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I Am The Other Woman

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    I've been on and off with my MM

    and I'm sure many of you must be getting annoyed with my constant posts in this group. I know many of you say I am too young or I am a bad person for being the OW but well that's the situation I'm in. Yesterday I phoned him on his way to work and we talked. Moral of the story...
    hiddennlove hiddennlove 18-21, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    Dear J, I'll never forget the day

    that I met you, August 20th, 2014. I thought it was one of the best days of my life. For months, you were my twin flame, my soul mate. As the months grew, so did your lies. The thing is, I was always smarter than you. I was always on your tail. I was always one step ahead of...
    MadameMirage MadameMirage 36-40, F 6 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    This is the trend in South America.

    Where are the cheaters, where is the husband...no where!!! Video.
    Prokamin Prokamin 36-40, F 2 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    It's like watching a freight train trash.

    Slowly. At the slowest slow speed possible. I was in my own freight car once not too long ago. I didn't see it. I was in it. Watching is something else. I feel in ways I never knew I could feel. Old, familiar feelings. I'm doing all I can to stay up.
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 1 Response 23 hrs ago

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    An interesting perspective

    that helped me... http://thecurrentconscience.com/blog/2012/08/08/you-dont-miss-him/
    Scorpionchild Scorpionchild 46-50, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    I ran into W at the gym yesterday.

    Haven't seen her since the birthday fiasco back in May. I originally ignored her but decided to say 'hey' because I knew that MM would hear about it if I didn't acknowledge her. Gave her a very fake 'hey lady' with which she returned 'hi how are you' and a fake *** smile. I am...
    kc5316 kc5316 22-25, F 59 mins ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 24 Responses Mar 22

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 45 Responses Jan 10

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    I know I complain about him a lot.

    .. Because I'm not really getting what I want and get so fed up.. But some days are totally different... Today he texted me and asked me to call his work... I haven't heard his voice in a few weeks and it just.. God I love it... It was nice to just reconnect a bit... Figures the...
    AvaLennon AvaLennon 31-35, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    Dying to see him soon.

    .. wish I could just have him all for me so soon!! Love him till death what else can I say? I adore him.
    liberty2014 liberty2014 36-40, F 10 hrs ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 170 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    It's amazing to be on the other side of the

    fence. I called it off. He never responded. And it just solidifies my feeling that he never cared for me...my instincts were right. I feel a weight lifted...but I am sad in a way because I have lost something that I though I had...even though in reality, there was never...
    untenable untenable 41-45, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I don't even know where to begin,

    my husband and I are married 2 yrs - have a 1yo son. My husband asked for an open relationship. I have started "seeing" R, my married best friend for years and years. Knew I loved him but only since I have let these feelings out did I realise how much. His wife has given...
    iamnooneyouknow iamnooneyouknow 31-35, F 32 seconds ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 42 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Seems like all is well today with you.

    I however feel sick. Mentally, physically, and emotionally. I can't stop thinking and playing out how this ends. I feel anxiety. My soul doesn't feel well. It feels all wrong. Wrong that I allow him to treat me this way. Wondering what he gets from this. Why he did it to begin...
    Aimee3 Aimee3 26-30, F 1 Response 9 hrs ago

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    Well exMM goes to court today,

    2nd offense DUI, a total of 5 convictions, this time he doesn't have me to be his taxi and take care of business if he goes away, I'm kinda glad I'm out of that mess!! Hadn't heard from him in a year and all the sudden he wants and needs my help and I know exactly why, he needs...
    kathrineh kathrineh 46-50, F 8 Responses 1 day ago

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    NO LONGER THE OTHER WOMAN!

    !! I am now the only woman :) it has been officially ended this morning, he was straight on the phone to me who was awesome at playing it cool despite up all night worrying! He was going to come over but we both decided against it as he needs time to recover maybe. He has gone...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 15 Responses Mar 21

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 14 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 18 Responses Mar 25

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 13 Responses Apr 19

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    Looking back it is funny how easily I fell into

    the trap of becoming 'the other woman.' The first flash of distress - a wounded soul no less, and I dived into the murky water. He told me that I was his oxygen. I was a mermaid Saint Bernard with the reviving elixir strapped to my neck. Strangely, I found two unmarried men...
    Faerylight Faerylight 41-45, F 19 Responses Jun 21

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 94 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 50 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 24 Responses Apr 30

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 50 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    Mm was not very happy yesterday

    when I told him I wanted to end it because my life is overwhelming at the moment. He thinks I'm using this as an excuse to push him away. He said everyone's life can be complicated and overwhelming at times but we still make time for the people we care about and we don't shut...
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 7 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    So after the many hours spent with him in the

    last week, we have no future meeting set up as of right now. When I was with him the other day, he let me know what his schedule looked like in the upcoming week and a half or so therefore this was expected. As far as I know now, I won't be seeing him until almost 2 weeks from...
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 36-40, F 1 Response 10 hrs ago

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    Things are not bad, but they are a little

    different lately. I don't know that I really have the right words to describe how I am feeling. Three or four weeks ago we had a talk and he asked me, essentially, to back off some. Because we work together a lot of our alone time happens during business hours; on the stairs, in...
    solace73 solace73 41-45, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 6

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    I am the other woman

    and really I ask many of you OW....is it all worth it....my situation is different than many....I am the reverse....my MM wants to get married...buy a house...totally in love with me....leaving his wife....the list goes on...usually its us woman that are hanging by the string...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 12 Responses 1 day ago

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    So with MM2 back and we have talked an

    extensive amount about everything I had to end things with MM1 for good. It was stupid to try again. The only way I could think of ending it was to start a fight with him. Things have been really good with us but I can't continue to see him. So I knew what would set him off...
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 1 Response 15 hrs ago

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 17 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    Here question if it to personal then don't have

    to answer. I been wondering when making love do like to start totally clothes or get completely undress. I love start fully clothed and peal off like a banana. I love undressing my lover.
    ForbiddenFruitLove95 ForbiddenFruitLove95 18-21, F 6 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    Memories and Information !

    From previous relationships...Even if the context is very different leads to ruffled feathers. I noticed something else ... That made me feel this was actually something worth thinking about.... We as Other women are privy to a lot of private information about our MM's marriage...
    warriormama warriormama 41-45, F 2 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 157 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 27 Responses May 6, 2014

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    Good Morning to all the beautiful ladies

    that have been going through the rough times ... Just wanted to share ... As I was looking up at the beautiful moon last night I thought of yous .... thankful that we have each other to lean on in this group to support and express ourselves...Much love to you all and baby steps...
    isolatednlonely isolatednlonely 36-40, F 21 mins ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 55 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Oh the rollercoaster!

    Yesterday I asked him if he could get together today and he said he had to work from 9 to 9. Sad face. All on text. He told me this weekend that he couldn't spend his day off with me. Wednesday because he had to be at an auto auction for work. So knowing this, when he said he...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 1 day ago

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 15 Responses May 4, 2014

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    It's quiet. We've texted.

    Talked on the phone twice. I am stressed by his situation. It's not mine. It's his. I went through my separation alone. Completed divorce papers on my own. Now he's in the mix of it and I'm trying to be gentle and listen. He only wants me to listen... I wasn't ready for this...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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