I Am Separated From My Husband

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    Separated From Husband About 1 Month - Not Sure What To Do...

    I am a 44 year old female, been married for 22 years, have two children, ages 11 and 8. I am an accountant by profession but go to law school part time at night as well so needless to say, life is kinda busy. My husband is a good man although he has never been very much...
    oreo1744 oreo1744
    11 Responses Sep 22, 2010

    Separated After Over 35 Years Of Marriage

    I left my husband 16 months ago after deciding it was either leave or lose my sanity and my physical health. After doing some extensive research I realize my husband has a personality disorder -- probably Narcissistic. Over the years he has been verbaly, emotionally and at...
    ann59 ann59
    4 Responses Jul 26, 2011

    Left After Having A Baby At 39

    one day i thought my life was great waiting to have my much wanted baby and i thought everything was going to be wonderful as i had been with my husband for 13 years and had a 12 year old with him . then i had her he was great to start of with then he started avoiding me and the...
    sammytempletom72 sammytempletom72
    Oct 15, 2011

    I have been married for 14 years

    but have recently separated from my husband. It has been 2 months. Previous to our separation he has been unfaithful and I forgave him and had chosen to stay in the marriage well about 6 months ago the same pattern started to occur as before when he cheated on me. The secrecy...
    Ponytail5 Ponytail5
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Jan 23, 2015

    We are trying an In-house separation.

    We are both being very fair. Financially, it's the only way right now to move forward so we both can be happy.
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jun 7, 2015

    Recently Separated....it's Going On 3 Weeks

    My husband and I met our last year in high school. We were completely in love or so I thought. We got married at the age of 20, which was about two years after we graduated. I have really strong Christian beliefs and although I wanted to move in with him, I didn't want to...
    DeserveBettah DeserveBettah
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Mar 28, 2010

    Separated But Very Happy!

    My husband went to US in 1992 to seek ` greener pasture`. He met a nurse , a widow. They got married in 2000, but before that he sent me a divorce paper and I signed it. Looking back, I don`t feel any anger in my heart. I accepted everything..I always asked God for forgiveness...
    lalamei2946 lalamei2946
    61-65, F
    Mar 15, 2012

    Divorcing After A Long Separation

    After being separated for going on three years, I have finally decided to go ahead with the divorce. Friends have been urging me to do just that for a very long time, but I have been reluctant to do so because my husband & I had made a fair financial agreement through the...
    janec319 janec319
    36-40, F
    1 Response Mar 25, 2011


    My husband and I separated about a month ago. We have two children together. He moved out and is living with a friend. At first I panicked and did the needy, beggy thing, but have since calmed down. My husband and I do interact with each other, some moments are very strained by...
    transcendentalist transcendentalist
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Nov 27, 2013
    sobah sobah
    Dec 8, 2013

    Help And Support

    This sight is amazing, I finally feel safe to express myself. I have been separated from my husband for over 7 months now, I initiated the separation as our marriage was cracking. Before separating we were in therapy for two years. we have two little boys almost 4 and 2yrs old...
    Lucy3426 Lucy3426
    2 Responses Feb 27, 2012

    I Wonder If He Feels Anything?

    I realize that men and women think and feel differently. I have been with my husband for over 10 years. We have both agreed that we want a divorce. I have no desire to be with him! Here's my question, does he really feel nothing? I am mourning the end of the relationship...
    cablegirl01 cablegirl01
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Oct 26, 2010

    Separated From Husband

    It was 2 years ago. We were married for about 2 years back then. We argued a lot, mostly due to his grumpy and irritated behaviours. I myself also did not do very well too. When every time he said mean things to me or raised his voice. I would become overly emotional. and it made...
    andreeff andreeff
    31-35, F
    6 Responses Sep 26, 2009

    Need advice, is it inappropriate of me to ask

    that me and the OW clear the air between us before she meets my children?
    Guavajelly Guavajelly
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Apr 18, 2015

    Thought I'd Be Glad, But I'm Sad!

    I guess I don't know myself very well.  I've wanted to be free of my negative husband since we first got married.  He is so grouchy and intense, he makes everything so difficult, to say the least.  He's not a happy person and never feels enthusiastic or spontaneous...
    smilin smilin
    5 Responses Sep 21, 2009

    Scared and Lonley

    My husband and I have been together for 16 years and have two beautiful daughters but about 7 months ago he said he wanted a divorce. So we have been separated since. I am not even sure what happened. I do know that we do love eachother but for some reason he doesn't want to move...
    lonley4him lonley4him
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jul 29, 2009

    They said if two people love each other no

    matter what other people tells them they will still be together. But on my case that never happened. I always need to fight for my place in my marriage. I need to fight after marriage. I thought he loves me. I said to myself i want to be a good wife. But it came to a point...
    yodatheching yodatheching
    26-30, F
    1 Response Aug 25, 2015

    1st Night Of Official Seperation

    We had been married a little over 6 years. We had our share of ups and downs as most relationships do. Three years in, we separated for a week( his choice). During that time he cheated. I didn't find out about it until a week after it happened. I got a phone call from the other...
    Em1003 Em1003
    31-35, F
    Nov 1, 2013

    Holiday Blues

    I have never minded being lonely when I had a partner..I filled my time and stayed busy. So why do I mind being lonely now that there is no one to care about me?! Is everyone so contrary or is it just me?
    moondancelady moondancelady
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Nov 22, 2012

    I'm Separated From My Husband.

