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I Am Struggling Over My Divorce

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 118 People

    Trying To Cope

    I have been married for 34 years and my husband is a recovering alcoholic who up until 6 years ago was still drinking every day and was an agry drunk.  He never hit me but he verbally abused me until one night I couldn's stand it anymore and I called the police. They...
    4spanky 4spanky 51-55 1 Response Aug 2, 2010

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    Update on how I'm doing .

    In 2 weeks it will be a year me and my husband have been split . I miss him think about are love everyday . I've let it go I guess now it's being lonely that kills me .... No one here no one to talk to anymore . That's what been so hard . On top of everything lost my job . Feels...
    amandalovee24 amandalovee24 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 11, 2014

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    On 11-20 of this past year,

    my husband of 10 years blindsided me by informing me he no longer loved me and did not want to be married any longer. He claims that he wants to be alone but I suspect (along with all friends and family, including his) that he has at least been carrying on an emotional affair if...
    caridad99 caridad99 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 13, 2014

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    I Thought I Was Fine

    I thought I was fine with it, but the more I think about the chain of events I'm hurt and upset. Just a few days ago we sat down and talked about our problems, I thought he was going to leave then, but he hugged me and reassured me that we wouldn't break up, that he would...
    ProudMama8612 ProudMama8612 22-25, F 4 Responses Apr 28, 2010

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    I left because he treated me like garbage

    and never seemed to have my best interest at heart.... Then after i left he told me he treated me that way because he never thought i was capable of leaving him.... WTF??? But i have always felt that he always acted like a jerk towards me because he felt i needed him....makes...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Dec 22, 2013

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    Wife Filled For Divorce.

      About a month ago my wife filled for divorce. I'm Belgian and my wife is American we met each other in Belgium in 1993 we married in 1996 and since then lived in California, it has been a rollercoaster ride ever since. I believe that we grew apart due to me not...
    flanders0007 flanders0007 36-40, M 5 Responses Jan 17, 2008

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    Divorce Is For People Who Care So Little About Vows That It Means Nothing To Them

    Divorce is what I am force to do because to night he sleeps with another women how sad this has made me it is unbearable. I have been rejected all my life from this man but I loved him and the knowledge of him sleeping with someone else and knowing he hates me and never loved me...
    syndearson syndearson 51-55 2 Responses Aug 8, 2012

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    Now that's summer and the kids are home all day,

    our days are just days. Since my husband left, we no longer are excited about 6pm because it's just another hour for us. He isn't coming home anymore at that time or ever. So our day is filled with us around the house, doing chores, maybe running errands, maybe going to the...
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 7, 2014

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    Leaving to church . Can't stand to be here in

    this house or I'll fight w these women . Need a place for a couple more days .
    amandalovee24 amandalovee24 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 15

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    Ever Have A Day When Everything Is Good, But Nothing Feels Right?

       I have been separated for 14 months now. Divorce date is in December. Although I was the one to file, I am really having a hard time, just lately, coming to terms with the reality of it. It's something I never imagined for me or my children. And it's certainly nothing I ever...
    hometownmomma hometownmomma 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 22, 2011

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    I Still Dont Understand How This Happened

    6 weeks after the birth of our first daughter, I got into a fight with my husband and he said he wanted a divorce. A month later he flaunts his new girlfriend all over town and even comes and picks up our daughter with hickeys all over his neck. How can someone be so cold hearted...
    Dreedree Dreedree 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 3, 2011

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    So it been 1 year around this time I found out

    my husband had an affair . Still hurting still alone some days are good somedays bad . I guess what hurts is losing my life and still not where I want to be after my divorce . Kills me to be alone still while he has a baby and a family in the way . It's just unfair ! Have not...
    amandalovee24 amandalovee24 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 3, 2014

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    The only thing I had to hold onto

    when he left me for someone else... was the thought, that one day, he would realize that he will never find anyone better than me. Maybe someone prettier and younger, or someone who makes more money than I do... but I KNEW he would never be able to find someone who would love...
    TypicalPisces TypicalPisces 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 31, 2014

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    Canadian Ex

    The one person that I loved more then anything I married we have been together for 8 years and married for 5 I just got divorced a couple months ago. But havent seen or been together for the last year. I feel that he used me. I feel like a failure. I loved him so much I said my...
    meamano meamano 31-35 1 Response Aug 19, 2010

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    It's hard to believe I'm not married anymore.

