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I Am The Other Woman

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 43 Responses Feb 24

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 67 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    So today I feel an urge to contact him maybe

    because of what has gone down this week. But I won't, he knows where I am and how to contact me if he wants to. I won't obsess over him, I have a life too! :-)
    doublelife14 doublelife14 31-35, F 3 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 82 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 79 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    I haven't been on here in

    for a while. I've noticed some new members which is always nice to know there are others who have and do share the same experience. I have not been the OW since June; my MM and I have been an official couple for 2 months now and are still going strong. I can honestly say...
    saiyagyrl saiyagyrl 36-40, F 3 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Got involved with a MM.

    He is wonderful. Yet, he has told me he feels guilty but then will kiss me and make me feel good. Do not know what to do?
    Asheera123 Asheera123 41-45, F 1 Response 19 hrs ago

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    I'm sorry but I don't care

    who this might **** off or annoy. I'm already getting hate mail and we've been harassed all weekend. There are many positive's and negatives about any relationship. We all know the negatives but hopefully just to **** a few people off, I'd like to tell everyone the positives...
    sweetmae79 sweetmae79 31-35, F 15 Responses Apr 20

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 17 Responses May 4

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 9 Responses Feb 11

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 44 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    I want to text him and tell him to stop being

    stupid.... To tell him it's silly for us to both be unhappy and to stop doing something we both want to do. I want him to want to come over and kiss me and cuddle me and be the same as we were. I don't understand........ I don't want to miss him anymore I miss his friendship...
    PrincessLolita PrincessLolita 26-30, F 8 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    So tonight I was standing outside of our work

    cleaning up some. Next thing I hear was a very loud Harley. It was my MM. I thought he had left work a while ago guess not. He stopped and was talking to me. He said Saturday I'm going to come pick u up on my bike and we are going riding. I said it depends on what time bc my...
    tc57 tc57 31-35, F 2 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    I am exhausted. Physically

    and mentally exhausted. This has taken a toll on me and my health and my family and my happiness and my well being that I never imagined. I never dreamed that this would consume me in such a manner. That I would act a fool and shirk responsibilities and become such a fractured...
    neverendingmadness neverendingmadness 36-40, F 5 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    It sucks bc today he is leaving

    for Orlando and won't be back until Sunday and then mon he's off work for his bday :( I know he's gna talk to me but it still sucks he's going away and it bothers me and we had a huge fight about it Monday into Tuesday..... therapy wed helped but geez....but he did come by yest...
    ap05 ap05 26-30, F 1 Response 11 hrs ago

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    I'm in for a really rough day at work

    and figured that some of you beautiful ladies were also not looking forward to today SO I just wanted to say: You are wonderful and beautiful and kind and intelligent! You can kick this day in the A S S !! Sending out positive vibes for all of my loves on here :)
    lostanddistraught lostanddistraught 22-25, F 5 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    So I read a lot, but don't post much.

    I've been with MM 18 months. We see each other 3 or 4 times a week mostly lunch, coffee, etc. We are both married, but have really filled a void in our lives with our friendship. About a year ago he found his wife is very ill. I offered to go away but he insisted we stay...
    balloongirl balloongirl 36-40, F 8 Responses 1 day ago

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 21 Responses Jan 2

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    Things I don't miss from my affair.

    .. 1. Waiting for my phone to ding 2. Lying to spouse about where I am going 3. Making sure I erase texts 4. Time 5. Mind control that the affair holds not mm 6. Questioning of myself and actions 7. Guilt not for the affair but for my husband and his wife 8. Time 9. The panic...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 27

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    Probably shouldn't have texted him

    after a bottle of wine saying I hate this. When he responded this morning and said "I know, I hope it gets better" I definitely shouldn't have said. "Well I hope you consider what you've done to me before you move on to someone else" And when he responded with "someone else...
    PrincessLolita PrincessLolita 26-30, F 5 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    So the best way to get over a man is to get

    under another yes? No it isn't unless you want to have a breakdown during sex I wouldn't recommend it
    Chelsea35 Chelsea35 36-40, F 7 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    Ok ladies...I've been reading the posts in here

    and to be honest...I relate so much to the broken hearted women that it hurts to read these messages. Ladies...dating a married man is one of the most thrilling but yet the most heart wrenching experiences we will ever have! Especially if we are also married. Ladies we think...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 5 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 47 Responses Feb 16

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 20 Responses May 6

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    Sometimes I love the "quote of the day"

    that pops onto my phone every morning. Other days, I feel like "ugh...a sign I need to change. Boo." Today's quote of the day: "very often a change of self is needed more than a change of scene." Well I'm headed to the beach for a change of scene....but I guess when I'll...
    CCBatman120 CCBatman120 26-30, F 1 Response 12 hrs ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 29 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 31-35, M 14 Responses Apr 19

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    I told him about EP and he saw what I have wrote

    as "the other woman".. And he said, you are NOT the other woman, you are my "only" woman... I have never loved any woman in my life as much as I love you, he told me that..
    ssally123 ssally123 41-45, F 31 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    And it's been 30 days of no contact.

