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I Am So Shy It Is Ruining My Life

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    Losing Everything

    I'm shy, and its really ruining everything. I've lost the guy of my dreams to a nice, outgoing, beautiful friend of mine pretty much. Everyone is so upset and angry at me all the time because of my shyness. Help?
    Nattnatt Nattnatt 13-15 2 Responses Sep 17, 2012

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    On the computer, it's a lot different,

    but in real life speaking to another person is so difficult that I just don't even try, really. I'll never initiate a conversation with someone I feel is a stranger. They talk first or it's just going to be awkward silence from there on. And even when they talk, I just don't say...
    Raneth Raneth 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 10

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    My Shyness Is Affecting My Life

    I am a 22 year old girl who works at a bakery. I have my hairdressing license and makeup and hair are my passion. I am miserable at my current job and have gotten turned down at every hairdressing shop I have interviewed at. It's been two years since i have gone to an interview I...
    Shygirl66 Shygirl66 22-25 2 Responses Dec 5, 2012

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    For some reason I have always had trouble

    talking to people. I don't know what it is! I just moved into my step-dad's family's house and I never leave my room. I mean seriously I've known these people for a long time now, but I still won't talk to them. Every time I leave my room just to go to the bathroom or get...
    Mariahlaloo Mariahlaloo 13-15, F Dec 6, 2013

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    So Sad, 24 Years Old, Acting Like A 10 Year Old Kid=(

    When I meet new people it's the same, so shy, so distant, but in some days or weeks, I can get along with them... Not the same case in relatioships =(... Never had a boyfriend, when I'm in front in someone that I like, I behave like a 10 year old kid, nervous smile, hands shaking...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Sep 23, 2011

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    Hear Me Out

    Hey. So, I've always been naturally shy but like most people things happened which made me lose all self esteem and made me feeling self conscious and unworthy of any human interaction. I have always accepted this but now I am 18 and as a person I cannot cope with how restricted...
    josephhalpin1 josephhalpin1 18-21 4 Responses Sep 23, 2010

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    It's Not Cute Anymore

    I'm 15 years old, in high school, and extremely shy. I'm African-American and honestly some people expect me to be outgoing and have a lot of friends and when they see that's not the case some are surprised. With my age I am now expected to speak up, make myself known and have a...
    DontKnowWhatToDoAboutIt DontKnowWhatToDoAboutIt 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 13, 2013

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    Does Anyone Feel The Same As I Do?

    Hi to everyone who reads this! :)   Well I'm not sure really where to start, I only found this site around 15 mins ago and I'm hoping I can find people who are going through a similar thing. I'm a 23 year old single mum in Australia, I recently moved from the city to...
    sethsmum sethsmum 22-25, F 4 Responses Nov 22, 2009

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    I Can'T Speak To People And I Don'T Know Why

    I'm 16 and school's just broken up for me so it's the summer holidays now, everyone else is excited but nope not me. I only have a few close friends that aren't friends with each other so I only go out with one friend at a time. I'm going on to do A levels next year which I'm...
    Han2305 Han2305 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 18, 2013

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    My shyness has ruined

    so many good opportunities for me :( I haven't really tried anything to over come it cause I don't even know how to but I hope I can eventually get out there and do my thang in life without the need to hide in a corner or something lol
    Jahhh Jahhh 18-21, F Mar 16

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    A Whole Dictionary of Words and I've Only Mastered Eight

    So, I don't know exactly when the social paralysis started kicking in. I wasn't always so shy! But now anytime I'm around anyone, even my closest friends, the only words i seem to say are: cool, awesome, awe, really, okay, and oh my god. I just got back from a party at an old...
    jacireed jacireed 16-17 1 Response Jul 9, 2009

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    My Shyness Is Ruining My Life

    in school am always sitting there with this one group ... that for me is easy to talk to but i dont like them much but i dont have the guts to go and talk to who ever i want to talk to ! everyone is like" why are you so quiet ? why are so red ?" since am always red in school...
    purplegirlxx purplegirlxx 16-17, F 3 Responses Jun 3, 2013