    A little over a year ago, just before Christmas. He finally spoke up and told me that he wanted either a divorce or separation. It was at that very moment I knew, I wanted it too. I felt absolutely no emotion as I heard his request. He and I hadn't really been talking to one...
    oBeckyo oBeckyo
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Feb 11, 2011

    The Final Chapter

    My husband and I have been together for 12 years and married for ten years. He is 13 years older than me. When we met I fell hard for him. Looking back I see now it was all a manipulative game to him.I have tried everything to get him to be nice consistantly to me and the kids...
    fullhouseallalone fullhouseallalone
    Jan 3, 2012

    Thank You

    To my soon-to-be-ex-husband, Thank you for everything that you have given to me over the course of our relationship. Thank you for giving me strength to move into an apartment, organize it, and keep it clean all by myself because you refused to help. Thank you for showing me I am...
    silentobserver08 silentobserver08
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jul 23, 2012

    23 Years Of Marriage

    A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers. What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are, but how you deal with incompatibility. I sure wish my other half understood how important these statements are to a strong relationship.
    okurn4it okurn4it
    46-50, F
    Sep 20, 2012

    Separated From Husband For 3 Weeks And Counting

    I have been married for 6 years. My husband is bipolar and tends toward mania. We have a young son together. Over the course of our relationship, my trust has been broken time and time again. He has not had an affair, but my trust has been broken in other ways. For example...
    cylongirl cylongirl
    Sep 7, 2012

    Please help me. 9 months ago I left my husband,

    he was distraught and I didn't care. He begged fore back for Months, I declined. We have two beautiful children. We have both slept with other people since our seperation and in the last 3 months I have come to the realisation that I have made the hugest mistake ever. I have...
    oscarpa oscarpa
    31-35, F
    May 24, 2014

    Finally Separated After Years Of Unhappiness.

    I have been with my husband for over ten years now. We went on vacation together and on like day 2, we finally said done. The week we were on vacation, we discussed who would get what. Messed up isn't it? With the downturn in the economy, the house is the issue. We are...
    cablegirl01 cablegirl01
    36-40, F
    1 Response Sep 15, 2010

    Me and my husband recently separated.

    . god it feels ******.. I miss feeling attractive in someone's eyes and getting the attention I need..but I guess I was never good enough in his eyes
    dirrrtygirl dirrrtygirl
    26-30, F
    Aug 25, 2014

    Freed And Caged All At Once

    I really hate being separated. It isn't that I want to get back with my husband. I miss having a man in my life but not him. He is one of those guys who seems alright to be with at first but when you get close, you realize that he has far too many issues to fix. I was willing to...
    emgrimm2011 emgrimm2011
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jun 23, 2013

    Sad and Separated

    I recently separated from my husband we have been together almost 8 years and things got physical I had to call 911 and have him arrested. We now have a no contact order. I know this might sound crazy but I miss him, disfuction and all.  I know our relationship is toxic and...
    luv2hatehim29 luv2hatehim29
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Aug 19, 2008

    I Just Separated From My Husband

    We were together for 9 years and married for 4.  He was using drugs and everytime was the last time.  We were young when we met and both used occasionally and socially.  I have been one year clean, he never once supported me in that and often would come home high...
    mrstiffanycoghill mrstiffanycoghill
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Sep 24, 2009

    Separated For 7 Months

    I have been separated from my husband for about seven months. He has been a good guy about paying the mortgage and stuff. (I just had back surgery and can't work) but his favorite hobby is calling me when he is drunk and reminding me that if it were not for his kindness I would...
    iceeeeone iceeeeone
    2 Responses Jun 27, 2008

    Separated For Two Years Now

    I am a 37 year old woman who has been separated from my husband for nearly two years now. We had a really good marriage in all respects but one. He always said he wanted children when the time was right, but the time never became right. Two years ago, he finally admitted to me...
    janec319 janec319
    36-40, F
    11 Responses Oct 25, 2010

    Nyc Daytime Talk Show: Do You Need Help?

