I Am Responsible For My Own Happiness

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    I chose this pic because my dog,

    my friend, makes me happy. Whenever I'm down, or just emotionally off, this sweet one looks into my eyes, & gives me so much unconditional furry love, that I quickly forget my 'problem', but this story isn't really about my scruffy friend, it's about my 'problem' which I've...
    TheRightFitforLife TheRightFitforLife
    46-50, F
    Jun 14, 2015

    "Love what you have,

    and you'll have more to love." Regina Spektor
    SocialHermit SocialHermit
    46-50, F
    Feb 22, 2015

    It's Up to Me and Only Me

    I make my own fun and happiness.  I find people to be happy with and distance myself from those that don't want to or can't be happy.  I so get on the band wagon I will make room for you.
    loopnscc loopnscc
    46-50, M
    1 Response Apr 27, 2009

    I Needed A Rebuttal To My Previous Story "Never Again" so here it is: "I cannot change who I am"

    No one can make me feel anything No one can make me say anything No one can make me do anything No one can force me to share anything No one can pull information out of me.... Therefore; I am responsible for my own actions I choose to share who I am I choose to share what I feel...
    Invisible2unow Invisible2unow
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Jun 10, 2011


    car rides with girl friends drilling into my head my ideals and past happiness and how this or that should be sounds amuzing, untill i dont know how to apply it again or be how i was again. hearing a father with disabilitating dillemas as a young adult that he has worked through...
    tessagirl tessagirl
    18-21, F
    Jan 29, 2009

    Pure Plesure

    L earning this lesson in life was a rude awakening for me. Now I'm making better choices to achieve happiness again in my life. I thank God for my grandchildren who give me joy in the mist of my pain. You can't have one with the other, right? My definition of happiness for me is...
    WarriorMom WarriorMom
    51-55, F
    Sep 12, 2008

    And That Is Empowering

    Sometimes I forget that I am the keeper of my own happiness and those are the times when I am most unhappy. I realize that trying to find happiness outside of myself (other people, things, money, etc) is pretty pointless. Sure these things and people can bring me joy, make my...
    ACuriousStudent ACuriousStudent
    26-30, F
    Jul 1, 2012

    I Just Need to Get Better At It!

    I seem to have a mild depression (OK  its probably worse than mild but don't want to whine)as a background most of the time.I know what the problem/s is/are.....I am just lacking in being able to deal with them effectively.I'm trying small bite size steps at the moment, just...
    lostbird lostbird
    51-55, F
    3 Responses Mar 10, 2008

    I have have to be the one to make my life what

    I want it to be . Because I'm the only one who cares enough .
    lunaluna13 lunaluna13
    22-25, F
    1 Response Apr 15, 2014

    I've heard so many times lately how I deserve

    to be happy. Several my friends said it to me. Yes, I do, just like everyone else. But am I wrong to think that I am responsible for my children first? I care about their feelings and peace. I can't just take off in pursuit of MY personal happiness, my children are part of it...
    anet99 anet99
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Apr 28, 2014

    Choose Inner Peace

    Nothing is worth losing your inner peace.   Take action as circumstances require, but never surrender your inner peace. Stop.   Breathe deeply.   Close your eyes and breathe deeply again. Then, and only then, take action --- from a peaceful heart.  ~ Jonathan Lockwood Huie
    Annikka Annikka
    51-55, F
    Mar 30, 2012

    Come what may in my life,

    my happiness is dependent on me to nurture, and care for it. It isn't due to whether things go well with me. It's a choice I choose daily.
    ZenLioNESS719 ZenLioNESS719
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Oct 28, 2015

    My happiness source is not my spouse.

    He isn't the keeper of my joy. No one is. Yes he will sit with me in it and marvel and share smile as i soak it up. But i take ownership of it. And in freeing him of the responsibility he's been able to experience more of his own. Happiness becomes more a"bonus" than my life's...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jul 18, 2015

    Happiness Comes From Peace

    I have found that to be truly happy I need peace.  Peace and hope within me.  I get this peace and hope through my faith.  Life experience has shown me that faith gives strenth and wisdom. Due to this I accept and know that no matter what may come my way I can...
    Grits4life Grits4life
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Aug 18, 2008

    Sometimes ....

