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I Am The Other Woman

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    After 4 months of not seeing him it's just like

    it was. Morning coffee together :)
    MartiniLynn MartiniLynn 18-21 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    Time change, attention,

    and disappearing acts... just a few things on my mind right now. First, I'll say what I've already said... a 3 hour time difference, is brutal, BRUTAL. I have my whole night left and he's already done for the night. He also has this amazing habit of letting me be the last...
    Ahmazing Ahmazing 31-35, F 2 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Ok ladies, so right now I am sitting in my

    motel room waiting for work tomorrow. I realized I don't think I was nervous about seeing him. I think I was nervous about everything. Right now I am the biggest freaking baby you have ever seen in your life. I am missing my baby girl like crazy. I have never spent more than a...
    MartiniLynn MartiniLynn 18-21 1 Response 12 hrs ago

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 22 Responses Jul 30

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    Day 7 of NC. He is returning from training

    tomorrow. I’m not sure when he will be back at work. I’m better than I thought I would be. Perhaps this will hit me later, but I’m doing okay. He made absolutely no effort to contact me during his absence although he could have. I think after the past few months, the...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    After our difficult conversations last week,

    and me not responding over the weekend, he is really trying hard today. It doesn't matter though, I'm done. I need to stay focused on what I want.. Not be swayed by him. This is so hard...
    4kari 4kari 31-35, F 2 Responses 18 mins ago

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    I met a man about a year ago who's 22 years

    older than me who told me he's never been married and never had a child. These weren't the reasons I fell for him but they didn't hurt either. Recently though (since he also lives about 1000 miles away) I wanted to surprise him by coming to see him where he lives (NY while I...
    kittentoes kittentoes 22-25, F 5 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    It has been exactly three weeks (21 days just

    to clarify for myself) of NC. When do I start feeling free and empowered. Instead I am still feeling super sad and pathetic. Which is in turn making me feel guilty. Shouldnt I be making some progress??!!
    pearl26ab pearl26ab 26-30, F 9 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    I've asked this question before

    but what county do you ladies reside?
    RedHotPepper RedHotPepper 26-30, F 7 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 23 Responses May 6

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    I'm having an affair with a married man,

    so I guess that makes me the other woman...but as I'm married as well I guess that makes him the other man lol
    INeedMore INeedMore 31-35, F 20 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    Amazes me that a simple short phone call can

    make me so happy. He is my best friend and I love talking to him!
    GenieH22 GenieH22 36-40, F 4 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    So tonight was pretty bad.

    We've been arguing a lot lately and the only reason I haven't left is because I love him. I just want things to go back to how it used to be
    honeybree20 honeybree20 18-21, F 1 Response 13 hrs ago

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    I am venting here because I can't vent to him

    right now during this sad time for him- it's not right. BUT- I will never understand why ignoring texts (I know you have your phone right next to you) is the way a man chooses to go instead of just saying, "hi babe, I know we had plans, but I'm going to have to reschedule. I'm...
    lostanddistraught lostanddistraught 22-25, F 5 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 11

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    He is returning home today

    after a week in training. I have really thought long and hard about what I was going to do. I want it to be over. As much as it hurts me to think about never seeing him again, I know he is staying put, and I am not looking at his back again as he walks out the door. I know...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 4 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 74 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    I an feeling so confident

    and so content today. So funny how nothing will change but a week from now I might be feeling insecure and horribly sad. It's a roller coaster.
    Missmetomorrow Missmetomorrow 22-25, F 3 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 67 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    After a month of it being over he came back

    running, he missed me and wanted to know how it was to be with me. Being the hopeless puppy I am, still all in love I welcomed him back open arms. Things since then have been better then before. But its still lonely and even tho he and I are 'Together', I am still trying the...
    ann1991a ann1991a 22-25, F 1 Response 22 hrs ago

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    My Secret Gold Coin

    You don’t know it, but I think of you as a beautiful, precious, shiny gold coin that I keep secretly hidden in my pocket. I feel happy knowing that you are in there, but unhappy knowing that you have to stay hidden. I wish I could show you off to friends, but they wouldn’t...
    jenn80 jenn80 51-55 17 Responses May 23, 2013

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    God help me, I miss you

    so much, B! I wish things could be different, I wish you felt *anything* or missed me too. Ugh. :-(
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 31-35, F 14 hrs ago

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 21 Responses Jan 2

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    He told me today that our overnight trip felt

    like a movie! He also said I've had a piece of his heart for 19 years! (Since we dated for a few months 19 years ago) he helped me today by listening to why its hard for me and wiping away my tears. He's going to start calling me from work so we can have a real conversation in...
    Changedforever9514 Changedforever9514 41-45, F 15 hrs ago

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    Why do all the haters say you're always going

    to be second choice? Maybe we are second choice when he "has" to go home but in reality we aren't second choice in his heart or his mind. I can almost promise that he's thinking about me more than his wife. I can almost promise his heart is starting to lead him else where and...
    tc57 tc57 31-35, F 88 Responses Aug 10

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 45 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Hi there ladies (and gentlemen whom stalk this

    topic! Lol). This is more of letting my feelings out verses them continued to be bottled up... Well - it’s now been over a month since I have last seen, felt, or heard from my mm. I miss him so much that my heart aches…my soul aches…my body aches… I wonder how he is...
    yogachic76 yogachic76 36-40, F 1 Response 14 hrs ago

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    So ignored the guy who is attached.

    That is hard enough. Now my first love sent a text saying "I wish things were different babe" Is it f me up emotionally week and no one told me or summin. Feel like loads of old feelings are being dredged up.
    paliglass paliglass 31-35, F 3 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 10 Responses Feb 13

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 161 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    The feeling I get, in my gut,

    as I watch that little pixelated circle, spin round and around, on the screen of my small electronic device, otherwise known as a phone, demonstrating to me, that it is reaching out through the air and the distance between us, grasping for something, that may or may not be there...
    MaryIsMyHomeGirl MaryIsMyHomeGirl 26-30, F 3 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 145 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 31-35, M 17 Responses Apr 19

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    I'm trying to get back out there

    after being with my mm for a year. It's over and it's time to move on... I started chatting up a new mm last week and everything was great! Radio silence over the weekend. He told me last week that he was going to be overseas this week. He hasn't contacted me since Friday...
    scyllas scyllas 36-40, F 8 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 30 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 46 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 37 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 16 Responses May 4

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 20 Responses Apr 18

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 80 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 78 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 18 Responses Sep 10

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 43 Responses Feb 24

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    2 days of a NC week..

    . He's on vacation so I don't think I'll even get a "miss you" text..
    Newlife48 Newlife48 46-50, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 103 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    So I had my date with the interesting guy.

    ..the one who knew mm. Wow I really like him, he seems to be a lot if what I need in my life. Guess we will see how it goes.
    leigh8133 leigh8133 31-35, F 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 15 Responses Jun 2

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    Getting super nervous,

    today is the day I head over to where my MM is. I won't get to see him today because I will be getting there shortly after he gets to work. And idk exactly when I will but just knowing has kinda got me freaking out. It's been like 4 months since I have seen him.
    MartiniLynn MartiniLynn 18-21 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 35 Responses a week ago

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    I was just in town, saw MM

    but was in a rush, he was shocked that for once I didnt stop to chat. Had to go back in later in the afternoon and I saw him again, he stopped to chat and made small talk, told me he wasnt feeling too good, and asked if I was okay, he says "did you have a good weekend? i didnt...
    hankpalmer hankpalmer 18-21, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 49 Responses Feb 16

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 5 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    8 wonderful nights and 9 blissful days together.

    We knew the hangover afterwards would be a killer. We knew saying goodbye would be torture. And it is every bit as hard as we imagined. But my god, was it worth it. It's just cemented everything for us. This is it. We will have our time together eventually. And when we...
    LoveBelle LoveBelle 26-30, F 4 Responses 9 hrs ago

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