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I Am The Other Woman

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 53 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    I'm frustrated and this is the only place I can

    think of to vent it. I have been with my MM for over 6 years. For the most part, its been a very good relationship. We've had our ups and downs like everyone does. Lately, we've become more open about our feelings for each other. I don't know if I actually love him, but I do...
    lynn414 lynn414 41-45, F 4 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 48 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 19 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    Funny how one song can shake your entire world.

    ...today I heard...Eric Church - Like a wrecking ball....OMG the words are sooo powerful....the words made me cry actually to know that a man can desire his wife soooo much that the entire house will shake when he gets home and make love to her....such beautiful words....my H...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Question are any of you related to ur Mm.

    .. And so how do you keep the distance when no contact
    confused7years confused7years 36-40, F 3 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 16 Responses Mar 25

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    Ugh. He and I knew that

    when my daughter came back, our time would change for a little while. Just slightly, but another change bone the less. She starts school tomorrow. Her dad remains in town and has plans to take her to dinner tomorrow after school. So, I tell my guy that I've figured out a way...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 3 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 18 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    Day 11 of nothing from him.

    He still hasn't developed any balls to tell me he doesn't want me anymore! And I don't think he will, he doesn't know that I know he's back with w. He is probably just planning to keep me hanging around for whenever he needs me... Well no more! Tomorrow is the start of a new...
    Prettybutterfly88 Prettybutterfly88 26-30, F 4 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    I'm so mad right now.

    And I'm not sure why because I knew this was coming just didn't know how soon. MM as most of you know works at a pool place. He's the retail manager. They have longer hours in the summer months obviously and shorter hours when pools are closed. He messaged me this morning...
    AvaLennon AvaLennon 31-35, F 4 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    He got D day 6 months ago.

    It was a complete surprise and a death that day. Have had very little contact since that day. He told w I was a two week affair. Six months later he is still on the couch. They tried counseling unsuccessfully and have very limited interaction with each other. Input please from...
    rainday66 rainday66 46-50, F 3 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 14 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 19

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    Three words I never thought I would hear from

    my MM....'I envy you'. He said this to me Friday night and I about dropped my phone. How in the world could he envy me? My marriage fell apart, I am constantly stressed due to the financial burden and debt my ex left me, I'm alone - this list is endless. I finally asked him...
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 4 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 49 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    Glad to be home. And resting.

    .. He talked to. Me and we r okay for now I really just need strength.... Idk this is just so hard these up and downs and Idk what to do... I don't know how to handle this... Leaving is easier said then done... But I feel I deserve better then this....
    ap05 ap05 26-30, F 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    So I am kind of surprised

    that this milestone is here already....but today marks 2 months since the last time I saw ex-MM. Getting stronger by the day, never looking back!!!
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 36-40, F 16 seconds ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 80 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    So last week was a really tough one.

    I came home a week ago Sunday after an amazing week with MM, to a husband with severe allergies. Not unusual, but this time he decided to self medicate and we spent a couple of freaky nights, until I convinced him it was a bad idea (think screaming dreams and sleep walking). On...
    whynot13 whynot13 46-50, F 1 Response 45 mins ago

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    Ok this is part of my last post.

    . Mm is a big part of the family we are not related but he related to the family so he always there
    confused7years confused7years 36-40, F 9 hrs ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 41-45, F 75 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 45 Responses Jan 10

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 170 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    infinitymdc79 infinitymdc79 36-40, F 10 hrs ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 42 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    . I didn't expect to be back this soon.

    I just needed someone to hear me out since the outside world doesn't understand situations like these. I was in the "letting go" phase when i was last logged in. I was a walking zombie for nearly 3 weeks. I go to work depressed, not talking to anyone and doing what I possibly...
    plusisamust plusisamust 26-30, F 3 hrs ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 161 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    For those who have managed to,

    how did you get over your MM? We met through a word game online over two years ago and started chatting as friends. Although it never progressed beyond an online / over the phone 'affair', it seems impossible to move on. The situation was so painful for me that time and time...
    whitepoppy77 whitepoppy77 31-35, F 2 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    He disclosed our dating to his sister.

    !! She inquired about the future of our relationship. He said he does not know. For now he is happy in what we have. Perfect. Touchwood.
    coolvolatile coolvolatile 31-35, F 1 Response 8 hrs ago

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 16 Responses Feb 6

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    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 25 Responses Apr 30

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    why do I try, why do i?

    this should be old at this point. I was downtown earlier thought I'd drop a text ...so I did. he reads the message ...but no response. there's nothing I can do or say. my feelings are hurt
    newgurlxo newgurlxo 18-21, F 2 Responses 1 hr ago

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    Looking back it is funny how easily I fell into

    the trap of becoming 'the other woman.' The first flash of distress - a wounded soul no less, and I dived into the murky water. He told me that I was his oxygen. I was a mermaid Saint Bernard with the reviving elixir strapped to my neck. Strangely, I found two unmarried men...
    Faerylight Faerylight 41-45, F 19 Responses Jun 21

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    OH. MY. GOD. It's final,

    he's single, and as of 9:37am today I am no longer the OW!!!
    Shardsofsorrow Shardsofsorrow 31-35, F 77 Responses Jul 29

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 32 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    what I sent him, probably won't mean a thing.

    ..but hey what the hell ..why not. "Well, excuse me for trying to see you, excuse me for even thinking about you. I intern at firm in the area now, so i thought i'd drop a text, since it was convienient. I apologize. Really, I do. Kinda upsetting that you just read my message...
    newgurlxo newgurlxo 18-21, F 1 Response 35 mins ago

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    I guess one perk of my current situation is that

    even though he and I might be waiting to have intimate time, and although I seem to be waiting an extraordinary amount for US in general, I at least know he's not going back to his previous situation!!
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 5 hrs ago

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    I went on strike this weekend,

    intentionally forbidding myself from doing anything that would lead to any lingering thoughts of MM. I'm so glad I did. Sometimes clearing your mind is as simple and obvious as telling all the voices in your head to shut up. (Don't get me wrong - you may have to do it a few...
    ashadams244 ashadams244 26-30, F 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    I'm not the ow right now.

    But I was. When I was 19-20 I had an affair with a 40-41 year old military officer. He was amazing and strong and powerful and I just loved his attention. Well, during the summer when I was away in my own military training, he moved to Germany with his family. We maintained...
    monicawinter monicawinter 36-40, F 3 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 95 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    The sound of the rain is

    such an hypnotic sound to me....How i wish i could have him next to me laying in this couch just listening to this wonderful sound as he plays with my hair to sleep... ...I miss him...
    Chicadelcaribe Chicadelcaribe 31-35, F 3 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    I never thought I'd be the other woman,

    and so much in love, but I am. My heart is aching. I should be happy but I have so many insecurities. He said I am THE woman. His woman. I'm still the other woman. He's going through a divorce. Right now, I feel like an inconvenience. It makes me worried to the point of...
    HotPinkDaisy HotPinkDaisy 41-45, F 3 Responses 11 hrs ago

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