I Am Scared of Losing People I Really Love

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    After my last break up I went pretty much

    insane. I was the one who was "clingy", as she said, and I asked for a second chance, not realizing that I already used that up. The saying about not appreciating someone until they're gone is true. Very true (also I watched 500 Days of Summer TWICE in a ROW after we separated...
    PorQueDidPoorKayAkaDKDecay PorQueDidPoorKayAkaDKDecay
    16-17, M
    Dec 19, 2015
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    Mar 24, 2016

    We all have our issues,

    I guess I have a few more than most. The biggest one is a fear of commitment/change. I don't mean in love, though it ties in somewhere. I mean in life in general. I fear going to see friends or doing things my brain classes as inefficient. Yet I feel horrible being left out or...
    VoicesInTheShadows VoicesInTheShadows
    22-25, F
    1 Response Nov 18, 2015

    because if i love you.

    i loved you forever.
    vf702 vf702
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jun 4, 2015

    Just how can you share your life with someone

    only for them to wake up and tell you they don't love you anymore?
    emiveritas emiveritas
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Mar 2, 2015

    I'm scared of losing a lot of my loved ones,

    but sometimes losing the most beautiful people in my life is what I fear losing the most! (The two families who love me no less because I'm not their blood relative!) Some people in my high school forgot that these people aren't really my family but they absolutely adore most of...
    derricksautism derricksautism
    18-21, M
    Feb 6, 2016

    I Just Didnt Realize How Scared I Was

    before i start....this story is not about death....a couple weeks ago my husband quit calling. i didnt know what was wrong, when i finally got a hold of him i was relieved to find out that he was fine but devestated when he said he no longer wanted to come home. he said being at...
    antiyou antiyou
    26-30, F
    14 Responses Feb 26, 2008
    Goblin22 Goblin22
    22-25, F
    1 Response Feb 17, 2016
    Laraamani Laraamani
    22-25, F
    Feb 17, 2016

    School just ended. There were a lot of tears

    and it was really emotional. I ******* hate my school with a passion. The rules are stupid, the kids are judgmental losers, and the staff are plain hateful. But I met some of the most amazing people. I had a group that welcomed me, and we all sat at one round table at lunch...
    ForeverJayy ForeverJayy
    18-21, M
    4 Responses Jun 1, 2014

    If there is one thing I'm truly scared of

    inside, it's losing the people I truly love and care about. And losing the ones that truly love and care about me...
    ajl04 ajl04
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Mar 16, 2014

    I loved her more than anyone I've ever met.

    I've hurt her more than anyone has ever yet. Push and pull closer and farther away. I can't make you stay. You changed my life in ways I never imagined. You made me believe in something greater than myself, love. I wish you the best and hope you find what you need. letting you...
    Joecanada11 Joecanada11
    36-40, M
    1 Response Mar 16, 2016

    Months ago u said that u didn't want to talk in

    "this level", that u had never liked me in that sort of way. I was devastated. I laid so many emotions on u and for you to say that, it really crushed me. I stepped back from you and figured that we could still be friends. But then it was you who started going down this "more...
    Laraamani Laraamani
    22-25, F
    Feb 6, 2016

    Here I am again, confused.

    First you talk about our future, talk about me to your friends and now u just said how ur going to sleep with other girls as soon as u get your own place. I understand that, you are young and of course you want to live and try things out. I don't know... We are not a "thing" yet...
    Laraamani Laraamani
    22-25, F
    1 Response Dec 2, 2015

    I know my boyfriend loves me,

    but it kills me to think he may want someone prettier and skinnier one day.
    Rockandahardplace27 Rockandahardplace27
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Aug 4, 2015

    I'm very vulnerable when it comes to my friends.

    I say that because I've lost some to car accidents or other deaths. I have one best friend who is my world because she was the only one I could literally go to because she lives near me. we hangout and I feel better. I'm so afraid that she'll die and I'll be alone. I couldn't...
    Viciouspistols Viciouspistols
    26-30, F
    Oct 28, 2015

    I don't understand what the problem is now?

