I Am Scared to Love Because I Might Get Hurt

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    it makes sense. rejection,

    heartbreak, loss. they're the most painful emotions. love ends up giving you those more often than not. I'm scared to love. love has ruined me.
    TheCroissant TheCroissant
    18-21, M
    Feb 14, 2015


    Sorry but this is like saying I'm afraid to live because I might die!! Well your right we all will but the choice is between living life to the fullest and existence! Besides just because you decide not to love doesn't make you immune to hurt and pain. Sorry, it's a part of...
    cosmiccowboy cosmiccowboy
    61-65, M
    2 Responses Jan 15, 2013
    cashetty69 cashetty69
    51-55, M
    1 Response Aug 21, 2015

    When I was younger I had a boyfriend I really

    loved... Until he cheated on me with his ex. Too scared to get into a relationship with anybody because of that...
    lyra9981 lyra9981
    18-21, F
    1 Response Apr 18, 2015

    I'm scared of getting hurt again.

    I'm scared that if I put 100% into a relationship, it's going to come back and spit onto my face. I'm scared to happy with someone because sometimes I feel unworthy of love. When something good happens, I always justify it with someone negative or that it's all a lie. I'm...
    Xococoxo Xococoxo
    18-21, F
    Jan 5, 2014

    I don't think I'll fall in love

    for awhile; not after what happened. In my dark times I feel so alone. I was driving so fast but moving so slow because I'm ****** up beyond compare. I numb my pain with alcohol and opiates. Doing both at the same time it doesn't phase me anymore. Why am I so destructive? Every...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Aug 23, 2015

    I've rarely dated and

    when I did, it didn't last for long. This has called me to grow of fear of love and dating called philophobia, I think. It's quite embarrassing to have this fear because I know at some point my family and friends will push me and talk about getting married one day and I'll never...
    DarniseG8 DarniseG8
    18-21, F
    1 Response Sep 7, 2015

    Hurting In Life

    I am new to this but need to talk with someone. I was married for 18 years and my ex cheated on me. Since our divorce, I have had a fwb relationship. I know morally it was not right but had the feeling like it was better to be with someone like that than be alone. Last night he...
    lgdb lgdb
    46-50, F
    2 Responses May 5, 2013

    I really do not know why?

    maybe i'm just so afraid of being left behind and be unlove. I love having new friends, well of course my bff's were included but there's something missing like... i am looking for something that can complete me. I don't know why...
    chicxie chicxie
    1 Response Jul 18, 2015

    I liked this boy he said he would dump his

    girlfriend turns out he was trying to prank me and I cried all night and I lost all my friends... It's all over for me
    banditbella21 banditbella21
    56-60, F
    1 Response Feb 4, 2015

    once upon a time i just a girl don't minds

    about love but time comes a guy came and taught me how to love and unfortunately he just broke my heart and now im afraid of loving someone i know he can hurt me again like the guy who taught me how to love and break my heart..and now the thing i want to say to him THANK YOU...
    KrissiaGeramie KrissiaGeramie
    18-21, F
    May 14, 2015

    I'm scared.. No, sorry.

    . Wrong word, I'm absolutely terrified that one day I have to deal with another heart break or just fall into another depression. I just so scared to love a person that I push away to many people who cares and loves me. I'm afraid that if I get too attached I will break and could...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Nov 8, 2015

    I am feeling this way

    and shut down but cut off. I want him but scared for that next step. He obviously just wants sex or may relationship.
    stupid28 stupid28
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jan 10, 2016

    It was July 2014 when I spoke to my husband

    for the first time. Slowly, we started liking each other, but my parents were totally against this relationship. We managed to move through the thick and thin moments of our life together and achieved all that we had to in our life. We got married the next year May 2015. Since...
    faridaalihussain96 faridaalihussain96
    26-30, F
    1 Response Aug 5, 2015

    think once u get hurt by someone u loved makes

    u not want to love again and thats the sad part
    bran49 bran49
    51-55, F
    Mar 22, 2015

    This Seems to Happen Often With Me ....

