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I Am Recently Widowed

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    he died. suddenly, tragically,

    stupidly. He did not need to die. He thought he was superman but he needed safety protection just like everyone else. my 3 children and I are so traumatized and grief stricken. I can not imagine every day without him. I go to bed at night and imagine that he is there. I...
    cgordon cgordon 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 4

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    My husband died suddenly two months ago tonight.

    He was only 51 years old and so healthy, strong and vital that I still can't understand what happened. He died while he was away on a business trip in Saudi Arabia and just never came home. Something went wrong with his heart and he died in his sleep. It has devastated me...
    mhammond mhammond 51-55 2 Responses Mar 7

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    It's the 31st today. I suddenly realized

    that it's been 2 months. And it doesn't feel any easier.. What to do? When will I feel better? I'm thinking 6 months and then a year, 2 years.. will go by so quickly.. will this pain and sadness and regret and everything go away..? I reckon the answer will be No. It doesn't go...
    Tisimi Tisimi 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 30, 2014

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    I Am Here.

    I am recently widowed and this is such a sad, painful and rotten thing for anyone to go through. I am blessed with loving family, friends and co-workers trying to help me through this. I am hoping to find others on this site that has some sage advice on this topic.  
    gardenlover gardenlover 46-50 3 Responses Mar 15, 2009

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    This has been the hardest week

    since losing the love of my life 7 months ago. His birthday came and went recently, as did that of another close family member who recently passed. My husband loved Christmas and would have listened to Christmas music and watched Christmas movies 12 months a year had I let him...
    SadSadie13 SadSadie13 51-55, F 2 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    I guess I'll be in on the conversation.

    This last November (2014) my wife passed away from multiple myeloma cancer. We were engaged about 40 years ago. I was in the military and got orders overseas. I got the ring back. What can I say, she was 18 and changed her mind. Six years ago I contacted her and we started...
    jw97005 jw97005 61-65, M 2 Responses May 10

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    Why Him? Why Us?

    What is it like to lose your BEST FRIEND, your SOUL MATE, your EVERYTHING? Your world just comes crashing down,you lose your life,you lose everything that EVER MATTERED to you. My husband was only 36.I am 35.It took me 30 years to find him, and I thought my life FINALLY...
    LibertyBell LibertyBell 36-40, F 28 Responses Mar 2, 2009

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    I reunited with someone I dated back in the 60!

    s marred in 2011 passed away 10 mo ltr my heart is broken
    paz1 paz1 56-60 Mar 9

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    My wife of 25 years recently passed away.

    She was in pain and discomfort for over 10 years. Her health starting deteriorating at an accelerated pace for the last two years. I was too busy trying to help keep her alive and comfortable to realize how close she was to dying, so when her heart finally gave out, it was...
    rocinante2112 rocinante2112 46-50, M 3 Responses Apr 21

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    Out Of The Deep Dark Blackhole

    My husband and I got married 7 days after our first date. We just knew we were right fore each other. That was in 2006. On October 18, 2009 he was sitting on the bed talking to his siter on the phone and I was sitting next to him. He fell back and started breathing heavy. i...
    justoils justoils 41-45 5 Responses Dec 5, 2010

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    I was very suddenly widowed three years ago.

    It doesn't seem to get any easier, some days are better than others though.
    Andrewina Andrewina 56-60, F 2 Responses Apr 15, 2014

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    Its been just over two years

    since i lost my wife. I have another 10 years or so to raise my three kids all by myself. Not sure how I will survive.
    marshj marshj 51-55, M 1 Response Apr 14, 2014

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    My husband died of ischemic heart disease about

    7 months ago while we were on a trip in Russia. It was a complete shock to me as he had never experienced any chest pain before. My doctor told me it can happen quite sudden and fast. These 7 months had been a heart-breaking and lonely journey for me. However, I'm slowly...
    Sandrafu Sandrafu 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 8

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    7weeks ago my soulmate passed away sleeping on

    our couch we had just shared the birth of our 2nd daughter only 5days earlier the luv we shared was unconditional the kind that last forever we had only spent5years together at 37 years old we expected many more. I miss him so badly but have no time to cry greive or even think...
    misdaddy misdaddy 36-40, F 5 Responses Mar 26, 2014

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    Hello there I just dropped on this site to see

    if anyone was interesting in chatting
    giove giove 56-60, F 1 Response Dec 7, 2014

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    Forty Two Days Later. I'M Still Stuck.

