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I Am Shy

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    Difficult concentrating around people

    when you're so shy and self conscious. That's changing now. But I really regret why it took me all these years to let go of my inhibitions in front of people. Been a real scaredy cat. Ok, so I was bullied a lot . My parents had issues. Then, everyone in my family was an over...
    kiddishguy kiddishguy 26-30, M 3 Responses Jan 12

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    In person I am actually very reserved.

    I don't open up easily and tend to look for cues to figure out the other person.
    Booksaremypassion Booksaremypassion 41-45, F 1 Response Feb 1, 2014

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    I'm a really shy girl.

    I can not talk normally to people. I speak oddly, I reddened and I look at the floor when someone speaks to me. if I fall in love with a guy, I can not tell him. I stay in my corner and I imagine scenarios. Also, if I have an oral presentation, I panic. I start crying and it's...
    Tromal Tromal 16-17, F 5 Responses Dec 31, 2013

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    This year ive decided to get out more

    and meet new people. I need new/more friends, and i wont find any by hiding from every one. Wish me luck lol
    Ashleyy2 Ashleyy2 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 1

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    how the hell am i supposed to be in a

    relationship if i cant even say hi to my own sister without freaking out
    CastielMalfoyHolmes221 CastielMalfoyHolmes221 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 26, 2014

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    I find it really hard to talk to people

    because in shy... it seems like I'm rude though. I love chatting to people, what can I do? sometimes I find it easier after a few drinks...
    MrVorn MrVorn 31-35, M 2 days ago

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    I hate being this way

    but I cant help it, I always feel like what I have to say is not important.
    DannibalLecter99 DannibalLecter99 13-15, M 2 Responses Dec 14, 2014

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    when i add someone, that means i wanna get to

    know them but am too shy to start a conversation so i'm hoping they'll start one... but they rarely do. :(
    shuthafukup shuthafukup 26-30 1 Response Dec 19, 2014

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    i am really shy in public

    but with my friends I am a different person
    lucy1010 lucy1010 13-15, F 5 Responses Jan 11

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    Boys Are The Problem!!!!!

    I've had this very strange problem of shying when it comes to communicating with men. I frequently shy away from interacting with boys even if it is needed. i dont know why but i get nervous. And sometimes even if i try to interact with them , i get confused. i become...
    hiddentears hiddentears 22-25, F 9 Responses May 21, 2010

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    I'm shy with girls irl idk what to do

    or say,im shy with anyone new I meet irl. It's annoying I just don't know what to do.
    Eadwyn22nd Eadwyn22nd 16-17, M 3 Responses Jan 10

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    Why Are You So Quiet?

    I've had that type of question directed at me more times than i can count. Along with sarcastic remarks like "Shut up man", among others. I don't understand how people with good social skills don't get the fact that it bothers me when they say stuff like that. Especially my...
    JP1990 JP1990 22-25 4 Responses Jan 15, 2013

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    But I am not as shy as I used to be.

    After high school, I started dating seriously and my boyfriend at the time helped me get out of my shell a little. He was very outgoing and he used to encourage me to do things. He helped me get out of my comfort zone by initiating conversations. I loved him for that.
    NayaAngelou NayaAngelou 26-30, F 6 days ago

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    It'S Getting Worse

    I've been shy since childhood. It's weird... I have a strong personality and I can be extremely friendly... But I get awfully nervous when I meet new people or when I'm in crowded places. I really hate when I have to attend to big meetings or when I need to take my kids to a...
    anonimacy anonimacy 36-40, F 7 Responses Jun 9, 2013

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    Sense And Sensibility

    “I never wish to offend, but I am so foolishly shy, that I often seem negligent, when I am only kept back by my natural awkwardness ... Shyness is only the effect of a sense of inferiority in some way or other. If I could persuade myself that my manners were perfectly easy and...
    sciguy18 sciguy18 56-60, M 3 Responses Jul 25, 2012

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    I sometimes feel like being a shy introvert

    means that I'll always miss out on life. A shy life can be a lonely one. I'm an open book but there's so much more to me that people will never know I guess.
    Arija18 Arija18 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 15

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    "Just because you're quiet

    or shy doesn't mean you're unimportant; The world's smallest violin still plays a sweeter melody than the worlds loudest explosion." -Beau Taplin.
    DropsofJupiter1 DropsofJupiter1 18-21, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    i hate being shy. I wish i was outgoing

    and loud. I even get shy when talking to new people. I panic. Although i have much improved, there is still a long way to go.
    AbdulRaheem123 AbdulRaheem123 18-21, M 2 Responses Jan 9, 2014

