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I Am Struggling With Forgiveness

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    A Letter to My Ex Husband

    Someday you will be the person who is needing help.  Perhaps you will be disabled, elderly, re-cooperating from an illness or surgery, or even suffering from some affliction that makes even the most vital aspects of your life impossible to handle alone.  Who will be...
    weareonespirit weareonespirit 51-55, F 1 Response May 14, 2008

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    I Am Still

     i am trying to forgive my mother for everything she did to me but i dont think i will ever be ablw to for give her she hurt me to bad for her to desurve to be forgive. her i dont think i can ever.
    Baby69 Baby69 18-21, F 3 Responses Feb 1, 2009

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    Forgiveness And Reconciliation: The Road To Salvation.

    note: When a person holds resentment toward another, they are bound to that person or condition by an strong emotional link. Forgiveness and reconciliation is the only way to dissolve that link and get free. To complete the process of forgiveness there must also be a...
    a1234poem a1234poem 41-45, M Apr 24, 2010

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    I Stopped Speaking to My Step Mom, It Hurts Too Much

    I am 46 and my childhood memories continue to haunt me.  I was born to a mother who was so intelligent and spiritual, unfortunately she was a terrible perscription drug addict.  My father was younger, a scientist and he hated my mother.   I have a half sister...
    sech sech 46-50, F 2 Responses Sep 3, 2009

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    Forgiving Yourself - the Hardest of All

    I wake up everyday and I forgive you - you, who didn't love me you, who lied daily to me you, who told the truth that I didn't want to hear you, who hurt me you, who left when I really needed you you, who let me fall you, who broke and shattered my...
    MizzBlue72 MizzBlue72 36-40, F 5 Responses Jun 4, 2009

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    Sometimes You Have To Let Some People Go

    I believe forgiveness is what people do for themselves, so they can move on with their life. To not forgive someone is like drinking poison. But on the other hand, when you forgive someone, who keeps on hurting you over and over again, why do you keep on trying to forgive them...
    AngelicLights AngelicLights 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 6, 2010

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    Past Pain

    I am trying to forgive you for all the hurt you have caused. I had a feeling it was never meant to be when you started telling me that all I ever do is cry. I kept trying and trying, but you didn't want it to work. I've held on to you for too long, finally facing the fact that...
    JasminelynnB JasminelynnB 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 24, 2012

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    Family

    Its already hard to forgive a friend, colleague.... and even harder to forgive a family member. every night for the passed years ive stared out the window and questioned if he had ever loved me....... or is this hatred caused by me...... have i done something wrong.... have i...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 19, 2012

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    Cheating Husband

    My husband left me in May because he was depressed and felt no connection with me any more. He felt worthless and unappreciated since he had been unemployed for almost a year. He left and started going out at night and getting drunk.  He started seeing an ex girlfriend and...
    Athena1982 Athena1982 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 12, 2011

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    Forgiveness Is Work

    My brother asked me if I had forgiven you yet and it sounded like a chore I hadn't gotten around to yet. Until now I didn't realize the amount of work that goes into forgiveness and how the work doesn't end. There are times when I feel peace and there are times that compulsive...
    Bosheart Bosheart 26-30 Oct 6, 2012

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    How To Let Go And Forgive..

    Ok I've never been on here so I just want people to not be rude a**holes. I'm 27 and have been with my husband for 7 years. we have a wonderful daughter together and we are planning within the next year to expand our family. I am currently in school finishing up my masters and...
    KSpangler567 KSpangler567 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 22, 2013

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    Forgiveness Seems Impossible.

    I'm trying to heal from my partner lying to me about living with his ex girlfriend of 4 years during our whole relationship. I'm trying to heal from being attacked by my partner's ex gf who went psycho on me because I was fed the lies from the very beginning. I'm trying...
    justphophun justphophun 22-25, F 5 Responses Feb 25, 2010

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    ...not Only For Others...

