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I Am Scared My Marriage Wont Last

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    Dont Be Nice.... They Will Appreciate Nasty

     Firstly and most importantly the " outlaws " are not treating you horribly because you are you or indeed they are afraid of loosing their son, brother.  It is irrelevant who you are and what is more,  this is exactly how they want you to think. They...
    ANNIEB1234 ANNIEB1234 36-40, F Oct 24, 2009

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    FEELING Scared and Alone

    WHERE DO I BEGIN?  I KNOW I NEED TO COMMUNICATE WITH SOMEONE ABOUT MY FEELINGS OR I FEEL I WILL SIMPLY CONTINUE TO GET MORE AND MORE DEPRESSED. I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 10 YEARS, THE LAST 5 YEARS I HAVE FELT MY HUSBAND AND I DRIFTING FARTHER AND FARTHER APART.  I HAVE...
    loneliness loneliness 36-40, F 9 Responses Nov 4, 2007

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    So recently I have been sort of seeing messages

    my husband is sending to this other woman. Not that he is cheating on me or anything like that... BUT he has been deleting what he is writing to her as I have on two occasions now caught a glimpse of a few messages. I'm a little concerned that he is divulging all our marriage...
    Germanovna Germanovna 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 3

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    2 Many Involved

    I am so scared my marriage won't last do to the constant meddling of my husbands family. Since we started dating there has been tension, comments, lies, insults, and rumors generated by his family. I don't know if it is because they feel I am taking him away or if it is because...
    babyblueshorty2003 babyblueshorty2003 21-25, F 6 Responses May 3, 2007

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    Is Love Enough?

    my husbands philosophy is that if you dont talk about it, the problem doesnt exist...yeah, ok. i dont htink i was his type from the beginning. i was "thick." i got the impression that he usually dated petite girls. i'm 5'10 and big boned. i will never be petite..lol. i...
    ktsm0m ktsm0m 26-30, F 8 Responses Jun 18, 2007

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    Will My Marriage Survive the Storms?

    I finally found my soul mate and we just married last christmas eve, but already there are major issues. i have two boys, ages 9 & 11 and he has a boy age 10 who has adhd.  we can't agree on one single thing as far as discipline goes for the kids.  he's too tough...
    randynserena randynserena 31-35, F 5 Responses May 4, 2007

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    We Often Joke About Divorce But Lately Im More Serious About It..

    IM SO FRUSTRATED THESE DAYS. I REALLY THOUGHT THINGS WOULD BE BETTER.. AND THEY ARE IF U SEE IT FROM A DIFF POINT OF VIEW.. LET ME SAY THAT I REALLY DO LOVE MY HUSBAND OF 3.5 YRS (TOGETHER 8). BUT IM STARTING TO SEE THAT THIS LOVE IS THE KINDA OF LOVE U HAVE FOR A FAM MEM. LIKE...
    drakent21 drakent21 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 12, 2010

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    I think I've got the guts to post this now. My wife and I have talked about this many times. I think it would help me to talk to others about it, even if it is anonymously. Since...
    7Sparrows 7Sparrows 26-30, M 14 Responses Jun 27

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    We started marriage counseling last week - my husband sobbed and said he was willing to do anything to save our marriage. But he made me a list of things I'm not allowed to talk...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 23

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    "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference" He answered that prayer two weeks...
    gracehopepeace gracehopepeace 31-35, F 14 Responses Jun 29

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    Day seven of our romantic vacation and still no passion. Well I'm thinking about giving up on this relationship. We ( my wife of 9 years and myself) have had three nights to our...
    HenryMiller04 HenryMiller04 46-50, M 23 Responses Jul 10

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    Hello I'm new to this site. I posted once prior, but I had no clue where I was in the situation. I'm a terrible writer and this is going to be long enough, so I'll jump right into...
    gator613 gator613 26-30, M Jul 9

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    ive been married for 13 years , the last 3 years have been totally loveless in everyway , my wife wont even look at me , i excercise everyday and take care of my body , try and...
    skiball5150 skiball5150 36-40, M 14 Responses Jun 25

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    Almost a month out post divorce. I didn't realize how much you could cram into one month. So overall I would say I am feeling stagnant, however the outside world may see progress...
    Usernametbd Usernametbd 36-40, M 10 Responses Jul 7

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    Outsourcing, sex and ...Oxitocin: The Love and Trust Hormone Can Be Deceptive Although poets and authors have tried to describe love, in the world of neuroscience, researchers...
    largehopes largehopes 36-40 2 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    The Best of Days; The Worst of Days (Or, Long-Winded Update) I haven't posted much in here in a while, so here's the general update: For those who don't know, I separated from...
    MeNotWe MeNotWe 26-30, F 11 Responses 5 days ago

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    Marriage is a total trap for men. Like a lot of people, this experience starts with a relationship between 2 people, then life happens. Anyhow there's these 2 people, they...
    carpediemer carpediemer 41-45, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    "Sorry but I have to **** you" was the last thing I heard before everything changed. I've never told a soul. I can't. They wont treat me the same. Im terrified it'll happen again...
    NowhereKid NowhereKid 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 26

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    Hi guys ...well lets see its been 3 years since i left my ex ...ive been with the guy im with now 2 years....and the sex was good.....but here lately ive been seeing the same...
    Hopefinding3 Hopefinding3 22-25, F 13 Responses Jul 2

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    Last week we had our 18th anniversary. My wife asked me what to do on that day. And I had this idea with 18 stops. My idea was to present each other a surprise or task for each...
    Soniador1963 Soniador1963 46-50, M 2 Responses Jul 2

