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I Am Recently Separated

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    My husband and I separated two days ago.

    We were coming up on 19 years this October. During the past I don't even know how many years I have seen our relationship change gradually. I know I have not been the best wife I could have been, but a person can only try so long. When I saw no emotion, or any attempt from him I...
    juscuz76 juscuz76 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 16

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    When the pain of holding on became greater

    than the pain of letting go, I took a deep breath and let it shatter at my feet. I took my first step forward. I feel content, strong and little scared. I am gonna be just fine.
    freefallnc freefallnc 41-45, F 7 Responses Jun 30

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    My First Love Is Over

    why he promised me a thing he couldn't do he knows i feel pain everthg was perfectly right , just the way i wanted we fell in love so quickly & we began to dream . we even planned to get married but when i stated to face major hard problems in my life & unconciously expecting...
    utopialover utopialover 22-25, F Jan 10, 2013

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    "My love for you was bulletproof

    but you're the one who shot me." - Bulletproof love by Pierce The Veil
    Pierce7891 Pierce7891 18-21, F Aug 23, 2014

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    My husband, the sole bread winner

    for our family left us over a week ago and this is not getting any easier. he did not bother to help pay the bills where his children live and is in a completely downward spiral. his ex wife took there sonaccross the country and according to him its all my fault because I didn't...
    shaina381 shaina381 31-35, F Oct 11, 2014

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    My husband left me two weeks ago.

    We have been together for 14 years and married for 7.5. We have 3 beautiful little girls, 5, 3 and 19mos... We have had our fair share of ups and downs. We both try to work on things but then go back to the same ways. He has cheated on me twice (that I know of) and both...
    Corinnarose Corinnarose 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 22

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    I have been married for 25 years.

    During that time I was a pretty good but far from ideal partner. We separated in May. It will be five months on October 1. My wife has been making lots of changes, therapy admissions of wrongs as have I. I needed to earn her trust back which I am doing. My question is how...
    Dlgadlga Dlgadlga 51-55, M 2 Responses Sep 16, 2014

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    Finally Found The Courage But Still Feeling Guilty

    for the past twelve years I have been married and given up my life for my husband to pursue his career. I have taken pay cuts given up promotions and even taken in his mother and sister in our home to show him support. I have helped raised his sister taught her to drive and...
    Silkphi1 Silkphi1 41-45 Nov 18, 2013

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    Trying To Survive

    On May 1st, 2011 my wife of almost 13 years locked me out of our home. We had a fight and I walked out but when I tried to return the next day she denied me access to the house.  From that point on things only went downhill at an alarming rate. The story actually began 18...
    Falcran Falcran 41-45, M Oct 23, 2011

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    Christmases together.

    Birthdays together. A child together. A broken home. I couldn't take the treatment. The screaming. The belittling. The mocking. Being afraid everyday when I went home from work. Being afraid everyday that you could harm me again - harm our child. She's an innocent baby. She...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses May 21, 2014

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    Just Dropped My Kids Off...

    ...and can someone please tell me what the hell am i meant to do with myself now? "There's this emptiness, this utter loneliness, and you ask, What have I done? Why has this happened? The despair of going to the door that was your home, the door to this thing that locked away...
    JimmyWinston JimmyWinston 41-45, M 6 Responses Jun 10, 2012

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    When The Door Closed...

    ...for what I thought was the last time, I didn't even cry. I cried out all of my tears for the many years we were together yet living separate lives. This time he was the one who was crying, and this time I was the one who didn't care. I watched him go down the walk, and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 12, 2012

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    Divorcing but she still wants to live together

    and carry on like nothing has changed... It's very confusing
    DirtiDeedz13 DirtiDeedz13 31-35, M 4 Responses Nov 10, 2014

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    My husband of 11 years move out this week

    after telling me that he no longer loves me or wants to be married to me. I just helped him with a difficult time in his life and him leaving was a slap in the face to me. One day he would tell me he loves me and the next day he would tell me that he couldn't stand to look at me...
    WannaBeHappy19 WannaBeHappy19 31-35, F 3 Responses Jan 18

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    Like the Title Says...

