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I Am The Other Woman

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    I see my baby in less

    than a day! The only good thing about the end of my vacation!!!
    lostanddistraught lostanddistraught 22-25, F 2 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    It's been a week today

    since MM ended it. This is so hard, the hardest thing I've ever done in my life, trying to let go of the one you love. If it wasn't for a certain few ladies on here, I think I'd be in alot worse shape, you guys are my rock, and I love you for it. Thank you for listening to me...
    Blueeyes65 Blueeyes65 46-50, F 5 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    So mm moved back in with the w

    because his parents are coming to visit and didn't want their daughter to mention anything. He did say he is gonna tell them about the situation when they come though. Even though he moved back in he kept contact at work, he also emailed me from a personal email account and he...
    sadpreciosa sadpreciosa 26-30, F 1 Response 10 hrs ago

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    :)

    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 1 Response 14 hrs ago

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    I know many women here feel this way,

    but I feel like I will never get over this. It has been almost 2 months apart after over 3 years together. He went back to his wife and daughter and filing for divorce and then couldn't go through with it. We have had some contact which I know is making this worse because...
    Widow68 Widow68 46-50, F 5 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 31 Responses Sep 23, 2014

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    :"(

    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 6 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 31 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Oh how I love awkward small talk with my ex-AP

    in the kitchen at work. I didn't need a cup of coffee that badly.
    DarlingEll DarlingEll 26-30, F 23 hrs ago

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    I know I haven't left my H,

    and so shouldn't be judging anyone here, but what I have is more of a question surrounded by a statement. [I am divorced once from an abusive man] I've watched people for years, in relationships [marriages], then they split, sometime all the way to the point of completing the...
    whynot13 whynot13 46-50, F 10 Responses 1 day ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 50 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    As many of you know, my MM

    and I no longer talk. I have known him for 7 years and I actually was his fiancé at one point, obviously long before our affair last summer. So I have a question for all of you. Of all the men that I have ever been involved with, I felt the most physical attraction with ex-MM...
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 36-40, F 5 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 49 Responses Jan 10

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    I am all over the place in my head today.

    as the weekend nears I have an internal panic that mm will choose to go out of town to see daughter. he mentioned it once but changed his mind when I reminded him of super bowl thene said I could go if he goes. I told him he owed me a month of a lot of attention after the...
    justinsneedow justinsneedow 41-45, F 7 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    Driving myself crazy just wondering

    when my guys partner away he kept his distance from me again when I left mine for a month and mine been away 5 days my FB won't come near me.i dont understand it we live 5 mins apart both been sat home alone in the day no reason not to see each other...
    Pommy8 Pommy8 51-55, F 1 Response 21 hrs ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 101 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    I haven't loved myself

    since I started loving him. Now that I'm in town and possibly not seeing him am I starting to love myself again-3 years later? It used to be emails all day for weeks on end every two weeks overnights and say trips for a year before dday it was magic. Then he pulled all intimacy...
    Readytomoveon2015 Readytomoveon2015 31-35, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 16 Responses May 4, 2014

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 54 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    Came across this by an accident (video to be

    ignored) but it about sums up and substantiate the great feeling I have within me! The love that I feel, and the name is sort of also valid! Thought I would share with you! :) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=33r8WZ_qm0Y
    monty1212 monty1212 26-30, F 15 hrs ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 50 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    I can't wait to have a massive cuddle of mm

    tomorrow. It's been a week! I get to see that awesome grin and feel him smile on my shoulder. Am I only one who is happy with my situation? I don't want him to leave her, I really don't want to get caught or hurt anyone, I just want to enjoy what we have and for it not to change...
    MRGFF MRGFF 36-40, F 2 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 164 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 81 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    Have been Talking to A guy from last year so

    for over 6 months Now , He does have a Girlfriend and Me a boyfriend , we Gym together everyday , and see each other everyday , but he does get mad when i dont go to the gym and dont reply , why?
    flower242 flower242 18-21, F 3 hrs ago

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    Well ladies - I am taking a break from

