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I Am The Other Woman

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 45 Responses Jan 10

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 14 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    chavacc11 chavacc11 26-30, F 17 hrs ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 170 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    Relationship Fast . .

    . Day 5! This day begun with a resolution To REMOVE any feeding energy that was growing my " Why am i not receiving voice. " You know that voice that shifts your Focus by duping you into measuring a relationship by factors outside your control. Then you start hurting because...
    Strawberrygiggles Strawberrygiggles 41-45, F 2 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    For those of us who just ended things,

    or are hanging by a thread, the positive side of this freedom... No more watching them text back and forth like tweeners on our dates. No more lonely Sundays, feeling sad that it's an NC day. No more laying in bed every night wondering what they're doing in bed together. No...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 19 Responses Jul 12

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 48 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 42 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 18 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    NO LONGER THE OTHER WOMAN!

    !! I am now the only woman :) it has been officially ended this morning, he was straight on the phone to me who was awesome at playing it cool despite up all night worrying! He was going to come over but we both decided against it as he needs time to recover maybe. He has gone...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 12 Responses Mar 21

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    Looking back it is funny how easily I fell into

    the trap of becoming 'the other woman.' The first flash of distress - a wounded soul no less, and I dived into the murky water. He told me that I was his oxygen. I was a mermaid Saint Bernard with the reviving elixir strapped to my neck. Strangely, I found two unmarried men...
    Faerylight Faerylight 41-45, F 17 Responses Jun 21

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    They say everything happens

    for a reason and I am such a true believer of that. Two weeks ago I was dreading this week. I had already pictured in my mind that I was going to be miserable, that I would be drinking large glasses of wine every night and that I would be crying myself to sleep. Is this a norm...
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 2 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    How long does it take to stop thinking about

    your exMM? The man who told you he was living at his mothers for the past 2.5 if the 3.5 years if your relationship. The man who was there for you for everything while you are grieving the loss of your husband. The man who promised you a future and told you that you were the...
    Widow68 Widow68 46-50, F 6 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    I have been chatting with my ex OW.

    I am 2 years clear. She told me that she cheated with the guy that she cheated on me with. It took her one year to be back in another triangle of pain. Then she patched things up and moved in with the guy. She doubts that she will ever be satisfied. Whew I really did dodge a...
    Wilbury Wilbury 46-50, M 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    Hello beautiful ladies.

    I don't post here any more since I am (thankfully) no longer the other woman. I see so many of you struggling with "should I stay, or should I go?". That is truly a question only you can answer, but for the majority of us, no matter how much we love our men, this is a toxic and...
    ravenofthedark ravenofthedark 41-45, F 11 Responses Jul 17

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 50 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    Quality vs quantity I've had a hard time with

    this one because I haven't been able to see him as much recently. When we are together though, it feels like we are really 'together' and connected. He gives me his full attention and it's just us. I don't feel sad or confused after we leave. I feel adored and content. Of course...
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 8 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Over the weekend I went shopping,

    besides buying myself a couple of things I bought my husband two shirts and a pair of shorts. I handed him the bag and he didn't even pull the items all of the way out of the bag. His first comment was " I need to pick out my own shorts." "All of the shorts I have look like...
    Janna78 Janna78 46-50, F 12 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    I don't need your lecture how I need end my

    affair. I'm not "asking her to divorce her husband for me and to marry me" well One I am 19 I am not looking to getting married anytime soon. Not at least until 25 that not for another 5 years my bday is Nov 15 btw. Two I don't want her to leave her husband for me if she want to...
    ForbiddenFruitLove95 ForbiddenFruitLove95 18-21, F 2 Responses 1 hr ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 94 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 77 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    Good Evening Ladies hope you all doing well.

    Enjoy after work kicking back ☺️
    ForbiddenFruitLove95 ForbiddenFruitLove95 18-21, F 18 hrs ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    b4realz b4realz 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    I have huge feelings

    for him and I felt like everything was perfect just he had a girlfriend but when he broke up with her for me. My life literally could not get any better. I love him so much now me and him are as happy as any two people could get ^.^
    jessythekittenx jessythekittenx 18-21, F 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 30 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    chavacc11 chavacc11 26-30, F 17 hrs ago

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    He blocked me form whatsapp

    and instagram. Without saying anything or ending it!!! It is so over and I am in so much pain I blocked him from any online possible way of contacting me. I am devastated. I guess it is over. It was over last year and he came back after 100 days. I am so done with this...
    liberty2014 liberty2014 36-40, F 10 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    Learning to let go. He is too precious of a

    friend to live without. So I broke NC. We have not met and barely talked, which is different than the norm. He did ask a couple of times why I din't call or text him. He din't because he was waiting for me to calm down. He misread hurt as anger. Feelings led me to think he had...
    coolvolatile coolvolatile 31-35, F 2 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 17 Responses Mar 25

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 19

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    I kinda lost it with him.

    I sold some furniture on Craigslist and asked him to come over to help me for safety. He came with the kids. I ordered pizza for us as a thanks and treat for the kids. The kids went to a new pediatrician today-actually my son's dr. The kids were telling me about it and...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 6 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 6

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    Though who are in relationships with lover with

    age gap between two of you like some guys like to be called daddy do you like call your lover that or to be called mama?
    ForbiddenFruitLove95 ForbiddenFruitLove95 18-21, F 3 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    Carefully I'm allowing myself to believe a

    little more each day. Slowly I'm allowing myself to let down little pieces of my wall again- a wall he doesn't know is there. Little by little, inch by inch, he & I are moving forward together...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 2 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 158 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    I have no idea what is going with him.

    It is putting me through hell. I can't hold my head up high especially after everything that has recently happened. Please help me...
    AnonymousIm AnonymousIm 22-25, F 1 Response 23 hrs ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 50 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 78 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    I cursed him out 3 weeks ago.

    haven't heard from...tried to do some damage control...Complete fail. he's still ignoring me. I don't know if we are done for good or not. but I do remember my palmist saying it will be over for good by the end of summer. so...I don't know ...although I got fired. .everything...
    newgurlxo newgurlxo 18-21, F 1 Response 15 hrs ago

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    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 24 Responses Apr 30

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    Good Morning ladies how are all of you getting

    better everyday here. So you ladies have favorite body part or quality you love about your lover? For me it's her Smile and her kindness and don't hurt she got a nice ***.
    ForbiddenFruitLove95 ForbiddenFruitLove95 18-21, F 8 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Still sitting here amazed.

    Since a very sincere talk last week things have shifted much deeper. I also think he realizes that since I am divorcing there is a chance that I will move on for someone to have a relationship with someone thats available all of the time. We shall see how long this continues...
    blue963 blue963 51-55, F 19 hrs ago

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