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I Am Scared of Getting Married and Having Kids

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    The married part I have know problem with

    but the having kids thing, I'm selfish for not wanting them because I do not want to bring a person into the world and have the chance of them getting my ADHD & Bipolar I guess is why I don't have any kids yet.
    mlcockrell mlcockrell 36-40, M 1 Response Feb 20

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    Every time I see a young girls post on here

    about wanting to do something with guys, I get scared about possibly having kids. I don't want a future daughter of mine to act like that. I know how big of a horndog jerk I was as a teenager, and I don't even want to start thinking about what any future daughter of mine might...
    KeitaKoneko KeitaKoneko 26-30, M 2 Responses Feb 17

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    I have an aunt. She is 10 years older

    than me, she's 37. She currently lives in Texas with her husband, their 1-year-old boy, and his husband's 3 boys from a previous marriage. My aunt does not have any relatives in Texas since we are all here in our country. She was a lawyer here. She worked for the chief justice...
    girlon3rdfloorsuite9 girlon3rdfloorsuite9 26-30, F Jun 26

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    Not For Me...

    I know what life's deeper treasures are supposed to be. This pairing doesn't seem like one of those. I wouldn't mind finding someone where the attraction was mutual and deep. But, I don't want a lifelong added responsibilty. What and who I want comes and goes. But, a marriage...
    LovelessDeluxe LovelessDeluxe 22-25 Jul 3, 2011

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    Well... Marriage is a big thing

    that can gives a big impact in someone's life.. I don't know about marriage that much because I'm not married yet and I don't know when will I get married.. Since I came here I read a lot about marriage.. This is kinda scared me.. Because a lot people have unhappy marriage...
    heartandbrain heartandbrain 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 30

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    Doesn't Feel Normal

    I don't want to be married as much as I want to have some companionship , someone who I get along with and enjoy spending time with as well. I am apprehensive about having children as I'd like to travel the world .I imagine myself being on the go a lot , so having children might...
    bleu2ooth bleu2ooth 26-30, F 10 Responses Jun 26, 2009

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    Is It Normal

    I have been dating a girl for the past year but have known her for 3 years and have dated her previously. My dad passed away a little over 3 years ago. At that time I was in an unhealthy relationship which ended. at that time I met my present girlfriend and dated for 6 months. I...
    rubley09 rubley09 36-40 3 Responses Nov 24, 2013

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    Well Yeah

    seriously. everybody says getting married sucks and up until this point i haven't met anyone remotely close to marriage material. plus there's nothing about the wedding that i'd want to be traditional (well maybe a couple things) and I don't know if I wanna be responsible for...
    antibiotic antibiotic 26-30, F Aug 5, 2007

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    Better Off Single According to Married

    Yeah, I love the idea of marriage (kids only as a consequence). However, I grew up seeing women subserviant and behave as the kids did when the husband/father returned home from work: tidy up, be quiet, check for anything that might upset him, good posture, drop everything you're...
    jacqdn jacqdn 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 25, 2009

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    I don't see the point in it. Its a waste of time, effort, and money. Weddings are super ******* boring. Plus you'd have to find the right person to want to get married too, which...
    JezebelWhitman JezebelWhitman 16-17, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    It was to the person who I thought loved me. Turns out it was love for a while it lasted. Now I have did four men in total. Yeah go ahead judge me. But hey at least I didn't just...
    ti777 ti777 18-21 1 Response Dec 8

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    I'm not married, but I see so many young women my age that are. Most of my friends are married, but they really don't have a career. Granted, I am happy for them and respect their...
    agathashelly agathashelly 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 3

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    How can the thought of getting married be such a driving goal in my life and terrify me so much at the same time. I want to find someone and get married but I see so many people...
    ballen0420 ballen0420 36-40, M 1 Response Dec 7

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    To me, having kids is basically sacrificing your life to a child who doesnt care. They ruin your body, take up all your time, money, and energy, ruin your sex life, put on stress...
    tessagj14 tessagj14 16-17, F 6 days ago

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    My wife and I have been separated for a few weeks now. It's not something I really wanted but here we are. We have 4 young kids and I never thought this could happen. I've come to...
    Brian0714 Brian0714 36-40, M Dec 7

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    Since i was a little kid i had always dreamed of getting married and having a family of my own. I think it comes from having a broken family growing up. I'm now 20 and this is the...
    Typrophecy Typrophecy 18-21, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    After watching and taking care of so many babies and toddlers, I pretty much had my share of child raising. I don't need my own, I'm 18 and already burned out. Plus, there are 7...
    Knixveus5 Knixveus5 18-21, M 1 Response Dec 7

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    ok i need advice. lol im not officially with this guy but im faithful to him like he's really my boyfriend. Its been about a year, and I haven't made it official because of many...
    Honeybrilove Honeybrilove 18-21, F Nov 21

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    I love my fiancé with all my heart. He knows all my ups and downs, he knows me better than I know myself and can read my face no matter what. I help him through hard times and he...
    PimpledCorpse PimpledCorpse 16-17, F 9 Responses Nov 30