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    Trying

    I'm trying to get over my shyness. I don't know what I should do, besides getting my self into social situations. I get so anxious. I feel like I can't speak what I want to say, or the words just come out all not right.
    littlejxoxo littlejxoxo 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 24, 2012

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    I Am Too Shy

    Hey... I've always been shy. Right now I'm at the point where I'm just so sick and tired of it. Nobody understands me. And it's so annoying when everybody is constantly asking me why i am so quiet or they say something like you are so shy. I have tried to solve this problem many...
    crystal234 crystal234 13-15, F Nov 29, 2013

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    I'm Painfully Shy

    ok am quite new to this site and i was reading some of the recent stories from other shy people and could relate so thought i'd give mine and see your opinions and suggestions that could help me improve my confidence. so am 17 and am going to college, i have a few friends...
    dnwhttmtddr93 dnwhttmtddr93 16-17, M 2 Responses Mar 25, 2010

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    A Shy Girl, Never Did Great With Anyone.

    Hi! I recently joined this website to share among all of you my story of shyness. Throughout my life , I was never really shy until I reached the 6th grade. I really liked this guy and I wanted to ask him out, but I really shouldn't have asked because he never talked to me again...
    MarcyandMe MarcyandMe 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 1, 2013

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    Being Shy Is Affecting My Friendships and Relationship

    Hi everyone hope your all ok im not to show how to start but hear goes: Basically im 21 years old and im so shy and self conscious its affecting my social life with my friends and my boyfriend. I've never really had many friends and most of them don't stick around cos im boring...
    angelface21 angelface21 22-25, F 5 Responses May 31, 2009

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    Shy

    Ever since I became a teenager everything seemed changed.I started to be shy even from my own family and when I'm alone I'm shy of myself doing ugly or weird stuff! When I compare myself to other people I feel insecure even though I love the way I am. I'm on a healthy diet for a...
    Someone1995 Someone1995 16-17, F 2 Responses Sep 6, 2012

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    Silly Woes

    hey guys ,its my first post plz dnt hate: i m 22yrs old,but i dnt hav the confidence of even a twelve yr old to talk to someone..i always evade eye contact,i see here & there while talking & my face expressions also change drastically,i look so timid,i stammer.i cannot explain...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Aug 14, 2011

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    Being Shy Is Ruining My Life

    I have been shy all my life I have no idea why. But it's killing me I have only 2 friends that I talk to but I grew up with them.I am a loner at school there are people how try to get to know me for some reason I'm too shy and they just get bored of me. So please if you read help...
    shyguy117 shyguy117 13-15, M 1 Response Jan 11, 2013

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    Im To Shy

    when I was 10 I was a kinda shy girl but when I turned 11 I wondered why nobody would ever talk to me. then when I turned 13 I realized I never had any friends and now I'm 14. it has gotten so bad that I cant talk to a cashier at the store or ask somebody for directions. my mom...
    paleandpink paleandpink 13-15, T 1 Response Jul 27, 2013

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    I Dont Seem to Fit In

     This is the second time that i am sharing my experience. There would'nt have been a better day than today for sharing it. I have always considered myself "different" all my life. Sometimes i find myself bordering towards being an eccentric. Last night i "had...
    shygal shygal 31-35 11 Responses Jan 26, 2009

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    I have never been able to speak effectively to

    people. Every time I manage to make friends by some fluke, they leave me really quickly when they realize I seem to have nothing to offer them. I don't know what's wrong with me; I always plan what to say before I see someone, but I just can't get it out. Just seeing people...
    dropmirabelle dropmirabelle 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 24

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    I Hate It

    I fill like im the only one at my school and other places i go that is social akward. its ruining my life and i fill like im wasting it. and lately i felt depress and sad. and i dont have any friends wich make me not even want to go to school. and i wonder what people think when...
    blackpepperfox blackpepperfox 16-17, F 1 Response Oct 14, 2012