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    I hate some people at school they annoy me to

    much That call me names like sumo sage or biggie smalls it makes me so mad my brother makes me mad a lot to he beats me up all the time just two nights ago he crushed me he elbowed my chest I had to lift him off of me I never fight back I don't fight out of my kendo classes or...
    natsufairy12 natsufairy12 13-15, M 5 Responses Dec 5, 2014

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    I have big hips and a small waistline

    so whenever I wear certain outfits that compliment my figure someone compliments my figure or hips and I say thanks really awkwardly. then I freak out in my mind because it means they noticed me and looked at me long enough to analyze my features. and I panic more because it...
    tortress531 tortress531 18-21, F 5 Responses Dec 11, 2014

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    I really like this girl at work

    but she doesn't notice me. I don't know how to make her notice me,I always say that I'm going to do something but I can't. And I always see guys flirting with her and it really hurts that she doesn't even know I exist I just want the pain to go away
    ZackAb248 ZackAb248 13-15, M 2 Responses Jan 15

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    I am a shy, quiet, 57 year old male looking

    for a younger woman to exchange email with on an ongoing basis. Maybe eventually meet if we get tired of typing. I am kind and easy to talk to and also discreet. I am in the Ottawa, Ontario, Canada area. Drop me a line and lets get acquainted.
    seethruman seethruman 56-60, M Dec 26, 2014

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    and I hate it! sometimes I cant find a subject

    to talk about.. I can not develop deep friendships.. when I have alcohol talking is easier, actually everything is easier.. I want to be relax without taking alcohol but its not easy to change
    acinu acinu 26-30, F 5 Responses Jan 23, 2014

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    I'm like a little kid.

    I like to hide behind other people when someone I don't know is talking to me. Cuz I just get scared of strangers! People are scary to me! I'm a big scaredy cat... Mm that's why I talk so much online to people cuz they don't scare me~
    stinkypaws stinkypaws 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 3

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    I Am a Shy person In Real Life

    Yeah i am very very shy in real life. i have joined many groups on here as i am frustrated as i am suppressing my feelings and emotions and feel sad to be truthful. i have close friends who i trust which is good as i am not an extrovert at all. i like being amongst people that...
    deleted deleted 26-30 9 Responses Sep 1, 2012

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    I can't talk to strangers.

    I just can't. I start stuttering and speaking really softly to the point that every sentence I say, they ask "What?" It gets really embarrassing... I also hate using the phone or any type of video chat. I'd rather text that person than have to deal with the awkward silences...
    Redhy11 Redhy11 16-17, F 7 Responses Jul 28, 2014

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    I don't know why I am.

    .. or when I even started being shy.. I'm trying not to be so shy anymore now that it's a new year.
    ComplexLogic ComplexLogic 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 5

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    I'm extremely shy . But

    after awhile I finally decided to join the dance team .
    xxtina15 xxtina15 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 11

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    I am trying to over come my shyness.

    I have been for a while now and it has been working as I am feeling more open and able to talk to people. I am also trying to participate more in my daily activities even at my school. I just want to be able to get out more than I do..
    redbetblue2 redbetblue2 16-17, M 6 days ago

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    I am super shy around people.

    Doesn't matter whether I've known them forever or I've only just met them, it takes me a long time to get used to people and to be able to keep up a conversation. But this makes me feel like a horrible person when I have such trouble feeling comfortable around my boyfriend's...
    DarkCelestriaRose DarkCelestriaRose 16-17, F 2 Responses Dec 23, 2014

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    Rock The Shy!

    I enjoyed reading a lot of these experiences but I realized that being shy or introverted is seen as a weakness in society. But is it really? Being outgoing and extroverted is great but it shouldn't be seen as superior to someone who has the opposite characteristics. Yes, I am...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Oct 8, 2013

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    So I was doing a livescan

    for the beautiful girl! The way she looked at me the amount of time I purposely took just to hold her hand! Works at Land Rover! The way she looked at me! I was so red! I finally had the courage to ask for her number, I checked her hands for a ring, but she said she couldn't...
    Kevin444 Kevin444 18-21, M 3 Responses Dec 17, 2014

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    I am not really into horoscopes

    but some of them are very believable. Both my american (Cancer) and chinese (the Rabbit) zodiac tell me that i am timid and shy and what they say i can relate to. I like to wonder what makes me tick. Sometimes i believe that it was something in my childhood that made me this way...
    johnnykman johnnykman 13-15, M 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I may seem crazy on here

    but in real life I can be like a mute sometimes ._.
    NinjaKitteh1999 NinjaKitteh1999 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 20, 2014

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    Painfully...

