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I Am Quiet, Shy and Socially Incompetent

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    Being shy sucks. I just need to put

    that out there. IT SUCKS. Nobody is ever like, oh yeah that quiet girl in the corner, she's so cool! I wanna party with her! Nope. That **** don't happen. Everybody wants to talk to the people who are outgoing, funny, and good talkers. That person could be a jerk wad, but that's...
    popcorngoo popcorngoo 18-21, F 3 Responses Oct 11

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    Solitude

    I realized how much of a solituded person I am and actually prefer it , I just don't like being around people 24/7 despite having to work or go to school , my family doesn't get me at all since they're all open and extroverted . They all get mad if I don't want to be around them...
    stasia191 stasia191 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 12, 2013

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    According To Everyone Else I Am

    on all of my school reports; nice quiet girl, should talk more in class but a pleasure to teach.i never thought of myself as quiet when i was younger, or even shy. i just respected my elders and didn't talk in class, i thought i was being respectful, teachers thought i was shy.i...
    HiddenFallenAngel HiddenFallenAngel 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 7, 2012

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    Loner

    At school I have two people I enjoy talking to, but I don't see them so often. One is a senoir at my high school and I only talk to her in P.E., and the other I wait for her to get out of her biology class and we hug talk a little and carry on to our next class. After fourth...
    Maggotgirl Maggotgirl 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 15, 2013

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    Theunheardmovement

    FOR ANYONE WHO IS SHY,QUIET,A SOCIOPATH ETC THIS IS FOR YOU, IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO BE A PART OF THIS AND HELP ME BEGIN THIS ORGINIZATION PLEASE SEND A EMAIL TO theunheardmovement@gmail.com or follow on twitter @UnHeardMovement
    stasia191 stasia191 18-21, F Dec 6, 2012

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    My Shyness Is Making My Life Worse And So Depressing

    Shyness is everyone's problem, but mine is worst. I am a quiet person and much like a shy introvert. I've been very shy since I was in my elementary and it gets worse as I mature. Now, I'm 22, male, and my shyness is really really bad. When I'm still in school, I always get this...
    warriortears warriortears 22-25 10 Responses Dec 3, 2012

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    Me

    I am the girl sitting in the back of the classroom scetching some doodles into my workbooks. Im the girl who walks home alone, and spends her freetime drawing and listening to music. I am the girl who hides in a dark corner to avoid people talking to me. I am the girl who, even...
    FatesNegate FatesNegate 16-17, F 1 Response May 21, 2013

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    I just want to explode into the world.

    But I am trapped in a cage. It is social incompetence. As time goes on, I am afraid..... Afraid for what is inside of me. I must release it now or forever hold it to destroy.
    nigganuts nigganuts 16-17, M Dec 6, 2013

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    I feel like it's really hard to talk to people

    and for them to understand me
    Paragonn Paragonn 66-70, M 1 Response Aug 12

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    Hahaha, this is a funny one!

    But seriously...that pretty much describes me, or does it? Personally it all comes down to being accepted or not with the people around me. I really am open to those who are willing to talk to me and be friends with me but, when I'm the one trying to talk to other people? It's...
    Dragonslayer38 Dragonslayer38 16-17, M Apr 4

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    I've Always Been This Way

    Ever since I can remember, I've always been really shy. I've had friends, and when I have friends I tend to keep them for years because I'm too shy to make new friends.  I'm always really quiet, even around my friends, though sometimes I do become a little more social when I'm...
    FallingStarr FallingStarr 18-21, F 13 Responses Jan 13, 2013

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    Some Encouragement For All Those People Who Call Themselves Shy.

    As a child I was very shy, both my parents were shy/quiet also, not sure if it was something inherited or learned. Now as an adult not so much so, I have learned to not care what others think of me, when feeling shy in a social situation ask a question, most people love t talk...
    sherln55 sherln55 36-40, F 5 Responses Mar 18, 2011

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    Sometimes I Feel Almost Invisible...