    I'm having a tough time lately.  Tough trusting myself ....My life is in transition and there are a number of new people in my life.   More and more wonderful friends.  And, a few romantic encounters that leave me wondering .....I was just told by one man that there's someone...
    Annikka Annikka
    51-55, F
    1 Response May 2, 2012

    Happiness is when what you think,

    what you say, and what you do are in harmony. Mahatma Gandhi
    DelightedRaj DelightedRaj
    31-35, M
    Feb 11, 2015

    What I Want To Be When I Grow Up .....

    " When I was 5 years old,my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life.  When I went to school,they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up.   I wrote down ' happy ' .   They told me I didn't understand the assignment.   I told them they didn't understand...
    Annikka Annikka
    51-55, F
    4 Responses Nov 6, 2011

    IM In Charge

    Iam in charge of my own happiness. I do this every day with the choises I make. I must add though that we all need help to make those choises and they have to be the right ones although sometimes there not. Those are the ones I have to be responsible for and believe that...
    61-65, F
    1 Response Aug 20, 2008

    Give Or Take?

    take responsibility for your own happiness. no one is obliged to make anyone happy or to fix their sh*t.
    tgreatpretender tgreatpretender
    Oct 24, 2013

    The day I let someone else control my happiness

    is the day I lose all respect for myself.
    Honorthycurves Honorthycurves
    22-25, F
    Apr 15, 2014

    Moving Through The Tough Times

    When strong winds come blowing into your life, try bending with them and letting go.By bending, you may notice that you become stronger in new places.By letting go, you'll make room for the new and the better.
    Annikka Annikka
    51-55, F
    5 Responses Nov 16, 2011

    If I actually took a good look around me I have

    so much to be grateful for. There are so many wonderful things I have going on around me. Unfortunately I am to clouded by my own self pity sometimes that I cannot muster up the confidence or will to persevere. I don't know how to get motivated to move forward to potential...
    vintagevixen19 vintagevixen19
    26-30, F
    1 Response May 1, 2014

    Who Gathers Smiles

    I know it is strange for some people that I insist in keeping my joy for life.But the truth is, laughter, hope, desire, hugs, kisses, faith, love and peace are part of the sunny days that makes my life today, yesterday and all others that are about to come. I don’t want to be...
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses Jun 12, 2011

    I'm Responsible

    This man: http://www.barryneilkaufman.com has taught me how to be happy from within myself just by deciding to be happy and NOT unhappy. It's a choice! I spent most of my life expecting or waiting for happiness to arrive from outside of me. There is reason for this which goes...
    jimrich jimrich
    70+, M
    Jan 28, 2011

    I'm Taking Action to Be Happy. Reading "Be Happy" By Robert Holden

     I am reading a new book, “be happy” by Robert Holden, Ph.D, the same author of “Happiness Now” that I read this past June (Click here to read an excerpt from the book). He wrote this book to give the readers the experience of attending his eight-week...
    WifeTellsAll WifeTellsAll
    31-35, F
    Sep 16, 2009


    I don't work for it and blame others.
    FreeFallWall FreeFallWall
    26-30, M
    May 18, 2012

    I always felt like I need a guy in my life to

    complete me. But I'm beginning to realise that I need to be complete first. If you are too desperate for guys, you become easy because any little attention you receive makes you immensely happy but you will soon realise that actually, that is not the kind of partner you are...
    Miamickley Miamickley
    18-21, F
    1 Response Mar 17, 2016

    The Four Agreements

    Follow these four agreements and you will find happiness~ 1) make your word impeccable 2) don't take anything personal 3) never assume anything 4) always do your best for more detail~ The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
    mrnature mrnature
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Apr 8, 2012

    ...life Is For Learning... And Hopefully For Sharing Lessons Learned...

    I am on the journey of learning how to love, care for, and respect others for who they are with out feeling as though it is my responsibility to make them happy, content, or give them piece of mind. I have learned, am learning, the hard way that if someone else does not have...
    SleepingTiger SleepingTiger
    56-60, M
    Sep 17, 2011


    I'm responsible for me; my actions, my thoughts, my words, my feelings.  No one else.  If I want to be happy, I will figure out how to get there.  If I can't make myself happy, no one can.  It's like that saying... "If you don't love yourself, how...
    ChevyGirl ChevyGirl
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jan 14, 2009

    It's In Me

    the happiness I seek, it's a choice I have to make. no one and no thing can make me happy. I take responsibility for my own emotions and my own reactions, they are mine to make and mine alone.
    RavenLee RavenLee
    46-50, F
    Sep 27, 2008
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