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I Am Sick of Being the Expendable Friend

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    Until I got to high school,

    I was the one weird kid that kept to herself unless approached or included, was picked on frequently, and when my "friends" and I parted ways, I never heard from them again. High school brought me solace with a handful of friends that I finally could connect and confide with...
    pellifeathers pellifeathers 18-21, F Feb 1

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    I'm Sick of Having to O...

    I'm sick of having to offer my "friends" money 2 weeks in advance if I need a ride somewhere to have them not show up the whole time I need them, when they just go ahead and feel free to call me anytime day or night when they need ANYTHING and they can usually expect it...
    whippingirl whippingirl 22-25 2 Responses Nov 1, 2008

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    Oh No, Don't Worry About Me.. I Have No Feelings

    I don't even know where to start, honestly. Being expendable is something I think I've grown used to. It's sad to say that but it's true. For as long as I can remember that's exactly what I've been and it's not always just 'friends'. I'm a kind, caring person.. it's just my...
    OnlyAnOption OnlyAnOption 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 13, 2010

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    Rag

    Somehow I emerge as an expendable friend to people. No, not to the core of my circle but there are others who will happily block me in a moment. Not that I try to get wrapped up in them because at times it is a lack of compatibility but I've been blocked for almost no reason at...
    deleted deleted 26-30 11 Responses Feb 14, 2010

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    No I Am Not A Dog

    Most of my friends treat me like I'm someone who can simply stand-in for their other friends while those friends are not present. Now, I have an extremely strange and esoteric sense of humour, and due to my bipolar and schizophrenia I tend to be a very bubbling, cheery person...
    arlequinfou arlequinfou 16-17, M Apr 25, 2010

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    EXpendable Everything

    Apparently a Conversation is too much to ask unless you want to do all the talking Apparently I'm of no use unless I'm around to listen to all your problems Apparently i have to track you down you never seek me out I know i am what i am and why- what the hell is your problem...
    tulick tulick 31-35, F 10 Responses Aug 11, 2008

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    Like the Sweater You Got For Christmas

    To my "frineds" I guess I'm like that really awful sweater your aunt gets you for christmas. You know you'll never wear it unless your aunt is around, so you throw it in the back of your closet and only dig it up for your aunts sake. I am that sweater. I...
    netgurl netgurl 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 22, 2009

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    Both Ways

    Each day I am reminded of the person I am... enthusiastic and generous. Recently I discovered a crime that was committed by a girl who was supposed to be my best friend. I found out she stole from me, clothing and perfume... possibly to cover up her constant body odor... I gave...
    ibstraange ibstraange 18-21 2 Responses May 1, 2012

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    The "spare" friend

    For so long every person I could count as a friend always used me as the "spare."  I can't count the number of times I have been talking with someone and they cut themselves off midword and left to go talk with someone else.  When someone else came along I would always...
    belowtheradar belowtheradar 18-21 4 Responses Dec 1, 2010

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    Invisible

    I feel invisible most days… There will always be someone prettier, smarter, funnier.... someone new who will stroke your ego....someone who has more to offer you then i do. I will give you all of me…we will laugh together and cry together…. but as soon as someone...
    deleted deleted 26-30 12 Responses Jan 22, 2013

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    "extra" Friend

    I started college last year and I have a small group of friends. At the begining of last year it was fine. We hung out and did everything together. But, as the year progressed, I started to feel like I was being closed out. Since they lived next door and I lived down the hall, I...
    ACdancer8 ACdancer8 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 8, 2011

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    Why Aren't Sidewalks Wide Enough ~ Sincerely, The Friend Who Walks Behind~

    I don't even know if I have real friends, like I'm not alone, but I am lonely. I feel as if I'm just there, not really conversing or anything. I feel like an ornament, I'm only there because no one else will stand my existence. I am year 9, this means that I'm 15, I am not your...
    notthegardenEden notthegardenEden 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 16, 2013

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    Yes!

    I am so sick of friends not being there for me or being immpossible to get a hold of when I need them the most. But yet I am always there no matte what, no questions asked no matter how they treated me in the past. I am really really tired of it. :(
    littleroo littleroo 26-30, F Feb 1, 2008

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    I Have Had This Problem Wit...

    I have had this problem with many people who have claimed to be my friend, so I have left behind a few friends who I dont bother with any more, the few I have left from the million I had are really important to me.
    rosygal rosygal 46-50, F 2 Responses Nov 1, 2008

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    I Do Everything In a Friendshi...

    I do everything in a friendship, but I am usually the first dumped.
    turtlemusic28 turtlemusic28 26-30, F 1 Response May 17, 2008

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    Oh Yes So Very True....

