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I Am The Other Woman

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    Both Sides of the Fence!

    I lived in a sexless marriage for many years. My spouse did not. He like dripping his wick elsewhere, through our entire marriage. I didn't want to catch any thing so... glad he was getting taken care of ...cause he wasn't touching me again... that was for sure! I am divorce...
    MorningBreeze MorningBreeze 56-60, F 28 Responses Feb 15

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    So supposedly today we are supposed to get

    together and see each other for the last time . .... I wonder if this will actually really be the last time ... As we've said many times before but wed always end up back where we started ..... It's a decision that I made and he says it tears him apart having to be torn apart...
    Ellen1503 Ellen1503 22-25, F 1 hr ago

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    I saw my MM today. I hate how he stares at me.

    I hate that it melts me inside. That it makes me so squirmy and at the same time makes me just want to be so close to him. I love hearing him laugh next to me, I hate that we have to act like nothing is going on and can't even hold his hand. I hate that him simply being right...
    musicandnotes musicandnotes 22-25, F 5 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    I am such a dufus. My MM was away on business

    this week and I thought he might have been lying to me. We were texting and he said something about being at work and I ended up with crazy train brain! He came home early but stopped somewhere for dinner on the way home. He saw something on the menu with my name so he took a...
    blackheels4me blackheels4me 36-40, F 4 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    I hate the way that sounds.

    Because in many ways I was THE woman...we connected, we fit, we found something rare and whole and fulfilling and wonderful. It started as a genuine friendship, depth, understanding. We never intended it to be more, but the power of finding a mind and heart connection is...
    Kadl Kadl 46-50, F 13 Responses Feb 18

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    Moving On.....I Didn'T Think I Would Ever Be Able To Say That

    I must admit that I have been pretty much obsessed over the man I cheated with. I haven't talked to him in over a year since the truth about us came out. But everyday I think about him and wonder how he is, what he is doing, how his son is, if he thinks about me at all...
    SS81 SS81 31-35, F 67 Responses May 8, 2013

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    I was thinking about this situation

    that I am in, and that all other women are in, and I think it doesn't do our hearts justice when people assume that we are all the same. Sure, we share a similar situation, but we are all in unique and special relationships. It would be like saying that all married couples are...
    LiveSweetly LiveSweetly 18-21, F 11 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    Happy happy girl. My MM is on his way home from

    DC right now. He managed to get out of staying until Friday. Tomorrow is date night!! Yay. On the other hand, he will not be out Thursday:-(. Our mutual friends were trying to get his W to come out Thursday since she has off on Friday. MM said that would be too difficult on us...
    blackheels4me blackheels4me 36-40, F 3 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    When I first started chatting with my MM he

    told me they were standing in a friend’s wedding. It’s a destination wedding at a beautiful tropical place that is coming up next May. My MM had a ring made for his wife and had planned to renew his vows. He has had some ups and downs in thinking if he should or shouldn’t...
    Lauryn0114 Lauryn0114 31-35, F 3 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    I'm sorry but I don't care

    who this might **** off or annoy. I'm already getting hate mail and we've been harassed all weekend. There are many positive's and negatives about any relationship. We all know the negatives but hopefully just to **** a few people off, I'd like to tell everyone the positives...
    sweetmae79 sweetmae79 31-35, F 17 Responses 3 days ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 124 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    I just asked him what would it take

    for him to say "enough is enough" and walk away from this. Basically the s..t would have to hit the fan for that to happen. Feeling a little conflicted now....duh! Shouldn't ask questions if I am not ready for the answer. Sometimes I wish for his sake that his was an open...
    CuriousKat12 CuriousKat12 51-55, F 2 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    To my OW ladies.. He did not cancel is 5 mins

    from my house now! Thank you for being with me during my crazy train hours!!!!! ❤️ will enjoy my man now.. Literally 😜
    Xf1234 Xf1234 22-25, F 4 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 101 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    When I wake up, I reach

    for someone who likely isn't there. I don't get a morning kiss, I don't get to make his lunch. I don't have the right to call him at work, or to ask him to pick up something on his way home. On a day to day basis I don't get to have dinner with him, I don't get to watch him as...
    notafanofcircumstance notafanofcircumstance 31-35, F 22 Responses Mar 17

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    I ended it.... He cried

    and begged me to give him more time but I told him I don't need anyone else into life that makes me sad.... I spend more time crying than smiling...
    midnightsolice midnightsolice 36-40, F 30 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    Bobthelunatic and youareallpathetic are serious

    trolls! 👹👹👹 Please report and block.
    AtPeaceEros AtPeaceEros 31-35, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 22-25, F 22 Responses 5 days ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 62 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 149 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    My man arrived this morning

    and brought me breakfast. Stayed for about 15 minutes just to say goodbye. I wished him a good time and a safe trip. While hugging me he said: "remember our covenant and our great memories with each other. Remember mylove that we exist for each other". "Ill be back and ill miss...
    AtPeaceEros AtPeaceEros 31-35, F 5 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 42 Responses Feb 24

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 44 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 34 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    What I learned recently - 1) Strong marriages

    can not be broken. If someone has an "other" someone, things were already broken on some level. 2) I have kids. I run a household. I manage a company. I still have time in my day to make my MM feel like he's the most important person in the world. If spouses did this - cheating...
    notafanofcircumstance notafanofcircumstance 31-35, F 10 Responses Mar 25

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 25 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Who knew you could go from miserable to amazing.

