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I Am Recently Widowed

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    Angry Lately

    Ok ,,I know I'm not the only one,,,but I'm pissed off today. Mad because I lost my best friend, mad because I have to go through the holidays without him. I'm tired of female company, I want to talk to a man, after talking to a man everyday for 16 years I miss it. One of my co...
    2kitty 2kitty 41-45, F 3 Responses Nov 22, 2013

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    I am recently widowed

    after 22 years of marriage. Miss him so very much, he was my everything. The thing I have the mist trouble with is the silence during the evening and at night. I can't seem to find interest in the many things that used to be ...like television shows, reading, sewing...
    Tk6313 Tk6313 51-55, F 3 Responses Jan 23

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    Missing Him

    I lost my Husband 7 months ago. I miss him so much, the emptiness and loneliness are the hardest things to deal with. I put a smile on my face and push myself everyday. People say it gets easier but no one tells me if the broken heart I have will ever stop hurting. He was my...
    Leeand29 Leeand29 51-55, F 12 Responses Nov 6, 2013

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    Im Going To Live Life

    Ok so I been looking for someone to talk to, glad I found this site. My husband passed away exactly a month ago. He had a heart attack out of nowhere right in front of me. Me and my children performed CPR till paramedics arrived. He was only 48 I'm 41 and we were married 16 years...
    2kitty 2kitty 41-45, F 5 Responses Nov 16, 2013

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    lost my husband 4 days

    before Christmas, he was killed on the california freeway. I feel like the walking dead, lucky to have children around. We were married for 38 years, dont know how to live without him, just praying for help. Every place reminds me of him, cannot leave the house.
    ivy09 ivy09 61-65, F 4 Responses Jan 4

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    Finally went out today to do a small tile job.

    It's the first one since losing my wife and soul mate of 38 years 67 days ago. Thought I was doing o.k. with it. I had to wait for the materials to dry some before finishing, so I went outside for some air. I still don't eat much but I noticed that it was around noon. I grabbed...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jan 15

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    I lost my husband one year ago to bladder cancer

    and I still miss him so terribly much. I just need someone to talk to,.
    ConLee ConLee 56-60, F 4 Responses Mar 26

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    grannysnowalone grannysnowalone 56-60, F Jan 13

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    I have just recently lost my best friend,

    my soul mate, my lover and wife. We met when we were 14, that was 30 years ago. She moved in two door down from my parents house and I told her that first day that I would marry her and spend the rest of our lives together. Five years later we were walking down the isle together...
    BankofDad BankofDad 36-40, M 6 Responses Feb 5

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    My Husband Hanged Himself On The 4th Of July

    I have three children ages 10 5 and 18 months two boys and a girl. We were together for 11 years he was an alcoholic and manic depressive. I tried to make him happy it never seemed enough. There was no warning and no note just him gone and me confused. I am left adrift and so...
    bobbyswife30 bobbyswife30 26-30, F 7 Responses Aug 2, 2012

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    Why Him? Why Us?

    What is it like to lose your BEST FRIEND, your SOUL MATE, your EVERYTHING? Your world just comes crashing down,you lose your life,you lose everything that EVER MATTERED to you. My husband was only 36.I am 35.It took me 30 years to find him, and I thought my life FINALLY...
    LibertyBell LibertyBell 36-40, F 27 Responses Mar 2, 2009

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    Getting Worse? Getting Better?

    It's still so hard. I cry at the drop of a hat. And ten minutes later I'm angry. And then I'm just resigned to it all. And it goes on and on. It has only been four months since he died. I guess I just feel like I am still swimming in sadness and grief and everyone else has...
    terrishaun terrishaun 46-50, F 3 Responses Oct 30, 2013

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    Forty Two Days Later. I'M Still Stuck.

