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    I am just not in a good mood today.

    My visitor arrived this week and I guess that is it. I'm questioning everything today. Moodiness I can't stand it. I don't need any of the regular trolls responding to this. So please respect me and don't. Thanks
    Sweetpea379 Sweetpea379 46-50, F 8 mins ago

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    Our Story part 1 I have read a lot of stories

    on here, and have finally worked up the courage to post my own. Unlike many of you, I do not wish to be his W one day, I do not wish for him to get a D, because I know how much he has to give up (and I'm 1000 miles away). I love him so much that I just want to make his life...
    asta20 asta20 31-35, F 4 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 31-35, M 17 Responses Apr 19

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    "One of the hardest decisions you'll ever face

    in life, is choosing whether to walk away or to try harder." I've been with my MM for 13 months. I told my self I would end it after a year but that didn't happen. About 2 months ago his wife found out about our affair and everything has gone down hill since. She left for 2...
    warwithin12 warwithin12 26-30, F 3 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    Well here goes. I've been lurking

    for a few months now and decided it's time for me to write my feelings out. Married to a good man and an amazing dad. We have not been intimate in 4-5 months. In the last year, we have not been out on a date and I think we're at the point where we love each other but not in...
    kikimarie1978 kikimarie1978 36-40, F 46 Responses 3 days ago

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    I'm so pissed. I spend an hour driving to meet

    him 2-3 times a week but I ask him to meet closer to me just this once and he won't/can't. I put in too much effort. I don't think it's worth it anymore.
    Gingerishere Gingerishere 22-25, F 6 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Our Story part 8 (final) Since I filed

    for D, things with MM didn't change a whole lot, but the subject of sex was slightly more in our conversation. One month after the separation, MM told me, "I'm flying to W----, I can make a pit stop to see you if you like." I agreed, even though I was nervous. I didn't want to...
    asta20 asta20 31-35, F 8 hrs ago

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 20 Responses Jan 2

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    I cannot wait to see him next week.

    I miss my mm so much it is so heartbreaking I need him. hugs!!!
    kylee2013 kylee2013 36-40, F 1 Response 8 hrs ago

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    Recall my last post about how I think his

    feelings for me a disappearing, trust a woman's instinct. He said yesterday all these arguments I keep causing have really pushed him away. He doesn't know if things are fixable but when he thinks of me now all that comes to his head is stress I give him. This happened because...
    Missy1179 Missy1179 31-35, F 10 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    "One of the hardest decisions you'll ever face

    in life, is choosing whether to walk away or to try harder." I've been with my MM for 13 months. I told my self I would end it after a year but that didn't happen. About 2 months ago his wife found out about our affair and everything has gone down hill since. She left for 2...
    warwithin12 warwithin12 26-30, F 7 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 20 Responses Jul 30

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    I just responded to a post on here

    which got me to thinking (yes, y'all are in trouble while I ramble). If you're not mature enough to handle being an OW, sugar don't go down that road. The statement was made that his OW called W and said they were getting married. Excuse me? She (the W) is not your...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 26 Responses Oct 8

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    His wife left on Monday night.

    Right now they are probably sitting down together talking, screaming.. I don't even know.. But I encouraged him to go see her. I don't know yet if it was a mistake, I mean obviously I know he could decide that I'm too much baggage and it's easier to just stay married and be...
    megansunshine megansunshine 18-21, F 6 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 36 Responses Sep 23

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 18 Responses Sep 10

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    i am so conficted and torn

    and mixed up and sad and happy and ugh...i just don't even know... some time ago i posted here about a man id known some time ago-a man i loved deeply but who had made the choice to continue in his relationship with his 'wife'...(long time girlfriend) ...while i was the other...
    mrhe mrhe 41-45, F 4 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 42 Responses Feb 24

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 23 Responses May 6

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    Really would love to connect with others in my

    situation. I can't really talk about it to anyone so I feel like sometimes I just need to vent and hear some words of advice. I am 32 yrs old, married with 2 kids, and I've been in a relationship with a MM for almost a year. Hope to make some great friends :)
    4bdnluv 4bdnluv 31-35, F 21 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 81 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    Okay ladies it's pretty much the weekend he's

    not gna be at work today bc kids have off so he's gna hang out with them today before he tells them tomorrow. He told them during the week that they have some important things to discuss Saturday and to not make plans he's talked about it more and I'm pretty sure this time he's...
    ap05 ap05 26-30, F 1 Response 33 mins ago

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    How can people post so long story ?

