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I Am Separated, Soon to Divorce

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 94 People

    One of the hardest lessons in life is letting

    go. Change is never easy. We fight to hang on and we fight to let go.
    Lilyanne4 Lilyanne4 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 25

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    "You may not be able to control someone's

    negative behaviour, but you can control how long you participate in it"
    Lilyanne4 Lilyanne4 36-40, F 3 days ago

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    Saw him over the weekend

    and told him we should file the papers. I think he thought we might get back together but I don't think he has changed anything and I don't want to go backwards...only forward. I'll be single by summer.
    LookingforLove63 LookingforLove63 51-55, F 1 Response Nov 24, 2014

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    Lilyanne4 Lilyanne4 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 23

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    I work with the poor,

    homeless and disenfranchised and they have been a gift to me in this worse pain ever...they rebuild...survive hardships ...great stories of more harrowing circumstances ...I will love again...I will rebuild too
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 29, 2014

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    Alone, Confused And Orphaned

    I have been in a loveless marriage for some time. My 'wife' came home after work, on my birthday, to inform me that we were gonna seperate. I was surprised but not... We talked more to each other then we had ever before in quite some time. The other day I went to call her mother...
    lomivi lomivi 31-35, M 3 Responses Oct 8, 2009

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    I am soon to be divorced.

    Signing an agreement in the next two weeks. I was very unhappy in my marriage so in one hand I will be relieved on another I still worry about my three children. I know it's better in the long run for them to see me happy, but doesn't make it easier to see the pain this causes.
    Electricdino Electricdino 31-35, M 2 Responses Jan 29, 2014

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    Separated An Extremely Lonely

    I have been married for 14 years and have 2 kids.  Me and my husband decided it was no longer working, we had basically turned into friends with benefits.  We got together when he was 19 and I was pregnant shortly after and decided to get married.  Happened...
    jlm1128 jlm1128 36-40, F 4 Responses Sep 13, 2009

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    I Wish...

    Do I really secretly wish that I could turn back time and not subject the two little ones to all the changes that have happened since we decided to have them... would they have been better off to have drifted onto others that they would have experienced a family that remained...
    Liminalghost Liminalghost 36-40, M 2 Responses Sep 24, 2012

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    I signed my divorce papers today.

    .... Why is it so hard even tho this is what I wanted?!
    lazydaisy0104 lazydaisy0104 36-40, F 4 Responses Dec 12, 2014

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    If you were happy? with the wrong one,

    just imagine how happy you would be with the right one:)
    Lilyanne4 Lilyanne4 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 23

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    It's been two months

    and I can now talk about him and us without crying. I know I don't want him back but it's hard being alone after a total of 16 years together (12 married). I hope to work on myself and maybe find someone who will accept me as I am and show me affection. I am a very loving and...
    LookingforLove63 LookingforLove63 51-55, F 2 Responses Sep 8, 2014

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    My husband of 18 years just asked

    for a divorce on my birthday after we had sex! What do I do now, this is all new to me? I'm so confused and scared for me and my 4 kids! Help please!!!
    dorritym dorritym 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 12, 2014

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    I Was Once A Rare And Beautiful Flower!

    Every time I think I am doing fine riding my bike along the the healing trail of separation, taking a breath of relief from all the up hill struggles and emotional pain. Something happens to knock me clean off the beaten path!!!As I start to appreciate the cool breeze brushing...
    Wiltingflower Wiltingflower 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 16, 2012

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    Separated An Extremely Lonely

    I have been married for 14 years and have 2 kids.  Me and my husband decided it was no longer working, we had basically turned into friends with benefits.  We got together when he was 19 and I was pregnant shortly after and decided to get married.  Happened...
    jlm1128 jlm1128 36-40, F 2 Responses Sep 13, 2009

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    Getting On With Life

    My daughter, 28 years old and an HR executive with an IT Corporation, is going through separation from her 5 year old marriage.  She had married her boyfriend after 5 years of going steady.  Even then I had known that the differences between their background...
    holayouse holayouse 56-60, M 2 Responses Sep 30, 2009

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    I am divorcing a narcissist,

    and it's been a nightmare. I have 3 months to go before this divorce can be final, he won't move out and I can't stand looking at him. Some days I am great, others I am mixed between depression or anger. He's not the man I married 13 years ago. Time is standing still, he needs...
    goingpostal15 goingpostal15 46-50, F Jan 3

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    How Long Can You Go Without Sex?

