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I Am The Other Woman

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 14,758 People

    Until we meet again, ladies!

    . For a variety of reasons, I have not been online much (mostly due to a almost dead laptop, a desktop that had problems connecting to the internet, and life in general). . I went through all of my stories to see when I joined here. I joined the "I Live in a Sexless Marriage...
    TrulyMadlyDeeply38 TrulyMadlyDeeply38
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Apr 19

    "One of the biggest mistakes we make is assuming

    that other people think the way we think"
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Apr 19

    Every day and night my mind is filled with

    thoughts of you As long as the sun continues to shine you can be sure that my heart will remain yours
    Hunniebae Hunniebae
    26-30, F
    1 Response Apr 21

    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    39 Responses Feb 16, 2014

    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    b4realz b4realz
    31-35, F
    147 Responses Oct 26, 2012

    The other woman isn't always a home-wrecker.

    Sometimes she's a home-mender. I had been faithful to my dear husband for over 20 years. For many years I thought there was something wrong with me. Maybe I wasn't sexy. Why didn't he want me the way I wanted him? I grew to understand that we just had very different desire...
    livingasme livingasme
    51-55, F
    13 Responses May 15, 2015

    Resentment Demolishing Anger's Walls by Madisyn

    Taylor When anger has no outlet it can morph into resentment and carries the potential to cause great turmoil. Anger, when channeled into the pursuit of change, can be a useful tool in our emotional palette. Anger is experienced by most people, some more than others. It is...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Apr 20

    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304
    26-30, F
    36 Responses Jan 10, 2015

    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2
    46-50, M
    37 Responses Apr 12, 2013

    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    21 Responses May 6, 2014

    I can't get my posts to download

    and this bites because I have used this as my diary for this past year. I ended up featuring another post. If I can't get things fixed with my laptop I guess I will just screen shot as many as I can. Things aren't good right now with us and my gut tells me that I probably can't...
    independentandstubborn independentandstubborn
    51-55, F
    1 Response Apr 20

    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore
    31-35, F
    10 Responses Apr 19, 2015

    Hello beautiful ladies.

    I don't post here any more since I am (thankfully) no longer the other woman. I see so many of you struggling with "should I stay, or should I go?". That is truly a question only you can answer, but for the majority of us, no matter how much we love our men, this is a toxic and...
    ravenofthedark ravenofthedark
    41-45, F
    9 Responses Jul 17, 2015

    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001
    36-40, M
    13 Responses Apr 19, 2014

    Good bye to all, it's the last day to post I

    think. I will be moving to exp2 I hope. I will miss being able to come here to post and read. It's a sad day. Maybe EP will be back one day. So sad to see it go :( Best of luck to everyone!
    freedomnow001 freedomnow001
    36-40, F
    Apr 20

    http://www.experienceproject.

    com/stories/Am-The-Other-Woman/5357914 One of my favorites... Written 14 months ago and I still feel the same
    elizabethmariejazz elizabethmariejazz
    36-40, F
    Apr 20

    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234
    26-30, F
    17 Responses Apr 18, 2014

    I am reading a happy story with sadness.

    To the OW who does have her happy ending, or can see it in sight, you have your "I love you" and you and he will be together soon. You both sound like good people who will be good for each other. I have read your story and it progresses in the same way as many others. You...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    18 Responses Jun 21, 2014

    Following Peachy, Koko,

    and PressPToPlay, I went back and dug up my first post about being the other woman on EP. Different screen name maybe, but the story is still mine.. "I never thought it would happen. I didn't go looking for anything from anyone, although I was starting to pull away from my...
    ElsieJay ElsieJay
    41-45, F
    1 Response Apr 20

    Take care of yourselves.

    Remember there will always be trolls. See you on the flip side.
    independentandstubborn independentandstubborn
    51-55, F
    4 Responses Apr 21

    Honestly I'd beat the life out of ANY b!

    tch who tries to ruin my family and my marriage. There's enough men out there, there's no need for sharing ladies.
    Cleopatra05 Cleopatra05
    18-21, F
    19 Responses Dec 28, 2015

    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    14 Responses Feb 6, 2015

    Private forum for us!

