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I Am Scared of Relationships

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    you know you're hurt

    when you can feel your heart physically break. awesome.
    allie72465 allie72465 16-17, F 5 days ago

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    My fiance left me for someone else.

    how do u recover from that?
    QuanMarquis QuanMarquis 22-25, M 5 Responses Jun 24

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    I'm scared of relationships

    because I've seen fake ones more than I've seen real ones. Nobody is true anymore. I question if real love even exists. My now ex boyfriend cheated on me two weeks before Christmas and the year before that my other ex broke up with me the day before our 1 year. It's time like...
    Livers95 Livers95 18-21, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    feelinglost99 feelinglost99 18-21, F 5 Responses Jun 22

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    He told me loves me but does otherwise.

    Everyone around me feels so distant. I cant stop my tears and my heart from feeling numb. I feel so so depressed
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Jun 23

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    Relationships are truly wonderful.

    When two people are genuinely in love it's truly something. However, when relationships end it sucks. For my experience it was a matter of my partner not being in tune with her feelings and feeling things were rushed. We no longer had anything in common. It didn't feel like that...
    thenyunderdog thenyunderdog 26-30, M 3 Responses Feb 15

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    skittles0123 skittles0123 16-17, M 7 Responses Apr 27

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    I wasn't very pretty

    when I was about 13-15, and people used to ask me out as a joke all the time. They thought it was hilarious. When people ask me out now, I am terrified that people are just joking to try to get me into a humiliating situation. Even when I'm in relationships, I feel like it...
    NorthernRoseofMay NorthernRoseofMay 16-17, F 3 Responses Jun 14

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    It's not that I'm scared of the prospect of

    entering a relationship, it's that I'm scared of being in one and my partner leaving... It takes two people to begin a relationship, but only one person to end one... and that terrifies me...
    briannawolf briannawolf 18-21, F 4 Responses Jun 26

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    i am too but next time i will be extra careful.

    i will be open to re-marry but it will take a lot more to convince me.
    steadynow steadynow 51-55, M 1 Response Jun 17

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    My experience is weird ,

    I am in love with both of exes and not able to move on weird but true. Scared of new relationship. After meeting people for couple of times , I withdraw myself. It could be that I dont wanna get hurt no more but I still want to be loved.
    hurtangel hurtangel 26-30, F 9 Responses Dec 22, 2014

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    There's a couple reasons of

    why I'm scared of relationships. • my recent significant other passed away almost 2 years ago and I'm absolutely terrified it's going to happen again. I'm afraid I'm going to get attached and fall in love all over again only to have them taken away from me and their family...
    moonchild669 moonchild669 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 16

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    I’m so afraid of losing something I love

    that I refuse to love anything
    beachbumxx beachbumxx 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 9

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    I have a confession right here in my story on

    my profile. He drew me close and held me in his arms today, declared his love for me, and told me that he wants to be with only me, and does not want to live without me...
    1OfPureClass 1OfPureClass 70+, F 8 Responses Jun 18

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    Like a wild horse...I had to be broken.

    Now? I know I will survive getting hurt, I will survive nonsense and I will make better choices now that I know better. However all of that being said...I'm not sure I want a relationship anymore and I think it's possible it has nothing to do with fear or damage.
    brumaire brumaire 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 25

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    Yes, my guard is up and shouldn't it be.

    It is hard to keep trust only to get hurt. It is hard to open up yourself to someone only for them to use that information to manipulate you and destroy you. It is hard to be lied to when you are blindly thinking that your partner has your back. It is hard to spend all of you to...
    ranabp ranabp 41-45 3 Responses May 26

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    I don't wanna be alone forever.

    But I am terrified that I'll get hurt. How do I get over this fear?
    sims14fan sims14fan 31-35, F 4 Responses Jun 24

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    i am scared of relationship now

    because i just broke up with my 10years relationship because we realized God is calling him. who am i to come in the way, and so i am scared to fall in love again because the wounds in me is still not healing.....
    Yangyang25 Yangyang25 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 14

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    This vid made my day.

    .. It's time to face it. https://youtu.be/wy3CUIVT2SY
    l1skub4n l1skub4n 26-30, F Jun 26

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    In every relationship I've had,

    I've given everything. Literally everything I have to give. And was happy to do it. I can't explain how good it made me feel to be so invested in someone's happiness. It didn't matter their flaws and imperfections. I loved them. And I had a revelation tonight while I was driving...
    Bicurious12345 Bicurious12345 18-21, F 8 Responses May 29

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    i talk a big talk online

    but i just cant do it i alway chicken out. i feel uneasy around new people but i lust for a relationship. what do i do?
    Bitchenwolf Bitchenwolf 18-21, F 6 Responses May 31

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    3 ex's purposely skipped their birth control,

    caught them, one convinced me for a week it was the right thing to do, couple have cheated on me, one tried to kill me.
    Kdjame02 Kdjame02 26-30, M Jun 13

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    I want to fall in love one last time

    but because of my past relationships, one of which i lost my partner because of heart disease and the most recent because I really don't know..we were so in love, soul mates, talked about marriage but he's gone..i'm afraid of losing someone again..my heart couldn't take it...
    lostangelcake lostangelcake 51-55, F 1 Response Jun 23

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    Im afraid of relationships

    because I've been hurt so much in the past but I like that I can talk to this special someone it's nice that we can just talk about anything and everything and have no worries about what we're doing because their are no labels
    psychologyLover08 psychologyLover08 22-25, F 12 Responses Jan 13

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    I am. They honestly ruin everything

    if they don't work out. I had a friend that I care for more than anything, we had this deep connection and he meant the world to me in many ways. He still does. He asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes . We fell in love and for me, it was perfect. He said and did so many...
    EssSmith EssSmith 16-17, F 2 Responses Apr 5

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    I am not ashamed to admit it.

    I am scared of relationships.It has been 3 years since break up and it still haunts me. I have trust issues.I am scared to emotionally invest in a new relationship because last one left me drained out, exhausted and heart broken. It's difficult for someone who gives all when in...
    Susana1985 Susana1985 26-30, F 20 Responses May 30, 2014

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    I'm finally meeting my best friend.

    . I've known him for two years. He lives in another country.. And now the anxiety is kicking in.. I have two months. I've never been an insecure type.. But I've had recent weight gain because of birth control I had a bad reaction to. Now I'm uncomfortable in my own body, have...
    Bicurious12345 Bicurious12345 18-21, F 6 Responses May 23

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    Find Me Somebody To Love...

    Here's an excerpt from a conversation I was having with a friend. I feel somewhat vulnerable putting this piece up but what the heck, perhaps it will prove to be beneficial to some. I hope it will. I have always known that inorder to be able to give, you must first be happy...
    Scorpio1987 Scorpio1987 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 16, 2012

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    I'm not scared just overly cautious.

    You just never know. That's the scary part. Disney movie relationships exist in Disney movies. In real life things happen in relationships. Things change and people change. Feelings can change as well. Even understanding all of this it somehow gets to me. They say you should use...
    thenyunderdog thenyunderdog 26-30, M 4 Responses May 8

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    Yep. People would say "it's part of life,

    it's natural" but for people who are scared like me, don't understand. I'm not saying I don't want to love, I don't want to say I'm scared. But I am. It's stopping me from being able to do things. If I was to meet up with a male, I'd automatically start to think about that...
    ThatBritishVirgin ThatBritishVirgin 18-21, F 4 Responses Apr 16

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    ....and that's exactly how it is.

    Breaking off a relationship is never easy, no matter on which end you find yourself. Especially if it was a bad relationship where you suffered a great deal, whether physically or emotionally. I am blessed to say that I have been fortunate enough to not be in a physically...
    JaneD22 JaneD22 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 19

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    I'm afraid that he's gonna fall in love with

    saving me rather than for who I am as a whole. I don't want love from pity, but that's how it all feels
    qzmpal24 qzmpal24 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 4

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    For me I just don't want to be with anyone

    right now. I'm bad in relationships. I always mess them up then I lose the guy I'm with.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 25

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    I've never fallen in love.

    I'm scared that I might be heartless.
    gorgeouswit gorgeouswit 26-30, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I've ended my last few relationships

    because I was scared to get attached. Time to be single for awhile until I'm ready, lol.
    goawayyouregross goawayyouregross 16-17, F Jun 14

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    i don't ever wanna get into a relationship.

    . ever.. The only girl that I've loved in a world that love doesnt even exist for me.. not from my parents, not from my "friends", none... she was there and she loved me.. only to find out that it was nothing but a ******* LIE!! all that she has told me, all that she made me...
    Sublevarse Sublevarse 18-21, M 5 Responses Jun 26

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    am so scared of relationships,

    i fear a heart break i wanna love but i dont have the strengh in me anymore its all gone am so sad so confused......
    sly15 sly15 22-25, F 5 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    came like a friend, backstabbing

    for some petty money
    kacrut kacrut 22-25, M 1 day ago

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    I wish i wasn't scared to love

    and would chose the right guys that can love me. I always chose the wrong ones because I know that I won't fall be attached and I can run away quickly. I make it so I can run for the exit and he most likely won't run after me. When guys are capable to love I run the opposite...
    bettybloops bettybloops 22-25, F 14 Responses Apr 16

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    I'm 27 years old and I truly don't think I have

    ever been in a true love relationship. I been in what I want to call love but to be in love mean you get love back towards and that u would do absolutely anything for another person... well u have never felt that for another person. As I am getting older it's getting hard to...
    alackeret alackeret 26-30, M 1 Response Jun 17

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    HMMB HMMB 22-25, F 7 Responses Mar 21

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    I'm only 16 but I'm scared of relationships

    because well first off, every guy my age only wants sex so I already don't trust guys. it doesn't really matter now cause I'm so young but when I'm older and a guy tries to talk to me, they're going to have to really put in effort because I trust no guys. and also in a...
    javvv javvv 18-21, F 5 Responses Jun 17

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    I'm only young, 19, but I am terrified of

    relationships. I have commitment issues. I can find a guy I love and obsess over him but as soon as he gets close to me (like as a friend) or shows interest in me I loose all feelings because I'm scared of commitment and relationships. It sucks so bad, I'm scared I'll never...
    IndianaRoyals IndianaRoyals 18-21, F 8 Responses Jun 23

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    It's just.. the pain from my previous

    relationship has not recovered yet though it was like.. two years ago since he left me for someone else.
    nojoke08 nojoke08 16-17, F Jun 26

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    I am scared if commitment

    and I'm scared to let myself go and do things that are illogical under the name of love.
    ambrosia999 ambrosia999 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 6

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    I was in an abusive, violent

    and honestly terrifying relationship for a year and half with a boy who clearly didn't love me. not only did he force me into sex, he used to beat me, put knives to my throat, smash things over my head, cheat on me, banned me from wearing makeup, skirts and shorts, wasn't...
    princesskatie7 princesskatie7 16-17, F 5 Responses May 26

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