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I Am Sick of Being the Expendable Friend

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    I Do Everything In a Friendshi...

    I do everything in a friendship, but I am usually the first dumped.
    turtlemusic28 turtlemusic28 26-30, F 1 Response May 17, 2008

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    It Is the Story of My Life

    I was always the expendable friend. I was the one everybody could count on, and I was the one they would hangout with....when there wasnt something better to do. My friendships were always "give and take"....I gave, they took. I spent many a lonely time when I needed a...
    IndyJoe IndyJoe 41-45, M 7 Responses Aug 11, 2008

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    Oh No, Don't Worry About Me.. I Have No Feelings

    I don't even know where to start, honestly. Being expendable is something I think I've grown used to. It's sad to say that but it's true. For as long as I can remember that's exactly what I've been and it's not always just 'friends'. I'm a kind, caring person.. it's just my...
    OnlyAnOption OnlyAnOption 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 13, 2010

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    Why Aren't Sidewalks Wide Enough ~ Sincerely, The Friend Who Walks Behind~

    I don't even know if I have real friends, like I'm not alone, but I am lonely. I feel as if I'm just there, not really conversing or anything. I feel like an ornament, I'm only there because no one else will stand my existence. I am year 9, this means that I'm 15, I am not your...
    notthegardenEden notthegardenEden 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 16, 2013

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    Both Ways

    Each day I am reminded of the person I am... enthusiastic and generous. Recently I discovered a crime that was committed by a girl who was supposed to be my best friend. I found out she stole from me, clothing and perfume... possibly to cover up her constant body odor... I gave...
    ibstraange ibstraange 18-21 2 Responses May 1, 2012

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    Oh Yes So Very True....

    Just like what it says..I wish I was as invisible as you make me feel.....Done with me and place me back on the shelf....Not only friends even families do that too.... 
    lexuslourve lexuslourve 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 14, 2011

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    Rag

    Somehow I emerge as an expendable friend to people. No, not to the core of my circle but there are others who will happily block me in a moment. Not that I try to get wrapped up in them because at times it is a lack of compatibility but I've been blocked for almost no reason at...
    deleted deleted 26-30 11 Responses Feb 14, 2010

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    EXpendable Everything

    Apparently a Conversation is too much to ask unless you want to do all the talking Apparently I'm of no use unless I'm around to listen to all your problems Apparently i have to track you down you never seek me out I know i am what i am and why- what the hell is your problem...
    tulick tulick 31-35, F 10 Responses Aug 11, 2008

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    I Hate How They Treat Me

    I've noticed over the past 3 years that I am the least talked to out of my friends. It bothers me that there are some people who get all of the attention every day. I have several friends like that and I don't think they know that some people are hurt by it. I don't think that...
    TheDarknessFeelsSoWrong TheDarknessFeelsSoWrong 16-17, F 2 Responses Nov 13, 2011

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    Fml I Shall Say

    ....and there are many. i thought she was the person whom i can trusted and shared everything with. she was alright and not once i never believed her. when she needed me, i am always there for her, when she cried, when she wasn't feeling so great, when she was down. i always try...
    LovelessAdvocate LovelessAdvocate 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 18, 2010

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    The "spare" friend

    For so long every person I could count as a friend always used me as the "spare."  I can't count the number of times I have been talking with someone and they cut themselves off midword and left to go talk with someone else.  When someone else came along I would always...
    belowtheradar belowtheradar 18-21 4 Responses Dec 1, 2010

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    Something Needs To Change

       Something neeeds to change!  I am so tired of being the "nice", expendable friend. The one that supposedly understands when you step on them or gets left out. The one that is there every time you call and need to chat or complain, but the same cant be returned...
    Percheron Percheron 41-45, M Apr 3, 2010

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    Like the Sweater You Got For Christmas

    To my "frineds" I guess I'm like that really awful sweater your aunt gets you for christmas. You know you'll never wear it unless your aunt is around, so you throw it in the back of your closet and only dig it up for your aunts sake. I am that sweater. I...
    netgurl netgurl 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 22, 2009

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    Forever It Seems

    Socrates was forced into a premature death because the people of the world particularly in his city-state were unable to understand him. As I grow older and do not see how I can radically change my life it seems I have to accept trying to live in the footsteps of great thinkers...
    startingpointguard33 startingpointguard33 26-30, M 2 Responses Jan 2, 2013

