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I Am The Other Woman

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 95 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    b4realz b4realz 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    My friend asked me about ex MM today.

    She wondered if he's tried to contact me. The first thing out of my mouth was 'nope and I don't want him to'!! I really truly meant it.
    Freedomnow01 Freedomnow01 31-35, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Well, I just booked my flights to go

    and see MM, for the first time in 5 months! We will get 2 evenings and a whole day. And he will come to me to visit in Oct. It's been a really tough time and we almost didn't survive, but now we have this to look forward to. Just 2 weeks to go... :-)
    daisyblue222 daisyblue222 41-45, F 6 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    So my ex husband moved out a year

    and a half ago. Yeah still has crap in the house. Grr. But I leave his closet empty. I joke with mm that it's his closet waiting for him. Today I told him that I was going to get him this little stuffed animal for Christmas (as a joke) he said, well you'll have to keep it in my...
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 6 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 22 Responses Mar 22

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 19 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    I'm done with men. MM is being

    so strange. Can't stand my exH. I don't want to talk or interact with either of them at all. I'm done.
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 7 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 41-45, F 75 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 45 Responses Jan 10

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    Well it's official...

    I accepted the job. Too decent to refuse and it makes so much more sense for single me and my kids. . . . I am devestated.
    ElsieJay ElsieJay 41-45, F 5 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    This is truly what I want one day.

    What I need. I sent it to MM as well. He agreed that it is the hardest part of our relationship, but frankly it is also what will kill it because one can't be in the shadows forever. Hugs my friends. Just thought it was beautiful
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    I cant do this anymore,

    its too hard and hurts too much. How can one man cause so much pain and so much self loathing! I hate him for the way he's making me feel but I miss him. I cant stop the tears today, I just want it all to just go away.
    Prettybutterfly88 Prettybutterfly88 26-30, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 19

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    (Ex)MM texted me tonight to ask

    if it was okay to call me. I was surprised that seeing his name on my phone screen didn't cause my heart to skip a beat quite like it always has. It's been an emotional week and I've been missing him terribly, so it was reassuring to discover that missing him doesn't mean I'm...
    ashadams244 ashadams244 26-30, F 4 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 14 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    Not in a very good place tonight

    and pushed and pushed to the end. Maybe i should just go to sleep and try to avoid it all.
    blue963 blue963 51-55, F 16 mins ago

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    he thinks its okay to just talk.

    remain friends. says he understands why I left. needs me in his life... not sure this is a good thing. thankfully he leaves soon for school. 8 weeks of no potential suprise visits. I don't want to have to block him...seems so juvenile. it makes me feel weak, confused and...
    infinitymdc79 infinitymdc79 36-40, F 2 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 32 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    I would love to send this to ex-MM

    because it sums up my feelings so perfectly. But of course I won't.
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 36-40, F 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    I think my ex MW expected a tearful

    and happy hello from me last night. I can't be fake and I'm not gona be either. I've pushed my feelings aside for way to long as if my feelings in this don't matter.....hey you know what?! **** THAT! I don't know what's changed in me since nearly 3 weeks of no contact.....but I...
    Imouttie1 Imouttie1 31-35, F 1 Response 7 hrs ago

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    My mother has been a cheater,

    and a mistress to the same man for 9 years now. I resent her so much for it, due to the fact that my father has been so heart broken and loves her so much, he hasn't left. I am 18 years old now. I have been " the other woman" for technically 3 years now. Although I feel as...
    amariss13 amariss13 18-21, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 80 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    When someone you love,

    supports you, you feel like you can accomplish anything and you have the courage to tackle everything! Could not have made it through this month of work, especially this last week without MM's support. I have a hard time saying no and I took on way too many projects. This week...
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 2 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 42 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    ExH and situation around him wasn't

    as terrible as I anticipated. My kids back- thank God!! I was so happy to see her face today. She comes home fully on Saturday. I spent two days perseverating over ExH and that situation that I was letting it seep into my relationship with MM. I've had to apologize all over...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    NO LONGER THE OTHER WOMAN!

    !! I am now the only woman :) it has been officially ended this morning, he was straight on the phone to me who was awesome at playing it cool despite up all night worrying! He was going to come over but we both decided against it as he needs time to recover maybe. He has gone...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 12 Responses Mar 21

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    How is this for a coincidence,

    I had a DDay a few days back and now OM has nearly had one. We are on extremely low contact right now. Just the Gmorning, gmite and one or two msgs during the day! She has not seen any text, or pic or msg, but she is convinced that OM is having an affair. I have not been...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 9 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 170 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 48 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Ok so over the last few days I have been

    involved in an unhealthy exchange with another member here. I got my back up because of some of her posts and the insensitivity that seemed to be contained in them. I wanted to call her out and challenge her behavior but it has gone too far. She is over stressed about all of...
    Freedomnow01 Freedomnow01 31-35, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    After a great workout last night,

    I started thinking about the progress I've made since I first decided to get back in shape a couple of years ago. At the time, I couldn't even run a full mile without stopping, and it felt like I'd never get back to where I wanted to be. There were so many times I just wanted...
    ashadams244 ashadams244 26-30, F 4 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    Almost made it a whole week without fighting!

    !! Until today... It was bad lol esp bc it was at work and it ****** him off more there... He's like u always fight with me u start it I try to not fight with u... He said in the beginning u were the only one who could calm me down and get me out of a bad mood but now u don't do...
    ap05 ap05 26-30, F 3 hrs ago

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    wordweapon wordweapon 41-45, F 1 day ago

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    What a day mm and I both still have our jobs

    and are thankful.... All together 8 managers fired about 25-30 reps gone.... It was really scary today I've never seen anything like this before... When he and I went to lunch it was like u could cut the tension with a knife everyone was on edge.... He was afraid for his job and...
    ap05 ap05 26-30, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    So I have been the other woman now

    for 5 months. I am also in a LTR for over 10 years with kids. Not completely sure what the hell I'm doing. I have met someone that fulfills so many things I'm missing or that I never knew I could feel that way again. I went and met him today. It was amazing to get to see him...
    Sunkitten Sunkitten 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Miss him like crazy tonight.

    I haven't felt this kind of a painful, sad yearning for him for years... this is how I used to feel quite often way back when, before we were even together and I was falling in love from afar. I had almost forgotten how painful this feeling can be. We just texted our good...
    ladyquaintrelle ladyquaintrelle 22-25, F 8 Responses 2 days ago

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 16 Responses Mar 25

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    After silence of 2 years.

    His wife,called me yesterday. She was upset cause he is having an affair. I was put through hell by his,wife. My current lover isn't happy,about her calling. I thought I was over him. All her calling did was make wonder .Why I can't forget him? I been in faithful relationship...
    butterflylady21 butterflylady21 46-50, F 10 Responses 1 day ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 161 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 16 Responses Feb 6

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 53 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    I deleted my account

    and started over. So let me retype my story. Some of you already know me- from all the advice and words of encouragement that I constantly dispense, but I guess I should post a story for any of my reader fans to refer to. Why the heck am I giving advice? Here's why... I am not...
    tinyivory tinyivory 36-40, F 4 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses