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I Am The Other Woman

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    I GET TO SEE HIM!!!!!

    !!!! Finally, schedules meshed and the planets aligned and the ocean tides are all in harmony, the Gods are smiling and all the ducks got in a row...... LOL, sorry, but that is what it feels like has to happen for us to see each other. It has been over a month and I am ready...
    MlovesM MlovesM 41-45, F 8 Responses 1 day ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 25 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    I was trying to figure out

    if I should even put in my pathetic post today or not but so many of us seem to be feeling it today. It's weird but I have shared little of the downs because sometimes I fear others may identify me but it's a little too rough today. My mm has been very honest and forthcoming...
    Onceinalifetime2 Onceinalifetime2 46-50, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Out of nowhere MM texts me; "Have I ever told

    you how beautiful you are?" "Miss you" I texted back: "Miss you more Moneky" Feeling the love today.
    blackheels4me blackheels4me 36-40, F 3 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 62 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 159 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    I just want to say thank you to all you lovely

    ladies, who I think of as my friends now. I was feeling low this evening, because it being the weekend I know I won't be in much contact with my sweetheart. You have all made me feel so much better, and have really put me in a good mood tonight. My weekend will be so much...
    kellysperfectlove kellysperfectlove 46-50, F 13 Responses Mar 8

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 44 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Moving On.....I Didn'T Think I Would Ever Be Able To Say That

    I must admit that I have been pretty much obsessed over the man I cheated with. I haven't talked to him in over a year since the truth about us came out. But everyday I think about him and wonder how he is, what he is doing, how his son is, if he thinks about me at all...
    SS81 SS81 31-35, F 67 Responses May 8, 2013

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 27 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 61 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    A How To List

    Hello to everyone especially those drawn here by the Facebook postings. For the record, I am not "Keeping it real in Kendall". Since most of you are brand new to EP let me be the first to welcome you! Please take a moment to read the Terms of Service before commenting. This is a...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 105 Responses Aug 25, 2013

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    The last couple of days I really wanted to share

    but got so brassed off with the trolls etc I just couldn't be bothered. I got to see the OM on Wednesday. He had to cancel on Monday due to a change of plans - disappointment reared its ugly little head. Then when I got told 'hopefully' he would see me Wednesday I decided...
    CuriousKat12 CuriousKat12 51-55, F 19 hrs ago

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    Dear Jason, I hate it

    when you send me dirty texts. That's not true, I like it. It's fun. It's flirty. But you make me feel slutty. And I feel like I have to play along. I feel like I can't turn around and say, don't ask me what I'm waring, ask me about my day, because I had a really awesome day and...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    It's now been 1 week

    since hearing from my MM. He took his daughter to visit colleges out of state for a few days so I knew there would be a break. I just thought I would have heard by now. So frustrating! Per you ladies' previous good advice I have been keeping busy to try to keep my mind off...
    kalikakat kalikakat 36-40 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 48 Responses Feb 16

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    My Secret Gold Coin

    You don’t know it, but I think of you as a beautiful, precious, shiny gold coin that I keep secretly hidden in my pocket. I feel happy knowing that you are in there, but unhappy knowing that you have to stay hidden. I wish I could show you off to friends, but they wouldn’t...
    jenn80 jenn80 51-55 18 Responses May 23, 2013

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    I am so sad right now,

    reality slapped me in the face. As I have said before my mm used me he is a womanizer and took advantage of my vulnerability. I was the idiot that fell in love he was very clear he didn't wants relationship with me and to not fall in love this is only S and fun, no drama. It was...
    Gweneth Gweneth 31-35 14 Responses 1 day ago

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    When I wake up, I reach

    for someone who likely isn't there. I don't get a morning kiss, I don't get to make his lunch. I don't have the right to call him at work, or to ask him to pick up something on his way home. On a day to day basis I don't get to have dinner with him, I don't get to watch him as...
    notafanofcircumstance notafanofcircumstance 31-35, F 22 Responses Mar 17

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    I don't know about the rest of you,

    but I wish it was this easy to find people to be friends with who understand us and we can be blunt with IN PERSON I do not have any friends who I can be open with and share this life I live with and I just wish this sort of group was available to go out and have a drink with...
    Kadl Kadl 46-50, F 37 Responses Mar 26

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 204 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 74 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    I never meant for it to be this way.

