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I Am Scared of Getting Hurt Again

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    Afraid To Try Again

    I recently started to go out with this great girl. We went out for about 2 months, but it felt alot longer than that. I've known her for a while now, but i never really talked to her before this. She was so much like me in almost every single way from past relationships to...
    Godito5 Godito5 26-30, M 2 Responses Jun 12, 2012

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    There has been many times

    that I guy has said " I won't Hurt you . Why is it that i always end up hurt ? I can't even trust anyone ever again. * I don't even know how to open up or talk about anything people that I care about Always end up leaving me. I hate feeling alone in this world. I hate caring...
    NerdGirl845 NerdGirl845 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 14

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    How To Trust Again....

    HI! MY NAME IS ARCHIE. IF YOU'VE READ SOME OF MY OTHER STORIES, YOU'LD KNOW I WAS RAISED IN A VERY ABUSIVE FAMILY. I CERTIANLY HAD TRUST ISSUES. DO I DEAR TRUST SOMEONE WITH MY HEART, KNOWING THEY COULD DESTROY MY VERY SOUL?    AS A TEENAGER I WOULDN'T ALLOW ANYONE INTO MY...
    LITTLEBOYINSIDE LITTLEBOYINSIDE 41-45, M 3 Responses Apr 6, 2012

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    I'm not a trusting person by nature to being

    with. But not trying to reach out is in some ways harder then not taking a hand when it's given
    mlcockrell mlcockrell 36-40, M Apr 19

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    Yeah, I am Pretty closed Off

    and do not allow myself to fall in love anymore, it's Just way too painful!!!
    Drummer8280 Drummer8280 22-25, M 5 Responses May 21

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    My Past Relationship Experiences!!!!!

    At the age of 19 while going to high school i were always hoping that 1 day i would find a really cute and handsome guy and fall in love and get married, after a year have passed i met this police officer who use to come around when school were over and a few times i have noticed...
    ironman2281 ironman2281 26-30, M 4 Responses Jul 23, 2012

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    Is The Second Love Ever As Good As The First?

    People say you can't be in love at as young of age as 15. I think that is a lie. I fell in love with my hs boyfriend just after two months of dating. I was 15. We dated until I was 20. But in those 5 years he had cheated on me 6 different times. Cheating was the only thing that...
    foundthenlost foundthenlost 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 24, 2012

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    It hard for me to trust people

    because it alway ends up with me getting stabbed in the back
    gamergirl16 gamergirl16 13-15, F 2 Responses Apr 19

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    No body's perfect and everybody makes mistakes.

    I know he's changed and loves me but it's hard to let them back in again when your hearts been broken by them :(
    littlefox6 littlefox6 18-21, F May 30

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    The Fact

    Just because you miss him doesn't mean you should be with him. Don't let your feelings cause you to forget the facts.
    loneliness3313 loneliness3313 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 20, 2013

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    I just keep building these walls

    that no one can break through because I learned three words that pretty much sums up life and changed mine forever which are "Everything Is Temporary" so, what's the point of getting attached to things and people that will eventually fade away..
    unsinkable unsinkable 18-21, F 7 Responses Jun 22

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    Is it just me or do people think it's becoming

    normal to cheat on your significant other?
    anderella256 anderella256 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 21

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    Does long distance relationship work?

    (Even though you communicate everyday, every minute of the day) Is logging on a dating a form of cheating even if you are committed to one person overseas? Just wanted your opinion regarding these questions...
    charmee26 charmee26 31-35, F 11 Responses Apr 28

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    I Put My Hope to a Relationship That Didn't Last

    recently, i involved myself in a dating game... for the first time i found a guy that i really like, he is the one i believe i am looking for. i know that i am choosy,  had had relationship in the past but when i met this guy i said to myself that he is the one for me...
    yenohtel yenohtel 31-35, F 4 Responses Sep 10, 2009

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    I'm talking to my ex again.

    .... I think I'm doing wrong. He told me he wants us to get back together,but I don't know...
    jaywonderful jaywonderful 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 2

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    I Want To Try...I Want To Find Love.

    I've never had much luck with guys. They make me nervous. I don't know how to act around them. That's why I didn't get my first boyfriend until I was eighteen. He was also my first kiss. That went well, for the little time we were together. Time passed, and I had a second...
    MassyThePanda MassyThePanda 22-25, F 6 Responses Feb 19, 2010

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    My boyfriend broke up with me yesterday.

    .the painful part is i didn't do anything. Im so tired of this feeling. The feeling of emptiness and i have so many questions in my mind that i know it will never be answered.. My friends and family always say that the breakup is a blessing in disguise.. And he is not worth it...
    shalei shalei 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 15

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    This is to be expected.

