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I Am Sometimes Antisocial

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    U call it antisocial,

    I call it not liking to associate with people
    blackswan012 blackswan012 18-21, F 9 Responses Jul 6

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    I'm not the one who draws attention to

    themselves :b I don't like being the center of attention -_- it's not for me ! Lol
    Lonurstonurdoge Lonurstonurdoge 13-15, M 1 Response a week ago

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    I used to be more social.

    I used to be happy. Then I got married to him. Everything was fine at first, but then his true colors started to show. I'm torn, broken, depressed. The last thing on my mind is a social life. I just want out. But I have to go somewhere he'll never look for me. I've never been to...
    purpleribbongirl purpleribbongirl 22-25, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Don't know why but sometimes I'm just not in

    the mood to talk to people and shut them out...majority of the time I'm fine...usually when someone is bitching/complaining I shut out, positive attitude!
    Dollers24 Dollers24 18-21, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I like being alone, but then

    when I watch people my age having fun with their friends, going to conventions, playing pranks on one another. I wish I could be like them, but it's hard for me to be around people. I hate being around people, but I yearn to be with them.
    WinterSkyout WinterSkyout 16-17, F 5 Responses a week ago

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    Sometimes I just don't feel like talking to

    anyone. There's been a time where I've just been locked in my room for a straight 2 weeks. I feel like sometimes nobody wants me around so I stay away..
    disneylover3 disneylover3 16-17, F 7 Responses Jun 14

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    I avoid certain social situations with people I

    don't know too well. I will straight up say no immediately after being invited.. It's a reflex I guess. I do it because I'm afraid of being left out and can't stand the idea of being in the corner by myself. I beat myself up about it so much because I know it's stupid. If...
    cranberriess cranberriess 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 11

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    I like listening to people talk,

    because I find it easier to just listen/watch how a person acts before I finally decide to say something to them.
    Elijahx Elijahx 18-21, M 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Or, at least, people seem to see me

    that way. The truth is that I'm painfully shy around strangers or in crowds. Being around lots of people with too much noise, such as a party, will make me retreat. Honestly, I'm a good person, I'm just shy and quiet, and I prefer to be approached rather than approaching someone...
    shilosmistress1 shilosmistress1 51-55, F 4 Responses Jun 11

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    Sometimes I just really want to be alone

    and be quiet. I don't hate people. As a matter of fact I love communicating and analyzing humans! However, there are just really exhausting times were all you hear are words and energy bouncing around. You feel so tired by how they suck your own energy. because you need to...
    Wewerethereinthattime Wewerethereinthattime 18-21, F 5 Responses Jun 18

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    I'm literally a Goth!

    Tattoos and piercings. Black clothes. But I was born in Gotland. Mind you, some would say very social when I go out just wearing panties and tee.
    Silfverberg Silfverberg 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 26

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    CanadianGal80 CanadianGal80 31-35, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I'm not sure if antisocial is the right word

    for me. Maybe I'm just really avoidant. I want to be around friends and meet new people, but it seems every time the opportunity presents itself, I always opt to stay home. Then later I feel crappy and lonely and miserable. It's a vicious cycle really. I know I should just stop...
    xd288 xd288 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 10

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    I feel like just hiding in my room all day.

    Info not want to go be social!!!
    KimTin33 KimTin33 22-25, F 6 Responses Jul 15

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    Sometimes I feel like everyone is talking about

    me behind my back and I just want to tun away from them. I know it's childish but in people's company, I always feel like the odd one out. In truth, I prefer my own company + mp3 to anyone else's company. At least then I know that they aren't talking about me.
    Alemae Alemae 13-15, F 8 Responses Jul 8

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    I Enjoy My Own Company

    I have a few friends that I spend a little time with but I'm always happiest when I'm on my own. I do socialize but not often. I feel bad when people ask me to go somewhere with them and I say NO but I don't see the point if I'm not in the mood. A lot of my friends need to be...
    AWUK AWUK 26-30, F 8 Responses Sep 13, 2007

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    I recently went without social contact

    for about three weeks. In a sad kind of way, I'm sort of proud of it. My life doesn't depend on others.
    FictionalWolf FictionalWolf 16-17, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    More than sometimes. I often feel antisocial

    tendencies,and those who know me basically leave me alone when I'm in that state.
    thegirlnobodyknows thegirlnobodyknows 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 10

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    Sometimes I am antisocial,

    and I don't mean to be...it's just that past experiences with an ex making me feel like **** about myself and judging me in front of others has made me that way. I have a new boyfriend who makes me feel so comfortable around him and his friends don't make me feel weird...I'm...
    princesscolie princesscolie 22-25, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I just like to observe people

    before I start a conversation. :) or actually there is nothing much to talk about.
    cathy2299 cathy2299 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 10

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    It's a form of protection.

    You can't hurt me, if I don't let you in.
    DarkSoulInsaneHeart DarkSoulInsaneHeart 13-15, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Trust Issues

    I've had a few bad experiences with so called friends. Now I have trust issues and find that I don't want to make friends anymore. (Not meaning on line but out there in the real world face to face). Most of the time I find that people use me. If they need me I'm there but it's...
    Darkslayer Darkslayer 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 28, 2007

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    Very. I don't talk to a lot of people.

    I talk to some, but not a lot.
    laubrown1 laubrown1 16-17, F 3 Responses Jun 19

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    If I see someone I know in the distance it

    fills me with a sense of dread as I will have to stop at talk to them. I sometimes pretend I haven't seen them and to go into the nearest shop or go down a different street just so I don't have to stop and chat. Sometimes I can be ok but most of the time I'm like this.
    Redandgrey Redandgrey 26-30, F 5 Responses Jun 11

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    Yeah....I'm the person at dances

    that is watching people dance from a wall (aka: a wallflower). People love to tease me and say that I can't dance so I lean on wall but that's not true. I can dance but it makes me uncomfortable to dance in public. Is that weird? I also tend to look serious sometimes and don't...
    Iamatitan01 Iamatitan01 13-15, F 1 Response a week ago

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    Sometimes? More like most of the time.

    I was on a train yesterday, sitting in the lounge car, and two older teenage boys tried to start a conversation with me. I flat out ignored them and pretended like I couldn't hear them. This is why I'm missing out on so much in life.
    JustAnotherConflictedSoul JustAnotherConflictedSoul 13-15, M 4 Responses Jun 19

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    I don't mean to be antisocial,

    I am just always afraid that people who are my friends are secretly judging me.
    amyh217 amyh217 31-35, F 4 Responses Jun 7

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    Sometimes having alone time can be therapeutic,

    but if that alone time exceeds 1 week depression starts to set in :(
    justEexisting justEexisting 16-17, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    A lot of people find this unusual

    when they find this out. I am usually someone who is outgoing and is not afraid to talk to anyone. Heck, I even flirt with newcomers! I usually end up becoming antisocial when something arises which I was not expecting or if an incident occurs. It truly is strange.
    DamoiseauDynavolt DamoiseauDynavolt 16-17, M 3 Responses Jul 7

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    I have few friends and I can be funny with them

    but when I go out with them and they introduce me to other people I just shut down, I'm quiet and awkward and I wish I could change that.
    Imirlanda Imirlanda 18-21, F 9 Responses Jul 7

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    I'm not very social but it's not like I'm a

    complete loner. Unfortunately for me, I have a VERY social sister. I'm always being compared to her or asked why I don't "go out" more. It's gotten to the point where my dad makes snide comments or calls me names almost daily (especially in public). It upsets me a lot. I really...
    Candyflosshair Candyflosshair 16-17, F 5 Responses Jul 7

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    I Am Always Antisocial Its not

    because i am socially awkward or anything, in fact if I didn't think so low of myself, I'm sure Id pick back up my knack for making friends. I always used to make friends very easily when I was a child, I was much more outgoing and confidant back then. My personality can thrive...
    solomon3020 solomon3020 18-21, M 8 Responses Jun 5

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    I don't know anyone who isn't.

    Let me explain something to those of you who are offended when I seem distant or just not active here, which isn't often: Just because that happens it doesn't mean I'm not ok, or mad, or that you did something wrong. And that is the case with most women ok? Lol. It simply...
    AnnRhodes AnnRhodes 18-21, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    Most of the time I would

    rather just grab a blanket and watch TV or go for a walk or something alone. I make plans with friends, and then when they near I dread doing them and hope they will cancel because I just do not feel like it. I'm always OK when I am actually there, but getting there is...
    cwazysegal cwazysegal 31-35 1 Response Jul 10

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    Sometimes... but I think often is more accurate.

    I have layers of secrets that I don't want anyone to know. 50% because I'm afraid of judgement and 50% because I just want security. The only person I'm truly honest with is my bf.
    youruniverse youruniverse 16-17, F 2 Responses Jun 8

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    I won't call my mom. I tell my kids they can't

    come over with the grands. I leave my phone on silent and try to forget where I put it. I abhor the mall/shops/stores. I levitate with rage when people drop by unannounced. SOMETIMES.
    ShebrewRed ShebrewRed 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 21

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    I wouldn't say sometimes its a little more

    complicated than that, i avoid face to face confrontation and when i have to i have a suttle studder but it drives me nuts.
    randomanweird randomanweird 18-21, M a week ago

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    I walk past people without making the effort of

    conversation very frequently. I know I look like A **** but I'm just not interested in many other peoples lives. Only A selected few.
    Muppetschristmasspecial Muppetschristmasspecial 31-35, M 3 Responses Jun 11

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    Sometimes I can go out

    and be the life of the party (not really but still) like all bright and happy and be all open with people and stuff, but other times I'm closed... and I can't conduct a convo with a person even if I wanted to...
    SammyWayJ SammyWayJ 18-21, F May 24

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    I can be at a sleep over

    for a night and be totally fine and enjoying it. But the next morning, i do not like hanging around. I'm a morning person for sure, its just that mornings are my 'me' time. i prefer not to be bothered.
    SabrinaB27 SabrinaB27 18-21, F Jun 21

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    The way people behave in a social context

    and the way they behave when you are alone with them, you would think they have a split personality. I don't have this ability. I talk the same way, whether I am in a room with 100 people or alone at home with an invisible friend. Where do extroverts get their split...
    Aeonian Aeonian 51-55, M 2 Responses Jul 13

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    My home is my castle: Moat,

    walls and drawbridge included, lol! Here's the thing; if I didn't invite you, DON'T "drop by" cause your gonna get attitude. Cold, distant and full-on d*ckishness. We have phones, people. Email too! I feel violated like my sanctuary has been invaded. Listen, if I don't do it...
    Beaver318 Beaver318 41-45, M Jun 24

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    I have friends. Some.

    But sometimes, it's so taxing to be around them. I don't reply to their messages. It's been two weeks now. They're mad. I want to say sorry but I'm not sure I'd mean it. I liked having the two weeks to myself. I liked that I didn't spend that time engaging in uninteresting small...
    sharksarepeople sharksarepeople 18-21 4 Responses Jul 13

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    So I was born in Texas,

    even lived there until I was nine. Then one day out of the blue I was told, "Kian, your mother and I are getting a divorce. Then we are moving the other side of the world to a place called Wales". When we moved, everything had come crashing down. My family just broke apart in...
    CatchingDarkness CatchingDarkness 16-17, M 3 Responses Jun 30

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    I am more of a selective antisocial,

    I can be really fun, talkative and funny with people I really enjoyed with, but for the others I feel so exhausted and fake when I try to talk and be nice.
    agnest agnest 18-21, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I enjoy people ... I'm just used to being alone

    .... prob should break that habit but it's hard to change something when you're so used to it
    danyel92 danyel92 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 10

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    whitenova whitenova 46-50, M 1 Response Jul 8

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    antisocial meaning im dont want to talk and that im bad at it.
    kieshi kieshi 13-15, F 1 Response Jun 29