayeSeashells FayeSeashells 26-30, F