    You find the perfect lover, you fall in love, you love, you cry! Sometimes I just don't want to let myself love again ... and yet, I need to love someone, I need to be loved.....  
    kinkitty kinkitty
    36-40, F
    31 Responses Mar 9, 2008


    I'm deathly affraid to get my heart broken again, its held together barley by some close, and stitches, I'm scared I won't be able to fix it, if it breaks again =/
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses Aug 12, 2010

    Love Stinks

    I've had relationships in the past where its all been dandy and good in the beginning then something changes all of a sudden it seems like I'm exactly what they don't want and then I get dumped. The other day I saw a new couple and I broke down crying. Maybe I should go to...
    Peep22 Peep22
    22-25, F
    6 Responses Sep 5, 2011

    Every time I let myself get too close I get

    hurt. In my last relationship he actually knew everything about me but ended up treating me like trash. I'm done and over with him but I am still worried that if i let myself close to someone again i'll just get hurt. I just want to be done with hurting
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Sep 20, 2014

    It terrifies me when a guy says they like me it

    gives me anxiety. My ex went out with my bestfriend and she didnt care that it might hurt me. I tried to be ok and suddenly i just couldnt. Her boyfriend and i were hanging out because we were friends. We kissed and i told him i couldnt hurt the other girl. He asked me to kiss...
    Hope6800 Hope6800
    16-17, F
    3 Responses Jul 1, 2014

    My last boyfriend cheated on me 15 times I kept

    going back to him cause I felt like I'll be alone forever if I left him he made me feel like he was the only guy on this planted that's ever going to want me ....I believed it like a dummy but something deep down in my heart told me I'll rather be alone forever then to sit there...
    tamaraiwannaknow tamaraiwannaknow
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jul 24, 2014

    I've been in this route before.

    .. Time after time, True love is so hard to find. I know this feeling is temporary just like everything in life. I am disappointed in allowing someone in again. When I promised myself, I wouldn't go down this road again. I hate giving my hopes up! I would like to find someone...
    missyluvslilies missyluvslilies
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Sep 17, 2014

    Scared To

    I am currently hurting because I gave my heart to someone.
    mailmanshadow mailmanshadow
    56-60, M
    2 Responses Apr 19, 2012

    Have Been There, But...

    I have been in love twice before, almost married, and lost, then took the next one, and he took me for everything. Along with other losses at that time, I thought it was all lost, and I will never love again. Everything ended in loss! But the a girl friend I had know came to...
    carriewpd carriewpd
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jul 8, 2010

    I have been single for

    so long, because I didn't wanna get hurt again. Normally if I meet someone and it began to get serious I would end it. But I have been putting myself out there meeting new guys. There is one on particular I really like, but I am so scared oh getting hut. I'm afraid I'm going to...
    caspercolen caspercolen
    41-45, M
    Mar 2, 2015

    I'm too afraid to even have another

    relationship, and I want to, and maybe it's even irrational, but I just can't at this point in time.
    zydeko zydeko
    1 Response Apr 12, 2015

    I miss being held when I needed it.

    .. But I often remind myself not to get close... Cause I'm scared that history will repeat itself... And I'll be left alone.... Again...
    MrCutBleedSmile MrCutBleedSmile
    22-25, M
    Feb 25, 2015

    I don't let myself fully be someone's.

    I keeped Part of me and lost the most precious woman I have ever known. I could be me except I had to always be clear and know what I meant and had to have it all figured out to have a conversation from nothing. ?? that doesn't work for me or anyone. being unclear and venerable...
    bigheartsmallworld bigheartsmallworld
    36-40, M
    Aug 23, 2015

    I always end up hurt.

    .. And unfortunately, I end up hurting them back. Is it out of anger? I don't know. But I could never do that to you. I don't even have enough to hurt you with. I don't want to be able to hurt you back...because you hurt me. I'm not enough for you and I know I'm not anymore. I...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Mar 22, 2015

    We Can Still Control Our Fears..

    God created us with a small heart, filled with feelings and love, but he balanced them with a wise and deep mind. Im one of those who are scared to love, even scared to trust, because in every time, i end up by being hurt. So i decided no to love again, and not to trust anyone...
    LonelyGurlll LonelyGurlll
    18-21, F
    7 Responses Jun 2, 2011

    From the start I never really let them into my

    heart I was too scared Of all the pain I'd see If i let them in Then let them leave But with you It was never the same From the start I let you into my heart Way too deep Now im prayin youll never leave I promised it was us until the end You never did jump all the way in Is this...
    EurydiceKallos EurydiceKallos
    18-21, F
    Apr 30, 2014

    Larry's Rejection Letter From E-harmony

    I see now the truth comes out....
    Vivagalore Vivagalore
    31-35, F
    8 Responses Aug 23, 2012

    Always Seems To Be The Way....

