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I Am The Other Woman

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    How did you meet your married man?

    How did it all started?
    ithinkithink ithinkithink 26-30, F 11 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    I am no longer... all ties cut with my A.

    .. Can I still be here? Although it has been a long time since I logged in...
    MillyFlwr55 MillyFlwr55 41-45, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    His energy changed, albeit slightly,

    this morning. As unhappy as he is with her, in their marriage, he felt sad about not seeing his son as much yesterday and won't see him until he gets home from work today. He said this morning, "it is detrimental self talk; I know he's not going to lose his connection with me. I...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 5 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    Sometimes it all becomes too much to deal with.

    I think back and wish I had never cheated in the first place. It awoke something in me and now the craving is so intense. I've made some bad choices in trying to fill this desire. The thing is I can't stop. I try and fill my time and stay very busy. I've been doing the...
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 7 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    I am still feeling as emotional

    as I was last night. This sucks. I still have received no reply to my email. I have been reflecting alot over the past 12 hours and something has struck me over and over again. At the end of our time spent together yesterday, we were sitting in his car just talking. It was a...
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 36-40, F 7 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 55 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Over a year later so many things are vastly

    different while others are the same. Things that are the same are how happy he makes my days and how my heart really does skip a beat when I see him. What's different is that it's so much deeper than it was a year ago. I'm not looking for an HEA since I feel like I'm living...
    Serendipitous1 Serendipitous1 36-40, F 1 day ago

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    Every time he looks at me his eyes sparkle.

    Sure they did in the past, but lately is constant. Something is changing for him. He is even taking time to listen to hours of my music, which I know can be hard to handle. Such a sweetheart
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 1 day ago

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 15 Responses May 4, 2014

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    Ugh, I am having an emotionally rough evening.

    I spent around 7 hours today with MM but he hasn't been feeling well and was a bit cranky and not himself. He had some things going on so we weren't intimate. Slightly disappointing for me but not the end of the world. Made tentative plans to get together next Monday but not...
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 36-40, F 5 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 157 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    He called 10 times. I didn't answer.

    He showed up at my house, knocking on my door, trying to pet my puppy through the window. I didn't answer. My mom was here. He started texting me "Do you not think enough of me to tell me what's going on?" "I'm going to assume you don't want a relationship with me. I'll leave...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 4 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 6

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 18 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 48 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    So after my recent post I totally planned to

    cut it off. well that didn't work. He knew exactly how to draw me back in. And maybe I wanted him to.. he did tell me what he was looking for in this 'relationship'. he doesn't plan to leave his wife at all. which I'm okay with. He says he just wants to feel wanted and needed...
    klm0701 klm0701 22-25, F 1 Response 12 hrs ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    So today I found out

    that one of the other women is pregnant with his child.... i see her on a daily basis... I don't know to be relieved, happy or sad....
    isolatednlonely isolatednlonely 36-40, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I'm done. Uncle. After 2 weeks of fawning all

    over me, he sexted with me all day Friday until he had to go, at which time he shut me off with a "Headed out. Thanks for entertaining me." Text. I guess you could say that text summed up our entire relationship. I never replied to that, and never heard back from him until this...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 15 Responses 1 day ago

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 17 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    I'm going to the UK for to weeks to see my

    terminally ill relative. I thought I wasn't going to see mm before I left. He lives and works 2 hours away. I was talking to him and he kept saying he wish he could see me. I said you'll see me when I get back. Last night he called me and said I'm outside of your house. So I got...
    Doloboo85 Doloboo85 26-30, F 3 Responses 1 hr ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 94 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 14 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    Would really like to talk to a guy

    and get a male's honest opinion about my current OW situation!
    BluCoastGal BluCoastGal 36-40, F 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 27 Responses May 6, 2014

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    Looking back it is funny how easily I fell into

    the trap of becoming 'the other woman.' The first flash of distress - a wounded soul no less, and I dived into the murky water. He told me that I was his oxygen. I was a mermaid Saint Bernard with the reviving elixir strapped to my neck. Strangely, I found two unmarried men...
    Faerylight Faerylight 41-45, F 19 Responses Jun 21

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    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 50 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    Keeping Busy ! I have another dilemma

    that i need clarity on... My MM and i are in a long distant relationship (LDR)....miles apart... So spending most of the year apart is our reality. I have been reading OW posts and experiences. Some OW, are lucky that they can count on having regular in person interaction with...
    Strawberrygiggles Strawberrygiggles 41-45, F 4 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Are any of you Christians?

    I don't mean wear a cross, so you believe in God. Or I have a cross tattoo so I'm a Christian. Like goes to church, studies bible, born again, washed in the blood, saved Christian. If so, we need to talk. We need each others help
    Tiffanyportelli Tiffanyportelli 22-25, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 78 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    It's funny how I can be

    so blind to things sometimes even when I am smack dab right in the middle of it. So as many of you know, H moved out just over a month ago and things for me have been going really well. I have been less stressed, much happier and just back to enjoying life. Things with MM have...
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 24 Responses Apr 30

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    I am finally going to spend the night with my

    MM, also on the phone last night he told me something..he said "do remember when I first met you and I told you about the other girl that things ended badly with?" And I honestly didn't remember so I said no but asked him what it was about, he told me he was cleaning out his...
    avey10 avey10 18-21, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    He leaves on Saturday

    for a two week vacation where he will have very little cell service. Last year he went for only one week and it was really hard. He called me once from the middle of a river where he finally found service. I'm already starting to feel the pull of the separation. He said today...
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 7 mins ago

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    Blissful Boundaries! I have been obsessing

    over what boundaries really means when you are the OW. Does it mean that we hold MM accountable for the realization of mutual dreams, sexual fidelity, emotional fidelity. Can we escalate this further and hold him accountable for setting a schedule for HEA or even something as...
    Strawberrygiggles Strawberrygiggles 41-45, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 45 Responses Jan 10

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 23 Responses Mar 22

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    or rather WAS ... LOL .

    .... Well - I think I'm past the worst of it ... actually sleeping again - not crying every morning and getting on. I still don't know what the he77 the last 14 years were about, LOL - BUT - I'm at least here now ... WHEW. Been so hard -
    kitty1958 kitty1958 56-60, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Well it seems I am no longer the OW.

    I ended things a couple of weeks ago. I guess I don't really belong here anymore :( I will keep this group in my fav's though as I like to see where everyone is at. I hope that those of you still feeling trapped in this vicious circle can break free and find some peace as I...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 2 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    MM called this morning,

    which was surprising because he hardly ever does. It turns out he has a business trip coming up in another city and wondered if I'd join him. Up until this point the only physical intimacy we've shared were goodbye kisses after our last 4 dates together (we've only been on 4...
    BeauKitty BeauKitty 26-30, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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