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I Am Shy

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    Painfully...

    I always have been and I always will be...takes me a long while to loosen up around people, especially around people I admire and have respect for ! Sometimes I get so nervous before talking to someone that I have to rehearse ! Even here on EP, where pretty much anything goes I...
    phillyphan78 phillyphan78 31-35, F 47 Responses Feb 11, 2011

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    Why Am I So Shy

    Hi, I am new here. I was always a shy child. My mother was extremely shy. This makes it difficult to connect with people. So this is where I think the social anxiety comes from. I always felt alone. Probably because I have a very small family. I was not emotionally connected to...
    Cassandra Cassandra 51-55, F 22 Responses Apr 10, 2007

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    It'S Getting Worse

    I've been shy since childhood. It's weird... I have a strong personality and I can be extremely friendly... But I get awfully nervous when I meet new people or when I'm in crowded places. I really hate when I have to attend to big meetings or when I need to take my kids to a...
    anonimacy anonimacy 36-40, F 9 Responses Jun 9, 2013

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    Many people think I'm really confident

    but I'm actually really shy. Especially with guys I like or I think are cute. I act confident but I'm really freaking out inside and wanna hide.
    beautifulc0nfessions beautifulc0nfessions 18-21, F 8 Responses Mar 1

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    I found it hard to communicate with people

    directly. I prefer to chat (or use email).
    stamly stamly 36-40, M 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Can I sing? Yes. Can I dance?

    Yes. Will anyone ever know that? No. I was shy since my early childhood, and my shyness has only increased since. Engaging in a conversation isn't easy, and when it comes to speaking in front of people ...I would rather die.
    LaurenJFisher LaurenJFisher 22-25 3 Responses Jan 2

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    I'm writing this for me.

    I've always been shy. Since I was small. I was ways the crier at school. Too sensitive. I didn't like to go to the other children's parties or houses. I like to read a lot. Always have done. I can get lost in books for days. I am obsessive. Once I start something I can't stop...
    leo1292 leo1292 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 17

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    There Is Hope...

    Three years ago, I was asked to be the best man at my brother's wedding. While an honor, it also made me uneasy. Apart from standing up in church next to the groom, one of the requirements is to deliver the wedding speech. Even though public speaking is the #1 fear of people, it...
    sciguy18 sciguy18 51-55, M 3 Responses May 7, 2011

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    I find it really hard to talk to someone in

    person, but when I talk to someone online I feel like I've just made a new friend!
    BeChiBaChan BeChiBaChan 13-15, F 3 Responses Feb 13

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    i find it difficult to talk to ladies lots of

    time.it gets especially worse when i talk to ladies whom i especially like.i liked a girl at school for 6 years but i couldn't bring myself to tell her even though she gave me opportunities to do so.i don't want that to happen again.the thing is,I don't know what to say to a...
    olayele olayele 18-21 4 Responses Mar 28

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    I tend to have a hard time talking to anyone

    besides family and I get nervous when I text people. I do have a lot to say, but I'm always nervous about driving people away.
    shyguy38 shyguy38 18-21, M 3 Responses Feb 16

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    and I hate it! sometimes I cant find a subject

    to talk about.. I can not develop deep friendships.. when I have alcohol talking is easier, actually everything is easier.. I want to be relax without taking alcohol but its not easy to change
    acinu acinu 26-30, F 5 Responses Jan 23

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    I am shy. I have always been shy

    for a big part of my life. However, once you get to know me, my weird , funny, cheesy , part of me comes out. I guess im just shy when i dont know someone, but throughout the years i have improved. For instance, ive learned that if you like someone, don't just sit there and wait...
    iamjorge iamjorge 22-25, M 1 Response Jan 22

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    Please Understand

    ‘It’s easy,’ you sayWell maybe for youYou don’t have a fast beatingDrum pounding in your chestYou don’t have an unstoppableShaking in your voice and handsYou don’t have the brick wallOf anxieties and questionsWhich I must plunge headfirst intoEvery time I meet someone...
    perfectworldwalkaway perfectworldwalkaway 18-21, M 4 Responses Jan 17, 2011

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    I don't think I started out shy necessarily.

    My social anxiety seems to have been triggered at about 10 years old when a group of kids at a new school made fun of my accent. Ever after that, attention, good or bad, from anyone besides my family sent me into a tailspin. While it was pretty miserable, I'm actually grateful...
    glassbox27 glassbox27 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 26

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    i hate being shy. I wish i was outgoing

    and loud. I even get shy when talking to new people. I panic. Although i have much improved, there is still a long way to go.
    AbdulRaheem123 AbdulRaheem123 18-21, M 2 Responses Jan 9

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    I'm really quiet when I first meet someone.

