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I Am Recently Separated

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    Split After 17 Years

    My wife and I split after 17 years of marriage. I thought it was the love of a life time but I guess it was not. It has only been 2 weeks but an it really sucks. Oh well if anyone has any ideas of how to move on let me know. I think she is not interested in getting back together...
    Compengineer Compengineer 41-45, M 2 Responses Mar 15, 2013

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    The Pain Wont Go Away

    As you know I separated with my husband back in December of last year. He was also deported to Mexico in January of this year. Well I went to go see him in March and we tried to work things out. Things were going well for awhile but then in May we started constantly arguing over...
    LilMama5150 LilMama5150 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 6, 2013

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    Separated 9 Months

    I have been separated for 9 months now. My husband and I were married had been married almost 18 years when he decided he wasn't happy in our marriage any longer and needed to move out! We have been together for 27 years! We have two beautiful children and also lost a child...
    imjustme369 imjustme369 41-45, F 1 Response Feb 19, 2013

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    I have been married for 25 years.

    During that time I was a pretty good but far from ideal partner. We separated in May. It will be five months on October 1. My wife has been making lots of changes, therapy admissions of wrongs as have I. I needed to earn her trust back which I am doing. My question is how...
    Dlgadlga Dlgadlga 51-55, M 2 Responses Sep 16

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    I still love her, and she apparently me

    yet she still left. Is that love? Confused to say the least!
    justanotherbloke justanotherbloke 36-40, M Nov 16

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    My husband and I had been together

    for seven years and married for just under two. I cheated on him once at the start of this year. I thought we had worked through it but he told me he didn't want to be together about a month ago, and so we have separated. I booked in a counselling session, which didn't help. It...
    Amore86 Amore86 26-30, F Aug 10

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    Finally Found The Courage But Still Feeling Guilty

    for the past twelve years I have been married and given up my life for my husband to pursue his career. I have taken pay cuts given up promotions and even taken in his mother and sister in our home to show him support. I have helped raised his sister taught her to drive and...
    Silkphi1 Silkphi1 41-45 Nov 18, 2013

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    We still live in the same house,

    for various reasons. I love him, but he isn't happy. Every night when I go to sleep, in the next room, all I can think about is him walking through that door.
    vanisheDsaRah vanisheDsaRah 22-25 Nov 1

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    Marital Separation And Changes

    Since my separation, I've gone through many positive changes, spending a lot of time with my kids, changing many negative things about who I was, trying to be a better person. Do you think my wife will ever see those changes or just remember the mistakes that I made? I never...
    Jar92380 Jar92380 31-35, M 4 Responses Oct 21, 2013

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    Confused

    my wife is going threw midlife crisses, she does not what to do, stay with me or be on her on she says she does not know what to do my question is how long do I wait for  for her to make up her mind we have been marriad for 27 years
    ucremi65 ucremi65 56-60, M 1 Response Jan 29, 2011

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    This pain is killing me,

    i cant do this anymore!! Im not strong! Why cant i just let him go? Why cant he just admit to having someone already. Just so i can move on and leave him alone. 15 years meant nothing? Am i really such a bad person that i deserve this? The not knowing part is killing me slowly...
    meli80mod meli80mod 31-35, F Nov 27

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    I just broke up with my long distance boyfriend.

    I feel guilt when i know shouldn't. I loved him to pieces but i felt backed into a corner and i didnt think it was going anywhere and it would have happened sooner or later with the amount of arguments we had and i wanted to save myself the heartbreak which i know was selfish...
    tidget tidget 13-15, F 1 Response May 28

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    My First Love Is Over

    why he promised me a thing he couldn't do he knows i feel pain everthg was perfectly right , just the way i wanted we fell in love so quickly & we began to dream . we even planned to get married but when i stated to face major hard problems in my life & unconciously expecting...
    utopialover utopialover 22-25, F Jan 10, 2013

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    Just Dropped My Kids Off...

    ...and can someone please tell me what the hell am i meant to do with myself now? "There's this emptiness, this utter loneliness, and you ask, What have I done? Why has this happened? The despair of going to the door that was your home, the door to this thing that locked away...
    JimmyWinston JimmyWinston 41-45, M 6 Responses Jun 10, 2012

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    I Am Recently Separated And I Feel Relief!

    I have been recently separated from my husband of almost 12 years/together for almost 15. He is a binge drinker who gets verbally and emotionally abusive to me in front of my two kids when he drinks. This has been going on for quite a few years now and then he lost his job and...
    heathernae72 heathernae72 36-40, F Mar 31, 2012

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    I Can'T Let Go!

