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I Am The Other Woman

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    I initially wrote this in response to someone

    else's question-"what would you ask your MM" but now I wonder if anyone else wonders this as well.... "I always, always want to ask if there is anyone else. I think I know deep down that there's not but I've seen him around other women and I don't know if I'm reading into...
    lotsofquestions86 lotsofquestions86 26-30, F 3 Responses 1 hr ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 27 Responses Mar 22

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 79 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    Needing help with no contact?

    I found an app that helps, it is amazing! get it at the app store. It is called "No Contact". It truly helps! No Contact Rule by Melissa Hardy https://appsto.re/us/oEjP3.i
    liberty2014 liberty2014 36-40, F 5 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Well it didn't go as terrible

    as I thought it was going to go today, or be. We started off on our usual morning conversation via text. He said he was excited to talk to me which blew me away because we ended so ugly last night. The phone call went well. When I asked him on the phone why he was excited to...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 27 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 11 Responses Feb 13, 2014

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    This song.... https://m.

    youtube.com/watch?v=KeUJTwRpjMY
    PearlRo27 PearlRo27 31-35, F 1 Response 17 hrs ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 87 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    Reading posts about others stories resonate

    with me and I'm glad I don't feel so alone. The support here is magnificent. I had an odd realization this morning. I might becoming to complacent with this current MM/OW relationship. I swore upon leaving my marriage that I would never be complacent again. I told him this...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 4 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    Do you ever have anxiety

    so bad that it paralyzes you. ....After it's over. It's been over since November. Sometimes my thoughts get carried away and I can't breathe. Is this all there is? Lonely marriages and possibilities of affairs that cause so much stress and anxiety that it isn't worth it in the...
    Tapeti Tapeti 31-35, F 2 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    So this week has been interesting.

    It's hard to explain. But new sex stuff was ******* fun! We are gonna try some super crazy stuff soon.... Well if they don't implode. Ehhh even if they do. Either way, I ain't mad. Also, Mrs. Please stop asking me to give your husband *******. I know you don't want to sleep...
    BobbyBlack7589 BobbyBlack7589 22-25, F 15 hrs ago

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    Dear MM: Plaese text me I am dying to hear from

    you. Tell me all is good. Tell me you want to see me. Tell me we will see each other today and you are available. I am dying to see you. I am begging you, your silence is the worst poison I have ever tasted. You are the most delicious human being I have ever, ever tasted. I miss...
    liberty2014 liberty2014 36-40, F 10 Responses 1 day ago

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    (See previous OW posts).

    .. I spent most of tonight over at the married couple's house. Tonight was a bit more adventurous...
    DesiredEmily DesiredEmily 22-25, F 5 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    Just took my first pregnancy test

    since being i this whole thing.. It's negative. But I'm still late. Fml right now.
    Missmetomorrow Missmetomorrow 22-25, F 2 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    I feel like I'm the news source here in this

    group lol. Sometimes articles are just that interesting! http://m.theglobeandmail.com/life/relationships/a-realistic-look-at-monogamy/article23671828/?service=mobile&click=sf_globefb
    autumnsx autumnsx 18-21, F 1 day ago

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    So who here is a big book nerd like me?

    I wanted to let you all know about this guy who has never written a book before but documented his affair and turned it into a book. I could not put it down! He is so amazingly honest about his feelings I could feel everything he was going through. He turns out to be nice nice...
    joyfulcloudofsorrow joyfulcloudofsorrow 31-35, F 4 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    NO LONGER THE OTHER WOMAN!

    !! I am now the only woman :) it has been officially ended this morning, he was straight on the phone to me who was awesome at playing it cool despite up all night worrying! He was going to come over but we both decided against it as he needs time to recover maybe. He has gone...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 14 Responses Mar 21

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    If there would be a mm rehab center,

    I would check myself in right about now and take the most intensive program. I am feeling pretty low right now... Only thing I can do is pray again.
    sadpreciosa sadpreciosa 26-30, F 10 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 51 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    Well - one solid month

    and not word one. LOL ..... I didn't expect it because I called him on all his lies, his wife's lies and made a scene at the base. LOL I never imagined what a coward he really was. I was SO stupid for believing in someone that just didn't exist! NO ONE knows this person - not...
    kitty1958 kitty1958 56-60, F 2 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Hi, any books you can recommend about affairs

    and how to help with a brakeup? I need them thanks!
    liberty2014 liberty2014 36-40, F 8 Responses 1 day ago

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 19 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    Dear W: I am the OW. I know you've heard my

    name. I know you know of me. You don't know that your H was with me from March through September. You don't know that in September I was the one who told him if he felt like he needed to work on his family then he needed to do that; you don't know that in addition to his deep...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 4 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 48 Responses Jan 10

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 31 Responses Sep 23, 2014

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 47 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Thought I would give you some insights from

    what I have found from mine and my best friend's experience; things We ignored because We wanted to, but now we realise what is what. Is mm constantly asking for naughty pics, meeting for sex without the dates but full of promises for the future, but never ever in public? It's...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 31 mins ago

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    I know for some being the OW maybe very

    challenging and only you will know when its time to walk away or hold on and fight for the man you love. I just hope that all my ladies out here find out sooner than later if the MM is worth it or not. Today my co-worker broke down during our lunch break and decided to let...
    4everhislady 4everhislady 36-40, F 8 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 54 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Well officially 3 weeks

    since I've heard from him. I got good news in work today and it was something he knew I was waiting for. I so wanted to call or text him. But I didn't...... still hanging in there x
    Livealifeyoulove Livealifeyoulove 36-40, F 6 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 15 Responses May 4, 2014

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 171 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 6

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 28 Responses May 6, 2014

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    The love of my life returned last week from his

    trip. Long and painful trip for me. Part of me was happy he was back but another part of me was super down and actually upset. Maybe cause i knew deep inside me all that it happened and was just pissed off about it. Well, i wasnt wrong... He was super excited telling me all...
    Chicadelcaribe Chicadelcaribe 31-35, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 70 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    Women won't mess with a man

    that lives with his mom but will mess with a man who lives with his wife.
    reeessa reeessa 13-15, F 28 Responses Oct 23, 2014

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    Day one We went to the gym today like always,

    and like I've said, things have changed. You finally admit it and tell me the "dynamics of our relationship have changed." There's nothing I can do. I can feel your frustration with me. You blame me for everything, instead of taking accountability for what you've done to us...
    lit4love lit4love 26-30, F 3 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 88 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    You have got to read this book!

    !! The Other Woman Code Of Conduct by Kiki Richardson The Other Woman Code of Conduct by KiKi Richardson https://itun.es/us/wc1sz. I am overwhelmed!!!
    liberty2014 liberty2014 36-40, F 5 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    Feeling so happy right now.

    Not seen my MM for almost 2 weeks as I've been out of the country but I will do tomorrow. I so