I Am the Family Scapegoat

Being the scapegoat in my family couldn't be clearer or more obvious,and yet it has taken me nearly 40 years to realize, and I still doubt it sometimes--because of them and their almost unanimous chorus of dismissals when I broach the...

a smile is not wort a thing when its a lie, if death is my only freedom let it be because i will rather be dead than live one more day in the conditions that i face, i dont care ifi am a disappointment because i havent disappoint myself...

I feel so uncomfortable in my house I'm always getting yelled at for the smallest things my mother treats me as if I am still a teenager it's so frustrating. And when I ask her why she isn't this way with my younger and older brother...

I'm the oldest of two and I feel as though I'm the mom. My mom acts like I'm suppose to be responsible for everything and she and my brother don't have to do anything! When something goes wrong its always my fault or why didn't I do...

Hi there fellow Scapegoatees, all I can say is I'm herein' ya!
I think my scapegoating started when I became depressed at age 18, I'm now 35 and probably stuggling more now than then, because I've only just started dealing with lots of...

I'm not exactly sure when it started but i have been the designated scapegoat in my family for at least 20 years. Do ALL families have scapegoats? Or is it just the millions of dysfunctional families that have this dynamic.
It can be...

My parents divorced when I was five. I decided that since my father was gone, we would need a new "man of the house". Since there wasn't one, I would just have to become that person myself. The fact that I was a kindergartner - or a...

It has taken me decades to realise what has happened to me. I write my story in the hope that others will see in it their own situation and reach an awareness  that will save them some of the heartbreak I...

I am half Native American. I only mention this because sometimes it feels as though this is a factor when it comes to how my mother and siblings treat me. My mother got pregnant with me and then gave me away to her mother and stepfather...

My family is broken, my mother is a stranger to me, my brothers are selfish and ignorant. I am forced to stay and look after my mum even though its killing me, I know what they want, they want me to pay for her to be put in a home, they...

Sometimes we think we are the only ones... that it only happens to us.   That we are the only ones accused, abused, torn apart.   But we are not alone - we are legion.  

Just look at the history of the...

They say a child first develops their outlook on the world and sense of self primarily through interactions within the family dynamics. An essential and significant role for a healthy and positive personal identity for a young child is...

I don't have the obviously fucked up and abusive family. Fuck it man, everyone thinks they're cool. I get gaslit every time I try to legitimize my experience and I honestly kick myself in the teeth trying to defend and apologize for...

I'm an 18 year old, refused for diagnosis migraine patient.

My parents disowned me, and unregistered me from the home. I'm basically homeless now. And I'll likely will do as my parents asked.

I'm not their son anymore probably because...

I, like the others in this group, have been the scapegoat of my family.  After reading all of the stories on here, I was shocked to see that there are other people in the world like me.My role as the scapegoat stems from my mother...

Growing up, I was the brat and crybaby. We spent a lot of time with extended family, and everyone agreed that I was the brat - the family was encouraged to point out opportunities to punish me.

My brother (2 years older) was very...

Just did some reading and learned about the concept of 'family scapegoat'. As children my older sister was always Dad's favorite. My younger brother was Mom's favorite. Therefore, whenever something happened the first question asked...

I am 30 and the middle child of my family. I have an older sister and a younger brother. I was a very spunky child, and when something didn't seem right I was never afraid to stand up for what I believed in at 5, or even 20. I also...

When I was young, only about five years old, my parents divorced and little family of just mom and my older brother had to move in with my aunt, my aunt's daughter and my grandmother. From the moment we did however I was put in charge...

My story is very long and drawn out.  But instead of my story,  I will post this poem I wrote.  I think many may be able to relate.  Also hope it encourages you all:
 The Scapegoat

I know they made me the scapegoat...