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I Am The Other Woman

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 50 Responses Jan 10

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    It hurt and pain a lot,

    when someone you love has change because of money. when you gave him all the love, care, understanding that her wife cannot give him. then when the time i need him for emotional support ,for encouragement ,for someone to be with me even for a short moment,specially i am sick...
    annettesan annettesan 36-40, F 6 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    I will see my other married man tomorrow!

    Hopefully in 24 hours I will be in cloud9! I hope you all get to see your mm and heal the wounds. He just makes me so happy it is ridiculous!!! I hope it all goes well! Hugs to you all! Is it Monday yet??? yey!!!
    liberty2014 liberty2014 36-40, F 3 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 88 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    One of the few people

    that know about him sent me this. I was in a better mood, I'd find it hilarious, but oh well.
    Doloboo85 Doloboo85 26-30, F 4 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    So....I learned a lesson in "be careful what

    you wish for" last night. I was at home, watching movies, having a drink and I got a bit carried away.....got drunk. So in my drunken overthinking things state I texted mm and kind of went off at him. Telling him I don't think he cares, that I hate how easy it is for him etc...
    PrincessLolita PrincessLolita 26-30, F 1 Response 8 hrs ago

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    He ended it tonight. Well,

    he sent an email saying he wanted a break, but then we chatted and he said he wanted to end it. Things have been different between us the past several months. I suspected something like this was coming. And luckily our contact has been slim so it's not like I have to quit him...
    pinkismysignaturecolor pinkismysignaturecolor 36-40, F 10 Responses 1 day ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 50 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    So I posted something uplifting

    and empowering a few days ago....and today I am missing him so much. It's been no contact for about a week and a half. Anyone else have a MM with whom your relationship has mostly consisted of texts, email, and phone due to long distance? I miss his daily texts, his...
    Journeys2013 Journeys2013 41-45, F 2 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    So I decided to meet him

    after work on Wednesday and we talked. He said he moved out of his house to stay with a friend to figure things out. He has been staying w his friend since Monday. I was shocked because he said he was gonna work things out with the w but now he changed his mind. Even though he...
    sadpreciosa sadpreciosa 26-30, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    Tonight will be our first full night together.

    No time constraints. No looking over our shoulders. We have a suite booked with a fireplace. Sushi & wine. I am so looking forward to 8 hours of normalcy. It is crazy we have never even eaten together. We spend our blips of time only focused on eachother. We get to talk for...
    tauriangirl tauriangirl 36-40, F 26 Responses Nov 15, 2014

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    the heart wants what it wants

    but sometimes the universe intervenes and gives it what it needs instead. if the two things are the same i guess it's meant to be <3
    MillieJadexx MillieJadexx 36-40, F 2 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 31 Responses Sep 23, 2014

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    My affair I can honestly say has been the

    destruction of my life. If I could go back and change things I never would have done this. My marriage was never great and I guess that's why when my ex MM approached me I went with it. I read all your wonderful stories of your MM and wonder how I ended up with someone worse...
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 12 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Im not anymore. After a year of ups

    and owns. A year of trying to do the right thing. A year of change and experience. We decided that we would remain friends. Anyways, just out if the blue this week he decides to tell me hes found love on EP again. He expects me to be happy for him. But he rubbed it in my face...
    DeadHeartsAreEverywhere DeadHeartsAreEverywhere 31-35, F 5 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 154 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    I was looking through the pictures on my phone

    and I came across all of the screenshots from all of the conversations I ever had with ex-MM. I was reading through some of them and I just can't believe him! So wishy-washy and full of it! He said all these wonderful nice things to me that seemed to show that he cared then 2...
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 36-40, F 3 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 17 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 67 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    I have been involved with a MM

    for almost a year now . I haven't seen or heard from MM in almost 3 weeks. The longest since this whole thing started. We worked together, but he recently quit to go back to school. I went from seeing him everyday to seeing him once a week. And now he has just disappeared...
    andwhatnow andwhatnow 31-35, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    My bestfriend found out

    that MM is married. He is devastated by it, and gave me a long lecture. I know that it's horrible to be with another woman's husband... And I feel so guilty about it. However, it's not like either of us started this on purpose. 💔apart of me wishes I could go back in time and...
    lildaydreamer lildaydreamer 26-30, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 10 Responses Feb 13, 2014

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    He promised he would call today.

