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I Am Separated

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    Married &Amp; Separated &Amp; Confused

    I have been with my husband for almost 8 years and married for almost 3. Since we had gotten married we didn't live together. We always fought because of that but I had refused to live with his mom (I had done that before). He always came to see me and would stay over. We would...
    Believe25 Believe25 26-30 3 Responses Jun 25, 2013

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    Today Is My Anniversary

    I am seperated from my husband...we will file for divorce once we are legally allowed to...today is my wedding anniversary...we would be 7 years married. I am not sure how to feel about it...partly I think that I should feel sad because I am remembering all of the promises we...
    Flugelblues Flugelblues 31-35, F 8 Responses Sep 6, 2008

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    Wow I Am Feeling So Much Stronger Today!!

    Today I had my hair done. It feels good to get all that grey out. I am down a another pound and I feel great about my weight. The anxiety that has been a constant dreaded companion, left me alone today. I can breathe without a weight on my chest. I have some work to do and I am...
    GOATSDOROAM GOATSDOROAM 41-45, F Jul 26, 2013

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    Separated And Broken Hearted

    I am separated and have been for several months. At first I tried to have contact with my spouse just to keep the connection, but unfortunately it got heated over very little things. l also was told by my spouse that it was possibly a midlife crisis and space was needed...
    83LMC02 83LMC02 46-50 1 Response Sep 10, 2011

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    On St Patrick's Day I will have been separated

    for 4 months. I left but am still dealing with the fallout. I was accused if cheating by my no ex. I was innocent but the trust in our relationship was gone. My grandmother died the day before my birthday and I received nothing from my ex. I'm not materialistic but a card and a...
    zacsmummy zacsmummy 36-40, F Mar 14

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    S.o.s

     My Wife left me in June of this year. After being married for 23 years, i'm having trouble dealing with the loss. Have attempted suicide twice. She seemingly moved on and I'm stuck here alone. Struggling to make it without her. She refuses to talk to me at all, she says she is...
    Mencrytoo Mencrytoo 46-50, M 2 Responses Oct 11, 2012

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    I am still in shock what a roller coaster of

    emotions one goes through in this process. Yesterday I was going crazy with sadness and anger. Today I feel like I might just be ok. I just want to grab onto today and keep this feeling but I know tomorrow is a whole new day of emotions...:(
    hera2014 hera2014 41-45, F 2 Responses Sep 2

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    Wow I Am Feeling So Much Stronger Today!!

    Today I had my hair done. It feels good to get all that grey out. I am down a another pound and I feel great about my weight. The anxiety that has been a constant dreaded companion, left me alone today. I can breathe without a weight on my chest. I have some work to do and I am...
    GOATSDOROAM GOATSDOROAM 41-45, F Jul 26, 2013

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    My Story

    Tears welled up in my eyes, even though my heart was feeling light and free.  The reality of our situation washed over me with each new moment that signalled the end. The real estate lists, the child care agreements, the dividing of things for each new home that was being...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Feb 3, 2010

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    The pain I feel is like a million knifes

    stabbing at my heart...and its my own fault. How do you stop hating yourself for betraying your own morals? I had an affair on my husband of 10yrs. We are currently separated and will decide in February if we will continue with the separation, get divorced, or get back together...
    Faith2117 Faith2117 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    I tried so hard not to contact my husband.

    When he left we established rules. Things like money, privacy respect such as phone records and showing up at the others persons living quarters, and communication. We are not allowed to text each other. The only communication we have is through email and its ONLY to talk about...
    Faith2117 Faith2117 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 19, 2013

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    Very Distraught, Emotional Agony

    My husband and I have been having problems, and I have been watching our marriage literally shrivel up and die, but not for lack of (me) trying. I have read so many books designed to save the marriage on your own, change MY attitudes and behaviours, and so on, but that had no...
    sagegirl sagegirl 36-40, F 7 Responses Sep 2, 2008

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    "Separated"??? ... It Is More Like "Limbo"...

    "Separated"???  It sounds like there's hope that the separation will end and two will become one again... "Separated"???  It sounds like there is hope for the relationship...yes, that is what "separated" sounds like to me... That is not...
    pixelita pixelita 36-40, F 19 Responses Aug 31, 2009

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    and it sucks! I left work early today,

    had a miserable attitude. She asked me to leave two and a half months ago and I finally did about a month ago. She couldn't give me any answers... couldn't tell me why. Just that she was unhappy and I was the big reason she was. I don't commit to people easily. I'm 39 now...
    RavensKeep RavensKeep 36-40, M Feb 18

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    And Torn

    and crushed...and every imaginable negative emotion one can think of.  I'm now a thousand miles away from my girl and don't know if we'll ever get back together again...and it ******* hurts.  I'm tired of my world shattering.  I'm tired of thinking...feeling...
    vampireheart vampireheart 31-35, T 1 Response Sep 30, 2008

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    My wife and I separated about six months ago

    but have stayed under the same roof for financial reasons. We are still best of friends but don't feel the same way we did when we met. We decided to open up our marriage completely and drew up an agreement which we both signed. We both feel suited to the polyamorus lifestyle...
    flailure flailure 41-45, M 2 Responses Apr 20

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    My Wife and a Relative

    For the last 6 months I noticed different things about my wife's behavior.  She started losing weight, started wearing very nice clothing and became very distant in our marriage.  Of course, I didn't think anything about these behaviors I just thought that my...
    paulstone paulstone 36-40 2 Responses Aug 5, 2008

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    Separated and getting a divorce.

