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I Am Scared of Getting Married and Having Kids

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 58 People

    Is It Normal

    I have been dating a girl for the past year but have known her for 3 years and have dated her previously. My dad passed away a little over 3 years ago. At that time I was in an unhealthy relationship which ended. at that time I met my present girlfriend and dated for 6 months. I...
    rubley09 rubley09 36-40 3 Responses Nov 24, 2013

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    Well... Marriage is a big thing

    that can gives a big impact in someone's life.. I don't know about marriage that much because I'm not married yet and I don't know when will I get married.. Since I came here I read a lot about marriage.. This is kinda scared me.. Because a lot people have unhappy marriage...
    heartandbrain heartandbrain 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 30, 2014

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    Not For Me...

    I know what life's deeper treasures are supposed to be. This pairing doesn't seem like one of those. I wouldn't mind finding someone where the attraction was mutual and deep. But, I don't want a lifelong added responsibilty. What and who I want comes and goes. But, a marriage...
    LovelessDeluxe LovelessDeluxe 22-25 Jul 3, 2011

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    Every time I see a young girls post on here

    about wanting to do something with guys, I get scared about possibly having kids. I don't want a future daughter of mine to act like that. I know how big of a horndog jerk I was as a teenager, and I don't even want to start thinking about what any future daughter of mine might...
    KeitaKoneko KeitaKoneko 26-30, M 2 Responses Feb 17, 2014

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    I have an aunt. She is 10 years older

    than me, she's 37. She currently lives in Texas with her husband, their 1-year-old boy, and his husband's 3 boys from a previous marriage. My aunt does not have any relatives in Texas since we are all here in our country. She was a lawyer here. She worked for the chief justice...
    girlon3rdfloorsuite9 girlon3rdfloorsuite9 26-30, F Jun 26, 2014

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    Doesn't Feel Normal

    I don't want to be married as much as I want to have some companionship , someone who I get along with and enjoy spending time with as well. I am apprehensive about having children as I'd like to travel the world .I imagine myself being on the go a lot , so having children might...
    bleu2ooth bleu2ooth 26-30, F 10 Responses Jun 26, 2009

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    Better Off Single According to Married

    Yeah, I love the idea of marriage (kids only as a consequence). However, I grew up seeing women subserviant and behave as the kids did when the husband/father returned home from work: tidy up, be quiet, check for anything that might upset him, good posture, drop everything you're...
    jacqdn jacqdn 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 25, 2009

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    Well Yeah

    seriously. everybody says getting married sucks and up until this point i haven't met anyone remotely close to marriage material. plus there's nothing about the wedding that i'd want to be traditional (well maybe a couple things) and I don't know if I wanna be responsible for...
    antibiotic antibiotic 26-30, F Aug 5, 2007

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    The married part I have know problem with

    but the having kids thing, I'm selfish for not wanting them because I do not want to bring a person into the world and have the chance of them getting my ADHD & Bipolar I guess is why I don't have any kids yet.
    mlcockrell mlcockrell 36-40, M 1 Response Feb 20, 2014

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    My fiance and I will be getting married in 2 weeks. I suppose I am beginning to over think everything at the moment including how his family feels about me. His mother hates me...
    rlspeck rlspeck 31-35, F 1 Response 19 hrs ago

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    Hello. I'm really nervous about getting married at age 18. I love my girlfriend, she's 21. I need advice on marriage. If anyone who is married, is getting married good?
    Jashinism Jashinism 18-21, M 1 Response May 10

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    I've been married once and he ruined it after just 2 weeks into it. I continued to stay in a marriage for 3 years and it turned me into a really ugly person. Plus getting married...
    LUzunov LUzunov 18-21, F May 7

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    I am afraid of getting married. I know how great of a person I am but sometimes I wonder if anyone else will see that greatness in me. Or will they be captured for a moment and not...
    Ayers010 Ayers010 22-25, F May 6

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    I'm lesbian and not getting married....once u put that ring on the finger the ring goes to the head with the commitment and **** lmao no girl is holding me down
    tianalovesher tianalovesher 18-21, F May 14

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    I Need to Decide If I'll Stay In My Marriage I have been in a relationship for 4 years plus with my bf 4 years younger than me. my question to him back then was that i wanted to...
    tinggal123 tinggal123 26-30, F 1 day ago

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    Going to marry my friends dad, he's 20 years older than me but I love him so much. Will be weird having him as my step son
    Chelsea248744 Chelsea248744 18-21, F 7 Responses Apr 24

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    Well, I have heard of way too many stories of women getting killed by their spouse or how much divorce costs, so I am in fear for my life. I get low income (I'm on SSI) so I could...
    RisaKazura RisaKazura 22-25, F May 12

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    I know I won't ever be getting married. Marriage is just so overrated... There are three types of people... there's the type that adore marriage and children, they type who says...
    RocaAzul RocaAzul 18-21, F 1 Response May 5

