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I Am Scared of Getting Married and Having Kids

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    Every time I see a young girls post on here

    about wanting to do something with guys, I get scared about possibly having kids. I don't want a future daughter of mine to act like that. I know how big of a horndog jerk I was as a teenager, and I don't even want to start thinking about what any future daughter of mine might...
    KeitaKoneko KeitaKoneko 26-30, M 2 Responses Feb 17

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    Not For Me...

    I know what life's deeper treasures are supposed to be. This pairing doesn't seem like one of those. I wouldn't mind finding someone where the attraction was mutual and deep. But, I don't want a lifelong added responsibilty. What and who I want comes and goes. But, a marriage...
    LovelessDeluxe LovelessDeluxe 22-25 Jul 3, 2011

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    Well Yeah

    seriously. everybody says getting married sucks and up until this point i haven't met anyone remotely close to marriage material. plus there's nothing about the wedding that i'd want to be traditional (well maybe a couple things) and I don't know if I wanna be responsible for...
    antibiotic antibiotic 26-30, F Aug 5, 2007

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    The married part I have know problem with

    but the having kids thing, I'm selfish for not wanting them because I do not want to bring a person into the world and have the chance of them getting my ADHD & Bipolar I guess is why I don't have any kids yet.
    mlcockrell mlcockrell 36-40, M 1 Response Feb 20

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    Well... Marriage is a big thing

    that can gives a big impact in someone's life.. I don't know about marriage that much because I'm not married yet and I don't know when will I get married.. Since I came here I read a lot about marriage.. This is kinda scared me.. Because a lot people have unhappy marriage...
    heartandbrain heartandbrain 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 30

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    Doesn't Feel Normal

    I don't want to be married as much as I want to have some companionship , someone who I get along with and enjoy spending time with as well. I am apprehensive about having children as I'd like to travel the world .I imagine myself being on the go a lot , so having children might...
    bleu2ooth bleu2ooth 26-30, F 10 Responses Jun 26, 2009

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    Better Off Single According to Married

    Yeah, I love the idea of marriage (kids only as a consequence). However, I grew up seeing women subserviant and behave as the kids did when the husband/father returned home from work: tidy up, be quiet, check for anything that might upset him, good posture, drop everything you're...
    jacqdn jacqdn 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 25, 2009

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    I have an aunt. She is 10 years older

    than me, she's 37. She currently lives in Texas with her husband, their 1-year-old boy, and his husband's 3 boys from a previous marriage. My aunt does not have any relatives in Texas since we are all here in our country. She was a lawyer here. She worked for the chief justice...
    girlon3rdfloorsuite9 girlon3rdfloorsuite9 26-30, F Jun 26

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    Is It Normal

    I have been dating a girl for the past year but have known her for 3 years and have dated her previously. My dad passed away a little over 3 years ago. At that time I was in an unhealthy relationship which ended. at that time I met my present girlfriend and dated for 6 months. I...
    rubley09 rubley09 36-40 3 Responses Nov 24, 2013

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    I was married once, my marriage was annulled. I have a daughter who lives with me. She is always a part of me, and will always be with me. I need a man who will understand and...
    MissKassandra MissKassandra 31-35, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    There were signs right before that I should run! I ignored them because I thought it was too close to the wedding date and we already have a child together so he was going to be in...
    kawaibel kawaibel 31-35, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Well my long distance relationship is going to come to a close, in a good way. Provided her house sells in time, we plan to elope to Savannah and get married early Oct. The date...
    itismehello itismehello 46-50, M 2 Responses Jul 19

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    I never really thought about marriage these past years. I never thought I wouldn't be excited to get married. I never knew I was afraid of commitment. But when your mother bought...
    takaw takaw 22-25, F Jul 20

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    Looking back at my life, I'm very surprised I never made the "mistake" of getting married and/or having kids too early on in life. I call it a mistake because, for me, it would...
    TrailrunnerMN TrailrunnerMN 31-35, M 2 Responses Jul 2

