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I Am The Other Woman

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 20 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 31 Responses Sep 23, 2014

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 16 Responses May 4, 2014

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 101 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    :"(

    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 5 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    It's been a week today

    since MM ended it. This is so hard, the hardest thing I've ever done in my life, trying to let go of the one you love. If it wasn't for a certain few ladies on here, I think I'd be in alot worse shape, you guys are my rock, and I love you for it. Thank you for listening to me...
    Blueeyes65 Blueeyes65 46-50, F 9 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    Good Morning Ladies, Wishing you all have a

    blessed day today, I have read many of your post yesterday and seen so many women in pain for 1 reason or another while dealing with the MM. Listen despite the position we play in the MM lives try to remember there are so many other options out here for us. If one fish don...
    Imbrokenhearted Imbrokenhearted 36-40, F 7 hrs ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 17 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    Well ladies - I am taking a break from

    Experience Project for a bit .... Too many people just being ugly and not really providing "support" or insight. When I joined this group it was because I was/am in horrible pain and needed support and advice from others in the same situation. While most of the input has been...
    kitty1958 kitty1958 56-60, F 10 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    I haven't seen him in a few weeks

    and we haven't talked much. Ladies, I'm starting to realize that I'm worth so much more. I have hope, I've even caught myself smiling!! I love you all and hope you all find happiness ?
    StuckInEternity StuckInEternity 18-21, F 1 Response 20 hrs ago

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    I have to say it, but sometimes I truly feel we

    are after the same guy here! :) First of all based on the description we all give, he's the most amazing guy, which would suggest there is only one. Secondly he keeps pulling away, and coming back close like he had "way too many" on the go. He's chasing us, and then pushing us...
    monty1212 monty1212 26-30, F 3 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    Tonight will be our first full night together.

    No time constraints. No looking over our shoulders. We have a suite booked with a fireplace. Sushi & wine. I am so looking forward to 8 hours of normalcy. It is crazy we have never even eaten together. We spend our blips of time only focused on eachother. We get to talk for...
    tauriangirl tauriangirl 36-40, F 26 Responses Nov 15, 2014

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    does it happen to anyone else

    that they catch themselves saying APs name out loud with a sigh randomly throughout the day, not quite loud enough for anyone else to hear?
    findingpeace6 findingpeace6 26-30, F 2 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    So mm moved back in with the w

    because his parents are coming to visit and didn't want their daughter to mention anything. He did say he is gonna tell them about the situation when they come though. Even though he moved back in he kept contact at work, he also emailed me from a personal email account and he...
    sadpreciosa sadpreciosa 26-30, F 3 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 20 Responses Jan 2, 2014

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    I made plans to hang out with my ex-AP next

    week. :-/ He was emailing me about work today and added that he hoped I was doing well and that he hadn't seen much of me recently so we should catch up. I'm worried that we can't be "just friends" and that going out for dinner and drinks might trigger something more. On the...
    DarlingEll DarlingEll 26-30, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 81 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 164 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 78 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 11, 2014

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    Came across this by an accident (video to be

    ignored) but it about sums up and substantiate the great feeling I have within me! The love that I feel, and the name is sort of also valid! Thought I would share with you! :) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=33r8WZ_qm0Y
    monty1212 monty1212 26-30, F 23 hrs ago

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    Everytime i try to stay away life always seems

    to present me situations that prevent me from doing so. Have been having tons of problems with my car and no money to either fix it or get a new one. No family at all which means no help from anyone. Whos been there for me? He has. Taking me to work, picking my daughter up at...
    Chicadelcaribe Chicadelcaribe 31-35, F 2 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    I can't wait to have a massive cuddle of mm

    tomorrow. It's been a week! I get to see that awesome grin and feel him smile on my shoulder. Am I only one who is happy with my situation? I don't want him to leave her, I really don't want to get caught or hurt anyone, I just want to enjoy what we have and for it not to change...
    MRGFF MRGFF 36-40, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Ok. I just have to tell everyone how great this

    guy is. Yesterday, as I told you he stopped on his way home to give me a heart shaped cookie he had just bought for me. Saw him this morning for hugs and he gave me some pizza that he made last night. He came over for "lunch" with a bouquet of flowers and we made love for...
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 5 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 46 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 67 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    He just stopped on his way home,

    for a hug, and gave me a heart shaped cookie. Yep. Such a cutey.
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 3 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 54 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    I've been quiet because I have not had too much

    to add. Everything with my MM is wonderful. He's been so supportive, loving, attentive and wonderful. Annnnnndddd....we have our second overnight planned tonight! Champagne, dinner, hot tub......bliss. xo
    tauriangirl tauriangirl 36-40, F 5 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Well, I caved. He came to see me today.

    I knew we would still see each other - business relationship- but he didn't want physical contact anymore. I respected that and decided that I wouldn't cave if he did ever change his mind. When he first saw me, he kissed me and said I've been missing you, I couldn't sleep last...
    shitbyrd shitbyrd 36-40, F 1 Response 21 hrs ago

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    Banana beer in hand, candles lit,

    waiting for him to come over :) yeh I'm glutton for punishment but since our break we are closer again and I guess seeing each other makes me think he will fall for me more so rather than absence makes the heart grow fonder. He needs a kick up the bum though really. I only asked...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 hr ago

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    Have been Talking to A guy from last year so

    for over 6 months Now , He does have a Girlfriend and Me a boyfriend , we Gym together everyday , and see each other everyday , but he does get mad when i dont go to the gym and dont reply , why?
    flower242 flower242 18-21, F 11 hrs ago

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    Thinking about him a lot tonight.

    During a meeting today, we were on opposite ends of the conference table and both looked at each other at the same time. Our eyes met and he smiled this adorable crooked smile. My heart flip flopped. I don't want him back, but it's still hard. I miss him, I miss talking to...
    DarlingEll DarlingEll 26-30, F 1 Response 16 hrs ago

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    :)

    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 1 Response 21 hrs ago

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    I have been reading and rereading posts here.

    Those of you who are in a good place I am truly happy and envious of the place you are in. I wish I could pull something out of this experience, turn back time, not say what I said 10 days ago. Shoulda , coulda, woulda. Second guessing every word in the last two weeks. Hoping...
    kringle6691 kringle6691 46-50, F 7 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Women won't mess with a man

    that lives with his mom but will mess with a man who lives with his wife.
    reeessa reeessa 13-15, F 28 Responses Oct 23, 2014

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    One thing I love about my relationship with MM

    is that we are so supportive of one another. We've both had problems recently and have turned to one another for love and support. He is always the first person I tell when anything good or bad happens. And vice versa. And I realise it's such a long time since H and I were...
    daisyblue222 daisyblue222 36-40, F 3 Responses 1 hr ago

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 88 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    It's done. His home life was being affected

    and he didn't want to risk destroying his home life.
    kringle6691 kringle6691 46-50, F 7 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 41 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 17 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 50 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Be careful the trolls are out today.

    Just ignore and block. Hope everyone has a great day 😃
    tc57 tc57 31-35, F 2 hrs ago

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    So as part of the d day revelations - W tells mm

    that over the last few months ( while he's been seeing me) she has fallen in love with him again. Although she is highly religions (JW) she said that she was thinking of getting a tattoo of his name and their anniversary date as an affirmation of her love for him. I really don't...
    NNIP888 NNIP888 22-25, F 2 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Loving my man and accepting he is with another

    woman is one thing. But to be put down by him when all I want us to hear from him through text and to see him is a big NO NO. I don't mind and care what people say about me. I don't even want to think how negatively people will think about me knowing he has a gf and yet here I...
    VicMarie VicMarie 36-40, F 2 Responses 39 mins ago

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 10 Responses Feb 13, 2014

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    I feel good today. I heard through mutual

    friends that my exMM and his W are going to counseling. Strangely, this actually makes me feel good. I guess it confirms what I believed was the truth. 1 - He didn't really love me. I have no doubt that he probably thought he did, but really, it wasn't love. 2 - He is not a...
    AlexisLost AlexisLost 41-45, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 31 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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