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I Am Scared of Being Alone

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    I'm lying awake at 4 a.

    m. terrified at the thought of being destined to be alone. I've been in three long-term relationship that all ended terribly. None of them will speak to me. It's awful to think that I have a knack for getting guys who loved me with all their heart to hate me. Now, I've met...
    Soltanto Soltanto 18-21, F Jul 15

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    i think sometimes i mite end up loosing my best

    friend ,boyfriend i feel he will never come back to me after his deployment. we will just go are separate ways.and someone else will have him and i will be sad and lost and confused at the same time.!!!! I Am Scared of Being Alone!!!!
    CHRISBABYGIRL4EVER CHRISBABYGIRL4EVER 22-25, F Feb 24

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    I'll Be Alone When They're Gone

     I am in my early 40's and have never had a relationship. I still live with my parents who are getting up in years and when they go, I'll be completely lost. I have a very hard time coping with life as it is and when they go I think it will be more than I can take.
    futurescared futurescared 41-45, M Feb 6, 2008

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    After 13 years of marriage,

    I am getting a divorce. Everyone tells me that I am a nice, funny and good looking guy and that I will be fine, but the thought of being alone terrifies me to no end. I am determined not to let this feeling get the best of me, but it is a very hard thing to do. I know that lots...
    startinglifeagain startinglifeagain 31-35, M 6 Responses May 7

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    Married and Alone

    I am a 23 year old married mother of 1.   Now i guess you are wondering where the alone comes in. Well my husband is a touring musician who went on the road when our daughter was 6 days old. He comes home once every few months and I am scared of being alone. I am doing...
    Marriednalone Marriednalone 22-25 1 Response May 21, 2008

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    Me and my boyfriend fight alot .

    If I'll break up im scared of being alone , and scared that I'll never find somebody like him.
    Liekeslife Liekeslife 18-21, F Feb 22

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    Is This Really The New Definition Of Friendship?

    When did it become okay for friends to have strong opinions about my diet, lifestyle and marriage? I grew up in a world where you supported your friends no matter what, and the only grounds for dumping a friend was if they were unpleasant directly to YOU. Nowadays, it seems the...
    MaxineR MaxineR 36-40, F Oct 7, 2012

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    14 Scared of Being Alone

    I'm a 14 year old girl and terrified of being alone especially in bed. I get in bed start thinking of fantasies or stories were I'm with a guy or girl and were just talking, then I start crying they help me through it or we have sex gentle passionate sex. Once that ends...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 12, 2008

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    Loveless and Lonely

    I fear being alone.  Alone.  Just the word- it raises hairs along my neck.  I am afraid of the dead silence and emptiness of loneliness.  I recently got out of a relationship (which you can moniter my downfall in my blog).  Today was the worse day ever...
    Jannay Jannay 16-18, F 1 Response Dec 19, 2007

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    Once Upon A Time...

    There was a time I was that girl who jumped from guy to guy. I was so scared of not being with someone. I hated being in the house alone or being in bed alone. Ever since I left my husband, I have been so empowered and want nothing more than to be independent. Don't get me wrong...
    Laughtereverafter Laughtereverafter 26-30, F 11 Responses Apr 16, 2011

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    Afraid Of Being Alone....

    I dated the same man for 11 years. We were never married, and to be perfectly honest we were both afraid of the idea, having seen so many marriages around us fail. I loved this man very much, and for many years things were fine. It wasn't until my mother died, that things became...
    SlobberDog SlobberDog 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 22, 2011

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    I Didn't Realize My Fear Until Just Recently.....

    While I value having time to myself to do things I enjoy like shopping at the outlets near me or going to get a pedicure or something like that I do have a fear of being alone for long periods of time. As strong as I am in my personal life there is this nagging fear of being...
    MegJgeM MegJgeM 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 29, 2009

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    Terrified

    I'm 58, have been married and divorced 3 times.  My kids are grown and on their own.  I'm alone.  I get so anxious I feel sick.  I just moved to a new place and last night there was a neighborhood meeting.  I made myself go.  Before I went I almost...
    cjanis001 cjanis001 56-60, F 3 Responses Aug 8, 2007

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    Unprotected

    Everytime I wake up from sleep, I feel alone. I feel alone all the time. With everyone around me, 16 girls in total, I am alone. Because none of them is by my side. We are a group, but there are circles within circles. And I have no circle. Because I was never clever enough...
    prisonbreaktempt prisonbreaktempt 18-21, F Jan 4, 2013

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    Not At All

    Yes I need my space sometimes but I have to have people around me.  I hate being alone.  I love having a husband.  I am so afraid of losing him sometimes.  It terrifies me of the thought of being alone.  I don't like being alone in a dark room at night...
    rondat rondat 41-45, F Jan 13, 2008

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    Are Memories Enough?

     I think most people are scared that they might end up being alone, I know I do. I try to think that even if I end up alone someday, that I'll have lots of memories that will keep me going. Knowing that I've lived a good life, that I've helped people and been helped. But...
    jrabbit1321 jrabbit1321 46-50, F 6 Responses Mar 29, 2009

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    Am I The Only One?

    I have been dating a married guy for 1 year 11 months and his wife knows. His wife doesn't mind me being with him she never  gets jealous because I tell her that if she wants him then she can have him. I am madly in love with this guy he means the world to me. But what...
    forgetaboutme forgetaboutme 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 1, 2010

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    Scared Of Being Home Alone

    I am 17 years old and I live at home with my parents in NY. When I was a kid I use to love being home alone. I would always tell my family to take their time and not too rush home. But over the last year or so, I started begging my parents not to leave me alone. I don't know...
    MsSammiiJo MsSammiiJo 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 13, 2009

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    I think its called monophobia. The fear of being alone. I've always just thought that it was normal, that feeling you get when you're alone. I found out recently it wasn't...
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    It sux being here alone wit no one to tlk to...hate being alone...just lookn for sumone to make me feel good
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    I enjoy being alone sometimes. Like right now i'm alone and loving it. I need that time to unwind and just relax without noone else around.
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    Somehow it always comes as a surprise to me that I'm going to be alone for the rest of my life. I have to be. This is the life I chose. It's what suits me the best. It's what I...
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    ghostofacheerfulowl ghostofacheerfulowl 36-40, F Aug 25

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    It's a bit of a mixed situation. I love being alone, like in college, not many people bother me and I get to burry myself in music and books but I want to make conversation with...
    teebagg teebagg 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 2

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    I don't know if I have a problem with being alone or lonely? I think lonely. Because I love being by myself and reading or drawing or doing the weird art things I love to do. Sigh...
    disasterland disasterland 18-21, F Sep 2

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    I Love Being Alone. Meaning no bf, is a warm feelings for me. Even if you're living with a gentle kind roommate. Loneliness does not despair the emptiness inside me. I'm a...
    DiscoNight1970s DiscoNight1970s 46-50, F Aug 26

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    I've always hated it since I was a kid being alone even though publicly I like to have somebody with me but be independent aswell even though I'm shy I always like to be around...
    Cloclo1234 Cloclo1234 13-15, F Aug 27

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    The title says it all. Being alone sometimes is ok but not allways
    cjjb55 cjjb55 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 31

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    I have this spot in the woods that no one knows I like going there and being alone. Xx
    EmmaWilliamss EmmaWilliamss 18-21, F 4 days ago

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    Some-days, I feel that I am the loneliest person in the world. Now, that “in the world” feeling may be a bit of hyper-collegiate over-dramatisme, of latent-teenage psychopathy...
    Newydd Newydd 18-21 4 days ago

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    Since I was very young, I always find myself not fitting into a group. I don't like the awkward moment that I can feel the others not interested to talk to me and I may need to...
    Zbabe Zbabe 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 16

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    I've been divorced for over 5 years now. I have 5 children ages 21, 18, 16, 14 and 7. I am very attractive; but I fear I'll be alone forever. I've been divorced for 6 years now and...
    unheardvoice14 unheardvoice14 36-40, F 2 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    I'm fifteen and have never had a real boyfriend. It drives me crazy. It sucks to see most of your friends dating and no matter what you try you are still alone. Always alone.
    SalemKat SalemKat 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 23

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    I love my time all to myself but hate the feeling that I'm all alone. To be surrounded by so many people kind of freaks me out but I also need that one person to talk too so I won...
    honeybree20 honeybree20 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 8

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    Lonliness is the worst feeling I hate that even tho I have friends that I feel no one really knows me and just feeling so alone like no one is there for me or cares I'm tired of...
    Daletheloner Daletheloner 18-21, M Aug 18

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    I'm a bit of a loner. Grew up as an only child for eleven years so I figured out how to entertain myself. Sure I like people, but I'm not afraid to do things alone as well.
    nocturnalhound nocturnalhound 31-35, M Aug 18

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    I have the day off today, something I look forward to but also dread. My friends are all too busy recently to do anything. I am frantically thinking of something to do as I really...
    Crystalcastle Crystalcastle 22-25, F 4 Responses Aug 20

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    There is some time I don't mine be alone. But there is time I wanted to go out with some one and have fun. That is what I miss. That is what I am looking for some one to go out and...
    Ladypanda Ladypanda 51-55, F Aug 22

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    I was feeling okay about this break up, but now two days have past and I'm so lonely. I don't get texts, I don't get calls. There's no one to cuddle with and make my terrible days...
    shammypurry shammypurry 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 25

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    I'm at a huge university. I try to make friends here but just prefer sitting in my dorm listening to music, working on homework, playing video games, and writing songs. I don't get...
    KMassam KMassam 18-21, M Sep 3

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    I honestly hate my thoughts sometimes more than anything in this world and wish there was something I could do to get rid of them. I can go through a normal day and some annoying...
    michael198121 michael198121 26-30 6 days ago

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    I've always enjoyed my alone time. Nowadays, I have more of it, not through choice particularly, but oh well. Having to socialise for long periods is getting tiring. It does come...
    Reallifeperson Reallifeperson 22-25, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I feel so alone sometimes, it is hard to cope. Even when I technically have people to talk to, I always feel like when I need them, they cannot be here for me for whatever reason...
    TheAlbinoGirl TheAlbinoGirl 18-21, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    There's nothing like being home and watching your fave TV shows on netflix lol! Dr. Who is soo awesome!! It put me in a much better mood, I'm not crying about losing my job anymore...
    bettygingham bettygingham 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 22

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    It's like there's an empty hole in my body waiting to be filled in order to carry on through life. Most of the time that hole is being filled with my ex boyfriend. Terrible, I know...
    Ashleyjoan Ashleyjoan 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 24

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    I really do enjoy being away from people most of the time. Sometimes even when I'm lonely, I want to find a place where I can be by myself.
    Friability Friability 18-21 Aug 27

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    I find comfort in my own company
    agent268 agent268 16-17, M 1 Response