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I Am Scared of Getting Hurt Again

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    My ex-husband beat me down in

    so many ways. Physically, emotionally, financially...ugh. Now that I am venturing out into the dating world again, and I am finding it hard to trust. I don't want to get hurt again and it seems that that is all that is happening....maybe I should take another year off of men..
    breesusrocksmysocks breesusrocksmysocks 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 31

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    I Want To Try...I Want To Find Love.

    I've never had much luck with guys. They make me nervous. I don't know how to act around them. That's why I didn't get my first boyfriend until I was eighteen. He was also my first kiss. That went well, for the little time we were together. Time passed, and I had a second...
    MassyThePanda MassyThePanda 22-25, F 6 Responses Feb 19, 2010

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    Tired of Hurting!

    So heres my story!!! When i was little i was sexually abused by my uncle. I never said anything to anybody because as a kid you feel like its your fault. I live years with this feeling in me. Like i was a bad person cause this was done to me. A couple months ago he went to jail...
    ntvhottie87 ntvhottie87 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 3, 2008

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    It's Going To Happen...

    I'm in a relationship with someone I love, but there are so many red flags...I can't imagine being strong enough to walk away, but I know it won't last. He doesn't care about me, I can't share my pain with him, and eventually he will leave me (again)...but I care about him so...
    Kkl3v Kkl3v 18-21, F 6 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    The Life I Didn't Choose

    my dad was physically abusive when I was younger. I was the tough one out of my 3 sisters and I. I tried to defend them but I would get hurt to, and not be allowed to go to school because of my bruises.. On Sunday mornings, we went to church. My sisters and I ...
    sindayla sindayla 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 24, 2009

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    How To Trust Again....

    HI! MY NAME IS ARCHIE. IF YOU'VE READ SOME OF MY OTHER STORIES, YOU'LD KNOW I WAS RAISED IN A VERY ABUSIVE FAMILY. I CERTIANLY HAD TRUST ISSUES. DO I DEAR TRUST SOMEONE WITH MY HEART, KNOWING THEY COULD DESTROY MY VERY SOUL?    AS A TEENAGER I WOULDN'T ALLOW ANYONE INTO MY...
    LITTLEBOYINSIDE LITTLEBOYINSIDE 41-45, M 3 Responses Apr 6, 2012

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    How Healing Works

    Healing works through a kind of detox: things have got to come up in order to be released. That is true of our personal issues, and also our collective issues. We can't just push the darkness down, pour pink paint over it and then pretend it's not there. We have to look at it...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 16, 2013

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    Past, Present, Future.

    My past isn't that great. It's not full of people who love me and cherish my life. It's not full of roses and tulips. It's full of misery and depression. I've been asked out, out of pity. I've asked out guys and got rejected A LOT. It all started in 4th grade, and I was diagnosed...
    Whisperedcries2 Whisperedcries2 13-15, F Sep 16, 2012

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    me and my boyfriend have been on & off

    since may 5th 2012. The reason being is because he was one of those people that tried to "have their cake & eat it too". He would lie to me about things when I already knew the truth & I also had proof. Things started getting extremely serious with us this summer. This summer...
    destrrr destrrr 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 28, 2013

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    I'm Afraid Of Losing The People I Love Suddenly

    I try not to dwell on these frightening thoughts but anything can happen. No matter how much I love and depend on my husband, he could die in a freak and unexpected accident tomorrow. It's unlikely but still possible. Accidents, illness. I know I could not maneuver the world...
    lauren71 lauren71 41-45, F Sep 10, 2013

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    It's All The Same

    The first day i met him, I knew he was different. And I liked that about him. I thought he was that kind of different that was hard to find. Little did I know that he was the master of deception. He could look me straight in the eyes, and tell me a lie as if it were true. But...
    Tearstainedwish Tearstainedwish 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 25, 2012

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    Moving On

    Maybe there's a certain point at the end of a relationship when you realize holding on to the person you thought you had is pointless and you can't be afraid to move on just because you don't want to get hurt again. Getting dumped is easier than actually taking initiative and...
    kikikatchu kikikatchu 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 26, 2010

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    My Past.....

