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I Am Queer

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 539 People

    Queer doesn’t mean “don’t label me,

    ” it means “I am naming myself.” It means “ask me more questions if you're curious” and in the same breath means “**** off.”
    InhuldibleCrelk InhuldibleCrelk 36-40 Aug 23, 2014

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    I recently came out to some of my closer friends

    as being nonbinary, more specifically as an agender demigirl. I guess I was surprised at how accepting they were and how readily they switched to they/them pronouns by my request. I just feel very loved and I'm glad I have them. I realize that as a dfab individual I won't...
    CincinnatiSubway CincinnatiSubway 18-21, T 1 Response May 24, 2014

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    yes after years of hiding it denying it i

    accepted myself and my choice of sexual partners i desire men and when i was called that the first time after accepting myself I smiled and said yes i am a queer and love it
    alexiswcd alexiswcd 56-60, T Nov 3, 2015

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    I am queer and gender nonconforming.

    Sometimes I don't know whether I feel like a masculine girl or a feminine boy.
    Kaitowonder Kaitowonder 26-30, M 2 Responses May 3, 2015

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    Being A Bit Left Out

    I am bisexual - I have interest in both male and female. Due to this, putting on comments to both sex is very natural for me, but things are bit conservative in my neighborhood. I didn't make a coming-out to anyone yet, so people look on me as a bit sensitive person, or sometimes...
    fraudi fraudi 22-25 Aug 18, 2013

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    sassycastiel sassycastiel 18-21, F Jun 7, 2015

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    THE Girl Gotta Girlfriend..pls comment..updated

    T o make a long story short...theres this girl at my job.... she was the 1st sexy female that I saw on my 1st day at work. I never said anything to her cuz everytime we walk past each other we're both on the phone n plus I dont get to see her that often cuz we work different...
    phillyzbossfemme phillyzbossfemme 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 17, 2008

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    Getting to be really pissed about how many

    LGBT+ areas are made to cater to cishets. Allies need to stop.
    CincinnatiSubway CincinnatiSubway 18-21, T 1 Response May 25, 2014

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    I Am Queer, But I Haven't Acted On It.

    I never thought I was going to act on my queer feelings because I've been in a heterosexual relationship for the last 4 years and I want it to last forever. But lately my partner has introduced the idea of opening our relationship physically to same sex relations, especially for...
    marisatw marisatw 22-25 1 Response Aug 20, 2013

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    Sounding The All Queer Signal

    Hi ladies, gents, womyn, bois, cis-, trans, and everyone who is not heteronormative! I'm queer. I'm out. I've been out since I was 14, so that's nearly twenty years now. If you want to get down to the three main categories of sexual attraction, I'm bisexual. I'm more...
    twelvetwelve twelvetwelve 36-40, F 3 Responses Apr 1, 2013

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    I think my mum is starting to figure out I'm

    not straight and honestly I don't know how I feel.
    kiaNope kiaNope 18-21, F Nov 27, 2015

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    I need advice. I'm socially awkward

    and gender weird. think this gal is interested in me. She's same age as me. It seems that I don't choose the people in my life they kinda just show up. She said I was cute and touched my hair. I said "I'm not a poodle." She laughed. She asked for my number. She might just be...
    NotApplicable NotApplicable 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 12, 2014

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    Women are so friendly I can't tell

    if they're gay for me or just being nice or maybe they're just weirdly comfortable around me. Who knows? I'm autistic. It's hard to read people. So the "gayarde" I do not have.
    NotApplicable NotApplicable 22-25, F Jan 3, 2015

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    Loud & proud! For so long I was treated

    so poorly by my family & peers. They though I was SO weird. Then when everyone got older they thought I was "interesting" lol funny how that happens. People still think I'm weird but when on doubt, freak em out!
    Aphilli00 Aphilli00 22-25, F Apr 3, 2015

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    Can I Be Queer?

    I am going to lay it out there and see where the chips fall. I am a 24 year old man and have been with my partner (female) for 8 years. I enjoy sexual activity with her and I have fathered a son, for whom my love knows no end. However, I am living a lie. I am attracted to men...
    queeraz queeraz 18-21 3 Responses Feb 13, 2008

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    Never really liked the term,

    it has been used so negatively by so many Homophobes/ hypocrites I prefer gay and they show their ignorance but I do carry the classification proudly...
    alexiswcd alexiswcd 56-60, T 1 Response Nov 2, 2015

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    If you haven’t read Every Day by David

    Levithan, I’d highly recommend it. It’s narrated by A, who is seemingly non-binary.
    InhuldibleCrelk InhuldibleCrelk 36-40 Aug 29, 2014

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    I'm Queer!

