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    The next three days are going to be.

    ..well hard, strange, don't know. This is the first time since we started this relationship back in May that we will have basically no contact. We decided yesterday that with the holiday so close, his W home from work today, and all, we wouldn't try to contact again until...
    whynot13 whynot13 46-50, F 2 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    How did I get off track

    so easily?? A few weeks ago I was done! Went back in so cautiously,,, when he said he would still have to see me he couldn't let go... I knew I wasn't strong enough to resist so I went back but built walls. For ten days I let myself feel it was over, stopped thinking we had a...
    elizabethmariejazz elizabethmariejazz 36-40, F 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 81 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 46 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 84 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 69 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    The final day before holiday break.

    There was something so different and passionate about being near him today. We didn't do anything but hold each other and talk. He was so different and in a good way. Maybe he's dreading the next 9 days too.
    surfsway surfsway 36-40, F 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    After being together last Thursday,

    I heard nothing from him. I caved and called his work Sat but he couldn't talk long & said he was going to call me when he had more time/privacy to talk. Sunday-Wednesday still no contact. He told me last week about the new job he is doing during the week & the hours. I know he...
    forbidden67 forbidden67 46-50, F 3 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 148 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    I'm not the other woman (didn't ask to be

    as he said he was single), but I enjoy reading the post as they help me with anger issues I still harbor. I'd like to know if anyone fell in love with someone (married of course), to later learn they're married. If so, how did you deal with the lie/betrayal?
    DreamGolfer DreamGolfer 46-50, F 42 mins ago

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    Weight off my shoulders - to say the very least.

    I compiled a lengthy letter to my 'MM'. Everything I have felt - wanted to say - but hadn't. We met at my office - I wanted a quiet place with no interruptions. I explained the letter before I gave it to him. I explained how 'nervous' i was feeling about it. It was exactly what...
    AdelW AdelW 22-25, F 1 Response 14 hrs ago

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    Eeeeekkk!!!! Going to see the Nutcracker Ballet

    tonight with my man. Getting all dressed up in a black dress and him in a suit and going out to a fancy dinner beforehand! Then probably Xmas shopping with him Saturday and then we get to go to my work Xmas party. It's gonna be a great weekend! Sooo excited! Then again, any time...
    sensitiveme sensitiveme 31-35, F 4 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    Worst. Birthday. Ever.

    Seriously, who knew this year would be the year that almost everyone forgot. My mom, the woman who gave birth to me didn't even remember. I've talked to her twice today and she never mentioned it. My husband has been a **** all day. I wanted to go to dinner as a family but he...
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 12 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 162 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    Seeing red today!!! His ex is hoping

    for a F...ing Xmas miracle! She asked him to be her date tonight to her work Xmas party! I swear to God! And tomorrow he is supposed to be taking her to supposedly end her pregnancy. Can't believe this story is still carrying on. Just wish she would be honest to him and say that...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 4 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Coincidence keep coming my way with this new

    guy from Saturday. Talking to him yesterday, he told me that both his ex-wifes had my same last name and that he asked his dad where he was born and it happen to be same place I was born at. Then, my girlfriend from work who was with me on Saturday kept telling me she has the...
    Chicadelcaribe Chicadelcaribe 31-35, F 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    I'm not really 'the other woman' anymore cause

    they are getting a divorce.. But he's still married to her and she's got his kids she will always be part of the picture. I feel like the other woman still. She hasn't let him see the kids barely at all. He had them for one overnight since the end of October. Anyway.. To him...
    megansunshine megansunshine 18-21, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 32 Responses Sep 23

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 41 Responses Feb 24

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    I haven't posted here

    since March, mostly because my mm became very sick and battled for his life this whole time. I came back here to update that he passed away from cancer this morning. I'm grieving. It wasn't supposed to end like this. We had just begun something magical. I truly loved and adored...
    youngconfuzedteacher youngconfuzedteacher 26-30, F 19 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 20 Responses Jan 2

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 10 Responses Feb 13

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 9 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 31 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Women won't mess with a man

    that lives with his mom but will mess with a man who lives with his wife.
    reeessa reeessa 13-15, F 29 Responses Oct 23

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    So this is insane. Someone please tell me it is

    and it's not just me. My guy is divorcing his wife, and at first she wanted that too but then changed her mind and wanted them to try and fix things. She was very vocal from the beginning that she was going to keep the kids from him and unless he agreed to do what she wanted...
    megansunshine megansunshine 18-21, F 16 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 20 Responses Apr 18

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    question: for those who are married

    or were married in terms of looks, humor, socio-economic class, sexual chemistry would you say mm and H are 1. similar 2. similar except...3. not alike 4. total opposite? just wondering. my H was conservative in all areas, clean cut, middle-class, financially stable, not one to...
    justinsneedow justinsneedow 41-45, F 4 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Why does life bring this perfect match to you

    when it's impossible to have them? How is it possible to meet that one person at the most inopportune time in the world? I'm not naive and I'm well aware of what love is. I just know I was supposed to have this person in my life, it just happened at the wrong time.
    surfsway surfsway 36-40, F 2 Responses 1 hr ago

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    Tonight will be our first full night together.

