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I Am Scared to Love Because I Might Get Hurt

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    My Past

    In my past, men would always say "I love you", and I would believe them.............but then they would abuse me. I have never had a guy say that they loved me and really love me. I really don't know what love is, even though i try to be the perfect girlfriend. I am so scared to...
    telle19 telle19 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 24, 2012

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    I've never been in a relationship

    as I liked a guy for 4 yers on and off because he kept giving me mixed signals and I was young and couldn't comprehend what was going on, then I realised how much of a **** he was and I think if I got speaking to some guy more I may develop feelings and I'm too scared to even go...
    Laeia Laeia 18-21, F Nov 16, 2014

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    All you need is a little love in the dark !

    !! but that question is" does love really exist " ?
    AngieM12 AngieM12 13-15, F 1 Response Oct 28, 2014

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    My last boyfriend cheated on me 15 times I kept

    going back to him cause I felt like I'll be alone forever if I left him he made me feel like he was the only guy on this planted that's ever going to want me ....I believed it like a dummy but something deep down in my heart told me I'll rather be alone forever then to sit there...
    tamaraiwannaknow tamaraiwannaknow 16-17, F Jul 24, 2014

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    So my ex called me, asking

    for me to forgive him for what was said! He explained how he never meant to make me feel like that way. He was simply joking... I told him regardless whether you were joking or not; that is a no no!!!! He mention how he really wants a serious relationship w/ me and that he...
    missyluvslilies missyluvslilies 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 20, 2014

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    I once had a HUGE crush on this one particular

    guy and was obsessed with him for like 7 years. YIKES. Then one day I finally got the courage to tell him I like him. Then, he told me he liked me and made my heart skip a beat. Well I was happy of course but turns out, he was just another guy who hurts your heart and tears them...
    Faustina2001 Faustina2001 13-15, F Oct 13, 2014

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    It seems like i have had a crush on this one guy

    for a while now. i have never really liked someone before I never thought that it could really hurt. i know that we will never be together I know i'm to scared to tell him my feelings and I know that just brings me more pain. but I can't help it so the only thing I do now is...
    LuvlyLola LuvlyLola 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 11

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    I was always this way

    since I had a crush on someone years ago and had my feelings crushed when the person completely let me down. I am trying to be in love at the present time since I am sick of being lonely, but still scared. I am currently in touch with someone, but not entirely sure how it is...
    asert12345678 asert12345678 31-35, M 1 Response Nov 4, 2014

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    Always Seems To Be The Way....

    I was always so loving and affectionate when I was young. Never worried about getting hurt. But now it is all I do. The only person who can protect myself from hurt is me. I know how it feels to be alone and have no support. I have lived it and felt it and it is terrifying. I can...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 31, 2013

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    Never be scared to fall in love especially

    when the person shares qualities you find attractive. Being scared I borderline pathetic because you are stopping you self from pursuing happiness.
    Deuz Deuz 22-25, M Jan 12

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    This Seems to Happen Often With Me ....

    You find the perfect lover, you fall in love, you love, you cry! Sometimes I just don't want to let myself love again ... and yet, I need to love someone, I need to be loved.....  
    kinkitty kinkitty 36-40, F 37 Responses Mar 9, 2008

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    I liked this boy he said he would dump his

    girlfriend turns out he was trying to prank me and I cried all night and I lost all my friends... It's all over for me
    banditbella21 banditbella21 51-55, F 1 Response Feb 4

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    This Made My Tear Up A Little... :(

    "Boy aren't Jerks" Girl: Slow down, I'm scared. Guy: No, this is fun. Girl: No it's not!Please it's too scary! Guy: Then tell me you love me. Girl: Fine I love you. Slow down! Guy: Now give me a BIG hug! Girl : hugs him Guy: Can you take my helmet off and put it on yourself? It's...
    BehindClosedDoors BehindClosedDoors 18-21, F 6 Responses Oct 4, 2011

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    It terrifies me when a guy says they like me it

    gives me anxiety. My ex went out with my bestfriend and she didnt care that it might hurt me. I tried to be ok and suddenly i just couldnt. Her boyfriend and i were hanging out because we were friends. We kissed and i told him i couldnt hurt the other girl. He asked me to kiss...
    Hope6800 Hope6800 13-15, F 3 Responses Jul 1, 2014