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    My mother is going to marry someone I do not want her to!! .... Ok so this guy is no good. He's been married 3 times he is an alcoholic and I mean drinks ALOT, my mom doesn't...
    jussme91 jussme91 22-25, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I want to get married somewhere down the road, but I'm willing to wait until gay marriage is legalized in Florida because whoever my bride is...she needs to realize my fantasy of...
    stellag23 stellag23 22-25, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I do believe marriage is unnecessary. I'm perfectly fine with living "married life" with my S.O. Without actually getting married. I don't see the need for it really
    FierrrrceNadia FierrrrceNadia 18-21, F 6 days ago

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    I married before I accepted that I was gay. I do not regret getting married but I will not come out of my closet and announce that I am gay.
    willylover1 willylover1 61-65, M 5 days ago

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    I don't know why but I feel everything will change after marriage. So when my parents talk about my marriage I just tell them I ain't never getting married
    NTsha681 NTsha681 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 21

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    I've never actually tried to get pregnant. I'm just not in a place to be having kids. Though as many times as I've been dumb and not used protection (don't worry I've been checked...
    ConfusedTeenGirl ConfusedTeenGirl 18-21, F Dec 5

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    I feel weird about not having kids at 30 hell I don't even have a boyfriend but I don't want to bring children I do the world when I'm not ready .
    Confused848 Confused848 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 11

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    I am getting married at the end of this month. I'm so very excited to commit my life to such a loving man. I don't see this being an easy venture but what marriage is easy no...
    WynonnaMarye WynonnaMarye 18-21, F 6 days ago

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    I don't think things will ever be loving between My husband and I again. There is just so much hurt. I want so much for him to want things like spending time with me, taking...
    katierose59 katierose59 26-30, F 4 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    So I have a big problem. My wife and I are recently separated but still living together out of necessity as we have 4 kids living off my income. She is already seeing other people...
    Brian0714 Brian0714 36-40, M 7 hrs ago

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    I know, that's not supposed to be possible. People say it's not possible, that I'm deluding myself. I'm looking for a way out, I secretly hate her, we must have a sexless...
    roykirk roykirk 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 23

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    I met my child's father, Z at work. He was married and I I was engaged to H. It was a volatile relationship. I befriended Z. He was someone new to talk to. Something besides the...
    lostinmommyview lostinmommyview 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 5

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    I'm so scared of it somedays. People treat old people like a disease or like they are a joke. Just because of their outward appearance. Especially teenagers. It makes me so sad...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 1 Response Nov 24

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    HOW DO YOU DECIDE WHO TO MARRY HOW DO YOU DECIDE WHO TO MARRY? (written by kids) You got to find somebody who likes the same stuff. Like, if you like sports, she should like it...
    jml2000 jml2000 56-60, M 2 Responses Nov 24

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    I am married to a woman who was married before I met her. We met years after her divorce. We met and got married and have been together 5 years. she had 2 kids who I accepted as...
    lonelyinohio31 lonelyinohio31 31-35, M 7 Responses Nov 28

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    I kind of always knew since I was a teen I would have a hard time having a child. I don't have a normal cycle and I have tried everything under the sun to at least go back to...
    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 2

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    I'm 28 years old, been married for 3 years, no children. My marriage seems to have hit the perfect storm of all issues ever, and I'm stuck in the eye of the hurricane. I have...
    twr86 twr86 26-30, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I love my kids more than I ever thought I could love anyone. They are the only reason I don't end it all right here n now
    lehcar1977 lehcar1977 36-40 2 hrs ago

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    Our 29 Year Age Difference! We meet on AgeMeet.com , I am 21 and my boyfriend is 50. We were friends for a couple years before we got together, we have been together 3 amazing...
    amanda198812 amanda198812 26-30, F Dec 9

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    This man who was my hockey coach back when i was 9 or 10 used to mess around with me and some other guys on my team. He started talking to me on whatsapp and hes bringing back all...
    LandonS LandonS 16-17, M 4 Responses Nov 20

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    hey! my name is karan i am from hyderabad i got a seat in punjub for my graduation so i left for punjab it was the 1st tym i was away from my family everything was new there and i...
    realysweetguy realysweetguy 22-25, M Nov 24

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    ugh... I haven't been on here in a long time. almost two years to be exact. in two years did I think I'd still be on here? no. I thought I'd be free. I thought for sure I'd...
    8119CA 8119CA 31-35 5 Responses Dec 1

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    I've talked a little about how I am 21 and pregnant also married but recently I have had my mother drop my little brother off age 14 to raise him. well financially it's going to be...
    blmf1994 blmf1994 18-21, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    I have been married twice. I was married the first time for 23 years. I lost my first husband to cancer. I was a widow for only a short period of time. I have been married for...
    oldernudistwifeandmom oldernudistwifeandmom 51-55, F 5 Responses Nov 27

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    I am a bisexual male and found the love of my life. He wants kids but I do not. Obviously we've discussed everything. We're only 20 so now it's not an issue. But he wants kids and...
    BrokenAndBetrayed612 BrokenAndBetrayed612 18-21, M Nov 30

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    Starting over can appear to be such a positive event for many people but how come it's 'too good to be true' when it's my turn. Why must my innocent children suffer for mistakes...
    VT100712 VT100712 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 2

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    Literally all I've ever wanted was to get married and have babies. Right now I plan on going to school and having a career but if I ever marry a man who can provide enough so that...
    Madison18 Madison18 18-21, F 10 Responses Dec 3