    ?? Half of them are fake or copy paste and those have their real story they also don't post such a long story?????
    Luvtohavefun Luvtohavefun 22-25, M 3 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 45 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Before I am your mistress,

    your mother, your daughter, friend or neighbor, I am myself. I shall not set my soul on fire to keep you warm. I found this on the poet's tumbler (http://frayed-and-torn.tumblr.com/) and altered it slightly to fit my poetic taste and the life of the "other woman".
    BoudoirWhispers BoudoirWhispers 46-50, F 2 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 7 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 78 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 39 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 46 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 15 Responses Jun 2

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    Just had my first therapy session today.

    Damn, was that therapeutic. I cried like a baby for the entire hour. It felt good to be recognized for how hard I work for my family and how much weight I put on my shoulders as I do not have an equal helping partner. Partner...I cried when I heard that word. That's why I got...
    kikimarie1978 kikimarie1978 36-40, F 8 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 11

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 162 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 146 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    Our story part 2 A little background that's

    very pertinent to the story: Over a year ago, I lost my father. My mother couldn't handle the blow, so she went on a 6-month vacation overseas to have a change of scenery. I'm an only child. Outside of my H and kids, I have no other family. H was extremely controlling and...
    asta20 asta20 31-35, F 1 Response 21 hrs ago

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    Our story part 5 I found out about his

    position on LinkedIn. With his premium account status, it was an easy find. My jaw dropped to the floor. To me, wealth is not an important quality in a man - I've never dated any rich man. I was just so shocked. I couldn't believe some executive would spend so much of his...
    asta20 asta20 31-35, F 16 hrs ago

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    How to Know If You're Wasting Time on the Wrong

    Men - by Evan Marc Katz (UNDERSTAND MEN - FIND LOVE) came across this article online today and thought I'd share it w/you lovely ladies :) http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/dating-tips-advice/how-to-know-if-you're-wasting-time-on-the-wrong-men/ just wanna share a few...
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 4 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 51 Responses Feb 16

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    Our Story part 7 After the show was over,

    I asked MM, "Did you go on there...?" He said, "No... I can't." H was nearby. I told him, "He didn't go on." H said, "Yes he did. He just doesn't want to admit it." So I asked MM, "why can't you?" MM said, "I guess I could have." Whether MM saw it or not, H never made me tell...
    asta20 asta20 31-35, F 2 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Women won't mess with a man

    that lives with his mom but will mess with a man who lives with his wife.
    reeessa reeessa 13-15, F 35 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 68 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    Our story part 4 He never hid the fact he was

    married. He never talked about his W, but he would answer any question I had for him. That's how I learned he's been married for 27 years, they are catholic, and he's a total family man. That was totally ok to me because I never imagined I'd fall in love with him one day, or...
    asta20 asta20 31-35, F 1 Response 18 hrs ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 103 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 76 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    Aaaand I've fallen off cloud 9.

    I'm trying my best not to cry while here at work...FML....I'm just going to jump into a big black hole of the unknown. Get out of my comfort zone I guess...maaaay not be on here for a while now....good luck....
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 4 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Good vibes and good luck i need

    for tomorrow. My nerves are killing me. My stomach in a knot. Im scared, anxious and very confused at the same time. Tomorrow will be the day i get to empty my heart out to him and try to get some answers and clarity on this situation. Im not sure what all will turn out, all i...
    Chicadelcaribe Chicadelcaribe 31-35, F 4 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    Of course today starts my two night over night

    with him... Of course it also starts my period. -_-
    lostanddistraught lostanddistraught 22-25, F 6 Responses 1 hr ago

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    Our story part 3 His son was only a preteen.

    Brain cancer. He fought it for 9 years. Just as I started questioning the authenticity of the story, he said, "that's him on my profile picture". In the picture is a handsome looking boy who was already confined to a wheelchair. (He never changes the picture.) Here I was...
    asta20 asta20 31-35, F 20 hrs ago

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    I know I may get slammed

    for this but this is the best article my MM & I have found to put in words what we have experienced. http://www.elephantjournal.com/2014/05/soul-fing-debra-faith-warshaw-adult/
    forbidden67 forbidden67 46-50, F 6 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    Ok started my second job tonight.

    It went ok the cashier register is intimidating. A friend of mine that I did not realize worked their was my training buddy. Shew. Once I get to do a few transactions I will feel better. Today was my early day at job 1 so it has been a long day. I hope I get more hours soon...
    intimateginger intimateginger 41-45, F 2 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    So I have a problem--sort of related,

    sort of not. But you guys are so helpful and supportive that its worth a shot. Let me start out by saying I had a wonderful morning/afternoon with my guy. Crappy day out so we stayed in, drank coffee, and watched a movie, before moving things into the bedroom... Idk how to lead...
    SweetHeresy SweetHeresy 22-25, F 4 Responses 19 hrs ago

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