I Am Struggling With Being Gay

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    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response May 11, 2015

    Sometimes I wonder as a closet bisexual how my

    life would have been if I was more open and dated more women. I feel if something happens to the relationship I'm in now I might want to live as a lesbian.
    Dahlia86 Dahlia86
    26-30, F
    1 Response Oct 25, 2015

    I'm not sure if I am gay

    or not, I've always wondered what it would be like being with a man and doing sexual things with a guy.
    iheroone iheroone
    22-25, M
    4 Responses Sep 25, 2015

    I don't even know where to start

    and that's exactly how I feel. I've been saying for the past two months that I don't want a relationship, only to realize that I do, it's exactly what I want. I meet these guys and I want it to be just me and them, but no relationship. News flash, to me, I can call it...
    RobertE22 RobertE22
    31-35
    2 Responses Apr 2, 2015

    I live in a homophobic household/am bullied at

    school. and I want reassurance that there is nothing wrong with me, I know there isn't but after years their words seep in and make me feel ashamed of liking girls. I just want to feel normal and not like a freak anymore.
    whyaretherenousernamesleft whyaretherenousernamesleft
    18-21, T
    2 Responses Sep 29, 2015

    actually I feel bad for people

    who are struggling with being gay or just coming out because everyone's family is mostly ****** up I mean honestly if the “family” I have didn't accept me except my mom or dad I wouldn't give a **** so being myself was easy because I simply did not give a fuckk.. if someone...
    shiasan shiasan
    16-17, M
    Jul 15, 2015

    Hi, I'm a 19 year old lad,

    I have a girlfriend and well, a few weeks ago I slept with a friend of mine (A guy) And well, I loved it, but now I'm feeling guilty and would like to talk to some people who can give me advice. Message me :)
    LookingForAdvice90 LookingForAdvice90
    18-21, M
    1 Response Sep 8, 2015

    I AM HIV+…AND I HAVE FOUND LOVE…ON EP!

    ! The last story I had shared was one in which I had posed a question…at what point in a relationship does sex become secondary? That was back in October. I had been in a relationship since the previous May with a kind hearted man who was good to me. I had originally been...
    Ralphsnt69 Ralphsnt69
    46-50, M
    1 Response May 2, 2014

    Life Is Weird

    Ok so I'm 18 and have been out to only my bf who is a girl and she is pretty gay friendly but yet again she was shocked and couldn't believe that I was gay. I know we all got issues in life, but sometimes I seriously wonder why was I randomly chosen to live the life a gay person...
    GG1234 GG1234
    18-21, M
    8 Responses Jan 26, 2011

    I'm struggling about my sexuality.

    ... Is there anyone who can help me out from this plzzzzzzzzz
    jkmkjk jkmkjk
    26-30
    2 Responses Feb 23, 2014

    I can't live like this anymore.

    I can't deal with college and the stress of having to hide my sexuality from my homophobic family. :(
    GCassr22 GCassr22
    18-21, M
    4 Responses Apr 13

    Am I going to hell if I act romantically on my

    same sex attractions? I am romantically attracted to girls (not very much sexually, guys are a different story lol), but would rather be with guys. I just want to be happy, but I don't want to go to hell. I don't know what to do.
    GCassr22 GCassr22
    18-21, M
    3 Responses Feb 29

    I know i am gay but i am just

    so scared to come out. I am afraid people around me will treat me differently. I have been around straight guys and i know how they make fun and ridicule gay people. I don't want to be treated that way. But i feel so lonely being in the closet and i felt i am wasting my time...
    davidnathan davidnathan
    31-35, M
    4 Responses Dec 5, 2013

    Hi there. Actually I'm no longer struggling :-)

    I had a really really hard time but managed to get out of my depression with help of my best friend (and some professionals). I'm much stronger now, and want to use my experience to help others who are having a hard time at this age being gay. I'm a pretty good listener, got...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    5 Responses Oct 10, 2014

    IMPORTANT: For a lot of people this is their

    only way of dealing with their LGBT feelings and queries. There are a lot of local LGBT support groups out there. If you know of a local support group or on-line forum please posts a comment below. If you find a helpful post copy and paste to a secure location on your computer...
    runtom runtom
    56-60, M
    1 Response Mar 23

    Small Town, Nothing In Common.

