I Am Scared of Men

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    i am terrified of most men.

    my own father makes me extremely uncomfortable. i dont know why i feel this way. i used to be the type of girl who got along better with guys. now... im intimidated past the point of normal. i just want a close female friend who i can go shopping with and drink coffee together...
    deathbecomesher89 deathbecomesher89
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jan 26, 2014

    How To Start ..

    This is a bit difficult for me, because im dutch so i hope you all understand my story. I have never told anyone this, and hope i can do it now. My name is Lauren and im 16 years old. I have had a wonderful life with my mum, stephdad, stephbrother and stephsister till i gained 9...
    iwillbehere iwillbehere
    3 Responses May 3, 2013

    Terribly Afraid Of Men

    I've been very afraid of men since I can remember. I did have abuse from my parents in every way, but sexually. I did have a bad encounter with a female nurse, or whatever she was around 4 yrs old. My mom was concerned my Dad's dad did something to me because when I was little I...
    littleblacksheepgirl littleblacksheepgirl
    36-40, F
    2 Responses May 23, 2012

    I'm Afraid Of Men

    I've been feeling this way and I can't think of any childhood memories or reasons in particular that would explain how I got to this point.. I think what freaks me out most of all is that "creepy gaze" that I've seen some other posts mention. I'm 17 and like to go to the mall...
    deleted deleted
    Aug 4, 2013

    Brand New To Dealing With Men

    I'm in my mid-20s, I grew up in a cult that I recently left, and I'm relatively attractive. I don't know how to deal with men, or more importantly, how to read them. I'm not completely clueless, just a little, lol. If they are forward about being sexual, especially in that...
    beautyandlife beautyandlife
    22-25, F
    1 Response Dec 22, 2012

    A sad truth but a truth nonetheless.

    It has been buried for quite some years and I dug it up a few days ago, while I was gazing at my silhouette in a shopping window one rainy night. One of those rare occasions when your subconscious decides to talk turkey. Is it losing its patient with me? I'm not referring to...
    LunaInvicta LunaInvicta
    31-35, F
    Nov 17, 2015

    Due to my past I am scared of men it's really

    hard to overcome but the ones who I trusted broke it
    anestacia anestacia
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jan 30, 2016


    I read  "The Game" and "manhood101", where relationships are simple matters of conquest. There is no trust, there is no connection. Only sex. I know that men are different, not all are ********. But even biologically, humans are sexually driven. I don't feel like I can trust...
    Mdear Mdear
    18-21, F
    23 Responses Feb 17, 2011

    I'm not scared of all men just ones

    that are bit older then me.... I've only told a few people this and I need to get it out of my system... When I was younger my mum and dad were never together and with mum always at work her boyfriends use to look after me a lot when I was about 6 one started to get sexual and...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Jun 1, 2014

    Something's Not Right

    I'm 30 years old and I've gradually realized that I am afraid of men. I can't stand men's stares and advances. They make me feel ambushed and unprotected. This has nothing to do with body image or sexual abuse. It's been like this since I was very young, but only recently I...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Oct 16, 2012

    Freaked Out By Men

    Men scare me. I don't know why. On a conscious level, I know that they're human just like me. A lot of them are lovely and very nice. I get along with men better than I do with women sometimes. They start talking to me and as long as I think they're just being friendly, I remain...
    LostTraveller LostTraveller
    26-30, F
    38 Responses May 24, 2007


    Was sexually harassed by a much older, bigger boy when I was young. And then I moved to a new city. And I was harassed by boys for three years straight for being "ugly". I was punched, slapped, and made fun of viciously. "Would you rather jump off a cliff, or date ____?" "I'd...
    Fuzzies Fuzzies
    61-65, M
    Sep 5, 2012


    There is one man I am not afraid of. Also, I'm not afraid of some priests I've known. And little boys are great.
    Ste11aeres Ste11aeres
    26-30, F
    Oct 28, 2012

    Am Not Sure When I Began To Be Afraid

    Am not quite sure when i began to be so afraid of guys, but maybe i have been afraid of guys because of my dad. Growing up, my dad was verbally abusive, controlling, and had anger problems. I would always remember walking around on egg shells because you never knew...
    kudos2010 kudos2010
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Nov 18, 2010

    Beaten, and whipped by my father.

