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I Am Scared of Men

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    How Do I Start?

    I'm 18 years old. I just got out of secondary school and am now in university. I should be in the fun, exciting years of my life. But i cant seem to get anywhere near to being even social with guys. I have no idea when it started. I have no idea when I first started being...
    onegirl18 onegirl18 18-21 3 Responses Jun 21, 2009

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    Never Safe Around Men...

    I am terrified to be around men. mostly grown men but also men my own age. i was.... in a situation that scared me very deeply. and ever since then i have been terrified of men. when i am around men that i do not know i get extremely nervous and i shake and i don't talk. once, i...
    RazerWolfFang RazerWolfFang 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 13, 2013

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    Idk What To Do

    I am afraid of my future..for many reasons. Im afraid of men...many things that happened to me in the past has caused me to be so scared. I cant look them in the eyes...i constantly hide from guys. i hate it when they touch me...it takes me a awhile to get used to someone if...
    kikuko kikuko 16-17 1 Response Dec 30, 2011

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    I'm not scared of all men just ones

    that are bit older then me.... I've only told a few people this and I need to get it out of my system... When I was younger my mum and dad were never together and with mum always at work her boyfriends use to look after me a lot when I was about 6 one started to get sexual and...
    Daisyellenrose Daisyellenrose 13-15, F 6 Responses Jun 1

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    It Makes Me Shake

        When I was 5 I met my best friend the first day of Kindergarten. The same year, my older brother also met his best friend. Now I am 17, two days from turning 18, and he is 19.  We are both still best friends with the same people. When I turned 12 I started...
    whitedragon2 whitedragon2 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 30, 2009

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    I Had To Admit

    well if any of you have read my stories you will know I have a lot of passion deep down in side of me. Yet iam really a shy person. i have never had a partner because I don't go out much. I was verbally abused in the past by boys & someone exposed themselves to me at age 15. So i...
    wendyyellowpink wendyyellowpink 36-40, F 5 Responses Jan 2, 2011

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    Freaked Out By Men

    Men scare me. I don't know why. On a conscious level, I know that they're human just like me. A lot of them are lovely and very nice. I get along with men better than I do with women sometimes. They start talking to me and as long as I think they're just being friendly, I remain...
    LostTraveller LostTraveller 26-30, F 36 Responses May 24, 2007

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    I Never Used To Be

     i guess having one of my guy "friends" stick his hand up my shirt when i was 12 affected me more than i thought. i still cant believe it, he was 4 years older than me. so 16. what kind of 16yr old is attracted to a flat chested 12yr old? what is wrong with guys? :/
    kittycat101303 kittycat101303 18-21, F 3 Responses Feb 1, 2010

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    I am not used to telling anyone anything of

    this sort. So other than my girlfriend of six years no one else knows the inner battle that I have been fighting. When I say every male in my life has been harsh and cruel I mean it. My father has always been one to yell and get in my face. When I was around the age of 12 he...
    KatherinaM KatherinaM 22-25, F Mar 19

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    I Want To Be Married But I'm Afraid Of Men

    I am 34 and want to be married and have a lifelong companion. My parents have a great marriage and so do my sisters. I am so fearful of men that I'm afraid I'll be alone forever. I have no problem speaking with men on a professional level and similarly on a friendly level but...
    jgfh2835 jgfh2835 31-35 5 Responses Apr 3, 2010

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    Never told this to anyone before- So I just

    turned 13 when this happened , about 3 yrs ago you, know the awkward and insecure stage.well it was summertime and my mom bought me and my sister a pool.our family wanted to come over to swim and just hang out. My family is my mom, older sis, aunts ,cousins and cousins boyfriend...
    hiddenbird hiddenbird 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 25

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    How To Start ..

    This is a bit difficult for me, because im dutch so i hope you all understand my story. I have never told anyone this, and hope i can do it now. My name is Lauren and im 16 years old. I have had a wonderful life with my mum, stephdad, stephbrother and stephsister till i gained 9...
    iwillbehere iwillbehere 16-17 3 Responses May 3, 2013

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    Yeah

    I read  "The Game" and "manhood101", where relationships are simple matters of conquest. There is no trust, there is no connection. Only sex. I know that men are different, not all are ********. But even biologically, humans are sexually driven. I don't feel like I can trust...
    Mdear Mdear 18-21, F 25 Responses Feb 17, 2011