    It's better this way but still hurts. I'm looking for friends and to hopefully one day realize that it wasn't all my fault and feel better about myself. My soon to be ex slept with someone while we were separated, yet while we were supposedly working on our marriage, and he...
    tattoolvr81 tattoolvr81 31-35, F Apr 14

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    This Was My Choice

    I got separated and moved out from my husband about 4 months ago.  I’ve made the decision to leave him about 2 years ago but things just never worked out for me to move out.  We’ve been together for 10 years and in those 10 years we’ve been married for...
    KNell KNell 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 11, 2010

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    It's Hard

    i separated from my husband nearly 18 months ago. i still love him to bits but we just don't work together. i'm finding it very hard to think about moving on even after all this time, even knowing all the problems we had will never be worked out.
    babymaddux babymaddux 26-30, F Oct 28, 2007

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    Learning And Living

    I left my ex-husband 9 months ago, and it was definitely the best decision I ever made. We rushed into our marriage, little did I realize how different of a person he was once we said our "I do"s. He became distant, negative and pessimistic, paranoid, and he stopped taking care...
    hooponopono hooponopono 26-30, F Oct 1, 2013

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    I Was

    I left my husband about 3 months ago. He works 60# hours a week. Is a good father and provider. It just seems when he isn't ar work he is holed up in his office. Now don't get me wrong if our son has a sports activity or calls him my husband makes the time. He calls a few times a...
    Tatteredpages Tatteredpages 31-35, F Aug 10, 2013

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    I'm Not Sad

    I'm relieved! From the moment I said "I do" I knew that I had made a terrible mistake. He asked again and again if I was getting married just to get married, and time and time again I said no. When, prior to the marriage, he went on one of his tyraids and hit me, I made excuses...
    whatsmycalling whatsmycalling 36-40 1 Response Oct 9, 2012

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    Now What

    It's been more than a year since my former significant other moved out. I ache. I hate him for what he did to me yet I mourn his loss. I'm angry and sad, want revenge and yet secretly wish him no harm. I told my lawyer I want him eviscerated, emasculated and brought...
    datigger datigger 46-50 2 Responses Feb 12, 2008

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    My wife has left me. I've not been violent

    or cheated on her. I've been moody, depressed and insensitive. I've made an honest commitment to change and I am trying everything that I can to improve myself. She is so hurt that she can't even contemplate reconciling. No matter how hard I work on myself, it's up to her how...
    uku383 uku383 41-45, M Jan 23

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    Happy And Finally Loving My Life!

    I left my ex awhile ago, filed for custody of our daughter, filed for permission to move out of territory and have found a fantastic job in my home town. I have a fantastic job, love my life right now and am superbly happy. I no longer thrive for more personal connection, I...
    Bancheemom Bancheemom 26-30, F Oct 30, 2013

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    Reflection

    Have you ever stood in front of a mirror and just looked at yourself, trying to see what other people see? What makes you, you? It's a harsh reality when you look in the mirror and see nothing. This is how it started ; An old graying man looks back at me, with anger in his eyes...
    Mencrytoo Mencrytoo 46-50, M 1 Response Oct 14, 2012

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    And I Am So Happy

     My husband put me through mental hell ..  he was soo abusive two hospital  trips into the psych unit and i was done .. i knew if i stuck around i would be dead ...  ive been gone almost two yrs and ive never been better !!!  i dont have to see him , talk...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme 26-30, F Jun 4, 2007

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    Separated & Not Dealing Well W/the Reality.

    I did post a few days ago.  My husband & I have been separated 3 months & tomorrow we & our respective lawyers meet.  We haven't spoken in three months.  We live in the hills of Vermont and have two homes on the property.  My husband is in one and my mother and myself in the...
    maxmoca1 maxmoca1 51-55, F 6 Responses Jan 18, 2011

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    Lost

    Lets see... i have been married for 12 years. my husband and i have had a wonderful marriage all these years we were eachothers best friend, he would even agree. but this past July something started to change. He pulled away from me. He has been in night school and has had...
    LookingforUs LookingforUs 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 17, 2011

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    When Does All This End?

