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I Am Scared of My Marriage Failing

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    I Am Scared of My Marriage Failing...

    ...and I haven't even met my husband yet.
    FiendFyre FiendFyre 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 9, 2007

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    I Can Never Do Or Says Things Right

    To behonest I am the problem in the marriage. I am a negative thinker that is getting out of hand and this is spiraling ino my marriage. I keep causing stress when there shouldn't be any. The problem is I keep thinking we have a money/bill problem when we don't. I just start...
    Forshee Forshee 31-35 1 Response Aug 9, 2012

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    Falling Apart

    I've just read my husbands Facebook. For years he's been flirting and making arrangements to meet women I didn't even know existed. Didn't even know he had Facebook. I've had a feeling things weren't right for about a year now, but he kept telling me I was paranoid. I'm probably...
    Ihateironing2 Ihateironing2 41-45 4 Responses Jan 20, 2012

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    Mine Is Slipping Away

    my husband just left me two weeks ago....not sure if he will come back....he gives me no info other than he is trying to work through some things and that he doesn't know if he can get over the hurt.  i have changed the things he complains about...yet he won't come back to...
    swtz69drmz swtz69drmz 36-40 1 Response Jan 16, 2008

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    Lost, And So Soon

    I am not sure what to do anymore about my marriage. We've been married 3 months and been together since the day we met almost 2 years ago, I know, not very long. He finally found a job he loves and its overnight, I just lost my job so now its just him making the money. He...
    Jan 18, 2013

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    My Marriage Is Failing

    My husband is emotionally abusive. We do not talk about anything. He spends hours in the study watching movies on the computer. He yell at us when he speaks and he spends very little time with the children. I am afraid to leave because of financial reasons. He refuses to get...
    nonamesleft nonamesleft 36-40 2 Responses Nov 1, 2008

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    Confused

    I had the perfect marriage until my husband found someone else to confide in. At first I was OK with the new found friendship at work.It seemed harmless. Then I started noticing that my husband who hates talking on the phone was always on the phone. He claimed he was just helping...
    messedupbigtime messedupbigtime 21-25, F 1 Response Jan 6, 2008

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    I Failed At Two Of Them...................

    and I'm still alive. If the marriage fails, it fails for a number of reasons and it's best to get that out in the open than keep it bottled up in fear. Failure is just that, something that didn't work. It's nothing to be ashamed of, nothing to feel stigmatized by, besides, if...
    lightpainter lightpainter 56-60, M 1 Response Apr 8, 2013

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    New Marriage Possible Failure?

    My husband and i just got married and well we are both young and with him levaing for the first 10 months of our marriage i'm not sure it's going to last.
    mommy2be mommy2be 16-18, F 2 Responses Nov 9, 2007

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    Hapa/ Kia Kaha- Stay Strong

    I help out the adaptive paddling every third Saturday. In Honolulu, Hi on the Other side of the Island called Lanikai/Kailua Beach Park. We members participate and take children/adults from all over to get some recreation time to paddle. It is fun when ever your in Hawaii come by...
    deliciouse62 deliciouse62 46-50, F Mar 17, 2012

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    I've always been scared to mess up and fail. When I was younger that was my main concern, I thought about it all the time. I wanted to be the perfect kid, I needed to be the...
    KilljoyTillTheEnd KilljoyTillTheEnd 16-17, F 1 day ago

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    Someone on this site mentioned that living in a sexless marriage is like living in a bubble. Exactly, that is what i feel like. Inside the bubble is My marriage, My family, My kids...
    whereishome whereishome 36-40, M 13 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Update from me....things are better! Counseling is going very well. I am proud of myself, first of all. The first day of marital counseling, I was so nervous and the weight of...
    indianoutlaw indianoutlaw 31-35, M 9 Responses 1 hr ago

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    Almost a month out post divorce. I didn't realize how much you could cram into one month. So overall I would say I am feeling stagnant, however the outside world may see progress...
    Usernametbd Usernametbd 36-40, M 10 Responses Jul 7

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    Nine months ago, while I was at a lakeside music festival, I ran into an old acquaintance. John and I had met in 2008 through a mutual friend. Over the years, our paths had crossed...
    wastedmonths wastedmonths 26-30 1 Response Jul 3

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    Hello I'm new to this site. I posted once prior, but I had no clue where I was in the situation. I'm a terrible writer and this is going to be long enough, so I'll jump right into...
    gator613 gator613 26-30, M Jul 9

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    Alright so for our thesis we have three defenses to go through: topic defense, internal defense, and external defense. And during my preparation for the first defense, I was taking...
    emilyearwig emilyearwig 18-21, F 1 day ago

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    I have an aunt. She is 10 years older than me, she's 37. She currently lives in Texas with her husband, their 1-year-old boy, and his husband's 3 boys from a previous marriage. My...
    girlon3rdfloorsuite9 girlon3rdfloorsuite9 26-30, F Jun 26

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    I feel scared today. There was a catalyst. Obviously, this situation isn't about another person. Those of you who have read my stories know that, probably better than I. But I'm...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 29

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    I'm scared of not finding someone who will love me and ending up in a marriage like my parents where they don't even like each other, but can't divorce each other because of us...
    myanonsecrets myanonsecrets 18-21, F Jul 9

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    The Best of Days; The Worst of Days (Or, Long-Winded Update) I haven't posted much in here in a while, so here's the general update: For those who don't know, I separated from...
    MeNotWe MeNotWe 26-30, F 11 Responses a week ago

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    I been married to my husband for almost 2 years after 6 months or so I left him because he would treat me like ****. Then after 6 more months he contacted me saying he loved and...
    riaa777 riaa777 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 3