    I was always so loving and affectionate when I was young. Never worried about getting hurt. But now it is all I do. The only person who can protect myself from hurt is me. I know how it feels to be alone and have no support. I have lived it and felt it and it is terrifying. I can...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jul 31, 2013

    The truth is you can never tame your heart,

    it's like holding a bucket of water without dropping it,while trying to stay awake.
    adengold adengold
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Oct 12, 2015

    Even a happy life cannot be without a measure

    of darkness, and the word happy would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness. It is far better take things as they come along with patience and equanimity.
    tiya78 tiya78
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jan 31, 2015

    Was that supposed to comfort me!

    ? Saying you love me. Saying I'm your last. Don't you understand what kind of pressure that puts on me? That's insane.
    Domienixxx Domienixxx
    2 Responses Feb 3, 2016

    I've been hurt a million times in the past.

    For some reason, I haven't given up yet. I guess I'm just too stubborn to give up. I don't like to quit. I always try to forget the past and try again.
    GreenEyess GreenEyess
    18-21, F
    Mar 22, 2015

    It's a conundrum really.

    Everyone wants to love and be loved in return, but no one, self included, wants to be hurt. I'm going to put everything I thought I knew aside and just allow myself to go with the flow and be happy for now. If I get screwed, lesson learned. If not, I may actually find myself...
    lildiva89 lildiva89
    26-30, F
    1 Response Oct 23, 2015

    Guys,he just told me

    that he loves me and I know he means it. I'm just scared because sometimes I feel like he doesn't want me half as bad as I want him and doesn't make as much of an effort and that hurts so bad but then Sometimes he's just everything . I'm just so afraid of getting hurt,dealing...
    prettyboo711 prettyboo711
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Feb 3, 2015

    Love...how can one word be used in

    so many ways? It amazes me to no end, how so many people can throw that word around like it is nothing...when..to me..it is everything. What is life without love? It is lonely, empty, and sad. I am a gal like you have never met, when i love, i give 150%, writing letters and...
    addict408 addict408
    26-30, F
    1 Response Feb 25, 2016

    I'm scared...I don't want to loose what I have

    but I'm so scared that I almost want to cancel seeing my LDR boyfriend. He says he loves me no matter what but I'm scared he will see me naked and be turned off. And some would day I'm crazy honestly I'm just insecure mostly about my tummy. I don't know. Being previously in a...
    soulpool20 soulpool20
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Sep 7, 2015


    com recovering afger heart breaks
    energymustmove energymustmove
    22-25, F
    Apr 24, 2015

    I was sexually and verbally abused by an ex

    boyfriend. Since then, I've kept my walls up. I'm guarded all the time. Trusting people is a seemingly impossible task. I sometimes wish I was normal and able to trust people.
    GreenEyess GreenEyess
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Feb 4, 2015

    I have been hurt so many times

    before now I am scared to love again but I don't know if I will ever love again
    sexyblueeyes420 sexyblueeyes420
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Sep 8, 2015

    I'm going to tell a girl

    that I have like for a while then I want to be in a relationship with her and see what happens I'm really afraid because we're close friends hang out all the time and do to my mobility issues takes me almost everywhere I need to go or want to go we have so much fun I'm super...
    me0883 me0883
    22-25, M
    4 Responses Aug 5, 2015

    I feel like sometimes girls

    or well females get hurt more than guys (not that there aren't exceptions) because woman allow themselves to love completely I guess and they give everything into a relationship
    RebelFighter RebelFighter
    16-17, F
    1 Response Aug 22, 2015

    Wish I couldn't love.

    . But it seems to be easier and easier to keep people out!! Because love only seems to lead to pain...
    MrCutBleedSmile MrCutBleedSmile
    22-25, M
    5 Responses Dec 19, 2014

    Today a guy asked me out on a date.

    .. And it was sweet and all but I'm not sure if it's to soon to think about dating again! I mean he is 25 and I'm 27. He seems like a really sweet guy and my dog doesn't usually like anyone especially males. My dog actually liked him sat on his lap and licked his face. My dog is...
    missyluvslilies missyluvslilies
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Nov 15, 2014

    I know, it is kind of a catch-22.

    But I am tired of being lied to, betrayed, and led on. I am sick of men claiming to be single, and then having their girlfriends or wives contacting me. I am tired of men trying to only get me into bed and not being interested in getting to know me. I don't want to date anyone...
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic
    31-35, F
    1 Response Oct 24, 2015
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