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I Am The Other Woman

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    Well.... Like I've said,

    my MM kept saying nothing has changed, listen to what he says, he still loves me, he's just busy with the new baby, etc. We talk everyday. I haven't heard from him since Friday. I tried texting him today, no response. I think I already knew it was like grasping on to sand in my...
    lit4love lit4love 26-30, F 4 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    How I love trolls!!! They are

    such fans of our stories!!! Not only they take time to read our posts but they take time to write. I guess cuz they're on their fat *** all day sitting behind the computer screen without a life. Just saying. Happy Saturdays you all ;)
    myheart99 myheart99 36-40, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    MM.. Why did you do this to me?

    You told me you would never just disappear.. Maybe you haven't . Maybe I'm just overreacting. I know you are out of the country, but why didn't you call before you left? It's been two months and no word. Did you try to stop over before you left? Did something happen? When are...
    andwhatnow andwhatnow 31-35, F 4 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 87 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    If you could ask your MM one question about

    your affair, what would it be ?
    Blueeyes65 Blueeyes65 46-50, F 7 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 6

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    I love getting unexpected text messages from MM.

    All he says is "thinking of you". He's going through such a rough time at home it means so much to know I'm still on his mind. I though he might need some space but he says he needs me. I'm glad to know that some how just being here for him makes things better. All the normal...
    ladylove0113 ladylove0113 36-40, F 2 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 171 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    I feel like it's been ages

    since I've had anything to say. My birthday came and went and he was so sweet! Surprised me in the morning before work with kisses and flowers :) and we had an overnight a few days ago. I'm back at work, which means back to trying to sneak around. Although, it seems to be people...
    lostanddistraught lostanddistraught 22-25, F 32 mins ago

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    Had a great day/night partying with family

    and friends. Just what I needed. Lots of drinking to drown my sorrows, which I never do, but it helped. I'm getting stronger and more over this situation. Mm hasn't contacted me and that's helping too. I guess I sort of wish it stays this way. There's plenty of fish in the sea...
    ilycc06 ilycc06 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 50 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    The walk was nice. Then decided it would be

    neat to check IG. Looks like they are/were spending happy family baby time together with another couple. So I sent him a big long text about how I just wanted him to be happy. (If I was really the one, I would be full time, not just some idea). What does "I have to do this...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 3 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    I don't know how I feel anymore

    or how he feels it's been going on for so long now we've seem each other at least once a month since we met-maybe it's because I expert to see him again I dunno-but I'm just numb-starting our 4th year and beyond being addicted I'm just wondering if I'm worn out. I have my heart...
    Readytomoveon2015 Readytomoveon2015 31-35, F 3 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 11 Responses Feb 13, 2014

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    If someone who knows they have a deep emotional

    and physical connection and obsesses over you, why wouldn't they make an effort to change their lives to make room for the kind of happiness that you could offer each other? I understand hurting others is sometimes involved which is terrible! But wouldn't it be more fair to...
    joyfulcloudofsorrow joyfulcloudofsorrow 31-35, F 8 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    6 years, 3 months after meeting my soul mate

    face to face... The Application for Divorce and the associated documents were posted to his soon to be ex wife's lawyer today :-) ...so as soon as his lawyer receives the signed paperwork back from her, its just a matter of waiting until the 30th of April which is their hearing...
    gigglelicious gigglelicious 36-40, F 6 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 79 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    NO LONGER THE OTHER WOMAN!

    !! I am now the only woman :) it has been officially ended this morning, he was straight on the phone to me who was awesome at playing it cool despite up all night worrying! He was going to come over but we both decided against it as he needs time to recover maybe. He has gone...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 14 Responses Mar 21

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    It's been a week since my daughter took her

    overdose. She is doing well, and getting lots of help and support from some amazing health care professionals. MM has been giving me lots of space, no pressure, no demands, just the odd call or message to see if everything is ok. Last night, really late, he sends me this. It...
    typist123 typist123 36-40, F 8 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 48 Responses Jan 10

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    I'm going on day seven,

    fighting urge to contact him and also realization that I need to let him go. This is an awful feeling and I've tried it before but caved at first sight of him. I'm tired of feeling like I'm so last on his list and he could walk away so easily with no second thoughts. It was so...
    ayliffe ayliffe 41-45, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Mammogram this morning.

