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I Am Scared of Getting Married and Having Kids

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 57 People

    Doesn't Feel Normal

    I don't want to be married as much as I want to have some companionship , someone who I get along with and enjoy spending time with as well. I am apprehensive about having children as I'd like to travel the world .I imagine myself being on the go a lot , so having children might...
    bleu2ooth bleu2ooth 26-30, F 10 Responses Jun 26, 2009

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    I have an aunt. She is 10 years older

    than me, she's 37. She currently lives in Texas with her husband, their 1-year-old boy, and his husband's 3 boys from a previous marriage. My aunt does not have any relatives in Texas since we are all here in our country. She was a lawyer here. She worked for the chief justice...
    girlon3rdfloorsuite9 girlon3rdfloorsuite9 26-30, F Jun 26, 2014

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    Well Yeah

    seriously. everybody says getting married sucks and up until this point i haven't met anyone remotely close to marriage material. plus there's nothing about the wedding that i'd want to be traditional (well maybe a couple things) and I don't know if I wanna be responsible for...
    antibiotic antibiotic 26-30, F Aug 5, 2007

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    Every time I see a young girls post on here

    about wanting to do something with guys, I get scared about possibly having kids. I don't want a future daughter of mine to act like that. I know how big of a horndog jerk I was as a teenager, and I don't even want to start thinking about what any future daughter of mine might...
    KeitaKoneko KeitaKoneko 26-30, M 2 Responses Feb 17, 2014

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    Not For Me...

    I know what life's deeper treasures are supposed to be. This pairing doesn't seem like one of those. I wouldn't mind finding someone where the attraction was mutual and deep. But, I don't want a lifelong added responsibilty. What and who I want comes and goes. But, a marriage...
    LovelessDeluxe LovelessDeluxe 22-25 Jul 3, 2011

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    Well... Marriage is a big thing

    that can gives a big impact in someone's life.. I don't know about marriage that much because I'm not married yet and I don't know when will I get married.. Since I came here I read a lot about marriage.. This is kinda scared me.. Because a lot people have unhappy marriage...
    heartandbrain heartandbrain 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 30, 2014

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    Is It Normal

    I have been dating a girl for the past year but have known her for 3 years and have dated her previously. My dad passed away a little over 3 years ago. At that time I was in an unhealthy relationship which ended. at that time I met my present girlfriend and dated for 6 months. I...
    rubley09 rubley09 36-40 3 Responses Nov 24, 2013

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    Better Off Single According to Married

    Yeah, I love the idea of marriage (kids only as a consequence). However, I grew up seeing women subserviant and behave as the kids did when the husband/father returned home from work: tidy up, be quiet, check for anything that might upset him, good posture, drop everything you're...
    jacqdn jacqdn 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 25, 2009

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    The married part I have know problem with

    but the having kids thing, I'm selfish for not wanting them because I do not want to bring a person into the world and have the chance of them getting my ADHD & Bipolar I guess is why I don't have any kids yet.
    mlcockrell mlcockrell 36-40, M 1 Response Feb 20, 2014

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    My bf proposed to me today on a hot air ballon ride. It was so cute. I am so lucky to be able to marry a great man like him!
    emeraldtriangle420 emeraldtriangle420 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 8

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    Only about a year ago he had thoughts of marrying me and of course I was like hell no because I was only 18 and hadn't seen him in two years because of distance and not being able...
    cocoagirl95 cocoagirl95 18-21, F 1 day ago

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    **WARNING: A big rant ahead, so read it only if you'd like :3 I know that i'm still young, but I'm a bit scared of falling in love and, eventually, getting married in the future...
    sweetcolors123 sweetcolors123 13-15 1 Response Mar 10

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    While I live in a separate residence and am setting up my new, temporary sanctuary (I'm renting), I'm anxious for the attorneys to be aggressive with settling our divorce. We don't...
    PinkJeanie1970 PinkJeanie1970 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 9

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    I have a ro end this painful relationship with my duly son. He's so abusive and cruel, but he calls me to keep me on the hook so I can worry about him. I don't want him calling...
    ShariTronsgard ShariTronsgard 66-70, F Mar 12

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    Not exactly rushing to have them but i always was motherly even when i was a kid. Im nearly 20, single and i imagined having kids and getting married at around 25. Oh balls
    shazzarr shazzarr 18-21, F 5 Responses 6 days ago

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    I don't know if I want kids and it freaks me out. My s/o wants kids some day. But he always knows that I'm not sure if I do. I guess I've been waiting for something to sway me one...
    TheKristaJo TheKristaJo 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 5

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    Smart Relationships : My approach to build one . Atlast I permitted my boyfriend to enter in my life :) He will live with me in my house along with my family . Love these moments...
    rsushama73 rsushama73 41-45, F 5 days ago

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    This story isn't true but cute Heidi and jerehmiah play with Dorian Church on a Sunday jerehmiahs sister Ashley asked him if they could watch Dorian till morgans family party at...
    Dollfan32 Dollfan32 31-35, F Mar 18

