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I Am The Other Woman

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    Ladies, I just spent some time reading through

    all your posts and I must say, I look at myself and wonder why I am here. I read what a lot of you put up with and am amazes at how you hang in there. I am ashamed to think I felt sorry enough for myself to need to get help. When I compare my mm and how he handles me and our...
    justlovedhim justlovedhim 36-40, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Well ladies I slipped

    and bumped my fuckingg head. I'm up at 4 in the morning sending "him" an edible arrangement gift...... I hope his "wife" doesn't see or hear about this
    plusisamust plusisamust 26-30, F 4 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    I've walked away, finally dawned on me its over

    and I just need to accept it instead of clinging on and making excuses for it all. Realisation hit when I was laid in bed with him Friday night, I was suppose to be going home but he said I could say if wanted. Of course I wanted to stay! But I wouldn't let him know how much...
    Prettybutterfly88 Prettybutterfly88 26-30, F 5 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 53 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Ugh. You know how we all dread

    that phone call or text... . "I'm at the hospital. I had an accident." . Had a super crazy day yesterday. At around 10:30 heard fr MM that he was in hospital. He was cleaning out gutters and was just finishing when he slipped and fell 10 feet. . He's okay. Headed off to surgery...
    TrulyMadlyDeeply38 TrulyMadlyDeeply38 41-45, F 6 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 48 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 78 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    An update to my story

    and this may be the final update on our story. This is a long one.. I met my AP last night. It was confirmed that he's leaving our relationship to find him. He's realized that in all of his relationships he's always been what the other person has wanted him to be and that he...
    Melnmoose Melnmoose 36-40, F 7 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Is it true men are real simple?

    If they stop texting and calling it is because they are not interested period? Just saw "He's not that into you". I am such a mess I just left the roller coster relationship I had and keep overthinking everything I am going crazy. Trolls I am in hell already don't rub it in...
    liberty2014 liberty2014 36-40, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    I had to get away today

    so I drove to a different town. I was surprised when I saw mm there with one of his friends. I hadn't talked to him since yesterday and assumed he was still resting. I was a little irritated he didn't tell me he was feeling better but I guess I don't need to know everything...
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 45 Responses Jan 10

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    Good Morning Ladies how everyone had great

    night. So do you have any shows or on Netflix like I love watch with with lover NCIS, and L Word and original Shows on Netflix.
    ForbiddenFruitLove95 ForbiddenFruitLove95 18-21, F 2 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    OH. MY. GOD. It's final,

    he's single, and as of 9:37am today I am no longer the OW!!!
    Shardsofsorrow Shardsofsorrow 31-35, F 91 Responses 4 days ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 160 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 94 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    Well it's a long horrible story

    but it's over. Truly over !!! We had a big event of bad all in one day and he ended it for good. I knew deep down I wouldn't be able to stick with it when I would end things for me ... When I would get so tired of being the other woman I would say "it's done!" Every time I...
    elizabethmariejazz elizabethmariejazz 36-40, F 4 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 29 Responses May 6, 2014

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    MM and I had such a good night Friday.

    He came to see me at work and we wound up having sex in my office (oops). It was pretty intense...He was soaked in sweat when we got done and kept saying how it was the best he'd ever had. Afterward, we wound up staying there talking all night. I felt so good about it. Then...
    ashadams244 ashadams244 26-30, F 1 Response 15 hrs ago

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 15 Responses Feb 6

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    Habits I'm having a hard time

    breaking: Checking his estranged Ws Pinterest every day. Pinterest stalking... Dumb. Checking a IG account of his and her mutual friend to just see what the W may or may not be doing. Checking FB, occasionally, to see if the Ws removed any of the couple pics that aren't private...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 1 hr ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 51 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    Looking back it is funny how easily I fell into

    the trap of becoming 'the other woman.' The first flash of distress - a wounded soul no less, and I dived into the murky water. He told me that I was his oxygen. I was a mermaid Saint Bernard with the reviving elixir strapped to my neck. Strangely, I found two unmarried men...
    Faerylight Faerylight 41-45, F 17 Responses Jun 21

