I Am Sick to Death of Always Being the 'bigger Person'

ARGH!!!!!!!! 254 People

    I've Had It Up to Here!

    I'm tired of not fighting back because I'm trying to take the high road. but the thing is I'm damned if I do, damned if I don't so what am I gonna do?
    cassandrathethinkerbleedsteal cassandrathethinkerbleedsteal
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Nov 23, 2008

    I'm So Done!!!!

    Done with being the bigger person.  Not happening.....not any more.  Done!! Yeah, right.....something so deeply ingrained in a personality....that's gonna happen.  But I can try, right?  I can try the "look out for Number One" style of life...
    NebulaNoxx NebulaNoxx
    51-55, F
    1 Response Jul 18, 2008

    The Worm Has Turned

    yes im fed up with trying to be nicer than i really am! just so that i dont hurt the feelings of others. I cant be bothered anymore i am no longer going to be the one who backs down. I am going to be wrong and strong!!!! like some others i know!!!... yup the worm has turned...
    thehippy thehippy
    41-45, F
    17 Responses May 3, 2009


    Why so scared of something inevitable? Its going to happen anway so why not live and be happy with the time you have? Death is something inside of you, just like fear, and your bigger then anything inside of you so..have fun with it!!
    HanaNoMizu HanaNoMizu
    26-30, F
    Nov 23, 2008


    I swear, I can't do this anymore. People hurt my feelings, yet I'm expected to apologize to them. I use to do so all the time, shouldering the blame of them hurting me. I can't do that anymore. :-/ Ive changed as a person and I am changing still. If a person wants to come...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jan 17, 2009

    I Know...admiration And All That

    I almost always am...my younger sister always craps on me and I have to make a gesture first...I am large and intimidating looking yet I am as kind and helpful as I can possibly be and once people get to kniow me they understand. But too, I am always the bridesmaid and never the...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Nov 4, 2012

    Just Be You!

    I have often heard the words in my life to be the bigger and better person and just move on. Some times it would just get to me to realise that a person would have to do this depending on the situation of trying to be the bigger person. People in our lives come across to...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Apr 17, 2010

    I Come From a Family of 19....

    I come from a family of 19. I am the peace keeper/negotiator and the one who backs down first. I really am sick of it after almost 30 years.
    turtlemusic28 turtlemusic28
    26-30, F
    Mar 29, 2008

    Being the Bigger Person

     Sometimes we have no choice but to be the bigger person. If you think about it sometimes,well most of the time being the bigger person works out to our favor.It makes the other person look like an idiot most of the time.Then sometimes being the bigger person can keep us out...
    betchaboots betchaboots
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Jan 3, 2009

    Fight and Fight Dirty?

    if some loser is going to put you in the position where you have to choose to be the 'bigger person' even when you feel like telling them where to go.... THEN TELL THEM WHERE TO GO! It isn't a crime... and most of the time they deserve it.. If you're a nice person, great, be a...
    mimiboo mimiboo
    16-17, F
    Sep 3, 2008

    Since When...

    did being the bigger person become a license for people, even professional to walk all over you; since when did it become par for the course for that to be a blanket forgiveness for mistakes, even a prerequisite for some services? How many times must you be stepped on mislead...
    tulick tulick
    31-35, F
    May 10, 2008

    Punishments Turned Into Rewards

    I worked for this CD company as a printer for five years. I happened to be their first woman printer in a business that was mostly men. There were only about seven women in this company and we all were treated like dog doo-doo. If you weren't a man you weren't worthty in the eyes...
    deleted deleted
    Jun 29, 2010


    I had a relationship that ended badly. There are two sides to every story they say. The story about our breakup has made its way around school,from his end,not mine. I am frequently asked about it,but i just reply,there are two sides to every story. It is just so hard not to spew...
    yeskasrainbow yeskasrainbow
    2 Responses Mar 23, 2009

    People Treat You Like Nothing Even Tho Your Nice To Them

    I am always nice to every one even tho they dont like me. I'm polite to the people I don't even like. I'm even nice to my ex bf/ best friend even tho he treated me like ****. He talks about me behind my back now and I know what he says but I have to be the bigger person and get...
    LuluSaysHi LuluSaysHi
    16-17, F
    Mar 17, 2013

    I Am Such a Soft Touch Or Is That....

    SCHMUCK!!!!!???? I couldn't stop.  And Family was the worst abuser(s) of my good and giving nature. It finally came to a head when my mom called me to change her furnace filter. Ok, it was a difficult job for her, but it's a man-style job. And my brother, her son, lives a...
    NebulaNoxx NebulaNoxx
    51-55, F
    3 Responses Apr 2, 2008

    So True....

