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I Am Separated

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    On St Patrick's Day I will have been separated

    for 4 months. I left but am still dealing with the fallout. I was accused if cheating by my no ex. I was innocent but the trust in our relationship was gone. My grandmother died the day before my birthday and I received nothing from my ex. I'm not materialistic but a card and a...
    zacsmummy zacsmummy 36-40, F Mar 14

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    My Story

    Tears welled up in my eyes, even though my heart was feeling light and free.  The reality of our situation washed over me with each new moment that signalled the end. The real estate lists, the child care agreements, the dividing of things for each new home that was being...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Feb 3, 2010

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    It's Hard

    i separated from my husband nearly 18 months ago. i still love him to bits but we just don't work together. i'm finding it very hard to think about moving on even after all this time, even knowing all the problems we had will never be worked out.
    babymaddux babymaddux 26-30, F Oct 28, 2007

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    Separated and getting a divorce.

    It's better this way but still hurts. I'm looking for friends and to hopefully one day realize that it wasn't all my fault and feel better about myself. My soon to be ex slept with someone while we were separated, yet while we were supposedly working on our marriage, and he...
    tattoolvr81 tattoolvr81 31-35, F Apr 14

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    Wow I Am Feeling So Much Stronger Today!!

    Today I had my hair done. It feels good to get all that grey out. I am down a another pound and I feel great about my weight. The anxiety that has been a constant dreaded companion, left me alone today. I can breathe without a weight on my chest. I have some work to do and I am...
    GOATSDOROAM GOATSDOROAM 41-45, F Jul 26, 2013

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    Today Is My Anniversary

    I am seperated from my husband...we will file for divorce once we are legally allowed to...today is my wedding anniversary...we would be 7 years married. I am not sure how to feel about it...partly I think that I should feel sad because I am remembering all of the promises we...
    Flugelblues Flugelblues 31-35, F 8 Responses Sep 6, 2008

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    It's like being suddenly found naked in the

    middle of a high profile prestigious event with dignitaries and affluent socialites. That awkwardness in old relationships, caught in the crossfire of my dying marriage. The awkwardness of making new friends and women very wary that you are still in limbo till divorce happens...
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M 1 Response 22 hrs ago

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    Lost

    Lets see... i have been married for 12 years. my husband and i have had a wonderful marriage all these years we were eachothers best friend, he would even agree. but this past July something started to change. He pulled away from me. He has been in night school and has had...
    LookingforUs LookingforUs 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 17, 2011

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    My wife has left me. I've not been violent

    or cheated on her. I've been moody, depressed and insensitive. I've made an honest commitment to change and I am trying everything that I can to improve myself. She is so hurt that she can't even contemplate reconciling. No matter how hard I work on myself, it's up to her how...
    uku383 uku383 41-45, M Jan 23

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    I'm Not Sad

    I'm relieved! From the moment I said "I do" I knew that I had made a terrible mistake. He asked again and again if I was getting married just to get married, and time and time again I said no. When, prior to the marriage, he went on one of his tyraids and hit me, I made excuses...
    whatsmycalling whatsmycalling 36-40 1 Response Oct 9, 2012

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    When Does All This End?

    My wife and I have known for a long time that it hasn't been working out and after 18 years we called it a day 10 months ago. We have 3 gorgeous kids that I love to bits and when we broke it to them they seem to have taken it in their stride. With the economy being what it is...
    nickode nickode 41-45, M Jul 17, 2013

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    Wow I Am Feeling So Much Stronger Today!!

    Today I had my hair done. It feels good to get all that grey out. I am down a another pound and I feel great about my weight. The anxiety that has been a constant dreaded companion, left me alone today. I can breathe without a weight on my chest. I have some work to do and I am...
    GOATSDOROAM GOATSDOROAM 41-45, F Jul 26, 2013

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    I hate days like today.

    Money talk with my ex. A simple question turned into an all war. I was so frazzled it was hard to focus on anything else. He cheated on me and now I feel like he is trying to find anything about me to pounce on. How can a person you thought you knew be so opposite to everything...
    hera2014 hera2014 41-45, F 4 Responses Sep 1

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    I Was

    I left my husband about 3 months ago. He works 60# hours a week. Is a good father and provider. It just seems when he isn't ar work he is holed up in his office. Now don't get me wrong if our son has a sports activity or calls him my husband makes the time. He calls a few times a...
    Tatteredpages Tatteredpages 31-35, F Aug 10, 2013

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    Reflection

    Have you ever stood in front of a mirror and just looked at yourself, trying to see what other people see? What makes you, you? It's a harsh reality when you look in the mirror and see nothing. This is how it started ; An old graying man looks back at me, with anger in his eyes...
    Mencrytoo Mencrytoo 46-50, M 1 Response Oct 14, 2012

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    S.o.s

     My Wife left me in June of this year. After being married for 23 years, i'm having trouble dealing with the loss. Have attempted suicide twice. She seemingly moved on and I'm stuck here alone. Struggling to make it without her. She refuses to talk to me at all, she says she is...
    Mencrytoo Mencrytoo 46-50, M 2 Responses Oct 11, 2012

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    Separated And Wondring What To Do..

