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I Am The Other Woman

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    The cosmic universe clearly wants me to leave

    him. I almost faltered and agreed to meet him for drinks at 3. He doesn't like to text when he drives so he uses the voice to text for him. Too bad his navigator was talking and.told him to turn right.on 42nd street right after he told me he was in nj at his office lol. Once he...
    SweetAsSugar10 SweetAsSugar10 22-25 1 Response 16 hrs ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 3 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    So as luck would have it.

    ..I find a nice young, very good looking, single man that isn't shy to tell me that he misses me or finds me sexy and be emotional with me....but...our schedules are the exact opposite!!!! When I work he's off and when I'm off he's working! We both have physically and mentally...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 hr ago

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    My Secret Gold Coin

    You don’t know it, but I think of you as a beautiful, precious, shiny gold coin that I keep secretly hidden in my pocket. I feel happy knowing that you are in there, but unhappy knowing that you have to stay hidden. I wish I could show you off to friends, but they wouldn’t...
    jenn80 jenn80 51-55 18 Responses May 23, 2013

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    Guess he is getting the hint of cold treatment

    and cold texts.. He is so much unusual ever since he flew back. More texts and longer communication time.. I love you dr andi!!❤️❤️
    prettygoddess prettygoddess 26-30, F 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    Just want to put this out there to all you

    other "other women" you keep me positive... You nail my feet to the ground... You make me smile ... You put my heart back in my chest ... Thank you and when I see you pouring your heart out I feel it... I hope all the best for everyone of you misunderstood beautiful women ... I...
    jupsta jupsta 36-40, F 8 Responses Jun 9

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 21 Responses Jan 2

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    I'm surprised he allows me my jealous questions

    and stuff. He was at a party with her last night and I so much as told him to please not go home with her as it would hurt me. We are not together, technically it's over tho we were kissing and telling each other we love each other just 3 days ago. He has no need to explain his...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 1 Response 12 hrs ago

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    Hell just froze over .

    After 4 years of this , the wife got a hold of my # && called me . 😳
    Fatalattraction Fatalattraction 22-25, F 8 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 142 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18

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    In just four short hours I'll be laying on his

    couch wrapped in his arms watching a movie. I can't stop smiling, I'm so excited :) :) :) :)
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 1 Response 14 mins ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 15 Responses Jun 2

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    I am a little on the fence about how I should

    act. Hes going to a business associates wedding today thats 4 hours away and the wife is going. He had a busy day at work yesterday and last I heard from him was 1 yesterday. I have no idea when he is leaving or if they are staying overnight tonight. Im a little...
    blue963 blue963 46-50, F 5 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Days like today are tough.

    I know we are supposed to be trying to just stick to the FWB thing. But today was a fairly important day for me (last day at a job that has been making me miserable for over a year now), and I haven't heard from him. One of those "seriously, how long does it take to type...
    Katsstory Katsstory 36-40, F 2 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    He called and texted this morning,

    says he misses me. I know his hospital stay is really hard on him. He sounded so weak and sad. It breaks my heart. He got a picc line yesterday so hopefully he will get well enough to go to a regular floor soon instead of icu.
    leigh8133 leigh8133 31-35, F 1 min ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 72 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 29 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 44 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    I came across a motivational video tonight

    but can't repost the link for some reason. But I want to share the message: - Don't let someone who got in your way for a moment, hold you back for the rest of your life. Just because he/she broke your heart for a moment, don't let them have you "stuck for 38 years". No one is...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 12 hrs ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 68 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    prettygoddess prettygoddess 26-30, F 31 mins ago

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 11

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    Went out with some girl friends

    and gay men that are also friends last night....got home really late....sent a pic to MM at 2 in the morn....I don't know WTF I was thinking....he's at home asleep with W and I send a pic....smh....then I get home and H is packed up to leave...relieved but sadden at same time...
    luvhimtoo luvhimtoo 36-40, F 5 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 20 Responses May 6

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    Ok finally i have said at least something thats

    been keeping much in me.. These few days ever since he flew back he has been aggressively chatting and texting me. Simultaneously for half a days gone.. Today i asked why was he so free texting and his reply was he wanted to be near me! And my response was, or are you beginning...
    prettygoddess prettygoddess 26-30, F 7 hrs ago

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    A year has passed since I have met this man.

