I Am Separated

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 480 People

    Separated since April,

    this will be two weeks in a row kids too busy to have dinner with me.
    HarryOsbourne HarryOsbourne
    56-60, M
    Oct 15, 2015

    My Soon to Be Ex Wife and I Are No More....

     The last year things have been really bad.  You can read some of my other stories about that though if you want.   We were separated once before a few years ago for a few weeks and I begged her back telling her I believed her and I could work...
    denverguy denverguy
    36-40, M
    3 Responses Jun 20, 2009

    It has been a few mths

    since he moved out. We have not filed yet but no plans on fixing things- he told me to find someone to make me happy -in the end stages it was extremely lonely. The wall between us so thick. My question is about- starting over - i feel like i have been locked up for yrs- i am...
    LonelyPeach LonelyPeach
    41-45, F
    Feb 9

    It's like being suddenly found naked in the

    middle of a high profile prestigious event with dignitaries and affluent socialites. That awkwardness in old relationships, caught in the crossfire of my dying marriage. The awkwardness of making new friends and women very wary that you are still in limbo till divorce happens...
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire
    41-45, M
    Oct 29, 2014

    I have been separated from my wife

    and 2 kids since december 2014. During this separation I have been hurting, scared, stressed, emotional, depressed, etc etc. We did not set any boundaries nor did we get anything in writing. We have been living on the fly and it has not worked out very good. We have been...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Aug 2, 2015

    First good news of the year!

    I received a letter from the Department of Social Services on Friday. based on my recent affidavit that was submitted, they have recognized that POS and I are NOT in a relationship and are separated. Best part, the official separation date was 02 Feb 2015. Looks like lots of...
    koh72 koh72
    41-45, M
    1 Response Jan 10

    1 year today we moved out of our house.

    I went to stay with a friend ...who later decided my kids couldn't stay overnight. Ended up sleeping at our church a couple nights when I had them or couch surfing at a friends place, he had kids so understood. Then my 2nd place....crammed into 1 bedroom on the nights my kids...
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire
    41-45, M
    Jul 1, 2015

    It has been just over a year

    since I joined EP, and in that time I have learned so much, gotten the support and strength to reach where I am today. You guys have been great! Your stories, your inspirations, your prayers and your thoughts. You know who you are, gave me the strength and belief this past 40...
    koh72 koh72
    41-45, M
    4 Responses Mar 17

    i am super anxious about entering the new year

    as a single mum....i hope for good times and new dreams for me and my kids in 2016....time to let go of past heartaches and look forward to making new memories
    kylieheartbroken kylieheartbroken
    41-45, F
    Dec 30, 2015

    update! Completely stunned by the turn of

    events! She relented from all her 100% demands and agreed to joint custody and 50/50 all decisions etc! It is a complete answer to prayer cause she was really angry and defiant before and filed for sole custody of the kids before! I am utterly amazed at how her heart softned...
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire
    41-45, M
    3 Responses Apr 27, 2015
    Sincerely77 Sincerely77
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Nov 6, 2014

    Its so sad to see the man you have loved

    for 25 years change into someone that you dont even recognise anymore....someone who is full of hatred and bitterness, who wont even talk to you anymore and acts like his children dont exist...
    kylieheartbroken kylieheartbroken
    41-45, F
    1 Response Dec 11, 2015

    But now he wants to commit.

    Months ago I would have wanted this. Now I'm reveling in my freedom. I just realized I don't need him and I don't like the pressures he gives me. He kind if says the right things. I'm just not feeling it. I can't decide either way without any doubts. I enjoy being alone now...
    sp7799 sp7799
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jul 28, 2015

    And currently having treatment

    for whiplash. Three times a week I go to experience massage. I lie down and this man runs his hands over my back. He tries to tease out the pain. It's sweet torture
    grommit3 grommit3
    36-40, F
    1 Response Mar 8, 2015

    God gave me this picture yesterday: my STBX

    kicking me out of her house. And instead of me trying to sneak in with the spare key I refused to give up I gave her the key so I won't come in anymore and honour her wishes. ...then I gave the spare key to Jesus who pocketed it, put a string hand on my shouldered and walked...
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire
    41-45, M
    1 Response Jan 20, 2015

