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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 16 Responses May 4, 2014

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 50 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Well ladies - I am happy to announce.

    I am no longer a statistic. My MM has left completely, has filed, has moved out, has moved into a new place, has a new number, has placed the W in a mental facility/rehab for her drug usage, has informed both his family and hers, and has asked me to be his real deal girlfriend...
    AdelW AdelW 22-25, F 2 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    It's done. His home life was being affected

    and he didn't want to risk destroying his home life.
    kringle6691 kringle6691 46-50, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    Okay so even though I am the other woman in the

    relationship, I catch myself getting more jealous than his wife. It drives me crazy. If I know he is flirting with another woman behind my back I get so mad that I turn total b*tch mode. I don't say anything because I don't want to start a fight! Its like hello you can have...
    ImThePlusOne ImThePlusOne 22-25, F 2 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    does it happen to anyone else

    that they catch themselves saying APs name out loud with a sigh randomly throughout the day, not quite loud enough for anyone else to hear?
    findingpeace6 findingpeace6 26-30, F 3 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    In a sense... I am. I continually sleep with my

    ex while he's with his on and off girlfriend. He always says the sex with me is better but he's still doing both of us. And he's always looking for more girls... I know I should leave him alone. All I really want is to understand him. He wants love and I feel like I could help...
    IvyRed15 IvyRed15 16-17, F 2 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    Banana beer in hand, candles lit,

    waiting for him to come over :) yeh I'm glutton for punishment but since our break we are closer again and I guess seeing each other makes me think he will fall for me more so rather than absence makes the heart grow fonder. He needs a kick up the bum though really. I only asked...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 7 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    I have been reading and rereading posts here.

    Those of you who are in a good place I am truly happy and envious of the place you are in. I wish I could pull something out of this experience, turn back time, not say what I said 10 days ago. Shoulda , coulda, woulda. Second guessing every word in the last two weeks. Hoping...
    kringle6691 kringle6691 46-50, F 8 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 49 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 46 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Just had a nice little snuggle with my love bug.

    He stopped over before going on his trip. It's so crazy, but I love falling asleep to the sound of his snoring! I missed him so much- I'm glad we are both being supportive of one another's choices to go visit family on our break and not pouting (too much). I jumped right into...
    lostanddistraught lostanddistraught 22-25, F 3 hrs ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 31 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    One thing I love about my relationship with MM

    is that we are so supportive of one another. We've both had problems recently and have turned to one another for love and support. He is always the first person I tell when anything good or bad happens. And vice versa. And I realise it's such a long time since H and I were...
    daisyblue222 daisyblue222 36-40, F 3 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    I have to say it, but sometimes I truly feel we

    are after the same guy here! :) First of all based on the description we all give, he's the most amazing guy, which would suggest there is only one. Secondly he keeps pulling away, and coming back close like he had "way too many" on the go. He's chasing us, and then pushing us...
    monty1212 monty1212 26-30, F 3 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 78 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 67 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 54 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    Loving my man and accepting he is with another

    woman is one thing. But to be put down by him when all I want us to hear from him through text and to see him is a big NO NO. I don't mind and care what people say about me. I don't even want to think how negatively people will think about me knowing he has a gf and yet here I...
    VicMarie VicMarie 36-40, F 3 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    Well, I caved. He came to see me today.

    I knew we would still see each other - business relationship- but he didn't want physical contact anymore. I respected that and decided that I wouldn't cave if he did ever change his mind. When he first saw me, he kissed me and said I've been missing you, I couldn't sleep last...
    shitbyrd shitbyrd 36-40, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 20 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 10 Responses Feb 13, 2014

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    I haven't seen him in a few weeks

    and we haven't talked much. Ladies, I'm starting to realize that I'm worth so much more. I have hope, I've even caught myself smiling!! I love you all and hope you all find happiness ?
    StuckInEternity StuckInEternity 18-21, F 1 Response 23 hrs ago

