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    Is it possible to be shy

    but outgoing at the same time? Like I "put a face on" to hide my shyness and I think people can tell it's forced.
    emiveritas emiveritas 18-21, F 8 Responses Aug 1

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    TomasSC TomasSC 18-21, M 1 Response Sep 27

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    Why Am I So Shy

    Hi, I am new here. I was always a shy child. My mother was extremely shy. This makes it difficult to connect with people. So this is where I think the social anxiety comes from. I always felt alone. Probably because I have a very small family. I was not emotionally connected to...
    Cassandra Cassandra 51-55, F 22 Responses Apr 10, 2007

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    StraightShemale StraightShemale 18-21, T 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Painfully...

    I always have been and I always will be...takes me a long while to loosen up around people, especially around people I admire and have respect for ! Sometimes I get so nervous before talking to someone that I have to rehearse ! Even here on EP, where pretty much anything goes I...
    phillyphan78 phillyphan78 31-35, F 46 Responses Feb 11, 2011

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    mahdiraza mahdiraza 16-17, M 1 Response Oct 8

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    techlover91 techlover91 22-25, M 1 Response 18 hrs ago

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    Lil Shy Girl

    I am one of the shyest girl ever. Unless you are one of my closest friends, I am the type of girl to be standing in the ground. Looking at the ground curling my hair around my finger. I am not the type of girl who can write and write in a story. So sorry if my stories are short...
    AnisaRose AnisaRose 18-21, F 3 Responses Oct 21, 2013

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    I am shy. I have always been shy

    for a big part of my life. However, once you get to know me, my weird , funny, cheesy , part of me comes out. I guess im just shy when i dont know someone, but throughout the years i have improved. For instance, ive learned that if you like someone, don't just sit there and wait...
    iamjorge iamjorge 22-25, M 1 Response Jan 22

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    this is one of the reasons I join ep to see

    if it can help me overcome my shyness, especially when it comes to the opposite gender. I don't really know how to talk with girls so if their are any girls out there that would like to help me I would really appreciated.
    shadowdragon24 shadowdragon24 22-25, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    Biggbangg Biggbangg 16-17, M 2 Responses Aug 31

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    Why Are You So Quiet?

    I've had that type of question directed at me more times than i can count. Along with sarcastic remarks like "Shut up man", among others. I don't understand how people with good social skills don't get the fact that it bothers me when they say stuff like that. Especially my...
    JP1990 JP1990 22-25 5 Responses Jan 15, 2013

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    That socially awkward introverted geek standing

    by themselves in a party, fiddling with an iPhone...
    ThatAwkwardPanda ThatAwkwardPanda 13-15 2 Responses Jun 15

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    How come everything I think something is going

    right, things go wrong? Often, I want to make friends, I suddenly get a wave of fear and avoid breaking the ice? This has really been troubling me.
    JamesGrey19 JamesGrey19 18-21, M 1 Response Sep 24

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    I am such a shy person.

    When I first meet someone it's hard to make a conversation. I hardly speak of Im not spoken too and I hate it!
    imacoolguy14 imacoolguy14 16-17, M 1 Response Sep 26

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    Sense And Sensibility

    “I never wish to offend, but I am so foolishly shy, that I often seem negligent, when I am only kept back by my natural awkwardness ... Shyness is only the effect of a sense of inferiority in some way or other. If I could persuade myself that my manners were perfectly easy and...
    sciguy18 sciguy18 51-55, M 3 Responses Jul 25, 2012

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    Can I sing? Yes. Can I dance?

    Yes. Will anyone ever know that? No. I was shy since my early childhood, and my shyness has only increased since. Engaging in a conversation isn't easy, and when it comes to speaking in front of people ...I would rather die.
    LaurenJFisher LaurenJFisher 22-25 3 Responses Jan 2

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    Almost Too Shy to Do This

    I'm so shy that even writing on here anonymously is a little scary for me. I hate when people tell me "You don't need to be shy" or "Stop being shy" because if I could turn it off like a lightswitch, i would have done so ages ago. This is the first story i've...
    aprilrain47 aprilrain47 21-25, F 6 Responses Aug 11, 2007

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    I won't ever talk first to someone.

