Post
Experience Project iOS Android Apps | Download EP for your Mobile Device

I Am Scared of Relationships

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 14,805 People

    I just saw this story about 2 people

    who were in a relationship for almost 4 years and they broke up 5 months ago. I don't know why I got too scared, it made me realise how much I love my boyfriend and oh god, I don't know why I'm scared and my heart is pumping really fast.. I hate breakups Btw I'm 17 and I'll be...
    ReemNoctis ReemNoctis 18-21, F 16 Responses Jul 30, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    My experience is weird ,

    I am in love with both of exes and not able to move on weird but true. Scared of new relationship. After meeting people for couple of times , I withdraw myself. It could be that I dont wanna get hurt no more but I still want to be loved.
    hurtangel hurtangel 26-30, F 9 Responses Dec 22, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I feel like I cannot have a relationship

    anymore. I had very happy relationships in the past, I am 24 and was engaged twice, I am also still flattered by men's attention more often than not. As of right now, though, I feel like i am not entitled to my own feelings anymore, and I end up with very shallow connections...
    foca91 foca91 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 2

    Your Response

    Cancel

    People ask me why I'm not in one,

    I say I don't want one but it's just that I'm scared. The people who I have trusted in the past have let me down. Also could be that I bore people cause I am terrible at conversations
    anestacia anestacia 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 4

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I guess I am not ready

    for one. I don't know how to get to a place where I will be ready for one. This really sweet and attractive and lovely guy clearly wants to get to know me better, but I feel like I'm putting up a wall even though I respond to his messages. I can tell he wants to get to know me...
    WingsofTime WingsofTime 22-25, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Finding the balance of myself

    and the other person, that line can become blurry when one loses oneself in the other person. Initially in the first stages where every moment your thoughts and feelings are consumed of the other person. Almost like you've merged with the person to become one flame. It becomes...
    helmsdeep helmsdeep 31-35, F 1 Response 2 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel

    After being dumped by twice

    after the relationship of 1.6 year each (co incidence ) i have lost faith in relationship ,I just cant give my emotions ,body and everything to other girl ,never again
    itshardtofindtruelove itshardtofindtruelove 18-21, M 3 Responses 5 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I'm not scared just overly cautious.

    You just never know. That's the scary part. Disney movie relationships exist in Disney movies. In real life things happen in relationships. Things change and people change. Feelings can change as well. Even understanding all of this it somehow gets to me. They say you should use...
    theblacksuggestionbox theblacksuggestionbox 26-30, M 4 Responses May 8, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Yes, my guard is up and shouldn't it be.

    It is hard to keep trust only to get hurt. It is hard to open up yourself to someone only for them to use that information to manipulate you and destroy you. It is hard to be lied to when you are blindly thinking that your partner has your back. It is hard to spend all of you to...
    Healthyhappylife Healthyhappylife 41-45 3 Responses May 26, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I'm turning 21 and I've never been in a

    relationship. Never dated, never had a boyfriend, nothing. I self sabotage. I 'jump ship' when there's any chance of something becoming serious. And at first I never really wondered why I was like that. I just accepted that that's who I am and what I do. But I've been thinking...
    JustAnAfricanGirl JustAnAfricanGirl 18-21, F 5 Responses Nov 7, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Her eyes alight with passion anew Like the

    meadows glittering morning dew, Burn deep into my heart & mind Like a Summers day her beauty shined.
    1felicity3 1felicity3 31-35, M 1 Response Jan 26

    Your Response

    Cancel

    She took a deep breath

    and removed her bra and panties. Standing there before me fully nude, she trembled as I gazed upon her. She became self-conscious of the cellulite in her stomach, the stretch marks, what she thought of as sagging skin and breasts. But me? I saw an incredibly beautiful woman that...
    1felicity3 1felicity3 31-35, M 1 Response a week ago

    Your Response

    Cancel

    And the funny thing is.

    .. although I'm not interested in having a serious relationship I feel bad when I casually sleep with my best friend. I guess it's about me wanting to feel like someone actually cares. Because let's face it, nobody really cares about stuff that concern you unless it concerns them...
    LaPetite1 LaPetite1 26-30, F 1 Response 4 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I am not ashamed to admit it.