    All the gay guys at my high school well you can tell they are gay. I dont understand it. How come im gay but i dont even act it? I im glad i dont but I wish there were just more people like me where I live. If I said Im gay they wouldnt think that Im just a regular guy they would...
    tomtombear tomtombear
    18-21, M
    29 Responses Dec 2, 2008

    A lot of people call me gay.

    I haven't come out of the closet. I just blow it off. And my friends stick up for me and tell people I'm not gay. It kills me that my friends don't know I'm gay but I can't come out of the closet.
    Zaqhary Zaqhary
    18-21, M
    3 Responses Nov 29, 2013

    How U Know If Ur Really Gay?

    i'm 14, and don't really like girls in that way and been thinking i may be gay because i like hanging out with guys and wrestling and horsing around would like the mess around with another boy, but i am scared about being gay because i live in conservative area and parents are...
    DaytonW14 DaytonW14
    16-17, M
    10 Responses Aug 20, 2012

    The Tough Guy.

    I was that guy. The one trying to be tough, trying to be anything but gay. I knew 100 slandering gay jokes, called every "weak" person a *** or a c0ck sucker. It was so intentional that I must have been hiding from my self. I was hiding. These days I am still hiding but at least...
    adamrising adamrising
    41-45, M
    3 Responses Mar 11, 2013

    I am a born again christian attracted to guys.

    This creates a lot of inter turmoil as I long to be free but not really if you know what I mean. I have spent many years praying to be set free but it's getting to a point where I'm just depressed now. I actually don't know what the hell to do.
    lillost88 lillost88
    26-30, M
    7 Responses Aug 9, 2015

    Hey! :) So yes as u probably had already seen

    im gay, well actualy im the only one who knows so i think it doesnt count... :p I fell deeply depressed some times because of this, im gay, i know it for sure, and im kind of...afraid to tell everyone because i dont know what can happen after that. The thing i love the most is...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Jan 5, 2015

    I Am a Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual But No One Can Know.

    For those who feel like they are uncool, no one knows them and they're just not one of the popular kids, I feel for you but then again I would rather put myself in your shoes than to live a life that I have right now where everyone surrounds me expect something of me or even look...
    confusion confusion
    26-30, F
    18 Responses Oct 3, 2007

    Ok. So I'm 23 & just starting to come to terms

    with my sexuality. About 8 months ago, I finally started to acknowledge that I liked girls & allowed myself the space & time to come to terms with everything & engage with this identity. Once I got over the initial acknowledgement, I embraced it pretty fast. Everything finally...
    lostlamp lostlamp
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jul 20, 2015

    Don't Waste Your Life

    Being sexually attracted to men has been around longer than the bible and has been part of mankind since the being. Life is short. Live life to the fullest. Don't wait until you're older and regret wasting your youth. It is easier said than done, I realize that. But there is...
    soburied soburied
    51-55, M
    4 Responses Sep 21, 2013

    The first time I knew I was gay was the age of

    11. The second I realised it I ran to my room and started crying until my eyes hurt, I remember this day so clearly because it was also the day I realised my father would never be able to accept it. As I was sobbing on my by bed my father came into my room and grabbed me by the...
    Takino Takino
    18-21, M
    4 Responses Apr 11, 2014

    One of a kind closeted gay man looking

    for his soul mate, a closeted lesbian. 100% discreet and 100% masculine. I am handsome, physically fit, athletic, genuine, outgoing, career oriented. I am 5,11 tall, 170 lbs, dark brown hair with green eyes. I am Caucasian, Italian background and was born and raised in NY...
    joesmithnyc joesmithnyc
    41-45, M
    Feb 11

    Gay, Celibate, Christian Just Wanting To Find That Someone To Hold At Night

    I was raised in a Christian home, by two parents that were present in my life, and have been married for 20 years now and are very happy. I have never seen them fight once. I have a half-brother that is 5 years older than me, and we don't get along and never have. I have a step...
    jennings2012 jennings2012
    18-21, M
    21 Responses Aug 9, 2012

    Here's my story... Read it

    or not. I don't care. I'm gay but I'm also Christian and well that mixes as well as water mixes with oil. Especially when you have hard core Christian that you also love and grew up in the church. I know what's right from wrong and I try to suppress my urges and sometimes I...
    kp4w kp4w
    18-21, M
    9 Responses Aug 9, 2014

    Is it ok to be gay? I'm mostly in the closet.