    That's just how I am ...
    oxxxmv oxxxmv 16-17, F 8 Responses Dec 22, 2013

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    I've spent my high school years like a

    pessimist, not caring about my grades, people, and just plain anything. I always have problems when meeting new people. Even if someone says "hello" to me while I'm taking a walk or something, it's like I curl up in my imaginary bubble and freeze not knowing what to say. All...
    ProfessorBrad ProfessorBrad 18-21, M 1 Response Oct 1

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    I have this friend and she is a girl

    and we play around all the time but idk should I say that I like her or something idk what I should do though ._. .-.
    AdrianTooNice AdrianTooNice 13-15, M Sep 2

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    I honestly believe no one is

    as shy as me. I refuse to wear shorts because they show my legs and I panic because I don't like my body to be shown, same goes for shirts. My arms are skinny and I hate it. It was 30 degrees and I was wearing a jacket and pretending it wasn't hot. That's also why I try avoid...
    fatality500 fatality500 13-15, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Many people think I'm really confident

    but I'm actually really shy. Especially with guys I like or I think are cute. I act confident but I'm really freaking out inside and wanna hide.
    beautifulc0nfessions beautifulc0nfessions 18-21, F 8 Responses Mar 1

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    Frankly, I am sort of shy

    when first approach anyone. I will force myself to be a extrovert, many of my friends will ask me if I have makeup on my cheeks (because I blush so often..) I dislike my soft voice, although some say it is a boon to have tremulously sweet voice, I think it as a bane of my...
    Driftingminds Driftingminds 16-17, F Aug 20

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    It'S Getting Worse

    I've been shy since childhood. It's weird... I have a strong personality and I can be extremely friendly... But I get awfully nervous when I meet new people or when I'm in crowded places. I really hate when I have to attend to big meetings or when I need to take my kids to a...
    anonimacy anonimacy 36-40, F 7 Responses Jun 9, 2013

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    And I hate it... I feel like it's restricting

    my life too much. I'm scared to be myself around new people like what if they don't like me so I just say nothing until I get more comfortable. I hope I could be social and bubbly right from the start but it just doesn't come naturally to me...
    Careisla Careisla 18-21, F 8 Responses Sep 30

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    I have always been a quiet girl.

    People would always ask me why I was so quiet. I didn't even know myself so I would just either shrug, or say I don't know. In recent months I have just accepted that I was a quiet person so I would instead tell them when they ask that I am just a quiet person, I'd rather listen...
    Nisha303 Nisha303 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 25

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    I Am Very Shy

    I am really shy...It takes me a while to open up to people..but when i open up im really cool to be around..and very funny. The only people im very open around are my boyfriend, my bestfriend and thats really about it. I get super anxious and nervous because im afraid of what...
    Angelwithbrokenwingsxo Angelwithbrokenwingsxo 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 31, 2013

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    LifeBeingCereal LifeBeingCereal 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 6

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    and I hate it! sometimes I cant find a subject

    to talk about.. I can not develop deep friendships.. when I have alcohol talking is easier, actually everything is easier.. I want to be relax without taking alcohol but its not easy to change
    acinu acinu 26-30, F 5 Responses Jan 23

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    I need a large sun hat.

    As long as I can't see anyone, I'm calm. An overcoat or two. Maybe I'm hiding my scars?
    thelookinglass thelookinglass 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 21

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    I never really liked to start a conversation.

    I dont like to start a convo on here. I really just wait until they start it first. I wouldnt know if they are mean or racist. And i'm scared of rejection. I had people block me already for no apparent reason
    xxxfakerhaterxxx xxxfakerhaterxxx 13-15, M 3 Responses Sep 6

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    I may seem crazy on here

    but in real life I can be like a mute sometimes ._.
    NinjaKitteh1999 NinjaKitteh1999 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 20

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    But, I have been working on this.

    I have recently started making a few friends at a new college and it's good to have people to talk with and have things in common :)
    cec0692 cec0692 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 29

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    I have always been a shy person .

    I am not the kind of person to open up easily. I hope that I am able to share more of myself through this site and find people I can relate to. So if anyone wants to learn about me do not hesitate to message me.
    younggrasshoppar younggrasshoppar 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 15

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    I am really shy. No doubt about.

    I am very shy towards friends and teachers in general. Once I get to know you, i can talk and express myself more easily. But, if its the first time I've seen you, the most I could do is force myself to smile awkwardly and wave a stiff and quick hi.
    xxxfakerhaterxxx xxxfakerhaterxxx 13-15, M 1 Response Sep 19

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    In person I am actually very reserved.

    I don't open up easily and tend to look for cues to figure out the other person.
    Booksaremypassion Booksaremypassion 41-45, F 1 Response Feb 1

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    I am shy but once you start talking to me then

    I become less shy and more fun
    D3fau1THack3R D3fau1THack3R 18-21, M Aug 24

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    i hate being shy. I wish i was outgoing

    and loud. I even get shy when talking to new people. I panic. Although i have much improved, there is still a long way to go.
    AbdulRaheem123 AbdulRaheem123 18-21, M 2 Responses Jan 9

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    I don't talk to people much.

