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I Am Scared of Getting Married and Having Kids

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    Not For Me...

    I know what life's deeper treasures are supposed to be. This pairing doesn't seem like one of those. I wouldn't mind finding someone where the attraction was mutual and deep. But, I don't want a lifelong added responsibilty. What and who I want comes and goes. But, a marriage...
    LovelessDeluxe LovelessDeluxe 22-25 Jul 3, 2011

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    Better Off Single According to Married

    Yeah, I love the idea of marriage (kids only as a consequence). However, I grew up seeing women subserviant and behave as the kids did when the husband/father returned home from work: tidy up, be quiet, check for anything that might upset him, good posture, drop everything you're...
    jacqdn jacqdn 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 25, 2009

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    Doesn't Feel Normal

    I don't want to be married as much as I want to have some companionship , someone who I get along with and enjoy spending time with as well. I am apprehensive about having children as I'd like to travel the world .I imagine myself being on the go a lot , so having children might...
    bleu2ooth bleu2ooth 26-30, F 10 Responses Jun 26, 2009

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    Every time I see a young girls post on here

    about wanting to do something with guys, I get scared about possibly having kids. I don't want a future daughter of mine to act like that. I know how big of a horndog jerk I was as a teenager, and I don't even want to start thinking about what any future daughter of mine might...
    KeitaKoneko KeitaKoneko 26-30, M 1 Response Feb 17

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    Is It Normal

    I have been dating a girl for the past year but have known her for 3 years and have dated her previously. My dad passed away a little over 3 years ago. At that time I was in an unhealthy relationship which ended. at that time I met my present girlfriend and dated for 6 months. I...
    rubley09 rubley09 36-40 2 Responses Nov 24, 2013

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    The married part I have know problem with

    but the having kids thing, I'm selfish for not wanting them because I do not want to bring a person into the world and have the chance of them getting my ADHD & Bipolar I guess is why I don't have any kids yet.
    mlcockrell mlcockrell 36-40, M 1 Response Feb 20

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    Well Yeah

    seriously. everybody says getting married sucks and up until this point i haven't met anyone remotely close to marriage material. plus there's nothing about the wedding that i'd want to be traditional (well maybe a couple things) and I don't know if I wanna be responsible for...
    antibiotic antibiotic 26-30, F Aug 5, 2007

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    Related Experiences

    Sometimes I think marriage is not for me. I won't get into detail but just say I've been married 6 years and we have 1 child. My husband quit his jobs ago because he didn't like...
    sssy sssy 22-25 Apr 2

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    Do I look stupid? I'm never not not getting married (triple negative- I'm badasser than the badas- Wait what? How is that even related to the topic?) OMG- now I'm talking to myself...
    Zaran7 Zaran7 16-17, M 3 days ago

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    Everything is beautiful now, but I worry that 10 year down the line my life will completely revolve around waiting for my (future) husband to come home from his amazing and...
    ocean8600 ocean8600 26-30, F 4 days ago

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    I am rapidly approaching "that age" where I should be feeling the need to have children. I am in a stable and supportive relationship with someone who adores the idea of a family...
    HappyOnTheInside HappyOnTheInside 22-25, F Apr 3

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    I was nervous until I embraced his love and realized that I now get to focus all my love into him. My 'ball and chain' will free me. This didn't happen until we renewed our...
    random2awkward random2awkward 26-30 Mar 21

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    I'm very excited! After 5 years in a happy and healthy relationship he finally proposed. I never thought that love that started at the age of 16 will grow and still be faithful...
    SecretsNeverHidden SecretsNeverHidden 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 1

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    I can't even watch commercials with proposals or wedding type shows or see pictures of people getting married or engagement photos without wanting to burst into tears. I have never...
    AshCatSilver AshCatSilver 31-35, F Apr 1

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    Is it sad to say I don't want to have kids? Unless I was very wealthy and able to no worry about my kids babysitter or daycare etc. I think I am being very realistic. I love kids...
    memarried memarried 22-25, F Mar 21

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    Hi, I know it's really strange but I thought that after I get married ( I'm not getting married yet, I'm not allowed to date and don't really want to until I am out of college...
    musicgirl102 musicgirl102 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 27

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    I have been with both my girlfriend and my boyfriend for a little more than a year. They are currently engaged but will be getting married soon.. I know that they love me and I...
    MDP4EVER MDP4EVER 26-30, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Almost 50, married, older kids, college professor, feeling sexy and more sexual then ever before. I think about it all of the time. It is both juvenile and genuine.
    Simplecomplexity Simplecomplexity 46-50, M 4 Responses Mar 24

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    I'm thinking having kids in my own flesh soon, but I think I can't marry a guy, and I think I want to marry a bisexual or a lesbian woman soon. ๐Ÿ˜„โ˜บ๐Ÿ˜
    8Maxcine8 8Maxcine8 13-15, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    If I didn't get married my family would disown me, I would be put on the shelf if I am still a bachelor at the age of thirty. So in a nutshell I will be getting married.
    projectgwyn101 projectgwyn101 16-17, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I just got wheels for legs! ;) I enjoy life to the fullest, I am an independent woman. I still have dreams of someday being married, having my own place, having a good career and...
    Sugarfoot27 Sugarfoot27 26-30, F Apr 10

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    ...and he is not my husband! I fell out of love with my husband 5 years(?) into the marriage. He traveled a lot with his job and we were in the middle of building our home,leaving...
    SweetPeaLove SweetPeaLove 51-55, F 2 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    Up until this morning it all was good, to me anyway. I know that marriage is a give and take thing and that couples go thru rough patches but.... After 16+ years she drops a...
    mrhph3 mrhph3 36-40, M 1 Response 31 mins ago

