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I Am the Child of An Alcoholic

For people whose parents drink or drank in the past. 3,199 People

    The Effects of Parental Alcoholism On Children

     Until  recently, the impact of alcoholism was measured by its effect on the alcoholic, by days lost from work and highway fatalities. New research has tended to concentrate on the impact of alcoholism on the family, especially the children of alcoholics. Studies have...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Jun 15, 2009

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    My mother is a great person

    when she's sober. She'd do anything for nothing, just to see someone smile. When I was young, probably three years old, when my father was still with us, she used to take pictures of us together all the time. She even made a scrapbook out of them with cute little stickers...
    poliad poliad 16-17, M 4 Responses Jul 2, 2014

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    Who Needs College When You Had An Alcoholic Parent, Right?

    I learned so much from having an alcoholic father. Like... -A "40" costs about $2.50 and it's almost always drank with the brown paper bag still around it - the entire time. -Don't leave change or money hanging around anywhere unless your starting a "Brew for Dad Foundation...
    Elaine19 Elaine19 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 22, 2012

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    So my dad today got arrested

    for drunk driving today….some people never change
    sadgirl233 sadgirl233 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 10, 2014

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    5 O'clock At My House

    Everyday at five o'clock, my dad would come home from work and be greeted by mother with a kiss and a glass of whiskey and soda.  She would make one for herself.  It was the cocktail hour for both of them.   They drank all through dinner and well into the...
    vampireheart vampireheart 31-35, T 36 Responses Aug 13, 2008

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    Some people that grew up in a household with an

    addict become addicts. I find I am the opposite, I refuse to let any substance or thing control me. I like beer/alcohol, but won't get intoxicated. I don't like loss of control. In fact over my own self I am a bit of a control freak that way.
    lmtnmn lmtnmn 31-35, M 3 Responses Aug 13, 2014

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    my mother passed away at the age of 51 on April

    1st, 2007. She was an alcoholic for 10 years. She died in her sleep ( cardiac arrest) I am writing this with tears in my eyes. I miss her greatly even though I hated her as an alcoholic. I'm 34 years old soon turning 35 next week. I'm married and a mother if two beautiful girls...
    berrybeeyou berrybeeyou 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 18

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    Just Been Thinking Lately

    I'm flying out to see my dad for spring break in about a week, and its just making me think about things lately. I didn't have it bad like some other people who have parents with the same disease, but i think i have my mom to thank for that. I used to be so angry at him for all...
    PaperTowns PaperTowns 18-21, F 8 Responses Mar 15, 2010

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    It's Christmas Eve and

    while I wish I was happily united with my family I am not. My father is an alcoholic and it got so bad that last year around Christmas as well my parents got divorced. I thought that this would be a big enough of a change for my dad to change but things have only gotten worse...
    Dreamer8a Dreamer8a 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 24, 2014

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    Because Of My Dad, I'll Never Touch Beer.

    I literally don't want anything to do with alcohol after dealing with an alcoholic father my entire life. He has a lot of problems, but his most irritating one has got to be his alcoholism. One recurring theme is him sitting around drinking beer and complaining about how badly...
    tjlkitty tjlkitty 18-21, M 4 Responses May 18, 2012

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    Growing Up With An Alcoholic

    From the ages of 9 years old until I was a senior in High School my mom was married to an alcoholic. Life was very difficult. My mother was physically and mentally abused as well as my older brother and myself. Things were so bad at home that my brother quit school and left home...
    cmost cmost 36-40, F 42 Responses Feb 3, 2007

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    Yea it's tough . My dads been an aloclic

    since I was 11-13 , but I remember when he was just such an amazing guy . He's been in rehab twice and the insurance cuts us off so he goes right back into drinking . He messes up jobs and everything and I don't want turn out like him. He's always just drinking and it makes me...
    kiaraaak kiaraaak 18-21, F Nov 23, 2014

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    So Where Do I Begin...

