I Am Sick of Being Told to Forget the Past

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    Few things that annoy me the title depicts one

    of them. Being told to get over life issues big or small past or current like "yeah those visions you see every day yeah just ignore those" umm no? or similarly being told to stop doing something like its that easy to just stop "why can't you just stop cutting" "why can't you...
    polarbearlove polarbearlove
    18-21, F
    May 30, 2015

    Yeah. It's easy for someone to tell someone to

    forget about the past. Lemme just go into my mind, take out every memory, turn it into paper form, stick it in a filing cabinet, and save it for a later time, like they did in that episode of SpongeBob. :D Oh wait, my life isn't a cartoon... my bad.
    PsychGirl94 PsychGirl94
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Jan 3, 2015

    "get Over It, Already..."

    The most heartless thing anyone can say, completely insensitive and lacking in compassion.
    deleted deleted
    5 Responses Sep 19, 2012

    i don't want to forget the past .

    . i just want to get over the pain, the memories, to make my life easier and better.. ppl keep telling me.to forget the past .. to move on .. and i literaly hate it .. it's damn difficult to get over the memories ..those moments which once meant the world me . the reason of my...
    sahar000 sahar000
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jul 15, 2015

    The past is past but there are crucial moments

    that should not be dismissed.
    Maybeincubus Maybeincubus
    26-30, M
    Jan 2, 2016

    The past is full of experiences.

    Some that are extremely precious to me. Some that are better left forgotten. My past is basically what makes me who I am today. It's also what comes to haunt me in regards of my social life. I can't just let it go or forget about it..
    TheMasterMan1 TheMasterMan1
    18-21, M
    Mar 10, 2016

    I Refuse To Simply Forget

    *The Past*........my past, my choices, my life decisions, my exes....all these choices I made, whether they're deemed good or bad, have formed me into who I am today... I refuse to forget the past....it's an integral part of me... But I don't think that's what he means when he...
    NotHisBabydoll NotHisBabydoll
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Feb 2, 2013

    if I hear that I life

    now from the past or a future not yet foiled I might just vomit. simply let me play and love life. life is a correlation of past,present and future. if you live in just one then you miss the opportunity that change your future. I feel that you need aspects from all to fully be...
    bigheartsmallworld bigheartsmallworld
    36-40, M
    Aug 23, 2015

    for most of my life I was told to forget my past

    and move on, and I never could, my past was horrible, every day of it. know one in my family understood what I had been through, they just labeled me as the crazy one, the one who would never succeed. there reactions made me rebell, I just wanted to be heard and understood, but...
    wssj wssj
    41-45, F
    Jul 14, 2015

    My past makes me who I am today.

    I have had many awful experiences occur throughout my life, and while I haven't forgiven all of those involved, I have forgiven many. Yet I'm told I need to forgive so I can move on. Move on to what? Why do I need to forgive when those who have hurt me believe they did nothing...
    GlitterCheeks GlitterCheeks
    31-35, F
    1 Response Aug 22, 2015

    the past is the best.

    it clears my now to create a future full of possibilities. I can do anything now because I had a past. my now is dependent on what I do tomorrow to create my past. I control it all everything. choose is my key and how I rule my life. no looking back just remembering where I am...
    bigheartsmallworld bigheartsmallworld
    36-40, M
    Sep 20, 2015

    My past is memorable

    and sad i dont want to forget what made me me.
    justDlight justDlight
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Jul 15, 2015

    honestly I hate people saying this it's easier

    said than done sometimes memories just come and stay there it's annoying enough so then people start saying this like Wth I'm honestly trying
    sadmistak3 sadmistak3
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jan 4, 2015
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    1 Response Jun 1, 2015

    I can't forget the past.

    My past is still in my present
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Aug 26, 2015

    u will never forget the past,

    that is what make who u r
    luixa luixa
    46-50, T
    1 Response Jul 14, 2015

    I learn from the past.

    . . However I feel the more people tell me to forget it, the more it haunts me like a ghost who will not ask for directions to the pearly gate. The past is in the past. . . it is a bucket of ashes. . . move on. . . try not to make the same mistake twice.
    RebekahWriter13 RebekahWriter13
    31-35, F
    1 Response Mar 10, 2016

    Where The Past Walks

    "I am told to have the past behind me.  I am told to have the future beyond reach.  Despite it is I have the past parallel to me, so I may reflect upon it and that I have the future besides me so I may see where I am walking to."
    XxJamberxX XxJamberxX
    18-21, F
    Jul 8, 2010
    Beyond13Birthday Beyond13Birthday
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Oct 20, 2015

    There's some things that can't be forgotten.

    Some things stay with you forever and affect who you are.
    iLucyJ iLucyJ
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 26, 2016

    I have done some things in my past

    which I regret. I want to forget it but the present doesn't let me do that. I can't go back in the past and change it. I feel like crying. I want to talk to someone and tell them my whole story but I have a fear that the person who will listen to my story might judge me and just...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Feb 27, 2016
    hurtwontheal hurtwontheal
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Feb 7, 2016

    I have done some things in my past

    which I regret. I want to forget it but the present doesn't let me do that. I can't go back in the past and change it. I feel like crying. I want to talk to someone and tell them my whole story but I have a fear that the person who will listen to my story might judge me and just...
    deleted deleted
    Feb 27, 2016

    This is probably my least favorite advice

    someone could give me. It is cliche to say and very unhelpful. I DO understand people are at least trying to help sometimes when they say this but the sad fact is the past walks side by side with some of us and we are so busy dealing with the now all we can do is let it continue...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Mar 22, 2015

    I can't forget the past.

