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I Am Separated

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    Happy And Finally Loving My Life!

    I left my ex awhile ago, filed for custody of our daughter, filed for permission to move out of territory and have found a fantastic job in my home town. I have a fantastic job, love my life right now and am superbly happy. I no longer thrive for more personal connection, I...
    Bancheemom Bancheemom 26-30, F Oct 30, 2013

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    Reflection

    Have you ever stood in front of a mirror and just looked at yourself, trying to see what other people see? What makes you, you? It's a harsh reality when you look in the mirror and see nothing. This is how it started ; An old graying man looks back at me, with anger in his eyes...
    Mencrytoo Mencrytoo 46-50, M 1 Response Oct 14, 2012

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    My wife has left me. I've not been violent

    or cheated on her. I've been moody, depressed and insensitive. I've made an honest commitment to change and I am trying everything that I can to improve myself. She is so hurt that she can't even contemplate reconciling. No matter how hard I work on myself, it's up to her how...
    uku383 uku383 41-45, M Jan 23

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    and it sucks! I left work early today,

    had a miserable attitude. She asked me to leave two and a half months ago and I finally did about a month ago. She couldn't give me any answers... couldn't tell me why. Just that she was unhappy and I was the big reason she was. I don't commit to people easily. I'm 39 now...
    RavensKeep RavensKeep 36-40, M Feb 18

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    It's Hard

    i separated from my husband nearly 18 months ago. i still love him to bits but we just don't work together. i'm finding it very hard to think about moving on even after all this time, even knowing all the problems we had will never be worked out.
    babymaddux babymaddux 26-30, F Oct 28, 2007

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    The pain I feel is like a million knifes

    stabbing at my heart...and its my own fault. How do you stop hating yourself for betraying your own morals? I had an affair on my husband of 10yrs. We are currently separated and will decide in February if we will continue with the separation, get divorced, or get back together...
    Faith2117 Faith2117 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    Separated And Broken Hearted

    I am separated and have been for several months. At first I tried to have contact with my spouse just to keep the connection, but unfortunately it got heated over very little things. l also was told by my spouse that it was possibly a midlife crisis and space was needed...
    83LMC02 83LMC02 46-50 1 Response Sep 10, 2011

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    Now What

    It's been more than a year since my former significant other moved out. I ache. I hate him for what he did to me yet I mourn his loss. I'm angry and sad, want revenge and yet secretly wish him no harm. I told my lawyer I want him eviscerated, emasculated and brought...
    datigger datigger 46-50 2 Responses Feb 12, 2008

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    This Was My Choice

    I got separated and moved out from my husband about 4 months ago.  I’ve made the decision to leave him about 2 years ago but things just never worked out for me to move out.  We’ve been together for 10 years and in those 10 years we’ve been married for...
    KNell KNell 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 11, 2010

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    My Wife and a Relative

    For the last 6 months I noticed different things about my wife's behavior.  She started losing weight, started wearing very nice clothing and became very distant in our marriage.  Of course, I didn't think anything about these behaviors I just thought that my...
    paulstone paulstone 36-40 2 Responses Aug 5, 2008

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    Married &Amp; Separated &Amp; Confused

    I have been with my husband for almost 8 years and married for almost 3. Since we had gotten married we didn't live together. We always fought because of that but I had refused to live with his mom (I had done that before). He always came to see me and would stay over. We would...
    Believe25 Believe25 26-30 3 Responses Jun 25, 2013

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    When Does All This End?

    My wife and I have known for a long time that it hasn't been working out and after 18 years we called it a day 10 months ago. We have 3 gorgeous kids that I love to bits and when we broke it to them they seem to have taken it in their stride. With the economy being what it is...
    nickode nickode 41-45, M Jul 17, 2013

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    S.o.s

     My Wife left me in June of this year. After being married for 23 years, i'm having trouble dealing with the loss. Have attempted suicide twice. She seemingly moved on and I'm stuck here alone. Struggling to make it without her. She refuses to talk to me at all, she says she is...
    Mencrytoo Mencrytoo 46-50, M 2 Responses Oct 11, 2012

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    I Was

    I left my husband about 3 months ago. He works 60# hours a week. Is a good father and provider. It just seems when he isn't ar work he is holed up in his office. Now don't get me wrong if our son has a sports activity or calls him my husband makes the time. He calls a few times a...
    pagesofthepast pagesofthepast 31-35, F Aug 10, 2013

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    Wow I Am Feeling So Much Stronger Today!!

    Today I had my hair done. It feels good to get all that grey out. I am down a another pound and I feel great about my weight. The anxiety that has been a constant dreaded companion, left me alone today. I can breathe without a weight on my chest. I have some work to do and I am...
    GOATSDOROAM GOATSDOROAM 41-45, F Jul 26, 2013

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    And Torn

    and crushed...and every imaginable negative emotion one can think of.  I'm now a thousand miles away from my girl and don't know if we'll ever get back together again...and it ******* hurts.  I'm tired of my world shattering.  I'm tired of thinking...feeling...
    vampireheart vampireheart 31-35, T 1 Response Sep 30, 2008

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    Wow I Am Feeling So Much Stronger Today!!

