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I Am Terrified of Commitment

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    What the Hell Is Wrong With Me? - I'm scared of love, commitment, people near to me... everything. I can't sleep next to my girlfriend without having a panic attack (yeah, I really...
    GothGrrrl GothGrrrl 18-21, F 2 Responses May 8, 2007

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    Commitment Phobe! - I have been afraid of commitment for as long as I can remember. I am afraid of committed relationships, commitment to jobs, commitment to activities with...
    whitefether whitefether 61-65, F 1 Response Jan 7, 2011

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    Moving On After Heartache - I was in a relationship with someone who really didn't love me. He had broken up with me a number of times, and I was foolish enough to take him back...
    Nia0629 Nia0629 26-30 Apr 3, 2009

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    I Like Being Me, Not Us. - I don’t know how to be a girlfriend. I think I have something like a boyfriend… I’m not exactly sure. I thought we were just casually hanging out...
    angel1que angel1que 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 15, 2011

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    letsconfide letsconfide 26-30 Apr 3, 2012

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    I Am Not Exactly Terrified of ... - I am not exactly terrified of commitment, I'm just afraid of ending up with the wrong person. So far I've been with no one except the wrong...
    drthbeauty drthbeauty 16-18, F 2 Responses Feb 11, 2007

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    Making The Decison - I have always been terrified of commitment. I hate to be vulnerable. I fear that if I commit than not only will I give up my freedom, but my opportunity to be...
    nooneandeveryone nooneandeveryone 26-30, F 6 Responses Mar 8, 2011

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    I Am a Serious Relationship Ad... - I am a serious relationship addict.  It has almost always been my number one goal to see how serious a relationship could get.  I've...
    theophania theophania 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 11, 2007

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    Fantasy Man - I tend to compare my partner to a fantasy man inside my head.  Of course, a man as perfect as that doesn't exist - and if he did, he wouldn't be interested in me...
    CrystalCat CrystalCat 41-45, F 3 Responses Jul 4, 2007

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    So Afraid of commitment, I sabbotage myself by having relations only with people I dont belong with
    LdMtl LdMtl 18-21, M Mar 9

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    Dating someone for the first time is scary and knowing that one of your guy friends likes you is even scarier! I've been friends with (let's call him Tim) Tim since freshman year...
    RedCatHunting RedCatHunting 16-17, F Mar 2

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    =( - I have been in a relationship for 7 years, faithfully. So I guess I already am commited.  But part of me is terrified of moving further in the relationship, and I feel...
    outoftheshadows outoftheshadows 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 10, 2008

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    I Dont Think So...never e... - i dont think so...never experienced comitment phoba yet
    jess6 jess6 16-18, F Feb 11, 2007

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    He wants commitment now. He says he doesn't but he brought it up! I don't want a commitment. I can't handle one. I'm scared he will leave because I can't give it to him. I'm scared...
    maggielue maggielue 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 31, 2013

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    I Play It Safe All The Time. - I rejected guys who liked me and I liked them back many times just because I was not sure we would make a good couple. I have never been sure about...
    sanduniverse sanduniverse 18-21, F May 30, 2012

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    Commitment Is A Responsibility... - Commitment is a responsibility that I would proudly take on...
    cookies cookies 19-21, F 5 Responses Dec 26, 2006

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    I don't know when this fear started, I can't remember always feeling this way. And on assumption most would say I was over committed. I'm married, separated, was engaged again last...
    Roundabouts Roundabouts 22-25, F Jan 16

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    Am I A Commitphobe? - I have been noticing a pattern that I have been doing for the past 10 years. I am going to be 28 and this habit hasn't improved. When a man wants me to be...
    LadyOutspoken LadyOutspoken 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 3, 2013

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    No Good Reason. - I'm nineteen years old and am dreading the idea of marriage.  Why? It makes no sense.  My parents and grandparents are all happily married...so where...
    Luphmuffin Luphmuffin 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 7, 2010

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    Every time I hear the word forever and myself put in the same sentence, raises the hair at the back of my neck, as if alerting me to RUN! Dont know why, but it has been always a...
    hateme92 hateme92 18-21, F Jan 26

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    Any Opinons - I never can get into a relatioship, afraid of hurting people or getting hurt and then later find out that it was a good relationship and want to get back into it. By...
    frecklestylepolka frecklestylepolka 16-18, F 2 Responses Jun 15, 2007

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    I Was Definitely - God I don't know. It's just normal to wonder what else is out there. I got one foot in the relationship and the other somewhere else. I haven't been looking...
    NotApplicable NotApplicable 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 19, 2011

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    Guilt Sucks - I used to engage in compulsive sex, inside and out of several long-term, loving, serious relationships, and until a few years and one LTR ago, I had cheated on...
    ultimaluz ultimaluz 21-25, F Oct 31, 2007

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    Y All The Guys Hate Me - well all the guys hate me b/c im like to nuts or something i get nouvous when i talk 2 them but not my girlfriends
    ariellecoburn ariellecoburn 13-15, M Jul 4, 2012

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    The Remedy? - What's the best way to overcome a fear of commitment? Is it to jump right in and get committed to a good, stable relationship even if it's frightening? OR is it to...
    transienthope transienthope 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 26, 2010

