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I Am Scared of Relationships

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    I'm scared of relationships of all kinds.

    This guy keeps trying to get closer to me but I keep pushing him away. I tell myself one thing mentally (go for it hang out with him) but then I just push him away and avoid him. I don't understand myself. Why do I say one thing then do another?... I feel bad, and what's worse...
    mrvitous26 mrvitous26 26-30, F Mar 16

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    I'm Scared

    If I could explain why I am afraid of relationships.....I could probably try and fix it,,,,but I don't know why. All I know is I met someone recently...we have a lot in common...we seem to click....have good chemistry....and now I'm getting depressed again because I can feel the...
    QueenOfHearts QueenOfHearts 22-25, F 5 Responses Apr 23, 2009

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    At 15 I have had multiple girl friends.

    I am aware that at 15 they are not supposed to be meaningful. I do believe in to young to love, anyways. Every girl I have ever been sexual with was not my girlfriend. I have also never been with a girl more than one time. The first time I got a ******* I was in 8th grade and...
    pdxlouis pdxlouis 18-21, M 6 days ago

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    I'm not afraid because I might get hurt.

    I'm afraid that I'll hurt him. I'm afraid that I won;t be ready or that, I'll turn into one of those psycho girlfriends (or my mother) and he'll end up hating me. I'm scared that I am unlovable.
    3milyFaye 3milyFaye 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 23

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    I've never been in a relationship

    and it terrifies me that one day I will possibly be in one. When I feel like that person likes me I get mean so they will stop liking me. I totally shut people out who actually care about me that way. Anyone who relates or can help I would love to talk.
    baebaeboo baebaeboo 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 13

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    Find Me Somebody To Love...

    Here's an excerpt from a conversation I was having with a friend. I feel somewhat vulnerable putting this piece up but what the heck, perhaps it will prove to be beneficial to some. I hope it will. I have always known that inorder to be able to give, you must first be happy...
    Scorpio1987 Scorpio1987 22-25, M 2 Responses Aug 16, 2012

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    I was In a friend relationship,

    and it ended. It felt fine with that friend, but I just couldn't handle that friendship. The friendship I just had I didn't know how I felt towards my friend. Made me laugh a lot, but then I go all wrong. I think I need to take a break making friends to just get to understand...
    Meyrinfields Meyrinfields 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 2

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    I Just Cant Do Them

    I can't cope when I'm in a relationship, I like my freedom and I feel suffocated when I'm with someone. I can't trust people, and I can't let them in on my feelings or my weaknesses, so there's always a barrier between me and the person I'm with. The thought of...
    deschanel deschanel 16-17, F 7 Responses Aug 9, 2009

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    The last relationship I had like completely

    ripped me apart. Yes ; I'm young , but that doesn't mean I have less feelings than anyone else. I don't know if I could actually let someone get to know the real me. Or actually fall for someone. I feel like they'll leave , or use me. Blackmail me even. I don't know. I find most...
    CrushOnPhilBrooks CrushOnPhilBrooks 16-17, F Jan 29

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    Scared to Open Up

    Sometimes I feel as if my romantic involvements with other people are cursed.  I have dated many people but have only felt genuine connections with a handful; yet for whatever reason, those connections have always fallen apart for reasons outside of my control. Now I...
    Seraph1m Seraph1m 26-30, M 11 Responses Aug 6, 2006

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    ggboo ggboo 13-15, F Mar 28

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    I'm scared of being in a relationship

    because they won't last and in the end they'll hurt. Also I am very insecure, I don't think anyone would actually like me romantically.
    OooohJaime OooohJaime 13-15, F 4 Responses Mar 25

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    Guilty

    I recently started dating this sweet guy.. but I'm terrified. I told him I was scared and he said he understood and wouldn't hurt me. that we could take it slow. I feel guilty about being scared and not trusting him. But I can't. Not yet. What if he lied?! Or decide things were...
    oOoAllieoOo oOoAllieoOo 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 18, 2012

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    I am scared to have a relationship- my first

    "real" relationship I was forced into with an older man. I was completely betrayed and now feel to scared to let my gaurd down and go out with a guy at my work that I have had feeling for. I have like him about 2 months now. But I am to scared of getting burnt again. I hate...
    unknown331 unknown331 16-17 2 Responses Mar 24

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    I'm sorry, but this is kinda gona be long,

    so if you're not willing to read... Yeah :p So I'm in an amazing relationship with the girl I've liked for a while now. She's the first girl I've ever dated and I really like her. A lot. But all of the bad relationships I've been in have scarred me. This happens now. I get into...
    yourguardianangel9613 yourguardianangel9613 16-17, F Mar 9

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    Did I Say That???

