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I Am Struggling Over My Divorce

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 110 People

    18 Years And Two Children Later...all Gone

    I met my wife over 22 years ago, we have been married for 18 and have two kids. To be honest, I should have never got married in the first place. I always second guessed myself but I thought she was a good woman and would make a good wife. On the surface everything seems fine but...
    sleeplessincanton sleeplessincanton 46-50, M 2 Responses May 1, 2012

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    So it been 1 year around this time I found out

    my husband had an affair . Still hurting still alone some days are good somedays bad . I guess what hurts is losing my life and still not where I want to be after my divorce . Kills me to be alone still while he has a baby and a family in the way . It's just unfair ! Have not...
    amandalovee24 amandalovee24 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 3

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    Now that's summer and the kids are home all day,

    our days are just days. Since my husband left, we no longer are excited about 6pm because it's just another hour for us. He isn't coming home anymore at that time or ever. So our day is filled with us around the house, doing chores, maybe running errands, maybe going to the...
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 7

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    I Painted Our Old Bedroom

    Last weekend, I painted the bedroom my wife and I used to share. I realized in the process that wall colors and painting are like relationships. I will elaborate more on that later, but first about the room. It was now painted a dusty rose color, perfect for a happy couple in...
    justkillingtime justkillingtime 41-45, M 6 Responses Sep 28, 2010

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    Canadian Ex

    The one person that I loved more then anything I married we have been together for 8 years and married for 5 I just got divorced a couple months ago. But havent seen or been together for the last year. I feel that he used me. I feel like a failure. I loved him so much I said my...
    meamano meamano 31-35 1 Response Aug 19, 2010

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    Has anyone ever spent thanksgiving alone

    completely alone all day . Just laying in bed . Scrolling through your phone seeing everyone happy eating love and I'm just here divorced sad and sick and alone . Eating a sandwich laying here dead .
    amandalovee24 amandalovee24 22-25, F 1 Response 22 hrs ago

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    Wife Filled For Divorce.

      About a month ago my wife filled for divorce. I'm Belgian and my wife is American we met each other in Belgium in 1993 we married in 1996 and since then lived in California, it has been a rollercoaster ride ever since. I believe that we grew apart due to me not...
    flanders0007 flanders0007 36-40, M 5 Responses Jan 17, 2008

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    I Love You But I'm Not In Love With You....

    Married almost 15 years, together for 18 years.  Four beautiful boys together that range from 4-11 yrs.  I went through some horrible emotional times during the past 6-8 years with my hormones, being pregnant every other year; post partum depression; not having a baby girl...
    KatRN KatRN 36-40 1 Response May 30, 2011

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    I Need Help Or Advice!! Please

    I want to divorce my husband but I don't know where to begin. We already live in different states but I'm worried about the cost as he cheated on me and I left with no money and no income. Does anyone have any advice or who I can contact?!? Please! Sad day :(
    scarletfox scarletfox 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 24, 2013

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    I Still Dont Understand How This Happened

    6 weeks after the birth of our first daughter, I got into a fight with my husband and he said he wanted a divorce. A month later he flaunts his new girlfriend all over town and even comes and picks up our daughter with hickeys all over his neck. How can someone be so cold hearted...
    Dreedree Dreedree 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 3, 2011

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    kerendion kerendion 26-30, F Nov 4

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    Trying To Cope

    I have been married for 34 years and my husband is a recovering alcoholic who up until 6 years ago was still drinking every day and was an agry drunk.  He never hit me but he verbally abused me until one night I couldn's stand it anymore and I called the police. They...
    4spanky 4spanky 51-55 1 Response Aug 2, 2010

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    Divorce With Grace

    From today's DailyOm.com: Divorce With Grace March 20, 2008 A Life-Altering Decision Like the act of marriage that binds two people together, divorce is the result of a life-altering decision. It is the dissolving of a relationship that we believed would last our whole lives...
    noexcuses noexcuses 36-40, F 4 Responses Mar 20, 2008

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    On 11-20 of this past year,

    my husband of 10 years blindsided me by informing me he no longer loved me and did not want to be married any longer. He claims that he wants to be alone but I suspect (along with all friends and family, including his) that he has at least been carrying on an emotional affair if...
    caridad99 caridad99 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 13

