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I Am The Other Woman

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 46 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 10 Responses Feb 13

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    kc5316 kc5316 22-25, F 42 mins ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 31-35, M 17 Responses Apr 19

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    He is making me crazy today.

    He seems to be waiting for me to ask. And I'm waiting for him. Then it gets to the last minute and one of us says "meeting at...". Missed our typical morning hug, because of me, but he made it later by coming to see me. This time, I was waiting to hear from him as he heads home...
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 2 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    I passed out today. Possibly from stress

    and lack of sleep and constant crying. So today I started 'the talk'. What's going on, will we ever happen? Answers I got were 'my feelings have grown for her' and 'I can't get over the texts that were sent to her, I don't think I can trust you' and to finalise 'I can never say...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 3 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    I really wish a single guy that's of interest

    to me would hurry up and come along so that I can keep my mind off MM. I guess the way to get over one is to get another. Where is My another before I give in to MM and I'm trying my hardest not to. I think I can only go but so long.
    Truone16 Truone16 31-35, F 2 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 68 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    I need some opinions

    or advice.. For a short time in my life I was completely blind and stupid, maybe borderline insane.. I dated a married man.. Well.. When I got away from him... Woo hoo!! But now.. I'm having a dilemma. He helped me with financial things while were together.. I didn't want...
    Midnightheart Midnightheart 36-40, F 4 Responses 58 mins ago

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    Why do these random guys keep adding me to

    their circle? It's giving me the willies. Eww. Just because I'm sleeping with a married man does not mean I have ANY interest in them.
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 12 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 42 Responses Feb 24

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    Tonight will be our first full night together.

    No time constraints. No looking over our shoulders. We have a suite booked with a fireplace. Sushi & wine. I am so looking forward to 8 hours of normalcy. It is crazy we have never even eaten together. We spend our blips of time only focused on eachother. We get to talk for...
    tauriangirl tauriangirl 36-40, F 31 Responses 5 days ago

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    27 hours and NC, this is

    even harder than I imagined it would be.
    Blueeyes65 Blueeyes65 46-50, F 2 Responses 1 hr ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 31 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 17 Responses Sep 10

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    Just asked my guy if there was a way

    for us to spend Dec. 23 together as our xmas day since he will spend xmas with his family of course and he said "count with that, it is done"! He said he would really like that very much, the fact that maybe for the first time we get to spend xmas together in a way... So my...
    Chicadelcaribe Chicadelcaribe 31-35, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 78 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    Women won't mess with a man

    that lives with his mom but will mess with a man who lives with his wife.
    reeessa reeessa 13-15, F 30 Responses Oct 23

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 52 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 6 hrs ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 40 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Hey Ladies! One more day to post tips

    and tricks on how to help all of us move on, and forget these stupid men! Woo! Just go to my profile and look at my experiences. Its the one before this one. Tomorrow I'm going to ask if anyone tried any, and what your results were. Thanks ladies!
    LightningXIII LightningXIII 31-35, F 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    Help! I have a hickey.

    Has this ever happened to you ladies? What the hell do you tell your spouses? I just let myself really go this time and didn't ask him to stop. Don't judge me. I am about to burn myself with the hair straigtner to make it look like something else. Help on what to do, say, he...
    kylee2013 kylee2013 36-40, F 11 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 15 Responses Jun 2

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 21 Responses Jul 30

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 57 Responses Nov 6

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 80 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    Doloboo85 Doloboo85 26-30, F 2 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Hope y'all are having a good week.

    The weekend is on the horizon! Hope y'all hear from you guys as well.
    Ldylvlylcks2002 Ldylvlylcks2002 26-30, F 5 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 16 Responses May 4

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 24 Responses May 6

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 148 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    I miss this MM but had to end it.

    Was being so strong but today crying. I feel like I will crack and go back. I did message him but no reply maybe he just wants me to forget him. We live so close which is hard. I am tempted to message him. Just feels like I lost a friend too. I feeling like this now.
    stupid28 stupid28 31-35, F 4 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Today was a designated us day.

    Just me and him, a bed, a diner, chatting, listening to tunes in the sun, back to bed. He satisfied me over and over, and said he waa completely satisfied. Then we did it again. I never get tired of that, of hearing his stories, of lying like naked pretzels together, of kissing...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 5 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 103 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    So things are okay between he

    and I although we got into a minor argument this morning as I was headed to work. I told a friend of mine he could stay at my place for a couple days until his girlfriend calmed down. And of course he doesn't like that too much. All I'm doing is helping out a friend if he doesn...
    honeybree20 honeybree20 18-21, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 84 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    He has been in a terrible mood all day

    because of work, but he still wants to go out tonight. Here's hoping that hanging out with me makes him feel better and he doesn't just drag me down with him.
    DarlingEll DarlingEll 26-30, F 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Why can't I just find a nice single guy?

    Turns out this new guy is engaged, to be married 2016. Why did he leave it till I just start opening up myself to him and letting him in to drop this bombshell?! I give up.
    Prettybutterfly88 Prettybutterfly88 26-30, F 2 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 20 Responses Apr 18

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    My phone was dead all day

    because my husband accidentally took my phone charger. I think it was a good thing, I was able to ignore mm very easily. When I finally charged my phone I was surprised that he had texted me four times. "Hey, how are you doing?" "Everything okay?" "I hope you're not mad at me...
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 6 Responses 1 hr ago

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    monty1212 monty1212 26-30, F 4 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 161 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    Hate we couldn't get together this week &

    stressed it might not happen next week with the holiday and all. Y'all keep your fingers crossed for me that we can make Tuesday work. I feel so disconnected after not seeing him for weeks. Want to reconnect again so badly!
    forbidden67 forbidden67 46-50, F 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 8 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    Seriously, sending pics of your nether region

    again? Just because I joined the OW forum doesn't mean I'm some freak sitting at home awaiting the arrival of any body parts. I post about being totally head over heels for one guy. This in no way means I will have any form of relations, including internet relations, with any...
    surfsway surfsway 36-40, F 2 Responses 59 mins ago

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    Has anyone experienced the difficult night

    after you have an overnight with your AP? After having that amazing night snuggled up with him, I find that I enjoyed it too much. I want him more now than ever.
    surfsway surfsway 36-40, F 6 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    Feeling kinda disappointed today.

    I should be in his arms by now but plans fell through .... A text or a phone call would be nice .... I mean he wasn't too busy for me to drive 6 hours there and 6 hours back, $500.00 at least for the trip to have only 6 hours with him ... Just my luck
    dsuzy dsuzy 36-40, F 7 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 34 Responses Sep 23

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    Hi ladies... so here's an update on my MM drama.

    ... Many of you know my story so I won't rehash it now. Trust me I'm sick of repeating myself. And I know many of you know I keep saying "I wish things could go back to how they were" when it comes to my MM. In case you don't know MM and I were best friends in HS, reconnected...
    AvaLennon AvaLennon 31-35, F 4 Responses 5 hrs ago

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