    Just like what it says..I wish I was as invisible as you make me feel.....Done with me and place me back on the shelf....Not only friends even families do that too.... 
    lexuslourve lexuslourve 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 14, 2011

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    Forever It Seems

    Socrates was forced into a premature death because the people of the world particularly in his city-state were unable to understand him. As I grow older and do not see how I can radically change my life it seems I have to accept trying to live in the footsteps of great thinkers...
    startingpointguard33 startingpointguard33 26-30, M 2 Responses Jan 2, 2013

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    It Is the Story of My Life

    I was always the expendable friend. I was the one everybody could count on, and I was the one they would hangout with....when there wasnt something better to do. My friendships were always "give and take"....I gave, they took. I spent many a lonely time when I needed a...
    IndyJoe IndyJoe 41-45, M 7 Responses Aug 11, 2008

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    Abused Friendship

    i have a friend from my group who, i guess, is making me the expendable friend... she is a social climber and wants to be better than me,,, she is so insecure of me,,, everytime she is out of her allowance she calls her mom for support that i would let her borrow money... and so...
    firecrescent firecrescent 16-17 Oct 25, 2008

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    I Hate How They Treat Me

    I've noticed over the past 3 years that I am the least talked to out of my friends. It bothers me that there are some people who get all of the attention every day. I have several friends like that and I don't think they know that some people are hurt by it. I don't think that...
    TheDarknessFeelsSoWrong TheDarknessFeelsSoWrong 16-17, F 2 Responses Nov 13, 2011

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    Something Needs To Change

       Something neeeds to change!  I am so tired of being the "nice", expendable friend. The one that supposedly understands when you step on them or gets left out. The one that is there every time you call and need to chat or complain, but the same cant be returned...
    Percheron Percheron 41-45, M Apr 3, 2010

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    Expendable

    And I'm so tired of it!  Granted not all of my friends make me feel this way, but at the same time a lot of them do. I feel like they only want to talk to/sped time with me when it's convenient and others just make me feel like they tolerate me for one reason or another. I...
    MirandaJMaddox MirandaJMaddox 26-30, F 5 Responses Jul 29, 2007

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    Expendable Until The End.

    Tonight, I'm sitting here thinking about my life and all of the friendships I have seen end. I can honestly say that I don't understand why people put such little value on the type of friendship I offer, since I've been searching for it my whole life. I give anything and...
    jstatea jstatea 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 28, 2013

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    Alone

    i thought she would be there for me always but.  she turned out to be the same as everyone else...she left and she has made all the excuses she can she is the last person i will trust like that i would rather be stone than be shattered like that again
    easyMac easyMac 18-21 1 Response Aug 10, 2008

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    I Am Here For You And Need To Be Here For Me

    I have many acquaintances and very few friends.  I seem like a very social person, when in reality I am very private.  I pretend to be a tough girl, but am extremely sensitive.  When I finally decide to let you into my life it actually means something.  Just...
    natashamarie natashamarie 41-45, F 3 Responses May 14, 2010

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    I Hate It When You Are Nice...

    I hate it when you are nice and giving to alot of people and all they want is to use you. I hate being used.
    firestarterfairy firestarterfairy 22-25, F May 18, 2008

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    It isn't a new thing,

    meaning it's happened more than once. I've found that in group ventures I am the expendable friend. My friend (let's call her Lucy for now) invited me to a party thing last week that was supposed to be today. Last night I asked her about it and she forgot about it entirely...
    emotionalapathetic emotionalapathetic 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 3

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    I'm Sick of It.

    I am always willing to do anything for a friend.  I always try and go out of my way to help them, and show them that i care and that they can trust me.  But i don't see anyone else doing the same for me.  Maybe i'm just not seeing it, but i've been ill with...
    denialsworld denialsworld 18-21, F May 24, 2008

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    sick is not the word I was use at this moment,

    it's more than that. I hate it.
    EchoesInTwistedMeadows EchoesInTwistedMeadows 22-25 Oct 3

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    Fml I Shall Say

    ....and there are many. i thought she was the person whom i can trusted and shared everything with. she was alright and not once i never believed her. when she needed me, i am always there for her, when she cried, when she wasn't feeling so great, when she was down. i always try...
    LovelessAdvocate LovelessAdvocate 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 18, 2010

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    I was a bad friend to someone who was there for me when I needed her. To some extent she was troubled, I had been there for her before during her times of trouble, and I started to...
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    I talk to a lot of people who have the potential of being my friends, but they always push past my comfort zone. Like on the first day of talking, they like to ask for pictures and...
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    Kavy 'Kavedog' is the best ever I thank her for being a friend she is probably the best person I have never actually met
    Kampion Kampion 18-21, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Something I wrote to him, although I didn't send it. Thank you. I have a lot of things to thank you for. Thank you for showing me how to love and supposedly be "loved". Thank...
    weightingforhappiness weightingforhappiness 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 2

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    I refuse to tell my family when I'm sick.. After 6th grade I never stayed home from school sick. In my mind, being sick is being weak & I can't let my family see my weak.. Idk why...
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    Out of immense interest for designing spaces i had been pleading to my parents to enroll me to an Architectural school right from when i passed my secondary schooling but alas...
    Designerxox Designerxox 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 17

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    Feel guilty all the time for not having a job. I am disabled, but that should not be an excuse. My rent was increased by 60 dollars. I got scared of being poor, so I applied for...
    confessing confessing 46-50, F Oct 10

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    Man this is like the 4th time I get sick... Hate it just wish it would go away,the only good thing is I don't have to go to school :) but I won't see my friends :(
    Amnesia97 Amnesia97 16-17, F 1 Response Oct 17

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