    .. my Husband has told me that now after 2.5 years coming up with all these different ways to make US work, and coming up with new ones again and again after they all failed... I DID everything... I mean everything! Nothing worked.. then he tells me yesterday... that he was not...
    WendyBlabs WendyBlabs 36-40, F 20 Responses Mar 15

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    I am not the other woman.

    I am a guy. But I want a woman that can call herself the other woman. Just looking for something new and exciting. My life is sedentary and I have a thirst for adventure that others in my life don't share.
    andykenny andykenny 26-30, M 8 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 9 Responses Feb 11

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 204 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    So my MM is a considerable amount older

    than me. People often stare at us when we go places. I wonder if they are staring because they can see the age difference (although people often guess his age at 10 to 15 years younger than he is) or if it is because we are interracial. I guess it's not really important but I...
    sammylou22 sammylou22 22-25, F 6 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 80 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    I think a lot of people have a fantasy version

    of what it means to be an OW. I've heard many times doesn't that mean he pays your bills, puts you up in a fancy condo, buys you stuff and takes you on fancy vacations. That's having a sugar daddy. That might be true for some OWs but not for me. My MM and I don't have any money...
    sammylou22 sammylou22 22-25, F 6 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    What, if anything, do you guys think about what

    is going on with Tori Spelling and Dean McDermott's marriage?
    Selfhelpme Selfhelpme 26-30, F 5 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    Well, my plans may just be canceled tonight.

    On my end. Not his. Went out with my uncle for a bit and he said my calipers are bad AGAIN and not to drive it until I get it fixed because my rotors are not tore up yet. My MM has been great coming to me when I was in an accident and getting my car fixed. I don't feel like he...
    blackheels4me blackheels4me 36-40, F 2 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 31-35, M 9 Responses 4 days ago

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    What are the odds of your in the middle of

    texting MM & just happen to throw in there I currently want this to eat Taco Bell...not knowing where MM is other then out, he is actually there & usually doesn't eat there anyways lol...No, I didn't get any brought to me. I'm glad I had the whole discussion about how far the...
    pudgee2 pudgee2 36-40, F 3 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 160 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    Here is something for everyone to know .

    .. You can't compete with a women that a man won't leave alone ... If he chooses to have a mistress he wants to have her in his life! If he chooses to keep her for more than a couple sex sessions he desires her.. And the wife can not do a thing about it because if he wants to...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    Best morning sex ever ❤️ couldn't ask

    for a better man. Times like this outweighs being the other woman. Hope you ladies are having a nice day like me :)
    Xf1234 Xf1234 22-25, F 3 Responses 1 hr ago

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    Some one is listening.

    I got a response to a letter I sent to EP saying that we are being attacked and they want a list of names. So....where is that list.......LOL.
    blackheels4me blackheels4me 36-40, F 19 Responses 1 day ago

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    We are the OW. We don't judge.

    We don't care if you don't agree. We don't acknowledge rude comments. We are strong. We are loved. We are happy =)
    sunflowah sunflowah 36-40, F 11 Responses 3 days ago

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    Going to the airport in a while.

    .. For the meantime i can feel my inner thighs are having muscle pains from so much s 3 x.
    AtPeaceEros AtPeaceEros 31-35, F 4 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 27 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    A How To List

    Hello to everyone especially those drawn here by the Facebook postings. For the record, I am not "Keeping it real in Kendall". Since most of you are brand new to EP let me be the first to welcome you! Please take a moment to read the Terms of Service before commenting. This is a...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 105 Responses Aug 25, 2013

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    I have been hesitating sharing my experience

    because I am a little taken back by what is happening. Im also afraid of jinxing it too. I had been so so close to ending this relationship even though I loved him so very much. It seemed as though he just didnt make the time seem interested. Then it shifted in the totally...
    blue963 blue963 46-50, F 7 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    I hope I've blocked enough trolls

    so I can repost this from a story I wrote for "I am Married and having an affair" without getting run over the coals. But then I can always delete and block... I have been in an affair since September of 2007....Your assumptions that I am a soul sucking seductresses or a...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 12 Responses Mar 16

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    Ladies...what is the exact moment

    that you fell in love with your MM?
    sunflowah sunflowah 36-40, F 12 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Ok ladies....advice please: I want to send my

    MM one of those little pictures that says "I love you to the moon and back". We've all but said I love you to each each other without saying it. Should I or shouldn't I?
    blackheels4me blackheels4me 36-40, F 4 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 20 Responses Jan 2

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 75 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    Ahhhh I'm a fully satisfied girl

    now :) Met my mm earlier but he only had half hour or so. We went to a park near us, neither of us really talking, just looking a for a place we could be together. It's been over 2 weeks, I was racing round the place lol! We starting to loose all hope, everywhere seemed too out...
    hayleysusannah hayleysusannah 18-21, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    To those who don't agree-You can speak your

    mind, we will listen. You can try to attack us and threaten us, we will not. You can try to make us feel less about ourselves, but you will only make us stronger. We are a strong group of women, who will not back down. We have been given a taste of what we want in life. We...
    sunflowah sunflowah 36-40, F 10 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 61 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    I have a question for ladies .

    .. I am wondering how many of you are single and other women ? And how many are married and other women ? It makes a big difference ...
    rozegol rozegol 31-35, F 24 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 49 Responses Feb 16

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    Worked out and cuddled today

    and yesterday. Tomorrow we planned on going to the gym again, and then he'll Come over before going to work. So that'll make three days in a row. So far the "I love you" is backed up with actions. Hope he doesn't cancel tomorrow. Or else I'll beat his white, Caucasian ***. Lol...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 22-25, F 4 Responses 17 hrs ago

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