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I Am The Other Woman

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 81 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 164 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    So as most of you know me

    and my mm are just friends now. The other day as I was leaving he blew me a kiss. Now for most people they wouldn't think anything of it but for me it's a big deal for him. He's never done that play he isn't the mushy lovey dovey romantic type as it is. I am friends with his...
    tc57 tc57 31-35, F 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 20 Responses Jan 2, 2014

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    I'm super depressed over the fact

    that my MM is having a baby. He hurt me deeply and I try to end it with him but here I am contemplating on whether love will help us overcome this.Why? I know I deserve better but my heart is still wanting him, needing him. I hate myself for feeling this way. He expressed to me...
    waitingonfaith waitingonfaith 31-35 7 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 46 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Out of the blue something out of anyone's

    control happens and all of a sudden we are looking at spending the next 5-7 days together. So incredibly grateful for any extra time together.
    LoveBelle LoveBelle 26-30, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    autumnsx autumnsx 18-21, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I'm giving up ... I won't be around to post

    anything anymore I have nothing to say that hasn't been said My heart hurts so much and I can't find a way to move on... So I'm just gonna shut up Keep it bottled in and tell no one Except my pillow
    jupsta jupsta 36-40, F 14 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    I am single and with an MM

    for two years now and have been here at EP for quite a while. does your MM discuss about his married life or anything about his wife to you? In my case he never talks about his life at home or about his wife. Im wondering why its that?
    Rogue9926 Rogue9926 31-35, F 12 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 53 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    Mistakes and setbacks are simply a form of

    practice... Sometimes things have to go wrong in order to go right. Sometimes you need to change a flat tire or two before you can move on. Life is under no obligation to give you exactly what you expect. Whatever it is you’re seeking will rarely ever come in the form you...
    Piscesrose Piscesrose 46-50, F 5 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    Ok well now I'm starting to get worried.

    It's been 5 days since we last talked and that's unusual for us. He asked last week if he could see me tonight but that was before the I love you on Friday so now I'm not sure what's going on. I think I should continue to wait but what if he is waiting for me... Ohhh man this...
    moepeep moepeep 22-25, F 6 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    I have just heard from MM.

    They are moving up his surgery. He is heading for prep, with surgery to start about 10am. He sent me a picture from his little room. Start to finish they tell him about 4 to 5 hours. It's going to be a long day.
    whynot13 whynot13 46-50, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I need your help! My mm said we would meet

    today evening-night it is now 7:13pm and he does not text at all. What should I do? I do not want to sound needy!!! But I am anxious I haven't seen him in 2 months and a half!!! Should I text? help! hugs
    liberty2014 liberty2014 36-40, F 10 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    Update. Why NC? His wife is depressed

    because she hates living here. As someone who ACTUALLY suffers depression, that sounds like whiny bullsh** to me. But what do I know? Right? I know, I should be supportive. And I sound selfish. And bitchy. I'm hurt that that's the reason he didn't want to speak to me for a week...
    sugarbabysub sugarbabysub 31-35, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 31 Responses Sep 23, 2014

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 31 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 20 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 41 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Oh Ladies I am so happy to report

    that things went well. My MM is back home already, and tucked into his bed, with doggies beside him. He sent me a picture. He looks tired out, but I know he's home. I'm am so much calmer now. Can't begin to thank you all for putting up with me this last week or so. I know...
    whynot13 whynot13 46-50, F 10 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    Tonight will be our first full night together.

    No time constraints. No looking over our shoulders. We have a suite booked with a fireplace. Sushi & wine. I am so looking forward to 8 hours of normalcy. It is crazy we have never even eaten together. We spend our blips of time only focused on eachother. We get to talk for...
    tauriangirl tauriangirl 36-40, F 26 Responses Nov 15, 2014

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 88 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    Argh! I hate when I have days like this!

    I know what this is-I know we can't be together but I miss him so incredibly right now and wish that it was a perfect world so we could. And then I start thinking-what am I doing? Im a strong, intelligent woman. I'm better than this. I deserve more. I'm sick of feeling like...
    lotsofquestions86 lotsofquestions86 26-30, F 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    jupsta jupsta 36-40, F 9 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    The weekend away helped!

    Yesterday was good. Today was almost good, then very very NOT good. He came to pick up his daughter, clearly stood where I would see him. He wore the shirt that matches the tie I have. The one I am working on throwing away. The one that still smells like him. There is a long...
    justabovetheknees justabovetheknees 41-45, F 1 Response 18 hrs ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 78 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 25 Responses May 6, 2014

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    Hey ladies... I've recently reached out to a

    childhood friend with help on a project. I've been having a hard time with this project of mine and out of no where thought about this guy. I looked him up online and sure enough his expertise in his field is what I need for my project. He texted me a couple of months ago to...
    RedHotPepper RedHotPepper 26-30, F 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    To the woman that D-day has come

    and you have had no choice but to move on........ My D-day came on October 5th. I was with my ex mm for 4 years. But everything came crashing down on that day and I didn't know him at all. He treated me horrible when it happened and I never seen it coming. I didn't think he was...
    Jennbme Jennbme 36-40, F 6 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 20 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    I haven't posted in over a month

    because my MM and I have been NC. Totally thought it was over... Then out of the blue, he texts me, "Round 2"?... Apparently, someone missed me a lot lol. Never have we had the "over before it even started" problem until now hahaha.
    aulaLaine aulaLaine 41-45, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    And I think I am done with this relationship.

    I am no one's doormat. I cannot stand his "I will see you Monday" and then ignore my texts... later writes on Thursday "Can I see you" as if nothing happened. No apolgies, No I am sorry, nothing. I deserve better. I am going no contact till he says "I got a divorce do you want...
    liberty2014 liberty2014 36-40, F 14 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    Good Morning My Lovely Beautiful Ladies.

    I'm wishing you all have a blessed day that will be filled with nothing but LOVE & HAPPINESS. There are a lot of people aka TROLLS that just don't understand us, and its ok they suffer from an ugly bitterness inside that we cant help them with nobody can. They hate us for...
    Imbrokenhearted Imbrokenhearted 36-40, F 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 17 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    When he says he's feeling guilty does

    that mean he's on his way out ?
    kringle6691 kringle6691 46-50, F 4 Responses 25 mins ago

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 49 Responses Jan 10

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 50 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 17 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    What is the longest that you have gone NC?

    It's been almost three months for me (after 2.5 yrs) and I still think about MM everyday. Yes, it has become less and less but the thoughts are still there and don't know when the day will finally come that I don't think of him, long for him, want to see him, want to speak to...
    moving4ward3 moving4ward3 26-30, F 8 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 67 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 50 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    Do you all know when he's with 'her'?

    Does he ever keep it from you or be vague or even lie? How do you handle the knowing or not knowing?
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 10 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 101 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    Those days when you really bonded over a nice

    long intimate cuddle session seem more difficult to end.
    surfsway surfsway 36-40, F 2 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 10 Responses Feb 13, 2014

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    Warning this TROLL is psychotic she is

    certified, all she do is post on all our stories watch out for her and block her. She is not in the OW group and this is what she lives for to harass all of us on here. (TROLL BE GONE) flor45 responded to an "I Am The Other Woman" response 49 mins ago flor45 responded to an...
    Imbrokenhearted Imbrokenhearted 36-40, F 2 Responses 1 hr ago

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 11, 2014

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