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I Am Struggling Over My Divorce

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    The one person that I loved more then anything I married we have been together for 8 years and married for 5 I just got divorced a couple months ago. But havent seen or been together for the last year. I feel that he used me. I feel like a failure. I loved him so much I said my...
    meamano meamano 31-35 1 Response Aug 19, 2010

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    Wife Left Me

    I'm new in experience project and looking to make new friends. Year ago my wife left me and took our kids with her. Court systems dun nothing and I cant seen to get over it. I just don't know what to do.
    Realmanlyman24 Realmanlyman24 22-25, M 2 Responses May 29, 2012

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    Why is this a struggle?

    I don't love him... matter of fact... I resent him. Yes I'd be gone tomorrow if finances and children weren't a factor. Would I? I'm struggling with being alone... with who's going to help me with my car... with who's going to start the pilot light to the water heater...
    2findme 2findme 46-50, F 6 Responses Jan 19

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    I Need Help Or Advice!! Please

    I want to divorce my husband but I don't know where to begin. We already live in different states but I'm worried about the cost as he cheated on me and I left with no money and no income. Does anyone have any advice or who I can contact?!? Please! Sad day :(
    scarletfox scarletfox 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 24, 2013

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    I left because he treated me like garbage

    and never seemed to have my best interest at heart.... Then after i left he told me he treated me that way because he never thought i was capable of leaving him.... WTF??? But i have always felt that he always acted like a jerk towards me because he felt i needed him....makes...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Dec 22, 2013

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    I've Been Divorce For Over Two Year And Still Talk To My Ex Everyday

    Like the title said I 've been divorce since June of 2010. I have moved on but it seems like my ex has not. We talk everyday since november of last year. We had an ugly divorce. I cheated physically. I caught him online cheating several times. I assumed he cheated physically too...
    badgurlgoodgurl badgurlgoodgurl 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 25, 2012

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    Trying To Cope

    I have been married for 34 years and my husband is a recovering alcoholic who up until 6 years ago was still drinking every day and was an agry drunk.  He never hit me but he verbally abused me until one night I couldn's stand it anymore and I called the police. They...
    4spanky 4spanky 51-55 1 Response Aug 2, 2010

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    I Thought I Was Fine

    I thought I was fine with it, but the more I think about the chain of events I'm hurt and upset. Just a few days ago we sat down and talked about our problems, I thought he was going to leave then, but he hugged me and reassured me that we wouldn't break up, that he would...
    ProudMama8612 ProudMama8612 22-25, F 4 Responses Apr 28, 2010

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    Can't understand why I keep holding on to

    feelings for my ex-wife. She could care less about me, and why am I still having feelings for a person who doesn't want or need me?!?
    bladejunkie bladejunkie 41-45, M 6 Responses Jun 28

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    The only thing I had to hold onto

    when he left me for someone else... was the thought, that one day, he would realize that he will never find anyone better than me. Maybe someone prettier and younger, or someone who makes more money than I do... but I KNEW he would never be able to find someone who would love...
    TypicalPisces TypicalPisces 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 31

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    18 Years And Two Children Later...all Gone

    I met my wife over 22 years ago, we have been married for 18 and have two kids. To be honest, I should have never got married in the first place. I always second guessed myself but I thought she was a good woman and would make a good wife. On the surface everything seems fine but...
    sleeplessincanton sleeplessincanton 46-50, M 2 Responses May 1, 2012

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    I don't understand why spouses

    who said they would love you until death do us part can leave the marriage so easily. This hurts and will never go away. My husband seems to have moved on just fine. I have not at all, and it's been almost 9 months. I hate my life. I hate this new normal.
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F Jul 10

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    Ever Have A Day When Everything Is Good, But Nothing Feels Right?

       I have been separated for 14 months now. Divorce date is in December. Although I was the one to file, I am really having a hard time, just lately, coming to terms with the reality of it. It's something I never imagined for me or my children. And it's certainly nothing I ever...
    hometownmomma hometownmomma 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 22, 2011

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    Wife Filled For Divorce.

