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I Am The Other Woman

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    I'm married but I'm having an affair with my

    best friends husband. I know we can never be together as it would rip his family apart but I feel so lost without him. I made a huge mistake marrying my husband and can only be thankful we have no children. I want a divorce but I know it would crush him. It's so difficult being...
    kimathy86 kimathy86 26-30, F 117 Responses Feb 19

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 54 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 18 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 51 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    Women won't mess with a man

    that lives with his mom but will mess with a man who lives with his wife.
    reeessa reeessa 13-15, F 28 Responses Oct 23, 2014

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    a few days ago he and I had a talk.

    he told me that his wife has been all over his phone and checking up on him at work (easy. we all work at the same place). he told me that he doesn't want her to find out (duh) and that he doesn't think we should text as often as we have been. ok. I got it. I deleted all our...
    spoiledlittle spoiledlittle 31-35, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    Having one of this days .

    . It's been 31 days since I've seen or spoken to him. A year since this whole thing started . I miss him. Hate not seeing him everyday anymore. So hard not being able to call or text. Trying to stay busy.. Hope he comes to visit soon..
    andwhatnow andwhatnow 31-35, F 2 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 29 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 150 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 11, 2014

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 205 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 154 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    To my MM In my moment of weakness I told you

    that I've forgiven you for keeping the truth from me. But Im still suffering from the pain of remembering it. You say you didn't mean it and never meant to hurt me. You fail to understand that by hiding is also lying. I thought our communication is everything. ..I thought we don...
    waitingonfaith waitingonfaith 31-35 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 41 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Questions. What does a MM have to lose

    if he admits to his wife that he cheated, and then apologizes for it. (We're in a no-divorce country). I'm thinking of talking to him about telling his wife and then him apologizing. Would that help MM decide about us, his family, and his wife? I just couldn't end it with him...
    isch71 isch71 26-30, F 10 Responses 1 day ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 84 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 46 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 48 Responses Jan 10

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 79 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 32 Responses Sep 23, 2014

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 15 Responses May 4, 2014

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    MM and I have been so connected lately.

    It's truly the best thing I've ever experienced in life. I found him during a really dark time in my life and he saved me from so much sadness & pain. I remember in the beginning our relationship was so playful and cute but he never really let me into his world. A year later we...
    subgirl26 subgirl26 22-25, F 8 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    INFIDELITY: Wrecking a home is NEVER the work

    of a single person. Have you ever seen a construction worker doing demo on his own? It takes multiple parties to tear a thing apart. You, your partner and the other. However, the wrecking is much more easily done when the foundation is weak to begin with. Don't just get upset...
    OrangeTwist OrangeTwist 36-40, F 6 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 54 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Dear MM you drive me crazy!

    I am dying to see you and all I can do is wait for your texts!!! I am so miserable! I cannot live without you! I need your voice! Your kisses and such! Is it April yet?
    liberty2014 liberty2014 36-40, F 2 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    More drama from ex MM.

    Text for 3 hours. He wants me back and when I deny him he starts getting nasty. I told him I was blocking him and I deleted whatsapp. I didn't actual block him but I stopped responding to his texts. He actually apologized which he never does. I still ignored him. He hasn't msg...
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 23 mins ago

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    So my guy emailed me,

    he took the day off of work yesterday to hang with me. However, I wasn't excited about it. He came we played around, cuddled, talked a little and then he got up to leave cuz in had errands to run, then he can back again later and then left to go to a birthday kickback. I don't...
    YankeesOTW YankeesOTW 26-30 10 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Recently found out the MM

    who I was with was not only lying to his wife but obviously myself as well. Has anyone else been burned? Dont understand why the guy cant just be honest in his intention. If hes just in it for the sex then say it. No reason to lie. Some of us can take the heat.
    latinafairy latinafairy 26-30, F 2 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 101 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    MM is so jealous lately.

    I can't take it. You don't get to be jealous of me being single and enjoying myself if I can't be jealous of you having a wife and newborn daughter now. There's no fairness in any part of the situation. Not for either of us.
    kc5316 kc5316 22-25, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    How Do You Resolve conflicts?

    Sitting in my office with a woozy head, a massive headache, sore throat and jolts of lightening in my lower back and knees... Yup! this is how Malaria feels like. I can still think and smile and most of all I can miss like crazy the OW friends in my life.... I will be offline...
    warriormama warriormama 41-45, F 9 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 19 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    It has been 181 days

    since I laid eyes on you, kissed you, and held you, 165 days since I heard your sweet voice that can melt my heart everytime.....I know it was all an illusion on your end, B. But to me, it was much, much more. I will love you forever, until the last day of my life. I hope you...
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 36-40, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 165 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 19 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    I can't stop thinking about them on the beach

    at the romantic resort-it's going to be a long week - hurts just hurts
    Readytomoveon2015 Readytomoveon2015 31-35, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    Honestly I know it's not very noble

    and most people condemn it but I've always wanted to be the other woman at least once. It's in-grained in most of us to do something wild and forbidden at least once. I kinda want the Sugar-Daddy thing too...just once. Once.
    doublemajorfever doublemajorfever 18-21, F 1 Response 5 hrs ago

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    Stages of an affair Ladies,

    I have been involved with a MM fit 18 months now. It's gotten very serious, to the point of he is leaving his wife and family in a matter of weeks. (I too am married) Could you ladies that have been involved a lot longer tell me on some level what I can "expect"? I know everyone...
    serendipity65 serendipity65 41-45, F 9 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 6

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    I miss him so much. It's only been three days

    since I've seen or talked to him, but it feels like an eternity. Wondering if he is even thinking about me at all. Wondering how I could have been so stupid to think we would ever actually end up together. Reading these posts helps, but my hearts ripped to shreds that he hasn't...
    SAO17 SAO17 26-30, F 3 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    Yahoo for last minute plans with MM.

    He snuck out of work and we had a great hour. Was talking to ex MM today as I was hoping maybe we could just remain friends. He wants more so I decided I'm just going to leave it how it is. New MM asked what is it that I miss so much from ex MM. I said def not the sex bc you...
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 1 day ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 27 Responses May 6, 2014

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    I will be seeing my bf today.

    I've had this idea of playing a very romantic song (runaway by Jefferson starship) it's a song that tells how much you love and miss somebody. I thought of playing this while giving a massage. I don't want to be too corny though. So what are your thoughts?? Is this romantic or...
    Janna78 Janna78 46-50, F 3 hrs ago

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    So reconnection physically works waaaay better

    than text ha ha! The longest we haven't seen each other when together! We went out to dinner, walked along the river and then he blew my mind!! And I snuggled up to him and listened to him snore his lovely gentle snore! And have him pull me close every time he stirred. I know...
    MRGFF MRGFF 36-40, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    His family didn't make it to trivia last night,

    roads were a mess, but we still had a good time. I read all the messages between mm and w over the past week. Not an easy read. He is having to say certain things to keep her talking that cut pretty deep. Things are coming to a head. This week will show what he's made of...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 3 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    Lonely vs Being Alone.

    Something really weird is going on.When i was in my twenties i was fierce ! In a hyper sexual, confident way before i was in a relationship... However the minute i got into one i morphed into the perfect "Idiot Stepford wife " girlfriend... hair perfect, nails immaculate...
    warriormama warriormama 41-45, F 1 Response