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I Am Scared of Relationships

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    am so scared of relationships,

    i fear a heart break i wanna love but i dont have the strengh in me anymore its all gone am so sad so confused......
    sly15 sly15 22-25, F 5 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    libby3soesbe libby3soesbe 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 26

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    Im afraid of relationships

    because I've been hurt so much in the past but I like that I can talk to this special someone it's nice that we can just talk about anything and everything and have no worries about what we're doing because their are no labels
    psychologyLover08 psychologyLover08 22-25, F 12 Responses Jan 13

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    I'm afraid that I'm never going to find love.

    I know I have a long time but I'm just nervous about it and how I will turn out.
    alyssad1016 alyssad1016 13-15, F Jul 21, 2014

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    Relationships are hard.

    No one ever really talks about that side of things. We watch the movies and everything is beautiful and romantic and fun but that's not how life works out. Relationships are ******* hard. It is hard to stay with someone when things aren't going great.Its hard to fight that voice...
    TheGirlFromJupiter TheGirlFromJupiter 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 12, 2014

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    I Just Cant Do Them

    I can't cope when I'm in a relationship, I like my freedom and I feel suffocated when I'm with someone. I can't trust people, and I can't let them in on my feelings or my weaknesses, so there's always a barrier between me and the person I'm with. The thought of...
    deschanel deschanel 16-17, F 7 Responses Aug 9, 2009

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    I've been in 3 relationships

    and they all have cheated on me. If it happened before it will happen again
    annirawrmuffin annirawrmuffin 18-21, F 7 Responses Feb 22

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    I'm not just scared of romantic relationships,

    I'm also afraid of friendships that require any commitment at all. I seem to be pushing everyone away, but I don't know if that's what I truly want. Do I really want to be lonely rather than always being a part of a group? Or am I just afraid?
    chamise chamise 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 30

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    I'm terrified of relationships (mainly bc I

    don't know what to do in them) but asking a guy to come over like that's really putting myself out there! And I'm always afraid of rejection! When someone asks me out though like my heart starts racing and I feel so sick to where I have to come up with an excuse to say no! I don...
    AvaDay AvaDay 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 24

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    Ever since my dad died.

    I just strongly hate my mothers new husband I hear him ranting and raging about how I'm a "stupid" "stubborn" child that I don't kiss his *** everyday. That I don't praise him. He's so self centered he wants everyone To love him. but I really don't like him my mom gets mad cause...
    kristinebabee2133 kristinebabee2133 16-17, F Feb 15

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    After my last one ...

    I can not even bear the thought of falling in love As soon as someone lovely comes along or someone i could potentially be with my stomach aches from the fearful thoughts that i could get attached, so i pull away. Instead of me loosing someone, i run away . I dont want to be...
    generationlover generationlover 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 3, 2014

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    Guilty

    I recently started dating this sweet guy.. but I'm terrified. I told him I was scared and he said he understood and wouldn't hurt me. that we could take it slow. I feel guilty about being scared and not trusting him. But I can't. Not yet. What if he lied?! Or decide things were...
    oOoAllieoOo oOoAllieoOo 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 18, 2012

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    I guess I'm scared of relationships

    because I'm tired of getting hurt and no matter how much I care for a person I'm the one with a knife stuck in my heart. I'm not going to get in another relationship unless I know for sure that it's real even tho I might still not know so for now I'm just single
    itslala840 itslala840 18-21, F 3 Responses Feb 7

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    Maybe scared is the worng word.