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    Invisible

    I feel invisible most days… There will always be someone prettier, smarter, funnier.... someone new who will stroke your ego....someone who has more to offer you then i do. I will give you all of me…we will laugh together and cry together…. but as soon as someone...
    deleted deleted 26-30 12 Responses Jan 22, 2013

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    "extra" Friend

    I started college last year and I have a small group of friends. At the begining of last year it was fine. We hung out and did everything together. But, as the year progressed, I started to feel like I was being closed out. Since they lived next door and I lived down the hall, I...
    ACdancer8 ACdancer8 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 8, 2011

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    Until I got to high school,

    I was the one weird kid that kept to herself unless approached or included, was picked on frequently, and when my "friends" and I parted ways, I never heard from them again. High school brought me solace with a handful of friends that I finally could connect and confide with...
    pellifeathers pellifeathers 18-21, F Feb 1, 2014

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    sick is not the word I was use at this moment,

    it's more than that. I hate it.
    EchoesInTwistedMeadows EchoesInTwistedMeadows 22-25 Oct 3, 2014

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    I Have Had This Problem Wit...

    I have had this problem with many people who have claimed to be my friend, so I have left behind a few friends who I dont bother with any more, the few I have left from the million I had are really important to me.
    rosygal rosygal 46-50, F 2 Responses Nov 1, 2008

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    Alone

    i thought she would be there for me always but.  she turned out to be the same as everyone else...she left and she has made all the excuses she can she is the last person i will trust like that i would rather be stone than be shattered like that again
    easyMac easyMac 18-21 1 Response Aug 10, 2008

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    Yes!

    I am so sick of friends not being there for me or being immpossible to get a hold of when I need them the most. But yet I am always there no matte what, no questions asked no matter how they treated me in the past. I am really really tired of it. :(
    littleroo littleroo 26-30, F Feb 1, 2008

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    I'm Sick of It.

    I am always willing to do anything for a friend.  I always try and go out of my way to help them, and show them that i care and that they can trust me.  But i don't see anyone else doing the same for me.  Maybe i'm just not seeing it, but i've been ill with...
    denialsworld denialsworld 18-21, F May 24, 2008

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    Abused Friendship

    i have a friend from my group who, i guess, is making me the expendable friend... she is a social climber and wants to be better than me,,, she is so insecure of me,,, everytime she is out of her allowance she calls her mom for support that i would let her borrow money... and so...
    firecrescent firecrescent 16-17 Oct 25, 2008

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    What if Ive done everything you're suppose to

    to feel for filled and its not enough. Volunteering, a job working with elementary kids, college, good grades, being a kind, silly, relatable person. The text book version for happiness is my life. But what if that isn't enough? i cant find meaning in my life. Other than my...
    jcbinns jcbinns 18-21, F Dec 5, 2014

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    Expendable

    And I'm so tired of it!  Granted not all of my friends make me feel this way, but at the same time a lot of them do. I feel like they only want to talk to/sped time with me when it's convenient and others just make me feel like they tolerate me for one reason or another. I...
    MirandaJMaddox MirandaJMaddox 26-30, F 5 Responses Jul 29, 2007

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    It isn't a new thing,

    meaning it's happened more than once. I've found that in group ventures I am the expendable friend. My friend (let's call her Lucy for now) invited me to a party thing last week that was supposed to be today. Last night I asked her about it and she forgot about it entirely...
    emotionalapathetic emotionalapathetic 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 3, 2014

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    I Am Here For You And Need To Be Here For Me

    I have many acquaintances and very few friends.  I seem like a very social person, when in reality I am very private.  I pretend to be a tough girl, but am extremely sensitive.  When I finally decide to let you into my life it actually means something.  Just...
    natashamarie natashamarie 41-45, F 3 Responses May 14, 2010

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    I'm Sick of Having to O...

    I'm sick of having to offer my "friends" money 2 weeks in advance if I need a ride somewhere to have them not show up the whole time I need them, when they just go ahead and feel free to call me anytime day or night when they need ANYTHING and they can usually expect it...
    whippingirl whippingirl 22-25 3 Responses Nov 1, 2008

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    I Hate It When You Are Nice...