    Ten years of being together without a single unkind word. Without a single shouting match. Without any infidelity or abuse of any kind. We went through hell together with her cancer. What the heck happened? I don't know. They say There's a reason for everything. For the life...
    barzins barzins 46-50, M 6 Responses Oct 22, 2014

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    I Love You But I'm Not In Love With You....

    Married almost 15 years, together for 18 years.  Four beautiful boys together that range from 4-11 yrs.  I went through some horrible emotional times during the past 6-8 years with my hormones, being pregnant every other year; post partum depression; not having a baby girl...
    KatRN KatRN 36-40 1 Response May 30, 2011

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    Has anyone ever spent thanksgiving alone

    completely alone all day . Just laying in bed . Scrolling through your phone seeing everyone happy eating love and I'm just here divorced sad and sick and alone . Eating a sandwich laying here dead .
    amandalovee24 amandalovee24 22-25, F 6 Responses Nov 27, 2014

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    Divorce is hard an affair is hard .

    This is what my life looks like for now . It's been a hard 2 years trying to see that I'm beautiful after my husband the man I loved for 8 years left me for a skinny pretty girl . People would say it's going to get easy but it not . It's going to take time but it's been 2 years...
    amandalovee24 amandalovee24 22-25, F Mar 22

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    Why is this a struggle?

    I don't love him... matter of fact... I resent him. Yes I'd be gone tomorrow if finances and children weren't a factor. Would I? I'm struggling with being alone... with who's going to help me with my car... with who's going to start the pilot light to the water heater...
    2findme 2findme 46-50, F 6 Responses Jan 19, 2014

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    I Painted Our Old Bedroom

    Last weekend, I painted the bedroom my wife and I used to share. I realized in the process that wall colors and painting are like relationships. I will elaborate more on that later, but first about the room. It was now painted a dusty rose color, perfect for a happy couple in...
    justkillingtime justkillingtime 41-45, M 6 Responses Sep 28, 2010

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    18 Years And Two Children Later...all Gone

    I met my wife over 22 years ago, we have been married for 18 and have two kids. To be honest, I should have never got married in the first place. I always second guessed myself but I thought she was a good woman and would make a good wife. On the surface everything seems fine but...
    sleeplessincanton sleeplessincanton 46-50, M 2 Responses May 1, 2012

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    I've Been Divorce For Over Two Year And Still Talk To My Ex Everyday

    Like the title said I 've been divorce since June of 2010. I have moved on but it seems like my ex has not. We talk everyday since november of last year. We had an ugly divorce. I cheated physically. I caught him online cheating several times. I assumed he cheated physically too...
    badgurlgoodgurl badgurlgoodgurl 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 25, 2012

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    Can't understand why I keep holding on to

    feelings for my ex-wife. She could care less about me, and why am I still having feelings for a person who doesn't want or need me?!?
    bladejunkie bladejunkie 41-45, M 5 Responses Jun 28, 2014

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    Recently Divorced

    Good morning!!!!!!!  I was married for 20 years, but with him for 26 years.  We were high school sweethearts.  My divorce was final back in February.  I'm having an extremely difficult time. Does anyone have any words of encouragement?  Thanks
    thammonds thammonds 36-40 5 Responses Jun 28, 2010

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    Dreams scare me . 2 weeks

    before my husband had an affair I had a dream that there was a concrete wall between us and I could never see him . I knew he was on the other side but this wall was between us . I woke up w all the nasty feelings of him leaving . Woke him up and told him he was going to...
    amandalovee24 amandalovee24 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 2

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    Wife Left Me

    I'm new in experience project and looking to make new friends. Year ago my wife left me and took our kids with her. Court systems dun nothing and I cant seen to get over it. I just don't know what to do.
    Realmanlyman24 Realmanlyman24 22-25, M 2 Responses May 29, 2012

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    Did Not See It Coming....

    For better or for worse...till death do us part.....I thought those words held such a deep meaning. I was so wrong. After 18 years of which 13 we were married with three children. I found myself facing a divorce that I did not see coming. Most people say there are signs and this...
    breezy1920 breezy1920 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 29, 2011

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    I Am Too Nice.

