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I Am Separated

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 469 People

    And I Am So Happy

     My husband put me through mental hell ..  he was soo abusive two hospital  trips into the psych unit and i was done .. i knew if i stuck around i would be dead ...  ive been gone almost two yrs and ive never been better !!!  i dont have to see him , talk...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme 26-30, F Jun 4, 2007

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    The pain I feel is like a million knifes

    stabbing at my heart...and its my own fault. How do you stop hating yourself for betraying your own morals? I had an affair on my husband of 10yrs. We are currently separated and will decide in February if we will continue with the separation, get divorced, or get back together...
    Faith2117 Faith2117 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    My Thought's On Being Seperated

    When two people meet and then get married you don't realize it at the time but you end up growing and changing into someone else and I don't mean in a bad way either. What I'm trying to say is that you end up working on the bad stuff like say for instance baggage in your life...
    leah77 leah77 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 21, 2012

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    Ounce Of Hope

    My husband and I have been together for 12 years. About 2 months ago I saw my husband was looking at houses to buy. We always are "looking" so I thought no big deal. I made some comment about the hosue and my husband said something like I am not sure if we both will live there...
    2miracles 2miracles 31-35 4 Responses Oct 25, 2010

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    I hate days like today.

    Money talk with my ex. A simple question turned into an all war. I was so frazzled it was hard to focus on anything else. He cheated on me and now I feel like he is trying to find anything about me to pounce on. How can a person you thought you knew be so opposite to everything...
    hera2014 hera2014 41-45, F 4 Responses Sep 1, 2014

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    I tried so hard not to contact my husband.

    When he left we established rules. Things like money, privacy respect such as phone records and showing up at the others persons living quarters, and communication. We are not allowed to text each other. The only communication we have is through email and its ONLY to talk about...
    Faith2117 Faith2117 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 19, 2013

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    God gave me this picture yesterday: my STBX

    kicking me out of her house. And instead of me trying to sneak in with the spare key I refused to give up I gave her the key so I won't come in anymore and honour her wishes. ...then I gave the spare key to Jesus who pocketed it, put a string hand on my shouldered and walked...
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M 1 Response Jan 20

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    PRAY:Family Court Parent Agreement Today STBX

    refuses to just sit and work out plan for kids. We are using a Mediatir (Canadien ) she wants 109% custody not joint or shared. Meaning she has full control -medical (she signs for anything kids sick, operations) -education , religion , culture ( I wanna teach about indonesia...
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M 3 Responses Apr 27

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    3 Months Separated

    After reading all the other stories relating to separation and divorce, I felt compelled to write my story of where I'm at 3 months post separation. My ex and I were together for 20 years before I decided to leave. My leaving didn't involve another person nor was it an easy...
    ChangeOfHart ChangeOfHart 41-45, F 3 Responses Dec 29, 2010

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    Separated and getting a divorce.

    It's better this way but still hurts. I'm looking for friends and to hopefully one day realize that it wasn't all my fault and feel better about myself. My soon to be ex slept with someone while we were separated, yet while we were supposedly working on our marriage, and he...
    tattoolvr81 tattoolvr81 31-35, F Apr 14, 2014

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    Have been separated for almost years,

    the other day my husband comes over to see the kids (which barley ever happens) he says he loves me, is still attracted to me and that it feels so good to be with me and the kids, our family just feels right. We spend a great day together. Then he leaves to go back to his...
    Guavajelly Guavajelly 36-40, F 4 Responses Oct 16, 2014

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    The cruelest joke of all is being

    so in rosy love with someone and then having the opposite switch thrown where now you start to hate and resent the one you would have died a thousand deaths for. Wow. I am just starting to perculate the resentment and my anger towards her and our situation .....I hate feeling...
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M 4 Responses Jan 11

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    Court case for parental agreement.

    Never in a million years did I think I would end up here. I am a great super involved dad with my kids. In the photo is my prepared statement . Alberta family laws in Canada are more lenient to give the dad a bit more say then 10 yrs ago. I would be happy with 60/40 and joint...
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M 7 Responses Dec 11, 2014

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    My husband is a rough around the edges kind of

    guy, to say the least. He works up north and was rarely home, but when he was home he'd be home two weeks or a month at a time. But even though he was making money up there, he was involved with shady characters where we lived in Arkansas, where his family was originally from. I...
    HalesBells91 HalesBells91 22-25 Dec 11, 2014

