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I Am Scared of Getting Married and Having Kids

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 55 People

    Not For Me...

    I know what life's deeper treasures are supposed to be. This pairing doesn't seem like one of those. I wouldn't mind finding someone where the attraction was mutual and deep. But, I don't want a lifelong added responsibilty. What and who I want comes and goes. But, a marriage...
    LovelessDeluxe LovelessDeluxe 22-25 Jul 3, 2011

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    Well Yeah

    seriously. everybody says getting married sucks and up until this point i haven't met anyone remotely close to marriage material. plus there's nothing about the wedding that i'd want to be traditional (well maybe a couple things) and I don't know if I wanna be responsible for...
    antibiotic antibiotic 26-30, F Aug 5, 2007

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    Every time I see a young girls post on here

    about wanting to do something with guys, I get scared about possibly having kids. I don't want a future daughter of mine to act like that. I know how big of a horndog jerk I was as a teenager, and I don't even want to start thinking about what any future daughter of mine might...
    KeitaKoneko KeitaKoneko 26-30, M 2 Responses Feb 17, 2014

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    Better Off Single According to Married

    Yeah, I love the idea of marriage (kids only as a consequence). However, I grew up seeing women subserviant and behave as the kids did when the husband/father returned home from work: tidy up, be quiet, check for anything that might upset him, good posture, drop everything you're...
    jacqdn jacqdn 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 25, 2009

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    Well... Marriage is a big thing

    that can gives a big impact in someone's life.. I don't know about marriage that much because I'm not married yet and I don't know when will I get married.. Since I came here I read a lot about marriage.. This is kinda scared me.. Because a lot people have unhappy marriage...
    heartandbrain heartandbrain 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 30, 2014

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    The married part I have know problem with

    but the having kids thing, I'm selfish for not wanting them because I do not want to bring a person into the world and have the chance of them getting my ADHD & Bipolar I guess is why I don't have any kids yet.
    mlcockrell mlcockrell 36-40, M 1 Response Feb 20, 2014

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    Is It Normal

    I have been dating a girl for the past year but have known her for 3 years and have dated her previously. My dad passed away a little over 3 years ago. At that time I was in an unhealthy relationship which ended. at that time I met my present girlfriend and dated for 6 months. I...
    rubley09 rubley09 36-40 3 Responses Nov 24, 2013

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    I have an aunt. She is 10 years older

    than me, she's 37. She currently lives in Texas with her husband, their 1-year-old boy, and his husband's 3 boys from a previous marriage. My aunt does not have any relatives in Texas since we are all here in our country. She was a lawyer here. She worked for the chief justice...
    girlon3rdfloorsuite9 girlon3rdfloorsuite9 26-30, F Jun 26, 2014

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    Doesn't Feel Normal

    I don't want to be married as much as I want to have some companionship , someone who I get along with and enjoy spending time with as well. I am apprehensive about having children as I'd like to travel the world .I imagine myself being on the go a lot , so having children might...
    bleu2ooth bleu2ooth 26-30, F 10 Responses Jun 26, 2009

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    I'm getting married July 10th and I'm suppose to be planning all this stuff. my fiancé is a over the road truck driver so he can't really be here to help and I've always been kind...
    Happythoughts7771 Happythoughts7771 22-25, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Me and my husband has been off and on since high school when I found out I was pregnant we got married but we have our ups and downs
    newfounddream newfounddream 26-30, F Feb 12

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    Solely because of all these "I am the other woman" posts here on ep. Please don't tell me this is the "norm" nowadays...
    PartyPat2336 PartyPat2336 16-17, F 4 Responses Feb 19

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    my boyfriend and i lost our virginities to each other. he was 19 and i was 17. we were spending the night together. my pants were off and he was fingering me. i was enjoying it...
    kittiemeow kittiemeow 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 23

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    i lost mine at 22 to a coworker when I work fast food. we did it at his house and u know how people say first time was bad it was and hurt bad after and I bleed. But I never...
    maggietyler maggietyler 22-25, F 6 days ago

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    I have another sexual confession. I lost my virginity when I was 15 to a guy I knew just for a brief time. I met my would be husband not long after. I told him I was a virgin. To...
    wife81 wife81 31-35, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    My husband (who we shall call Bug) and I met when I moved to his small town (we're talking less than 2,000 people) halfway through 7th grade. We were in the same year, but it...
    quirkygirl520 quirkygirl520 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 24

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    I miss the sexual intimacy we had before kids. I don't regret having kids and I think most parents can relate to the challenges of work, household responsibilities, kids' homework...
    westhills248 westhills248 41-45, M 3 Responses Feb 19

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    I am in the mood to start having kids in a healthy relationship with my mate. I do not believe couples have to be married to have children. I am very liberal about this topic.
    redheadfemale redheadfemale 31-35, F Feb 6

