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I Am The Other Woman

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    It's been two weeks since I've heard from ex-mm.

    For fourteen mornings, he's woken up with the knowledge that I'm waiting on his call to reschedule the 'date' he's been requesting for six months. It's annoying, but I haven't been letting it get me down or doubt myself like I normally do. That is, until today. I had to...
    ashadams244 ashadams244 26-30, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    She left him and I don't know what to do.

    She doesn't know 100% that he was cheating, but he said something about how she told him she couldn't trust him. I don't know too much else about the situation except that he told me she is talking to her ex-boyfriend and that she had thrown out the words Alimony and Child...
    lexabear15 lexabear15 26-30, F 4 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 48 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    He finally responded to me

    after over two months of the unexplained NC. He claimed he told his wife about me. Not who I was or the extent of things. He said he's faced the affair head on with his wife, his family and his therapists. He said he was sorry for leaving with no word. He said he was trying to...
    infusedheart infusedheart 31-35, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    MM is so cute. He is

    so excited about fixing up my laptop for me. He has it all ready to go, just needs to come and put it in, he said I will like it. It's very fast. The original specs on the motherboard list 4g of ram, this one has 8g, so it seems someone added a stick. This made it an extra...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 2 days ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 167 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 47 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    The other woman isn't always a home-wrecker.

    Sometimes she's a home-mender. I had been faithful to my dear husband for over 20 years. For many years I thought there was something wrong with me. Maybe I wasn't sexy. Why didn't he want me the way I wanted him? I grew to understand that we just had very different desire...
    livingasme livingasme 51-55, F 17 Responses May 15, 2015

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 19 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 205 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 15 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    Well I think it's over now.

    .. I blocked him and her and neither have attempted contact thankfully. He texted me this morning asking me if I made a fake FB profile. What the hell he doesn't even have FB. I don't know what that was about and didn't ask. Yes I went with my sister and brother in law to...
    AvaLennon1 AvaLennon1 31-35, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    Can someone explain to me without confirming

    that a person must be pathological to do this, how you have an affair, claim a person is your best friend, be friendly with his wife and then come out with that this same ap, best friend attacked you and your sister? Some of you may of missed the comnent "I didn't believe her...
    paliglass paliglass 31-35, F 1 Response 8 hrs ago

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    Yesterday: Realization.

    It's been thirty-four days. Thirty-four days since I last "heard" from him. Since his vague... and yet still somehow sentencing, 'Going through some family issues. Please don't text.' Thirty. Four. Days. Of silence. And not our usual comfortable silence, where we...
    OneSweetThing OneSweetThing 31-35, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    b4realz b4realz 26-30, F 150 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    It must be truly hard

    for the woman who takes her cheating husband back. After DDay, where the families, friends, church members have been told about their cheating spouse, it must be extremely difficult to rebuild the marriage, when watched on by many. People can be cruel. The marriage is...
    ifoundmehere ifoundmehere 46-50, F 8 Responses 1 day ago

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    Though he is still working.

    His diverticulitis is flaring up today. Doesn't happen as often as it used too, but still painful for him when it does. :( Don't think he will be too chatty this evening if he's still not feeling well. A couple of days of bland food usually helps. Poor guy.
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 44 Responses Jan 10, 2015

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    I have married men tied up in my basement.

    Most of them are delivery drivers. :)
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 10 Responses 2 days ago

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    Mikun15 Mikun15 26-30, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 53 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Serendipitous1 Serendipitous1 36-40, F 14 mins ago

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    Honestly I'd beat the life out of ANY b!

    tch who tries to ruin my family and my marriage. There's enough men out there, there's no need for sharing ladies.
    Cleopatra05 Cleopatra05 18-21, F 28 Responses Dec 28, 2015

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    I have to be honest here.

    Not only am I the other woman but I also am the other woman in outer space. I fly in a rocket ship to other planets. I've successfully been a home wrecker on Mercury, Mars and Venus. Jupiter has been challenging because of the toxic gases. Happy joyful alien wives of...
    Tullia1510 Tullia1510 46-50, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    I have to be honest here .

    ..Not only Am I The Other Woman , I have 3 MM And not one knows about the other ! It's hard to juggle sometimes .And guess what I love it !!
    peachy115 peachy115 51-55, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    He just left to go on with his day.

    And I have things I need to do as well. He came this morning with a huge bouquet of flowers. I helped him with a resume. Then we snuggled and watched a bit of tv, and made love as well. It's been a wonderful morning. Filled with laughter and love.
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    We started out as best lovers,

    We fight, we cry, and we laugh, In everything were together, Even through the crazy and foolish ones.. We're the best of friends, Holding on to one another, Drinking and teasing, Sharing each others problem.. We fight for nothing, We cry for dumb things, We laugh at small...
    sonofangel24 sonofangel24 22-25, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 19 Responses Mar 22, 2015

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    ...No More... Although I've been lurking in

    this forum for quite some time, aside from this story EP Link posted in August last year, I have not been very active. How most people end up here? With the exception of the so called "Spider Women" who make it their life's mission to go around messing up with people's lives...
    neeia neeia 41-45, F 15 Responses 2 days ago

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    The battle is raging.

    He hasn't slept in days. He keeps staring at his kid all night. He is still forced to sleep in the same room as her. His family is the opposite of supportive. They are the ones he has to fight and convince. I don't know how to support him through this anymore. His parents say...
    coolvolatile coolvolatile 31-35, F 3 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    I must apologize because I think

    that one or two of the trolls that we had changing their names and being really horrible might have found us because of me. It reminds me of some handi work of an frenemy of mine. My intuition has usually been right for a lot of years. Sometimes I chose to ignore it. At other...
    independentandstubborn independentandstubborn 51-55, F 1 Response 10 hrs ago

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    It has everything to do with US

    and our chemistry and openness and love and lust #hiswords
    LLLinCincy LLLinCincy 36-40, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 29 Responses May 6, 2014

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    Being Aware of Your Thoughts Curative

    Attentiveness by Madisyn Taylor We seldom accept negative comments from others, however, we so often accept our own inner negative chatter. Few people enjoy the company of individuals whose attitudes are persistently negative. Yet many of us tolerate the critical chatter...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 17 Responses Mar 25, 2015

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    Feeling sad tonight..

    Almost two weeks since we've spoken & it wasn't even a "never talk to me again" kind of thing. I'm just sitting here trying to figure the purpose of meeting him. Does everything really happen for a reason? Or does life just happen? It's not even that I want him or anything...
    subgirl26 subgirl26 26-30, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    The Universe’s Plan

    for You Cosmic Support by Madisyn Taylor Nothing happens in our lives and in the world without purpose. The path that speeds us toward our dreams can be a challenging and complex one, so it’s easy to get bogged down in confusion and insecurities. We often hesitate at the...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 2 days ago

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    Looking back it is funny how easily I fell into

    the trap of becoming 'the other woman.' The first flash of distress - a wounded soul no less, and I dived into the murky water. He told me that I was his oxygen. I was a mermaid Saint Bernard with the reviving elixir strapped to my neck. Strangely, I found two unmarried men...
    Faerylight Faerylight 41-45, F 19 Responses Jun 21, 2015

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 77 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 19 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    Nothing like an impromptu movie night with the

    man I love. He texted and asked when I was up to. I told him I was starting a movie and 10 minutes later..while I was waiting for a return text.. he walked in my door :)
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 2 days ago

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    Just read some posts from the other side.

    Do they not have anything to talk about?
    independentandstubborn independentandstubborn 51-55, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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