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    Terribly Afraid Of Men

    I've been very afraid of men since I can remember. I did have abuse from my parents in every way, but sexually. I did have a bad encounter with a female nurse, or whatever she was around 4 yrs old. My mom was concerned my Dad's dad did something to me because when I was little I...
    littleblacksheepgirl littleblacksheepgirl 36-40, F 2 Responses May 23, 2012

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    Traumatized

    People define me as a good-looking person. I actually like the way I look a lot too. However I am terrified by men. I can be friendly with guys, they can even become my best friends but they always end up wanting more. More than I can give. I was in a relationship with this man I...
    Seaad Seaad 22-25 Dec 28, 2011

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    Him

    There is one man I am not afraid of. Also, I'm not afraid of some priests I've known. And little boys are great.
    Ste11aeres Ste11aeres 26-30, F Oct 28, 2012

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    I Keep Them At A Distance

    I am so scared of screwing up my life AGAIN by getting into a relationship with a man who will assist me in ruining my life that I close myself off from communicating with men.  I do have male friends, two to be exact.  One of them is my ex boyfriend, which is sort of...
    semihippiechic semihippiechic 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 17, 2010

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    What Is This?

    Recently I've become aware that I might have a fear of men. Since I'm attracted to men, and not women, this is definitely something to worry me. My background with men, and the possible cause of this, is that I didn't have my father around at all in my life, and I never will...
    exhilaration exhilaration 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 27, 2013

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    Oh Please Gimme A Break....

    Okay your scared of men, I can relate. I'm a lifelong cd that always believed I was straight. That is until my cancer surviving wife whom I'm gratefull survived. Suggested that as a cd what I needed was another man as she has always known since before we married that I'm a...
    leachera leachera 51-55, T Apr 9, 2011

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    Male Afraid Of Men

    As a young boy, I was brutally sexually abused regularly for several years by my father and because of this I have a fear of all men. I feel panicky and like running away when ever I have to walk where there are a bunch of guys standing around. I have no 'guy friends' and all of...
    colt576 colt576 41-45 2 Responses Mar 20, 2012

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    Bit By Bit I Am Overcoming The Fears

    it has been slow and painful overcoming fears about men and intimacy... there are still times I struggle and then pick up and its ok... I avoid certain places etc but i think that is sensible for women...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F Jun 21, 2011

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    Boo!

    I am a man..... :-()~~ That is my best at being scary....
    OkayBut OkayBut 46-50, M May 2, 2012

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    Am Not Sure When I Began To Be Afraid

    Am not quite sure when i began to be so afraid of guys, but maybe i have been afraid of guys because of my dad. Growing up, my dad was verbally abusive, controlling, and had anger problems. I would always remember walking around on egg shells because you never knew...
    kudos2010 kudos2010 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 18, 2010

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    Men Terrify Me!

    I have never been great around guys and now it has become even more of a challenge for me. I started a serious relationship with this guy when I was 16. He was the first guy I really opened up to. I could be myself, there was no lying or arguing. He was perfect or so I thought...
    AFallenStar AFallenStar 18-21, F 5 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    I have a deep down fear,

    but I think part of it is a mix of respect and not knowing. I'm very good at "reading peoples mind" and knowing what they want, but I never know if I'm a fulfillment of that,especially with men because they think a bit different. The Other fear is real fear. Male criminals...
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 16-17, F 7 Responses Jul 31

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    i am terrified of most men.

    my own father makes me extremely uncomfortable. i dont know why i feel this way. i used to be the type of girl who got along better with guys. now... im intimidated past the point of normal. i just want a close female friend who i can go shopping with and drink coffee together...
    deathbecomesher89 deathbecomesher89 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 26

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    A Different Type Of Scared

    I'm not scared of men to the point that I can't have male friends, and am afraid for my life or anything. I'm more imtimidated than truely afraid. I am in a great relationship with a guy and I used to have all guy friends but through the years they have all kinda left-in the...
    XioBlue XioBlue 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 31, 2011

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    I'm So Scared Of Being Being In A Relationship With A Man.

    Right, I just have to say that I do not hate men, I greatly crave being with a man intimatly but I am having a real problem even taking anything further. I have had offers of what seem very nice guys but I always think there is a hidden agenda or they are going to hurt me...
    bubblegum84 bubblegum84 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 19, 2010

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    Not All Men

    I am not physically afraid of men but I am emotionally scared of them somewhat. I know what they can do to my heart and several have taken me to that darkened place recently and I just do not want to go back there again.  So if I shy away from you it is nothing personal. I...
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm 41-45, F 5 Responses Feb 14, 2010

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    I Get Nervous

    Men make me nervous, especially if I’m attracted to them. If any man take interest in me I reaction is to get as far away from them as possible. I scarcely leave my house but once a week to buy food and that’s a challenge. Plus I find it hard to deal with being served by a...
    CatKK CatKK 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 9, 2012

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    Paranoid, A Weirdo..