    I hate it when you are nice and giving to alot of people and all they want is to use you. I hate being used.
    firestarterfairy firestarterfairy 22-25, F May 18, 2008

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    No I Am Not A Dog

    Most of my friends treat me like I'm someone who can simply stand-in for their other friends while those friends are not present. Now, I have an extremely strange and esoteric sense of humour, and due to my bipolar and schizophrenia I tend to be a very bubbling, cheery person...
    arlequinfou arlequinfou 16-17, M Apr 25, 2010

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    Expendable Until The End.

    Tonight, I'm sitting here thinking about my life and all of the friendships I have seen end. I can honestly say that I don't understand why people put such little value on the type of friendship I offer, since I've been searching for it my whole life. I give anything and...
    jstatea jstatea 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 28, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    i'm tired of being that friend that is alway's there for you and listens to all your problems and in return gets ignorned when i have a problem or need help end vent :)
    sefphera sefphera 22-25, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Stop sending me perverted messages. No I am not interested in having a conversation with you. No I am not interested in being in your circle NOR BEING YOUR FRIEND. THIS IS SIMPLE...
    candyblu candyblu 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 2

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    It's been a more than a year when this incident happened. I had a friend (she wasn't that close or anything, just in between an acquaintance to being a friend). She calls me...
    VVmommy VVmommy 26-30, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    If I do have any friends I would say at most two,but at times I'm even unsure I'm of them being my friend.Because with one of them I over think and always think I do something...
    wassup305 wassup305 16-17, F Dec 31, 2014

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    I'm trying so hard to end this in a way where we don't end up hating each other. After everything we've been through, and how close we were, it's the only respectable way. Katie, I...
    Twichl Twichl 18-21, F Jan 10

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    She moved hundreds of miles away to Minnesota 3 years ago. I thought it was going to be one of those situations where they move and you guys lose touch, but that never happened...
    AjLeePunk AjLeePunk 22-25, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    Sometimes being a friend means mastering the art of timing. There is a time for silence. A time to let go and allow people to hurl themselves into their own destiny. And a time to...
    tiya78 tiya78 26-30, F Jan 12

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    Sometimes being a friend means mastering the art of timing. There is a time for silence. A time to let go and allow people to hurl themselves into their own destiny. And a time to...
    ImRaven ImRaven 66-70, M Jan 21

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    brand new to this... need to vent. I am prepared and well aware I may sound terrible, but please keep mean comments to a minimum.. I want to correct and fix this, not feel worse...
    janean2008 janean2008 22-25, F 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    I feel like I get compared to my brother a lot, especially when we have cousins or friends of my parents come over. They compliment my brother a lot on how GOOD he is at sports...
    DrowningInRed DrowningInRed 13-15, F 5 hrs ago

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    More accurately I am losing two. I have a male best friend who I've been close to for three years, and his girlfriend of a year I've been close to for most of that year. And I'm...
    Paperboyc Paperboyc 18-21, M 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    Like I received a message from a nice friend of ours, me and all the fellas care so much about him, he is from a real rich and respected family, they help people as much as they...
    Angelarenaldford Angelarenaldford 18-21, F 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    I have the friends I grew up with still in my life. I have the friends I worked with. We send each other gifts or cards, we text and will always stay in touch. But miles have...
    rowenbumble rowenbumble 56-60, F 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    Ever since middle school I've been called fat. Everyone calls me fat. I'm so sick of it. I know I'm overweight all right? You don't have to remind me of it. Don't add me if you're...
    londonlover94 londonlover94 18-21, F 5 hrs ago

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    Realy need more girls, i'm sick of all these perv
    chantaldekkers chantaldekkers 13-15, F 2 hrs ago

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    A coworker of mine had a heart attack last night and is on life support. No brain activity, so she is probably going to die today, clinically she already is. It was the end of her...
    Einwulf Einwulf 26-30, M 1 hr ago

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    For now, I don't want to be in a serious relationship because all that seems to do is cause stress and bad feelings. Being single, I am free to date anyone I want without the drama...
    Cherilyn16 Cherilyn16 18-21, F 1 hr ago

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    I'm sick of always messing things up when everything seems to be going good. I'm sick of having to be the one that lets his loved ones down. I'm sick of seeing my friends get...
    Johnnyky Johnnyky 18-21 Jan 11

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