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I Am Scared of My Marriage Failing

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    Falling Apart

    I've just read my husbands Facebook. For years he's been flirting and making arrangements to meet women I didn't even know existed. Didn't even know he had Facebook. I've had a feeling things weren't right for about a year now, but he kept telling me I was paranoid. I'm probably...
    Ihateironing2 Ihateironing2 41-45 4 Responses Jan 20, 2012

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    I Can Never Do Or Says Things Right

    To behonest I am the problem in the marriage. I am a negative thinker that is getting out of hand and this is spiraling ino my marriage. I keep causing stress when there shouldn't be any. The problem is I keep thinking we have a money/bill problem when we don't. I just start...
    Forshee Forshee 31-35 1 Response Aug 9, 2012

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    Mine Is Slipping Away

    my husband just left me two weeks ago....not sure if he will come back....he gives me no info other than he is trying to work through some things and that he doesn't know if he can get over the hurt.  i have changed the things he complains about...yet he won't come back to...
    swtz69drmz swtz69drmz 36-40 1 Response Jan 16, 2008

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    Confused

    I had the perfect marriage until my husband found someone else to confide in. At first I was OK with the new found friendship at work.It seemed harmless. Then I started noticing that my husband who hates talking on the phone was always on the phone. He claimed he was just helping...
    messedupbigtime messedupbigtime 21-25, F 1 Response Jan 6, 2008

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    My Marriage Is Failing

    My husband is emotionally abusive. We do not talk about anything. He spends hours in the study watching movies on the computer. He yell at us when he speaks and he spends very little time with the children. I am afraid to leave because of financial reasons. He refuses to get...
    nonamesleft nonamesleft 36-40 2 Responses Nov 1, 2008

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    Hapa/ Kia Kaha- Stay Strong

    I help out the adaptive paddling every third Saturday. In Honolulu, Hi on the Other side of the Island called Lanikai/Kailua Beach Park. We members participate and take children/adults from all over to get some recreation time to paddle. It is fun when ever your in Hawaii come by...
    deliciouse62 deliciouse62 46-50, F Mar 17, 2012

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    I Am Scared of My Marriage Failing...

    ...and I haven't even met my husband yet.
    FiendFyre FiendFyre 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 9, 2007

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    Lost, And So Soon

    I am not sure what to do anymore about my marriage. We've been married 3 months and been together since the day we met almost 2 years ago, I know, not very long. He finally found a job he loves and its overnight, I just lost my job so now its just him making the money. He...
    Jan 18, 2013

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    New Marriage Possible Failure?

    My husband and i just got married and well we are both young and with him levaing for the first 10 months of our marriage i'm not sure it's going to last.
    mommy2be mommy2be 16-18, F 2 Responses Nov 9, 2007

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    Why meet others? A short while ago, someone wrote a story about ILIASM meetups. At the time, Mettamomma asked me what I got out of meeting people from ILIASM IRL that I could get...
    zsuzsilowinger zsuzsilowinger 36-40, F 9 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    Does anyone really leave this group without leaving the marriage? I don't think its possible, interested to hear opinions. Thanks.
    meme111111 meme111111 36-40, M 8 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    I'm keen to hear the other side of the story. What do "refusers" say? Do any of them visit this blog? If my wife said to me, "I really need my back scratched every day, and you...
    DownunderDude DownunderDude 41-45, M 3 Responses 37 mins ago

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    I just read the story on the caretaker from NeedingtoVent (thank you NTV), and it really hit me hard. In my journey I am recognizing my failings to be far greater than I thought...
    Usernametbd Usernametbd 36-40, M 4 Responses a week ago

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    My time has come. Court is tomorrow. Hopefully it is the last court date and I get my divorce. It is bittersweet. I had such hopes. I took my vows seriously. For better or worse...
    pointbreakgirl pointbreakgirl 36-40, F 25 Responses 5 days ago

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    I am scared but now I think I am...
    CharleighBrazil CharleighBrazil 16-17, F 1 Response 8 hrs ago

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    Ive only truely loved 3 guys and each one has broken my heart. Each heart break was leaving me with the urge to kill myself becuase the pain was all too much. Im so scared of being...
    musicismysalvation musicismysalvation 16-17, F 2 hrs ago

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    Only a few of my friends have herd me sing. They all say that im amazing, but I still dont believe it for myself. My dream has always been to be a singer. But my fear of singing...
    musicismysalvation musicismysalvation 16-17, F 2 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    I had a meeting with stbx yesterday. At first I was scaredto go. Scared bbecause I had just sorted through my feelings on why I felt so empty and why I felt like I had wanted to...
    katzlaw katzlaw 36-40, F 11 Responses Mar 23

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    A Discovery of Self....When I first started coming to this website I had a typical everything was okay bar the sex attitude. I still wanted to divorce but I didn't want to hurt my...
    jencpa jencpa 31-35, F 17 Responses Apr 3

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    Before and After … Nearing 8 months after my separation, I reflect on the emotional desert I have called my marriage. During those years, I was starved for a smile or a hug. A...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 11 Responses Apr 6

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    I guess "troubled" is the best way to describe it. I used to think nothing could come between us. My husband's been in and out of part-time, dead-end jobs for ten years. Most...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 5

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    iam totally scared of men with a movie. the name of movie was :hush.girls shouldnt scream.......it was about a girl killed a man.her name was shirin.she killed a man in her...
    roshana93 roshana93 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 14

