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I Am The Other Woman

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    My reply from EP support about browserbowser,

    Bobthelover, Mikefrombeyond.. EP Support replied: Hi there, I am very sorry you guys have been experiencing this. It looks like these users accounts have been removed. Please let us know if anything else occurs. Best, Jenny Community Support Team Experience Project EP...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 9 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    He is going to be having surgery in June.

    Things have been really wonderful and I worried that I won't be able to be there for him or even contact him. We do all our communication via gmail/chat. He has a really old phone. I don't mean poor me. What I mean is that it will drive me insane not knowing how he is...
    blue963 blue963 46-50, F 9 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    So supposedly today we are supposed to get

    together and see each other for the last time . .... I wonder if this will actually really be the last time ... As we've said many times before but wed always end up back where we started ..... It's a decision that I made and he says it tears him apart having to be torn apart...
    Ellen1503 Ellen1503 22-25, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 35 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Anyone else seen the advert

    for the film " the other woman"?! Lol!
    Bittersweet14 Bittersweet14 26-30 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    Dear Jason. I slept in

    and was running late this morning. I could see that there was a text from you but I didn't have time to answer. I was then stuck in meetings all day. And I absolutely love that you sent me sooooooo many messages through out the day, regardless of the fact that i was too busy to...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Having great fun with the bloke next door at

    the moment. We both work night shifts and his wife works days so you can imagine why I'm not sleeping much lately ;)
    sexysahra79 sexysahra79 31-35, F 10 Responses 1 day ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 25 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Messages from yesterday….

    I hate feeling this but it is what it is I guess. He knows how I feel and this is the first time I actually said the “L” word. We say thank you when he feel like saying it. I don’t know what to do at this point. I have not messaged him any further. Funny how you can read...
    Lauryn0114 Lauryn0114 31-35, F 3 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    A How To List

    Hello to everyone especially those drawn here by the Facebook postings. For the record, I am not "Keeping it real in Kendall". Since most of you are brand new to EP let me be the first to welcome you! Please take a moment to read the Terms of Service before commenting. This is a...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 105 Responses Aug 25, 2013

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 9 Responses Feb 11

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    Aww...Got to spend a bit of time with MM today,

    was great like usual but had sent him some links with music, he for some reason couldn't get them to open at home so played them here. The one started to play, he said yes he had heard that one before so went to change it & he stopped me saying he liked the song. Just...
    pudgee2 pudgee2 36-40, F 47 mins ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 62 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 28 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    I just read the cutest thing

    that a precious young woman wrote on her post. I'm dedicating this to my mm (wherever he might be). I thought it might make you smile: "If you love two people at the same time... Choose the second one, Because if you had really loved the first one... You wouldn't have fallen...
    insouciant1 insouciant1 41-45, F 6 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    yes but the are other women like Estella

    Warren , adriana Karembeu, Claudia Schiffer, milla kunis, Heidi kmim, Taylor swift, Cindy crawford
    steack2 steack2 41-45, M 1 Response 7 hrs ago

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    And **** finally hits the fan.

    My daughter with my MM is 5 and a half months old. He has kept her and our relationship a secret from his wife and family the whole time. Just recently, and out of nowhere he decided to tell his wife. He said he realized she is not a secret and he can not live a lie anymore and...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 7 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 101 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    Both Sides of the Fence!

    I lived in a sexless marriage for many years. My spouse did not. He like dripping his wick elsewhere, through our entire marriage. I didn't want to catch any thing so... glad he was getting taken care of ...cause he wasn't touching me again... that was for sure! I am divorce...
    MorningBreeze MorningBreeze 56-60, F 28 Responses Feb 15

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    Where are all my favorite loosers in life?

    the internet bullies that don't have a life! Come on trolls, you know i'm talking to you? Asoultocare, bobthelover, youareallpathetic, Truman, loveandadored. pullupgirl.... Besides snooping into other peoples life and support groups, what are your plans for today? Killing...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 31-35, M 9 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 149 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    We are the OW. We don't judge.

    We don't care if you don't agree. We don't acknowledge rude comments. We are strong. We are loved. We are happy =)
    sunflowah sunflowah 36-40, F 11 Responses 4 days ago

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    Best morning sex ever ❤️ couldn't ask

    for a better man. Times like this outweighs being the other woman. Hope you ladies are having a nice day like me :)
    Xf1234 Xf1234 22-25, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    I hate the way that sounds.

    Because in many ways I was THE woman...we connected, we fit, we found something rare and whole and fulfilling and wonderful. It started as a genuine friendship, depth, understanding. We never intended it to be more, but the power of finding a mind and heart connection is...
    Kadl Kadl 46-50, F 13 Responses Feb 18

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    When I wake up, I reach

    for someone who likely isn't there. I don't get a morning kiss, I don't get to make his lunch. I don't have the right to call him at work, or to ask him to pick up something on his way home. On a day to day basis I don't get to have dinner with him, I don't get to watch him as...
    notafanofcircumstance notafanofcircumstance 31-35, F 22 Responses Mar 17

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    So my MM cancel on me

    for 4 time in 4 week in the roll. For first 3 times I was cool, even if I was thinking, the reason was stupid.(he was tired) I wanted to be supportive and kind. And now he has really good reason, he is sick. And I am mad at him. I am trying to hide it. And now I found out he...
    pitrscz pitrscz 22-25, F 3 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 80 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 160 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    MM and I went and had a nice dinner last night.

