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I Am So Fed Up With My Marriage

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    Why Do I Stay?

    He never can have a conversation with me without turning into how he wouldn't be married, it doesn't hurt me to do it I don't do anything else, me screwing someone else, my vacation I took, not doing enough for our boys or losing the house. I didn't ask him to marry me, he asked...
    lonelyrunawaytrain lonelyrunawaytrain 46-50, F 3 Responses May 1, 2013

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    Why Do I Bother?

    I should be so lucky as to HAVE a gun... I don't and wouldn't know how to use it if I did.   What would be comforting is to win the lottery and really get out of this marriage.  Fact is, I think I'll be ok financially on my own with the girls, but...
    Cheleanne Cheleanne 66-70, F 13 Responses Jul 19, 2009

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    Dirty Movies And Lies

    When I got married there was already troubles. I loved her. Still do. NOTHING has changed in those regards. I still think she is sexy, funny, and smart. But I watched porn0graphy, she caught me and swore I'd never look at it again. I did. I got caught and swore, got caught...
    UgOlLi UgOlLi 36-40, M 1 Response Oct 8, 2013

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    The Best Gift You Can Give Me Is To Let Me Go!!

    I want so desperately for my husband to tell me he wants a divorce I honestly think I would do a happy dance. I want to be free from all the anger and resentment I have towards him. Just being in his company makes me want to scream sometimes. I have gone so far as to tell him don...
    inthedark2012 inthedark2012 46-50, F 6 Responses Aug 3, 2012

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    Fed Up & Trapped.......

    After 46 years and lots of ups and downs I've finally gotten smart enough to accept there was nothing, NOTHING I could have done to have made this marriage any better or worse. I finally accept that my husband is a total narcissist and the only one who can change him is him. He...
    lexxicat lexxicat 66-70, F 6 Responses Mar 22, 2010

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    Tired, Fed Up, Confused, And Lonely

    I met my husband in high school also, I felt like it was a dream come True because, we got married right after high school. He was my high school sweetheart also. But as soon as I ended up living ith him he changed. He got on myspace, tagged, facebook, zoosk, and any other social...
    Datsrite2 Datsrite2 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 14, 2011

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    Have Already Divorced You Emotionally

    I love my husband. But it is clear that our marriage is just not going to work. My husband is 16 years older than me. I work full time and he stays home. We have 3 kids together. He is a great man, father. But some where down the line we just lost it. We always fight over the...
    SexyAlize SexyAlize 31-35, F 6 Responses Mar 28, 2011

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    How Is Marriage Supposed to Be?

    i met my husband in high school, and were high school sweet hearts.. he join the military for 4 yrs yet during the first year when i was 19 i went to my first party and got messed up where i was taking advantage and since that time i confessed to my husband.. lost respect, trust...
    steph7894 steph7894 22-25 9 Responses Jul 1, 2009

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    Thinking About Leaving

    I married a woman from another country. We dated for almost 2 years long distance. I would visit her 2 times a year and stay for extended periods of time. About one to three months each time. She came to the states and we married. I had reservations because, but I never listened...
    alwaysconfused77 alwaysconfused77 31-35, M 3 Responses Dec 2, 2010

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    So Boring

    i have been married 36 years i am 3 1/2 years older than my husband you would think he was ten years older than me . we live opposite a social club he goes over every night we havent been out socially other than there for about 3 months we went out tonight with his brother and...
    noriam193 noriam193 61-65, F 4 Responses Dec 5, 2009

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    Searching For My Patricia

    In summer/autumn of 2009 I had a profound experience which turned my world upside down.  I had recently given blood and learnt how the black and Asian communities were three times more likely to need a kidney transplant than Caucasians.  I took upon myself to tell as many of...
    childofgod74 childofgod74 36-40, M Feb 28, 2012

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    What Do I Do??

    hi me and my wife met in the college 11 years back......and one day out of the blue i proposed her through a common friend and to which she initially said no but finally accepted. we started going around and then had a breakup(actually she dumped me). i was heart broken as i was...
    lovelost27 lovelost27 31-35 1 Response Sep 9, 2012

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    Going on 11 years and

    if it weren't for my kids, I would have left along time ago. For the most part we get along but that's only because I don't say anything about his drinking until 2am, sleeping all day, doesn't lift a finger around the house, sits in another room with his dogs and watches tv. I...
    ColoradoGirl4 ColoradoGirl4 36-40, F 12 Responses Jan 12

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    Don't know what to think... Yesterday my hubby came home from work early saying he was fed up. He was acting all weird. He knows we are living paycheck to paycheck so why he...
    whatevernobody whatevernobody 31-35, F 12 Responses Mar 28

