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I Am The Other Woman

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 6

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    so...I decided to start meeting new people.

    I am not looking for anything specific... just night s out really. what happen to men? real men? you think texting me at 9pm saying your in my town... is going to get you someplace? I don't know you. how about asking me out to get to know me. seriously. 49 year old grown man...
    Mama2ljre Mama2ljre 36-40, F 6 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    People say actions speak louder

    than words. What are some of the little things your mm does to let you know he cares? Also, I often hear, if there's a will there's a way. Do you think this is true? I mean if a man really wanted to see the woman he cared for, he'd find a way right? Just some random...
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 9 Responses 1 day ago

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    Well it's a long horrible story

    but it's over. Truly over !!! We had a big event of bad all in one day and he ended it for good. I knew deep down I wouldn't be able to stick with it when I would end things for me ... When I would get so tired of being the other woman I would say "it's done!" Every time I...
    elizabethmariejazz elizabethmariejazz 36-40, F 3 Responses 1 hr ago

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    He's coming over today with the baby.

    We had a good talk. I'm still feeling cautious about the "relationship" though... I'm slowly getting more comfortable but it's proving to be a hard balance. I mean, what does one do when they've had their heart ripped out and then pieced back together? Sigh...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I'm about to break down

    and contact him......I'm really about to break. I'm losing it right now. Oh god help me smh
    plusisamust plusisamust 26-30, F 8 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    I've walked away, finally dawned on me its over

    and I just need to accept it instead of clinging on and making excuses for it all. Realisation hit when I was laid in bed with him Friday night, I was suppose to be going home but he said I could say if wanted. Of course I wanted to stay! But I wouldn't let him know how much...
    Prettybutterfly88 Prettybutterfly88 26-30, F 5 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 14 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    These last few weeks have been very tough

    mentally for me. I apologise to many of my friends . I'm getting back on my feet now. I don't know if it was a mental block . I just lost interest in everything around me, and shut out everyone in my personal life, including to a certain extent my immediate family . I won't say...
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 1 Response 14 hrs ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 24 Responses Apr 30

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    Is it true men are real simple?

    If they stop texting and calling it is because they are not interested period? Just saw "He's not that into you". I am such a mess I just left the roller coster relationship I had and keep overthinking everything I am going crazy. Trolls I am in hell already don't rub it in...
    liberty2014 liberty2014 36-40, F 7 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Ugh. You know how we all dread

    that phone call or text... . "I'm at the hospital. I had an accident." . Had a super crazy day yesterday. At around 10:30 heard fr MM that he was in hospital. He was cleaning out gutters and was just finishing when he slipped and fell 10 feet. . He's okay. Headed off to surgery...
    TrulyMadlyDeeply38 TrulyMadlyDeeply38 41-45, F 4 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    Today? Perfect. So. Much.

    Fun. So. Much. Joy. He and I... We are beautiful...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 1 Response 16 hrs ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 50 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 45 Responses Jan 10

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    My latest with my AP.

    . Once again, he's resorting to the story of he needs to put our relationship on "pause" so he can find himself bc he doesn't know who he is. He says that he's coming back to our relationship and knows he will because he already has.. its just he wasn't ready to that's why he's...
    Melnmoose Melnmoose 36-40, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    Ladies, I just spent some time reading through

    all your posts and I must say, I look at myself and wonder why I am here. I read what a lot of you put up with and am amazes at how you hang in there. I am ashamed to think I felt sorry enough for myself to need to get help. When I compare my mm and how he handles me and our...
    justlovedhim justlovedhim 36-40, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 41-45, F 75 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    I agreed to being "FWB" with my MM,

    meaning we agreed not to take this too seriously or expect too much. I've mostly been able to control my emotions since I went into this with that expectation. But lately he calls or texts me nearly every day, and he tells me he misses me when he's away. We no longer save...
    ashadams244 ashadams244 26-30, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Head's Up: This is a Rant.

    Things I can't tell him I am writing here. Judgement givers stay away. I'll start from the beginning. You said you understood. Did you? You must be fooling yourself. If you understood, there would be no fight for an overnight trip. You'd understand that when I have to put a...
    coolvolatile coolvolatile 31-35, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Question for you all.

    ....if you suspected that your MM's wife may also be having an affair, would you say something to him or would you just sit back, mind your own business and let it unfold one way or the other?
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 9 Responses 1 day ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    Things have been awesome with my guy

    since he has been back from vacation. Though I've never believed that absence makes the heart grow fonder, maybe it has. Today I was in a smaller local-ish race. (I'm a triathlete and focus on international events that are longer than today's.) So he arrived at my house at 5am...
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 5 mins ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 78 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 22 Responses Mar 22

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 29 Responses May 6, 2014

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 53 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Please read... any advice?

    MM and I had some kind of a fight tonight... or I think that's how he saw it. Then smack in the middle of it, he just stopped replying. I hate it when he does that. Makes me feel like he doesn't care about me or my feelings at all. It started when I asked if he wanted to play...
    ladyquaintrelle ladyquaintrelle 22-25, F 7 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    NO LONGER THE OTHER WOMAN!

    !! I am now the only woman :) it has been officially ended this morning, he was straight on the phone to me who was awesome at playing it cool despite up all night worrying! He was going to come over but we both decided against it as he needs time to recover maybe. He has gone...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 12 Responses Mar 21

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 94 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    I am convinced this is one of the most

    rewarding--yet sometimes stressful--things I've ever been apart of in my life. While it's got it's downs, it's most definitely got its ups. I don't think I've ever experienced a love quite like this on my end...
    kc5316 kc5316 22-25, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    So I heard from MM today.

    Guess he got back earlier that I expected. I thought he'd be back tomorrow and I'd hear from him on Monday. Anyway, I was out with my son when his text came. Normally I would've replied no matter who was around but since my son and I were on an "adventure" I didn't want to take...
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 2 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 50 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    On a "high" right now.

    MM and I hooked up, then spent hours talking and spooning. When I walked him out to his car, he turned around and kissed me right on the busy city street in broad daylight! Don't know if he's just getting careless, or if he's really ready to make this something more, but I'm...
    ashadams244 ashadams244 26-30, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 17 Responses Mar 25

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    Isn't it strange how we fall head over heals in

    love with either someone else's husband, or in my case , wife. I think I'm bloody lucky. So okay, I do sometimes get a second look, a smile , a quick look up and down. Mind you, I do the same . It's just how I am. How does the saying go " forbidden fruit tastes the sweetest . I...
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 1 Response 5 hrs ago

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    For those of us who just ended things,

    or are hanging by a thread, the positive side of this freedom... No more watching them text back and forth like tweeners on our dates. No more lonely Sundays, feeling sad that it's an NC day. No more laying in bed every night wondering what they're doing in bed together. No...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 19 Responses Jul 12

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    Trapped. Something I never imagined myself

    feeling. I'm an adult. I have the freedom to do as I please but today it really hit me hard that I can't go anywhere. I am stuck. Not just stuck, I am sinking. My husband is a sinking ship and he's taking me down with him. I sat down and had a serious talk with my sister. She...
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 9 Responses 1 day ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 170 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 48 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Looking back it is funny how easily I fell into

    the trap of becoming 'the other woman.' The first flash of distress - a wounded soul no less, and I dived into the murky water. He told me that I was his oxygen. I was a mermaid Saint Bernard with the reviving elixir strapped to my neck. Strangely, I found two unmarried men...
    Faerylight Faerylight 41-45, F 17 Responses Jun 21

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    When will this end or progress?

    That stagnant unprogressive state.
    Sarahneeds Sarahneeds 26-30, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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