    ...and I like it that way. It's so much better not to be noticed at all than to be teased or abused for being yourself. I can't make small talk or tell people I care through my words. Only through my writing and my actions. I'd make a good crazed cat lady, I think. I'm just not a...
    forgetmyname forgetmyname 16-17, F 7 Responses Feb 3, 2008

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    I feel like I'm too different from other people

    my age to act cooly around them, I just freeze there and I feel unable to do anything, fearing that they will judge me if I do so. My family keeps calling me an antisocial and rude because of that and they don't seem to understand that I feel awkward, scared, and worthless...
    raficchi raficchi 13-15, F Apr 4

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    I Speak The Same Language, Yet No One Understands Me

    I had one of those moments when I answered someone's question. They looked at me as if they were a dog who seems confused (you know when it ***** its head to the side). Someone else will then come along provide the same answer using the same terminology, and a lightbulb suddenly...
    pville102 pville102 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 24, 2013

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    I've always been quiet at school

    and one of my friends always points out that I'm quiet and anti-social. I hate it when he says that because I'm not anti-social. Just because someone is quiet, doesn't mean that he or she is anti-social.
    xjazzymainex xjazzymainex 13-15, F 2 Responses Apr 4

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    It's my second week at college

    and I feel kinda bummed that I haven't make really made a lot of friends . My room mate already has a ton of friends and really close friends. And she's always hanging out with them and I'm always alone with in my room.
    quietbird quietbird 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 6

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    Awkard Little Me

    I do have friends. Amazing ones at that that I love so much. But when I'm not around them I shrink up and become so quiet and shy at times it scares me. There are like two sides to me, my (sort of) loud out going, fearless self that I am around my best friend in the whole wide...
    l212 l212 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 7, 2013

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    Ever since this girl first walked into our

    school for the first time, I couldn't take my eyes off her, and I know I probably wasn't the only one gazing at her beauty. Through my mind I was thinking "you know what, I'm gonna try to talk to her, I need to man up, I need to know how to talk to a girl and here's my first...
    elugo123456789 elugo123456789 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 4

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    All of these things seem to have been getting

    worse with time. It's nothing like cheese or wine. ._. I remember when I first came to EP I had a bunch of people in my circle and I would actually talk to them and not get panicky or sweat a bathtub's worth of perspiration. I wasn't good at talking to people or very comfortable...
    Friability Friability 18-21 1 Response Aug 6

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    Very Much So All Of The Above

    Naturally, I am a quiet person and have always been all of my life. More observant than outspoken, I get this trait from my father. Sometimes, though I hate being quiet but there isn't much that I can do or say to come out of my shell. When I do people seem surprised or shocked...
    Dimples87 Dimples87 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 9, 2010

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    I just feel akward around people i don't know.

    like i never know what to say or do. So i don't say much and then people think im weird. I don't usually meet new people unless someone introduces me to them or they approach me. especially women. They scare the hell outta me and im not afraid of much. Which is frustrating...
    TheWickedJester TheWickedJester 26-30, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I Hate It.

    I hate how it takes a while for me to make a friend. I hate it when any conversation I'm in with an acquaintance dribbles down into awkward silence. I hate how, for a while, my closest friend was my dog. I hate knowing that all my friends are a year older than me. I hate the...
    RedheadedWhippersnapper RedheadedWhippersnapper 13-15, F 4 Responses Mar 5, 2013

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    I Am Very Shy

    I have been shy all my life. I don't have any friends cuz i'm too shy to talk to anyone and i guess others don't know how  to talk to me. Music has helped me to a little bit. I've started taking guitar lessons where there are like four or less people in the group. It has really...
    DjStreetSound DjStreetSound 18-21, F Feb 6, 2012

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    Social Anxiety.

    It's ruining my life. I get incredibly anxious when I'm around people I dont know. My social skills are nearly nonexistent... And I dont talk much in general. Being out in public gets me on edge, waiting for something bad to happen. Mind reading is my biggest problem-- when I...
    sometimessunshine sometimessunshine 22-25, F 4 Responses Aug 27, 2013

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    I Think It's Getting Worse..

