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I Am Scared to Love Because I Might Get Hurt

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    My Mending Heart

    As some of you may know, my heart has been broken a few times in the last year.  My heart has been "won" over, stupidly given away freely, only to be torn and ripped and shattered to pieces.  I'm afraid to fall.  I'm worried about having that pain again...
    CuriosityKitten CuriosityKitten 31-35, F 27 Responses Jan 24, 2009

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    I always end up hurt.

    .. And unfortunately, I end up hurting them back. Is it out of anger? I don't know. But I could never do that to you. I don't even have enough to hurt you with. I don't want to be able to hurt you back...because you hurt me. I'm not enough for you and I know I'm not anymore. I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Mar 22

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    I miss being held when I needed it.

    .. But I often remind myself not to get close... Cause I'm scared that history will repeat itself... And I'll be left alone.... Again...
    MrCutBleedSmile MrCutBleedSmile 18-21, M Feb 25

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    We Can Still Control Our Fears..

    God created us with a small heart, filled with feelings and love, but he balanced them with a wise and deep mind. Im one of those who are scared to love, even scared to trust, because in every time, i end up by being hurt. So i decided no to love again, and not to trust anyone...
    LonelyGurlll LonelyGurlll 18-21, F 7 Responses Jun 2, 2011

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    Never be scared to fall in love especially

    when the person shares qualities you find attractive. Being scared I borderline pathetic because you are stopping you self from pursuing happiness.
    Deuz Deuz 22-25, M Jan 12

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    Younger Women are more Willing to Marry Older

    Men. A recent survey measured people’s attitudes about marrying a partner either older or younger than themselves. The survey results showed that women were significantly more willing than men, to marry a partner who was 5 years older than they were. On the other hand, it also...
    Donnaccaa Donnaccaa 26-30, F Feb 3

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    I liked this boy he said he would dump his

    girlfriend turns out he was trying to prank me and I cried all night and I lost all my friends... It's all over for me
    banditbella21 banditbella21 51-55, F 1 Response Feb 4

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    Larry's Rejection Letter From E-harmony

    I see now the truth comes out....
    Vivagalore Vivagalore 31-35, F 10 Responses Aug 23, 2012

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    Why Is Nothing Ever Simple...

    I like being single and thought I was pretty well immune to feelings of love. A while back however I began chatting to a girl on the internet and felt an unusual connection, so much so that I have been doing the same each night for weeks. Its feel like I have fallen in love with...
    WhyDoesThisHappen WhyDoesThisHappen 31-35, M 3 Responses Aug 29, 2011

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    I've never been in a relationship

    as I liked a guy for 4 yers on and off because he kept giving me mixed signals and I was young and couldn't comprehend what was going on, then I realised how much of a **** he was and I think if I got speaking to some guy more I may develop feelings and I'm too scared to even go...
    Laeia Laeia 18-21, F Nov 16, 2014

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    Some People are afraid to love

    because they might get hurt... But we are totally fine living day by day not knowing if a gamma burst out in space may occur and life as we know it could be gone faster than the blink of an eye. Take a risk in your life... Don't be weak.
    ValhallaAwaits ValhallaAwaits 22-25, M 1 Response Jan 11

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    When I was younger I had a boyfriend I really

    loved... Until he cheated on me with his ex. Too scared to get into a relationship with anybody because of that...
    lyra9981 lyra9981 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 18

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    I've been hurt a million times in the past.

    For some reason, I haven't given up yet. I guess I'm just too stubborn to give up. I don't like to quit. I always try to forget the past and try again.
    GreenEyess GreenEyess 16-17, F Mar 22

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    Love Stinks

    I've had relationships in the past where its all been dandy and good in the beginning then something changes all of a sudden it seems like I'm exactly what they don't want and then I get dumped. The other day I saw a new couple and I broke down crying. Maybe I should go to...
    Peep22 Peep22 22-25, F 6 Responses Sep 5, 2011

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    Today a guy asked me out on a date.

    .. And it was sweet and all but I'm not sure if it's to soon to think about dating again! I mean he is 25 and I'm 27. He seems like a really sweet guy and my dog doesn't usually like anyone especially males. My dog actually liked him sat on his lap and licked his face. My dog is...
    missyluvslilies missyluvslilies 26-30, F 4 Responses Nov 15, 2014

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    How can I stop feeling this way?

