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I Am Scared of Getting Married and Having Kids

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    The married part I have know problem with

    but the having kids thing, I'm selfish for not wanting them because I do not want to bring a person into the world and have the chance of them getting my ADHD & Bipolar I guess is why I don't have any kids yet.
    mlcockrell mlcockrell 36-40, M 1 Response Feb 20, 2014

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    Is It Normal

    I have been dating a girl for the past year but have known her for 3 years and have dated her previously. My dad passed away a little over 3 years ago. At that time I was in an unhealthy relationship which ended. at that time I met my present girlfriend and dated for 6 months. I...
    rubley09 rubley09 36-40 3 Responses Nov 24, 2013

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    Well... Marriage is a big thing

    that can gives a big impact in someone's life.. I don't know about marriage that much because I'm not married yet and I don't know when will I get married.. Since I came here I read a lot about marriage.. This is kinda scared me.. Because a lot people have unhappy marriage...
    heartandbrain heartandbrain 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 30, 2014

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    Doesn't Feel Normal

    I don't want to be married as much as I want to have some companionship , someone who I get along with and enjoy spending time with as well. I am apprehensive about having children as I'd like to travel the world .I imagine myself being on the go a lot , so having children might...
    bleu2ooth bleu2ooth 26-30, F 10 Responses Jun 26, 2009

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    Better Off Single According to Married

    Yeah, I love the idea of marriage (kids only as a consequence). However, I grew up seeing women subserviant and behave as the kids did when the husband/father returned home from work: tidy up, be quiet, check for anything that might upset him, good posture, drop everything you're...
    jacqdn jacqdn 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 25, 2009

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    Not For Me...

    I know what life's deeper treasures are supposed to be. This pairing doesn't seem like one of those. I wouldn't mind finding someone where the attraction was mutual and deep. But, I don't want a lifelong added responsibilty. What and who I want comes and goes. But, a marriage...
    LovelessDeluxe LovelessDeluxe 22-25 Jul 3, 2011

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    Well Yeah

    seriously. everybody says getting married sucks and up until this point i haven't met anyone remotely close to marriage material. plus there's nothing about the wedding that i'd want to be traditional (well maybe a couple things) and I don't know if I wanna be responsible for...
    antibiotic antibiotic 26-30, F Aug 5, 2007

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    I have an aunt. She is 10 years older

    than me, she's 37. She currently lives in Texas with her husband, their 1-year-old boy, and his husband's 3 boys from a previous marriage. My aunt does not have any relatives in Texas since we are all here in our country. She was a lawyer here. She worked for the chief justice...
    girlon3rdfloorsuite9 girlon3rdfloorsuite9 26-30, F Jun 26, 2014

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    Every time I see a young girls post on here

    about wanting to do something with guys, I get scared about possibly having kids. I don't want a future daughter of mine to act like that. I know how big of a horndog jerk I was as a teenager, and I don't even want to start thinking about what any future daughter of mine might...
    KeitaKoneko KeitaKoneko 26-30, M 2 Responses Feb 17, 2014

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    So, what does a man do that is married, and yet has been alone for several years? Does he try to fix the problem? Yes, he does, he tries, go to counseling, and is promised things...
    Macitwillbe Macitwillbe 51-55, M 2 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    it's a dream of mine to be able to be married to a husband who is perfect for me. Just to be able to live and grow with another man would make me feel like the luckiest guy. It's...
    youngadult18 youngadult18 18-21, M 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    kids are not your equals, parents. they are your responsibility.
    xkmb xkmb 51-55 2 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Yet to meet the right person. Came close once. I thought it was only girls that got clucky but more and more lately having a child is what occupies my mind the most.
    MStevenson MStevenson 26-30, M 7 hrs ago

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    I know this looks really bad, but please don't judge me. I was 17 when I started working as a waitress in a restaurant in my hometown. One day, as I was about to leave work and...
    ironwoman45 ironwoman45 26-30, F 1 day ago

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    I know this looks really bad, but please don't judge me. I was 17 when I started working as a waitress in a restaurant in my hometown. One day, as I was about to leave work and...
    ironwoman45 ironwoman45 26-30, F 1 day ago

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    Hi,i have been in a relationship with married man for almost 4 years,we work together, when meet him he was having an affair with another married woman, but after a year they after...
    myrtle67 myrtle67 26-30, F 1 day ago

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    I was a late starter. I lost mine at 21 and my current girlfriend is the only girl I've had sex with. before her I was in a 2-year relationship with a girl who wanted to wait til...
    Funderburk93 Funderburk93 18-21, M 1 day ago

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    I don't want to tell anyone that I want to be infertile but I do so bad. I feel like my mom would say I'm stupid my boyfriend and his family would be sad because they all want me...
    Loverk3u Loverk3u 18-21, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    I am getting married in two weeks and the past 4 months have been less than perfect with my fiancé. We bicker and argue constantly, he calls me names and yells at me about stupid...
    hayleyannrand hayleyannrand 22-25, F 3 days ago