    Initially, he and I broke up, and in that time, his ex came back into the picture, and I supported him, especially since he shares two kids with her. I told him I wanted him to be happy. Hell, when we split, I told him he should go back to her; it just happened that, in the...
    HDMama HDMama 22-25, F 2 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    I hope I've blocked enough trolls

    so I can repost this from a story I wrote for "I am Married and having an affair" without getting run over the coals. But then I can always delete and block... I have been in an affair since September of 2007....Your assumptions that I am a soul sucking seductresses or a...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 10 Responses Mar 16

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    Apology To My OW Who Stopped Waiting, Really Stopped Waiting

    I am truly and unreservedly sorry for what I have put you through. Whatever the reasons, the result is that I took far too long to get freed up for you or to let you go. I don't even feel like I gave you everything I could while we were in this phase. I could have given you a...
    Wilbury Wilbury 41-45, M 13 Responses May 4, 2013

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 82 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    I'm sure most of you ladies know this by now

    but browserbowser is another pathetic troll!!! We all need to block him. 👹
    Cheeks2014 Cheeks2014 36-40, F 9 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    Both Sides of the Fence!

    I lived in a sexless marriage for many years. My spouse did not. He like dripping his wick elsewhere, through our entire marriage. I didn't want to catch any thing so... glad he was getting taken care of ...cause he wasn't touching me again... that was for sure! I am divorce...
    MorningBreeze MorningBreeze 56-60, F 28 Responses Feb 15

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    I hate the way that sounds.

    Because in many ways I was THE woman...we connected, we fit, we found something rare and whole and fulfilling and wonderful. It started as a genuine friendship, depth, understanding. We never intended it to be more, but the power of finding a mind and heart connection is...
    Kadl Kadl 46-50, F 13 Responses Feb 18

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    Food for thought.... I know a lot of our

    criticism (if that word isn't too nice) comes from those that base everything on the vows taken by a husband and wife. I toy with this in my head. Sighting my own marriage. I recited those vows too. "Until death do us part". These vows are based on biblical principles and...
    justanotherow justanotherow 41-45, F 3 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    Who knew you could go from miserable to amazing.

    .. my Husband has told me that now after 2.5 years coming up with all these different ways to make US work, and coming up with new ones again and again after they all failed... I DID everything... I mean everything! Nothing worked.. then he tells me yesterday... that he was not...
    WendyBlabs WendyBlabs 36-40, F 20 Responses Mar 15

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    I have been following this experience

    for a long time now, and finally, I feel the need to write. I write this only for those of you that are hoping your mm will leave his wife. I see so much sadness and pain on this site, it's heartbreaking. I am the wife, and my husband didn't leave. Not because of the kids...
    Uht2014 Uht2014 46-50, F 9 Responses 1 day ago

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    Are any of you guys actually friends

    or "acquaintances" with the wife of your MM? I actually have her on my Facebook! We (him and I) are very careful on commenting or liking or posting stuff on there to each other or anything so me and MM don't make it suspicious at all but I still feel weird of having her there...
    musicandnotes musicandnotes 22-25, F 8 Responses 1 day ago

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    d-Day... curtains drawing,

    the finale begins! ok ladies & EP fans. Today is the day! D-day for this experience and this moment. I set my set a deadline, a time limit for some things. And I'm now down to the wire of ending things. I gave myself a time line that if I had not rec'd communication...
    chie5189 chie5189 36-40 3 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 101 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    Grabbed an early dinner with my man

    after work. I hadn't planned to talk to him about my dinner with our mutual friend and what she'd told me about him texting her but he kept pushing for me to tell him what's been on my mind the last couple of days. So I finally caved and told him. I told him that I don't need...
    GenieH22 GenieH22 36-40, F 4 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 42 Responses Feb 24

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    Refreshed and ready to go today.