    All human beings have the desire to be loved, accepted. When that code of humanity has been breeched he heart takes the hit that becomes unbearable. It leave us wondering what the hell just happened? How did this happen? You get so blind sighted and bamboozled wondering if I'll...
    AquariusLife AquariusLife 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 27

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    About two years ago I thought I had it all.

    I was 20 years old, and he, "J" was my first boyfriend. Come to find out after he lied to me and took my virginity, J had a girlfriend and a son. J's girlfriend knew about me and was keeping J from seeing his son if he didn't dump me. So, he dumped me. Less than a year later...
    feliciablogger feliciablogger 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 27

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    Tell Me More Lies By Me.

    I'd love to let you in, to help you in time of need. But it's becoming a trend, you always come to me. You beg and hope that I, will give in because I love you. But instead I watch you cry, as I smile above you. A cut is just a cut, and bruises don't bruise. So tell me more...
    ArtistBoi ArtistBoi 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 3, 2013

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    Abuse

    I got hit daily as a kid by my father. Some reasons I do not know. I'm scared of my dad but I know I could never leave him because he is my dad an I still love him. My x bf used to hit me...not the kind of hit that's funny..I would end up bruised and hurt and cry myself to sleep...
    LonelyPuppy LonelyPuppy 16-17, F 3 Responses Nov 26, 2013

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    Tired of Hurting!

    So heres my story!!! When i was little i was sexually abused by my uncle. I never said anything to anybody because as a kid you feel like its your fault. I live years with this feeling in me. Like i was a bad person cause this was done to me. A couple months ago he went to jail...
    ntvhottie87 ntvhottie87 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 3, 2008

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    After the last breakup (which some of you

    who remember me might have seen me post about), I swore that I was done. I mean, truly and completely done, until I met somebody who swept me off my feet. No meeting guys in bars, no friend of a friend set ups, no daring to venture into the scary world of online dating. Done...
    serenity79 serenity79 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 18

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    I've been hurt so many god damn times.

    I've gotten used to it and refuse to let my guard down. Recently dating this really amazing guy, he makes me so happy. I'm afraid to trust due to what I've been through. He's aware of my past and promises not to hurt me like the rest. I've been mean to him lately because I'm...
    kashaleea kashaleea 16-17, F Apr 2

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    Ok..here it goes. I was adopted from Russia in

    2004. Both my parents. My biological parents are dead. I have two sisters. It seems their all I got.. :( my parents seem to want to get rid of me. I feel like they think I'm a mistake. And everything they say only hurts me. I'm in therapy because of them. I used to love them...
    Emptiness130 Emptiness130 13-15, M 1 Response Apr 19

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    One day life will charge you

    for every tear and lie ! I know you will get to read this and I know you will realize that changing three year for 4 months of freedom no wort it !what goes around come around ! And when karma catch with you it will hit you hard so hard that u ain't even will have a chance to...
    esoj80 esoj80 31-35, M 2 days ago

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    I need a hug... I am

    so lost right now...
    charmee26 charmee26 31-35, F 5 Responses Jun 17

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    nobbienobs nobbienobs 36-40, M 2 Responses Jun 14

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    My log, December 12, 2013: 11:30 PT I have

    come to the conclusion that the reason why I do not make relationships with anyone is because I am afraid of getting hurt. It is eating me alive, knowing that I want a relationship so bad and I can not make myself get close to anyone. I know that I should just go for it, but I...
    Alexob13 Alexob13 18-21, M 1 Response Dec 13, 2013

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    I am really feeling emotional these days.

    First, I saw my boyfriend "online" at Skype after being silent in two weeks. The last time we spoke was on May 27th. Ours was an online relationship. He is entering the airforce real soon and literally not yet in the airforce. He assures me he is just busy before... Should I...
    charmee26 charmee26 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 7

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    Something I Feel

     if you scratch just a little below the surface you will find a light a little dimmer than the one you left behind. a love a little wary, scared and still unsure, but a heart beating strong with arms open like before. it may not be a perfect package, perfect hair or...
    mexeb mexeb 22-25, F 5 Responses Sep 21, 2009

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    Everytime I develop feelings

    for someone and i tell them, i subsequently lose them as a friend. I don't know how to stop this trend.
    catbills catbills 18-21, M Apr 19

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    Moving On

    Maybe there's a certain point at the end of a relationship when you realize holding on to the person you thought you had is pointless and you can't be afraid to move on just because you don't want to get hurt again. Getting dumped is easier than actually taking initiative and...
    kikikatchu kikikatchu 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 26, 2010

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    The lesson I learned in childhood left scars

    that will always be there. I was never accepted as a child and was an outcast for children to tease. I had epileptic seizures from an accident. Now I have trouble with trust, acceptance and getting close. That means you shouldn't tease unless you walk in there shoes.
    gambler920 gambler920 51-55, M 5 Responses Mar 13

