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I Am The Other Woman

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    I can't stop thinking about them on the beach

    at the romantic resort-it's going to be a long week - hurts just hurts
    Readytomoveon2015 Readytomoveon2015 31-35, F 3 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    My ex MM has been blowing up my phone with

    texts. We spoke on the phone for an hour. Texting all night. He wants me back. I'm happy with new MM but my heart is with ex MM. Even though he put me they all that **** I still love him. Why??? We fought tonight. We laughed tonight. Oh I know what I need to do. It's not what I...
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    I had my Dad pass away 21 years ago,

    when I was a young Mom with two boys, and I mourned their loss of a great man. My Dad's friends didn't leave us, my boys had lots of Grandpas. These were, are great men from a wonderful generation. I've seen there number slip over the years, and another one was lost to me...
    whynot13 whynot13 46-50, F 9 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    We got a little bit of time today alone

    and he brought me flowers.
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 15 Responses May 4, 2014

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    Ok Ladies, I need some help here!

    For the past 2 years I've been involved with a MM. The W found out in July, and for 3 months we had NC. I nearly thought I would die! I was literally sick. Well, in early October, this weird number kept calling my phone, I'd answer, and they would say nothing. This went...
    Crow44 Crow44 41-45, F 7 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    Notice the Rainbow Lorakeets in the trees

    as the sun goes down. 50 things that make me happy 1. Waking up and finding there's no chalk mark around me. 2. Dreaming of my lady kissing me when I'm asleep and knowing it's not my pet dog. 3. Walking the streets early in the morning when it's quiet. 4. Not being asked...
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 4 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 101 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    So down in the dumps.

    . Since I cannot work I feel I have lost my identity. Since I cannot drive, I have lost my independence. Since I can't be with him I have lost my happy... So frustrated, alone, and miserable. My family thinks what a great deal to have this time off work, but I am lost.. So much...
    ElsieJay ElsieJay 41-45, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 11 Responses Feb 13, 2014

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 150 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 48 Responses Jan 10

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    Sad, sad day. Had to work with MM

    after H confronted him. It was very awkward and strained, and he avoided me most of the day. When we finally talked, he basically said that until things blew over, it's best that we don't talk to or see each other. When I said I don't want to not be able to talk to him, that I...
    AmyFarrahFowler AmyFarrahFowler 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Food for thought, ladies

    and gents! http://elitedaily.com/dating/science-behind-hard-sleep-person-forever/950751/
    autumnsx autumnsx 18-21, F 1 Response 14 hrs ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 79 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 67 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    Yahoo for last minute plans with MM.

    He snuck out of work and we had a great hour. Was talking to ex MM today as I was hoping maybe we could just remain friends. He wants more so I decided I'm just going to leave it how it is. New MM asked what is it that I miss so much from ex MM. I said def not the sex bc you...
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 26 mins ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 46 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    A year ago today, my life changed dramatically.

    I stood up to an abusive husband. I had a broken nose, a concussion but because I laid my hand on him first, I was at fault. I remember that moment when I texted my MM to tell him I had to break our lunch date the next afternoon and would be unavailable for a few days because I...
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 5 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    I only have to wait six more days to have an

    entire weekend with him. The wait is killing me! I've never been a patient person, on the contrary I am terrible at it. I've read a few times that some women here only get to see their MMs once a month or even less. How do you handle the wait??!
    Natalie012 Natalie012 26-30, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 17 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    On my way to 5 star hotel

    for an overnight with mm. Why do I feel sick to the stomach? Haven't seen him for a month and he has been weird due to guilt.......he seems Ok now but I'm still very nervous!!!! Wish me luck, fingers crossed a night of passion will reconnect what can't happen over text x
    MRGFF MRGFF 36-40, F 9 Responses 1 day ago

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    Some lady asked me why I don't have many girl

    friends, so I slept with her husband.
    isalolita isalolita 18-21, F 5 Responses 1 hr ago

