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I Am Starting a Divorce After 25 Years of Marriage

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    One Of The So Many Divorced... Me After 23 Years.

    I find it so hard to forget my life with this man. I have tried so many things to get over him and move on. Even though we ended up having a love hate relationship towards the end I never thought he would walk oout the way he did and in the arms of another women. He planned it...
    BeeFen BeeFen 46-50 3 Responses Aug 27, 2012

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    25 Years Down The Drain, But That's Ok 50 Is A Good Age To Start Over

    We met in the military. He had asked one of his friend to introduce us and bam we were married. Within 3 years we had 2 kids, then we left the military and moved to his home state. He was an only child and he wanted to be closer to his family. I will not say that is when our...
    dfw50 dfw50 51-55, F Aug 16, 2013

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    Willing to Learn

    I am at another end of this spectrum. I am in the process of forming a relationship with a man who is divorcing after 30 years of marriage. We have a wonderful time together--relate on so many topics, have so many interests in common.  We are in a "courtship"...
    anastasia7 anastasia7 41-45 4 Responses Jun 29, 2009

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    I have been married for over 26 years

    and I will be the first to admit that the first couple of years of our marriage I was unfaithful. I have had to live (deal) with that hanging over my head for the past 20 years. on the other side of the token I will be the first to admit that I have treated my wife like a queen...
    maintmech01 maintmech01 41-45, M 1 Response Mar 15

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    Need Advice After 25 Years Married & Now He Wants Out

    I would like to know what anyone else in my situation would do. My husband and I have been married for almost 25 years. Last year I discovered he was texting a woman he works with at least 500 times per month!! I was shocked, I asked him about her and he immediately said "I am...
    xxex xxex 51-55 12 Responses Aug 8, 2010

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    26 Years Of Marriage Ending In That Dreaded Word.."divorce"

    Hi...i'm new to this site so please be patient with me. I'm 51 years old and about to be divorced. I married my husband when i was 25...over half of my life ago. Out of the 26 years of marriage..the first 24 were good. We have two wonderful daughters..one is 23 and the other...
    salla51 salla51 51-55, F 3 Responses Nov 8, 2012

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    San Carlos -ca- Real -divorce X Being Fair And Honest With Your Ex!!!

    I don t understand .. A men and woman met ... she had nothing .. actually she had a baby from her boyfriend .. the boyfriend , did not want the baby neither her ! The men . Then starts to date the woman .. She had nothing .. Not even graduated from high school! He felt in love...
    Liege17 Liege17 51-55 1 Response Jul 4, 2012

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    I would be celebrating my 25th wedding

    anniversary this June, but instead I hope to have my divorce final by then. My husbands affair put the nail in the coffin of our marriage, but the truth is we were incompatible in many ways. I wanted to divorce because I felt he didn't love me or care about me (which he didn't...
    slowsurrender slowsurrender 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 2

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    It Would Have Been 25 Years Last November

    I am not really good at this stuff.  Hate talking about things I kept so private for so many years.  We had been together for 27 yeARS.  I am now 48.  I am really not sure how to deal with things alone.  Day to Day things are OK.  It was an abusive relationship. I am in...
    ninergal63 ninergal63 46-50 1 Response May 28, 2011

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    27 Years And Now What Do I Do

    I have been married for 27 years and have 2 kids, my son is 22 and daughter is 15, my husband is 47 and so am I. I thought I had a good marriage even though we moved alot due to me, I guess I get restless and I am a preacher's kis, so was use to moving alot. My husband had a...
    diamond47m diamond47m 46-50, F May 1, 2011

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    Is There Life After Divorce

    In 2008 and after 23+ years of his bad temper,mental and verbal abuse and loss of confidence because 'I was mad'. I wanted to make plans to celebrate our 25th anniversary but he cut me down and reduced me to tears over it. I eventually suggested counselling but he wouldn't hear...
    larky73 larky73 51-55, F 5 Responses Dec 30, 2012

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    Divorced

    I was divorced about 1 year ago. We were married for 27 years. He was My best friend, lover and everything in between. Then things started to change. I became friends with this person and got really close really fast. I was unaware that she became my friend to get with my...
    katman48 katman48 46-50, F 8 Responses Jul 1, 2013

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    I Also Am Starting A Divorce After 25 Years..