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    I have been with my partner 2.5 years. Our first year together was a good one, he lived in his home and I lived in mine. He seemed so different from all the guys I had dated before...
    painfultime painfultime 31-35 2 Responses Mar 26

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    I am so sad and scared about the future for myself and my kids because I have come to the realization that I need to file for divorce from my husband of almost 14 yrs. I am...
    tornandhurt tornandhurt 36-40, F 7 Responses Mar 25

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    I'm a bisexual woman and have recently began my first relationship with a woman which is not just a one night stand. We spent time together and recently the night together...
    Elena36 Elena36 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 24

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    I should feel worse than I do right now. I spent the shower thinking about running. Getting an abortion and just running from him. I want to be a mom, and I want to be with him...
    amber1y amber1y 22-25, F Apr 1

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    I was married once and my marriage failed... quite miserably.. I have always thought that I am just one of those people who were never meant to be married; even from a very young...
    prettyredhead2650 prettyredhead2650 26-30, F Apr 4

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    Idk what it is about the thought of pleasing a man that isn't getting what he needs from his wife! I will be the that satisfies him That gets me so excited and horny! I've never...
    expressingmyself expressingmyself 36-40, F 14 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    I deleted this story because I was getting over him and thought I didn't need it there.. but you know what.. I'm posting it again.. because life is a handful of bad and good...
    Chabelle Chabelle 22-25, F Mar 24

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    Scared to be hurt and scared that I might be the one to hurt someone else.
    Naxxaras Naxxaras 16-17, F 1 Response 15 hrs ago

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    I've been seeing this guy for over 5 months. He is married but not living with his wife. They have two children together. She uses the kids to get back at him for leaving her. She...
    Tyrea31 Tyrea31 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 21

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    My boyfriend of 3 1/2 years is married. Finally..finally...starting the divorce process. But I think its too late, I dont think I can deal with it anymore. So he was married...
    Marieflwr1 Marieflwr1 22-25, F Mar 25

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    Well, more like an extended engagement - for two reasons, saving money for marriage, and his seemingly disinterest in planning for it. We've been together for 10 years (he ignored...
    irritatednutbar irritatednutbar 36-40 7 Responses Mar 31

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    I cannot believe how hard it is to actually write this down. I mean I have all these thoughts in my head about what I feel and what I want to say and now that I have this time to...
    ronirockbottom ronirockbottom 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 21

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    How is it possible to be surrounded by people every day and yet feel so lonely? I got married 6 years ago and as scary and sad as it is, when I look honestly deep within myself, I...
    Lonelyskeptic Lonelyskeptic 26-30, M 13 Responses a week ago

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    ***This is Long, Please be Warned!**** Well, Iโ€™m stumped. I have been trying to figure out what is going on inside my head and my heart for the last year now. I still canโ€™t...
    MINWILD MINWILD 22-25, M 1 Response Mar 19

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    I have been with my boyfriend for almost 10 years. We got together at a young age, and I have always wanted to be more financially stable, and have majority, if not all of my...
    cheetachicklet cheetachicklet 26-30 Apr 8

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    Iwas a virgin at 21 when i married my Husband. Also my Husband is the only man i have ever made love to. Before i met my Husband my friends were all having sex and telling me how...
    cavegirl123 cavegirl123 31-35, F Mar 20

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    I can't stop thinking about this special person. Weekends are hard since we can't talk or chat much. The price we pay for being married...my heart longs for him. We share an email...
    Lauryn0114 Lauryn0114 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 24

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    I typed in I am 25 with no kids and nothing came up, then it asks me if I want to add it, YES of course! I am speaking for all the ladies that are my age or older that do not have...
    Beautyrae Beautyrae 22-25 Mar 25

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    Its almost 5:30 in the morning and I have to get kids up for school at 6. I have only had a couple hours of sleep, if that, because of getting woke up by a reoccurring dream. I...
    scdmw33 scdmw33 36-40, F 5 days ago

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    It happened again.. I can't believe it. I seem to be a magnet for these people. Do I look like a sl*t or wh*re or something? It seems like it sometimes.. It happened two weeks ago...
    livelaughlove2904 livelaughlove2904 13-15, F 2 Responses Mar 20

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    I am a 28 year old female with no kids. I am beginning to hear my biological clock tick. I am currently dating 2 men, both in early 30's and working on building their career . I...
    Sunroses305 Sunroses305 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 21

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    I am a young mother. I have made many, many mistakes in my past, true. I was a wild teen who came from a broken home. Both of my parents were/are drug addicts. My father was in and...
    shoxic shoxic 22-25, F Mar 31

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    While the evidence that anyone was resusitated let alone resurrected 2000 years ago is rather scant - I do hope the kids get to put on their fancy duds and find the colorful easter...
    experimed experimed 51-55, M 14 hrs ago

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    Just Got back from a Florida Vacation, and all 4 of the kids were spanked during the trip for acting up.
    jimparker100 jimparker100 36-40, M 5 Responses 1 hr ago

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    I am married for 7 years with one lovely daughter. From day 1, I knew I can never give him the love that I had for my ex boyfriend whom I left because I thought he has someone. My...
    icanneverhaveu icanneverhaveu 26-30 Mar 27

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    I met him 36 years ago, he was 17, I was 15. We dated a couple of years and broke up, went our separate ways. I got married when I was 27, had 2 kids. After 22 years of marriage...
    SweetPeaLove SweetPeaLove 51-55, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    This is an update to my story about fear of getting lost and where I am today. The answer was unexpected. I recently went to the doctor to see about actually taking meds for my...
    gazingupwards gazingupwards 26-30, F 5 days ago

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    my mom keeps on telling me that she wants a grandchild so she told me to get married.. my best friends who's married and have kids also keep on telling me to have my own family...
    mcindygrace mcindygrace 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 31

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