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I Am Scared of Being Alone

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    I'm lying awake at 4 a.

    m. terrified at the thought of being destined to be alone. I've been in three long-term relationship that all ended terribly. None of them will speak to me. It's awful to think that I have a knack for getting guys who loved me with all their heart to hate me. Now, I've met...
    Soltanto Soltanto 18-21, F a week ago

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    Married and Alone

    I am a 23 year old married mother of 1.   Now i guess you are wondering where the alone comes in. Well my husband is a touring musician who went on the road when our daughter was 6 days old. He comes home once every few months and I am scared of being alone. I am doing...
    Marriednalone Marriednalone 22-25 1 Response May 21, 2008

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    Is This Really The New Definition Of Friendship?

    When did it become okay for friends to have strong opinions about my diet, lifestyle and marriage? I grew up in a world where you supported your friends no matter what, and the only grounds for dumping a friend was if they were unpleasant directly to YOU. Nowadays, it seems the...
    MaxineR MaxineR 36-40, F Oct 7, 2012

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    I Didn't Realize My Fear Until Just Recently.....

    While I value having time to myself to do things I enjoy like shopping at the outlets near me or going to get a pedicure or something like that I do have a fear of being alone for long periods of time. As strong as I am in my personal life there is this nagging fear of being...
    MegJgeM MegJgeM 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 29, 2009

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    i think sometimes i mite end up loosing my best

    friend ,boyfriend i feel he will never come back to me after his deployment. we will just go are separate ways.and someone else will have him and i will be sad and lost and confused at the same time.!!!! I Am Scared of Being Alone!!!!
    CHRISBABYGIRL4EVER CHRISBABYGIRL4EVER 22-25, F Feb 24

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    After 13 years of marriage,

    I am getting a divorce. Everyone tells me that I am a nice, funny and good looking guy and that I will be fine, but the thought of being alone terrifies me to no end. I am determined not to let this feeling get the best of me, but it is a very hard thing to do. I know that lots...
    startinglifeagain startinglifeagain 31-35, M 6 Responses May 7

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    Afraid Of Being Alone....

    I dated the same man for 11 years. We were never married, and to be perfectly honest we were both afraid of the idea, having seen so many marriages around us fail. I loved this man very much, and for many years things were fine. It wasn't until my mother died, that things became...
    SlobberDog SlobberDog 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 22, 2011

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    Loveless and Lonely

    I fear being alone.  Alone.  Just the word- it raises hairs along my neck.  I am afraid of the dead silence and emptiness of loneliness.  I recently got out of a relationship (which you can moniter my downfall in my blog).  Today was the worse day ever...
    Jannay Jannay 16-18, F 1 Response Dec 19, 2007

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    Scared Of Being Home Alone

    I am 17 years old and I live at home with my parents in NY. When I was a kid I use to love being home alone. I would always tell my family to take their time and not too rush home. But over the last year or so, I started begging my parents not to leave me alone. I don't know...
    MsSammiiJo MsSammiiJo 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 13, 2009

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    Not At All

    Yes I need my space sometimes but I have to have people around me.  I hate being alone.  I love having a husband.  I am so afraid of losing him sometimes.  It terrifies me of the thought of being alone.  I don't like being alone in a dark room at night...
    rondat rondat 41-45, F Jan 13, 2008

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    Terrified

    I'm 58, have been married and divorced 3 times.  My kids are grown and on their own.  I'm alone.  I get so anxious I feel sick.  I just moved to a new place and last night there was a neighborhood meeting.  I made myself go.  Before I went I almost...
    cjanis001 cjanis001 56-60, F 3 Responses Aug 8, 2007

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    Are Memories Enough?

     I think most people are scared that they might end up being alone, I know I do. I try to think that even if I end up alone someday, that I'll have lots of memories that will keep me going. Knowing that I've lived a good life, that I've helped people and been helped. But...
    jrabbit1321 jrabbit1321 41-45, F 6 Responses Mar 29, 2009

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    14 Scared of Being Alone

    I'm a 14 year old girl and terrified of being alone especially in bed. I get in bed start thinking of fantasies or stories were I'm with a guy or girl and were just talking, then I start crying they help me through it or we have sex gentle passionate sex. Once that ends...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 12, 2008

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    Once Upon A Time...

    There was a time I was that girl who jumped from guy to guy. I was so scared of not being with someone. I hated being in the house alone or being in bed alone. Ever since I left my husband, I have been so empowered and want nothing more than to be independent. Don't get me wrong...
    Laughtereverafter Laughtereverafter 26-30, F 11 Responses Apr 16, 2011

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    Me and my boyfriend fight alot .

    If I'll break up im scared of being alone , and scared that I'll never find somebody like him.
    Liekeslife Liekeslife 18-21, F Feb 22

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    I'll Be Alone When They're Gone

     I am in my early 40's and have never had a relationship. I still live with my parents who are getting up in years and when they go, I'll be completely lost. I have a very hard time coping with life as it is and when they go I think it will be more than I can take.
    futurescared futurescared 41-45, M Feb 6, 2008

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    Am I The Only One?

