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I Am Scared of Getting Married and Having Kids

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 57 People

    Not For Me...

    I know what life's deeper treasures are supposed to be. This pairing doesn't seem like one of those. I wouldn't mind finding someone where the attraction was mutual and deep. But, I don't want a lifelong added responsibilty. What and who I want comes and goes. But, a marriage...
    LovelessDeluxe LovelessDeluxe 22-25 Jul 3, 2011

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    Is It Normal

    I have been dating a girl for the past year but have known her for 3 years and have dated her previously. My dad passed away a little over 3 years ago. At that time I was in an unhealthy relationship which ended. at that time I met my present girlfriend and dated for 6 months. I...
    rubley09 rubley09 36-40 3 Responses Nov 24, 2013

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    Better Off Single According to Married

    Yeah, I love the idea of marriage (kids only as a consequence). However, I grew up seeing women subserviant and behave as the kids did when the husband/father returned home from work: tidy up, be quiet, check for anything that might upset him, good posture, drop everything you're...
    jacqdn jacqdn 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 25, 2009

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    Doesn't Feel Normal

    I don't want to be married as much as I want to have some companionship , someone who I get along with and enjoy spending time with as well. I am apprehensive about having children as I'd like to travel the world .I imagine myself being on the go a lot , so having children might...
    bleu2ooth bleu2ooth 26-30, F 10 Responses Jun 26, 2009

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    The married part I have know problem with

    but the having kids thing, I'm selfish for not wanting them because I do not want to bring a person into the world and have the chance of them getting my ADHD & Bipolar I guess is why I don't have any kids yet.
    mlcockrell mlcockrell 36-40, M 1 Response Feb 20, 2014

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    Well Yeah

    seriously. everybody says getting married sucks and up until this point i haven't met anyone remotely close to marriage material. plus there's nothing about the wedding that i'd want to be traditional (well maybe a couple things) and I don't know if I wanna be responsible for...
    antibiotic antibiotic 26-30, F Aug 5, 2007

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    I have an aunt. She is 10 years older

    than me, she's 37. She currently lives in Texas with her husband, their 1-year-old boy, and his husband's 3 boys from a previous marriage. My aunt does not have any relatives in Texas since we are all here in our country. She was a lawyer here. She worked for the chief justice...
    girlon3rdfloorsuite9 girlon3rdfloorsuite9 26-30, F Jun 26, 2014

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    Every time I see a young girls post on here

    about wanting to do something with guys, I get scared about possibly having kids. I don't want a future daughter of mine to act like that. I know how big of a horndog jerk I was as a teenager, and I don't even want to start thinking about what any future daughter of mine might...
    KeitaKoneko KeitaKoneko 26-30, M 2 Responses Feb 17, 2014

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    Well... Marriage is a big thing

    that can gives a big impact in someone's life.. I don't know about marriage that much because I'm not married yet and I don't know when will I get married.. Since I came here I read a lot about marriage.. This is kinda scared me.. Because a lot people have unhappy marriage...
    heartandbrain heartandbrain 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 30, 2014

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    I've been perusing this site and never dropped much of a post. But it is a big help and provides some relief when you just go ahead and let it out there. I've been married for 15...
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    Nights are the worst. I have no tv or Internet. Spend my time on my phone. Soul searching. I know I've made the right choice. I can't be in a loveless marriage with domestic...
    AmazingPoet AmazingPoet 41-45, M 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    Some days my emotions are easier to control than others. Tonight was not one of them. Missing my kids immensely. I miss having a family. Drank way too much to hide from my...
    AmazingPoet AmazingPoet 41-45, M 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    mylittleangelA mylittleangelA 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 3

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    Things have been horrible between me and my husband for some time now. No intimacy , him seeing other women, me not caring about it, you know all the signs we are more friends than...
    KittyKurious KittyKurious 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 3

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    I've been online since the BBS days, the old AOL chat rooms, etc. I've had online relationships, some great friendships and many terrible experiences. I haven't been in an online...
    xTenderHeartx xTenderHeartx 36-40, F 2 Responses Feb 3

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    I was never all that interested in having kids. I liked them just fine, I just never really saw myself as a Dad and couldn't imagine taking on that responsibility. I met my...
    Fedup2016 Fedup2016 36-40, M 1 Response Feb 1

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    I never want to have children. For some people it seems like an impossible concept that a female does not to mother children. It is an individual choice, some women want to have...
    moonlightflower moonlightflower 22-25, F Feb 1

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    All the above are true (married, lonely, and crave intimacy), but the intensity with which I feel the emotional aspects of loneliness and intimacy seem to vary quite a bit. There...
    jhayek jhayek 46-50, M 5 Responses Feb 1

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    Not having kids is for me a charity act to the world. I believe there are too many people on Earth, and millions do not live good. I think that reducing the number of person would...
    JuPond JuPond 22-25, F 4 Responses Feb 1

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    It all started quite early, I don't remember when. He wanted to "teach" me how to do stuff, like chopping wood, splitting it into manageable chunks and the like. I thought he was...
    FluttersJay FluttersJay 18-21, T Feb 1

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    I think my husband is PA but I'm not sure? I'm going crazy. Really. Today for example he has given the silent pouty treatment to me and our children because of a toy. Yes. A toy...
    stopmakingmefeelcrazy stopmakingmefeelcrazy 36-40, F Jan 31

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    I woke up sick. But it was my baby niece's birthday so with a pounding head and I got m three kids up, fed, dressed and off to her two birthday parties. I took them to the first...
    dzse dzse 36-40, F 4 Responses Jan 31

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    Hi Guys, I need advice on how to get over a married woman I have been having an affair with for over 3 years. It all started when i began to give her tennis lessons at the country...
    soccerguy1989 soccerguy1989 26-30, M 1 Response Jan 31

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    AmayaTsuki AmayaTsuki 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 30

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