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I Am The Other Woman

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 16 Responses May 4

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    Okay. Advice please. It's been four days

    since I've talked to him. Last Saturday we had an overnight and we chatted for a little bit Sunday night after my car broke down but I haven't heard from him since. I always thought if you cared about someone you would want to know how they're doing. It makes no sense to me. Two...
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 17 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    i was talking to him on the phone last night.

    i told him for Christmas i wanted him on new years eve. i get the whole well my family gets together and how do u think i can get out of it. i said tell them you're working. he said i already told them i wasnt working the holidays. all i could say was of course you did...
    xalotlikex xalotlikex 22-25, F 18 hrs ago

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    I haven't posted here

    since March, mostly because my mm became very sick and battled for his life this whole time. I came back here to update that he passed away from cancer this morning. I'm grieving. It wasn't supposed to end like this. We had just begun something magical. I truly loved and adored...
    youngconfuzedteacher youngconfuzedteacher 26-30, F 2 Responses 28 mins ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 103 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    do you trust your mm?

    sometimes i feel like a fool because i trust him.
    xalotlikex xalotlikex 22-25, F 20 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Tonight will be our first full night together.

    No time constraints. No looking over our shoulders. We have a suite booked with a fireplace. Sushi & wine. I am so looking forward to 8 hours of normalcy. It is crazy we have never even eaten together. We spend our blips of time only focused on eachother. We get to talk for...
    tauriangirl tauriangirl 36-40, F 28 Responses Nov 15

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 32 Responses Sep 23

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 20 Responses Jan 2

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 55 Responses Nov 6

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 69 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    Hi there. My phone has been down

    and I have missed you all! Hope things are going ok. Into the Christmas holidays which are bittersweet and thinking of you all. My man is away with family and I'm home with family - I will miss him but we are lucky to be able to text. Take care x
    baab2 baab2 41-45, F 5 hrs ago

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    1 year 4 months in. A month ago I moved down

    close to him, because he would have nowhere else to move when they separate for good. He said he was going to move in with me right when I got the new place. He still hasn't and isn't even giving me a time frame. He does at least spend 2 nights a week at my place. So, it's not...
    thedokken thedokken 22-25, F 4 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    So eager today. He wants to go to lunch today

    and to go out for drinks tonight. We don't usually do Thursday nights out. Such a weird turn around, but hey I'm not complaining!
    DarlingEll DarlingEll 26-30, F 1 Response 16 hrs ago

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    He showed up where I didn't expect him to.

    . last night, a Christmas party. Acting as if nothing's wrong, drinking. I wasn't very kind to him. All the hurt and disregard was too much. This morning, I sent him this: "It's time.. I'm sure you agree. I'm not a nice person around you anymore.. this past year has been...
    Scorpionchild Scorpionchild 46-50, F 4 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    so the unexpected thing happened.

    he surprised me by apologizing for yelling at me for the first time in all d yrs I knw him he screams at me. ..my heart melted n i cudnt b upset wen he explained the reason. .. also first tym ever he opened up a bit..told me hw I'm the only person he doesn't like to c hurt or...
    ANGELKZ ANGELKZ 26-30, F 1 Response 13 hrs ago

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 11

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 162 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    Ok ladies tell me your first thought

    or reaction on this conversation. MM gave me his happy meal toy like he always does and It was a penguin water gun. MM: did you squirt anyone yet? Me: no I'll only do that to you MM: go ahead.....make my day Any thoughts or reactions?
    tc57 tc57 31-35, F 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 17 Responses Apr 19

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    Breaking up isn't alwaysthe answer to closure.

    ....... Not all the scars show, therefore not all the wounds will heal. I guess it's safe to say that sometimes you can't see the pain that someone else is feeling...........
    iheartnono iheartnono 31-35 1 Response 14 hrs ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 31 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Do you think, "she stole him from me" is a

    valid feeling? BM truly believes that I "stole" her H from her. I don't understand why one would blame the OW as opposed to her own husband for leaving/divorcing her... Part of me is flattered, and the other part of me feels like I'm being blamed while it takes two to tango...
    list411 list411 22-25, F 13 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    Oh boy, so we have a really big office.