    This Was My Choice

    I got separated and moved out from my husband about 4 months ago.  I’ve made the decision to leave him about 2 years ago but things just never worked out for me to move out.  We’ve been together for 10 years and in those 10 years we’ve been married for...
    KNell KNell
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Oct 11, 2010

    The cruelest joke of all is being

    so in rosy love with someone and then having the opposite switch thrown where now you start to hate and resent the one you would have died a thousand deaths for. Wow. I am just starting to perculate the resentment and my anger towards her and our situation .....I hate feeling...
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire
    41-45, M
    4 Responses Jan 11, 2015

    I been asking a lot of people to help my

    situation I been homeless for 2 years cause of domestic violence I been trying to get funds for a new apartment for me and my kids, I haven't gotten fare but if you want to help you can message me.
    Noralove1 Noralove1
    36-40, F
    1 Response May 8, 2015

    so im a little bit hurt

    and angry this morning....have just found out that my ex who has left for the third time during our 20 year marriage and who has very quickly moved on with another lady yet again, is telling all his co workers that i left him......as if the pain the kids and i are going through...
    kylieheartbroken kylieheartbroken
    41-45, F
    1 Response Jan 8

    such a different experience going through the

    holiday season without your significant other by your side. for the first time in 25 years didnt get to see the in laws, my brother and sister in laws or my nieces and nephews on my husbands side..the downside to seperation..not seeing those people who have been a part of your...
    kylieheartbroken kylieheartbroken
    41-45, F
    1 Response Dec 27, 2015

    Merry xmas to anyone out there like me

    who is spending their first xmas without their husband/wife by their side..i know its been an extremely tough morning for me and my kids but look forward to a day spent with loved ones to dull the pain...enjoy this special day as much as you can and i hope that 2016 brings us...
    kylieheartbroken kylieheartbroken
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Dec 24, 2015

    so frustrating that i have to be seperated

    for 12 months before filing for divorce...he walked out for the 3rd time, has a new love and treats us like we never existed...i just want our marriage to be done, finalised, over so i can move on and find happiness without being married hanging over my head..
    kylieheartbroken kylieheartbroken
    41-45, F
    Jan 13

    I am still in shock what a roller coaster of

    emotions one goes through in this process. Yesterday I was going crazy with sadness and anger. Today I feel like I might just be ok. I just want to grab onto today and keep this feeling but I know tomorrow is a whole new day of emotions...:(
    hera2014 hera2014
    41-45, F
    1 Response Sep 2, 2014

    Moved out in April, fortunately my sister had a

    spare room for me. Although that has worked out well, I have been having strong feelings of resentment. I worked hard to create a life for my family, and I still do, but where is my reward? I should have been reaping the benefits of all my hard work. When I was at home, wasn't...
    HarryOsbourne HarryOsbourne
    56-60, M
    1 Response Aug 21, 2015

    PRAY:Family Court Parent Agreement Today STBX

    refuses to just sit and work out plan for kids. We are using a Mediatir (Canadien ) she wants 109% custody not joint or shared. Meaning she has full control -medical (she signs for anything kids sick, operations) -education , religion , culture ( I wanna teach about indonesia...
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Apr 27, 2015

    Ounce Of Hope

    My husband and I have been together for 12 years. About 2 months ago I saw my husband was looking at houses to buy. We always are "looking" so I thought no big deal. I made some comment about the hosue and my husband said something like I am not sure if we both will live there...
    2miracles 2miracles
    31-35
    4 Responses Oct 25, 2010

    I Was

    I left my husband about 3 months ago. He works 60# hours a week. Is a good father and provider. It just seems when he isn't ar work he is holed up in his office. Now don't get me wrong if our son has a sports activity or calls him my husband makes the time. He calls a few times a...
    Tatteredpages Tatteredpages
    36-40, F
    Aug 10, 2013

    Lost

    Lets see... i have been married for 12 years. my husband and i have had a wonderful marriage all these years we were eachothers best friend, he would even agree. but this past July something started to change. He pulled away from me. He has been in night school and has had...
    LookingforUs LookingforUs
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Jan 17, 2011

    I am staring at the contents of my pocket

    Just been to London. It's hotter there and I am feeling optimistic ; let's decide it is Spring and put the little rain jacket on instead of the massive coat. Just got home. Slipped my hands into my pockets.... Pulled back a bracelet, the watch my husband gave me for...
    grommit3 grommit3
    36-40, F
    Mar 16, 2015

    Yes! Told my husband.

