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I Am Separated, Soon to Divorce

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 105 People

    We've been separated

    for a while, too long, and have recently started the serious discussion of our divorce. I like to tell people that we are keeping it friendly and civil... maybe I'm just telling myself that... because admitting the truth about the nightmare that I live daily would be too much...
    TheGoddessB TheGoddessB 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 14

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    I Wish...

    Do I really secretly wish that I could turn back time and not subject the two little ones to all the changes that have happened since we decided to have them... would they have been better off to have drifted onto others that they would have experienced a family that remained...
    Liminalghost Liminalghost 36-40, M 2 Responses Sep 24, 2012

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    I work with the poor,

    homeless and disenfranchised and they have been a gift to me in this worse pain ever...they rebuild...survive hardships ...great stories of more harrowing circumstances ...I will love again...I will rebuild too
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 29, 2014

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    This is the first part of my story

    that leads to the divorce that I'm currently going through.The first time my husband and I went through a separation was March 2013. At that time in my life our son was only 2 years old. In the leading months to March my husband was responsible for paying the water, electric and...
    TheNewClassic82 TheNewClassic82 31-35, F 4 Responses Jun 20

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    Feeling pretty lonely right now!

    Only been seperated 3 weeks and it feels like 3 months! Not knowing if we're getting a divorce is the worst feeling in the world, and loving someone who is distant is even worse! Been married 10 yrs to my wife, have 2 kids, and she acts like its nothing to throw it all away! All...
    nelmel0520 nelmel0520 41-45, M 1 Response May 10

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    Lilyanne4 Lilyanne4 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 23

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    I am happy. It isn't easy,

    though, to hurt someone. I had lived with his controlling for so long. My daughter and I lived with his harsh words and criticisms...I asked for his help and compromise and he refused. Things just got worse. It was like a 50lb weight off my shoulders when I said it. I can be...
    SunnyGrlA SunnyGrlA 36-40, F Apr 14

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    One of the hardest lessons in life is letting

    go. Change is never easy. We fight to hang on and we fight to let go.
    Lilyanne4 Lilyanne4 36-40, F Feb 25

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    Separated An Extremely Lonely

    I have been married for 14 years and have 2 kids.  Me and my husband decided it was no longer working, we had basically turned into friends with benefits.  We got together when he was 19 and I was pregnant shortly after and decided to get married.  Happened...
    jlm1128 jlm1128 36-40, F 2 Responses Sep 13, 2009

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    While divorcing I constantly want attention.

    . Nothing sexual just flirting.. After all I've been through with him I want/deserved to be loved.. I know this isn't going to fill that void, but at night when I feel lonely I just don't want to be lonely .. I hate it so much.. Mornings are fine but when night falls everyone...
    Crunkmistress Crunkmistress 26-30, F May 18

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    It's been two months

    and I can now talk about him and us without crying. I know I don't want him back but it's hard being alone after a total of 16 years together (12 married). I hope to work on myself and maybe find someone who will accept me as I am and show me affection. I am a very loving and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Sep 8, 2014

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    I am divorcing a narcissist,

    and it's been a nightmare. I have 3 months to go before this divorce can be final, he won't move out and I can't stand looking at him. Some days I am great, others I am mixed between depression or anger. He's not the man I married 13 years ago. Time is standing still, he needs...
    goingpostal15 goingpostal15 46-50, F Jan 3

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    "You may not be able to control someone's

    negative behaviour, but you can control how long you participate in it"
    Lilyanne4 Lilyanne4 36-40, F Mar 26

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    Separated An Extremely Lonely

    I have been married for 14 years and have 2 kids.  Me and my husband decided it was no longer working, we had basically turned into friends with benefits.  We got together when he was 19 and I was pregnant shortly after and decided to get married.  Happened...
    jlm1128 jlm1128 36-40, F 4 Responses Sep 13, 2009

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    My husband of 18 years just asked

    for a divorce on my birthday after we had sex! What do I do now, this is all new to me? I'm so confused and scared for me and my 4 kids! Help please!!!
    dorritym dorritym 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 12, 2014

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    I signed my divorce papers today.

    .... Why is it so hard even tho this is what I wanted?!
    lazydaisy0104 lazydaisy0104 36-40, F 4 Responses Dec 12, 2014

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    Last night the soon to be Ex-Husband text me 13

    times and called 7 times. All his text just stated that he made a mistake and that he wanted me back. I never answered the phone but I did respond to one of his text saying: There's nothing to say anymore. I use music and lyrics to interpret things that are happening in my life...
    TheNewClassic82 TheNewClassic82 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 11

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    Alone, Confused And Orphaned

    I have been in a loveless marriage for some time. My 'wife' came home after work, on my birthday, to inform me that we were gonna seperate. I was surprised but not... We talked more to each other then we had ever before in quite some time. The other day I went to call her mother...
    lomivi lomivi 31-35, M 3 Responses Oct 8, 2009

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    Saw him over the weekend

    and told him we should file the papers. I think he thought we might get back together but I don't think he has changed anything and I don't want to go backwards...only forward. I'll be single by summer.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Nov 24, 2014

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    Im currently seperated,

    almost a month now and its not getting much easier. Im 42 with (2) kids (ages 16 & 10), and my wife just seems like shes not happy after ten years of marriage. This is actually our 3rd seperation, and its always evolves around her hanging with friends and smoking pot everyday...
    nelmel0520 nelmel0520 41-45, M May 10

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    I Was Once A Rare And Beautiful Flower!

