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I Am The Other Woman

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    Good day to all you lovely ladies!

    Wishing you get what you waiting for this week! :) Wishing you all the best from this week, especially a return of love and passion! :) Good luck! :)
    monty1212 monty1212 26-30, F 2 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    Stages of an affair Ladies,

    I have been involved with a MM fit 18 months now. It's gotten very serious, to the point of he is leaving his wife and family in a matter of weeks. (I too am married) Could you ladies that have been involved a lot longer tell me on some level what I can "expect"? I know everyone...
    serendipity65 serendipity65 41-45, F 8 Responses 1 day ago

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    Start rant... I swear I'm going to

    either drink his last beers, use all the hot water up, use the last of his face wash or leave all of his boxes in the wash overnight so he wakes up to damp underwear! Granted, I see him all day, everyday... But is still find comfort ranting here. He goes out with his soon to...
    RedHotPepper RedHotPepper 26-30, F 2 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 27 Responses May 6, 2014

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 54 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    I'm married but I'm having an affair with my

    best friends husband. I know we can never be together as it would rip his family apart but I feel so lost without him. I made a huge mistake marrying my husband and can only be thankful we have no children. I want a divorce but I know it would crush him. It's so difficult being...
    kimathy86 kimathy86 26-30, F 117 Responses Feb 19

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    INFIDELITY: Wrecking a home is NEVER the work

    of a single person. Have you ever seen a construction worker doing demo on his own? It takes multiple parties to tear a thing apart. You, your partner and the other. However, the wrecking is much more easily done when the foundation is weak to begin with. Don't just get upset...
    OrangeTwist OrangeTwist 36-40, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    So my guy emailed me,

    he took the day off of work yesterday to hang with me. However, I wasn't excited about it. He came we played around, cuddled, talked a little and then he got up to leave cuz in had errands to run, then he can back again later and then left to go to a birthday kickback. I don't...
    YankeesOTW YankeesOTW 26-30 11 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    At first i was happy about my MM getting a

    promotion, but now i am just sad. I know this means I will most likely never get to see him again. Saturday was the first day I was at work and he wasnt there working beside me. It was miserable. Everyone was talking about his new job and how great it was. All i wanted to do...
    Tiffanyportelli Tiffanyportelli 22-25, F 2 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    Women won't mess with a man

    that lives with his mom but will mess with a man who lives with his wife.
    reeessa reeessa 13-15, F 28 Responses Oct 23, 2014

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    Having one of this days .

    . It's been 31 days since I've seen or spoken to him. A year since this whole thing started . I miss him. Hate not seeing him everyday anymore. So hard not being able to call or text. Trying to stay busy.. Hope he comes to visit soon..
    andwhatnow andwhatnow 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    AgeMeet.com is promoting the concept of age gap

    dating where older men can date younger women. The trend of older men younger women dating of getting popular day by day and the website will prove helpful in bringing men and women together to help build a successful and loving relationship. For many people, loneliness can be...
    norahmarlin norahmarlin 26-30, F 4 hrs ago

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    Sometimes I hate having to be the better person.

    MM and I usually meet every Monday and Friday for lunch and if we are lucky, one other day during the week/weekend for "us" time. Well I knew he was going to have a crazy work day before he has to fly out of town again on Wednesday. Telling how stressed he was about his...
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 5 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 101 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    Is MM's Full Disclosure Uncomfortable ?

    I am home resting and recovering from malaria. The world still intrudes...My phone still rings a lot... Much of this is my friends calling to check up on me. However one phone call stands out because it was a close friend, calling to lean on me.. Which am always happy to do...
    warriormama warriormama 41-45, F 3 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 46 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Please excuse my stories being posted under the

    same heading . I wrote down my feelings for you my wonderful woman in November. The words express how I feel. I don't intend to offend anyone by the content. I write as the mood in me intensifies . I lay in bed and dream about you. Oh my sweet lady. If you are wearing that...
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Recently found out the MM

    who I was with was not only lying to his wife but obviously myself as well. Has anyone else been burned? Dont understand why the guy cant just be honest in his intention. If hes just in it for the sex then say it. No reason to lie. Some of us can take the heat.
    latinafairy latinafairy 26-30, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 18 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    More drama from ex MM.