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    Guys,he just told me

    that he loves me and I know he means it. I'm just scared because sometimes I feel like he doesn't want me half as bad as I want him and doesn't make as much of an effort and that hurts so bad but then Sometimes he's just everything . I'm just so afraid of getting hurt,dealing...
    prettyboo711 prettyboo711 18-21, F 3 Responses Feb 3

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    My Mending Heart

    As some of you may know, my heart has been broken a few times in the last year.  My heart has been "won" over, stupidly given away freely, only to be torn and ripped and shattered to pieces.  I'm afraid to fall.  I'm worried about having that pain again...
    CuriosityKitten CuriosityKitten 31-35, F 27 Responses Jan 24, 2009

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    Hurting In Life

    I am new to this but need to talk with someone. I was married for 18 years and my ex cheated on me. Since our divorce, I have had a fwb relationship. I know morally it was not right but had the feeling like it was better to be with someone like that than be alone. Last night he...
    lgdb lgdb 41-45, F 3 Responses May 5, 2013

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    Larry's Rejection Letter From E-harmony

    I see now the truth comes out....
    Vivagalore Vivagalore 31-35, F 11 Responses Aug 23, 2012

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    We Can Still Control Our Fears..

    God created us with a small heart, filled with feelings and love, but he balanced them with a wise and deep mind. Im one of those who are scared to love, even scared to trust, because in every time, i end up by being hurt. So i decided no to love again, and not to trust anyone...
    LonelyGurlll LonelyGurlll 18-21, F 8 Responses Jun 2, 2011

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    Online Love

    so you find some one onine you fallen in love not ever really knowing if she or he is who they say they are but still you let you self stupid love this person whole heartedly wait on thier every message and e-mail reply and you never really think it is any thing serious untill...
    justmebeautiful justmebeautiful 22-25, F 5 Responses Feb 5, 2011

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    I've been in this route before.

    .. Time after time, True love is so hard to find. I know this feeling is temporary just like everything in life. I am disappointed in allowing someone in again. When I promised myself, I wouldn't go down this road again. I hate giving my hopes up! I would like to find someone...
    missyluvslilies missyluvslilies 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 17, 2014

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    Love Stinks

    I've had relationships in the past where its all been dandy and good in the beginning then something changes all of a sudden it seems like I'm exactly what they don't want and then I get dumped. The other day I saw a new couple and I broke down crying. Maybe I should go to...
    Peep22 Peep22 22-25, F 6 Responses Sep 5, 2011

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    Even a happy life cannot be without a measure

    of darkness, and the word happy would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness. It is far better take things as they come along with patience and equanimity.
    tiya78 tiya78 26-30, F Jan 31

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    If You Only Knew...

    I want you to know that.... Remember that one time you messaged me, out of nowhere. Where before I just thought of you as the random guy at work I didn't really talk to until you messaged me. And it was unexpected, and you made me feel...I don't know. And the next day, you walked...
    tastedtherain tastedtherain 26-30, F 2 Responses May 2, 2013

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    Some People are afraid to love

    because they might get hurt... But we are totally fine living day by day not knowing if a gamma burst out in space may occur and life as we know it could be gone faster than the blink of an eye. Take a risk in your life... Don't be weak.
    ValhallaAwaits ValhallaAwaits 18-21, M 1 Response Jan 11

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    I didn't grow up in a romantic family.

    Truthfully, I've never seen my parents kiss AT ALL. It's kinda sad. I'm super picky on boys and have never had a boyfriend. Of course I've been asked out, but what's the point of investing your time in a guy when he'll just hurt you in the end. I'm not gonna find the perfect...
    GetYourFreakOn GetYourFreakOn 18-21, F 11 Responses Oct 13, 2014

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    Facing My Fear

    It is scary, but I'm doing it anyways                 She might hurt me, but I can't live being afraid I no longer hide my love away                  And in her smile, my loves debt is paid...
    fadeintoyou fadeintoyou 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 27, 2011

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    Sadness Flies Away On The Wings Of Time

    Count the garden by the flowers never by the leaves that fall. Count youre life with smiles and not the tears that fall. Soon youre fears will dissapear and you will love.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 31, 2012

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    Today a guy asked me out on a date.

