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I Am Scared of My Marriage Failing

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    Mine Is Slipping Away

    my husband just left me two weeks ago....not sure if he will come back....he gives me no info other than he is trying to work through some things and that he doesn't know if he can get over the hurt.  i have changed the things he complains about...yet he won't come back to...
    swtz69drmz swtz69drmz 36-40 1 Response Jan 16, 2008

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    Confused

    I had the perfect marriage until my husband found someone else to confide in. At first I was OK with the new found friendship at work.It seemed harmless. Then I started noticing that my husband who hates talking on the phone was always on the phone. He claimed he was just helping...
    messedupbigtime messedupbigtime 21-25, F 1 Response Jan 6, 2008

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    I Can Never Do Or Says Things Right

    To behonest I am the problem in the marriage. I am a negative thinker that is getting out of hand and this is spiraling ino my marriage. I keep causing stress when there shouldn't be any. The problem is I keep thinking we have a money/bill problem when we don't. I just start...
    Forshee Forshee 31-35 1 Response Aug 9, 2012

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    I Am Scared of My Marriage Failing...

    ...and I haven't even met my husband yet.
    FiendFyre FiendFyre 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 9, 2007

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    Hapa/ Kia Kaha- Stay Strong

    I help out the adaptive paddling every third Saturday. In Honolulu, Hi on the Other side of the Island called Lanikai/Kailua Beach Park. We members participate and take children/adults from all over to get some recreation time to paddle. It is fun when ever your in Hawaii come by...
    deliciouse62 deliciouse62 46-50, F Mar 17, 2012

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    I Failed At Two Of Them...................

    and I'm still alive. If the marriage fails, it fails for a number of reasons and it's best to get that out in the open than keep it bottled up in fear. Failure is just that, something that didn't work. It's nothing to be ashamed of, nothing to feel stigmatized by, besides, if...
    lightpainter lightpainter 56-60, M 1 Response Apr 8, 2013

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    My Marriage Is Failing

    My husband is emotionally abusive. We do not talk about anything. He spends hours in the study watching movies on the computer. He yell at us when he speaks and he spends very little time with the children. I am afraid to leave because of financial reasons. He refuses to get...
    nonamesleft nonamesleft 36-40 2 Responses Nov 1, 2008

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    Falling Apart

    I've just read my husbands Facebook. For years he's been flirting and making arrangements to meet women I didn't even know existed. Didn't even know he had Facebook. I've had a feeling things weren't right for about a year now, but he kept telling me I was paranoid. I'm probably...
    Ihateironing2 Ihateironing2 41-45 4 Responses Jan 20, 2012

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    New Marriage Possible Failure?

    My husband and i just got married and well we are both young and with him levaing for the first 10 months of our marriage i'm not sure it's going to last.
    mommy2be mommy2be 16-18, F 2 Responses Nov 9, 2007

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    Lost, And So Soon

    I am not sure what to do anymore about my marriage. We've been married 3 months and been together since the day we met almost 2 years ago, I know, not very long. He finally found a job he loves and its overnight, I just lost my job so now its just him making the money. He...
    Jan 18, 2013

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    what if I never find the life I want for myself? What if I'm always lost and never find a sense of purpose or belonging. I'm really scared of being a failure and being lost for the...
    ajrestless ajrestless 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 22

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    Solitairediamond posted a phrase basically saying doing things out of duty depletes you, while doing them out of love energizes you. While I agree to an extent with her thoughts...
    lonelyguy375 lonelyguy375 46-50, M 1 Response 37 mins ago

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    I am always willing to try new things carreer wise. I've tried to own my own business and failed, tried to become a nurse and failed, and now I'm trying to become a successful...
    Shauntaemd Shauntaemd 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 9

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    I am so frustrated at my husband. He really is very lazy at making things work between us. No matter how many times I explain to him, he just chooses to take certain things for...
    Nathee Nathee 31-35, F 11 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    I am not a social person to go out side and talk to someone. Let alone a guy I was the person in high school that you never knew because I had no friends. And I am not joking...
    BrainLoading BrainLoading 18-21, F 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    So, unravelling everything from the last 2 weeks postings, identifying the facts from the symptoms I think this is my story. My wife is very self-centred with a borderline...
    dadonthesofa dadonthesofa 46-50, M 16 Responses Sep 9

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    At risk of being hated, I admit I know the refuser's side. I was a virgin when I married the first time, ignorant of what the marriage bed entailed. I was young and scared and dumb...
    Harley53 Harley53 56-60, F 6 Responses Aug 21

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    "Sexual Aversion Disorder" I am not sure if anyone has ever posted about this in this group...Actually I am sure someone has but I cannot find such post. apparently there is an...
    JackHawthorne JackHawthorne 31-35, M 7 Responses Aug 31

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    I have been married for 8 years now and my wife and I have a beautiful 4 year old daughter who we both cherish. My wife is a kind, loving woman who loves me and our daughter and...
    Jeremy0121 Jeremy0121 31-35, M 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Something changed in me this week. By Friday, I was sitting in a lawyer's office seeking advice on my entitlements and arrangements for child support, should I press the 'exit...
    CalypsoAgain CalypsoAgain 31-35, F 6 Responses Aug 23

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    I met my husband in the 7th grade but we didn't connect until high school. I became pregnant in our Senior year and we were married while still in school (a week to the day after...
    olderbutnotdead olderbutnotdead 51-55, F 5 Responses Aug 25

