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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 101 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 150 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    So much has changed in 24 hours.

    W picked up some things last night. She was surprised the locks were changed. I am still shocked by how he went from zero to 1000 in that time. It was as if something in him snapped and everything spilled out. She says she has been with half dozen men over the last year...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    shitbyrd shitbyrd 36-40, F 2 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    ...and I wasn't quite sure

    that I was, until that fateful evening, few weeks ago, he was driving back home and I told him he should call me as soon as he arrived, rather than texting me... Well... he did call me! We had been together only one week before that night, but I missed him so much, as if I hadn...
    LadyBugOnADaisy LadyBugOnADaisy 41-45, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    MM and I had such a sweet,

    unexpected moment today. I got some pretty exciting career-related news and we'd been texting back and forth all afternoon about it, and how supportive he'd been for me and just how lucky we both are. When I got home, I saw the most amazing rays of sunlight just five or ten...
    ladyquaintrelle ladyquaintrelle 18-21, F 1 Response 12 hrs ago

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 19 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    I'm a real Gentleman I open doors

    for my wife. I run and get the car in the pouring rain, get soaking wet because she left the house umbrella at work. I do this so that her hair won't get wet. I hold the umbrella as she gets into the car. I do all this because I'm a Gentleman . I open all of the mail, pay all...
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 3 Responses 1 hr ago

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 11, 2014

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    JD makes me feel like I'm honestly the only one

    idk how he does it but I sometimes purposely try to put him out of his way and nothings ever impossible,well ,a man of his rank ,nothing would ever be impossible and I'm really getting comfortable with this it's been almost a year I'm already deep in but he says that he'll...
    wildflowerkim wildflowerkim 22-25, F 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 19 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 17 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    Today is a special day

    for us . Us, yes because it's exactly 1 year and 8 days since (19th Feb) we met on here. Yes EP has its critics . So many of them tell me that this site has changed, and as a result have abandoned it. Because it was a community . As far as I'm concerned it has a broad spectrum...
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 2 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    ANGELKZ ANGELKZ 26-30, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Trying to be patient,

    without freaking out. Is it worth it, will he come back after he settles? I don't know, but my hope is still there. Why can't I just let go?
    kringle6691 kringle6691 46-50, F 3 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 83 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 29 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Well yesterday was hard.

    Schools were out and I was home all day with daughter/H so we didn't do a lot which caused me to think about MM. We are on a mutually agreed to break as of Saturday. I wonder, how is he, is he getting snow, does he miss me/think about me/long for me? Does he hurt as much as I...
    forbidden67 forbidden67 46-50, F 9 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    It has happened! He has found a place of his

    own and is moving out. He says it has been a long time coming, his friends told him he should have done it years ago. And although, yes, I am a factor, I am not the reason. Things are up in the air at the minute, and I don't know which way to turn, except to be here for him...
    typist123 typist123 36-40, F 7 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    Women won't mess with a man

    that lives with his mom but will mess with a man who lives with his wife.
    reeessa reeessa 13-15, F 28 Responses Oct 23, 2014

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    I haven't post in awhile

    and I felt like this is the only place where I can actually talk about my issue and have some type of support. I've read many of the post here and some sound familiar to mine which tells me that I am not the only one suffering from heartache. I have kept in contact with my MM...
    waitingonfaith waitingonfaith 31-35 3 Responses 1 hr ago

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    Wow, what a beautiful day with him.

    It started with a sense of incredible urgency. Much teasing throughout the day. And we ended the day in the possible way ever.
    surfsway surfsway 36-40, F 4 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 15 Responses May 4, 2014

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 27 Responses May 6, 2014

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    HOW OUT IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP?