    I miss him so much...everything about him and now it is over I have to move on. Wish the pain left me and I can be happy again but it is so hard. To all you OW out there stay strong love is so painfull! hugs
    gweneth gweneth 36-40, F 4 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    I hate that my heart feels

    so broken. I hate that I can't stop crying over this man. He's off having fun, while I'm home crying. I hate that I put myself in this position. I hate that I let him back into my life when he wasn't available. I hate that I feel as if he doesn't care about my feelings. I...
    firstlove111 firstlove111 41-45, F 15 Responses 1 day ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 36 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    I was the other women

    for a year but now I am the wife. We will be celebrating our 3 year wedding anniversary soon. We were both married to other people when we met. We were both in bad marriages. We are both so much happier now. If anyone wants to hear my story I am happy to share.
    magic2929 magic2929 46-50, F 17 Responses Apr 29

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    Laying here in his arms listening to him breath.

    ... Best feeling in the world! I get this for 3 more days! Whoot Whoot!!!
    Sidechic79 Sidechic79 31-35 6 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 40 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 10 Responses Feb 13

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    Long long conversation about how this

    relationship is hurtful to me bc I did everything to be his and he hasn't left yet. His concern is his kids. Says sometimes W scolds them so meanly that he doesn't think it's fair to them and he has to step in. Afraid of her having them alone. I told him that all of his issues...
    CCBatman120 CCBatman120 26-30, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    Do any of you feel that due to the type of

    relationship you have with your MM, he confides and talks to you about stuff he doesn't discuss with anyone else? During my run last night, I was thinking about all of the conversations we have had and how he seems to tell me anything and everything, including things about his W...
    doublelife14 doublelife14 31-35, F 6 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 12 Responses Jun 2

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    Just on the fence today about the whole thing.

    Sometimes I end up wondering what role to I play? Lover, good friend, confidant, a convenience, or am I no one of significance.
    blue963 blue963 46-50, F 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 20 Responses 2 days ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 140 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    I swear it's like he can sense

    when I'm upset. I was upset today, and he sent me a video that made me laugh. I never told him I was upset. This has happened on several occasions. We're definitely connected on a level I can't describe.
    dolovf dolovf 26-30, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    He's gone until Sunday

    and I won't see him until tues. Had a nice lunch at work before he left so got some time for us and saw him this am and it just sucks knowing she is going to be there and the other family. He swears on our relationship and him and me and everything else that we will be...
    ap05 ap05 26-30, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    "I know I'm stupid to look at ur FB

    when I'm not supposed to. But why do u do this to me huh hun ? I just had my surgery and still in pain. You didn't call me yesterday but all you did is posting ur picture and her sitting next to each other ... It hurts as like you rubbing salt into my wound ...i love u so much...
    iloveuox iloveuox 26-30, F 7 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    Woah. Mm was supposed to call me back to

    discuss more. Told me he can't. She showed up at work. Found a card from me. She knows about me but not that it's been 2 years. We don't know what card says or if date on it. Ah! So stupid. I hope he uses this as an opportunity to talk!
    CCBatman120 CCBatman120 26-30, F 3 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    I'm lost. Everyone tells you to leave

    when you are not happy, so I left... That part was hard enough, and things are up and down, ugly and sad, I'm honestly exhausted... I know that once this part is over, once I have figured out what to do and settled in to my new life that it will be worth it. Or that's what I...
    ElsieJay ElsieJay 41-45, F 7 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    I hate the person i have become.

    A liar, a cheater, an adulterer...i hate this. I dont want my married man anymore, even as i am in love with him, i dont want him anymore. I want my husband. Like i always hAve. I want us to be happy like we were when we first met. I wanna tell him the wrong i have been doing an...
    Amb505 Amb505 26-30, F 8 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 69 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    My Secret Gold Coin

    You don’t know it, but I think of you as a beautiful, precious, shiny gold coin that I keep secretly hidden in my pocket. I feel happy knowing that you are in there, but unhappy knowing that you have to stay hidden. I wish I could show you off to friends, but they wouldn’t...
    jenn80 jenn80 51-55 18 Responses May 23, 2013

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    Well today I have a better outlook.

    Tough nights, but the husband's emotional blackmail makes it easier to get through the days! Today he is threatening suicide... can't say what I think about that because it's probably a crime.... Stay strong ladies.
    ElsieJay ElsieJay 41-45, F 3 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Please, do not stop posting.

    ... I may not be the best person to make this request because I have only participated on the forum for just a few months. But I am so glad I had a place to go. I can not begin to tell you how supportive you ladies have been during my time of heart aches, up swings, troubles...
    saiyagyrl saiyagyrl 36-40, F 4 Responses May 26

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