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I Am The Other Woman

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 14,559 People

    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 51-55, F 169 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    Feeling sad tonight..

    Almost two weeks since we've spoken & it wasn't even a "never talk to me again" kind of thing. I'm just sitting here trying to figure the purpose of meeting him. Does everything really happen for a reason? Or does life just happen? It's not even that I want him or anything...
    subgirl26 subgirl26 26-30, F 7 hrs ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    b4realz b4realz 26-30, F 150 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    Just read some posts from the other side.

    Do they not have anything to talk about?
    independentandstubborn independentandstubborn 51-55, F 2 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    I have married men tied up in my basement.

    Most of them are delivery drivers. :)
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 10 Responses 1 day ago

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    Well that went more south.

    .. He called me to tell me that he's sorry for what happened and that he and I can no longer talk at all forever. Then I was acting mad and snippy and he didn't understand why I was. Huh? He's on his way home because apparently their kid was freaking out that he wasn't there...
    AvaLennon1 AvaLennon1 31-35, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    He finally responded to me

    after over two months of the unexplained NC. He claimed he told his wife about me. Not who I was or the extent of things. He said he's faced the affair head on with his wife, his family and his therapists. He said he was sorry for leaving with no word. He said he was trying to...
    infusedheart infusedheart 31-35, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 19 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    How is it that our site is flagged; it's a pain

    for us to find it; and YET, the idiots still find us to give us their unwanted two cents. I had hoped the hidden lining would be that we could talk, support, communicate amongst ourselves.
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 9 Responses 1 day ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 53 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Best reply to a text from me.

    .. "I was just thinking about you :)" He worked on the blazer a bit and now he's working on the laptop he picked up with the motherboard I am getting. No network drivers, but he's working on it. :)
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 29 Responses May 6, 2014

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 48 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    Here it is ladies!!! Full on Dday As I've

    said MM was going to sex addiction therapy. Today I was at my chiropractor appointment and I could hear my phone start blowing up. When I got in the car there were missed calls from him and texts from his wife on his number. I called him back and he said we can no longer...
    AvaLennon1 AvaLennon1 31-35, F 7 Responses 2 days ago

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 17 Responses Mar 25, 2015

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    OH. MY. GOD. It's final,

    he's single, and as of 9:37am today I am no longer the OW!!!
    Shardsofsorrow Shardsofsorrow 31-35, F 66 Responses Jul 29, 2015

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    No longer!! It hurts like hell right now

    but I believe I can get through......somehow. I've been literally shaking, nauseous, and can't stay out of the bathroom most of the morning. The turn of events that have occurred today......has me sick to my stomach! I can't say that deep down im not happy that its over but...
    Lishadntplay Lishadntplay 26-30, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 15 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    A How To List

    Hello to everyone especially those drawn here by the Facebook postings. For the record, I am not "Keeping it real in Kendall". Since most of you are brand new to EP let me be the first to welcome you! Please take a moment to read the Terms of Service before commenting. This is a...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 100 Responses Aug 25, 2013

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    We started out as best lovers,

    We fight, we cry, and we laugh, In everything were together, Even through the crazy and foolish ones.. We're the best of friends, Holding on to one another, Drinking and teasing, Sharing each others problem.. We fight for nothing, We cry for dumb things, We laugh at small...
    sonofangel24 sonofangel24 22-25, F 2 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 19 Responses Mar 22, 2015

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    Looking back it is funny how easily I fell into

    the trap of becoming 'the other woman.' The first flash of distress - a wounded soul no less, and I dived into the murky water. He told me that I was his oxygen. I was a mermaid Saint Bernard with the reviving elixir strapped to my neck. Strangely, I found two unmarried men...
    Faerylight Faerylight 41-45, F 19 Responses Jun 21, 2015

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 77 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    It's been two weeks since I've heard from ex-mm.

    For fourteen mornings, he's woken up with the knowledge that I'm waiting on his call to reschedule the 'date' he's been requesting for six months. It's annoying, but I haven't been letting it get me down or doubt myself like I normally do. That is, until today. I had to...
    ashadams244 ashadams244 26-30, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    ...No More... Although I've been lurking in

    this forum for quite some time, aside from this story EP Link posted in August last year, I have not been very active. How most people end up here? With the exception of the so called "Spider Women" who make it their life's mission to go around messing up with people's lives...
    neeia neeia 41-45, F 12 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    It has been 28 yrs since I first walked into

    his house almost to the minute right now. This afternoon we talked about it and how it's been 15 yrs since I came back. He said, "I wish you hadn't. Because you could've found someone else and had help with the boys. I feel guilty even if you don't believe me." I told him that...
    independentandstubborn independentandstubborn 51-55, F 2 days ago

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    Mikun15 Mikun15 26-30, F 4 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    After 2 years, he continues to surprise me

    and make me smile. We had a wonderful Friday. He just called as he had a moment outside alone. (His mother-in-law is in town). He sent me sweet text all evening last night. Tomorrow we will snuggle and watch a movie together.
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    I have to be honest here.

    Not only am I the other woman but I also am the other woman in outer space. I fly in a rocket ship to other planets. I've successfully been a home wrecker on Mercury, Mars and Venus. Jupiter has been challenging because of the toxic gases. Happy joyful alien wives of...
    Tullia1510 Tullia1510 46-50, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 167 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    Vodka hidden in lemonade.

    I'm killing the pain and still functioning. After confronting him, he said he walked out on two marriages before, including kids. He cannot do it to this daughter. It is amazing how I cannot get through his head that the children he left behind was due to his walking away from...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 205 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    Yesterday: Realization.

    It's been thirty-four days. Thirty-four days since I last "heard" from him. Since his vague... and yet still somehow sentencing, 'Going through some family issues. Please don't text.' Thirty. Four. Days. Of silence. And not our usual comfortable silence, where we...
    OneSweetThing OneSweetThing 31-35, F 1 Response 12 hrs ago

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 19, 2015

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    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 18 hrs ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 47 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 19 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    The other woman isn't always a home-wrecker.

    Sometimes she's a home-mender. I had been faithful to my dear husband for over 20 years. For many years I thought there was something wrong with me. Maybe I wasn't sexy. Why didn't he want me the way I wanted him? I grew to understand that we just had very different desire...
    livingasme livingasme 51-55, F 17 Responses May 15, 2015

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    Well I think it's over now.

    .. I blocked him and her and neither have attempted contact thankfully. He texted me this morning asking me if I made a fake FB profile. What the hell he doesn't even have FB. I don't know what that was about and didn't ask. Yes I went with my sister and brother in law to...
    AvaLennon1 AvaLennon1 31-35, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 47 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 42 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 33 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    deleted deleted 26-30 17 Responses Feb 6, 2015

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