I Am Struggling With My Sexuality

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 438 People

    I Hate This...

    I think I might be asexual... meaning I basically don't like sex. This is so ******* confusing for me! I know I like girls, I know I like to kiss, cuddle, occasionally make out...but... then what? Finding out I liked girls was hard enough for me to come to terms with, but this is...
    Voodoogirl309 Voodoogirl309
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Dec 13, 2012

    i have a crush on a girl.

    i know i shouldn't because we are in the same gender. and yup i think i'm a lesbian or nope! maybe i'm just confused....but i don't know how to tell this to everyone. i just don't know what to do anymore. i don't want to disappoint my family, i feel ashamed for being like this...
    jai09 jai09
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Jul 7, 2015
    Hayley13T15 Hayley13T15
    16-17, F
    Mar 24, 2015

    I don't really now what I am.

    I mean I've always grown up thinking that I was straight and that i was going to marry a guy and have kids but lately I've started to think. I had just started school and people that I had known for years started to come out. My best friend told me that she was interested in...
    Leannabj25 Leannabj25
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jul 28, 2015

    Im a 16 year old female

    who has always been straight and the girl who's never done anything. Lately I've been feeling more and more attracted to girls because they're like me and sexy and all this stuff. But I feel like people would think I'm faking it. I just wanna try stuff like kissing and more to...
    Beccaslife Beccaslife
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Apr 26, 2014

    I have known I am gay

    since I was 13. I am just now coming to terms with it. I spent a long time trying to run from or change it. when faced with it, I become depressed. I dislike talking about it to people. I don't know what to do.
    Stephenwashere92 Stephenwashere92
    22-25, M
    3 Responses Jun 22, 2015

    I am bisexual but i am

    now think that I am gay. I check out guys way more than girls, But I have a girlfriend atm and I just dont know what to think/do
    FabulousMisha101 FabulousMisha101
    16-17, M
    4 Responses Jun 15, 2015

    I'm bi and haven't told my family.

    Still trying to find my purpose in this world before I do anything drastic.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    5 Responses Jun 15, 2015

    It's not that I struggle with

    who I am or know what I like. I identify as queer just because I prefer that label over the others. My fear is that I am a gay woman in a heterosexual relationship. I found no attraction to the opposite sex, sure I thought boys were cute but I didn't think of them in sexual ways...
    GhostThoughts GhostThoughts
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jun 16, 2015

    I've found myself fantasizing about women more

    and more. I don't even know how to approach a woman for a date or anything. Since I was about 7, my girl crush was always Lucy lawless lol. Maybe I've been suppressing these feelings for a long time. 😩
    AGirlonherJourney AGirlonherJourney
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Mar 26, 2015

    I am completely confused about my sexuality.

    I am like a mix of bisexual, asexual, and other stuff that I don't even completely understand. I have had trouble having relationships because my lack of attraction, but it's way more complicated than that. I'm seriously just lost right now.
    Anonymousrebel Anonymousrebel
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Sep 4, 2015

    I Wish I Wasn't Gay

    I'm attracted to women and have been for as long as I can remember. I had a somewhat abusive childhood (mostly emotional) and can't help but wonder if that's the reason I am a lesbian. My mother consumes a lot of aspartame, so that could be the cause as well. Or both. Either...
    1anonymous1 1anonymous1
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Nov 25, 2012

    I feel like I'm in a glass closet.

    I feel that everyone that I meet knows instantly that I am a homosexual. It scares me because I feel that, if I cannot hide my sexuality, I cannot hide anything that I do not want to share. When I'm surrounded by friends, I feel comfortable, to a certain extent, but their is...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Dec 22, 2015

    My life Is ****** up,

    I think I'm now bi and transgender please someone help
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Jun 16, 2015

    im not sure if im straight bi i do know i love

    being in skirts bras my diaper any one want help me
    sissybaby11 sissybaby11
    26-30, M
    1 Response Oct 28, 2015

    I am attracted to women,

    I know this, but I'm not sure whether the label bisexual or lesbian is more fitting. I used to call myself a bisexual when I first realized I was attracted to women, but without having any actual relationships with women, I feel like I don't have a point of reference to actually...
    MegSardMermaid MegSardMermaid
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jun 3, 2015

    I know I'm either Gay

    or bisexual, the only question is women.
    Bruh453 Bruh453
    16-17, M
    2 Responses Oct 27, 2015

    I see absolutely nothing wrong with same sex

    love. In fact, I think it's cuter and sweeter (better) than a heterosexual relationship yet I feel uncomfortable letting people know I'm bi and I don't understand why. I can be honest with myself and admit it (and to people online who I'll never see), but It's very embarrassing...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Jun 16, 2015

    My Fear!!