    This man who was so strong, so brave, so together. He made me feel things I have never felt in my life. So loved. So protected. He also broke my heart. I cry. I have a difficult time focusing on daily, routine things. I constantly think about him. Why did I meet him at this time...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 2 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    I'm tired of reading comment like "stop being

    the second best"... He is staying with her because of his kids. She is not his "first best" or whatsoever because if she is, he would not love me and sleep with me. I am his only best. The fact is I came to his life later than she did ..but that doesn't mean I'm second best to...
    iloveuox iloveuox 26-30, F 3 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    My ap dreamed of us went

    for vacation which we planned sometimes ago and having good time there. Eat, pray and love.. Lol.. It got me concern if the dream is the other way round. A night before his dream, my long lost contact guy friend also dreamt that he was making love to me. A night after my ap's...
    prettygoddess prettygoddess 26-30, F 15 hrs ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 37 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 79 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    Slept and woke up in his arms.

    We're celebrating my birthday all weekend long! :))
    dolovf dolovf 26-30, F 3 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    No matter how often we communicate all day

    and how much I feel he truly loves me, it's never seem enough for me to feel secure about our relationship. Just having one of those days when I doubt everything about us. Do you get those feelings too?
    ownomore ownomore 26-30, F 6 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    I was the other women

    for a year but now I am the wife. We will be celebrating our 3 year wedding anniversary soon. We were both married to other people when we met. We were both in bad marriages. We are both so much happier now. If anyone wants to hear my story I am happy to share.
    magic2929 magic2929 46-50, F 17 Responses Apr 29

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 80 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    It's not even September,

    I'm already dreading thinking about Christmas coming, I'm already facing major anxiety over the thoughts of this holiday. We were sitting almost 9,000 feet on top of the mountain,sipping coffee. I couldn't feel my ice cold hands and feet. You were freezing too, yet you still...
    lostsoul0311 lostsoul0311 26-30, F 3 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 17 Responses May 4

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    Feeling embarrassed. All week we've talked &

    made plans for Friday night. Then Friday gets here...not a single txt or call... He's so selfish & inconsiderate. If plans change he always let's me know. He's never done this. And to make it worse I turned down plans with SG to be with him I'm starting to see his true character...
    Sidechic79 Sidechic79 31-35, F 5 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    The laws of the universe.

    Wanted to watch a movie on netflix. Picked a really old one.. thought it was humor. Storyline turned out to be about a bunch of men having affairs and one woman trying to kill herself because of it. she recovers and finds love...but sheez! cant seem to catch a break
    blue963 blue963 46-50, F 4 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 152 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 47 Responses Feb 16

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 103 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    Picked up some KFC and met my man in our

    secluded spot for dinner. We had a nice visit, then laid in each other's arms for over an hour before I could tell he was starting to worry about getting back on his route. We talked about everything and laughed so hard...he promised to make an effort to contact me on the...
    ynoTme83 ynoTme83 26-30, F 1 Response 18 hrs ago

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    Please, do not stop posting.

    ... I may not be the best person to make this request because I have only participated on the forum for just a few months. But I am so glad I had a place to go. I can not begin to tell you how supportive you ladies have been during my time of heart aches, up swings, troubles...
    saiyagyrl saiyagyrl 36-40, F 4 Responses May 26

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    why is it that I can talk to you about every

    thing under the sun, but when it comes to how I feel about you I can't bring myself to tell you. I know you know something is there, I know you feel it too... Guess I'm just afraid of how you'd react if I told you the truth.
    kc5316 kc5316 22-25, F 17 hrs ago

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 10 Responses Feb 13

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    I am so in love with the support of this group.

    Where we can share our highest highs and lowest lows. Sometimes in the same day! And we understand! And we see the craziness of it all, but it makes sense. This can be a stressful, mind blowing, time sucking, aphrodisiac, infuriating, euphoric, tender, sweet, gentle...
    pinkismysignaturecolor pinkismysignaturecolor 36-40, F 4 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 22 Responses Jul 30

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    I'm having a premonition (maybe that's not the

    right word.. Maybe it's more like a FEELING) that D day is coming soon for us. I feel like his w is going to find out or he's going to tell her. I feel the winds of change. I know it sounds bizarre .... I don't know. Just feel funny. I know d day will change things... For...
    MarieVon MarieVon 36-40, F 4 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 163 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 43 Responses Feb 24

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    Wow!! What a long week.

    I haven't got to post here much, just restarted my college classes this past Monday so I have been super busy! But I missed reading all of your posts, I love all of you! The other day, I posted here that I was really upset because I never hear from my MM much anymore. So...
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 31-35, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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