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I Am Separated, Soon to Divorce

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    I went to visit my soon to be ex wife today

    for the first time in months, we spent some time catching up etc! I'm now left feeling sad & regretful having thought that I'd gotten over her & was moving forward! Can anyone possibly cheer me up & chat a little?
    AlexeiVincenzo AlexeiVincenzo 31-35, M Mar 22

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    My husband of 18 years just asked

    for a divorce on my birthday after we had sex! What do I do now, this is all new to me? I'm so confused and scared for me and my 4 kids! Help please!!!
    dorritym dorritym 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 12

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    I Was Once A Rare And Beautiful Flower!

    Every time I think I am doing fine riding my bike along the the healing trail of separation, taking a breath of relief from all the up hill struggles and emotional pain. Something happens to knock me clean off the beaten path!!!As I start to appreciate the cool breeze brushing...
    Wiltingflower Wiltingflower 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 16, 2012

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    Getting On With Life

    My daughter, 28 years old and an HR executive with an IT Corporation, is going through separation from her 5 year old marriage.  She had married her boyfriend after 5 years of going steady.  Even then I had known that the differences between their background...
    holayouse holayouse 56-60, M 2 Responses Sep 30, 2009

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    I am soon to be divorced.

    Signing an agreement in the next two weeks. I was very unhappy in my marriage so in one hand I will be relieved on another I still worry about my three children. I know it's better in the long run for them to see me happy, but doesn't make it easier to see the pain this causes.
    Electricdino Electricdino 31-35, M 2 Responses Jan 29

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    How Long Can You Go Without Sex?

    I came across this question here on EP. I found some of the answers very enlightening. If you are like me and have some extra time on your hand, have a read, I think it is very interesting.
    newdawn07 newdawn07 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 14, 2012

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    I Wish...

    Do I really secretly wish that I could turn back time and not subject the two little ones to all the changes that have happened since we decided to have them... would they have been better off to have drifted onto others that they would have experienced a family that remained...
    Liminalghost Liminalghost 36-40, M 2 Responses Sep 24, 2012

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    Separated An Extremely Lonely

    I have been married for 14 years and have 2 kids.  Me and my husband decided it was no longer working, we had basically turned into friends with benefits.  We got together when he was 19 and I was pregnant shortly after and decided to get married.  Happened...
    jlm1128 jlm1128 36-40, F 2 Responses Sep 13, 2009

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    Separated An Extremely Lonely

    I have been married for 14 years and have 2 kids.  Me and my husband decided it was no longer working, we had basically turned into friends with benefits.  We got together when he was 19 and I was pregnant shortly after and decided to get married.  Happened...
    jlm1128 jlm1128 36-40, F 4 Responses Sep 13, 2009

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    Alone, Confused And Orphaned

    I have been in a loveless marriage for some time. My 'wife' came home after work, on my birthday, to inform me that we were gonna seperate. I was surprised but not... We talked more to each other then we had ever before in quite some time. The other day I went to call her mother...
    lomivi lomivi 31-35, M 3 Responses Oct 8, 2009

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    Related Experiences

    Final update to this group as I do not feel newly separated. I am separated wanting a divorce. I've posted my story in here so it's only fair I finish the tale of my escape from...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 11

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    My parents separated 4 years ago, divorced two, my mom got a bf a week after it was final, now engaged, she hasn't talked to my sister in a few years and soon won't be speaking...
    cmalley7 cmalley7 18-21, M 2 Responses Jul 8

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    I am recently separated from my husband of almost 16 years. Not by my choice. The last 3 years have been difficult. My husband works away from home and the time in between has...
    cjanisch70 cjanisch70 41-45, F a week ago

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    I don't have a home right now. At least my heart doesn't think so. I come "home" to a stranger's house, my new roommate a life long bachelor. I don't have dinner with my beautiful...
    wiseprotector wiseprotector 41-45, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Money does something to people, it changes them. I saw my family break apart piece by piece because of it. It was Not even greed. My family owned a small restaurant and it didn't...
    tommyfung tommyfung 16-17, M Jul 5

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    I'm frustrated. I'm beating myself up, wondering why in the hell I ever married the man I did. We've officially been separated longer now than we were together while married for. I...
    HeathenPoet HeathenPoet 36-40, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Just because there's no divorce from where i come from.
    bittersweetsourandsalty bittersweetsourandsalty 31-35, F Jul 7

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    My parents separated in the late summer of 2006 when I was six, probably the worst time to split up as it is around about the age where you start to notice other people's feelings...
    natasha2607 natasha2607 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 11

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    I am going to do all I can to win her back by changing myself. Even if she decides she is done everyone benefits: i become the man only a fool would leave...I have learned to...
    wiseprotector wiseprotector 41-45, M 1 Response Jul 12

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    My husband is 17 years older than me. I feel guilty for leaving him, since I am 50 now and I know he needs someone to care for him. He is not ill, but has some health issues like...
    nnaymar nnaymar 46-50, F 2 Responses Jul 14

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    my 43 year old daughter is in the process of dealing with breast cancer. She noticed a lump in her breast, but was probably in denial and didn't get it checked right away. When...
    RecLucy RecLucy 56-60, F Jul 12