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    Hi im married with kids but i think im married to myself. My don't want me to work but rather me stay at home while he works, socialize with friends, and then by the time he gets...
    rawwx rawwx 31-35, F 8 Responses 3 days ago

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    During the summer of my 16th year I met my future husband. Much to my parents dismay, I fell head over heels in love with a young man 2 years my senior. Having come from a very...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 days ago

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    When I told my friends and family I was engaged they all told me to take it slow. I was 18 and would be getting married at 19, but I was "in love." 10 years later all of those...
    Adrianna7182 Adrianna7182 31-35, F 5 Responses Apr 25

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    In a previous post I've mentioned that I might change my mind after a couple of years. But after my trip from the Caribbean I don't think I'll ever change my mind. I befriended a...
    FrostyElsie FrostyElsie 22-25, F 1 Response May 2

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    A friend of mine had to take care of his neighbor's kids for a few days because their dad was away and their mom had to go to the hospital after a car accident. He had absolutely...
    blubbyourmom blubbyourmom 22-25, M 2 Responses May 14

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    I am in a loveless marriage for 34 years , I have stayed for kids kids are married now I really stayed for my daughter she is a real sweet catering person I didn't want to hurt...
    Verysadperson Verysadperson 56-60, M 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    I never wanted to be married or having to have a family ...I just wanted to be alone ... I'm someone who does not like to be touched by a man ... I wanted to live in purity like...
    Powerlesss Powerlesss 31-35, F 2 hrs ago

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    Yes I am, I'm so much more confident around men, but with women.. I'm just an idiot .. I feel like I need to be nice to avoid having them revenge from me.. Yes I think women are...
    softkitty85 softkitty85 26-30, F 1 hr ago

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    Well my husband & I are trying to work at our marriage, he has now came back to our bed although he sleeps with his back to me but let's me cuddle into him. I feel how ever that...
    lostcase75 lostcase75 36-40, F 1 Response 54 mins ago

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    I'm just scared of commitment. Or it's more of a dislike rather then being scared of it. I can't date to long because then I feel trapped. People normally want to have a family...
    MomoHekate MomoHekate 18-21, F 3 Responses May 6

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    Been married nearly 7.5 years and found out the 7 year itch is a real thing. Thankfully we are surviving it without either one of us straying - touch wood. Has anyone else run...
    Helena555 Helena555 36-40, F 3 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Whenever I see people with their kids all I think is 'they are so lucky'
    WillowRabbit WillowRabbit 22-25, F 3 hrs ago

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    The moment I saw him, I felt my smile grow big and my heart jumped with joy. He made a joke about my last job not working out because I'm always getting hit on. I laughed. "He's...
    Jhayne Jhayne 26-30 1 Response May 4

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    I am married to a red hair stunning Irish man. he's 9 yrs my senior and was blessed with a beautiful daughter. He has 5 kids prior to our marriage and I had one from my ex. So in...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Apr 28

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    Its funny that everyone around me thinks I'm in this great marriage based on the material things that I have. Yes, my husband is a great provider and father. But, he is a horrible...
    kimberlycook kimberlycook 46-50, F 6 Responses May 3

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    So guys... My boyfriend is away working on a cruise for a week and I just moved to his country and don't really know anyone here. I know that he is really having a great time, he...
    KoalaMars KoalaMars 22-25, F May 2

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    I'm really terrified of getting attached to people as well as places. I never wanted to buy anything I couldn't just pack in a bag and move. It used to fill me with a lot of...
    honestlyanonymouslyme honestlyanonymouslyme 22-25, F 4 Responses May 3

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    Communication......Merriam Webster tells us the following....": the act or process of using words, sounds, signs, or behaviors to express or exchange information or to express your...
    2BlossomBlue 2BlossomBlue 51-55, F 10 Responses May 2

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    Ok so this is my first post and I know it's hard to believe but please if there's someone out there that thinks they can help please respond My name is Kelsey. I'm a senior in...
    KelseyA KelseyA 18-21, F 68 Responses May 7

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    Boyfriend of 4 years and me (in LDR) are currently in a break. 1.5 months ago he told me he is not happy anymore and not sure that he still wants a future with me. I realize that...
    reachoutmydream reachoutmydream 26-30, F 6 Responses May 11

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    I'm 50, married with teenage kids. Always thought I was straight. Ten years ago, an old friend came to visit. We'd been very close and had lost touch. Over the course of her visit...
    saruchan saruchan 46-50, F 1 Response 17 hrs ago

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    He's in the pub again, getting pissed because it's easier than having to deal with things... I'm physically shaking as I write this because I'm that scared of him coming home. I...
    Jenezebel Jenezebel 26-30, F 1 Response May 8

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    I am a truck driver (owner-operation) I took two years off and went to college. My first day I met the most beautiful and amazing girl she was 29 and me 48 but we become great...
    rlb66 rlb66 46-50, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    A typical day for the kids and I at the park. We are on the slides and the swings having joys and laughters. Wasn't sure to post this under "I hate selfies" or "I married a...
    koh72 koh72 41-45, M 5 Responses Apr 26

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