    First of all, I've never shared anything on any online forum, let alone anything like this, so I hope I'm doing this right. So where do I begin... I guess I'll start by just coming out and saying it, my father was an alcoholic. For the longest time, my dad was someone who just...
    LookingForALifeline LookingForALifeline 22-25, M 5 Responses Nov 27, 2012

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    My dad is an alcoholic

    and has been in jail like 7 times for drunk driving. He was never really there as a child cuz he was either out gambling away all our money or in jail. He thinks that he has a say in my life and tries to control it even though he's never been there.
    butterflyannah butterflyannah 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 24, 2014

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    I've been waiting SO damn long to turn 18.

    I am a high school senior, employed with part time work, and am getting another job as a licensed nursing assistant (yay!) I am completely self-sufficient now. As the child of an alcoholic mother, I grew independent very, very quickly. My friends refer to me as the mom of the...
    Sarah196 Sarah196 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 4, 2013

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    My life has gone down hill.

    I thought my mom would file for divorce but she didn't. She's scared of losing everything. Ive lost my best friend because I've been so detached from everything because I'm so stressed out. My dad was sober a few months ago and I got a call from a program i really want to go to...
    sadgirl233 sadgirl233 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 2, 2014

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    I am 14 years old and I have a 12 year old

    brother. My mom is never with me and my brother. She's always with friends drinking and having fun. She usually arrives home at about 1 on weekends. On weekdays I usually see her for about 2 or 3 hours a day and on Fridays I usually never see her. My father knows what me and my...
    idkal idkal 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 18, 2014

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    im 18 years old and my dad is an alcoholic.

    My mother has told me his drinking got a lot worse ever since i was born. My parents marriage is a joke to me since they both act like teenagers. I think my mom is an enabler and has her own mental issues. she hits my dad all the time when he's drunk and makes things worse. He...
    avalily avalily 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 8

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    Relationships

    As an adult child of an alcoholic what are the main problems you have faced in your relationships? I think it is trust for me, that and believing that I do not deserve someone that treats me right. It used to be that I believed I could save people. I was always trying to save...
    21again45 21again45 31-35 1 Response Oct 12, 2013

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    It irks me. I get so upset

    so fast. I can't stand people who get liquid courage. You are not superman or superwoman. Don't antagonize me while you're drunk and get read, because you're apology will not be accepted or reciprocated in the morning.
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 14, 2014

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    A Long Line of Alcoholics

    My family history, more than anything, convinces me that genetics has a strong influence on what we do in life. It doesn't preordain our path, but it may make it much harder to choose a different path. My father's father and grandparents were alcoholics. My father started...
    WittyOne WittyOne 46-50, F 31 Responses May 24, 2007

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    My Story

    I`m going to do a bit of venting here. I`ve had a lot on my mind lately and I need to just unload it somewhere, I guess. Right now, my family is struggling economically, I`m unemployed and desperately searching for a job, and I`m depressed and angry about it all. My family has...
    JesusKravitz JesusKravitz 18-21, M 2 Responses May 20, 2013

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    Daddy Wake Up...please Dont Do This

    Born way 2 early had 2 fight 2 all along. nothings ever come easy! Moms always busy and dads always stoned. NO foorsteps to follow No compass to guide me. I wish i could make you see how hard it is to become the 2 people i never wanted to be. My lifes laid out in front of me...
    writingmyrelease writingmyrelease 26-30, F 12 Responses Apr 27, 2010

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    My Mother

    My mothers best friend died when I was young.. I don't remember the year I was but I remember I was in the 5th grade. I came home and she was on the floor with a bottle of vodka sobbing. Ever since shes been drinking and its been terrible. When I was in middle school I remember...
    CallMeHope CallMeHope 19-21, F 31 Responses Jul 15, 2007

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    My Mom Drinks All The Time

    My mom has been an alcoholic all my life. I found out about it when I was 7. I am now 17, and in a few months I will be 18. She has said many horrible things when she was drunk. It makes me mad because people always say "drunken words are sober thoughts." It makes me sick to...
    xoxally xoxally 16-17, F 12 Responses Jan 9, 2010

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    Hi my name is Alp, I am 18 years old.