    My guy had a meeting with a couple of my coworkers yesterday. One is a real busybody. The other coworker who is a friend of both of ours (not aware of the affair) is giving him a hard time about not being on his bike lately and MM starts teasing back about me, knowing that's...
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 13 hrs ago

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    I found the perfect gift

    for my MM. It hasn't shipped yet though so I'm afraid it won't be here before Christmas! I just hope he can explain it to his W because once I saw it I knew I had to get it for him.
    blurrdlines blurrdlines 36-40, F 4 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Women won't mess with a man

    that lives with his mom but will mess with a man who lives with his wife.
    reeessa reeessa 13-15, F 29 Responses Oct 23

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 51 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 50 Responses Feb 16

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 17 Responses Sep 10

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 40 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 46 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Tomorrow is the last day we will see each other

    until the work week following Christmas. I can say that we have definitely spent some quality time together. Today the office cleared out early and I happened to be walking by. He talked to me for a few minutes and said I should visit him before I went home. I finished up my...
    surfsway surfsway 36-40, F 7 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Wow, I feel like such a fool.

    His phone got shut off on Monday. I asked why he didn't email me like he has in the past. He said he did and then I remembered, I deleted that email account two weeks ago! I forgot to tell him. Oops. I'm glad I waited.
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 7 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    when one door shuts .

    .....Another opens .Poor baby his son is so sick and i am so worried for him .I hope he went to see him .Knowing his selfish W ,he probably couldn't waiting is the one thing I hate to do .........
    peachy115 peachy115 51-55, F 7 hrs ago

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 10 Responses Feb 13

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 81 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    I'm not really 'the other woman' anymore cause

    they are getting a divorce.. But he's still married to her and she's got his kids she will always be part of the picture. I feel like the other woman still. She hasn't let him see the kids barely at all. He had them for one overnight since the end of October. Anyway.. To him...
    megansunshine megansunshine 18-21, F 3 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 41 Responses Feb 24

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    I hate how anxious I get waiting

    for him to text me after his day off. Not sure why...not like something is magically gonna change overnight to make him decide not to talk to me anymore lol. I've always trusted this man unwaiveringly. I want to keep believing him, especially because he's done nothing to make...
    SweetHeresy SweetHeresy 22-25, F 2 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 24 Responses May 6

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    Advise: What excuses do you make up to tell h

    when you wanna see your mm? something that will not make him suspicious at all? Also on short notice and in nightime! Just curious. You can reply privatly if you want to.
    liberty2014 liberty2014 36-40, F 4 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Gah!! He's so trying to get a rise out of me.

    I won't let him win. He was texting me while at the tire shop. He told me there was eye candy there and if I gave him permission, he would take her in the alley and... **** her.... Jeezus H!!! What the hell? Is that any way to talk to a woman you supposedly jar deep feelings for...
    sugarbabysub sugarbabysub 31-35, F 5 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    He got to work 15 minutes ago

    and already came to visit. When he's in a good mood, he's really good!
    DarlingEll DarlingEll 26-30, F 2 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    This is a tough and lonely time of year.

    Tough and lonely decisions to be made. Chin up for all the joy, but more strength needed to get through the pain. Everyone in this forum FOR ME, have been wonderful - I am grateful you all have been here to "listen" ..... Better year ahead .... we ALL deserve that.
    kitty1958 kitty1958 56-60, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    I fear we are nearing a D Day.

    He and his boss had a meeting at my office yesterday (not my project so I wasn't there) As they left his boss said "well you are sleeping with one of them". My mm told him not to go there. Then also yesterday an old employee of his asked him who the "little hottie was" that he...
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 3 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 84 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    Well he's headed back to w

    because his daughter has a school program he says he's not staying as long as last time his daughter called while I was at his home and he put her on speaker and she was asking daddy when he was coming and not to forget her program tomorrow and what time it was a. he said he...
    justinsneedow justinsneedow 41-45, F 2 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    Eeeeekkk!!!! Going to see the Nutcracker Ballet

    tonight with my man. Getting all dressed up in a black dress and him in a suit and going out to a fancy dinner beforehand! Then probably Xmas shopping with him Saturday and then we get to go to my work Xmas party. It's gonna be a great weekend! Sooo excited! Then again, any time...
    sensitiveme sensitiveme 31-35, F 6 mins ago

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    I have never posted -but sincerely appreciate

    every other woman's posts, support, and understanding of us! Came across the site over a year ago and have just been taking everything in! trying to relate to someone that has had a D day -but has managed to continue the relationship because he states "the only person that will...
    yuckyuck16 yuckyuck16 46-50, F 2 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 16 Responses Jun 2

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