    I lost my husband forty two days ago. I lost a whole part of my life. My children lost their daddy. I lost the man I married, I'd lost him since he was diagnosed but now...now I had no one to hug, or to squeeze hands with. Even when he was so I L he couldn't feel that, at least...
    MegMog MegMog 36-40, F 4 Responses Apr 8, 2013

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    The Pretty Season

    7 months gone. The ornamental & weeping cherry trees bloomed overnight.  The maple tree we planted 2 years ago is flowering. The daisies are flourishing,  even some of the early tulips are blooming today. The bleeding heart plant she put in by the steps is flowering...
    mergelayers mergelayers 51-55, M 1 Response Mar 26, 2010

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    My husband died Dec 8 2013

    after fighting cancer for 6 years. Over the last year he was nice to everyone but me. We were together 20 years married for 14 of that. We have a 11 year old son. I keep finding things that are hurtful. Found out he gave assets away notes in his truck. People keep telling...
    Sesarey Sesarey 51-55, F 5 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    My World Just Turned Upside Down

    I just lost my husband suddenly a few weeks ago. We had just arrived on our first day of vacation when my world crumbled completely down. My husband was my rock we have had a difficult several years with our daughter. She tried to commit suicide and since we have just had...
    Cuzcontrol Cuzcontrol 46-50, F 3 Responses Oct 16, 2013

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    See God In Everything...

    I am recently widowed... On February 25, 2008, my beautiful and wonderful wife, Kelly, went home to Heaven.  She was an incredible wife and mom to our 6 kids. Where do I start? How do I start? How do you take 48 years of a person’s life and compress that...
    MrBill4957 MrBill4957 51-55, M 4 Responses May 26, 2009

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    Its been just over two years

    since i lost my wife. I have another 10 years or so to raise my three kids all by myself. Not sure how I will survive.
    marshj marshj 51-55, M 1 Response Apr 14

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    Still Widowed

    I've been looking at flower & vegetable catalogs lately, since i've decided I want to have lots of flowers this year.  I also  keep a file of interesting plants that I have cut from newspapers & magazines, and I get a lot of comfort out of browsing these.   I had...
    mergelayers mergelayers 51-55, M 1 Response Feb 28, 2010

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    Very Unexpected...

    My name is Nicole. I'm 31, from Minnesota. I lost my husband Mark, the love of my life, on January 5th, 2010, very suddenly and unexpectedly. He was 28 years old and died from complications of Atheroschlerosis and an overly enlarged heart. Both conditions we were unaware of. At...
    mysticalmuzik mysticalmuzik 31-35, F 7 Responses Feb 8, 2010

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    Okay it's been one month

    or a little over. It still seems like yesterday that she was sitting right here with me. The long lonely nights make it worse. I know there was a lot of silence between us but now the silences just deafening. Every little thing has its reminder of you and I sit here tonight...
    Shmily68 Shmily68 41-45, M Mar 25

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    22 days ago I had everything a woman could

    desire - I was in Puerto Vallarta and it was warm & sunny & we were 4 days away from our 17th anniversary. And then there was a knock at the door & the bucket list became past due and all I have is pain & tears & a total vacuum has sucked the life out of me. How can anyone...
    HisBelovedToo HisBelovedToo 61-65, F 4 Responses Jan 28

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    A Real Life Tragedy

    5 months ago, my 41yr old husband was killed in a helicopter crash. We were together about 13 yrs, married 8. It was the greatest love story ever! He was gorgeous, smart, funny, sexy, and extremely healthy. He worked on helicopters in my hometown, and was doing a routine test...
    julez38 julez38 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 18, 2013

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    Hospital Eara

    My husband of 16 years went in to hospital with a chat infection and ending up dieing from doctors eara.
    kazmc1919 kazmc1919 46-50, F 1 Response Oct 14, 2013

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    November 2, 2012, my best friend in life died.

    He was my soul mate for 22 years. Eleven of those years he suffered through congestive obstructive pulmonary disease. His name was Larry, and I cannot forget him. I continue to love Larry as much now, as I did when he was still physically with me. I do not know how to forget him...
    Cynbolynn58 Cynbolynn58 56-60, F 4 Responses Jan 25

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    I have decided to use this experience

    as a sounding board. I have 45 days widowed and have come to the understanding that I am no longer excepted into my in-laws family. They have a hatred for me and a blame against me for my wife's death. This leaves me very few people to speak with about grieving because when she...
    Shmily68 Shmily68 41-45, M Mar 25

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    Looking for someone to talk to.

