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I Am The Other Woman

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 48 Responses Feb 16

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    Please, do not stop posting.

    ... I may not be the best person to make this request because I have only participated on the forum for just a few months. But I am so glad I had a place to go. I can not begin to tell you how supportive you ladies have been during my time of heart aches, up swings, troubles...
    saiyagyrl saiyagyrl 36-40, F 4 Responses May 26

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    So I drove an hour to get to his house

    but only stayed for maybe 2 hours. He was acting weird and distant when I got there. He didn't even want to sit close to me on the couch. Then he starts bitching about being tired, so I say maybe I should just go. He didn't even try to stop me! I'm pissed I wasted my time, it...
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 6 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    Trying to keep hold of the crazy brain train.

    Much less contact for the weekend, (painful and I hate it!!) coming off my high from our overnight Monday and Tuesday. I just want to be with him every day :(((( No desire to get out but kinda wish I could get amnesia and forget it ever happened. That would be the only way I...
    Changedforever9514 Changedforever9514 41-45, F 5 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 17 Responses May 4

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    Floating on cloud nine

    after seeing him. He said he could only give me 30 minutes, but ended up staying and talking to me for and hour and a half!! He makes me smile and laugh, I just love him so much!! I think I could sit and listen to him talk for the rest of my life and never be bored. He looks at...
    freddiesgirl69 freddiesgirl69 41-45, F 3 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 79 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    I am the ow to the ow lol Seriously what I see

    here is what I expected to see here. A whole load of nievety about men. Nieve women, the same nievety the wife's have. I don't see vindictive women trying to.steal.another woman's man. I see nievety, delusion and misplaced faith. These men spin the same lines to any woman that...
    paliglass paliglass 31-35, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 11

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    Was asked for a better version of this picture

    so it could be read! I hope this gives people hope!
    CCBatman120 CCBatman120 26-30, F 1 Response 11 hrs ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 37 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 72 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    Has his wife ever tried harder

    for a while and it seemed like things got better for them? It happens every few months she will get super positive about their relationship and gush and go on about it being great and he says they have sex more often then too.. But then she always gets sick of the extra effort...
    Missmetomorrow Missmetomorrow 22-25, F 5 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    I desperately need advice on what im feeling.

    Im stuck in emotional limbo it almost like every other hour im hiding and crying. I spent a year and a half with him and it's over. I need it to be over so afraid going to go back. Im trying to take it one day at a time but its harder than I anticipated. Ive forgiven him for...
    SweetAsSugar10 SweetAsSugar10 22-25 2 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    So SG gone away on holiday

    for 2 weeks today. What am I going to do now to distract me from reaching out to MM?! Things have been good that past week, started having a lot more feelings for SG other then him just being a distraction but no contact for 2 weeks is going to be hard. I really don't want to be...
    Prettybutterfly88 Prettybutterfly88 22-25, F 2 Responses 1 hr ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 103 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 142 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 44 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    We talked and for the millionth time it's over.

    He said he doesn't have passionate feelings for her the way he feels for me but he's not ready to end things with her. They have been together for a really long time. She's a great person and had been there for him. I understand why it's difficult to end things even if he's not...
    ownomore ownomore 26-30, F 3 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    Need OW perspective. I feel like I had a

    breakthrough with my wife this weekend. A breakthrough for me I guess. My wife was really sweet and showing she cared for me, and then I thought to myself Oh God now I'm confused about my feelings for her. After a short while though I started to realize I'm trying to forgive or...
    wakeupdead wakeupdead 26-30, M 7 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    I am happy being the other woman

    because this is the choice I have made for me for now. I know my boyfriend loves me and he also loves his wife, for different reasons and in different ways. My husband understands that I love him first and foremost but that I also have love for my boyfriend. I know this sounds...
    mcmcintosh mcmcintosh 31-35, F 7 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 22 Responses Jul 30

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 10 Responses Feb 13

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 20 Responses Apr 18

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    I am having a difficult day in my head.

    He is away at a wedding with the W today. Making myself crazy. I would have been OK but just feels like there has been a shift the past few days. Making me re-evaluate everything that I want for myself. We will see how he acts after he returns.
    blue963 blue963 46-50, F 2 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    So confused and hurt.

    Saw him last night with my friend and his. Good fun night drinking in the city. My friend waited in car whilst I went to his room before we left, so we could say goodnight. We talked and time got away and my friend drove back to our home town without me!! (1 hour away) so...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 1 Response 16 hrs ago

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    I'm on a roll today so here's another post.