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    Learning And Living

    I left my ex-husband 9 months ago, and it was definitely the best decision I ever made. We rushed into our marriage, little did I realize how different of a person he was once we said our "I do"s. He became distant, negative and pessimistic, paranoid, and he stopped taking care...
    hooponopono hooponopono 26-30, F Oct 1, 2013

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    I am staring at the contents of my pocket

    Just been to London. It's hotter there and I am feeling optimistic ; let's decide it is Spring and put the little rain jacket on instead of the massive coat. Just got home. Slipped my hands into my pockets.... Pulled back a bracelet, the watch my husband gave me for...
    grommit3 grommit3 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 16

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    Lost

    Lets see... i have been married for 12 years. my husband and i have had a wonderful marriage all these years we were eachothers best friend, he would even agree. but this past July something started to change. He pulled away from me. He has been in night school and has had...
    LookingforUs LookingforUs 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 17, 2011

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    I been asking a lot of people to help my

    situation I been homeless for 2 years cause of domestic violence I been trying to get funds for a new apartment for me and my kids, I haven't gotten fare but if you want to help you can message me.
    Noralove1 Noralove1 36-40, F 2 Responses May 8

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    Yes! Told my husband.

    I'm sick of this loveless Marriage. Life starts today!
    RoseC67 RoseC67 46-50, F 5 Responses Jan 9

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    My wife has left me. I've not been violent

    or cheated on her. I've been moody, depressed and insensitive. I've made an honest commitment to change and I am trying everything that I can to improve myself. She is so hurt that she can't even contemplate reconciling. No matter how hard I work on myself, it's up to her how...
    uku383 uku383 41-45, M 1 Response Jan 23, 2014

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    This Was My Choice

    I got separated and moved out from my husband about 4 months ago.  I’ve made the decision to leave him about 2 years ago but things just never worked out for me to move out.  We’ve been together for 10 years and in those 10 years we’ve been married for...
    KNell KNell 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 11, 2010

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    Marriage Sucks!

    For me to write my story would take a couple pages but I'd rather spare you with the entire picture and just say a few things. Marriage sucks!....lol. It can be great and my wife and I did have a good marriage in my opinion for 13 years but then the stresses of life became too...
    Greatestislove Greatestislove 41-45, M 7 Responses Sep 16, 2012

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    Ahhhh the up and downs of this process!

    Ugh....things are harder than I thought and things not turning out as planned....but the goal is mutual to try and be as fair to each other as possible... But I am excited to start a new life!!!
    MFeisty MFeisty 41-45, F 4 Responses Jan 27

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    Short And Sweet

    To keep it short and sweet, my husband up and walked out on me and my kids one day. It's been a couple months now, and I know my part in the failed marriage. I wish he would have talked about his feelings and what he was missing, but he didn't. Instead, he found someone to filled...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses May 16, 2012

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    And Torn

    and crushed...and every imaginable negative emotion one can think of.  I'm now a thousand miles away from my girl and don't know if we'll ever get back together again...and it ******* hurts.  I'm tired of my world shattering.  I'm tired of thinking...feeling...
    vampireheart vampireheart 31-35, T 1 Response Sep 30, 2008

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    My wife and I separated about six months ago

    but have stayed under the same roof for financial reasons. We are still best of friends but don't feel the same way we did when we met. We decided to open up our marriage completely and drew up an agreement which we both signed. We both feel suited to the polyamorus lifestyle...
    flailure flailure 41-45, M 2 Responses Apr 20, 2014

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    and it sucks! I left work early today,

    had a miserable attitude. She asked me to leave two and a half months ago and I finally did about a month ago. She couldn't give me any answers... couldn't tell me why. Just that she was unhappy and I was the big reason she was. I don't commit to people easily. I'm 39 now...
    RavensKeep RavensKeep 41-45, M Feb 18, 2014

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    Sincerely77 Sincerely77 36-40, F 2 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    Pay Back Is A ..... Yea Well You Know

    I am writing this for all you that are following my story. Tonight my ex came to my house, apparently his girlfriend stole his wallet and his phone. Yea. karma went an bit him in the butt. He said he was sorry and i told him i couldn't be friends with him. It is sad that he...
    phoenix2011 phoenix2011 36-40, F 6 Responses May 27, 2011

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    5 Yrs Of Marriage...and Now He Wants A Separation.