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 31 Responses Sep 23, 2014

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    I've been quiet because I have not had too much

    to add. Everything with my MM is wonderful. He's been so supportive, loving, attentive and wonderful. Annnnnndddd....we have our second overnight planned tonight! Champagne, dinner, hot tub......bliss. xo
    tauriangirl tauriangirl 36-40, F 6 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Everytime i try to stay away life always seems

    to present me situations that prevent me from doing so. Have been having tons of problems with my car and no money to either fix it or get a new one. No family at all which means no help from anyone. Whos been there for me? He has. Taking me to work, picking my daughter up at...
    Chicadelcaribe Chicadelcaribe 31-35, F 2 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    Women won't mess with a man

    that lives with his mom but will mess with a man who lives with his wife.
    reeessa reeessa 13-15, F 28 Responses Oct 23, 2014

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    So mm moved back in with the w

    because his parents are coming to visit and didn't want their daughter to mention anything. He did say he is gonna tell them about the situation when they come though. Even though he moved back in he kept contact at work, he also emailed me from a personal email account and he...
    sadpreciosa sadpreciosa 26-30, F 3 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 88 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 81 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 154 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 41 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Well ladies - I am taking a break from

    Experience Project for a bit .... Too many people just being ugly and not really providing "support" or insight. When I joined this group it was because I was/am in horrible pain and needed support and advice from others in the same situation. While most of the input has been...
    kitty1958 kitty1958 56-60, F 11 Responses 1 day ago

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    :)

    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Good Morning Ladies, Wishing you all have a

    blessed day today, I have read many of your post yesterday and seen so many women in pain for 1 reason or another while dealing with the MM. Listen despite the position we play in the MM lives try to remember there are so many other options out here for us. If one fish don...
    Imbrokenhearted Imbrokenhearted 36-40, F 10 hrs ago

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    I made plans to hang out with my ex-AP next

    week. :-/ He was emailing me about work today and added that he hoped I was doing well and that he hadn't seen much of me recently so we should catch up. I'm worried that we can't be "just friends" and that going out for dinner and drinks might trigger something more. On the...
    DarlingEll DarlingEll 26-30, F 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 17 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 164 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 25 Responses May 6, 2014

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 20 Responses Jan 2, 2014

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    Have been Talking to A guy from last year so

    for over 6 months Now , He does have a Girlfriend and Me a boyfriend , we Gym together everyday , and see each other everyday , but he does get mad when i dont go to the gym and dont reply , why?
    flower242 flower242 18-21, F 14 hrs ago

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    So as part of the d day revelations - W tells mm

    that over the last few months ( while he's been seeing me) she has fallen in love with him again. Although she is highly religions (JW) she said that she was thinking of getting a tattoo of his name and their anniversary date as an affirmation of her love for him. I really don't...
    NNIP888 NNIP888 22-25, F 2 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    As many of you know, my MM

    and I no longer talk. I have known him for 7 years and I actually was his fiancé at one point, obviously long before our affair last summer. So I have a question for all of you. Of all the men that I have ever been involved with, I felt the most physical attraction with ex-MM...
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 36-40, F 5 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    Tonight will be our first full night together.

    No time constraints. No looking over our shoulders. We have a suite booked with a fireplace. Sushi & wine. I am so looking forward to 8 hours of normalcy. It is crazy we have never even eaten together. We spend our blips of time only focused on eachother. We get to talk for...
    tauriangirl tauriangirl 36-40, F 26 Responses Nov 15, 2014

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    Hmmmm.... So this is pretty amazing stuff.

    . Who would have known that's how I would feel today. We must have moved a universe, make all the black holes disappear and perhaps cause a global warming by couple of degrees. (sorry penguins, totally unplanned, I promise) the stars have aligned tonight, at some even much deeper...
    monty1212 monty1212 26-30, F 11 mins ago

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 11, 2014

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 20 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 49 Responses Jan 10

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    He just stopped on his way home,

    for a hug, and gave me a heart shaped cookie. Yep. Such a cutey.
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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