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I Am Scared of My Marriage Failing

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    Confused

    I had the perfect marriage until my husband found someone else to confide in. At first I was OK with the new found friendship at work.It seemed harmless. Then I started noticing that my husband who hates talking on the phone was always on the phone. He claimed he was just helping...
    messedupbigtime messedupbigtime 21-25, F 1 Response Jan 6, 2008

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    Hapa/ Kia Kaha- Stay Strong

    I help out the adaptive paddling every third Saturday. In Honolulu, Hi on the Other side of the Island called Lanikai/Kailua Beach Park. We members participate and take children/adults from all over to get some recreation time to paddle. It is fun when ever your in Hawaii come by...
    deliciouse62 deliciouse62 46-50, F Mar 17, 2012

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    Mine Is Slipping Away

    my husband just left me two weeks ago....not sure if he will come back....he gives me no info other than he is trying to work through some things and that he doesn't know if he can get over the hurt.  i have changed the things he complains about...yet he won't come back to...
    swtz69drmz swtz69drmz 36-40 1 Response Jan 16, 2008

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    I Can Never Do Or Says Things Right

    To behonest I am the problem in the marriage. I am a negative thinker that is getting out of hand and this is spiraling ino my marriage. I keep causing stress when there shouldn't be any. The problem is I keep thinking we have a money/bill problem when we don't. I just start...
    Forshee Forshee 31-35 1 Response Aug 9, 2012

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    I Failed At Two Of Them...................

    and I'm still alive. If the marriage fails, it fails for a number of reasons and it's best to get that out in the open than keep it bottled up in fear. Failure is just that, something that didn't work. It's nothing to be ashamed of, nothing to feel stigmatized by, besides, if...
    lightpainter lightpainter 56-60, M 1 Response Apr 8, 2013

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    My Marriage Is Failing

    My husband is emotionally abusive. We do not talk about anything. He spends hours in the study watching movies on the computer. He yell at us when he speaks and he spends very little time with the children. I am afraid to leave because of financial reasons. He refuses to get...
    nonamesleft nonamesleft 36-40 2 Responses Nov 1, 2008

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    Falling Apart

    I've just read my husbands Facebook. For years he's been flirting and making arrangements to meet women I didn't even know existed. Didn't even know he had Facebook. I've had a feeling things weren't right for about a year now, but he kept telling me I was paranoid. I'm probably...
    Ihateironing2 Ihateironing2 41-45 4 Responses Jan 20, 2012

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    New Marriage Possible Failure?

    My husband and i just got married and well we are both young and with him levaing for the first 10 months of our marriage i'm not sure it's going to last.
    mommy2be mommy2be 16-18, F 2 Responses Nov 9, 2007

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    Lost, And So Soon

    I am not sure what to do anymore about my marriage. We've been married 3 months and been together since the day we met almost 2 years ago, I know, not very long. He finally found a job he loves and its overnight, I just lost my job so now its just him making the money. He...
    Jan 18, 2013

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    I Am Scared of My Marriage Failing...

    ...and I haven't even met my husband yet.
    FiendFyre FiendFyre 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 9, 2007

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    what if I never find the life I want for myself? What if I'm always lost and never find a sense of purpose or belonging. I'm really scared of being a failure and being lost for the...
    ajrestless ajrestless 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 22

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    I am always willing to try new things carreer wise. I've tried to own my own business and failed, tried to become a nurse and failed, and now I'm trying to become a successful...
    Shauntaemd Shauntaemd 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 9

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    An interesting true tale that illustrates what our children learn and how they may model their marriages on ours if we raise them in a dysfunctional marriage. While this describes...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Nobody around me knows how unhappy my marriage is. I keep this secret like another weight added to my shoulders . I have nobody to talk to about how I feel and what I could do . My...
    piscean1965 piscean1965 46-50, M 2 Responses 1 hr ago

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    So, unravelling everything from the last 2 weeks postings, identifying the facts from the symptoms I think this is my story. My wife is very self-centred with a borderline...
    dadonthesofa dadonthesofa 46-50, M 16 Responses Sep 9

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    The Scarlet Letter - Last night was very eventful in the Cherish household. I was drawn and quartered in front of my children, and the scarlet letter "A" branded on my forehead by...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 18 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    At risk of being hated, I admit I know the refuser's side. I was a virgin when I married the first time, ignorant of what the marriage bed entailed. I was young and scared and dumb...
    Harley53 Harley53 56-60, F 6 Responses Aug 21

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    "Sexual Aversion Disorder" I am not sure if anyone has ever posted about this in this group...Actually I am sure someone has but I cannot find such post. apparently there is an...
    JackHawthorne JackHawthorne 31-35, M 7 Responses Aug 31

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    Something changed in me this week. By Friday, I was sitting in a lawyer's office seeking advice on my entitlements and arrangements for child support, should I press the 'exit...
    CalypsoAgain CalypsoAgain 31-35, F 6 Responses Aug 23

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    I met my husband in the 7th grade but we didn't connect until high school. I became pregnant in our Senior year and we were married while still in school (a week to the day after...
    olderbutnotdead olderbutnotdead 51-55, F 5 Responses Aug 25

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    I have a lot to be grateful for and I am not one to dwell on problems. However I can no longer deny that I am married to an extremely difficult man. He is moody and fault-finding...
    Chandler1929 Chandler1929 41-45 1 Response Sep 7