    I always have been and I always will be...takes me a long while to loosen up around people, especially around people I admire and have respect for ! Sometimes I get so nervous before talking to someone that I have to rehearse ! Even here on EP, where pretty much anything goes I...
    phillyphan78 phillyphan78 31-35, F 46 Responses Feb 11, 2011

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    Except when I drink Tequila .

    .. Then I am NOT!! ;oP
    GingerGirl46 GingerGirl46 36-40, F 10 Responses Nov 19, 2014

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    LoneLegend LoneLegend 13-15, M 2 Responses Dec 10, 2014

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    I really am and it actually makes me mad

    sometimes because it has kept me from alot of different thngs
    gentlyyours707 gentlyyours707 18-21, F 4 Responses Oct 29, 2014

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    It may be cute to guys

    but being shy has it's cons. Most work places requires someone to be outgoing or a people person. I am outgoing when I get to know you more but at first I am shy and since I have been working I always get told something like " you can't be shy" It's a trait I am born with and...
    PetiteChica PetiteChica 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 10, 2014

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    I won't ever talk first to someone.

    That's just how I am ...
    oxxxmv oxxxmv 18-21, F 8 Responses Dec 22, 2013

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    Is it possible to be shy

    but outgoing at the same time? Like I "put a face on" to hide my shyness and I think people can tell it's forced.
    emiveritas emiveritas 18-21, F 5 Responses Aug 1, 2014

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    Can anyone relate? I can't wear shorts

    because they show my legs, I hate it. I don't wear short sleeved shirts because they show my arms, which I also hate. It was 30 degrees once and I was wearing a jacket pretending I wasn't sweltering at all. I hate hot holidays for then I have no choice and I feel pressured by...
    fatality500 fatality500 13-15, M 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    Ok so this is probley

    because i have no friends lol but when u first talk to me I'm super shy, very polite and kind... But once u get to know me I'm just some over the top tranny 😂 look up alyssa Edwards XD She's a drag queen, i act exactly like her lol XD
    Prettygirl345 Prettygirl345 18-21, T 2 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    I'm really shy until you get to know me.

    .. then I don't shut up ^.^
    RatxInxAxCage RatxInxAxCage 18-21, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Can I sing? Yes. Can I dance?

    Yes. Will anyone ever know that? No. I was shy since my early childhood, and my shyness has only increased since. Engaging in a conversation isn't easy, and when it comes to speaking in front of people ...I would rather die.
    LaurenJFisher LaurenJFisher 22-25 3 Responses Jan 2, 2014

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    Why Am I So Shy

    Hi, I am new here. I was always a shy child. My mother was extremely shy. This makes it difficult to connect with people. So this is where I think the social anxiety comes from. I always felt alone. Probably because I have a very small family. I was not emotionally connected to...
    Cassandra Cassandra 51-55, F 22 Responses Apr 10, 2007

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    people think im stuck up

    but i really am just shyyyy
    Heyababe Heyababe 18-21, F 4 Responses Nov 11, 2014

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    I've been trying over the past couple of months

    to change. I want to be able to make friends easily like most normal girls my age. I'm getting better at not being antisocial but I'm so damn awkward. I think way too much about what people think of me and it affects me daily. I just wish I could say **** it and be myself.
    ComplicatedGirl18 ComplicatedGirl18 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 19, 2014

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    And I hate it... I feel like it's restricting

    my life too much. I'm scared to be myself around new people like what if they don't like me so I just say nothing until I get more comfortable. I hope I could be social and bubbly right from the start but it just doesn't come naturally to me...
    Careisla Careisla 18-21, F 7 Responses Sep 30, 2014

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    So many people I know kept telling me to break

    out of it already... Well it's not that simple. Wish they can just understand. If not, I would like for them to just back off and give me more time to overcome it. I don't need impatient people in my life.. 😔
    SleepyRose22 SleepyRose22 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 18, 2014

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    A girl said I was cute today?

    It was after I scored a try in rugby in pe I just froze :/ my mind was like "say something u idiot!!!" But no I froze xD
    DeadGhost123 DeadGhost123 13-15, M Jan 5

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    Lil Shy Girl

    I am one of the shyest girl ever. Unless you are one of my closest friends, I am the type of girl to be standing in the ground. Looking at the ground curling my hair around my finger. I am not the type of girl who can write and write in a story. So sorry if my stories are short...
    AnisaRose AnisaRose 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 21, 2013