Post

I Am Recently Seperated

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 126 People

    Confused

    my wife is going threw midlife crisses, she does not what to do, stay with me or be on her on she says she does not know what to do my question is how long do I wait for  for her to make up her mind we have been marriad for 27 years
    ucremi65 ucremi65 56-60, M 1 Response Jan 29, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    After 19 Years Of Marriage This Is Not Where I Thought I Would Be.

    Here I am, separated from my wife after 19 years of marriage. I can see now the odds were against us from the beginning. We knew each other only as aquatints, dated only 2 1/2 months then got married. Oh and did I mention she is 17 years older then me. Yes that throws most people...
    jfromss jfromss 41-45, M Apr 23, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    The Deepest Journey Incomplete

    When I met her I saw a pure heart, the deepest love and endless potential. She was the person in the songs I had been writing. Together we traveled through so many layers of being, always deeply devoted to each other, the only true sense of home was what we felt with each other...
    wantsgoodforall wantsgoodforall 46-50, M 1 Response Jul 11, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Quite Lost... But Stronger...

    Well, I took my kids and left my husband about 7 weeks ago. There was a lot that led me to leave. It started with just being tired of being the responsible one in the house hold, while he played and played, without consideration for how it affected me. Then I began to be...
    lauhau lauhau 31-35, F Nov 3, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Need Opinions On What To Do

    I am 37 and my wife is 22...we got married just after her 20th birthday. She is very mature and has been on her own since she was 15. When I say on her own, she moved out and supported herself living with her then boyfriend. She has never lived on her own very long and I am a...
    LifeIsUnpredictable LifeIsUnpredictable 36-40, M 1 Response Aug 2, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    When The Door Closed...

    ...for what I thought was the last time, I didn't even cry. I cried out all of my tears for the many years we were together yet living separate lives. This time he was the one who was crying, and this time I was the one who didn't care. I watched him go down the walk, and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 12, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Its Been A While

    As I have said me and my husband have been separated for a couple of months now. I have been so heartbroken over the situation.It has been so hard for me that I am on anti depressants. I have been talking to my husband for a coupe of days now. I asked him if he wanted a divorce...
    LilMama5150 LilMama5150 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 6, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Separation

    don't know how this works. anyone to talk too?
    cheath cheath 51-55, F 3 Responses Aug 31, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Recently Separated

    after reading so many stories, i've decided to share...i recently separated from my wife because i couldnt stand cheating on her anymore. i couldnt stand the lies...she loves me so much...if i cant love her back, she deserves to be with someone that can make her happy....i have 2...
    nbt69 nbt69 41-45, M 7 Responses Sep 21, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Struggling

    A week ago my husband left me after 27 years of marriage. I am barely holding it together. In Ft. Lauderdale now with my 21 year old daughter and her boyfriend. This was a family vacation planned months ago. Thought it might do me good but I feel so lonely here. Thinking...
    ssherwood85 ssherwood85 46-50 Jun 23, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Lost Now

    I'm lost now, after my husband of 8 years has decided to leave me. Taking away not only my marriage, he's taking away my future and my dreams, everything I have worked hard for... It's disappearing. I need help finding me, without him. I need help to find a life without him. I...
    Nejc24 Nejc24 22-25, F 6 Responses Nov 14, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Finally Out In The Open After 22years Of Infidelity By My Husband

    I married the man of my dreams, thoughtful, respectful, adoring, giving, kind, sexy, handsome and a man who had big plans for the future. Turned out after 3 months of marriage he also had one other special gift that he shared with many women, he made you feel like you mattered...
    BJT59 BJT59 51-55 Oct 8, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Shes Gone, I Don'T Want To Move On

    My wife of 4 years (5 years together) has just decided to end it with me. I understand why, not because I was a bad husband, I was just not a good husband, I wasn't good at listening and showing my affection, I don't think we did enough things as a couple. Over the years I...
    daryl999 daryl999 26-30, M Mar 11, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    How Do I Find Myself

    Its been almost a month and I have sacrificed me for him... I do not know how to find who I am.... I recently heard on the radio: look in the mirror... do you know who you are and want you want?????
    volley505 volley505 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 28, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Finally Found The Courage But Still Feeling Guilty

    for the past twelve years I have been married and given up my life for my husband to pursue his career. I have taken pay cuts given up promotions and even taken in his mother and sister in our home to show him support. I have helped raised his sister taught her to drive and...
    Silkphi1 Silkphi1 41-45 Nov 18, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Marital Separation And Changes

    Since my separation, I've gone through many positive changes, spending a lot of time with my kids, changing many negative things about who I was, trying to be a better person. Do you think my wife will ever see those changes or just remember the mistakes that I made? I never...
    Jar92380 Jar92380 31-35, M 4 Responses Oct 21, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Hurt, Lonely, And In Need Of A Friend.

