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I Am the Black Sheep of the Family

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    My family has disowned me.

    After doing everything I can to be the best, it was never enough. I have a 3.18 GPA, 21 ACT score, Captain of the Marching Band, President of Guitar club, social outcast among my peers and worst of all I am never good enough for my parents. I am tired of trying to love them...
    jaycampos5423 jaycampos5423 18-21, M Aug 17, 2014

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    My entire family has always been extremely

    academically successful. I consider myself an intelligent person, but I just had no interest in academics. I was always much more of a practitioner and free spirit. While they attended ivy league schools I simply went to a cheaper school got a degree and went off into the...
    DrunkGiraffe DrunkGiraffe 26-30, M 2 Responses Dec 6, 2014

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    I am definitely the black sheep of my family.

    I am the youngest of 3 children, I am 23 but most of the time I feel like I'm still 13 again and still invisible. I've battled with depression and anxiety for a long time, something that my family don't understand or even try to. I have tried to talk about it in the past, but...
    rebecca991 rebecca991 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    I am definitely the black sheep of my family,

    I stick out like a sore thumb. I don't know why or how I got to be so different from my family, but it has become rather strenuous on my relationship with them. We disagree on almost everything, we're almost polar opposites. My entire family is Mormon, I am an Atheist. My whole...
    DrKittyNinjaBunny DrKittyNinjaBunny 16-17, F 3 Responses Nov 16, 2014

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    I am number 6 of 8 kids,

    I'm 27 years old and my 2 younger brothers are engaged. There are many times that I feel that they all judge me because I haven't married or had kids or lived their way of life. My older siblings are all married with kids. I've been next in line to get married for 8 years, and...
    pancake87 pancake87 26-30, F 6 Responses Apr 20, 2014

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    I don't know why this happened

    but I'm glad it did. And I also don't know if they're aware of it. But they are sooo very conservative and illogical in a lot of ways. And I'm hoping that the younger people in my family aren't as much like that. I'm not close to anyone in my family really. We all kinda pretend...
    Allforaview Allforaview 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 20

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    Holmesdown Holmesdown 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 6, 2014

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    To start off, I am the most physically

    different from my family, which already separates me. Naturally blonde and tan, the rest of them are brunette and white. I am judged everyday by them. The music I like, what I wear, what I want in life, they all despise it. They are cold weather and sweaters kind of people. I am...
    MerleMyLove97 MerleMyLove97 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 29, 2014

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    Don't even have to do anything wrong to be in

    trouble. My Aunt has been married 3 times. Her current husband (my uncle) have been married since Jan 2007 and had my cousin, Ryan (who is now 7) in Dec 2007. When my Aunt was pregnant with Ryan, I was 12 years old and I turned 13 the month before he was born. Out of harmless...
    Gemz2411 Gemz2411 18-21, F 2 days ago

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    I'm glad to be the black sheep,

    less things I have to do, our participate in.
    yrnjojo yrnjojo 16-17, M Mar 12

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    It wasn't like this. I was the peacekeeper.

    But this time I was the problem. They said it won't change our relationship. But they lied. It won't be the same. It's all my fault. I'll pay for it forever.
    kaixin97 kaixin97 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 13

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    I'm the black sheep on my mom side.

    And it sucks. They barely notice me and they look down on me. I don't remember the last time my own grandma hugged or say I say I love you to me. Am I that pathetic? Sometimes I wish I just disappear.
    awayoflife123 awayoflife123 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 20

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    And the rest of those ******* sheep arent

    as snowy white as they think they are more of a dingy grey.
    jennaveivea jennaveivea 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 3, 2014

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    Lost Child

    I have come to the sad conclusion that being alone in this world is truly what I feel. After the Christmas I had, I have also realized that I have had enough. Trying to break through the family roles that have been in place, when it's not allowed, well it's downright lonely. I...
    Ndslc35 Ndslc35 41-45 14 Responses Dec 26, 2011

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    I wore a short dress

    and high heels once, because it was my b-day. I hugged my guests, i danced, just danced. I had fun. My dad had to talk about the party, and he said to me, i've proved to him that he failed as a parent. that i was acting like a ho, that i'm a failure, and i'll be one in life. I...
    isabel6 isabel6 18-21, F 82 Responses Apr 16, 2014

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    Well I look the most different.