    I am having a sweet cup of Ethiopian, very milky coffee . Looking at a friends Facebook page. Laughing and liking everything. Mine is about me..I rarely post my children's pictures .However, I do include my friends pictures...Lots of random funnies that are pieces of me. I...
    warriormama warriormama 41-45, F 6 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 49 Responses Jan 10

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 18 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    gawd I miss him we have

    both been really busy. I jave worked more than 60 hours this week and have kids to be home for and his kid is sick and we haven't seen each other in over a week. it's killing me. I want to be like gawd I need to see you bit do not want to sound needy or clingy because I know he...
    spoiledlittle spoiledlittle 31-35, F 2 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    Is it just me or is it odd

    that my MM not only doesn't mind being seen out eating at places that are close to both of our workplaces, he also doesn't mind if my children know about him. I always thought the MM wanted as much secrecy as possible. Granted I don't mind at all :D but I was just curious.
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 8 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    Yes , I'm the other man ,

    the man who feels that us men are always going to want to be loved and love back. My story is not a new one. Every time I feel the need to hold a woman , not any woman , my woman . Yes making love is the most wonderful thing a couple can do in the privacy of the home . It's...
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    He's been so sweet and supportive.

    Work isn't always a great place to be and it's not always the most fair environment. Most people are out for themselves and their own development regardless of what they tell you. My AP is my bosses boss so when things don't go well for me at work, they go even worse for my boss...
    surfsway surfsway 36-40, F 1 Response 13 hrs ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 46 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    I hate to having to compete with the television

    . That's an UNDERSTATEMENT . If we look at the countries around the world where they don't sit down and watch the television at every waking moment, the population I would is on a constant increase . I know in my own case, chance would be a fine thing. I've often considered...
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 11 Responses Feb 13, 2014

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    I got to spend some time with E tonight.

    It is like magic when we are together. He stares at me and tells me how beautiful and radiant I am. He makes me feel like the most desired woman on earth. I could lay with him and do literally nothing and I'd be perfectly content. <3 -K
    subgirl26 subgirl26 22-25, F 12 hrs ago

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    Same old Groundhog Day here.

    ..seeing him twice a week now, sometimes he has had guilt moments and again has said this needs to stop so I can allow myself to sort my relationship out and see what happens. Then within a day he's saying he knows it isn't going anywhere yet still he won't dump her. He's very...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    How? We are so far from each other.

    Our morning was crazy, both of us dealing with appointments, his doctors, mine car. We got a few minutes of cell phone time. Finally afternoon and both of us back in our respective homes. We are on a video chat, but I'm trying to put together a report for work, when I relize...
    whynot13 whynot13 46-50, F 14 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    He is dealing now with the leaving process,

    so many painful things to deal with, lots of anger, and time consuming for him... I feel for him... I told him yesterday... I know that this is not easy for both of you, for him and for the W. I told him that I dont like to seeing him in pain like now. Would you want to...
    ssally123 ssally123 41-45, F 5 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    I just hurt tonight-no other way to say it-I

    want to leave him but I haven't been away from him for more than a month. I'm scared to break the cycle in case at some point I want him back and he doesn't need or want me anymore. I can do this for a long time but I can't continue if he won't tell me how he feels. It hurts...
    Readytomoveon2015 Readytomoveon2015 31-35, F 2 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Well not exactly . I'm the other man.

    We are all capable of falling in love. We marry and many stay married. Many of us make mistakes during our married life . One can be bossy and the other relaxed and forgiving ...... In every heart there is a room A sanctuary safe and strong. To heal the wounds from lovers...
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 2 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    Just because I think this is appropriate to all

    of you! Some of you understand, some of you still have to learn to. But appropriate for all.
    monty1212 monty1212 26-30, F 4 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    I'm married but I'm having an affair with my

    best friends husband. I know we can never be together as it would rip his family apart but I feel so lost without him. I made a huge mistake marrying my husband and can only be thankful we have no children. I want a divorce but I know it would crush him. It's so difficult being...
    kimathy86 kimathy86 26-30, F 118 Responses Feb 19

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 32 Responses Sep 23, 2014

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 79 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 67 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 54 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 154 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 41 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    We meet most mornings

    for a hug. As we did today, in the snow, then he held me and kissed the snow off my nose. He then handed me a piece of paper. It was a poem that he wrote back in August. It reads: I want to Feel the top of your head under my chin when I am hugging you I want to feel The rain...
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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