    Me and my husband have been married for 8 years now. We have recently separated in November of last year. It has been 4 months and I still can't let go. He just told me yesterday that he wants a divorce. I thin it is too soon to make a decision like that. I don't understand how...
    LilMama5150 LilMama5150 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 5, 2013

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    Recently Separated

    My husband walked out on me 4 weeks ago, just saying after 23 yrs of marriage he just didnt love me anymore. I am devastated to say the least. I didnt see it coming and had no idea thats how he felt. The past month has been the worst of my life. Its not just the financial side...
    poo40 poo40 41-45 4 Responses May 13, 2011

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    Hurt, Lonely, And In Need Of A Friend.

    My husband made me leave 4wks ago today, because I was so depressed this last year and the last couple of months. He wont tell me he loves me and we have not really connected in about a year. I am feeling so overwhelmed with all of this and alone. My kids stayed with him beacuse...
    csmithcds43 csmithcds43 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 26, 2011

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    Only The Lonely

    I really would never suggest splitting from a marriage unless every alternative was exhausted. There are a lot of very good reasons to stay in any permanent relationship. Regrettably there are issue that are called irreconcilable differences that surprisingly can happen at any...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 19, 2012

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    Is it wrong that I am doing the happy dance

    that my husband and his mid life crisis broke up today? I still pray every day he will wake up and want to work on us. I pray for him to take time alone and figure out things.
    cjanisch70 cjanisch70 41-45, F Aug 24

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    Christmases together.

    Birthdays together. A child together. A broken home. I couldn't take the treatment. The screaming. The belittling. The mocking. Being afraid everyday when I went home from work. Being afraid everyday that you could harm me again - harm our child. She's an innocent baby. She...
    TragicWhispers TragicWhispers 31-35, F 6 Responses May 21

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    I had an affair with a formet lover

    who is also married. I had unresolved issues with my former lover. I was never was going to leave my husband. I still love him. My husband found out and of course he felt betrayed. I have taken full responsibility for my actions. I was marrief for 23 years. We have been to three...
    roxy0504 roxy0504 51-55, F Jun 29

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    Quite Lost... But Stronger...

    Well, I took my kids and left my husband about 7 weeks ago. There was a lot that led me to leave. It started with just being tired of being the responsible one in the house hold, while he played and played, without consideration for how it affected me. Then I began to be...
    lauhau lauhau 36-40, F Nov 3, 2013

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    I have been married for 22 years

    and together for 25 years, 2 days before Christmas I found out that he had an affair 6 months previously with a female collegue he is still friends with, I feel shattered, betrayed, angry confused, I don't know where to start, I hate feeling this way, he thinks it is ok for him...
    Tulsa68 Tulsa68 46-50, F 4 Responses Jan 21

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    How Do I Find Myself

    Its been almost a month and I have sacrificed me for him... I do not know how to find who I am.... I recently heard on the radio: look in the mirror... do you know who you are and want you want?????
    volley505 volley505 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 28, 2010

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    I am recently separated from my wife

    after 14 years of marriage and 3 years before that. We now have 4 kids....a 7 year old son and 5 year old triplets. Crazy right?!! We began our relationship very young, just after high school and got married a few years after. Our relationship has been up and down over the years...
    Brian0714 Brian0714 36-40, M 1 Response Dec 3

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    Where To Turn...

    I'm very recently separated and can't help but feel so guilty and sorry for leaving my husband. He treated me badly alot of the time and spoiled me some of the time and was good to me alot of the time as well but...the bad overtook the good. Yet why do I feel so guilty??? I...
    debbersy debbersy 41-45 1 Response Mar 8, 2011

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    It happened about 3 months ago just

    after I bought a new house for us and our three boys. We have been fighting for over a year about her constantly leaving as soon as I get home from work. I work a swing shift so it was never possible to be with her for more than a few hours. She kept telling me what she was...
    sadnhurt1 sadnhurt1 31-35, M 3 Responses Jul 15

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    My husband just packed his things

    and he finally left. My emotions are crazy right now. I am totally excited and happy but also a little scared too. We have been married four years and the first three were filled with numerous indiscretions on his part ( sexting, and dating sites). I don't know why I overlooked...
    2LiveIs2Learn 2LiveIs2Learn 31-35 1 Response May 23

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    I'm so devastated by my husbands sudden

    decision to end our 22 year marriage. It's been almost a month and I really don't feel like I can go on. I just don't understand how he could do this to me. Will this ever get any easier to deal with. I'm so desperate for answers, but my best friend (my husband) refuses to...
    ronilvsu ronilvsu 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 23

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    So everything has fallen apart.