    Lots of talking, laughing and smiles! Snuggled for a bit after we got back to my place...amazing sex and we fell asleep for a couple of hours in each other's arms. Told him it was getting more and more difficult to let him go. Poor guy is working on about 3 hours sleep today. I...
    blackheels4me blackheels4me 36-40, F 3 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    I've not been on much recently

    because I've moved on from mm. I log in this week and notice that a number of regular contributors have deleted their accounts. Why is this? Did the Cyber Bullying get out of hand?
    RomanyTryphena RomanyTryphena 36-40, F 4 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    He ended our relationship

    for the countless time. He calls to see how I am but all I can do is cry. He gets mad and hangs up on me. I hope that he comes back like he has before but I think it's for real this time and don't know how to go on in this moment. I feel destroyed and hate myself for ever...
    Lost4him2 Lost4him2 26-30 11 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    Calling MM & OM...Ok.

    .. I've just been engrossed in the men's perspective on some recent questions. Not sure why. I guess I'm just curious. So for the MM.... So many nay-sayers who visit this page say you are all the same, "never leaving his wife", "the other women have no self confidence", "using...
    justanotherow justanotherow 41-45, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 22-25, F 22 Responses 6 days ago

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 75 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    Affairs are very very strange things.

    I feel like I'm finally coming out of the fog and I can see a road ahead, didn't think I would ever get to this stage. I know now what I need, and that is to find a guy who can give me what I need. You convince yourself that you need that person, you have this amazing bond or...
    foolmeonce538 foolmeonce538 26-30, F 7 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    My MM today said maybe you should go on a date

    next week. I told him I didn't like when he says things like that because it makes me feel like he is trying to get rid of me. He said no just trying to keep it even. I guess that means since he goes out with her. I should be able to go out too but I don't want to. I'm...
    sammylou22 sammylou22 22-25, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    sunflowah sunflowah 36-40, F 18 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    I'm sorry but I don't care

    who this might **** off or annoy. I'm already getting hate mail and we've been harassed all weekend. There are many positive's and negatives about any relationship. We all know the negatives but hopefully just to **** a few people off, I'd like to tell everyone the positives...
    sweetmae79 sweetmae79 31-35, F 15 Responses 4 days ago

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    Who knew you could go from miserable to amazing.

    .. my Husband has told me that now after 2.5 years coming up with all these different ways to make US work, and coming up with new ones again and again after they all failed... I DID everything... I mean everything! Nothing worked.. then he tells me yesterday... that he was not...
    WendyBlabs WendyBlabs 36-40, F 20 Responses Mar 15

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 21 Responses Jan 2

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    I hope I've blocked enough trolls

    so I can repost this from a story I wrote for "I am Married and having an affair" without getting run over the coals. But then I can always delete and block... I have been in an affair since September of 2007....Your assumptions that I am a soul sucking seductresses or a...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 12 Responses Mar 16

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 44 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    I have this best friend

    that is dating my other best friend ... I **** him on a daily basis and feel no shame
    Theweepingangel Theweepingangel 16-17, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Let's write the perfect love letter.

    ... (Guys, your input too as what you would want to hear ;-) The perfect letter , one he will never forget
    LadyGV LadyGV 46-50, F 1 Response 55 mins ago

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    Today was nothing less

    than amazing. He took a vacation day so we could spend it together. I made us an amazing breakfast, he surprised me by bringing his guitar and playing a few songs I love. I melted. We spent the rest of the day in bed. Hours of talking, kissing, cuddling, with the wind blowing...
    stellar31 stellar31 31-35, F 1 Response 22 hrs ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 125 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 205 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    Need some insight into this one ladies.

    ... Sent a text to MM telling him that Im feeling lost not knowing what's really going on at home with him and W....yards yada yada. This is his response: I haven't elaborated because at first you said you didn't want to know. Then you said you thought maybe you did. We...
    blackheels4me blackheels4me 36-40, F 11 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Moving On.....I Didn'T Think I Would Ever Be Able To Say That

    I must admit that I have been pretty much obsessed over the man I cheated with. I haven't talked to him in over a year since the truth about us came out. But everyday I think about him and wonder how he is, what he is doing, how his son is, if he thinks about me at all...
    SS81 SS81 31-35, F 67 Responses May 8, 2013

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 49 Responses Feb 16

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    Here is the support email I sent

    and the email I received back if anyone wants to see: APR 22, 2014 | 11:57AM PDT EP Support replied: Hi there, I am very sorry about this. We have received reports from a few other users about this issue. Can you please send us the usernames of the people that are writing...
    blackheels4me blackheels4me 36-40, F 6 Responses 2 days ago

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    Idk why people get jealous of their MM's SO .

    .. Like you're the other woman ! Seriously ?
    Theweepingangel Theweepingangel 16-17, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    So my MM decides he wants to slow our

    relationship down and take slow steps towards our future. He tells me there is still an 'us,' but I need to allow time to heal. Take time to work on my trust issues. He's right. It doesn't make it any easier. I'm so angry that my past hurts and relationships are getting in the...
    PuzzleComplete PuzzleComplete 31-35, F 5 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    What I learned recently - 1) Strong marriages

    can not be broken. If someone has an "other" someone, things were already broken on some level. 2) I have kids. I run a household. I manage a company. I still have time in my day to make my MM feel like he's the most important person in the world. If spouses did this - cheating...
    notafanofcircumstance notafanofcircumstance 31-35, F 10 Responses Mar 25

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 42 Responses Feb 24

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 31-35, M 11 Responses 5 days ago

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    Good morning ladies. Let me share the card

    that goes with the watch that my mm gave me last week. And this morning when i woke up i got this message... "love we're about to board for toulouse anytime. im insanely missing u mylove... love u so much! take care of yourself, eat on time and stick with me as i am with u...
    AtPeaceEros AtPeaceEros 31-35, F 6 Responses 9 hrs ago

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