    I am afraid my father is going to drink himself to death. He is really violent physically and verbally to everyone. My grandfather past away recently and he was an amazing man. He was my hero my inspiration and will continue to be. My father lived with my grandparents after my...
    Alp1995 Alp1995 18-21, M 1 Response Jan 29

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    My parents were alcoholics

    when I was younger.. When my mom got pregnant with my little sister they both sobered up. They got divorced eventually. Then my dad almost drank himself to death. My mom started drinking again also. My dad sobered up and doesn't drink anymore. My moms "trying to quit" but...
    bigca1697 bigca1697 16-17, F Dec 6, 2014

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    My mom always drank. We never had food in the

    house. She would be up all night. She used to punish me by locking me in my bedroom, aways called me mean names. I'd find the alcohol bottels all over the house. She go to jail, when she got out it was like nothing ever happened. I told her that when I was in middle school that...
    kemokitty kemokitty 31-35 2 Responses Jul 17, 2014

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    Just Another Stranded Soul

    My father was a high-function alcoholic. He never lost his job, never was incapable, would just drink himself insensible after work. He was an ugly drunk with a bad temper - never hit anyone, but his tongue and his anger were terrifying to all his children. Many of my most vivid...
    firefall firefall 51-55, M 3 Responses Oct 19, 2011

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    Untitled

    My dad is an alcoholic. My mother won't leave so I did.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Sep 24, 2013

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    My father drinks and insults anyone

    who comes into my house. He has managed to scare away his friends and his family. Nobody visits anymore. My brother and I are afraid to bring anyone home because of what he might do. My mother has a nonexistent social life because of him. She does nothing but work and make sure...
    kalila37 kalila37 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 7, 2014

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    I do this thing where I go back

    and forth with my dad. When he's sober its great and I actually like doing things for him but then he abuses my trust and faith in him and starts drinking and I end up thinking why do I waste so much time and effort on this guy? I seriously don't know what to do anymore. This is...
    sadgirl233 sadgirl233 22-25, F 5 Responses Jan 13

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    Both My Parents Were Alcoholics

    The title kind of says it, really. Both my late parents were alcoholics, though not at the same time. My father was a very shy man, who felt awkward around people, and clearly drink made him feel more confident, though he would still not really talk to people, but just get...
    mizzen123 mizzen123 46-50, M 21 Responses Apr 26, 2009

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    My father is to blame

    for my depression, BPD and distrust in people. Alcoholism is not a disease to me, it is a selfish lifestyle choice. I will never sympathize for parents who are alcoholics. Give your child away to someone who will give him or her love and protect them.
    kbeary kbeary 18-21, F 5 Responses Jul 14, 2014

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    Thanks to my parents I've gotten less

    than 6 hours of sleep in the last two nights combined
    SkollHati SkollHati 18-21, M 3 Responses Sep 9, 2014

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    So less than a week ago my dad got arrested

    for drunk driving and landed himself in jail. I ended up bailing him out that night, stupid mistake on my part. Yesterday and today he's been drinking. We found some type of alcohol in an apple juice bottle and he claimed it was apple juice, and insisted it was even after i kept...
    sadgirl233 sadgirl233 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 21, 2014

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    My father gets very drunk

    and makes me do things I do not want to do. I am scared of him, so I do what I am told. He keeps me up all night, he calls people and says stupid things. I'm sick of it. I tell him to stop drinking and then he says he can do what he wants, and ignores me. I don't have anyone...
    Atraxiella Atraxiella 13-15, F 2 Responses Nov 26, 2014

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    It's been almost 2 years

    since my mom's extensive drug-use and drinking finally got the best of her. We had been estranged for a long time, largely due to her alcoholism and the problems it caused. I never got a chance to resolve things between us. I never got to tell her that I forgave her for...
    HeartlessSinner HeartlessSinner 22-25, F Nov 28, 2014

