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I Am Scared of Relationships

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    Yet, I Want One Again

    Several years ago, I met, fell in love with and was with the young woman who would be My (now ex) fiance. In late 2008, I was forced to end it following a very long, complicated, and endlessly painful series of events... as they usually seem to be. That said, between that and a...
    aktor1970 aktor1970 41-45, M 1 Response Sep 29, 2012

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    Find Me Somebody To Love...

    Here's an excerpt from a conversation I was having with a friend. I feel somewhat vulnerable putting this piece up but what the heck, perhaps it will prove to be beneficial to some. I hope it will. I have always known that inorder to be able to give, you must first be happy...
    Scorpio1987 Scorpio1987 22-25, M 2 Responses Aug 16, 2012

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    I'm scared to start a relationship.

    I worry they'll use me to just get into my pants, abuse me or make me feel bad. Also what If no one will like me for having flaws or that I don't want to have sex, and that I want to be treated like a lady and not a toy.
    broadwaybabe99 broadwaybabe99 13-15, F 4 Responses Mar 22

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    Please don't judge me

    for this but relationships scare me. Some of you know this.
    totallynotalunatic totallynotalunatic 16-17, M 2 Responses Apr 9

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    I an scared of relationships

    because I've never been in one and I'm afraid in gonna mess it up cause I always mess up everything I'm just a screw up
    Unsellingbook37 Unsellingbook37 13-15, M Jul 1

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    I don't know why, but I am.

    The idea of being in a relationship genuinely scares me.
    Ri95 Ri95 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 20

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    At 15 I have had multiple girl friends.

    I am aware that at 15 they are not supposed to be meaningful. I do believe in to young to love, anyways. Every girl I have ever been sexual with was not my girlfriend. I have also never been with a girl more than one time. The first time I got a ******* I was in 8th grade and...
    Based4ever Based4ever 13-15, M Apr 12

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    Hi, my name is Tiffany.

    I have a strong connection with this experience mainly because it happened this year. I've been in relationships that range from 1month to 10months, but just this year I have begun to feel that in order to having a stable, mature and healthy relationship that the first thing I...
    Tiffersneeze Tiffersneeze 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 30

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    So I'm new too this site hello all names Amanda

    Anways been seeing a guy 2 weeks realy like him and all is meeting his fam to fast right now ?
    manda26 manda26 26-30, F 2 Responses May 2

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    I'm not afraid because I might get hurt.

    I'm afraid that I'll hurt him. I'm afraid that I won;t be ready or that, I'll turn into one of those psycho girlfriends (or my mother) and he'll end up hating me. I'm scared that I am unlovable.
    3milyFaye 3milyFaye 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 23

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    I am scared of being in relationship due to the

    bad experiences of my parents, being able to see how little things can have a big impact in your relationship either bad or good. Just being able to witness what my mom has to go through her relationship, its tough and scary. Its just hard and it gives you that scary feeling .
    acesha16 acesha16 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 25

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    I need help. I cant tell what i really feel

    for this guy, But I miss him and My heart hurts when I think about him. (This might sound crazy and dramatic but it's true, life can surprise us, and nothing is impossible). Well, we met 2 years ago, he said he likes me and we used to talk but, there's a lot of problems. we talk...
    baby9527 baby9527 18-21, F 4 days ago

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    So my boyfriend and I have been fighting alot

    lately. We've been on and off and we have been dating for more than 2 years. His past is what bothers me. He talked to so much girls and flirted with them. I did the same thing when I found out he was doing that. I went myself and started texting and calling every guy just so he...
    Zozolove Zozolove 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 31

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    Yes I Am Scared Of...

    Yes i am scared of relationships, even platonic ones. Due to me being scared i take things at a snails pace and let ALL new ppl who seek relationships with me, that this is my reality. I need a feel of control regarding the pace, as many people have hurt me in the past. I know...
    AlwaysRemembers AlwaysRemembers 41-45, F 1 Response May 27, 2007

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    I Just Cant Do Them

    I can't cope when I'm in a relationship, I like my freedom and I feel suffocated when I'm with someone. I can't trust people, and I can't let them in on my feelings or my weaknesses, so there's always a barrier between me and the person I'm with. The thought of...
    deschanel deschanel 16-17, F 7 Responses Aug 9, 2009

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    I really like this guy,

    he likes me too but I'm afraid he won't like me once he knows about my depression./:
    TheWaySheFeels3 TheWaySheFeels3 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 19

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    More like a love hate type deal.

