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I Am Separated From My Husband

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    Left After Having A Baby At 39

    one day i thought my life was great waiting to have my much wanted baby and i thought everything was going to be wonderful as i had been with my husband for 13 years and had a 12 year old with him . then i had her he was great to start of with then he started avoiding me and the...
    sammytempletom72 sammytempletom72 36-40 Oct 15, 2011

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    He's Obsessed (Story 3)

    I have been with my husband for 13 years. He suffers from bipolar disorder and deep depression. He turned into a pessimistic, downhearted, jerk and was abusive both emotionally and verbally. He went into seemingly violent rages almost everyday and when he wasnt raging he looked...
    LadyIndiscretion LadyIndiscretion 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 15, 2012

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    Finally Separated After Years Of Unhappiness.

    I have been with my husband for over ten years now. We went on vacation together and on like day 2, we finally said done. The week we were on vacation, we discussed who would get what. Messed up isn't it? With the downturn in the economy, the house is the issue. We are...
    cablegirl01 cablegirl01 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 15, 2010

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    But we still live in the same house.

    We have a little girl, and have decided to co-parent her together. It gets awkward sometimes, as we are both seeing other people, but I think it's actually working. We met almost 14 yrs ago - dated young, got engaged young, married pretty young - bought a house, got a dog...
    kellycadaver kellycadaver 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 15

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    Divorcing After A Long Separation

    After being separated for going on three years, I have finally decided to go ahead with the divorce. Friends have been urging me to do just that for a very long time, but I have been reluctant to do so because my husband & I had made a fair financial agreement through the...
    janec319 janec319 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 25, 2011

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    Just Separated From My Husband

    I just separated from my husband 2 days ago, it feels like a long time coming but it does not make it any easier.  I married my high school sweetheart.  We have been together 15 years and married a month shy of 10 years.  I remember the great times as if they...
    amycreative amycreative 26-30, F 4 Responses Apr 6, 2010

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    Separated After Over 35 Years Of Marriage

    I left my husband 16 months ago after deciding it was either leave or lose my sanity and my physical health. After doing some extensive research I realize my husband has a personality disorder -- probably Narcissistic. Over the years he has been verbaly, emotionally and at...
    ann59 ann59 56-60 4 Responses Jul 26, 2011

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    It Will Never Be the Same

    My husband and I have been married for 11 years and together for 15 yrs. My husband moved out over 6 months ago and I dont think he is coming back. I give up. I cant make him come home and I am not going to try anymore. If he wants a divorce then so be it.
    toby10 toby10 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 2, 2009

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    Separated For Two Years Now

    I am a 37 year old woman who has been separated from my husband for nearly two years now. We had a really good marriage in all respects but one. He always said he wanted children when the time was right, but the time never became right. Two years ago, he finally admitted to me...
    janec319 janec319 36-40, F 11 Responses Oct 25, 2010

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    I Wonder If He Feels Anything?

    I realize that men and women think and feel differently. I have been with my husband for over 10 years. We have both agreed that we want a divorce. I have no desire to be with him! Here's my question, does he really feel nothing? I am mourning the end of the relationship...
    cablegirl01 cablegirl01 36-40, F 3 Responses Oct 26, 2010

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    Recently Separated....it's Going On 3 Weeks

    My husband and I met our last year in high school. We were completely in love or so I thought. We got married at the age of 20, which was about two years after we graduated. I have really strong Christian beliefs and although I wanted to move in with him, I didn't want to...
    DeserveBettah DeserveBettah 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 28, 2010

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    Nyc Daytime Talk Show: Do You Need Help?

    The Bill Cunningham Show is seeking couples who want to make amends.Show tapes on Thursday, Oct. 20.Free trip to NYC--airfare, hotel and food per diem provided.Email: mgreen@billcunninghamshow.com or call (212) 419-7459. 
    tvproducer7459 tvproducer7459 31-35 Oct 17, 2011

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    Help

    I have been married to my husband for 19 years and seperated for the last eight years,  We are in contact with each other and have remained good friends, we have 4 children together aged between 18 and ten.  My husband was involved in a hit and run at the weekend and is in a...
    mummidee mummidee 41-45 Jan 16, 2012

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    Thought I'd Be Glad, But I'm Sad!

    I guess I don't know myself very well.  I've wanted to be free of my negative husband since we first got married.  He is so grouchy and intense, he makes everything so difficult, to say the least.  He's not a happy person and never feels enthusiastic or spontaneous...
    smilin smilin 46-50 5 Responses Sep 21, 2009

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    Sad & Scared

    I am not ready to share my story yet, but I wanted to say Thank you to all you, who are brave enough to get advice from eachother and to tell your stories. I thought I was the only person in the world who was seperated from their husband and still dating him or in love with him...
    Afraid2luvAnyone Afraid2luvAnyone 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 14, 2009

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    What Do I Do Now?