    Then molested at 13. Finally gang raped at 19. Men terrify me. This cause a contradiction for me because technically I am a man myself. But I'm doing my best to have those things removed asap.
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Dec 12, 2015

    I Feel Like There's Something Wrong With Me

    I am 20 years old and I am scared of men. I have never been abused nor have I had any sort of problems with men. Yet I am scared of them, they intimidate me. I am extremely shy so I have a hard time holding a conversation with a man and acting "natural". I never start a...
    Iirys Iirys
    18-21, F
    1 Response Sep 11, 2013

    Maybe I'm Not Really Scared of Men

    I came to a realization today concerning the question of men, and how i believe myself to be afraid of them. I thought it over and have concluded that I am mostly afraid of the ones I'm attracted to. In which case, it stands to reason that I'm only attracted to men who scare me...
    NaomiZero NaomiZero
    26-30, F
    11 Responses Apr 22, 2009

    It's not that I'm scared of men.

    I just don't trust them farther than I could throw my house. Which isn't far. LOL.
    imreel imreel
    36-40, F
    1 Response May 31, 2014

    Never told this to anyone before- So I just

    turned 13 when this happened , about 3 yrs ago you, know the awkward and insecure stage.well it was summertime and my mom bought me and my sister a pool.our family wanted to come over to swim and just hang out. My family is my mom, older sis, aunts ,cousins and cousins boyfriend...
    hiddenbird hiddenbird
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 25, 2014

    What Is This?

    Recently I've become aware that I might have a fear of men. Since I'm attracted to men, and not women, this is definitely something to worry me. My background with men, and the possible cause of this, is that I didn't have my father around at all in my life, and I never will...
    exhilaration exhilaration
    22-25, F
    1 Response Apr 27, 2013

    I am scares of older men.

    When I was younger, my cousin repeatedly sexually abused me, and my uncle continued beginning when I was 14. My father has always been mentally and physically abusive, and after all of these experiences, I have a hard time trusting and being around older men. What I don't...
    Queenofnothing Queenofnothing
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Dec 25, 2014

    Seriously. I receive rape threats

    because I don't "appreciate" the sexual advances of men on here. It hasn't happened with a woman yet. Although when I try to vent about it on here, just to get it off my chest, I get attacked by men saying "how dare you not stand up for the men who get sexually harassed" .... I...
    SorryifIlookedinterestedImnot SorryifIlookedinterestedImnot
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Dec 3, 2015

    Men Terrify Me!

    I have never been great around guys and now it has become even more of a challenge for me. I started a serious relationship with this guy when I was 16. He was the first guy I really opened up to. I could be myself, there was no lying or arguing. He was perfect or so I thought...
    AFallenStar AFallenStar
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Oct 26, 2012

    I'm So Scared Of Being Being In A Relationship With A Man.

    Right, I just have to say that I do not hate men, I greatly crave being with a man intimatly but I am having a real problem even taking anything further. I have had offers of what seem very nice guys but I always think there is a hidden agenda or they are going to hurt me...
    bubblegum84 bubblegum84
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Mar 19, 2010

    Not All Men

    I am not physically afraid of men but I am emotionally scared of them somewhat. I know what they can do to my heart and several have taken me to that darkened place recently and I just do not want to go back there again.  So if I shy away from you it is nothing personal. I...
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm
    46-50, F
    4 Responses Feb 14, 2010

    I'm not really terrified of them.

    It's just that I don't trust them a lot. I would assume a little bit that they are bad people. When I was little, my parents would fight and when my dad was gone, my mom would say to stay away from my dad. And even recently my dad left his family behind to go to Texas without...
    ohayomegu ohayomegu
    18-21, F
    1 Response Aug 11, 2015

    I Want To Be Married But I'm Afraid Of Men

    I am 34 and want to be married and have a lifelong companion. My parents have a great marriage and so do my sisters. I am so fearful of men that I'm afraid I'll be alone forever. I have no problem speaking with men on a professional level and similarly on a friendly level but...
    jgfh2835 jgfh2835
    5 Responses Apr 3, 2010