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    There are definitely wrong girls to marry, but I'm not sure there are any right ones; the best are just a series of compromises. The common thread to all these responses is that...
    Lousyexperience Lousyexperience 41-45, M 3 days ago

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    I'm not married... When I was younger (before I had kids) I never wanted to get married, I had no intentions of ever getting married! To me, marriage was stupid & all it was to me...
    chy08 chy08 22-25, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I have run out of steam with my marriage. When I look at my husband I still see an attractive man and feel some love so I am finding it hard to leave. He is not the father of my...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I know I'm still young and everything but I've already had people, my parents included, bring something up in a conversation and them saying, "Oh well once you're married and have...
    blackheartlover blackheartlover 16-17, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I've been with a my husband for a total of 7 years. He would be perfect, but he's shorter than me and although he does everything right, even in the bed he's a great lover, i still...
    meoun1986 meoun1986 26-30, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    when I say "I'm never having kids" everyone says I will someday. but I will not. never. it's not that I hate children, I adore them. but the patience in me is so non existing. I'm...
    itllkillme itllkillme 18-21, F 5 days ago

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    Wedding planning is STRESSFUL. My fiance is a wonderful man and I am so glad to have him in my life. However, his family is another matter particularly his aunt. She had bombarded...
    VoodooChild9302 VoodooChild9302 22-25, F 5 days ago

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    I personally don't. I don't feel like I'd enjoy raising kids. The thought of changing diapers is pretty repulsive, and I don't think I'd make a good mother; I don't think I would...
    Boulier Boulier 18-21, F 5 days ago

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    Sept. 4th, 2015 is the day! After 3 1/2 months of waiting I finally get to see my man and call him my husband. I'm anxious, and beyond excited for this day to get here. I can't...
    Ashleymaria07 Ashleymaria07 18-21, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    My beautiful niece getting ready for school I can't wait to get married and have my own kids, is there any single women who would settle down in India with me, 26 male wealthy...
    Aamir316 Aamir316 26-30, M 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    It's funny where life takes you sometimes. You can meet one person who can change the entire course of your life. Would you be willing to give up your future goals, give up seeing...
    Milesaway3 Milesaway3 26-30, F 5 Responses a week ago

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    I apologize in advance if this is all over the place. I married a serial cheater who also happens to be the most amazing father to our children. I found out he was cheating when I...
    question253 question253 41-45, F Jul 26

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    Husband promised he be home by noon because dd asked him to take her to the park. 4:30 and still no sign of him. I feel so sad as he never puts family time first. It's not that he...
    Crystalmoon32 Crystalmoon32 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 25

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    I am 19 years old. I was seeing two guys at once. I was not cheating, they both knew of each other. Both knew I had an end goal of a relationship. The one Gentlmen explained he...
    vvhixx vvhixx 18-21, F 5 Responses Jul 25

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    Saturday morning. The house is getting louder as one by one the kids wake up and the dogs excitedly greet each one. Last night my son made us dinner. Homemade calzones. He even...
    carpediem2 carpediem2 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 25

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    Honestly his 2 kids are so tiring..don't get me wrong I love them like my own but by the end of the day as soon as they go to bed I'm so tired from them..they aren't mine his...
    Devilsdaughter100 Devilsdaughter100 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 25

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    I have been married for 10 years. I have 3 kids. 15, 13 & 9. The older 2 are from a previous marriage. They do not get along at all with my husband. The older they get, the worse...
    Hotmomma911 Hotmomma911 41-45, F 9 Responses Jul 24

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    I was in denial about being a lesbian. I married my best friend, I think a lot of the reason, I was subconsciously trying to find a "normal family." 2 months after getting married...
    michellebella46 michellebella46 26-30, F 4 Responses Jul 24

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    I am 35. I've been married and had 3 kids. I got divorced after 11 years of marriage and have since found a wonderful man who has a daughter of his own. I got an IUD in December of...
    MrsAwkward1 MrsAwkward1 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 22

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    I've been married for a month and a half. My husband and I were together for 3 1/2 years before the wedding. Shortly before the wedding I started thinking that maybe I was making...
    nkemery nkemery 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 22

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    My divorce and my insomnia are getting the best of me tonight. It's almost 3am and I can't sleep because I'm so angry. The soon to be ex-husband has been sending picture text of...
    TheNewClassic82 TheNewClassic82 31-35, F 9 Responses Jul 22

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    TOMORROW!!! I'm marrying the love of my life tomorrow! It's crazy, never thought this day would come!
    lnj1112 lnj1112 22-25, F Jul 21

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    I Love my husband, we have sex, I'm attracted to him, the sex isn't always fantastic but I enjoy it.. we have a child, (but we're currently having fertility treatments).. I've...
    Xocharlee Xocharlee 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 20

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