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I Am The Other Woman

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 20 Responses Apr 18

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    Finally said no to him.

    We only get to meet up once a week and I'd been looking forward to it all week and yesterday he invited me out today and I said I couldn't bcos I'm busy. I actually said it because I want more sleep because it's my day off. But I did it, I am one step closer to cutting him off...
    hankpalmer hankpalmer 18-21, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    My boyfriend hasn't been sleeping much.

    I can't imagine how stressed he is. In between dealing with work bullsh-t... Thanks to me and my past antics I've messed that up, and not seeing his kids as often to dealing with his ex. Today he said to me that he gets overwhelmed sometimes and he doesn't like it. I told him...
    RedHotPepper RedHotPepper 26-30, F 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 152 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 5 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 49 Responses Feb 16

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    I was the other women

    for a year but now I am the wife. We will be celebrating our 3 year wedding anniversary soon. We were both married to other people when we met. We were both in bad marriages. We are both so much happier now. If anyone wants to hear my story I am happy to share.
    magic2929 magic2929 46-50, F 19 Responses Apr 29

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    MM asked me to skype him last week

    and I told him I couldn't because I had plans already. He didn't contact me for four days. I didn't contact him either. I figured he was upset because I told him no. He asked me to treat him as I treat others, so this is what I did. I used to drop what I was doing...
    Guilty1982 Guilty1982 31-35, F 2 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 31-35, F 5 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    So my MM is at work for the night

    and since he asked me to stay I decided to clean his home away from home for him. Well mostly because I'm a very clean person and though he is fairly clean I'm positive he hasn't dusted since the last time I seen him (4 months ago) and partly because I need to keep myself busy...
    MartiniLynn MartiniLynn 18-21 1 day ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 74 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    I didn't intend for this to be a test

    but it turned out to be one and he passed! We have plans to meet up tonight but unfortunately I have a chronic condition and it started to flare up today. It causes being intimate to be really painful and we never spend time together unless sex is involved so I was worried he...
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 1 Response 11 hrs ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    Wow! Who knew that one "venting" session would

    have so many negative responses!! Thank you to the ladies that understood what I was venting about :-). Some comments I would like to delete, but everyone is allowed their opinion (and I'm not computer smart and don't know how to delete them lol) Time to head out for a run and...
    Newlife48 Newlife48 46-50, F 5 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    I love the days when my AP finds projects

    for us to work on together. I am so glad to see that he is feeling better. He was so sweet and in contact all day. He really brightens my days at work. Funny how I still get butterflies in my stomach after all this time.
    surfandturf surfandturf 36-40, F 3 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    So tomorrow his youngest son is arraigned

    and sentenced and will very likely be incarcerated. So MM is understandably a wee bit preoccupied. Yesterday he took him to get a flu shot then fishing. If you've ever wondered what you do with your about to be locked up kid, yep....flu shot and fishing. MM told me he'd call me...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 10 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    I'm too close to this to see clearly.

    The guy I was chatting to has left his woman and gone to stay at his brothers. I stopped talking to him, refused to meet him - eventually - because he was already attached. He text me yesterday saying they are finished and I spoke to him today. He's gone to stay with his...
    paliglass paliglass 31-35, F 4 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 46 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    I am still waiting for him to break up with his

    girlfriend and be together with me. But I have waited so long, and I am very tired. I just want to rest in peace... I am still waiting because he said he would give me a decision, but I have been waiting for 1.5 years now and nothing happened. He is living with his...
    ayako18 ayako18 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    So the question in the back of every OW mind.

    Will there ever be a happily ever after in this situation. Read this story about a colleague who was the OW for well over 10 years. She worked with her MM and his W worked for the same company but in another department. OW and MM tried to keep their relationship a secret but...
    123Frozen 123Frozen 31-35, F 6 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    So I feel like my MM has been acting a little

    different this time around. He is to willing to let me stay at his place. I don't feel comfortable doing that really. But he keeps bringing it up. I stayed last night but, I came back home for the weekend because it made the most sense to and he was trying to convince me to stay...
    MartiniLynn MartiniLynn 18-21 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 23 Responses May 6

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    I struggle every day.

