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I Am Scared of Getting Married and Having Kids

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    Better Off Single According to Married

    Yeah, I love the idea of marriage (kids only as a consequence). However, I grew up seeing women subserviant and behave as the kids did when the husband/father returned home from work: tidy up, be quiet, check for anything that might upset him, good posture, drop everything you're...
    jacqdn jacqdn 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 25, 2009

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    The married part I have know problem with

    but the having kids thing, I'm selfish for not wanting them because I do not want to bring a person into the world and have the chance of them getting my ADHD & Bipolar I guess is why I don't have any kids yet.
    mlcockrell mlcockrell 36-40, M 1 Response Feb 20

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    Not For Me...

    I know what life's deeper treasures are supposed to be. This pairing doesn't seem like one of those. I wouldn't mind finding someone where the attraction was mutual and deep. But, I don't want a lifelong added responsibilty. What and who I want comes and goes. But, a marriage...
    LovelessDeluxe LovelessDeluxe 22-25 Jul 3, 2011

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    Well Yeah

    seriously. everybody says getting married sucks and up until this point i haven't met anyone remotely close to marriage material. plus there's nothing about the wedding that i'd want to be traditional (well maybe a couple things) and I don't know if I wanna be responsible for...
    antibiotic antibiotic 26-30, F Aug 5, 2007

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    Is It Normal

    I have been dating a girl for the past year but have known her for 3 years and have dated her previously. My dad passed away a little over 3 years ago. At that time I was in an unhealthy relationship which ended. at that time I met my present girlfriend and dated for 6 months. I...
    rubley09 rubley09 36-40 3 Responses Nov 24, 2013

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    Doesn't Feel Normal

    I don't want to be married as much as I want to have some companionship , someone who I get along with and enjoy spending time with as well. I am apprehensive about having children as I'd like to travel the world .I imagine myself being on the go a lot , so having children might...
    bleu2ooth bleu2ooth 26-30, F 10 Responses Jun 26, 2009

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    Well... Marriage is a big thing

    that can gives a big impact in someone's life.. I don't know about marriage that much because I'm not married yet and I don't know when will I get married.. Since I came here I read a lot about marriage.. This is kinda scared me.. Because a lot people have unhappy marriage...
    heartandbrain heartandbrain 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 30

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    Every time I see a young girls post on here

    about wanting to do something with guys, I get scared about possibly having kids. I don't want a future daughter of mine to act like that. I know how big of a horndog jerk I was as a teenager, and I don't even want to start thinking about what any future daughter of mine might...
    KeitaKoneko KeitaKoneko 26-30, M 2 Responses Feb 17

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    I have an aunt. She is 10 years older

    than me, she's 37. She currently lives in Texas with her husband, their 1-year-old boy, and his husband's 3 boys from a previous marriage. My aunt does not have any relatives in Texas since we are all here in our country. She was a lawyer here. She worked for the chief justice...
    girlon3rdfloorsuite9 girlon3rdfloorsuite9 26-30, F Jun 26

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    To a man i havent even met!!! she tells me over the phone that she is engaged.
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    I'm 31! I have a live in boyfriend of 5 years. Neither of us have kids. I have the ' baby itch'! At the beginning of our relationship, he said " you are the only one I would have a...
    hereigoagain2 hereigoagain2 31-35, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I had a miscarriage. If my baby was still alive, s/he would be one and one month old right now. I always wanted kids and get married.. As I got older, the more I realized it won't...
    esistmia esistmia 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 16

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    I am not married. I can't really see it ever happening to be honest. If I did ever get married I would want a very low-key affair. I hate being the centre of attention so the idea...
    SarcasticCommentLoading SarcasticCommentLoading 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 20

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    ok i'm 21 years old i still go By my given name yes i'm a at home house wife yes i know he was gay from the get go we started it off as high school friends when we started college...
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    alice4114 alice4114 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 30

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    Now, I would like to get married and spend the rest of my life with someone, but I would rather spend my life with someone I'll be happy with, and who'll be happy with me. What's...
    Whoami30 Whoami30 26-30, M Aug 18

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    honestyreality honestyreality 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 20

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    If you get married to be happy, you're getting married for the wrong reason. Marriage is a beautiful experience but a source of endless happiness it is not.
    Issues33 Issues33 36-40, F 3 Responses Sep 7

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    What’s the point of marriage anyway? It doesn’t add anything to a relationship. These days it’s just a piece of paper and a few differences in your legal status. It means...
    chloeforever chloeforever 18-21, F 21 Responses Sep 5

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    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10 22-25, F Sep 7

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    I am 25 and have 3 children under 6. I have been with my husband since I was 14, married at 18, and started a family a few months into the marriage. I love my kids with all my...
    Mom1989 Mom1989 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 31

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    I'm 24 years old, married, and have 3 kids. My children are my life, there all I have left in this world. I'm married to a guy that drinks every other day. He suffers from anxiety...
    Precious2009 Precious2009 22-25, F 6 days ago

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    Been married for twenty four years. That is more than half my life. Things were okay until the kids moved out to make lives of their own. Maybe our marriage has always been this...
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    It sounds silly since I'm only 20, but I'm scared of growing older. I'm scared of increasing health threats as my age gets older, scared of wrinkles scared of getting bigger if I...
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