    I am in a relationship now with the greatest guy I have ever met. He is nice and he says he loves me, but I am scared to say I love him back because I was in a relationship when I was in high school where I went all in too soon and he broke up with me. He was very abusive and...
    ikaelame ikaelame 18-21, F 1 Response May 7, 2013

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    So...after over 5 months of torture

    and being heart broken over my ex, I finally moved on. Not gonna lie, it took a while for such a short relationship but I guess it was because he was my first real taste of love and I didn't know how to handle it. I thought I was going to be haunted for years over his memory...
    brittersnicole brittersnicole 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 19

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    Tell Me More Lies By Me.

    I'd love to let you in, to help you in time of need. But it's becoming a trend, you always come to me. You beg and hope that I, will give in because I love you. But instead I watch you cry, as I smile above you. A cut is just a cut, and bruises don't bruise. So tell me more...
    ArtistBoi ArtistBoi 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 3, 2013

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    I Am Scared Of Getting Hurt Again

    I know what it's like to get your heartbroken and let me tell ya, it hurts a lot. I was with my first love for over 8 months and throughout the entire relationship, he would cheat on me. It may be stupid but even though he cheated, I stayed with him anyways because...well I was...
    xxxLonelyxxx xxxLonelyxxx 16-17, F May 5, 2013

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    My Heart Is Tentative

    I feel each time a step forward to  this new relationship there is part of me that wants to stop it in tracks. For no good reason other then be caution. I just want just live this moment when I do I happy as I be but when stop hold breath the fear creeps back. I just want that...
    happybunny73 happybunny73 36-40, F Jun 8, 2012

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    Here Again

    I am used to pain. I am used to be backstabbed and kicked while on the ground. It actually surprises me when people are nice. Even being used to hurting, I get scared of falling prey to that again and again. My heart has been ripped off my chest on many occasions by men, friends...
    cleargerman cleargerman 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 5, 2012

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    I Put My Hope to a Relationship That Didn't Last

    recently, i involved myself in a dating game... for the first time i found a guy that i really like, he is the one i believe i am looking for. i know that i am choosy,  had had relationship in the past but when i met this guy i said to myself that he is the one for me...
    yenohtel yenohtel 31-35, F 4 Responses Sep 10, 2009

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    My Past Relationship Experiences!!!!!

    At the age of 19 while going to high school i were always hoping that 1 day i would find a really cute and handsome guy and fall in love and get married, after a year have passed i met this police officer who use to come around when school were over and a few times i have noticed...
    ironman2281 ironman2281 26-30, M 4 Responses Jul 23, 2012

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    I've been hurt so many god damn times.

    I've gotten used to it and refuse to let my guard down. Recently dating this really amazing guy, he makes me so happy. I'm afraid to trust due to what I've been through. He's aware of my past and promises not to hurt me like the rest. I've been mean to him lately because I'm...
    kashaleea kashaleea 16-17, F Apr 2

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    Three Strikes You'Re Out...

    I'm 17 years old yet I feel like I've already been through all the heartbreak I can handle... I've had two long term boyfriends, both of which ended messily. My first, which lasted 8 months, was awful. He was highly abusive; emotional mostly as he'd constantly put me down...
    younglove77 younglove77 18-21 3 Responses May 13, 2013

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    Blindsighted

    Well a couple of months ago my bf broke up with me. He says the main reason was our lack of security and the fact that he lived in another state. First of all both of us were having issues with job security when we met so nothing really had changed unfortunately since the start...
    Owleeeeease7 Owleeeeease7 36-40, F 1 Response Oct 6, 2012

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    Been Cheated On Too Many Times....No Faith Left In People.