    I came across this question here on EP. I found some of the answers very enlightening. If you are like me and have some extra time on your hand, have a read, I think it is very interesting.
    newdawn07 newdawn07 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 14, 2012

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    While I live in a separate residence and am setting up my new, temporary sanctuary (I'm renting), I'm anxious for the attorneys to be aggressive with settling our divorce. We don't...
    PinkJeanie1970 PinkJeanie1970 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 9

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    this is the 6th time in five years that my husband out of the clear blue wants a divorce. There's a lot of details of course that goes into my story but I'm very heartbroken and I...
    Phoenix311 Phoenix311 56-60, F Mar 15

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    In a way. I was still very lonely but I overall enjoyed elementary. A elderly lady that was a librarian at our town library came once a month with a bag full of books to promote...
    TheEnduringSunrise TheEnduringSunrise 18-21, F 3 days ago

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    I've struggled with the no contact. My MM went back to his wife after being separated for 2 years and filing for divorce. We ended things in the beginning of Dec when he couldn't...
    Widow68 Widow68 46-50, F 2 Responses Mar 3

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    So after about 24 hours of crying and laughing and then crying some more, but more tears of happiness and appreciation, MM and I have agreed not to renew the apt. I did open up...
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 7

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    There's a member that posted a story on marriage, loss of intimacy and love and divorce. In the end the husband realizes how he neglected his wife, how much he still loves her and...
    MsInvis MsInvis 46-50, F Mar 3

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    I wake up shaky and full of anxiety every morning . Over 3 years of my life I spent with him, the toughest years after I lost my husband to a 4.5 year battle with cancer. He was...
    Widow68 Widow68 46-50, F 4 Responses Mar 7

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    On love and squirrels. Cape Prince of Wales, Alaska is the westernmost point of the continental North America. About fifty miles to the west lies Cape Dezhnev, Russia, the...
    diegodlavega diegodlavega 46-50, M 6 Responses Mar 10

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    On love and squirrels. Cape Prince of Wales, Alaska is the westernmost point of the continental North America. About fifty miles to the west lies Cape Dezhnev, Russia, the...
    diegodlavega diegodlavega 46-50, M 4 Responses Mar 11

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    I lost custody of my 8 yr old special needs daughter 3 weeks ago. I never thought in a million years that anyone could think that she would be better with her abusive father n step...
    kimj511 kimj511 36-40, F Mar 2

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    Everyone at school talks about grand parents. My grandma made these cookies my grandpa took me here... And I am over here like, never met one of my grandpas. The one on my mothers...
    LoverOfAllSouls LoverOfAllSouls 13-15, F Mar 11

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    I'm looking to my friends on here for support. Most know my story so won't repeat it, but do I get my strength back after I feel broken by this man. This man who promised to love...
    Widow68 Widow68 46-50, F 16 Responses Mar 14

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    We met 15 yrs ago, fell madly in love, right from the gate! He was married, I was in a serious relationship. He left her, I left my bf..life struggles, bad timing, different paths...
    assholemagnet assholemagnet 46-50, F 2 Responses Mar 18

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    This story is my own, I’m not telling it to get pity but cause it helps to talk about it and I know it can help others in the same situation or who have been there…. This is...
    ChantouKimmy ChantouKimmy 41-45, F 5 Responses Mar 20

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    Its just sad and disgusting to talk about people who have really strong narcissist traits. Ive been living this hell for almost 2 and a half years. Im the only one who works and...
    julienne22 julienne22 31-35, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    I am in love with a man 12 years younger than me that I met while I was separated from my husband. Since then I had to move back with my husband because of the kids and the fact...
    geisha7942 geisha7942 36-40, F 5 days ago

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    Your backpacking high up in the Colorado Rockies when you get separated from the group and become hopelessly lost. The sun is going down, it's getting colder, and it looks like it...
    TK1153 TK1153 18-21, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I've always been a play by the book sort and follow the rules sort ( eye roll) you know a so called good girl .....school marriage babies that's what I was shooting for ... Came...
    Prettibrowngirl Prettibrowngirl 70+, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    What Did Lincoln Eat?In honor of the 150th anniversary of his death, I thought I would examine some of Abraham Lincoln's eating habits. In his case, “Less is More&rdquo...
    BadPam BadPam 56-60, F 2 Responses Mar 11

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    Pretty Monsters For the first time of my life i walked onto a private junior high campus, it was orientation day and i am going into 8th grade. I was on campus with the map that...
    Cheshirecupacat Cheshirecupacat 13-15, F Mar 13

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    I fell in love with my 2nd cousin and our family's are tearing us apart our moms are sending us away she's moving to Cali and I'm moving to Idaho im not really sure what to do. my...
    cousinlover6 cousinlover6 13-15, M 1 Response Mar 17

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    My name is Jessica, everyone beside my coworkers call me Jessy.In 1995, I was 6 years old, the day my mother asked me and my older sister if we wanted to sleep over my uncle(her...
    jessiibabii89 jessiibabii89 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 17

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    first of all, he talked crap to me about my moms side of the family. says what "really" happened when they separated. lies. says my big brother that I'm very close with does drugs...
    A1133cat A1133cat 13-15, F 3 Responses Mar 20

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    I am 45 years old and my husband is 33 years old. We've got married 10 years ago in India, where he come from with a strong male dominant background. I sponsored him to come to...
    ally1971 ally1971 41-45, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Duke, my fawn and black-masked boxer, was MY rescue. My soon to be ex-husband was using him as a way for him to not move forward. I had to make the decision for Duke to not be...
    PinkJeanie1970 PinkJeanie1970 41-45, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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