    .....But towards myself.  One day I'll get past it, but today is still not the day. It's been almost one month since I left to be with him. And every day it's a struggle to forgive myself for being so naive, and to forgive him because right now I honestly wish he'd die...
    twistedsilly twistedsilly 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 19, 2009

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    Yeah

    There is one person that has hurt me in a very big way. I want to forgive him. But... I also don't. I know I'm the only one hurting by holding onto this hate. But still. I thought the way he left was mean. It's taken me a long time to get to the point where I don't think about...
    kleisse kleisse 22-25, F 4 Responses Aug 9, 2009

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    DrewBerry DrewBerry 46-50, F 2 Responses Oct 17, 2009

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    Forgiving Myself Has Been So Difficult

    Hi! A quick run down of who I am today.... I am a mother of a wonderful 19 month baby girl who is my world. I have a wonderful husband that provides great for us, but is struggling with his relationship with God, but treats me well. :) We have a beautiful home, dog, simple things...
    mommyrealtor mommyrealtor 26-30 5 Responses Jun 27, 2010

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    I Know How You Feel

    I am always having difficulties with forgiving others.
    MySweetLord MySweetLord 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 19, 2009

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    What is a friend?

    Recently I have gone through some rough ends with some friends... Still learning some of them wanted to throw punches at me... I had broke up with my girlfriend and a lot of people hated me for it... Still learning that some who I thought were closer to me wanted to get me back...
    Doznac Doznac 13-15, M 1 Response Dec 6, 2011

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    Forgiveness And Reconciliation: The

    note: When a person holds resentment toward another, they are bound to that person or condition by an strong emotional link. Forgiveness and reconciliation is the only way to dissolve that link and get free. To complete the process of forgiveness there must also be a...
    a1234poem a1234poem 41-45, M 1 Response Apr 24, 2010

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    Angry Anymore

    I try to tell myself that I've forgiven my parents for everything.  I mean, they grew up in a time when "silence" about certain things was the rule with no exceptions.  I know in their own way they were trying to make me as ready for the world as i could. ...
    Shierke Shierke 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 16, 2009

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    How Do I Forgive?

    Ive been with my partner for 4 years, the first 2 years were amazing and i really thought my luck was in,until i found out he cheated severeal times. it broke my heart and i cant find room to forgive but i love him terribly and want to believ hes changed so much,but every now and...
    paranoidprincess1987 paranoidprincess1987 22-25, F 6 Responses Aug 3, 2009

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    Keep Looking For It

    Struggling is one word. Seeking is another. I keep looking for forgiveness for the people that have become so intricately involved with this. I need to forgive me, but I'm not any where close to that. Not yet, maybe never. He moved here to take care of me. Sweet gods...
    Toby2day Toby2day 51-55, F 4 Responses Feb 26, 2010

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    Questions And Answers: When Is It Okay To Break A Promise?

    Thank you MizShagtastic, for posing such a thought provoking question in the Jackassery Forum of Questions and Answers.  My apologies for turning what's normally a precise if not curt response into a Mini-Novel, but those thoughts inspired this story assigned to me...
    DrewBerry DrewBerry 46-50, F 22 Responses Dec 7, 2009

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    The Promise Of Full Forgiveness And The Importance Of Forgiving Others

      Numbers 14:19-21 In accordance with your great love, forgive the sin of these people, just as you have pardoned them from the time they left Egypt until now." The LORD replied, "I have forgiven them, as you asked. Nevertheless, as surely as I live and as surely as the glory...
    WilliamC WilliamC 61-65, M 1 Response Nov 29, 2011

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    Betrayal I Never Saw Coming...

    It started with a phone call. My sister, that I haven't been close with until the past year, called me up from a couple of states over and said she needed my help. Her fiancee and herself were going to lose their place. She was renting a room from someone that wasn't very...
    rennierules rennierules 22-25 Jun 1, 2010

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    Learning We're All Flawed

    My Mom, a 16 year old, lonely girl in Kansas, whose Mother had died and her Dad remarried met an older man, a peacetime Soldier in the park, fell in love, got pregnant, told her half sister who went to the base, told the Captain who ordered my Dad to marry her. He did, I was...
    dorobo dorobo 70+, M 11 Responses Apr 3, 2008

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    Should Time Heal All Wounds?