    I don't chances or risks because when if I get hurt it pains me deeply and I just don't want to feel that way again but it seems to hurt more developing strong feelings for someone and not being able to have the courage because I'm very afraid of getting hurt. :(
    Awhiteorchid Awhiteorchid 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 14

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    This Seems to Happen Often With Me ....

    You find the perfect lover, you fall in love, you love, you cry! Sometimes I just don't want to let myself love again ... and yet, I need to love someone, I need to be loved.....  
    kinkitty kinkitty 36-40, F 37 Responses Mar 9, 2008

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    It terrifies me when a guy says they like me it

    gives me anxiety. My ex went out with my bestfriend and she didnt care that it might hurt me. I tried to be ok and suddenly i just couldnt. Her boyfriend and i were hanging out because we were friends. We kissed and i told him i couldnt hurt the other girl. He asked me to kiss...
    Hope6800 Hope6800 13-15, F 3 Responses Jul 1, 2014

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    Scared To

    I am currently hurting because I gave my heart to someone.
    mailmanshadow mailmanshadow 51-55, M 2 Responses Apr 19, 2012

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    I don't let myself fully be someone's.

    I keeped Part of me and lost the most precious woman I have ever known. I could be me except I had to always be clear and know what I meant and had to have it all figured out to have a conversation from nothing. ?? that doesn't work for me or anyone. being unclear and venerable...
    bigheartsmallworld bigheartsmallworld 36-40, M 5 days ago

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    It was July 2014 when I spoke to my husband

    for the first time. Slowly, we started liking each other, but my parents were totally against this relationship. We managed to move through the thick and thin moments of our life together and achieved all that we had to in our life. We got married the next year May 2015. Since...
    faridaalihussain96 faridaalihussain96 26-30, F Aug 5

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    This Made My Tear Up A Little... :(

    "Boy aren't Jerks" Girl: Slow down, I'm scared. Guy: No, this is fun. Girl: No it's not!Please it's too scary! Guy: Then tell me you love me. Girl: Fine I love you. Slow down! Guy: Now give me a BIG hug! Girl : hugs him Guy: Can you take my helmet off and put it on yourself? It's...
    BehindClosedDoors BehindClosedDoors 18-21, F 6 Responses Oct 4, 2011

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    It seems like i have had a crush on this one guy

    for a while now. i have never really liked someone before I never thought that it could really hurt. i know that we will never be together I know i'm to scared to tell him my feelings and I know that just brings me more pain. but I can't help it so the only thing I do now is...
    LuvlyLola LuvlyLola 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 11

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    Guys,he just told me

    that he loves me and I know he means it. I'm just scared because sometimes I feel like he doesn't want me half as bad as I want him and doesn't make as much of an effort and that hurts so bad but then Sometimes he's just everything . I'm just so afraid of getting hurt,dealing...
    prettyboo711 prettyboo711 18-21, F 3 Responses Feb 3

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    cashetty69 cashetty69 51-55, M 1 Response a week ago

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    I feel like sometimes girls

    or well females get hurt more than guys (not that there aren't exceptions) because woman allow themselves to love completely I guess and they give everything into a relationship
    Hayden23 Hayden23 13-15, F 6 days ago

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    I've been in this route before.

    .. Time after time, True love is so hard to find. I know this feeling is temporary just like everything in life. I am disappointed in allowing someone in again. When I promised myself, I wouldn't go down this road again. I hate giving my hopes up! I would like to find someone...
    missyluvslilies missyluvslilies 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 17, 2014

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    Have Been There, But...