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    We didn't spend a great deal of time together

    today but we did spend quality time with each other. Just that one hour in the middle of a workday is fabulous. He's so gentle and sweet. I love that I can retreat to his office whenever. But as I was leaving a coworker of ours stopped me and said he was going to start...
    surfsway surfsway 36-40, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    As you know I'm really the other man ,

    a man who adores my lady ...... I love to cuddle after making love It is so beautiful to cuddle the one you love after making love together. Kissing her gently on her neck, her warmth , her love the tenderness that she feels towards you. It wasn't just sex we had ,I made love...
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 11, 2014

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    To my MM In my moment of weakness I told you

    that I've forgiven you for keeping the truth from me. But Im still suffering from the pain of remembering it. You say you didn't mean it and never meant to hurt me. You fail to understand that by hiding is also lying. I thought our communication is everything. ..I thought we don...
    waitingonfaith waitingonfaith 31-35 4 Responses 1 hr ago

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    Well I think I handled ex MM very well last

    night. It hurt so much to tell him everything I felt and have him beg me back and I had to shut him down. It's a chapter in my life that I can just not open up again. My new MM was working all night so I didn't get a msg from him until this morning. We spoke about it all. He...
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    a few days ago he and I had a talk.

    he told me that his wife has been all over his phone and checking up on him at work (easy. we all work at the same place). he told me that he doesn't want her to find out (duh) and that he doesn't think we should text as often as we have been. ok. I got it. I deleted all our...
    spoiledlittle spoiledlittle 31-35, F 3 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 154 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    Wow he must really miss me.

    He won't give up. I actually feel sorry for him. If only he had treated me better. I have better now! Guess next step is to block him....
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I have had two affairs,

    both of the guys were married. I've done a lot of pondering as to why I let go and did the things I did. (You can read about the affairs in my other stories). Both men had a lot of problems in their marriage that they shared with me. I had a lot of problems in my own...
    reddhot reddhot 51-55, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Questions. What does a MM have to lose

    if he admits to his wife that he cheated, and then apologizes for it. (We're in a no-divorce country). I'm thinking of talking to him about telling his wife and then him apologizing. Would that help MM decide about us, his family, and his wife? I just couldn't end it with him...
    isch71 isch71 26-30, F 10 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    I'm married but I'm having an affair with my

    best friends husband. I know we can never be together as it would rip his family apart but I feel so lost without him. I made a huge mistake marrying my husband and can only be thankful we have no children. I want a divorce but I know it would crush him. It's so difficult being...
    kimathy86 kimathy86 26-30, F 117 Responses Feb 19

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    One hand washes the other

    and thats how it works between us. I deeply appreciate just having a friend who I can count on. I have no doubts about this. He has never let me down so I don't ever hesitate to do what I can for him. Today was a prime example.
    surfsway surfsway 36-40, F 23 hrs ago

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 19 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 51 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 83 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 54 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 165 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 32 Responses Sep 23, 2014

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    I never post the awesome days: the amazing hang

    outs, long chats, dates, trips and the happy daily life moments I have with my guy. I primarily came here for support to get out of my relationship of three years and with that intent I only post my challenges to get strength to let go. But today I feel like I owe him a good...
    elizabethmariejazz elizabethmariejazz 36-40, F 4 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    So reconnection physically works waaaay better

    than text ha ha! The longest we haven't seen each other when together! We went out to dinner, walked along the river and then he blew my mind!! And I snuggled up to him and listened to him snore his lovely gentle snore! And have him pull me close every time he stirred. I know...
    MRGFF MRGFF 36-40, F 6 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 54 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    Women won't mess with a man

    that lives with his mom but will mess with a man who lives with his wife.
    reeessa reeessa 13-15, F 28 Responses Oct 23, 2014

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 27 Responses May 6, 2014

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 29 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Some days I regret having turned off the

    physical side of our relationship. It's been incredibly hard on both of us. Touch is how we connected, how we opened up to each other, how we just flowed. How we loved. There is a Celtic saying, "Mo anum cara," it means, my soul friend. Much different than a soul mate, it...
    40Creek 40Creek 41-45, F 20 hrs ago

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 18 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 89 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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