    I've grown up in a homophobic environment and although some would accept it, most would pity me & think it's disgusting. It's as if there's something wrong with being Gay. Not feeling very comfortable.
    AussieCharlie AussieCharlie
    41-45, M
    1 Response Jan 6

    It's a process that everyone goes through

    if you lucky you accept it before you're 25, if your unlucky you'll go crazy at 45 when you have a wife and kids and wish you didn't waste all that time!! COME TO THE DARK SIDE - we have cookies! - message me if you want to talk guys. Zack 21 london.
    zacklengthorn zacklengthorn
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Jul 16, 2014

    I don't understand today how being gay is truly

    accepted. Today the most acceptance is "I'm okay with yo being gay" or "I'm happy for you." True acceptance would be "so?" Only then is it truly acceptance. Because then being gay isn't different or weird. It's nothing different. It's just normal. It's insignificant.
    LizzieWolf LizzieWolf
    13-15, T
    4 Responses Mar 21, 2014

    I hate that I'm gay. :(

    and I hate that I'm alone because I can't come out. If anyone needs anyone to talk to, I'm here.
    willnevertell07 willnevertell07
    26-30, M
    1 Response May 8, 2015

    Sucks not being able to come out to your family

    knowing that they don't accept gays ..
    Angelsoto30 Angelsoto30
    22-25, M
    5 Responses Jun 7, 2015

    2013

    It has been a long time since the last time a shared a “story”, Yet, so many things have happened in my life (mostly good), that I have decided to once more sit down and share. Truly 2012 was a blessed year for me. I had my social “coming-out” as a gay man…and to be...
    Ralphsnt69 Ralphsnt69
    46-50, M
    7 Responses Jan 19, 2013

    I'm Gay And I Hate It!

    I'm a 25 years old gay guy. My first fantasy about males that I could remember was when I was about 9 years old, and my first sexual experience with a boy when I was 15 years old. I don't really know WHY I'm gay! Why I like guys and don't like girls? I have every right to know...
    sadness707 sadness707
    22-25, M
    36 Responses Nov 13, 2011

    I am a Gay Man from an Asian Archipelago.

    I am a Honor Student, A Licensed Teacher and an Heir to our Family Business. My Family is not really open-minded about Homosexuality. They have so much expectations from me. How will I come out? I do not like to hurt or disappoint my family. I love them so much.
    dbearbmax dbearbmax
    22-25, M
    4 Responses May 9, 2015

    Kindergarten, I know it now

    but not then. Kindergarten. When she walked into my classroom and stood proud and curious, clinging to her mother’s hip. Her name was Calla, like the lily flower, and she was my first friend. The first girl I ever felt a connection to that changed my world and still knocks on...
    directstructure directstructure
    22-25, F
    Mar 31

    Ok so it's hard for me to expect myself

    as being gay because I don't know what I am there are days I really like girls and there are days I really like boys most of the time I like guys though and it's hard for me to find a relationship to be in because I'm not out as being bisexual if that is what I quote on quote am...
    fiftyshadesoforange fiftyshadesoforange
    18-21, M
    1 Response Oct 23, 2015

    I have a major problem with my best friend he's

    heterosexual and I'm homosexual but I have really gotten to know him over the past few months during lunch at school and I like him I guess. I'm stuck and confused about what I should do or want to-do. I'm not going to ask him out or anything but should I tell him I like him and...
    nathan5081 nathan5081
    16-17, M
    5 Responses May 7, 2015

    I still dont feel comfortable in my skin.

    I feel so different still..even though my sexuality isnt usually an issue with people.
    jtymez4 jtymez4
    26-30, M
    1 Response May 19, 2015

    Ugh I can't live like this anymore.

    I can't take it. I'm a closeted gay/bisexual guy and most of my family is conservative and homophobic (due to their so called christian values and beliefs). I need someone to talk to because I have no close friends that I hang out with at my college. I love the school I'm at but...
    GCassr22 GCassr22
    18-21, M
    3 Responses Jan 26

    I battle with the homosexual spirit.