    My husband made me leave 4wks ago today, because I was so depressed this last year and the last couple of months. He wont tell me he loves me and we have not really connected in about a year. I am feeling so overwhelmed with all of this and alone. My kids stayed with him beacuse...
    csmithcds43 csmithcds43 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 26, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    My Nightmare

    October 2007 I met my best friend. September of 2011 he asked me to marry him. Uprooting my two boys and myself I moved hour and a half away. June 19 2012 we were married. Two weeks after we arrived home from our wedding my husband tells me he cant live with children. My two...
    Blondie0619 Blondie0619 36-40 Dec 9, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Separated 9 Months

    I have been separated for 9 months now. My husband and I were married had been married almost 18 years when he decided he wasn't happy in our marriage any longer and needed to move out! We have been together for 27 years! We have two beautiful children and also lost a child...
    imjustme369 imjustme369 41-45, F 1 Response Feb 19, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Are These Irrevocable Differences Or Should I Try Harder?

    Hello I'd love if anyone can relate to this and give any advice please. Sorry it's so long. Been married for 26 years and together for 30. Our kids are now grown and flown and we have 3 beautiful grandchildren. I always felt my husband, who is a lovely man would probably have...
    Irish46 Irish46 46-50, F 6 Responses Jan 2, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Broke Up With Him Hoping He'd Wake Up To What He Had. He Married Someone Else Within 7 Weeks! And She's Pregnant!

    I wonder if I will truly get over what has happened to me. I had a question on this forum about a month ago regarding my situation. I keep wondering if this is really my life, or just a really bad soap opera. I can't help but to look for answers and wonder why. I have no...
    evonjohn evonjohn 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 17, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Trying To Survive

    On May 1st, 2011 my wife of almost 13 years locked me out of our home. We had a fight and I walked out but when I tried to return the next day she denied me access to the house.  From that point on things only went downhill at an alarming rate. The story actually began 18...
    Falcran Falcran 41-45, M Oct 23, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Seperated From The Love Of My Life

    I've been separated from my child's father for 2 & 1/2 months now. At first it was very difficult. Quite frankly I can't remember the beginning of the separation. Maybe because I don't want to remember. I couldn't cry about it until now. I got on my knees yesterday and prayed...
    cherryslady cherryslady 18-21 3 Responses Jan 18, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    My Marriage Is Over, Still Finding It Hard.

    Hi everyone, I have been married for 27 years, and we were together for 30. My husband and I have been separated since Nov 22/12. The tricky part was that I had to stay in the house until I could move out. We even slept in the same bed. It really was not any different then...
    js4liz js4liz 46-50, F 4 Responses Jan 6, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Loved And Lost....

    I am recently seperated after 5 years of mariage. I was married for 16 years before that. So I guess I am damaged goods. :( I guess I am not that great at picking men. My first husband was a drinker and became abusive and my second husband could not tell the truth to save his...
    Michelle0423 Michelle0423 41-45, T 1 Response Jun 19, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Like the Title Says...

    My girlfriend and I have recently separated. It's too bad really, even if I wanted us back together, I think we have both done and said too much, at least too much for a quick return anyway. I think the cliche time heals all wounds is about the only thing that I can hope on, if...
    RuMoR RuMoR 31-35, M 5 Responses Jul 14, 2007

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Twice! In One Lifetime!

    I stumbled across this website by typing I am lonely. First let me thank all contributors for their heartfelt stories. I am about to be separated for the second time and its as or more devestating than the first. My first marriage ended due to my wife's infedelity. We had 3...
    Scottish57 Scottish57 51-55 3 Responses Feb 7, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Can'T Let Go!

    Me and my husband have been married for 8 years now. We have recently separated in November of last year. It has been 4 months and I still can't let go. He just told me yesterday that he wants a divorce. I thin it is too soon to make a decision like that. I don't understand how...
    LilMama5150 LilMama5150 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 5, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    My First Love Is Over

    why he promised me a thing he couldn't do he knows i feel pain everthg was perfectly right , just the way i wanted we fell in love so quickly & we began to dream . we even planned to get married but when i stated to face major hard problems in my life & unconciously expecting...
    utopialover utopialover 22-25, F Jan 10, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Only The Lonely

    I really would never suggest splitting from a marriage unless every alternative was exhausted. There are a lot of very good reasons to stay in any permanent relationship. Regrettably there are issue that are called irreconcilable differences that surprisingly can happen at any...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 19, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Just Dropped My Kids Off...

    ...and can someone please tell me what the hell am i meant to do with myself now? "There's this emptiness, this utter loneliness, and you ask, What have I done? Why has this happened? The despair of going to the door that was your home, the door to this thing that locked away...
    JimmyWinston JimmyWinston 41-45, M 6 Responses Jun 10, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Split After 17 Years

    My wife and I split after 17 years of marriage. I thought it was the love of a life time but I guess it was not. It has only been 2 weeks but an it really sucks. Oh well if anyone has any ideas of how to move on let me know. I think she is not interested in getting back together...
    Compengineer Compengineer 41-45, M 2 Responses Mar 15, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Must Have Been So Awful!