    Every time I think I am doing fine riding my bike along the the healing trail of separation, taking a breath of relief from all the up hill struggles and emotional pain. Something happens to knock me clean off the beaten path!!!As I start to appreciate the cool breeze brushing...
    Wiltingflower Wiltingflower 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 16, 2012

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    I am soon to be divorced.

    Signing an agreement in the next two weeks. I was very unhappy in my marriage so in one hand I will be relieved on another I still worry about my three children. I know it's better in the long run for them to see me happy, but doesn't make it easier to see the pain this causes.
    Electricdino Electricdino 31-35, M 2 Responses Jan 29, 2014

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    My husband and I separated

    after 5 years of marriage. We got married in November 2009 and this last December 2014, I had enough of his ****. Fast forward to May 2015. I had a very difficult time making the appointment to meet with the lawyer. Finally the day came May 11, 2015 and I filed the papers. I now...
    TheNewClassic82 TheNewClassic82 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 16

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    Getting On With Life

    My daughter, 28 years old and an HR executive with an IT Corporation, is going through separation from her 5 year old marriage.  She had married her boyfriend after 5 years of going steady.  Even then I had known that the differences between their background...
    holayouse holayouse 56-60, M 2 Responses Sep 30, 2009

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    If you were happy? with the wrong one,

    just imagine how happy you would be with the right one:)
    Lilyanne4 Lilyanne4 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 23

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    When I first met my boyfriend I honestly hand on heart thought he was the one for me. And even though he told me everything about his history,I thought that I was honestly the one...
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    I never imagined I would be divorced in my mid thirties...but, after being with the same woman for 17 years, we separated March 2014, and divorce was final Feb 2015...So, to all...
    Jfour001 Jfour001 31-35, M 1 Response 17 hrs ago

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    I was on here before, made friends, and got hurt. It was quite a few years. When I first came on this site it was just another place to write. I soon learned there were some very...
    onlyhere2write onlyhere2write 36-40, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I will be reaching my 30's soon and I feel my time is running out. I don't have that great apartment, great relationship and great job. Instead I am separated from my husband...
    macabre00 macabre00 26-30, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I'm working for years on a book called Conscious Living, but it's taking me so long because I have collected so many pieces of texts I have written myself, basically things I have...
    AngelicLights AngelicLights 26-30, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I believe I am in s emotionally abusive relationship with my husband who I love more than just about anything in the world, this time I went back home to visit family and I could...
    wash02 wash02 31-35, F 8 Responses 3 days ago

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    I left this site about two years ago. I don't even remember why I left but here I am again. I created a blog on Wordpress and wrote there everyday. My blog was a way of getting...
    omtatjuan3 omtatjuan3 56-60, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Hi, I'm in a relationship with a 27yr gap!! Would like to hear from people who have a big age difference or have been involve with someone older in a serious relationship... We've...
    confidence91 confidence91 22-25, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    How awesome is my MM?!?! . I am soon to be separated officially. Had The Talk with H this week about our broken marriage. . My life is a bit unusual in that STBX travels for work...
    TrulyMadlyDeeply38 TrulyMadlyDeeply38 41-45, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    I think I could just do with some advice, I have been married for 20 years nearly 21... We have been together for 25... We have 3 kids 21,19 and 13.... We married young, I was 16...
    lynny1978 lynny1978 36-40, F 4 Responses Jul 20

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    exclusivehate4076 exclusivehate4076 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 18

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    Oh my god this is actually so bad I'm freaking out right now and I wanted to talk to somebody until I realized that I had absolutely no one to talk to even on the Internet and I...
    LopsidedLollipop LopsidedLollipop 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 17

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    I am new to being separated only a few weeks in and it has been one hell of an emotional roller coaster. My husband has been going on a down spiral for a while now and I been...
    KETKAT25 KETKAT25 26-30, F Jul 16

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    I think interracial relationships are a great idea. Though I had sociology with a lot of kids or interracial households and all their parents were divorced or separated. So I...
    Maybeincubus Maybeincubus 22-25, M 3 Responses Jul 16

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    so yes I have fallen in love with a "separated" but still married man. His wife works in another state..has for the last 4 years...it a 2.5 hour flight..and she stays weekends in...
    abley2020 abley2020 46-50, F 3 Responses Jul 15

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    Often I sit and only think about the feeling of actually being loved. Just hearing the words. Feeling it deep in my heart. I used to be the most happiest wife in the world, till...
    CandyCrushers CandyCrushers 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 14

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    Since the last time I told you my kids ages, they've all turned a year older, sad, but true. Lol. They all have birthdays around the same time of year, the summer months. Anyways...
    Richardson444 Richardson444 56-60, F Jul 14

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