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I Am The Other Woman

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    He was trying to get my attention all week

    and I toyed with him, pretending to forget I was supposed to visit him in his office, answering his emails professionally, coyly, or sometimes not at all. As a result of my disinterest, he texted more, emailed more, and came by my office more. If I wasn't always the one doing...
    DarlingEll DarlingEll 26-30, F 2 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 152 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    Sometimes I make a dream of what'll be like

    when he tells me it's me & him... He will call or text me... "I want to take you out tonight." Sure it'll catch me off guard because it hasn't been like that since he was separated. But I'll be excited. Not thinking any thing of it. We will plan on a time and he will take me to...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 19 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    Just got off the phone with MM.

    I love when he calls just to hear my voice. Great chat. We talked about our little video we made. He loves it and well so do I. This I know this can't be normal. I normally wax but I'm a little overdue for my next appt. I have an ingrown hair that is hurting(tmi I know) but MM...
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 2 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 92 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    Need advice ladies...

    Its mm's birthday next week,i have already told him he will be taking a half day so we can spend the afternoon together but i am at a loss for what to do for him!! Of course there is the obvious (that goes without saying!!) but id just like to do something different,we have...
    Jellytots2412 Jellytots2412 36-40, F 4 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 170 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 48 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 23 Responses Apr 30

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 14 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    Spent the morning nursing my headache.

    Went to gym. Took my daughter and her friends out and about. Laughed. Went to a friends house. Ate. Had a glass of wine. Laughed. We texted all day. I would go a while without responding. I don't know... I just am wondering what we are doing. Not just he and I, but all of us...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 1 Response 5 hrs ago

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    can today get any worse?

    !?!! two days NC and I think I'm going crazy!! not to mention mm's w will be back tomorrow :( ugh.... I need something to distract myself :'( can't believe I am balling my eyes out like a baby
    emeraldprincess1003 emeraldprincess1003 22-25, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Updated. Ok so things haven't gone

    as planned. I ended up having a close family member pass away. He ended up comforting me and next thing I know we were making out. I've met him one other time and we made out. We both agreed that it can't go further then that. We agreed that my first time shouldn't be with a...
    Forensicbutterfly Forensicbutterfly 22-25, F 6 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 54 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 51 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    I really think it’s time to just walk away

    from him. I hoped it would work this time because everything seemed okay for once. One of you guys here told me that before I decide whether to start seeing him again, to remember exactly why I left him in the first place. There was definitely a reason. Yes, he was married, that...
    FrancesFoster FrancesFoster 26-30, F 2 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    I just want a real date,

    not a hotel room. Maybe I misunderstood the terms of the relationship or maybe he thinks this is what I want. He can't be busy 24/7. Id be happy even if we just talked more through text. I guess I could understand his absence if he talked to me more about what was going on in...
    littlemissdazed littlemissdazed 22-25, F 6 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    three days nc and I feel OK?

    !?! Idk y I feel alright with this but something has come over me!! mms w returned late last night and I just glad to have a time out... seems like I have overloaded my system... but mm knows me I can go out like a candle at any point in time?!?! I am just hoping when my phone is...
    emeraldprincess1003 emeraldprincess1003 22-25, F 2 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    Does everyone understand the meaning of

    Memorial Day? Tell me what you think it is and I'll tel you what I know it to be.
    Serendipitous1 Serendipitous1 36-40, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    I'm probably going to get trolled on

    for this but... I went for my annual Pap smear a month ago and was told I have HPV. Yes I should have used protection bla bla I'm stupid I know. It's freaking me out a little but I know it's common and usually goes away on its own. I guess I just feel tainted... Like soiled...
    AvaLennon AvaLennon 31-35, F 8 Responses 1 day ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 204 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 6

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 45 Responses Jan 10

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 19 Responses Mar 25

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    not a very good day today.

    came across something this morning and it reminded me that he has a girlfriend, and I'm the third person in this relationship. makes me wanna walk away...
    gianneisstuck gianneisstuck 31-35, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I am not the OW, but I'm

    so proud of you ladies. You go through hell and back for these men. You love, comfort, support, and love these men. I do not know how you do it. I read your stories and I'm in awe....sheer breathtaking, gutwrenching, heartbreaking, overwhelming, love-infused awe of you all...
    soldiergirl2 soldiergirl2 41-45, F 11 Responses Apr 6

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 28 Responses May 6, 2014

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    A first for us ... a selfie with

    both of us in it. Last night was a dirty loving overnight with late checkout. On the train home alone now ... Can't tear my eyes off our pic Fully clothed. Leaning in heads touching. Warm easy smiles. It's weird to see us like this. An image that can never be seen...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 14 Responses 1 day ago

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    Maybe this is what's going on.

    .. http://www.elephantjournal.com/2015/05/mercury-retrograde-its-time-to-make-things-right/
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Time to celebrate! Its Memorial Day Weekend,

    3 day weekend, and....today is 30 days of NC!!!! I'm super celebrating today! I made it to 1 month, and its been amazing! Hope everyone has a great weekend! Enjoy yourselves!
    LightningXIII LightningXIII 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 13 Responses Apr 19

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    I really don't understand

    why all of you here act live happy wives are just mean, rude, and/or trolls. Why so opposed to happy relationships (especially since so many seem to be happy with your relationship)?
    TexWest1311 TexWest1311 26-30, F 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 155 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    MM is now 3 weeks into his new job

    and I'm still struggling with things. I know he is working hard and I know he misses me. But he is never free to chat anymore, some days I'm lucky if I get 5 mins of his time. Although I do always get a good morning and maybe 1-2 lines during the day. We used to chat online...
    daisyblue222 daisyblue222 41-45, F 9 Responses 1 day ago

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    Okay, freaky story. I went to yoga the other

    night because I desperately needed it after a crap day at work. I normally go on weekends cause trying to get to anything on time after work is practically impossible these day. Anyway, I took a class with an instructor I've never had before and she was good. It was definitely...
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 3 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Although we started off our morning great,

    and we are great, and he's talking about going somewhere with me later, I don't feel great. I don't feel great about it being a 3 day weekend. I don't feel great about missing him the way that I do on a deep intrinsic level. I don't feel great that I can't spend more time with...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Oh wow. I haven't been in here

    since June last year. I didn't think I'd be back. But I need to just vent. Since my last post, my guy and his gf had broken up and things were amazing and I felt like we were really making progress. I met his family and I spend alot of time there and it was simply amazing. Just...
    Kryast Kryast 18-21, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    He really opened up yesterday.

    There were things I didn't know, feelings he had I wasn't aware of. He wants to see me. I'm still weary! He could be just blowing smoke. Telling me what he thinks I want to hear. They are all great at that aren't they!!! I don't know. I'm still on the fence. I have a couple of...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 41 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    What a day . Was it good .

    No, back to normal. Normal, now that's a word that describes things that are normal. There's nothing like that in my household . Why do I need to be half drunk to spill the beans about my sometimes miserable life. It's not always like it is now . But when it's like this, why do...
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 38 mins ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 28 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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