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    I'm in my mid-30s. I know that isn't old in the grand scheme of things, but I'm getting somewhat nervous that I haven't had any children yet. I'm not married, but dating. The...
    Sdg9791 Sdg9791 31-35, M 1 Response Jul 10

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    Hello. I'm new here. I've been dating a man with muscular dystrophy for close to a year now and we've been getting pretty serious. My family has not been supportive (to say the...
    AnaKhanda AnaKhanda 26-30, F Jul 14

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    I don't really plan on having kids just yet, but I would like to get married if I ever find that special someone. If I have kids once I'm a grown up, it will be one girl and one...
    ImaWeirdie ImaWeirdie 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 11

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    Seems like more and more people are having kids at such a young age now a days. No one wants to wait until they are financially stable, married. I personally want to enjoy my life...
    iamnikki iamnikki 22-25, F 5 days ago

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    Why should we women be made to feel like, just because we can, we have to have kids? Every woman is supposed to have a maternal side to her apparently but who said that feeling a...
    abbietee abbietee 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 13

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    Three years ago I caught my husband texting younger women that he worked with. He said he sent some inappropriate text messages but never had a physical affair. He tried to...
    kelly121994 kelly121994 41-45, F 10 Responses 1 day ago

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    2 more weeks and I will have u all over me like "white on rice".. I just got back to my hotel room here in Dubai after another long day of work.. And the first thing that came to...
    CougarKitty CougarKitty 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 14

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    Marriage is a curse. That's what it seems like now a days. As soon as you get married it seems all this fun and love just dies. You're bound by the law. I have no problem staying...
    WintersSoldier WintersSoldier 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 12

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    Horror movies, horror games, jump scares, rollercoasters (and other stuff that'll probably make me sound like a psychopath), etc. etc.; they don't scare me. I like that I'm not...
    Lokilover49 Lokilover49 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 16

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    I've been with my other half for 9 years. When we first started dating we seemed to argue about everything, now we hardly argue. We've just had a beautiful little boy and people...
    Wintermagpie Wintermagpie 26-30 Jun 30

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    NEVER thought I'd be in this position because I know it's wrong, but...I'm married & having an affair with a married man. It started out innocently enough---we just met standing...
    deleted deleted 26-30 55 Responses Jul 14

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    ... and I hate when people say it's just a phase, that I'm too young but when I "find the right guy I'll have kids". I find the "concept" of "looking for the father of my children...
    emmacla emmacla 18-21, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I've been married for a few years now and have a wonderful husband. He's a good guy, has never mistreated me, my family loves him, and together we're the poster family for our...
    JaySurge JaySurge 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 19

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    Having kids has been a dream of mine since I was a child, but my family is filled with horrible people and I don't want any of my children to end up like them. They are selfish...
    Annapie Annapie 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 16

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    This is a long story so please bear with me if you can. I met a man back in 2008 through his sister who was a good friend of mine at the time. I knew he was married from the start...
    plmagnet29 plmagnet29 36-40, F 2 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    My situation is so messed up. I've been seeing a married man for 7 mos who claims he no longer loves his wife whom he had a daughter with 9 mos ago. He comes to see me nearly...
    hysgirl hysgirl 31-35, F 1 Response 15 hrs ago

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    Long story short, I'm inlove with a married man, who's 32. I'm 17 btw, he has a daughter who's one, his wife is due with their second child in a few months, and me and this man...
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    I'm married for 11 years and have 2 beautiful young children. My husband and I have grown apart. after a long career, I became a stay at home mom at least until my youngest is in...
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    Called the police last night. This day has been coming since 2 weeks after I married this "perfect" man. It started out with him getting "hung up" on little things. The sort of...
    DebC75 DebC75 36-40, F 4 Responses Jul 19

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    And I'm too embarrassed to tell my roommate. My whole life I've never slept in the dark, and never been able to sleep in the dark. Not at sleepovers or anything. My roommate, like...
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    August of 2014, will be 16 months since he walked out the door. Never leaving me with our boys to raise alone. Some ppl think I'm crazy for saying this, but I'm actually glad he...
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