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I Am Scared of Relationships

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    Yep. People would say "it's part of life,

    it's natural" but for people who are scared like me, don't understand. I'm not saying I don't want to love, I don't want to say I'm scared. But I am. It's stopping me from being able to do things. If I was to meet up with a male, I'd automatically start to think about that...
    ThatBritishVirgin ThatBritishVirgin 18-21, F 5 Responses Apr 16, 2015

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    I've known this girl

    for a year I'll call her E, she was the nicest girl I met she lent me gloves when I needed it during winter she'd bring food when we're seshing.. we became pretty close, until she met my bestie/bro T they became a couple for a week or so then she broke it off.. weeks later I...
    dgkxcross dgkxcross 22-25, M 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    Finding the balance of myself

    and the other person, that line can become blurry when one loses oneself in the other person. Initially in the first stages where every moment your thoughts and feelings are consumed of the other person. Almost like you've merged with the person to become one flame. It becomes...
    helmsdeep helmsdeep 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 5

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    Past few months i broke up with my fiancee all

    that white dress dream vanished , he changed on me he was verbally abusing me , call me fat * which I'm not * , ... Etc ,. Until i realize he don't worth me because i felt he wanted to control my personality , my actions i was so weak toward him because i do not want to lose him...
    rooodii rooodii 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 27

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    I am not ashamed to admit it.

    I am scared of relationships.It has been 3 years since break up and it still haunts me. I have trust issues.I am scared to emotionally invest in a new relationship because last one left me drained out, exhausted and heart broken. It's difficult for someone who gives all when in...
    Susana1985 Susana1985 26-30, F 19 Responses May 30, 2014

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    Need advice I took my husband back

    after close to 3 years. I do not trust him at all. I'm scared... My anxiety is peaked.. Any advice
    mb1973 mb1973 41-45, F 9 Responses Jan 21

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    BastilleBlue BastilleBlue 18-21, F 9 Responses Aug 21, 2015

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    I guess I am not ready

    for one. I don't know how to get to a place where I will be ready for one. This really sweet and attractive and lovely guy clearly wants to get to know me better, but I feel like I'm putting up a wall even though I respond to his messages. I can tell he wants to get to know me...
    WingsofTime WingsofTime 22-25, F 4 Responses Feb 3

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    I have met someone on E P here I just hope

    the relationship with me and him will workout tween us and we have a good love life together and make a good pair he has come into my life to support me and repair my broken heart
    Kittymad1968 Kittymad1968 46-50, M 4 Responses Feb 5

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    I need to get married

    but I don't find my soulmate am feeling so lonely although am crowded with works and friends but I feel that there is something wrong with me making me unable to create a relationship .my family want me to get engaged as soon as possible and I need someone to share my life with...
    safyy safyy 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 27

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    Everyone wants to be in love,

    to be loved to be cared by someone.Even then also we are sometimes scared to be in a relationship.True love,love at first sight,prince charming,soulmate I don't know if they really exist,it never happened to me but one thing I know from my experience,to be in a committed...
    Magena Magena 31-35, F 4 Responses Sep 2, 2015

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    I'm turning 21 and I've never been in a

    relationship. Never dated, never had a boyfriend, nothing. I self sabotage. I 'jump ship' when there's any chance of something becoming serious. And at first I never really wondered why I was like that. I just accepted that that's who I am and what I do. But I've been thinking...
    JustAnAfricanGirl JustAnAfricanGirl 18-21, F 5 Responses Nov 7, 2015

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    I'm only young, 19, but I am terrified of

    relationships. I have commitment issues. I can find a guy I love and obsess over him but as soon as he gets close to me (like as a friend) or shows interest in me I loose all feelings because I'm scared of commitment and relationships. It sucks so bad, I'm scared I'll never...
    IndianaRoyals IndianaRoyals 18-21, F 7 Responses Jun 23, 2015

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    I'm not scared if relationships,