    I love they way they look and their drive to acquire life goals but once I get to know them I find them mean and unaffected rigid and unforgiving.. . The last two men I have dealt with were both caps. They both told me stories about how they dogged out women. Not understanding...
    just2lovelee just2lovelee 41-45, F Mar 30

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    I'm scared of looking

    for a relationship because I'm scared of rejection. I'm scared of wanting a relationship because I don't think anyone will want one with me. I just feel so bad about myself that I find it hard to imagine any NORMAL guy wanting to be with me.
    josieyup josieyup 22-25, F 16 Responses Mar 24

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    The thing with me is

    that I don't know what I had until I lose it, and every time I'm in a relationship with a girl I get scared that I'm gonna do something to upset her, and then I just stress out about it soo much that I break it off, later realising that I regret it.
    MixedJayy MixedJayy 16-17, F May 30

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    So me and this boy that I have know

    for a little whole just started hang out, we Monday night he had spent the night my friend was hooking up with his friend so they went into the bed room together so me and him were out in the living room alone watching a movie, we were sitting kinda close not to close, I keep...
    sierrann1998 sierrann1998 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 18

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    ggboo ggboo 13-15, F 6 days ago

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    I'm afraid that I'm never going to find love.

    I know I have a long time but I'm just nervous about it and how I will turn out.
    alyssad1016 alyssad1016 13-15, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I am so shy and afraid to talk to anybody

    besides my friends, i want to be able to talk to a guy but I just cant bring myself to it :/
    jessieann0921 jessieann0921 13-15, F 4 Responses Mar 28

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    Did I Say That???

    Love is always patient and kind.. It is never jealous. Love is never boastful or conceited. It is never rude or selfish. It does not take offense and is not resentful. Love takes no pleasure in the sins of others, but delights in the truth. It is always ready to excuse and trust...
    vinonut vinonut 46-50, M 1 Response Dec 4, 2010

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    I've screwed up relationships

    so many times in my life im scared to get close to people not because I feel as tho they will hurt me but because I'm am scared to hurt them
    kenziebear kenziebear 13-15, F 3 Responses Jul 19

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    ggboo ggboo 13-15, F Mar 28

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    Relationships are hard.

    No one ever really talks about that side of things. We watch the movies and everything is beautiful and romantic and fun but that's not how life works out. Relationships are ******* hard. It is hard to stay with someone when things aren't going great.Its hard to fight that voice...
    TheGirlFromJupiter TheGirlFromJupiter 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 12

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    so ive posted my stories about having keloid

    scars on my shoulders and chest...because of having these scars..i have let it hold me back from getting into a relationship...i can talk to girls but i never go further than that because im scared of what they will think when they find out or see these scars...people who dont...
    reaper7021020 reaper7021020 18-21 3 Responses Apr 28

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    It scares me that quite a lot of people in this

    group are adults, I hoped this phase would go by the time I'm 24 Anyway, I'm not really talking about loove although I know I don't want a loove relationship anyway But real friendly relationships with people is something I want but am scared to act upon. So at school I have a...
    lizziegsako lizziegsako 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 18

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    Opening Up To Someone

    I don't want to open myself up to someone and get rejected I hate being rejected it makes me feel worthless and it's only happened to me once.
    Thatgirl1223 Thatgirl1223 13-15, F 1 Response Feb 17, 2013

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    I was in a semi-abusive/ controlling online

    relationship so I'm still a bit scared that I might run into someone irl like him
    kxCobra kxCobra 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 30

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    I Just Been Hurt Too Many Times

    I have grown up seeing bad relationships, both of my parent are divorce and they both got emarried to differant people then they both divorce. My stepmom treated my dad like ****, which is why now he treats women like ****. My mom is always drunk, and is in an abusive...
    The1ginger The1ginger 18-21, F 13 Responses Jan 4, 2013

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    Scared to Open Up

    Sometimes I feel as if my romantic involvements with other people are cursed.  I have dated many people but have only felt genuine connections with a handful; yet for whatever reason, those connections have always fallen apart for reasons outside of my control. Now I...
    Seraph1m Seraph1m 26-30, M 11 Responses Aug 6, 2006

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    I know I am mentally

    and psychologically unstable. I do not know how to give love or show love to someone. I am so used to being alone that I think being with someone will cramp my style.
    peacefullover peacefullover 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 24

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    Guilty

    I recently started dating this sweet guy.. but I'm terrified. I told him I was scared and he said he understood and wouldn't hurt me. that we could take it slow. I feel guilty about being scared and not trusting him. But I can't. Not yet. What if he lied?! Or decide things were...
    oOoAllieoOo oOoAllieoOo 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 18, 2012

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    I know I am mentally

    and psychologically unstable. I do not know how to give love or show love to someone. I am so used to being alone that I think being with someone will cramp my style.
    peacefullover peacefullover 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 24

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    Because I keep running into the wrong ladies

    that only want to use me, and then move on to a wealthier or different man. I have given my whole heart and time to several ladies at different times in my life only to be left standing looking like a loser for what they thought was better.
    wjk1849 wjk1849 46-50, M Mar 29

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    Entering Into A New Relationship...

    is scary because your entering into another persons life... in the beginning your worried if they will like you, except you, want to see you again...  once your in a solid relationship your worried if they will love you forever, be there for you when your in need, hurt you...
    myserendipity myserendipity 41-45, F 5 Responses Sep 8, 2011

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    I am not ashamed to admit it.

