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I Am Scared of Relationships

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    It's difficult to trust people these days.

    I won't complain about all the personal reasons why I've lost the ability to trust, but it seems we all have our reasons for not trusting. The way this world is built almost makes it impossible to keep any. Everyone lies. Everyone deceives.
    friendlyneighborhoodotaku friendlyneighborhoodotaku 22-25, M 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    Are you considered a robot

    if you stay in a relationship only out of duty and responsibilities?
    stera20 stera20 46-50, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I'm just scared of commitment.

    Or it's more of a dislike rather then being scared of it. I can't date to long because then I feel trapped. People normally want to have a family later on in life but I want no part in that. I want to be able to travel and risk my life doing things I enjoy without having to...
    MomoHekate MomoHekate 18-21, F 3 Responses May 6

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    I have to admit, at the thought of one it does

    scare me. Not for the fact that I'm afraid of being with someone, it's just what comes with a commitment. I'm at a stage where I am going through work promotions and I am now going through my latest and last for a while I think , depending on how this year goes. So I'm moving...
    Traveller96 Traveller96 18-21, F 3 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    Guilty

    I recently started dating this sweet guy.. but I'm terrified. I told him I was scared and he said he understood and wouldn't hurt me. that we could take it slow. I feel guilty about being scared and not trusting him. But I can't. Not yet. What if he lied?! Or decide things were...
    oOoAllieoOo oOoAllieoOo 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 18, 2012

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    I'm not scared of wanting to be in one

    but I don't want the other person to get tired after dating for a while. My guy friend is always dating someone new after like two months and it creeps me out. I don't want to get dumped because my mate wants to start off fresh again.
    imasweetheart imasweetheart 13-15, F 2 Responses May 4

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    Just the thought of being In a relationship

    gives me a panic attack. Yes I do want to be in a committed relationship in the long run but what frightens me is getting into a relationship in the first place. Not knowing what to really expect and how things will unfold in the long run. All my life I have been a loner expect...
    NiteOwlet NiteOwlet 22-25, F 4 Responses May 9

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    I wish i wasn't scared to love

    and would chose the right guys that can love me. I always chose the wrong ones because I know that I won't fall be attached and I can run away quickly. I make it so I can run for the exit and he most likely won't run after me. When guys are capable to love I run the opposite...
    bettybloops bettybloops 22-25, F 15 Responses Apr 16

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    Not /scared/ per se, more just.

    .. Harsh dislike. Hard to describe. I have this problem where every time someone tells me they like me, I immediately dislike them. I could be as close to head-over-arse as I could possibly be at my age and it's still like flipping a switch. Almost immediately everything they do...
    LittleWolf21 LittleWolf21 18-21, F 3 Responses May 8

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    got engaged in January,

    with the wedding set to come up in December. We dated for about 2 years prior to this, and it has been a long distance relationship. I have noticed my fiancée keeps female friends whom I do not know about. He calls them equally as much as he calls me. I also noticed that...
    PoLoLis PoLoLis 26-30, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    I am. They honestly ruin everything

    if they don't work out. I had a friend that I care for more than anything, we had this deep connection and he meant the world to me in many ways. He still does. He asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes . We fell in love and for me, it was perfect. He said and did so many...
    EssSmith EssSmith 16-17, F 3 Responses Apr 5

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    damein damein 22-25, F 4 Responses May 13

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    am so scared of relationships,

    i fear a heart break i wanna love but i dont have the strengh in me anymore its all gone am so sad so confused......
    sly15 sly15 22-25, F 5 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    chanty8011 chanty8011 16-17, F May 6

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    Coz once u had experience how to love

    and get a heartbroken ull be scared that it might happen again
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses May 10

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    I guess it comes from having social anxiety.

    I can be friends with someone but if I'm talking to someone I like and I'm given the chance to date them I would turn it down cause I feel like being in a relationship would be a lot of pressure for me. I don't want to have to talk to someone everyday. I don't even talk to my...
    LiveOnYourRadio LiveOnYourRadio 13-15, F Apr 26

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    I’m so afraid of losing something I love

    that I refuse to love anything
    beachbumxx beachbumxx 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 9

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    I know this may sound silly to some people,

    but the reason why I'm single and have always been is because I'm scared that if I get into a relationship with a nice guy, he'll do a 180 and start to abuse me, and I'd be too weak and scared to leave. I never want to go through an abusive relationship, physically, mentally...
    badazzbasicbich badazzbasicbich 18-21, F 5 Responses 6 days ago

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    Although I am lonely

    and crave love, I am scared of a relationship. I grew up in an extremely dysfunctional abusive family and was the scapegoat. I literally never saw my parents kiss hug or say I love you to each other but there was always yelling and domestic violence. My mom and grandma are...
    lonelygurl92 lonelygurl92 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 19

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    Im afraid of relationships

    because I've been hurt so much in the past but I like that I can talk to this special someone it's nice that we can just talk about anything and everything and have no worries about what we're doing because their are no labels
    psychologyLover08 psychologyLover08 22-25, F 12 Responses Jan 13

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    mkdpk mkdpk 41-45, M 4 Responses May 12

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    I Just Been Hurt Too Many Times

    I have grown up seeing bad relationships, both of my parent are divorce and they both got emarried to differant people then they both divorce. My stepmom treated my dad like ****, which is why now he treats women like ****. My mom is always drunk, and is in an abusive...
    The1ginger The1ginger 18-21, F 12 Responses Jan 4, 2013

