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I Am The Other Woman

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 14,570 People

    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 41-45, F 73 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    deleted deleted 26-30 17 Responses Feb 6, 2015

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    b4realz b4realz 26-30, F 150 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    Yesterday: Realization.

    It's been thirty-four days. Thirty-four days since I last "heard" from him. Since his vague... and yet still somehow sentencing, 'Going through some family issues. Please don't text.' Thirty. Four. Days. Of silence. And not our usual comfortable silence, where we...
    OneSweetThing OneSweetThing 31-35, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I have married men tied up in my basement.

    Most of them are delivery drivers. :)
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 10 Responses 2 days ago

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    It must be truly hard

    for the woman who takes her cheating husband back. After DDay, where the families, friends, church members have been told about their cheating spouse, it must be extremely difficult to rebuild the marriage, when watched on by many. People can be cruel. The marriage is...
    ifoundmehere ifoundmehere 46-50, F 8 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    He just left to go on with his day.

    And I have things I need to do as well. He came this morning with a huge bouquet of flowers. I helped him with a resume. Then we snuggled and watched a bit of tv, and made love as well. It's been a wonderful morning. Filled with laughter and love.
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I have to be honest here.

    Not only am I the other woman but I also am the other woman in outer space. I fly in a rocket ship to other planets. I've successfully been a home wrecker on Mercury, Mars and Venus. Jupiter has been challenging because of the toxic gases. Happy joyful alien wives of...
    Tullia1510 Tullia1510 46-50, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 24 Responses Apr 30, 2015

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    The battle is raging.

    He hasn't slept in days. He keeps staring at his kid all night. He is still forced to sleep in the same room as her. His family is the opposite of supportive. They are the ones he has to fight and convince. I don't know how to support him through this anymore. His parents say...
    coolvolatile coolvolatile 31-35, F 3 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 33 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Honestly I'd beat the life out of ANY b!

    tch who tries to ruin my family and my marriage. There's enough men out there, there's no need for sharing ladies.
    Cleopatra05 Cleopatra05 18-21, F 28 Responses Dec 28, 2015

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 51-55, F 169 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 29 Responses May 6, 2014

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    Nothing like an impromptu movie night with the

    man I love. He texted and asked when I was up to. I told him I was starting a movie and 10 minutes later..while I was waiting for a return text.. he walked in my door :)
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    I met a SG. A good one.

    First date at a coffee shop yesterday lasted for six hours. Just talking. And an amazing kiss afterward. Then we texted until bed. He is beautiful and sweet and smart and athletic. And he digs me a whole bunch. Best of all, he has been divorced for nearly 20 years. He was so...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 26 Responses Jan 11

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    The Universe’s Plan

    for You Cosmic Support by Madisyn Taylor Nothing happens in our lives and in the world without purpose. The path that speeds us toward our dreams can be a challenging and complex one, so it’s easy to get bogged down in confusion and insecurities. We often hesitate at the...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 1 day ago

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    Being Aware of Your Thoughts Curative

    Attentiveness by Madisyn Taylor We seldom accept negative comments from others, however, we so often accept our own inner negative chatter. Few people enjoy the company of individuals whose attitudes are persistently negative. Yet many of us tolerate the critical chatter...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 1 Response 22 hrs ago

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    The other woman isn't always a home-wrecker.

    Sometimes she's a home-mender. I had been faithful to my dear husband for over 20 years. For many years I thought there was something wrong with me. Maybe I wasn't sexy. Why didn't he want me the way I wanted him? I grew to understand that we just had very different desire...
    livingasme livingasme 51-55, F 17 Responses May 15, 2015

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    He's finally coming to stay night tomorrow.

