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I Am Scared My Marriage Wont Last

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    FEELING Scared and Alone

    WHERE DO I BEGIN?  I KNOW I NEED TO COMMUNICATE WITH SOMEONE ABOUT MY FEELINGS OR I FEEL I WILL SIMPLY CONTINUE TO GET MORE AND MORE DEPRESSED. I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 10 YEARS, THE LAST 5 YEARS I HAVE FELT MY HUSBAND AND I DRIFTING FARTHER AND FARTHER APART.  I HAVE...
    loneliness loneliness 36-40, F 9 Responses Nov 4, 2007

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    2 Many Involved

    I am so scared my marriage won't last do to the constant meddling of my husbands family. Since we started dating there has been tension, comments, lies, insults, and rumors generated by his family. I don't know if it is because they feel I am taking him away or if it is because...
    babyblueshorty2003 babyblueshorty2003 21-25, F 6 Responses May 3, 2007

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    Will My Marriage Survive the Storms?

    I finally found my soul mate and we just married last christmas eve, but already there are major issues. i have two boys, ages 9 & 11 and he has a boy age 10 who has adhd.  we can't agree on one single thing as far as discipline goes for the kids.  he's too tough...
    randynserena randynserena 31-35, F 5 Responses May 4, 2007

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    Is Love Enough?

    my husbands philosophy is that if you dont talk about it, the problem doesnt exist...yeah, ok. i dont htink i was his type from the beginning. i was "thick." i got the impression that he usually dated petite girls. i'm 5'10 and big boned. i will never be petite..lol. i...
    ktsm0m ktsm0m 26-30, F 8 Responses Jun 18, 2007

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    Dont Be Nice.... They Will Appreciate Nasty

     Firstly and most importantly the " outlaws " are not treating you horribly because you are you or indeed they are afraid of loosing their son, brother.  It is irrelevant who you are and what is more,  this is exactly how they want you to think. They...
    ANNIEB1234 ANNIEB1234 36-40, F Oct 24, 2009

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    We Often Joke About Divorce But Lately Im More Serious About It..

    IM SO FRUSTRATED THESE DAYS. I REALLY THOUGHT THINGS WOULD BE BETTER.. AND THEY ARE IF U SEE IT FROM A DIFF POINT OF VIEW.. LET ME SAY THAT I REALLY DO LOVE MY HUSBAND OF 3.5 YRS (TOGETHER 8). BUT IM STARTING TO SEE THAT THIS LOVE IS THE KINDA OF LOVE U HAVE FOR A FAM MEM. LIKE...
    drakent21 drakent21 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 12, 2010

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    So recently I have been sort of seeing messages

    my husband is sending to this other woman. Not that he is cheating on me or anything like that... BUT he has been deleting what he is writing to her as I have on two occasions now caught a glimpse of a few messages. I'm a little concerned that he is divulging all our marriage...
    Germanovna Germanovna 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 3

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    Related Experiences

    Since I last wrote on here, my husband and I have decided to divorce after 7 years of marriage. The last time we had sex was really weird, and I just felt so distant. Counseling...
    VanillaAlmond1 VanillaAlmond1 31-35, F 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    I will try to describe my sexless marriage. We have been together for a long time. We met in high school and were each others first lovers. Both of us were shy and insecure and...
    Amaaj Amaaj 46-50, F 4 Responses 1 hr ago

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    How do guys really feel when your wife tells you "I think the reason we have unexplained infertility is that we don't have sex often enough"? It's been more than 2 months since...
    surfiehall surfiehall 31-35, F 4 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    Wish I could believe- my heavens he is really trying to be a better husband but he also watches me all the time. He has even taken over my office and works on his laptop from...
    peaceseeker09 peaceseeker09 46-50, F 6 Responses 1 hr ago

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    (I joined EP just to post this. This feels like a safe place.) I love my wife. She's one of my favorite people and I want to see her career flourish. I love the many little inside...
    romanman88 romanman88 31-35, M 2 Responses Aug 24

