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I Am Sad About My Marriage

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    My Husband Breaks My Heart

    My husband and I have been together for 19 years. When we met he had three girls I had one and together we had a boy. There is a 15 year difference in age. I always went for older men. I am 38 now and never thought we could get this unhappy. We have been through alot in those...
    jrdnmuso73 jrdnmuso73 36-40, F Nov 10, 2011

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    Stuck In A Life I No Longer Want

    My husband is a good man, good husband and a good father. The problem is he is not the one for me, not sure he ever was. He does not know who I am.  He is a simple person what you see is what you get.  I am a deep thinker, I enjoy being in my head.  The long periods of...
    04bobbie16 04bobbie16 36-40, F 8 Responses Nov 24, 2011

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    My Husband Loves Me Conditionally

    He's 20 years older which I don't mind, but he really stays on me about what I eat and if I gain a few pounds. Keep in mind that he's overweight, doesn't exercise regularly himself, and eats fast food whenever he wants. I feel like an idiot because I really loved him when we got...
    Peters2012 Peters2012 26-30 2 Responses Apr 3, 2012

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    Well, long story short!

    The other day my Wife who I loved with all my heart told me she's been feeling that she isn't 'In love' with me any more. 16 years together, just over 10 years married. To say I'm hurt in a major understatement. No there's a problem, let's work on it, change things. Just it's...
    anotherlostguy anotherlostguy 41-45, M Mar 8

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    Stuck In a Marriage

     My marriage has taught me many things about myself. I now realize that the person you get engaged to and the person you marry are two very different things. I tried for years to get my wife involved in our marriage. However, she was always more interested in her work. Why...
    cbr600f4 cbr600f4 36-40, M 6 Responses Aug 1, 2008

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    I don't feel loved by my husband.

    We have been married for almost 11 years and have 2 beautiful children. He is at home tonight in another room and I feel lonely and typing this.... It's sad. I know that a lot of people live like this. I am not enjoying the feeling. I know that the right think is to go and talk...
    Nasstasia Nasstasia 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 11

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    Dreading Our 10th Wedding Anniversary

    I've joined this group because this topic is not something I'm ready to share with people around me yet. I have been married for almost 10 years- that is supposed to be something worth celebrating but I am dreading this milestone as our marriage has been anything but happy for as...
    10LY 10LY 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 27, 2012

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    The Trust Is Gone

    I've been married nearly 20yrs. now and have been trying to feel good for some time now. About three years ago I started noticing that my wife had been texting a friend of mine quite often. When I would confront her about it she would say " nothing is up" but yet the text's would...
    indianaman42 indianaman42 41-45, M 1 Response Nov 22, 2011

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    Ungrateful

    Being a player in my early days, I probably deserve being in a marriage that lacks love, affection, sex, etc.  How I try but it seems the more you try, the less it shows in her eyes.  I cook, clean, take care of my little girl and work at night but in her eyes it...
    sadgenius sadgenius 31-35, M 2 Responses Nov 7, 2007

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    I Really Hate My Husband...for Real!

    I'm so frustrated with my life since the moment I said "I do" to him. Instead of making me happy as his wife, he is busy talking about how o didn't help him in his business. Making me all so guilty about this. Am I stupid and out of my mind to be wishing that I'm better off...
    goodfornothingwife goodfornothingwife 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 13, 2012

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    Get A Job

    I know that this is a tough Economy, and I really do love my husband but if he doesn't get a better job, I might have to reconsider. Hes currently a waiter at a restaurant but late Y he brings home only about 50$ a day. I work also and go to school, but it seems like I'm moving...
    Hair4wear Hair4wear 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 15, 2012

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    Growing Apart Rather Than Together

    It's been such a rough year financially, emotionally, and physically. We came into 2011 knowing that so many changes had to be made yet everything that was discussed and said apparently meant nothing. The whole year was spent fighting and arguing about the same stuff we always...
    OctaviaM OctaviaM 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 30, 2011

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    Sad when I was single.

    I didn't have anyone I could be with to hug, kiss, to experience life with together. Now I am married. I feel trapped. I still feel sad but now it is about another set of things. I spend a lot of time at home now. I used to go out lots on my own. I used to feel sad about...
    beedio beedio 46-50, M 1 Response Jan 30

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    lonelydaisy lonelydaisy 31-35, F 2 days ago

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    Missing My Wife And Wondering How She Really Feels

    I've been married for a little over a year and have been together for 5 years. This is my second marriage and lately I've been very sad and depressed over it. We have 4 kids ( 2 from my previous marriage and two babies, 6 months and 2..5 years) and there is never any us time...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Sep 26, 2012

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    Not Great,Not Terrible

    Lonely,very much so. It's not like other troubled marriages where we fight all the time but not what it was or should be,either. It's like the marriage in Bridges of Madison County or Same Time,Next Year;except without the whole affair thing. Except...I have found a connection on...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Apr 18, 2009

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    Strange Husband

    last night me and my husband are so happy while chatting.were miles apart because of our jobs.but its not big deal at all to me but when the time goes by i felt something has change maybe because I'm not used to it or is it because he change his heart?i don't know why i feel this...
    msconfuse1216 msconfuse1216 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 22, 2009

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    Don'T Know What To Do

    I am saddened and stressed in my marriage, I have been with my hubby for 9 years and I had two kids before I met him and we have two together and one on the way, my kids I had before him used to be fine but anymore it seems like all they do is stress him out and upset him and it...
    stacyloaks stacyloaks 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 14, 2013

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    Who Knew 15years Ago It Would Be Like This!!

