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I Am The Other Woman

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 78 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 23 Responses Mar 22

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 86 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 48 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    If any of you women or

    whoever decides to get on this forum and happens to read my post and don't like what I have to say and wants to start being a bully, a nag, or has the urge to start drama because u don't like what I have to say on my page. make life easy for yourself....block me! simple as that...
    newgurlxo newgurlxo 18-21, F 1 Response 21 hrs ago

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 19 Responses Mar 25

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 51 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    can someone update some with terms.

    like what is MM. lol please :)
    Aprilbaby4 Aprilbaby4 22-25 1 Response 1 day ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 71 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    I really miss him. ??

    I miss being there, seeing his mom, sharing laughs. I was good with his kids. like sometimes I envy his gf. but sometimes im glad im not her. as mean as that sounds. ugh idk.
    Aprilbaby4 Aprilbaby4 22-25 3 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    I know that I am not his first,

    second, or even third priority, but I want to be more than just a convenience to him. I want him to put some effort into me. Into us. I know what this is and I don't have expectations for more. However I have a family and responsibilities as well, but I have always managed to...
    solace73 solace73 41-45, F 2 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    'You are cheating, you're a cheater,

    you opened your legs and yes of course he came running, any man would! You disgust me and I hope our daughter doesn't get told to go after another woman's man when she's older, maybe you she tell her now what you're doing wrong'. Nice little quote from the ex husband to be...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 5 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    funny how the littlest things hit you.

    ...I do a lot of cold calling for customers and I have a detailed log that has dates on them.....I look at those dates and stare at them.....these dates are BEFORE my affair started...I just think back to the days I was innocent.....bored....and just a normal everyday wife...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 2 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    I think he sucks the life out of me.

    He takes all of my positive energy and feeds off of it for the week. I then feel absolutely depressed after the initial high wears off- hours after. Things are the way they are. He will never leave his home, I don't know if I would either. I am starting to see his age more...
    shitbyrd shitbyrd 36-40, F 7 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 17 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 14 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 93 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    H was on my *** last night not believing

    where I am going. I was able to prove him wrong so he apologized. MM W was also causing drama today. See we both had other affairs before and have had DD with those affairs. MM is now paranoid but still willing to see me on Thursday. Thank god. I need to see him. Even though we...
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    There seems to be a lull in the fighting .

    Considering the circumstances . I'm not ready for battle every waking second as has been the case for months now. It's taken a bit of a toll on me . I'm still waking in the middle of the night , heart pounding like crazy .wondering if I'm about to have a heart attack. I then...
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 40 mins ago

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    "If it wasn't for you I wouldn't have cheated

    again.... I had 7 years without cheating and didn't even think about it.... After you I don't see myself doing it again or at least not for a very long time" 😕 I never pursued you... You approached me... You went and asked me for my number... Yes I found you attractive, but...
    Lilypad718 Lilypad718 31-35, F 4 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    He is back today from his home.

    His flight was canceled in the morning, he sent me message just to inform he would be flying in the evening flight, and at the end of it he said don't reply me. He was scared i would send him message, before he left his home. Now he reached, he sent me message said "i miss you...
    angelamaxy angelamaxy 22-25 49 mins ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 155 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 28 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    MM finally texted me about 3 hours ago.

    Let me know he was back in town safely and meetings were good. I know I should be happy but over the last few days, I've been filled with much hurt and anger. All I could get out was 'I'm glad things went well.'
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 5 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 13 Responses Apr 19

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    Homemade chicken and dumplings mends a hurting

    heart at least for a moment :)
    subgirl26 subgirl26 22-25, F 2 Responses 1 hr ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 27 Responses May 6, 2014

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    I know I'll never be the girl you marry,

    but I'll be the girl you think of when you engage in polite sex with your boring wife. While she fakes an ****** to feed your bruised ego. ;)
    newgurlxo newgurlxo 18-21, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Another vent... Still haven't heard from him,

    he's gone to ground. In the past he's done this to help my marriage but now we are separating and I know I need to get out, it's been emotional abusive for months. I could just do with his support, but it's nearly a week now of nothing. It breaks my heart to the extent that I...
    NicoleMantel NicoleMantel 36-40, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    So today I told mm I needed him.

    .. that I needed to see him that I was just at my breaking point... I told him I needed him to help me out of this hole I am in and that I needed his reassurance.... I got nothing I got a couple of texts and an idk we will see... well ur right we will see... I don't want him to...
    emeraldprincess1003 emeraldprincess1003 22-25, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    Call me a Slot if make feel better about

    yourself, if you need to bring me down by calling me a slot. Your jealous cause you can't be me. Is because I like being nude?
    ForbiddenFruitLove95 ForbiddenFruitLove95 18-21, F 2 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    So except for a 'thanks' text

    after I texted him this morning, I have not heard from MM. I KNOW he's on a business trip. I KNOW he's in meetings. I KNOW he's going to have a client dinner. I KNOW on these trips the chances were are going to talk much are slim to none. I just wish I KNEW for a fact that these...
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    UPDATE: MM and I had a looooong chat last night

    and this morning. It got off to a shaky start and we were both defensive. He said we needed to think about the "type of relationship" we have. I offered to walk away... But what I love about us is our deep connection and understanding. The ability to be completely open and...
    daisyblue222 daisyblue222 41-45, F 9 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 19 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 41 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Do any of you have suggestions on how to

    distract yourself when you just want to reach out and contact him? I know that if he's not contacting me, he's usually either busy or can't get away from W, so sometimes I want to try to give him space even if I feel like messaging him all the time just to chat about the my day...
    Julianne2222 Julianne2222 36-40, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 152 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    It's been hard for both of us this week.

    We look at each other while on video chat and the desire is so strong you could cut it. Our time that was suppose to be coming in June has fallen apart, on my side this time. So now we are looking for August. One full year from our first time. How could have a year slipped...
    whynot13 whynot13 46-50, F 3 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    I am not cut out for this.

    I had an epiphany last night - I don't know where I've been for the past two years but it just suddenly hit me and I could feel again. I could feel horribly guilty and scared and angry and every other emotion under the sun. I don't know how I could be so careless and reckless. I...
    KarlaAndrews KarlaAndrews 26-30, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    Monday, He buys me clothes.

    Now a planned, purchased, trip to Vegas. And he has counseling this morning. I'm assuming with the W. This is bizarre.
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 5 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 51 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    Goodness, my pregnancy hormones are off the

    charts. I have zero patience with my MM. I got sooo mad at him that I send him to hell. I hate hurting him. I wish I could control these outbursts. The
    4bdnluv 4bdnluv 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 23 Responses Apr 30

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