    He didn't. All I got was a text saying something came up. I don't know what to think. He just keeps letting me down and pulling farther away.
    sunny326 sunny326 46-50, F 4 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Sitting watching Bridget Jones tonight with my

    teenage daughter. One of my favourite movies. But it suddenly struck me... after 17 years married to Mark Darcy, wouldn't it be natural for Bridget to want some fun with Daniel Cleaver? She needs both men in her life....! Or is that just me?
    daisyblue222 daisyblue222 36-40, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Ok, it's Sunday morning.

    MM said he was going to be out of contact for a week or so. Tomorrow, Monday, will be a week. I'm bracing for the whirlwind of emotions that will come whether he contacts me or not. The worst part? I did meet someone during this break. And guess what? Yes. You guessed it. He's...
    sugarbabysub sugarbabysub 31-35, F 1 Response 21 hrs ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 164 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    Hello I know what I'm about to post has nothing

    to do with being an OW but there's such a large group of supportive women on here and I really need some advice. My mom took off two months ago with a new boyfriend of hers she divorced my dad and left out the country without telling me anything ..I found out from my younger...
    NewYorkDream NewYorkDream 22-25, F 8 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 41 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    I am FUMING. Absolutely FUMING.

    Does anyone want to talk on the phone so I can vent? Messenger is OK too.
    asta20 asta20 31-35, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 17 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    Just when I start feeling guilty about having a

    MM my husband acts like a jerk and I'm reminded why I started things with my MM.
    ladylove0113 ladylove0113 36-40, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 53 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 20 Responses Jan 2, 2014

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    I have been talking to my sister's babies daddy

    (please don't judge or post hurtful comments). I'm in love with him. But I know he will never stop talking to my sister. For that amongst other reasons I decided to stop talking to him. But he won't leave me alone. He continues to message me on Facebook and kick even though I...
    1sha92 1sha92 22-25, F 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    Yaaay! in our hotel suite waiting

    for him to get out of the shower for our second overnight! So. Happy.
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 14 Responses 1 day ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 31 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 17 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    I work with my MM. I get to see him 10 hours a

    day! We run an office together. After some time I feel like we play the push n pull game. Mostly because we feel one is lying to the other. He gets jealous when other guys hit on me. And thinks I'm playing him. But I don't throw out that idea. Because I want him to have fear of...
    izzyperez88 izzyperez88 26-30, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Nothing will make you feel like a big steaming

    piece of crap more than still sneaking off to see your MM when your daughter complains of a tummyache and returning to have to bring her to urgent care and then the ER for a possible case of appendicitis.
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 9 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    This spoke to me today.

    Some days are filled with longing. I know the grass isn't necessarily greener on the other side. That "side" being with MM, a man who knows how to demonstrate loving behaviour, but sometimes I can't stop myself from having hope.
    TrulyMadlyDeeply38 TrulyMadlyDeeply38 41-45, F 4 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    Another disappointing Sunday.

    MM didn't show, and didn't text me. Afraid I have pushed too hard and may have screwed up this wonderful arrangement. Some say to not over think and just know he isn't going anywhere. I hope that is the case as I am not ready. He says he is still "in", but has become distant...
    kringle6691 kringle6691 46-50, F 4 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 78 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 81 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 46 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Women won't mess with a man

    that lives with his mom but will mess with a man who lives with his wife.
    reeessa reeessa 13-15, F 28 Responses Oct 23, 2014

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    So... My mm said he wanted to "try to have a

    normal marriage"...BUT wanted to be friends. I asked, "what happens when you try and figure that you can't?" He said "we will see". My gut feeling or perhaps just common sense tells me "no way! You will end up in the same place". So to my ex OW or just OW, bad idea right...
    musicandnotes musicandnotes 22-25, F 2 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 101 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 20 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    Does anyone have any experience with how long a

    man can stay in an unhappy marriage for the sake of the child or children? I know many of us here are in that situation and hoping that these men can realize that it will not work long term, or can it? I know there are many men who use their kids as an excuse, but I truly...
    Widow68 Widow68 46-50, F 13 Responses 13 hrs ago

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