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    I have a lot to be grateful for and I am not one to dwell on problems. However I can no longer deny that I am married to an extremely difficult man. He is moody and fault-finding...
    Chandler1929 Chandler1929 41-45 1 Response Sep 7

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    I am scared of marriage, I almost hate it. It is because I do not want to form a scattered family, they are not even a family, they hate each other, I do not want to bring such...
    MissGaga MissGaga 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 22

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    I need some support. I checked on the status of divorce proceedings today. Had to leave a message. I am shaking. It doesn't help that there's a THIRD paralegal change since I...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 9 Responses Aug 25

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    Well the day finally came….and went. I did the deed and asked for a divorce. As expected she was upset. I couldn’t blame her. Her whole world was going to change. She...
    beachlivin04 beachlivin04 41-45, M 46 Responses 1 day ago

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    (I joined EP just to post this. This feels like a safe place.) I love my wife. She's one of my favorite people and I want to see her career flourish. I love the many little inside...
    romanman88 romanman88 31-35, M 2 Responses Aug 24

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    Hmm this week I've been adding stories to the experiences I've chosen since being a member on here. I've been adding each story one at a time.And so far it's been pretty straight...
    Mmmcherries Mmmcherries 46-50, F 1 Response Aug 22

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    I had unprotected sex two days ago I took plan b emergency birth control pills yesterday. He didn't come inside me I'm pretty sure. He pulled out but I'm still scared I thought I...
    misfitoutsider misfitoutsider 13-15, F 10 Responses Aug 22

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    I have always been attracted to older men but I really stepped it up when I was 15. I started dating a man 15 years my senior. He treated me like his daughter and I treated him...
    kittygurl66 kittygurl66 26-30, F 8 Responses Aug 25

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    I am 49 years old I am in the middle of my second failed marriage I have been disabled since I was 38 years old but did manage to hold my head above water until recently I have 3...
    smitttyd smitttyd 46-50, M Aug 29

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    Scared to death to tell my husband I want to separate....
    ReRe71 ReRe71 41-45, F 5 Responses Aug 31

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    Trying to get ready to move. I am so overwhelmed. Hoping my husband I am divorcing due to see less and emotionless marriage will stay away. I am in a constant state of gut retching...
    selfcompassion selfcompassion 51-55, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    Undecided whether to post this under this group or under the other one "I'm having random thoughts", I believe posted here the discussion shall be more thoughtful and sensitive...
    TheDreamyWoman TheDreamyWoman 36-40, F 10 Responses 6 days ago

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    well my first time was when i was 13 , and i can remember that she was some sort of pedo-phile so i was scared and she pushed me and hurry me to do things her way... basically i...
    alexitolove alexitolove 18-21, M 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    So I guess the question for me is, "How long does it take to turn an SM into a "normal" marriage?," or "How long does it take to recover from an SM, and make it better?" Of course...
    indianoutlaw indianoutlaw 31-35, M 23 Responses Aug 27

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    "For Better or For Worse" I have been thinking about this particular vow. As someone who was brought up from birth in the church, I was always taught that divorce is not optional...
    EmbraceMe68 EmbraceMe68 41-45, F 9 Responses Sep 2

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    When I originally posted in April of 2011, I was living in a sexless marriage. I was confused, heartbroken and angry... What happened in the 3 years following has nearly destroyed...
    malms malms 51-55, F 1 Response Sep 8

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    There are truths behind these funny quotes....To the singles, would you still wanna take the plunge on marriage? ***I never married because there was no need. I have three pets at...
    0nOpalsMind 0nOpalsMind 41-45, F 3 Responses Sep 9

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    I've been putting off this update for a while. I cannot do so any longer. It's long and winding, so if you choose to dive in, prepare yourself. Curious things are happening in...
    Catonapillow Catonapillow 31-35, F 21 Responses 5 days ago

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    Sorry, this is awfully long! I'm a married mother of two little boys - two little treasures who make my heart soar with every kiss, every pudgy hand-hold, and every time I hug...
    Wonderloon Wonderloon 31-35, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    The road that has led each of us to the SM we find ourselves in is unique to each of us and in reading stories I can imagine that many people would wonder which came first, the...
    thescarletibis thescarletibis 41-45, F 13 Responses 1 day ago

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    Being Perfect - One commonality I've discerned among our Refusers is their firm belief that there is nothing wrong with them ("them" being people who avoid having sex with their...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 22 Responses Sep 8

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    Me, myself and my parents marriage... I asked my wife to go to a shrink with me about 3 years ago. she did not refuse the idea, but she ways always too busy, or tired or had a...
    frozenhere frozenhere 31-35, M 7 Responses 5 days ago

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    I know this is very sad to say but I don't believe in true love or marriages anymore. It is because of the kind of marriage I'm in currently. I used to think when I get married it...
    michellegh michellegh 36-40, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    I am so scared about whats going to happen in the future. Im scared of getting older, I'm scared of the fear of getting sick, I'm scared of getting an illness that will change...
    behappy4 behappy4 18-21, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    My husband Johnny and I have been together for 2 years, married for a year and a half. We met through his older brother 2 1/2 years ago and started talking as friends. Neither one...
    ashleymarcia ashleymarcia 22-25, F Aug 28

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    My husband and I have been together ten years, and married for seven. Sex dropped off right after the wedding. Over our married years, we have typically had sex every other month...
    VanillaAlmond1 VanillaAlmond1 31-35, F 22 Responses Sep 2

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    As is the case with many ILIASM folks in OppositeLand, my regret about my marriage is that I waited so long to divorce. "HuffPost Divorce readers share the biggest regret they...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 6 Responses Sep 3

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