    Hi ladies, I have a feeling for a long time that this project is not doing well. As the announcement came in today confirm my intuition. It happens to be that I have been creating websites for almost 20 years. And at this juncture I would love to extend my expertise to this...
    ReflectedSoul ReflectedSoul
    41-45, F
    43 Responses Mar 23

    Why do you have no self -worth?

    When you do have self-worth your actions will stand you tall in life. You wont see love in a man that can never be your true man in the true sense. Why settle for so little. You deserve better than to be hidden. You deserve the best, why do you give yourself this bad draw in...
    Diamond2020 Diamond2020
    61-65
    1 Response Apr 21

    Following Peachy and Koko - my first post here

    - not that long ago -- Have you ever met someone that you instantly connected with? That, as time passed, you just settled in so deep with and the connection just grew? Have you ever felt that glow and knew that not to be with this man would be the stupidest thing ever? I found...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Apr 19

    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde
    41-45, F
    73 Responses Feb 21, 2013

    Farewell EP...Change is hard,

    but the Universe will never do anything that is not in your best interests. Trust the process. 
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Apr 21

    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle
    36-40, F
    46 Responses Apr 22, 2012

    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea
    51-55, F
    161 Responses Oct 3, 2011

    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage
    41-45, F
    42 Responses Nov 6, 2014

    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983
    26-30, F
    170 Responses Apr 9, 2012

    Be happy, and follow your heart.

    Don't ever let anyone tell you how you should feel, think or be. Be authentic and true to yourself. You only get one life.. Make it a good one.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Apr 20

    Reposting this... I am posting this letter

    from a married man again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Apr 19

    My man bought me a flashlight,

    because he found out on Sunday that I didn't have one.. And he also got a laser pointer for Tiger. Didn't take long for that to be extremely entertaining. I love laughing with him. Sometimes, it's the little things.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Apr 19

    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego
    18-21
    39 Responses Jul 6, 2008

    Knowing EP was closing soon,

    I decided to log in one last time today. I am not going to save any of my posts (or any posts from my previous user name), because this is such an emotional journey we are all on. I have enough "dialog" saved, between MM and I, to remind me of the constant ups and downs. My mood...
    tidbits32 tidbits32
    41-45, F
    1 Response Apr 21

    I figured I'd hop on

    for one last post today... A couple of weeks ago, the long lost love of my life contacted me out of the blue. He was my college sweetheart, and while I haven't really been believing in the idea of a 'soul mate' lately, I think he was about as close as it gets. He just 'got me...
    ashadams244 ashadams244
    26-30, F
    1 Response Apr 20

    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999
    26-30, F
    19 Responses Jun 2, 2014

    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki
    46-50, F
    99 Responses Oct 12, 2011

    Road trip.. MPP needs to pick up some parts

    out of town tomorrow evening. I'm going with him. :) I love driving with him, especially on the highway. What a great way to end EP. Smiling, happy, and so in love.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Apr 20

    So, this is it. The dusk of EP.

    As many others, I have scrolled through my stories and marveled at the comments left by those who have shared my journey for a brief time span. How quickly time has passed... Not much has changed since I joined EP almost exactly two years ago: My MM and I continue to work...
    BoudoirWhispers BoudoirWhispers
    51-55, F
    Apr 20

    I was looking threw all my post ,

    looking back at all that has happened to me in my life .....I decided to re post the very first post I cant believe how many people on the internet viewed it .... I Am Having An Emotional Affair This started last year at first it almost was physical but it turned into an...
    peachy115 peachy115
    51-55, F
    1 Response Apr 19

    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    201 Responses Jul 28, 2008

    Taking peachy's lead.