    I am separated from my wife and kids for 5 years.. Separation works better for all of us. My conservative Indian family in India would not let me divorce. I am a straight guy in forties, living alone in USA... Anyone with similar experience to share.. compare notes? Anyone...
    greatmassguy greatmassguy 41-45, M Apr 2, 2013

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    My wife and I separated about six months ago

    but have stayed under the same roof for financial reasons. We are still best of friends but don't feel the same way we did when we met. We decided to open up our marriage completely and drew up an agreement which we both signed. We both feel suited to the polyamorus lifestyle...
    flailure flailure 41-45, M 2 Responses Apr 20

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    My Current Sadness....

     I just joined EP 2 days ago and posted this in an empty group, but this is probably a more appropriate forum. I've been falling deeper and deeper into despair and am hoping that having the opportunity to share my feelings and pain with others may help me face it and move...
    Beansmasher Beansmasher 31-35, M 3 Responses Oct 24, 2009

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    Hoping to get back together again with my wife

    is like being a piece of paper thin glass and standing in front of a huge swinging sledge hammer ....it's going to easily shatter me when she destroys any stupid hope of us reconciling. I am teaching myself to unlove her. **sawing the thick wooden handle of sledge hanmer**
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M 1 Response Oct 13

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    Heartbroken

    My wife of 27 years told me at first that she wasn't in love with and two days later admitted to an affair of almost two years.  She went through a similar crisis about 15 years ago and I never thought she could do it again.  I still want it to work but she says she doesn't...
    andyc61 andyc61 46-50 1 Response Jun 10, 2011

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    And I Am So Happy

     My husband put me through mental hell ..  he was soo abusive two hospital  trips into the psych unit and i was done .. i knew if i stuck around i would be dead ...  ive been gone almost two yrs and ive never been better !!!  i dont have to see him , talk...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme 26-30, F Jun 4, 2007

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    Now What

    It's been more than a year since my former significant other moved out. I ache. I hate him for what he did to me yet I mourn his loss. I'm angry and sad, want revenge and yet secretly wish him no harm. I told my lawyer I want him eviscerated, emasculated and brought...
    datigger datigger 46-50 2 Responses Feb 12, 2008

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    This Was My Choice

    I got separated and moved out from my husband about 4 months ago.  I’ve made the decision to leave him about 2 years ago but things just never worked out for me to move out.  We’ve been together for 10 years and in those 10 years we’ve been married for...
    KNell KNell 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 11, 2010

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    Learning And Living

    I left my ex-husband 9 months ago, and it was definitely the best decision I ever made. We rushed into our marriage, little did I realize how different of a person he was once we said our "I do"s. He became distant, negative and pessimistic, paranoid, and he stopped taking care...
    hooponopono hooponopono 26-30, F Oct 1, 2013

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    And Torn

    and crushed...and every imaginable negative emotion one can think of.  I'm now a thousand miles away from my girl and don't know if we'll ever get back together again...and it ******* hurts.  I'm tired of my world shattering.  I'm tired of thinking...feeling...
    vampireheart vampireheart 31-35, T 1 Response Sep 30, 2008

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    Separated And Broken Hearted

    I am separated and have been for several months. At first I tried to have contact with my spouse just to keep the connection, but unfortunately it got heated over very little things. l also was told by my spouse that it was possibly a midlife crisis and space was needed...
    83LMC02 83LMC02 46-50 1 Response Sep 10, 2011

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    Have been separated for almost years,

    the other day my husband comes over to see the kids (which barley ever happens) he says he loves me, is still attracted to me and that it feels so good to be with me and the kids, our family just feels right. We spend a great day together. Then he leaves to go back to his...
    Guavajelly Guavajelly 36-40, F 3 Responses Oct 16

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    Married &Amp; Separated &Amp; Confused

    I have been with my husband for almost 8 years and married for almost 3. Since we had gotten married we didn't live together. We always fought because of that but I had refused to live with his mom (I had done that before). He always came to see me and would stay over. We would...
    Believe25 Believe25 26-30 3 Responses Jun 25, 2013

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    My Wife and a Relative

    For the last 6 months I noticed different things about my wife's behavior.  She started losing weight, started wearing very nice clothing and became very distant in our marriage.  Of course, I didn't think anything about these behaviors I just thought that my...
    paulstone paulstone 36-40 2 Responses Aug 5, 2008

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    I tried so hard not to contact my husband.

