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I Am The Other Woman

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    My Secret Gold Coin

    You don’t know it, but I think of you as a beautiful, precious, shiny gold coin that I keep secretly hidden in my pocket. I feel happy knowing that you are in there, but unhappy knowing that you have to stay hidden. I wish I could show you off to friends, but they wouldn’t...
    jenn80 jenn80 51-55 18 Responses May 23, 2013

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    Totally isn't about being the OW,

    but since I've already shared my story here, figured I could post... It's one of those days. My H is getting in my head. I know leaving him is best. He's been screwing with my head for years until a better part of me thought I was just crazy... So why am I feeling guilty...
    PrincessLG PrincessLG 31-35, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 31-35, M 14 Responses Apr 19

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 204 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    Please, do not stop posting.

    ... I may not be the best person to make this request because I have only participated on the forum for just a few months. But I am so glad I had a place to go. I can not begin to tell you how supportive you ladies have been during my time of heart aches, up swings, troubles...
    saiyagyrl saiyagyrl 36-40, F 4 Responses May 26

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    I feel terrible everytime I talk to my MM he

    always tells me how horrible things are with his wife, I wish with everything within me that I could change it for him. All I can do is sit back, watch and comfort him during my time :(
    bowerstoy bowerstoy 26-30, F 19 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 79 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 65 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    I'm sorry but I don't care

    who this might **** off or annoy. I'm already getting hate mail and we've been harassed all weekend. There are many positive's and negatives about any relationship. We all know the negatives but hopefully just to **** a few people off, I'd like to tell everyone the positives...
    sweetmae79 sweetmae79 31-35, F 15 Responses Apr 20

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    I think this is really gonna be the end.

    Last week I flat out asking my mm if he needed to end "us" so he could work on his relationship with his fiancé. He ignored my question. I asked a second time. He ignored me again. Changed the subject to other things. Proceeded to flirt, text, touch, tell me he wanted me, tell...
    Livesforme Livesforme 26-30, F 3 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 18 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Saw him at work today.

    ......felt terrible, held back crying numerous times. Then he texts me and asks if I am ok, I tell him that I doubt he's looking to know the truth so......I'm fine. Then I was leaving for lunch and have to walk by him and he said hi and I said hi back. I get a text message that...
    PrincessLolita PrincessLolita 26-30, F 15 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    At first I was confused by you ladies

    who were so in love with your MM but wanted to end it because of the stress and torture. I was like 'why? That's silly! Love is wonderful!' Poor, naive me. This is not wonderful. It's wonderfully awful. Blissfully horrible. Terribly deliciously torturously painful. A joyous...
    neverendingmadness neverendingmadness 36-40, F 5 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    Things I don't miss from my affair.

    .. 1. Waiting for my phone to ding 2. Lying to spouse about where I am going 3. Making sure I erase texts 4. Time 5. Mind control that the affair holds not mm 6. Questioning of myself and actions 7. Guilt not for the affair but for my husband and his wife 8. Time 9. The panic...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 27

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 152 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    Moving On.....I Didn'T Think I Would Ever Be Able To Say That

    I must admit that I have been pretty much obsessed over the man I cheated with. I haven't talked to him in over a year since the truth about us came out. But everyday I think about him and wonder how he is, what he is doing, how his son is, if he thinks about me at all...
    SS81 SS81 31-35, F 63 Responses May 8, 2013

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    I would like to ask everyone’s opinion on

    this. Have any of you trying to end your relationship with your MM gone back to him because of physical needs? Do you think it is a good idea?
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    I'm beginning to see that

    if a woman sleeps with a married man and it happens over a period of time and he tries to end it he will always try and come back. He's having his cake it eating it too. The other woman will have to be the one to end it. Now yes I do know some situations are different but in...
    tc57 tc57 31-35, F 12 Responses 1 day ago

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    Sometimes all you can do is cry.

    You're stuck. Stuck waiting for him to leave. You've done your part. And now you're hoping he does his. I either wait and wait and hope. Or I end this. He's done so much to get so much closer. But school will be starting soon. Then Halloween, thanksgiving, Christmas, new year...
    CCBatman120 CCBatman120 26-30, F 5 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 162 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 22-25, F 18 Responses Apr 18

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 40 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 9 Responses Feb 11

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    Seeing him today...waiting.

