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I Am Scared to Love Because I Might Get Hurt

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    My last boyfriend cheated on me 15 times I kept

    going back to him cause I felt like I'll be alone forever if I left him he made me feel like he was the only guy on this planted that's ever going to want me ....I believed it like a dummy but something deep down in my heart told me I'll rather be alone forever then to sit there...
    tamaraiwannaknow tamaraiwannaknow 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 24

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    Oh No ...

    No no no ... not scared at all ... For what it's worth I will always love ... it's never something which I will run out of ... it's infinite ... Sure I have my vulnerable moments like everyone does ... times when I feel unsure and afraid ... but love is abundance ... abundance...
    womaninbliss womaninbliss 51-55, F 2 Responses Dec 10, 2010

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    We Can Still Control Our Fears..

    God created us with a small heart, filled with feelings and love, but he balanced them with a wise and deep mind. Im one of those who are scared to love, even scared to trust, because in every time, i end up by being hurt. So i decided no to love again, and not to trust anyone...
    LonelyGurlll LonelyGurlll 18-21, F 8 Responses Jun 2, 2011

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    I want to know my real family

    but I'm scared they'll hate me because I love them so much and I've never even met them yet physically. I worry that I'll be a burden to them, that having a family isn't what I though it would be like. That just like my other "family" the only time we'll talk is if I call or...
    gardengirl17 gardengirl17 22-25, F Jul 1

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    If I can prevent a broke heart I will.

    People today takes their significant others for granted and don't know what they have until it's too late.
    goldengirl24 goldengirl24 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 15

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    I'm scared of falling in love with someone

    who's going to make me a booty call.
    CuriosityKills96 CuriosityKills96 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 15

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    I'm scared to get hurt

    because I have trust issues because if my past relationships
    vanesa1234 vanesa1234 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 18

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    miserableamy miserableamy 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 4

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    Dare I?

    A dream within my reach; a fantasy i can obtain, only steps away from... passion, Honesty, Affection, companionship, Trust, Love. Love for the only man in my life that i run to for anything and yet im scared to take this last leap of faith into his arms for i am afraid he will...
    Fallen321 Fallen321 16-17, F Nov 14, 2013

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    AlwaysPersevere71 AlwaysPersevere71 41-45, M 1 Response Apr 24

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    This Seems to Happen Often With Me ....

    You find the perfect lover, you fall in love, you love, you cry! Sometimes I just don't want to let myself love again ... and yet, I need to love someone, I need to be loved.....  
    kinkitty kinkitty 36-40, F 37 Responses Mar 9, 2008

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    My Mending Heart

    As some of you may know, my heart has been broken a few times in the last year.  My heart has been "won" over, stupidly given away freely, only to be torn and ripped and shattered to pieces.  I'm afraid to fall.  I'm worried about having that pain again...
    CuriosityKitten CuriosityKitten 31-35, F 27 Responses Jan 24, 2009

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    Facing My Fear

    It is scary, but I'm doing it anyways                 She might hurt me, but I can't live being afraid I no longer hide my love away                  And in her smile, my loves debt is paid...
    fadeintoyou fadeintoyou 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 27, 2011

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    My boyfriend said something

    that helps. . . I was freaking out and he asked what was I so afraid of. I told him and this is what he said. "No one does anything scary because they enjoy the fear. They do it because it might lead to something better. So, take a risk, knowing you'll have a shot at something...
    EurydiceKallos EurydiceKallos 18-21, F Dec 20, 2013

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    My Mate

    Shadow was my one true love i shared my feelings with her and i cared for her but when it came down to it she left me to die...I dont want to love someone unless ik that they won't leave me not again not the way she did
    Acira Acira 13-15, M 3 Responses Mar 18, 2013

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    I've Met My Dream Man But I Can't Let Him In

    I've been going out with my boyfriend for 5 and a half years and he is the kindest man I've ever met. He's loving, generous, very good looking and has a great sense of humour. I fell head over heels in love with him within a couple of months despite telling myself to take it slow...
    angelface21 angelface21 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 28, 2013

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    Well that was proven correct.

