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I Am The Other Woman

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    I am wondering what is the lomgest

    or average length of time for these types of rrlationships. Mine has been a year in june with plenty of ups and downs.
    sweetplumeria sweetplumeria 36-40 15 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    Just want to put this out there to all you

    other "other women" you keep me positive... You nail my feet to the ground... You make me smile ... You put my heart back in my chest ... Thank you and when I see you pouring your heart out I feel it... I hope all the best for everyone of you misunderstood beautiful women ... I...
    jupsta jupsta 36-40, F 8 Responses Jun 9

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 31-35, M 14 Responses Apr 19

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    Please, do not stop posting.

    ... I may not be the best person to make this request because I have only participated on the forum for just a few months. But I am so glad I had a place to go. I can not begin to tell you how supportive you ladies have been during my time of heart aches, up swings, troubles...
    saiyagyrl saiyagyrl 36-40, F 4 Responses May 26

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    My H is on midnights all week

    so he should be sleeping all day. I used to never talk to MM at home when his was sleeping but lately I've been getting comfy. Well I was busted on the patio on my cell and I seen him at the door and nervously said loudly into my phone "hi babe" ugh I never call him babe i was...
    ynoTme83 ynoTme83 26-30, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 82 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 65 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    Totally isn't about being the OW,

    but since I've already shared my story here, figured I could post... It's one of those days. My H is getting in my head. I know leaving him is best. He's been screwing with my head for years until a better part of me thought I was just crazy... So why am I feeling guilty...
    PrincessLG PrincessLG 31-35, F 5 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Nothing since Friday.

    He is making it very easy to hate him.
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 5 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    I think this is really gonna be the end.

    Last week I flat out asking my mm if he needed to end "us" so he could work on his relationship with his fiancé. He ignored my question. I asked a second time. He ignored me again. Changed the subject to other things. Proceeded to flirt, text, touch, tell me he wanted me, tell...
    Livesforme Livesforme 26-30, F 3 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 40 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Still can't bare to sleep in my bed.

    .....woke up exhausted with a sore back. Just keep saying to myself I won't cry at work, I won't cry at work, I won't cry at work. Seriously dreading this......
    PrincessLolita PrincessLolita 26-30, F 7 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 79 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    Today he told me he loved me!

    ! 💞 this is only the second time he's said it. The first time he said it he had been drinking quite a bit, so I didn't take him seriously. But this time we were on our lunch break & sober! He's been talking to his family about me...so I believe him this time! 💞
    Sidechic79 Sidechic79 31-35 4 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    I'm beginning to see that

    if a woman sleeps with a married man and it happens over a period of time and he tries to end it he will always try and come back. He's having his cake it eating it too. The other woman will have to be the one to end it. Now yes I do know some situations are different but in...
    tc57 tc57 31-35, F 9 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 47 Responses Feb 16

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 17 Responses May 4

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 36 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    My Secret Gold Coin

    You don’t know it, but I think of you as a beautiful, precious, shiny gold coin that I keep secretly hidden in my pocket. I feel happy knowing that you are in there, but unhappy knowing that you have to stay hidden. I wish I could show you off to friends, but they wouldn’t...
    jenn80 jenn80 51-55 18 Responses May 23, 2013

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 9 Responses Feb 13

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 152 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    I feel terrible everytime I talk to my MM he

    always tells me how horrible things are with his wife, I wish with everything within me that I could change it for him. All I can do is sit back, watch and comfort him during my time :(
    bowerstoy bowerstoy 26-30, F 10 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    I was experiencing an EXTREMELY stressful

    morning today with a whole ton of family crap and I was texting my mm about it!! He was SOO sweet and caring and wanted to drive up (I was an hour away) to come and rescue me .. And he gives me the courage, the wherewithal and a phenomenal support system when I need it!! I love...
    MarieVon MarieVon 36-40, F 3 hrs ago

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    I lost my married man (mm) 2weeks ago.

    It was and is devastating. I felt like I was dying. He left me to go back to his wife 2 weeks before we moved in together. one day we were talking fine the next day our affair was public. He told his wife and then kicked me out of his life. He was cruel. I feel empty. I cried...
    rosylovecheeks rosylovecheeks 26-30 4 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 43 Responses Feb 24

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    MarieVon MarieVon 36-40, F 3 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    I emailed him at work

    after a year. I told him I missed him and wondered why he never contacted me. He said he was sorry. But he did regret the affair. His life is ruined he is still trying to win his wife back. He hopes I can move on. I feel so stupid like I was nothing. Does he really love her?
    greenpinky greenpinky 36-40, F 7 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Sometimes all you can do is cry.

    You're stuck. Stuck waiting for him to leave. You've done your part. And now you're hoping he does his. I either wait and wait and hope. Or I end this. He's done so much to get so much closer. But school will be starting soon. Then Halloween, thanksgiving, Christmas, new year...
    CCBatman120 CCBatman120 26-30, F 4 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 21 Responses Jan 2

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    So he did call me last saturday.