    I have been in love twice before, almost married, and lost, then took the next one, and he took me for everything. Along with other losses at that time, I thought it was all lost, and I will never love again. Everything ended in loss! But the a girl friend I had know came to...
    carriewpd carriewpd 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 8, 2010

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    My last boyfriend cheated on me 15 times I kept

    going back to him cause I felt like I'll be alone forever if I left him he made me feel like he was the only guy on this planted that's ever going to want me ....I believed it like a dummy but something deep down in my heart told me I'll rather be alone forever then to sit there...
    tamaraiwannaknow tamaraiwannaknow 16-17, F Jul 24, 2014

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    think once u get hurt by someone u loved makes

    u not want to love again and thats the sad part
    bran49 bran49 46-50, F 1 Response Mar 22

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    it makes sense. rejection,

    heartbreak, loss. they're the most painful emotions. love ends up giving you those more often than not. I'm scared to love. love has ruined me.
    TheCroissant TheCroissant 18-21, M Feb 14

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    Being with someone who's 32 can be good

    and yet bad. why bad? because being 18 you might feel like he finds you immature, annoying or etc. Even thought for my age I don't act like any of those things I yet can't help but to over think things. especially if you have anxiety and depression. I want this to work. I want...
    mintroyale mintroyale 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 19, 2014

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    energymustmove energymustmove 18-21, F Apr 24

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    Terrified....

    I'm deathly affraid to get my heart broken again, its held together barley by some close, and stitches, I'm scared I won't be able to fix it, if it breaks again =/
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Aug 12, 2010

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    From the start I never really let them into my

    heart I was too scared Of all the pain I'd see If i let them in Then let them leave But with you It was never the same From the start I let you into my heart Way too deep Now im prayin youll never leave I promised it was us until the end You never did jump all the way in Is this...
    EurydiceKallos EurydiceKallos 18-21, F Apr 30, 2014

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    Wish I couldn't love.

    . But it seems to be easier and easier to keep people out!! Because love only seems to lead to pain...
    MrCutBleedSmile MrCutBleedSmile 18-21, M 5 Responses Dec 19, 2014

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    I'm scared of getting hurt again.

    I'm scared that if I put 100% into a relationship, it's going to come back and spit onto my face. I'm scared to happy with someone because sometimes I feel unworthy of love. When something good happens, I always justify it with someone negative or that it's all a lie. I'm...
    Xococoxo Xococoxo 18-21, F Jan 5, 2014

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    I was sexually and verbally abused by an ex

    boyfriend. Since then, I've kept my walls up. I'm guarded all the time. Trusting people is a seemingly impossible task. I sometimes wish I was normal and able to trust people.
    GreenEyess GreenEyess 16-17, F 2 Responses Feb 4

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    once upon a time i just a girl don't minds

    about love but time comes a guy came and taught me how to love and unfortunately he just broke my heart and now im afraid of loving someone i know he can hurt me again like the guy who taught me how to love and break my heart..and now the thing i want to say to him THANK YOU...
    KrissiaGeramie KrissiaGeramie 18-21, F May 14

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    Even a happy life cannot be without a measure

    of darkness, and the word happy would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness. It is far better take things as they come along with patience and equanimity.
    tiya78 tiya78 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 31

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    Hurting In Life

    I am new to this but need to talk with someone. I was married for 18 years and my ex cheated on me. Since our divorce, I have had a fwb relationship. I know morally it was not right but had the feeling like it was better to be with someone like that than be alone. Last night he...
    lgdb lgdb 41-45, F 2 Responses May 5, 2013

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    I'm going to tell a girl

    that I have like for a while then I want to be in a relationship with her and see what happens I'm really afraid because we're close friends hang out all the time and do to my mobility issues takes me almost everywhere I need to go or want to go we have so much fun I'm super...
    me0883 me0883 22-25, M 4 Responses Aug 5

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    I don't think I'll fall in love

    for awhile; not after what happened. In my dark times I feel so alone. I was driving so fast but moving so slow because I'm ****** up beyond compare. I numb my pain with alcohol and opiates. Doing both at the same time it doesn't phase me anymore. Why am I so destructive? Every...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Every time I let myself get too close I get

    hurt. In my last relationship he actually knew everything about me but ended up treating me like trash. I'm done and over with him but I am still worried that if i let myself close to someone again i'll just get hurt. I just want to be done with hurting
    BeautifulCatastr0phe BeautifulCatastr0phe 16-17, F 2 Responses Sep 20, 2014

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    I really do not know why?

    maybe i'm just so afraid of being left behind and be unlove. I love having new friends, well of course my bff's were included but there's something missing like... i am looking for something that can complete me. I don't know why...
    chicxie chicxie 16-17 Jul 18

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