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I Am Separated, Soon to Divorce

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 78 People

    I Wish...

    Do I really secretly wish that I could turn back time and not subject the two little ones to all the changes that have happened since we decided to have them... would they have been better off to have drifted onto others that they would have experienced a family that remained...
    Liminalghost Liminalghost 36-40, M 2 Responses Sep 24, 2012

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    Separated An Extremely Lonely

    I have been married for 14 years and have 2 kids.  Me and my husband decided it was no longer working, we had basically turned into friends with benefits.  We got together when he was 19 and I was pregnant shortly after and decided to get married.  Happened...
    jlm1128 jlm1128 36-40, F 4 Responses Sep 13, 2009

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    Alone, Confused And Orphaned

    I have been in a loveless marriage for some time. My 'wife' came home after work, on my birthday, to inform me that we were gonna seperate. I was surprised but not... We talked more to each other then we had ever before in quite some time. The other day I went to call her mother...
    lomivi lomivi 31-35, M 3 Responses Oct 8, 2009

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    I Was Once A Rare And Beautiful Flower!

    Every time I think I am doing fine riding my bike along the the healing trail of separation, taking a breath of relief from all the up hill struggles and emotional pain. Something happens to knock me clean off the beaten path!!!As I start to appreciate the cool breeze brushing...
    Wiltingflower Wiltingflower 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 16, 2012

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    It's been two months

    and I can now talk about him and us without crying. I know I don't want him back but it's hard being alone after a total of 16 years together (12 married). I hope to work on myself and maybe find someone who will accept me as I am and show me affection. I am a very loving and...
    LookingforLove63 LookingforLove63 51-55, F 2 Responses Sep 8

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    How Long Can You Go Without Sex?

    I came across this question here on EP. I found some of the answers very enlightening. If you are like me and have some extra time on your hand, have a read, I think it is very interesting.
    newdawn07 newdawn07 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 14, 2012

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    Getting On With Life

    My daughter, 28 years old and an HR executive with an IT Corporation, is going through separation from her 5 year old marriage.  She had married her boyfriend after 5 years of going steady.  Even then I had known that the differences between their background...
    holayouse holayouse 56-60, M 2 Responses Sep 30, 2009

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    My husband of 18 years just asked

    for a divorce on my birthday after we had sex! What do I do now, this is all new to me? I'm so confused and scared for me and my 4 kids! Help please!!!
    dorritym dorritym 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 12

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    I am soon to be divorced.

    Signing an agreement in the next two weeks. I was very unhappy in my marriage so in one hand I will be relieved on another I still worry about my three children. I know it's better in the long run for them to see me happy, but doesn't make it easier to see the pain this causes.
    Electricdino Electricdino 31-35, M 2 Responses Jan 29

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    My husband got his stuff out today.

    Bitter sweet. A lot harder than I thought. I try and act tough but very sad to think that the person you wanted to spend the rest of your life with is effectively gone.
    Panasonic123 Panasonic123 31-35, F 1 Response a week ago

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    Separated An Extremely Lonely

    I have been married for 14 years and have 2 kids.  Me and my husband decided it was no longer working, we had basically turned into friends with benefits.  We got together when he was 19 and I was pregnant shortly after and decided to get married.  Happened...
    jlm1128 jlm1128 36-40, F 2 Responses Sep 13, 2009

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    Related Experiences

    Let me take you into the mind of the recently separated 20 something woman. When I got separated, I temporarily became a person who doesn't define who I really am. I felt defeated...
    MichelleM1988 MichelleM1988 26-30, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    Yesterday was our 16th wedding anniversary and tomorrow is my husband or stbx (soon to be ex) birthday, We have been separated since February and the last time I saw him was in...
    Calmriver70 Calmriver70 41-45, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    I've been married for 27 years this week. I have three kids ages, 26, 19, and 16. I probably should've left 10 years ago when I wanted to get separated then. Every time I wanted to...
    cinaflower cinaflower 41-45, F 2 Responses Sep 22

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    My husband of 17 years came home and said he didn't love me anymore and wants a divorce , buthe will stay uuntil I get better and can get back on my feet and afford the apartment...
    cinnert73 cinnert73 36-40, F Sep 24

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    My s/o has been separated for three years. We've been dating for 1.5. It feels like it's taking for ever. His ex just got me banned from their kids life as she doesn't want s/o's...
    lost2727 lost2727 36-40 2 Responses Oct 4

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    Relationships are bullshit. They all take the same course...for the most part. You meet someone, this person peaks your interest, you have a lot of fun with this person, this goes...
    wishihadatimemachine wishihadatimemachine 26-30, F 2 days ago

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    Soon to be single. What am I going to do with myself?
    myyself myyself 46-50, M 8 Responses Oct 7

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    I posted my experience some time back about my wife cheating on me with a MM. I'm approaching a year since the discovery of the affair and confronting my wife with the proof, and 1...
    WalkingtheRoad56 WalkingtheRoad56 56-60, M 1 Response Oct 6

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    Slaying Dragons: A Sleepless Journey Into Oppositeland… Having spent over a year wandering in Oppositeland, the refuge for escapees from a sexless marriage, I am experiencing...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 15 Responses Oct 11

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    First off, this is completely new to me. I don't even no where to begin. So, here goes and it will be long, cause I want to put everything out there. This is my 2nd marriage and...
    Moutainsandnaturestorms Moutainsandnaturestorms 36-40, F 8 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Facts about me, please do not judge! I have been married for 8 1/2 years. Met my mm a year and almost 5 months ago. I was a happy good fairhfull wife till him. I know if we get...
    kylee2013 kylee2013 36-40, F 6 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    I have just lost everything. I was engaged to a man that was 23 years older than I was, me 29 him 52. I have never loved anyone the way that I loved him, so completely. I met him...
    slideways slideways 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 6

