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I Am Scared of Relationships

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    Find Me Somebody To Love...

    Here's an excerpt from a conversation I was having with a friend. I feel somewhat vulnerable putting this piece up but what the heck, perhaps it will prove to be beneficial to some. I hope it will. I have always known that inorder to be able to give, you must first be happy...
    Scorpio1987 Scorpio1987 22-25, M 2 Responses Aug 16, 2012

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    I'm afraid of getting hurt.

    I'm afraid of being trapped with someone that I grow out of or vise versa. I'm afraid of repeating old patterns. I'm afraid of wasting my time. I'm afraid to settle.
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 29

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    Yes I Am Scared Of...

    Yes i am scared of relationships, even platonic ones. Due to me being scared i take things at a snails pace and let ALL new ppl who seek relationships with me, that this is my reality. I need a feel of control regarding the pace, as many people have hurt me in the past. I know...
    AlwaysRemembers AlwaysRemembers 41-45, F 1 Response May 27, 2007

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    I feel like I'll never be good enough,

    I'm afraid of trying to have a relationship with anyone and just tired of getting hurt
    kanashimi93 kanashimi93 13-15, F 3 Responses Nov 7

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    God I hate relationships,

    and it hasn't been ******* after ******* after *******. It's been me, I don't what my problem is. I guess it's me being defensive, all the the anger I have. Not wanting to trust anyone, wanting to be alone. I feel if I push everyone away it'll be okay. I feel if I don't let...
    Katiepoohmm Katiepoohmm 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 21

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    ...with men. I'm on here

    for a different reason.
    bbluvsmomee bbluvsmomee 26-30 1 Response Nov 21

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    Recently got in a relationship with a guy

    but we have nothing to talk about when we text. In person we talk and stuff but not a lot .i just don't think we are right for each other . Maybe it's just lust or maybe it's to early to tell.
    mimilsu mimilsu 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 29

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    I don't know why, but I am.

    The idea of being in a relationship genuinely scares me.
    Ri95 Ri95 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 20

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    I Just Cant Do Them

    I can't cope when I'm in a relationship, I like my freedom and I feel suffocated when I'm with someone. I can't trust people, and I can't let them in on my feelings or my weaknesses, so there's always a barrier between me and the person I'm with. The thought of...
    deschanel deschanel 16-17, F 7 Responses Aug 9, 2009

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    I'm scared of abuse when I'm in relationships

    with my girlfriend. Sometimes I don't like when she hit me or do stuff like abused me. It can be end up of our relationship. Cause I'm scared about long term since she abuse me. How I can stop her?
    shaqwanna shaqwanna 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 19

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    After my last one ...

    I can not even bear the thought of falling in love As soon as someone lovely comes along or someone i could potentially be with my stomach aches from the fearful thoughts that i could get attached, so i pull away. Instead of me loosing someone, i run away . I dont want to be...
    generationlover generationlover 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 3

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    What is love? Saying "I love you" every day?

    Canoodling? Buying presents? Helping with chores? Having sex? Physical attraction? Loyalty? Honesty? Living together? Laughing or making laugh? Having fun together? Raising kids? Being considerate? Being married and strings attached? Not looking at or getting attracted to other...
    nojokeintended nojokeintended 36-40, M 1 Response Oct 8

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    I fell for a people-pleaser.

    The problem is, he doesn't seem very interested in ME. He mostly avoided me when we were seeing each other (except the very beginning of course) and then started pursuing after I ended it. The thing is - I ended it because he just didn't put any effort in. I really don't want...
    elevating elevating 36-40, F Nov 25

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    Did I Say That???

    Love is always patient and kind.. It is never jealous. Love is never boastful or conceited. It is never rude or selfish. It does not take offense and is not resentful. Love takes no pleasure in the sins of others, but delights in the truth. It is always ready to excuse and trust...
    vinonut vinonut 46-50, M 1 Response Dec 4, 2010

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    I am scared of being in relationship due to the

    bad experiences of my parents, being able to see how little things can have a big impact in your relationship either bad or good. Just being able to witness what my mom has to go through her relationship, its tough and scary. Its just hard and it gives you that scary feeling .
    acesha16 acesha16 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 25

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    I Just Been Hurt Too Many Times

    I have grown up seeing bad relationships, both of my parent are divorce and they both got emarried to differant people then they both divorce. My stepmom treated my dad like ****, which is why now he treats women like ****. My mom is always drunk, and is in an abusive...
    The1ginger The1ginger 18-21, F 12 Responses Jan 4, 2013

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    Scared Of Relationships? Or Sick Of The Perpetual Heartbreak, Lies, Pain, Manipulation, And B.S.?