    Love is always patient and kind.. It is never jealous. Love is never boastful or conceited. It is never rude or selfish. It does not take offense and is not resentful. Love takes no pleasure in the sins of others, but delights in the truth. It is always ready to excuse and trust...
    vinonut vinonut 46-50, M 1 Response Dec 4, 2010

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    Seems like all men will cheat at one time

    or another . While they claim to love you why is this .
    Jackie85 Jackie85 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 23

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    Okay so I'm not entirely sure

    why this is, maybe it's to do with my insecurities? But whenever I start getting close to someone and I'm on the verge of a relationship, it doesn't matter how much I like the person, if they ask me out, or ask me to be their girlfriend, I freak the **** out. Like I seriously...
    xMina97x xMina97x 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 18

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    I'm scared to start a relationship.

    I worry they'll use me to just get into my pants, abuse me or make me feel bad. Also what If no one will like me for having flaws or that I don't want to have sex, and that I want to be treated like a lady and not a toy.
    broadwaybabe99 broadwaybabe99 13-15, F 4 Responses Mar 22

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    I am scared of being in relationship due to the

    bad experiences of my parents, being able to see how little things can have a big impact in your relationship either bad or good. Just being able to witness what my mom has to go through her relationship, its tough and scary. Its just hard and it gives you that scary feeling .
    Acesha16 Acesha16 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 25

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    I have my reasons.

    ..not scared of friendship but loving ones...when you give all you´ve got to give...when you put your life in someone else´s hands...when you are absolutely sincere, true and can prove all you say...you only put yourself in the lion´s mouth ... As far as I know, it...
    SweetNancy SweetNancy 22-25, F 7 Responses Mar 28

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    Zozolove Zozolove 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 16

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    I don't know like how to really trust a guy

    anymore. My first ever boyfriend scared me for life. Now I don't like anyone touching me. Our first day of dating we hung out and he litteraly stole my firstkiss!! I didn't even know what was happening and I was not ready, then he tried to makeout with me. I wasn't ready for...
    TealMarie TealMarie 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 29

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    I'm scared of looking

    for a relationship because I'm scared of rejection. I'm scared of wanting a relationship because I don't think anyone will want one with me. I just feel so bad about myself that I find it hard to imagine any NORMAL guy wanting to be with me.
    josieyup josieyup 22-25, F 16 Responses Mar 24

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    Tomorrow is my first experience with the

    therapist. I am very scared.
    mylife6 mylife6 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 5

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    Entering Into A New Relationship...

    is scary because your entering into another persons life... in the beginning your worried if they will like you, except you, want to see you again...  once your in a solid relationship your worried if they will love you forever, be there for you when your in need, hurt you...
    myserendipity myserendipity 41-45, F 5 Responses Sep 8, 2011

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    Scared Of Relationships? Or Sick Of The Perpetual Heartbreak, Lies, Pain, Manipulation, And B.S.?

    Well where to begin? ever since I came out of the closet, and started dating my life has been nothing but, sadness, deceipt, and regret, even though I shouldn't really close myself up to love, I have gotten to the point where I realized it's just not worth it anymore, sure I...
    Alan132 Alan132 22-25, M 2 Responses Sep 16, 2011

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    Iv noticed my boyfriends changed a lot

    and not in a good way he seems down all the time:( I confronted him about it and he said his mum has told him this too, is it me?:( I don't understand at all!
    chloe103 chloe103 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 4

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    Please don't judge me

    for this but relationships scare me. Some of you know this.
    totallynotalunatic totallynotalunatic 16-17, M 2 Responses Apr 9

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    I Don't Know What Love Is Anymore

    I am so confused.  I thought I knew what love is.  But I was wrong.  My life has taken twists and turns.  I started dating again and found someone that maybe that special someone in my life.  I am so afraid but I get this feeling inside and a smile...
    madambttrfly madambttrfly 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 30, 2007

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    They never tend to work out

    for me, so of course they can be scary. I don't mind being an independent person though. :)
    Krc5 Krc5 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 13

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    More like a love hate type deal.

