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I Am The Other Woman

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 78 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    As dark as my day was yesterday

    after MM ended it, today is a little brighter. I have a niece making her way into the world. Nothing makes me smile more than a newborn. And her aunt will damn sure warn her away from MM's.
    Blueeyes65 Blueeyes65 46-50, F 6 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    I have been involved with a MM

    for almost a year now . I haven't seen or heard from MM in almost 3 weeks. The longest since this whole thing started. We worked together, but he recently quit to go back to school. I went from seeing him everyday to seeing him once a week. And now he has just disappeared...
    andwhatnow andwhatnow 31-35, F 5 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 67 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 20 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 25 Responses May 6, 2014

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 10 Responses Feb 13, 2014

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    My bestfriend found out

    that MM is married. He is devastated by it, and gave me a long lecture. I know that it's horrible to be with another woman's husband... And I feel so guilty about it. However, it's not like either of us started this on purpose. 💔apart of me wishes I could go back in time and...
    lildaydreamer lildaydreamer 26-30, F 4 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 50 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 20 Responses Jan 2, 2014

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    Women won't mess with a man

    that lives with his mom but will mess with a man who lives with his wife.
    reeessa reeessa 13-15, F 28 Responses Oct 23, 2014

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    Tonight will be our first full night together.

    No time constraints. No looking over our shoulders. We have a suite booked with a fireplace. Sushi & wine. I am so looking forward to 8 hours of normalcy. It is crazy we have never even eaten together. We spend our blips of time only focused on eachother. We get to talk for...
    tauriangirl tauriangirl 36-40, F 26 Responses Nov 15, 2014

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    This does not go her

    but you are 11,000+ people and I need your help! I am getting a cold sore in the mouth, I am so miserable, wish I could kill it somehow! Any advise??? I have been placing ice to "burn it" and taking Acyclovir. Any other ideas? Thanks so much!!!
    liberty2014 liberty2014 36-40, F 11 Responses 1 day ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 46 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    "Before this love ends up killing me in pain,

    im gonna kill it first"....thats what a spanish songs says, thats what i need to do before is too late. Last night i got to see him and talk for a little bit. We talked about the fact that my kids are really pushing the issue about me saying he is my friend but both of our...
    Chicadelcaribe Chicadelcaribe 31-35, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Just when I start feeling guilty about having a

    MM my husband acts like a jerk and I'm reminded why I started things with my MM.
    ladylove0113 ladylove0113 36-40, F 3 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    The other day, I had a discovery dream in

    which MM & I were discovered in the middle of sex by his W. He tells me today that he had a discovery dream last night, playfully blaming me for putting it in his head. Out of curiosity, I asked "discovery on your side or mine". Discovery on his. The side of me that loves...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 7 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    It is my own fault. Everyone says no contact is

    the way to go. Each time there is contact I feel better for the moment and then start obsessing that whatever he tells me is all lies anyway. He is away on a disney cruise with his wife and daughter. We had been together over 3 years and he filed for divorce and then couldn't...
    Widow68 Widow68 46-50, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 31 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Is it possible to love the way someone makes

    you feel, or how you feel when you're with that person, but not be in love with the actual person?
    ElsieJay ElsieJay 41-45, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 53 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    I have been with a couple of married guys

    so I guess I was the other women
    Michelle1976 Michelle1976 36-40, T 4 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    I told mm I loved him

    for the first time last night. It didn't go very well but it is kind of what I was expecting. I was supposed to stay the night with him last night but I ended up leaving at 130 in the morning. I don't think he's ever seen me move that fast. I basically ran down the the stairs...
    moepeep moepeep 22-25, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    Im not anymore. After a year of ups

    and owns. A year of trying to do the right thing. A year of change and experience. We decided that we would remain friends. Anyways, just out if the blue this week he decides to tell me hes found love on EP again. He expects me to be happy for him. But he rubbed it in my face...
    DeadHeartsAreEverywhere DeadHeartsAreEverywhere 31-35, F 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 101 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    I've been in a really good place lately.

