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I Am The Other Woman

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 14,597 People

    My story I posted here in June.

    Since I have had time to heal, process and although I still yearn for what we had, I know we made the right choices. I met a man. We were waiting in a line to go into a museum. We got talking, ended up going through the museum together then spent the weekend together. No...
    ifoundmehere ifoundmehere 46-50, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 41-45, F 73 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    deleted deleted 26-30 17 Responses Feb 6, 2015

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    MM texted just as I got home with my groceries.

    Would be nice to have help hauling them in at -40, but whatever :) He was on his way to his casual maintenance job, and just sent me pics of the cabinets he needed to take down. Went much better than he expected, but now he needs to paint. Since the removal didn't take as...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 19 hrs ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 167 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    He came back and was restoring my Windows,

    it ended up reinstalling, and it took forever. We snuggled up on the couch, I had a nap and spent time caressing him under his shirt. He wrapped his arms around me, and I felt him kiss my head. Then he said, I have never worked on a computer quite this way, I could do this...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 1 day ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    So... we all know what antibiotics can cause

    right? Back to the pharmacy for me. Good grief, I can't win.
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 1 Response 20 hrs ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 205 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    Looking back it is funny how easily I fell into

    the trap of becoming 'the other woman.' The first flash of distress - a wounded soul no less, and I dived into the murky water. He told me that I was his oxygen. I was a mermaid Saint Bernard with the reviving elixir strapped to my neck. Strangely, I found two unmarried men...
    Faerylight Faerylight 41-45, F 19 Responses Jun 21, 2015

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 53 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 47 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Just a heads up... IndigoAlive is just

    Experience1954/YupandNope/RoboChicklet come back as another.
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 1 day ago

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    We are both starting to feel ourselves again

    after a bad two weeks or more with this flu. Still have some healing to do, but overall starting to gain some energy. He started sending photos again, which is a good sign. And he laughed at the jokes I sent. It feels good to have him back and to be back myself. I feel all warm...
    PressPToPlay PressPToPlay 46-50, F 14 hrs ago

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    Ok I'm not quiet sure

    if this photo is cut off or not. It's a treasure and feel free to send this to your lover who deserves the world best award. ;) I sent to my lover early and he deserves it
    ReflectedSoul ReflectedSoul 41-45, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 51-55, F 169 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 42 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 44 Responses Jan 10, 2015

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    UGH! Our group has been flagged AGAIN.

    Seriously? Women falling in love with married men, and married men falling in love with women who happen to not be their wives... is not "mature content". Also - not agreeing with the "lifestyle" lived by people who belong to a certain experience on EP, does not qualify as...
    ladyquaintrelle ladyquaintrelle 22-25, F 3 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    The other woman isn't always a home-wrecker.

    Sometimes she's a home-mender. I had been faithful to my dear husband for over 20 years. For many years I thought there was something wrong with me. Maybe I wasn't sexy. Why didn't he want me the way I wanted him? I grew to understand that we just had very different desire...
    livingasme livingasme 51-55, F 17 Responses May 15, 2015

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 19 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 47 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 19 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 48 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 19 Responses Mar 22, 2015

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    A How To List

    Hello to everyone especially those drawn here by the Facebook postings. For the record, I am not "Keeping it real in Kendall". Since most of you are brand new to EP let me be the first to welcome you! Please take a moment to read the Terms of Service before commenting. This is a...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 100 Responses Aug 25, 2013

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 15 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    It's been almost a year

    since I was sitting across from ex-mm in a coffee shop outlining what our relationship was going to look like if we were going to go through with this. I hadn't found out yet about his wife (little did I know, I would later that same day), but he had just confessed to me that...
    ashadams244 ashadams244 26-30, F 50 mins ago

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    Since some people are

    so big on numbers and stats. I thought I would supply some numbers of my own.. How long we have been together. 7yrs, 4mths, 27 days, How many days I have heard from him ..2705 days..in a row. And I averaged out (3x/wk) how many times we've been sexual.. 1158 give or take...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    OH. MY. GOD. It's final,

    he's single, and as of 9:37am today I am no longer the OW!!!
    Shardsofsorrow Shardsofsorrow 31-35, F 66 Responses Jul 29, 2015

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    I must say I feel better today.

    Its been kind of weird with MM lately. Our conversations have been short and kind of terse. But today he apologized and explained because he has not been feeling well, he gets quiet. Which I totally understand. I do the same thing - like it takes too much energy to even hold a...
    PressPToPlay PressPToPlay 46-50, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 24 Responses Apr 30, 2015

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    Such a difference a year makes.

    I can't wait for Valentines Day. He made reservations at a restaurant we've not been to, and it's a surprise. We have a 4-day-weekend and today spent the day getting him a new sports coat, shirt and tie (my choices ) for his interview Thursday. It...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 33 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 19, 2015

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    Rollercoaster day. Today I finally signed

    everything ready to join MM's company and quit my current job. We had been working towards this for months. He texted me one word ("excellent"), I expected him to be happier. He was busy. I poured some wine and toasted us alone. He then told me clearly and matter-of-factly...
    daisyblue222 daisyblue222 41-45, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    Yesterday morning he called me

    and we were chatting for awhile but he had to go and said he would call back in an hour. I was being a selfish brat as I wanted to stay on the phone and finish our convo but he was at work. I said "whatever." He got upset at that and told me to enjoy day. I text him saying sorry...
    abeautifulove abeautifulove 31-35, F 3 hrs ago

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    He put 3 dozen red roses in my room with a Orcid

    and he got me earrings to match my ring for valentine's day. I've been really tired and sick. My BP is still not on control and the Dr I saw Wed said to come back In 4 weeks and we would re evaluate and he didn't want to put me on any meds heart is still twice as fast.... It's...
    ap05 ap05 26-30, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Well it's definitely over.

    Has been for a week but I'm just really thinking about it now. Been so busy that it hasn't resonated. The thing with my sister I don't know what'll happen yet. Probably nothing. I haven't cried, I'm a little sulky today but I'm also so tired. I have been sleeping well...
    AvaLennon1 AvaLennon1 31-35, F 5 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    Well this... Another Saturday movie night

    would be nice. Just putting that out into the universe and see what happens :) Worked out nicely. He arrived unannounced, and although we didn't watch a movie, we did snuggle up and watch some tv. I'm still having a few issues with my laptop, nothing I think is pressing...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 14 hrs ago

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    you are my favorite drug,

    
addicted to your touch and crave your presence when you aren’t here I realized i was greedy and wanted you to **** me then somehow, without intention I wanted you to love me as I loved you
between that moment of a glance and a kiss where the world stops and is envious...
    LLLinCincy LLLinCincy 36-40, F 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    So a number of years ago,

    4 maybe. I wanted to renovate my bathroom. I bought all the stuff (cabinets, lights, fixtures, faucets, flooring etc) and MM said he would do it for me. So I ripped down all the ugly plastic tiles and we began sanding and patching. Shortly after we started, he went home with...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 42 mins ago

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    Thought and question.

    I have been watching a NETFLIX show called "Grace and Frankie" [really good BTW]. The premises of the show is these two couples who have known each other for years, their husbands are law partners. In the very first minutes of the show the husbands announce that they have...
    whynot13 whynot13 46-50, F 8 Responses 1 day ago

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    Today marks 7 months without you in my life,

    BW. Guess what? I am getting stronger and stronger everyday! You can go **** yourself!!!
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 36-40, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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