    . I'm Lonely now.. I want a boyfriend again.. Presumably one in Canada, it'll make things easy
    himynameishikari himynameishikari 16-17, F Aug 11

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    Online Love

    so you find some one onine you fallen in love not ever really knowing if she or he is who they say they are but still you let you self stupid love this person whole heartedly wait on thier every message and e-mail reply and you never really think it is any thing serious untill...
    justmebeautiful justmebeautiful 22-25, F 5 Responses Feb 5, 2011

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    This Made My Tear Up A Little... :(

    "Boy aren't Jerks" Girl: Slow down, I'm scared. Guy: No, this is fun. Girl: No it's not!Please it's too scary! Guy: Then tell me you love me. Girl: Fine I love you. Slow down! Guy: Now give me a BIG hug! Girl : hugs him Guy: Can you take my helmet off and put it on yourself? It's...
    BehindClosedDoors BehindClosedDoors 18-21, F 6 Responses Oct 4, 2011

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    I've been hurt buy the ones I love

    so many times I feel like I carnt trust anyone I let no one in anymore I'm to fed up with all the bull **** pain that comes with relationships all the petty arguments I've had enough I've been lied to cheated on and used I don't think love is a possibility for me anymore :/
    ash18bmth ash18bmth 18-21, M 2 Responses Jun 19

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    Scared to be hurt and scared

    that I might be the one to hurt someone else.
    Raneth Raneth 16-17, F 2 Responses Apr 19

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    Been There...

    Done that ... I'll take a pass thanks.
    TheGuRoo TheGuRoo 31-35 1 Response Aug 19, 2013

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    From the start I never really let them into my

    heart I was too scared Of all the pain I'd see If i let them in Then let them leave But with you It was never the same From the start I let you into my heart Way too deep Now im prayin youll never leave I promised it was us until the end You never did jump all the way in Is this...
    EurydiceKallos EurydiceKallos 18-21, F Apr 30

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    Always Seems To Be The Way....

    I was always so loving and affectionate when I was young. Never worried about getting hurt. But now it is all I do. The only person who can protect myself from hurt is me. I know how it feels to be alone and have no support. I have lived it and felt it and it is terrifying. I can...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 31, 2013

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    It terrifies me when a guy says they like me it

    gives me anxiety. My ex went out with my bestfriend and she didnt care that it might hurt me. I tried to be ok and suddenly i just couldnt. Her boyfriend and i were hanging out because we were friends. We kissed and i told him i couldnt hurt the other girl. He asked me to kiss...
    Hope6800 Hope6800 13-15, F 4 Responses Jul 1

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    After the death of my first girlfriend I've

    been scared to love again ever since. god took my love away and I'm frightened it will happen again I don't know if I could handle it again
    Dynamite500 Dynamite500 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 14

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    I'm scared of getting hurt again.

    I'm scared that if I put 100% into a relationship, it's going to come back and spit onto my face. I'm scared to happy with someone because sometimes I feel unworthy of love. When something good happens, I always justify it with someone negative or that it's all a lie. I'm...
    Xococoxo Xococoxo 18-21, F Jan 5

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    Beauty At A Distance

    Hello everyone out there who's afraid to love.  I feel your pain.  I too am running from love.  But I'm hoping that this community might be able to help me, and maybe I too can help someone else.  I want to be able to love again. I'll be posting a few...
    gjanzen gjanzen 18-21, M 3 Responses Nov 10, 2009

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    I've never really been close to anyone.

    Not even my family anymore. I stay up in my room and tend to stay away from others. But after all this time, I still find myself wondering what being in a loving relationship would be like. I'm a physical person. I like giving people hugs and just being near others because it...
    Firiro Firiro 16-17, M Mar 3

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    Sadness Flies Away On The Wings Of Time

    Count the garden by the flowers never by the leaves that fall. Count youre life with smiles and not the tears that fall. Soon youre fears will dissapear and you will love.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 31, 2012

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    I have always had difficulty loving a partner

    the way I've come to understand what "love" should entail. Looking at it at this moment, I think there are some reasons why this is: 1) As a boy, my attempts to reach out and bond with my father were most times met with rage and verbal & physical abuse. I think over time this...
    mardigras27 mardigras27 41-45, M 1 Response Jan 15

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    If You Only Knew...

    I want you to know that.... Remember that one time you messaged me, out of nowhere. Where before I just thought of you as the random guy at work I didn't really talk to until you messaged me. And it was unexpected, and you made me feel...I don't know. And the next day, you walked...
    tastedtherain tastedtherain 26-30, F 2 Responses May 2, 2013

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    I was loved once and then it was all gone in

    the matter of an minute. I don't know what happened and I have lost my bestfriend and love of my life because of it. I don't know what to do about this situation. My friends and family try to help me but nothing seems to help take the pain away.
    ChinaBrooke ChinaBrooke 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 14

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    What Are We Afraid Of?