    I have bn working so hard to get her to come back home and things were starting to look good. Till her dad got involved and said she was wrong for leaving. Now shes saying its my fault because he and i are friends and because of this its completely over. I am so scared she is...
    soconfused2013 soconfused2013 26-30, M Aug 11

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    Now What

    I have had a long lasting relationship with the man i truly believed i was going to spend all eternity with....boy was i wrong! My x is an addict I dont truly know why i stuck by him for so long I guess maybe I thought that he was going to change and be the husband and father i...
    ROUGE79 ROUGE79 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 17, 2009

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    I have been with my husband

    for 13 years of which 7 of those we have been married. I now have an 8 month old baby. Up until 2 months ago I thought we were happily married. He changed overnight and now he is having an affair with another woman online in another country. He says he has issues from his past...
    LeeHendrikse LeeHendrikse 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 4

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    My wife of 9 years and I recently seperated; it

    was something that we both knew in the back of our minds was coming but something we both hoped that we could get past and try to make work. But in the end it's just not going to happen, not in the way we want. We started out great, we were married and had our first son and...
    ryancrombie ryancrombie 31-35, M Jul 28

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    I have been married for a year

    and a half, and we dated for three years before that. Three days ago i was hit hard when she told me she hasnt loved me for months and was leaving. We have a three year old and a baby almost one. Ive never bn so hert. I love my family and its falling apart right in front of me.
    soconfused2013 soconfused2013 26-30, M 2 Responses Aug 8

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    Like the Title Says...

    My girlfriend and I have recently separated. It's too bad really, even if I wanted us back together, I think we have both done and said too much, at least too much for a quick return anyway. I think the cliche time heals all wounds is about the only thing that I can hope on, if...
    RuMoR RuMoR 31-35, M 5 Responses Jul 14, 2007

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    My Marriage Is Over, Still Finding It Hard.

    Hi everyone, I have been married for 27 years, and we were together for 30. My husband and I have been separated since Nov 22/12. The tricky part was that I had to stay in the house until I could move out. We even slept in the same bed. It really was not any different then...
    js4liz js4liz 46-50, F 4 Responses Jan 6, 2013

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    It's a difficult subject to talk about,

    which explains why I can only seem to open up about it to complete strangers. I guess I worry with people I know that they'll judge either me or her. My wife and I have been married for about 5 years. A short time to say the least, but it feels like much longer. We went through...
    DSun32 DSun32 26-30, M 2 Responses Aug 10

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    Separation

    don't know how this works. anyone to talk too?
    cheath cheath 51-55, F 3 Responses Aug 31, 2013

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    My husband, the sole bread winner

    for our family left us over a week ago and this is not getting any easier. he did not bother to help pay the bills where his children live and is in a completely downward spiral. his ex wife took there sonaccross the country and according to him its all my fault because I didn't...
    shaina381 shaina381 31-35, F Oct 11

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    I would diagnosed myself with chronic jealousy.

    . It killed me and he left me
    JustDontMindMe JustDontMindMe 31-35, F Dec 9

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    When The Door Closed...

    ...for what I thought was the last time, I didn't even cry. I cried out all of my tears for the many years we were together yet living separate lives. This time he was the one who was crying, and this time I was the one who didn't care. I watched him go down the walk, and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 12, 2012

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    Divorcing but she still wants to live together

    and carry on like nothing has changed... It's very confusing
    DirtiDeedz13 DirtiDeedz13 31-35, M 4 Responses Nov 10

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    My mom passed away in august

    and burried her in september. It has been really dificult to surpass that. I lost a few pounds and couldnt move on. I finally started to feel better when all of a sudden my husband of 15 years told me on oct 30 that he had cheated on me 10 years ago and that he needs time apart...
    meli80mod meli80mod 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 22

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    "My love for you was bulletproof

    but you're the one who shot me." - Bulletproof love by Pierce The Veil
    Pierce7891 Pierce7891 18-21, F Aug 23

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    Recently Separated

    after reading so many stories, i've decided to share...i recently separated from my wife because i couldnt stand cheating on her anymore. i couldnt stand the lies...she loves me so much...if i cant love her back, she deserves to be with someone that can make her happy....i have 2...
    nbt69 nbt69 41-45, M 7 Responses Sep 21, 2012

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    We have a nice house.

    We both have good jobs. We have two great young kids. We have both done very well for ourselves. But now its not enough, this is painful.
    soconfused2013 soconfused2013 26-30, M 1 Response Aug 10

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    Trying To Survive

    On May 1st, 2011 my wife of almost 13 years locked me out of our home. We had a fight and I walked out but when I tried to return the next day she denied me access to the house.  From that point on things only went downhill at an alarming rate. The story actually began 18...
    Falcran Falcran 41-45, M Oct 23, 2011

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