    Today I had my hair done. It feels good to get all that grey out. I am down a another pound and I feel great about my weight. The anxiety that has been a constant dreaded companion, left me alone today. I can breathe without a weight on my chest. I have some work to do and I am...
    GOATSDOROAM GOATSDOROAM 41-45, F Jul 26, 2013

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    Very Distraught, Emotional Agony

    My husband and I have been having problems, and I have been watching our marriage literally shrivel up and die, but not for lack of (me) trying. I have read so many books designed to save the marriage on your own, change MY attitudes and behaviours, and so on, but that had no...
    sagegirl sagegirl 36-40, F 7 Responses Sep 2, 2008

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    On St Patrick's Day I will have been separated

    for 4 months. I left but am still dealing with the fallout. I was accused if cheating by my no ex. I was innocent but the trust in our relationship was gone. My grandmother died the day before my birthday and I received nothing from my ex. I'm not materialistic but a card and a...
    zacsmummy zacsmummy 36-40, F Mar 14

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    Heartbroken

    My wife of 27 years told me at first that she wasn't in love with and two days later admitted to an affair of almost two years.  She went through a similar crisis about 15 years ago and I never thought she could do it again.  I still want it to work but she says she doesn't...
    andyc61 andyc61 46-50 1 Response Jun 10, 2011

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    Separated and getting a divorce.

    It's better this way but still hurts. I'm looking for friends and to hopefully one day realize that it wasn't all my fault and feel better about myself. My soon to be ex slept with someone while we were separated, yet while we were supposedly working on our marriage, and he...
    tattoolvr81 tattoolvr81 31-35, F 5 days ago

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    Separated And Wondring What To Do..

    I am separated from my wife and kids for 5 years.. Separation works better for all of us. My conservative Indian family in India would not let me divorce. I am a straight guy in forties, living alone in USA... Anyone with similar experience to share.. compare notes? Anyone...
    greatmassguy greatmassguy 41-45, M Apr 2, 2013

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    Separated & Not Dealing Well W/the Reality.

    I did post a few days ago.  My husband & I have been separated 3 months & tomorrow we & our respective lawyers meet.  We haven't spoken in three months.  We live in the hills of Vermont and have two homes on the property.  My husband is in one and my mother and myself in the...
    maxmoca1 maxmoca1 51-55, F 6 Responses Jan 18, 2011

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    I tried so hard not to contact my husband.

    When he left we established rules. Things like money, privacy respect such as phone records and showing up at the others persons living quarters, and communication. We are not allowed to text each other. The only communication we have is through email and its ONLY to talk about...
    Faith2117 Faith2117 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 19, 2013

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    Today Is My Anniversary

    I am seperated from my husband...we will file for divorce once we are legally allowed to...today is my wedding anniversary...we would be 7 years married. I am not sure how to feel about it...partly I think that I should feel sad because I am remembering all of the promises we...
    Flugelblues Flugelblues 31-35, F 8 Responses Sep 6, 2008

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    I'm Not Sad

    I'm relieved! From the moment I said "I do" I knew that I had made a terrible mistake. He asked again and again if I was getting married just to get married, and time and time again I said no. When, prior to the marriage, he went on one of his tyraids and hit me, I made excuses...
    whatsmycalling whatsmycalling 36-40 1 Response Oct 9, 2012

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    Lost

    Lets see... i have been married for 12 years. my husband and i have had a wonderful marriage all these years we were eachothers best friend, he would even agree. but this past July something started to change. He pulled away from me. He has been in night school and has had...
    LookingforUs LookingforUs 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 17, 2011

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    Learning And Living

    I left my ex-husband 9 months ago, and it was definitely the best decision I ever made. We rushed into our marriage, little did I realize how different of a person he was once we said our "I do"s. He became distant, negative and pessimistic, paranoid, and he stopped taking care...
    hooponopono hooponopono 26-30, F Oct 1, 2013

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    And I Am So Happy

     My husband put me through mental hell ..  he was soo abusive two hospital  trips into the psych unit and i was done .. i knew if i stuck around i would be dead ...  ive been gone almost two yrs and ive never been better !!!  i dont have to see him , talk...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme 26-30, F Jun 4, 2007

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    My Story

    Tears welled up in my eyes, even though my heart was feeling light and free.  The reality of our situation washed over me with each new moment that signalled the end. The real estate lists, the child care agreements, the dividing of things for each new home that was being...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Feb 3, 2010

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    Related Experiences

    So today is my anniversary but we are separated, second one in a roll my husband and I haven't celebrated. To be honest I wasn't really looking forward to this day, it started off...
    Itonlytakesone Itonlytakesone 26-30, F Mar 20