    I've been married for almost eight years and just seperated from my husband. I want it to work with him but at the same time I'm.ready to give up cause he doesn't seem to be trying anymore. What's my next step?
    Racergirl Racergirl 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 4, 2012

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    Sad and Separated

    I recently separated from my husband we have been together almost 8 years and things got physical I had to call 911 and have him arrested. We now have a no contact order. I know this might sound crazy but I miss him, disfuction and all.  I know our relationship is toxic and...
    luv2hatehim29 luv2hatehim29 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 19, 2008

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    The Final Chapter

    My husband and I have been together for 12 years and married for ten years. He is 13 years older than me. When we met I fell hard for him. Looking back I see now it was all a manipulative game to him.I have tried everything to get him to be nice consistantly to me and the kids...
    fullhouseallalone fullhouseallalone 31-35 Jan 3, 2012

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    I Just Separated From My Husband

    We were together for 9 years and married for 4.  He was using drugs and everytime was the last time.  We were young when we met and both used occasionally and socially.  I have been one year clean, he never once supported me in that and often would come home high...
    mrstiffanycoghill mrstiffanycoghill 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 24, 2009

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    Separated From Husband For 3 Weeks And Counting

    I have been married for 6 years. My husband is bipolar and tends toward mania. We have a young son together. Over the course of our relationship, my trust has been broken time and time again. He has not had an affair, but my trust has been broken in other ways. For example...
    cylongirl cylongirl 31-35 Sep 7, 2012

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    Help And Support

    This sight is amazing, I finally feel safe to express myself. I have been separated from my husband for over 7 months now, I initiated the separation as our marriage was cracking. Before separating we were in therapy for two years. we have two little boys almost 4 and 2yrs old...
    Lucy3426 Lucy3426 31-35 2 Responses Feb 27, 2012

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    I'm Separated From My Husband.

    A little over a year ago, just before Christmas. He finally spoke up and told me that he wanted either a divorce or separation. It was at that very moment I knew, I wanted it too. I felt absolutely no emotion as I heard his request. He and I hadn't really been talking to one...
    oBeckyo oBeckyo 36-40, F 4 Responses Feb 11, 2011

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    Separated From Husband

    It was 2 years ago. We were married for about 2 years back then. We argued a lot, mostly due to his grumpy and irritated behaviours. I myself also did not do very well too. When every time he said mean things to me or raised his voice. I would become overly emotional. and it made...
    andreeff andreeff 31-35, F 6 Responses Sep 26, 2009

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    Separated After 5 Yrs Of Marriage...Can't Move on..

    I got married at the age of 20 to my first boyfriend, and our first 2 years of marriage were really like an excerpt from a fairytale. He was 21, and it was an interracial marriage. My parents were so opposed to him even being my boyfriend, so I hid my marriage from them, even...
    bettyfleming bettyfleming 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 12, 2010

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    Separated But Very Happy!

    My husband went to US in 1992 to seek ` greener pasture`. He met a nurse , a widow. They got married in 2000, but before that he sent me a divorce paper and I signed it. Looking back, I don`t feel any anger in my heart. I accepted everything..I always asked God for forgiveness...
    lalamei2946 lalamei2946 61-65, F Mar 15, 2012

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    Thank You

    To my soon-to-be-ex-husband, Thank you for everything that you have given to me over the course of our relationship. Thank you for giving me strength to move into an apartment, organize it, and keep it clean all by myself because you refused to help. Thank you for showing me I am...
    silentobserver08 silentobserver08 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 23, 2012

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    Recently Separated But It Was A Long Time Coming...

    I guess I'm in mourning for the marraige with the man I started out with. It went so bad so fast that I guess it's been over for at least a few years... We're still in love but if we want to stay friends then we have to go our separate ways. Sometimes love isn't enough I guess...
    saraphine66 saraphine66 26-30, F 7 Responses Nov 30, 2009

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    Separated For 7 Months

    I have been separated from my husband for about seven months. He has been a good guy about paying the mortgage and stuff. (I just had back surgery and can't work) but his favorite hobby is calling me when he is drunk and reminding me that if it were not for his kindness I would...
    iceeeeone iceeeeone 41-45 2 Responses Jun 27, 2008

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    Confused

    Hi I have been married for 19 years and 3 weeks before Xmas my husband told me that he wants to have sex with other women, but he loves me and wants to be with me that it is just a physical thing. At the time I was suffering anxiety (fear of him leaving me, due to close friends...
    Leod71 Leod71 41-45, F Feb 28, 2013

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    Separated From Husband About 1 Month - Not Sure What To Do...

