This experience may contain mature content, as flagged by the community.
Please click away if you do not want to see this content.
To report inappropriate content, please email us.

I Am Submissive Seeking Help And Tips

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 248 People

    First Experience Tomorrow

    Tomorrow evening I will have my first D/S experience. Recently divorced, I always knew I was missing something. Like many women, after readying Fifty Shades of Grey, I knew exactly what I was missing and what I desired. I met a very handsome gentleman online and have dated once...
    drengle51 drengle51
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Jun 29, 2012

    It All Makes Sense To Me Now

    Now that i know i almost feel stupid that it wasnt more obvious to me before. I always wondered why I left every single solitary sexual experience I had feeling unfulfilled and unhappy. During them I would sometimes grow bored, thinking of what I could do to get them to "come...
    ilovebadboys ilovebadboys
    31-35, F
    1 Response Dec 19, 2012


    First story I read, I go to see how things went with her, and she has not been on line since she published her first D/s meeting with a literal stranger... Excuse me.. but that is ******* scary.. Okay, I've always wanted the things I've read about in books, going back as far as...
    moonstormz moonstormz
    56-60, F
    1 Response Jan 29, 2013

    This Is All Newish To Me

    I have known for a while now that I am submissive. I've accepted that and love it. I was never able to find a master. None of them ever worked out. Now I am here I have a great master. He is the man I want to submit to. To obey, worship, and please everyday. I have realized with...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jul 7, 2013

    I desperately need advice about what to do in

    my D/s situation. Scroll to the bottom if you don't want to read the saga. Background: never dated many guys, they all felt wrong to me. I met "George" online, and we had an immediate connection. Our first date was fantastic and we hung out for hours. I knew he was the one I...
    belovedlover belovedlover
    31-35, F
    1 Response Aug 28, 2014

    My Journey To Submission (Pt. 2)

    I wrote before in Pt. 1 about how I first learned that surrendering to my SO was the beginning of a beautiful relationship, more fulfilling than I can possibly imagine. I soon wanted to please him so much. When I made him happy, I was happy. I started to feel a level of...
    star4425 star4425
    51-55, F
    May 15, 2013

    So Lost...

    The truth is, I feel really alone and lost. I know tat im a sub in msot cases, and I want to please everyone because I don't have that one person to devote myself to. But unfortunately a lot of the relationships I get into or even just my friends need a dom. And to please them I...
    SocialyAkward SocialyAkward
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jul 27, 2012

    My Journey To Submission (Pt. 1)

    By way of introduction, I am a strong independent professional. I was raised by my bitter divorced mother to believe that a woman never "needs" a man for anything, that I should be equal to any man and that I can do everything as well, if not better, than any man. Looking back...
    star4425 star4425
    51-55, F
    May 9, 2013

    Dom Male

    I am a Dom male seeking a submissive female.
    Coldwarrior Coldwarrior
    51-55, M
    1 Response Dec 4, 2012

    New To D/s

    I am in a long term committed relationship that is also long distance for over 11 years now. We have known each other almost our entire lives and came to the realization a few months ago that we have been moving to a D/s lifestyle for a while now both sexually and out of the...
    jnrds jnrds
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Feb 21, 2012

    We talked about rules today.

    We pulled out my book and I told him I think I need more. I need him to be more strict. He agreed. He said I should ask him before I want to anything. I said even if I have to use the bathroom? He said yes, the said no not when the kids are home. Trying to figure out how to some...
    silencedshy silencedshy
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Apr 12, 2014

    I Need To Find A Dominant Man

    I really need to find a dom man. i also want to be able to please him when i do. if he wants me to dress a certain way i will. if he wants me to look him in the eye while i pleasure him i will do it. i just want to know how to please him.
    sweetsubgirl sweetsubgirl
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Jun 16, 2012

    My Wife

    My wife really wants me to dominate her in the bedroom, I've never really dominated anyone before so I don't know where to start, and my wife doesn't open up to me and tell me what she really wants. She is my world and means everything to me and I'll do anything to please her...
    ILoveSDC ILoveSDC
    31-35, M
    1 Response Nov 19, 2012

    The Void

    i have a void inside me that i think could be filled thru submissivness .by serving a mistress and living to please her.Makeing Her happiness my own.Finding my pleasure in her pleasure.
    The1960texan The1960texan
    51-55, M
    Aug 8, 2012

    Being His Pet

    I found my soul mate...after being in a very abusive and sexless marriage for 16 years, I met the man of my dreams. Also has become my Master. We dated for a while before he ever brought this up, the dom/sub subject, but i noticed when we would make love he loved to grab a hold...
    hispet2012 hispet2012
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Apr 7, 2012

    Being Vulnerable Could Be Liberating

    There are some things that I have fantasize about for a while now. They are ways of leaving me vulnerable to someone. I want to be able to experience being strapped up into a straitjacket. It could be canvas or leather or something else, but I think I would feel good being in...
    sapphireguy sapphireguy
    22-25, M
    1 Response Jan 21, 2012

    Hmmm - I used to have someone

    who told me to describe him as my mentor, but actually at that point he was just a dom who'd agreed to give me occasional tasks ... But a mentor would be REALLY helpful - not that I'll find one, but still! ;)
    BSTisapain BSTisapain
    51-55, F
    1 Response Oct 24, 2014

    For The Sake Of Pleasing

    I have had submissive fantasies for, well, as long as I've had fantasies. I have never really fulfilled any of them; I just don't know how to start (or finish) that conversation. My husband and I have a very good relationship in that we talk pretty openly about most everything...
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses Nov 13, 2012

    New And Confused

    me and my boyfriend and trying the d/s relationship but we are uncertain how to proceed i wanted to be dominated and punished he is a bit shy we need help
    subsecret subsecret
    Dec 27, 2012

    I Am His...

    I married unwisely at a young age. Twenty-two seemed so grownup once upon a time. Nearly sixteen years later, I wondered why I hadn't left sooner. All throughout that hellish time, I was told that I'm stupid, ugly, inconsequential, a miserable waste of oxygen and space. I...
    Shaysdream Shaysdream
    36-40, F
    Oct 28, 2012

    Splitting From Your Dom......

    Does it ever get less painful? I feel like it would be easier if there was hate or the feelings had gone.....there would be some closure.....but it's hard to not wonder "what if?" I guess i just need to forget the way he made me I was the most precious thing in...
    deleted deleted
    Jun 27, 2013

    Read, Learn, Soul Search

    If you are new and looking for direction I would suggest reading everything you can get your hands on. Knowledge will help you decide, after some soul searching, what will make you happy. That being said please take everything you read with a grain of salt. Just because the...
    ACuriousStudent ACuriousStudent
    26-30, F
    Oct 30, 2012

    Better And Better

    It has been nearly a month since I 'confessed' to my husband that I want him to dominate me. My confidence is growing every day; my husband is showing so much interest in this for me. It is getting easier for (me) us to talk openly about all of this, and he is making (and...
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses Nov 20, 2012

    How Do I Ask Him If He Can Be Dominant?

      Just joined after reading lots of great and informative ideas and perspectives on D/s and TiH relationships, some combination of which would best describe me. Perhaps someone out there has on opinion on this: I have had one experience with a wonderful Master who taught...
    jewel67 jewel67
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Nov 16, 2012
More Stories