    I've been married for 5 yrs now. He went home to visit family. While on the plane ride home he saw and old classmate from high school..which was 8 yrs ago. They conversated and now he's in love. When he came back home to me he said that he wasn't in love with me anymore and he...
    ladycbg ladycbg 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 3, 2013

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    Now What

    It's been more than a year since my former significant other moved out. I ache. I hate him for what he did to me yet I mourn his loss. I'm angry and sad, want revenge and yet secretly wish him no harm. I told my lawyer I want him eviscerated, emasculated and brought...
    datigger datigger 46-50 2 Responses Feb 12, 2008

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    Stop waffling!!! She cheated on me,

    my kids need me. "She's not coming back" repeat 100x "You deserve 100000xbetter" Sing this out. Shout it out till you are hoarse. Then when you get your voice back. Repeat. And then repeat again My heart gets askewed. Need to beat it into shape. ...ok *flex muscles, give my...
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M 2 Responses Feb 2

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    I Just Became Separated

    hi i am a 45 yr old man that was happily married for 3 years. i know i screwed up by not always having a job but always tried to bring in some sort of income. about 2 months ago i landed a job that the pay is ok and plenty of overtime. well my wife told me to leave after i got...
    ilostmyheart ilostmyheart 41-45, M 1 Response Dec 30, 2012

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    Very amicably and arrived at mutually.

    We both feel better and are communicating smoother than we have in a long time. :)
    wuiop2 wuiop2 31-35, M May 8

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    On St Patrick's Day I will have been separated

    for 4 months. I left but am still dealing with the fallout. I was accused if cheating by my no ex. I was innocent but the trust in our relationship was gone. My grandmother died the day before my birthday and I received nothing from my ex. I'm not materialistic but a card and a...
    zacsmummy zacsmummy 36-40, F Mar 14, 2014

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    I am still in shock what a roller coaster of

    emotions one goes through in this process. Yesterday I was going crazy with sadness and anger. Today I feel like I might just be ok. I just want to grab onto today and keep this feeling but I know tomorrow is a whole new day of emotions...:(
    hera2014 hera2014 41-45, F 1 Response Sep 2, 2014

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    It's like being suddenly found naked in the

    middle of a high profile prestigious event with dignitaries and affluent socialites. That awkwardness in old relationships, caught in the crossfire of my dying marriage. The awkwardness of making new friends and women very wary that you are still in limbo till divorce happens...
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M Oct 29, 2014

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    Happy And Finally Loving My Life!

    I left my ex awhile ago, filed for custody of our daughter, filed for permission to move out of territory and have found a fantastic job in my home town. I have a fantastic job, love my life right now and am superbly happy. I no longer thrive for more personal connection, I...
    Bancheemom Bancheemom 26-30, F Oct 30, 2013

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    update! Completely stunned by the turn of

    events! She relented from all her 100% demands and agreed to joint custody and 50/50 all decisions etc! It is a complete answer to prayer cause she was really angry and defiant before and filed for sole custody of the kids before! I am utterly amazed at how her heart softned...
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M 3 Responses Apr 27

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    My Soon to Be Ex Wife and I Are No More....

     The last year things have been really bad.  You can read some of my other stories about that though if you want.   We were separated once before a few years ago for a few weeks and I begged her back telling her I believed her and I could work...
    denverguy denverguy 36-40, M 4 Responses Jun 20, 2009

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    And currently having treatment

    for whiplash. Three times a week I go to experience massage. I lie down and this man runs his hands over my back. He tries to tease out the pain. It's sweet torture
    grommit3 grommit3 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 8

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    I have been seperated

    for about 6 months now. I couldnt go on anymore feeling trapped in my marriage. I am much happier now, I've not shed one tear since the split. It was hard for my 2 children at 1st, but they soon adapt and trying to make a marriage work for the sake of the children is not being...
    claretnblue claretnblue 31-35, M 3 Responses Jan 23, 2014

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    Hoping to get back together again with my wife

    is like being a piece of paper thin glass and standing in front of a huge swinging sledge hammer ....it's going to easily shatter me when she destroys any stupid hope of us reconciling. I am teaching myself to unlove her. **sawing the thick wooden handle of sledge hanmer**
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M 1 Response Oct 13, 2014

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    I Was

    I left my husband about 3 months ago. He works 60# hours a week. Is a good father and provider. It just seems when he isn't ar work he is holed up in his office. Now don't get me wrong if our son has a sports activity or calls him my husband makes the time. He calls a few times a...
    Tatteredpages Tatteredpages 31-35, F Aug 10, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    I see some posts on here in which the author says they're separated but they live in the same house. Help me understand that, please. How can two people be separated yet still live...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    Im currently seperated, almost a month now and its not getting much easier. Im 42 with (2) kids (ages 16 & 10), and my wife just seems like shes not happy after ten years of...
    nelmel0520 nelmel0520 41-45, M May 10