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I Am The Other Woman

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    I would have 5 solid days with him soon.

    .wish that day is tomoro.. Cant wait the days to come after nearly a month of not seeing him!
    prettygoddess prettygoddess 26-30, F 2 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 20 Responses Apr 18

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    After a lovely weekend,

    it's sad to leave. I'll see him tomorrow but it won't be the same. A hand picked rose from his garden on my dashboard. My favorite. The wanting to be kissed in the rain. He knew it would probably never happen. It hardly rains here. He said he had only seen it in the movies...
    Risktakingflirtation Risktakingflirtation 22-25, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    Trying to make some decisions

    for myself. MM's W came home from 9 day vacation today. He got off chat because she came home. Haven't heard from him since before 9 this morning. He couldn't find one email or anything today....making me rethink everything if I don't hear from him again today. Meanwhile...
    blue963 blue963 46-50, F 6 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    Awww, guess who remembered

    that I existed? *eye roll* First message I have received from him in 8 days. Guess who will not be replying? Yep, this girl! His email is below.... Sorry about being hard to get ahold of. Busy Busy Busy, spend 5 hours in business meeting today. We will chat. Tomorrow is busy...
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 31-35, F 7 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 18 Responses 4 days ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 31-35, M 16 Responses Apr 19

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 81 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    So I find myself not believing a single word SG

    says..... He asked me to be exclusive and I agreed.....he asked me during sex which was kind of a trickster move. Since I've made out with mm twice.....so now I guess I'm the cheater. However I don't believe SG is being exclusive, I constantly think he's with other women and...
    PrincessLolita PrincessLolita 26-30, F 4 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    I haven't even met him in real life.

    We met through a social game we both play on the phone. We downloaded a chat app for the game and really started talking. He was engaged and I thought, we can just be friends. He was the leader and I ended up being his first officer so we started talking everyday. Then we...
    Nobody0327 Nobody0327 36-40, F 1 Response 21 hrs ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 43 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Got fed up of the sketchy texts hours apart

    and finally stood up to him, told him that I was fed up of it and that he frustrates me. And guess what? Yeah, he IGNORED me... The whole point of me bringing that up was because I was sick of him ignoring me. Sorry but I know he has a wife and everything but if she finds time...
    hankpalmer hankpalmer 18-21, F 2 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    sethlw sethlw 36-40, F 9 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    I think....I think I was on a bus the first

    time the reality of the situation hit me. I was on my way to see him, an d the sense of overwhelming sadness encased me. Had I really fallen so far from morality? The girl everyone as defended to be the next things closet to an angelic figure in all aspects...fallen far from...
    SleepyHead2123 SleepyHead2123 18-21 2 Responses 16 mins ago

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    So I'm single. I met my MM about three years

    ago online. We fell in love slowly and unintentionally. We live in different countries. I joined a site to meet people from the country he was from specifically because I had plans to move there and wanted to make social connections before I got there. We've visited one...
    Guilty1982 Guilty1982 31-35, F 1 Response 22 hrs ago

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 43 Responses Feb 24

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 22 Responses Jul 30

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    I was the other women

    for a year but now I am the wife. We will be celebrating our 3 year wedding anniversary soon. We were both married to other people when we met. We were both in bad marriages. We are both so much happier now. If anyone wants to hear my story I am happy to share.
    magic2929 magic2929 46-50, F 18 Responses Apr 29

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    Text from MM's wife this morning saying they

    have a babysitter for their kids and they are going to have a date day.. Then she proceeds to tell me that she's horny and excited for it... She's seldom in the mood so I shouldn't be bothered right? But ****. Way to ruin my Sunday. I know what kind of sex they have. I know he...
    megansunshine megansunshine 18-21, F 8 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    What pushed me away from my wife is

    because of things she "had to do". It feels like the same thing will happen with her. I think women in general feel a lot more obligation to family than men do. Plus just culturally the way I was raised is to be very independent and that is in opposition to them. Maybe if I was...
    wakeupdead wakeupdead 26-30, M 2 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    Men who lack the courage to leave This is not

    directed at other women who seduce married men, nor women who have their own personal reasons a limited sexual relationship with a married man suits their circumstances. This is for the other women who find themselves madly in love with a married man long -term, and emotionally...
    QueenFL QueenFL 41-45 2 Responses 37 mins ago

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    His jealously is pushing me away He can't see

    it and it's driving me crazyyyyy This is how my ex was and ended up controlling me I was scared the tell him things knowing the fact he ll blow up Now I can see it happening that way with my mm Delivery man had to come in house to sort my cooker out MM blew up Activated my...
    Lost0808 Lost0808 26-30, F 2 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 16 Responses Jun 2

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 21 Responses May 6

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 37 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 103 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    Why do all the haters say you're always going

    to be second choice? Maybe we are second choice when he "has" to go home but in reality we aren't second choice in his heart or his mind. I can almost promise that he's thinking about me more than his wife. I can almost promise his heart is starting to lead him else where and...
    tc57 tc57 31-35, F 89 Responses Aug 10

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    It's been two weeks since he told me he was

    moving. Two weeks since he moved... And I am finally done processing how I feel about it. I am upset. I have cried for the first time since he's left. I wish I could just see him. If only it were just a few hour drive... Not 20... I know it would be a welcomed visit...
    lifeisajourney14 lifeisajourney14 22-25, F 3 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 30 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 4 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    I thought my story had been written.