    Even of those who are very sweet, kind-hearted and feel harmless. I am no angel and I believe there are men who are even more innocent and honest than me, yet they scare me!!! Have been always saying that I am scared of men, but I only felt it for real recently and it is an...
    MissGaga MissGaga 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 10, 2013

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    Only The Drunk Ones

    Every time I see a drunk man my stomach ties up in knots, I start to sweat, and my heart feels like it's getting squeezed. I start to feel uncomfortable in whatever I'm wearing; that it's not covering enough, even if I'm in jeans and a hoodie. I guess I have my reasons though...
    abigail12 abigail12 18-21 Aug 7, 2011

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    theimmortaldemons theimmortaldemons 13-15, F May 16

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    I Feel Like There's Something Wrong With Me

    I am 20 years old and I am scared of men. I have never been abused nor have I had any sort of problems with men. Yet I am scared of them, they intimidate me. I am extremely shy so I have a hard time holding a conversation with a man and acting "natural". I never start a...
    Iirys Iirys 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 11, 2013

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    Abuse

    For most of my life I was overweight and boys and men would say horribly mean things to me, and my worst memory was when a boy refused to sit next to me in class because I was fat. After being tired of the torture I decided to diet and lost all of my weight. After this, I...
    ancoolu ancoolu 18-21, F 5 Responses Dec 22, 2012

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    I'm Afraid Of Men

    I've been feeling this way and I can't think of any childhood memories or reasons in particular that would explain how I got to this point.. I think what freaks me out most of all is that "creepy gaze" that I've seen some other posts mention. I'm 17 and like to go to the mall...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 4, 2013

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    Jitters.

    Was sexually harassed by a much older, bigger boy when I was young. And then I moved to a new city. And I was harassed by boys for three years straight for being "ugly". I was punched, slapped, and made fun of viciously. "Would you rather jump off a cliff, or date ____?" "I'd...
    Fuzzies Fuzzies 56-60, M Sep 5, 2012

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    It's not that I'm scared of men.

    I just don't trust them farther than I could throw my house. Which isn't far. LOL.
    imreel imreel 36-40, F 1 Response May 31

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    Why Am I Still Scared of Men?

    I don't understand why I am still scared of men. I just recently ended a 4 year relationship with a man. I still find myself scared of good looking and intelligent men. I feel that I may not be attractive enough or that they are out of my league. Why do I feel this way? I...
    Haniyah Haniyah 22-25 1 Response Aug 22, 2008

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    Something's Not Right

    I'm 30 years old and I've gradually realized that I am afraid of men. I can't stand men's stares and advances. They make me feel ambushed and unprotected. This has nothing to do with body image or sexual abuse. It's been like this since I was very young, but only recently I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Oct 16, 2012

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    Maybe I'm Not Really Scared of Men

    I came to a realization today concerning the question of men, and how i believe myself to be afraid of them. I thought it over and have concluded that I am mostly afraid of the ones I'm attracted to. In which case, it stands to reason that I'm only attracted to men who scare me...
    NaomiZero NaomiZero 26-30, F 11 Responses Apr 22, 2009

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    Is That The Reason?

    Here goes... Ever since i was small, I have feared men, almost all in general. However i do feel attracted to them, older men, I had even believed to be in love with a married one, about four months back, but that's a different story. I remember a while back, being afraid of...
    GUMMIESTARS GUMMIESTARS 18-21, F Apr 17, 2013

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    Scared Of Guys

    I am 20 years old and feel completely scared and insecure near boys, especially those I like. I am afraid they look at me and think I am ugly. It's hard for me to even go out because I feel all guys watching and judging me. I feel like I'm ever going to be alone. I don't even...
    WesternWind WesternWind 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 1, 2011

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    Brand New To Dealing With Men

    I'm in my mid-20s, I grew up in a cult that I recently left, and I'm relatively attractive. I don't know how to deal with men, or more importantly, how to read them. I'm not completely clueless, just a little, lol. If they are forward about being sexual, especially in that...
    beautyandlife beautyandlife 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 22, 2012

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