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I Am The Other Woman

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 31 Responses Sep 23, 2014

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 25 Responses Mar 22

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    Time of reflection...

    .. So early this morning, I had this amazing breakthrough. An epiphany of such, with the help of EP's warriormama. If you all have not met her yet, you need to. She is amazing and full of so much insight! Anyway, last Feb/March is when H moved out. During that same time, that...
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 3 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 52 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 168 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    I reconnected with a old male friend .

    He tells me that he's married for 16 years.That he has a female friend for go good 10 years , Who is also married That friendship sure did change to bff to an emotional affair ,then physical ....They feel in love and were going to leave each others spouse to be together ..But it...
    peachy115 peachy115 51-55, F 23 hrs ago

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    just2night just2night 41-45, F 24 mins ago

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    So. I don't really know what to read out of

    today's situation, other than I don't seem to mean a lot to MM. But I don't want to read that out of it, I want there to be some other explanation. Here's what happened: MM (and some of his workmates) got an award yesterday, a pretty big one, and he absolutely deserved it after...
    ladyquaintrelle ladyquaintrelle 22-25, F 4 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 14 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    Well his wife text me this morning.

    Asking who I was. My phone went off with different numbers calling. My phone doesn't ring when I don't have you as a contact. Then I got a message from him saying to please not reply or answer her calls and text and to not reply to his text. I feel so scared and sad. I miss...
    OneStonedGirl OneStonedGirl 31-35, F 4 mins ago

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    Today was just an overall crap day.

    I thought a lot about my situation and my marriage. Had some highs and lows. As I thought about mine and how it really can't be saved, I started wondering if MM's could. I know it's a business arrangement but there is always hope, right? I wondered if his W, even though she...
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 3 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 28 Responses May 6, 2014

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    I hope that everyone is having a good day!

    So far today has been great here.
    memery7 memery7 46-50, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I've tried to get the story below up

    and running , now banned 10 times. Nothing over the top . So I've posted in the response section below, let me know what you think please ?
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 153 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    So i have been with my mm

    for 4yrs. At first, he told me he is i the progress to divorce. After that, thry have reconciled and he said its because of their kids. He promised he will leaves when the time is right. But how to define a "right time"? Recently he is having a financial problem and his...
    jwyhln jwyhln 26-30, F 13 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 72 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 204 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    Where do I begin? Didn't cry today.

    Took my daughter on a grand adventure while MM took his child (and W) to a local event. Saw his pictures on IG, none with her as per usual. He was texting all day, and did start off my morning with a call. I posted this morning about the treasure map and how I cut out the...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 3 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 89 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 16 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Anybody friends with the wife of their MM?

    I bet that is difficult. I never knew the wife; it's easy to rationalize some of those guilty feelings when there isn't a name or a face or a an actual person that you are hurting. Just "The Wife". Thoughts?
    duncanham duncanham 22-25, F 6 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Need advice, is it inappropriate of me to ask

    that me and the OW clear the air between us before she meets my children?
    Guavajelly Guavajelly 36-40, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 15 Responses May 4, 2014

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    Spending my Sunday alone.

    I decided to take this time to do some gardening, planting some flowers, sprinkle some grass seeds in the back yard and buy some gold fish for my pond. I'm all dirty and wet from watering the grass but I must say this is such peaceful moment. The weather broke and we should...
    4everhislady 4everhislady 36-40, F 5 hrs ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 48 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    If I'm really being honest I don't think he'll

    ever leave her and I don't think he'll ever leave me. So that means he'll force me to leave him and I don't know if my heart will ever let me do it. I wish I could become numb and just not care anymore. How do I just live without him? There's no way I could be friends or even...
    heartbroken1234 heartbroken1234 36-40, F 6 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 51 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    It's been a great week

    for me. I know I started of strong thinking I could walk away lol. But he was just so loving this week. Gave me lots of attention and wants to know if we are feeling the same way about each other. We are planning a night together (his idea not mine). I am excited a whole night...
    OneStonedGirl OneStonedGirl 31-35, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I know I'm going to get some hate here

    but here goes.... Scrolling through his fiancee instagram pics and knowing how easy it would be ruin his relationship. Just one message from me and that ruins her life. I would never do that, she doesn't deserve that pain but neither do I! I didn't plan on falling for him... He...
    Prettybutterfly88 Prettybutterfly88 26-30, F 12 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Haven't heard much from MM this weekend.

    It's times like these I know he's doing good with his W.
    lit4love lit4love 26-30, F 2 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    Been with my MM off and on

    for about 3 years. We were just coming back from an "off" period, but honestly I'm not sure I'm into him anymore. Our relationship is very complex, and fulfilled a need of mine, but now I'm just thinking is it really worth it. He is separated from his wife, almost a year now...
    44curious 44curious 41-45, F 2 hrs ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 152 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 26 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Well for those following my story.

    We got together to pick a new date for him to tell his W and he said he doesn't think he'll ever be able to do it and we should break up. While I kept saying I thought this would happen I think I'm in shock right now. He's my best friend.
    heartbroken1234 heartbroken1234 36-40, F 3 Responses 1 hr ago

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 18 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 18 Responses Mar 25

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    My mm has been telling me he loves me

    for a few months. Last night I said those words back. He was shocked and happy. Moments later there were fireworks in the sky. It was like a dream, and it was a perfect night.
    unicorn329 unicorn329 31-35, F 1 Response 48 mins ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 54 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 47 Responses Jan 10

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    It's Sunday. Sunday's feel opposite of Friday's

    for me, but I'm starting to wonder if Sunday's feel good or make me feel uneasy. I really need to do the task that Warriormama encouraged us to do. But for now, I'm sharing. It's spring. Spring is time for new birth, new stories, and right now I feel so empty and alone. This...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 1 hr ago

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    This weekend was the first time I saw him in

    three months. He had some business to take care of in his home country and two weddings. We spoke on Skype everyday. Nothing beats seeing him in person. I practically jumped on him. He spent the night with me. He just left.
    Doloboo85 Doloboo85 26-30, F 2 Responses 9 hrs ago

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