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I Am Separated, Soon to Divorce

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 79 People

    Separated An Extremely Lonely

    I have been married for 14 years and have 2 kids.  Me and my husband decided it was no longer working, we had basically turned into friends with benefits.  We got together when he was 19 and I was pregnant shortly after and decided to get married.  Happened...
    jlm1128 jlm1128 36-40, F 2 Responses Sep 13, 2009

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    Alone, Confused And Orphaned

    I have been in a loveless marriage for some time. My 'wife' came home after work, on my birthday, to inform me that we were gonna seperate. I was surprised but not... We talked more to each other then we had ever before in quite some time. The other day I went to call her mother...
    lomivi lomivi 31-35, M 3 Responses Oct 8, 2009

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    I Wish...

    Do I really secretly wish that I could turn back time and not subject the two little ones to all the changes that have happened since we decided to have them... would they have been better off to have drifted onto others that they would have experienced a family that remained...
    Liminalghost Liminalghost 36-40, M 2 Responses Sep 24, 2012

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    It's been two months

    and I can now talk about him and us without crying. I know I don't want him back but it's hard being alone after a total of 16 years together (12 married). I hope to work on myself and maybe find someone who will accept me as I am and show me affection. I am a very loving and...
    LookingforLove63 LookingforLove63 51-55, F 2 Responses Sep 8

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    I Was Once A Rare And Beautiful Flower!

    Every time I think I am doing fine riding my bike along the the healing trail of separation, taking a breath of relief from all the up hill struggles and emotional pain. Something happens to knock me clean off the beaten path!!!As I start to appreciate the cool breeze brushing...
    Wiltingflower Wiltingflower 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 16, 2012

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    I stood up for myself against my in laws.

    They have helped a huge amount when my husband was unemployed and suffering mental/ later to our surprise drug issues. They also helped look after my child for a year while we worked. They are well off and retired. I had always insisted that we could put our child in daycare...
    Panasonic123 Panasonic123 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 23

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    My husband got his stuff out today.

    Bitter sweet. A lot harder than I thought. I try and act tough but very sad to think that the person you wanted to spend the rest of your life with is effectively gone.
    Panasonic123 Panasonic123 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 15

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    My husband of 18 years just asked

    for a divorce on my birthday after we had sex! What do I do now, this is all new to me? I'm so confused and scared for me and my 4 kids! Help please!!!
    dorritym dorritym 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 12

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    Getting On With Life

    My daughter, 28 years old and an HR executive with an IT Corporation, is going through separation from her 5 year old marriage.  She had married her boyfriend after 5 years of going steady.  Even then I had known that the differences between their background...
    holayouse holayouse 56-60, M 2 Responses Sep 30, 2009

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    How Long Can You Go Without Sex?

    I came across this question here on EP. I found some of the answers very enlightening. If you are like me and have some extra time on your hand, have a read, I think it is very interesting.
    newdawn07 newdawn07 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 14, 2012

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    Separated An Extremely Lonely

    I have been married for 14 years and have 2 kids.  Me and my husband decided it was no longer working, we had basically turned into friends with benefits.  We got together when he was 19 and I was pregnant shortly after and decided to get married.  Happened...
    jlm1128 jlm1128 36-40, F 4 Responses Sep 13, 2009

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    I am soon to be divorced.

    Signing an agreement in the next two weeks. I was very unhappy in my marriage so in one hand I will be relieved on another I still worry about my three children. I know it's better in the long run for them to see me happy, but doesn't make it easier to see the pain this causes.
    Electricdino Electricdino 31-35, M 2 Responses Jan 29

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    Related Experiences

    My husband and I are currently separated. I moved out and had to start my life over. I'm waiting for the yet separation in order to file for a divorce and I don think he's going to...
    Lilypad718 Lilypad718 31-35, F 6 Responses Nov 13

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    I am single however....dude gotta be separated or divorced...open marriage don't work with a hacking stupid controlling ***** involved..it never works....
    neverswingwithbitches neverswingwithbitches 51-55, F 2 Responses Nov 7

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    Off and on for five months now things haven't been good. Summer things were bad, we own a place on a lake and have a lot of friends up there and it's a big party crowd. We go out...
    dogsandponies dogsandponies 36-40, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    It's like being suddenly found naked in the middle of a high profile prestigious event with dignitaries and affluent socialites. That awkwardness in old relationships, caught in...
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M 1 Response Oct 29

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    I had a good talk with my STBX the other day. Only separated four months and we both have someone new in our lives. I had seen him a few times here and there making arrangements...
    Sapphire89 Sapphire89 22-25 1 Response Nov 1

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    I am a father of 2 boys. I've been married over a decade. I am a professional with a career, home and financial security. I have loving parents, loving dog and good friends. I...
    2ndBruin 2ndBruin 41-45, M 13 Responses Nov 3

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    First off, this is completely new to me. I don't even no where to begin. So, here goes and it will be long, cause I want to put everything out there. This is my 2nd marriage and...
    Naturestorms Naturestorms 36-40, F 11 Responses Oct 22

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    It's been a long time since I've posted. A lot has happened and so much to say. The divorce finalised over two years ago we lived with each other for the past 2 years, I got to...
    popsydoodle popsydoodle 18-21, F Nov 2