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    These last few weeks have been very tough

    mentally for me. I apologise to many of my friends . I'm getting back on my feet now. I don't know if it was a mental block . I just lost interest in everything around me, and shut out everyone in my personal life, including to a certain extent my immediate family . I won't say...
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    What makes all you other OW

    so sure that your MM is going to leave his W for you? When I am with MM, he makes me feel like the most wanted woman on earth, but I am constantly reminded that his W probably thought and felt the same about the man she married. And obviously he's still with her, so why would...
    ashadams244 ashadams244 26-30, F 14 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    My birthday this week :( !

    ! every year My guy and I would go away the weekend after -- mine is the 5th his is the 15th and so we celebrate both in between. I posted earlier today about our relationship -- it recently over. So my bday this week our usual plans-- gone. I am so bummed out about it!!! One...
    elizabethmariejazz elizabethmariejazz 36-40, F 5 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    ...how long do I keep this application

    and continue posting in this forum?
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 10 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    Isn't it strange how we fall head over heals in

    love with either someone else's husband, or in my case , wife. I think I'm bloody lucky. So okay, I do sometimes get a second look, a smile , a quick look up and down. Mind you, I do the same . It's just how I am. How does the saying go " forbidden fruit tastes the sweetest . I...
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 1 Response 16 hrs ago

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    NO LONGER THE OTHER WOMAN!

    !! I am now the only woman :) it has been officially ended this morning, he was straight on the phone to me who was awesome at playing it cool despite up all night worrying! He was going to come over but we both decided against it as he needs time to recover maybe. He has gone...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 12 Responses Mar 21

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    Question for you all.

    ....if you suspected that your MM's wife may also be having an affair, would you say something to him or would you just sit back, mind your own business and let it unfold one way or the other?
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 9 Responses 1 day ago

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    Today marks 21 days of NC.

    3 weeks. I can't believe how much different this is from the first time around!
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 36-40, F 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 19

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 18 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    b4realz b4realz 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 24 Responses Apr 30

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    Well, met my MM online

    and although I said no at first because he was married, he won me over by being my protector and helping get me out of a really bad situation. He was first to say he loved me and it happened very quickly (only been together just over 3 months). He had already told her he wanted...
    Photobird Photobird 36-40, F 2 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    Things have been awesome with my guy

    since he has been back from vacation. Though I've never believed that absence makes the heart grow fonder, maybe it has. Today I was in a smaller local-ish race. (I'm a triathlete and focus on international events that are longer than today's.) So he arrived at my house at 5am...
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 4 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    For those of us who just ended things,

    or are hanging by a thread, the positive side of this freedom... No more watching them text back and forth like tweeners on our dates. No more lonely Sundays, feeling sad that it's an NC day. No more laying in bed every night wondering what they're doing in bed together. No...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 19 Responses Jul 12

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    So I heard from MM today.

    Guess he got back earlier that I expected. I thought he'd be back tomorrow and I'd hear from him on Monday. Anyway, I was out with my son when his text came. Normally I would've replied no matter who was around but since my son and I were on an "adventure" I didn't want to take...
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    My latest with my AP.

    . Once again, he's resorting to the story of he needs to put our relationship on "pause" so he can find himself bc he doesn't know who he is. He says that he's coming back to our relationship and knows he will because he already has.. its just he wasn't ready to that's why he's...
    Melnmoose Melnmoose 36-40, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 22 Responses Mar 22

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    Trapped. Something I never imagined myself

    feeling. I'm an adult. I have the freedom to do as I please but today it really hit me hard that I can't go anywhere. I am stuck. Not just stuck, I am sinking. My husband is a sinking ship and he's taking me down with him. I sat down and had a serious talk with my sister. She...
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 9 Responses 1 day ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 41-45, F 75 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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