    My husband passed away 4 months ago, heart attack. He was 48 and I'm 41. He was my best friend and love of my life. I'm so lost without him.
    777Ice 777Ice 41-45, F 8 Responses Jan 2

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    Out Of The Deep Dark Blackhole

    My husband and I got married 7 days after our first date. We just knew we were right fore each other. That was in 2006. On October 18, 2009 he was sitting on the bed talking to his siter on the phone and I was sitting next to him. He fell back and started breathing heavy. i...
    justoils justoils 41-45 5 Responses Dec 5, 2010

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    I Am Here.

    I am recently widowed and this is such a sad, painful and rotten thing for anyone to go through. I am blessed with loving family, friends and co-workers trying to help me through this. I am hoping to find others on this site that has some sage advice on this topic.  
    gardenlover gardenlover 46-50 3 Responses Mar 15, 2009

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    I Am 38 and Lost My 40-year-old Husband of 19 Years On 1/6/2009

    It is still unreal to me.  I stumbled onto this web site while searching for sites on being recently widowed.  My husband has been my best friend for over 20 years.  We did everything together.  He was a coal-miner and an avid hunter, especially turkey and...
    stacybob stacybob 36-40 13 Responses Feb 2, 2009

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    Strange Days

    **** faced. I was going to go to a basketball game tonight (the good guys won, without me in attendance)  but it turns out there was a conspiracy to keep me from going. My wine glass kept getting topped off and by the time I caught on the game had already started and...
    mergelayers mergelayers 51-55, M 4 Responses Mar 7, 2010

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    I was very suddenly widowed three years ago.

    It doesn't seem to get any easier, some days are better than others though.
    Andrewina Andrewina 56-60, F 2 Responses Apr 15

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    I Am Missing My Angel

    In sep i lost my angel he was the love of my life and i am lost without him.  we had so many dreams, now i dream alone. i dream of him being here in my life with me, beside me, holding me, i am 45 and i thought we would grow old together. It doesnt seem fair we only had...
    lostdeva lostdeva 46-50 7 Responses May 1, 2009

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    Widowed at 53 years old.

    My wife if 30 years caught the flu and never recovered. However I am now remarried to someone I love (my own age, my former wife was 7 yrs younger). The problem is that although she loves me, she doesn't desire me or anyone. Just saying. Not really expecting a response. Not so...
    MickyMD MickyMD 51-55, M 2 Responses Jun 26

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    And Here I Am.........

    ….on the eve of the marking of one year without my husband. A day that I will relive over and over for the rest of my life. This being the day that I lost the man of my dreams, the love of my life, the father of our son, and my partner in this life. It’s hard to decide if...
    TakingMyTime TakingMyTime 51-55, F 3 Responses Apr 23, 2011

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    7weeks ago my soulmate passed away sleeping on

    our couch we had just shared the birth of our 2nd daughter only 5days earlier the luv we shared was unconditional the kind that last forever we had only spent5years together at 37 years old we expected many more. I miss him so badly but have no time to cry greive or even think...
    misdaddy misdaddy 36-40, F 6 Responses Mar 26

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    TRYING to Go On

    MY HUSBAND OF 48 YEARS PASSED AWAY SEPT 12, 2008.  I AM TRYING TO ADJUST BUT IT IS SO HARD.  I HAVE GOOD DAYS AND BAD DAYS,  ALWAYS BAD NIGHTS.  HE HAD BEEN SICK FOR 8 YEARS AND IN THE HOSPITAL AUG 30, BUT WAS BEGINNING TO FEEL BETTER BUT DIED WITHIN 30...
    LADYROADRUNNER LADYROADRUNNER 61-65 4 Responses Nov 17, 2008

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    Worth Reading May Help

    I have lost the one I love, the one I cherish. My lover, my best friend, my whole life. Either you have stumbled across this because you want to find out how to help me, or I have given this to you. How I am Feeling • I am numb. I am in shock. I am emotionally exhausted...
    barb111 barb111 51-55, F 13 Responses Jul 3, 2012