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    At risk of being hated, I admit I know the refuser's side. I was a virgin when I married the first time, ignorant of what the marriage bed entailed. I was young and scared and dumb...
    Harley53 Harley53 56-60, F 6 Responses Aug 21

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    My husband Johnny and I have been together for 2 years, married for a year and a half. We met through his older brother 2 1/2 years ago and started talking as friends. Neither one...
    ashleymarcia ashleymarcia 22-25, F Aug 28

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    "Sexual Aversion Disorder" I am not sure if anyone has ever posted about this in this group...Actually I am sure someone has but I cannot find such post. apparently there is an...
    JackHawthorne JackHawthorne 31-35, M 7 Responses Aug 31

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    I have been married for 8 years now and my wife and I have a beautiful 4 year old daughter who we both cherish. My wife is a kind, loving woman who loves me and our daughter and...
    Jeremy0121 Jeremy0121 31-35, M 4 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Something changed in me this week. By Friday, I was sitting in a lawyer's office seeking advice on my entitlements and arrangements for child support, should I press the 'exit...
    CalypsoAgain CalypsoAgain 31-35, F 6 Responses Aug 23

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    I met my husband in the 7th grade but we didn't connect until high school. I became pregnant in our Senior year and we were married while still in school (a week to the day after...
    olderbutnotdead olderbutnotdead 51-55, F 5 Responses Aug 25

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    This year has been one hell of a year already. After 7 years of being married, I decided that I just couldn't handle anymore of it. For the last 5 years, I have overanalyzed every...
    AloneandWantingOut AloneandWantingOut 26-30, F Sep 11

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    Me, myself and my parents marriage... I asked my wife to go to a shrink with me about 3 years ago. she did not refuse the idea, but she ways always too busy, or tired or had a...
    frozenhere frozenhere 31-35, M 7 Responses 4 days ago

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    From what I'm reading here... The consensus is that quitting smoking sucks! There is nothing even mildly amusing right now and more poor kids are lucky the they are getting dressed...
    LovingDDandHoH LovingDDandHoH 36-40, F 8 Responses Aug 20

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    I have been with my now husband for four years, married just recently in May 2014. We have three daughters, (3,3, and 1 years of age)...we have been through a lot of ups and downs...
    beyondstars beyondstars 22-25, F 7 Responses Aug 27

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    I am 49 years old I am in the middle of my second failed marriage I have been disabled since I was 38 years old but did manage to hold my head above water until recently I have 3...
    smitttyd smitttyd 46-50, M Aug 29

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    Undecided whether to post this under this group or under the other one "I'm having random thoughts", I believe posted here the discussion shall be more thoughtful and sensitive...
    TheDreamyWoman TheDreamyWoman 36-40, F 9 Responses 5 days ago

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    Bear with me because this may seem off topic, but it isn't. I've been recently thinking about death. Yesterday, my post sexless marriage lover had to put his beloved dog of 14...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 13 Responses Aug 21

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    I am scared of marriage, I almost hate it. It is because I do not want to form a scattered family, they are not even a family, they hate each other, I do not want to bring such...
    MissGaga MissGaga 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 22

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    I need some support. I checked on the status of divorce proceedings today. Had to leave a message. I am shaking. It doesn't help that there's a THIRD paralegal change since I...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 9 Responses Aug 25

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    Sorry, this is awfully long! I'm a married mother of two little boys - two little treasures who make my heart soar with every kiss, every pudgy hand-hold, and every time I hug...
    Wonderloon Wonderloon 31-35, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Well the day finally came….and went. I did the deed and asked for a divorce. As expected she was upset. I couldn’t blame her. Her whole world was going to change. She...
    beachlivin04 beachlivin04 41-45, M 46 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    The road that has led each of us to the SM we find ourselves in is unique to each of us and in reading stories I can imagine that many people would wonder which came first, the...
    thescarletibis thescarletibis 41-45, F 8 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    It has been one year tonight since I posted my first story on EP and it was in this forum. I thought I had married my best friend, and as such, I could save my marriage. I didn't...
    katzlaw katzlaw 36-40, F 17 Responses Aug 20

