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I Am Sick of Hearing About What I "Should Have" Done

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    Because We Can't Turn Back Time

    On my own, I already wish I could change a lot of things that I've done, or things that I didn't do, but I know it's pointless to dwell on these. The past is long gone and it's only useful if we can learn from it and change the future with what we've learned. I don't like...
    SilverLinedShadows SilverLinedShadows 22-25 4 Responses Jul 14, 2009

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    "I Am Sick of Hearing About What I "Should Have" Done"

    I am so sick of that saying, It drives me crazy. I am always hearing this saying, it is enough to drive anyone crazy! My Fu*king Ex you say this to me all the damn time, now everytime I hear it I want to break something. It just makes me hella mad!
    DyinToBeLoved DyinToBeLoved 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 26, 2008

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    "What you should have done .

    ." Shut up and let me live. Damn. ✌️
    Samaccino Samaccino 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 19

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    Or...

    Rather, I'm sick of telling myself what I should've done. Why can't I just let go? What's done is done! I'm tired of being a ******* optimist! Why can't I just deal with it???? Wow, minor freak out. Sorry!  
    micahmae micahmae 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 18, 2009

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    Same Here.....

    I used to hear it from my family, and finally got sick of it and told them to **** off, it is my life will do what I willl with it my way, not their way!!
    SassyBabe39 SassyBabe39 41-45, F Mar 10, 2010

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    It Is Ok to Relfect Back On So...

    It is ok to relfect back on something, but to hear it over and over is not productive and just plain annoying
    Thradia Thradia 26-30, F Feb 24, 2008

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    When I Stopped Being A Raging Junkie...

    One of the first things I learned was to try and erase the word 'should' from my vocabulary.I replace it with could.. I could of f#cked him but I chose not to...I could go buy a £10 bag of crap but Im choosing not to.It makes it a decision instead of a shame based statement...
    CharlieUniform CharlieUniform 31-35, F 13 Responses May 27, 2011

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    My Dad's Good At It

    Always saying what I "should've done" and what I "could've done", what I "needed to do instead" of accepting what I did.  I can't go back and change it. It makes me feel guilty and like I don't do it right.  He's trying to give me other...
    filthydieseltech filthydieseltech 22-25, F 4 Responses Dec 20, 2008

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    Keep My Mouth Shut

    That is usually what I should have done, keep my mouth shut.  I made a good living in sales for many years and gave it up.  I was good at it and didn't scam people.  If you dealt with me you got a square/fair deal.  I seem to have lost something over the...
    gettinsum1 gettinsum1 56-60, M Mar 9, 2010

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    They Say I Should Have Shut Him Out.hes

     All of my friends and family told me I should have stopped talking to my ex a long time ago. Way back when I first met him, I should have walked away. But I didn't. They said it again when he started hitting me, and when he started acting weird and saying scary things. ...
    xsmurfette xsmurfette 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 6, 2010

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    I Wish I Had Done Things Differently

    I can't tell you how many times I have thought this about things or decisions I have made in my life but the fact is that I can't. I have heard so many time from people in my life you should have done this or you should have done that but I can only try to learn from mistakes...
    princessv71 princessv71 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 13, 2009

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    It's Not Helping, Me

    I know I messed it up myself. I know it wasn't anyone else's fault. I know I shouldn't have believed myself. I know I was stupid. I know I am sane. I know things are good. I know I have no right to be depressed. I know it's stupid to write this. I know I've written "I know" too...
    bluecupcakes bluecupcakes 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 25, 2012

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    I've Always Been Plague...

    I've always been plagued with that. Woulda Shoulda Coulda. What ifs and why nots. I guess I didn't do as much as I could because my family, instead  of encouraging me, was always putting me down , reminding me of everything I couldn't do right, and what a loser I was...
    numisiro numisiro 36-40, M 2 Responses Jun 24, 2008

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    Obsessed With Perfection Much??

    Honestly if i do everything right what is there left to learn from. I cant learn from my mistakes if im perfect. So leave me alone and let me learn from my mistakes. Its my bed ill ly in it.
    SadEyedAngel126 SadEyedAngel126 18-21, F 1 Response May 28, 2011

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    I Should Have But Could I Really??