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    I'm married in a sexless marriage, very smart with discreet phone apps and just out of a year long affair with a woman that wanted to get married & have kids with me, but I'm...
    LoveExplorer78 LoveExplorer78 36-40, M 3 Responses Mar 23

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    Smart Relationships : My approach to build one . Atlast I permitted my boyfriend to enter in my life :) He will live with me in my house along with my family . Love these moments...
    rsushama73 rsushama73 41-45, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    So, i'm 22 and my fiance is 40. We are getting married in 3 months, and the closer we get to the date the more I think about life after marriage. He has two kids, a girl 17 years...
    bianca0605 bianca0605 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 5

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    I'm not married to m6 partner but we've been together for awhile now and have 2 children together. Having kids has really opened my eyes to how selfish he is. Rarely does he get up...
    FireStake FireStake 31-35, F a week ago

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    I want to get married before having kids.. anyone else?
    lnicolem lnicolem 18-21, F 7 Responses 4 days ago

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    I met my husband 15yrs ago. We started a business together 14yrs ago. The business is successful we worked together side by side while I was having kids at the same time. The...
    lisamilan lisamilan 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 22

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    I'm married in a sexless marriage, very smart with discreet phone apps and just out of a year long affair with a woman that wanted to get married & have kids with me, but I'm...
    LoveExplorer78 LoveExplorer78 36-40, M 1 Response Mar 23

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    I've found someone that respects me and loves me and still discontent? I had a dream that I sought out other men to curb my sexual appetite because my bf doesn't really demonstrate...
    HigherCalling HigherCalling 26-30, F Mar 10

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    OK so I've been seeing this guy for 9 months. We tell each other we love you. Well last night he sent me a text that said I kinda want to be single yo but u r sweet to me so that...
    happymom2 happymom2 31-35, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    I have an awesome fiance' and best friend. we're getting married in 9 days :)
    ekco ekco 36-40, M Mar 17

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    So, my boyfriend is now in the military and I am 17 years old and am taking college classes while still in high school. After 2 years of being in a relationship together, we've...
    niarafuller niarafuller 16-17, F 8 Responses Mar 19

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    So we're back to this again! My MM's living situation with his family has been a little shaky for the past couple of months. For me it was great because we have been spending...
    button3 button3 26-30, F 1 Response 12 mins ago

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    Well the Easter Holidays are here.. the kids are off school for 2 whole weeks.. Yippee!!I found this story on an Irish website, thought I'd share as it is funny....NUALA Purcell, a...
    WittyWoo WittyWoo 41-45, F 2 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Hi I'm new to the group. I comment a bit on another group but haven't felt like opening up yet. I should start by saying I am also married. In a way I feel like it's easier because...
    xoxoblueskyxoxo xoxoblueskyxoxo 26-30, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    As of late I've been talking to people online and that's grate, but my problem is right after I press that reply button I realize all the grammatical mistakes I've made! This one...
    loomfree loomfree 22-25, F 6 hrs ago

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    I'm constantly escaping from relationships whenever I feel the least bit afraid or threatened (in a non violent or abusive way) it's my way of protecting myself but I end up...
    granger85 granger85 26-30, F 1 Response 5 hrs ago

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    My sister is diabetic and used to chase me around the house with her needles. I get numb and almost pass out just knowing that I'm getting a shot or blood drawn. The only time it...
    teadiva teadiva 31-35, F 4 hrs ago

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    Please try not to judge me too harshly. I already am mean enough to myself about this. I have been with my boyfriend for over four years now. We have a 3 year old daughter and I'm...
    smallworld14 smallworld14 22-25, F Mar 13

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    Well the person I want to have the affair with is willing, as am I. Both r ready to take this step. I have thought about it and want to go for it!! Now it's all about trying to...
    ldsmommy2015 ldsmommy2015 41-45, F 5 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    So 4 days ago, my husband was in his separate bedroom talking to his Gay Friend Collin with the door closed It was about 10:30 pm, after trying to listen to their conversation I...
    michellegh michellegh 36-40, F 4 Responses Mar 17

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    My husband has had a life full of trauma. His dad left when he was 5 and started a new family halfway across the country. His mother shifted from man to man; they were ALL abusive...
    LonelyMom214 LonelyMom214 26-30, F Mar 7

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    I have an amazing husband we have been together since high school. He's my best friend the love of my life. We lived in our own for awhile but due to uncontrollable circumstances...
    prplpixie1986 prplpixie1986 26-30, F 5 Responses a week ago

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    You'd think that getting divorce would bring me happiness. Well I kind of am and at the same time not so much. After being married for 13 years I thought she was the one I would...
    FightingPhoenix FightingPhoenix 41-45, M 5 Responses Mar 8

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    Idk I just can't sleep anymore I keep waking up early, I keep having bad thoughts come back then they go away everything is just killing me inside Idk why but I'm just happy to...
    shyguy747 shyguy747 13-15, M Mar 12

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