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    I don't know what's wrong with me. Just all of a sudden be become paranoid. It's been going on for almost two weeks. I feel watched, I feel like any second something is going to...
    secretlyfelix secretlyfelix 18-21, F Jul 5

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    I am in search for connection. I have figured out that I am a detached person and that it scares me to let myself love. Been married for 8 fun years that have come to a stall...
    aquafriend aquafriend 26-30, M 1 Response Jul 5

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    My husband does not love me! He won't talk about our marrital issues, he won't have any kind of intimacy with me, and will not spend anytime with me. I want a divorce but I am...
    awmfrancis awmfrancis 31-35, F 6 Responses Jul 6

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    Punished to the fullest-I took liberties Well I haven't been in here much. So much has happened. Moved, he started a business, kids, just crazy busy. During this time he was so...
    RsBrat RsBrat 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 7

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    Update: Still working on my exit plan. My timeline is between August and Sept but probably closer to Sept. I'm still in individual counseling and it's helping tremendously. I...
    lovesthesun lovesthesun 41-45, F 12 Responses Jul 14

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    I am still so afraid... I'm scared to let it go... I want to give the full control. It is a burden, A stumbling block... Why such a stubborn soul... I do not make these steel rules...
    LovingDDandHoH LovingDDandHoH 36-40, F 4 Responses Jul 15

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    I Was Threatened on EP ... I don't usually cross-post, but ILIASM is my home group and EP family, and so it is appropriate to repeat here. Someone is trying to silence me from...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 7 Responses Jul 16

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    My boyfriend and I (after about one year of dating) loved each other and had talked about everything and I had standards for our first times (we were both virgins). I said I 1...
    HappyHart5 HappyHart5 16-17, F 4 Responses Jul 17

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    I am the one who does not want to be sexual. I love my husband of 26 years with all of my heart. I came with baggage and he stuck by my side. We have 3 children that are young...
    Nil0 Nil0 46-50, F 13 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    Because I didn't know better! And this torments me all the time even though about, 14 yrs has pass! Yup crazy I guess but can't get over the fact because, I was 13 and he was 19...
    mrscasillas28 mrscasillas28 26-30, F 2 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    I think I've got the guts to post this now. My wife and I have talked about this many times. I think it would help me to talk to others about it, even if it is anonymously. Since...
    7Sparrows 7Sparrows 26-30, M 14 Responses Jun 27

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    I'm 29, married for 5 years, 2 beautiful kids. Unfortunately like most here I live in a sexless marriage. I have for several years. Now some will say, your young and just not happy...
    incognito21 incognito21 26-30, M 15 Responses Jul 1

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    So sorry this is happening in your marriage. I as, the wife, am suffering the consequences of a sexless marriage. But I am here over 24 years... it's been going on for at least...
    mwmom mwmom 46-50 17 Responses Jul 4

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    I had a arrange marriageā€¦the very next day mil takes away my gold jewellery worth more than 12 lakhs (without my permission) and keeps it in her locker. I stay mum..n when I ask...
    srinivasleela84 srinivasleela84 26-30, F Jul 7

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    To me, marriage is TOO binding. Honestly, how many people can actually be happy together forever? The answer is 50%. half of marriages end in divorce. I believe that being in an...
    StrangeDarkSecrets StrangeDarkSecrets 13-15 Jul 10

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    Hello all you wonderful EP folks, I have another update on my formerly sexless marriage. If you want the back story, read my previous posts as they will shed light on the progress...
    mistereko mistereko 36-40, M 13 Responses Jul 14

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    Marriage is a total trap for men. Like a lot of people, this experience starts with a relationship between 2 people, then life happens. Anyhow there's these 2 people, they...
    carpediemer carpediemer 41-45, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    (Repost...EP BLOCKED my first story) I stumbled upon EP the latter part of last year, and I've been a fairly frequent lurker ever since. It has taken me quite some time to...
    Insearchofmenow Insearchofmenow 31-35 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    Final Meeting with the Marriage Counselor - I went to my last marriage counseling session today. My H and the therapist don't know I'm not coming back again because they're not...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 18 Responses Jun 25

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    I've been in a sexless marriage for 14 years. It started going down hill within the first year and I knew then something wasn't right. I've poured my heart out to him so many times...
    ABlueChristine ABlueChristine 41-45, F 19 Responses Jun 29

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    Diary Entries During The First Months Of Marriage I have been slowly transferring my handwritten diary entries to this site. I've reached the part about my arranged marriage and...
    thelonewood thelonewood 26-30 3 Responses Jun 29

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    "Im in a sexless marriage but I won't cheat on my spouse." The problem you hope to never face but are never prepared to face. Often people are at the end of their rope, having...
    Happablap Happablap 26-30, M 7 Responses 5 days ago

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    I am scared of the uncertainity which clouds our lives.I am scared of how everything will work out in the end. I am scared of changing yet the only way to outgrow one's fear is to...
    booklover4ever booklover4ever 18-21, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    This is just an update on my story and I hope it can show other people here that there is future after a bad relationship. I read stories for here for maybe more than one year...
    mfur mfur 26-30, F 9 Responses 5 days ago

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    I was drawing Tuesday night.. And I was listening to music I do that so I don't get scared. I used to be afraid to go in my own room. me and Jake used to sleep with dad every...
    KovusShame KovusShame 13-15, F 23 hrs ago

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    I have no idea how to balance anything in this marriage anymore. There is zero intimacy in our marriage and every time I bring it up it is always, "we have no intimacy in our...
    glammjunkie glammjunkie 22-25, F Jun 27

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