      About a month ago my wife filled for divorce. I'm Belgian and my wife is American we met each other in Belgium in 1993 we married in 1996 and since then lived in California, it has been a rollercoaster ride ever since. I believe that we grew apart due to me not...
    flanders0007 flanders0007 36-40, M 5 Responses Jan 17, 2008

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    Divorce Is For People Who Care So Little About Vows That It Means Nothing To Them

    Divorce is what I am force to do because to night he sleeps with another women how sad this has made me it is unbearable. I have been rejected all my life from this man but I loved him and the knowledge of him sleeping with someone else and knowing he hates me and never loved me...
    syndearson syndearson 51-55 2 Responses Aug 8, 2012

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    Divorce With Grace

    From today's DailyOm.com: Divorce With Grace March 20, 2008 A Life-Altering Decision Like the act of marriage that binds two people together, divorce is the result of a life-altering decision. It is the dissolving of a relationship that we believed would last our whole lives...
    noexcuses noexcuses 36-40, F 4 Responses Mar 20, 2008

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    I Am Too Nice.

    I am a stubborn and loyal guy, but after 7 years of depression caused by trying to make things right I gave up. My wide refused to see a marriage counselor. I warned her for years. We need to do this or divorce is where we are going. Finally with the help of my best friend I...
    BittenDog BittenDog 46-50, M 5 Responses Dec 17, 2010

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    I Painted Our Old Bedroom

    Last weekend, I painted the bedroom my wife and I used to share. I realized in the process that wall colors and painting are like relationships. I will elaborate more on that later, but first about the room. It was now painted a dusty rose color, perfect for a happy couple in...
    justkillingtime justkillingtime 41-45, M 6 Responses Sep 28, 2010

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    Recently Divorced

    Good morning!!!!!!!  I was married for 20 years, but with him for 26 years.  We were high school sweethearts.  My divorce was final back in February.  I'm having an extremely difficult time. Does anyone have any words of encouragement?  Thanks
    thammonds thammonds 36-40 4 Responses Jun 28, 2010

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    Now that's summer and the kids are home all day,

    our days are just days. Since my husband left, we no longer are excited about 6pm because it's just another hour for us. He isn't coming home anymore at that time or ever. So our day is filled with us around the house, doing chores, maybe running errands, maybe going to the...
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 7

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    I Still Dont Understand How This Happened

    6 weeks after the birth of our first daughter, I got into a fight with my husband and he said he wanted a divorce. A month later he flaunts his new girlfriend all over town and even comes and picks up our daughter with hickeys all over his neck. How can someone be so cold hearted...
    Dreedree Dreedree 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 3, 2011

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    I Love You But I'm Not In Love With You....

    Married almost 15 years, together for 18 years.  Four beautiful boys together that range from 4-11 yrs.  I went through some horrible emotional times during the past 6-8 years with my hormones, being pregnant every other year; post partum depression; not having a baby girl...
    KatRN KatRN 36-40 1 Response May 30, 2011

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    Did Not See It Coming....

    For better or for worse...till death do us part.....I thought those words held such a deep meaning. I was so wrong. After 18 years of which 13 we were married with three children. I found myself facing a divorce that I did not see coming. Most people say there are signs and this...
    breezy1920 breezy1920 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 29, 2011

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    On 11-20 of this past year,

    my husband of 10 years blindsided me by informing me he no longer loved me and did not want to be married any longer. He claims that he wants to be alone but I suspect (along with all friends and family, including his) that he has at least been carrying on an emotional affair if...
    caridad99 caridad99 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 13

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    I have been with my husband for 9 year this october, and I always believed we would be forever and I refuse to let go of that belief. I don't know why I am posting on this website...
    Abooboo77 Abooboo77 31-35, F 4 Responses Jun 29

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    I am married and so my AP, neither happily married. We became friends over 2 years ago, but over the last year have gotten alot closer. Our families were all friends (his wife, my...
    Suzanne1976 Suzanne1976 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 17

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    I finally got the courage to tell my husband that I wanted a divorce. This man has cheated on me, emotionally, mentally, and physically abused me, he put his job in front of me...
    futureexwife14 futureexwife14 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 8

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    Resolved To Disolve. Every divorce has those unique moments in court, proceedings, or on final papers. Here are a few of mine: 1. Hubby-at-time was in jail. Due to his charges...
    emerald emerald 36-40, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I met my wife Sarah in 2008. We met through her friend. We started dating and things were progressing fast, we got engaged and got married in October of 2009. Things were not...
    SimpleGuy77 SimpleGuy77 36-40 1 Response Jul 11

