Post
Experience Project iOS Android Apps | Download EP for your Mobile Device

I Am Scared of Getting Married and Having Kids

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 54 People

    The married part I have know problem with

    but the having kids thing, I'm selfish for not wanting them because I do not want to bring a person into the world and have the chance of them getting my ADHD & Bipolar I guess is why I don't have any kids yet.
    mlcockrell mlcockrell 36-40, M 1 Response Feb 20

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Well... Marriage is a big thing

    that can gives a big impact in someone's life.. I don't know about marriage that much because I'm not married yet and I don't know when will I get married.. Since I came here I read a lot about marriage.. This is kinda scared me.. Because a lot people have unhappy marriage...
    heartandbrain heartandbrain 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 30

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Every time I see a young girls post on here

    about wanting to do something with guys, I get scared about possibly having kids. I don't want a future daughter of mine to act like that. I know how big of a horndog jerk I was as a teenager, and I don't even want to start thinking about what any future daughter of mine might...
    KeitaKoneko KeitaKoneko 26-30, M 2 Responses Feb 17

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I have an aunt. She is 10 years older

    than me, she's 37. She currently lives in Texas with her husband, their 1-year-old boy, and his husband's 3 boys from a previous marriage. My aunt does not have any relatives in Texas since we are all here in our country. She was a lawyer here. She worked for the chief justice...
    girlon3rdfloorsuite9 girlon3rdfloorsuite9 26-30, F Jun 26

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Not For Me...

    I know what life's deeper treasures are supposed to be. This pairing doesn't seem like one of those. I wouldn't mind finding someone where the attraction was mutual and deep. But, I don't want a lifelong added responsibilty. What and who I want comes and goes. But, a marriage...
    LovelessDeluxe LovelessDeluxe 22-25 Jul 3, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Doesn't Feel Normal

    I don't want to be married as much as I want to have some companionship , someone who I get along with and enjoy spending time with as well. I am apprehensive about having children as I'd like to travel the world .I imagine myself being on the go a lot , so having children might...
    bleu2ooth bleu2ooth 26-30, F 10 Responses Jun 26, 2009

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Better Off Single According to Married

    Yeah, I love the idea of marriage (kids only as a consequence). However, I grew up seeing women subserviant and behave as the kids did when the husband/father returned home from work: tidy up, be quiet, check for anything that might upset him, good posture, drop everything you're...
    jacqdn jacqdn 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 25, 2009

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Well Yeah

    seriously. everybody says getting married sucks and up until this point i haven't met anyone remotely close to marriage material. plus there's nothing about the wedding that i'd want to be traditional (well maybe a couple things) and I don't know if I wanna be responsible for...
    antibiotic antibiotic 26-30, F Aug 5, 2007

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Is It Normal

    I have been dating a girl for the past year but have known her for 3 years and have dated her previously. My dad passed away a little over 3 years ago. At that time I was in an unhealthy relationship which ended. at that time I met my present girlfriend and dated for 6 months. I...
    rubley09 rubley09 36-40 3 Responses Nov 24, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Related Experiences

    I am getting married this Monday to my EP fiancé. It will be a short online wedding and we'll honeymoon in Hawaii. WE already have a minister.I know its sounds crazy but were so...
    Curvzahead Curvzahead 26-30, F 1 Response a week ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    i know this may be a strange question but im nervous about getting married and moving to a new area. advice?
    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10 22-25, F 6 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    My parent forced a marriage between a very rich guy that I completely don't know about the guy was forced to marry me too and I'm only 21 year old I tried to tell them I'm not...
    ImVeryHot ImVeryHot 18-21, F 2 Responses a week ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I'm unhappy with married life. It feels good to get that out. My husband works all the time, and to be perfectly honest, I'm not really attracted to him anymore. We just had a baby...
    zeldamint zeldamint 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 17

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I find myself at peace just a little. Everything seems to be coming together like it is meant to. My fiance got accepted for a tutoring job by the school district in his town. the...
    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10 22-25, F 1 Response a week ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I'm so tremendously excited. In less than 2 weeks, I am going to be a bride and a wife. I cannot wait, even through all of my issues my gorgeous fiancé still wants to marry and...
    MissAnonGirly33 MissAnonGirly33 18-21, F Oct 1

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Still can't believe it... :)
    solitaria19 solitaria19 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 2

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I proposed to her during the summer. I remember that for weeks I was losing my mind trying to make an origami diamond in which to hide the ring, I'm pretty sure I destroyed a small...
    Synapse81 Synapse81 31-35, M 3 Responses Oct 3

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Wedding planning is soo stressful , sigh 😓
    cynmr cynmr 18-21, F Oct 19

    Your Response

    Cancel
    A lot happened this weekend. For the first time in a long time, my husband and I really started to open up and communicate. Since attending therapy, I've realized that I've been...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses 3 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I've heard a lot of people say: "Kids are a God blessing". Oh they are? Let's analyze that shall we: Well first off, I've heard pregnancy is a real b*tch, but that's only just the...
    DeathstalkerScorpion DeathstalkerScorpion 22-25, M 3 Responses 1 day ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I've always wanted to get married but I'm afraid to ever do it. I see so many people on here and in real life that are bored or unhappy and wish they didn't get married. It's such...
    JustDevy JustDevy 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 21

