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I Am Scared of Relationships

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    I am not ashamed to admit it.

    I am scared of relationships.It has been 3 years since break up and it still haunts me. I have trust issues.I am scared to emotionally invest in a new relationship because last one left me drained out, exhausted and heart broken. It's difficult for someone who gives all when in...
    Susana1985 Susana1985 26-30, F 22 Responses May 30, 2014

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    Did I Say That???

    Love is always patient and kind.. It is never jealous. Love is never boastful or conceited. It is never rude or selfish. It does not take offense and is not resentful. Love takes no pleasure in the sins of others, but delights in the truth. It is always ready to excuse and trust...
    vinonut vinonut 46-50, M 1 Response Dec 4, 2010

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    'Cause I have been hurt

    and I don't trust myself to contain my anger and not get violent about it.
    LonerLifeLiving LonerLifeLiving 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 13

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    He's into me and I'm into him,

    but I lied and told him I like him as a friend because I was too scared to tell him the truth. What the **** is wrong with me.
    ofnoimportance ofnoimportance 18-21, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    am so scared of relationships,

    i fear a heart break i wanna love but i dont have the strengh in me anymore its all gone am so sad so confused......
    sly15 sly15 22-25, F 5 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    libby3soesbe libby3soesbe 16-17, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I am terrified of getting into a relationship

    as i am sure all of us are.. Its just in my personal experiences. I grow close to someone.. fall in love with them. They tell me how special i am and make me feel like i'm the knight in shining armor.. that i'm the most important person in the world and then when i feel ready...
    sorasuott sorasuott 31-35, M 2 Responses Jan 5

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    I'm Scared

    If I could explain why I am afraid of relationships.....I could probably try and fix it,,,,but I don't know why. All I know is I met someone recently...we have a lot in common...we seem to click....have good chemistry....and now I'm getting depressed again because I can feel the...
    QueenOfHearts QueenOfHearts 22-25, F 5 Responses Apr 23, 2009

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    Just realized that I do tend to have an

    attitude. I've always known I had it but I wasn't mature enough to understand how it affects my relationships. I'm beyond stubborn. If it's not my way I don't care for it. I don't want to be bothered at all unless it's on my own time. The killing part is that I only do this with...
    SheIsHealing SheIsHealing 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 31, 2014

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    I Just Been Hurt Too Many Times

    I have grown up seeing bad relationships, both of my parent are divorce and they both got emarried to differant people then they both divorce. My stepmom treated my dad like ****, which is why now he treats women like ****. My mom is always drunk, and is in an abusive...
    The1ginger The1ginger 18-21, F 12 Responses Jan 4, 2013

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    I'm not just scared of romantic relationships,

    I'm also afraid of friendships that require any commitment at all. I seem to be pushing everyone away, but I don't know if that's what I truly want. Do I really want to be lonely rather than always being a part of a group? Or am I just afraid?
    chamise chamise 16-17, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Society has long become more open to the idea

    of older man - younger woman relationship and older woman - younger man relationship as well. Hollywood has brought in the practice of successful older men looking for younger women. With actresses such as Catherine Zeta Jones marrying Michael Douglas with an age gap of 25 years...
    sarahcc11 sarahcc11 26-30, F 5 days ago

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    Entering Into A New Relationship...

    is scary because your entering into another persons life... in the beginning your worried if they will like you, except you, want to see you again...  once your in a solid relationship your worried if they will love you forever, be there for you when your in need, hurt you...
    myserendipity myserendipity 41-45, F 5 Responses Sep 8, 2011

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    It's not that I am scared of relationships all

    together. I am terrified of getting into a bad one and wasting time learning what doesn't work.
    Letmebepatient Letmebepatient 31-35, M 3 Responses Jan 5

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    I don't know why but I feel

    that relationship is so hard. Everyone is different and it's hard to be truly in love. I cannot imagine myself being 100% comfortable with another person.. Maybe because I have low self esteem and I am scared to be judged by others. Many people around me fell in love like it is...
    miumiux miumiux 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 30, 2014

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    its so easy to do the wrong thing

    and so hard to do the right thing.I've been dating this person for 5yrs and out of that time he has cheated on me once(that im aware of) I'm just a firm believer that if it happen before it can happen again. Now there is a guy at my job thats interested in me and i really like...
    maryann230 maryann230 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 17

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    Guilty

    I recently started dating this sweet guy.. but I'm terrified. I told him I was scared and he said he understood and wouldn't hurt me. that we could take it slow. I feel guilty about being scared and not trusting him. But I can't. Not yet. What if he lied?! Or decide things were...
    oOoAllieoOo oOoAllieoOo 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 18, 2012

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    I used to be a big fan of love

    and I've always wanted to experience all kinds of passions in love. Now I'm too scared to let my feelings go..I don't want to hear or to feel love again. When someone tells me that he likes me or loves me, it makes me feel guilty and even sadder than I am. I've been in love...
    unknown159231 unknown159231 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 19

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    because of past experiences.

    ...domestic abuse and infidelity...
    flowertyme68 flowertyme68 46-50, F 1 Response Jan 17

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    I'm terrified of relationships (mainly bc I

    don't know what to do in them) but asking a guy to come over like that's really putting myself out there! And I'm always afraid of rejection! When someone asks me out though like my heart starts racing and I feel so sick to where I have to come up with an excuse to say no! I don...
    AvaDay AvaDay 18-21, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    Too many bad experiences.

    After my last breakup I finally managed to put on a tough exterior. An "I don't give a ****" attitude. And I had almost convinced myself that I'll be okay if I'm alone forever. The truth is, I'm a relationship person and always will be. I crave being loved and appreciated, and I...
    Rosaalie Rosaalie 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 16

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    I'm scared to start a relationship.

    I worry they'll use me to just get into my pants, abuse me or make me feel bad. Also what If no one will like me for having flaws or that I don't want to have sex, and that I want to be treated like a lady and not a toy.
    BooBear99 BooBear99 16-17, F 4 Responses Mar 22, 2014

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    Its been a long time

    since Ive been in a relationship and every relationship I had lasted only about a month and I always get cheated on. Thats why I developed this way of thinking that I will never be loved and find the right person. Im scared that I cant handle the commitment or he might cheat on...
    mihochancullen mihochancullen 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 1

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    I've never been in a relationship,

    I'm always worried I won't be a good boyfriend, because of my shyness. I don't know if I'll ever be able to go out with someone.
    dilbert467 dilbert467 13-15, M 3 Responses Jan 3

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    I'm afraid that I'm never going to find love.

    I know I have a long time but I'm just nervous about it and how I will turn out.
    alyssad1016 alyssad1016 13-15, F Jul 21, 2014

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    Although I am lonely

    and crave love, I am scared of a relationship. I grew up in an extremely dysfunctional abusive family and was the scapegoat. I literally never saw my parents kiss hug or say I love you to each other but there was always yelling and domestic violence. My mom and grandma are...
    lonelygurl92 lonelygurl92 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 19

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    Ohhh Nooo! D:

    A table for two? Sharing each other's food?! Mimicking the traits of another person?!! DATE NIGHT?!!! TWO FAMILIES...?!!!!!! Ahhhhh!! D:Oh, it was just a bad dream... just a bad dream... *wipes forehead while breathing heavily*.Phew. :o
    OblitusAuri OblitusAuri 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 11, 2012

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    ggboo ggboo 16-17, F Mar 28, 2014

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    We are afraid to care too much,

    for fear that the other person does not care at all. - Eleanor Roosevelt That describes how I feel nw.
    esalma98 esalma98 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 20, 2014

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    Scared to Open Up

    Sometimes I feel as if my romantic involvements with other people are cursed.  I have dated many people but have only felt genuine connections with a handful; yet for whatever reason, those connections have always fallen apart for reasons outside of my control. Now I...
    Seraph1m Seraph1m 26-30, M 11 Responses Aug 6, 2006

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    I am scared of being in relationship due to the

    bad experiences of my parents, being able to see how little things can have a big impact in your relationship either bad or good. Just being able to witness what my mom has to go through her relationship, its tough and scary. Its just hard and it gives you that scary feeling .
    acesha16 acesha16 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 25, 2014

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    i told my friend once "im just scared to get my

    heart broken..." he replied "so you break others" those 4 words hit me like a wall because a few months ago i broke his...
    classylips classylips 13-15, F 1 Response Dec 29, 2014

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    I don't know why, but I am.

    The idea of being in a relationship genuinely scares me.
    Ri95 Ri95 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 20, 2014

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    Im afraid of relationships

    because I've been hurt so much in the past but I like that I can talk to this special someone it's nice that we can just talk about anything and everything and have no worries about what we're doing because their are no labels
    psychologyLover08 psychologyLover08 22-25, F 13 Responses Jan 13

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    My experience is weird ,

    I am in love with both of exes and not able to move on weird but true. Scared of new relationship. After meeting people for couple of times , I withdraw myself. It could be that I dont wanna get hurt no more but I still want to be loved.
    hurtangel hurtangel 26-30, F 10 Responses Dec 22, 2014

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    There seems to be many reasons

    for it. As if simply watching how other people's lives have played out is not enough to scare you. For me my first relationship sealed the deal. Loving someone gives them the ability to hurt you deeply and the desire to put up with it. Even if you are strong enough to walk...
    EtherealNomad EtherealNomad 22-25, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I am afraid of relationships.

    So much so I have learned that it prevents me from having relationships. Even if I have met someone and we are planning to do something, I'll cancel it and eject that person from my life. It comes down to experience and from what I have experienced from other people over the...
    VarianWrynn VarianWrynn 46-50, M 3 Responses Nov 26, 2014

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    I have been in a relationship yes

    but I was to scared and shy so it wasn't really a relationship i had liked him for years and I missed my chances he's now gone. But anyway I got asked out today I was scared I declined but he's asked me out twice more today. I'm usually scared of guys I don't talk to them or go...
    anestacia anestacia 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 30, 2014

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    I'm terrified of monogamy.

    I have no problem being faithful and loyal. It's the idea of giving you're all to somebody and never fully knowing their true intentions is terrifying.
    OhItsHimAgain OhItsHimAgain 18-21, M 3 Responses Jan 6

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    i like this guy,and we talk to each other

    everyday.. i always give him hints that i like him and sometimes he says somethings that make me think that he likes me as well,always says that he's coming to my house to kiss me. but everytime i ask him out he always says ''okay'' or ''i have to talk to my mom'' or ''i dont...
    keepthefaith1003 keepthefaith1003 13-15, F 6 days ago

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    This is a famous song

    that I can relate to totally. It is how I feel right now. My Heart Belongs To Me" I got the feelin' the feelin's gone My heart has gone to sleep One of these mornings I'll be gone My heart belongs to me Can we believe in fairy tales? Can love survive when all else fails? Can't...
    NG725324 NG725324 41-45, M 3 Responses Jan 23

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    After my last one ...

    I can not even bear the thought of falling in love As soon as someone lovely comes along or someone i could potentially be with my stomach aches from the fearful thoughts that i could get attached, so i pull away. Instead of me loosing someone, i run away . I dont want to be...
    generationlover generationlover 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 3, 2014

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    I am recently on a relationship with this guy

    who loves me dearly. He would literally do anything for me. Problem is I just don't know why but I feel weird around him. Don't get me wrong, I do like him and all, but whenever we kissed it feels off. I don't know if I'm scared about all this new relationship or if I'm just...
    overallimme overallimme 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 19

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    Zozolove Zozolove 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 16, 2014

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    our relationship was a long distance

    relationship i never met him in real life he studies in US we were so in love we understood each other i loved the feeling of loving him and talking to him late at night and every night , after i graduated high school and started college everything started to fall apart slowly...
    leen94 leen94 18-21, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    I was in a serious relationship

    for over three years and it ended with my heart destroyed and never wanting to date again. I have no idea what I did wrong but she left me a year and half ago. To this day I still miss her even though she did me wrong.
    VoloSolo VoloSolo 26-30, M Jan 23

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    I can't bring myself to love someone again.

    I want to but I'm scared or just can't since she left me .
    kittyanthony kittyanthony 22-25, M a week ago

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    minnieccaa minnieccaa 26-30, F Jan 19

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    I Just Cant Do Them

    I can't cope when I'm in a relationship, I like my freedom and I feel suffocated when I'm with someone. I can't trust people, and I can't let them in on my feelings or my weaknesses, so there's always a barrier between me and the person I'm with. The thought of...
    deschanel deschanel 16-17, F 7 Responses Aug 9, 2009

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    I have a rocky history in my relationships.

    Due to some past childhood trauma and history of adult abusive relationships, I carry a feeling of being burdensome in my current relationship. It isn't all logical, it has been ingrained in me from a young age and I have had it reinforced by choosing poor partners in the...
    rosedl rosedl 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 30, 2014

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    Relationships are hard.

    No one ever really talks about that side of things. We watch the movies and everything is beautiful and romantic and fun but that's not how life works out. Relationships are ******* hard. It is hard to stay with someone when things aren't going great.Its hard to fight that voice...
    TheGirlFromJupiter TheGirlFromJupiter 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 12, 2014

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