    When we saw each other Jan 8, it had been a solid month since we had last seen each other. We talked & messaged constantly over that time period, but there were so many unspoken feelings and no firm plans of seeing each other; it was messing with me. We both said "I love you...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    Everyday is a struggle still.

    When I know he's at work, I want to see him, but I can't. When I do see him at work my heart breaks into pieces. On Monday I had to talk to him about work, he started asking about my weekend and my day and I had to cut it off and walk away and it killed me and I was sad the...
    PrincessLolita PrincessLolita 26-30, F 8 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    When I first got to know him,

    I never knew he was attached. According to him, she was his FWB who now turned out to be his gf! For all I know he's a MM. I had been his other woman since July last year and suddenly his world is "Please don't text too much cos my gf is here! Please don't contact me too often...
    VicMarie VicMarie 36-40, F 3 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    Ok, it's Sunday morning.

    MM said he was going to be out of contact for a week or so. Tomorrow, Monday, will be a week. I'm bracing for the whirlwind of emotions that will come whether he contacts me or not. The worst part? I did meet someone during this break. And guess what? Yes. You guessed it. He's...
    sugarbabysub sugarbabysub 31-35, F 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    Sitting watching Bridget Jones tonight with my

    teenage daughter. One of my favourite movies. But it suddenly struck me... after 17 years married to Mark Darcy, wouldn't it be natural for Bridget to want some fun with Daniel Cleaver? She needs both men in her life....! Or is that just me?
    daisyblue222 daisyblue222 36-40, F 3 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 31 Responses Sep 23, 2014

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    I am FUMING. Absolutely FUMING.

    Does anyone want to talk on the phone so I can vent? Messenger is OK too.
    asta20 asta20 31-35, F 6 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 17 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    Yaaay! in our hotel suite waiting

    for him to get out of the shower for our second overnight! So. Happy.
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 11 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 20 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 164 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 11, 2014

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 41 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    So I decided to meet him

    after work on Wednesday and we talked. He said he moved out of his house to stay with a friend to figure things out. He has been staying w his friend since Monday. I was shocked because he said he was gonna work things out with the w but now he changed his mind. Even though he...
    sadpreciosa sadpreciosa 26-30, F 3 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    I like where we're at with this relationship.

    I never thought I'd say this, but I've gotten comfortable with things. I like our routine and I like the depth this relationship has hit. I find myself amazed that it continues to grow.
    surfsway surfsway 36-40, F 16 hrs ago

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    I spent the day with him yesterday

    and now I can't stop thinking about him. He is so caring and loving. It's hard to experience that and then go back to real life. I was half asleep with my arm out of the covers and he was sat in bed next to me working. I felt him put his hand on my arm and then say to himself I...
    free69spirit free69spirit 41-45, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    I work with my MM. I get to see him 10 hours a

    day! We run an office together. After some time I feel like we play the push n pull game. Mostly because we feel one is lying to the other. He gets jealous when other guys hit on me. And thinks I'm playing him. But I don't throw out that idea. Because I want him to have fear of...
    izzyperez88 izzyperez88 26-30, F 1 Response 10 hrs ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 81 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 154 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 50 Responses Jan 10

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    My affair I can honestly say has been the

    destruction of my life. If I could go back and change things I never would have done this. My marriage was never great and I guess that's why when my ex MM approached me I went with it. I read all your wonderful stories of your MM and wonder how I ended up with someone worse...
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 7 mins ago

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 16 Responses May 4, 2014

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    It hurt and pain a lot,

    when someone you love has change because of money. when you gave him all the love, care, understanding that her wife cannot give him. then when the time i need him for emotional support ,for encouragement ,for someone to be with me even for a short moment,specially i am sick...
    annettesan annettesan 36-40, F 6 Responses 8 hrs ago

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