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    So my husband and I. We've been together for 12 years, married for 8. We have 2 kids together. We met when we were both abroad, and he pretty much moved to a different continent...
    quira00 quira00 36-40, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    What's the point of having any anyway? Having a big belly for like 9 months just for another human being who is going to **** on your face when growing up? Or the perfect husband...
    indiebabe46 indiebabe46 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 21

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    I am sick of being single. The biggest problem is that I hate going places where it is likely to meet someone. I don't really drink, hate loud noise, can't dance, and am not...
    Stongarn Stongarn 31-35, M Feb 22

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    wait.....does that even make any since? anyways, there is a difference between love and marriage. i bet you've heard that one before too many times. Getting married has to be done...
    ThatOneSomaliGirl ThatOneSomaliGirl 13-15, F 1 Response Feb 23

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    I know that i'm going to be getting married soon. I'm in my late 20s and I'm finally ready for marriage. My partner has yet to ask me, but I can feel that he's going to soon...
    ksmith0315 ksmith0315 26-30 1 Response Feb 23

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    I'm tired of all these mombies running around acting like women who aren't reproducing, are the most selfish people on the planet. Exactly how is it selfish to not want kids...
    AjLeePunk AjLeePunk 22-25, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    Recently I've been thinking about having kids more and more. Maternal instincts defiantly kicked in, I'll be 26 next week. I would love to have Identical twin boys then afterwards...
    bakemecake bakemecake 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 6

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    Haha we are spending the weekend at Adams's house, well we live just down the road from my aunt and uncle's ranch, well the girls just love to help my cousin with feeding the...
    jennymomof3 jennymomof3 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 7

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    I love children. But I do not want the responsibility of having kids of my own, nor do I want the drama that comes with them. Further I don't want my body mucked up by giving...
    DonnaDomm DonnaDomm 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 24

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    For me as with many women getting married will be a fulfilment in part of who I am. I am a female and our biological identity is to become mothers. It is traditional and I feel...
    Astrucbmt Astrucbmt 22-25, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Reposting here to make it more public and we're getting married soon. About two years ago, at work, I met an attractive girl who was around 350 lbs and 5"8. We fell in love and...
    Miteu Miteu 18-21, M 1 Response Feb 23

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    I just found out my rapist had unblocked me on Facebook and he's been watching me. I'm beyond scared. I still haven't reported it. I got too scared. How can I tell my boyfriend the...
    ddc95 ddc95 18-21, F 55 mins ago

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    After almost 4 yrs of lies, lack of affection, communication, and attention, and an almost nonexistant sex life I am ready to divorce. I have talked to my husband about spending...
    txhouswife42 txhouswife42 41-45, F 2 days ago

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    I married my wife almost 27 years ago. Over the years she has done some pretty out of character things. I guess the first time was after we were married about 5 years. My daughter...
    shohawk shohawk 46-50, M 6 days ago

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    I saw a topic from 2011. I bet that women is not around. I'd like to hear from her now. LOTS OF PEOPLE SHARED about their experience with a spouse with an alcohol problem. Some...
    pigloverbrown pigloverbrown 56-60, F Feb 7

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    So I guess I'm just like every other person here that says they are married but lonely. So to start, I have been with my wife for 20+ years, and married for almost 18. We met...
    dgob1 dgob1 41-45, M 6 Responses Feb 6

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    It feels good to type everything down here.. I have been keeping everything to myself and it is getting harder to manage but I am sure that I can seek advises from other persons...
    Zenalia Zenalia 18-21, F Feb 23

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    We got married last April. Yea, it's early in the marriage, but ever since that day things have gone straight downhill. We don't have sex, ever. Last time was December I think. She...
    firemedic12 firemedic12 26-30, M 5 Responses Feb 21

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    I am happily married , for 20 years . Childhood sweethearts. Its interesting the growth I have , and the feeling that I am always dragging him along . I am grateful for...
    heavenlyflower123 heavenlyflower123 36-40, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I have been happily married for 22 years with five kids. We all live in Denver, Colorado. It is snowing now and expecting another two feet of now by tomorrow. My husband and I...
    momfromcolorado momfromcolorado 41-45, F 15 Responses Feb 22

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    Ok so as some of you ep friends who have followed my story. And to those who haven't. I want to run something by you all and get your thoughts. As you may or may not know my...
    Troutflies Troutflies 41-45, M 32 Responses 4 days ago

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    I love my gf because she has a beautiful heart but I can't stand how much she does for her family and that her family expects it. her Gma is past the point of needing to be in a...
    True2myHeart True2myHeart 36-40, F 2 Responses Feb 16

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    This is not a regret, it's something I've known would happen. Parents thankfully divorced at age 4. My dad had weekend custody and is a great dad. Still, I saw how hard being a...
    MissASC77 MissASC77 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 21

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    I fell in love passionately and quickly, my husband is such a lovable guy everyone who meets him is drawn to him, he is also incredibly handsome. We have been married 7 years and...
    Theymattertoo Theymattertoo 26-30, F Feb 23

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