I Am Struggling Over My Divorce

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 129 People

    18 Years And Two Children Later...all Gone

    I met my wife over 22 years ago, we have been married for 18 and have two kids. To be honest, I should have never got married in the first place. I always second guessed myself but I thought she was a good woman and would make a good wife. On the surface everything seems fine but...
    sleeplessincanton sleeplessincanton
    46-50, M
    2 Responses May 1, 2012

    I Thought I Was Fine

    I thought I was fine with it, but the more I think about the chain of events I'm hurt and upset. Just a few days ago we sat down and talked about our problems, I thought he was going to leave then, but he hugged me and reassured me that we wouldn't break up, that he would...
    ProudMama8612 ProudMama8612
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Apr 28, 2010

    Has anyone ever spent thanksgiving alone

    completely alone all day . Just laying in bed . Scrolling through your phone seeing everyone happy eating love and I'm just here divorced sad and sick and alone . Eating a sandwich laying here dead .
    amandalovee24 amandalovee24
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Nov 27, 2014

    Lmao when I think this life could get worse it

    does my new car won't start lmao thank you God for this ****** life
    amandalovee24 amandalovee24
    26-30, F
    Oct 18, 2015

    On 11-20 of this past year,

    my husband of 10 years blindsided me by informing me he no longer loved me and did not want to be married any longer. He claims that he wants to be alone but I suspect (along with all friends and family, including his) that he has at least been carrying on an emotional affair if...
    caridad99 caridad99
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Jan 13, 2014

    Recently Divorced

    Good morning!!!!!!!  I was married for 20 years, but with him for 26 years.  We were high school sweethearts.  My divorce was final back in February.  I'm having an extremely difficult time. Does anyone have any words of encouragement?  Thanks
    thammonds thammonds
    36-40
    6 Responses Jun 28, 2010

    Trying To Cope

    I have been married for 34 years and my husband is a recovering alcoholic who up until 6 years ago was still drinking every day and was an agry drunk.  He never hit me but he verbally abused me until one night I couldn's stand it anymore and I called the police. They...
    4spanky 4spanky
    51-55
    1 Response Aug 2, 2010

    Wife Filled For Divorce.

      About a month ago my wife filled for divorce. I'm Belgian and my wife is American we met each other in Belgium in 1993 we married in 1996 and since then lived in California, it has been a rollercoaster ride ever since. I believe that we grew apart due to me not...
    flanders0007 flanders0007
    36-40, M
    4 Responses Jan 17, 2008

    So if this is the end of us it's going to hurt

    I miss you almost loved you idk why you don't feel the same way
    amandalovee24 amandalovee24
    26-30, F
    Jun 29, 2015

    Cut my hours at work ,

    Christian is gone and everything is so lonely right now . I'm so tired of everything . I've been hurt for 2 years now . The affair everything . Numb inside . Get over love no you'll hurt all the way it's been 3 years I feel the same pain I felt the day he had the affair
    amandalovee24 amandalovee24
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jul 6, 2015

    Divorce Is For People Who Care So Little About Vows That It Means Nothing To Them

    Divorce is what I am force to do because to night he sleeps with another women how sad this has made me it is unbearable. I have been rejected all my life from this man but I loved him and the knowledge of him sleeping with someone else and knowing he hates me and never loved me...
    syndearson syndearson
    51-55
    2 Responses Aug 8, 2012

    It's been 4 years since the last time I saw you

    , seems like your doing fine . I see your family and baby and I'm happy God gave you a happy life after how bad you hurt me I'm don't wish bad on you . As for me I'm here 4 years later lost no one to love . Maybe I did this maybe I deserve this lonely life . Karma never came for...
    amandalovee24 amandalovee24
    26-30, F
    1 Response Apr 18

    I Painted Our Old Bedroom

    Last weekend, I painted the bedroom my wife and I used to share. I realized in the process that wall colors and painting are like relationships. I will elaborate more on that later, but first about the room. It was now painted a dusty rose color, perfect for a happy couple in...
    justkillingtime justkillingtime
    41-45, M
    6 Responses Sep 28, 2010

    Leaving to church . Can't stand to be here in

    this house or I'll fight w these women . Need a place for a couple more days .
    amandalovee24 amandalovee24
    26-30, F
    1 Response Mar 15, 2015

    Sitting here alone after work .

    . It's dark everyone getting ready for v day ... Work was hard today ... Feeling so alone feeling ugly inside and out no man will ever love me ....all they do is used me . Maybe one day I'll move on from all the hurt I've been through but it's been 4 years since I've seen my ex...
    amandalovee24 amandalovee24
    26-30, F
    1 Response Feb 12

    Dreams scare me . 2 weeks

    before my husband had an affair I had a dream that there was a concrete wall between us and I could never see him . I knew he was on the other side but this wall was between us . I woke up w all the nasty feelings of him leaving . Woke him up and told him he was going to...
    amandalovee24 amandalovee24
    26-30, F
    Feb 2, 2015

    Why is this a struggle?

    I don't love him... matter of fact... I resent him. Yes I'd be gone tomorrow if finances and children weren't a factor. Would I? I'm struggling with being alone... with who's going to help me with my car... with who's going to start the pilot light to the water heater...
    2findme 2findme
    46-50, F
    5 Responses Jan 19, 2014

    I Still Dont Understand How This Happened

    6 weeks after the birth of our first daughter, I got into a fight with my husband and he said he wanted a divorce. A month later he flaunts his new girlfriend all over town and even comes and picks up our daughter with hickeys all over his neck. How can someone be so cold hearted...
    Dreedree Dreedree
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Apr 3, 2011

    I Am Too Nice.

    I am a stubborn and loyal guy, but after 7 years of depression caused by trying to make things right I gave up. My wide refused to see a marriage counselor. I warned her for years. We need to do this or divorce is where we are going. Finally with the help of my best friend I...
    BittenDog BittenDog
    46-50, M
    5 Responses Dec 17, 2010

    It's been a while since I've had love .

    ... It's been a long time since the love of my life was takin away from me ... Since the day he left my world has been a disaster ... It's going to be 3 years on New Years since you left . Now another man I loved left .... But that does not matter always saw it coming . What...
    amandalovee24 amandalovee24
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Dec 25, 2015

    Divorce is hard an affair is hard .

    This is what my life looks like for now . It's been a hard 2 years trying to see that I'm beautiful after my husband the man I loved for 8 years left me for a skinny pretty girl . People would say it's going to get easy but it not . It's going to take time but it's been 2 years...
    amandalovee24 amandalovee24
    26-30, F
    Mar 22, 2015

    So it been 1 year around this time I found out

    my husband had an affair . Still hurting still alone some days are good somedays bad . I guess what hurts is losing my life and still not where I want to be after my divorce . Kills me to be alone still while he has a baby and a family in the way . It's just unfair ! Have not...
    amandalovee24 amandalovee24
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Nov 3, 2014

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    kerendion kerendion
    26-30, F
    Nov 4, 2014

    Now that's summer and the kids are home all day,

    our days are just days. Since my husband left, we no longer are excited about 6pm because it's just another hour for us. He isn't coming home anymore at that time or ever. So our day is filled with us around the house, doing chores, maybe running errands, maybe going to the...
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Jul 7, 2014

    I left because he treated me like garbage

    and never seemed to have my best interest at heart.... Then after i left he told me he treated me that way because he never thought i was capable of leaving him.... WTF??? But i have always felt that he always acted like a jerk towards me because he felt i needed him....makes...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Dec 22, 2013

    It's hard to believe I'm not married anymore.

    Ten years of being together without a single unkind word. Without a single shouting match. Without any infidelity or abuse of any kind. We went through hell together with her cancer. What the heck happened? I don't know. They say There's a reason for everything. For the life...
    barzins barzins
    46-50, M
    3 Responses Oct 22, 2014

    Divorce With Grace

    From today's DailyOm.com: Divorce With Grace March 20, 2008 A Life-Altering Decision Like the act of marriage that binds two people together, divorce is the result of a life-altering decision. It is the dissolving of a relationship that we believed would last our whole lives...
    noexcuses noexcuses
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Mar 20, 2008

    Did Not See It Coming....

    For better or for worse...till death do us part.....I thought those words held such a deep meaning. I was so wrong. After 18 years of which 13 we were married with three children. I found myself facing a divorce that I did not see coming. Most people say there are signs and this...
    breezy1920 breezy1920
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Dec 29, 2011

    Wife Left Me

    I'm new in experience project and looking to make new friends. Year ago my wife left me and took our kids with her. Court systems dun nothing and I cant seen to get over it. I just don't know what to do.
    Realmanlyman24 Realmanlyman24
    22-25, M
    2 Responses May 29, 2012

    The only thing I had to hold onto

    when he left me for someone else... was the thought, that one day, he would realize that he will never find anyone better than me. Maybe someone prettier and younger, or someone who makes more money than I do... but I KNEW he would never be able to find someone who would love...
    TypicalPisces TypicalPisces
    36-40, F
    1 Response Mar 31, 2014

    Can't understand why I keep holding on to

    feelings for my ex-wife. She could care less about me, and why am I still having feelings for a person who doesn't want or need me?!?
    bladejunkie bladejunkie
    41-45, M
    4 Responses Jun 28, 2014

    I Need Help Or Advice!! Please

    I want to divorce my husband but I don't know where to begin. We already live in different states but I'm worried about the cost as he cheated on me and I left with no money and no income. Does anyone have any advice or who I can contact?!? Please! Sad day :(
    scarletfox scarletfox
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Oct 24, 2013

    Update on how I'm doing .

    In 2 weeks it will be a year me and my husband have been split . I miss him think about are love everyday . I've let it go I guess now it's being lonely that kills me .... No one here no one to talk to anymore . That's what been so hard . On top of everything lost my job . Feels...
    amandalovee24 amandalovee24
    26-30, F
    1 Response Sep 11, 2014

    I Love You But I'm Not In Love With You....

    Married almost 15 years, together for 18 years.  Four beautiful boys together that range from 4-11 yrs.  I went through some horrible emotional times during the past 6-8 years with my hormones, being pregnant every other year; post partum depression; not having a baby girl...
    KatRN KatRN
    36-40
    1 Response May 30, 2011

    Ever Have A Day When Everything Is Good, But Nothing Feels Right?

       I have been separated for 14 months now. Divorce date is in December. Although I was the one to file, I am really having a hard time, just lately, coming to terms with the reality of it. It's something I never imagined for me or my children. And it's certainly nothing I ever...
    hometownmomma hometownmomma
    31-35, F
    1 Response Nov 22, 2011

    I've Been Divorce For Over Two Year And Still Talk To My Ex Everyday

    Like the title said I 've been divorce since June of 2010. I have moved on but it seems like my ex has not. We talk everyday since november of last year. We had an ugly divorce. I cheated physically. I caught him online cheating several times. I assumed he cheated physically too...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Aug 25, 2012

    I don't understand why spouses

    who said they would love you until death do us part can leave the marriage so easily. This hurts and will never go away. My husband seems to have moved on just fine. I have not at all, and it's been almost 9 months. I hate my life. I hate this new normal.
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Jul 10, 2014
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