    All of a sudden you stop talking to me so I decide to give you time, you probably have an explanation. I was right. Apparently our relationship got too intense for you so you said that you didn't want anyone of us to get hurt so it's best to stay friends and not to talk on the...
    Laraamani Laraamani
    22-25, F
    1 Response Dec 26, 2015

    I'm afraid I'm gonna lose everything

    and everyone I care about :( I don't want to be alone :( I don't want to lose my love or anyone :(
    ACyanideSurprise ACyanideSurprise
    22-25, M
    4 Responses Apr 8, 2015

    2 friends in 3 days, I don't want to live this

    way if I lose someone else before the end of the year, I'll break, cry and my parents don't know what happened
    MoriyaSuwako MoriyaSuwako
    18-21, M
    Dec 8, 2014

    Its always the ones you love

    that has the ability to hurt you the most.
    Spirit000 Spirit000
    26-30, M
    3 Responses Feb 7, 2016

    You get so scared you start to close yourself

    up. That way you don't get attached to people and don't get disappointed when they do leave. But then it just leaves you.
    LookAtTheStars103 LookAtTheStars103
    18-21, F
    Nov 3, 2015

    Only that I miss, it's hard to lose a loved one

    and the worst thing your brother. The strangeness.
    katta01 katta01
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Feb 7, 2016

    I used to feel like a part of your life.

    Now I feel like I hardly know you...
    Jennifer337 Jennifer337
    31-35, T
    Jul 16, 2015

    I'm going to lose you all.

    My parents found out about EP and now I'm going to die. They will take away the only people I care about, and the only reasons I'm still alive. I love you guys. I love you so so much. *hugs you tightly* I'm sorry it all had to end this way.
    deleted deleted
    10 Responses Dec 8, 2014
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    2 Responses May 22, 2015

    when i was little my mom lost me at the

    department store •~•
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Dec 18, 2015
    TimePrincess TimePrincess
    16-17, F
    3 Responses Oct 18, 2015

    This suddenly occurred to me,

    What if I die today and no one Will remember me?? would anyone miss me??? What kind of legacy would I leave?? I wanna leave behind something beautiful!!!! People should remember me for Tue good I've done!, Linkin Park lyrics sure sums up my feelings "Cause when my times comes...
    DanielJD DanielJD
    18-21, M
    Mar 28, 2015
    vf702 vf702
    26-30, F
    Oct 14, 2015
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    1 Response Aug 3, 2015

    This makes me pull into myself

    and distrust them. I can't seem to love and just love anymore... I dont want my grandmother to die. I know one day she will have to. I see her growing old. It bothers me. My gfs granny died the other day. And now I think about mine. I try being with her but now I feel I am...
    deleted deleted
    Feb 10, 2016

    Love Hurts...

    When you love someone, it is much more than just a feeling. You invest time in getting to know them on a totally different level. The amount of time, trust, interest you give is huge, and the emotions run deeper than just at surface level. It is a real and overwhelming feeling...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses May 11, 2013

    I have a best friend

    and he's so good with me but I told him a big lie, he hasn't discovered it but I think he's going to. Help!! Pls
    Santiagocp7a Santiagocp7a
    13-15, M
    2 Responses Apr 5, 2016

    I almost lost my boyfriend once.

    I thought he was going to dump me, I made a stupid mistake. I cried so much. Cried myself to sleep, cried when I woke up, cried when I got ready. I felt like dying and I didn't deserve to live because what I had done. I finally felt better once I got his message, "I'm not...
    Mel3210 Mel3210
    22-25, F
    Dec 18, 2015
    polylove0210 polylove0210
    22-25, F
    1 Response Mar 16, 2016

    At the root of my behaviour,

    this simple but constant fear breathes. Every year I watch my parents age, hearing an imaginary ticking clock, counting down the time I have left with them. I avoid arguing when they get difficult, because not only am I afraid they will get too worked up, but anything can...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Feb 6, 2016