    ..for...his...call.... He said he would call as soon as he is done with his appointment, then he is free for the day. That appointment has been going on for 1 hour and 7 minutes. Oh crap, I have reverted to high school freshman behavior. The anticipation is killing me. I have...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 3 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    Since Dday, about 3 weeks ago,

    my man and I can really only chat during work. We all know I have pmdd and it really affects my mood. Well today I missed an unimportant meeting bc I was on the phone with my man. My boss came to update me and realized I was on the phone with him. Now, at 1pm, I have a meeting...
    CCBatman120 CCBatman120 26-30, F 4 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 36 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 82 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    Still can't bare to sleep in my bed.

    .....woke up exhausted with a sore back. Just keep saying to myself I won't cry at work, I won't cry at work, I won't cry at work. Seriously dreading this......
    PrincessLolita PrincessLolita 26-30, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    Hello and thank you so much

    for allowing me to tell you my story, as I feel I can relate so much just from reading yours... I am a 38 year old mother of one daughter, who just graduated high school two weeks ago. My husband and I met when we were 19. We have always had a good relationship for the...
    ROBINANN1 ROBINANN1 36-40, F 5 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    To the people and trolls

    who are trying to save our souls.... Let me explain something: Our (OW) defenses go up when you use hated phrases like... Side Piece Having his cake and eating it too If he cheats with you, he'll cheat on you ...and so many more. Be original. All we need to do is read those...
    BlackHiHeels4Me BlackHiHeels4Me 36-40, F 9 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Looks as though I have been pushed back down

    the rabbit hole again... "He calls me beautiful like it's my name."
    lostanddistraught lostanddistraught 22-25, F 1 Response 19 hrs ago

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    Just want to put this out there to all you

    other "other women" you keep me positive... You nail my feet to the ground... You make me smile ... You put my heart back in my chest ... Thank you and when I see you pouring your heart out I feel it... I hope all the best for everyone of you misunderstood beautiful women ... I...
    jupsta jupsta 36-40, F 8 Responses Jun 9

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 17 Responses May 4

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    Ladies!! Auntie BoudoirWhispers is back from

    church Youth Camp! And what a spectacular time we all had: Driving in caravan through darkness, epic thunderstorms and torrential downpours. (Not to mention the construction sites.) Camping out on air mattresses in moldy church basements. Visiting with old friends and making new...
    BoudoirWhispers BoudoirWhispers 46-50, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    A day visit! He will ride in on his

    motorcycle... Looking hot My knight... On his silver steed My handsome mm...how I love him... I've prettied myself and await his arrival... *pitter patter.. Thump thump* my heart clangs in my chest :)
    jupsta jupsta 36-40, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 139 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    MarieVon MarieVon 36-40, F 3 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    I have a question and I'm wondering how I

    should go about it (approach the subject) my "married man" always offers to give me money to help me out w/rent/utilities/clothes and over the phone/via email/text messages says "I'm gonna give you money when I come over to see you" and sometimes says "I have a surprise for you...
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 7 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    Felt like that 24 hours together FLEW by!

    !! But it was so great to sleep in his arms :-)
    Newlife48 Newlife48 46-50, F 4 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    Just so everyone knows.

    ..I come here mostly for myself I like to get it all out in writing because I have no one I can really talk to on the subject. I do love most of the comments, friendly suggestions and such that I receive most of you are great and I'm still glad I have found this place...
    ynoTme83 ynoTme83 26-30, F 5 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 43 Responses Feb 24

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 20 Responses May 6

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    All I can say is sigh.

    ....when will I learn to follow my intuition better. It has proven to be right on so many occasions.
    blue963 blue963 46-50, F 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 21 Responses Jan 2

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 12 Responses Jun 2

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    A spontaneous 3-hour late lunch yesterday with

    my MM. We were at the park talking. I had my head in his lap and he asked me what I was thinking about. I told him I was thinking about the promise he made me. He couldn't recall promising me anything. I waited just a little too long to remind him. Some sadistic part of me...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 10 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 29 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Today he told me he loved me!

    ! 💞 this is only the second time he's said it. The first time he said it he had been drinking quite a bit, so I didn't take him seriously. But this time we were on our lunch break & sober! He's been talking to his family about me...so I believe him this time! 💞
    Sidechic79 Sidechic79 31-35 7 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    So so really i didnt expect any meeting

    while he is here with family.. Never at all!! But i got a surprised text he would like to see me even just for a short time.. Im so in love with this man!!
    prettygoddess prettygoddess 26-30, F 3 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    I think Betty White said it best on one of her

    shows... - "The best way to get over a man, is to get under a new one" -
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 hr ago

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    Terrible me....but they had to cancel their 2

    week vacation in september. Cannot fly for 6 weeks. (he mentioned that fact earlier but just got confirmation from md). I feel nasty and good at the same time.
    blue963 blue963 46-50, F 3 Responses 1 hr ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 44 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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