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I Am The Other Woman

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    My Secret Gold Coin

    You don’t know it, but I think of you as a beautiful, precious, shiny gold coin that I keep secretly hidden in my pocket. I feel happy knowing that you are in there, but unhappy knowing that you have to stay hidden. I wish I could show you off to friends, but they wouldn’t...
    jenn80 jenn80 51-55 18 Responses May 23, 2013

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    Saw him today. Was a mixed feelings kind of day.

    We were at work and I didn't get to touch him even once. I kept hoping to get him alone for even a few minutes but it wasn't meant to be today I guess. It was great to see him and he looked so amazing. But then he sent me this great email about how great a boss and friend I've...
    GenieH22 GenieH22 36-40, F 7 hrs ago

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    sitting at my desk at work,

    sipping on a cup of coffee, holding up my tears. I am so confused, these feelings I carry inside are invading my space, my mind, my soul. Will I ever go back to normal? I cant sleep, I cant eat, I cant think straight, I have officially lost my mind. Love sucks!
    4everhislady 4everhislady 36-40, F 6 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    So MM keeps texting me to see

    if I'm working. Why? To get his schedule. Why me of over the 100 people we work with and he can call work and go directly to the desk and get his schedule. Why always call me to get it? Makes me wonder if he's texting to make conversation. I don't know it's just weird he does...
    tc57 tc57 31-35, F 1 Response 8 hrs ago

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    What a day! Not sure what came over me

    but I called him out on the whole 'I haven't got a girlfriend' thing. Still swears he's not with her. Gets easier to let go when he continues lying! At last I felt empowered to be blatantly honest and tell him I'm so in love with him and always thought time would pass and make...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 3 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    So I failed...my guy ( not married

    but taken) sucked me right back in with the I love you's & promises to spend more time outside of work. I admit I wasn't ready to let go yet. But it kinda felt good that he wasn't either....i guess....OW problems....(sigh)
    Sidechic79 Sidechic79 31-35 4 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    I am sitting on the airplane heading home from

    my solo trip. I am trying to wrap my brain around everything that has happened over the past several days. Monday night was the concert. I knew he was there and looked off & on throughout the night but never saw him. Turns out he was one row up from another friend. If I would...
    pinkismysignaturecolor pinkismysignaturecolor 36-40, F 3 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 3 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    NatashaRose NatashaRose 18-21, F 3 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 22 Responses Jul 30

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    Really missing my baby today.

    We did our usual today but I just cant get him off my mind this evening. Would love to just be in his arms. Feeling his passionate kiss, his gentle touch. Even his smell makes me weak at the knees. I bought a bottle of his cologne just to spray my pillow so when he isnt with me...
    candybuck candybuck 36-40, F 3 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 68 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    What 'odd' things has your MM said

    or done? Things that make you go "humm I wonder why he said/does that"? Mine: Liked a small business page that I follow and participate in on Facebook. This business is local to me and not him. He is very active on the page and does have an interest in the type of business, so...
    JulyBug JulyBug 36-40, F 2 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Saw my single guy again today!

    ! Total surprise cause I wasn't sure when we would be able to see each other again (our schedules suck and we both work at night), but he texted me this afternoon saying he woke up thinking about me and of course wanting me sexually. I was totally up for it so I went. Amazing...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 2 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Please, do not stop posting.

    ... I may not be the best person to make this request because I have only participated on the forum for just a few months. But I am so glad I had a place to go. I can not begin to tell you how supportive you ladies have been during my time of heart aches, up swings, troubles...
    saiyagyrl saiyagyrl 36-40, F 4 Responses May 26

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    I was the other women

    for a year but now I am the wife. We will be celebrating our 3 year wedding anniversary soon. We were both married to other people when we met. We were both in bad marriages. We are both so much happier now. If anyone wants to hear my story I am happy to share.
    magic2929 magic2929 46-50, F 17 Responses Apr 29

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    I haven't seen him or spoken to him in a while.

    . it was so hard to let him go I still think about his touch and kiss every once in a while buy it hurts me I get embarrassed all over again. . Today I was driving down the street and I saw him. He was running on the opposite side of the street. . I froze felt weak at the knees...
    pretypinkpsy pretypinkpsy 22-25, F 1 Response 5 hrs ago

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 80 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 43 Responses Feb 24

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 44 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    The past couple weeks,

    I have been trying so hard to push away from him but even the simple text saying "I miss you" pulls me back to him with such great force. I figured distancing myself and not being as enthusiastic with his compliments would work but he doesn't seem to get it. I don't want to...
    Dancedancedance Dancedancedance 18-21, F 3 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 40 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    If your Mm isnt contacing you whatsoever

    but will speak to people you know and tells then he will be intouch with you and said friend tells you they think you can both sort through it and you message mm asking him if you should change your relationshp back to single on something and he sees the message but never...
    truckinglady5 truckinglady5 36-40, F 2 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    I guess, it is really over over.

