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    Have any of you have the experience of earning

    much more than your MM? And, if so, has this affected your relationship?
    HotPinkDaisy HotPinkDaisy 41-45, F 3 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    so it's been a little over two weeks.

    he still texts and calls me daily. I support him but do not engage him. I avoid having my phone on me at our normal peek talk times and only respond when I am not feeling vulnerable. I will say it feels really good. I miss him terribly but that's normal. he has been good about...
    infinitymdc79 infinitymdc79 36-40, F 1 Response 17 hrs ago

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    kimcc11 kimcc11 26-30, F 1 day ago

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    ladies, I will be taking a break from EP.

    ..My company is finally taking off after two years of round the clock emotional and time investment.The universe is so mysterious am under going a personal physical transformation through exercise...Am finding it a struggle to get quality time for EP....I so want to be able to...
    Strawberrygiggles Strawberrygiggles 41-45, F 15 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 45 Responses Jan 10

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    NO LONGER THE OTHER WOMAN!

    !! I am now the only woman :) it has been officially ended this morning, he was straight on the phone to me who was awesome at playing it cool despite up all night worrying! He was going to come over but we both decided against it as he needs time to recover maybe. He has gone...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 12 Responses Mar 21

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    I'm very sad. His wife is jealous of me.

    He is quitting all training. It's the way we get together. He is really lost right now. I'm scared. But I can hear in his voice that he still wants to be with me. I knew we would get here eventually. I don't want him to quit training either. It's his dream.
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 7 Responses 1 hr ago

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    "Are you, or did you,

    cheat on me with her?" Yup. Well that happened. He of course calls to tell me. Of course he denies any indiscretion. Technically, the times she was mentioning, they weren't together... But then there's all that in between time. She's never met me. But she knows my name now. No...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 3 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    So, I had to share this song I just discovered

    because it's so relatable and incredibly beautiful. http://youtu.be/eRXO77hJGKA
    subgirl26 subgirl26 22-25, F 2 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    b4realz b4realz 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    I sent him an email that made him mad.

    But Im tired of always making allowances for not having much contact. Maybe i pushed the button too quickly and should have had more control. But sometimes it feels like thats all I do it control the disappointment. Im sure he will never understand that either.Oh well I...
    blue963 blue963 51-55, F 3 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    Today I spent the morning with exMM.

    We had a great morning and amazing sex which is not really the norm for us but tonight I'm having intense craving for my MM. ExMM no longer is really affectionate after all the stuff we have been through. It's slowing coming back big he is not even comparable to MM. MM and I...
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 161 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    For those of us who just ended things,

    or are hanging by a thread, the positive side of this freedom... No more watching them text back and forth like tweeners on our dates. No more lonely Sundays, feeling sad that it's an NC day. No more laying in bed every night wondering what they're doing in bed together. No...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 20 Responses Jul 12

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    I am currently involved in a relationship- of

    sorts- with a married man. I hate myself for it, but can't bring myself to leave. He lied to me in the beginning... lied by omission. I never specifically asked if he was married, I just simply assumed he was single since nothing in his profile suggested that he was married. But...
    NightsideOfEden NightsideOfEden 26-30, F 1 Response 7 hrs ago

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    Me again. Sheesh. Connected with mutual

    coworker friend today. Vented to her about work stuff. She caught me at a time that I needed to check in. Learned more about her personal life. She's not a threat. And as Strawberry suggested getting to know her would benefit me. So there's that. He was "annoyed" with the W...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 94 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 29 Responses May 6, 2014

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    I haven't been on here

    for longer than a few minutes in a few weeks. I have been doing a lot of thinking. I will post more later in the week. I do see that there are a few more trolls. I hope that everyone has a good night!
    independentandstubborn independentandstubborn 51-55, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 18 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 49 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 32 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Other Woman or Optional Women It's come to my

    attention over the last 24 hours that I am incredibly strong. Revelations of awakening and it feels great. Lots of tears though to get here, but something finally snapped. The highs and lows of being the Other Woman I hope are finally over. I've managed my relationship well...
    LotusLIL LotusLIL 46-50, F 2 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    saw each other this morning

    and slightly intimate today Gave me literally 5 minutes of chat on line following. I kinda went nuts as for the past 9 days w has been away. We have had pretty minor contact with about 1/2 hr int he mornings and nothing the rest of the day until bedtime even though wife has been...
    blue963 blue963 51-55, F 1 Response 15 hrs ago

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 16 Responses Mar 25

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    OH. MY. GOD. It's final,

    he's single, and as of 9:37am today I am no longer the OW!!!
    Shardsofsorrow Shardsofsorrow 31-35, F 76 Responses Jul 29

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    I'm tired of being the one to make up.

    I told him he was making me feel like 2nd place. Now he is pissed. Trolls stay out of this. I'm really sad. I've thought what we had was amazing. But too many failed plans this week has made things hard for me coming off of a hard weekend. I really don't like being an affair...
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 14 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 41-45, F 75 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    MM and I are off again.

    This time, I won't be predicting the future this time around. I go over this, over and over again. it has officially begun ...NC. Perfect timing for me, I have school, homework, new job downtown, and other responsibilities. So, NC is good. Anyways, there is this guy who works at...
    newgurlxo newgurlxo 18-21, F 1 Response 11 hrs ago

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    Well tomorrow my mm goes on vacation

    for two weeks. Two weeks of no contact. he said he thought about sending pictures while he was gone, I told him not to send anything because I know I'd be checking my mail constantly and I'd be so disappointed if he never sent anything. We have always had no contact on weekends...
    Janna78 Janna78 46-50, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    You can delete my story

    but that doesn't make what I said untruthful ;)
    GiveMeHead69 GiveMeHead69 22-25, F 11 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 80 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 14 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 53 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 25 Responses Apr 30

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 170 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 48 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    His taste, his smell,

    those lips.....can't resist him. The way he hugs me, holds me, looks at me, kisses me, OMG! The connection we have is intense. And, he listens to me, remembers the little things I wouldn't expect him to and follows through. I asked him what he wanted out of this and his...
    wordweapon wordweapon 41-45, F 6 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    ok this is some what off subject

    but I have learned to trusted you ladies.... today I was with mm sexually we have been together several times over the months and to say sore after yes... he's the largest I have had. But now I am hurting... hurting bad... don't want to move hurt to cough laugh anything... does...
    camobaby83 camobaby83 31-35, F 9 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    And I know it's long gone And there was nothing

    else I could do And I forget about you long enough To forget why I needed to... You call me up again just to break me like a promise. So casually cruel in the name of being honest.
    macwellgirl macwellgirl 26-30, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 19

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    Looking back it is funny how easily I fell into

    the trap of becoming 'the other woman.' The first flash of distress - a wounded soul no less, and I dived into the murky water. He told me that I was his oxygen. I was a mermaid Saint Bernard with the reviving elixir strapped to my neck. Strangely, I found two unmarried men...
    Faerylight Faerylight 41-45, F 19 Responses Jun 21

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    Is this possible? MM claims

    that marriage is marriage! He has to stay in it until his girls are married and settled down. But love is love, love is what is between him and I. I can not get over the thought that he is staying his marriage making the greatest sacrifices of his happiness for his wife...
    SoLost63 SoLost63 51-55, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
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