    .but there again maybe it's closer to the truth than I am willing to admit..Friendships are easy..so is dating..but to let anyone closer...It's just not happening for me. Everyone tells me to let someone in, but I keep feeling that the connection is missing..I find myself...
    silvera73 silvera73 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 2

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    Ohhh Nooo! D:

    A table for two? Sharing each other's food?! Mimicking the traits of another person?!! DATE NIGHT?!!! TWO FAMILIES...?!!!!!! Ahhhhh!! D:Oh, it was just a bad dream... just a bad dream... *wipes forehead while breathing heavily*.Phew. :o
    OblitusAuri OblitusAuri 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 11, 2012

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    I Just Been Hurt Too Many Times

    I have grown up seeing bad relationships, both of my parent are divorce and they both got emarried to differant people then they both divorce. My stepmom treated my dad like ****, which is why now he treats women like ****. My mom is always drunk, and is in an abusive...
    The1ginger The1ginger 18-21, F 12 Responses Jan 4, 2013

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    Relationships are truly wonderful.

    When two people are genuinely in love it's truly something. However, when relationships end it sucks. For my experience it was a matter of my partner not being in tune with her feelings and feeling things were rushed. We no longer had anything in common. It didn't feel like that...
    thenyunderdog thenyunderdog 26-30, M 3 Responses Feb 15

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    I'm terrified of relationships.

    In fact, after my last one, I retreated into my own little cave for two years to hide from the possibility of finding someone else. I recently just found someone who is as cynical about relationships as I am but makes me feel like the benefits of risking getting close to them...
    Joeyschnepel Joeyschnepel 22-25, M 2 Responses Feb 12

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    I have separation anxiety.

    If I get attached, I try to push away and I don't want to get close to people
    azurai azurai 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 22

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    To much afraid to be hurt again is better be

    alone for me. I cant love anymore
    MilenaLena MilenaLena 22-25, F 5 Responses Feb 18

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    I’m so afraid of losing something I love

    that I refuse to love anything
    beachbumxx beachbumxx 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 9

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    When you love someone they become a part of you.

    Maybe thats why it hurts so much when you lose someone you love.
    ramzanmalik ramzanmalik 22-25, M 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    So recently my boyfriend

    and I broke up. We have been together since November. I mean we have talked since July and both had feelings for each other. This kid knows everything about me. From the time I was adopted to basically my abusive childhood and all of my secrets. We have gotten very close to one...
    llliiiv1 llliiiv1 16-17, F 3 Responses Feb 18

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    Find Me Somebody To Love...

    Here's an excerpt from a conversation I was having with a friend. I feel somewhat vulnerable putting this piece up but what the heck, perhaps it will prove to be beneficial to some. I hope it will. I have always known that inorder to be able to give, you must first be happy...
    Scorpio1987 Scorpio1987 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 16, 2012

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    Too many bad experiences.

    After my last breakup I finally managed to put on a tough exterior. An "I don't give a ****" attitude. And I had almost convinced myself that I'll be okay if I'm alone forever. The truth is, I'm a relationship person and always will be. I crave being loved and appreciated, and I...
    Rosaalie Rosaalie 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 16

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    I'm afraid to love someone more

    than myself. I'm afraid of being consumed with another person. I'm afraid of losing sight of who I am and what I want. Maybe this is why I can't stay in a relationship longer than a few months.
    rocky39580 rocky39580 18-21, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    i like this guy,and we talk to each other

    everyday.. i always give him hints that i like him and sometimes he says somethings that make me think that he likes me as well,always says that he's coming to my house to kiss me. but everytime i ask him out he always says ''okay'' or ''i have to talk to my mom'' or ''i dont...
    keepthefaith1003 keepthefaith1003 13-15, F Jan 25

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    We are afraid to care too much,

    for fear that the other person does not care at all. - Eleanor Roosevelt That describes how I feel nw.
    esalma98 esalma98 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 20, 2014

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    For me I have a lot of friends

    who are guys and I get too familiar with any guy easily. Most at times I crush on them but I never make it obvious because I feel I'm not a material for relationships at the moment. Perhaps, I feel I know nothing about such but I wish to experience it at the same time I'm afraid...
    hetty96 hetty96 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 13

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    ggboo ggboo 16-17, F Mar 28, 2014

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    I'm scared of relationships

    but there's just something about this boy that really catches my eye but he doesn't feel the same
    beachbumxx beachbumxx 18-21, F Feb 9

