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I Am Scared of Getting Married and Having Kids

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 54 People

    Is It Normal

    I have been dating a girl for the past year but have known her for 3 years and have dated her previously. My dad passed away a little over 3 years ago. At that time I was in an unhealthy relationship which ended. at that time I met my present girlfriend and dated for 6 months. I...
    rubley09 rubley09 36-40 3 Responses Nov 24, 2013

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    The married part I have know problem with

    but the having kids thing, I'm selfish for not wanting them because I do not want to bring a person into the world and have the chance of them getting my ADHD & Bipolar I guess is why I don't have any kids yet.
    mlcockrell mlcockrell 36-40, M 1 Response Feb 20

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    Better Off Single According to Married

    Yeah, I love the idea of marriage (kids only as a consequence). However, I grew up seeing women subserviant and behave as the kids did when the husband/father returned home from work: tidy up, be quiet, check for anything that might upset him, good posture, drop everything you're...
    jacqdn jacqdn 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 25, 2009

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    Every time I see a young girls post on here

    about wanting to do something with guys, I get scared about possibly having kids. I don't want a future daughter of mine to act like that. I know how big of a horndog jerk I was as a teenager, and I don't even want to start thinking about what any future daughter of mine might...
    KeitaKoneko KeitaKoneko 26-30, M 2 Responses Feb 17

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    I have an aunt. She is 10 years older

    than me, she's 37. She currently lives in Texas with her husband, their 1-year-old boy, and his husband's 3 boys from a previous marriage. My aunt does not have any relatives in Texas since we are all here in our country. She was a lawyer here. She worked for the chief justice...
    girlon3rdfloorsuite9 girlon3rdfloorsuite9 26-30, F Jun 26

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    Not For Me...

    I know what life's deeper treasures are supposed to be. This pairing doesn't seem like one of those. I wouldn't mind finding someone where the attraction was mutual and deep. But, I don't want a lifelong added responsibilty. What and who I want comes and goes. But, a marriage...
    LovelessDeluxe LovelessDeluxe 22-25 Jul 3, 2011

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    Well Yeah

    seriously. everybody says getting married sucks and up until this point i haven't met anyone remotely close to marriage material. plus there's nothing about the wedding that i'd want to be traditional (well maybe a couple things) and I don't know if I wanna be responsible for...
    antibiotic antibiotic 26-30, F Aug 5, 2007

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    Doesn't Feel Normal

    I don't want to be married as much as I want to have some companionship , someone who I get along with and enjoy spending time with as well. I am apprehensive about having children as I'd like to travel the world .I imagine myself being on the go a lot , so having children might...
    bleu2ooth bleu2ooth 26-30, F 10 Responses Jun 26, 2009

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    Well... Marriage is a big thing

    that can gives a big impact in someone's life.. I don't know about marriage that much because I'm not married yet and I don't know when will I get married.. Since I came here I read a lot about marriage.. This is kinda scared me.. Because a lot people have unhappy marriage...
    heartandbrain heartandbrain 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 30

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    I'm unhappy with married life. It feels good to get that out. My husband works all the time, and to be perfectly honest, I'm not really attracted to him anymore. We just had a baby...
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    Still can't believe it... :)
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    Synapse81 Synapse81 31-35, M 2 Responses Oct 3

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    Wedding planning is soo stressful , sigh 😓
    cynmr cynmr 18-21, F 4 days ago

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    I've always wanted to get married but I'm afraid to ever do it. I see so many people on here and in real life that are bored or unhappy and wish they didn't get married. It's such...
    JustDevy JustDevy 18-21, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I don't like people tell me that I need to be married if I not that into marriage or having kids as well. What get on my nerve is when people tell me to grow up which it means to...
    sham17 sham17 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 3

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    naisho naisho 31-35, F 5 days ago

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    My boyfriend of 5 years (recently engaged 3 months ago) was recently served with child support papers from his pervious relationship. Though he is a VERY active dad physically and...
    seeme83 seeme83 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 9

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    Emilia94 Emilia94 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 5

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    First off, this is completely new to me. I don't even no where to begin. So, here goes and it will be long, cause I want to put everything out there. This is my 2nd marriage and...
    Moutainsandnaturestorms Moutainsandnaturestorms 36-40, F 8 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    AzureTiger AzureTiger 18-21, F 2 Responses 1 hr ago

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    Wvgirl20 Wvgirl20 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 7

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    Linley242 Linley242 51-55, F 5 Responses Oct 5

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    My friend and I began an "affair" around 8 months ago. We're both involved in very loveless long term commitments (neither of us are leaving, due to children), although neither of...
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    leahaxel leahaxel 22-25, F Sep 29

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    my story is a long one. i dont expect anyone to read all of it. ive never told anybody. its driven me crazy and ive seen a counselor about it. i was a buyer and worked in fashion...
    rainydaytoday rainydaytoday 22-25 1 Response Sep 26

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