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I Am The Other Woman

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    Mm (My Man) said to stop doing ep already

    and give him some attention. Lol. Have a great night ladies! I have my own easter eggs to attend to.
    AtPeaceEros AtPeaceEros 31-35, F 2 hrs ago

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    Apology To My OW Who Stopped Waiting, Really Stopped Waiting

    I am truly and unreservedly sorry for what I have put you through. Whatever the reasons, the result is that I took far too long to get freed up for you or to let you go. I don't even feel like I gave you everything I could while we were in this phase. I could have given you a...
    Wilbury Wilbury 41-45, M 13 Responses May 4, 2013

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 19 Responses Jan 2

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 159 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    We are the OW. We don't judge.

    We don't care if you don't agree. We don't acknowledge rude comments. We are strong. We are loved. We are happy =)
    sunflowah sunflowah 36-40, F 17 Responses 1 day ago

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    To the Trolls - If I get one more message,

    I will be finding out your IP myself and I will be contacting my lawyer to file harassment charges. Have a lovely day.
    notafanofcircumstance notafanofcircumstance 31-35, F 3 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 62 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    Word of advice which we've already discussed

    (and I just broke my own rule)... no matter how tempting, don't creep on social media on your mm/w. It's not worth it. It's not reality - and it has nothing to do with you or your own personal connections in your relationship. Every time I do it, I immediately regret it and see...
    weirdlyfe2014 weirdlyfe2014 26-30, F 8 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    I miss him. I miss his touch

    and his kisses. I miss everything about him. I miss the laughter and the way he smirks at me when I get caught staring. Since my trip we actually talk more. Daily phone calls are a necessity for him, even if just for a moment to say I love you. He always finds a way to make...
    notafanofcircumstance notafanofcircumstance 31-35, F 4 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    That summer i spent a month in the town,

    where he and his family stay. A week before i left, finally i got a chance to stay in his house. That night while i was sleeping he called me, he would come to hotel to see me. When he came, asked me to pack my stuff and checked out from the hotel. He would take me to his home...
    angelamaxy angelamaxy 22-25 21 hrs ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 22-25, F 22 Responses 2 days ago

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    When I wake up, I reach

    for someone who likely isn't there. I don't get a morning kiss, I don't get to make his lunch. I don't have the right to call him at work, or to ask him to pick up something on his way home. On a day to day basis I don't get to have dinner with him, I don't get to watch him as...
    notafanofcircumstance notafanofcircumstance 31-35, F 22 Responses Mar 17

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    it so hard being with him

    but not having him when i want him. its so hard not being able to call or text when i want to..its so hard not knowing whats going on in his life when he's with her... this was suppose to be our time together....hes suppose to be with me right now...not her...she had him all...
    CountryGirl028 CountryGirl028 26-30, F 5 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 204 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    I hate the way that sounds.

    Because in many ways I was THE woman...we connected, we fit, we found something rare and whole and fulfilling and wonderful. It started as a genuine friendship, depth, understanding. We never intended it to be more, but the power of finding a mind and heart connection is...
    Kadl Kadl 46-50, F 13 Responses Feb 18

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    Just got an email letting me know he is home

    safe from his long weekend. Traffic was pretty rubbish ... as always on a holiday weekend. Got that stupid smile on my face again. Lots of xxx's which is pretty cute. Thank you ladies and gents for helping me to keep things in perspective this weekend. Lol. I do try to behave...
    CuriousKat12 CuriousKat12 51-55, F 1 hr ago

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    My MM posted a video of himself playing the

    piano and smiling and I watched it like a million times haha :) I loved seeing him look so happy and doing what he loves to do! I love how he looks like a cute teddy bear! Gahhh... I feel all mushy and lovey dovey :|
    musicandnotes musicandnotes 22-25, F 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    So I've decided to share a little about my

    experience with my mm: When I met my mm he wasn't married. He was single but I was in a relationship. I met him through a music school where he was my teacher. We started talking and because of our friendship my ex broke up with me. These was two years ago. When my ex broke up...
    musicandnotes musicandnotes 22-25, F 23 hrs ago

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    You trolls wish you were the OW.