    When I was about 11 I was playing a game in the alley behind our house called running bases it involved throwing a baseball between two catchers while the base runners would try to run form base to another with out getting tagged out by one of teh catchers. I was playing with my...
    jamespeters jamespeters 46-50, M 1 Response Jun 7, 2012

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    On So Many Levels.

    I have a hard time forgiving people, I tend to hold grudges. But I'm trying my best to forgive those who have hurt me. I'm trying to forgive my abuser. I'm trying to forgive my friend who abandoned me. I'm trying to forgive those who have bullied me online, and made fun of me in...
    staystrong11 staystrong11 18-21, F 6 Responses Aug 17, 2011

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    How Do You Forgive?

    You lied I cried You pushed me away I was forced to go away every single day You say it's my fault when you know it's yours. You came back one day with your lies And you expect me to forget when you said goodbye? I hate you for what you did And I just don't know how to let...
    ArielDiAngelo ArielDiAngelo 13-15 2 Responses Jun 15, 2013

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    I Am Still Struggling

    Genuine forgiveness does not deny anger but faces it head-on.  Alice Miller Holding anger is poison.  It eats you from the inside.  We think that hating is a weapon and attacks the peson who harmed us.  But hatred is a curved blade.  And the harm we do...
    weareonespirit weareonespirit 51-55, F 2 Responses May 25, 2008

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    I Can't Forgive And Forget

    I think i really have a mental bock with forgiving. I can't forgive. I hold grudges very strongly. I honestly think i'm an angry soul.I want to forgive and forget. Even with the people i love the most i can't forgive. When someone does something bad or upset me EVERYTHING bad...
    enemyinthemirror enemyinthemirror 18-21, F 7 Responses Jan 24, 2012

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    The Mistakes I've Made That I Can't Seem To Get Over..

    Two guys, one girl. This is already starting bad.. One is in the service, a Marine, one is unemployed with an undiagnosed antisocial disorder, or something like it. Both were sweet, though one helped me more than the other. And I ended up with the other.. It happened last year...
    AngelicMassacre AngelicMassacre 18-21, F Mar 16, 2012

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    Beginning To Wonder

    If forgiving really is worth it or if that's just a pretty way to think. Hell, maybe people who insist that you forgive are just tired of hearing you complain. Maybe they just don't like dealing with other people's anger and bitterness and pain. I struggle to forgive people in my...
    Sinaname Sinaname 26-30 Jul 11, 2013

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    Christian Quotes On Forgiveness And Unforgiveness Index

    Our Saviour kneels down and gazes upon the darkest acts of our lives. But rather than recoil in horror, he reaches out in kindness and says, 'I can clean that if you want.' And from the basin of his grace, he scoops a palm full of mercy and washes our sin.  Max...
    WilliamC WilliamC 61-65, M Nov 29, 2011

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    He Wants Me To Hurt. . . Even When I Am Pregnant!?!?!

    My ex fiancee wants to work it out with me and start going to church. This is peculiar as he has had over 6 additional sex partners in less than 6 months along with me behind my back and yes. . . while pregnant. Surprised? Don't be. The thought of diseases did not cross his mind...
    mzjazzymae mzjazzymae 18-21, T 2 Responses Jan 12, 2011

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    I Can't Forgive Myself, How Can I Ever Forgive Anyone Else?

    I was re-reading the 5th book in The Dark Tower series "Wolves of the Calla" by Stephen King and a line in the book hit me like fist to the gut. "That vast voice from the darkness beyond the fence sang...of simple forgiveness rather than the difficult forced march of atonement...
    someblonderedhead someblonderedhead 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 17, 2011

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