    Well where to begin? ever since I came out of the closet, and started dating my life has been nothing but, sadness, deceipt, and regret, even though I shouldn't really close myself up to love, I have gotten to the point where I realized it's just not worth it anymore, sure I...
    Alan132 Alan132 22-25, M 2 Responses Sep 16, 2011

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    I'm Scared

    If I could explain why I am afraid of relationships.....I could probably try and fix it,,,,but I don't know why. All I know is I met someone recently...we have a lot in common...we seem to click....have good chemistry....and now I'm getting depressed again because I can feel the...
    QueenOfHearts QueenOfHearts 22-25, F 5 Responses Apr 23, 2009

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    Yes, i know this is weird to most of you

    but i am truly scared, disgusted, and completely uninterested in relationships. Ever since I can remember I have been putting people in the "friend zone". I cringe at PDA everywhere and I just may be the biggest ****-blocker this side of the Mississippi. Now don't get me wrong...
    Lunawoofy Lunawoofy 18-21 1 Response Aug 28

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    Yes I am afraid of relationships.

    I've been for a while now but I haven't told anyone. A relationship is alot to put into. You have to text that person everyday, ask them how was their day, see them, and stuff like that. I could do all of that but I don't think there's someone for me. All the relationships I...
    WeirdOtaku WeirdOtaku 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 2

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    Never push a loyal person to the point

    where they no longer give a damn.
    Thiswillbethelast Thiswillbethelast 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 5

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    We are afraid to care too much,

    for fear that the other person does not care at all. - Eleanor Roosevelt That describes how I feel nw.
    esalma98 esalma98 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 20

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    Relationships are hard.

    No one ever really talks about that side of things. We watch the movies and everything is beautiful and romantic and fun but that's not how life works out. Relationships are ******* hard. It is hard to stay with someone when things aren't going great.Its hard to fight that voice...
    TheGirlFromJupiter TheGirlFromJupiter 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 12

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    I love the beginning stages of a relationship

    where you've just met someone, you don't know if they like you like that yet and so you get to flirt with them meanwhile until one of you decides to take a chance on having read the signals correctly. Those are the fun parts, those are the parts I love more than anything! The...
    EngulfingBreeze EngulfingBreeze 22-25, F Nov 21

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    My boyfriend wants me to trust him,

    but he has already cheated on me once, and is in another state at the moment for work. I love him and I feel like I can't loose him. :/ stuck in a hard place right now with choosing what to do :(
    ineedfriends1674 ineedfriends1674 18-21, F 4 Responses Nov 21

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    ggboo ggboo 16-17, F Mar 28

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    I've broken hearts, I've had my heart broken

    and letting my gf in scares the ******* **** out of me and makes me feel dumb.
    adventurestallion adventurestallion 22-25, M 1 Response Nov 30

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    Scared to Open Up

    Sometimes I feel as if my romantic involvements with other people are cursed.  I have dated many people but have only felt genuine connections with a handful; yet for whatever reason, those connections have always fallen apart for reasons outside of my control. Now I...
    Seraph1m Seraph1m 26-30, M 11 Responses Aug 6, 2006

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    I don't know why but ever

    since I broke up with my first boyfriend Sam I've been scared of long term relationships (We dated for over eight months). Now when I dated a guy it usually lasts around one or two days because I'm paranoid of getting hurt (physically and emotionally) like I had gotten with Sam...
    Teenager1421 Teenager1421 13-15, F Sep 14

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    Ohhh Nooo! D:

    A table for two? Sharing each other's food?! Mimicking the traits of another person?!! DATE NIGHT?!!! TWO FAMILIES...?!!!!!! Ahhhhh!! D:Oh, it was just a bad dream... just a bad dream... *wipes forehead while breathing heavily*.Phew. :o
    OblitusAuri OblitusAuri 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 11, 2012

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    myhappylittlepill myhappylittlepill 13-15, F Nov 25

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    So my boyfriend and I have been fighting alot

    lately. We've been on and off and we have been dating for more than 2 years. His past is what bothers me. He talked to so much girls and flirted with them. I did the same thing when I found out he was doing that. I went myself and started texting and calling every guy just so he...
    Zozolove Zozolove 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 31

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    Zozolove Zozolove 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 16

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    I'm scared to start a relationship.