    Deep breath. Doing better after some sleep. I want to thank all of the wonderful women here for their support. I don't know why I let last night bother me so much. It wasn't the dumba**es opinion of me, it was about bringing Mike into it. I'm better and I don't care today...
    blackheels4me blackheels4me 36-40, F 3 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    Wow...I've been offline lately

    and saw the posts about increased troll activity since signing on again. You weren't kidding! How sad that some people have nothing better in their lives to do. These boards are supposed to be about supporting others in similar situations, not attacking views that don't...
    kalikakat kalikakat 36-40 2 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 9 Responses Feb 11

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 22-25, F 20 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Just now you texted me you are in KTV with your

    guy friends, keep explaining the reasons why you are there and promising you are there for drinks only...... Hey, I am just your OW, I will not angry with what you are doing, actually I don't have the right to angry. I keep telling myself I AM JUST YOUR OW, I cannot and...
    Lookandsee Lookandsee 31-35, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I met someone online

    when I was going through a hard time. He did not specifically admitted to being married at first, or I would have never agreed to meet or got close to him. Once I found out he was still married, and worse still, he wanted to remain married I was shocked but I was already in love...
    NemiTuesday NemiTuesday 36-40, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    2 days ago, wednesday,

    my mm arrived with a gloomy face. He told me that his daughter's lab result was really bad. She have type 2 diabetes by the way. He was very silent and just put his head on my lap and watched tv. Ive never seen him that helpless. I asked him if he wants to have dinner with me...
    AtPeaceEros AtPeaceEros 31-35, F 4 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Feeling good today! It's Friday

    and a holiday weekend! Talking to my MM over an hour while he drove home from work was just the icing on the cake! Our convo's are always full of some good laughs as we talk about any and everything. We both love to joke around and I love his humor. It's usually when we are...
    Lauryn0114 Lauryn0114 31-35, F 2 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 19 Responses Jan 2

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 124 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    How badly I want to express the way I feel to

    him. How badly I don't want to be the only one of us that feels this way. It kills me to not know what he's thinking or what he's feeling.
    kc5316 kc5316 22-25, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Despite the influx of negativity I am in good

    spirits this morning and shall remain that way :) It's been a good week even if I did have a temper tantrum Tuesday lol! Wednesday I got to have lunch with MM, yesterday my children and he and his children all had dinner after their award ceremony. Today though! We get to spend...
    ginaree ginaree 36-40, F 5 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    * was the other woman.

    I am numb.... Confused, angry. My ex MM told his 2 ******* he was ******* (they r besties and didnt know about it he said exactly same things to them) that I was a prostitute who was harrassing him... Like... I have never been more offended. They obviously heard about me and...
    conflicted2014 conflicted2014 22-25, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    Well, I was the other woman.

    :*( My heart hearts. Mostly I am furious because his fiancé was actually understanding and she is still choosing to stay with him. I told her everything and she said that she knows there are 1000 reasons why she should leave him but she loves him and wants to stay together. "We...
    cowgurrl cowgurrl 22-25, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    What I learned recently - 1) Strong marriages

    can not be broken. If someone has an "other" someone, things were already broken on some level. 2) I have kids. I run a household. I manage a company. I still have time in my day to make my MM feel like he's the most important person in the world. If spouses did this - cheating...
    notafanofcircumstance notafanofcircumstance 31-35, F 10 Responses Mar 25

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    I came home from work with these messages

    awaiting me; Does it ever make you wonder... That you feel down today not because of "trolls", but because somewhere inside you realize that you don't feel happy because you don't deserve to feel happy, because you haven't earned it? That it is karma in a way.... That you...
    blackheels4me blackheels4me 36-40, F 6 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 34 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    I got home from work signed on,

    wanting to read and catch up on what I missed, supporting other women who are in the same yet different, situations as me. I can't. I have no interest in helping other women after being bashed as I was through messaging. I'm seriously not considering coming back here tomorrow...
    blackheels4me blackheels4me 36-40, F 15 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 149 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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