    I have so many questions so many feelings. I saw him the other day, we spent time laughing and talking, yet before we parted he made a comment that I haven't been able to get off my mind. It showed his lack of trust with me and now I don't know what to say or do. I'm pissed off...
    Girlygirl35 Girlygirl35 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 31-35, M 17 Responses Apr 19

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 15 Responses Jun 2

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    To other women, to wives,

    to all women in various relationship choices, You are unique. You are special. We are all equal human beings. We all have feelings, weaknesses, strength. Not one of you is first. Not one of you is second. Not one of you is third. Wherever you place yourself is wrong. Measure...
    paliglass paliglass 31-35, F 1 day ago

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 11

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 37 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 30 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Got a text from his early this morning about

    7am. He texts, "My wife has found my texts. She is ending our marriage."
    Asheera123 Asheera123 41-45, F 15 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    Why do all the haters say you're always going

    to be second choice? Maybe we are second choice when he "has" to go home but in reality we aren't second choice in his heart or his mind. I can almost promise that he's thinking about me more than his wife. I can almost promise his heart is starting to lead him else where and...
    tc57 tc57 31-35, F 88 Responses Aug 10

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 103 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 35 Responses Sep 23

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    So I am trying to get over my MM.

    I love him loads but as you know, he hadn't been treating me right of late, so have been practicing detachment for while now (hope that word makes sense).. Anyway, I want to talk to new people, new men, just a chat buddy to help wean myself from thinking about him and longing...
    Ruru7 Ruru7 31-35 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    A bit off topic, but the stress of being in

    this relationship, combined with life stresses in general have made my skin freak out like a hormonal teenager. Anyone have any suggestions? I hate having to put makeup on to go work in a hot kitchen. It's making me feel so hideous!! :( Thanks ladies.
    lostanddistraught lostanddistraught 22-25, F 7 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    We haven't talked in awhile.

    ..and am trying to be okay with that....after I ended things a month back...hope it shall be well....
    CurvyandChic CurvyandChic 22-25, F 3 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 18 Responses Sep 10

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    Hi ladies! I am the happiest woman on planet

    earth! I went on "receiving mode" for 3 months and he finally texted me today! Said to meet me and I saw him. We talked for hours and we placed all rules on the table. It's all good. I am so happy. i saw him, we kissed, fooled around and I am just ridiculously happy! He is the...
    kylee2013 kylee2013 36-40, F 6 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 161 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    I tried to attach this quote

    as an image...no luck :/ "Silence is as good of an answer as words. If you say how you feel and get no response, the lack of response is your answer."
    pearl26ab pearl26ab 26-30, F 4 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 16 Responses May 4

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    Please tell me if I have any right to be ticked

    off by the following text conversation Me: Hi Him: Hi how is your day? Me: Good how about you? Him: Really busy Me: I kind of figured that Him: Still busy Me:me? Him:No I'm still busy I need to know if I am just being silly but it is really getting under my skin. It just sounds...
    lilymn lilymn 46-50, F 8 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Im excited.. Less than 2 weeks im seeing him

    again for another 4 days.. And surprise awaits for me.. Oh gosh this man is spoilling me..
    prettygoddess prettygoddess 26-30, F 2 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 21 Responses Jan 2

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    Too much time spent anticipating his presence.

    Too little time spent actually being in his presence. The time I'm with him, I'm happy yet I am sad that this joy is only temporary and time is running out before he returns to his life and I return to mine. Married men are like drugs. Makes you feel good temporarily; and then...
    WantWhatYouCantHave WantWhatYouCantHave 22-25, F 4 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    It was pretty nice to be able to lay in his

    arms this morning, but however I have to go back home today for the weekend. Hopefully I will be back to see him Monday.
    MartiniLynn MartiniLynn 18-21 19 hrs ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 67 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    We have a pretty much standing time to see each

    other on wednesdays. He has gotten on fb and been on there 20 minutes without ven saying good morning or anything. I so feel like I am being taken for granted. I am to leave in 15 minutes and not a word. (I know it sounds weird on my end but). Very disappointed and tired...
    blue963 blue963 51-55, F 6 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 22 Responses Jul 30

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 78 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    Upset, annoyed, mad..

    . that's all happening at 2:45am. The last few days he has been letting our conversations drop... the first time it was a couple hours and I sent a smart *** response. The second day, I just let it go, but last night? I can't ******* do it. He went on a trip with his band, so we...
    Ahmazing Ahmazing 31-35, F 3 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    I feel like sometimes I self sabotage all the

    good things in my life. We have been perfect the past few days. Happy, no problems, today we were getting hot and heavy at work and almost got caught. He pushed me off him so fast I nearly got whiplash. I didn't want to be found out mid act either, but it still kind of hurt...
    lostanddistraught lostanddistraught 22-25, F 6 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 145 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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