    It takes me a long time to warm up to people.
    Justbecause22 Justbecause22 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 20

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    Almost Too Shy to Do This

    I'm so shy that even writing on here anonymously is a little scary for me. I hate when people tell me "You don't need to be shy" or "Stop being shy" because if I could turn it off like a lightswitch, i would have done so ages ago. This is the first story i've...
    aprilrain47 aprilrain47 21-25, F 6 Responses Aug 11, 2007

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    How does one differentiate between shy

    and introverted? People say I am shy, but I don't necessarily agree. I think I'm more introverted. Anyone have opinions on the difference?
    TheEng85 TheEng85 26-30, M 4 Responses Mar 8

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    The thing is, in my head I'm like "when I meet

    this person I'm gonna be all outgoing and nice and awesome" then I meet them and it's more like "hi how doing you name my today is" 😕
    Wadboy Wadboy 13-15, M 1 Response Mar 17

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    Rock The Shy!

    I enjoyed reading a lot of these experiences but I realized that being shy or introverted is seen as a weakness in society. But is it really? Being outgoing and extroverted is great but it shouldn't be seen as superior to someone who has the opposite characteristics. Yes, I am...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Oct 8, 2013

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    I Am Very Shy

    I am really shy...It takes me a while to open up to people..but when i open up im really cool to be around..and very funny. The only people im very open around are my boyfriend, my bestfriend and thats really about it. I get super anxious and nervous because im afraid of what...
    Angelwithbrokenwingsxo Angelwithbrokenwingsxo 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 31, 2013

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    At times it can take me a

    while to feel comfortable enough to be myself when it comes to new people and places. I guess that makes me slightly shy, doesn't it? It's not that I'm exactly scared to talk I'm more the lazy type who feels like it's too much effort so basically if they want to get to know me...
    ihavenoideawhatsoever ihavenoideawhatsoever 70+, F 1 Response Mar 16

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    Soo, I just realized the irony behind my name.

    ..Lonelystoryteller, no stories/experiences. Lol but I have a reason! It's because I'm kinda shy! So, I have issues with posting stuff on here(I have posted in the past but I almost always immediately take it down :/ ) . However this is an attempt to do better in this area! Let's...
    Lonelystoryteller Lonelystoryteller 18-21, M Mar 1

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    yaysandwich yaysandwich 18-21, F 11 Responses Mar 25

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    I have a hard time coming out of my shell.

    Everyone at my school calls me "the quiet girl." Well maybe that's because everyone ignores me when I try to talk...
    01sparkly 01sparkly 13-15, F 4 Responses Mar 21

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    I am blushing for EVERYTHING!

    Not EVERYTHING but almost. I always am judged. I never talks to people. I am 13 but i hope i get better someday...
    shubbiebunnie shubbiebunnie 13-15, F 2 Responses Mar 1

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    In person I am actually very reserved.

    I don't open up easily and tend to look for cues to figure out the other person.
    Booksaremypassion Booksaremypassion 41-45, F 1 Response Feb 1

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    luvelylyn luvelylyn 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 19

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    So my school has a semi-formal dance tomorrow

    night and I asked this girl I like to go with me and she said yes, but she would meet me there because she and her friends had already planned on going together. We only really make small talk and I want to have better conversations but I don't know what to talk about. So any...
    MedivalJolk MedivalJolk 13-15, M 1 Response Mar 7

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    Hi I'm Matt, 28 from london.

    I don't know where to start but for the last couple of years my shyness and social anxiety has really affected me, I usually think about it every 5 mins even when sitting at home. It's got really bad recently, last week I had to go and see my boss in his office to get paid, the...
    jomato28 jomato28 26-30, M 3 Responses Feb 16

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    i love to make new friends,

    but i really can't seem to this year. every time i try to be myself or put myself out there people think im weird. i hate my class this year. i only have two friends whereas last year i was friendly with the whole class. im too terrified to try to start conversations with...
    addictedtoashx3 addictedtoashx3 16-17, F Feb 18

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    Boys Are The Problem!!!!!

    I've had this very strange problem of shying when it comes to communicating with men. I frequently shy away from interacting with boys even if it is needed. i dont know why but i get nervous. And sometimes even if i try to interact with them , i get confused. i become...
    hiddentears hiddentears 22-25, F 7 Responses May 21, 2010

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    I was pretty shy/quiet

    when i was in school. Just wondering if any one else was shy or quiet.
    johnnythreee johnnythreee 18-21, M 2 Responses Feb 18

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    oh boy i can totally say i am shy lol,

    i have always been that way though.i want to get over it though so bad, but i feel like its something i can't help lol
    lexik123 lexik123 18-21, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    Sense And Sensibility

    “I never wish to offend, but I am so foolishly shy, that I often seem negligent, when I am only kept back by my natural awkwardness ... Shyness is only the effect of a sense of inferiority in some way or other. If I could persuade myself that my manners were perfectly easy and...
    sciguy18 sciguy18 51-55, M 2 Responses Jul 25, 2012

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    Why Are You So Quiet?

    I've had that type of question directed at me more times than i can count. Along with sarcastic remarks like "Shut up man", among others. I don't understand how people with good social skills don't get the fact that it bothers me when they say stuff like that. Especially my...
    JP1990 JP1990 22-25 5 Responses Jan 15, 2013

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    I won't ever talk first to someone.