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    I found this on the internet - Hope it helps someone. 5 stages of grief - how it applies to infidelity Posting from another site. This will help you understand that the...
    NOWHealing NOWHealing 61-65, F 4 days ago

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    I've been off work for just over a week now. I've had Anxiety issues for a few years now and I have underlying Depression too. I took some time off, thinking I was being rebellious...
    Elses Elses 36-40, M 1 Response Sep 22

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    I have been with my husband for a total of 10 years, 4 years of marriage, we have 1 child together, a 3 year old. About 6 months into our marriage I should have divorced him. He...
    1standlast 1standlast 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 8

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    I am married (22 years together today) to workaholic but contrary to most- this one is broke. He has stolen hundreds of thousands of dollars under a disguise of business needs...
    SonomaDream SonomaDream 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 26

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    Everybody I know who has a dog usually calls him ‘Buddy’ or ‘Lassie’. I call mine ‘Sex’. Now, Sex has been very embarrassing to me. When I went to the City Hall to...
    jerzee78 jerzee78 36-40, M Oct 5

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    My husband and I have been separated almost a year . He lives on the east coast I live on the west coast. After only four months of marriage we separated because he cheated on me...
    Whatswrongwithim Whatswrongwithim 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 12

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    I am always one to try to be strong. Always the string one who has all her sh!t together. The one who for years has been the glue that holds everything together. I am recently...
    NewBeginnings77 NewBeginnings77 31-35, F 3 Responses Oct 8

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    My wife has left me after six years of unhappy marriage. She has taken our 5 year old daughter with her. My wife and I can hardly stand each other any more. But I miss my daughter...
    JetsamFlotsam JetsamFlotsam 36-40, M 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I'm not sure who to ask about this but I don't have anywhere else to go. My serious boyfriend is going through a pre-divorce. He is originally from Illinois but his wife lives in...
    Spakrs Spakrs 18-21, F 4 Responses Oct 6

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    When I met this guy I was still married. I was looking to get out of my marriage, and my attraction to him was a good reason to force my own hand. We first slept together a week...
    laniegirl84 laniegirl84 26-30, F Oct 1

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    I need help. I was married for 16 years dated my husband for 10 years prior. I am 43 He cheated on me twice, hit me and always verbally abusive. I have two children. I didn't want...
    Butterbug10 Butterbug10 41-45, F 8 Responses 2 days ago

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    Hi I am new to this forum but I have had the opportunity to read posts and study them. I feel less lonely now and realize that my experience is shared by many. I decided to post as...
    FantasticNJGuy FantasticNJGuy 41-45, M 12 Responses Oct 7

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    They're separated and he lives with me. They still talk though and the wife thinks they'll get back together. She's pregnant. Don't know who the dad is (she had a boyfriend too) He...
    heatherrrbee heatherrrbee 22-25, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    So I fancied this friend for 25 years, and he fancied me. He's a widower and I'm separated now. The minute I separated he started hinting he wanted to have sex with me. At first I...
    bettyajz bettyajz 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 28

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    I'm going to tell you guys my perspective on how my depression came to what it is now. This is going to take a while. five years back, I was then 10/11 years old. I had a group...
    RianneK RianneK 16-17, F a week ago

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    I have finally separated from my bipolar husband. It is fantastic to be away from the negativity surrounded by this illness. The emotional abuse was unbearable but it is not until...
    Panasonic123 Panasonic123 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 28

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    I met a man about a year ago who's 22 years older than me who told me he's never been married and never had a child. These weren't the reasons I fell for him but they didn't hurt...
    kittentoes kittentoes 22-25, F 10 Responses Sep 30

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    Today I have court because I got more money when I was made permanent at my job after being there for 8 months as a contractor. She filed for a child support increase. I love my...
    ausofbounds ausofbounds 41-45, M 2 Responses Sep 30

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    It's been over four years since we split. We had a whirl wind romance and married after only knowing each other a short time. Our marriage only lasted five weeks before the truth...
    Barefootonthebeac Barefootonthebeac 46-50, M Oct 4

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    I really want to have a divorce but cant afford one right now. I have been separated for 9 months. so ya whats up ya'll
    colorpurple33 colorpurple33 31-35, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    My wife and I separated after 7 years of marriage, we divorced after 10 years and 3 days. It has been hard and from the point when I shut the door to our home I have been alone. I...
    Thanval Thanval 31-35, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I've been digging out from underneath, an avalanche that has taken 20 years to see. Our reality is our own to create, and the sooner that you realise that the sooner that you can...
    Sensesfailed Sensesfailed 22-25, M 1 Response Sep 29

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    I have written about my dad and my step mother on here, and now I feel like I should start writing about my mother. The ***** that caused all my problems. She was 17 when I was...
    Theworldisminenow Theworldisminenow 18-21, F Oct 11

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    The text message forwarded to me from my younger sister Saira was concise and chilling: 'Mum's sent a hit man to kill you,' it read. 'Be careful.' As I read those words, my first...
    BollywoodStar BollywoodStar 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 23

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    Things have been up and down the past couple weeks. Monday before last was perfect with no issues in sight and then I didn't hear from her for 3 days. I found out she was in the...
    wakeupdead wakeupdead 26-30, M 1 Response