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I Am The Other Woman

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    It feels like I'm living in a fantasy.

    .. which only opens up once in a while; when we talk, when we meet up... and it's all hidden from the world. And once it's over it'll just feel like a dream because none of it will ever be known to anyone except him and I. And although it causes me so much pain, I remember the...
    hiddennlove hiddennlove 18-21, F 1 Response 13 hrs ago

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    Haven't heard from him

    since I said bye to him when I was with him Monday night. At first I was wondering if I had done something wrong, apart from stalking his Twitter but know I'm just angry. I messaged him on Monday to let him know id got home ok and nothing!! I'm refusing to reach out to him again...
    Prettybutterfly88 Prettybutterfly88 26-30, F 3 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    so here goes my final post

    as I am no longer the ow..our d day has arrived..not bcos our partners found out but well I'm looking for a new job and well leaving him behind or vice versa I guess as our company is not doing good...my heart is breaking..a life with out him...it wasn't only about sex..I luved...
    ANGELKZ ANGELKZ 26-30, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 80 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 17 Responses Mar 25

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    Today was actually okay.

    Cried a bit about the job but he was there for me. He met me this morning and he made me feel calm. He said today that he's using counseling to process what he's got going on. We had good conversation today. He says he means what he says to me. I'm okay.
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 1 day ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 41 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 47 Responses Jan 10

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    Day 7 of NC. Couldnt stop thinking what his

    reply to me when i asked him what we are and his reply was i dont know.. A part of me died and gave up on him at the same time.. Today is sunday.. Before this happens, im excited every sunday for the past two years since i know it will only be one more night and come monday i...
    Rogue9926 Rogue9926 31-35, F 4 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Today's been hard for some reason.

    I saw mm last night for a couple hours. We just sat and talked, I really like when we do that but I woke up feeling very insecure and uneasy. This is usually when I become irrational and do or say something stupid to him. I decided to write him an email. I'm not going to send it...
    moepeep moepeep 22-25, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 52 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 86 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 90 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    How often do you see,

    talk to your MM's? My MM and I see each other 4x a week. We also talk and text all day long. The only time we don't get to talk much is on the weekends. We usually trade a few small texts on the weekends and that's about it.
    lit4love lit4love 26-30, F 5 Responses 1 hr ago

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    Ok wow, by this time next week my MM will

    officially be a SM!!! Omg, l feel the need to shout this from the roof tops every day this week, my excitement is just so overwhelming right now!! We have a very romantic getaway planned for next weekend to celebrate, my God ladies..it is going to be epic.! lol lts been so...
    gigglelicious gigglelicious 36-40, F 13 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    His car broke down on Wednesday.

    It's actually pretty comical because he has a really nice car. Either way, for those of you who read my posts, you know he had a baby 5 weeks ago, and since then he's been distant and different. It's put me through hell, but we came to an understanding, and I have pushed forward...
    lit4love lit4love 26-30, F 5 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    Update.... And just like that,

    we are back to good. That's not to say we were in a bad spot. We just hit a bump in the road. I got my 5:45 am wake up text. We talked it over before and after the Saturday Morning run and It all boiled down to he had a bad day, and he wasn't prepared to have an emotionally...
    Randomgirl1122 Randomgirl1122 31-35, F 1 day ago

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    MM had msg me Friday afternoon saying "I'm just

    thinking about the crazy time we had together yesterday. I keep replaying it in my mind. I hope you are having a wonderful day." He msg this good morning today and he hopes I have a great day. I msg back " so you are replaying in your mind. What is your favourite memory from...
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 17 hrs ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 204 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    He came over yesterday.

    I made dinner for him, nothing fancy. We chatted about things. Laughed about it feeling completely unnatural to only see eachother every week. On the outside I was composed... Inside I was burning & screaming in agony. I kept the tears in. He did try to come onto me... But...
    DefinitelyDollie DefinitelyDollie 22-25, F 4 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    its been a month since we've been done.

    but I can't stop thinking about him. why, you ask? we live in a pretty spread out town, and I work 1/8th of a mile from my home. there are two restaurants between my home and job. out of the dozens of restaurants in this town he is at one of those two on my lunch break, when he...
    Violetbeauregard Violetbeauregard 26-30, F 2 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    He finally came over,

    after a few days of very sexy text messages (basically sex on phone). It was great, just like the good old times and we had amazing sex. Then I told him I discovered (I was told, I never investigated) the identity of the other woman (in addition to me and the wife) and he was...
    loveariel loveariel 41-45, F 4 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 54 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Day 6 NC. Running errands

    and random thoughts of him...of us keep popping into my head. How you referred to my house as "home". Saying this is where he belongs. How he said we have to be together because no two people have ever been so in love. And yet he can't leave his W and I'm left alone and broken...
    heartbroken1234 heartbroken1234 36-40, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    So last night I was hanging with some long time

    friends and found myself asking if the one guy was bringing his W or OW. We all like the OW so much better. The W is just no fun. Then we were talking about the relationships and why they're together and how they work (OW for 17 years). It's easy when you're on the outside...
    heartbroken1234 heartbroken1234 36-40, F 3 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 18 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    we broke up march 13.

    don't even know how many weeks its been guess that's a good sign. I've talked to him everyday since. just joking yesterday and I told him I was just using him for sex. he replied not anymore. I said well for now. we could just have sex once in awhile just to keep us both honest...
    libby59 libby59 46-50 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 14 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    It's funny when I will go out of my way to wait

    for him. When I go out of my way to see him. When I would drop whatever it is that I am doing to see him. He says he's going into the office today. I ask if I can see him. He says maybe. I suggest he come to my place (which is totally out of the way) before he go into the office...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    I'm doing so much better

    than I thought I would be but I keep asking myself how do I move on without him. Someone who I love so much. I'm still not mad. I'm just so very sad.
    heartbroken1234 heartbroken1234 36-40, F 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    Had a weird moment with OM today.

    .. he and I met up this afternoon, we made love and afterwards we were laying there, cuddling... I said what was on my mind -- and before I go further, let me just say that I know we should, but don't always -- since sometimes we don't use a condom, he just pulls out.. I said I...
    gianneisstuck gianneisstuck 31-35, F 1 Response 42 mins ago

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    He said I make his knees weak.

    . He has no idea how much I love him. I wish he did.
    Missmetomorrow Missmetomorrow 22-25, F 1 Response 14 hrs ago

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    MM is out of town on business

    and I always feel like a insecure child when he's gone. His texts and calls are sporadic and short. In my rational brain I know he's busy and entertaining clients. But there's that little part of me that always thinks "Why doesn't he need me as much as I need him?"
    BrandedScarlet BrandedScarlet 36-40, F 19 hrs ago

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    Never have I experienced a person going through

    all my posts and commenting on them. Calling me names, telling me I'm selfish and a bad person. It's kind of sad that one person could find the time and effort to write such hateful things. Not the best way to start my day when I'm already feeling kind of low.
    moepeep moepeep 22-25, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 48 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    NO LONGER THE OTHER WOMAN!

    !! I am now the only woman :) it has been officially ended this morning, he was straight on the phone to me who was awesome at playing it cool despite up all night worrying! He was going to come over but we both decided against it as he needs time to recover maybe. He has gone...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 14 Responses Mar 21

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 152 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    I'm still the other women

    and he's still the other man. The sex, the sex, the sex. How will I ever stop having this passionate of sex?
    spilledpurfume spilledpurfume 31-35, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    I'm back after 10 wonderful days away with my

    MM. MM had a work conference out of town and it worked out so I was able to go with him. Being together for 10 days only strengthened our feelings for each other and being able to wake up together every morning made it so special. So I just wanted to let all my friends know...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 10 Responses 1 day ago

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 51 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    We met this morning. It was nice.

    I'm kinda bummed he flaked on our plans for later today. Next week he's starting his new department and I think it's going to be really hard to see each other now. I don't want to say good bye. I feel like it's going to fizzle out.
    OneStonedGirl OneStonedGirl 31-35, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 16 Responses a week ago

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    I've been used to only posting

    when I've felt really ******. I don't feel that way today. I feel...good. I think part of my issue is that I believe if I admit that I feel good with certain points of my life, then that means I've grown complacent & this affair is one thing I am not going to be okay with for...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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