    Really! I sit here in front of my computer wondering if I should go on and on as I stared at the Title section for 15min, as I flash back the last 15years ugh!! How, why, when,Did it all fall apart?
    busy559women busy559women 36-40, F 6 Responses Jun 3, 2012

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    Disappointed

    I have been married for 5 yrs.  Me and my husband have had our share of arguments.  Our marriage has been like a roller coaster, with many ups and downs.  One day he loves me and the next he hates me.  He recently lost his job and he began staying up all...
    Grettalee Grettalee 31-35 1 Response May 18, 2009

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    Lata

    I am married for 8 years. I loved him so dearly..how quick all the fun goes and the love is taken for granted. It is now a turmoil and bitterness but despite our sad marriage, we've been blessed With 2 beautiful sons who are now victims of a sad circumstance. Recently he...
    latabeb latabeb 41-45, F 2 Responses May 3, 2012

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    I'm Meant to Live Alone

    I've been married for 14 years and I think now that maybe it was a mistake. I'm too selfish to be a good husband and father. Everything was ok but then developed an addiction to internet **** and totally screwed up my life more than I ever thought possible. My mom...
    SRayne SRayne 41-45 4 Responses Sep 25, 2008

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    I have only been married

    for a little over a year and it was almost love at first sight, had no problems, just head over heals and wasn't even looking. It has progressed (and I mean that in a bad way) into him giving me love and attention to my hobbies to telling me he wasn't being true to himself. He...
    GinaDivine GinaDivine 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 10

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    Hope

    One of the few things that keep me going is hope in things getting better. My marriage has been rocky ever since the beginning. I am certain that I can remember our relationship being volatile but I thought it would all change once his troubles were resolved. When he got a job...
    cleargerman cleargerman 26-30, F 4 Responses Jun 7, 2012

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    Sad & Lonely But Married

    I have been married 18 years to my husband but am sooooo lonely and sad. It really started 3 1/2 years ago. I was diagnosed with breast cancer and was thrust into the media through my sports team I coach. These girls made me look at it as a way I could teach other; I was only 37...
    coach33 coach33 41-45 3 Responses May 6, 2011

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    Feeling Unappreciated

    Several years back I decided to return to school, and get my nursing degree. My husband took on another job to help out till I was out, all was fine till I got into the nursing program (best feeling in the world) I explain to him that it was going to be a rough two years. He said...
    tellingtales tellingtales 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 7, 2012

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    I feel in love at first sight,

    never believed in it until then. We were best friends for 2 years, dated for a year and then got married. 5 total years we've known each other. 3 years of happiness, and now it's gone. How? Why? When? I give you my all, 100% of me and you give me 9% back. Whys you even marry me...
    ReeseThompson0424 ReeseThompson0424 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 11

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    Tired of Crying...

    I hate being miserable.  At first I thought that it was our lack of mutual friends that was the cause of our mutual existence instead of a marriage.  But now I regret seeking out friends because watching their seemingly functional marriages just makes me sad, angry &...
    ghostgirl ghostgirl 36-40 4 Responses Jun 17, 2008

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    Wow. Just Wow.

    My husband was arrested for unlawful sexual contact and harassment on his female barber, but he says it was a consensual, sexually charged conversation. We've been married 12 yrs, and he had just started a new career, which he's been forced to resign from now, even before a trial...
    missmetz missmetz 41-45, F 2 Responses Jul 27, 2013

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    The lord is close to the brokenhearted.

    He saves those whose spirits have been crushed. Psalm 34:18
    Pierce7891 Pierce7891 16-17, F Aug 30

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    I Dont Love Him Anymore

    i got married 5yrs now. ma husband didnt tel me de truth aba his lyf.he has two grown up children& a woman in abraod.now my problem is that,he sometimes gets angry&refuses to cal me in a mnth, im leavin with his entire family,until i culdnt contain it any more so i stoped lovin...
    ladygifty ladygifty 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 8, 2012

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    Sometimes I'm Just Sad

    I took care of my husband for five days while he had the flu.  I waited on him hand and foot while I worked from home.  Now that I'm sick, he's nowhere to be found.  I was out of town all last week for work and to see my family.  We haven't seen much of each...
    snugglebunny156 snugglebunny156 31-35, F 3 Responses Feb 26, 2008

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    Desperate

    I feel like I married him to stop him destroying himself... not because I love him.  And now I feel like he is destroying me...
    Oregano Oregano 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 31, 2007

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    Time to Finally Give Up?