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    So today is my anniversary but we are separated, second one in a roll my husband and I haven't celebrated. To be honest I wasn't really looking forward to this day, it started off...
    Itonlytakesone Itonlytakesone 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 20

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    It's going on 4 months since we have separated and I am starve for intimacy and attention. I am home all alone all the time, he works at night and sleeps during the day, which I...
    LovelyOne84 LovelyOne84 26-30, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I want the heartache to go away. I don't have a lot of friends. Even the friends I do have don't know I'm separated from my husband.
    BrittTHart BrittTHart 26-30, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I went to visit my soon to be ex wife today for the first time in months, we spent some time catching up etc! I'm now left feeling sad & regretful having thought that I'd gotten...
    AlexeiVincenzo AlexeiVincenzo 31-35, M Mar 22

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    We have agreed to separate. He says he can't be faithful. I respect him for telling me. I knew for some time that he was seeing someone else. After the initial shock and after...
    Phat4Ever Phat4Ever 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 31

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    ...and he is not my husband! I fell out of love with my husband 5 years(?) into the marriage. He traveled a lot with his job and we were in the middle of building our home,leaving...
    SweetPeaLove SweetPeaLove 51-55, F 2 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    New on this site today, so here goes: 1. I am a lover of many (but not all) kinds of music. 2. I write poetry and publish it online. 3. I'm a teacher. 4. I am a closet naturist! 5...
    markalane markalane 51-55, M 1 Response 18 hrs ago

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    During our marriage he usually had nothing to do with the kids unless he was to get a pat on the back for it or he had to do it to make himself look good in the eyes of others. He...
    dolphindiaries dolphindiaries 36-40, F 5 hrs ago

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    I'm married with two kids. We are separated but legally. I'm in love with a guy 13 yrs older than me and he's single. I've known him since I was 8 yrs old. We can never be together...
    Allie26 Allie26 36-40, F 3 hrs ago

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    The hunt2 11:00am Location: Breakneck Ridge trail. Cynthia, Sam and Dean along with the four D-warriors made their way back to the came site carrying with them the three...
    darkwolf19 darkwolf19 18-21, M 2 hrs ago

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    It was someone I hated, a week before first sleeping with my boyfriend (now fiancé). And I'm so glad I did, for a few reasons. Partly because of the physical aspects. For me, it...
    MissIntent MissIntent 18-21, F Mar 27

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      I'm a newbie here, however, while feeling lonesome once again on a weekend, I thought I'd see if there's someone else put there that share my problem. I have 3 older...
    Maurap Maurap 46-50, F Mar 22

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    Seems my man has found a new lease on life since he moved out of the house !! Pushing me back down on to the picnic rug and kissing me hard without so much as a hello on Tuesday...
    gigglelicious gigglelicious 36-40, F 11 Responses Apr 11

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    I'm with a guy who has all the right qualities, upstanding, caring, good looking, he even moved to my home country to be with me. But I don't think I love him. Yet, I think I'm...
    orangeskies7 orangeskies7 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 23

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    I have been separated from my wife for almost 3 years. 2011 was my "****" year as I quit a high paying job (due to stress), separated from my wife, and my Mom passed away at age...
    srfchopper srfchopper 56-60, M 5 Responses Mar 25

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    I am almost to nine years of marriage and 19 years in my relationship with my wife. We have two beautiful and amazing children together (ages 4 and 2). My wife recently expressed...
    Allboutmykids Allboutmykids 31-35, M 7 Responses Apr 3

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    I found a man But he is much older than I am We have a 16 year age gap 20 and 36 But it doesn’t matter What I care about is I think he can’t move on from his past love of 8...
    IShallGoMad IShallGoMad 18-21, F Apr 4

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    I think this time, i just can dedicated one song for us, Usher - Separated "Why don't you go your way And I'll go mine Live your life And I'll live mine Baby, you'll do well And...
    Sk203 Sk203 18-21, F Apr 5

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    - The Natural Church Revealed - How many times can we take it, seeing many new born believers come and go, I mean, one comes to repentence, and time and times again, then we...
    MysteriousBlu10 MysteriousBlu10 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 6

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    It was a horrible and terrifying one. It involved my best friend in it.. I only remember some parts, where we were like a colonized country/city. I just know for certain that we...
    ErinAnsiell ErinAnsiell 18-21, F Apr 11

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    Separated and getting a divorce. It's better this way but still hurts. I'm looking for friends and to hopefully one day realize that it wasn't all my fault and feel better about...
    tattoolvr81 tattoolvr81 31-35, F 5 days ago

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    My first love was the boy across the street . We grew up together . We played together , went to school together , attend the same church , and eventually we fell for each other...
    kstu1 kstu1 18-21, F 1 day ago

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    To start I got married at 19 and let me say we were so infatuated with each other it was perfect. Shortly after being married his temper sky rocketed, his job was killing him, he...
    cassielee44 cassielee44 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 20

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