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I Am the Child of a Borderline Parent

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    Your Stories... - I apologise in advance for invading your place to share your stories. I have been reading them all and I have found them heartbreaking. In no way did any way did...
    frillynat81 frillynat81 31-35, F 3 Responses Sep 9, 2013

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    Healing Requires Grieving - For years, I grieved my father, or rather, not having a "daddy". Finally one day I realized that i didn't miss him, but the idea of him, the role he...
    mikamii mikamii 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 2, 2012

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    Overcoming A Bpd Parent & Deciding I Deserved Happiness - I was 7 the first time I tried to kill myself. My mother was at work and the other adults in the house were taking a...
    Anonymous216 Anonymous216 26-30 2 Responses Oct 30, 2012

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    I have gone through various cycles during my adulthood- hate, forgiveness, anger, indifference- all these emotions are geared towards my mom. I have cut her out of my life several...
    DACastle DACastle 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 19

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    It Was Never Me - After 5 years in therapy for numerous problems :depression, anxiety, thinking i was crazy, relationship issues, I now know that I am ok.  The reason for my...
    lifebeginsat33 lifebeginsat33 31-35, F 5 Responses Apr 3, 2011

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    I've recently been seeing a new therapist to help "manage" my borderline mom and siblings. According to him I need to change my own beliefs about their behavior (no changing theirs...
    lostmarbles lostmarbles 26-30, F Mar 26

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    Question For Adults With A Borderline Mother - I'm 38 now. My relationship with my mother has improved greatly since I was a child -- or has it?!! Sometimes I can't tell. I...
    ohmygooseness ohmygooseness 36-40, F 4 Responses Sep 28, 2013

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    Saving My Daughter - It's the hardest thing in the world, fighting the authorities to save your daughter from what I recently found out borderline disorder. I have read your...
    Survivordad Survivordad 41-45, M 1 Response Apr 22, 2013

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    Question - I am a child of a borderline parent... does anyone ever question if we married a person or surround ourselves with people like our controlling parent? Since it is all I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Oct 1, 2013

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    My Borderline Experience With My Mother - Well, today i am 18. Only by happenstance did i come across sites and such because i felt so down and wrong that i was looking for help...
    AdamsKeyblade AdamsKeyblade 18-21, M 3 Responses Nov 19, 2009

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    A Broken Household - First off, I'd just like to say how grateful I am to have found this site. It is incredibly comforting to be able to read about similar experiences and have...
    perfectlynotperfect perfectlynotperfect 18-21 7 Responses Mar 4, 2013

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    Mixed Feelings: Emotional Terrorist Or Affectionate Perfectionist? - Mixed feelings ... that would be an understatement! My mom was valedictorian of her high school class of 900...
    bethemusic bethemusic 26-30 3 Responses Jun 4, 2012

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    I am thoroughly confused most days in dealing with my mom. Am I causing all the strife her attitude my upset or is she really BPD? My brother is and has always been the good one...
    Cwm6 Cwm6 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 25

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    Anger, Sadness, Confusion And Resentment Consumes Me. Long But Here Goes. - To my family that this may hurt for the bitter truth, I apologize in advance, for I will not be a victim...
    TryingToRecover13 TryingToRecover13 26-30, F 5 Responses Sep 18, 2013

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    I Cry Silent Tears - My mother is borderline. For the longest time, it was difficult to accept this. As i child, if i would venture off on my own there was a paranoid panic to her...
    healerdw healerdw 22-25 5 Responses Mar 26, 2011

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    Wow... so many stories similar to mine.. The feeling that there is someone out there that can actually understands what it is like it is very soothing to me so I hope it is for...
    moniva75 moniva75 36-40, F 1 Response Dec 19, 2013

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    Thrilled To Have Found This Group - In middle-age now, a mother myself, my childhood so far behind me, yet i feel stuck and sad and often defeated, hopeless.  My mother died five...
    AnnieEl AnnieEl 46-50 6 Responses Jan 12, 2012