    When he left we established rules. Things like money, privacy respect such as phone records and showing up at the others persons living quarters, and communication. We are not allowed to text each other. The only communication we have is through email and its ONLY to talk about...
    Faith2117 Faith2117 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 19, 2013

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    I am still in shock what a roller coaster of

    emotions one goes through in this process. Yesterday I was going crazy with sadness and anger. Today I feel like I might just be ok. I just want to grab onto today and keep this feeling but I know tomorrow is a whole new day of emotions...:(
    hera2014 hera2014 41-45, F 1 Response Sep 2

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    Separated & Not Dealing Well W/the Reality.

    I did post a few days ago.  My husband & I have been separated 3 months & tomorrow we & our respective lawyers meet.  We haven't spoken in three months.  We live in the hills of Vermont and have two homes on the property.  My husband is in one and my mother and myself in the...
    maxmoca1 maxmoca1 51-55, F 6 Responses Jan 18, 2011

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    and it sucks! I left work early today,

    had a miserable attitude. She asked me to leave two and a half months ago and I finally did about a month ago. She couldn't give me any answers... couldn't tell me why. Just that she was unhappy and I was the big reason she was. I don't commit to people easily. I'm 39 now...
    RavensKeep RavensKeep 36-40, M Feb 18

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    Very Distraught, Emotional Agony

    My husband and I have been having problems, and I have been watching our marriage literally shrivel up and die, but not for lack of (me) trying. I have read so many books designed to save the marriage on your own, change MY attitudes and behaviours, and so on, but that had no...
    sagegirl sagegirl 36-40, F 7 Responses Sep 2, 2008

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    Happy And Finally Loving My Life!

    I left my ex awhile ago, filed for custody of our daughter, filed for permission to move out of territory and have found a fantastic job in my home town. I have a fantastic job, love my life right now and am superbly happy. I no longer thrive for more personal connection, I...
    Bancheemom Bancheemom 26-30, F Oct 30, 2013

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    The pain I feel is like a million knifes

    stabbing at my heart...and its my own fault. How do you stop hating yourself for betraying your own morals? I had an affair on my husband of 10yrs. We are currently separated and will decide in February if we will continue with the separation, get divorced, or get back together...
    Faith2117 Faith2117 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    Yesterday was our 16th wedding anniversary and tomorrow is my husband or stbx (soon to be ex) birthday, We have been separated since February and the last time I saw him was in...
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    Soon to be single. What am I going to do with myself?
    myyself myyself 46-50, M 8 Responses Oct 7

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    From HuffPost Divorce:The Problem with Staying Together for the Kids Mom and dad don't like each other. They don't make small talk. They don't chuckle about last night's episode...
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    This story should begin with me telling of the time following up to my husbands accident. I had managed to fracture my right metatarsal. This put me in a walking boot and on...
    Yoga1980 Yoga1980 31-35 43 mins ago

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    At first it was just sexual attraction, yes I'm married, yes it shouldn't have happened, but we'd just met that night, had a few drinks, ended up back at his place with a few...
    Coco181225 Coco181225 26-30, F 4 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    First off, this is completely new to me. I don't even no where to begin. So, here goes and it will be long, cause I want to put everything out there. This is my 2nd marriage and...
    Mountainsandnaturestorms Mountainsandnaturestorms 36-40, F 13 Responses a week ago

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    4 1/2 year relationship we've been married for about 5 months and separated. We are at the point where one minute we love each other like crazy then the next hateful mean and...
    colealica1779 colealica1779 31-35, F 3 Responses Oct 11

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    I saw this group and it made me think about when I first got a fat tummy ..well not the very first time but after I met my second partner. My first hubby seemed to like how I...
    Mmmcherries Mmmcherries 46-50, F 5 Responses 6 days ago

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    When I met this guy I was still married. I was looking to get out of my marriage, and my attraction to him was a good reason to force my own hand. We first slept together a week...
    laniegirl84 laniegirl84 26-30, F Oct 1

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    Everybody I know who has a dog usually calls him ‘Buddy’ or ‘Lassie’. I call mine ‘Sex’. Now, Sex has been very embarrassing to me. When I went to the City Hall to...
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    My husband and I have been separated almost a year . He lives on the east coast I live on the west coast. After only four months of marriage we separated because he cheated on me...
    Whatswrongwithim Whatswrongwithim 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 12

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