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    Hi y‘all! I haven‘t posted an update in

    quite some time, so here goes. By the way - I think we OW should try and post our good times too, not only the struggles. Join me in that, if you feel like it, I'd love to read more positive stories on here! This is long, if you want to skip right through it, though, then the...
    ladyquaintrelle ladyquaintrelle 22-25, F 4 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 51 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 17 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 28 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 12 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 152 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    I am not the OW, but I'm

    so proud of you ladies. You go through hell and back for these men. You love, comfort, support, and love these men. I do not know how you do it. I read your stories and I'm in awe....sheer breathtaking, gutwrenching, heartbreaking, overwhelming, love-infused awe of you all...
    soldiergirl2 soldiergirl2 41-45, F 11 Responses Apr 6

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    Well my week has been uneventful.

    Turns out it was my week of hectic deadlines and long office hours. MM and I finally got to meet Friday for a long hotel afternoon/evening stay which was much needed. I could not stop smiling. He was laughing at me in the elevator because I was positively beaming. It's amazing...
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 48 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    I've identified my issue.

    I want a time line. I want an answer to when. I enjoy our times together so much. I want unrestricted access. Any suggestions on how I can just be "okay" with how things are?
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 2 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 154 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 17 Responses Mar 25

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    Hi my lovly ladies. I hope you're all well.

    I haven't posted or anything for a little while, in fact I haven't even logged in since god knows when... I think I have been avoiding those really positive OW posts that make me want to be able to be the OW. I thought I'd just post to give you a small update. Just to say I...
    DefinitelyDollie DefinitelyDollie 22-25, F 9 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 14 Responses Apr 19

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    Now my intentions were never to hurt

    or judge. I came here with my sites set on one person. The rest of the OW's, you don't effect my life. I hope that you can all see past that. My issues with this person are deeply personal and right in my backyard. I apologize if I have offended anyone in the process.
    peteristheman peteristheman 31-35, M 2 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 91 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    i am married... he lives with the mother of his

    child. The short version.... he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. It scares the hell out of me to consider change. I am unsure what to do. All I know is when i am in his arms i find it harder and harder to leave.
    sweetplumeria sweetplumeria 36-40 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 54 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Anyway back to my original post.

    ..they're going through with the divorce. I knew they weren't staying together, but honestly I was still pretty surprised when he told me the other day. I do feel guilty. He says everyone is upset with him...he doesn't blame me but I still feel responsible. Guess it's gotta...
    SweetHeresy SweetHeresy 22-25, F 2 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 51 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    Sometimes you forget

    that every moment shared could be the last. Well my last moment was a week ago and he's ended things once again. This back and forth is destroying me. I've lost a lot and he's afraid to lose a lot. I feel a bit bitter that I lost everything for someone that couldn't give me 100...
    Lost4him2 Lost4him2 31-35 6 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    As a woman who has been the victim of a

    cheating husband I find it disturbing to read these posts. Knowing that there's a hurt family how do you continue to invade that?
    girlwithabrain girlwithabrain 31-35, F 10 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    so we had a really sweet moment over the

    weekend (we were able to spend a couple hours together overnight) but things took a 180-degree-turn for the worse quickly... long story short, we'd planned an overnight together this coming weekend, but I found out today, that due to one careless mistake I've made, we probably...
    gianneisstuck gianneisstuck 31-35, F 1 Response 18 hrs ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 168 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 19 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    "If you're having a problem with your woman,

    you don't go out and get yourself another woman. Now all you have is two problems."
    UmThatsWhatYouThink UmThatsWhatYouThink 26-30, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    I feel like I'm more.

    ..the girl who can't let go. Does anybody else feel like they got obsessive and depressed? Wondering where it all went wrong and then blamed themselves for being too needy, too emotional. Where o where did I suddenly go from being ok with just "having fun" to feeling like I...
    lexabear15 lexabear15 26-30, F 7 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    I haven't been on in months

    so I don't know most of you newbies. I've been in my affair for 4 years and it's finally getting to the stage where I am content. I try not to get all up in arms and freak out. In turn he's been more open and closer to me. Hope you all have a wonderful day.
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 5 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 79 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 41 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 204 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    Things are going okay.

    H is still at home but it's been alright. I am still very clear that we are on a break until he gets the help he needs. I was so determined it was over the other day but now I'm not sure. He is begging not to separate. I do love my H. I just hate his temper. Can he change...
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 3 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 6

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    Well well well, what a popular little group

    this has been over the last few days. Haha. I'm not really sure I have much of an update. I just fancied popping on to have a chat with some ladies to be honest. MM is away at the moment :/
    Twighlightsparkle Twighlightsparkle 22-25, F 1 Response 15 hrs ago

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    NicoleMantel NicoleMantel 36-40, F 6 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 23 Responses Mar 22

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    I really do love how these trolls run amok on

    this page harassing and namecalling and whatnot, yet I make a legitimate post and I am flagged and deleted within minutes. Stay classy, EP. Carry on, ladies. ♡
    SweetHeresy SweetHeresy 22-25, F 3 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    I spent last weekend with a pack of my

    girlfriends at a beach house. As I'm newly divorced, and my ex has been prancing around them with his new girlfriend, it was to be a "we love you" (to me) weekend. These are my best friends. We are spread out into various states around the country, but still manage to get...
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 2 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 103 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    NO LONGER THE OTHER WOMAN!

    !! I am now the only woman :) it has been officially ended this morning, he was straight on the phone to me who was awesome at playing it cool despite up all night worrying! He was going to come over but we both decided against it as he needs time to recover maybe. He has gone...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 14 Responses Mar 21

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    Who are the most belligerent trolls in this

    forum? I'd like to block them now before I start posting again. Thanks!
    spilledpurfume spilledpurfume 31-35, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    Update on my crazy life: Things with my SM

    couldn't be better. We had a great weekend together just hanging out and doing stuff with his boys and my daughter. He keeps hinting at us living together... I'm not even close to ready for that! Logistically, it won't work... we both have full houses. It would also make it...
    goodgirl9691 goodgirl9691 46-50, F 2 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    It's been a while...a long while.

    We both just both got busy with life. Our families, work, etc. have kept our schedules completely full. But during the entire time that has passed since we were last "together", we've never lost touch with one other. We've even seen each other quite a few times, we just never...
    Azianmistress Azianmistress 36-40, F 2 hrs ago

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    The weekend was hard.

    I'm missing him so much. I cried myself to sleep for the first time in awhile. When I woke up I just kept thinking about how bad I'm feeling and how I'm glad it's me not his family going through this pain. Hoping that's a start toward healing.
    heartbroken1234 heartbroken1234 36-40, F 2 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 26 Responses 4 days ago

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