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    Understanding Bpd ~ Part III ~ Overview - This is the third segment in a series on my Blogger blog that I am doing on Borderline Personality Disorder.  Most of the series, I...
    ClinicallyClueless ClinicallyClueless 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 4, 2008

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    Finally Seeking Help - I am a beautiful, good-hearted, compassionate and empathic person. I am an educated professional. I have many friends and several close friends. But I am...
    evelina123 evelina123 31-35, F 2 Responses May 26, 2013

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    How Do You Cope, As An Adult Child Of A Bpd Mother? - A couple months ago I was given a copy of the book Understanding the Borderline Mother, which I'm sure many of you here are...
    llrrcc llrrcc 26-30, F 14 Responses Aug 22, 2012

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    God Rest Her Soul - My mother and her mother dont speak, she jokingly refers to her mother as "god rest her soul" a title which i am now passing along to her, if this was a happy...
    Naplesnurse Naplesnurse 22-25 8 Responses Jan 15, 2013

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    So it seems that BPD fathers are much less common than BPD mothers. But that's what I've got. My father is undiagnosed, but I have a hard time seeing all of these stories and...
    ipodfreek ipodfreek 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 12

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    The techniques of brainwashing are simple... Isolate the victim, Expose them to inconsistent messages, mix with sleep deprivation, add some sort of abuse Get the person to doubt...
    Intuitivebynature Intuitivebynature 46-50 2 Responses Jan 3

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    I Found My Solution To The Bp Problem! - I cut ALL contact with my Borderline mom 7 years ago and it was the best thing I could have ever done! I bet you've wanted to as well but...
    hadenough68 hadenough68 41-45 5 Responses Oct 9, 2010

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    Survival - Never heard of BPD until this Feb I am 53, trying to save our 30 year marriage, our therapist put the puzzle together, I hid who I really am so very well....death of my...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Sep 30, 2013

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    I Survived... Kinda - I survived. Not by much but I did. I had no idea that what she was, was anything but pure Evil. The sad reality is most people don’t know what they are or...
    MaryannCiav MaryannCiav 26-30 14 Responses Apr 28, 2012

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    Trying To Move On - Feel like I need to vent anonymously. My parents no longer talk to me and I'm having a very difficult time accepting this. As far back as childhood i have...
    LookinUp302 LookinUp302 31-35, F 4 Responses Oct 17, 2013

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    Learning To Live Again - I am one of 4 children. I have 2 younger brothers and 1 older sister. My father passed away from brain cancer a little over 2 years ago and my BPD mother...
    nurseanda nurseanda 26-30, F Jun 8, 2013

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    19 Year Old: Learning That My Mother Had Bpd Freed Me Emotionally. - My mother had me when she was young, 16 to be exact. I never knew my father because she left him when I was a...
    youllneverknowyouwereright youllneverknowyouwereright 18-21 12 Responses Jul 12, 2012

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    17 Years Old And The Parent Of The House - My childhood has always been unstable. When I was 5 years old, my mother passed away after battling breast cancer for 4 years. My younger...
    thelisagrace thelisagrace 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 17, 2013

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    Hi all! It's been a while... Too long actually. As some of you may know my history & feelings about BPD/my BPD mother from my last post I found myself being pulled to the, dare I...
    MaryannCiav MaryannCiav 26-30 3 Responses Jan 19

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    My Insane Life With My Single, Bdp Mother - I am a 32 year old child of a borderline mother....it has taken a brilliant therapist to diagnose her without any contact with her...she...
    ilovestaplers ilovestaplers 31-35 17 Responses Jul 12, 2011

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    Difficult Subject - WARNING: What follows is possibly more than you would ever care to know about my life story (although it is only a fraction of what has shaped who I am today...
    NaomiZero NaomiZero 26-30, F 27 Responses Apr 15, 2009

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    I am a child of a borderline mother and I am so happy to have met you all. I am now 27 years old and have just recently started researching bpd after a friend of the family...
    estrellados estrellados 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 29, 2013