    Ok so I think I mite like girls, I don't really know what it is but I've always been taken by them and wanted to be close to them and if I'm totally honest with myself, if I think about being with someone and being in love with someone down the line its a woman that comes to mind...
    LoveYouIDo LoveYouIDo
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Apr 15, 2012

    The Grand Narrative

    Today I took a road down memory lane. I stopped by my old work place for a small chat, some salad and a orange tart. I asked a friend who was still working in the restaurant. I wanted to find her name. I know her name on facebook. It is guy's name, because on facebook she writes...
    autumnsparrow autumnsparrow
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Apr 16, 2013

    I believe I am straight

    but I really want to have s3x with a woman or two... I think I'm growing to like women..
    TrivialName7 TrivialName7
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Jun 15, 2015

    Finding one little picture of my preschool

    class today has sent me into being bothered by my sexuality again. Why, 4 year old me, why did you have to have crushes on girls and boys? LOL. And why can't 33 year old me just be okay with that?
    lyricalongings lyricalongings
    31-35, F
    1 Response Oct 27, 2015

    growong up i preferred boys i didn't go

    out with a girl until 18 it was ok but not great but eventually got married i am happy and we do have a good marriage but sometimes wish i had another boyfriend in my life
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Oct 28, 2015

    im pretty sure im gay

    but not sure if im bi or not :(
    gayjon gayjon
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Apr 25, 2015

    I know I like guys in a romantic way,

    and in a "I want to spend the night snuggling with you way", but for some reason the concept of intercourse and other related activities seems so foreign and wrong and dare I say, disgusting. And then I sometimes have an attraction to females. It's confusing enough that I just...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Jun 16, 2015

    I'm 18, I have a boyfriend right now

    but he's been hurting me pretty much the entire relationship. I feel like every time I date a guy I get really hurt but every time I date a girl everything's amazing I can't have sex with my boyfriend without getting physically sick either I just don't know what to do our how to...
    mnsluvyou mnsluvyou
    18-21, F
    3 Responses May 29, 2015

    I was straight, then started liking a girl.

    .. then dated her... then broke up with her because I felt like I was straight and now I'm starting to like her again. idek anymore
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jun 17, 2015

    Im sixteen and well Ive had feelings

    for dudes for awhile, and have recently accepted that im gay. while i have a faint attraction for females it faint so its hard to say if im bi or gay. my problem is i was raised in a christian household and my whole life while everyone made fun of me because of they way i acted...
    SeanDR SeanDR
    18-21, M
    4 Responses Jul 9, 2015

    ANYONE PLEASE HELP ME!

    im a guy who LOVES panties and things in my butt and yet im attacted to girls PLEASE HELP ME
    BabyCiria BabyCiria
    18-21, F
    1 Response Aug 6, 2015

    There is this pretty & cool young lady at my

    job. First day we met instantly clicked which never happens for me. Then she blurts out that she has a gf. Didn't faze me, until we continued talking & clicking at work. I'm not attracted to women, just her. I want to tell her, but I respect her & her relationship so I wouldn't...
    C3rtainly C3rtainly
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jul 10, 2015

    I feel that I have being struggling with my

    gender and sexuality. I want to know if I am a woman inside or am I gay.
    Roger773 Roger773
    41-45, M
    4 Responses Dec 2, 2015

    I've always called myself pansexual.

    I wasn't and am still not attracted to people by physical appearance, but by their heart. I've never really told anyone I know in real life about this, I've mostly just met others like me online. So I've dated a few people of both genders and some androgynous people, but the...
    mugzib mugzib
    18-21, F
    Oct 6, 2014

    I think I'm bisexual

    but I don't know it's hard and stressful and not as easy as people think to figure out :/
    jodie112 jodie112
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Feb 24, 2015

    I consider myself to be bisexual (attracted to

    both sexes sexually) and hetero-romantic (only romantically attracted to the opposite sex/ will date the opposite sex). Every attempt I've experience with trying to date a girl had failed so I just stick to dating guys and being sexually involved with girls. It's hard explaining...
    Tk5eva Tk5eva
    18-21, F
    Feb 20, 2015

    I'm sixteen and have been struggling

    for a while. I've been raised being called gay by many people because I preferred playing with my special needs sister and her barbies then getting muddy and fighting my brother till one of us bleeds. I'm fairly sure I'm bi because I am attracted to women but they don't get me...
    SeanDR SeanDR
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Apr 9, 2015

    Just threaded my eyebrows

    and got a pedicure. Felt great. I wonder what I should do next to change my appearance.
    Roger773 Roger773
    41-45, M
    Feb 6, 2016

    Not only my sexuality

    but also my gender. I am male but want to be female. To make things worse I live in the south so people literally want me to die. Plus I am bisexual and it's tempting to just to go straight because even my therapist doesn't accept me.
    Mollythebunnie Mollythebunnie
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Oct 28, 2015

    So I'm straight but sometimes I feel like I'm

    attracted to girls ? It'd be really cool to have a girl to experiment with 😜 but then sometimes I just want a man !! Idk I'm confused & curious 😁😔
    Jocy512 Jocy512
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jun 17, 2015

    I am 14-15 and I am confused: I have always

    been attracted to boys! I dated my best friend (guy) for 9 years. When I was 4 I loved breasts. Because I have a big family I am predicted to be the gay one in the family because of that.I just thought they looked really good and I couldn't wait till I got my own. When I was...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    11 Responses Apr 9, 2014

    I told my ex that I think I might be gay about

    a year ago. He said I'm not. I asked him if we could have a female friend join us and he said no. I made out with a girl a couple days ago. Two actually.
    cholaloca cholaloca
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Nov 27, 2015

    I don't like telling anyone what my sexuality.

    It's partly because I'm afraid of what people will think but it's mostly because I'm not sure. I just know I'm not completely straight. I don't think I could ever completely come out though.
    churchdadatnight churchdadatnight
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Feb 20, 2015
    Roger773 Roger773
    41-45, M
    1 Response Feb 17, 2016

    so all my life ive been different then other

    people in personality wise and ive always been crazy and up beat. but as I got older things started to change in high school I dated a lot! I mean like every day to week a new person, men, women who ever! but then I found a man who I thought was the one I got married and have...
    girlylove460 girlylove460
    22-25, F
    2 Responses May 28, 2015
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