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I Am The Other Woman

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 6

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    Wow he must really miss me.

    He won't give up. I actually feel sorry for him. If only he had treated me better. I have better now! Guess next step is to block him....
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 3 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    Late yesterday night,

    I posted a short piece on South Korea's decision to abolish their adultery laws (in order to not make this overly tedious, I will attach the original post below). Now, abolishing adultery laws is, in and of itself, rather commonplace; after all, most of the civilized world has...
    BoudoirWhispers BoudoirWhispers 46-50, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 46 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 15 Responses May 4, 2014

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 54 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    "I really appreciate you.

    I haven't said it enough. Just been under constant pressure. Sorry. I don't want you to feel taken for granted." Text from MM this morning. I'm still caring for his 2 dogs. We're spending a lot of time together. He's got a key, works a couple miles from here and comes to take...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 3 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 79 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    Sad, sad day. Had to work with MM

    after H confronted him. It was very awkward and strained, and he avoided me most of the day. When we finally talked, he basically said that until things blew over, it's best that we don't talk to or see each other. When I said I don't want to not be able to talk to him, that I...
    AmyFarrahFowler AmyFarrahFowler 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    Questions. What does a MM have to lose

    if he admits to his wife that he cheated, and then apologizes for it. (We're in a no-divorce country). I'm thinking of talking to him about telling his wife and then him apologizing. Would that help MM decide about us, his family, and his wife? I just couldn't end it with him...
    isch71 isch71 26-30, F 4 Responses 1 hr ago

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    We got a little bit of time today alone

    and he brought me flowers.
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 48 Responses Jan 10

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 19 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 17 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 150 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 83 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    PLANNING VS SPONTANEITY!

    !! It is early in the morning ... Beautiful African sun rise and another perfect cup of Ethiopian coffee in my hand. Happy Man and I are slowly and surely transitioning into a special friendship. This is a stage of deep contentment for me. We are still fused! Enjoying back...
    warriormama warriormama 41-45, F 3 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    So down in the dumps.

    . Since I cannot work I feel I have lost my identity. Since I cannot drive, I have lost my independence. Since I can't be with him I have lost my happy... So frustrated, alone, and miserable. My family thinks what a great deal to have this time off work, but I am lost.. So much...
    ElsieJay ElsieJay 41-45, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    Notice the Rainbow Lorakeets in the trees

    as the sun goes down. 50 things that make me happy 1. Waking up and finding there's no chalk mark around me. 2. Dreaming of my lady kissing me when I'm asleep and knowing it's not my pet dog. 3. Walking the streets early in the morning when it's quiet. 4. Not being asked...
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 3 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    We didn't spend a great deal of time together

    today but we did spend quality time with each other. Just that one hour in the middle of a workday is fabulous. He's so gentle and sweet. I love that I can retreat to his office whenever. But as I was leaving a coworker of ours stopped me and said he was going to start...
    surfsway surfsway 36-40, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 27 Responses May 6, 2014

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    On my way to 5 star hotel

    for an overnight with mm. Why do I feel sick to the stomach? Haven't seen him for a month and he has been weird due to guilt.......he seems Ok now but I'm still very nervous!!!! Wish me luck, fingers crossed a night of passion will reconnect what can't happen over text x
    MRGFF MRGFF 36-40, F 8 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    I only have to wait six more days to have an

    entire weekend with him. The wait is killing me! I've never been a patient person, on the contrary I am terrible at it. I've read a few times that some women here only get to see their MMs once a month or even less. How do you handle the wait??!
    Natalie012 Natalie012 26-30, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 51 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    Has anyone walked away from this

    and survived? Nothing is changing here for me. I'm very scared of losing what is essentially my closest best friend after sharing every second of my life with him in some capacity, for the last three years. If it was just a sexual thing with all the 'I love yous' and promises...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 11 Responses Feb 13, 2014

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    I have to stop my affair with him.

    I just realized today. If we were caught, I would be done with my job, marriage, family business. He would have trouble, but would bounce back and end up on his feet without much loss. I feel like I love him, but then again I don't even know him. I am not around him enough...
    shitbyrd shitbyrd 36-40, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 41 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Having some issues...