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    Angelique16 Angelique16 16-17, F 3 Responses Mar 30

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    I am studying in University and in the last 2 years Ive been failing every course at least once even when I feel I have done good work. They always find a mistake in my work, ive...
    javajones41 javajones41 22-25, M 1 Response Apr 10

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    Every time I barely hear the word wedding or marriage I feel sick, disgusted, scared, uncomfortable, annoyed and aggressive. I wish I could know what it is... why does the idea...
    MissGaga MissGaga 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 11

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    My mother passed away peacefully on Monday, March 24, 2014. She had battled long and hard against the ravaging effects of years of smoking cigarettes. The last thing my mother...
    rosieapparition rosieapparition 51-55, F 28 Responses Mar 27

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    My marriage is a complete joke!! We've been together almost 7 years & married for just 10 months. We get on fine as friends, but romantically there is nothing? I feel sooooo stupid...
    MemyselfandI80 MemyselfandI80 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 8

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    Stuff I Used To Think (but don't any more) In regard to sexless marriages, I once used to think that the complainant person - - was probably a hopelessly bad root - wasn't...
    bazzar bazzar 56-60, M 7 Responses Mar 24

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    I'm having to live like this it's not fair ! I want to be loved and desired to. My marriage sucks . Everything is about him or his son I've helped raise . I want out but don't know...
    miszbama38 miszbama38 36-40, F 3 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    So... My dad recently passed away... I can't even think of it, I'm so overcome with grief at the mention of him and it all makes me very sad... We never really lived together...
    Orangerocket Orangerocket 31-35, F 3 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Illusions That Kept Me Trapped in Sexless Marriage If you read my first EP story, you will get the impression that the sexlessness started with the conception of my child 4 years...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 7 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    Make that, that I used to live in a marriage that was becoming a sexless marriage. Today would have been our second anniversary. The story is complicated, but to make it short, she...
    soundtrackforantarctica soundtrackforantarctica 26-30, M 8 Responses Mar 25

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    More progress. Today I dod what I wanted to do. I have a friend in the hospital (the ex). I wanted to go see him, which I would do for any friend, but I know how sensitive everyone...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 28

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    More like a love hate type deal. I love they way they look and their drive to acquire life goals but once I get to know them I find them mean and unaffected rigid and unforgiving...
    just2lovelee just2lovelee 41-45, F Mar 30

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    I should feel worse than I do right now. I spent the shower thinking about running. Getting an abortion and just running from him. I want to be a mom, and I want to be with him...
    amber1y amber1y 22-25, F Apr 1

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    No I don't want a date night with you. No I don't want to come home. No I don't want to renew our phone contract. I want you to go to therapy and get ready for the inevitable...
    texmex82 texmex82 31-35, F 9 Responses Apr 9

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    Around five weeks ago I did it. I fired off my exit plan, worked through the anxiety and fear and depression, told her how unhappy I had been, and I left. That was one of the most...
    RecoveringCaffeineAddict RecoveringCaffeineAddict 31-35, M 12 Responses Apr 10

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    the reasons why i dont want to do anything sexual before marriage : reason number 1 : what if i had sex with my girl friend before marriage , and after few days i met with...
    lifetriangle lifetriangle 22-25, M 7 Responses Apr 15

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    Psychology Today has a couple of recent articles regarding "Does Sexless marriage justify adultery". The articles are reasonable and informed and the comments worthwhile. They...
    hl42 hl42 51-55, M 8 Responses 5 days ago

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    It is so hard to admit but yes, ILIASM. It hasn't been years yet, just months, but heck yeah it's driving me nuts! My younger years had been. .. Colorful, and I'd actually broken...
    TheRascalScribbles TheRascalScribbles 31-35, F 11 Responses 4 days ago

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    The rubble of our marriage I try not to look I try to change my focus to what else gives me happiness my children my friends my home my community I cannot help...
    Bobbie71 Bobbie71 41-45, F 16 Responses Mar 24

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    Two weeks ago, I shared what I thought would be my current status for awhile. Life being what it is - it has thrown me into a crazy roller coaster loop once again. The good news...
    lightblueeyes lightblueeyes 46-50, F 21 Responses Mar 28

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    Thought this was worth a read. Not applicable to all but still interesting. A lack of sexual interest in women is a big topic Fotolia_49866286_XS Peter and Andrea are teachers...
    HusbandOfOne HusbandOfOne 41-45, M 13 Responses Apr 10

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    Normal.... There are many stories on here about after leaving marriages and having normal relationships. Well I haven't left my marriage yet. I have talked to a lawyer and...
    jencpa jencpa 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 11

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    I don't believe in gay marriage. I believe in marriage. And I think that's between any two people that love each other. Man and man. Woman and man. Woman and woman. Or whatever you...
    emilyv97 emilyv97 16-17, F 4 Responses Apr 13

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    I finally lined up both a marriage counselor (to help us sort out whether or not our marriage is toast) and an individual therapist (to help me get my **** together) and now the...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 31 Responses 6 days ago

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    I'm a little bit tired of sexlessness one-up-manship that's been taking place in this forum recently. We haven't had sex in 15 months.... Reply: that's nothing We've had sex...
    elkclan elkclan 41-45, F 22 Responses 1 day ago