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I Am The Other Woman

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    For whatever reason it may be,

    I am lying here wondering tonight what his life must be like with his wife now that I am gone. She knows about our 4 year affair. She knows intimate details.. Nearly all of them. She knew 2 years in and kept finding out more and more and more information. I spoke with her myself...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 8 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 48 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    The ahole responded to my email to blame me

    for ruining everything. For doing it on his birthday how I completely offended him and he didn't lie to me. He continues to tell me he is done. HE IS DONE. That I hurt him! And to not come back because he doesn't want to speak to me again. Then he closes it with a leave me and...
    New2ThisToo New2ThisToo 36-40, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    I know never and up pregnant I'm dyslexic

    and was in special ed but I know a woman can't get another woman pregnant took three years of biology high school. But have any of you have a pregnancy scare?
    Nicollete95 Nicollete95 18-21, F 1 day ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 28 Responses May 6, 2014

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 168 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 28 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    I'm NOT the other woman (it's been 10+ years)

    but I like to post on this forum. Has anyone kept in touch with their former partner after MANY years & the connection is still there? We will NEVER see each other again but the love will always be there. We talk on the phone & email but that's as far as it will EVER go. He...
    DreamGolfer DreamGolfer 46-50, F 4 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    My guy just told me he gets jealous of the

    thought of me with other guys, even my husband.. Blew me away. One of the biggest issues for his wife is that he is not possessive over her at all and she wishes he was.. So I just wasn't expecting this. Thoughts?
    Missmetomorrow Missmetomorrow 22-25, F 2 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Great question for you.

    You've been married for what, 7 years? And you have been with me for 5 of those years, right? Sure you love her. Yea that's long lasting. Keep using the kids as an excuse and to keep busy because you obviously don't have a relationship with your wife if you needed me in your...
    New2ThisToo New2ThisToo 36-40, F 7 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 47 Responses Jan 10

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 14 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 26 Responses 6 days ago

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    "I beg you, to have patience with everything

    unresolved in your heart and to try to love the questions themselves as if they were locked rooms or books written in a very foreign language. Don’t search for the answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 1 Response 20 hrs ago

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 23 Responses Mar 22

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    Hello all - How do you create a "Private Group

    Post" - Is that even possible? New Trolls appearing from the moss .....
    kitty1958 kitty1958 56-60, F 3 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    I am not the OW, but I'm

    so proud of you ladies. You go through hell and back for these men. You love, comfort, support, and love these men. I do not know how you do it. I read your stories and I'm in awe....sheer breathtaking, gutwrenching, heartbreaking, overwhelming, love-infused awe of you all...
    soldiergirl2 soldiergirl2 41-45, F 11 Responses Apr 6

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 103 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 86 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    NO LONGER THE OTHER WOMAN!

    !! I am now the only woman :) it has been officially ended this morning, he was straight on the phone to me who was awesome at playing it cool despite up all night worrying! He was going to come over but we both decided against it as he needs time to recover maybe. He has gone...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 14 Responses Mar 21

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 204 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 51 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    The ups and the downs.

    He has those. Counseling today. Tip toes around his conversation about her- he says he and his counselor talked about how he's angry at and with her- he leaves it there. Partially for my own protection. He omits details. I am the one encouraging him to attend counseling so he...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 6 hrs ago

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    I know I came her with some incredibly specific

    intentions but I've engaged in some pretty good discussions. What I want to know is how does this make me a troll?
    peteristheman peteristheman 31-35, M 10 Responses 1 day ago

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    Okay. Wonderful weekend

    for us. Thank you American for giving us an extra day. My new favorite airlines. I picked him Saturday morning at the airport, since I drove to the convention, no point in him getting a rental and using up that extra time. I will report that the 5 month separation made us...
    whynot13 whynot13 46-50, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 41 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    So for some reason I chose to self torture

    myself when it comes to ex MM. Why can't I just fully get over him and keep him out my life? I think it's bc I'm very needy especially when it comes to attention. He gives me so much attention. Lately it's all good attention. I think he has decided he was getting nowhere with...
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 2 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    I feel stuck. Not sure what to do

    or where to go now. I don't know if I should continue to see mm or if I need to move on. I'm avoiding deciding. I'm avoiding that decision for as long as I can because I have hope that one day I'll just wake up and know exactly what to do. I know that's not realistic but it's...
    moepeep moepeep 22-25, F 2 Responses 32 mins ago

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    Post to wives to I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    (NOWs). Please come to "I am not the other woman" group. In one day I've had alot of support messages and people posting who haven't been cheated on but want to support. Be here if you must but at least come visit the NOW group and post how you feel and how your healing and...
    paliglass paliglass 31-35, F 6 hrs ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 54 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Just got back from the doctor's office

    and I can honestly say there is no greater sound that I have ever heard in my life than the sound of my child's heartbeat. She is five times bigger than the last time I was there and they changed my due date because she is such a tiny little thing! They also talked to me about a...
    lostanddistraught lostanddistraught 26-30, F 12 Responses 1 day ago

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 17 Responses Mar 25

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 154 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 19 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    MM started my day off with two songs he sent.

    I'll post the link for one. It's beautiful. Good day with H today. He set up his anger management assessment today. Ex MM called today. Wanted to get together. I said I was busy. He msg for a bit then I left the convo. Here's the song: http://youtu.be/bGZHaLc0AtM
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Very OW unrelated, however I would like to put

    up a profile pic. I use my phone rather than my computer, does anyone know how to do this using their phones. Thank you
    Notgoodatusernames Notgoodatusernames 41-45, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    I guess I will get some heat on this one.

    ..but I am a big girl.....here it goes So many people on here to give advice and suggest that the man will "never" leave his wife...and us woman fall so deep in love with our MM that we can't see the light of day....NOT TRUE...def not true in all affairs.... I am married (not...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 8 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Not good today, trying to dig deep.

    I'm trying so hard to stay away from him and end this. He makes it easy for me because he vanishes for so long. But when he turns up its a totally different story. Last time wanted to know if I had a man. Well no but I dont see at this point what it matters to him. Except for my...
    ayliffe ayliffe 41-45, F 1 Response 10 hrs ago

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    It makes my heartache

    when there's "stuff" going on in his life that I cannot help him overcome. Thankful he chooses to talk to me through his rough times. He's my best friend.
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 10 hrs ago

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    So my guy and I have a wonderful relationship.

    We see each other most days (skip some Saturdays) several times a day. He is generous, kind, thoughtful, never late. I'm always able to contact him. But yesterday we had a dip. I got scared about what the future would hold. He has told me later that it felt like I was dragging...
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 6

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 51 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    Hello Ladies My first time here ,

    been looking for this kind of chat room . I feel like I am gonna lose my mind . I needed to talk to someone who has walked my shoes .. Well here it goes . When I first saw him a year ago I felt like I have met my kind of man both physically and mentally . We almost think alike...
    BluePearl64 BluePearl64 31-35, F 5 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    His wife found out in January

    that he has been talking and texting me a lot. That's all, just talking and texting, not the full-blown affair that we have. But she doesn't allow him to talk to me again. I think it spooked him enough but he went against her and got a Apple burner phone for us to talk and face...
    Aisurukoto Aisurukoto 41-45, F 17 Responses 1 day ago

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 17 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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