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    its been 189 since the last time , i feel like a prisoner , making hash marks on a wall , just counting down the days now .. really no prospects in sight for it , she holds ALL...
    skiball5150 skiball5150 36-40, M 3 Responses Jul 7

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    (Repost...EP BLOCKED my first story) I stumbled upon EP the latter part of last year, and I've been a fairly frequent lurker ever since. It has taken me quite some time to...
    Insearchofmenow Insearchofmenow 31-35 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    After reading some posts here about renowned marriage/relationship researcher John Gottman (the one who says the "Four Horsemen -- contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling and...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 8 Responses Jun 23

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    I think the hardest thing for me, looking back on how I got into a sexless marriage, was that it was a long slow process (a death by a thousand cuts). In some ways it would have...
    runninginthedark70 runninginthedark70 41-45, M 10 Responses Jun 25

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    My college sweetheart and I have been married 21 years and we have three children (11-20). My wife desires no sex. I pay very close attention to and meet her needs in all other...
    NoTalkJustDo NoTalkJustDo 41-45, M 10 Responses Jul 13

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    the perfect way to describe my wife is a line from a Police song Synchronicity part II , "mother chants her litany of boredom and frustration , but we know all her suicides are...
    skiball5150 skiball5150 36-40, M 13 Responses Jul 15

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    The Next Bit Starts With You. Here you are, having joined this group. You've already attempted "scented candles" strategies, "counselling" strategies, "REALLY talking to them...
    bazzar bazzar 56-60, M 10 Responses Jun 24

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    Final Meeting with the Marriage Counselor - I went to my last marriage counseling session today. My H and the therapist don't know I'm not coming back again because they're not...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 18 Responses Jun 25

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    I've been in a sexless marriage for 14 years. It started going down hill within the first year and I knew then something wasn't right. I've poured my heart out to him so many times...
    ABlueChristine ABlueChristine 41-45, F 19 Responses Jun 29

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    Diary Entries During The First Months Of Marriage I have been slowly transferring my handwritten diary entries to this site. I've reached the part about my arranged marriage and...
    thelonewood thelonewood 26-30 3 Responses Jun 29

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    I'm 29, married for 5 years, 2 beautiful kids. Unfortunately like most here I live in a sexless marriage. I have for several years. Now some will say, your young and just not happy...
    incognito21 incognito21 26-30, M 15 Responses Jul 1

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    I am not sure I love my wife enough. I've been married for 11 yrs, together for 18 yrs and we have 2 young kids. About 2 yrs ago she was unhappy because I was spending too much...
    Inurdrmz Inurdrmz 36-40, M 2 Responses Jun 24

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    So I have spent the last several months debating on whether or not to talk to a good friend about my marriage. I finally opened up and told her how I have been denied/refused for...
    gardinel gardinel 36-40, F 16 Responses Jul 2

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    I am in my third marriage. Curious how things go, my first one ended because my wife refused sex almost all the time. to the point of being intolerable. The stories I read here, i...
    marcz7 marcz7 46-50, M 9 Responses Jul 4

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    i can hardly even think about it without crying. I feel it now. The hot tears running down my face. Ill have to hide it. From my parents. From my friends. From everyone. This is...
    cloakedgarden cloakedgarden 13-15, F 3 Responses Jul 5

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    Sort of an update to my situation. But I'm sure it's not anything new to many of us who have been here for a while. For the record, I'm aware of my options, and the following isn't...
    angryspartan angryspartan 36-40, M 12 Responses 5 days ago

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    Telling the Kids Yesterday, we told the kids we were getting a divorce. Five of our six kids (who range in age from 15 to 27) gathered at home for a “family meeting”, and my...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 34 Responses 1 day ago

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    I have an aunt. She is 10 years older than me, she's 37. She currently lives in Texas with her husband, their 1-year-old boy, and his husband's 3 boys from a previous marriage. My...
    girlon3rdfloorsuite9 girlon3rdfloorsuite9 26-30, F Jun 26

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    A Bucket Filled With Tools And Getting Closer Again The crisis between my wife and myself started around Christmas and came to a terrible high at New Years eve. I left the family...
    Soniador1963 Soniador1963 46-50, M 2 Responses Jun 29

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    I feel scared today. There was a catalyst. Obviously, this situation isn't about another person. Those of you who have read my stories know that, probably better than I. But I'm...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 29

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    I'm scared of not finding someone who will love me and ending up in a marriage like my parents where they don't even like each other, but can't divorce each other because of us...
    myanonsecrets myanonsecrets 18-21, F Jul 9

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    In an effort to make a long story short, I will sum up by saying that I have been married to my husband for 11 yrs and we started dating in high school 15 yrs ago. We had our first...
    Jme0925 Jme0925 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 10

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    My husband has become extremely self absorbed over time. He's always been a little selfish and it seems to ebb and flow, but the last few months it's become exponential. Everything...
    lovebeingmama lovebeingmama 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 14

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    My AF boyfriend recently proposed to me and i said yes but where he is gone all the time i feel like we are growing apart. I feel like i am single all the time. Btw, i have never...
    Bri7 Bri7 18-21, F a week ago

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    i think ive figured out my wife might be having an affair ... what a b**** , for everything i have done for her , and for all the crap i have taken from her , im not sure but i...
    skiball5150 skiball5150 36-40, M 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    The chamber is empty, all the bullets have been fired, and the marriage has breathed it's last! I've got no shortage of dates and fun and friends, I wake up every day smiling, no...
    Gearcynic Gearcynic 31-35, M 11 Responses 6 days ago

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    lol I fall in love everyday , to the every handsome guy I see , guess its pretty hard to spend your whole life with one man . LOL it sounds pretty boring :D well and then having...
    nehaalisyed nehaalisyed 16-17, F