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    My dad is an alcoholic,

    and I didn't find out until I was 14. At that point he was 11 or so years sober. That was until he relapsed when I was 17... He went to treatment and lived in a half way house for 4 years. It was about a month ago he finally got his own house. My dad went into the hospital 2...
    amalmberg13 amalmberg13 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 28, 2014

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    So Ive had it about to here with my

    so called father. You would think after all the **** he's been through he would change, nope !!! My parents took out a line of credit (when he was sober) in order to help me pay for grad school next year so clearly no one should be using it now. ha ha yeah right. He's been...
    sadgirl233 sadgirl233 22-25, F Sep 22, 2014

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    My family is very poor

    and my parents refuse to even attempt to get jobs, and so most of our stuff is being sold on Facebook and Craigslist or is in a pawn shop. We have a cat who doesn't get fed unless we steal cat food from my grandfather. We actually steal quite a bit of stuff from his house, even...
    MeganJocelyn MeganJocelyn 13-15, F 3 Responses Aug 14, 2014

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    Actually, I am probably the child of two

    alcoholics, and a sibling to one. One parent is a drunk for certain, but the other never "crashed" during his lifetime, and he was probably the worse for that. My mother hit bottom in 1981, when I was about 10, detoxed, divorced, but then began to drink again on the sly. I knew...
    nostromo77 nostromo77 41-45, M 1 Response Sep 14, 2014

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    I honestly think that my dad gets worse

    and worse as the days go by. He will never change and I don't get why I'm trying so hard to help him when all he does is disrespect me. Im sick of it, just when I feel like I'm getting through to him, I find another bottle, under the bed or wedged in a corner of our house. I...
    sadgirl233 sadgirl233 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 20

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    Alcoholic Dementia

    My mom has been an alcoholic my whole life, I am 24 years old. It wasn't until the past ten years when it took a hold of her. It was right after my little sister was born when things took a turn for the worse and I was in 6th grade. My step-dad made enough money where my mom didn...
    ohhitsami ohhitsami 22-25, F 10 Responses Dec 27, 2011

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    My mother is on the way to get a detox

    and then off to a rehab centre. I wonder if it will finaly be the change for my family. I could really need Some change now.
    vickepicke vickepicke 16-17, M Aug 15, 2014

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    My mom finally did, this afternoon we filled

    for a divorce, Hopefully everything works out.
    sadgirl233 sadgirl233 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 24, 2014

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    Just got off the phone with my dad.

    He's as drunk as a skunk right now. I'm here in university 5hours from home. He doesn't live with mom anymore. I hate when he calls me drunk because it always reminds me of childhood. He was never physically abusive but verbally at times. My brother would get so mad because he...
    XxWolverinaxX XxWolverinaxX 18-21 2 Responses Jan 31

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    My dad was an alcoholic

    who was also using meth during the early years of my childhood. No one explained his situation to me until I was in my teens. It kinda sucked. Alcohol can really change a person and distance them from you.
    whatsmyageagain23 whatsmyageagain23 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 14, 2014

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    I was diagnosed with post traumatic stress

    disorder because of him.......my mom divorced him when I was 7. I was devestated...that was my dad. My hopes went up after a while- he moved into his new apartment and spent as much time with us- every other weekend. Then he met a new girlfriend who was also an alcoholic. They...
    Jackiebh Jackiebh 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 24, 2014

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    The past is in the past now,

    but I can't help but still feel incredible anger as to why my dad(or any other responsible people in my family) left me alone with my mentally ill, neglectful, extremely physically ill, alcoholic mother up until I was 15. Why would you leave a child in a situation you know they...
    Exoduss Exoduss 16-17, F 3 Responses Jul 24, 2014

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    Hello the world of ep

    so things with my dad have been pretty tough lately. Basically the same old stuff, a whole lot of denial. But also lately he's been saying that he "has his drinking under control now" and even though he used to have a problem he can control it now. I know he can't actually...
    lachica12100 lachica12100 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 7

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