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    Zozolove Zozolove 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 16, 2014

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    You know that spark which people say happens

    when they meat that special someone? And if that spark does not happen instantly it will happen eventually, it just takes time sometimes? Well I was seeing someone, and we started off as friends, I really liked this person, we clicked in mostly every way. Although I didn't get...
    ashder ashder 18-21, M 2 Responses Feb 19

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    Mainly because I end up getting in long term

    committed, monogamous relationships with the wrong people and for too long because I have an innate desire to partner up!!! Either that or I'm single for a long time. Annoying.
    shantel25 shantel25 31-35, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    Society has long become more open to the idea

    of older man - younger woman relationship and older woman - younger man relationship as well. Hollywood has brought in the practice of successful older men looking for younger women. With actresses such as Catherine Zeta Jones marrying Michael Douglas with an age gap of 25 years...
    sarahcc11 sarahcc11 26-30, F Jan 26

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    Growing up, I had little faith

    that romance was a real thing. As a kid, I always felt that love was just the thing of fairy tales; stories to tell children so they wouldn't quite yet realize how ugly the world really is. I don't believe in 'love at first sight' or 'love conquers all'. To me, love is this...
    mrkagesama mrkagesama 22-25 1 Response Feb 7

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    I'm terrified of monogamy.

    I have no problem being faithful and loyal. It's the idea of giving you're all to somebody and never fully knowing their true intentions is terrifying.
    OhItsHimAgain OhItsHimAgain 18-21, M 3 Responses Jan 6

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    I am afraid of relationships I don't know why

    or how to get around it, when I think about being in one I don't know how to act and that I might screw it up. just anything negative gets to me, I want one though to have someone I can be with give myself wholeheartedly and know that they wouldn't step on me and make me feel...
    SeriousSquirrel SeriousSquirrel 22-25, M 3 Responses Feb 11

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    Just realized that I do tend to have an

    attitude. I've always known I had it but I wasn't mature enough to understand how it affects my relationships. I'm beyond stubborn. If it's not my way I don't care for it. I don't want to be bothered at all unless it's on my own time. The killing part is that I only do this with...
    SheIsHealing SheIsHealing 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 31, 2014

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    My ex is afraid of relationships

    and being in love. He didn’t specifically tell me this when he broke up with me recently, but I know it’s true. I’m not sure if he ever loved me(because he’s never said the words), but it breaks my heart that he’s throwing away a good relationship out of fear. I think...
    RatsieRizzo RatsieRizzo 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 22

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    I am afraid of relationships.

    So much so I have learned that it prevents me from having relationships. Even if I have met someone and we are planning to do something, I'll cancel it and eject that person from my life. It comes down to experience and from what I have experienced from other people over the...
    VarianWrynn VarianWrynn 46-50, M 3 Responses Nov 26, 2014

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    Although I am lonely

    and crave love, I am scared of a relationship. I grew up in an extremely dysfunctional abusive family and was the scapegoat. I literally never saw my parents kiss hug or say I love you to each other but there was always yelling and domestic violence. My mom and grandma are...
    lonelygurl92 lonelygurl92 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 19

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    I want a real girlfriend

    that won't cheat
    igjayse igjayse 18-21, M 3 Responses Feb 8

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    somuah somuah 22-25, M 3 Responses Feb 22

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    i am scared if when i get in a relationship

    with the boy i like he will get bored of me or we will have so much troubles but nothin is stronger than love
    cupidisinlove cupidisinlove 13-15, F 2 Responses Feb 4

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    I am not ashamed to admit it.

    I am scared of relationships.It has been 3 years since break up and it still haunts me. I have trust issues.I am scared to emotionally invest in a new relationship because last one left me drained out, exhausted and heart broken. It's difficult for someone who gives all when in...
    Susana1985 Susana1985 26-30, F 21 Responses May 30, 2014

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