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    Separated in '92. Divorced in '95. Dated from '93 - '02 but since then I stopped. Kept meeting women who hadn't got over their exes. Like they'd constantly be talking about them...
    picklebobble picklebobble 46-50, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Feminism in the pure sense is empowering women for equal opportunities. The problem is that any ideal is interpreted and acted upon by fallible persons. I attended the University...
    pfuzylogic pfuzylogic 51-55, M 2 hrs ago

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    † Jesus Speaks To Valeria of Matrimony and Divorce. The Poem of The Man†God Chapter 529 In a vision Maria Valtorta received from the Lord EP Link Valeria begins to speak...
    ForLove ForLove 46-50, M Jun 30

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    My partner’s son is turning 20 this weekend. I have known him since he was born. I have never been awarded the role of step mom though. There are a few reasons for that. 1...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 3 Responses Jul 3

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    So in the list of complicated relationships I've had, my sons father is one I rarely explain. At the time (2010) he and I were both separated from our spouses and he was/is...
    LynxKitty LynxKitty 36-40, F 13 Responses Jul 13

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    I got too close to my teacher. I got too emotionally involved. We were more like friends, not teacher/student. Flirty friends. About 8 or 9 months after I graduated, I told him I...
    atadbitinlove atadbitinlove 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 22

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    They say "True love never dies". I agree. When I met Michael 41 years ago, he had just been hired as my coworker. He was a pain in the ***. Brash and opinionated, full of...
    angsty angsty 61-65, F 5 Responses Jul 19

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    Do you ever get the feeling that you don't even know yourself anymore? That empty, anxious feeling you get when you realize that you're completely unsure of who you are? That...
    BewareTheGonzo BewareTheGonzo 13-15 9 Responses Jul 9

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    Its been almost 5 months in Opposite Land. Is this really Opposite Land? I'm not divorced yet, just separated. Whatever. I'm really starting to feel the deep pangs of divorce...
    texmex82 texmex82 31-35, F 5 Responses Jul 11

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    It is so hard being in your 40s. Everyone has so much past baggage with divorce, kids, and financial obligations. I have been trying to move forward with a man who is getting a...
    rosedl rosedl 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 19

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    Nine months ago, while I was at a lakeside music festival, I ran into an old acquaintance. John and I had met in 2008 through a mutual friend. Over the years, our paths had crossed...
    wastedmonths wastedmonths 26-30 1 Response Jul 3

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    How I miss those days .. when MM and I used to chat for hours. I so believed in him. How I miss those days when all was pure in my heart.. I had hopes... I truly loved that...
    Fmina Fmina 51-55, F 9 Responses 4 days ago

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    I've been with my bf for 6.5 years now and we recently watched a documentary where this guy who filmed all these weddings goes back to the people years and years later and...
    danielle1423 danielle1423 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 8

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    So being as how I'm starting to come out more about what makes me sad, and depressed and such...I'm going to tell you all who want to know more about me...my story. It all really...
    dyingalittleinside97 dyingalittleinside97 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 10

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    When we decided to get a divorce, my husband moved out and got his own place. We are now separated. We own a business together so we have to go to business related events and...
    lycheechan lycheechan 31-35, F 8 Responses a week ago

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    Okay, wow! So it's so crazy because usually when i have a thought or need to vent i like ramble in my head or get all emotional but then i remembered i could vent here! It's so...
    dragonheartss dragonheartss 22-25, F 4 days ago

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    I need some advice and need of answers, Hello I am locky am from Scotland and I am 16 years of age turning 17 soon and my friends said I am a demon hunter but let me tell you the...
    lockyev lockyev 22-25, M 2 Responses Jul 7

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    Depression, anxiety, confusion, internal struggles, moral conviction. These are what I battle in a daily basis. While I battle these, I also have a career and a family. It's...
    Jemo75 Jemo75 36-40 Jul 1

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    After reading a few more posts, again I reply as a "been there, done that" OW. It's not anything to take lightly, as I can tell you all have not. It's hard to take the criticisim...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 10 Responses Jul 3

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    My husband moved out after yelling at me for not saying good night. He was jealous of my female best friend, my book club, my yoga class and my job. He frequently shared his...
    suburbandivorcing suburbandivorcing 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 5

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    Well here is how it all started. One day my dad asked me if I wanted to come to this service which at the time I thought was church but it wasn't it was judaism. So I went and now...
    Tentee Tentee 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 8

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    I have been dating my bf for over a year now and we have lived together for most of it. We are extremely happy and compatible and plan to marry (unannounced as of yet). I have...
    Nate427 Nate427 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 8

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    I didn't know, he told me they were separated and were on the way for divorce.. Then he disappeared out of my life.. And I found out later they got back together..
    ThePeach ThePeach 26-30, F Jul 11

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    The pain of being the other woman and my story.... Thanks to Experience Project, Thanks to my new circle of friends here, thanks to those people who are just browsing, thanks to...
    annettesan annettesan 36-40, F 7 Responses Jul 11

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    I am in love with a married man. We have been together for almost a year. It was supposed to start out as fwb, nothing major. But we immediately developed feelings for each other...
    Janine306 Janine306 22-25, F 5 Responses Jul 12

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    I'm seriously disgusted with the number of married men who hit on me. What is wrong with people! And I'm not talking about the ones who are at least legally separated and actively...
    SocialRecluse SocialRecluse 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 14

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