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    I need to share my story and get some advice. My mother was a seventeen year old when she married my dad. As far as I know she didn't love him. According to her she wanted to call...
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    I am 37, been married for almost 15 years, have two girls 8 and 11. Though there are many things my husband is good at and has really helped out our family in the past (i.e...
    1lleltopsck 1lleltopsck 36-40 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    highfidelity970 highfidelity970 22-25, F Apr 13

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    I would love to be force fed and watch as my belly bulges to new levels of fatness, and grow until all I can do is eat more and more and weigh 2000 pounds
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    Illusions That Kept Me Trapped in Sexless Marriage If you read my first EP story, you will get the impression that the sexlessness started with the conception of my child 4 years...
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    Make that, that I used to live in a marriage that was becoming a sexless marriage. Today would have been our second anniversary. The story is complicated, but to make it short, she...
    soundtrackforantarctica soundtrackforantarctica 26-30, M 8 Responses Mar 25

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    emilyv97 emilyv97 16-17, F 4 Responses Apr 13

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    lifetriangle lifetriangle 22-25, M 7 Responses Apr 15

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    hl42 hl42 51-55, M 8 Responses 6 days ago

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    Normal.... There are many stories on here about after leaving marriages and having normal relationships. Well I haven't left my marriage yet. I have talked to a lawyer and...
    jencpa jencpa 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 11

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    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 31 Responses a week ago

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    Before and After … Nearing 8 months after my separation, I reflect on the emotional desert I have called my marriage. During those years, I was starved for a smile or a hug. A...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 11 Responses Apr 6

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    Thought this was worth a read. Not applicable to all but still interesting. A lack of sexual interest in women is a big topic Fotolia_49866286_XS Peter and Andrea are teachers...
    HusbandOfOne HusbandOfOne 41-45, M 13 Responses Apr 10

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    I'm a little bit tired of sexlessness one-up-manship that's been taking place in this forum recently. We haven't had sex in 15 months.... Reply: that's nothing We've had sex...
    elkclan elkclan 41-45, F 23 Responses 3 days ago

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    Ive been married for 13 y. And Ive been living in a sexless marriage for the past 4 or 5 maybe more. We have three kids and there was always an excuse for not having sex with...
    aking1973 aking1973 41-45, M 18 Responses 2 days ago

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    I had an incredible night. I have to share my experience. I was raised by my Grandmother, who lived in a sexless marriage. My Grandfather was a mean, cold, loveless husband. He...
    ifoundmehere ifoundmehere 41-45, F 11 Responses Mar 25

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    So yesterday we saw a marriage councillor. We haddn't been for a few years since before the kids came along. I was really hoping that she was going to be able to help my husband...
    Germanovna Germanovna 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 3

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    I guess "troubled" is the best way to describe it. I used to think nothing could come between us. My husband's been in and out of part-time, dead-end jobs for ten years. Most...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 5

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    Update from Opposite Land Even though I normally have sex 3-4 times a week with my beloved post sexless marriage lover, I haven't had sex for a week. Why? He is sick with...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 14 Responses Apr 10

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    Those who do not have to deal with this situation must find it odd that those of us who do, express such deep sadness and longing. How often do the comments suggested the simple...
    DumbLondoner DumbLondoner 51-55, M 18 Responses Apr 14

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    Well I lived in a sexless marriage for 9 years. About 14 months ago I left finally and an starting over. I tried everything I could to revive our marriage. From candle light...
    Leavinstevin Leavinstevin 41-45, M 21 Responses Apr 15

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    Last year in June my husband of 18 years confessed to an online love affair with a lady from his company that began in April. She works in a different state hundreds of miles away...
    ydoideservethis ydoideservethis 36-40, F 3 Responses Apr 15

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    I am 36 years old. I shock many when they find out about my inexperience and lack of knowledge of most things romantic. I am still waiting for my first real kiss. I am still...
    blossomingbeauti blossomingbeauti 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 16

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    It's over. All would be so much easier if I weren't so emotional about my own life. Unfortunately, when you are in a marriage that lacks love, and all that entails, you simply have...
    pointbreakgirl pointbreakgirl 36-40, F 24 Responses 5 days ago

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    For those staying in miserable sexless marriages "for the sake of the kids": "On Monday, one Redditor grappling with that very question went straight to the source, asking those...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 14 Responses 2 days ago

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    bubblysunshine bubblysunshine 31-35, F 13 hrs ago

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    angelwanderer angelwanderer 46-50 27 Responses Apr 1

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    couldbeheaven couldbeheaven 26-30, F 5 Responses Apr 1

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    NeedingToVent NeedingToVent 36-40, F 15 Responses Apr 8

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    Well where do I start? It didn't used to be a bad marriage when we got married 13 years ago in 2001, I was 25 and she was 24. In fact it was a very good marriage, I loved her and...
    HPeterson HPeterson 36-40, M 1 Response Apr 9

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