    I have been dating a married guy for 1 year 11 months and his wife knows. His wife doesn't mind me being with him she never  gets jealous because I tell her that if she wants him then she can have him. I am madly in love with this guy he means the world to me. But what...
    forgetaboutme forgetaboutme 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 1, 2010

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    Unprotected

    Everytime I wake up from sleep, I feel alone. I feel alone all the time. With everyone around me, 16 girls in total, I am alone. Because none of them is by my side. We are a group, but there are circles within circles. And I have no circle. Because I was never clever enough...
    prisonbreaktempt prisonbreaktempt 18-21, F Jan 4, 2013

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    It's not really about being alone but more about being the only one trying to maintain my relationships. I find myself being the first to text anyone. They never go out of their...
    savannah764253 savannah764253 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 2

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    I like being alone as in I'm content being single and never getting married with anyone.I think I get along better by myself then I would with anyone else.Loneliness does set in...
    19Daughter 19Daughter 18-21 1 Response Jun 22

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    I left school in May after finishing my GCSE's meaning i am currently had/having all of May,June,July and August off for a summer. My sister still goes to school all day and both...
    SilkyDoughnut SilkyDoughnut 16-17, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    I always use to think that I loved to be alone and have time to myself. So much so, that if I ever met anyone who thought or felt the opposite, I'd basically view as weak. But...
    SweetKrazyChill SweetKrazyChill 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 29

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    I like being alone. I just don't like being left alone with my thoughts. Especially if I'm feeling down.
    sara2016 sara2016 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 8

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    The fear of being alone as I am now overwhelms me. I become bored and agitated but most of all, when there's someone there suddenly I realise how sad and alone I am and pounce to...
    ellze ellze 16-17, F 2 Responses Jun 25

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    I hate being alone. But its even worse whe youre surrounded by people and you still feel alone and empty. Im trying really hard to be happy but its so hard.
    patric5678 patric5678 18-21, M 2 Responses Jul 4

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    No matter how nature built us, making us needing company, we are also made to discover ourselves and ponder on certain things that many times, they cannot be shared with anyone but...
    DestinyAuthor DestinyAuthor 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 13

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    Half of me despises being alone, because eventually the loneliness goes away and Im left with this apathetic view towards life that makes it hard to give a damn about anything...
    seabassep seabassep 18-21, M Jul 13

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    Nothing beats being alone. You can do whatever you want without anyone having a say at it's nice.
    kieshi kieshi 13-15, F Jul 8

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    boyfriend emotionally/verbally abusive. cheated again tonight. just want to be happy again but afraid of being alone
    Stoller Stoller 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 13

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    Being alone is my biggest fear.
    alyssabay alyssabay 13-15, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Apparently I suck at relationships. How the hell will I ever settle down and build a family when I can't even have a stable, functional relationship with men? I want to feel love...
    Soltanto Soltanto 18-21, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    This will sort of be a stream of consciousness vent. I don't feel totally comfortable writing this here. Putting out my problems on the internet like this for strangers to read but...
    fibrodoodle fibrodoodle 36-40, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    the thing is im lonely when im not alone. when im on my own, i shed the several walls i have up at any time and let my guard down. When im alone, i can wear shorts and a tank top...
    FreeJazz FreeJazz 16-17, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    It seams the more and more gifts and things I develop, the further away I am from other people. I don't talk to people very often... Because they just don't understand. They may...
    Destinyyy Destinyyy 16-17, F Jul 14

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    And quite honestly, I don't see why I have to be. I've heard of plenty of people who broke up or divorced, then immediately got with someone else - sometimes even a person they...
    Tertiary Tertiary 46-50, F 1 Response Jun 29

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    I was always alone before him. He became my everything, and I sacrificed so much for him... He was the first love I have ever had. Then things fell apart, and I despised him for...
    walker13sl walker13sl 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 1

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    I hate spending time by myself.. Don't get me wrong there are times when I need alone time,but I only want this time to happen by my own doing not by people being too busy to...
    1eyeliner1 1eyeliner1 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 2

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    15 yrs ago my grown daughter was going through a rough time & wanted to move from CA. She needed my help. I quit my job of 15 yrs, cashed out my pension & moved her, 7 yr old...
    usedup61 usedup61 61-65, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    It is literally my worst fear nothing can compare to it that feeling that no one needs you or wants you around and they just leave you behind alone and you know what it has already...
    Nightfang109 Nightfang109 13-15, M Jun 25

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    If I'm ever alone, I instantly try and find something or someone to be with. Sometimes I get my wish and sometimes not. Luckily, I've never had any suicidal thoughts, just the...
    jamierhoden jamierhoden 16-17, M Jun 29

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    Last night while trying so hard not to hear my sister talking happily with her boyfriend on the phone, a thought came to me. Maybe I should consider staying in a hotel for some...
    girlon3rdfloorsuite9 girlon3rdfloorsuite9 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 3

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    There she is again. My sister. Talking on the phone with her boyfriend. I feel so alone.
    girlon3rdfloorsuite9 girlon3rdfloorsuite9 26-30, F Jul 4

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    Ok I'll be the first :) I am anti social I prefer my own company and I like to sit in silence. I like myself to it's easy to be alone with myself. That's not to say that I never...
    screwedntattooed screwedntattooed 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 5

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    I just had this epiphany that I really wish I wouldn't have had. Ever since I was little people have been leaving me. At 4, my mom and older brother and sister moved away. My mom...
    Jgil99 Jgil99 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 6

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    sometimes you need to be alone I just grab my beats and go for a walk and listening to my music is when I am at absolute peace
    DBsw1990 DBsw1990 22-25, M 3 Responses Jul 8

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    I've always been alone and I've gotten use to it. When people are around me and it's loud I get mad and have to get out of there before I burst.
    SarahTheZombie SarahTheZombie 13-15, F Jul 13

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    Occasionally I like to be alone
    LoganAdele LoganAdele 13-15, F Jul 13

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    Some girl I'm seeing has said we are moving to quick and she needs a break... And also just wants to be alone.. I don't know what to do?
    Shaunbuckley097 Shaunbuckley097 16-17, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    July 30, 2014 will be the International best Friends Day. feel a little bit jealous from the others because they are already planning on what they will do on that date. but me...
    kiminion14 kiminion14 18-21, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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