    My girlfriend and I have recently separated. It's too bad really, even if I wanted us back together, I think we have both done and said too much, at least too much for a quick return anyway. I think the cliche time heals all wounds is about the only thing that I can hope on, if...
    RuMoR RuMoR 31-35, M 5 Responses Jul 14, 2007

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    Now What

    I have had a long lasting relationship with the man i truly believed i was going to spend all eternity with....boy was i wrong! My x is an addict I dont truly know why i stuck by him for so long I guess maybe I thought that he was going to change and be the husband and father i...
    ROUGE79 ROUGE79 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 17, 2009

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    We still live in the same house,

    for various reasons. I love him, but he isn't happy. Every night when I go to sleep, in the next room, all I can think about is him walking through that door.
    vanisheDsaRah vanisheDsaRah 22-25 Nov 1, 2014

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    I am recently separated from my husband of 3

    years. We have a beautiful little girl who will be 2 in August (we share a bday, I'll be 28) In the one who wants out of the marriage. I don't love him, and I'm not sure if I ever really did. He is a wonderful man who would do anything for me. He's even going along with the...
    emery26 emery26 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 6

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    Split After 17 Years

    My wife and I split after 17 years of marriage. I thought it was the love of a life time but I guess it was not. It has only been 2 weeks but an it really sucks. Oh well if anyone has any ideas of how to move on let me know. I think she is not interested in getting back together...
    Compengineer Compengineer 41-45, M 2 Responses Mar 15, 2013

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    well if nothing else this introduction to

    separated life has taught me a great deal in a short amount of time to the fact that I am a more emotional person than I realized. it's coming up on 3 weeks ago actually almost a month since my wife decided to move out unexpectedly and the barage of emotions that I've been...
    masmuttor masmuttor 36-40, M 1 Response Aug 19

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    Only The Lonely

    I really would never suggest splitting from a marriage unless every alternative was exhausted. There are a lot of very good reasons to stay in any permanent relationship. Regrettably there are issue that are called irreconcilable differences that surprisingly can happen at any...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 19, 2012

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    I Can'T Let Go!

    Me and my husband have been married for 8 years now. We have recently separated in November of last year. It has been 4 months and I still can't let go. He just told me yesterday that he wants a divorce. I thin it is too soon to make a decision like that. I don't understand how...
    LilMama5150 LilMama5150 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 5, 2013

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    I'm so devastated by my husbands sudden

    decision to end our 22 year marriage. It's been almost a month and I really don't feel like I can go on. I just don't understand how he could do this to me. Will this ever get any easier to deal with. I'm so desperate for answers, but my best friend (my husband) refuses to...
    ronilvsu ronilvsu 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 23, 2014

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    How Do I Find Myself

    Its been almost a month and I have sacrificed me for him... I do not know how to find who I am.... I recently heard on the radio: look in the mirror... do you know who you are and want you want?????
    volley505 volley505 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 28, 2010

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    I have been married for a year

    and a half, and we dated for three years before that. Three days ago i was hit hard when she told me she hasnt loved me for months and was leaving. We have a three year old and a baby almost one. Ive never bn so hert. I love my family and its falling apart right in front of me.
    soconfused2013 soconfused2013 26-30, M 2 Responses Aug 8, 2014

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    This pain is killing me,

    i cant do this anymore!! Im not strong! Why cant i just let him go? Why cant he just admit to having someone already. Just so i can move on and leave him alone. 15 years meant nothing? Am i really such a bad person that i deserve this? The not knowing part is killing me slowly...
    meli80mod meli80mod 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 27, 2014

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    I should have done this years ago!

    ! It wasn't easy but so worth it! Part of me was afraid what it might do to the kids, but they are adjusting well. Part of me was not brave enough, I don't think. I also worry about being alone the rat of my life and I don't want that.
    anavay anavay 46-50, F Apr 28

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    I am recently separated from my wife

    after 14 years of marriage and 3 years before that. We now have 4 kids....a 7 year old son and 5 year old triplets. Crazy right?!! We began our relationship very young, just after high school and got married a few years after. Our relationship has been up and down over the years...
    Brian0714 Brian0714 36-40, M 1 Response Dec 3, 2014

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    The Pain Wont Go Away

    As you know I separated with my husband back in December of last year. He was also deported to Mexico in January of this year. Well I went to go see him in March and we tried to work things out. Things were going well for awhile but then in May we started constantly arguing over...
    LilMama5150 LilMama5150 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 6, 2013

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    I had an affair with a formet lover

    who is also married. I had unresolved issues with my former lover. I was never was going to leave my husband. I still love him. My husband found out and of course he felt betrayed. I have taken full responsibility for my actions. I was marrief for 23 years. We have been to three...
    roxy0504 roxy0504 51-55, F Jun 29, 2014

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    So everything has fallen apart.