    I am a stubborn and loyal guy, but after 7 years of depression caused by trying to make things right I gave up. My wide refused to see a marriage counselor. I warned her for years. We need to do this or divorce is where we are going. Finally with the help of my best friend I...
    BittenDog BittenDog 46-50, M 5 Responses Dec 17, 2010

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    I don't understand why spouses

    who said they would love you until death do us part can leave the marriage so easily. This hurts and will never go away. My husband seems to have moved on just fine. I have not at all, and it's been almost 9 months. I hate my life. I hate this new normal.
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 10, 2014

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    kerendion kerendion 26-30, F Nov 4, 2014

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    I Need Help Or Advice!! Please

    I want to divorce my husband but I don't know where to begin. We already live in different states but I'm worried about the cost as he cheated on me and I left with no money and no income. Does anyone have any advice or who I can contact?!? Please! Sad day :(
    scarletfox scarletfox 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 24, 2013

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    Divorce With Grace

    From today's DailyOm.com: Divorce With Grace March 20, 2008 A Life-Altering Decision Like the act of marriage that binds two people together, divorce is the result of a life-altering decision. It is the dissolving of a relationship that we believed would last our whole lives...
    noexcuses noexcuses 36-40, F 4 Responses Mar 20, 2008

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    Related Experiences

    Been divorced for some years now. I'm still exploring life as a single... but it's still hard to get used to as I didn't go out that much when I was married. And I'm quite shy, so...
    ZoeReynard ZoeReynard 36-40, F 1 hr ago

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    Struggling, it makes you stronger than what you already are. Everyone has days, weeks and maybe even months of it. Where your heart thrashes against your rib age threatening to...
    fwxo fwxo 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 23

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    My mother divorced my father when I was about 4. I am 22 now. I kept asking her when I was little, why she split with Dad, and she kept saying because she hated him. I love him...
    Profweird Profweird 22-25, M 1 Response Mar 3

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    In 1991 my first wife and I got divorced after just 5 years of marriage we didn't own much nor had a kid together she had two by another man we divorced me over the drugs I did not...
    primeoflife primeoflife 51-55, M Mar 5

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    It can be so difficult at times, living with someone between that time when you agree to divorce and when you can actually separate. I thought my situation was unique, but from...
    streetcsi streetcsi 41-45, M 1 Response Mar 8

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    In your opinion, what is an adequate amount of time to elapse between one relationship ending and another beginning? Can they overlap? My STBX and I have agreed to divorce, but...
    streetcsi streetcsi 41-45, M 9 Responses Mar 17

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    So much crap on the internet about this, it's unbelievable. The amount of RP, fanboyism and... well, it's useless to me. These so-called "otherkin" communities pretends it's fun...
    Yuka1 Yuka1 26-30, F Mar 16

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    im sad right now my life is getting bad and worse. but it is out of my control most things are at least. I am not perfect but life is just hitting me left and right. I am trying...
    Poeticdeaths Poeticdeaths 18-21, M 4 days ago

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    Pretty sure my marriage is over. Having one last chat tonight. I want this to work and for us to be happy together but I think we need to get a divorce. It won't make us happy but...
    Greensickle Greensickle 22-25, M 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    While I live in a separate residence and am setting up my new, temporary sanctuary (I'm renting), I'm anxious for the attorneys to be aggressive with settling our divorce. We don't...
    PinkJeanie1970 PinkJeanie1970 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 9

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    I spoke to my lawyer this afternoon to go over the wife's proposal of the divorce agreement. It baffles me to no end on her reasoning on such a ridiculous decree. How can you...
    FightingPhoenix FightingPhoenix 41-45, M 3 Responses Mar 13

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    I didn't know my husband. I thought I did. I thought I had been his best friend. I was utterly wrong. It turns out it was all a lie. When I first met him being around him was...
    grommit3 grommit3 36-40, F 9 Responses Mar 20

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    My divorce is done. What an experience. I feel like I've beaten cancer, been to war, lost at sea, and lived to tell about. I loved my wife more than anything on this earth and it...
    fundrummerdad fundrummerdad 36-40, M 7 Responses Mar 21

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