    Which if he wasn't done with me, i am totally done with him, but i don't think that will be an issue. He voice mailed me. I called. I know i said i wouldn't, but i did. We work in the same field and thus our paths occasionally cross. Today, my boss emails me, and i notice...
    Grace7277 Grace7277 31-35, F 3 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    Why do all the haters say you're always going

    to be second choice? Maybe we are second choice when he "has" to go home but in reality we aren't second choice in his heart or his mind. I can almost promise that he's thinking about me more than his wife. I can almost promise his heart is starting to lead him else where and...
    tc57 tc57 31-35, F 90 Responses Aug 10

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 37 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 80 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    Help!! I need some retail advise.

    My birthday is this Sunday. My BF told me he's hates shopping so he asked me to go shopping with him and pick out what ever I want for my b-day. Exciting right? Well I'm kinda struggling with this. I know exactly what I want which is a $400-$500 purse and $100 perfume...
    saiyagyrl saiyagyrl 36-40, F 13 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 20 Responses May 6

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    Back in the saddle, as they say.

    ... New guy and I met for the first time after exchanging some great emails. It was wonderful and he's wonderful. He's smart and successful and VERY sexy. He's in a sexless marriage but has never had an affair before. We're very attracted to each other physically...
    CountrySlicker CountrySlicker 51-55, F 5 hrs ago

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    YES!!!! I have noticed

    that some of you ladies get to go to your MM'S house when the W is out of town or whatever. I love the idea of that but for some reason, I never thought it would be a realistic option. When I was with him yesterday, he was telling me about the great back deck he has and I told...
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 31-35, F 8 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    He dropped everything

    and comforted me when my grandfather died, I was with him when my grandmother died and I was with him today when I found out I have autoimmune disease. He's my shoulder to cry on when I can't keep it together and he's strong for me when I can't be strong for myself. I love this...
    SweetAsSugar10 SweetAsSugar10 22-25 8 hrs ago

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    So I was being nosy and reading I am not the

    other woman page.... And it's kind of funny that they think their men don't have genuine feelings for us
    Sidechic79 Sidechic79 31-35 2 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    I just got a text from him saying,

    "Come bathe with me". Oh how I wish I could. He's two hours away. *sigh*
    dolovf dolovf 26-30, F 2 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    Feeling worried this morning.

    We were talking last night, for less than half an hour, when he suddenly vanished, and I've heard nothing since. Really hoping he's just waiting until he gets to work to make contact....
    Katsstory Katsstory 36-40, F 4 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    Does anyone else ever feel guilty

    when it's that time of the month and they can't sleep with their MM? I know that sounds so psychotic, but a part of me gets such bad anxiety that if he can't have sex with me he will leave. This is absurd and irrational, right? I need to basically just smack myself in the face...
    lostanddistraught lostanddistraught 22-25, F 13 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    I am the other women

    that all OW's hate. They cannot handle my intuitive observations and tremble when I tell them the truth about themselves.
    PrincessSpyder PrincessSpyder 41-45, F 6 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 152 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 70 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 14 Responses Jun 2

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 163 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 142 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 17 Responses May 4

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 21 Responses Jan 2

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    Warning of something

    for you NOT to do. I thought I was smart for myself. I created a fake email address. When I am upset or angry I will send off an email to him on this fake address to get it out of my system. The contact is auto programmed so i just type one letter and it comes up Well sent...
    blue963 blue963 46-50, F 7 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Day 12—I get a voicemail at work.

    “Hey olive oil, call me back at work.” He calls me that because he always used to tease me about my Italian heritage. I actually played the message back six times because I couldn’t believe he had called. I waited a couple of hours and dialed him at work. I asked him...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 5 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    Birthdays are the worst.

    Especially the W's. Especially since not that long ago he made my whole birthday week as lovely as possible given our circumstances so I would imagine he is making it special for her. I hate being jealous. I know I have no right to be. But I can't help it. How do you all cope...
    needfixin needfixin 41-45, F 4 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    I haven't had any contact with my AP

    since Tuesday and I probably won't again until this coming Tuesday but I so badly want to text him or call him to tell him that we need to talk but I know that I won't get a reply back or he won't pick up his phone cuz of his GF and if she gets ahold of his phone and sees that I...
    Cagirlie Cagirlie 36-40, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 10 Responses Feb 13

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 103 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    We are both reading the 5 love languages.

    . It's been insightful for both of us (even tho we already pegged each other.. Lol) I just wish there was a book out there for cra cra Italian women In an interracial extramarital love affair. Maybe I'll write one
    MarieVon MarieVon 36-40, F 5 Responses 13 hrs ago

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