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    I left because he treated me like garbage

    and never seemed to have my best interest at heart.... Then after i left he told me he treated me that way because he never thought i was capable of leaving him.... WTF??? But i have always felt that he always acted like a jerk towards me because he felt i needed him....makes...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Dec 22, 2013

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    I don't understand why spouses

    who said they would love you until death do us part can leave the marriage so easily. This hurts and will never go away. My husband seems to have moved on just fine. I have not at all, and it's been almost 9 months. I hate my life. I hate this new normal.
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F Jul 10

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    The only thing I had to hold onto

    when he left me for someone else... was the thought, that one day, he would realize that he will never find anyone better than me. Maybe someone prettier and younger, or someone who makes more money than I do... but I KNEW he would never be able to find someone who would love...
    TypicalPisces TypicalPisces 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 31

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    Did Not See It Coming....

    For better or for worse...till death do us part.....I thought those words held such a deep meaning. I was so wrong. After 18 years of which 13 we were married with three children. I found myself facing a divorce that I did not see coming. Most people say there are signs and this...
    breezy1920 breezy1920 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 29, 2011

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    Wife Left Me

    I'm new in experience project and looking to make new friends. Year ago my wife left me and took our kids with her. Court systems dun nothing and I cant seen to get over it. I just don't know what to do.
    Realmanlyman24 Realmanlyman24 22-25, M 2 Responses May 29, 2012

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    Ever Have A Day When Everything Is Good, But Nothing Feels Right?

       I have been separated for 14 months now. Divorce date is in December. Although I was the one to file, I am really having a hard time, just lately, coming to terms with the reality of it. It's something I never imagined for me or my children. And it's certainly nothing I ever...
    hometownmomma hometownmomma 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 22, 2011

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    Recently Divorced

    Good morning!!!!!!!  I was married for 20 years, but with him for 26 years.  We were high school sweethearts.  My divorce was final back in February.  I'm having an extremely difficult time. Does anyone have any words of encouragement?  Thanks
    thammonds thammonds 36-40 4 Responses Jun 28, 2010

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    I've Been Divorce For Over Two Year And Still Talk To My Ex Everyday

    Like the title said I 've been divorce since June of 2010. I have moved on but it seems like my ex has not. We talk everyday since november of last year. We had an ugly divorce. I cheated physically. I caught him online cheating several times. I assumed he cheated physically too...
    badgurlgoodgurl badgurlgoodgurl 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 25, 2012

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    Update on how I'm doing .

    In 2 weeks it will be a year me and my husband have been split . I miss him think about are love everyday . I've let it go I guess now it's being lonely that kills me .... No one here no one to talk to anymore . That's what been so hard . On top of everything lost my job . Feels...
    amandalovee24 amandalovee24 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 11

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    I Thought I Was Fine

    I thought I was fine with it, but the more I think about the chain of events I'm hurt and upset. Just a few days ago we sat down and talked about our problems, I thought he was going to leave then, but he hugged me and reassured me that we wouldn't break up, that he would...
    ProudMama8612 ProudMama8612 22-25, F 4 Responses Apr 28, 2010

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    I Am Too Nice.

    I am a stubborn and loyal guy, but after 7 years of depression caused by trying to make things right I gave up. My wide refused to see a marriage counselor. I warned her for years. We need to do this or divorce is where we are going. Finally with the help of my best friend I...
    BittenDog BittenDog 46-50, M 5 Responses Dec 17, 2010

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    It's hard to believe I'm not married anymore.

    Ten years of being together without a single unkind word. Without a single shouting match. Without any infidelity or abuse of any kind. We went through hell together with her cancer. What the heck happened? I don't know. They say There's a reason for everything. For the life...
    barzins barzins 46-50, M 6 Responses Oct 22

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    Why is this a struggle?