    Check in yesterday and Today he texted me he is here with his family! I felt like just got hit by a train!
    prettygoddess prettygoddess 26-30, F 1 Response 19 hrs ago

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    http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/5541789 Thought

    this was a good read for us OW! This makes me want to cut all communications off with my MM!
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    A day visit! He will ride in on his

    motorcycle... Looking hot My knight... On his silver steed My handsome mm...how I love him... I've prettied myself and await his arrival... *pitter patter.. Thump thump* my heart clangs in my chest :)
    jupsta jupsta 36-40, F 2 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 29 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    A spontaneous 3-hour late lunch yesterday with

    my MM. We were at the park talking. I had my head in his lap and he asked me what I was thinking about. I told him I was thinking about the promise he made me. He couldn't recall promising me anything. I waited just a little too long to remind him. Some sadistic part of me...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 9 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Before you called, life was just OK.

    Ho-hum. But one call from you and suddenly my world felt light and bright. :) Since last night up to today, I am feeling high! And it feels so effortless. I was never THIS happy, by myself, even if I tried. And I wonder why? I am not sad...but also not feeling as high...
    MeAsAnon MeAsAnon 36-40, F 1 Response 16 hrs ago

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    Felt like that 24 hours together FLEW by!

    !! But it was so great to sleep in his arms :-)
    Newlife48 Newlife48 46-50, F 4 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Ladies!! Auntie BoudoirWhispers is back from

    church Youth Camp! And what a spectacular time we all had: Driving in caravan through darkness, epic thunderstorms and torrential downpours. (Not to mention the construction sites.) Camping out on air mattresses in moldy church basements. Visiting with old friends and making new...
    BoudoirWhispers BoudoirWhispers 46-50, F 2 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 139 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 162 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    Our relationship has always been good.

    (other than not having enough time) But it is getting emotionally deeper. It scares the heck out of me. First he is having a major surgery next monday. I wont even be able to find out how he is or when I will be able to speak with him. Second, he is going on working...
    blue963 blue963 46-50, F 1 Response 16 hrs ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    I'm sorry but I don't care

    who this might **** off or annoy. I'm already getting hate mail and we've been harassed all weekend. There are many positive's and negatives about any relationship. We all know the negatives but hopefully just to **** a few people off, I'd like to tell everyone the positives...
    sweetmae79 sweetmae79 31-35, F 15 Responses Apr 20

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 44 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    I was the other women

    for a year but now I am the wife. We will be celebrating our 3 year wedding anniversary soon. We were both married to other people when we met. We were both in bad marriages. We are both so much happier now. If anyone wants to hear my story I am happy to share.
    magic2929 magic2929 46-50, F 17 Responses Apr 29

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    In the darkness of this night I am exhausted.

    Emotions ran high all day, I have given all that I can and have gotten nothing back to replenish me. So much to digest and ruminate over, my brain spins a thousand miles an hour, going everywhere and nowhere.. I reach out to you and for a brief time bask in the warmth of your...
    ElsieJay ElsieJay 41-45, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Moving On.....I Didn'T Think I Would Ever Be Able To Say That

    I must admit that I have been pretty much obsessed over the man I cheated with. I haven't talked to him in over a year since the truth about us came out. But everyday I think about him and wonder how he is, what he is doing, how his son is, if he thinks about me at all...
    SS81 SS81 31-35, F 63 Responses May 8, 2013

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    I wasn't sure if I should post this under "I am

    sensitive" or the OW forum. I don't know who would see it if it was under the sensitive one...and I feel like I'd like some input from you ladies. I am sensitive. Overly sensitive. It truly started when I was diagnosed with PMDD. So typically it's only a big problem for 1 week...
    CCBatman120 CCBatman120 26-30, F 5 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    At first I was confused by you ladies

    who were so in love with your MM but wanted to end it because of the stress and torture. I was like 'why? That's silly! Love is wonderful!' Poor, naive me. This is not wonderful. It's wonderfully awful. Blissfully horrible. Terribly deliciously torturously painful. A joyous...
    neverendingmadness neverendingmadness 36-40, F 4 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 12 Responses Jun 2

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    Saw him at work today.

    ......felt terrible, held back crying numerous times. Then he texts me and asks if I am ok, I tell him that I doubt he's looking to know the truth so......I'm fine. Then I was leaving for lunch and have to walk by him and he said hi and I said hi back. I get a text message that...
    PrincessLolita PrincessLolita 26-30, F 11 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Looks as though I have been pushed back down

    the rabbit hole again... "He calls me beautiful like it's my name."
    lostanddistraught lostanddistraught 22-25, F 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 20 Responses May 6

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    Things I don't miss from my affair.

    .. 1. Waiting for my phone to ding 2. Lying to spouse about where I am going 3. Making sure I erase texts 4. Time 5. Mind control that the affair holds not mm 6. Questioning of myself and actions 7. Guilt not for the affair but for my husband and his wife 8. Time 9. The panic...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 27

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