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I Am The Other Woman

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    I am so excited about seeing him in the morning.

    I couldn't sleep right now if I tried. I have turned to reading over some work that I brought home, yes I am a workaholic, in an attempt to make me sleepy. Thursday we are both taking 1/2 a day off of work to get an extended date night. We are both so freakin excited for...
    Randomgirl1122 Randomgirl1122 31-35, F 1 day ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 27 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 41 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    I am not the OW, but I'm

    so proud of you ladies. You go through hell and back for these men. You love, comfort, support, and love these men. I do not know how you do it. I read your stories and I'm in awe....sheer breathtaking, gutwrenching, heartbreaking, overwhelming, love-infused awe of you all...
    soldiergirl2 soldiergirl2 41-45, F 11 Responses Apr 6

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 51 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    I can't believe it but here I am dreading going

    on another date. Stupid online dating. I know I'm not ready to find a boyfriend but it keeps me busy. In reality I've been living most of my life as a single woman for the last 2.5 years since we rarely could be seen in public together. It makes me feel good that another guy is...
    heartbroken1234 heartbroken1234 36-40, F 4 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Several of you know my story.

    .. Texts leading up to our goodnight texts tonight: Him: "I've been laying in bed for the last hour texting you. One year later and nothing has changed...sick!" We carried on with our banter as I wasn't sure what I could say to that about his W just really not making any...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 1 day ago

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    i was. working on accepting the end,

    which was months ago. i am thinking of this- maybe it explains why i am heartbroken- maybe if it had been easy, i wouldn't feel like i lost so much: The Effort-Justification Paradigm Dissonance is aroused whenever a person engages in an unpleasant activity to obtain some...
    hardtiming hardtiming 41-45 2 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 14 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 72 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    THE END. Yes, funny that,

    some of you predicted this. Maybe even I did. He says he left her, I wasn't even asking him to anymore, so when he made a big fuss over her not being right and feeling relief etc I believed it. I still do. But her Facebook profile pic of them never changed. I saw they still txt...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 7 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    Is this Love or just Lust Is this Real

    or just a little school girls Crush There are many of us OW dealing with this relationship, but how many of us know if this is the real thing? " Could this be LOVE" how many of us really know for sure? They say anything worth having is worth fighting for, so my question is how...
    4everhislady 4everhislady 36-40, F 5 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 152 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 19 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    So tired of these men coming on here sending

    PM's... Just because we are the OW doesn't mean we are free game...
    serendipity65 serendipity65 41-45, F 7 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 17 Responses Mar 25

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    Danggit. I missed out on seeing mm today

    because I was being stupid and was mad at him for what happened last night. I was supposed to go stay the night with him but he was running really late (not his fault) but he didn't tell me until the last minute. So I made other plans and blocked the notifications on the app we...
    moepeep moepeep 22-25, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I miss missing him I miss the fantasy I miss

    the spark the magic - my birthday is in about a week - it will be my 4th since we met - I just know he's going to forget and I can't bare to wait for that to happen. Too much wine last night and I told him I had officially given up on another overnight in the town and bnb we...
    Readytomoveon2015 Readytomoveon2015 31-35, F 4 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 52 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    Day 8 of nc! I want to text him

    or call him to coax an answer from him if wer still together. This waiting and wondering is killing me.. Cant txt or call cause i dont know if hes at work or her wife has his phone.. I want to email him. Should i email him? Can i email him or do i just wait for him. This is...
    Rogue9926 Rogue9926 31-35, F 6 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    So in about 105 hours I will at last be holding,

    touching, kissing my sweet MM. It has been a very long 5 months. These next few days will fly by, but also creep slowly past. God I can't wait to look into those deep blue eyes again. I am pledging to never let it be this long between trips again.
    whynot13 whynot13 46-50, F 7 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 54 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Random question for you ladies

    who have a MM with kids..... does your MM discuss his children with you (not just tell you about them but actually discuss) or show you pics/videos of them?
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 20 Responses 1 day ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 204 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 18 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    Depression . A blight on my life.

    Do I feel sorry for myself , I ask myself , I can't ******* answer that one . If I've posted this in the wrong group again , as I keep being told , I'll remove it ! I feel as if I'm a waste of space. I feel as if I've done all I can in my life . Is it time to accept all of my...
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 9 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    An idea for you... I'm pretty creative.

    So I thought I'd share. Right now I'm in my prom dress from high school (10 years ago. Still fits) and I'm waiting on MM to get here. Most of the time we see each other when I'm at the gym, no make up, and in workout clothes. So I came home, got dolled up, pulled some candles...
    lit4love lit4love 26-30, F 3 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 24 Responses Mar 22

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    Tonight on the phone we were chatting about

    being sick. My kiddo isn't feeling well. He suggested I buy her soup. I said no, and something to the effect of we don't eat soup. MM: "wait, you don't eat soup when you're sick?!" I giggled. "Yes I do. But sometimes I don't eat." MM: "You know not eating isn't going to work...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 3 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    I'm paranoid something has happened.

    I deleted everything incase. It's been over 24hrs since I heard from him. His last msg was you tell me the time and I'm gonna surprise you with the place. He's alive as I did send a msg on fb this morning. He read it but did not respond. I can't figure out what's going on. I'm...
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 3 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 86 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    Although we all call ourselves the Other Woman

    on here, I think many of us are more than that. The Other Woman kind of makes it sound like we are in second place or just a second option for our men. MM and I did start out that way and it was just a fling which almost a year later has now blossomed into a loving...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 12 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    I'm feeling so blah today.

    It's about that job that I didn't get last week. And I feel like as much as I'm confident in me and MM, when something else rocks my boat, I start to worry. Get a little anxious. Even though we met this morning. He can't meet tomorrow morning... Wednesday he has counseling...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 3 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    Its monday. Start of the week.

    For the past two years mondays are the happiest day for me coz i get to talk to Mm and see him within the week. But now hes gone. 7 days of nc. Now i dont have anthing to look forward to.
    Rogue9926 Rogue9926 31-35, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 28 Responses May 6, 2014

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 6

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 153 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    The feeling of being with the other woman I'm

    Single she married the forbidden fruit The Sweetest. She pretty much pimp her husband out he work the money come to her.
    Nicollete95 Nicollete95 18-21, F 1 Response 14 hrs ago

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    Normal day today and lunch time rolls around

    and I decided to go to the Sports store close to work and get myself some new running shoes...as I make the corner of one of the aisles there he is!! Looking at exercise stuff! out of all the places to shop and all the places in this big darn city we end up going to the same one...
    clamar44 clamar44 26-30, F 2 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 48 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    I told MM today that

    when I'm getting out of my car and walking to my door, sometimes I have this vision of him, bags packed, waiting on me at the door. He asked, "what would be the first thing I would say?" I told him, "you wouldn't say anything. You wouldn't need to." He told me, I almost...
    lit4love lit4love 26-30, F 2 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Day 8 NC...well he emailed me this morning

    about a work thing. I cried. I just replied "Thank you". Then I sent him a text saying how sad I am but that it's not as bad as when I was waiting on him. That I miss our friendship and hope one day we'll be in a place where we can work on that again but for now NC really needs...
    heartbroken1234 heartbroken1234 36-40, F 2 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    Finally heard from him.

    So yes they had party last night. Then he got up this morning got his son off to school and went straight back to bed. He said he's tired nothing personal. I'm still upset at the fact that we made plans for today and he just left me hanging. Anyways I just sent that in a msg...
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 2 Responses 8 hrs ago

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