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I Am Scared of Relationships

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    I'm finally meeting my best friend.

    . I've known him for two years. He lives in another country.. And now the anxiety is kicking in.. I have two months. I've never been an insecure type.. But I've had recent weight gain because of birth control I had a bad reaction to. Now I'm uncomfortable in my own body, have...
    Bicurious12345 Bicurious12345 18-21, F 6 Responses May 23

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    I'm afraid that he's gonna fall in love with

    saving me rather than for who I am as a whole. I don't want love from pity, but that's how it all feels
    qzmpal24 qzmpal24 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 4

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    I'm scared of relationships

    because I've seen fake ones more than I've seen real ones. Nobody is true anymore. I question if real love even exists. My now ex boyfriend cheated on me two weeks before Christmas and the year before that my other ex broke up with me the day before our 1 year. It's time like...
    Livers95 Livers95 18-21, F 1 Response 21 hrs ago

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    skittles0123 skittles0123 16-17, M 7 Responses Apr 27

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    It's just.. the pain from my previous

    relationship has not recovered yet though it was like.. two years ago since he left me for someone else.
    nojoke08 nojoke08 16-17, F 4 days ago

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    Im afraid of relationships

    because I've been hurt so much in the past but I like that I can talk to this special someone it's nice that we can just talk about anything and everything and have no worries about what we're doing because their are no labels
    psychologyLover08 psychologyLover08 22-25, F 12 Responses Jan 13

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    feelinglost99 feelinglost99 18-21, F 5 Responses Jun 22

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    Very scared of loving again

    for the man I loved is not the man I love !
    eva2far eva2far 41-45, F 3 Responses Feb 21

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    Well iv gone out with 3 guys

    and they have always end up breaking up with me after one week or 3 weeks , the first 2 people i dated was immature crushes like when you were 11 to 13 and the last guy I was with was when I was 16 and he cheated on me with my best pal ( I still forgive her kinda & he was...
    Littlefoxy Littlefoxy 16-17, F Jun 15

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    I am scared if commitment

    and I'm scared to let myself go and do things that are illogical under the name of love.
    ambrosia999 ambrosia999 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 6

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    i am too but next time i will be extra careful.

    i will be open to re-marry but it will take a lot more to convince me.
    steadynow steadynow 51-55, M 1 Response Jun 17

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    I'm 27 years old and I truly don't think I have

    ever been in a true love relationship. I been in what I want to call love but to be in love mean you get love back towards and that u would do absolutely anything for another person... well u have never felt that for another person. As I am getting older it's getting hard to...
    alackeret alackeret 26-30, M 1 Response Jun 17

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    am so scared of relationships,

    i fear a heart break i wanna love but i dont have the strengh in me anymore its all gone am so sad so confused......
    sly15 sly15 22-25, F 5 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    I wasn't very pretty

    when I was about 13-15, and people used to ask me out as a joke all the time. They thought it was hilarious. When people ask me out now, I am terrified that people are just joking to try to get me into a humiliating situation. Even when I'm in relationships, I feel like it...
    NorthernRoseofMay NorthernRoseofMay 16-17, F 4 Responses Jun 14

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    I'm not scared just overly cautious.

    You just never know. That's the scary part. Disney movie relationships exist in Disney movies. In real life things happen in relationships. Things change and people change. Feelings can change as well. Even understanding all of this it somehow gets to me. They say you should use...
    thenyunderdog thenyunderdog 26-30, M 4 Responses May 8

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    i talk a big talk online

    but i just cant do it i alway chicken out. i feel uneasy around new people but i lust for a relationship. what do i do?
    Bitchenwolf Bitchenwolf 18-21, F 6 Responses May 31

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    HMMB HMMB 22-25, F 7 Responses Mar 21

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    It's not that I'm scared of the prospect of

    entering a relationship, it's that I'm scared of being in one and my partner leaving... It takes two people to begin a relationship, but only one person to end one... and that terrifies me...
    briannawolf briannawolf 18-21, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    I am 23 and have never been in a relationship

    or been kissed. Is that weird? I feel so awkward and self conscious about it. But I guess the right person will come along eventually...
    SammyPoo91 SammyPoo91 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 17

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    This vid made my day.

    .. It's time to face it. https://youtu.be/wy3CUIVT2SY
    l1skub4n l1skub4n 26-30, F 4 days ago

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    Find Me Somebody To Love...

    Here's an excerpt from a conversation I was having with a friend. I feel somewhat vulnerable putting this piece up but what the heck, perhaps it will prove to be beneficial to some. I hope it will. I have always known that inorder to be able to give, you must first be happy...
    Scorpio1987 Scorpio1987 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 16, 2012

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    Yep. People would say "it's part of life,

    it's natural" but for people who are scared like me, don't understand. I'm not saying I don't want to love, I don't want to say I'm scared. But I am. It's stopping me from being able to do things. If I was to meet up with a male, I'd automatically start to think about that...
    ThatBritishVirgin ThatBritishVirgin 18-21, F 4 Responses Apr 16

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    you know you're hurt

    when you can feel your heart physically break. awesome.
    allie72465 allie72465 16-17, F 1 day ago

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    I am scared of relatuonshios mostly

    because I'm scared tgat someone depends on me. That arises from my deep rooted fear of losing people. I tend to want to depend and I hurt too much when I lose friends or loves. so, I am a Maverick and tend not to depend loving my independence. it's safer and easier and I dont...
    cambridge14 cambridge14 46-50, M Jun 13

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    Like a wild horse...I had to be broken.

    Now? I know I will survive getting hurt, I will survive nonsense and I will make better choices now that I know better. However all of that being said...I'm not sure I want a relationship anymore and I think it's possible it has nothing to do with fear or damage.
    brumaire brumaire 31-35, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I'm only young, 19, but I am terrified of

    relationships. I have commitment issues. I can find a guy I love and obsess over him but as soon as he gets close to me (like as a friend) or shows interest in me I loose all feelings because I'm scared of commitment and relationships. It sucks so bad, I'm scared I'll never...
    IndianaRoyals IndianaRoyals 18-21, F 8 Responses a week ago

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    ....and that's exactly how it is.

    Breaking off a relationship is never easy, no matter on which end you find yourself. Especially if it was a bad relationship where you suffered a great deal, whether physically or emotionally. I am blessed to say that I have been fortunate enough to not be in a physically...
    JaneD22 JaneD22 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 19

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    Ive never been in one.

    . and from what my friends have been through..it doesnt sound great. It sucks because I know Ill probably go through a breakup..assuming the first person im with most likely wont last. Who usually stays with the first person they are with nowadays?
    jtymez4 jtymez4 26-30, M 4 Responses May 27

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    I’m so afraid of losing something I love

    that I refuse to love anything
    beachbumxx beachbumxx 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 9

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    We are afraid to care too much,

    for fear that the other person does not care at all. - Eleanor Roosevelt That describes how I feel nw.
    esalma98 esalma98 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 20, 2014

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    I'm actually really scared of relationships.

    I've never had a boyfriend and I'm 16, nor have any boys really tried to talk to me. I've never kissed anyone. And if a boy asks me to hang out alone I actually make myself sick with nervousness that I can barely bring myself to do it. I'm terrified at the fact of having sex...
    lr060 lr060 16-17, F 2 Responses Jun 16

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    I want to make the best of every day

    and quality is much more important than quantity in every aspect of my life. When I meet interesting people, I therefore try my absolute best to get to know them and allow them to get to know me. But then there often comes a point that we know each other through and through, we...
    Gentle153 Gentle153 26-30, M 2 Responses Jun 13

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    I am. They honestly ruin everything

    if they don't work out. I had a friend that I care for more than anything, we had this deep connection and he meant the world to me in many ways. He still does. He asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes . We fell in love and for me, it was perfect. He said and did so many...
    EssSmith EssSmith 16-17, F 2 Responses Apr 5

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    i don't ever wanna get into a relationship.

    . ever.. The only girl that I've loved in a world that love doesnt even exist for me.. not from my parents, not from my "friends", none... she was there and she loved me.. only to find out that it was nothing but a ******* LIE!! all that she has told me, all that she made me...
    TheLeftBehind TheLeftBehind 18-21, M 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    For me I just don't want to be with anyone

    right now. I'm bad in relationships. I always mess them up then I lose the guy I'm with.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response 5 days ago

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    In every relationship I've had,

    I've given everything. Literally everything I have to give. And was happy to do it. I can't explain how good it made me feel to be so invested in someone's happiness. It didn't matter their flaws and imperfections. I loved them. And I had a revelation tonight while I was driving...
    Bicurious12345 Bicurious12345 18-21, F 8 Responses May 29

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    My experience is weird ,

    I am in love with both of exes and not able to move on weird but true. Scared of new relationship. After meeting people for couple of times , I withdraw myself. It could be that I dont wanna get hurt no more but I still want to be loved.
    hurtangel hurtangel 26-30, F 9 Responses Dec 22, 2014

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    I've ended my last few relationships

    because I was scared to get attached. Time to be single for awhile until I'm ready, lol.
    goawayyouregross goawayyouregross 16-17, F Jun 14

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    Relationships are truly wonderful.

    When two people are genuinely in love it's truly something. However, when relationships end it sucks. For my experience it was a matter of my partner not being in tune with her feelings and feeling things were rushed. We no longer had anything in common. It didn't feel like that...
    thenyunderdog thenyunderdog 26-30, M 3 Responses Feb 15

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    A boy makes his girl jealous of other women,

    A true gentleman makes other women jealous of his girl.
    Bflyboo14 Bflyboo14 13-15, F 5 Responses Mar 6

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    Too many bad experiences.

    After my last breakup I finally managed to put on a tough exterior. An "I don't give a ****" attitude. And I had almost convinced myself that I'll be okay if I'm alone forever. The truth is, I'm a relationship person and always will be. I crave being loved and appreciated, and I...
    Rosaalie Rosaalie 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 16

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    i am scared of relationship now

    because i just broke up with my 10years relationship because we realized God is calling him. who am i to come in the way, and so i am scared to fall in love again because the wounds in me is still not healing.....
    Yangyang25 Yangyang25 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 14

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    There's a couple reasons of

    why I'm scared of relationships. • my recent significant other passed away almost 2 years ago and I'm absolutely terrified it's going to happen again. I'm afraid I'm going to get attached and fall in love all over again only to have them taken away from me and their family...
    moonchild669 moonchild669 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 16

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    He told me loves me but does otherwise.

    Everyone around me feels so distant. I cant stop my tears and my heart from feeling numb. I feel so so depressed
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses a week ago

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    I want to fall in love one last time

    but because of my past relationships, one of which i lost my partner because of heart disease and the most recent because I really don't know..we were so in love, soul mates, talked about marriage but he's gone..i'm afraid of losing someone again..my heart couldn't take it...
    lostangelcake lostangelcake 51-55, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I am not ashamed to admit it.

    I am scared of relationships.It has been 3 years since break up and it still haunts me. I have trust issues.I am scared to emotionally invest in a new relationship because last one left me drained out, exhausted and heart broken. It's difficult for someone who gives all when in...
    Susana1985 Susana1985 26-30, F 20 Responses May 30, 2014

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