    I have bn working so hard to get her to come back home and things were starting to look good. Till her dad got involved and said she was wrong for leaving. Now shes saying its my fault because he and i are friends and because of this its completely over. I am so scared she is...
    soconfused2013 soconfused2013 26-30, M Aug 11, 2014

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    My husband just packed his things

    and he finally left. My emotions are crazy right now. I am totally excited and happy but also a little scared too. We have been married four years and the first three were filled with numerous indiscretions on his part ( sexting, and dating sites). I don't know why I overlooked...
    2LiveIs2Learn 2LiveIs2Learn 31-35 1 Response May 23, 2014

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    I still love her, and she apparently me

    yet she still left. Is that love? Confused to say the least!
    justanotherbloke justanotherbloke 36-40, M Nov 16, 2014

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    I Am Recently Separated And I Feel Relief!

    I have been recently separated from my husband of almost 12 years/together for almost 15. He is a binge drinker who gets verbally and emotionally abusive to me in front of my two kids when he drinks. This has been going on for quite a few years now and then he lost his job and...
    heathernae72 heathernae72 36-40, F Mar 31, 2012

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    after what would have been 20 yrs.

    this month. my wife moved out to her own place to figure out who she is and what she wants,she said she wants to see if she would even miss me . a lot has changed for her she lost a lot of weight and she looks amazing. I'm lost at the moment I needed to reach out otherwise I'll...
    masmuttor masmuttor 36-40, M 3 Responses Aug 7

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    It's a difficult subject to talk about,

    which explains why I can only seem to open up about it to complete strangers. I guess I worry with people I know that they'll judge either me or her. My wife and I have been married for about 5 years. A short time to say the least, but it feels like much longer. We went through...
    DSun32 DSun32 31-35, M 2 Responses Aug 10, 2014

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    Is it wrong that I am doing the happy dance

    that my husband and his mid life crisis broke up today? I still pray every day he will wake up and want to work on us. I pray for him to take time alone and figure out things.
    cjanisch70 cjanisch70 41-45, F Aug 24, 2014

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    I met this guy online about a year

    and a half ago! We dated there were many red flags, he has an emotional Affair with a co worker, he lied about about talking to other women. He had only been intimate with me and his ex wife. Long story short, I became a step mom, we got married and after just two short weeks...
    Only1me4life Only1me4life 36-40, F 6 Responses Jun 9

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    My husband and I had been together

    for seven years and married for just under two. I cheated on him once at the start of this year. I thought we had worked through it but he told me he didn't want to be together about a month ago, and so we have separated. I booked in a counselling session, which didn't help. It...
    Amore86 Amore86 26-30, F Aug 10, 2014

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    We have a nice house.

    We both have good jobs. We have two great young kids. We have both done very well for ourselves. But now its not enough, this is painful.
    soconfused2013 soconfused2013 26-30, M 1 Response Aug 10, 2014

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    I have been with my husband

    for 13 years of which 7 of those we have been married. I now have an 8 month old baby. Up until 2 months ago I thought we were happily married. He changed overnight and now he is having an affair with another woman online in another country. He says he has issues from his past...
    LeeHendrikse LeeHendrikse 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 4, 2014

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    Hi, I have been married almost 11 years

    and was working away early December when my wife rings and tells me she's moved out and got herself a small flat. As soon as I returned at the weekend she was waiting for me to tell me that she could no longer live in the house with me because she was too stressed and depressed...
    trustedher trustedher 56-60, M Feb 28

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    My husband of five years

    and I just recently separated I have no one to talk to about it everyone in my family dislikes him and couldn't be happier that we are not together he tells me he loves me and my son but only shows concern when things are going south. I am feeling very vulnerable and wish he...
    Oliva0209 Oliva0209 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 12

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    how do you turn off your brain the anxiety over

    being separated my wife wanted the separation I did not. 3 weeks ago she moved out that's how she let me know . she wanted to figure out who she is and what she wants we've been married 20 years you know she's recently lost a lot of weight she looks great I always thought she...
    masmuttor masmuttor 36-40, M 1 Response Aug 15

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    So I am...but having a great breakfast with my

    kids on my own. They rawk. Whatever lying cheating STBX,,.,I am moving on well
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M 5 Responses Jan 4

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    My mom passed away in august

    and burried her in september. It has been really dificult to surpass that. I lost a few pounds and couldnt move on. I finally started to feel better when all of a sudden my husband of 15 years told me on oct 30 that he had cheated on me 10 years ago and that he needs time apart...
    meli80mod meli80mod 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 22, 2014