    I'm sick of this loveless Marriage. Life starts today!
    RoseC67 RoseC67
    46-50, F
    8 Responses Jan 9, 2015

    I hate days like today.

    Money talk with my ex. A simple question turned into an all war. I was so frazzled it was hard to focus on anything else. He cheated on me and now I feel like he is trying to find anything about me to pounce on. How can a person you thought you knew be so opposite to everything...
    hera2014 hera2014
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Sep 1, 2014

    And Torn

    and crushed...and every imaginable negative emotion one can think of.  I'm now a thousand miles away from my girl and don't know if we'll ever get back together again...and it ******* hurts.  I'm tired of my world shattering.  I'm tired of thinking...feeling...
    vampireheart vampireheart
    31-35, T
    1 Response Sep 30, 2008

    Day 3 of our trial separation.

    The severity of the situation hasn't really hit me yet. It still feels a bit like a little vacation. It feels weird to not really know where "home" is. I find myself thinking about trying to hook up with other guys. I think it's just me trying to get away from sitting with my...
    Magicalcarebear Magicalcarebear
    26-30, F
    1 Response Sep 8, 2015

    Very amicably and arrived at mutually.

    We both feel better and are communicating smoother than we have in a long time. :)
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response May 8, 2015

    Court case for parental agreement.

    Never in a million years did I think I would end up here. I am a great super involved dad with my kids. In the photo is my prepared statement . Alberta family laws in Canada are more lenient to give the dad a bit more say then 10 yrs ago. I would be happy with 60/40 and joint...
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire
    41-45, M
    4 Responses Dec 11, 2014

    have totally enjoyed this site its just

    so frustrating that all the nice people i have met are on the other side of the world.......
    kylieheartbroken kylieheartbroken
    41-45, F
    1 Response Jan 10

    why do so many people these days just walk away

    from a marriage and the people that love them....i just dont understand but im glad im not alone..
    kylieheartbroken kylieheartbroken
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Jan 11

    Short And Sweet

    To keep it short and sweet, my husband up and walked out on me and my kids one day. It's been a couple months now, and I know my part in the failed marriage. I wish he would have talked about his feelings and what he was missing, but he didn't. Instead, he found someone to filled...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses May 16, 2012

    Hoping to get back together again with my wife

    is like being a piece of paper thin glass and standing in front of a huge swinging sledge hammer ....it's going to easily shatter me when she destroys any stupid hope of us reconciling. I am teaching myself to unlove her. **sawing the thick wooden handle of sledge hanmer**
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire
    41-45, M
    1 Response Oct 13, 2014

    5 Yrs Of Marriage...and Now He Wants A Separation.

    I've been married for 5 yrs now. He went home to visit family. While on the plane ride home he saw and old classmate from high school..which was 8 yrs ago. They conversated and now he's in love. When he came back home to me he said that he wasn't in love with me anymore and he...
    ladycbg ladycbg
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Jan 3, 2013

    My husband is a rough around the edges kind of

    guy, to say the least. He works up north and was rarely home, but when he was home he'd be home two weeks or a month at a time. But even though he was making money up there, he was involved with shady characters where we lived in Arkansas, where his family was originally from. I...
    HalesBells91 HalesBells91
    22-25
    Dec 11, 2014

    Stop waffling!!! She cheated on me,

    my kids need me. "She's not coming back" repeat 100x "You deserve 100000xbetter" Sing this out. Shout it out till you are hoarse. Then when you get your voice back. Repeat. And then repeat again My heart gets askewed. Need to beat it into shape. ...ok *flex muscles, give my...
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Feb 2, 2015
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