    . this is my very first post here.. And still in our 8th year, I wouldn't change a thing about how our relationship has evolved, or the love he brings to it, every single day... The Most Amazing Experience Of My Life..... I am just starting my 6th year as the other woman.. to a...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Apr 19

    It's like a funeral here .

    .. I been to too many of them in the past couple of years... This was a great site to come and vent ,happy times ,sad times ,confused times ,over the top and down to the bottom.... We live our lives every day to the fullest .. I have made many ,many ,many friends on here and...
    peachy115 peachy115
    51-55, F
    1 Response Apr 21

    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc
    46-50, F
    15 Responses Mar 22, 2015

    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled
    36-40, F
    20 Responses Apr 30, 2015

    I believe that when people wish harm

    and bad things on you ,it comes true ..When the harp on something so strong ,it becomes that bad thing .. When you push ,and push the negativity away ,it helps.Sometimes you get to tired to push back and just let things happen ...
    peachy115 peachy115
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Apr 20

    I met a SG. A good one.

    First date at a coffee shop yesterday lasted for six hours. Just talking. And an amazing kiss afterward. Then we texted until bed. He is beautiful and sweet and smart and athletic. And he digs me a whole bunch. Best of all, he has been divorced for nearly 20 years. He was so...
    Stalked9 Stalked9
    41-45, F
    14 Responses Jan 11

    This goes out to Koko puffy,

    Lil lotus and the rest of you sorry pathetic hopeless hapless romantics . Stop fooling yourself into thinking that you and your MM will be together one day. People like you need a reality check, like someone needs to come along and burst your fantasy bubble! You are in denial...
    hotbuttersoul hotbuttersoul
    31-35, F
    7 Responses Apr 21

    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen
    31-35
    97 Responses Feb 19, 2011

    Is it really done? I thought EP was paused

    yet I still get messages.
    Serendipitous1 Serendipitous1
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Apr 21

    Energy Vampire. You enter this family with no

    permission but your own. You boost your ratings to make the wife appear uncaring/unloving. You never show him that you are allot like the wife. You are the carefree girl that will revamp his lost life. You give him passion and meaning, he feels single again. You cause him to...
    beopendoor beopendoor
    56-60, F
    1 Response Apr 19

    My last post here: Be happy.

    Don't listen to the trolls. Do what you can to better yourself. You are not alone. Follow your heart....
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Apr 21

    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK
    22-25, F
    30 Responses Aug 18, 2013

    NO LONGER THE OTHER WOMAN!

    !! I am now the only woman :) it has been officially ended this morning, he was straight on the phone to me who was awesome at playing it cool despite up all night worrying! He was going to come over but we both decided against it as he needs time to recover maybe. He has gone...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore
    31-35, F
    9 Responses Mar 21, 2015

    OH. MY. GOD. It's final,

    he's single, and as of 9:37am today I am no longer the OW!!!
    Shardsofsorrow Shardsofsorrow
    31-35, F
    53 Responses Jul 29, 2015

    My man is here.. working under my sink.

    .literally. and I just heard.. Oh geez, how'd they get this in here. :( And out he goes for another tool..sigh. Old houses, always a challenge. So glad he's always up to it. Hope it doesn't take long so I can thank him properly :D
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Apr 19

    RIP, Prince. Dig if you will the picture Of you

    and I engaged in a kiss The sweat of your body covers me Can you my darling Can you picture this? Dream if you can a courtyard An ocean of violets in bloom Animals strike curious poses They feel the heat The heat between me and you How can you just leave me standing? Alone in...
    BoudoirWhispers BoudoirWhispers
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Apr 21

    Warning Against Adultery 1My son,

    pay attention to my wisdom, turn your ear to my words of insight, 2that you may maintain discretion and your lips may preserve knowledge. 3For the lips of the adulterous woman drip honey, and her speech is smoother than oil; 4but in the end she is bitter as gall, sharp as a...
    NOWRaptured NOWRaptured
    61-65, F
    3 Responses Apr 21
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