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I Am Scared of Getting Married and Having Kids

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    Well... Marriage is a big thing

    that can gives a big impact in someone's life.. I don't know about marriage that much because I'm not married yet and I don't know when will I get married.. Since I came here I read a lot about marriage.. This is kinda scared me.. Because a lot people have unhappy marriage...
    heartandbrain heartandbrain 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 30, 2014

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    I have an aunt. She is 10 years older

    than me, she's 37. She currently lives in Texas with her husband, their 1-year-old boy, and his husband's 3 boys from a previous marriage. My aunt does not have any relatives in Texas since we are all here in our country. She was a lawyer here. She worked for the chief justice...
    girlon3rdfloorsuite9 girlon3rdfloorsuite9 26-30, F Jun 26, 2014

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    Is It Normal

    I have been dating a girl for the past year but have known her for 3 years and have dated her previously. My dad passed away a little over 3 years ago. At that time I was in an unhealthy relationship which ended. at that time I met my present girlfriend and dated for 6 months. I...
    rubley09 rubley09 36-40 3 Responses Nov 24, 2013

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    Well Yeah

    seriously. everybody says getting married sucks and up until this point i haven't met anyone remotely close to marriage material. plus there's nothing about the wedding that i'd want to be traditional (well maybe a couple things) and I don't know if I wanna be responsible for...
    antibiotic antibiotic 26-30, F Aug 5, 2007

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    Not For Me...

    I know what life's deeper treasures are supposed to be. This pairing doesn't seem like one of those. I wouldn't mind finding someone where the attraction was mutual and deep. But, I don't want a lifelong added responsibilty. What and who I want comes and goes. But, a marriage...
    LovelessDeluxe LovelessDeluxe 22-25 Jul 3, 2011

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    Better Off Single According to Married

    Yeah, I love the idea of marriage (kids only as a consequence). However, I grew up seeing women subserviant and behave as the kids did when the husband/father returned home from work: tidy up, be quiet, check for anything that might upset him, good posture, drop everything you're...
    jacqdn jacqdn 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 25, 2009

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    Every time I see a young girls post on here

    about wanting to do something with guys, I get scared about possibly having kids. I don't want a future daughter of mine to act like that. I know how big of a horndog jerk I was as a teenager, and I don't even want to start thinking about what any future daughter of mine might...
    KeitaKoneko KeitaKoneko 26-30, M 2 Responses Feb 17, 2014

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    Doesn't Feel Normal

    I don't want to be married as much as I want to have some companionship , someone who I get along with and enjoy spending time with as well. I am apprehensive about having children as I'd like to travel the world .I imagine myself being on the go a lot , so having children might...
    bleu2ooth bleu2ooth 26-30, F 10 Responses Jun 26, 2009

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    The married part I have know problem with

    but the having kids thing, I'm selfish for not wanting them because I do not want to bring a person into the world and have the chance of them getting my ADHD & Bipolar I guess is why I don't have any kids yet.
    mlcockrell mlcockrell 36-40, M 1 Response Feb 20, 2014

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    Only about a year ago he had thoughts of marrying me and of course I was like hell no because I was only 18 and hadn't seen him in two years because of distance and not being able...
    cocoagirl95 cocoagirl95 18-21, F Mar 30

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    anyone have any advice on how to explain to my angry mother that we want to do a courthouse wedding
    wowstylist wowstylist 22-25, F 5 Responses Apr 5

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    When I was younger I have never had thoughts about getting married, having kids and starting a family. I used to say that getting married was just a symbol I didn't need, just a...
    ListenerTalker ListenerTalker 22-25, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    idk, getting married to me is basically all papers and is too much stress. I don't need a flashy ring and a piece of paper to explain my love for you. plus if I start to lose my...
    awayfromlife awayfromlife 13-15, F 2 Responses 38 mins ago

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    Not exactly rushing to have them but i always was motherly even when i was a kid. Im nearly 20, single and i imagined having kids and getting married at around 25. Oh balls
    shazzarr shazzarr 18-21, F 5 Responses Mar 25

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    Smart Relationships : My approach to build one . Atlast I permitted my boyfriend to enter in my life :) He will live with me in my house along with my family . Love these moments...
    rsushama73 rsushama73 41-45, F Mar 26

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    I used to think that all I wanted to do was have kids. I wanted to get married and settle down and become a stay at home mom. But now? The idea of having kids and being a mother...
    Taliafaye Taliafaye 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 7

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    I've been married for almost ten years to a man. Two kids. It's become impossible to pretend to enjoy straight sex anymore. The older I get, the harder it is. I'm pretty much...
    blondedyke blondedyke 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 10

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    I'm married in a sexless marriage, very smart with discreet phone apps and just out of a year long affair with a woman that wanted to get married & have kids with me, but I'm...
    LoveExplorer78 LoveExplorer78 36-40, M 2 Responses Mar 23