    I love they way they look and their drive to acquire life goals but once I get to know them I find them mean and unaffected rigid and unforgiving.. . The last two men I have dealt with were both caps. They both told me stories about how they dogged out women. Not understanding...
    just2lovelee just2lovelee 41-45, F Mar 30

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    I just can't deal with a relationships anymore.

    I just don't want to be in a relationship any time soon if every...I rather deal with the pain of being lonely than the of pain being used and then dumped....Relationships are too complicated for me. I figure I'll just have a sex buddy. I'm done giving my heart to someone just...
    just2lovelee just2lovelee 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 22

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    I USED to be. I honestly used to be

    but someone has come along and it APPEARS they are trying to love all the hurt outta me. It's WEIRD. But, I kinda like it.
    pinkkcotton pinkkcotton 26-30, F Mar 20

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    What if I **** it up?

    What if I get hurt? But more importantly what if I hurt them? But that's the risk isn't it? To risk it all and place all your trust in someone you hope keeps your heart safe.
    mfarrell95 mfarrell95 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 16

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    Well i had this girl i loved

    so much but we ended up hating each other but i still think about her sometimes... I dont want her. But i do miss how we used to be. Im stupid for that lol
    izzyneedsomeonelol izzyneedsomeonelol 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 20

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    Ohhh Nooo! D:

    A table for two? Sharing each other's food?! Mimicking the traits of another person?!! DATE NIGHT?!!! TWO FAMILIES...?!!!!!! Ahhhhh!! D:Oh, it was just a bad dream... just a bad dream... *wipes forehead while breathing heavily*.Phew. :o
    OblitusAuri OblitusAuri 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 11, 2012

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    I am so shy and afraid to talk to anybody

    besides my friends, i want to be able to talk to a guy but I just cant bring myself to it :/
    jessieann0921 jessieann0921 13-15, F 4 Responses Mar 28

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    So my boyfriend and I have been fighting alot

    lately. We've been on and off and we have been dating for more than 2 years. His past is what bothers me. He talked to so much girls and flirted with them. I did the same thing when I found out he was doing that. I went myself and started texting and calling every guy just so he...
    Zozolove Zozolove 18-21, F 7 Responses Jan 31

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    Just Don't Tell Me You Love Me Unless You Mean It...

    I have had a chance to do a lot of thinking this past week and I have come to the conclusion that I am scared, maybe even terrified of a relationship.  I think that all the bullsh*t  went through and then how it ended in my last relationship has left me unable to &ldquo...
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm 41-45, F 22 Responses Aug 3, 2008

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    Dear all I say- the most certain thing in this

    world is the uncertainty of relationships. I often wonder if there is a single relationship that does not come with any sorts of expectation, expectations that can be wrong or unwanted. Some will say a relationship between a mother and a child is above any petite need. So listen...
    saeed78 saeed78 31-35, M 1 Response Mar 26

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    I really like this guy,

    he likes me too but I'm afraid he won't like me once he knows about my depression./:
    TheWaySheFeels3 TheWaySheFeels3 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 19

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    I Just Been Hurt Too Many Times

    I have grown up seeing bad relationships, both of my parent are divorce and they both got emarried to differant people then they both divorce. My stepmom treated my dad like ****, which is why now he treats women like ****. My mom is always drunk, and is in an abusive...
    The1ginger The1ginger 18-21, F 13 Responses Jan 4, 2013

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    Opening Up To Someone

    I don't want to open myself up to someone and get rejected I hate being rejected it makes me feel worthless and it's only happened to me once.
    Thatgirl1223 Thatgirl1223 13-15, F 1 Response Feb 17, 2013

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    I was in a semi-abusive/ controlling online

    relationship so I'm still a bit scared that I might run into someone irl like him
    kxCobra kxCobra 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 30

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