    I am scared of relationships.It has been 3 years since break up and it still haunts me. I have trust issues.I am scared to emotionally invest in a new relationship because last one left me drained out, exhausted and heart broken. It's difficult for someone who gives all when in...
    Susana1985 Susana1985 26-30, F 19 Responses May 30, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Im afraid of relationships

    because I've been hurt so much in the past but I like that I can talk to this special someone it's nice that we can just talk about anything and everything and have no worries about what we're doing because their are no labels
    psychologyLover08 psychologyLover08 22-25, F 12 Responses Jan 13, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    In every relationship I've had,

    I've given everything. Literally everything I have to give. And was happy to do it. I can't explain how good it made me feel to be so invested in someone's happiness. It didn't matter their flaws and imperfections. I loved them. And I had a revelation tonight while I was driving...
    Bicurious12345 Bicurious12345 18-21, F 8 Responses May 29, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I've been with this guy

    for 2 years, and I'm terrified. Does that make sense? I've always been afraid of falling in love, and whenever I have, I have gotten hurt, badly. And know with this guy, I'm head over heels and it terrifies me! It scares me so much that I'm so in love, because a part of me is...
    Tutuita Tutuita 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 25

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I know my parents will not approve

    so why should I get involved? I need to concentrate on my career not on boys Hope I can do it.
    freakingawsum freakingawsum 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 21

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Ive never been in one.

    . and from what my friends have been through..it doesnt sound great. It sucks because I know Ill probably go through a breakup..assuming the first person im with most likely wont last. Who usually stays with the first person they are with nowadays?
    jtymez4 jtymez4 26-30, M 3 Responses May 27, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I wish i wasn't scared to love

    and would chose the right guys that can love me. I always chose the wrong ones because I know that I won't fall be attached and I can run away quickly. I make it so I can run for the exit and he most likely won't run after me. When guys are capable to love I run the opposite...
    deleted deleted 26-30 13 Responses Apr 16, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Past few months i broke up with my fiancee all

    that white dress dream vanished , he changed on me he was verbally abusing me , call me fat * which I'm not * , ... Etc ,. Until i realize he don't worth me because i felt he wanted to control my personality , my actions i was so weak toward him because i do not want to lose him...
    rooodii rooodii 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 27

    Your Response

    Cancel

    http://www.whydontyoutrythis.

    com/2013/10/where-there-is-love-there-is-life-mahatma-gandhi.html
    Kmacgurl93 Kmacgurl93 22-25, F Jan 2

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I'm not scared if relationships,

    I'm just scared of being hurt again. The last time, I fell for her sugar coated fake words and I trusted her, outcome? she ran out of love for me lol XD. I was reluctant to believe her but idk.. I was stupid enough to think she really meant it when she said she loved me...but...
    slytheringuy slytheringuy 16-17, M 4 Responses Nov 2, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I'm only young, 19, but I am terrified of

    relationships. I have commitment issues. I can find a guy I love and obsess over him but as soon as he gets close to me (like as a friend) or shows interest in me I loose all feelings because I'm scared of commitment and relationships. It sucks so bad, I'm scared I'll never...
    IndianaRoyals IndianaRoyals 18-21, F 7 Responses Jun 23, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    you know you're hurt

    when you can feel your heart physically break. awesome.
    allie72465 allie72465 18-21, F Jun 29, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Medusa89 Medusa89 26-30, F 7 Responses Mar 21, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I am. They honestly ruin everything

    if they don't work out. I had a friend that I care for more than anything, we had this deep connection and he meant the world to me in many ways. He still does. He asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes . We fell in love and for me, it was perfect. He said and did so many...
    EssScissorHands EssScissorHands 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 5, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I've never ACTUALLY dated,

    I mean, I dated someone for a year when I was 12 but I broke up with him because i needed to "focus on school." But I'm extremely TERRIFIED of relationships. I'm scared of commitments. I'm scared of dating someone, and getting "old" to them. Them just getting "tired" of me...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Oct 19, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel
    sparklingillusion sparklingillusion 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 17

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I'm finally meeting my best friend.

