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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 16 Responses a week ago

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 47 Responses Jan 10

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 17 Responses Mar 25

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    I am so excited about seeing him in the morning.

    I couldn't sleep right now if I tried. I have turned to reading over some work that I brought home, yes I am a workaholic, in an attempt to make me sleepy. Thursday we are both taking 1/2 a day off of work to get an extended date night. We are both so freakin excited for...
    Randomgirl1122 Randomgirl1122 31-35, F 9 hrs ago

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    So last night I was hanging with some long time

    friends and found myself asking if the one guy was bringing his W or OW. We all like the OW so much better. The W is just no fun. Then we were talking about the relationships and why they're together and how they work (OW for 17 years). It's easy when you're on the outside...
    heartbroken1234 heartbroken1234 36-40, F 4 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 6

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    Tonight my daughter stayed at a friends.

    I used this "alone" time to do two guided meditations. One on letting go and the other to be a more amazing version of myself. I miss him a lot today- but missing someone or something is just a feeling. Feelings can be changed and altered, and oddly I suddenly don't feel like...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I am addicted to my affair.

    I can't stop thinking about it/him.
    shitbyrd shitbyrd 36-40, F 4 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 48 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Yesterday, we got into a bit of a spat.

    MM threw the "I will back off if you don't..." phrase in our conversation. Me being the spiteful woman I am said to him "well if you feel you need to back off due to something trivial, by all means. I will not stop you. i have never begged anyone in my life to stay and I will...
    kc5316 kc5316 22-25, F 4 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 54 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    I had my first sonogram!

    Seeing that little bean on the monitor was a feeling that I honestly cannot even put into words. I could not stop staring at the photograph in my hand, even as the nurse was taking ten tubes of blood. That's my sprout! You're really in there! I also really love my new OB. She is...
    lostanddistraught lostanddistraught 26-30, F 10 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    Despite our talk yesterday I still feel a bit

    anxious. I cannot wait to see him Tomorrow.
    Randomgirl1122 Randomgirl1122 31-35, F 15 hrs ago

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    Several of you know my story.

    .. Texts leading up to our goodnight texts tonight: Him: "I've been laying in bed for the last hour texting you. One year later and nothing has changed...sick!" We carried on with our banter as I wasn't sure what I could say to that about his W just really not making any...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 7 hrs ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 14 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    Danggit. I missed out on seeing mm today

    because I was being stupid and was mad at him for what happened last night. I was supposed to go stay the night with him but he was running really late (not his fault) but he didn't tell me until the last minute. So I made other plans and blocked the notifications on the app we...
    moepeep moepeep 22-25, F 2 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 72 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 168 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 24 Responses Mar 22

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 15 Responses May 4, 2014

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    He came over yesterday.

    I made dinner for him, nothing fancy. We chatted about things. Laughed about it feeling completely unnatural to only see eachother every week. On the outside I was composed... Inside I was burning & screaming in agony. I kept the tears in. He did try to come onto me... But...
    DefinitelyDollie DefinitelyDollie 22-25, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    Had a weird moment with OM today.

    .. he and I met up this afternoon, we made love and afterwards we were laying there, cuddling... I said what was on my mind -- and before I go further, let me just say that I know we should, but don't always -- since sometimes we don't use a condom, he just pulls out.. I said I...
    gianneisstuck gianneisstuck 31-35, F 4 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    I am not the OW, but I'm

    so proud of you ladies. You go through hell and back for these men. You love, comfort, support, and love these men. I do not know how you do it. I read your stories and I'm in awe....sheer breathtaking, gutwrenching, heartbreaking, overwhelming, love-infused awe of you all...
    soldiergirl2 soldiergirl2 41-45, F 11 Responses Apr 6

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    A lot can be said about holding hands.

    I think it's a truly lost art. Weekend with MM was near perfect. We had a great dinner Friday night. Weather was nice so we sat at an outside table, just talking, laughing and holding hands. We didn't get to do the movie thing because his son decided to come home for the...
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 4 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 80 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    Well no me and him time today.

    .. He's got a lot to do there... I understand. I made sure that we would have some us time this week. He said we would. I'm taking this small disappointment in stride. Hell after last weeks news I think I can make it through nearly everything now... It's times like these I...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 3 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    So....I was thinking.

    ..how cool would it be if we could all post a picture of each of us together with our mm/boyfriend/om/ow in a post on here. We Could all put a face to who we were talking to and....I don't know, just to see pictures, I guess. I just like looking at pictures and I think it would...
    sensitiveme sensitiveme 31-35, F 10 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    Ok wow, by this time next week my MM will

    officially be a SM!!! Omg, l feel the need to shout this from the roof tops every day this week, my excitement is just so overwhelming right now!! We have a very romantic getaway planned for next weekend to celebrate, my God ladies..it is going to be epic.! lol lts been so...
    gigglelicious gigglelicious 36-40, F 17 Responses 1 day ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 152 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 28 Responses May 6, 2014

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 90 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    So I pulled the plug last night

    and ended things between MM and myself. Now that my marriage is over, I feel I just can't be the OW anymore. It hurts. There's a hole in my heart now. But I have to believe that it will be ok. He texted this morning but I refuse to reply. Can't quite bring myself to block...
    BrandedScarlet BrandedScarlet 36-40, F 6 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    NO LONGER THE OTHER WOMAN!

    !! I am now the only woman :) it has been officially ended this morning, he was straight on the phone to me who was awesome at playing it cool despite up all night worrying! He was going to come over but we both decided against it as he needs time to recover maybe. He has gone...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 14 Responses Mar 21

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    Haven't heard from him

    since I said bye to him when I was with him Monday night. At first I was wondering if I had done something wrong, apart from stalking his Twitter but know I'm just angry. I messaged him on Monday to let him know id got home ok and nothing!! I'm refusing to reach out to him again...
    Prettybutterfly88 Prettybutterfly88 26-30, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 51 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    Although we all call ourselves the Other Woman

    on here, I think many of us are more than that. The Other Woman kind of makes it sound like we are in second place or just a second option for our men. MM and I did start out that way and it was just a fling which almost a year later has now blossomed into a loving...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 5 Responses 47 mins ago

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    Ugh first time I am feeling frustrated

    and upset with MM. We have plans to meet this morning. Last night I msg him bc I forgot my truck needs to go into the shop today. Not sure yet if I will have a loaner car. So I tell him this and then ask if I don't get one are u willing to come here to visit me. We live 30 mins...
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    Ladies, I need some input.

    How do you know when you are dealing with a narcissist? I have read article after article. My MM does exhibit some of the characteristics but not so spot on all of the time. How can you be sure when it's so very subtle? I'm trying to understand his behavior.
    serendipity65 serendipity65 41-45, F 4 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 204 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 41 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    It's funny when I will go out of my way to wait

    for him. When I go out of my way to see him. When I would drop whatever it is that I am doing to see him. He says he's going into the office today. I ask if I can see him. He says maybe. I suggest he come to my place (which is totally out of the way) before he go into the office...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 2 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    I'm doing so much better

    than I thought I would be but I keep asking myself how do I move on without him. Someone who I love so much. I'm still not mad. I'm just so very sad.
    heartbroken1234 heartbroken1234 36-40, F 2 Responses 22 hrs ago

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