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    I live in a sexless marriage have been for the last 6 years... Just didn't realize I was until recently. In my situation i never married for love, didn't even find him attractive...
    Sobeit06 Sobeit06 36-40, F 5 Responses Aug 28

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    As is the case with many ILIASM folks in OppositeLand, my regret about my marriage is that I waited so long to divorce. "HuffPost Divorce readers share the biggest regret they...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 6 Responses Sep 3

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    I've moved on! I discovered EP in June of 2011 because I wanted to learn about phone encounters...(I don't wanna write s..... e.... x... because then Ep doesn't always let me...
    jessesgirl24 jessesgirl24 41-45, F 3 Responses Sep 5

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    This Aug. 21 advice column may be of interest to those staying in a miserable marriage "for the sake of the children." "DEAR AMY: I have been married for 15 years and have two...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 5 Responses Sep 8

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    So, unravelling everything from the last 2 weeks postings, identifying the facts from the symptoms I think this is my story. My wife is very self-centred with a borderline...
    dadonthesofa dadonthesofa 46-50, M 16 Responses Sep 9

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    I am going to tell how trying to keep my husband in a sexless marriage turned into a terror. When my husband came back from the military his father and other wanted me to assist in...
    isis55 isis55 56-60, F 7 Responses a week ago

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    For those of you who have been following my SM, you know that I've been struggling with depression and low self esteem. For the past few years I've been struggling with ADHD...
    dynamic71 dynamic71 41-45, M 7 Responses Aug 25

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    I have been denied sex by my wife for the past 24 years. I acknowledge that in the beginning I was responsible for most of the problems in the relationship. I was an alcoholic and...
    davejgj davejgj 66-70, M 2 Responses Aug 25

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    A window into the emotions of a couples counseling session as the betrayed wife...and those "AHAH!" moments. We are past a year since DDay. Our sessions back then were on coping...
    lillynfriends lillynfriends 46-50, F Aug 26

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    I don't get bullied, I have a lot of really good friends, I don't give a crap about what people care about me, and I love all of my classes. I just don't know why i'm scared to go...
    alice4114 alice4114 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 30

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    I read an article recently about the turning point people had that defined the end of their marriage. I am not saying this is the last straw, but certainly adding to the pile. My...
    runnfree runnfree 36-40, M 4 Responses Sep 10

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    As part of my core belief of continuous improvement and growth, I want to improve my marriage and relationship with my wife. Like most marriages I assume, we have our ups and...
    spiritnow spiritnow 41-45, M 3 days ago

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    im tired and confused today.my doctor said i should have heart surgery and im scared.i need my friends to talk.but they are ignoring me.its so painful bcz i used to help them when...
    00roshana00 00roshana00 18-21, F 5 Responses Sep 2

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    Maybe I made my decision too fast. I met my husband last summer and started dating 3 months later. He gave me a proposal in last December and I said "Yes"... He sort of begged me...
    Saya0414 Saya0414 26-30, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I'm currently in the end stages of planning my wedding . Most stressful thing of my life! I wanted a true wedding since my last marriage was a complete bust and I never got my real...
    82creativetype 82creativetype 31-35, F 32 Responses 3 days ago

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    Well. It is finally official. I am divorced! After all the craziness, after years of sexless marriage and emotional distance, after emotional and physical abuse, after having an...
    unexpectedlove15 unexpectedlove15 26-30, F 9 Responses Aug 22

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    Married 23 years, no sex for the last 5. If you count years when sex occurred less than half a dozen times, then the number of sexless years climbs to 15. Some people say that a...
    EmbraceMe68 EmbraceMe68 41-45, F 25 Responses <