    This saying is perhaps one of the most asinine in American culture today; many people are guilty of giving others impromptu lectures on what they should have done in any number of situations, varying from the very silly to the very serious.  What i find, more often than not...
    tulick tulick 31-35, F 4 Responses May 11, 2008

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    would This Be Hearing What ...

    would this be hearing what i should have done from someone else or my own mind??? i don't need to hear from someone else what i should have done.  you do the best you can in any situation. i do need to shut off the repetitive 'should have done this' or 'should have done...
    FeelingCrazy FeelingCrazy 46-50 Jun 24, 2008

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    A Should Do Currently....

    So many people want me to "go after" the company that terminated my contract this month.  Do I have a case...yes...likely I do... Does part of me want to bring them to their knees.  Certainly.... However a litigious person I am not.  Our society has...
    Lexus Lexus 36-40, F 2 Responses Feb 1, 2008

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    You Must Read This !! Its A Tragic Story And I Dont Know What To Do

    [ BACKGROUND INFORMATION ] So like about a 2 week ago there was a car crash here in Coolaroo, Melbourne, Australia, the car was holding 6 passengers all between the age of 12-16, 3 of them died whilst the other 3 survived with injuries. The media portrayed it to be that they were...
    OntreMuzik OntreMuzik 16-17, M 1 Response Nov 14, 2012

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    Shoulda Woulda Coulda Blah ...

    Shoulda woulda coulda blah blah blah. Yes I now I was a retarded idiot but I can't change the past so get over it already!
    HurricaneLeia HurricaneLeia 26-30, F Feb 13, 2009

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    What Was That Saying?

    I think it went something like I'd rather have a decent plan today, then a perfect plan tomorrow!
    JadedLass JadedLass 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 27, 2011

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    Who The Hell Are You To Say?

    i always get angry when people say you should have done. You should of helped him. you should of loved her more. you should of changed.  well who the hell are you to say? sometimes, we try, we try our hardest to accomplish something, to change someone, to save some one, and...
    Artemis17 Artemis17 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 21, 2010

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    Don't Should On Me..its Ewey

    I am so ******* tired of folks shoulding all over me.  I have searched my soul and as a result I have upped my standards. SO UP YOURS!
    purepotential purepotential 36-40, M 3 Responses Feb 1, 2008

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    Regret

    When there's a situation that push me to do something or say something I usually do what I think is the best thing to say or do. But when it comes to for egz. telling about the whole sit. to someone else IT starts.  "IT" I mean words like "You should have say something...
    Flume Flume 18-21, F 1 Response May 24, 2010

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    Not Sick...

    i am not sick of hearing it...im tired i hate to hear it!!!, i simply cant find the point in going to the past and imagining what couldve been. i mean couldve shouldve wouldve....! stooop!, it didnt happen so y waste time talking about it??
    patriot14 patriot14 16-18 2 Responses Apr 22, 2008

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    Dear Mom And Dad Get Over It

    im not a mom yet im not a wife yet and you shoving guys at me or pressuring sal isnt gonna make it happen any faster so you can either be ahppy with my life as it is or just mind your own business
    justjoni justjoni 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 12, 2012

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    ""i Think Doctors Are Just Misinformed"........................

    I think doctors are just misinformed and the older they are the more thinking is narrow. Iv'e been to different doctors because of rolocation. Iv'e been diagnosed with all types of Arthritis, Fibromaliga, cluster migraines etc...The one thing i find among doctors is their ablity...
    Anto815 Anto815 46-50, F Apr 10, 2011

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    my dog is sick and my husband keeps telling me

    that i should let him go, he is at the amimal hospital and i will do all in my power to get him better.
    emcubana1974 emcubana1974 36-40, F 2 Responses Apr 22

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    My Husband Does This to Me

    My husband does this to me ALL the friggin time and it drives me insane. I feel like such a little child when he talks down to me about what I should and shouldn't have done. I am an intelligent adult who's been through more than he ever has. I don't need a parent telling me what...
    infinitedreamer infinitedreamer 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 21, 2008

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    Do I Have to Hear It?

    ok...ever since i was pretty young people have always been telling me what to do. now that im older and can think for myself i have to hear about what i should do to make things better. i wouldnt have any problem with it if i was told in suggestion form, but this is more of...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 4, 2008

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    A Letter

    Dear person, yes i know i need to do better. i know i have to do and how to do it. im trying my best so get off my back about it. i cant be perfect even though you want me to be. stop compareing me to other people im not them and never will be. just stop and let me figure this...
    Silent20 Silent20 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 20, 2012

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    Grah, Dad.