    Lately, all I feel is sad about my marriage. I dont know if I was ever really truly happy, but there was a time that I felt loved and had a sense of security. Our 21st anniversary is in a couple weeks and I dont even know if theres any point in remembering, theres not a lot to...
    jinkies65 jinkies65 36-40, F 4 Responses Aug 8, 2008

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    My Husband Hangs Out More With His Friend ( Male) Over Me.

    We have been together since high school. We have been through everything. It's been 15 years. He has a buddy that has come back in out lives. Now they work together, even sit by each other. Carpool. Talk on the phone to each other all the time. My husband will even be talking to...
    chellers chellers 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 20, 2013

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    My husband is a great guy

    but not so as a husband. I feel so sad that ever since we got marry he has not done anything to make me feel happy and love. When he comes home from work he goes play his video games and talk on the mic with his buddies. I feel so ignore while I sit next to him. I try my best at...
    rikuxiong rikuxiong 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 29

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    Young Mother, Not Happy In Marrige! Advie Welcome...

    So here is my story, not sure if I will get any responses, but here goes nothing... I'm 21 years old. When I was 17, I met this Marine down in NC. We were infatuated with each other. What I thought at the time, love. We dated for 3 months, but that mainly consisted of going out...
    lynnnicolemedina lynnnicolemedina 22-25 4 Responses Apr 28, 2012

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    I have been married to the greatest guy

    for 8 years this weekend but we have been together for 13 years. in September he said he would never feel intimate feelings for me ever again and moved out. Now he has filed for a divorce. We are great together and get along great except when to talk about our marriage. I...
    egnste egnste 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 13

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    Yes I Am Sad, Very Sad

    Marriage isn't suppose to be about struggling for something that is suppose to be a natural and integral part of marriage. It has really distorted what could otherwise be a great relationship.
    JRSK007 JRSK007 51-55, M 5 Responses Dec 9, 2007

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    I truly don't know what to do anymore.

    We fight all the time. She always seems annoyed by what I say. What the hell do I do now....
    denver19 denver19 31-35, M 2 Responses Jan 26

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    Not A Story For The Faint Of Heart

    My story begins 17 years ago..... I met my wife and was madly in love with her. Her parents forbid our union and on Christmas day as I am in the basement of her parents house wrapping up a dozen long stem roses with the wedding rings attached with a bow my future mother in law...
    Shiver8u Shiver8u 41-45 1 Response May 9, 2012

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    Did Not Want To Have Marriage Like That,,,,

    I am not sad because my marriage is not going well, I am sad about my marriage didn't work how I dreamed.... But however my marriage is very complicated. it is not working not because of me and him, we got an other factor that bothers me, and also he didn't help it enough before...
    haveadrink haveadrink 41-45, F 2 Responses Jun 24, 2011

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    My wife is always telling me how she dislikes

    my mother telling what to do. Whenever my mom tells me to do something, I do it. Not everything she says I do. Then my wife gets mad at me. It doesn't involve my wife, but she still is upset. She is always upset whenever my mom wants me to do something. Usually anything I...
    beedio beedio 46-50, M 1 Response Aug 30

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    Shattered Dreams

      Once long ago in another lifetime I sat in an office practice just practicing my typing. My mind began to drift as I began as usual to daydream. I imagine I will never need to work, because I am going to find the man of my dreams and marry him.  I won't need to work...
    Sara600 Sara600 56-60, F 3 Responses May 31, 2010

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    After The Denials

    Today - jan 4th - very confused. I feel seriously under pressure. Like he marked my card. He says that unreasonable behaviour is a deal breaker for him. I think that he is implying if I persist in believing he is having an affair, after he has denied it - thats unreasonable...
    Corylus Corylus 56-60, F 1 Response Mar 3, 2013

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    When I was growing up,

    my mother always used to tell me - "When you get married - it will be to a man who will love you for you. A man who really loves you won't try to change you. He will love you for who you are." Mom was wrong.
    lightblueeyes lightblueeyes 46-50, F 10 Responses Apr 11

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    It Seems Hopeless

    My husband and I were planning to make a drive to fort worth tonight to visit his sister.  We didn't get to go because I went to the ER for chest pain (it's not my heart or lungs, it's acute costochondritis which is some kind of inflammation of the cartilage in the chest and...
    eromreven eromreven 26-30 6 Responses Jul 4, 2008

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    My husband and I have been married 2 years this

    month. We are a blended family as well. Prior to marrying, we knew we would face challenges. We have had much counseling on communication since we both can get heated. We've been doing really well, arguing fair, being kind, then...out of nowhere, he goes off on something that...
    ef25 ef25 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 11

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    Ever Since I Found An Old Card

    My 23rd birthday was the first birthday after me getting together with my husband. We had just gotten our own place, were newly engaged and super broke. We didn't go out or anything, just enjoyed a quiet night at home. Anyways, he made me a birthday card. Just a white piece of...
    TattooedMissez TattooedMissez 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 30, 2012

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    I’m seeing the light, I hope! I posted last week on this site as a newcomer, and I wanted to thank everyone who responded constructively. Most of all, I want to mention that...
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