    The Bill Cunningham Show is seeking couples who want to make amends.Show tapes on Thursday, Oct. 20.Free trip to NYC--airfare, hotel and food per diem provided.Email: mgreen@billcunninghamshow.com or call (212) 419-7459. 
    tvproducer7459 tvproducer7459
    Oct 17, 2011

    I Was His Love At First Sight

     He loved me during 3 years when we were together at the faculty. He said that I am the girl of his dreams. We got married and he was doing his best to make me happy. His parents were not satisfied by seeing us so happy, because they have so much problems in their marriage...
    mytima mytima
    26-30, F
    11 Responses Sep 22, 2009

    What Do I Do Now?

    I've been married for almost eight years and just seperated from my husband. I want it to work with him but at the same time I'm.ready to give up cause he doesn't seem to be trying anymore. What's my next step?
    Racergirl Racergirl
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jul 4, 2012

    I want the heartache to go away.

    I don't have a lot of friends. Even the friends I do have don't know I'm separated from my husband.
    BrittTHart BrittTHart
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Apr 16, 2014

    Separated After 5 Yrs Of Marriage...Can't Move on..

    I got married at the age of 20 to my first boyfriend, and our first 2 years of marriage were really like an excerpt from a fairytale. He was 21, and it was an interracial marriage. My parents were so opposed to him even being my boyfriend, so I hid my marriage from them, even...
    bettyfleming bettyfleming
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 12, 2010


    Ian currently seperated from my husband do too horrible conditions I was living in our apartment I'm home with my parents and I'm 5 months pregnant everyone tends to blame me for leaving I miss him dearly and don't know if my son will ever have a father I have been crying all day...
    Jnewton89 Jnewton89
    26-30, F
    Apr 23, 2013

    Separated For Two Months And Struggling With Loneliness

    I separated from my husband two months ago and feel like the loneliness is unbearable. Sometimes I feel like it's worse than being in a marriage where you don't love someone, but I can't envision going back to him. We were together for 11 years and have a wonderful 4 year old...
    naturesvision naturesvision
    3 Responses Aug 6, 2011

    Just Separated From My Husband

    I just separated from my husband 2 days ago, it feels like a long time coming but it does not make it any easier.  I married my high school sweetheart.  We have been together 15 years and married a month shy of 10 years.  I remember the great times as if they...
    amycreative amycreative
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Apr 6, 2010

    Recently Separated But It Was A Long Time Coming...

    I guess I'm in mourning for the marraige with the man I started out with. It went so bad so fast that I guess it's been over for at least a few years... We're still in love but if we want to stay friends then we have to go our separate ways. Sometimes love isn't enough I guess...
    saraphine66 saraphine66
    26-30, F
    7 Responses Nov 30, 2009

    But we still live in the same house.

    We have a little girl, and have decided to co-parent her together. It gets awkward sometimes, as we are both seeing other people, but I think it's actually working. We met almost 14 yrs ago - dated young, got engaged young, married pretty young - bought a house, got a dog...
    kellycadaver kellycadaver
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Jan 15, 2014


    Hi I have been married for 19 years and 3 weeks before Xmas my husband told me that he wants to have sex with other women, but he loves me and wants to be with me that it is just a physical thing. At the time I was suffering anxiety (fear of him leaving me, due to close friends...
    Leod71 Leod71
    46-50, F
    Feb 28, 2013


    I have been married to my husband for 19 years and seperated for the last eight years,  We are in contact with each other and have remained good friends, we have 4 children together aged between 18 and ten.  My husband was involved in a hit and run at the weekend and is in a...
    mummidee mummidee
    Jan 16, 2012

    My husband and I are going to have a trial

    seperation. We have kids 9, 7 and 5 -what do we tell them? At a loss here. Any advice?
    zoey0824 zoey0824
    41-45, F
    Mar 4, 2014

    It Will Never Be the Same

    My husband and I have been married for 11 years and together for 15 yrs. My husband moved out over 6 months ago and I dont think he is coming back. I give up. I cant make him come home and I am not going to try anymore. If he wants a divorce then so be it.
    toby10 toby10
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Aug 2, 2009

    I left my husband in February of this year.

    I left due to my dad being on hospice. I stayed gone because my husband called me not even 1 day later basically asking when I was coming back. He is really selfish, I just don't think he's interested in the emotional or mental part of me. Prior to me leaving, he didn't talk to...
    Maggs81 Maggs81
    36-40, F
    1 Response Sep 11, 2015

    Seperated And Sad

    I have been married for almost 29 years 7 months ago my husband said we needed space , felt like we were in a rut and needed things to be diffrent. Since then he has lost his job and living with his elderly father. Now says he wants to be finacially independent. We see each other...
    lkob lkob
    3 Responses Mar 26, 2013

    I Am Tied to Whatever I Avoid

    I know that to the degree I am willing to give up my search for a healthy love relationship, I can have it. I know I can have whatever I am ready and willing to receive. Individual receptivity is everything. Without it, nothing changes. With it, all things are possible. I no...
    childoftheland childoftheland
    46-50, F
    4 Responses Apr 13, 2009
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