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    We are afraid to care too much,

    for fear that the other person does not care at all. - Eleanor Roosevelt That describes how I feel nw.
    esalma98 esalma98 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 20, 2014

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    com yes. and i wrote it in my blog. please leave a comment.
    energymustmove energymustmove 18-21, F Apr 24

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    I think I'm not ready

    for a relationship, don't know if I will ever be. Most of the times it's the guy that doesn't love me back, or I don't love him that much. I can't help it. I had a bf years ago, I think we loved each other, but we could not make things work. I gave up and walked away, it was...
    Blackberries Blackberries 26-30, F 3 Responses May 14

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    the fact that the only person I have added to

    my circle is the EP staff, so far should tell you enough. I don't mean to laugh, though. I tend to build this imaginary perimeter around me, I understand it's to protect me, but I also realize it keeps everyone out.
    snoopymg snoopymg 36-40, F 3 Responses Apr 22

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    Too many bad experiences.

    After my last breakup I finally managed to put on a tough exterior. An "I don't give a ****" attitude. And I had almost convinced myself that I'll be okay if I'm alone forever. The truth is, I'm a relationship person and always will be. I crave being loved and appreciated, and I...
    Rosaalie Rosaalie 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 16

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    When I look back at my life,

    my friends, my family, the world in general, it is undeniable that everything and everyone changes over time. Therefore I feel unable to promise to do anything for the rest of my life. I am willing to promise someone to do my best to adapt to changes and fight to make a...
    Gentle153 Gentle153 26-30, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I am scared if commitment

    and I'm scared to let myself go and do things that are illogical under the name of love.
    ambrosia999 ambrosia999 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 6

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    Maybe scared is the worng word.

    .but there again maybe it's closer to the truth than I am willing to admit..Friendships are easy..so is dating..but to let anyone closer...It's just not happening for me. Everyone tells me to let someone in, but I keep feeling that the connection is missing..I find myself...
    silvera73 silvera73 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 2

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    The hardest, most difficult part is literally

    seeing them leave. All that you have, every belonging is smeared with their memories and there is nothing but hopelessness in your home.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses May 11

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    It's still fresh in my memory

    when I was a kid, I could imagine living all by myself when I grow up rather than having a family on my own or having a child without a husband. Long ago I cannot understand why people get involved in relationships then get married. I wasn't exposed with men either that I swore...
    Sunset27 Sunset27 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 29

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    Every person in this world other

    than my current husband has hurt me when I got close to them. My family my friends and coworkers.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses May 2

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    skittles0123 skittles0123 16-17, M 7 Responses Apr 27

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    I really really want a close successful

    relationship but I am so scared of also losing that person and I am just also scared of getting close in general. I am tired of getting hurt.
    FFPower FFPower 22-25, M 2 Responses May 14

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    Relationships are truly wonderful.

    When two people are genuinely in love it's truly something. However, when relationships end it sucks. For my experience it was a matter of my partner not being in tune with her feelings and feeling things were rushed. We no longer had anything in common. It didn't feel like that...
    thenyunderdog thenyunderdog 26-30, M 3 Responses Feb 15

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    I'm finally meeting my best friend.

    . I've known him for two years. He lives in another country.. And now the anxiety is kicking in.. I have two months. I've never been an insecure type.. But I've had recent weight gain because of birth control I had a bad reaction to. Now I'm uncomfortable in my own body, have...
    Bicurious12345 Bicurious12345 18-21, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    I'm scared of them now

    because someone I really liked faked the whole relationship
    relapsing14 relapsing14 16-17, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    I guess this is normal

    since I'm scared of everything...
    GEMWASHERE GEMWASHERE 13-15, F May 8

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    I am not ashamed to admit it.

    I am scared of relationships.It has been 3 years since break up and it still haunts me. I have trust issues.I am scared to emotionally invest in a new relationship because last one left me drained out, exhausted and heart broken. It's difficult for someone who gives all when in...
    Susana1985 Susana1985 26-30, F 20 Responses May 30, 2014

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    Mainly because I end up getting in long term

    committed, monogamous relationships with the wrong people and for too long because I have an innate desire to partner up!!! Either that or I'm single for a long time. Annoying.
    shantel25 shantel25 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 1

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    I have separation anxiety.

    If I get attached, I try to push away and I don't want to get close to people
    azurai azurai 18-21, F 3 Responses Feb 22

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    Find Me Somebody To Love...

    Here's an excerpt from a conversation I was having with a friend. I feel somewhat vulnerable putting this piece up but what the heck, perhaps it will prove to be beneficial to some. I hope it will. I have always known that inorder to be able to give, you must first be happy...
    Scorpio1987 Scorpio1987 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 16, 2012

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    I'm afraid that I'm never going to find love.

    I know I have a long time but I'm just nervous about it and how I will turn out.
    alyssad1016 alyssad1016 13-15, F Jul 21, 2014

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    My experience is weird ,

    I am in love with both of exes and not able to move on weird but true. Scared of new relationship. After meeting people for couple of times , I withdraw myself. It could be that I dont wanna get hurt no more but I still want to be loved.
    hurtangel hurtangel 26-30, F 9 Responses Dec 22, 2014

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    idk if I'm meant to be with the person I love.

    it's so hard at times I wish I knew I didn't have to feel this way
    callmeAshh callmeAshh 26-30, F 2 Responses May 1

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