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I Am The Other Woman

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 14,589 People

    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 24 Responses Apr 30, 2015

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 41-45, F 73 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    The other woman isn't always a home-wrecker.

    Sometimes she's a home-mender. I had been faithful to my dear husband for over 20 years. For many years I thought there was something wrong with me. Maybe I wasn't sexy. Why didn't he want me the way I wanted him? I grew to understand that we just had very different desire...
    livingasme livingasme 51-55, F 17 Responses May 15, 2015

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 19 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    Yippee! I am out of town next week one night on

    business, how fortuitous that he has a promotional job interview in the same town on the same day! I am going to have an unexpected getaway with him! Next court date in 3 weeks. Come on divorce!
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    It will never work. As long

    as you continue being deceptive and cruel, you will all experience heart ache, loneliness and your affairs will be brought to light.
    euphoricbeauty euphoricbeauty 26-30, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    Are you giving your MM a Valentine's Day gift?

    I doubt I will see him this weekend like we had hoped. I do not know what to do for him.
    PressPToPlay PressPToPlay 46-50, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 167 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 2 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    deleted deleted 26-30 17 Responses Feb 6, 2015

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 47 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 15 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    Sadness is overwhelming.

    ...I am so afraid
    LLLinCincy LLLinCincy 36-40, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 48 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    And valentine's day is around the corner.

    I hate holidays. They are like a milestone. They are check points in time flagging my loneliness. Here I am, another 12 months have gone by and I am still single, unloved, alone and lusting after a man that is not mine. I wonder if he will do anything romantic for her. I wonder...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 17 Responses Mar 25, 2015

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    Serendipitous1 Serendipitous1 36-40, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 51-55, F 169 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    My husband sent me a message tonight.

    We work opposite shifts so a lot of our communication is through text. He's decided to take tomorrow off of work. Tomorrow was the only time I would be able to see mm for Valentine's Day. Kind of stinks. On Monday I told mm we need to spend as much time together as possible...
    Janna78 Janna78 46-50, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 19 Responses Mar 22, 2015

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    He called me last night.

    It was his last evening in the Midwest for business, and he is headed home. He told me there is a very strong possibility that he will be sent to Honduras for six months beginning in April. I guess in a moment of weakness in talking with him again was shattered by divine...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 1 day ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 33 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 53 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Can someone explain to me without confirming

    that a person must be pathological to do this, how you have an affair, claim a person is your best friend, be friendly with his wife and then come out with that this same ap, best friend attacked you and your sister? Some of you may of missed the comnent "I didn't believe her...
    paliglass paliglass 31-35, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 47 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    My story I posted here in June.

    Since I have had time to heal, process and although I still yearn for what we had, I know we made the right choices. I met a man. We were waiting in a line to go into a museum. We got talking, ended up going through the museum together then spent the weekend together. No...
    ifoundmehere ifoundmehere 46-50, F 3 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Honestly I'd beat the life out of ANY b!

    tch who tries to ruin my family and my marriage. There's enough men out there, there's no need for sharing ladies.
    Cleopatra05 Cleopatra05 18-21, F 28 Responses Dec 28, 2015

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 77 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    I completely lust after this guy!

    ! Like yes yes I love talking to him to but seriously.. Just a glimpse and I'm going crazy, he is so attractive to me. I was doing so good with this taking it slower thing but I'll be texting him soon after seeing him today, maybe he'll meet me tonight. Out of sight out of mind...
    SweetSunnyRiley SweetSunnyRiley 22-25, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    Valentine's Day is vastly approaching

    and I know the majority of you will be stricken with pain. Not only is it Valentines Day but it also falls on a weekend. You will not be with the man you love. Even if he gets you a gift, its just to prolong the pain. Guess I will check back on Sunday to see how you all have...
    euphoricbeauty euphoricbeauty 26-30, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Today marks 7 months without you in my life,

    BW. Guess what? I am getting stronger and stronger everyday! You can go **** yourself!!!
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 36-40, F 5 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    What's the best compliment you've received from

    your mm?? I get many about my looks but I think the compliments that have meant the most are him praising me for what I've accomplished business wise, for being smart and most of all for being a classy woman.
    Janna78 Janna78 46-50, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    b4realz b4realz 26-30, F 150 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    Was the past 2 1/2 years real?

    When you looked directly into my eyes and told me that you loved me, were you being truthful? Sometimes I wonder if men really have the same feelings as women. Can they truly turn their feelings off without a second thought? I do not believe I will ever get over this man. I...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    Since some people are

    so big on numbers and stats. I thought I would supply some numbers of my own.. How long we have been together. 7yrs, 4mths, 27 days, How many days I have heard from him ..2705 days..in a row. And I averaged out (3x/wk) how many times we've been sexual.. 1158 give or take...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 3 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    Has anyone gone bunny boiler on mm

    or exmm? He's been distant and pushing me away since Saturday. It's been like talking to a stranger. So I lost it and totally blew up, was sick of not knowing we're I stood and what was going on. To which he didn't read the message till hours later. Then found out he's been...
    Prettybutterfly88 Prettybutterfly88 26-30, F 10 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    I wanna say thanks to the ladies here,

    whose advise has given me and my guy a incredible change in a good way. I used to be struggled and get myself down when I couldn't see him much by insecurity. I changed all the negative thoughts into a anticipation like ' how great it will be of seeing him after a while?' and...
    honeybutterchip honeybutterchip 41-45, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 42 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 205 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    YES. FINALLY FOUND THE PERFECT SONG.

    I'm tired of feeling sad- just wanna let him have it haha. http://youtu.be/WRDHphTOMNc I wake up with blood-shot eyes Struggled to memorize The way it felt between your thighs Pleasure that made you cry Feels so good to be bad Not worth the aftermath, after that After that...
    subgirl26 subgirl26 26-30, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    independentandstubborn independentandstubborn 51-55, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 19, 2015

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    OH. MY. GOD. It's final,

    he's single, and as of 9:37am today I am no longer the OW!!!
    Shardsofsorrow Shardsofsorrow 31-35, F 66 Responses Jul 29, 2015

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