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I Am Separated, Soon to Divorce

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 102 People

    I work with the poor,

    homeless and disenfranchised and they have been a gift to me in this worse pain ever...they rebuild...survive hardships ...great stories of more harrowing circumstances ...I will love again...I will rebuild too
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 29, 2014

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    Im currently seperated,

    almost a month now and its not getting much easier. Im 42 with (2) kids (ages 16 & 10), and my wife just seems like shes not happy after ten years of marriage. This is actually our 3rd seperation, and its always evolves around her hanging with friends and smoking pot everyday...
    nelmel0520 nelmel0520 41-45, M May 10

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    Separated An Extremely Lonely

    I have been married for 14 years and have 2 kids.  Me and my husband decided it was no longer working, we had basically turned into friends with benefits.  We got together when he was 19 and I was pregnant shortly after and decided to get married.  Happened...
    jlm1128 jlm1128 36-40, F 4 Responses Sep 13, 2009

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    I am divorcing a narcissist,

    and it's been a nightmare. I have 3 months to go before this divorce can be final, he won't move out and I can't stand looking at him. Some days I am great, others I am mixed between depression or anger. He's not the man I married 13 years ago. Time is standing still, he needs...
    goingpostal15 goingpostal15 46-50, F Jan 3

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    Getting On With Life

    My daughter, 28 years old and an HR executive with an IT Corporation, is going through separation from her 5 year old marriage.  She had married her boyfriend after 5 years of going steady.  Even then I had known that the differences between their background...
    holayouse holayouse 56-60, M 2 Responses Sep 30, 2009

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    It's been two months

    and I can now talk about him and us without crying. I know I don't want him back but it's hard being alone after a total of 16 years together (12 married). I hope to work on myself and maybe find someone who will accept me as I am and show me affection. I am a very loving and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Sep 8, 2014

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    Saw him over the weekend

    and told him we should file the papers. I think he thought we might get back together but I don't think he has changed anything and I don't want to go backwards...only forward. I'll be single by summer.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Nov 24, 2014

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    I am happy. It isn't easy,

    though, to hurt someone. I had lived with his controlling for so long. My daughter and I lived with his harsh words and criticisms...I asked for his help and compromise and he refused. Things just got worse. It was like a 50lb weight off my shoulders when I said it. I can be...
    SunnyGrlA SunnyGrlA 36-40, F Apr 14

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    While divorcing I constantly want attention.

    . Nothing sexual just flirting.. After all I've been through with him I want/deserved to be loved.. I know this isn't going to fill that void, but at night when I feel lonely I just don't want to be lonely .. I hate it so much.. Mornings are fine but when night falls everyone...
    Crunkmistress Crunkmistress 26-30, F May 18

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    I Wish...

    Do I really secretly wish that I could turn back time and not subject the two little ones to all the changes that have happened since we decided to have them... would they have been better off to have drifted onto others that they would have experienced a family that remained...
    Liminalghost Liminalghost 36-40, M 2 Responses Sep 24, 2012

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    Feeling pretty lonely right now!

    Only been seperated 3 weeks and it feels like 3 months! Not knowing if we're getting a divorce is the worst feeling in the world, and loving someone who is distant is even worse! Been married 10 yrs to my wife, have 2 kids, and she acts like its nothing to throw it all away! All...
    nelmel0520 nelmel0520 41-45, M 1 Response May 10

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    Alone, Confused And Orphaned

    I have been in a loveless marriage for some time. My 'wife' came home after work, on my birthday, to inform me that we were gonna seperate. I was surprised but not... We talked more to each other then we had ever before in quite some time. The other day I went to call her mother...
    lomivi lomivi 31-35, M 3 Responses Oct 8, 2009

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    Lilyanne4 Lilyanne4 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 23

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    Separated An Extremely Lonely

    I have been married for 14 years and have 2 kids.  Me and my husband decided it was no longer working, we had basically turned into friends with benefits.  We got together when he was 19 and I was pregnant shortly after and decided to get married.  Happened...
    jlm1128 jlm1128 36-40, F 2 Responses Sep 13, 2009

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    I signed my divorce papers today.

    .... Why is it so hard even tho this is what I wanted?!
    lazydaisy0104 lazydaisy0104 36-40, F 4 Responses Dec 12, 2014

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    I am soon to be divorced.

    Signing an agreement in the next two weeks. I was very unhappy in my marriage so in one hand I will be relieved on another I still worry about my three children. I know it's better in the long run for them to see me happy, but doesn't make it easier to see the pain this causes.
    Electricdino Electricdino 31-35, M 2 Responses Jan 29, 2014

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    I Was Once A Rare And Beautiful Flower!

    Every time I think I am doing fine riding my bike along the the healing trail of separation, taking a breath of relief from all the up hill struggles and emotional pain. Something happens to knock me clean off the beaten path!!!As I start to appreciate the cool breeze brushing...
    Wiltingflower Wiltingflower 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 16, 2012

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    We've been separated

    for a while, too long, and have recently started the serious discussion of our divorce. I like to tell people that we are keeping it friendly and civil... maybe I'm just telling myself that... because admitting the truth about the nightmare that I live daily would be too much...
    TheGoddessB TheGoddessB 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 14

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    If you were happy? with the wrong one,

    just imagine how happy you would be with the right one:)
    Lilyanne4 Lilyanne4 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 23

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    My husband and I separated

    after 5 years of marriage. We got married in November 2009 and this last December 2014, I had enough of his ****. Fast forward to May 2015. I had a very difficult time making the appointment to meet with the lawyer. Finally the day came May 11, 2015 and I filed the papers. I now...
    TheNewClassic82 TheNewClassic82 31-35, F 4 Responses Jun 16

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    "You may not be able to control someone's

    negative behaviour, but you can control how long you participate in it"
    Lilyanne4 Lilyanne4 36-40, F Mar 26

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    One of the hardest lessons in life is letting

    go. Change is never easy. We fight to hang on and we fight to let go.
    Lilyanne4 Lilyanne4 36-40, F Feb 25

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    This is the first part of my story

    that leads to the divorce that I'm currently going through.The first time my husband and I went through a separation was March 2013. At that time in my life our son was only 2 years old. In the leading months to March my husband was responsible for paying the water, electric and...
    TheNewClassic82 TheNewClassic82 31-35, F 4 Responses Jun 20

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    My husband of 18 years just asked

    for a divorce on my birthday after we had sex! What do I do now, this is all new to me? I'm so confused and scared for me and my 4 kids! Help please!!!
    dorritym dorritym 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 12, 2014

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    I am newly separated because i filed for divorce earlier this year. My soon to be ex and I agreed to the separation and subsequent divorce because of several differences beyond...
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    I used to have quite a few friends, i even had a best friend but everything changed... I transferred schools and my best friend was left in the previous school. That's not what...
    fallenindarkness fallenindarkness 13-15, F a week ago

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    I just spent part of my morning with my Dad whom I haven't seen properly in like 4 years since he and my Mum separated. It was so awkward, he acted as if we were really close...
    mizzcomplicated mizzcomplicated 22-25, F a week ago

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    I am to the point that I just don't even care anymore. I met my man 5 years ago. He was just finalizing his divorce. He had been separated from his ex for almost 2 years at...
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    I met a man(H) six years ago who was married once to a woman(X) for only about 3 years, during those 3 years they had a daughter(SD). X cheated on H several times with different...
    justgotreal justgotreal 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 25

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    wantadoover wantadoover 56-60, M 3 Responses Jun 24

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    neverknow66 neverknow66 46-50, F Jun 21

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