    I thought I would remain a single mother of 2 beautiful children and be plagued by a broken heart, pining for my mm who has told me he cannot leave his wife. I would see them together around town, I would hear about them from mutual friends and I would see their lives out loud...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 36-40, F 8 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    thank you everyone for your kind advice

    and opinions earlier. Obviously not all of them were kind, but I understand that too. As I mentioned, I deleted the previous posts because anyone could come across them. If you have any other advice or opinions to give, please feel free. I am completely intrigued by the...
    nonameplease74 nonameplease74 36-40, F 1 Response 8 hrs ago

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 11

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 48 Responses Feb 16

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 44 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    I start to feel better,

    make my peace then something brings him back to the front of my mind again. Something he would say or text....at one time he decided I was trying to date other men to replace him he said. Lol. I told him I tried but it wasn't working out, he said quit trying you'll never replace...
    leigh8133 leigh8133 31-35, F 4 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Things I don't miss from my affair.

    .. 1. Waiting for my phone to ding 2. Lying to spouse about where I am going 3. Making sure I erase texts 4. Time 5. Mind control that the affair holds not mm 6. Questioning of myself and actions 7. Guilt not for the affair but for my husband and his wife 8. Time 9. The panic...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 15 Responses Apr 27

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    Today was a NC day...

    Yes, it was expected, but it's the first one we've had in a pretty long time. Because of others things going on in my life, I find myself in the dumps about not having him to talk to... Yesterday we didn't text much, his wife was away for the day and he took the chance to visit...
    ElsieJay ElsieJay 41-45, F 2 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    I think I met someone else.

    I think I just met a quality, available single guy. I think he may be interested in me. I need some advice. How do I navigate going from the OW to GF of SG? I know I am getting way ahead of myself. What I want to know is...is it possible to transition out of this without...
    Breeze62 Breeze62 51-55, F 6 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    I fell in love with my

    so when I was 15. Loved him from the day that I met him. Over the years we would date and then break up. It was always me never wanting to deal with his cheating. But he would always chase after me. All the other women would chase him but he would only chase me. during a three...
    ggvlcs ggvlcs 26-30, F 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    His W found out about me,

    but he's still lying. I feel lost, worthless, broken, and I'm sick of crying. Sorry there's not much to this post other than me being depressed. It's so hard when you have no one to vent to.
    StuckInEternity StuckInEternity 18-21, F 10 Responses 1 hr ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 79 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 18 Responses May 4

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    Was in his neighborhood

    so I txt him & asked him to meet me at gas station. Surprisingly he said yes! Usually our meetings are on his terms.
    Sidechic79 Sidechic79 31-35, F 22 hrs ago

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    I really can't begin to comprehend how much I'm

    going to miss him everyday. From seeing him on a daily basis to just... Not. I've got a week left and it's killing me. It's approaching way too fast. I'm not looking forward to getting out of the car next Sunday..
    kc5316 kc5316 22-25, F 1 Response 23 hrs ago

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    Gutted my guys partner been away

    for 4 days can't believe not invited round to his.
    Pommy8 Pommy8 51-55, F 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 73 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    The w came home today

    after a 8 days vacation by herself. It immediately put me on emotional guard. If things change in our communication again, i think I will end this. Really what is the point to it all. I get so little and I am just tired of it. Time to revolved around my own life totally...
    blue963 blue963 46-50, F 1 Response 14 hrs ago

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    My Secret Gold Coin

    You don’t know it, but I think of you as a beautiful, precious, shiny gold coin that I keep secretly hidden in my pocket. I feel happy knowing that you are in there, but unhappy knowing that you have to stay hidden. I wish I could show you off to friends, but they wouldn’t...
    jenn80 jenn80 51-55 18 Responses May 23, 2013

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 21 Responses Jan 2

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    Everybody is always telling me to go out

    and find myself a SG. 1) I literally have not been able to look at another man for the past 2 years. I feel no attraction to any man but him....am I messed up? Is this weird or normal? It makes me so mad at myself. 2) Where do I even find a SG????? Even if I was interested I...
    pearl26ab pearl26ab 26-30, F 6 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 10 Responses Feb 13

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