    I dated a guy for 3 years and then found out he was sleeping with a 14 year old (he was 24). I broke up with him. Then I met the next guy. We were together for five years. two years into the relationship, I found out he was sleeping with my best friends cousin. I wanted to leave...
    amieliz amieliz 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 18, 2013

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    I'm not a trusting person by nature to being

    with. But not trying to reach out is in some ways harder then not taking a hand when it's given
    mlcockrell mlcockrell 36-40, M 4 days ago

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    Listen

    When I ask you to listen to me, And you start giving me advice, You have not done what I asked. When I ask that you listen to me, And you begin to tell me why I shouldn’t feel that way, You are trampling on my feelings. When I ask you to listen to me, And you feel you have to...
    BournUltimatum BournUltimatum 22-25, M 2 Responses Feb 14, 2012

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    Why Does This Always Happen To Me?

    It seems like every guy I've ever liked and thought we had something special together end up screwing me over and hurting me bad. Why can't I just find someone who wants to be with me and only me? I always treat people the way I would want to be treated, but I never get the same...
    melissaxo melissaxo 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 14, 2013

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    Afraid To Try Again

    I recently started to go out with this great girl. We went out for about 2 months, but it felt alot longer than that. I've known her for a while now, but i never really talked to her before this. She was so much like me in almost every single way from past relationships to...
    Godito5 Godito5 26-30, M 2 Responses Jun 12, 2012

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    My log, December 12, 2013: 11:30 PT I have

    come to the conclusion that the reason why I do not make relationships with anyone is because I am afraid of getting hurt. It is eating me alive, knowing that I want a relationship so bad and I can not make myself get close to anyone. I know that I should just go for it, but I...
    Alexob13 Alexob13 18-21, M 2 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    I Thought Everything Was Fine

    I was with my ex for 7 months and the day she left she told me she didn't love me anymore. It broke my heart, but I haven't let it stop me from accomplishing my dreams. I just hope someday I can find someone who will stick around and not leave.
    Tiffyboo1991 Tiffyboo1991 22-25, F 2 Responses May 7, 2013

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    Something I Feel

     if you scratch just a little below the surface you will find a light a little dimmer than the one you left behind. a love a little wary, scared and still unsure, but a heart beating strong with arms open like before. it may not be a perfect package, perfect hair or...
    mexeb mexeb 22-25, F 5 Responses Sep 21, 2009

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    Danger Of Close Proximity

    Well tonight I spoke with my exbf, Scott about the pain and anger towards him I've been feeling. He didn't seem worried or even that he really cared how I felt really. I encouraged him to tell me how he felt after hearing that I felt he had given up on us and I was mad and...
    Owleeeeease7 Owleeeeease7 36-40, F 3 Responses Oct 25, 2012

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    When Do You Walk Out?

    It's hard, you know? Knowing when to give up. I love him. He loves me. That should be enough, right? Well, October Second is 3 years. I'm 24. I'm getting to a point where in a year or so I'd like to be seriously concidering marriage. I could see it being with him. But I don't...
    TouuSan TouuSan 22-25, F 7 Responses Sep 20, 2008

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    Im so scared with all the lies i've been through

    and it's very hard for me to trust again... Can someone help me how to trust again? ;(
    stiffadak stiffadak 26-30, F Mar 12

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    Best Friends "Forever"

    My best friend stuck by me through a lot over ten years, more than her fair share I know. But after a difficult (and that is putting it lightly) first year in college as roommates, she bailed. The first semester went well, we got along great and remained the dynamic duo. The...
    thereisnothingwrongwithyou thereisnothingwrongwithyou 18-21, F May 31, 2013

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    Wake

    it's 1 am and you won't text me but I can't text you and there's not a doubt in my mind that you're laying down staring at the ceiling thinking of what to say next i know what will happen you probably don't remember but since history is doomed to repeat itself i know that this...
    mysecretdiaries mysecretdiaries 13-15, F Dec 9, 2013

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    I would like to date again

    but I'm pretty messed up at the moment. I saw a few men I liked but they weren't interested. Like one quote says u can't attract what u want. U attract what u are. Words! I'm a single mom, who'd love me? I've got depression who'd date me? I don't think highly of myself who'd...
    Myalee Myalee 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 13

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    “Pain Is Inevitable. Suffering Is Optional.”

