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I Am The Other Woman

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    I am in a different space,

    remiss of last April when he officially separated from his W. His attitude is very similar to what it was then. The attention. The looks. The future planning. The conversations. His ability to sit with me in some really deep places of pain. I have told him several times now...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    MM2 phoned me last night.

    We were able to talk for quite a long time about everything that's been going on. He said he did msg me on Thursday and can even show me. I guess it just didn't come thru to me. We spoke a lot about him. He's very overwhelmed with his life right now. As I've said before he...
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Day 3 of the break Even

    though I initiated the break, I'm surprised he let it happen. I've heard from him once, but he just sent me a song, nothing else. Even though I said I'd call him Sunday, part of me wonders if I even will. If I can go a week without talking to him, then I'm stronger than I...
    macwellgirl macwellgirl 26-30, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    It's quiet. We've texted.

    Talked on the phone twice. I am stressed by his situation. It's not mine. It's his. I went through my separation alone. Completed divorce papers on my own. Now he's in the mix of it and I'm trying to be gentle and listen. He only wants me to listen... I wasn't ready for this...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 4 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 24 Responses Mar 22

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 13 Responses Apr 19

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 29 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 14 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    I talked to him on the phone tonight,

    he got off work at 12:30 am and phoned me. I am currently at my parents for a few days, spending Canada Day with some family, so he calls. We were talking about all the stuff we normally talk about, and then we were talking about my music and he said "you know what I would like...
    avey10 avey10 18-21, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 77 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 170 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 48 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    MadameMirage MadameMirage 36-40, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 15 Responses May 4, 2014

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    Dear J, I'll never forget the day

    that I met you, August 20th, 2014. I thought it was one of the best days of my life. For months, you were my twin flame, my soul mate. As the months grew, so did your lies. The thing is, I was always smarter than you. I was always on your tail. I was always one step ahead of...
    MadameMirage MadameMirage 36-40, F 5 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    What a ride ....I love it ,

    hate it, happy ,sad,clear,confused...I been feeling real happy about our relationship its taking a turn in the right direction.It makes me so sad when i look at other women post.About how it over and they feel great about it,It confuses me ,We should know what we are getting into...
    peachy115 peachy115 51-55, F 4 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 27 Responses May 6, 2014

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    It's amazing to be on the other side of the

    fence. I called it off. He never responded. And it just solidifies my feeling that he never cared for me...my instincts were right. I feel a weight lifted...but I am sad in a way because I have lost something that I though I had...even though in reality, there was never...
    untenable untenable 41-45, F 1 Response 15 hrs ago

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    I can't explain to you all of the madness

    that's happened in the last 24 hours. But here it goes. I met his sister. I told her I knew him and we had worked together. And a few hours in, I found out so much. Honestly, it's so much I don't even know where to start. But I'll stick with what hurt me the most. He had told...
    macwellgirl macwellgirl 26-30, F 5 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    It's like watching a freight train trash.

    Slowly. At the slowest slow speed possible. I was in my own freight car once not too long ago. I didn't see it. I was in it. Watching is something else. I feel in ways I never knew I could feel. Old, familiar feelings. I'm doing all I can to stay up.
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 6

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 157 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 42 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    An interesting perspective

    that helped me... http://thecurrentconscience.com/blog/2012/08/08/you-dont-miss-him/
    Scorpionchild Scorpionchild 46-50, F 2 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    I have to share this.

    Things are not going well in his house tonight. Trying to carry on a normal text conversation with him and he's distant. "Sorry. I'm over here fighting. I know you feel it." I'm smiling- not because they are fighting but because I don't have an H to fight with anymore. In...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    It happened. The fight they had last night was

    her trying to suddenly re-engage. She said she made a counseling appointment for 8:45 am today. He said he wasn't going to go. Remember, she hasn't been in 5 weeks. The argument continued. She said that she thought everything was going great. (Old patterns for them). He told...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    At this point I think our wedding might be

    postponed !!!!!!!Reason ....seems my due date is 13 days after our wedding date !! lol...OH MY GOD ! We are over the flipping moon, just alittle bit worried about everyone thinking we are only getting married because 'he knocked me up' since no one knows we have been...
    gigglelicious gigglelicious 36-40, F 9 Responses 1 day ago

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    I've been on and off with my MM

    and I'm sure many of you must be getting annoyed with my constant posts in this group. I know many of you say I am too young or I am a bad person for being the OW but well that's the situation I'm in. Yesterday I phoned him on his way to work and we talked. Moral of the story...
    hiddennlove hiddennlove 18-21, F 4 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 94 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 55 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 78 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 24 Responses Apr 30

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    Today I love you but I am mad at you more.

    You bit my head off for showing concern for your son when he wouldn't answer your texts. You brought me into this problem then bit my head off for asking if you talked to your ex to make sure he was ok. I only ask because I care and know what his past year has been like for him...
    tiltheloverunsout tiltheloverunsout 41-45, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    Here question if it to personal then don't have

    to answer. I been wondering when making love do like to start totally clothes or get completely undress. I love start fully clothed and peal off like a banana. I love undressing my lover.
    ForbiddenFruitLove95 ForbiddenFruitLove95 18-21, F 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    I ended things with mm this morning.

    It was kind of a sudden decision but I think it was the right one for right now. I care for him deeply but I just can't do it right now. Between my family, school and now both of my vehicles have died, I just have too much going on. I don't have time to worry about or put work...
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Mm was not very happy yesterday

    when I told him I wanted to end it because my life is overwhelming at the moment. He thinks I'm using this as an excuse to push him away. He said everyone's life can be complicated and overwhelming at times but we still make time for the people we care about and we don't shut...
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 4 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 50 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    Im sitting here thinking about the day you

    won't want me anymore and it made me feel sad. However, I soon realized that although it may happen one day I shouldn't worry about it. You see, I'm more than just a pretty face, I have tons to offer someone despite settling to be your secret, which you only talk about when you...
    AmazinglyBootyful AmazinglyBootyful 31-35, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    I know I complain about him a lot.

    .. Because I'm not really getting what I want and get so fed up.. But some days are totally different... Today he texted me and asked me to call his work... I haven't heard his voice in a few weeks and it just.. God I love it... It was nice to just reconnect a bit... Figures the...
    AvaLennon AvaLennon 31-35, F 1 Response 16 hrs ago

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 45 Responses Jan 10

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    Well exMM goes to court today,

    2nd offense DUI, a total of 5 convictions, this time he doesn't have me to be his taxi and take care of business if he goes away, I'm kinda glad I'm out of that mess!! Hadn't heard from him in a year and all the sudden he wants and needs my help and I know exactly why, he needs...
    kathrineh kathrineh 46-50, F 8 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 18 Responses Mar 25

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