    Im the wife and after 25 years of marriage I reached a point where I needed help,  I needed emotional support I remember crying as I stood in front of him with tears falling down my cheeks, my words"We need help" His reply,"If you need help, you go".  I packed up and moved out...
    b2210121 b2210121 46-50 2 Responses Mar 24, 2012

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    Considering Divorce After Almost 25 Years Of Marriage

    I have been married for almost 25 years and am considering getting divorced.  For the great majority of my marriage I have served the role of head of household, managing all the financial, familial and housekeeping functions.  During that time, my husband, although a good...
    works4all works4all 41-45 4 Responses May 17, 2012

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    Married Almost 25 Years

    I am contemplating a divorce from my wife. Irony here, my church yesterday, Sunday, just had a sermon on divorce. Sunday night I told my wife "this isn't working anymore". She was silent. I slept on the sofa sleeper. She came to the sleeper, I was on my side facing away from...
    JLexington JLexington 56-60, M 6 Responses Jul 29, 2013

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    Divorce After 25 Years Of Marriage

    I am getting divorced after 25 years of marriage and I hate it.  My husband s 15 years older than me but the age difference has nothing to do with our problems.  He actually looks younger than most men my age and is very handsome with little grey hair (not that that matters...
    georgie624 georgie624 51-55, F 12 Responses Aug 9, 2011

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    Happy Ending

    After over 30 years of marriage, I am now on my own and truly loving every moment of it. My husband presented me with divorce papers and if I could, I would tell him that he gave me the greatest gift the world could give. I could no longer deal with the lies and the deception...
    macdawn macdawn 56-60, F 2 Responses Apr 23, 2011

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    After 25 and a half years of what I thought was

    a happy marriage, my husband comes to me and informs me that he is a cross dressing bi sexual and that he had a couple of one night stands at parties that he went to. I filed for divorce. He moved in with another woman and has basically forgotten about his daughters as he spends...
    jnnylynn jnnylynn 46-50, F Mar 4

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    Need Help

    i am getting divorced after 25 years my husband started haven an affair with my friend accross the street from us i found out that they went away together one weekend and now i wanted a divorce he said he wanted to work it out but i just cant i cant move without selling and right...
    gaylefur gaylefur 56-60, F 4 Responses Nov 9, 2009

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    Divorcing In Midlife

    After 25 years I'm now starting a divorce.  This is my only marriage so the divorce is a whole new experience for me. Our relationship had been more of a friendship than anything else for a long time, but I was thinking that this was as good as it was going to be for...
    Patrick52 Patrick52 51-55, M 13 Responses Feb 7, 2009

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    Divorcing After 25 Years Of Marriage

    I and My husband met when we were just 18 yrs. old.  Fell In Love and committed to stay together no matter what.  And that is exactly what I did stay committed.  It was a rocky road but we made it through some things that we know people whom are married have divorced over less...
    Bigred1234 Bigred1234 41-45 2 Responses Jun 21, 2012

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    24 Years And I Asked For A Divorce - Husband A Mess

    Ok here it goes - a medal to any of you who read this whole post. I am trying to gain some perspective and feedback. I am so done. I have been progressively more unhappy for the last couple of years. I have expressed my issues with his dysfunctional behaviors (drinking, anger...
    mysafety66 mysafety66 46-50 9 Responses Oct 29, 2012

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    "i Think I'm In Trouble: - Lindsey Buckingham

    Lindsey Buckingham's song "Trouble" from 1981 almost feels like a theme song for me! I'm not starting a divorce, so perhaps I don't belong in this group. But I'm trying to find someone with whom I can share what I'm experiencing and maybe some people here can relate.My wife and I...
    Candu2 Candu2 51-55, M 1 Response Sep 25, 2011

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    25 Years Of Marriage

    I was best friends with my spouse for five years, dated for a year and a half of that five years and married. Shortly after being married I knew I had my work cut out for me, starting with his family. His father was a worthless mouthy drunk and his mother popped pills to deal...
    JoyDank JoyDank 41-45, F 3 Responses Aug 7, 2013

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    Family First - At What Cost?

    I blame my dysfunctional upbringing. My mother abandoned me and my father raised me with a women who didn't know how to love me. I don't blame any individual, but my experiences. I believe that someone will do to you, only what you allow them to do. In addition, I never...
    mdechelleb mdechelleb 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 31, 2012

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    My 26th anniversary is in less then a week

    and my husband is having a crisis with coping with medical retirement. He has been a cop for nearly 18 years of our26 years of marriage and is having a hard time dealing with the loss of that he says. He has nothing (ok me in nothing?). He says he has a lot he needs to think...
    Bff4988 Bff4988 46-50, F 6 Responses Apr 5

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    The Not So Typical "i'm Not In Love With You"

    I'm confused....how in the world can someone love everything about a person, get along well with a person, think the world of a person, be sexually attracted to a person, but yet not want to be married to this person after 22 years? Well, I'm asking myself this since I'm on the...
    ChelleBeane ChelleBeane 41-45, F 12 Responses Dec 25, 2012

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    Not Sure Where To Go Now

    I have been married for 24 1/2 years, together with my husband for over 25. We have been separated for over 6 months now and I have filed for divorce. The mental/verbal abuse started about 4 or 5 months after we were married. Since that time, he chased away all my friends and...
    lost909 lost909 41-45, F 5 Responses Apr 29, 2013

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    Divorced After 25 Years 30 Together

    After 25 years married and 30 together, I am now divorced. I am looking forward to my new life but the journey will be hard. It ended simply because we grew apart, no affairs, drugs, drinking, just a very lonely marriage. After only 4 months on my own, it gets better everyday...
    swflman swflman 51-55, M 1 Response Mar 6, 2011

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    Divorce After 26 Years

    my husband wants to divorce me, force me to sell the family home my kids have always and still do live in, there 25, 22, and 18 years old,  its all my fault he says, we dont sleep together, because he snores very loudly and keeps me awake all night, we never have sex, we dont...
    lkwhitter2 lkwhitter2 46-50 3 Responses May 27, 2011

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    Divorce After 25 Years: A Kids Point Of View

    Im the youngest of 4 and im 17 years old. My parents are in their 50's. They were happily married for 25 years and are now divorcing; basically, because my moms mom (my grandma) died a year ago. Thats the only straight forward reason why. My grandma played a really important role...
    Taylor1212 Taylor1212 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 12, 2013

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    Hi dears!My story is a long

    and painfull story of a teenage girl who got married to a monster and ended up at 37 with three kids after being voilently abused ,this is me i always knew he had mental problems but they arranged our marriage so i didn't had the chance to chose ,he is the kind of maniac u won't...
    shamkm shamkm 36-40, F 3 Responses Dec 23, 2013

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    It's My Fault, How To Best Move Forward

    Married 25 years two kids both grown.  We separated for about 6 months about 20 years ago, but that was based on differing priorities, not because of any woman, people told me that it was normal. After we got back together, things went great we supported each other but then I...
    Dorneo Dorneo 46-50, M 3 Responses Sep 18, 2011

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    Not Sure What To Do?

    mY WIFE AND i ARE SEPERATING AFTER 10 YEARS! SHE SAY THE PASSION ISNT THERE ANY MORE, BUT SHE HAS KEPT THIS IN FOR ABOUT A YEAR AND JUST DECIDED TO TELL ME NOW. BEFORE WE WERE AWSOME BORN OUT OF DREAMS. SHE SAID WE WERE SOULMATES AND I BELIVE IT ALSO BUT THE DREAM HAS FADED. I...
    KATALEX KATALEX 41-45, M 3 Responses Jul 8, 2010

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    I'm Seeing A Guy Who Is In A 25 Year Marriage

    I read all the stories here and tried to sympathise for his wife, or myself I guess at the end of the story. I think he is a pretty good actor. He seems like he hates his wife. He is so scared of her. They have three kids and he is terrified she will not let him see them if he...
    Natalie2014 Natalie2014 36-40, F 3 Responses Oct 8, 2013

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    Marriage 24 Years Going Through A Divorce

    Married 24 years going through a divorce. Marriage was bad for a long time. About the only good thing about the marriage was having 3 children.My wife lost her job for having an inappropriate relationship at work.  My wife & I discussed divorce many times over the last 5 years...
    Curious46 Curious46 46-50 2 Responses Dec 26, 2010

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    Getting Divorce After 28 Years Of Marriage

    I am getting divorce after 28 years of marriage. I have no skills to get a good job. We have a lot of assets and have no debt. I have been very lonely for many years, but stay for the sake of my daughter. Now that she is grown I feel it is time for me. I feel scare through...
    abbiee56 abbiee56 56-60, F 5 Responses Nov 14, 2013

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    20 Years Of Unknown Abuse

    My husband has squashed my self esteem! Unfortunately, it took 20 years (thanks to therapy and my mom) to realize i was being mentally and verbally abused. I begged my husband to go to marriage counseling but he absolutely refused. Finally i thought maybe i can go to therapy...
    sheribabbee sheribabbee 46-50, F 2 Responses Aug 25, 2012

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    I've Been An At-home Mom For 18 Yrs And Now He Says He Never Loved Me, What Am I Supposed To Do?

    I met my husband 19 yrs ago and I feel in-love with him immediately. I had already been through a bad marriage and was certain I would never find love, that I wasn't meant to ever be loved. My previous husband was emotionally abusive and in the end, physically abusive, so I was...
    luvylady luvylady 36-40, F 6 Responses Jan 17, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    Undecided whether to post this under this group or under the other one "I'm having random thoughts", I believe posted here the discussion shall be more thoughtful and sensitive...
    TheDreamyWoman TheDreamyWoman 36-40, F 9 Responses 4 days ago

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    the years have passed on by.I went into a marriage with open arms and great anticipation of happily ever after.What I got was two wonderful children which I raised alone as a...
    bignatbreastluver bignatbreastluver 46-50, M Aug 24

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    The compromise promise. I ran into a former colleague yesterday. When I worked with him I got to know his wife and kids, and the couple seemed happily married, but got divorced a...
    something2talkabout something2talkabout 51-55, M 8 Responses 5 days ago

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    Well. It is finally official. I am divorced! After all the craziness, after years of sexless marriage and emotional distance, after emotional and physical abuse, after having an...
    unexpectedlove15 unexpectedlove15 26-30, F 9 Responses Aug 22

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    Since I last wrote on here, my husband and I have decided to divorce after 7 years of marriage. The last time we had sex was really weird, and I just felt so distant. Counseling...
    VanillaAlmond1 VanillaAlmond1 31-35, F 6 Responses 3 days ago

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    So I guess the question for me is, "How long does it take to turn an SM into a "normal" marriage?," or "How long does it take to recover from an SM, and make it better?" Of course...
    indianoutlaw indianoutlaw 31-35, M 23 Responses Aug 27

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    I have been divorced since December 2010. Separated before that...August 2009. I should have filed for divorce first...but I wanted the marriage to work..so I filed for legal...
    RubyLane RubyLane 41-45, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I wanted to post and solicit some advice. I have been waiting for my wife to go our of town for a few weeks now. I was/am planning to see a divorce lawyer, one that specializes in...
    hoss350 hoss350 41-45, M 12 Responses Sep 10

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    I am getting at peace that my 22 years marriage is over I just wonder what next for me I am starting to pray for myself more and asking God for his will to be done in my lord I don...
    C1286 C1286 46-50, F Sep 7

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    After years of arguing and resentment, it finally came to a head this weekend. Major row and name calling etc ended in days of silence. Today after asking if her this is what she...
    piscean1965 piscean1965 46-50, M 6 Responses Sep 2

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    I have been married for 12 years to a younger woman. I provided for her but she was bored and had several affairs and even got pregnant from one of them. Our 9 year old is not...
    ShesGoneNJ ShesGoneNJ 51-55, M 4 Responses Aug 22

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    I have been with my wife for almost 30 years. Sex was mostly good and regular for the first 5, although I ALWAYS had to initiate it. About 4 yearss ago, after years of saying that...
    BikeAndHike BikeAndHike 46-50, M 8 Responses 5 days ago

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