    I am scared of relationships.It has been 3 years since break up and it still haunts me. I have trust issues.I am scared to emotionally invest in a new relationship because last one left me drained out, exhausted and heart broken. It's difficult for someone who gives all when in...
    Susana1985 Susana1985 26-30, F 22 Responses May 30

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    Being in a relationship is great,

    but is it worth all the it comes along with? If I keep doubting it, isn't that saying something ?
    Genesisandstuff Genesisandstuff 18-21, F 3 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    TashaBbb TashaBbb 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 9

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    Brief and Bittersweet By

    CytheriaXylia. Those nights when you stay up late, talking about meaningless, dorky things together. When you stare into the other persons eyes with such content, because those eyes are an endless sea of possibility and hope that you wouldn't have otherwise. When you squeeze...
    CytheriaXylia CytheriaXylia 22-25, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    What if I **** it up?

    What if I get hurt? But more importantly what if I hurt them? But that's the risk isn't it? To risk it all and place all your trust in someone you hope keeps your heart safe.
    mfarrell95 mfarrell95 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 16

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    I'm Scared

    If I could explain why I am afraid of relationships.....I could probably try and fix it,,,,but I don't know why. All I know is I met someone recently...we have a lot in common...we seem to click....have good chemistry....and now I'm getting depressed again because I can feel the...
    QueenOfHearts QueenOfHearts 22-25, F 5 Responses Apr 23, 2009

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    I was In a friend relationship,

    and it ended. It felt fine with that friend, but I just couldn't handle that friendship. The friendship I just had I didn't know how I felt towards my friend. Made me laugh a lot, but then I go all wrong. I think I need to take a break making friends to just get to understand...
    Meyrinfields Meyrinfields 16-17, F Mar 2

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    Okay I usually don't do relationships

    because I fear the end. Yes I see that most of the time teenage relationships ending is an inevitable outcome. I have only been in one and I am in my second ever. My first was so awful, he was 19 I was 16 it lasted 6 months and I was cheated on the whole time I later found out...
    rubymf04 rubymf04 16-17, F 3 Responses May 30

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    Scared Of Relationships? Or Sick Of The Perpetual Heartbreak, Lies, Pain, Manipulation, And B.S.?

    Well where to begin? ever since I came out of the closet, and started dating my life has been nothing but, sadness, deceipt, and regret, even though I shouldn't really close myself up to love, I have gotten to the point where I realized it's just not worth it anymore, sure I...
    Alan132 Alan132 22-25, M 2 Responses Sep 16, 2011

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    Zozolove Zozolove 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 16

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    Ohhh Nooo! D:

    A table for two? Sharing each other's food?! Mimicking the traits of another person?!! DATE NIGHT?!!! TWO FAMILIES...?!!!!!! Ahhhhh!! D:Oh, it was just a bad dream... just a bad dream... *wipes forehead while breathing heavily*.Phew. :o
    OblitusAuri OblitusAuri 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 11, 2012

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    Dear all I say- the most certain thing in this

    world is the uncertainty of relationships. I often wonder if there is a single relationship that does not come with any sorts of expectation, expectations that can be wrong or unwanted. Some will say a relationship between a mother and a child is above any petite need. So listen...
    saeed78 saeed78 31-35, M Mar 26

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    I've never been in a relationship

    and it terrifies me that one day I will possibly be in one. When I feel like that person likes me I get mean so they will stop liking me. I totally shut people out who actually care about me that way. Anyone who relates or can help I would love to talk.
    Lanachristine Lanachristine 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 13

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    it's 9:42 pm already and i'm trying to get

    some sleep.. but i can't i think of him.. there's no more us anymore because i can't take it anymore the guilt i have now for acting immatured because i know he would always understand.. for always hurting him because i couldn't handle my insecurities.. how stupid am i? he who...
    shenghuidai shenghuidai 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 18

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    I just can't deal with a relationships anymore.

    I just don't want to be in a relationship any time soon if every...I rather deal with the pain of being lonely than the of pain being used and then dumped....Relationships are too complicated for me. I figure I'll just have a sex buddy. I'm done giving my heart to someone just...
    just2lovelee just2lovelee 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 22

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