    Of all there is in this life, the most elusive is Love. It's similar to watching a bird, in the sky, it deciding to fly over there, instead of here. And you wonder, why? It remains the biggest mystery, although everyone speaks about it. Everyone speaks from a place which only...
    EurydiceKallos EurydiceKallos 18-21, F Aug 16, 2013

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    Love Stinks

    I've had relationships in the past where its all been dandy and good in the beginning then something changes all of a sudden it seems like I'm exactly what they don't want and then I get dumped. The other day I saw a new couple and I broke down crying. Maybe I should go to...
    Peep22 Peep22 22-25, F 6 Responses Sep 5, 2011

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    My Past

    In my past, men would always say "I love you", and I would believe them.............but then they would abuse me. I have never had a guy say that they loved me and really love me. I really don't know what love is, even though i try to be the perfect girlfriend. I am so scared to...
    telle19 telle19 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 24, 2012

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    Ever since this girl first walked into our

    school for the first time, I couldn't take my eyes off her, and I know I probably wasn't the only one gazing at her beauty. Through my mind I was thinking "you know what, I'm gonna try to talk to her, I need to man up, I need to know how to talk to a girl and here's my first...
    elugo123456789 elugo123456789 18-21, M Apr 5

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    Larry's Rejection Letter From E-harmony

    I see now the truth comes out....
    Vivagalore Vivagalore 31-35, F 11 Responses Aug 23, 2012

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    Terrified....

    I'm deathly affraid to get my heart broken again, its held together barley by some close, and stitches, I'm scared I won't be able to fix it, if it breaks again =/
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Aug 12, 2010

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    Hurting In Life

    I am new to this but need to talk with someone. I was married for 18 years and my ex cheated on me. Since our divorce, I have had a fwb relationship. I know morally it was not right but had the feeling like it was better to be with someone like that than be alone. Last night he...
    lgdb lgdb 41-45, F 3 Responses May 5, 2013

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    Have Been There, But...

    I have been in love twice before, almost married, and lost, then took the next one, and he took me for everything. Along with other losses at that time, I thought it was all lost, and I will never love again. Everything ended in loss! But the a girl friend I had know came to...
    carriewpd carriewpd 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 8, 2010

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    He's Not The Problem...

    I was single for 7 yrs because my son's father hurt me so deeply. It was easier to be alone than to think of giving my heart to someone again. Fast forward to the present: met and fell for a great guy. I was ok at first but now I'm freaking out because I love him. He's done...
    Iriehaze125 Iriehaze125 31-35, F Sep 26, 2013

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    I don't know what's wrong with me

    but I can't allow myself to be in a relationship because whenever I get into one I always find something wrong with the other person and I assume that they are lying to me all the time. The thought of being vulnerable is terrifying and I can't trust anyone with my heart. I feel...
    OneNote32 OneNote32 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 6

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    Dating at this point terrifies me.

    I used to be the kind of girl to take risk with her heart in hopes that better things will come, but after years of failed attempts, I just don't think its worth it. I just turned 22, these are the years I should be mixing and mingling but I can't get over heartbreak I've...
    CrystalKlear17 CrystalKlear17 18-21, F Jan 28

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    No Such Thing As Love And You Know It

    Do not be scared. It was all made up. Aint no such thing as love. Believe me I have tried but the wires and circuitry under this fake fleshy covering called "skin" won't let me. I even wiki-ed the **** out of this so called love thing and found out that it was all made up by some...
    NotLarryBubkiss NotLarryBubkiss 36-40, M 6 Responses Aug 23, 2012

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    It's Like Touching A Hot Stove

    I know a little about love & hurt. I have 2 ex-wifes & I've been widowed twice. And that is only the wives. One of my favorite songs is by Carly Simon; talking about a 1st love. It's so true. You Have To Hurt "I'm in love with him", she said With all the innocence of tender...
    bcvegas4u bcvegas4u 66-70, M Sep 22, 2013

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    Why Is Nothing Ever Simple...

    I like being single and thought I was pretty well immune to feelings of love. A while back however I began chatting to a girl on the internet and felt an unusual connection, so much so that I have been doing the same each night for weeks. Its feel like I have fallen in love with...
    WhyDoesThisHappen WhyDoesThisHappen 31-35, M 3 Responses Aug 29, 2011

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    Scared To

    I am currently hurting because I gave my heart to someone.
    mailmanshadow mailmanshadow 51-55, M 2 Responses Apr 19, 2012

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    Trust....

    i just can't trust someone like that.....i don't think i will ever
    sfdrboy sfdrboy 22-25, M 2 Responses Aug 31, 2013

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    Lilmomma1617 Lilmomma1617 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 24

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    Not...

    Sorry but this is like saying I'm afraid to live because I might die!! Well your right we all will but the choice is between living life to the fullest and existence! Besides just because you decide not to love doesn't make you immune to hurt and pain. Sorry, it's a part of...
    cosmiccowboy cosmiccowboy 61-65, M 1 Response Jan 15, 2013

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    Love Is Real Larry Here Is Proofs

    this is true loves this is a newer form of true loves these things cannot exist if love is not real....they exist so there is such a thing as love and true loves.
    Vivagalore Vivagalore 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 23, 2012

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