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I Am The Other Woman

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 32 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 80 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 53 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    b4realz b4realz 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    Okay. I'm laughing. But annoyed all at the same

    time and need to share so I'm not perseverating over here on this so I can actually work. Quick back story regarding mutual friend of MMs that I've been talking about. When his sons bday party happened and he said that she was coming and I wasn't invited (for obvious reasons...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    kimcc11 kimcc11 26-30, F 20 hrs ago

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    OH. MY. GOD. It's final,

    he's single, and as of 9:37am today I am no longer the OW!!!
    Shardsofsorrow Shardsofsorrow 31-35, F 76 Responses Jul 29

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    Me again. Sheesh. Connected with mutual

    coworker friend today. Vented to her about work stuff. She caught me at a time that I needed to check in. Learned more about her personal life. She's not a threat. And as Strawberry suggested getting to know her would benefit me. So there's that. He was "annoyed" with the W...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 2 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 42 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    ladies, I will be taking a break from EP.

    ..My company is finally taking off after two years of round the clock emotional and time investment.The universe is so mysterious am under going a personal physical transformation through exercise...Am finding it a struggle to get quality time for EP....I so want to be able to...
    Strawberrygiggles Strawberrygiggles 41-45, F 10 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    So, I had to share this song I just discovered

    because it's so relatable and incredibly beautiful. http://youtu.be/eRXO77hJGKA
    subgirl26 subgirl26 22-25, F 2 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 41-45, F 75 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    She sent him a text about two weeks ago

    that they should separate. He told her he agrees, and wants to move forward with a divorce. They haven't talked much since then.. Mostly about child care. He has slept at my house more than 50% of the nights since then. It feels like we are finally a real couple.. Kinda feels...
    4myhappy 4myhappy 31-35, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 18 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    "Are you, or did you,

    cheat on me with her?" Yup. Well that happened. He of course calls to tell me. Of course he denies any indiscretion. Technically, the times she was mentioning, they weren't together... But then there's all that in between time. She's never met me. But she knows my name now. No...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 1 Response 27 mins ago

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    what I sent him, probably won't mean a thing.

    ..but hey what the hell ..why not. "Well, excuse me for trying to see you, excuse me for even thinking about you. I intern at firm in the area now, so i thought i'd drop a text, since it was convienient. I apologize. Really, I do. Kinda upsetting that you just read my message...
    newgurlxo newgurlxo 18-21, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Today I spent the morning with exMM.

    We had a great morning and amazing sex which is not really the norm for us but tonight I'm having intense craving for my MM. ExMM no longer is really affectionate after all the stuff we have been through. It's slowing coming back big he is not even comparable to MM. MM and I...
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 4 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    I'm tired of being the one to make up.

    I told him he was making me feel like 2nd place. Now he is pissed. Trolls stay out of this. I'm really sad. I've thought what we had was amazing. But too many failed plans this week has made things hard for me coming off of a hard weekend. I really don't like being an affair...
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 2 Responses 1 hr ago

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    NO LONGER THE OTHER WOMAN!

    !! I am now the only woman :) it has been officially ended this morning, he was straight on the phone to me who was awesome at playing it cool despite up all night worrying! He was going to come over but we both decided against it as he needs time to recover maybe. He has gone...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 12 Responses Mar 21

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    saw each other this morning

    and slightly intimate today Gave me literally 5 minutes of chat on line following. I kinda went nuts as for the past 9 days w has been away. We have had pretty minor contact with about 1/2 hr int he mornings and nothing the rest of the day until bedtime even though wife has been...
    blue963 blue963 51-55, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 29 Responses May 6, 2014

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 170 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    Looking back it is funny how easily I fell into

    the trap of becoming 'the other woman.' The first flash of distress - a wounded soul no less, and I dived into the murky water. He told me that I was his oxygen. I was a mermaid Saint Bernard with the reviving elixir strapped to my neck. Strangely, I found two unmarried men...
    Faerylight Faerylight 41-45, F 19 Responses Jun 21

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    Hi all- yes I am new.

    . been sneaking around for a while and I share all feelings and tears with each one of you. I am married with children, he is married with none. Been together for 7 years. Lots of up and downs and heartbreak. We had a long distance relationship for almost 6 years and for the...
    bella1306 bella1306 36-40, F 11 Responses 1 day ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 48 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    Ladies and Gentleman,

    I want to say I am sorry for my outburst last night to the trolls post. I can put up with a lot of things but that one crossed the line with me. It started Sunday when another troll messaged me directly Sunday acting all smug. It went down hill from there when one of my best...
    Arubaskies Arubaskies 41-45, F 7 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    For those of you who are emotionally burned out,

    let me paint you a picture: Pick a setting and imagine yourself there, holding hands with 'your' MM. Once you've got that mental picture in your head, imagine that his other hand is interlocked with his wife's. (Not quite the picture you were going for, I know, but bear with...
    ashadams244 ashadams244 26-30, F 2 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 49 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    So today was a good day.

    ... We talked about things... But on the other hand I got offered the job I applied for!!!!! But...... My boss declined it for me bc I would be making about 25-30 k less a year... So yes didn't want to do that but they had a lot of positive things to say to me and it's good that...
    ap05 ap05 26-30, F 1 Response 22 hrs ago

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    I'm an auntie for the third time!

    ! My little brother and his wife had their first baby on Monday night at 9:31. My third nephew. This kid has more hair than me I swear. On top of that my sister and her hubby are having their third child in March and it's a girl!!! I already told my sister I'm taking my...
    AvaLennon AvaLennon 31-35, F 9 hrs ago

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 45 Responses Jan 10

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    His taste, his smell,

    those lips.....can't resist him. The way he hugs me, holds me, looks at me, kisses me, OMG! The connection we have is intense. And, he listens to me, remembers the little things I wouldn't expect him to and follows through. I asked him what he wanted out of this and his...
    wordweapon wordweapon 41-45, F 6 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 14 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    This is a dumb dilemma

    but just wondering what to do... MM leaves for work around 9:50am and we usually talk until that point. We talk later too but he's driving until 10. Sometimes he says gotta go... And sometimes not. This morning we were in the middle of a convo... Nothing crazy just normal...
    AvaLennon AvaLennon 31-35, F 2 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    I haven't been on here

    for longer than a few minutes in a few weeks. I have been doing a lot of thinking. I will post more later in the week. I do see that there are a few more trolls. I hope that everyone has a good night!
    independentandstubborn independentandstubborn 51-55, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 94 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 161 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    So..still trying to find a single replacement

    for MM. I was with him last night after not seeing him for a week. He was extra sugar sweet. He kept telling me that I fill a void in his life that he never knew was there until we got together. He told me he loves me. He has told me this many times before but it's been a long...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 10 Responses 1 day ago

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    My BF is going through a D

    and he was planning on incorporating a visit with me during a business trip. We were going to have a few days together, including meeting my friends. Yesterday, he told me that he changed his mind, thinking it is too soon for him to be away from the kids for longer than a few...
    HotPinkDaisy HotPinkDaisy 41-45, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 19

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    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 25 Responses Apr 30

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    So I am kind of surprised

    that this milestone is here already....but today marks 2 months since the last time I saw ex-MM. Getting stronger by the day, never looking back!!!
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose