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I Am The Other Woman

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    I know there are my OW sisters

    that struggle on here. They aren't treated well by the ones they love. And I feel sorrow for each of you. But as I pan through the pages of Facebook I see my ex H and his girlfriend (likely an affair while I was putting him through grad school) as they play at an event with...
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 3 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 50 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    Okay so keeping with the positive vibe,

    I'd like you all to share one good thing about your MM or about your relationship. Too often we get hung up on the things that are not going right at the moment, that we forget about all the positive. Well it's time to change the way we think. Let's spread that positive energy...
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 9 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    How do you deal with the two faces you put up?

    One for the MM and the other for the family & friends around you? How do you deal with the spiritual conflicts? Tu as comprendre moi?
    Sarahneeds Sarahneeds 26-30, F 3 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Good Morning Ladies :) I wonder

    if any of you have your "safe/happy" place. Like for me it's The beach or The Mall being a shopper.
    ForbiddenFruitLove95 ForbiddenFruitLove95 18-21, F 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 42 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 30 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    I have been chatting with my ex OW.

    I am 2 years clear. She told me that she cheated with the guy that she cheated on me with. It took her one year to be back in another triangle of pain. Then she patched things up and moved on with the guy. She doubts that she will ever be satisfied. Whew I really did dodge a...
    Wilbury Wilbury 46-50, M 7 mins ago

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 18 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    They're renewing their vows.

    . less than two weeks since we parted ways and he's renewing his vows... wedding, flowers and the whole nine yards. I can no longer breathe.
    willgetbetter willgetbetter 36-40, F 6 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 23 Responses Mar 22

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    Looking back it is funny how easily I fell into

    the trap of becoming 'the other woman.' The first flash of distress - a wounded soul no less, and I dived into the murky water. He told me that I was his oxygen. I was a mermaid Saint Bernard with the reviving elixir strapped to my neck. Strangely, I found two unmarried men...
    Faerylight Faerylight 41-45, F 17 Responses Jun 21

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    Just when you thought you knew someone,

    when they hurt you, it hurts deep. Someone please help me keep my head above water.
    Aisurukoto Aisurukoto 41-45, F 1 Response 21 mins ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 48 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 24 Responses Apr 30

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 45 Responses Jan 10

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    Our relationship started out with

    both of us having a lot more sex than we do now with our spouses. Him and his wife much less than me and my husband but now it's plummeted on both fronts Not intentional and I actually think we should figure out how to remedy that before it becomes a bigger issue. Our sex...
    SweetSunnyRiley SweetSunnyRiley 22-25, F 16 hrs ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    b4realz b4realz 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 53 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 17 Responses Mar 25

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    Hello beautiful ladies.

    I don't post here any more since I am (thankfully) no longer the other woman. I see so many of you struggling with "should I stay, or should I go?". That is truly a question only you can answer, but for the majority of us, no matter how much we love our men, this is a toxic and...
    ravenofthedark ravenofthedark 41-45, F 11 Responses Jul 17

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    so..I need some input.

    I am still attempting a NC. he is not doing well with this. I am trying to mentally step back and reevaluate all that has gone on I'm my relationship to help decipher if what I am in is true and will lead to the real deal. one of my hang ups keeps blocking my train of thought...
    Mama2ljre Mama2ljre 36-40, F 3 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    Picked me up in his truck the other night

    and we drove to the river.. Started by getting a little steamy inside but quickly moved into the trees under the stars.. Can't even explain!!! Was rough and crazy and I was a complete mess after, his favourite. One of mine just because I'm obsessed with his pleasure it's a...
    SweetSunnyRiley SweetSunnyRiley 22-25, F 16 hrs ago

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 50 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 170 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    For us Other Women with broken hearts.

    .. I think this is where I am right now. http://youtu.be/8v_4O44sfjM JAR OF HEARTS I know I can't take one more step towards you 'Cause all that's waiting is regret Don't you know I'm not your ghost anymore You lost the love I loved the most I learned to live...
    serendipity65 serendipity65 41-45, F 1 Response 22 hrs ago

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    NO LONGER THE OTHER WOMAN!

    !! I am now the only woman :) it has been officially ended this morning, he was straight on the phone to me who was awesome at playing it cool despite up all night worrying! He was going to come over but we both decided against it as he needs time to recover maybe. He has gone...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 12 Responses Mar 21

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    Trying to keep myself

    as busy as I can and he still comes up in my mind...how can I make my mind to stop? I hope he's also having a hard time to forget me:(
    Bottleoflove Bottleoflove 36-40, F 5 mins ago

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    Who can you be constantly on whatsapp to from

    half 7 last night till 1am this morning, then back on again at 7am.... Especially when I still haven't had a reply to my message on Sunday!!! Fu@k you *******!
    Prettybutterfly88 Prettybutterfly88 26-30, F 5 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    So get this... The last guy I dated

    before I dated my husband and I have been friends throughout. He got married about the same time that I did and has a daughter as well. There has always been sexual tension between us. However, the reason we broke up originally is because he is like some of the guys talked about...
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 3 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    so, the drama continues.

    .. (I'm usually a drama-free person, so to me, this is already unnecessary, anyway...) we started talking again, but his responses have been very short, and cold. so I just called him out saying "u can't deny u have been cold and short with me", and to that, he said, "u...
    stillgianne stillgianne 31-35, F 2 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Well I'm not out of the woods completely,

    but no matter how much I love my MM the last 24 hours have taught me something very important. I want to share with you ladies as you have taken the time and effort to answer me and discuss things with me. But immediately after I post I am deleting my account. I will explain...
    deleted deleted 26-30 16 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    wordweapon wordweapon 41-45, F 9 hrs ago

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    Why is it that when I make bad decisions with

    my life my bank account has to deal with the consequences? Son of a B****
    imouttie imouttie 31-35, F 2 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    After six months of marriage counseling,

    three of which he was seeing me on a weekly basis if not more than once a week, he is deciding on whether or not he should end his marriage or stay. Let me tell you this came out of nowhere. He was always mister, im never going to leave. And, even though I had always hoped he...
    lexabear15 lexabear15 26-30, F 2 hrs ago

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    Hi friends. Uterine biopsy came back negative,

    no cancer. YAY! My hormones are out of whack, which he said was normal for my age. Have a beautiful day!
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 7 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    when the radio doesn't help clear those nagging

    voice out your head I know what will. when the bottle of wine is finished the bestie and me will be in giggling fits!! cheers girls!!! hope everyone's night is a great one!!!
    emeraldprincess1003 emeraldprincess1003 22-25, F 15 hrs ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 158 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    a bitter sweet day. H was served divorce

    papers. I never wanted it to come to this. He made the choice by his actions.
    blue963 blue963 51-55, F 12 hrs ago

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    For those of us who just ended things,

    or are hanging by a thread, the positive side of this freedom... No more watching them text back and forth like tweeners on our dates. No more lonely Sundays, feeling sad that it's an NC day. No more laying in bed every night wondering what they're doing in bed together. No...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 19 Responses Jul 12

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 19

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