    Scared Of Guys

    I am 20 years old and feel completely scared and insecure near boys, especially those I like. I am afraid they look at me and think I am ugly. It's hard for me to even go out because I feel all guys watching and judging me. I feel like I'm ever going to be alone. I don't even...
    WesternWind WesternWind
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jun 1, 2011

    A Different Type Of Scared

    I'm not scared of men to the point that I can't have male friends, and am afraid for my life or anything. I'm more imtimidated than truely afraid. I am in a great relationship with a guy and I used to have all guy friends but through the years they have all kinda left-in the...
    XioBlue XioBlue
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 31, 2011

    How Do I Start?

    I'm 18 years old. I just got out of secondary school and am now in university. I should be in the fun, exciting years of my life. But i cant seem to get anywhere near to being even social with guys. I have no idea when it started. I have no idea when I first started being...
    onegirl18 onegirl18
    3 Responses Jun 21, 2009

    I have a deep down fear,

    but I think part of it is a mix of respect and not knowing. I'm very good at "reading peoples mind" and knowing what they want, but I never know if I'm a fulfillment of that,especially with men because they think a bit different. The Other fear is real fear. Male criminals...
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Jul 31, 2014

    Paranoid, A Weirdo..

    Even of those who are very sweet, kind-hearted and feel harmless. I am no angel and I believe there are men who are even more innocent and honest than me, yet they scare me!!! Have been always saying that I am scared of men, but I only felt it for real recently and it is an...
    MissGaga MissGaga
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jul 10, 2013
    theimmortaldemons theimmortaldemons
    18-21, F
    May 16, 2014

    I am not used to telling anyone anything of

    this sort. So other than my girlfriend of six years no one else knows the inner battle that I have been fighting. When I say every male in my life has been harsh and cruel I mean it. My father has always been one to yell and get in my face. When I was around the age of 12 he...
    KatherinaM KatherinaM
    26-30, F
    Mar 19, 2014


    For most of my life I was overweight and boys and men would say horribly mean things to me, and my worst memory was when a boy refused to sit next to me in class because I was fat. After being tired of the torture I decided to diet and lost all of my weight. After this, I...
    ancoolu ancoolu
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Dec 22, 2012

    I Get Nervous

    Men make me nervous, especially if I’m attracted to them. If any man take interest in me I reaction is to get as far away from them as possible. I scarcely leave my house but once a week to buy food and that’s a challenge. Plus I find it hard to deal with being served by a...
    CatKK CatKK
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jun 9, 2012

    Why Am I Still Scared of Men?

    I don't understand why I am still scared of men. I just recently ended a 4 year relationship with a man. I still find myself scared of good looking and intelligent men. I feel that I may not be attractive enough or that they are out of my league. Why do I feel this way? I...
    Haniyah Haniyah
    1 Response Aug 22, 2008

    Is That The Reason?

    Here goes... Ever since i was small, I have feared men, almost all in general. However i do feel attracted to them, older men, I had even believed to be in love with a married one, about four months back, but that's a different story. I remember a while back, being afraid of...
    18-21, F
    Apr 17, 2013

    Never Safe Around Men...

    I am terrified to be around men. mostly grown men but also men my own age. i was.... in a situation that scared me very deeply. and ever since then i have been terrified of men. when i am around men that i do not know i get extremely nervous and i shake and i don't talk. once, i...
    RazerWolfFang RazerWolfFang
    18-21, F
    Nov 13, 2013

    I have experienced being molested in a public

    transportation thrice. My friends tell me its because i look fragile and defenseless. I don't look at all 20 and some mistake me for being 18. I am only 5'2 and look young because of my asian features and "lacking" developments in my body. I am scared of older men and instantly...
    lovedtoomuchurtasmuch lovedtoomuchurtasmuch
    22-25, F
    1 Response Oct 23, 2014

    I'm here for express my true feelings.

    . so i say... i am scared of man.terrified. any man seem same to me(nice?handsome?i don't care)during a flashback and after that. and it like about 50 times in a day..sometimes about 20. i don't think i'd feel that i want to get to know man again. it probably won't happen...
    JerryJerryA JerryJerryA
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Feb 18, 2015
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