    My wife and I have known for a long time that it hasn't been working out and after 18 years we called it a day 10 months ago. We have 3 gorgeous kids that I love to bits and when we broke it to them they seem to have taken it in their stride. With the economy being what it is...
    nickode nickode 41-45, M Jul 17, 2013

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    Separated And Wondring What To Do..

    I am separated from my wife and kids for 5 years.. Separation works better for all of us. My conservative Indian family in India would not let me divorce. I am a straight guy in forties, living alone in USA... Anyone with similar experience to share.. compare notes? Anyone...
    greatmassguy greatmassguy 41-45, M Apr 2, 2013

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    Heartbroken

    My wife of 27 years told me at first that she wasn't in love with and two days later admitted to an affair of almost two years.  She went through a similar crisis about 15 years ago and I never thought she could do it again.  I still want it to work but she says she doesn't...
    andyc61 andyc61 46-50 1 Response Jun 10, 2011

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    I hate days like today.

    Money talk with my ex. A simple question turned into an all war. I was so frazzled it was hard to focus on anything else. He cheated on me and now I feel like he is trying to find anything about me to pounce on. How can a person you thought you knew be so opposite to everything...
    hera2014 hera2014 41-45, F 4 Responses Sep 1

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    My Current Sadness....

     I just joined EP 2 days ago and posted this in an empty group, but this is probably a more appropriate forum. I've been falling deeper and deeper into despair and am hoping that having the opportunity to share my feelings and pain with others may help me face it and move...
    Beansmasher Beansmasher 31-35, M 3 Responses Oct 24, 2009

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    Related Experiences

    I moved upstairs! I have my own room and it feels great. He is fighting me tooth and nail to stay together. I have to be separated for 1 year before I get a divorce because he will...
    LoveMyLifeWithThem LoveMyLifeWithThem 36-40, F 4 days ago

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    My parents are separated, not divorced because they were never married. I was an accident baby, my mom was 15 when she was pregnant with me, and was half a month from turning 16...
    graveyardghosty graveyardghosty 18-21, F Sep 9

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    I have been married for 25 years. During that time I was a pretty good but far from ideal partner. We separated in May. It will be five months on October 1. My wife has been...
    Dlgadlga Dlgadlga 51-55, M 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I feel like this has been coming to a head, getting more hopeless for over 4 years. We have been separated only one week. At first I was lost, sad, yet also relieved. Today I feel...
    AudaC AudaC 36-40 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I've been married for 27 years this week. I have three kids ages, 26, 19, and 16. I probably should've left 10 years ago when I wanted to get separated then. Every time I wanted to...
    cinaflower cinaflower 41-45, F 2 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    I believe fate had brought my husband and I together... We were married for 3 years and had a year old baby boy... One day my husband told me he wanted to be single... I was...
    Cinderella05 Cinderella05 31-35, F Aug 30

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    It's been two months and I can now talk about him and us without crying. I know I don't want him back but it's hard being alone after a total of 16 years together (12 married). I...
    LookingforLove63 LookingforLove63 51-55, F 1 Response Sep 8

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    I moved out 3 days ago. I still can't believe it. It was VERY difficult. I feel really awkward now...like, I'm somewhat glad to be away from the situation, but I feel like a...
    wishihadatimemachine wishihadatimemachine 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 12

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    Hi I'm new here. Been married for 3 years together for 5. Kinda a messed up relationship since January and was told by my husband he is into me having sex with other men but he...
    Lostnconfused09 Lostnconfused09 26-30, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    Strong meat, said the first speaker, as they got free of the crowd and commenced moving down the street.Too strong for my stomach, replied Mr. Braxton.Something must have gone...
    sfdfvcv sfdfvcv 22-25, M 2 hrs ago

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    When I was a kid, I used to have lot of friends. When I was at elem school, I have a bestfriend, but when we start at hs we got separated from school :/ So I make new friends. One...
    lbiore lbiore 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 25

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    Today was my (step) cousin's christening and I didn't go. And that's because my mom and step dad are separated and my step sisters hate me and my mom (I wrote about that in some...
    holdontilmay holdontilmay 18-21, F Aug 24

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    One of my co workers told me today and I quote "He's SINGLE so you don't have to worry about all that bs and drama". Aaaand she's right he is SINGLE and I don't have to worry...
    saiyagyrl saiyagyrl 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 25

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    My wife of four years has told me as of now she doesn't like sex. Ever since we gotten married and had children the affection and intimacy has fell off the grid. She was pregnant...
    born2reign born2reign 22-25, M 6 Responses Aug 26

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    Before I start this, I want to say that I know that this shouldn’t upset me as much as it does. The problem is my boyfriends’ brothers’ girlfriend (my boyfriend and his...
    faithtrustandpixiedust faithtrustandpixiedust 22-25, F Aug 27

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