    I'm just scared of being hurt again. The last time, I fell for her sugar coated fake words and I trusted her, outcome? she ran out of love for me lol XD. I was reluctant to believe her but idk.. I was stupid enough to think she really meant it when she said she loved me...but...
    slytheringuy slytheringuy 16-17, M 5 Responses Nov 2, 2015

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    I am. They honestly ruin everything

    if they don't work out. I had a friend that I care for more than anything, we had this deep connection and he meant the world to me in many ways. He still does. He asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes . We fell in love and for me, it was perfect. He said and did so many...
    EssScissorHands EssScissorHands 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 5, 2015

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    Medusa89 Medusa89 26-30, F 7 Responses Mar 21, 2015

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    I used to have a major crush it n a

    girl actually she was the only girl that was in my mind for about 6 long years. I had temporary crushes along the way but nothing compared to the feeling I get when I see her. so I guess may be it was more than a crush. but the thing with me not making a move was that she was...
    tabooxxz tabooxxz 22-25, M 1 Response Jan 28

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    Relationships are truly wonderful.

    When two people are genuinely in love it's truly something. However, when relationships end it sucks. For my experience it was a matter of my partner not being in tune with her feelings and feeling things were rushed. We no longer had anything in common. It didn't feel like that...
    theblacksuggestionbox theblacksuggestionbox 26-30, M 3 Responses Feb 15, 2015

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    Just looking @ experience project from my lap

    top for the first time looks completely different too the app.In fact the app is crap in comparison .
    Francescaaaa Francescaaaa 18-21, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    And the funny thing is.

    .. although I'm not interested in having a serious relationship I feel bad when I casually sleep with my best friend. I guess it's about me wanting to feel like someone actually cares. Because let's face it, nobody really cares about stuff that concern you unless it concerns them...
    LaPetite1 LaPetite1 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 3

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    Her eyes alight with passion anew Like the

    meadows glittering morning dew, Burn deep into my heart & mind Like a Summers day her beauty shined.
    1felicity3 1felicity3 31-35, M 1 Response Jan 26

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    I'm not scared just overly cautious.

    You just never know. That's the scary part. Disney movie relationships exist in Disney movies. In real life things happen in relationships. Things change and people change. Feelings can change as well. Even understanding all of this it somehow gets to me. They say you should use...
    theblacksuggestionbox theblacksuggestionbox 26-30, M 4 Responses May 8, 2015

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    sparklingillusion sparklingillusion 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 17

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    I mean I would love to be in a relationship.

    I want to know what it's like to be in a relationship. But for as long as I can remember, I was one to never be able to keep a long lasting relationship with the people I had ever met. I've never been able to meet someone I could really call a friend in my hometown. And when I...
    MrIppikodoku MrIppikodoku 18-21, M 2 Responses Feb 4

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    Im afraid of relationships

    because I've been hurt so much in the past but I like that I can talk to this special someone it's nice that we can just talk about anything and everything and have no worries about what we're doing because their are no labels
    psychologyLover08 psychologyLover08 22-25, F 12 Responses Jan 13, 2015

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    I'm scared of getting to close.

    What if they abuse my trust just like others did
    anestacia anestacia 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 22, 2015

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    am so scared of relationships,

    i fear a heart break i wanna love but i dont have the strengh in me anymore its all gone am so sad so confused......
    sly15 sly15 22-25, F 5 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    I have spent the better part of the last seven

    years giving all I knew how to give to my husband... I wasn't perfect of course, I've made plenty of poor choices throughout it all but I never stopped trying to better myself and our marriage. We are still married and he is content living like strangers, while I am not. I come...
    Furiousfire Furiousfire 36-40, F 12 Responses Jul 17, 2015

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    And yet, here we are.

    Our love crossed oceans. Our dreams were stronger than our fears. And here we are... Your head is on my pillow beside me, and you are breathing softly as I run my fingers across your face. You are so at peace... I think you are smiling. I'm scared of relationships, but I'm...
    TheWildling TheWildling 22-25, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Yes, my guard is up and shouldn't it be.