    So scared its my worst nightmare

    and I just had a giant dozy of a nightmare that drove me insane.
    YangXiaoLong14 YangXiaoLong14
    18-21, T
    Aug 11, 2015

    It’s time to rethink my life,

    my persona. Everything, really. I need to go. I need time, my mind is begging for some peace. Everything just seems so overwhelming. I don't recognize myself anymore. I feel incapable of doing anything. I feel empty and confused, I feel unstable. I feel like I can't take...
    jesuislebleu jesuislebleu
    22-25, M
    Feb 26, 2016

    I just been informed

    that my dad may only have a few days to a few weeks longer to live... I have already lost my mom when I was 19; I am now 24 and about to have a baby that may never know either of his grandparents... Why is life so hard?
    emeraldtriangle420 emeraldtriangle420
    26-30, F
    9 Responses Aug 6, 2014
    Callmesasha Callmesasha
    13-15, F
    4 Responses Nov 19, 2015

    I don't know what you are trying to do.

    If you want me to become more distant, then you are doing a great job. Just tell me if that's what you want rather than playing with me like this. I can handle it. I understand if I've gotten boring in your eyes, that I'm not to any good in your life anymore. Just tell me how...
    Laraamani Laraamani
    22-25, F
    1 Response Feb 19, 2016

    Fortunately for me, there's no one in my life.

    So I have nothing to fear. You can't lose what you don't have....
    Mossonarock Mossonarock
    46-50, M
    1 Response Mar 17, 2016

    I understand that you are stressed

    and tired of everything in life right now. What I don't understand is why u have to neglect me. I don't want this to develop in to us becoming strangers so I try to keep u positive and talk to u but you are so absent in mind and everything when we are talking. I asked u if...
    Laraamani Laraamani
    22-25, F
    Feb 17, 2016

    My Son Patrick Patrick is my oldest son.

    He is the first of four. I lost my third, Andrew because he was premature and only lived for 11 hours and 40 minutes and he died in my arms as I sat rocking him next to the incubator. That was one of my most painful losses. I have thanked God for not allowing me to actually...
    Jackie69C Jackie69C
    46-50, F
    4 Responses Feb 11, 2016

    I am very close to my grandfather.

    I've even dedicated an experience to him and how much I love him. He's very special to me for many reasons. I go to his house often, and lately he's been fighting with my grandmother. I'm afraid this is because he's drinking again. His breath even smelled like alcohol...
    DeIuxedEdition DeIuxedEdition
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Oct 28, 2015

    Boyfriend of 4 years

    and me (in LDR) are currently in a break. 1.5 months ago he told me he is not happy anymore and not sure that he still wants a future with me. I realize that our relationship is declining since the last few months, but I thought our relationship is stronger than this. I am so...
    reachoutmydream reachoutmydream
    26-30, F
    4 Responses May 11, 2015

    I am honestly really scared

    and sad right now, even if this is only for a month, I can't live in this state of uncertainty if I ruined yet another friendship, just because I get too attached. If I knew it would lead to this, I would've never opened so much to you, just so I could see you again. I moved all...
    NateTheQuiet NateTheQuiet
    26-30, M
    Mar 25, 2016

    Heart broken again. Just typically.

    Three months have passed and I finally told you that I like you, even though you probably knew. You started to get more distant and cold after I told you that so I asked if something was wrong, you said no. The coldness and arrogance continued and after a while, I lost words, I...
    Laraamani Laraamani
    22-25, F
    Dec 17, 2015

    Saying you want to spend the rest of your life

    with someone,.it still scares me because I don't want to lose her 😪😪
    XodolsWasHere XodolsWasHere
    18-21, M
    3 Responses Dec 9, 2014
    DianteForney DianteForney
    18-21, M
    1 Response Nov 3, 2015

    I have always wanted to die,

    but what if people really love me? Are they afraid of losing me? I'm terrified of losing someone I love. But how would it affect them if I killed myself? I have wanted to for so long...
    Childlover4evr2 Childlover4evr2
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 10, 2015
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    3 Responses Apr 5, 2015
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