    Just give me your thoughts. I think it is ok if my OW leaves her fiance for me instead of thinking its the right decision to the leave the fiance no matter what. However, I would prefer she leaves him because she doesn't really want to be with him to begin with. So what's your...
    wakeupdead wakeupdead 26-30, M 8 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 29 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Reading too many articles

    that are getting to my head about the way we are viewed by our men. ...if she's willing to be an accomplice to your cheating, she lacks integrity and moral character and will never make a good partner. ... Funny, I have always seen myself as a person of pro social values and...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 8 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 80 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 3 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    UPDATE: MM called me

    and said DENY EVERYTHING LOL.. He denied it all , and is proud that I know him so well . (: I thought he would be super mad at me , but he wasn't and we are all good . Feels good to hear his voice , and him telling me he loves me more than ever ..
    Fatalattraction Fatalattraction 22-25, F 1 Response 18 hrs ago

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 43 Responses Feb 24

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    Things I don't miss from my affair.

    .. 1. Waiting for my phone to ding 2. Lying to spouse about where I am going 3. Making sure I erase texts 4. Time 5. Mind control that the affair holds not mm 6. Questioning of myself and actions 7. Guilt not for the affair but for my husband and his wife 8. Time 9. The panic...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 14 Responses Apr 27

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 68 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    ad·dic·tion // noun: the fact

    or condition of being addicted to a particular substance, thing, or activity. I am addicted to you. You are my only high.
    kc5316 kc5316 22-25, F 2 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    I have a question. Has anyone ever carried a

    baby of someone that was married?
    augustus2009 augustus2009 26-30, M 11 hrs ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 40 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    I was the other women

    for a year but now I am the wife. We will be celebrating our 3 year wedding anniversary soon. We were both married to other people when we met. We were both in bad marriages. We are both so much happier now. If anyone wants to hear my story I am happy to share.
    magic2929 magic2929 46-50, F 17 Responses Apr 29

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    Just want to put this out there to all you

    other "other women" you keep me positive... You nail my feet to the ground... You make me smile ... You put my heart back in my chest ... Thank you and when I see you pouring your heart out I feel it... I hope all the best for everyone of you misunderstood beautiful women ... I...
    jupsta jupsta 36-40, F 8 Responses Jun 9

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    The Katy Perry song "Hot

    and Cold" does anyone else think of their MM when they hear this song?!?!
    Dreamingofhim0514 Dreamingofhim0514 26-30, F 3 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    My Secret Gold Coin

    You don’t know it, but I think of you as a beautiful, precious, shiny gold coin that I keep secretly hidden in my pocket. I feel happy knowing that you are in there, but unhappy knowing that you have to stay hidden. I wish I could show you off to friends, but they wouldn’t...
    jenn80 jenn80 51-55 18 Responses May 23, 2013

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    Now I'm confused a little bit about what I'm

    even doing. You guys have convinced me that I need to leave my wife for myself and make sure it's not me just trying impress my OW or just so I can be with my OW. That makes sense and I'm onboard with that, but I'm asking my OW to leave her fiance who is obviously not that bad...
    wakeupdead wakeupdead 26-30, M 11 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    I Still for the life of me can't figure out

    why he's finding reasons to text me? Like can you get my schedule for me if you're working. I'm like dude you can go online and get it. Or asking me how work is going when he absolutely hates that place with a passion and I quote him " I could care less what goes on in that...
    tc57 tc57 31-35, F 2 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Not really other woman related

    but who wouldn't wanna see these adorable creatures? I'm alone a lot on the weekends MM is little to no contact, and the kids go to their dad's and I was left to throw crickets to these things that I'd never thought I'd touch let alone become completely obsessed with. They...
    ynoTme83 ynoTme83 31-35, F 4 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    He can't be with me yet Waiting

    for my my abusive husband court case in December He tells me sort your **** out then we ll sort his out January We have planned our new Life together He has never broke a promise never and I truly can't wait for that day We got matching tattoos last week And i felt honoured...
    Lost0808 Lost0808 26-30, F 12 hrs ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 163 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    We were together today.

    . No cops to worry about.. We got a room.. We were amazing together.. So hard to leave.. My emotions are high and I miss him so much already.. After I'm with him I'm always emotional... He's tried to end things a few times... So I've been trying to keep a distance...
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 8 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    I'm pretty sure he's dying.

    He's been in the icu for a week now, he's on a picc line and now a catheder, they keep him looped on morphine. The only time I've ever known a hospital to do that was when the man was dying. I would never tell him my fears, but I'm so scared...what if I don't get to say goodbye...
    leigh8133 leigh8133 31-35, F 3 Responses 1 hr ago

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    He was here for a few hours today.

    An amazing few hours!!! We talked a lot about why he ended things.....we both want to continue but a bit more relaxed. I told him he needs to communicate with me and if he can't see me to tell me why so I don't think he just doesn't want to. We talked about SG..... He asked...
    PrincessLolita PrincessLolita 26-30, F 2 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    He was a bit cold yesterday.

    Not as much active texting like usual. I gave him space and just let him be. It was still bothering me this morning so instead of trying to play cold too, I just asked him what was bothering him. He's already got a lot of personal issues, now that school started, he said he's...
    ownomore ownomore 26-30, F 1 Response 19 hrs ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 152 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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