    I lost my husband forty two days ago. I lost a whole part of my life. My children lost their daddy. I lost the man I married, I'd lost him since he was diagnosed but now...now I had no one to hug, or to squeeze hands with. Even when he was so I L he couldn't feel that, at least...
    MegMog MegMog 36-40, F 4 Responses Apr 8, 2013

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    I am 25 years old with a 6 month old child.

    my husband passed away December 1 due to a closed head injury he endured during an automobile accident. it hurts so bad that he is gone. I miss him so much. It feels so lonely without him. It's like how do you move forward in life when the person you are suppose to be with...
    niesa0732 niesa0732 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 13

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    Widowed twice, first married

    for 29 years. He died of Lung cancer. It has now been 4 months since husband of 21 years died of liver cancer. It is much more difficult this time. Maybe because I am older & cannot cope as well. I live alone except for my poodle. Need to communicate with female 65-75 for...
    cook4j cook4j 70+, F 2 Responses Mar 3

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    My husband Dave of 15 years lost his battle

    with CHF and other related issues. I am lost without him and miss him so much, I still sleep on the couch where I was sleeping before he died so I could get up and help him when he needed it, he was sleeping in a hospital bed. I get some comfort knowing he's not in pain anymore...
    Grannygoosie Grannygoosie 51-55, F 1 Response Mar 14

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    I recently lost my husband in Jan.

    We were together for 12 years.
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses May 12

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    My husband and I were together 27 years.

    He died suddenly of a massive heart attack 2 months ago. I'm completely lost right now. Someone who knew my husband had died but didn't realize it JUST happened recently, asked me the other day if I remember his voice. I said of course I do. She said there will be a day...
    melodysr melodysr 46-50, F 6 Responses Jan 10

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    Strange Days

    **** faced. I was going to go to a basketball game tonight (the good guys won, without me in attendance)  but it turns out there was a conspiracy to keep me from going. My wine glass kept getting topped off and by the time I caught on the game had already started and...
    mergelayers mergelayers 51-55, M 4 Responses Mar 7, 2010

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    I lost my husband one year ago to bladder cancer

    and I still miss him so terribly much. I just need someone to talk to,.
    ConLee ConLee 56-60, F 5 Responses Mar 26, 2014

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    I Am 38 and Lost My 40-year-old Husband of 19 Years On 1/6/2009

    It is still unreal to me.  I stumbled onto this web site while searching for sites on being recently widowed.  My husband has been my best friend for over 20 years.  We did everything together.  He was a coal-miner and an avid hunter, especially turkey and...
    stacybob stacybob 36-40 14 Responses Feb 2, 2009

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    I have just recently lost my best friend,

    my soul mate, my lover and wife. We met when we were 14, that was 30 years ago. She moved in two door down from my parents house and I told her that first day that I would marry her and spend the rest of our lives together. Five years later we were walking down the isle together...
    BankofDad BankofDad 36-40, M 6 Responses Feb 5, 2014

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    My husband died 49 days ago.

    . on Lunar new Year.. He went to his hometown to visit his family and I stayed at home with our 2 daughters, 1 and a half and 3 and a half.. The next morning, on New Year's Day my mother in law calls and tells us the news.. His heart stopped in his sleep. He was 26. And I am 29...
    Tisimi Tisimi 26-30, F 6 Responses Mar 19, 2014

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    My Husband Hanged Himself On The 4th Of July

    I have three children ages 10 5 and 18 months two boys and a girl. We were together for 11 years he was an alcoholic and manic depressive. I tried to make him happy it never seemed enough. There was no warning and no note just him gone and me confused. I am left adrift and so...
    bobbyswife30 bobbyswife30 26-30, F 7 Responses Aug 2, 2012

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    I recently lost my wife of 37 years,

    due to complications from liver disease. I am devastated. But with the Lords help and the support of family and friends, I pray that the lost to our family and the huge hole in my heart will begin to heal. My prayers and sympathy goes out to anyone who has had to go through...
    gasman1 gasman1 61-65, M 5 Responses Dec 26, 2014

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    Dying of Grief

    My wife died suddenly last July.  I am doing a lot better although I will still have those sad moments when I am thinking to myself how much fun it will be to tell my wife about something that just happened and then realize I won't be able to.  Immediately...
    Iusedto Iusedto 61-65, M 7 Responses Feb 10, 2009

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    The worst times are the alone times.

    When everyone is gone when the phones not ringing when the email stop coming and the only thing that you have to look forward to is the sound of the TV. Then you know you've lost everything. The day my wife died I'm not only lost her but I lost my family. The children no longer...
    Shmily68 Shmily68 46-50, M 4 Responses Mar 27, 2014

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    Car lasted as long as my marriage.

