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I Am Separated, Soon to Divorce

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 94 People

    If you were happy? with the wrong one,

    just imagine how happy you would be with the right one:)
    Lilyanne4 Lilyanne4 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 23

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    Separated An Extremely Lonely

    I have been married for 14 years and have 2 kids.  Me and my husband decided it was no longer working, we had basically turned into friends with benefits.  We got together when he was 19 and I was pregnant shortly after and decided to get married.  Happened...
    jlm1128 jlm1128 36-40, F 2 Responses Sep 13, 2009

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    How Long Can You Go Without Sex?

    I came across this question here on EP. I found some of the answers very enlightening. If you are like me and have some extra time on your hand, have a read, I think it is very interesting.
    newdawn07 newdawn07 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 14, 2012

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    It's been two months

    and I can now talk about him and us without crying. I know I don't want him back but it's hard being alone after a total of 16 years together (12 married). I hope to work on myself and maybe find someone who will accept me as I am and show me affection. I am a very loving and...
    LookingforLove63 LookingforLove63 51-55, F 2 Responses Sep 8, 2014

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    I Was Once A Rare And Beautiful Flower!

    Every time I think I am doing fine riding my bike along the the healing trail of separation, taking a breath of relief from all the up hill struggles and emotional pain. Something happens to knock me clean off the beaten path!!!As I start to appreciate the cool breeze brushing...
    Wiltingflower Wiltingflower 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 16, 2012

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    One of the hardest lessons in life is letting

    go. Change is never easy. We fight to hang on and we fight to let go.
    Lilyanne4 Lilyanne4 36-40, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Lilyanne4 Lilyanne4 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 23

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    Getting On With Life

    My daughter, 28 years old and an HR executive with an IT Corporation, is going through separation from her 5 year old marriage.  She had married her boyfriend after 5 years of going steady.  Even then I had known that the differences between their background...
    holayouse holayouse 56-60, M 2 Responses Sep 30, 2009

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    I am divorcing a narcissist,

    and it's been a nightmare. I have 3 months to go before this divorce can be final, he won't move out and I can't stand looking at him. Some days I am great, others I am mixed between depression or anger. He's not the man I married 13 years ago. Time is standing still, he needs...
    goingpostal15 goingpostal15 46-50, F Jan 3

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    Saw him over the weekend

    and told him we should file the papers. I think he thought we might get back together but I don't think he has changed anything and I don't want to go backwards...only forward. I'll be single by summer.
    LookingforLove63 LookingforLove63 51-55, F 1 Response Nov 24, 2014

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    I am soon to be divorced.

    Signing an agreement in the next two weeks. I was very unhappy in my marriage so in one hand I will be relieved on another I still worry about my three children. I know it's better in the long run for them to see me happy, but doesn't make it easier to see the pain this causes.
    Electricdino Electricdino 31-35, M 2 Responses Jan 29, 2014

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    Separated An Extremely Lonely

    I have been married for 14 years and have 2 kids.  Me and my husband decided it was no longer working, we had basically turned into friends with benefits.  We got together when he was 19 and I was pregnant shortly after and decided to get married.  Happened...
    jlm1128 jlm1128 36-40, F 4 Responses Sep 13, 2009

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    Alone, Confused And Orphaned

    I have been in a loveless marriage for some time. My 'wife' came home after work, on my birthday, to inform me that we were gonna seperate. I was surprised but not... We talked more to each other then we had ever before in quite some time. The other day I went to call her mother...
    lomivi lomivi 31-35, M 3 Responses Oct 8, 2009

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    I signed my divorce papers today.

    .... Why is it so hard even tho this is what I wanted?!
    lazydaisy0104 lazydaisy0104 36-40, F 4 Responses Dec 12, 2014

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    I work with the poor,

    homeless and disenfranchised and they have been a gift to me in this worse pain ever...they rebuild...survive hardships ...great stories of more harrowing circumstances ...I will love again...I will rebuild too
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 29, 2014

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    I Wish...

    Do I really secretly wish that I could turn back time and not subject the two little ones to all the changes that have happened since we decided to have them... would they have been better off to have drifted onto others that they would have experienced a family that remained...
    Liminalghost Liminalghost 36-40, M 2 Responses Sep 24, 2012

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    My husband of 18 years just asked

    for a divorce on my birthday after we had sex! What do I do now, this is all new to me? I'm so confused and scared for me and my 4 kids! Help please!!!
    dorritym dorritym 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 12, 2014

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    Related Experiences

    My husband left me two weeks ago. We have been together for 14 years and married for 7.5. We have 3 beautiful little girls, 5, 3 and 19mos... We have had our fair share of ups...
    Corinnarose Corinnarose 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 22

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    Me and my wife have just separated she told me she loves me but not in love with me..We have been married for 21 years 3 boyz..I was verbal abusive when I drink alcohol I no longer...
    jameskdaz jameskdaz 41-45, M 2 Responses Feb 19