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    The Advice That Saved Me From Myself, Growing Up With A Borderline Parent - I am not going to tell you my story about my borderline mother, and she is. I know at one point I...
    Errwind Errwind 26-30, M 1 Response Oct 3, 2013

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    I Think My Mother Is Borderline, I Think Her Mother Was Borderline - I always thought they were just kind of depressed, angry people. I thought everyone lived like I did...
    mikamii mikamii 41-45, F 6 Responses Aug 1, 2012

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    I Recently Ended My Relationship With My Borderline Father - 7 months ago I stepped away from my relationship with my father. He was diagnosed a borderline personality and...
    thetallest77 thetallest77 36-40, M 7 Responses Sep 8, 2013

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    Forgive and Forget Because She May Have Cancer? - I happened to stumble upon this site while looking for information on being a child of a BPD mother. I have to say, I am honestly...
    heelsorhighh2o heelsorhighh2o 26-30, F 5 Responses Sep 22, 2013

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    I just wanted to share with all of you two songs that have had an impact me. I feel that they really relate to being a child of a borderline parent. Even if that was not what the...
    estrellados estrellados 26-30, F Feb 17

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    Disabled And Dependant - My mom and two of my siblings are borderline. None of them are willing to get help for it. And they feed off from each other on a daily basis...
    lostmarbles lostmarbles 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 18, 2013

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    Round And Round - I just got engaged. People gently brought up the subject of telling my mom, as if I may shatter. People expect you to share this moment with your mother. My fianc...
    Naplesnurse Naplesnurse 22-25 1 Response Aug 19, 2013

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    Everything Old Is New Again - Ahhhh mama drama! I had been so exhausted with it, and the anger has dissipated for the most part. I'd been trying to respectfully keep my distance...
    Naplesnurse Naplesnurse 22-25 2 Responses Sep 23, 2013

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    My Mother Has Made My Life Hell. - Posted by MeOct 23rd, 2013 at 10:24AM There's so much to say... My morning started off with my mother coming back to her house and getting...
    Crashsolar Crashsolar 22-25 Oct 23, 2013

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    My Undiagnosed Borderline Father (please Read) - I am a 19 year old psychology major living with an undiagnosed borderline father (who happens to have a Ph.D in psychology. Oh, the...
    lovepsych lovepsych 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 9, 2013

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    It's More Painful To Remember Than To Forget... - I am currently a 25 year old Psychology major in college. And it took me until recently to discover why my childhood was so...
    katriana katriana 22-25 8 Responses May 3, 2011

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    Everything HAS To Be About Her! - Hi, I'm new to this scene, but I've found it extremely helpful in identifying the craziness. I am the daughter of a borderline, & I knew from a...
    chiefprincess2 chiefprincess2 31-35 3 Responses Nov 6, 2013

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    Now 48 and on the eve of my mother's 75th birthday, after a week of volatile family strife, I can now definitively say that I am the child of a borderline parent. I dabbled in the...
    AmySF415 AmySF415 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 25

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    Run. Don't Walk - I'm the oldest of 4 children...born to parents who've stayed married 45 years now. Our story just gets pooh-poohed by people who only hear bits and pieces...so I...
    cutloosenow cutloosenow 41-45, F 2 Responses Jan 2, 2011

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    For the longest time I bought into the lie that my family was like any other. I was fed that "truth" so much by mother. But the truth is it was not, and boy when that truth hit me...
    absentmemories absentmemories 46-50, F 1 Response Jan 5

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    My Mother Is Just Hateful... I Need To Get This Out I Guess - I’m sorry if this is long but I need to get it out... I’m about to turn 30 and I've been through alot but the...
    DreamerStasia DreamerStasia 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 27, 2013

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    A Painful Story - I wrote this, originally, for my blog but since that is under my real name and is connected with my professional work, I will post my story here instead. It is...
    annakarenina28 annakarenina28 26-30, F 2 Responses