    I don't love him... matter of fact... I resent him. Yes I'd be gone tomorrow if finances and children weren't a factor. Would I? I'm struggling with being alone... with who's going to help me with my car... with who's going to start the pilot light to the water heater...
    2findme 2findme 46-50, F 6 Responses Jan 19

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    Divorce Is For People Who Care So Little About Vows That It Means Nothing To Them

    Divorce is what I am force to do because to night he sleeps with another women how sad this has made me it is unbearable. I have been rejected all my life from this man but I loved him and the knowledge of him sleeping with someone else and knowing he hates me and never loved me...
    syndearson syndearson 51-55 2 Responses Aug 8, 2012

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    Can't understand why I keep holding on to

    feelings for my ex-wife. She could care less about me, and why am I still having feelings for a person who doesn't want or need me?!?
    bladejunkie bladejunkie 41-45, M 5 Responses Jun 28

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    The Afterlife This is so hard...I'm trying to break out of my isolation and connect with more people as my lonely marriage comes to an end, but it's hard to socialize on my own...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 10 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    I don't believe in divorce. So, my first marriage is most likely going to be my only marriage. But I am not going to get married until I am 46 or 49. Lmao
    SunshineH316 SunshineH316 22-25, F 1 hr ago

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    Still struggling a little, not as much as before. It's going to happen tho, I keep thinking she's going to retract from the divorce p. Never happens. It's like she's on a mission...
    jcomnimax jcomnimax 36-40 4 Responses Oct 31

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    All the criminal trails are over. So the mud slinging and fear has reduced a little. The custody of the children will be finalised in January. We will have to go back a few times...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 31-35, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I never in my entire life thought I would write these words. I was never the one that had a 'Plan B' in case my marriage failed. It simply was not an option. I didn't stand at the...
    sls84 sls84 26-30, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    My parents got divorced two years ago. I still remember that sickening feeling when my parents told me. I was twelve, and for awhile, I'd been noticing that they'd been fighting...
    ThisIsJustForFun ThisIsJustForFun 13-15, F 1 Response Oct 28

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    My husband and I have been married 2 years but together 8. Last year he turned 30 and didn’t take it well. A few weeks before his birthday he confided in me that several of the...
    notsureyet1 notsureyet1 26-30, F Nov 11

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    i received my divorce certificate yesterday. i thought I'd break down and lose my mind...I've been waiting for it to go through half heartedly for about 4 months. i feel no...
    Simplycomplicated88 Simplycomplicated88 26-30, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I am Sonalyso, 51. Three years ago, I took divorce from my husband as he had an extra – marital affair and clearly, he chose me over her. Right after the divorce, I began looking...
    sonalyso sonalyso 26-30, F 2 days ago

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    I am coming up on a year of being divorced and it feels more like 5 years with all that has transpired...but all in all my kids and I are doing very well. So much more peaceful...
    runnermama runnermama 41-45, F 3 Responses Nov 12

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    My husband and I are currently separated. I moved out and had to start my life over. I'm waiting for the yet separation in order to file for a divorce and I don think he's going to...
    Lilypad718 Lilypad718 31-35, F 6 Responses Nov 13

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    The funniest things can cause you to take a look at the decisions you’ve made in life. I was doing my yard work just a little bit ago, and something came to my attention. Along...
    miryam57 miryam57 56-60, F 8 Responses Nov 9

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    So....I guess I'm writing on here because I want a divorce and my husband doesn't. We've been together for 11 years, married for 7 and have a wonderful 6 yr old son. The problem...
    Ultravioletgrrl Ultravioletgrrl 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 9

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    My parents divorced when I was 2. When I was 10 my mom remarried and also my dad did. I have 3 step sisters, a half brother, and a half sister. I hate how my dad moved states away...
    BrittanySue96 BrittanySue96 16-17, F a week ago

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    I was married to an abusive control freak for 20 years . He stole the money bought a house with cash 3 months after the divorce. I try to get over it but l can't. My daughter and I...
    youfuyan youfuyan 46-50, F 4 Responses Oct 28

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    finally I've brought myself to file divorce papers tomorrow... we both know it's over.. he's off with his girlfriend in another state.. and I'm home with a glass of wine.. thought...
    countrybeautiful countrybeautiful 26-30, F 8 Responses Oct 30

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    I managed to avoid driving for the first 28 years of my life, but when I took a job on the other side of the world where I knew I would have to drive, I finally went for my license...
    mums3786 mums3786 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 2

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    Havent been with my husband very long but point still stands....we are getting a divorce. We met in June of 2012 and are already to the point of not wanting to be around one...
    CamoCountryGirl CamoCountryGirl 22-25, F 7 Responses Nov 5

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