    If I do then there'll be nobody left who remembers my family.
    SethTheKid SethTheKid
    16-17, M
    1 Response Feb 27, 2016

    my husband and I are

    both recovering addicts (seven years for myself, 11 for him) we are also both sexual abuse survivors. he has dealt with his past by burying it, basically. for mr, that's not enough. I need to process it and then i can let it go. I Have to feel the emotional abuse and i have...
    goddessshelle goddessshelle
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Mar 19, 2016
    Makayla246 Makayla246
    16-17, F
    4 Responses Jul 14, 2015

    I hate being told to forget the past

    because it always finds a way of creeping its way back into your life, so how are you suppose to let go of the past when it keeps coming in our everyday lives?
    theultimatesashacourtney theultimatesashacourtney
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 4, 2015

    We all make mistakes,

    say and do things which we don’t mean. We all can be abusive to others, but most of us don’t mean to be. A moment of pain surges up, takes over and we lash out, allowing our pain to speak and act. We regret it and are genuinely sorry, and we hope whoever we hurt will...
    Buoyantwaters Buoyantwaters
    18-21, F
    Mar 18, 2016

    I do not think the past defines us in

    who we are. It shapes our paths, teaches us life lessons, and gives us invaluable wisdom. But, we get to choose who we are every day. We can choose kindness, generosity, goodness, or on the opposite end of the spectrum choose disrespect, greed, or poor choices. We should cling...
    beachesandsunshine121 beachesandsunshine121
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jul 14, 2015

    Some advice I was given long time ago.

    Take what you need from your past live better today. Don't shut the door too hard you might need something to help you tomorrow. Our past shapes our future
    CallMeKee CallMeKee
    51-55, F
    3 Responses Sep 14, 2015

    I have BPD from trauma

    as a child. Issues with fear of abandonment I can't get over! I know it's from my past, I have to work on it in therapy and it's hard moving forward. Even though I don't consciously think of the past, subconsciously it affects u emotional state and behavior. 😔
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jul 14, 2015

    I so just want to embrace my past.

    feel all that I didn't want to and be ok with what is so and learn to see now not constrained by what I resist to face. to create a future based in that now of clarity. I love my past I just want it to stay put and stop showing up as a future I chose. to choose now and create a...
    bigheartsmallworld bigheartsmallworld
    36-40, M
    Oct 20, 2015

    I feel like this is a topic not many people

    truly understand. Many people equate forgetting with moving on when that's not the case at all. To forget the past is to forget oneself and to forget oneself is to become lost to this world. Never forget what made you you. Instead accept what happened and just move on. Not...
    AngelofForgottenLore AngelofForgottenLore
    18-21, F
    1 Response Oct 20, 2015

    At the end of the day

    when all said and done it gets dark ??
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jul 13, 2015

    It's Who I Am

    Good or bad, happy or sad, long ago or just the other day....the past is who I am, or maybe better said...has helped form who I am. I am strong, because I have been weak. I am kind because I have known cruelty. I am grateful because I have gone without. I am...
    TriumphGirl TriumphGirl
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Nov 13, 2009

    "what Doesnt Kill You Makes You Stronger" Bullshit.

    My past is troubled.Not as troubles as many others,But I have my own issues to face.To tell somebody to forget the past is like a slap to the face.Abuse. Addiction. Depression. Hate. You cant forget that. Ever.So dont you ever tell me to forget the past. And dont ever say that...
    FinallyBeingReal FinallyBeingReal
    18-21, F
    1 Response Mar 10, 2012

    Some things you survive in life leave scars

    that run deep. Emotionally, mentally, some even spiritually or physically! 'Pull yourself together!' 'Let it go man!' 'That was then. This is now!' Etc. But the sad fact is. Those experiences cloud your vision. Your judgement. Your ideology of how life SHOULD be. COULD be! And...
    picklebobble picklebobble
    51-55, M
    7 Responses Feb 27, 2016

    "I'm trying, okay? Why can't you try to?

    " "I'm so sorry, forgive me... forgive me... forgive me..." Stop begging me. Stop pestering me about this. I'm dealing with it my way. Sometimes broken things break in ways that can never be completely mended. Because of what you did to me, you're not going to have that happy...
    AbyssEyes AbyssEyes
    16-17, M
    1 Response Mar 3, 2016

    You Mean Pretend- That It Didn't Happen

    Yes i am sick of being told to forget about the past- the primary reason: usually the people saying that are the ones guilty of created the past i can't forget. And,lets face it, most of the time what these people really mean is pretend, pretend whatever it was didn't happen...
    tulick tulick
    31-35, F
    19 Responses May 5, 2008
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