    Need to vent... Any kind words would be appreciated Most of you have read what has happened between me and now ex MM since Sunday. I really do feel like I am okay but I am angry and feel like I am mourning a loss. Everything this man told me.. Promised me... Promised me he...
    AvaLennon AvaLennon 31-35, F 16 Responses 1 day ago

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    Well I think I handled ex MM very well last

    night. It hurt so much to tell him everything I felt and have him beg me back and I had to shut him down. It's a chapter in my life that I can just not open up again. My new MM was working all night so I didn't get a msg from him until this morning. We spoke about it all. He...
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 1 Response 22 hrs ago

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    Some days I regret having turned off the

    physical side of our relationship. It's been incredibly hard on both of us. Touch is how we connected, how we opened up to each other, how we just flowed. How we loved. There is a Celtic saying, "Mo anum cara," it means, my soul friend. Much different than a soul mate, it...
    40Creek 40Creek 41-45, F 11 hrs ago

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 89 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    Have an overnight planned with MM on Tuesday.

    We only get to see each other once a month as he lives 2 hours away..and I just started. Uh! Why does this have to happen. Disappointed. Not sure how to tell him. Suggestions??
    ladylove0113 ladylove0113 36-40, F 10 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 29 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    A year ago today, my life changed dramatically.

    I stood up to an abusive husband. I had a broken nose, a concussion but because I laid my hand on him first, I was at fault. I remember that moment when I texted my MM to tell him I had to break our lunch date the next afternoon and would be unavailable for a few days because I...
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 5 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    As you know I'm really the other man ,

    a man who adores my lady ...... I love to cuddle after making love It is so beautiful to cuddle the one you love after making love together. Kissing her gently on her neck, her warmth , her love the tenderness that she feels towards you. It wasn't just sex we had ,I made love...
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    My MM just informed me he got a promotion at

    work to a management position. I am very happy and excited for him, but I also know this means we will not be able to see each other as much with his new hectic schedule. We had a wonderful morning together today, and now I don't know what's gonna happen. I am hoping for the...
    Tiffanyportelli Tiffanyportelli 22-25, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 18 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    I read a post the other day

    and it went something like this: If we treated our husbands like we treat our mm, and treated our mm like our husband there would be a lot less affairs and happier marriages. At first I thought "true".... And that started me thinking about how I can go up to my mm wrap my arms...
    Janna78 Janna78 46-50, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 205 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    So reconnection physically works waaaay better

    than text ha ha! The longest we haven't seen each other when together! We went out to dinner, walked along the river and then he blew my mind!! And I snuggled up to him and listened to him snore his lovely gentle snore! And have him pull me close every time he stirred. I know...
    MRGFF MRGFF 36-40, F 3 Responses 1 hr ago

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    Ok Ladies, I need some help here!

    For the past 2 years I've been involved with a MM. The W found out in July, and for 3 months we had NC. I nearly thought I would die! I was literally sick. Well, in early October, this weird number kept calling my phone, I'd answer, and they would say nothing. This went...
    Crow44 Crow44 41-45, F 6 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 54 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    It has been 181 days

    since I laid eyes on you, kissed you, and held you, 165 days since I heard your sweet voice that can melt my heart everytime.....I know it was all an illusion on your end, B. But to me, it was much, much more. I will love you forever, until the last day of my life. I hope you...
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 36-40, F 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 11, 2014

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 32 Responses Sep 23, 2014

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 19 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    One hand washes the other

    and thats how it works between us. I deeply appreciate just having a friend who I can count on. I have no doubts about this. He has never let me down so I don't ever hesitate to do what I can for him. Today was a prime example.
    surfsway surfsway 36-40, F 14 hrs ago

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    Food for thought, ladies

    and gents! http://elitedaily.com/dating/science-behind-hard-sleep-person-forever/950751/
    autumnsx autumnsx 18-21, F 1 Response 5 hrs ago

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