    Experience Project for a bit .... Too many people just being ugly and not really providing "support" or insight. When I joined this group it was because I was/am in horrible pain and needed support and advice from others in the same situation. While most of the input has been...
    kitty1958 kitty1958 56-60, F 10 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 17 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    So as part of the d day revelations - W tells mm

    that over the last few months ( while he's been seeing me) she has fallen in love with him again. Although she is highly religions (JW) she said that she was thinking of getting a tattoo of his name and their anniversary date as an affirmation of her love for him. I really don't...
    NNIP888 NNIP888 22-25, F 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    I feel good today. I heard through mutual

    friends that my exMM and his W are going to counseling. Strangely, this actually makes me feel good. I guess it confirms what I believed was the truth. 1 - He didn't really love me. I have no doubt that he probably thought he did, but really, it wasn't love. 2 - He is not a...
    AlexisLost AlexisLost 41-45, F 4 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    It's done. His home life was being affected

    and he didn't want to risk destroying his home life.
    kringle6691 kringle6691 46-50, F 7 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    I haven't seen him in a few weeks

    and we haven't talked much. Ladies, I'm starting to realize that I'm worth so much more. I have hope, I've even caught myself smiling!! I love you all and hope you all find happiness ?
    StuckInEternity StuckInEternity 18-21, F 1 Response 12 hrs ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 154 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    In a sense... I am. I continually sleep with my

    ex while he's with his on and off girlfriend. He always says the sex with me is better but he's still doing both of us. And he's always looking for more girls... I know I should leave him alone. All I really want is to understand him. He wants love and I feel like I could help...
    IvyRed15 IvyRed15 16-17, F 2 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Everytime i try to stay away life always seems

    to present me situations that prevent me from doing so. Have been having tons of problems with my car and no money to either fix it or get a new one. No family at all which means no help from anyone. Whos been there for me? He has. Taking me to work, picking my daughter up at...
    Chicadelcaribe Chicadelcaribe 31-35, F 2 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    About a week or so ago we had a D day.

    MM chose not to reconcile and pretty much came over after work that day and spent that weekend at mine.He has since moved into a temp apartment because he is still working through things with W and his son lives directly behind me. His daughter seems to be going ok and they are...
    NNIP888 NNIP888 22-25, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    Tonight will be our first full night together.

    No time constraints. No looking over our shoulders. We have a suite booked with a fireplace. Sushi & wine. I am so looking forward to 8 hours of normalcy. It is crazy we have never even eaten together. We spend our blips of time only focused on eachother. We get to talk for...
    tauriangirl tauriangirl 36-40, F 26 Responses Nov 15, 2014

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 78 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    Thinking about him a lot tonight.

    During a meeting today, we were on opposite ends of the conference table and both looked at each other at the same time. Our eyes met and he smiled this adorable crooked smile. My heart flip flopped. I don't want him back, but it's still hard. I miss him, I miss talking to...
    DarlingEll DarlingEll 26-30, F 1 Response 9 hrs ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 67 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    I just got off a wonderful surprise video chat

    with my MM. The first one since his surgery. It was short, but he looks so good. He's not in a lot of pain, mostly just when he has to get up and move around. He's bored with being stuck in bed. [Told him he wouldn't be if I was there...you know, I'd read books to him ;-) ] He...
    whynot13 whynot13 46-50, F 3 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    I have to say it, but sometimes I truly feel we

    are after the same guy here! :) First of all based on the description we all give, he's the most amazing guy, which would suggest there is only one. Secondly he keeps pulling away, and coming back close like he had "way too many" on the go. He's chasing us, and then pushing us...
    monty1212 monty1212 26-30, F 2 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 88 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 25 Responses May 6, 2014

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    He just stopped on his way home,

    for a hug, and gave me a heart shaped cookie. Yep. Such a cutey.
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 3 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Well, I caved. He came to see me today.

    I knew we would still see each other - business relationship- but he didn't want physical contact anymore. I respected that and decided that I wouldn't cave if he did ever change his mind. When he first saw me, he kissed me and said I've been missing you, I couldn't sleep last...
    shitbyrd shitbyrd 36-40, F 1 Response 14 hrs ago

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    does it happen to anyone else

    that they catch themselves saying APs name out loud with a sigh randomly throughout the day, not quite loud enough for anyone else to hear?
    findingpeace6 findingpeace6 26-30, F 1 Response 59 mins ago

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    Okay so even though I am the other woman in the

    relationship, I catch myself getting more jealous than his wife. It drives me crazy. If I know he is flirting with another woman behind my back I get so mad that I turn total b*tch mode. I don't say anything because I don't want to start a fight! Its like hello you can have...
    ImThePlusOne ImThePlusOne 22-25, F 1 Response 8 hrs ago

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 20 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 11, 2014

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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