I Am Scared of Relationships

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    Ever since a person who I loved very much died

    of cancer i have found it very difficult to love again. I have gone for many years without being in a relationship. I feel like the capacity to love has died in me. I know that it is fear based, that loosing someone to death is very traumatic, but still I truly feel that that...
    davidruss1 davidruss1
    41-45, M
    3 Responses Jan 8, 2016

    am so scared of relationships,

    i fear a heart break i wanna love but i dont have the strengh in me anymore its all gone am so sad so confused......
    sly15 sly15
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Dec 28, 2014

    Been hurt too many times now,

    starting to give up..
    Adam352 Adam352
    18-21, M
    6 Responses Jul 6, 2015

    I have spent the better part of the last seven

    years giving all I knew how to give to my husband... I wasn't perfect of course, I've made plenty of poor choices throughout it all but I never stopped trying to better myself and our marriage. We are still married and he is content living like strangers, while I am not. I come...
    Furiousfire Furiousfire
    36-40, F
    10 Responses Jul 17, 2015

    My experience is weird ,

    I am in love with both of exes and not able to move on weird but true. Scared of new relationship. After meeting people for couple of times , I withdraw myself. It could be that I dont wanna get hurt no more but I still want to be loved.
    hurtangel hurtangel
    31-35, F
    8 Responses Dec 22, 2014

    Sometimes it's better to move on,

    than to hold onto a person who doesn't understand you. Sometimes your absence will teach what your presence cannot.
    paradisedevotion paradisedevotion
    16-17, F
    4 Responses Feb 12, 2016

    I'm turning 21 and I've never been in a

    relationship. Never dated, never had a boyfriend, nothing. I self sabotage. I 'jump ship' when there's any chance of something becoming serious. And at first I never really wondered why I was like that. I just accepted that that's who I am and what I do. But I've been thinking...
    JustAnAfricanGirl JustAnAfricanGirl
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Nov 7, 2015

    I've been in one. Didn't go well.

    No all I have are the wrong ones. Not ones I'm fond of. I end up getting close due to desperation. That a relationship does not make.
    ElSabre101 ElSabre101
    26-30, M
    1 Response Feb 18, 2016

    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    signeccaa signeccaa
    26-30, F
    Feb 24, 2016

    I hate it when you get to know somebody

    and they just disappear .. I guess I really didn't know them after all
    turningpoint2014 turningpoint2014
    56-60, F
    2 Responses Mar 25, 2016

    Everyone wants to be in love,

    to be loved to be cared by someone.Even then also we are sometimes scared to be in a relationship.True love,love at first sight,prince charming,soulmate I don't know if they really exist,it never happened to me but one thing I know from my experience,to be in a committed...
    Magena Magena
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Sep 2, 2015

    you know you're hurt

    when you can feel your heart physically break. awesome.
    allie72465 allie72465
    18-21, F
    Jun 29, 2015

    I'm only young, 19, but I am terrified of

    relationships. I have commitment issues. I can find a guy I love and obsess over him but as soon as he gets close to me (like as a friend) or shows interest in me I loose all feelings because I'm scared of commitment and relationships. It sucks so bad, I'm scared I'll never...
    IndianaRoyals IndianaRoyals
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Jun 23, 2015

    Scared of being so picky

    but never connecting with anyone. Scared of getting bored of people so easily I can distance themselves out of my life in a heartbeat. Scared of being alone forever because of all of this and scared there's no one out there who will truly understand me.
    callmekhaleesi callmekhaleesi
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Apr 5, 2016
    Steamtop Steamtop
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Apr 20, 2016

    I was in an abusive, violent

    and honestly terrifying relationship for a year and half with a boy who clearly didn't love me. not only did he force me into sex, he used to beat me, put knives to my throat, smash things over my head, cheat on me, banned me from wearing makeup, skirts and shorts, wasn't...
    princesskatie7 princesskatie7
    18-21, F
    3 Responses May 26, 2015

    if u ever meet someone

    who makes ur life flow easier and makes u laugh a lot keep them that?s all u need.... <3
    ItsOkey ItsOkey
    22-25, M
    1 Response Mar 18, 2016

    I have two different perspectives on my

    thoughts of young adult relationships. There can be one boy I fall for and get screwed over in the end. My emotions are all over the place along with my heart and head as well. Confused as ever about what I did wrong because he was still in love with someone else. That i have...
    Thatgurl17 Thatgurl17
    18-21, F
    1 Response Apr 14, 2016

    A boy makes his girl jealous of other women,

    A true gentleman makes other women jealous of his girl.
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Mar 6, 2015

    sometimes I wonder if I can be in a

    relationship. I can't handle someone accusing me all the time, feeling like no matter how much I try to defend myself it'll all seem like lies to him even when I've never lied about anything at all. I'm so truthful to him but I get treated like this. I've been trying to sleep...
    mentallyhigh mentallyhigh
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Feb 29, 2016

    need a guys point of view - how do you prefer

    us women to approach you guys when we feel hurt, lied to and betrayed?
    deleted deleted
    11 Responses Mar 20, 2016

    Too many bad experiences.