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    So Confused

    Yea so no one has to read this if you don't want to. I just need to let it out. Okay so for as long as I can remember I have been shy. I feel like an idiot because when I try to talk to someone new I freeze and don't know what to say. Its like i automatically think they won't...
    Cerulean66 Cerulean66 16-17, F 5 Responses Jun 7, 2009

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    Im Really Shy And Feel Like Im Going To Lose My Friends

    basically im 13 years old and im so shy. The thing with me is l ike i can have a best friend for like a week but then they just get bored of me because im boring because i dont talk because i dont want to say something stupid.I think what my main problem is i care too much about...
    shygirl1999 shygirl1999 13-15 2 Responses Aug 15, 2012

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    I'm So Shy I Have No Friends No Life, Want To Be My Friend Plz?

    Hi I'm Jill I'm 26 from md and I'm shy with soical anxiety and depression. Been this way all of my life and I hate it. I hate who I am and i don't know if I will ever say that I'm happy. I don't know it I'll have have a real smile or a day without a worry. I have no job no...
    Jillianalexis00 Jillianalexis00 26-30, F 13 Responses Aug 30, 2010

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    Stage Fright Life

    I'm 14 and I love to sing and I'm really good at it BUT I'm shy so I have major stage fright I wish I could get rid of! And picturing people in their underwear doesn't work for me...I wish I could go on stage but I'm so shy its ruining my life...
    Rosebloodthorn Rosebloodthorn 13-15, F 4 Responses Jun 3, 2013

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    I Hate Being Shy.....

    I'm pretty upset right now but I don't really know if I should be or not. Like honestly I feel like crying and just apologizing over and over again even though I'm not sure I need to............ See I just got back from my boyfriends friends birthday party. We were originally...
    thesuitelife285 thesuitelife285 18-21, F 15 Responses Apr 18, 2010

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    Shyness Is Killing Me

    hello everyone, I just discovered this website 10 mins ago and it is actually a blessing. I have always wanted to share my story was any1, any1 that would understand me but ive always felt its not that important. 1st of all iam 20 years guy. I am not an extremely shy person but...
    smokingdizy smokingdizy 18-21, M 3 Responses Jul 26, 2009

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    Quilt

    hey as you may know I am really shy, and lately I've been kinda sad and it's bothering me and I feel like its bothering everyone Else. People think I'm being rude by not saying anything. And some people think that I don't like them because I'm not saying anything or opening up to...
    blackpepperfox blackpepperfox 16-17, F 2 Responses Feb 7, 2013

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    A Question

    Is the problem being shy or needing to be not shy just to fit in?
    anananahi anananahi 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 29, 2011

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    My Shy Story Of Shyness

    so i guess it all started around when i was in 7-8th grade, ill sum my shyness up with this(completely unable to talk to people i havent know forever including family im not in constant direct contact with alot, i will freeze up and actually fear talking like i would die if i did...
    ryan881 ryan881 16-17 1 Response Nov 4, 2012

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    My Shyness

    My shyness has been with me since birth. I'm 14 and i'm petrified to talk to anyone that isn't in my main group. It mostly occurs when a girl is around me. When I am around a girl I freeze up and just sit there and don't talk. Sometimes they will talk to me but I don't say...
    zodbomber zodbomber 18-21, M 3 Responses Jan 11, 2013

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    I Can't Even Ask For A Job

    My family is full of loud people and I am not shy around them but i have problems with getting embarrassed and now it is a time in my life that i need to get a job so i can have extra money to help our family. I have applied EVERYWHERE in walking distance of my house because i...
    battlefighter battlefighter 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 11, 2013

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    Ever since I hit puberty (about 13 years ago)

    I've become very quiet and introverted. When I was a kid, I had no trouble making friends or reading aloud. I was the class clown, always cracking jokes and getting involved in school plays. For a time I aspired to become an actor. Now I can barely bring myself to call someone...
    TheBotanist TheBotanist 26-30, M 1 Response Sep 20