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    14 years ! Took me three years and more than 20K to divorce him , but it was the best thing I ever did .
    StaDaKazem StaDaKazem 36-40, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    So years ago, I met this guy at work. He was new, so to make him feel welcomed, I asked about his life. He was married with 1 child. I was single then, but I don't go after married...
    Holls215 Holls215 36-40, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    This is my first time writing. I looked for awhile online to find a site I could remain anonymous and feel safe. This is the only thing I could do to not cheat on my husband. I...
    naomiR1 naomiR1 31-35, F 3 Responses Nov 9

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    I am a 57 year old woman who has finally met the man of her dreams. My story is extraordinary and unique. My husband took me to England to celebrate our 30th wedding anniversary...
    chowitt chowitt 56-60, F 6 Responses Oct 24

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    My mother was separated from her husband and in the middle of getting a divorce when I was born. She had lost her only child - a stillborn - and desperately wanted a baby. She...
    treetracer treetracer 46-50, F 1 Response Oct 31

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    Every time I hear that they fight, that he slept on the couch, or that they discussed divorce I experience a twinge of intense fear and dread that he might really leave her. I went...
    xXmissXx xXmissXx 26-30, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    Not as much hate as it is general dislike and irritation. I've read many stories I can relate and it always helps me to see that I'm not the only one, so I figured I'd put mine out...
    allycatii allycatii 36-40, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I'm starting to find it funny that the trolls attacking y'all aren't even 25. Most of them seem to be in their late teens early twenties. And then you had a 16-17 year old attack y...
    Ldylvlylcks2002 Ldylvlylcks2002 26-30, F 6 Responses Nov 12

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    I am a 41 year old woman who has been separated for 2 years, divorced for one. A 32 year old guy wanted to date me and I couldn't believe how nice he was to me. I've been in a...
    moonstruckdelight moonstruckdelight 41-45, F 1 Response Oct 25

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    This week my husband and I got back together. I left out of frustration and hurt after being married and a stepmom for 10 years. As soon as we separated my husband finally called...
    Februarychic Februarychic 31-35, F Nov 1

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    Is he just not that into me? I became involved with a friend from work, my supervisor to be exact. We are both separated & almost divorced. First month & 1/2 was great & I truly...
    Urbancowgirl Urbancowgirl 36-40 3 Responses Nov 2

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    I have found my twin flame and fell in love with him and recently found out that he is married. Him and his wife are separated and he tells me he wants to get a divorce but when he...
    beginagain2012 beginagain2012 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 9

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    I have four beautiful little sisters from my dad and stepmom. I haven't seen them in three years because that was the last time I visited because my dad and stepmom separated...
    britteller britteller 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 27

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    I'm really surprised I didn't have a story for this one. What most likely happened is that I was busy at the time and forgot to include it. And then I wrote blogs about how much I...
    SpilledSecrets SpilledSecrets 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 25

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    I want to fall in love again. I’ve spent so much of my life in a loveless marriage, now that I’m in the process of divorce, I can’t imagine not being in love again one day...
    miryam57 miryam57 56-60, F Oct 27

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    I have been separated/divorced from my ex for going on six years now. But yet I am always missing her. Looking on her Facebook at her new life,family and kids. Wishing that I was...
    muddkat muddkat 36-40, M 7 Responses Oct 27

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    It's okay if no one responds. I'm really just posting this as some sort of a love journal. I'm depressed. I hurt myself constantly. I want to go away. I want to be hurt. I'm so...
    melodramaticdog melodramaticdog 22-25, M 1 Response Oct 31

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    ******************************** THE UNIVERSE ********************************* First I want to thank those Christians who sincerely wish to better understand the universe they...
    PYWACKET PYWACKET 61-65, M 1 Response Nov 4

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    I have been in a relationship with a man for about 5 months now. He has 2 children, a 9 year old and a 2 year old. He is separated from his wife in the process of a divorce, this...
    TCN2012 TCN2012 26-30, F 6 Responses Nov 5

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    So, I am a new navy girlfriend. I've know him for years, he's my best friend's brother (we have her blessing). It's been a few months but it's gotten so serious. We talk so openly...
    eamort eamort 26-30, F Nov 5

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    Sometimes I sit and wonder how everyone’s lives seem to be so perfect. I look upon the pictures of facebook friends and see the smiling bright faces, with eyes and a glint of...
    EtherealAmethyst EtherealAmethyst 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 12

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    Recently separated, divorce pending ive suddenly been able recognize whether a guy is others oriented or just self interested. Obvious self interest only is a huge turn off and...
    rox76 rox76 36-40, F Nov 13

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    We met online. Well re-met is more like it. We went to high school together. I barely knew her, but she remembered me well. She was married yet separated, in a long sad, abusive...
    tsohg76 tsohg76 36-40, M 4 Responses a week ago

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    I hate the way it sounds : Other Woman. I feel like it's dirty, shameful, and trashy. But here I am and he's married. He was separated when we met but according to him "financial...
    xXmissXx xXmissXx 26-30, F 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    We're getting close to 2 years. Last night I talked to my brother on the phone, and for the first time, breached the topic of the estrangement. Apparently my father had been...
    frostyflower frostyflower 26-30, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I was worried about posting this in fear of what you ladies would say about my situation. But then I'm realizing/remembering this isn't a place where we judge each other. We spent...
    kittentoes kittentoes 22-25, F 13 Responses 3 days ago

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    This story is my own, I’m not telling it to get pity but cause it helps to talk about it and I know it can help others in the same situation or who have been there…. This is...
    chanjen chanjen 41-45, F 3 Responses 2 days ago