    Most my family are blonde and have light eyes. I'm the only dark haired and slightly tanned. Perks of being mixed race I guess. I think I'm the most patient and considerate. My brothers and mum are straight forward and frankly don't give a **** what others think of them. I do...
    leaaaaaa leaaaaaa 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 4, 2014

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    Outcast

    I have a big family, but speak to no one in it. I have four parents, in two different cities and am close with no one. There have been many life-changing events in my years, and I have had to cut off my relations with them to save myself so much grief, guilt, shame and pain. I...
    Cinderelly Cinderelly 36-40, F 11 Responses Oct 1, 2007

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    Yep, That's Me!

    As far as I've been able to determine there are no records in my family history of there being a hell raising, drug taking, alcoholic, rebellious, rabble rousing, wild adventurer such as myself in my lineage. I never saw my dad drink until I was 17 and...
    zillaron zillaron 51-55, M 5 Responses Jun 17, 2009

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    From a family of studs

    that are good at everything they do, NOT FAIR!!! Seriously I need some of that good DNA
    joelle10 joelle10 13-15, F 3 Responses Oct 4, 2014

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    Not Just Family

    I'm more than the black sheep in my family! I'm the black sheep of society. The reason why you ask? Because I'm not a sheep at all. It's all of you that are the sheep! I am a wolf, and the world is a buffet for people like me. And guess what? The wolf is hungry.
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Aug 9, 2012

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    Translation/ I'm the only one

    who is not a f**cking cry baby and will work for my money. I'm not dramatic and don't cause fights. I'm somewhat balanced and capable of living in my own. I'm capable of holding down a job. I'm not waiting for my parents to die so I can have their money. The list goes on.., My...
    Retro5NAF Retro5NAF 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 20

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    I am not a fan of labels

    because putting labels on people can create all different kinds of misrepresentations. However, in this instance I'm willing to make an exception. I am, without a doubt, the black sheep in my family. It's not something that I'm proud of and I hate how morbid the conception is...
    agathashelly agathashelly 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 16

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    I am an introvert in a family of extraverts.

    I need my quiet alone time and being in a crowd drains me, whereas they all get their energy from being around other people. They don't understand why I don't always want to go out and meet people, and consider me "anti-social" because most nights I prefer to stay home with just...
    crochetedgirl crochetedgirl 22-25, F Sep 23, 2014

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    My Coat Is Of Black Cotton

    ever since i was a young boy, i have been different.i was the red headed step child, the dumb one, emotional and had a mouth that slurred. i am the only left handed one in my family. i am the middle child. i could never quite tell you what was on my mind. i often looked at my...
    PrinceAdonis PrinceAdonis 26-30, M 10 Responses Mar 28, 2011

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    Im the black sheep of the family cause i took a

    whole different path. Most of my younger family members have colleague degrees wich i dont want. Most of my family has happy lives wich i cant have. I just want to live my life my way and i might be a little hard headed about many things and i may have gotten into all kinds of...
    ManFromEarth ManFromEarth 18-21, M Nov 14, 2014

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    I wish I could tell my parents

    and other family members about my anxiety and depression but I don't want them thinking I'm any weirder than what they already do. My family are the type that say " the world doesn't have time for depressed people" they say things like this not even knowing that I'm depressed...
    TheRouge TheRouge 16-17, F 3 Responses Nov 4, 2014

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    In a family of strongly religious,

    closed minded, uneducated people, I am a lesbian attending college. I have two older brothers and three younger sisters. When I cam out of the closet I thought I would be disowned. Lucky for me, I am the favorite of my two older brothers. They fought for me and finally told my...
    CelestialFire CelestialFire 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 15, 2014

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    I'm an atheist Gothic.

    .... southern Baptist pastors daughter. baaaah baah black sheep.
    jaynesreflection jaynesreflection 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 22, 2014

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    I just do all the word things in the family

    as the engineer and everyone else is in business, it's just had to connect sometimes but I try and roll with the punches
    Collegeguy3538 Collegeguy3538 18-21, M Mar 7

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    I really am. I'm so different compared to the

    rest of my family. For instance, I enjoy golf and tennis, but my family would rather do neither. I love art and galleries; my family could do without these. I adore old, clean, kind music (like Doris Day, or Percy Faith), but they don't care for that at all. I like being formal...
    7Questions 7Questions 16-17, M 1 Response Oct 29, 2014

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    I'm Actually The Black Sheep

    I'm mixed my dad's side of the family is white (Spanish and Italian) and I'm the darkest out of them. I see right through the BS of their lies to try to keep the family together but they always exclude me in everything. They want peace but that will never happen because they...
    hmorel67 hmorel67 18-21, M 4 Responses Aug 1, 2012

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    hello fellow black sheep,

    I finally found my flock!!!
    scottie1974 scottie1974 41-45, M 2 Responses Feb 28

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    marinerob marinerob 46-50, M Mar 17

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    I wish life was different.