    I only talk to my coworkers or classmates when they ask me something, and then its only a couple of words. I talk with my roommate the most but thats not much. When I'm not working or in class I spend most of my time in my room. I love EP and other sites because I can...
    EllieMarieM EllieMarieM 18-21, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I don't like to talk to strangers,

    especially girls and women. I feel like they are constantly judging me and will talk behind my back, so I never speak in public places. I have very low self-confidence, I never go to parties and I never go to a hair salon because I feel intimidated by beautiful confident people...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Apr 19

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    I find it really hard to talk to someone in

    person, but when I talk to someone online I feel like I've just made a new friend!
    BeChiBaChan BeChiBaChan 16-17, F 2 Responses Feb 13

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    I'm extremely shy, and apparently shyness isn't

    good if you're someone in my area. I have always been shy for as long as I can remember. I am a friendly person who takes a while to warm to new people so in the meantime I'm usually trying to get to know the person. My shynesss often keeps me from talking to people. I like...
    Lovelife090994 Lovelife090994 18-21, M 4 Responses May 25

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    I am having problems talking to people,

    i just cant seem to do it. I have always been shy and found it hard to be around people. I stayed away from social interaction for many years through from 8-15 i am 16 now and i am paying the price in a big way. I try and try but my mind goes blank. I have a friend who is fairly...
    PeaceAndCalm PeaceAndCalm 16-17, M 1 Response Oct 6

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    Hi I'm Matt, 28 from london.

    I don't know where to start but for the last couple of years my shyness and social anxiety has really affected me, I usually think about it every 5 mins even when sitting at home. It's got really bad recently, last week I had to go and see my boss in his office to get paid, the...
    jomato28 jomato28 26-30, M 3 Responses Feb 16

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    I can't talk to strangers.

    I just can't. I start stuttering and speaking really softly to the point that every sentence I say, they ask "What?" It gets really embarrassing... I also hate using the phone or any type of video chat. I'd rather text that person than have to deal with the awkward silences...
    Redhy11 Redhy11 16-17, F 7 Responses Jul 28

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    I am.. Probably too much.

    I don't talk at school, I don't socialize, I don't have many friends, really none. Just one guy friend but we don't really hangout he occasionally talks to me. I don't really talk with my family either. My room is my sanctuary. I stay in my room and when I go out I don't talk to...
    wedgieshurtalot wedgieshurtalot 16-17, F 3 Responses Oct 8

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    Boys Are The Problem!!!!!

    I've had this very strange problem of shying when it comes to communicating with men. I frequently shy away from interacting with boys even if it is needed. i dont know why but i get nervous. And sometimes even if i try to interact with them , i get confused. i become...
    hiddentears hiddentears 22-25, F 8 Responses May 21, 2010

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    Rock The Shy!

    I enjoyed reading a lot of these experiences but I realized that being shy or introverted is seen as a weakness in society. But is it really? Being outgoing and extroverted is great but it shouldn't be seen as superior to someone who has the opposite characteristics. Yes, I am...
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    I may not have the courage to say how i feel

    most of the time, but i hope i find it one day. Hopefully then i wont be sin
    Theguy0298 Theguy0298 16-17, M 1 Response Sep 20

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    I'm a really shy guy,

    especially when it comes to women. Whenever I try to talk and have a conversation with someone, I start to freeze and get nervous. Then I start to get hot and I begin to sweat and my heart begins to race. Depending on how severe it is, I sometimes may begin to stutter as well...
    SgtRecker97 SgtRecker97 16-17, M 2 Responses Aug 29

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    I Hate Being Shy...

    I work at a fast food place, so it is out of my comfort zone... My coworkers were laughing at me because I couldn't get myself to yell for one of the managers... I feel awful about it, I wish they would understand that I just can't get myself to yell in front of other people...
    sailingtonowhere sailingtonowhere 18-21, F 4 Responses Aug 29, 2013

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    I am so shy and my boyfriend tells me to be

    more social but he doesn't understand that other people aren't as social as he is.
    jojojojo207 jojojojo207 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 23

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    I Am a Shy person In Real Life

    Yeah i am very very shy in real life. i have joined many groups on here as i am frustrated as i am suppressing my feelings and emotions and feel sad to be truthful. i have close friends who i trust which is good as i am not an extrovert at all. i like being amongst people that...
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