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    I'm Not Sure Why - I'm not sure why But it's always been a part of my life.  I never let someone get too close to my heart.  It's typically 3 years when I finally feel...
    WarriorMom WarriorMom 51-55, F 5 Responses Dec 6, 2008

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    Commitaphobic - I think a lot of people who don't suffer from this don't get how trapped you feel at the slightest hint of a commitment or relationship. Even when I really like...
    JunkieCaity JunkieCaity 18-21, F 12 Responses Sep 21, 2013

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    No More Promises. - I had dated this guy for almost 4 months and he decided to break up with me 3 weeks before my 8th grade graduation. (He is a senior now, We will be going to...
    Icantcutanymore Icantcutanymore 18-21, F Jul 2, 2012

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    I hate having to be committed! That's why I don't like relationships. It's all just for fun now and later I can think about marriage and what not(:
    sexysammy468 sexysammy468 18-21, F Feb 18

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    It Scares Me - im absolutely terrified. it keeps me from having a boyfriend. the problem isnt the boyfriend. im not scared of the commitement itself. but what happens after. like...
    youdontknowme54321 youdontknowme54321 16-18, F 1 Response Dec 13, 2007

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    It Isn`T Safe... For Anyone - Commitment. The first word that come to my mind when I hear that word, is relationships. In a relationship there is two people. Therefore, to have...
    Smartypants5 Smartypants5 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 27, 2013

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    I was scared of commitment, I'd shake and all sorts when it came up, getting close to someone was hard enough! Let alone being open with them, however, I fell in love, we've got a...
    BritishK BritishK 18-21, F Feb 8

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    I Laughed. - I clicked the "Me Too" button, then the "congrats!" came up and I couldn't help but laugh. This isn't a good thing, EP.
    starsoffire starsoffire 18-21, F May 29, 2012

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    How Do I Know? - How do I know you're not using me? How do I know that you aren't just hopping onto the bandwagon of "I like her because everyone else does/did at one point"? How...
    Fuzzies Fuzzies 56-60, M 1 Response Jan 21, 2013

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    Urges to Run - For me relationships look like something I'd want but once I get into one the urges begin. During the first couple of months everything seems fine. I find out as...
    awesomerz awesomerz 18-21, F 4 Responses Apr 5, 2009

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    Life Is a Commitment. ... - Life is a commitment. In order to react with other people you need commitment. this includes all areas of life, work, friend, family and loved ones.
    monalisasmiled monalisasmiled 46-50, F 2 Responses Feb 11, 2007

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    Not For Me - i dont think i will ever commit to anything, just myself because i am so afraid of being hurt, i will never marry or have children. Its just not for me
    Donalh Donalh 22-25, M 1 Response Sep 5, 2008

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    Not Really, I'm Really Cra... - not really, i'm really crazy about the guy i'm with now. i may do some stupid thing with people when i'm drunk like flirt and stuff. but the only...
    SaraSnyder SaraSnyder 16-18, F Feb 11, 2007

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    Fear of Commitment Is Ruining My Life - i am afraid of Commitment. I mean, panic-attack afraid. Sweaty, stomach-churning, legs cramping, sleep deprived afraid. terrified. I once...
    kingsteve72 kingsteve72 36-40 3 Responses Jul 23, 2009

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    I Got Problems - i don't like commitment in other things, not only relationships. Like I will avoid certain things that are permanent like tattoos, and buying things I will have to...
    NotApplicable NotApplicable 22-25, F Sep 23, 2011

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    I Don't Want To Get Hurt... - I'm at the age in my life now where I am able to have a REAL relationship with REAL feelings. I fell in love once. He broke my heart. I gave him...
    Val3ntine Val3ntine 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 28, 2010

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    I'm So Young But Scared Of Commitment - Even when I'm playing an online game I like, I can't even commitment even though its only a game! Even when in real life I actually like a...
    mysteryteen mysteryteen 16-17, F Nov 3, 2011

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    No Problemo - I don't know what it is about relationships and love that make me want to back out. I get these insane doubts about a seemingly perfect relationship, then end it...
    Strikerfreeze Strikerfreeze 18-21, M 3 Responses Sep 20, 2011

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    Nope. ... - Nope. Though sometimes, it admits to finding me a little scary.
    BlackLili BlackLili 21-25, F Feb 11, 2007

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    I Need My Space! - My friend and I had this big huge plan and I liked it, but I began to feel trapped in this plan, now I am out and I feel better but I wish I didn't let her down...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Aug 19, 2013

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    I never really thought about it but it's true. I actively avoid getting romantically involved with guys. And it's not that I don't get lonely, I do, it's just I'm afraid of all the...
    PinkMellow PinkMellow 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 8

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    He Always End Up Feeling Obligated - I feel like my ex boyfriend is afraid of commitment. When we were going out we had this great relationship it's like we had knew each other our...
    nayelyyy nayelyyy 18-21, F Oct 14, 2013

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    Every single time they started to show signs of being serious, I got scared and backpedaled. Sometimes I wonder if it was because I took commitments too seriously. Or maybe I was...
    Felicity3110 Felicity3110 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 26

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    Unstable - Sometimes,i easily take over on all my commitment and sometimes not
    keonledon1 keonledon1 22-25, M Feb 15, 2011

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    Completly.    I... - completly.    I like being single and not having anyone else to worry about, although my parents think thats completly wrong, and...
    chateone chateone 19-21, F 2 Responses Feb 10, 2007

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