    Text for 3 hours. He wants me back and when I deny him he starts getting nasty. I told him I was blocking him and I deleted whatsapp. I didn't actual block him but I stopped responding to his texts. He actually apologized which he never does. I still ignored him. He hasn't msg...
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 1 Response 14 hrs ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 154 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 51 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 79 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    MM and I have been so connected lately.

    It's truly the best thing I've ever experienced in life. I found him during a really dark time in my life and he saved me from so much sadness & pain. I remember in the beginning our relationship was so playful and cute but he never really let me into his world. A year later we...
    subgirl26 subgirl26 22-25, F 8 Responses 1 day ago

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 11 Responses Feb 13, 2014

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 150 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    I don't expect my MM to leave his wife

    or children and I don't want him to. Just like I'm not gonna leave the life I have created for myself either and he wouldn't want me to. I didn't plan on falling in love with him. Idk what my plan was. I didn't have one and I still don't. I can see myself getting too attached to...
    Tiffanyportelli Tiffanyportelli 22-25, F 7 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 19 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 84 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    I've been seeing my MM

    for a ling time. Maybe 6 years? His wife had a baby in the beginning of December and got very sick the first week of January. I've totally been giving him space, and have been trying to help out as much as possible at work and just being light and cheerful around him during...
    bpmmlt bpmmlt 31-35, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 41 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Yahoo for last minute plans with MM.

    He snuck out of work and we had a great hour. Was talking to ex MM today as I was hoping maybe we could just remain friends. He wants more so I decided I'm just going to leave it how it is. New MM asked what is it that I miss so much from ex MM. I said def not the sex bc you...
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 1 day ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 67 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 54 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    The day that my best friend told me over

    and over would come has finally arrived! Oh ladies, help me!!! I received a message tonight from my ex-MM! I know that it's been said before here time and again that most of them come back, I just never expected that mine would. With all of that being said, it makes me feel much...
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 36-40, F 3 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 48 Responses Jan 10

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    His family didn't make it to trivia last night,

    roads were a mess, but we still had a good time. I read all the messages between mm and w over the past week. Not an easy read. He is having to say certain things to keep her talking that cut pretty deep. Things are coming to a head. This week will show what he's made of...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 32 Responses Sep 23, 2014

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    For all my EP friends,

    I have changed my screen name from Surfsway to Serendipitous1. It's still me.
    Serendipitous1 Serendipitous1 36-40, F 8 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    I'm not the other woman,

    but I love the support you get (I too was once the OW & this group has helped me get thru some pain from MANY years ago) . I heard Rascal Flatts song "Riot" & fell in love with it. Maybe this song is for some of you OW & OM out there. http://youtu.be/nTwpGrWzGpI
    DreamGolfer DreamGolfer 46-50, F 1 Response 9 hrs ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 12 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 6

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 29 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Another week down... He's changing.

    Part of it has been hard to watch, he has grown stronger and in doing this has shut me out in some ways. Today, he opened up a little, he is in turns; sad, bitter, tired, angry. I know he needs to go through his journey on his own, I can no more do it for him, than he could...
    40Creek 40Creek 41-45, F 7 hrs ago

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    I miss him so much. It's only been three days

    since I've seen or talked to him, but it feels like an eternity. Wondering if he is even thinking about me at all. Wondering how I could have been so stupid to think we would ever actually end up together. Reading these posts helps, but my hearts ripped to shreds that he hasn't...
    SAO17 SAO17 26-30, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 15 Responses May 4, 2014

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    Lonely vs Being Alone.

    Something really weird is going on.When i was in my twenties i was fierce ! In a hyper sexual, confident way before i was in a relationship... However the minute i got into one i morphed into the perfect "Idiot Stepford wife " girlfriend... hair perfect, nails immaculate...
    warriormama warriormama 41-45, F 7 Responses