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    After two years of being separated, I finally got my divorce papers this week and I don't know how I feel about it. My ex husband cheated on me after four years of marriage and...
    b1ttersw33t b1ttersw33t 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 23

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    About to get a divorce. Hopefully not the first gay couple to get a divorce in Oklahoma.
    SweetStud SweetStud 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 22

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    I've been separated for 4 years. There's zero chance of reconciliation. I'd rather commit adultary technically than go through the paperwork. No signs of him ever divorcing me.
    paliglass paliglass 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 10

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    Hi, I have been married almost 11 years and was working away early December when my wife rings and tells me she's moved out and got herself a small flat. As soon as I returned at...
    trustedher trustedher 56-60, M 3 days ago

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    Its sad that I have to open this app to feel, that Im listened to. It's sad cause all these experiences I can share with you, but I couldn't share these with my soon to be ex...
    LunaStar89 LunaStar89 31-35, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    I am absolutely floored in reading this for my own personal reflections of my life. I could go into immense detail to tell you just how much I relate and I feel the need to pass on...
    Jdavis2036 Jdavis2036 41-45 1 Response 17 hrs ago

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    Finding an inspiration that heals. Shes gone. It hurts but I will be okay. This past year has been phenomenally hard but I believe I'm exactly where I need to be. 2014 I was...
    mmn6134 mmn6134 22-25, F Feb 5

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    so I have been friends with this guy for over 9 years now and 2 years ago we grew apart from each other for a little while and in all them years just a few weeks ago is when I...
    ABeautifulMess1994 ABeautifulMess1994 18-21, F Feb 17

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    I've struggled with the no contact. My MM went back to his wife after being separated for 2 years and filing for divorce. We ended things in the beginning of Dec when he couldn't...
    Widow68 Widow68 46-50, F 2 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    1. My son is 22, and in the Air Force. He's the only family I have, and I miss him so much it hurts into my soul. 2. I've been divorced for several years. 3. I finally started...
    zoe1969 zoe1969 46-50, F 2 Responses Feb 9

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    The reality of my recent life changes are really hitting me today. I've failed my marriage. I failed my best friend. I love my H so much but I just can't find it in me to be...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    There's a member that posted a story on marriage, loss of intimacy and love and divorce. In the end the husband realizes how he neglected his wife, how much he still loves her and...
    MsInvis MsInvis 46-50, F 1 day ago

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    Hello. I am a 23 year old male, and this is my story that I want people to know. It all began back in my old home. My parents were great and wonderful parents to the eyes of the...
    familymaynotbeforever91 familymaynotbeforever91 22-25, M 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    I am a new member of a club which I hoped never to earn membership to. I lost a person I loved profoundly to suicide on Thanksgiving 2014. This person had a complicated and...
    AdiosPantalones AdiosPantalones 46-50, F 2 Responses Feb 17

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    I'm separated and nearing the final divorce decree stage. I miss a lot of things about my past life....but not the least of all is our 2 dogs and 2 cats. There have been several...
    DrHowl DrHowl 51-55, M Feb 7

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    This maybe a bit lengthy so I'll apologize in advance.. My husband and I married in October 2013, found out I was pregnant in February 2014, "separated" due to his drug addiction...
    southernstylist southernstylist 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 10

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    In elementary school I spent most of my time outside of class at friend’s houses. This is how I became best friends with a Girl named Elizabeth who lived in my neighborhood only...
    LyraAlluse LyraAlluse 26-30, F Feb 18

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    I'm miserable! Me and my wife separated a year and a half ago. We are going thru a divorce. My wife has a lawyer and i dont. She has money and i dont. I was the stay at home parent...
    aschlee aschlee 31-35 1 Response Feb 21

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    Well..maybe..talked to him yesterday finally, kinda he was busy, and we are going to talk and see each other today, but I think the time has really come for me to leave him. Almost...
    YankeesOTW YankeesOTW 26-30 1 Response a week ago

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    I lost custody of my 8 yr old special needs daughter 3 weeks ago. I never thought in a million years that anyone could think that she would be better with her abusive father n step...
    kimj511 kimj511 36-40, F 1 day ago

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    I met a really nice guy. I didn't really like him at first because he's not my type of guy. However, witnessing the way he loves someone--me particularly--I was drawn to him...
    hastycrew hastycrew 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 11

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    Copying a letter here that I wrote to my former AP...haven't sent it and may not, but there is healing in writing it out. I thought it might help others: Dear MM, I want you to...
    Kadl6671 Kadl6671 46-50, F 3 Responses Feb 12

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    Okay. This is probably the only site/thing or whatever, that soon will know who I am and what I actually feel. Truth is, on the outside - everyone sees me like a 'gorgeous...
    Matildatilda Matildatilda 18-21, F Feb 18

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    I am a man who has been a victim of domestic violence. I have never lifted a hand and hit a woman, or man for that matter. I married a woman who had a background of domestic...
    alan61a alan61a 51-55, M 5 Responses Feb 19

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