    I am a 44 year old female, been married for 22 years, have two children, ages 11 and 8. I am an accountant by profession but go to law school part time at night as well so needless to say, life is kinda busy. My husband is a good man although he has never been very much...
    oreo1744 oreo1744 41-45 8 Responses Sep 22, 2010

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    Separated For Two Months And Struggling With Loneliness

    I separated from my husband two months ago and feel like the loneliness is unbearable. Sometimes I feel like it's worse than being in a marriage where you don't love someone, but I can't envision going back to him. We were together for 11 years and have a wonderful 4 year old...
    naturesvision naturesvision 36-40 3 Responses Aug 6, 2011

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    Freed And Caged All At Once

    I really hate being separated. It isn't that I want to get back with my husband. I miss having a man in my life but not him. He is one of those guys who seems alright to be with at first but when you get close, you realize that he has far too many issues to fix. I was willing to...
    emgrimm2011 emgrimm2011 22-25, F 3 Responses Jun 23, 2013

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    Separated

    My husband and I separated about a month ago. We have two children together. He moved out and is living with a friend. At first I panicked and did the needy, beggy thing, but have since calmed down. My husband and I do interact with each other, some moments are very strained by...
    transcendentalist transcendentalist 31-35, F 5 Responses Nov 27, 2013

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    Scared and Lonley

    My husband and I have been together for 16 years and have two beautiful daughters but about 7 months ago he said he wanted a divorce. So we have been separated since. I am not even sure what happened. I do know that we do love eachother but for some reason he doesn't want to move...
    lonley4him lonley4him 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 29, 2009

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    Seperated

    Ian currently seperated from my husband do too horrible conditions I was living in our apartment I'm home with my parents and I'm 5 months pregnant everyone tends to blame me for leaving I miss him dearly and don't know if my son will ever have a father I have been crying all day...
    Jnewton89 Jnewton89 22-25, F Apr 23, 2013

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    I Was His Love At First Sight

     He loved me during 3 years when we were together at the faculty. He said that I am the girl of his dreams. We got married and he was doing his best to make me happy. His parents were not satisfied by seeing us so happy, because they have so much problems in their marriage...
    mytima mytima 26-30, F 11 Responses Sep 22, 2009

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    Holiday Blues

    I have never minded being lonely when I had a partner..I filled my time and stayed busy. So why do I mind being lonely now that there is no one to care about me?! Is everyone so contrary or is it just me?
    moondancelady moondancelady 46-50, F 4 Responses Nov 22, 2012

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    I want the heartache to go away.

    I don't have a lot of friends. Even the friends I do have don't know I'm separated from my husband.
    BrittTHart BrittTHart 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 16

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    Twenty four years married and separated for two days. He was having an emotional affair with a co-worker. Her husband followed her. She was at my house with my husband while I was...
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    I am a working mom and working overseas for the past 8 years. I tried to bring my daughter with me but she did not like the country where I work that's why she went back to our...
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    We have been married for 7 1/2 years. Well we are now separated, I told him three weeks ago and it has been hell for me since he left. I cheated on him over a year ago and he is so...
    regretsit regretsit 22-25, F Oct 28

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    Any moms who separated and left their kids with the husband?
    2infinityandbeyond 2infinityandbeyond 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 10

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    Not as much hate as it is general dislike and irritation. I've read many stories I can relate and it always helps me to see that I'm not the only one, so I figured I'd put mine out...
    allycatii allycatii 36-40, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    about a month in a half ago i caught my husband talking to a woman online and he told her he loved her. when I saw it, he said he was sorry. even gave me a little card telling me...
    butterflytears44 butterflytears44 41-45, F 3 days ago

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    My husband goes out drinking, comes home obnoxious and wakes up our child! Then he gets her all riled up so she believes its play time(she's a toddler)! Cooks and trashes the...
    pg1341290 pg1341290 22-25, F 3 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    Ladies if you are in your 20ties and you had no kids and your husband hit you for the first time would you divorce him knowing that that first belt lash and him telling me I had...
    Ihavetosurvive Ihavetosurvive 26-30, F 8 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    I have been married for five years. I am not in love with my husband anymore. We don't agree on much. We rarely have sex. Our sex life declined right after the first year. I don't...
    pieces22 pieces22 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 17

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    I have been with my husband for 13 years of which 7 of those we have been married. I now have an 8 month old baby. Up until 2 months ago I thought we were happily married. He...
    LeeHendrikse LeeHendrikse 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 4