    In case of a broken heart, nothing seems to be enough to take away the pain but the time.
    mindinmoon mindinmoon 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 29, 2013

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    Im Confused, My Fault Or His? (Read All, Before Commenting..)

    Okay. So, I'm 16 and my boyfriend is 18. We've been dating for a year and four months and throughout our relationship we've had tough times. Being multiple times because of another girl, and him keeping things from me. Despite the things in the past what happened this past month...
    HeyImMarissa HeyImMarissa 16-17, F 2 Responses Jun 24, 2013

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    Ok..here it goes. I was adopted from Russia in

    2004. Both my parents. My biological parents are dead. I have two sisters. It seems their all I got.. :( my parents seem to want to get rid of me. I feel like they think I'm a mistake. And everything they say only hurts me. I'm in therapy because of them. I used to love them...
    Emptiness130 Emptiness130 13-15, M 4 days ago

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    Obviously

    I haven't stopped loving however. I'm not in a terrible descending ellipsis of hate. I just don't let people get too close. But I still love, I can't help it anyway, so... I actually take the risk to be hurt rather regularly, and I am, and then it takes a bit of time, to heal...
    WickedScullyOfTheWest WickedScullyOfTheWest 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 25, 2013

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    How Should I?

    Why can't this be easy for me for once? It hurts , it really does. I can see you're trying with everything you have. You've devoted everything to me, for me; your time & attention. Yet I'm still not happy. I can't get over the things that happened a couple months ago. It's not...
    HeyImMarissa HeyImMarissa 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 26, 2013

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    My boyfriend broke up with me yesterday.

    .the painful part is i didn't do anything. Im so tired of this feeling. The feeling of emptiness and i have so many questions in my mind that i know it will never be answered.. My friends and family always say that the breakup is a blessing in disguise.. And he is not worth it...
    shalei shalei 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 15

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    I will do whatever it takes not to get hurt

    again....ive been hurt so much and it has really torn me apart at times....I am recovering from depression and am terrified someone will hurt me again.
    marie0559 marie0559 18-21, F 4 Responses Apr 2

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    AnonymousMe7 AnonymousMe7 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 31

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    It hard for me to trust people

    because it alway ends up with me getting stabbed in the back
    bloodykiller bloodykiller 13-15, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    Why is it that every guy I like end up being a

    jerk? Its always been that way and i cant take it anymore! This year ( freshman in highschool) i was tired of all the jerks and decided on taking extra precautions to meet a genuinly sweet guy. Well lets just say i met a freaking prince charming! Not only was he really cute but...
    Peanut18 Peanut18 13-15, F Feb 24

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    The lesson I learned in childhood left scars

    that will always be there. I was never accepted as a child and was an outcast for children to tease. I had epileptic seizures from an accident. Now I have trouble with trust, acceptance and getting close. That means you shouldn't tease unless you walk in there shoes.
    gambler920 gambler920 51-55, M 3 Responses Mar 13

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    Many People In My Life Have Died.

    Some Of My Friends Have Tried To Commit Suicide. It Angers Me Because They Didn't Think Of The People That Would Miss Them At The Times That They Tried. But One Time, One Of My Friends Thought Of Me. It Hurts To Know How Many Of My Friends Are Depressed And It Feels Like My...
    bandfreak13 bandfreak13 13-15, F Mar 17

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    I'm talking to my ex again.

    .... I think I'm doing wrong. He told me he wants us to get back together,but I don't know...
    jaywonderful jaywonderful 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 2

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    This may seem like a stupid question to many,

    but...how can you tell when a relationship is over? How can you tell when it's time to stop trying and fighting?
    pinkhatesu pinkhatesu 18-21, F 3 Responses Feb 24

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