    I've always been the kind of person who is quiet and has few (though close) friends and have felt most comfortable expressing my feelings through writing. It's come to the point now that if possible I would rather be alone than in a group of more than 10 people, and when it comes...
    casintexas2 casintexas2 22-25 1 Response Dec 17, 2012

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    Quiet As A Mouse

    Tiptoe my way out of stuff
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 16, 2011

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    I Don't Know What To Do

    Um I'll just start off by saying im 15. i constantly doubt myself and that's probably one reason i don't have many friends. Ever since i was a kid, i've been really shy; it was only recently that i started to talk more, but i still feel socially awkward. i don't know anybody i...
    DeniseSG DeniseSG 13-15, F 2 Responses Apr 24, 2012

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    Ever since this girl first walked into our

    school for the first time, I couldn't take my eyes off her, and I know I probably wasn't the only one gazing at her beauty. Through my mind I was thinking "you know what, I'm gonna try to talk to her, I need to man up, I need to know how to talk to a girl and here's my first...
    elugo123456789 elugo123456789 18-21, M Apr 4

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    Until...

    Until I know someone really well and am comfortable with them, then yeah. Even people who've been my friends for almost 4 years, I dread being left in a 1-1 convo, whereas I can be non-shy in a group of them. Just socially incompetent doesn't even begin to cover my all-round...
    maydaybandit maydaybandit 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 10, 2011

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    My Life With Social Anxiety

    I've always been shy. Nobody thought very much of it until I reached middle school, once my shyness got worse. This simple shyness led to extreme social anxiety. Until recently, I never knew what was wrong with me. I thought I was just shy. At school, I would sit alone. People...
    hazelgreeneyes hazelgreeneyes 13-15, F 2 Responses Mar 9, 2012

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    i am so shy its unbelievable i am 43 i am still

    single and male i could never chat up women when i was younger i am technically still a virgin i am a hermit all my friends have settled down and i am a loner i have only just left home and am im so lonely eleven years ago when i was 32 i started having seizures i have between 3...
    defoekeane defoekeane 36-40, M 1 Response Mar 2

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    Everyone that knows me labels me

    as shy, quiet, cute and sweet, and I've been this way my whole life. Just about everyone likes me, although people rarely speak to me, and I can't blame them. I would never voluntarily raise my hand in class, and presentations gave me the jitters. I rarely speak unless spoken...
    ray1357 ray1357 16-17, M 1 Response Mar 24

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    I wish I knew how to socialize better.

    I am so awkward it's crazy and it sucks. It also ruins so many chances.
    yesenia33 yesenia33 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 6, 2013

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    persononinternet persononinternet 16-17, M 1 Response Jan 12

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    Shy Turtle Steps Out - Very Shy, Quiet And Feel Socially Incompetent. Read And Enjoy

    I am profoundly tired and exhausted until late afternoon. Then I get energy to do a few things. I did that today. Walked in woods near park and saw many dogs and talked to people. Went to library after that to borrow a book. Smelled popcorn from open door. It's Tuesday night...
    Johnmil Johnmil 66-70, M 1 Response Aug 6, 2013

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    This might be true for me o_O I don't know

    or really care ^_^' Anyway the only thing ******* me off is constantly getting caught off be EP... Luv ya Betch XD Anyway I was saying my life doesn't really suck so I feel like an extreme d-bag for complaining about it too much... And not the good kind :( Hector: o_O....~_...
    SquirrellyGal2493 SquirrellyGal2493 18-21 Apr 4

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    The Ignored

    I'm a very quiet and well reserved person. I do like people, don't get me wrong, I just can't seem to ever know how to begin a conversation. I know it's probably easy for some people to just say hello and begin talking. I make it a huge deal and begin to wonder "What if they...
    TheGuerrilla TheGuerrilla 18-21, M 4 Responses Feb 20, 2010

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    Be Daring, Bold, Courageous, And Audacious

    I was so extremely shy for years. I still struggle somewhat but no where near how i use to. Here is an article that led me to a very inspiring man who helps in this feild. To those seeking the Extraordinary Life: Hidden deep within you is an unstoppable power. Unstoppable...
    charlesafton charlesafton 41-45, M Mar 11, 2012

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    Shy

    i have been shy ever since well ever. but latley its been wierd. if a teacher calls on me and even if i know the answer i blush so much and say it so quitlyey. its been hard during junior high mainley beacuse i only have a few friends. also for some reason i dont want to fit in...
    Lolspark43 Lolspark43 13-15, F Jan 4, 2013

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    Shy

    I want somme help my life ils awful
    narzisse narzisse 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 19, 2013

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