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    Smart Relationships : My approach to build one . Atlast I permitted my boyfriend to enter in my life :) He will live with me in my house along with my family . Love these moments...
    rsushama73 rsushama73 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 26

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    I love and value my freedom. My freedom would be taken away from me if I ever got married. Hell, I don't even want to be in a relationship. To me, being in a relationship just...
    Peridot22 Peridot22 22-25, F 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    I'm not married to m6 partner but we've been together for awhile now and have 2 children together. Having kids has really opened my eyes to how selfish he is. Rarely does he get up...
    FireStake FireStake 31-35, F Mar 24

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    I want to get married before having kids.. anyone else?
    lnicolem lnicolem 18-21, F 9 Responses Mar 27

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    When all of the girls my age have already planned on getting married right after they get a decent job, I'm the only one who's been planning to go on a different route. Although...
    undeleted undeleted 18-21 1 Response 20 hrs ago

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    I met my husband 15yrs ago. We started a business together 14yrs ago. The business is successful we worked together side by side while I was having kids at the same time. The...
    lisamilan lisamilan 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 22

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    Its one of those times in a marriage where one is "re-discovering" themselves after getting married and having a family at what is considered a young age now. It's abundantly...
    Troutflies Troutflies 41-45, M 8 Responses Apr 5

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    OK so I've been seeing this guy for 9 months. We tell each other we love you. Well last night he sent me a text that said I kinda want to be single yo but u r sweet to me so that...
    happymom2 happymom2 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 27

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    I'm turning 26 next month and kind of dreading it. don't want to sound whiny because I love my job ( though I'm not paid at all currently). I'm finishing residency . I'm single...
    Baaroque Baaroque 22-25, F 5 Responses Apr 10

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    Someone told me having kids is a way to carry on my name, I'm honestly not even sure I care if anyone carries on my name , kids are just a product of you so whatever type of person...
    Princeofnothing Princeofnothing 18-21, M 6 Responses Apr 7

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    So, my boyfriend is now in the military and I am 17 years old and am taking college classes while still in high school. After 2 years of being in a relationship together, we've...
    niarafuller niarafuller 16-17, F 8 Responses Mar 19

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    I wasnt even 18, pregnant and getting married. I wasn't ready. I was 17 years old. 6 years later as I edge near 24 yrs old...I watch my marriage fall apart and the man I love...
    TheGypsyGirl2015 TheGypsyGirl2015 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 7

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    It's just not soon enough. After being the best husband a man could honestly be I got left behind for some dude who is 10 years my junior and a mini version of me but he's, as she...
    goodman72 goodman72 41-45, M 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    its finally hit me.......im 51...i have kids all around me in different parts of my life and none are biologically my own......and now I regret not having any of my own......the...
    dazedandconfused14 dazedandconfused14 46-50, M 9 hrs ago

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    After four years of dating, and 3 months of marriage, I think your stories have helped me identify why I have never felt connected to my husband, always found him superficial...
    PAWnomore PAWnomore 41-45, F 4 hrs ago

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    Hubby and I had a wonderful night last night and an amazing morning. Our anniversary was earlier this week but we celebrated last night. Kids went to stay the night at my mom's...
    TheLittleMrs TheLittleMrs 36-40, F 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    I had a child, a baby boy, from a one night stand with an ex partner who left the country when she found out she was pregnant. Mostly due to her lack of faith in my ability as a...
    JonnoHo JonnoHo 22-25, M 1 Response Apr 9

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    June will be 20 years married, October will be 25 together. I've been in a reflective mood all day, processing my thoughts around and around in my own mind.. some big changes...
    mg75 mg75 36-40, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    Hi I'm new to the group. I comment a bit on another group but haven't felt like opening up yet. I should start by saying I am also married. In a way I feel like it's easier because...
    xoxoblueskyxoxo xoxoblueskyxoxo 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 29

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    2011 was the year of my two abortions. We're now in 2015 and I regret having it as part of my history. Today I'm particularly teary about it even though I should be ecstatic at the...
    beano1st beano1st 31-35, F Apr 5

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    AMEN. Everything you said made me sick to hear because its exactly how I feel and Ive never admitted it. I am a gay woman, dating another woman who has two beautiful, fun, kind and...
    caferacer123 caferacer123 31-35 1 Response Apr 7

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    Need to go back to school tmr... I juz recovered but can barely stand for a minute I'm scared to travel 2h alone... What if I juz collapse?
    clstar clstar 18-21, F 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    I have an amazing husband we have been together since high school. He's my best friend the love of my life. We lived in our own for awhile but due to uncontrollable circumstances...
    prplpixie1986 prplpixie1986 26-30, F 5 Responses Mar 24

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    My ex was my first love. As first loves go, I envisioned marrying this guy and having his kid. It took me years to get over the relationship. It took me forever to get over it...
    LARINgitisEx LARINgitisEx 26-30, F Apr 3

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