    I worry they'll use me to just get into my pants, abuse me or make me feel bad. Also what If no one will like me for having flaws or that I don't want to have sex, and that I want to be treated like a lady and not a toy.
    BooBear99 BooBear99 13-15, F 4 Responses Mar 22

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    I am so scared of relationships

    and getting in too deep that I have become emotionally detached to men and I am able to just use them for sex and nothing more. I don't get attached at all I can screw you one day and never talk to you again.
    anonymousaquarious anonymousaquarious 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 25

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    I am not ashamed to admit it.

    I am scared of relationships.It has been 3 years since break up and it still haunts me. I have trust issues.I am scared to emotionally invest in a new relationship because last one left me drained out, exhausted and heart broken. It's difficult for someone who gives all when in...
    Susana1985 Susana1985 26-30, F 22 Responses May 30

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    What if I **** it up?

    What if I get hurt? But more importantly what if I hurt them? But that's the risk isn't it? To risk it all and place all your trust in someone you hope keeps your heart safe.
    mfarrell95 mfarrell95 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 16

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    I'm terrified of falling in love again.

    I've been utterly destroyed by the pain of my last one. I've never been in so much pain before...
    painseeker16 painseeker16 18-21, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Never had a relationship last over a year.

    It amazes me how people can have a relationship that last a long time. Most people annoy me within a month of dating. It's not like I'm even that fussy really.
    Paleandpolluted86 Paleandpolluted86 26-30, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I think a tiny,minute part of me wants to live

    out that "till death do us part" fantasy. But I know a great part of me is all about being free to move on whenever the need strikes. My ex said I'm a leaver, that I'm happiest when I'm leaving. I know i cannot handle people attaching themselves to me and not letting go when...
    IAmOptimusPrime IAmOptimusPrime 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 30

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    wisdomgirl wisdomgirl 16-17, F 2 Responses Sep 13

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    Sigh.... I know, I know.

      Working on it.
    elevating elevating 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 25

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    I find myself over thinking new relationships,

    contemplating on if we are taking it to fast, getting to close. On how I can nurture this new fragile relationship so it could potentially blossom into love. But my ignorance of relationships leave me feelings like I am taking a shot in the dark. Falling into something that...
    Scarlett13 Scarlett13 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 5

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    I'm afraid that I'm never going to find love.

    I know I have a long time but I'm just nervous about it and how I will turn out.
    alyssad1016 alyssad1016 13-15, F Jul 21

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    I think after being hurt

    so many times, your body especially your heart automatically just becomes numb to the idea of a relationship and when someone comes along you just think they're the same. You really don't have control over protecting your heart until you decide to let your guard down for some...
    SlowlyLosingItAll SlowlyLosingItAll 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 29

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    Entering Into A New Relationship...

    is scary because your entering into another persons life... in the beginning your worried if they will like you, except you, want to see you again...  once your in a solid relationship your worried if they will love you forever, be there for you when your in need, hurt you...
    myserendipity myserendipity 41-45, F 5 Responses Sep 8, 2011

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    lastchance232isapussy lastchance232isapussy 22-25, T 2 Responses Nov 20

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    Guilty

    I recently started dating this sweet guy.. but I'm terrified. I told him I was scared and he said he understood and wouldn't hurt me. that we could take it slow. I feel guilty about being scared and not trusting him. But I can't. Not yet. What if he lied?! Or decide things were...
    oOoAllieoOo oOoAllieoOo 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 18, 2012

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    Yes I'm scared of relationships.

    Every time I have liked a guy and tried going for it they would hurt me before we even got into the relationship so I have been scared of getting hurt since and haven't bothered in trying to get a boyfriend cause I'm scared I will get hurt even worse :(
    brenda4696 brenda4696 18-21, F 6 Responses Dec 10

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    Or being restrained by one.

    A lot of things factor into it and sometimes when I weight the pros and cons, the cons outweight the pros.
    Felicity3110 Felicity3110 22-25, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I'm scared of looking

    for a relationship because I'm scared of rejection. I'm scared of wanting a relationship because I don't think anyone will want one with me. I just feel so bad about myself that I find it hard to imagine any NORMAL guy wanting to be with me.
    josieyup josieyup 22-25, F 16 Responses Mar 24

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