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I Am The Other Woman

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 14,580 People

    Yesterday: Realization.

    It's been thirty-four days. Thirty-four days since I last "heard" from him. Since his vague... and yet still somehow sentencing, 'Going through some family issues. Please don't text.' Thirty. Four. Days. Of silence. And not our usual comfortable silence, where we...
    OneSweetThing OneSweetThing 31-35, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 17 Responses Mar 25, 2015

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 41-45, F 73 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    YES. FINALLY FOUND THE PERFECT SONG.

    I'm tired of feeling sad- just wanna let him have it haha. http://youtu.be/WRDHphTOMNc I wake up with blood-shot eyes Struggled to memorize The way it felt between your thighs Pleasure that made you cry Feels so good to be bad Not worth the aftermath, after that After that...
    subgirl26 subgirl26 26-30, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 19, 2015

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    Was the past 2 1/2 years real?

    When you looked directly into my eyes and told me that you loved me, were you being truthful? Sometimes I wonder if men really have the same feelings as women. Can they truly turn their feelings off without a second thought? I do not believe I will ever get over this man. I...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 3 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    And valentine's day is around the corner.

    I hate holidays. They are like a milestone. They are check points in time flagging my loneliness. Here I am, another 12 months have gone by and I am still single, unloved, alone and lusting after a man that is not mine. I wonder if he will do anything romantic for her. I wonder...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 5 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    Can someone explain to me without confirming

    that a person must be pathological to do this, how you have an affair, claim a person is your best friend, be friendly with his wife and then come out with that this same ap, best friend attacked you and your sister? Some of you may of missed the comnent "I didn't believe her...
    paliglass paliglass 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 44 Responses Jan 10, 2015

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    Are you giving your MM a Valentine's Day gift?

    I doubt I will see him this weekend like we had hoped. I do not know what to do for him.
    PressPToPlay PressPToPlay 46-50, F 4 Responses 1 hr ago

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    The battle is raging.

    He hasn't slept in days. He keeps staring at his kid all night. He is still forced to sleep in the same room as her. His family is the opposite of supportive. They are the ones he has to fight and convince. I don't know how to support him through this anymore. His parents say...
    coolvolatile coolvolatile 31-35, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 19 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 33 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 53 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Sadness is overwhelming.

    ...I am so afraid
    LLLinCincy LLLinCincy 36-40, F 3 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    Poor MM, he is off work sick.

    Poor me, home alone also sick. But 2hrs on Facetime from bed definitely cheered us both up :-)) Such a rare treat and second time this week. They do say that every cloud has a silver lining...
    daisyblue222 daisyblue222 41-45, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 167 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    What's the best compliment you've received from

    your mm?? I get many about my looks but I think the compliments that have meant the most are him praising me for what I've accomplished business wise, for being smart and most of all for being a classy woman.
    Janna78 Janna78 46-50, F 1 hr ago

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    Looking back it is funny how easily I fell into

    the trap of becoming 'the other woman.' The first flash of distress - a wounded soul no less, and I dived into the murky water. He told me that I was his oxygen. I was a mermaid Saint Bernard with the reviving elixir strapped to my neck. Strangely, I found two unmarried men...
    Faerylight Faerylight 41-45, F 19 Responses Jun 21, 2015

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    Just read some posts from the other side.

    Do they not have anything to talk about?
    independentandstubborn independentandstubborn 51-55, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    He's finally coming to stay night tomorrow.

    His work schedule has been hectic with business trips for almost a month so haven't had much chance to meet eachother. he said he will come stay 2nights over this weekend for valentine !! I can't wait to see him !!! I hope you all have a great valentine's! !
    honeybutterchip honeybutterchip 41-45, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    A How To List

    Hello to everyone especially those drawn here by the Facebook postings. For the record, I am not "Keeping it real in Kendall". Since most of you are brand new to EP let me be the first to welcome you! Please take a moment to read the Terms of Service before commenting. This is a...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 100 Responses Aug 25, 2013

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 29 Responses May 6, 2014

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    My husband sent me a message tonight.

    We work opposite shifts so a lot of our communication is through text. He's decided to take tomorrow off of work. Tomorrow was the only time I would be able to see mm for Valentine's Day. Kind of stinks. On Monday I told mm we need to spend as much time together as possible...
    Janna78 Janna78 46-50, F 1 Response 54 mins ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 15 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 47 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    Just in case you are pondering about men

    and why they don't initiate divorce, this is a great article to read. Don't over analyze it. It may or may not apply to you/your man. Just read it so you have another perspective. I think this one offers a little bit more insights but not a white paper or academic journal...
    ReflectedSoul ReflectedSoul 41-45, F 6 Responses 2 days ago

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 19 Responses Mar 22, 2015

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    The other woman isn't always a home-wrecker.

    Sometimes she's a home-mender. I had been faithful to my dear husband for over 20 years. For many years I thought there was something wrong with me. Maybe I wasn't sexy. Why didn't he want me the way I wanted him? I grew to understand that we just had very different desire...
    livingasme livingasme 51-55, F 17 Responses May 15, 2015

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    Though he is still working.

    His diverticulitis is flaring up today. Doesn't happen as often as it used too, but still painful for him when it does. :( Don't think he will be too chatty this evening if he's still not feeling well. A couple of days of bland food usually helps. Poor guy.
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 24 Responses Apr 30, 2015

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    It must be truly hard

    for the woman who takes her cheating husband back. After DDay, where the families, friends, church members have been told about their cheating spouse, it must be extremely difficult to rebuild the marriage, when watched on by many. People can be cruel. The marriage is...
    ifoundmehere ifoundmehere 46-50, F 8 Responses 2 days ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 205 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 51-55, F 169 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    OH. MY. GOD. It's final,

    he's single, and as of 9:37am today I am no longer the OW!!!
    Shardsofsorrow Shardsofsorrow 31-35, F 66 Responses Jul 29, 2015

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    I just deleted 11553 text messages off of my

    phone. No wonder it was slow lol.
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    independentandstubborn independentandstubborn 51-55, F 3 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Being Aware of Your Thoughts Curative

    Attentiveness by Madisyn Taylor We seldom accept negative comments from others, however, we so often accept our own inner negative chatter. Few people enjoy the company of individuals whose attitudes are persistently negative. Yet many of us tolerate the critical chatter...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    deleted deleted 26-30 17 Responses Feb 6, 2015

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 48 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    Valentine's Day is vastly approaching

    and I know the majority of you will be stricken with pain. Not only is it Valentines Day but it also falls on a weekend. You will not be with the man you love. Even if he gets you a gift, its just to prolong the pain. Guess I will check back on Sunday to see how you all have...
    euphoricbeauty euphoricbeauty 26-30, F 1 hr ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 77 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    Feeling sad tonight..

    Almost two weeks since we've spoken & it wasn't even a "never talk to me again" kind of thing. I'm just sitting here trying to figure the purpose of meeting him. Does everything really happen for a reason? Or does life just happen? It's not even that I want him or anything...
    subgirl26 subgirl26 26-30, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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