    ..couldn't get a man (or woman!) if you tried, such pathetic POS!
    SweetPeaLove SweetPeaLove 51-55, F 7 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 9 Responses Feb 11

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    okay so i have a question,

    whats a reason why i would stop trusting my guy out of no where, i mean i think back and i dont recall him doing anything to second guess anything he says, but for this past week i catch myself wondering if he is telling the truth? i mean i know its stupid cause i am the other...
    Jlynn1424 Jlynn1424 22-25, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 42 Responses Feb 24

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 74 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    Moving On.....I Didn'T Think I Would Ever Be Able To Say That

    I must admit that I have been pretty much obsessed over the man I cheated with. I haven't talked to him in over a year since the truth about us came out. But everyday I think about him and wonder how he is, what he is doing, how his son is, if he thinks about me at all...
    SS81 SS81 31-35, F 67 Responses May 8, 2013

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    My guy just told me that HE LOVES me.

    ❤️ finally! after a year of laughs, non-sense fights, gray areas, and amazing *******, I heard him say it. With sparkles on his eyes. Now I think I can kill myself. I'm on cloud nine. Hiihihihihi. ❤️❤️ Bring in the hate mails my dear trolls. I'm so happy, I'll...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 22-25, F 10 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    Lol. I am cracking myself up laughing at the

    Trolls. Ladies...its been a full moon this week..... need I say more? Think it's hilarious that it has taken until now for the penny to drop why they are all out of their caves :0) Have a lovely evening ladies and go ahead and eat that chocolate.
    CuriousKat12 CuriousKat12 51-55, F 4 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    I went out with my MM

    and his W. It was awkward and difficult. I kept having to act busy or turn away so I wouldn't touch him. I guess sometimes though you'll do anything to see him. He's started staying with me a few nights here and there it's nice and it helps but sometimes it's so lonely when he's...
    sammylou22 sammylou22 22-25, F 7 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    I just had the pleasure of blocking my first

    *******. I am sure this person copied and pasted the same message in many of your private messages. I didn't even read the entire message, but the last paragraph said something about not making it across a bridge (which, ironically, happens to be a fear of mine!) I am usually...
    pinkismysignaturecolor pinkismysignaturecolor 36-40, F 3 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 34 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    He fell asleep here last night

    after one thing lead to another. I hope she feels the way I did the many nights he pulled this very same thing with me. So many makes it seems as if this is okay, wonder how it feels now that the shoe is on the other foot? Because now he is only doing to her what he was doing...
    Itonlytakesone Itonlytakesone 26-30, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 149 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    My mm was playing with my phone

    and checking my photos and etc... Then he saw that i have a list of his wife's 2 mobile number, office #, email and skype name!!! Geezzz!!!! Good thing he didn't get angry and only said its ok with him that i have her info... I still feel guilty 😳 Anyway happy easter...
    AtPeaceEros AtPeaceEros 31-35, F 4 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    My messages with my man: Mm: miss you

    sooooooooo much! xx Me: I really really really want a kiss :( xx Mm:xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Me: :) sex wouldn't be too shabby either dear xx Mm: I know!!!! But I don't know how to send...
    hayleysusannah hayleysusannah 18-21, F 4 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Who knew you could go from miserable to amazing.

    .. my Husband has told me that now after 2.5 years coming up with all these different ways to make US work, and coming up with new ones again and again after they all failed... I DID everything... I mean everything! Nothing worked.. then he tells me yesterday... that he was not...
    WendyBlabs WendyBlabs 36-40, F 20 Responses Mar 15

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    That summer i spent a month in the town,

    where he and his family stay. A week before i left, finally i got a chance to stay in his house. That night while i was sleeping he called me, he would come to hotel to see me. When he came, asked me to pack my stuff and checked out from the hotel. He would take me to his home...
    angelamaxy angelamaxy 22-25 21 hrs ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 25 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    My Secret Gold Coin