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I don't like people tell me that I need to be married if I not that into marriage or having kids as well. What get on my nerve is when people tell me to grow up which it means to...
    sham17 sham17 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 3

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Possible pregnant, Single, and potential baby daddy is getting married in two days. Terrified.
    Bluetoothfairy Bluetoothfairy 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 7

    Your Response

    Cancel
    It was very hard to get married so young. I graduated on May 25th, 2014 and by July 19th, 2014 I was a married woman. I had to take on a lot of resonsibility, especially being that...
    xwewereinfinite xwewereinfinite 18-21, F 3 Responses Oct 9

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I was really excited to go to my friend's wedding. At her bachelorette party she said she was really happy for me. My boyfriend was serious about a future together. He has...
    naisho naisho 31-35, F Oct 17

    Your Response

    Cancel
    My boyfriend of 5 years (recently engaged 3 months ago) was recently served with child support papers from his pervious relationship. Though he is a VERY active dad physically and...
    seeme83 seeme83 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 9

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I prefer being single more than getting married. I am quite happy and don't regret anything.
    SinglemomPuff SinglemomPuff 36-40, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I'm not working since I've been home w kids and unable to find a new job. I'm so scared to file for the divorce but our marriage is unhealthy. I would love to hear from other women...
    squirrelbounce squirrelbounce 41-45, F 5 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I was making $100k when I left my job to stay home w kids, but now I'll be happy if I find anything at all, possibly an $18/hr job. My husband makes close to $140k a year. But...
    squirrelbounce squirrelbounce 41-45, F 2 Responses 4 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    :( that's all I want in life it's my dream to get married and have kids I can't we it happening but I have pland what I would really like the wedding to be like but the girl gets a...
    Rossthayer Rossthayer 22-25, M 7 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I'm in a seriouse relationship with this wonderful man who means the world to me, and who loves me very much. I've been torturing myself with doubts and fears. You see, I have a...
    Emilia94 Emilia94 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 5

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Why do mean throw us just enough line to hang on, and then they are the ones who push us away to drown. I love my MM, but he is so hard to understand. He wants me, let's be...
    Blueeyes65 Blueeyes65 46-50, F 1 Response 20 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    First off, this is completely new to me. I don't even no where to begin. So, here goes and it will be long, cause I want to put everything out there. This is my 2nd marriage and...
    Mountainsandnaturestorms Mountainsandnaturestorms 36-40, F 14 Responses Oct 22

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I'm hoping I can get some honest male input to help me understand my current situation. A little history: About 3 months ago, I started a very passionate affair with a man who I...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 1 Response 5 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I am all your shoes also… love him but hate him. The smell pushes me away. My husband has been drinking for over 10 years. We have a rough marriage from the get go….jail...
    stuckindia stuckindia 41-45 Oct 4

    Your Response

    Cancel
    What is love? Saying "I love you" every day? Canoodling? Buying presents? Helping with chores? Having sex? Physical attraction? Loyalty? Honesty? Living together? Laughing or...
    nojokeintended nojokeintended 36-40, M 1 Response Oct 8

    Your Response

    Cancel
    First off, I'm going to start this out by saying I had an abortion about 5 years ago, you was not there to experience why I had one, so don't judge me for my actions. I was almost...
    Wvgirl20 Wvgirl20 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 7

    Your Response

    Cancel
    All of this really happened. I haven't talked to anyone about it (except my wife). Posting here to EP is the first time I've shared to a wider audience. My wife and I have been...
    rmguyinCO rmguyinCO 46-50, M 3 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Hi I'm 21 years only engaged to the fiancé who I plan on marrying next year... And I just found out I'm pregnant. I'm thinking on an abortion. I just feel like I am to young to...
    april16161616 april16161616 18-21, F 2 Responses 2 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    This is to all the women having affairs with married men right now. I want to share my story of my experience with having a relationship with a married man, in hopes that you...
    Linley242 Linley242 51-55, F 5 Responses Oct 5

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I have been married for 16 years..2 kids...13 and 15 year old. My problems stremed back over 10 years ago. My husband is not the most romantic, rarely communicates with me, never...
    nursekaye nursekaye 41-45, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    This kind of stuff makes me mad. My brother has autism so when I see people picking on people who can't help how they are I see red. Actually seeing anyone getting bullied makes me...
    ScarLove ScarLove 13-15, F 3 Responses 14 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    My husband and I got married because I was pregnant with our daughter, which was fine, but neither of us really wanted to get married. Our families pressured us into it (both are...
    katinbell katinbell 22-25, F 8 Responses 10 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    4 1/2 year relationship we've been married for about 5 months and separated. We are at the point where one minute we love each other like crazy then the next hateful mean and...
    colealica1779 colealica1779 31-35, F 3 Responses Oct 11

    Your Response

    Cancel
    So, I'm sitting here completely and utterly drained of hope. I've been married almost two years with 3 step kids and 1 baby boy. My relationship with the step kids isn't perfect, I...
    blackvolt blackvolt 26-30, M 4 Responses 5 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I do want kids but then again I don't. Mainly because since I was 7 years old, I was always helping my mom take care of my siblings. I am now 17, she has 4 kids (including me) and...
    icecreamsoda icecreamsoda 16-17, F 1 Response 5 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I only have one week of high-school left. Ever. It feels so weird to think that I was in a "safe environment" for about 12 years and that I'll be 18 soon and I will have to make...
    Frangenia Frangenia 16-17 3 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel