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I Am Scared of Relationships

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    So I've met that guy through internet a month

    ago. Now we're texting each other almost everyday and I've never felt so close to someone, I've never met anyone with who I have so much in common and he cares about me much more than anyone else in my life, it's really incredible ! I really really really really really like him...
    DouceFolie DouceFolie 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 16

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    I'm just more afraid of learning to count on

    someone and then they leave.
    ThePastIsDead ThePastIsDead 41-45, F 5 Responses Mar 27

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    Because I am afraid of having someone treat me

    the way I treat them .. And actually having to be equally reliant on another person.
    alackeret alackeret 26-30, M Mar 31

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    So it's going to be forever.

    Or it's going to go down in flames. I expect it to always go down in flames. Always. Why? Because I guess I'm good at finding terrible people.
    refuse2bnormal refuse2bnormal 22-25, F 7 Responses Mar 13

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    Maybe scared is the worng word.

    .but there again maybe it's closer to the truth than I am willing to admit..Friendships are easy..so is dating..but to let anyone closer...It's just not happening for me. Everyone tells me to let someone in, but I keep feeling that the connection is missing..I find myself...
    silvera73 silvera73 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 2

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    I'm afraid that I'm never going to find love.

    I know I have a long time but I'm just nervous about it and how I will turn out.
    alyssad1016 alyssad1016 13-15, F Jul 21, 2014

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    I am scared if commitment

    and I'm scared to let myself go and do things that are illogical under the name of love.
    ambrosia999 ambrosia999 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 6

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    Entering Into A New Relationship...

    is scary because your entering into another persons life... in the beginning your worried if they will like you, except you, want to see you again...  once your in a solid relationship your worried if they will love you forever, be there for you when your in need, hurt you...
    myserendipity myserendipity 41-45, F 5 Responses Sep 8, 2011

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    I'm afraid to let someone get too close to me

    to see all of my flaws. I have so many, I don't think another person will be to handle them. My last relationship was 5 years ago...
    vintagesoul87 vintagesoul87 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 2

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    the fact that the only person I have added to

    my circle is the EP staff, so far should tell you enough. I don't mean to laugh, though. I tend to build this imaginary perimeter around me, I understand it's to protect me, but I also realize it keeps everyone out.
    snoopymg snoopymg 36-40, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    am so scared of relationships,

    i fear a heart break i wanna love but i dont have the strengh in me anymore its all gone am so sad so confused......
    sly15 sly15 22-25, F 5 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    I curled my finger and motioned.

    ....she came over and leaned an ear.. I said "I just wanted to see if I could make you come with my finger" she slapped me??????
    imcomplacent imcomplacent 22-25, M 2 Responses Apr 11

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    I am in a relationship,

    i have been for just over a year. I trusted him.. i checked his phone one night as he was going through mine, I have only ever been loyal so I had nothing to hide .. I found a message and a reply from his ex girlfriend , he lied to me numerous times telling me they don't keep in...
    jjayashevoss jjayashevoss 18-21, F 6 Responses Apr 6

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    The two most important days in your life

    are: -the day you were born and -the day you find out why?
    ramzanmalik ramzanmalik 22-25, M 2 Responses Mar 9

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    im scared to wonder if its infatuation

    or do i actually want to stick by that peraon. or what if i love them more than they love me what if they want nothing to do with me but ive already shared my soul with them? and that is why my friends, that i cant have a boyfriend. because i am too terrified and serious about...
    kyanitestone186 kyanitestone186 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 14

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    I Just Been Hurt Too Many Times

    I have grown up seeing bad relationships, both of my parent are divorce and they both got emarried to differant people then they both divorce. My stepmom treated my dad like ****, which is why now he treats women like ****. My mom is always drunk, and is in an abusive...
    The1ginger The1ginger 18-21, F 12 Responses Jan 4, 2013

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    I am tired of my friends being all fake I just

    found out my crush like one of my close friends and u know when u love a person u don't care who. They like I actually started to cry when I found that out. But what I don't get is that he said he likes her alittle but his always looking at me he texted me and asked me who I...
    cristhan cristhan 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 19

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    I have separation anxiety.

    If I get attached, I try to push away and I don't want to get close to people
    azurai azurai 18-21, F 3 Responses Feb 22

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    I'm afraid of being hurt

    and of them leaving me; I just can't be hurt again like that.
    kingbrizo kingbrizo 18-21 Apr 12

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    Just realized that I do tend to have an

    attitude. I've always known I had it but I wasn't mature enough to understand how it affects my relationships. I'm beyond stubborn. If it's not my way I don't care for it. I don't want to be bothered at all unless it's on my own time. The killing part is that I only do this with...
    SheIsHealing SheIsHealing 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 31, 2014

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    We are afraid to care too much,

    for fear that the other person does not care at all. - Eleanor Roosevelt That describes how I feel nw.
    esalma98 esalma98 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 20, 2014

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    Find Me Somebody To Love...

    Here's an excerpt from a conversation I was having with a friend. I feel somewhat vulnerable putting this piece up but what the heck, perhaps it will prove to be beneficial to some. I hope it will. I have always known that inorder to be able to give, you must first be happy...
    Scorpio1987 Scorpio1987 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 16, 2012

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    HMMB HMMB 22-25, F 7 Responses Mar 21

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    Too many bad experiences.

    After my last breakup I finally managed to put on a tough exterior. An "I don't give a ****" attitude. And I had almost convinced myself that I'll be okay if I'm alone forever. The truth is, I'm a relationship person and always will be. I crave being loved and appreciated, and I...
    Rosaalie Rosaalie 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 16

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    I’m so afraid of losing something I love

    that I refuse to love anything
    beachbumxx beachbumxx 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 9

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    Very scared of loving again

    for the man I loved is not the man I love !
    eva2far eva2far 41-45, F 3 Responses Feb 21

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    I put myself through a lot

    and even lost myself, I haven't became who im supposed to be ,always wanting to find someone i can grow with because im scared to be alone. I finally found someone I could love until things went downhill.My ex and I are trying to work it out since we have a family now,I given...
    moondesires moondesires 18-21, F Apr 13

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    i love my husband to be

    but i find it difficult to trust him due to my past. i dont no what to do
    ZoeLouise92 ZoeLouise92 22-25, F 7 Responses Mar 16

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    I wish i wasn't scared to love

    and would chose the right guys that can love me. I always chose the wrong ones because I know that I won't fall be attached and I can run away quickly. I make it so I can run for the exit and he most likely won't run after me. When guys are capable to love I run the opposite...
    bettybloops bettybloops 22-25, F 14 Responses Apr 16

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    pretty much every time I try

    and have relationships with people (romantic or not) I'm the one who always ends up getting hurt in the end, so why even try?
    grace375 grace375 13-15, F 3 Responses Apr 16

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    I'm going through this right now,

    by myself of course she has isolated everyone in my life or had already had them believing I was the worse monster in the world. I'm only on The first week. She is 16 and is with her alcoholic dad, who enjoys getting her instead of her being disciplined. But this time I finally...
    livingwiththeunknown livingwiththeunknown 46-50, F 1 Response Mar 20

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    I have heard of this guy "J" through my friends.

    He's a playboy, outrageously insensitive to girls' feelings. But there is something mysterious about him ppl say. The way he sweeps girls off their feet. That makes me find him attractive. Slowly I've developed this liking for him, though in a fantasy world. But I've never...
    LoquaciousBelle LoquaciousBelle 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 21

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    com yes. and i wrote it in my blog. please leave a comment.
    energymustmove energymustmove 18-21, F 2 days ago

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    alejandragucci alejandragucci 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 14

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    3 weeks yesterday. her mom wants me gone.

    idk how to explain us. I do actually love her. I want to cry and I want to die. I just want the thoughts to stop. the voices to subside.
    IDontEvenKnowAnymore1 IDontEvenKnowAnymore1 13-15, M Mar 15

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    Yep. People would say "it's part of life,

    it's natural" but for people who are scared like me, don't understand. I'm not saying I don't want to love, I don't want to say I'm scared. But I am. It's stopping me from being able to do things. If I was to meet up with a male, I'd automatically start to think about that...
    ThatBritishVirgin ThatBritishVirgin 18-21, F 4 Responses Apr 16

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    I'm terrified of monogamy.

    I have no problem being faithful and loyal. It's the idea of giving you're all to somebody and never fully knowing their true intentions is terrifying.
    OhItsHimAgain OhItsHimAgain 18-21, M 3 Responses Jan 6

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    i am in a relationship with my bf

    for six months,we have lots of arguments and manage to settle everything,now i am trying to understand and accept everything.the culture and belief mostly come in between us,and the past relationship he had is another reason of our fighting,i check his phone and saw message from...
    BohemianRhapsody23 BohemianRhapsody23 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 12

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    I hate guys. I just do.

    The guys I know don't understand what the "no" means. And I'm so tired if saying it more that once. My brother's friend started talking to me my freshman year. But instead of asking me out, he asked me if he would ever get to "hit it". I said no. But he thought we could still be...
    ButterflyBandage ButterflyBandage 18-21, F 12 Responses Mar 29

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    My experience is weird ,

    I am in love with both of exes and not able to move on weird but true. Scared of new relationship. After meeting people for couple of times , I withdraw myself. It could be that I dont wanna get hurt no more but I still want to be loved.
    hurtangel hurtangel 26-30, F 9 Responses Dec 22, 2014

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    Mainly because I end up getting in long term

    committed, monogamous relationships with the wrong people and for too long because I have an innate desire to partner up!!! Either that or I'm single for a long time. Annoying.
    shantel25 shantel25 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 1

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    Guilty

    I recently started dating this sweet guy.. but I'm terrified. I told him I was scared and he said he understood and wouldn't hurt me. that we could take it slow. I feel guilty about being scared and not trusting him. But I can't. Not yet. What if he lied?! Or decide things were...
    oOoAllieoOo oOoAllieoOo 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 18, 2012

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    I am not ashamed to admit it.

    I am scared of relationships.It has been 3 years since break up and it still haunts me. I have trust issues.I am scared to emotionally invest in a new relationship because last one left me drained out, exhausted and heart broken. It's difficult for someone who gives all when in...
    Susana1985 Susana1985 26-30, F 20 Responses May 30, 2014

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    Although I am lonely

    and crave love, I am scared of a relationship. I grew up in an extremely dysfunctional abusive family and was the scapegoat. I literally never saw my parents kiss hug or say I love you to each other but there was always yelling and domestic violence. My mom and grandma are...
    lonelygurl92 lonelygurl92 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 19

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    I'm in one but every time we try to kiss I wuss

    out. I've been doing this for two years. I think it's the same with her. I don't know what to do.
    SeanDR SeanDR 16-17, M 1 Response Apr 9

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    Don't get me wrong, I love relationships.

    I just hate what almost always happens. Them betraying you or leaving you. They claim to "love" you, but it is all just superficial. They take what they want and they leave.
    LoveLeahG LoveLeahG 18-21, F 5 Responses Mar 13

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