    His work schedule has been hectic with business trips for almost a month so haven't had much chance to meet eachother. he said he will come stay 2nights over this weekend for valentine !! I can't wait to see him !!! I hope you all have a great valentine's! !
    honeybutterchip honeybutterchip 41-45, F 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 1 day ago

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    OH. MY. GOD. It's final,

    he's single, and as of 9:37am today I am no longer the OW!!!
    Shardsofsorrow Shardsofsorrow 31-35, F 66 Responses Jul 29, 2015

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 19 Responses Mar 22, 2015

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 15 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    It has everything to do with US

    and our chemistry and openness and love and lust #hiswords
    LLLinCincy LLLinCincy 36-40, F 3 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 48 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    No longer!! It hurts like hell right now

    but I believe I can get through......somehow. I've been literally shaking, nauseous, and can't stay out of the bathroom most of the morning. The turn of events that have occurred today......has me sick to my stomach! I can't say that deep down im not happy that its over but...
    Lishadntplay Lishadntplay 26-30, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I have to be honest here .

    ..Not only Am I The Other Woman , I have 3 MM And not one knows about the other ! It's hard to juggle sometimes .And guess what I love it !!
    peachy115 peachy115 51-55, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    Poor MM, he is off work sick.

    Poor me, home alone also sick. But 2hrs on Facetime from bed definitely cheered us both up :-)) Such a rare treat and second time this week. They do say that every cloud has a silver lining...
    daisyblue222 daisyblue222 41-45, F 1 Response 24 mins ago

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    Looking back it is funny how easily I fell into

    the trap of becoming 'the other woman.' The first flash of distress - a wounded soul no less, and I dived into the murky water. He told me that I was his oxygen. I was a mermaid Saint Bernard with the reviving elixir strapped to my neck. Strangely, I found two unmarried men...
    Faerylight Faerylight 41-45, F 19 Responses Jun 21, 2015

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 53 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    MM is so cute. He is

    so excited about fixing up my laptop for me. He has it all ready to go, just needs to come and put it in, he said I will like it. It's very fast. The original specs on the motherboard list 4g of ram, this one has 8g, so it seems someone added a stick. This made it an extra...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 1 day ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 205 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    ...No More... Although I've been lurking in

    this forum for quite some time, aside from this story EP Link posted in August last year, I have not been very active. How most people end up here? With the exception of the so called "Spider Women" who make it their life's mission to go around messing up with people's lives...
    neeia neeia 41-45, F 15 Responses 1 day ago

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    Just read some posts from the other side.

    Do they not have anything to talk about?
    independentandstubborn independentandstubborn 51-55, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 19, 2015

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    Just in case you are pondering about men

    and why they don't initiate divorce, this is a great article to read. Don't over analyze it. It may or may not apply to you/your man. Just read it so you have another perspective. I think this one offers a little bit more insights but not a white paper or academic journal...
    ReflectedSoul ReflectedSoul 41-45, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    Though he is still working.

    His diverticulitis is flaring up today. Doesn't happen as often as it used too, but still painful for him when it does. :( Don't think he will be too chatty this evening if he's still not feeling well. A couple of days of bland food usually helps. Poor guy.
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 4 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    He finally responded to me

    after over two months of the unexplained NC. He claimed he told his wife about me. Not who I was or the extent of things. He said he's faced the affair head on with his wife, his family and his therapists. He said he was sorry for leaving with no word. He said he was trying to...
    infusedheart infusedheart 31-35, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    Well I think it's over now.

    .. I blocked him and her and neither have attempted contact thankfully. He texted me this morning asking me if I made a fake FB profile. What the hell he doesn't even have FB. I don't know what that was about and didn't ask. Yes I went with my sister and brother in law to...
    AvaLennon1 AvaLennon1 31-35, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    Best reply to a text from me.

    .. "I was just thinking about you :)" He worked on the blazer a bit and now he's working on the laptop he picked up with the motherboard I am getting. No network drivers, but he's working on it. :)
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 47 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Mikun15 Mikun15 26-30, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    I just deleted 11553 text messages off of my

    phone. No wonder it was slow lol.
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 2 Responses 10 hrs ago

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