    I'm just sitting in a Women's Studies class and got inspired. I've struggled with defining myself and finding where I fit in this world for a long time. At one time I thought maybe I'm trans, I said that I was bisexual for a long time, ecetera. Nothing ever felt right though...
    Callisto24 Callisto24 22-25 1 Response Feb 13, 2012

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    Fun thing about Hispanics,

    Cubans specifically is that they are perverted as hell but also weirdly religious. They curse and talk about their crotches but the idea of being gay or trams is totally taboo. Maybe it's the machismo bullshit. Hypocrites these folks are hypocrites. This is coming from a Cuban...
    NotApplicable NotApplicable 22-25, F Aug 19, 2014

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    My experiences about figuring out my gender

    and sexuality keep getting deleted. I feel a little attacked because I'm not breaking any of the guidelines (I just re-read them to make sure). My gender and sexual orientation should not be something that is getting blocked on this website. I came to EP a few years ago...
    StrangeDarkSecrets StrangeDarkSecrets 16-17, T 1 Response Nov 7, 2014

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    Weird

    I am queer. I am not a homosexual because I have loving relationships with those who identify as male. I am not bisexual, because bi means two and there are more than two genders. Queer means many things. It has allusions to political activism, and it is a word that we had to...
    silvermoon silvermoon 31-35 2 Responses Oct 29, 2007

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    It Feels Rather Good To Say "i'm Queer"

    So, yeah. I'm queer. You know, the first time I openly acknowledged it was in the counseling office a few days ago. Weird, eh? Well, yeah, I told my counselor about my first--and so far only--relationship with a girl. It lasted all of two months, but I mean it was pretty friggin...
    alponder alponder 22-25 2 Responses Mar 16, 2012

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    Just in the fact that I have a very odd

    sexuality. Romantically, I identify as panromantic. I feel like I could be in a loving relationship with just about anyone, regardless of who they are or what they identify as. Sexually, I feel like I'm homosexual, but I'd be willing to be with a man(cis in particular) if I...
    Inadine Inadine 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 5, 2014

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    I wear short, shorts all the time I have very

    good-looking legs like to show them off.
    Rossie1703 Rossie1703 26-30, M 4 Responses Sep 20, 2014

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    Queer Little Me <3

    There's nothing in this world that i would rather be than queer little me! I remember juggling the labels around in this circus called my life and thinking to myself I would so rather be the bearded lady... but enough of that seriously college was the biggest coming out and...
    Nerd6986 Nerd6986 26-30, F Aug 25, 2012

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    As trans woman, I don't consider myself

    straight (not attracted to just men or cis women), while I think I don't really fit into gay. I identify as queer, very much so. I consider myself a lesbian-ish panromantic, demisexual.
    brownowleyes brownowleyes 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 10

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    some men mostly noncis men

    but lesbian isn't right but I actually don't know haven't dated in a while.
    ladeputy ladeputy 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 8, 2014

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    This Is How I Came Out ...

    So I guess when I start thinking about my sexuality and it's manifestations, I feel like I should have know when I was little that I was going to be a little weird. I remember being young (like a little little kid) and playing house/doctor, whatever it's called, with my little...
    Pachis Pachis 22-25, F May 8, 2013

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    I Wont Say I Am

    but definatly different like how many guys do you know that dont own any guys trousers socks or underear? they are all womens and i love it
    christinemelody christinemelody 56-60, T 1 Response Jun 3, 2013

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    FYI: the only person

    who can determine what labels and identities are valid and applicable to you is yourself. Don't ever let someone try to question or erase your identity. You deserve better.
    InhuldibleCrelk InhuldibleCrelk 36-40 Aug 24, 2014

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    I didn't choose the queer life.

    The queer life chose me!
    NotApplicable NotApplicable 22-25, F Aug 28, 2014

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    Happy Queer

    I love men and always have and I believe the its ok to be gay, because I was born queer and when I was little I liked boys and now I love guys, I believe same sex marriages, t our right to love who ever u want!! Also its so nice when two people fall in love for love,so I am...
    Happyqueer50 Happyqueer50 46-50 Jan 20, 2013

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    2 women in my Facebook I think are into me.

    One says I'm cute a lot which could be how she talks. Who knows? The other one lives too far away. Awkwardness. I'm on asexual spectrum. And am gender queer. A man from the past is messaging me now. I think he still likes me, might even still love me. Sometimes I like attention...
    NotApplicable NotApplicable 22-25, F Nov 10, 2014

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    My real name is Brad

    and I am 58. I call myself Roxi....I will try and be quite honest and candid with you....I was asexual when I was growing up and going to school....I think most people (in school) were asexual, THEN....
    roxyehh roxyehh 51-55 Apr 14, 2015

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    Cryingsmile Cryingsmile 16-17, T 4 Responses Jul 23, 2014

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    Is a 19 year old female too young

    for me? For dating and stuff. We really get along and agree on most things. I'll just play it by ear. If she's immature I'll stop.
    NotApplicable NotApplicable 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 30, 2014

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    Just Queer.

    Earlier tonight I opened up Word and started typing.  I want to understand myself, I want to learn to be happy, learn what I want in life and then find a way to make it happen.  Over the course of writing, I came to a lot of new conclusions.  Thus far, it's helping and I feel...
    themegaloo themegaloo 22-25 4 Responses Aug 10, 2011

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    borderlinecassandra borderlinecassandra 16-17, T Jan 29, 2015

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    Hi all! This is my first time back on this site

    in a while. I'm changing a few things up, as some are a bit inaccurate nowadays, but my experiences remain the same. If anyone would like to connect, shoot me a message :)
    ActWriteLive ActWriteLive 18-21, F Dec 27, 2014

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    Smoldering fire of hearts desire Compassion overwhelming Longing for release Dancing beneath a winters moon Words are meaningless Tonight I see the truth The holes in the hopes The...
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