    Oh, man. He's the worst at this. Especially if I've failed at something. I should have always done everything his way. Period. Because his way works. And my way doesn't. And if I don't fail, its always something like, I would have done better if I had done it exactly as he'd...
    Elwing Elwing 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 17, 2010

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    To Be, Or Not, My Life, My Decision.

    My mom always tells me "you shouldn't have done this, or this or that" when she was usually the driving force behind the decision made. Then when i make my own decisions a part of my mind always goes over them, again and again. Its my way of self-madness, i guess.
    Licourtrix Licourtrix 16-18, M Feb 4, 2008

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    I should have done is getting a little old

    for me I think I should have done everything I've done now besides one thing because it makes me who I am today!
    NaturalDisature NaturalDisature 18-21, M 1 Response Feb 5

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    The Word "should" Screams Controlling.

    The word "should" is a control trip. I try to avoid people who say that word alot, I am the kind of person who is stubborn, strong headed and trust my instincts. I don't take the word lightly and would rather hear the word "could" as it leaves me with multiple options. It...
    Albans Albans 18-21, F Apr 13, 2010

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    Get Out And Just Do It

    I know there's a lot of you that say I should have done this or done that. The only advice I can give you is this, just get out there and do it. Don't think about it, just get up off your arse and do it, and if you fail than at least you tried and that's all that matters at the...
    JimMorrisonRocks JimMorrisonRocks 26-30, M 1 Response Jan 11, 2013

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    Just **** Off!

    Yeah I should have done some things differently but fact is, I didn't! So stop ******* going on about it! You did things a certain way. Fine. I did them a different way. Yours was a better way. But I ******* did it my way so **** off! Jeez. My life. Not yours. **** off. Simple.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Apr 10, 2008

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    Get Off My Back Already!

    You know something? My family is always getting into my business and commenting on all my personal stuff... I know regret is a horrible feeling (trust me! I know) but, do I really need all these questions? Nope. You see, my family is always asking stupid questions such as...
    xxbloodyfretboardxx xxbloodyfretboardxx 18-21, F Feb 16, 2009

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    The Worst Part Is That I'm...

    The worst part is that I'm the one telling myself that.  I try not to do that too much, though; I mean, what happened in the past has already happened.  There's really no point in dwelling on it too much. 
    stygianangel stygianangel 22-25, F Feb 24, 2008

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    My Life My Choice

    So many times we do stuff, Maybe at the time doesn't seem to right. But Maybe at the same time it seems Right to us, And we have people telling us It was the wrong thing I should of done this that or the other differently But The truth is It's my Life My mistakes my Choices...
    matthewsmommy matthewsmommy 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 12, 2010

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    Don't Should On Me..its Ewey

    I am so ******* tired of folds shoulding all over me.  I have searched my soul and as a result I have upped my standards. SO UP YOURS!
    purepotential purepotential 36-40, M Feb 1, 2008

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    Sometimes I Believe It's Ok, But Now I Don't Need That!

    I believe sometimes this can be ok...for me there are 2 groups: 1)when I ask for help, advices...2)when I don't ask for them... If we are here, writing and sharing our stories it's normal to have people writing what you should do, what "you should have done"...and...
    chispita chispita 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 4, 2008

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    grandpaps grandpaps 66-70, M Jul 19

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    I Hate Hearing This!!

    hindsight can be a funny old thing!! people see you make the wrong decisions or the wrong choices in life, and only after things havent worked out for you, do some people proceed to tell you that you should have went about things differently!! "no ****, Sherlock!!"
    cowshed123 cowshed123 31-35, M 5 Responses Mar 10, 2012

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    Shoulda, Woulda, Coulda, Didn't.

    That's what I say to people who tell me 'you should have'. I take great pleasure in reminding people that tell me 'shoulds' and 'musts' that I am a human and so are they. It is best to remind such people that they are dwelling on the past. It is not something that can be changed...
    Explodey Explodey 22-25, M 2 Responses Feb 24, 2012

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    Yes!

    All you pro-life, pro-choice people stop bothering me.
    Looking4clues Looking4clues 26-30, F Jun 13, 2012

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    Literally today has sucked.

    All I've heard from my parents is that I basically haven't done anything right and this is what I should have done. FML I am so done, like literally over this ****.
    blondechick0130 blondechick0130 18-21, F Jun 28

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