    .. And it was sweet and all but I'm not sure if it's to soon to think about dating again! I mean he is 25 and I'm 27. He seems like a really sweet guy and my dog doesn't usually like anyone especially males. My dog actually liked him sat on his lap and licked his face. My dog is...
    missyluvslilies missyluvslilies 26-30, F 4 Responses Nov 15, 2014

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    Younger Women are more Willing to Marry Older

    Men. A recent survey measured people’s attitudes about marrying a partner either older or younger than themselves. The survey results showed that women were significantly more willing than men, to marry a partner who was 5 years older than they were. On the other hand, it also...
    Donnaccaa Donnaccaa 26-30, F Feb 3

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    I have been single for

    so long, because I didn't wanna get hurt again. Normally if I meet someone and it began to get serious I would end it. But I have been putting myself out there meeting new guys. There is one on particular I really like, but I am so scared oh getting hut. I'm afraid I'm going to...
    caspercolen caspercolen 36-40, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I recently got out of a relationship last month.

    Ironically it only lasted for a month like my mom said it was just a summer romance. I didn't really believe it was true and then I started realizing that my mom was right all along. Don't get me wrong I was happy with him in the beginning then it just went downhill and it wasn...
    andreaespe andreaespe 18-21, F Sep 21, 2014

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    Why Is Nothing Ever Simple...

    I like being single and thought I was pretty well immune to feelings of love. A while back however I began chatting to a girl on the internet and felt an unusual connection, so much so that I have been doing the same each night for weeks. Its feel like I have fallen in love with...
    WhyDoesThisHappen WhyDoesThisHappen 31-35, M 3 Responses Aug 29, 2011

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    Oh No ...

    No no no ... not scared at all ... For what it's worth I will always love ... it's never something which I will run out of ... it's infinite ... Sure I have my vulnerable moments like everyone does ... times when I feel unsure and afraid ... but love is abundance ... abundance...
    womaninbliss womaninbliss 51-55, F 2 Responses Dec 10, 2010

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    my heart feels very empty

    since I broke up a few months ago. He was my first boyfriend, and it's hurting so much. since then, I decided not to fall in love again for these months. But recently, some people said that they love me. I don't know what to do. And I think I also in a crush with someone, but I...
    Lovelyday235 Lovelyday235 13-15, F 5 Responses Oct 28, 2014

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    Terrified....

    I'm deathly affraid to get my heart broken again, its held together barley by some close, and stitches, I'm scared I won't be able to fix it, if it breaks again =/
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Aug 12, 2010

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    Beauty At A Distance

    Hello everyone out there who's afraid to love.  I feel your pain.  I too am running from love.  But I'm hoping that this community might be able to help me, and maybe I too can help someone else.  I want to be able to love again. I'll be posting a few...
    gjanzen gjanzen 18-21, M 2 Responses Nov 10, 2009

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    Every time I let myself get too close I get

    hurt. In my last relationship he actually knew everything about me but ended up treating me like trash. I'm done and over with him but I am still worried that if i let myself close to someone again i'll just get hurt. I just want to be done with hurting
    BeautifulCatastr0phe BeautifulCatastr0phe 16-17, F 2 Responses Sep 20, 2014

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    miserableamy miserableamy 18-21, F Jul 4, 2014

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    Being with someone who's 32 can be good

    and yet bad. why bad? because being 18 you might feel like he finds you immature, annoying or etc. Even thought for my age I don't act like any of those things I yet can't help but to over think things. especially if you have anxiety and depression. I want this to work. I want...
    mintroyale mintroyale 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 19, 2014

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    it makes sense. rejection,

    heartbreak, loss. they're the most painful emotions. love ends up giving you those more often than not. I'm scared to love. love has ruined me.
    charkzilla20 charkzilla20 16-17, M Feb 14

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    One Broken heart means it's just one step

    closer to happily ever after! So let every heart break in the past go and move on.
    Faustina2001 Faustina2001 13-15, F 1 Response Oct 13, 2014

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    Scared To

    I am currently hurting because I gave my heart to someone.
    mailmanshadow mailmanshadow 51-55, M 2 Responses Apr 19, 2012

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    I miss being held when I needed it.

    .. But I often remind myself not to get close... Cause I'm scared that history will repeat itself... And I'll be left alone.... Again...
    MrCutBleedSmile MrCutBleedSmile 18-21, M Feb 25

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    I was sexually and verbally abused by an ex

    boyfriend. Since then, I've kept my walls up. I'm guarded all the time. Trusting people is a seemingly impossible task. I sometimes wish I was normal and able to trust people.
    GreenEyess GreenEyess 16-17, F 2 Responses Feb 4

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    Never trust someone who hurt you once.

    Once they hurt you, if they made you cry, made your heart broke, let that person go. Never trust them again because they might hurt u more.
    Faustina2001 Faustina2001 13-15, F 1 Response Oct 19, 2014

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