    No time constraints. No looking over our shoulders. We have a suite booked with a fireplace. Sushi & wine. I am so looking forward to 8 hours of normalcy. It is crazy we have never even eaten together. We spend our blips of time only focused on eachother. We get to talk for...
    tauriangirl tauriangirl 36-40, F 28 Responses Nov 15

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    We had such a good time last night.

    The place we went ended up having team trivia night and we made a great team. He's going to be off work for quite awhile during the next few weeks for Christmas and New Years, but we'll try to see each other when we can. He said last night was our Christmas together and he...
    DarlingEll DarlingEll 26-30, F 2 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    He came to see me yesterday morning,

    and it was really nice even though I was still hurting from the past week. He could see that and was very sweet, didn't rush to leave or anything. Then when I finished work at night, we met up for drinks. I could see him texting W the whole time and though I try not to read over...
    yesto8 yesto8 26-30, F 9 hrs ago

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    I've cried so much in the last 24 hours.

    I don't understand why this has happened? Why did our paths cross and why was my MM taken from me after he made me feel pure happiness for the short time we spent together? It's not fair. I remember everything. The last time we hugged; the last conversation we had; the last text...
    youngconfuzedteacher youngconfuzedteacher 26-30, F 4 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    Trying to pull back step by step

    and much more tomorrow. We were chatting at lunch.....had to go wife came in. Ways he'll be back later. (of course that never happened). He is having a work event tomorrow and never asked me if I was going......so I wont be. Just assumes that I will show up. I have a ton...
    blue963 blue963 51-55, F 6 hrs ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 50 Responses Feb 16

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    Ok ladies tell me your first thought

    or reaction on this conversation. MM gave me his happy meal toy like he always does and It was a penguin water gun. MM: did you squirt anyone yet? Me: no I'll only do that to you MM: go ahead.....make my day Any thoughts or reactions?
    tc57 tc57 31-35, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Ahhh this life !!! A week of trying to have

    real time together ... On both our parts ... And things just kept getting in the way! We had many conversations and daily quick meets ... But the time to really relax together or go out for hours wasn't too be. His work got in the way and then last night finally everything fell...
    elizabethmariejazz elizabethmariejazz 36-40, F 3 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Just laying here again

    for the second night in a row trying to figure out what that conversation meant last night. Only bc that's how it all started with us back in feb. I made a joke that if I ever bailed him out of jail he would owe me big time. Then he said he always pays his debt. Then we started...
    tc57 tc57 31-35, F 3 hrs ago

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 16 Responses May 4

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 11

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    to those of us going through the breakup stage

    or even thinking about it, our situation is what it is(a necessary evil perhaps, but it has/had to be done). you have to stop trying to convince our hearts otherwise, it's a battle some of us we'll never win. That's why part of the reason you hold onto him so strongly/tightly...
    iheartnono iheartnono 31-35 2 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 79 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 208 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    Help, I'm hating the holidays already!

    I just finished work for 2 weeks and feeling sorry for myself as MM is busy and we hardly had any contact today. I miss him so much it's almost like a physical ache. He feels the same. And the thought of taking time off and not spending it together is horrible. Instead we will...
    daisyblue222 daisyblue222 36-40, F 2 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Ugh.. Social media again.

    Talked to me ALL day long .. Him initiating. Then gooey gushy lovey with wife on social media all night. Barf. Why. It's too much. Wonder what he thinks I think.
    Missmetomorrow Missmetomorrow 22-25, F 13 mins ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 103 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 20 Responses Jul 30

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    I have never posted -but sincerely appreciate

    every other woman's posts, support, and understanding of us! Came across the site over a year ago and have just been taking everything in! trying to relate to someone that has had a D day -but has managed to continue the relationship because he states "the only person that will...
    yuckyuck16 yuckyuck16 46-50, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Welp.... Day 10. I caved.

    I figured what the heck, I'm going to text him and see what happens. Me: You have no idea how much of an impact you had on my life. I miss you. Hours went by and finally a text back. I almost shi* myself. Him: I miss you too (smiley heart faces emojis included) Me: Really Him...
    tauriangirl tauriangirl 36-40, F 4 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 51 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 24 Responses May 6

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