    After my last breakup I finally managed to put on a tough exterior. An "I don't give a ****" attitude. And I had almost convinced myself that I'll be okay if I'm alone forever. The truth is, I'm a relationship person and always will be. I crave being loved and appreciated, and I...
    Rosaalie Rosaalie
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Jan 16, 2015

    Yep. People would say "it's part of life,

    it's natural" but for people who are scared like me, don't understand. I'm not saying I don't want to love, I don't want to say I'm scared. But I am. It's stopping me from being able to do things. If I was to meet up with a male, I'd automatically start to think about that...
    ThatBritishVirgin ThatBritishVirgin
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Apr 16, 2015

    More friendship-relationship.

    I dont fully Trust my most close friends And I cant be myself being scared they let me fall down Some ridiculous reason. And now they notice im scared around them :D very Nice
    Loveericdier Loveericdier
    18-21, F
    Mar 23, 2016

    There's no promises that will be made,

    there's no life plan of what we will do. We are just together and focusing on now. I love him and he's not just anyone. He's also my best friend.
    ASadGirl123 ASadGirl123
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Feb 22, 2016

    I an scared of relationships

    as most men seem to be paedophilic or some other weird crap.
    Paleandpolluted86 Paleandpolluted86
    26-30, F
    Apr 20, 2016

    Relationships are truly wonderful.

    When two people are genuinely in love it's truly something. However, when relationships end it sucks. For my experience it was a matter of my partner not being in tune with her feelings and feeling things were rushed. We no longer had anything in common. It didn't feel like that...
    theblacksuggestionbox theblacksuggestionbox
    26-30, M
    3 Responses Feb 15, 2015

    I wish i wasn't scared to love

    and would chose the right guys that can love me. I always chose the wrong ones because I know that I won't fall be attached and I can run away quickly. I make it so I can run for the exit and he most likely won't run after me. When guys are capable to love I run the opposite...
    deleted deleted
    12 Responses Apr 16, 2015

    I am not ashamed to admit it.

    I am scared of relationships.It has been 3 years since break up and it still haunts me. I have trust issues.I am scared to emotionally invest in a new relationship because last one left me drained out, exhausted and heart broken. It's difficult for someone who gives all when in...
    Susana1985 Susana1985
    31-35, F
    19 Responses May 30, 2014

    I'm not afraid of what I'll face

    but i'm afraid to stay.
    CrystalicTears CrystalicTears
    26-30, F
    1 Response Mar 25, 2016

    my recent fear has been realized.

    it's been so long since i've even made friends with a man (or anyone for that matter) that i don't even know how to make conversation. i suck at this. -_-
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Feb 28, 2016

    I have commitment issues

    and I don't want to hurt anyone anymore.
    Siouze Siouze
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Mar 9, 2016

    Im afraid of relationships

    because I've been hurt so much in the past but I like that I can talk to this special someone it's nice that we can just talk about anything and everything and have no worries about what we're doing because their are no labels
    psychologyLover08 psychologyLover08
    26-30, F
    10 Responses Jan 13, 2015

    In every relationship I've had,

    I've given everything. Literally everything I have to give. And was happy to do it. I can't explain how good it made me feel to be so invested in someone's happiness. It didn't matter their flaws and imperfections. I loved them. And I had a revelation tonight while I was driving...
    Bicurious12345 Bicurious12345
    18-21, F
    7 Responses May 29, 2015

    Feeling very hurt by my last relationship.

    But more so as I see people who have been in relationships for over 10 years looking for new people. 10 years is a long time to be together with someone. And for whatever reasons, those relationships ended. I always wanted to believe there was some kind of invisible finish...
    thenicholasexperience thenicholasexperience
    36-40, M
    1 Response Mar 22, 2016

    I'm not afraid anymore.

    I trust him. I'm only afraid of it ending.
    JustBreathe4J JustBreathe4J
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Mar 23, 2016

    People always ask me

    why I don't open up to anyone anymore, the truth is,once you start to like someone,they either move, die or betray you...and you never see them again.
    Mahek123 Mahek123
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Mar 10, 2016

    I don't think I'm ready

    and that's okay. I started dating a guy when he texts me it's like Christmas when he doesn't reply I'm miserable. I tell myself I am crushing on him and that this is normal, but it's not. I don't want to have a conversation with him, I don't want to get to know him, I don't know...
    honestlyanonymouslyme honestlyanonymouslyme
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Feb 27, 2016
    deleted deleted
    7 Responses Mar 21, 2015

    I'm in love with my best friend.