    That's just how I am ...
    oxxxmv oxxxmv 16-17, F 8 Responses Dec 22, 2013

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    I'm really shy around new people

    or people that I think are too cool for me :x I speak in a voice that's hard to hear sometimes and sometimes I feel so awkward because of how shy I am :c
    Iamjustme22 Iamjustme22 16-17, F 4 Responses Jan 25

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    I'm a really shy girl.

    I can not talk normally to people. I speak oddly, I reddened and I look at the floor when someone speaks to me. if I fall in love with a guy, I can not tell him. I stay in my corner and I imagine scenarios. Also, if I have an oral presentation, I panic. I start crying and it's...
    Tromal Tromal 16-17, F 5 Responses Dec 31, 2013

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    I am shy. Around my friends I am very funny

    and loud, but when I am in front of my coach or teacher I get very very shy and stiff. I don't know what happens to me! I feel numb and hot. I can always feel my self turning red. Also I talk more quieter. I don't understand why this happens but I guess that is just the way I am...
    crazypeanut crazypeanut 13-15, F 4 Responses Mar 3

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    I'm fine talking to girls

    and stuff, cuz I'm random and weird :3, but when I'm a girls boyfriend I'm the most shyest little **** in the world when around that girl... :'(
    PushMePullYou PushMePullYou 13-15, M Apr 5

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    Shy

    I don't make new friends, they make me their friend if they want too. But i'm never the one who talks first. I don't go out a lot around people because im scared. I don't know why i'm scared but i am. Never hangs out with people, never calls anyone. Might sound boring, but it isn...
    HumhumTheHaunter HumhumTheHaunter 16-17, F 6 Responses Sep 6, 2012

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    I don't like to talk to strangers,

    especially girls and women. I feel like they are constantly judging me and will talk behind my back, so I never speak in public places. I have very low self-confidence, I never go to parties and I never go to a hair salon because I feel intimidated by beautiful confident people...
    ThatelfR ThatelfR 16-17, F 1 Response 5 hrs ago

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    I may seem crazy on here

    but in real life I can be like a mute sometimes ._.
    NinjaKitteh1999 NinjaKitteh1999 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 20

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    Yes I am. But you know what though?

    Shy people end up being the coolest people when you talk to them. Give them a chance!!
    goldengirl24 goldengirl24 22-25, F 4 Responses Feb 7

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    I'm not to sure if I'm shy

    or just a guy with few words I've been called both.
    Harbinger96 Harbinger96 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 14

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    I am shy... Therefore it's hard

    for me to make friends. People call me "the quiet girl" at school...
    01sparkly 01sparkly 13-15, F 6 Responses Mar 25

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    This is not a bad thing.

    Sometimes people see it as a negative, but it means that I can value you, without drowning you out with so much me-ness that you can't breathe, and it means I cannot be anything but overlooked, which means that I will surprise you, and it means that I am not everyone's...
    Brangwen Brangwen 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 11

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    I've always been quite a shy person

    but over the past few years it's got a lot worse. I hate having to interact with anyone who I haven't had a lot of regular contact with including both my mum and dad's families. It's taken me about two school years to form friendships with people I like but my anxiety keeps...
    TiredOfNotTalking TiredOfNotTalking 13-15, F 3 Responses Mar 23

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    I am shy, have trust issues.

    Cant seem to be able connect with anyone. This makes for a fairly lonely existence but I have my reading and drawing to keep me busy in my spare time. Still it would be nice to have someone to talk to. Somewhat confused about my orientation but have too many awful secrets to...
    Veraspain Veraspain 16-17, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I wasn't always shy not

    until I was about 10 no idea why, but when I'm online lol whole different person
    Kanpe Kanpe 16-17, M 1 day ago

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    I'm so sick of being

    so shy all the time. I just want to be normal and talk to people, but I get so scared and anxious. I thought that as I grew older I would get less shy, but here I am at 22 and I'm still so freakin shy. I'm a pretty confident person so I don't even know what I'm scared of :/ Any...
    hugbees hugbees 18-21, F 4 Responses Apr 4

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    I hate that I am so boring no one likes me

    cause I never talk . Talking to me is like talking to a brick wall I wish I wasn't so ******* shy
    nadirah96 nadirah96 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 23

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    Lil Shy Girl

    I am one of the shyest girl ever. Unless you are one of my closest friends, I am the type of girl to be standing in the ground. Looking at the ground curling my hair around my finger. I am not the type of girl who can write and write in a story. So sorry if my stories are short...
    AnisaRose AnisaRose 18-21, F 3 Responses Oct 21, 2013

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    I Am a Shy person In Real Life

    Yeah i am very very shy in real life. i have joined many groups on here as i am frustrated as i am suppressing my feelings and emotions and feel sad to be truthful. i have close friends who i trust which is good as i am not an extrovert at all. i like being amongst people that...
    deleted deleted 26-30 10 Responses Sep 1, 2012

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    I don't know why but

    when I started school it was so easy to talk to people and meet friends. Now when I talk to someone I always say the wrong thing. I think that is why I became shy around other people. But once I know someone enough I never shut up. It makes me wonder what's the difference...