    I am tired of always being the bigger person. Of seeing my old best friend storming ahead in life with a big house, marriage, a child, friends, a teaching job to go back to knowing how she treats people. She is incredibly self absorbed, selfish and spoilt but it seems these...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Oct 26, 2011

    Why Be Nice?

    When they have to treat you like trash when you're being nice to them! ???
    ascs ascs
    22-25, F
    3 Responses May 21, 2009


    I am newly single with a 3 year old son and it seems as though when it comes to his father I am Always having to step up and be the bigger person and I don't know how to let me anger go from that. I've asked my ex on several occasions to take our son or go somewhere with the two...
    Mklemarczyk Mklemarczyk
    Dec 22, 2011

    I Thought You Were the Older One?

    Well lets get one thing strait. i love my brother. lets get another thing strait. i hate him as well.now that that has been covered lets sum up my childhood. my brother is 6 years older he has an extreme case of bipolar disorder he got into drugs (alcohol and acid...
    cassity282 cassity282
    Oct 9, 2008

    ♥Why Is It Always Me?♥

    My mom, and sometimes my dad, tell me, "Be the bigger person. It makes you look more mature." Uh... newsflash! No it doesn't! It makes me look like I can't do anything on my own! Like, I have no opinion, no feelings and it's annoying! GRAAAAAHHHH!!!!  ...
    TohruHonda TohruHonda
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Mar 5, 2008

    It Makes Me Look Like Bad One Sometimes

    My ex wanted to get back with me last year, and I was feeling pushed into it by a member of his family. What his family didn't know was that while we were together the first time, it wasn't just a case of a lot of fighting and arguing, he actually sexually assaulted me on 3...
    littledharmabum littledharmabum
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Mar 30, 2008

    What In the (bleep) Is Wrong With Me?

    Am I just STUPID? I would say this person let me down, but it's like it's a pattern with me.  It's not just one, it's not just men, lovers - it's friends, too.  I put my trust in someone, as people can trust in me. I say I'm going to do something (not try, not maybe...
    NebulaNoxx NebulaNoxx
    51-55, F
    9 Responses Apr 25, 2008

    Im Sick of Walking Away, Of...

    Im sick of walking away, of keep my mouth closed, of letting people say what they want about me because i wont stoop to their level. im sick of apologising first when they were in the wrong, and then they dont say sorrt back
    Tesse Tesse
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Mar 29, 2008

    Waiting For My Turn

    I believe in treating other people how I would like to be treated. I firmly believe in "an' it harm none, do what ye will." I am also a very empathetic person. These three factors set me up to be everyone's scapegoat, everyone's doormat. I give, and I give, and I...
    PsychoBarbieDoll PsychoBarbieDoll
    22-25, F
    Apr 25, 2008

    People Who Say This to You Are Negating Your Feelings

    I have had this my whole life. Particularly in relation to my siblings. I have an older half brother and sister who have always grudged the fact that we grew up with 'my' dad. They have used my mother's divorce from their father as a manipulative tool to get what they want...
    WyldHoney WyldHoney
    31-35, F
    6 Responses Mar 30, 2008

    Yeah sometimes you just wanna say F this

    and punch somebody's face right in..let them have it.
    Cocrispy Cocrispy
    22-25, M
    Oct 25, 2015

    Always Me!

    I'm always expected to be the bigger person. Especially with my younger sister. She never shows up, always late and is selfish and can say and do whatever she wants and can never be wrong! This has happened all the way up to our 30's! I lost a child to an infection a few years...
    leedee1 leedee1
    1 Response Oct 5, 2012

    When It Comes to My Ex I Al...

    When it comes to my Ex I always have to be the "bigger person" for my sons sake.
    keyna keyna
    36-40, F
    Mar 29, 2008

    But It Makes Me Feel Good

    Being the bigger person can suck really bad sometimes, but all in all I always feel better if I make the right choice.  It really makes me wanna scream sometimes, but what the hell, if it comes down to somebody getting hurt, it's easier to just let go, and maybe nobody will...
    intothewoods intothewoods
    1 Response Nov 11, 2008


    i am sick and freaking tired of always having to be the bigger person! just because i've got some crazy ideas about standards and honour and maturity. i make myself play by the rules, even when no one else is. i am not feeling very mature at the moment. i'm feeling frustrated...
    journeyfulloflaughter journeyfulloflaughter
    26-30, F
    8 Responses Mar 5, 2008

    Calling Out

    I really really should grow a spine one of these days and start calling out people on their bullshit.  But noooooooo I'm so concerned with being 'nice' that people get away with things that they shouldn't.  Sigh, one of these days!  LOL
    TChic TChic
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Dec 16, 2008
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