    Once a year if you like it or not. Thing is it's on my mind that I am the exact age my Mother was when she found her breast cancer. But I'm thinking good thoughts.
    whynot13 whynot13 46-50, F 7 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Day 1 of no contact. I need to be stronger

    this time. I've agreed to one email a month so we can keep up with what is happening in each other's lives. Does that still count as NC? I just need more from him. And I'm afraid I'll be waiting forever.
    Journeys2013 Journeys2013 41-45, F 12 Responses 1 day ago

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    I'm going to hot yoga tonight.

    I need a space that's free from him. I know it's probably my hormones and my energy but he's felt distant today (he hasn't been- texting all day...) I need to reestablish balance in my life on my own. I can't keep this cycle up. If I am being asked to stay and wait, then I need...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 3 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    Awful, awful day - full of misunderstandings -

    so hard when you can't actually talk face to face at the time. "We" are ok but today that good 'Ol coaster is on the d-o-w-n for me and I need to square my shoulders and get it going u-p!!! Thank goodness for kindred spirits here x
    onlymeonlyme onlymeonlyme 41-45, F 1 Response 11 hrs ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 54 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 51 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 16 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    The Clarity From Relationship Uncertainty.

    ... I read something from another OW's post that started me off on an introspective journey ... To paraphrase her " If i do not hear how much MM cannot live without me and longs to make me his, the rest of what he says fades in to idle chatter " Ping ! i got her ...I have...
    warriormama warriormama 41-45, F 7 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Arghhhhhh...... Having a horrible weekend!

    I am beside myself with anger, just complete blinding rage!!! When I become single again, I will be staying that way! Some people get lucky in relationships, some don't. Obviously I am the latter, I give up!!!
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 36-40, F 11 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 15 Responses May 4, 2014

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    Today he heads back home from 8 days away with

    his friends. He's had the blow out and fun away from the drama he has left behind. It's been 8 days since he finished with her. He's stayed in contact with me loads this week, mostly all good apart from me asking him some emotional stuff half way through but he reacted well...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 47 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    did he really not love me?

    why am i always easily tossed aside?
    xalotlikex xalotlikex 22-25, F 4 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 19 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    Its such a cold day in spring.

    ..cold just like how I'm feeling. Im trying so hard to keep myself busy yet my mind is occupied with thoughts of him. I will miss him...I miss his warmth and I know I'll always love this man with all of my heart no matter how much pain I'm feeling. But I'm not going to live a lie...
    waitingonfaith waitingonfaith 31-35 2 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    Almost drove to their house.

    Not sure why. I got as far as to get in my car. Then I grabbed all the critters and went to the dog park instead.
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 7 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    After drinking a bit too much with my AP

    and our coworker, I started to think about how inconsistent he's been lately, and my drunk brain just got more and more annoyed with him. I sent him a message on our chat app basically just telling him I was deleting the app, and we'd still be friendly, etc. He said ok, and that...
    DarlingEll DarlingEll 26-30, F 1 Response 14 hrs ago

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 31 Responses Sep 23, 2014

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    Sunday. I wasn't prudent with my time at all

    yesterday and I'm trying to walk away from the fact that I didn't do anything except essentially cry. Everything from yesterday rolled over into to today so lots of cramming for chores. I'm not ready for tomorrow. Usually I'm pretty excited because I get to see him, but I feel...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Funny story to share

    for the women that feel hopeless like me... I went to get coffee at a Dunkin' Donuts and right when I was leaving the place Better in time by Leona Lewis came on the radio. I thought that was a sign from God to let me know that it will get better in time and that I will move on...
    sadpreciosa sadpreciosa 26-30, F 2 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    I've made myself physically ill.

    I need a time frame from him. Ladies, how do I ask that? Without pushing... I can't do this...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 4 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 27 Responses a week ago

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 18 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    Friends Fwb (with both) Mistress (to

    both husband & wife) Mistress (to just husband) They're relationship was doomed before they tied the knot. Right after they get hitched she begins to loose her **** bc she expected it to suddenly be a fairy tail. They use me as a buffer. He still sleeps with me. He likes me...
    BobbyBlack7589 BobbyBlack7589 22-25, F 1 Response 19 hrs ago

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