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    I Am So Shy

    I'm 55 and still I am so shy. people think I am standoffish and a recluse. I find it very difficult to make new friends even online. I'm single so never get invited to parties and things. it's called single woman syndrome. other women see you as a threat. I don't want their men...
    jandan jandan 51-55, F 1 Response Jun 20, 2013

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    29, Shy and Watching My Life Go By

    Well while searching the net for sites to overcome shyness I found a comment left by another with a similar problem.  So here I am, feeling a little silly about sharing my garbage with complete strangers though I am at a loss as to what to do. As the title says, I'm 29...
    lumi lumi 26-30, F 24 Responses Jun 4, 2007

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    I have no social skills whatsoever

    because I am so shy. I can't get a job because when people interview me I freeze up and never know what to say. It ruined my college path because I had to pass an interview to move on to the program I needed. During the interview, I froze up, started crying, and nearly passed...
    slytherinvamp slytherinvamp 18-21, F 3 Responses Feb 22

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    How Do You Live A Normal Life When You Can't Even Say Hi To People?

    All my life I have been exceptionally shy, it used to be so bad I would blush, I hated being called on in school, part of it is that I just don't know what to say to people I mean yeah I can say hi to strangers maybe even smile but then what next? How are you? I'm not witty...
    EnchantingMinx EnchantingMinx 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 19, 2013

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    I never go on holidays .

    .. I would love to travel and see the world but ....
    KoB39A2nu KoB39A2nu 26-30 2 Responses Jan 8

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    High School

    I'm 15 and started going to a public high school where i don't know anyone last September. In 8th grade i went to a catholic school and my class was extremely small (13 students). Not to sound cocky but I was kind of popular. One of my friends even said she wanted to be me...
    side2 side2 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 21, 2013

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    16, Wasting My Life

      I’m not the best writer in the world so please ignore how bad this is well just like lumi I was browsing the net trying to figure out how to get over this and I stumbled across his experience. I felt as if he was writing about my life with a few...
    crimsonrazac crimsonrazac 16-17 Sep 20, 2008

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    15, lonely.

    Okay so im a terrible writer so mind my typing. basically, im a 15 year old girl and i attend a high school as a freshman. After eighth grade i decided to go to a different school. All through elementary school and middle school i was always the crazy, outgoing, funny, pretty...
    elizabethh16 elizabethh16 13-15 2 Responses Mar 8, 2012

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    i hate it when i am so shy.

    what's up with that? i wish i wasn't. i have some friends that they are so good at talking to people and they are very persuasive. i wish i was like them :(
    abcd70 abcd70 22-25, F 3 Responses Jun 11

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    My Life Of Shyness

    When I was a boy at school i would have 1 or 2 friends. I was never popular kids would sometimes bully me. I was a teenager that lacked confidence girls thought i was a joke. I came from a broken home. My dad left us my exams were poor. In to my 20s I used to go out at weekends...
    defoekeane defoekeane 36-40, M 1 Response Jun 21, 2013

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    The Quiet Man

    Hello everyone, I'm 20 and have been quiet and shy for as long as I can remember, as if that's not bad enough I'm also a chronic blusher meaning I blush often and it's more than noticable (think tomato) so you can probably imagine high school was pretty tough for me, oral reports...
    DonBrunoJr DonBrunoJr 18-21, M 3 Responses Oct 12, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    Hi, I am new here and would love to talk to some people but am always too shy and awkward to message and/or add anyone. I love books and musicals, especially The Phantom Of The...
    ViperaStellaris ViperaStellaris 13-15, F 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    Well it's like this since I don't trust anyone I'll test others for their sincerity constantly to the point everyone around me who's close enough to know how I am always asked...
    SwanNual SwanNual 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 6

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       Parts of my real life seemed like a nightmare.  I am already far from the scene of the crime and from the mastermind who played havoc in my life. Yet, I can...
    4BlackForest 4BlackForest 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 9

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    I am definitely a shy person. Especially when I first meet someone. It's made life very difficult indeed and I wish I wasn't so shy.
    mattywheels25 mattywheels25 26-30, M 1 Response Nov 8

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