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I Am The Other Woman

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    I don't know why this groups stories come up on

    my feed. There are so many stories posted too. Every time I see one it disgusts me. What's wrong with you "women"?
    hadyourchance hadyourchance 36-40, F 6 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 54 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 31 Responses Sep 23, 2014

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    Ok this is seemly a bit off topic.

    But how do you feel about rain storms. Do you love it when it rains or wish it would just hurry up and stop?
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 8 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 51 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 16 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    well my best friend just admitted to me about

    this special friendship forming with her business partner. .n I was stunned as she didn't know my secret cos I always saw her as the perfect wife n ddnt trust her. anyway I felt bit sad to hear her story cos there's so much emotion there. .things my mm n I dnt do..like this guy...
    ANGELKZ ANGELKZ 26-30, F 3 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 18 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 51 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    Guilt...quesiton for you married women.

    Do you feel it? I've been with my H for almost 20 years. He is a good man. However, we live as roommates. No intimacy for almost a year. I'm a very type A and he is very type B. When I was younger, I thought that was a perfect match for me. However, when you're trying to...
    MadameMirage MadameMirage 36-40, F 4 mins ago

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    I am human I am flawed I am having an

    affair what does an affair look like? this is my experience ... Living in different cities - an hour+ apart He now works here (started 5 months ago) that's been amazing! text every day, little back and forth texts over the course of the day always a much longer chat late...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 14 Responses Nov 11, 2014

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 20 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 88 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 28 Responses May 6, 2014

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    I am reflective this morning.

    Trying desperately to not fall into my quiet space where things get noisy in my head. Trying to stay in the blissful space I was in yesterday, and not turn mustard seeds into giant unwieldy plants. I'm content, too. I feel like I am taking a baby step towards fitting where I am...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 2 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 154 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    I had a really bad day.

    Caught my bf in a senseless lie. Only time will tell if we will make it after this. I snapped like I've never snapped before. I felt like I turned into a different person. But I've never had anyone fight to prove their love to me like this. Funny thing is I had a dream the other...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Two days now I've gone without tears.

    Two days now where I've felt moderately okay. Saw him less today than normal. It was okay. We were both ridiculously busy. I was sad about it, but so busy that it wasn't terrible. We texted less than normal. Bothered me a little. This day felt different though. I didn't have as...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 1 Response 9 hrs ago

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    He's bringing his baby to work today.

    It's been months since I've seen him. Friday. Then he will only be around the office half day. Which I feel secretly glad about. Only because seeing the baby is going to stir emotions in me. Although I fell asleep not even half way through, I found a guided meditation on...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 32 mins ago

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    NO LONGER THE OTHER WOMAN!

    !! I am now the only woman :) it has been officially ended this morning, he was straight on the phone to me who was awesome at playing it cool despite up all night worrying! He was going to come over but we both decided against it as he needs time to recover maybe. He has gone...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 14 Responses 5 days ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 41 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    shitbyrd shitbyrd 36-40, F 2 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 48 Responses Jan 10

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    I feel like I'm slowly not caring

    so much anymore. even though it hurts to feel like I don't matter. I love him. I've known him many years and I miss him, but if I don't get the attention I need from him, I go cold. It's been 8 days and no contact. I was the last one to text. I'm sure he's busy and I respect...
    ilycc06 ilycc06 31-35, F 15 hrs ago

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    Nothing else needs to be said.

    ..Leann Rimes "BORROWED" 
    LEXUS46 LEXUS46 46-50, F 3 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 70 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    "...Research shows that 90% of women would

    chase a taken man" ...uh..... http://elitedaily.com/dating/research-behind-guys-with-girlfriends-are-hotter/977009/
    autumnsx autumnsx 18-21, F 4 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    I don't gush about soulmates,

    but I do believe in them. Days like today make it that much harder to deny that the two of us are connected. I posted not too long about having a hard time and wanted to reach out to him. Well, he beat me to it. He said he loves me and misses me and can't move on. He said he's...
    ravenofthedark ravenofthedark 41-45, F 3 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    I can't do this anymore.

    I have to stop this and hope for the best. Starting Monday I will go on NC. Please help me God and I ask all the support I can get here.
    sadpreciosa sadpreciosa 26-30, F 6 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 47 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 15 Responses May 4, 2014

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 6

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    ravenofthedark ravenofthedark 41-45, F 9 Responses 1 hr ago

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    So I've absent for awhile

    but we're Still going strong so thankful he's around on those days that my H drive me crazy. Makes the smiles he makes That much more meaningful
    tdymedic tdymedic 31-35, F 1 Response 11 hrs ago

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    He hurt me so bad. Guess it's my karma.

    He says he loves me more than anything in this world. But he lied to me when I never once lied to him. Even if it would hurt him I was always honest. I left my husband for him. He promised to handle things on his end with his ex gf but yet here we are again with her in the...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 5 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 11 Responses Feb 13, 2014

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    I find myself purposely finding sad things to

    watch and listen to... I need to cry but I can't. That is so frustrating... Don't you just hate that? It feels like you have no tears left... Just watch, he'll come here tomorrow and I'll be a real mess... Can I really end it this time?
    DesperatelyDollie DesperatelyDollie 22-25, F 1 Response 14 hrs ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 79 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    Damn, our trolls aren't

    even creative anymore. All they can say is "IT'S JUST SEX." What do they have templates for responding to posts? All I can do is laugh.
    Serendipitous1 Serendipitous1 36-40, F 5 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    I look into his eyes

    and I just fall in love with him all over again. The OW chronicles
    Imbrokenhearted Imbrokenhearted 36-40, F 4 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 171 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 101 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 27 Responses 4 days ago

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    My copy of 'The Mistress,

    myths, histories and interpretations of the other woman' has arrived ! very much looking forward to a good read :-)