    ... I want a family a wife and kids..... I love God and my savior Jesus Christ... I know the homosexual life style is wrong.... But I don't understand why I have to deal with this.... This is something that I have prayed and cried about and have asked God not to let me give in...
    Tired23 Tired23
    22-25, M
    5 Responses Jul 25, 2014

    I went to a mostly gay party tonight

    and felt out of place:( Of course there were attractive Men there and I know I am attracted to Men but as I'm new to this scene, having been in the closet most my life I felt very uncomfortable. I'm not sure whether I was worried about what other patrons of the bar would think...
    AussieCharlie AussieCharlie
    41-45, M
    Jan 10

    I need advice on how to date someone

    while still remaining in the closet
    asterwesley asterwesley
    18-21, M
    3 Responses May 6, 2015

    I wanna end it all. Why do I have to be gay?

    I hate it. I hate that I feel like I have no one and I hate the fact that I came out to some of my friends and I've lost them. I just hate everything.
    willnevertell07 willnevertell07
    26-30, M
    7 Responses Jul 7, 2015

    I'm 31 years old, and

    for as long as I can remember I've been dodging the fact that I'm at least bisexual or gay. It's taken up so much of my strength and, looking back, has shaped so many of my decisions, whether they big or just everyday interactions with people. I've come to a critical crossroads...
    thanks4listening thanks4listening
    31-35, M
    5 Responses May 9, 2015

    Hi, hope you are all well

    and healthy. I am 30 years old Indian Gay men & well settled Software employee and currently living in Hyderabad,India. I am single, not in a relation with any gay. Due to family and society pressure. I am looking for a decent educated understanding lesbian for MOC, Please...
    pranaireddy pranaireddy
    26-30, M
    Jan 21

    Mom.

    I've tried to tell mom that I'M gay a couple of times before and (if you read my first story you know how that ended) it was so bad... So now I'M here... Three years after all that **** happened and we "Moved on"... My mom talks to me about girls... just to know if im dating...
    josean03 josean03
    22-25, M
    7 Responses Nov 14, 2013

    Hello guys, I am a bisexual male

    and I have a real passion to help struggling or confused or scared or lonely gay teenage boys, please reach out I want to help
    BiBoy3 BiBoy3
    31-35, M
    1 Response May 29, 2015

    I'm gay, friends and family know,

    I have a boyfriend, we live together, we're happy BUT I still find it hard when it comes to things like conversations in work. I always omit information that may give away I'm gay. I don't know why I do it, I'm ashamed I do it. Anyone else have similar struggles or use to...
    rb1987 rb1987
    26-30, M
    1 Response Sep 3, 2014

    One of a kind closeted gay man looking

    for his soul mate, a closeted lesbian. 100% discreet and 100% masculine here. I am handsome, physically fit, athletic, genuine, outgoing, career oriented and kind. I am 5,11 tall, 170 lbs, dark brown hair with green eyes. I am Caucasian, Italian background and was born and...
    joesmithnyc joesmithnyc
    41-45, M
    Mar 20

    How to come out? when you really love your

    family and friend and be afraid about what could they said. but you don´t want to lose them sorry for my english, I speak spanish.
    ThEonlyBoY ThEonlyBoY
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Nov 17, 2015

    so I have a girlfriend

    and o love her for her bit I have no idea how to say that her parts make me feel sick because I'm gay. I love her tho she is the only girl I have loved and I've had s*x with a few guys but I didn't love any of them. I've been thinking of using viagra or similar for when we do...
    cjisbi cjisbi
    16-17, T
    Dec 1, 2015

    Gay In Yemen

    This is a summary of my life till now, and almost every gay person who is living in one of the 7 countries which denies gay rights and perform death penalty on those who have sexual gay relations has the same life or maybe worse because of that: I am a gay Muslim, living and...
    yemengay yemengay
    22-25, M
    15 Responses May 16, 2013

    People always ask me.

    . "Why did you choose to be gay?" I would always reply "I didn't choose to be gay, if I could, why would I choose all this taunting and teasing?"
    austintsnelson austintsnelson
    16-17, M
    4 Responses Aug 4, 2014

    I just had my first experience

    and it was with a man.
    Tom1429 Tom1429
    31-35, M
    6 Responses Apr 6, 2014

    I wish I could just like women

    and be normal. Liking guys has taken me to the lowest point of my life
    lostsoul9011 lostsoul9011
    22-25, M
    4 Responses Mar 10, 2014

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