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    I'm terrified. I'm experiencing roller coaster

    emotions and it's making me kinda sad. Hopefully I feel better tomorrow.
    HigherCalling HigherCalling 22-25, F 4 Responses Jun 14

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    yeah, i'll admit it. sometimes it's a pain just

    thinking about future relationships because i feel like i'll just get hurt at the end. maybe i just overthink a lot? idk, who knows what would happen?
    brandonnnn brandonnnn 16-17, M 1 Response May 9

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    The Life I Didn't Choose

    my dad was physically abusive when I was younger. I was the tough one out of my 3 sisters and I. I tried to defend them but I would get hurt to, and not be allowed to go to school because of my bruises.. On Sunday mornings, we went to church. My sisters and I ...
    sindayla sindayla 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 24, 2009

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    Listen

    When I ask you to listen to me, And you start giving me advice, You have not done what I asked. When I ask that you listen to me, And you begin to tell me why I shouldn’t feel that way, You are trampling on my feelings. When I ask you to listen to me, And you feel you have to...
    BournUltimatum BournUltimatum 22-25, M 2 Responses Feb 14, 2012

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    There are so many things I wish i had

    but am scared to want it. It's an involuntary response at this point, I look at the facebook pictures of someone sitting in their big living room, or their picture of them and them and their dad, or them at a vacation sight, and my emotional radar goes blank. I think it's...
    blue1324 blue1324 18-21 1 Response May 9

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    ...Every mistake has its own correction.

    ..Every sadness has its own reason....Every tear has its own explanation....Every heartbreak has its own history....but whatever it is...Always remember that at the end you will end up with...LEARNING...
    gracey23 gracey23 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 14

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    You bet!! After I lost the last friend I had,

    I isolated myself more than got closer to others. Reason is, I don't want to feel the same pain, I'm done, I'm sick of trying, sick of being the one...sick of everything...so I'm living the life day by day... Most of you leave me anyway *glare* and nothing is permanent...
    Suxa90 Suxa90 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 27

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    How Healing Works

    Healing works through a kind of detox: things have got to come up in order to be released. That is true of our personal issues, and also our collective issues. We can't just push the darkness down, pour pink paint over it and then pretend it's not there. We have to look at it...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 16, 2013

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    Im so scared with all the lies i've been through

    and it's very hard for me to trust again... Can someone help me how to trust again? ;(
    stiffadak stiffadak 26-30, F Mar 12

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    Just laying in bed...

    Wanna break into tears. Never been taken for granted in my whole life... Or maybe I was just taking it too seriously? Really need a hug...
    charmee26 charmee26 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 23

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    When Do You Walk Out?

    It's hard, you know? Knowing when to give up. I love him. He loves me. That should be enough, right? Well, October Second is 3 years. I'm 24. I'm getting to a point where in a year or so I'd like to be seriously concidering marriage. I could see it being with him. But I don't...
    TouuSan TouuSan 22-25, F 7 Responses Sep 20, 2008

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    Okay, so once upon a time,

    I fell in love. It lasted more than half my life, and I was blindsided when I learned that my marriage was over. It hurt. A lot. When she left, she took everything good and decent that was part of me with her. I sat in a corner in my own house, looking at shadows and ghosts of...
    wilstanton wilstanton 36-40, M 1 Response Apr 25

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    I have told myself I do not want to love anyone

    anymore in fear of getting hurt again because I know the feeling of a broken heart all too well
    Error404nameunknown Error404nameunknown 13-15, F May 26

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    "Don't be someone that searches,

    finds, and then runs away..."
    charmee26 charmee26 31-35, F Jun 21

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    Last night, my boyfriend Darius asked me

    if I worked and had a job. I told him no, no one will hire me because of my disabilities. I told him tonight what my disabilities were; Depression, Bipolar, Schizophrenia and Autism and he asked me if I see a doctor for it and I said yes. I also take a pharmacy's worth of pills...
    feliciablogger feliciablogger 22-25, F 3 Responses Jun 28

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    Related Experiences

    I got hurt in my first relationship so I did not want to get hurt again. Instead I accidentally hurt someone else. I never meant for it to happen as I know how hard and painful it...
    fragilityelegance fragilityelegance 13-15, F 1 Response 11 hrs ago

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    After being cheated on by my last 2 relationships, I can only say i have become more afraid of getting hurt. The last guy that i was with was the one that hurt me the worst. I was...
    Alejandro1992 Alejandro1992 22-25, M 4 days ago

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    with NO exaggeration...everytime i like a guy...they never like me back. well hook up for a while and by the time ive developed feelings theyre over me and could care less. there...
    lookingformyself88 lookingformyself88 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 9

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    I got hurt again , I can't believe it , my poor heart got broken again, I allowed it to happen ...
    colorsnlights colorsnlights 26-30, F Jun 26