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    I'm constantly always having to put my dreams and goals on hold because, circumstances and family situations. I feel like I'm failing at life because everything I want always seems...
    Nior18 Nior18 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 20

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    My boyfriend and I are moving in together soon and we're talking about marriage. I am scared that I am not going to be the wife that he wants because I'm not like his mom whom he...
    dn930 dn930 18-21, F Aug 17

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    I am scared of marriage, I almost hate it. It is because I do not want to form a scattered family, they are not even a family, they hate each other, I do not want to bring such...
    MissGaga MissGaga 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 22

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    I need some support. I checked on the status of divorce proceedings today. Had to leave a message. I am shaking. It doesn't help that there's a THIRD paralegal change since I...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 9 Responses Aug 25

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    I really want to be out of this marriage in 12 months time! Just scared that I won't have the courage or energy to do it.
    Inspireme1 Inspireme1 46-50, F 10 Responses Aug 18

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    It has been one year tonight since I posted my first story on EP and it was in this forum. I thought I had married my best friend, and as such, I could save my marriage. I didn't...
    katzlaw katzlaw 36-40, F 17 Responses Aug 20

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    (I joined EP just to post this. This feels like a safe place.) I love my wife. She's one of my favorite people and I want to see her career flourish. I love the many little inside...
    romanman88 romanman88 31-35, M 2 Responses Aug 24

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    If I veer an inch from the way my H is used to me acting or being or if I speak my mind without tailoring so as not to get him anxious, he acts like I'm irrational-he totally...
    bluegreenseascape bluegreenseascape 46-50, F 6 Responses Aug 17

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    I found my courage today and after many protestations he's gone to his mom's. I feel excited, relieved, free, scared....
    Momamoo Momamoo 51-55, F 7 Responses Aug 17

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    From what I'm reading here... The consensus is that quitting smoking sucks! There is nothing even mildly amusing right now and more poor kids are lucky the they are getting dressed...
    LovingDDandHoH LovingDDandHoH 36-40, F 8 Responses Aug 20

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    Hmm this week I've been adding stories to the experiences I've chosen since being a member on here. I've been adding each story one at a time.And so far it's been pretty straight...
    Mmmcherries Mmmcherries 46-50, F 1 Response Aug 22

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    I had unprotected sex two days ago I took plan b emergency birth control pills yesterday. He didn't come inside me I'm pretty sure. He pulled out but I'm still scared I thought I...
    misfitoutsider misfitoutsider 13-15, F 10 Responses Aug 22

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    I have always been attracted to older men but I really stepped it up when I was 15. I started dating a man 15 years my senior. He treated me like his daughter and I treated him...
    kittygurl66 kittygurl66 26-30, F 8 Responses Aug 25

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    I am 49 years old I am in the middle of my second failed marriage I have been disabled since I was 38 years old but did manage to hold my head above water until recently I have 3...
    smitttyd smitttyd 46-50, M Aug 29

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    Scared to death to tell my husband I want to separate....
    ReRe71 ReRe71 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 31

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    Trying to get ready to move. I am so overwhelmed. Hoping my husband I am divorcing due to see less and emotionless marriage will stay away. I am in a constant state of gut retching...
    selfcompassion selfcompassion 51-55, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Undecided whether to post this under this group or under the other one "I'm having random thoughts", I believe posted here the discussion shall be more thoughtful and sensitive...
    TheDreamyWoman TheDreamyWoman 36-40, F 8 Responses 2 days ago

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    well my first time was when i was 13 , and i can remember that she was some sort of pedo-phile so i was scared and she pushed me and hurry me to do things her way... basically i...
    alexitolove alexitolove 18-21, M 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Why Did We Get Married? - My STBX continues to struggle with my decision to divorce him, yet my conviction to break free grows stronger everyday since I triggered our divorce...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 18 Responses Aug 17

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    You can cry all day long and pray, but that's not going to move God to work on your situation. He does hear your cry and undertand your needs, but that's not faith and faith is...
    Brandnue Brandnue 31-35, F 4 Responses Aug 18

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    So I guess the question for me is, "How long does it take to turn an SM into a "normal" marriage?," or "How long does it take to recover from an SM, and make it better?" Of course...
    indianoutlaw indianoutlaw 31-35, M 23 Responses Aug 27

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    "For Better or For Worse" I have been thinking about this particular vow. As someone who was brought up from birth in the church, I was always taught that divorce is not optional...
    EmbraceableMe EmbraceableMe 41-45 9 Responses Sep 2

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    When I originally posted in April of 2011, I was living in a sexless marriage. I was confused, heartbroken and angry... What happened in the 3 years following has nearly destroyed...
    malms malms 51-55, F 1 Response Sep 8

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    There are truths behind these funny quotes....To the singles, would you still wanna take the plunge on marriage? ***I never married because there was no need. I have three pets at...
    0nOpalsMind 0nOpalsMind 41-45, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    I've been putting off this update for a while. I cannot do so any longer. It's long and winding, so if you choose to dive in, prepare yourself. Curious things are happening in...
    Catonapillow Catonapillow 31-35, F 21 Responses 1 day ago

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    A couple more signs of marital recovery. I keep telling the betrayed wives who message me, focus on actions, not words. My husband said all the right words when he cheated. But...
    lillynfriends lillynfriends 46-50, F Aug 17

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