    I brought it for when I got married so could drive wife around an died within 6 months of her going. silly to get attached to a piece of metal but feels like another part of her going..
    Widower1 Widower1 31-35 2 Responses Apr 27

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    I Am Missing My Angel

    In sep i lost my angel he was the love of my life and i am lost without him.  we had so many dreams, now i dream alone. i dream of him being here in my life with me, beside me, holding me, i am 45 and i thought we would grow old together. It doesnt seem fair we only had...
    lostdeva lostdeva 46-50 7 Responses May 1, 2009

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    A Real Life Tragedy

    5 months ago, my 41yr old husband was killed in a helicopter crash. We were together about 13 yrs, married 8. It was the greatest love story ever! He was gorgeous, smart, funny, sexy, and extremely healthy. He worked on helicopters in my hometown, and was doing a routine test...
    julez38 julez38 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 18, 2013

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    My wife of 45 memorable years died six months

    ago. I'm ok outside except little things suddenly make me burst put crying or make me feel an (ex)incompetent partner. We had little social life (working too hard) and now when I do things I so much want to tell her about them . This is so hard
    66paul66 66paul66 66-70, M 1 Response May 11

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    My husband died suddenly almost 3 months ago.

    He was only 43, I miss him so much. I have a 10 & 11 year old. It still doesn't seem real even though I know it is. His heart just stopped, my kids and I found him and couldn't get him to wake up and it's very hard to get that memory out of my mind. Or at the hospital when they...
    LoLoEvie LoLoEvie 46-50, F 2 Responses Mar 6

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    I was married 51 years

    and together 53. lost him april 25 don't know how to go on
    Dab3lucky Dab3lucky 66-70, F 4 Responses May 14

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      I am looking for someone,

    well really a woman, to be a friend. I am 61 and lost me wife in Nov 2014. I am moving on with my life but miss that company and sensibility of a woman. I am not trying to replace her but there is a void. I have daughters and we talk. There is the parent child relationship which...
    jw97005 jw97005 61-65, M May 18

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    8 Months And 6 Days

      since Leah died, and week by week I am changing. I know the first couple of weeks I was so afraid that I would forget her;  I couldn’t remember her face, I couldn’t remember her voice, I couldn’t remember any happy times. As the weeks went by I...
    mergelayers mergelayers 51-55, M 7 Responses Apr 30, 2010

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    I have decided to use this experience

    as a sounding board. I have 45 days widowed and have come to the understanding that I am no longer excepted into my in-laws family. They have a hatred for me and a blame against me for my wife's death. This leaves me very few people to speak with about grieving because when she...
    Shmily68 Shmily68 46-50, M 1 Response Mar 25, 2014

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    Now, the Dark of Winter

    Thirty four years ... they held us up as an example to the less fortunate ones whose relationships fell apart. "They're like this," her youngest brother told her, waving his hand up and down, "but you guys are like this --" a steady, level sweep.  Others noted the intensity...
    windlion windlion 56-60, M 8 Responses Oct 18, 2008

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    Widowed at 53 years old.

    My wife if 30 years caught the flu and never recovered. However I am now remarried to someone I love (my own age, my former wife was 7 yrs younger). The problem is that although she loves me, she doesn't desire me or anyone. Just saying. Not really expecting a response. Not so...
    MickyMD MickyMD 51-55, M 2 Responses Jun 26, 2014

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    Getting Worse? Getting Better?

    It's still so hard. I cry at the drop of a hat. And ten minutes later I'm angry. And then I'm just resigned to it all. And it goes on and on. It has only been four months since he died. I guess I just feel like I am still swimming in sadness and grief and everyone else has...
    terrishaun terrishaun 46-50, F 3 Responses Oct 30, 2013

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    Ponnette

    There is a French movie that was made  years ago called Ponnette.  Like many of the European movies, it dealt heavily with the message and if it entertained you too, well that was very nice.  I am very glad that I had seen it now.  It dealt with the grief that...
    Iusedto Iusedto 61-65, M 2 Responses Sep 7, 2008

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    Okay it's been one month

    or a little over. It still seems like yesterday that she was sitting right here with me. The long lonely nights make it worse. I know there was a lot of silence between us but now the silences just deafening. Every little thing has its reminder of you and I sit here tonight...
    Shmily68 Shmily68 46-50, M 2 Responses Mar 25, 2014

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    My soul mate of 22 years passed away May 16,

    2014. Due to his illness, he had already left me about 5 years ago - I lost him to Alzheimer's. After spending the last 5 years or so as his caregiver, I find myself totally lost now that he's gone. My 14 year old daughter and I have moved and she's started high school this...
    Daybreak48 Daybreak48 46-50, F 2 Responses Sep 23, 2014

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    Worth Reading May Help

    I have lost the one I love, the one I cherish. My lover, my best friend, my whole life. Either you have stumbled across this because you want to find out how to help me, or I have given this to you. How I am Feeling • I am numb. I am in shock. I am emotionally exhausted...
    barb111 barb111 51-55, F 13 Responses Jul 3, 2012

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