    We're practically dating and have been in this "situationship" for about two years now. I keep thinking he would make a move evenually, you know let me know how he feels. I just want him to let me see the cards he demands to keep closely to his chest. I just want him to truly...
    nielle24 nielle24
    22-25, F
    1 Response Mar 18, 2016

    The reason is one day the person

    that have you so much will just walk up and leave when you need them the most.
    Lovefaithanddeath Lovefaithanddeath
    16-17, F
    Mar 9, 2016

    After the disaster known

    as my marriage, I'm terrified of dating again. Unfortunately, I'm also lonely. Sigh.
    midnitephoenix midnitephoenix
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Nov 2, 2015

    I don't know why but sometimes

    when I think of relationships I can't help but be scared. Just because of the fact that I feel like a lot of people don't take them serious anymore. Personally I've never been in a serious relationship. I've never had my heart broken, but I can tell it's a non stop aching pain...
    giiannav giiannav
    18-21, F
    Mar 24, 2016

    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    bethccaa bethccaa
    26-30, F
    Feb 21, 2016
    RagingDemon29 RagingDemon29
    16-17, F
    4 Responses Dec 6, 2015
    BastilleBlue BastilleBlue
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Aug 21, 2015

    I've never dated anyone

    and I'm 25. it's mostly because most everyone who asks me out I don't like and no one I like asks me out and if they do, I usually think they're playing a joke on me. and I'm terrified of asking guys I like out! and I'm afraid that of I do date someone, I'll get my heart broken...
    sensitivewoman90 sensitivewoman90
    26-30, F
    7 Responses Apr 19, 2016

    The last girl I talked with said this guy she

    was talking to was "just a friend," and that "nothing was ever possible between [them]." I became attached to her and her two adorable kids... I have a general idea of how people think. People are predictable. She'll be miserable until she hits the age of 30 or 35, when she...
    JuanJohnJ3rry JuanJohnJ3rry
    18-21, M
    Apr 5, 2016

    ill tell you my story,

    not for your sympathy or your sorrow. just to let it out..i had boyfriends growing...lots of boyfriends but not nothing special...too me sure i had flowers brought to me etc. i guess coming from a broken home, latch key kid kinda made me feel worthless and a father who did not...
    moongoddess35 moongoddess35
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Mar 2, 2016

    I've never ACTUALLY dated,

    I mean, I dated someone for a year when I was 12 but I broke up with him because i needed to "focus on school." But I'm extremely TERRIFIED of relationships. I'm scared of commitments. I'm scared of dating someone, and getting "old" to them. Them just getting "tired" of me...
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses Oct 19, 2015

    I'm scared of getting to close.

    What if they abuse my trust just like others did
    anestacia anestacia
    18-21, F
    Dec 22, 2015

    I just cant have one.

    .. I don''t want to get attached to someone and it goes down the drain I have seen it happen with other people I know and see how they react. Its Cruel I think
    thomas20s thomas20s
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Mar 25, 2016

    So this happened recently.

    ..i was in a year long long distance relationship with this girl! everything was upto the mark and i had all plans of going back and getting married to her! Turns out once i checked her icloud online and found out she has been cheating..confronted her and asked her why did she do...
    thatpiscesguy thatpiscesguy
    26-30, M
    1 Response Apr 18, 2016

    I'm not scared just overly cautious.

    You just never know. That's the scary part. Disney movie relationships exist in Disney movies. In real life things happen in relationships. Things change and people change. Feelings can change as well. Even understanding all of this it somehow gets to me. They say you should use...
    theblacksuggestionbox theblacksuggestionbox
    26-30, M
    2 Responses May 8, 2015

    Ive never been in one.

    . and from what my friends have been through..it doesnt sound great. It sucks because I know Ill probably go through a breakup..assuming the first person im with most likely wont last. Who usually stays with the first person they are with nowadays?
    jtymez4 jtymez4
    26-30, M
    3 Responses May 27, 2015

    I eventually want to get married to the right

    person. With that said do you think it's foolish to be with someone you really like but don't want to marry? Would I be wasting my time?
    thenicholasexperience thenicholasexperience
    36-40, M
    7 Responses Apr 11, 2016

    I know my parents will not approve

    so why should I get involved? I need to concentrate on my career not on boys Hope I can do it.
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Jan 21, 2016

    Every guy that i meet in my life will break my

    heart..the relationship goes smooth bt sum how the man go missing.I feel down and scared of meeting guys and i dnt trust them.
    shal123456 shal123456
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Apr 11, 2016

    I'm finally meeting my best friend.

    . I've known him for two years. He lives in another country.. And now the anxiety is kicking in.. I have two months. I've never been an insecure type.. But I've had recent weight gain because of birth control I had a bad reaction to. Now I'm uncomfortable in my own body, have...
    Bicurious12345 Bicurious12345
    18-21, F
    4 Responses May 23, 2015

    I just saw this story about 2 people

    who were in a relationship for almost 4 years and they broke up 5 months ago. I don't know why I got too scared, it made me realise how much I love my boyfriend and oh god, I don't know why I'm scared and my heart is pumping really fast.. I hate breakups Btw I'm 17 and I'll be...
    ReemLucis ReemLucis
    18-21, F
    12 Responses Jul 30, 2015
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