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    It's the 31st today. I suddenly realized

    that it's been 2 months. And it doesn't feel any easier.. What to do? When will I feel better? I'm thinking 6 months and then a year, 2 years.. will go by so quickly.. will this pain and sadness and regret and everything go away..? I reckon the answer will be No. It doesn't go...
    Tisimi Tisimi 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 30

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    I can't believe I'm sharing this,

    but I need to know if anyone else has been through this. Here goes, so I was intimate very, very, intimate with another man last night. I've known him since I was 16 so he wasn't a stranger or anything like that. However today I'm feeling guilty I've been crying all day, I knew...
    2kitty 2kitty 41-45, F 3 Responses Dec 23, 2013

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    Ponnette

    There is a French movie that was made  years ago called Ponnette.  Like many of the European movies, it dealt heavily with the message and if it entertained you too, well that was very nice.  I am very glad that I had seen it now.  It dealt with the grief that...
    Iusedto Iusedto 61-65, M 2 Responses Sep 7, 2008

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    Missing Conversations

    My husband died June12, 2013. He fought for five long years with Cancer. Would be nice to chat with people again.
    Galval Galval 66-70, F 6 Responses Oct 26, 2013

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    8 Months And 6 Days

      since Leah died, and week by week I am changing. I know the first couple of weeks I was so afraid that I would forget her;  I couldn’t remember her face, I couldn’t remember her voice, I couldn’t remember any happy times. As the weeks went by I...
    mergelayers mergelayers 51-55, M 7 Responses Apr 30, 2010

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    Who Am I?

    My wife of over 30 yrs died suddenly about six weeks ago.  I have been taking a lot of meds to deal with the grief and I am sure that I would be non functional if it weren't for them.  In some moments of clarity, it occurs to me that people at my age can easily die...
    Iusedto Iusedto 61-65, M 15 Responses Sep 6, 2008

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    The worst times are the alone times.

    When everyone is gone when the phones not ringing when the email stop coming and the only thing that you have to look forward to is the sound of the TV. Then you know you've lost everything. The day my wife died I'm not only lost her but I lost my family. The children no longer...
    Shmily68 Shmily68 41-45, M 2 Responses Mar 27

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    Julie Who?

    It's been almost 7 months since losing my husband in a very unexpected helicopter crash, and I believe I entered a new realm of grief a few weeks ago. Last week was my 39th B-day, and unfortunately I got married on the B-day. Didn't see this coming when I picked the date. I'm...
    julez38 julez38 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 14, 2013

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    Now, the Dark of Winter

    Thirty four years ... they held us up as an example to the less fortunate ones whose relationships fell apart. "They're like this," her youngest brother told her, waving his hand up and down, "but you guys are like this --" a steady, level sweep.  Others noted the intensity...
    windlion windlion 56-60, M 9 Responses Oct 18, 2008

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    My husband died 49 days ago.

    . on Lunar new Year.. He went to his hometown to visit his family and I stayed at home with our 2 daughters, 1 and a half and 3 and a half.. The next morning, on New Year's Day my mother in law calls and tells us the news.. His heart stopped in his sleep. He was 26. And I am 29...
    Tisimi Tisimi 26-30, F 6 Responses Mar 19

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    Dying of Grief

    My wife died suddenly last July.  I am doing a lot better although I will still have those sad moments when I am thinking to myself how much fun it will be to tell my wife about something that just happened and then realize I won't be able to.  Immediately...
    Iusedto Iusedto 61-65, M 7 Responses Feb 10, 2009

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    Hi, six months ago I became a member of a club

    I didn't want to being too, I became a widow just shy of 4 years. We had know each other fro childhood,, and one day our paths crossed and a new adventure started. Then left for work that morning with the usual good bye, see u this afternoon,but when I came back he wasn't...
    grannysnowalone grannysnowalone 56-60, F Jan 13

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    My wife and soul mate died Nov.

    10, 2013 very suddenly. No time for "see you later". The pain and loneliness has been at best crippling and it is getting worse every day. Sudden anger has started to come out at the drop of a hat now. My wife and I were together for over 40 years and Nov.29 would have been our...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jan 2

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