    I spent 8 years of my life completely devoted to my partner and our children, i gave up pretty much everything! I took care of everything, our children, the house all of it! The only thing that my ex had to do was go to work! he didn't even have to make himself lunch, he came...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Mar 23, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Now What

    I have had a long lasting relationship with the man i truly believed i was going to spend all eternity with....boy was i wrong! My x is an addict I dont truly know why i stuck by him for so long I guess maybe I thought that he was going to change and be the husband and father i...
    ROUGE79 ROUGE79 26-30, F Jan 17, 2009

    Your Response

    Cancel

    The Pain Wont Go Away

    As you know I separated with my husband back in December of last year. He was also deported to Mexico in January of this year. Well I went to go see him in March and we tried to work things out. Things were going well for awhile but then in May we started constantly arguing over...
    LilMama5150 LilMama5150 31-35, F Oct 6, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Related Experiences

    And when I say recently, I mean in the last couple of weeks. It's only (nearly) 4 months in to 2014 and it amazes me just how quick things can change. One day your life is just...
    maqeurious maqeurious 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 29

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I am engaged to be married to the love of my life. He is my home, my rock, my biggest fan, my protector, my love, my family, my husband-to-be.
    octopieyes octopieyes 18-21, F Mar 24

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Okay it's been one month or a little over. It still seems like yesterday that she was sitting right here with me. The long lonely nights make it worse. I know there was a lot of...
    Shmily68 Shmily68 41-45, M Mar 25

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I have decided to use this experience as a sounding board. I have 45 days widowed and have come to the understanding that I am no longer excepted into my in-laws family. They have...
    Shmily68 Shmily68 41-45, M 1 Response Mar 25

    Your Response

    Cancel
    7weeks ago my soulmate passed away sleeping on our couch we had just shared the birth of our 2nd daughter only 5days earlier the luv we shared was unconditional the kind that last...
    misdaddy misdaddy 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 26

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I lost my husband one year ago to bladder cancer and I still miss him so terribly much. I just need someone to talk to,.
    ConLee ConLee 56-60, F 1 Response Mar 26

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Hi, I suffer from BIH or Pseudo tumor Cerebri. I was diagnosed in April of 2013 through a MRI and Spinal Tap. I can understand how all of u suffer from this rare disease as well as...
    Chocolatebabe33 Chocolatebabe33 31-35, F Mar 26

    Your Response

    Cancel
    The worst times are the alone times. When everyone is gone when the phones not ringing when the email stop coming and the only thing that you have to look forward to is the sound...
    Shmily68 Shmily68 41-45, M 1 Response Mar 27

    Your Response

    Cancel
    It's the 31st today. I suddenly realized that it's been 2 months. And it doesn't feel any easier.. What to do? When will I feel better? I'm thinking 6 months and then a year, 2...
    Tisimi Tisimi 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 30

    Your Response

    Cancel
    My grandmother passed away early this morning, and her last words to me were, "I love you too, sweetie." Nana, I love you so much, and though it hurts so badly that you've passed...
    iCaii iCaii 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 31

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I can't believe that he won't be around anymore , his voice , his warm hands , his smile...I can't believe that fate would ****** my father from me. How quickly things come to pass...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Apr 2

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I've been gone quite a while trying to start my life over again. With me life has come in threes. You may ask what are you talking about? Well through time my mind,body,and soul...
    Haunted5 Haunted5 56-60, F Apr 3

    Your Response

    Cancel
    On April fools day we had a conversation that ended it all. I thought she was kidding. She wasn't.
    beyondthebreakingpoint beyondthebreakingpoint 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 4

    Your Response

    Cancel
    It all started with gossip…she was mad at me and I said that I didn't care right now and wanted to have fun. Someone told her I said that I was talking smack behind her back and...
    Iwillloveyou4ever Iwillloveyou4ever 13-15, F Apr 4

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I lost my best friend when I told her I was bisexual. She accepted me at first but later said. She doesn't feel comfortable around me. I have been bi this whole time and never once...
    meganayyye21 meganayyye21 16-17, F Apr 4

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Animal tail butt plugs. I love the feel of butt. I now own a fox tail, bunny tail, and a dog tail. The reason I brought them was I remember as a kid the young teen girl next door...
    joshietree joshietree 18-21, M 4 Responses Apr 5

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I was just diagnosed with ms. My mother has had it for 14 years and the doctors say mine is worse. </3 I have 8 lesions in my brain, the damage covers my optic nerve. I can't...
    EmilyTheWise EmilyTheWise 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 5

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I guess it's been a long time coming. We both expected a lot from each other. It seems like after five years we have different paths ahead of us.
    rockmammal rockmammal 31-35, M Apr 7

    Your Response

    Cancel
    My first real appointment is in less than a week. Who's done it before? Any and all stories welcome
    swamiepstein swamiepstein 18-21, M Apr 9

    Your Response

    Cancel