    It is hard to keep trust only to get hurt. It is hard to open up yourself to someone only for them to use that information to manipulate you and destroy you. It is hard to be lied to when you are blindly thinking that your partner has your back. It is hard to spend all of you to...
    Healthyhappylife Healthyhappylife 41-45 3 Responses May 26, 2015

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    After the disaster known

    as my marriage, I'm terrified of dating again. Unfortunately, I'm also lonely. Sigh.
    midnitephoenix midnitephoenix 31-35, F 4 Responses Nov 2, 2015

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    I know my parents will not approve

    so why should I get involved? I need to concentrate on my career not on boys Hope I can do it.
    freakingawsum freakingawsum 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 21

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    My experience is weird ,

    I am in love with both of exes and not able to move on weird but true. Scared of new relationship. After meeting people for couple of times , I withdraw myself. It could be that I dont wanna get hurt no more but I still want to be loved.
    hurtangel hurtangel 26-30, F 9 Responses Dec 22, 2014

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    Been hurt too many times now,

    starting to give up..
    Adam352 Adam352 18-21, M 6 Responses Jul 6, 2015

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    UPDATED I am becoming extremely depressed,

    worried, and fearful. My stranger for a Mother's boyfriend and his family whom she brainwashed against me may have been harming our dog. I know this dog is everything and all that I've got. The problem is that my stranger for a Mother's boyfriend and his family hate everything...
    ONESTARRYSTARRYNIGHT ONESTARRYSTARRYNIGHT 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 21

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    After being dumped by twice

    after the relationship of 1.6 year each (co incidence ) i have lost faith in relationship ,I just cant give my emotions ,body and everything to other girl ,never again
    itshardtofindtruelove itshardtofindtruelove 18-21, M 3 Responses Feb 1

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    My thoughts then turned to the woman

    who had single-handedly brought my libido back from the brink of extinction. She gave rise to my nether regions by way of her sharp wit and penchant for profanity. She was the reason I woke up rearing to go; the object of my desire, the fuel for my fantasies. I dreamt of her...
    1felicity3 1felicity3 31-35, M 2 Responses Jan 22

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    I've never ACTUALLY dated,

    I mean, I dated someone for a year when I was 12 but I broke up with him because i needed to "focus on school." But I'm extremely TERRIFIED of relationships. I'm scared of commitments. I'm scared of dating someone, and getting "old" to them. Them just getting "tired" of me...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Oct 19, 2015

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    Sometimes it's better to move on,

    than to hold onto a person who doesn't understand you. Sometimes your absence will teach what your presence cannot.
    paradisedevotion paradisedevotion 16-17, F 3 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    I just noticed this group in my home feed.

    I felt like I needed to put up a post here. I've been putting up a bug front for six months about how I'm free now and single life is great but.... Side bar.... Truth be told... I'm afraid to try to be with someone. There are no prospects though so it's not like I'm in...
    katariffik katariffik 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 27

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    I just saw this story about 2 people

    who were in a relationship for almost 4 years and they broke up 5 months ago. I don't know why I got too scared, it made me realise how much I love my boyfriend and oh god, I don't know why I'm scared and my heart is pumping really fast.. I hate breakups Btw I'm 17 and I'll be...
    ReemNoctis ReemNoctis 18-21, F 16 Responses Jul 30, 2015

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    GowthamVivek GowthamVivek 26-30, M 1 Response Jan 29

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    She took a deep breath

    and removed her bra and panties. Standing there before me fully nude, she trembled as I gazed upon her. She became self-conscious of the cellulite in her stomach, the stretch marks, what she thought of as sagging skin and breasts. But me? I saw an incredibly beautiful woman that...
    1felicity3 1felicity3 31-35, M 1 Response Jan 31

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    Too many bad experiences.

    After my last breakup I finally managed to put on a tough exterior. An "I don't give a ****" attitude. And I had almost convinced myself that I'll be okay if I'm alone forever. The truth is, I'm a relationship person and always will be. I crave being loved and appreciated, and I...
    Rosaalie Rosaalie 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 16, 2015

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    you know you're hurt

    when you can feel your heart physically break. awesome.
    allie72465 allie72465 18-21, F Jun 29, 2015

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