    You don’t know it, but I think of you as a beautiful, precious, shiny gold coin that I keep secretly hidden in my pocket. I feel happy knowing that you are in there, but unhappy knowing that you have to stay hidden. I wish I could show you off to friends, but they wouldn’t...
    jenn80 jenn80 51-55 18 Responses May 23, 2013

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 44 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    What I learned recently - 1) Strong marriages

    can not be broken. If someone has an "other" someone, things were already broken on some level. 2) I have kids. I run a household. I manage a company. I still have time in my day to make my MM feel like he's the most important person in the world. If spouses did this - cheating...
    notafanofcircumstance notafanofcircumstance 31-35, F 10 Responses Mar 25

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    A How To List

    Hello to everyone especially those drawn here by the Facebook postings. For the record, I am not "Keeping it real in Kendall". Since most of you are brand new to EP let me be the first to welcome you! Please take a moment to read the Terms of Service before commenting. This is a...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 104 Responses Aug 25, 2013

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    Its been four freakin days

    since ive talked to him. Its been a long holiday weekend and hes out of town with his family. The last time we spoke i told him im gonna miss him so bad. He said to not worry as he will call me during the break.. But nothing.. No text, no phone calls, nothing. I have been...
    Rogue9926 Rogue9926 31-35, F 10 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 123 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    So I am left feeling really stupid tonight.

    .. Again.... Talked to my guy at 1030 this morning... Said that he was going to pick me up and go for a drive cause it was so nice outside.... I was working so said I was going to call him when I get off work... I did and he was headed to work on an emergency call ... I told him...
    Jlynn1424 Jlynn1424 22-25, F 3 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 27 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    I hope I've blocked enough trolls

    so I can repost this from a story I wrote for "I am Married and having an affair" without getting run over the coals. But then I can always delete and block... I have been in an affair since September of 2007....Your assumptions that I am a soul sucking seductresses or a...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 10 Responses Mar 16

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 61 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    Does your MM (OM, MW,

    etc.) know about EP and that you share your relationship with OW? How does he feel about that? I cancelled all of my social media because it was causing too much drama with my mm - this is pretty much anonymous but he has no idea I share my thoughts with other women (and men...
    SweetPeaLove SweetPeaLove 51-55, F 12 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 101 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    It's Easter Sunday. And I just got a text from

    Jason that said "I told myself I was going to go all day without texting, but it's 8.30am and I can't help it. Good morning sunshine" I'm so happy.
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 4 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 48 Responses Feb 16

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    That summer i spent a month in the town,

    where he and his family stay. A week before i left, finally i got a chance to stay in his house. That night while i was sleeping he called me, he would come to hotel to see me. When he came, asked me to pack my stuff and checked out from the hotel. He would take me to his home...
    angelamaxy angelamaxy 22-25 21 hrs ago

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    I'm married and I'm the other woman

    for another man. I'm 25 and he is 45. I am in love with him.... What am I gonna go?!
    bekakaye4 bekakaye4 22-25, F 6 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    I find it so hilarious how stupid people can be.

    People added me as friends and when I look at their page before adding them... All I see is hateful comments to other OWs'. Seriously... lol Stupid idiots. I read on a OW's page that these people were sending them messages to "go kill themselves." lol When I saw that they had...
    cowgurrl cowgurrl 22-25, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Really missing MM today.

    This is the first holiday since being together. You all are right....holidays SUCK!! Haven't heard from him since around noon today. So not used to this. He has a bunch of people over his house for dinner and I hate that we can't be together. Still love him bunches though. T...
    blackheels4me blackheels4me 36-40, F 3 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 31-35, M 9 Responses 1 day ago

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    Totally gutted n nothing more

    than i deserve i suppose had a argument with my MM on sat via text about dinner time. iv heard nothing off him since then by text or email. sooooo i presume hes ignoring me, he normally texts none stop every day on and off but iv heard nothing, since sat, iv said sorry...
    truckinglady5 truckinglady5 36-40, F 3 Responses 3 hrs ago

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