    I'm having huge fights right now with my family, because they just don't understand me at all. My parents are disappointed because I don't earn more money. The silliest thing is, that I have before, and I easily can again. It isn't really difficult. It just takes a little...
    milehighHeartbreak milehighHeartbreak 31-35, M 2 Responses Oct 8, 2014

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    The Accidental Pregnancy..

    Yup, I was a huge accident and my parents made sure that I knew. When I was 12 my mother actually told me the truth about everything, I was way too young to have to hear what she said i wish that she would have protected me from that instead of telling me it. When my father found...
    imperfectbeauty imperfectbeauty 18-21, F 30 Responses Apr 5, 2012

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    Yup, I'm The Odd One.

    Family of rednecks, almost all of them live within 100 miles of where they grew up. Not much of a care for education or intellect or respect for the law. Not bad people, mind you but I don't fit it, not anymore. I like microbrews and wine, fine coffee and intellectual...
    lmtnmn lmtnmn 31-35, M 2 Responses Jul 10, 2012

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    I Am The Black Sheep In My Family

    I lived with my mom till I turned 18. I dont understand why she treated (I havent spoke to her in 2 yrs) me like I was a failure. I never got in trouble with the law, I can hold a job, I went 7yrs at same job. I know Im not perfect but there was no reason for her to treat me that...
    BrokenWithin BrokenWithin 36-40, F 7 Responses Apr 21, 2012

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    Mother In Law

    She loved me and hated me for the same reason--I married her son.  Oh, the abuse I put up with!  Very subtle.  A mutual acquaintance in college told me, "He's not normal, they share a checking account!"  When he dashed off to medical school graduation weekend, I had a party...
    deleted deleted 26-30 9 Responses Nov 19, 2011

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    I am an introvert in a loud

    and obnoxious family. I am the middle child outcasted by others. Compared to others. Never good enough. Always forgotten. I am the black sheep of the family
    0zzy2597 0zzy2597 16-17, M 1 Response Jan 18

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    Not Wanted

    As a child I always wanted the love of my parents, but could never understand what was wrong.  By age 7 after a sever beating, and thrown outside, I remember that I prayed to to God and asked him to take me away from this horrible life.  When I was...
    cme4297 cme4297 41-45 19 Responses Jun 28, 2010

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    I am the middle child

    and only girl in the family. No matter what i do or didn't do, i'm always blamed for. I always feel that i'm not fit in the family and i'm always in the wrong. Sometimes i feel like i'm adopted.
    mxnzyy mxnzyy 18-21, F 5 Responses Sep 2, 2014

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    Being the black sheep can be a blessing,

    most people just have the family they are given, us black sheeps have to go out into the world and create our own "family". The people who come into your life by choice are worth so much more than blood relation.
    PeaceontheMountain PeaceontheMountain 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 1

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    Basically my whole immediate family is one big

    fat black sheep, but I'm probably the worst because I'm anti social and gay. No one knows about that last one but I'm sure it's not hard to see. I HATE family gatherings. I don't know the best way to get through them.
    sophomorefreakshow sophomorefreakshow 13-15, M 1 Response Jul 9, 2014

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    Baa Baa

    Okay.  Black sheep because I dated a guy when I was in high school my folks didn't like.  Black sheep because I quit college to get a job and (gasp) an apartment.  Black sheep disguised for 25 years when I became a good girl and born again Christian.  Then got wet somehow and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Dec 22, 2010

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    No one here in this family gets me,

    I'm tired of being the black sheep of my family. I'm so tired of being picked on, or the reason why all the bad things happen and most of all they turned me into physic man right after they found out it's so easy to make me feel bad by letting me to be the black sheep. People do...
    imanonwriter imanonwriter 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 10, 2014

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    I'm the weirdo in my family.

    I'm artistic, introverted, shy, sensitive, intuitive, gentle, gay, Pagan, and awkward. Some of these I have to hide. I even look different. I have tan skin instead of dark brown, my hair is different, I'm short, I'm slim, and I am just used to being by myself. My family is...
    Lovelife090994 Lovelife090994 18-21, M 1 Response Jan 16

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    I don't speak with my family

    and I want to kill myself before my mom passes away.