    . I've known him for two years. He lives in another country.. And now the anxiety is kicking in.. I have two months. I've never been an insecure type.. But I've had recent weight gain because of birth control I had a bad reaction to. Now I'm uncomfortable in my own body, have...
    Bicurious12345 Bicurious12345 18-21, F 4 Responses May 23, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Why do so many men and women

    who are ?happily married? spend so much time with others online? Is it because women feel desired by the images of gentlemen online, do they not get enough attention in real life? Does being behind a screen make us braver? Is it the excitement of flirting with a stranger or...
    1felicity3 1felicity3 31-35, M 1 Response Jan 22

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I feel like I can't ever be in a relationship

    because my mind is back and forth between nothing and everything. I'm too scared to let anyone who has interest in me past friendship. Friendship I can do a relationship with one person terrifies me
    foreverachild foreverachild 18-21 1 Response 1 day ago

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Relationships are truly wonderful.

    When two people are genuinely in love it's truly something. However, when relationships end it sucks. For my experience it was a matter of my partner not being in tune with her feelings and feeling things were rushed. We no longer had anything in common. It didn't feel like that...
    theblacksuggestionbox theblacksuggestionbox 26-30, M 3 Responses Feb 15, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I'm really scared of relationships,

    but I'm desperate for one. Just to feel that love and have someone to focus on. I hope one day it can happen, if I were religious I'd pray for it, but I'm not. I'm told that I value myself on my relationships. I invest my whole self into them... They become me and I'm consumed...
    AlphaGoat AlphaGoat 31-35, M 1 Response Jan 29

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I just noticed this group in my home feed.

    I felt like I needed to put up a post here. I've been putting up a bug front for six months about how I'm free now and single life is great but.... Side bar.... Truth be told... I'm afraid to try to be with someone. There are no prospects though so it's not like I'm in...
    katariffik katariffik 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 27

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Just looking @ experience project from my lap

    top for the first time looks completely different too the app.In fact the app is crap in comparison .
    Francescaaaa Francescaaaa 18-21, F 2 Responses 20 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    RagingDemon29 RagingDemon29 13-15, F 7 Responses Dec 6, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    A boy makes his girl jealous of other women,

    A true gentleman makes other women jealous of his girl.
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Mar 6, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I have met someone on E P here I just hope

    the relationship with me and him will workout tween us and we have a good love life together and make a good pair he has come into my life to support me and repair my broken heart
    Kittymad1968 Kittymad1968 46-50, M 4 Responses 2 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel

    am so scared of relationships,

    i fear a heart break i wanna love but i dont have the strengh in me anymore its all gone am so sad so confused......
    sly15 sly15 22-25, F 5 Responses Dec 28, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I have spent the better part of the last seven

    years giving all I knew how to give to my husband... I wasn't perfect of course, I've made plenty of poor choices throughout it all but I never stopped trying to better myself and our marriage. We are still married and he is content living like strangers, while I am not. I come...
    Furiousfire Furiousfire 36-40, F 12 Responses Jul 17, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel
    sprklingwind sprklingwind 26-30, M 4 Responses Jan 26

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Ever since a person who I loved very much died

    of cancer i have found it very difficult to love again. I have gone for many years without being in a relationship. I feel like the capacity to love has died in me. I know that it is fear based, that loosing someone to death is very traumatic, but still I truly feel that that...
    davidruss1 davidruss1 41-45, M 7 Responses Jan 8

    Your Response

    Cancel

    My thoughts then turned to the woman

    who had single-handedly brought my libido back from the brink of extinction. She gave rise to my nether regions by way of her sharp wit and penchant for profanity. She was the reason I woke up rearing to go; the object of my desire, the fuel for my fantasies. I dreamt of her...
    1felicity3 1felicity3 31-35, M 2 Responses Jan 22

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I'm scared of getting to close.

    What if they abuse my trust just like others did
    anestacia anestacia 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 22, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel