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I Am Starved For Affection

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    Random Non-chronological Me Stuff

    I'm lonely pretty often, even around other people. Especially around my husband. Not that he's not a great guy, he is, sortof. And I love him. Sometimes I love him a lot, sometimes I wanna bash his ears in. I guess that's what marriage is all about tho, eh? lol I'm...
    zarfle zarfle 36-40, F 9 Responses Jul 12, 2012

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    Like I Don't Get Enough!

    I was going to try to write something poetic but **** that, this situation is bullshit. I get affection everyday from somewhere, most of my friends are girls and I go to all of them for affection and they smother me in it but it's never ******* enough is it. I will go to any...
    Miserablistbboygothslut Miserablistbboygothslut 31-35, M 19 Responses Aug 3, 2008

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    Someone....

    All I want is someone to love me and care about me and how I feel and ask me how I am. I have never had a boyfriend so I'm really lonely cause I don't have that many friends. I need someone to actually care about me. I don't think that that's too much to ask. I think that I...
    lolajonson lolajonson 16-17, F 3 Responses Dec 30, 2010

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    Need Affection So Bad :'(

    I wish I could put on Craigslist that I need affection.  Men used to use this to take advantage of me (not sexually always, but just to make fun of me or waste my time).  Now I use my deductive logic skills, I ask my self?What is MY way?Am I getting MY way? Have I improved...
    journeytowhere journeytowhere 22-25, F 8 Responses Sep 21, 2011

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    Damn That Picture...

    I want me some of that! ♥✟✞❥❤✞ ♥ ☮☯♊✌☩☠☾✯❀
    magenxmajestic magenxmajestic 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 19, 2013

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    I really don't know what the **** is going on,

    what is so wrong with me, so that no one wants to stay close. I don't have a single friend, I've never had anyone that loves me back. There's so much pain in this world, why are we so damn stupid? It hurts so much
    sadasusual sadasusual 22-25 Aug 10

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    I'm Like A Dried Out Plant.

    I feel as if I'm a plant, and affection is the water, and I've always been an extra dried out plant.   It's almost as if I'm a plant in the desert.  Or a plant next to a bunch of other plants.  Like I'm the only dried out plant on the block, and all the other...
    journeytowhere journeytowhere 22-25, F 3 Responses Jun 25, 2010

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    I Would Love It 2

    i would love 2 b touched everywhere some people have all the luck
    hotbabe1 hotbabe1 13-15, F Apr 9, 2013

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    Tired Of Crying...

    I found this site and thought maybe writing my feelings would help. I'm a 48-year-old attractive woman going through a divorce after 22 years. Been on my own for 8 months. The reason I'm divorcing is my husband never gave me the love and affection I so desperately needed. It...
    Jancan Jancan 46-50, F 1 Response Aug 12, 2013

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    I Miss That Special Feeling

    It's just not about sex while that is good in a relationship it's not everything. What I'm looking for is someone who is kind and caring and would be there for me like I would for them. When I am with someone I like the hugs and the kisses It just makes you feel good to know that...
    gelroller gelroller 46-50, M 3 Responses Jul 22, 2012

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    How I Miss It....

    Well the title of this group says it all! ~STARVED FOR AFFECTION~ oh how I long for him to hold me, touch me, carress me, kiss me,  etc.. gosh I miss the intimacy and  the smell of his skin... oh I miss it all...
    coolchick coolchick 41-45, F 25 Responses Apr 12, 2008

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    Lonely

    I have been married to my present wife for 12yrs., but we have drifted apart. We are living more like brother and sister. I'm depressed and starving for affection, but my age is a handicap. I feel so alone, i could scream. Not many women are interested in an older gentleman. But...
    fuddnuttzz fuddnuttzz 66-70, M 1 Response Aug 14, 2012

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    Just One Kiss...

    and I'm good again for another ten years. lol Ugh... it's crazy... does anyone think I'm an *** for wanting a kiss, and to be held, to make out...?
    AlwaysPersevere71 AlwaysPersevere71 41-45, M 3 Responses Sep 17, 2012

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    ...what I wouldn't give to have a long,

    full-bodied, standing embrace...
    SShawnO SShawnO 41-45, M 3 Responses Mar 30

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    I Honestly Feel That Loneliness Can Kill

    Always alone, Never loved, never wanted. This will drive people into deep dark depressions, they will kill themselves because they are never hugged never held. And it's a self sustaining cycle.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Sep 26, 2013

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    And It's My Fault...

    I am starved for affection, yet I push away my friends and family. Especially, my fiance. I want so much to just let him love me...but it hurts to let people in...I'm so lucky he sticks around. I love him so much!
    rikajustine rikajustine 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 3, 2012

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    I Dont Think It Matters

    affection its been years how can i still cry where do these feelings come from their just too unreal.
    cutie2christy cutie2christy 36-40, F Nov 6, 2013

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    Comforting Affection

    I am starved for affection, but not in the sensual or sexual way. I'm starved for the innocent comforting affection that can be given only by a person who cares: A warm hug for when you feel down or worthless. A pat on the back for when you've done a good job. A kiss...
    missLV missLV 16-17, F 2 Responses Oct 2, 2010

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    Why Is It So Hard......

    Why is it so hard to find a woman who would appreciate a man that is romantic and sensual and compassionate and caring.... My brother treats woman very badly...he runs around on them... hits them..takes money from them and they would do ANYTHING for him... I treat woman with...
    ThePointman ThePointman 46-50, M 3 Responses Apr 27, 2013

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    To Be Held

    Right now I'm just feeling so lonely and craving loving touch and affection. My husband and I don't have sex (twice a year if I'm lucky). He very seldom even holds my hand or puts his arm around me. He doesn't even touch me in bed. I never thought marriage would be like this...
    teddybear95 teddybear95 41-45, F 5 Responses Aug 31, 2010

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    Starved For Affection

    I'm a single woman in her 40's who has found herself quite alone after a relationship break up more than a year ago.   Thought I was doing okay with just working, an occasional night out with girlfriends but not much other social activities.  Then one day a friend...
    karenwq karenwq 41-45, F 14 Responses Jun 26, 2009

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    Seeking Her

     I am alone now even though im not .I am staying with my kids and their mother for awhile.But me and their mom are divorced 5 years now.We have no desire or attraction to each other but we do care about each others well being.It sounds strange but its for the children, we have 2...
    coonly coonly 36-40 2 Responses May 22, 2011

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    Very Much In Love

    Although I am very much in love with my partner, I am starved for affection...I want him to touch and kiss me. I want him to tell me how pretty I am and mean it. Hes not the type to do these things...Never really been romantic other than V-day...I really want him to try to be but...
    MiseducatedChik MiseducatedChik 26-30, F 4 Responses May 15, 2008

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    What I Want

    I want my man to look up and smile at me when I walk in the door. I want him to ask me to sit beside him when we watch tv. I want him to be willing to watch something that I've expressed an interest in. I want him to realize independently that something needs to be done around...
    zarfle zarfle 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 26, 2012

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    Married And Very Lonely

    I have been married 14yrs. about 4 or 5 yrs ago things started to go downhill fast, I think so anyway, he seems to think everything is ok. (wtf??) We have drifted apart in every way possible. There is no communication--when I try to hold a conversation with him, he ignores me...
    NightOwl39 NightOwl39 36-40, F 3 Responses Sep 13, 2012

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    Just Wanna Be In Love...

    I can't even bare to tell my story. I just want this pain to go away.. I so desperately need someone in my life.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Apr 12, 2012

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    Health/marriage/life ...how Can I Turn This Around?

    Married 26 yrs. 2 sons 24 and 21 yrs. old Empty Nest Health is a mystery since 2007. Affection and romance gone. Not working No friends other then online penpal. Hubby lost his job. Menopause I am due for some good news like yesterday. How do i keep myself from going nuts and...
    graciousgina graciousgina 46-50, F 1 Response Jan 16, 2012

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    Just Thinking About It, Makes Me Want To Play In Traffic...

    It's true, no matter how sad it sounds... I haven't had affection...... in ages. I wonder if my life is even worthy to receive affection from someone, or if I must continue to just move around as a vessal waiting to run out of fuel then just kill over. I've tried to look, but I...
    SomeRandude SomeRandude 18-21, M 6 Responses Jan 15, 2011

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    Words Do Little. Action Does A Lot.

    It's good to know that you love me, but why can't you show me that you do. It gets painfully lonely wanting to feel loved. Words only go so far when I don't SEE any actions that supports your words.I really don't think I"m asking for too much.
    Wilber999 Wilber999 51-55, M 5 Responses Apr 23, 2012

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    Maybe Just Attention. Who Knows.

    Its so, painfully frustrating, because I have a loving family, but we were never a touchy feely group. I have a boyfriend, but we haven't been hanging out much. I have a t least one friend who I know would like to hang out with me, but I don't want to go out and do things, I just...
    Boopity Boopity 18-21, F Aug 9, 2013

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    One Is A Lonely Number.

    I didn't like this group because I'm horny or something like that, I just have this emptiness inside me sometimes that makes me feel sad sometimes. I see happy couples getting along, laughing, being together, holding hands and the sweetness of that relationship makes me yearn for...
    imsohorridithurts imsohorridithurts 18-21 10 Responses Jan 5, 2011

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    I Hate This Quote.

    I've seen it in a fortune cookie and I've seen it on face book. "Learn to befriend yourself and you'll never be lonely." It is not true. Look at human beings from the perspective of a zoologist. You wouldn't create a habitat for just one chimpanzee and expect it to be a healthy...
    sensualloveroflife sensualloveroflife 36-40 Nov 29, 2012

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    Sooo just wondering if this is just me

    but my boyfriend has this friend whom is a girl and when they text each other he talks to her like really nice more nicer then he talks to me and before he met me she tried it on when him but because she has cheated on his friends he would not be with her she is now married and...
    Ladyemzy Ladyemzy 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 4

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    I May Not Look Undernourish

    I or we may look all happy and very much in LOVE when we are out...Guess that is why we don't go many places together....Church and function for the children and parents homes.....But if looks showed my lack of affection...There would be a 800 # on Cable for this undernourish man...
    bquick bquick 51-55, M 3 Responses Apr 13, 2008

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    The cool summer evening breeze brushes by me

    and I close my eyes. My mind wanders to you. I feel warm with calm excitement as I feel your your embrace. Your body conforms to mine in our familiar embrace. Our lips meet softly at first. We feel the intensity of our passion as it builds and our soft kisses intensify...
    TobiasHelm TobiasHelm 41-45, M Aug 8

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    I miss being close to the person I love

    and feel every heartbeat, every move they make. Just stare in their eyes and enjoy that crazy feeling in the low part of my stomach. Like happiness and excitement and I just wanna kiss them until dawn and repeat it all over until sunset. Just miss the closeness, the soft lips...
    LadyWhatever LadyWhatever 18-21, F Jan 28

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    Not Sure!

    well i dont even thought if i starve for affection. the only think that i can say is that my mom is the captain and i am the soldier. i dont remember the last time we hug or say i love you. we are like two strangers. always the same routine.
    prettylovely prettylovely 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 22, 2012

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    Transitional Abyss

    i used to be a giant junkie. i got clean and have been working my *** of to become a healthy person but i have become very isolated due to the bizarre transitional hell i am going through. too healthy to relate to the drug crowd anymore....not healthy enough to be trusted or...
    sevenyears sevenyears 36-40, M Jul 20, 2012

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    Note To Self

    Dear Self, You want affection? What, are you stupid?! Get over yourself, you loser. You will always be "starved for affection" because affection is not real!! Don't believe me? Don't you realize that it's human nature to look out for one's own best interest? We only care about...
    Aimlessly Aimlessly 22-25 Oct 31, 2011

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    Real Affection

    Does not always have to be about sex. It can be about a word, a feeling, even a smile, if given the right way.
    psychologicalwonder psychologicalwonder 46-50, T Jul 8, 2012

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    Tired

    I am so tired of reading books, watching movies, and seeing people around all in love. I just want to have what they have so bad. I know I could make someone happy. I could be their everything and make them the happiest person on earth. Ugh its so frustrating not having someone...
    rainbow1691 rainbow1691 18-21, F 4 Responses Nov 26, 2011

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    I'm very affectionate

    and caring with people I love. I just wish I had some of that In return. I would love to know that someone loves and cares for me :(
    LunaSantos LunaSantos 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 23

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    I pretend it doesn't bother me-the months

    without something as innocent and comforting as a hug, or a genuine and tender touch. I pretend I haven't been crying for months when no one is around-that its okay that he lies and pretty much does what he wants. I smile as much as I can and put dinner in front of him. I lie...
    bellaenchant95 bellaenchant95 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 11

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    Tearing At The Seams

    It seems like this problem is an epidemic nowadays, at least in the circles I hang out with. Furries are starved for affection, emos, teenagers, etc. In my humble opinion, it's becoming a lifestyle in some circles. I had a lot of social problems throughout school. Kind of goofy...
    iapyx20 iapyx20 22-25, M 2 Responses Nov 5, 2009

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    {insert Affection Here}

    Well, I never thought I would complain about this, but here I am. Complaining. To start off, I am a very affectionate guy, and I do everything I can to show my girlfriend I love her. Well, here's where the complaining comes into play. My girlfriend, throughout our relationship...
    AMidnightDreary AMidnightDreary 18-21, M 2 Responses Jul 31, 2011

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    Little Girl Lost

    I was abused from the time I was 3 or 4 yrs old and never told antbody and my mom and da were drinkers and my dad died when I was 10 and mom really drank and I had to be a mom to my little sister and brother and at 18 I got married to get away from her and married an abusive...
    walk1040 walk1040 70+, F 4 Responses Oct 24, 2013

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    I miss being inlove, there's nothing like

    affection from the one your in love with... 😏
    dynamita79 dynamita79 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 7

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    I Just Need A Hug

    I am a 40 yr old man in a marriage of 12 years. In fact our 12 yr anniversary is this month. I realize marriages have ups and downs and mine has but for the most part we get along with each other and I love my wife. However I often wonder if she loves me because of her lack of...
    lssrrgsn lssrrgsn 36-40 3 Responses Jun 16, 2012

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    I Just Want My Partner To Hold Me

    I have recently just had a beautiful baby boy with my partner. Now she is amazing in every single way and there is no way I can fault her BUT is it wrong wrong for me to want to be cuddled and kissed more often? Our son is now two months old.. I do everything for her, housework...
    CuddlesWanted CuddlesWanted 18-21 1 Response Jul 8, 2012

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    I Am Never On The List

    Don't know why but I never make the list of any private social activity. I am somewhat on a friendly level with everyone, so I don't understand what it is about me that no one ever invites me to their social activities. This hurts me a lot as I work at a large institution where...
    Brownrose42 Brownrose42 41-45, F 1 Response Oct 28, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    I have starved myself before for a few months and don't really know how i'll ever over come it or forget about it.
    SydA1234 SydA1234 13-15, F Aug 12

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    I am, but my other half is not. Well, he is, just in his own way. I've learned to accept him for who he is. I believe people can be physically affectionate, verbally affectionate...
    missformidable missformidable 31-35, F 9 Responses 2 days ago

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    I am, in the sense that I am romantic and affectionate only in "the significant relationship". I'm not romantic in the sense that I dream of love in the fairytale sense, nor am I...
    sometimeslonelytoo sometimeslonelytoo 41-45, M Aug 14

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