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    I haven't cried in weeks... today I did. He's been out of the house for a little over a month and even though I'm the wanting the divorce I'm still saddened by this whole thing...
    2findme 2findme 46-50, F 9 Responses Jun 29

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    How do you know if it's really over? My husband and I relationship always consisted of "extreme moments"- when things are great they are head over heels great! In turn when...
    Ashante90 Ashante90 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 9

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    This absolutely is miserable. My husband seems to think he is going to take me to the cleaners and receive everything that he requested in the settlement. He is wrong. I am...
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F Jul 3

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    This is so sad...over 3000 people. I'm sorry everyone :( unless you're really dancing around and happy about it. Another reason why I don't want to get married. Cause I never want...
    WintersSoldier WintersSoldier 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 15

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    A little background info, I'm just turned 15 and my parents have been divorced since I was 5 and my little brother was 2 years old. The condensed past from my perspective: It's...
    illlivehappily illlivehappily 13-15, F 4 days ago

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    Finally. And end. Yesterday, which ironically was out 13th wedding anniversary, we finally sat down and hammered out company buy out, spousal support and child support. So very...
    Tico72 Tico72 41-45, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Over the mountains and over the waves, under the fountains and under the graves; under floods that are deepest, which Neptune obey, over rocks that are steepest, love will find...
    silvermoon9619 silvermoon9619 16-17, F Jun 27

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    It sounds a little strange to say "happily" because going through my divorce was the most heartbreaking, unhappy time of my life! It was like falling into a bottomless pit of...
    StarLily71 StarLily71 41-45, F 6 Responses Jul 6

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    At the age of 26 my parents filed for divorce. They've been together since their teen years, 37 years, and married for 27. I am not upset AT them for this midlife change, they've...
    LostnExcited LostnExcited 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 9

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    I am finally divorced. I didn't want the divorce, and I didn't want to be a doormat either. I love my ex husband or at least the man that I thought he was. How can a person say...
    ShineAndRise ShineAndRise 31-35 3 Responses Jul 10

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    My parents divorced when I was 6 years old and it honestly has affected my life. my dad will come over once a month to see us but as soon as my mum answer the door it's world war...
    Shonaa98 Shonaa98 16-17, F 2 Responses Jun 27

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    My divorce could potentially be final next month! I am looking forward to this being over and that i can officially move on. A year ago I would have never thought that I would be...
    peach1977 peach1977 36-40, F 8 Responses Jun 27

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    I am miserable. I never knew divorce would even be an option. What can I do? When will this hurt be over? I'm extremely sad and very hopeless.
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 30

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    Pretty much decided on getting a divorce last night. I just hate the thought of starting all over again and losing all that I worked hard for!
    06Ford 06Ford 41-45, M 1 Response Jul 1

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    Money does something to people, it changes them. I saw my family break apart piece by piece because of it. It was Not even greed. My family owned a small restaurant and it didn't...
    tommyfung tommyfung 16-17, M Jul 5

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    Alright so, Forgiveness - the art in which we "Allow oneself to overlook something someone has done" I've spent weeks, months, years even...talking to people researching, trying to...
    OGPrefix OGPrefix 26-30, M Jul 11

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    When I was around 11- 12 my parents told me and my three years younger sister the were going to seperate. I have never cried more than I did that day. But I am kind of glad they...
    PleaseFindMe PleaseFindMe 16-17, F Jul 12

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    My parents are getting divorced. It may sound strange but from the very beginning I supported the idea coz they're just too different and they haven't been happy for quite some...
    Pulaila Pulaila 18-21, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Just when I think I'm strong, he pulls me in and makes me feel weak. I've done so well to try to get over him. My heart has been aching for him as he's been going through a tough...
    Musicalangel13 Musicalangel13 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Here I am again being dragged back in to the darkness, that evil inside me trying to push its way to the surface but I am fighting with all I have to push it back in to stay near...
    Gentleandlovingsoul Gentleandlovingsoul 36-40, F Jun 29

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    I haven’t posted in a while. It hurts too much to write sometimes. My MM and I broke up over two months ago. The last time we talked was April 29. We both love each other deeply...
    celticwarrior96 celticwarrior96 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 1