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I Am The Other Woman

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    Disclaimer: I am not the other woman anymore.

    Just waiting for the divorce to be finalized. He was separated when I met him- I in NO WAY condone having a child to keep a man around. That is manipulative and horribly disgusting and 99% of the time you will not get what you want and your child will suffer. I was on birth...
    lostanddistraught lostanddistraught 26-30, F 11 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 30 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    I guess I'm the "other woman,

    " but in all fairness, that isn't how our relationship began. He was separated from his wife when we met at work and he pursued me. I declined his advances at first, but eventually caved and we wound up in some kind of weird limbo - a friendship that happened to consist of non...
    ashadams244 ashadams244 26-30, F 5 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    OH. MY. GOD. It's final,

    he's single, and as of 9:37am today I am no longer the OW!!!
    Shardsofsorrow Shardsofsorrow 31-35, F 91 Responses 1 day ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    MM is away on a work trip with W,

    he'll be gone for 5 days.(in vegas) I don't know how much communication we will have since she will be with him the whole time. He did say its all work and he's not excited really, just hope I get to talk to him some! He'll be back the day before his birthday, hopefully ill get...
    knrayn knrayn 22-25, F 2 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    Holy annoying MM is aggravating.

    .. We were talking this morning and the convo went down a serious road. So as some of you may recall MMs wife found out he cheated in the winter. Lots of crap went down, he wound up in a psych ward bla bla. During this time we stopped our affair but remained friends. He...
    AvaLennon AvaLennon 31-35, F 58 mins ago

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    Arghhhhhhhh! One tiny step forward yesterday,

    and I fall 5 steps back today. When does a broken heart heal? How do I not care anymore? Why is it hurting me and not him? Age old questions taking my spirit down in a spiral.
    Aisurukoto Aisurukoto 41-45, F 2 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    It's been 3 yrs since I met this married man.

    . We have been in a distance relationship. He is an army guy and would promise me every year to come and visit me but he never keep his promise. Tonight I got a call ' He said I can't handle it anymore and it's over. Is this the respect I got as being the other women. Can someone...
    Mawip Mawip 22-25, F 4 mins ago

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    Love is a powerful drug

    and we succumbed to its power against all logical reason. Under its influence comes a power and a strength that yes we could get through anything...but could we really? Could we survive discovery and loss of love from our family, friends, co-workers or would we turn that loss on...
    solo007 solo007 51-55, F 3 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    NO LONGER THE OTHER WOMAN!

    !! I am now the only woman :) it has been officially ended this morning, he was straight on the phone to me who was awesome at playing it cool despite up all night worrying! He was going to come over but we both decided against it as he needs time to recover maybe. He has gone...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 12 Responses Mar 21

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 94 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 53 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    I don't care- married,

    not married, men are challenging. A few things happened today that just really made me annoyed & a little hurt. 1. Coworker who usually excludes me from lunch brought lunch to feed whoever. Typical. MM told me today- and I said, I missed the memo as usual. He's like okay I'm...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 6 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 17 Responses Mar 25

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 29 Responses May 6, 2014

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 18 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    What is going on with the universe right now?

    Wednesday was wonderful. Yesterday was awful. And today I woke up to find out mm is in the hospital. It's nothing too serious but he said they are talking about surgery. I'm sure he'll be fine but I do wish I could be there for him. I know she's there so at least he's not...
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 3 Responses 1 hr ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 160 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 6

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    b4realz b4realz 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    Life is crazy, werid

    and so very frustrating! Last night mm and I had a great talk. I've been thinking about him a lot this week. And I mean a lot. It hit me hard the past few days, I really am falling for him. I've always found it easier to talk about things like this through text or email...
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    Looking back it is funny how easily I fell into

    the trap of becoming 'the other woman.' The first flash of distress - a wounded soul no less, and I dived into the murky water. He told me that I was his oxygen. I was a mermaid Saint Bernard with the reviving elixir strapped to my neck. Strangely, I found two unmarried men...
    Faerylight Faerylight 41-45, F 17 Responses Jun 21

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    My daughter sent me a snapchat about 4pm today

    - she got a postcard in the mail from my MM - it was funny - they like rival football teams and he sent her a postcard about her team. He sent me one too. I cried uncontrollably for about 40 minutes. He's so sweet and thoughtful and is always doing sweet little things like...
    SunshineGrey78 SunshineGrey78 36-40, F 4 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 24 Responses Apr 30

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    one minute I was feeling

    so happy. amazing how in minutes life changes. we have split.
    Mama2ljre Mama2ljre 36-40, F 3 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    First off, please don't judge me too harshly.

    I am already emotionally damaged and bitter from this whole experience. My story is I met guy a on a social media site and we clicked right away. We fell in love hard and fast. During this time, he was engaged. Many times he almost broke up with her, but never happened. Him and...
    GarnetRoses GarnetRoses 22-25, F 27 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Happy Friday! Slowly,

    I'm moving away from the OW category despite yesterday's hiccup... Slowly I am realizing that he's seriously into me... Last night we talked for over an hour as we were going to bed- this is new, night time phone calls have replaced the texts- and his goodnight text to me? "I...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 1 hr ago

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    Maybe I'm looking too much into this with my

    manager. If you read my previous experiences you will know what's going on. Yesterday I was going to lunch. My manager asks where I was going. I said lunch. He said you can't take a break then go to lunch. I said I'm not. He said yes you are. I said no I took a break 2 hrs ago...
    devin456 devin456 41-45, F 2 hrs ago

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    I told him a few days ago

    that I wanted to make this a long term relationship and I wanted to fight for a way to make it work, he responded today that he did too. I told him I didn't want to remain in the shadows, but that I want him. Slowly things are changing. He talked today about wanting to go on...
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 9 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    Good Morning ladies I wondering

    if have favorite place for love I mean I like pretty much any where I love it on her balcony and the shower.
    ForbiddenFruitLove95 ForbiddenFruitLove95 18-21, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Me again.....another question.

    ...... What do your families know? Mine all know he exists, we can't hide that, as he is around my daughter and I can't ask her to lie. But now that we are a year into this I'm getting the questions from my family "Is he coming with you to (insert generic family event here...
    SunshineGrey78 SunshineGrey78 36-40, F 8 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    any one know if there is s good read about our

    situations. maybe a non fiction? positive side?
    Mama2ljre Mama2ljre 36-40, F 4 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    So i ask my MM today

    if i get married, would he still be with me or do we go our separate ways... His response was, its never going to happen so why worry about something that isn't..... At times like these i actually wish i had someone to call my own... i wish i could leave him and walk off as...
    Sarahneeds Sarahneeds 26-30, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 41-45, F 77 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    Having a frustrating day.

    We had a great night together and things have been good. We email back and forth most days. It seems like we get close and then all of a sudden he goes quiet. I particularly hate this because I try and keep my walls up and as soon as he senses I've let them down he does it to me...
    joyfulcloudofsorrow joyfulcloudofsorrow 31-35, F 8 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 19

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    I feel like we are in a cold war.

    NC's broken, the ice remains. Every passing day, I feel I am loosing the grip on reasoning. It's getting darker. It's getting colder. Too much cold can burn.
    coolvolatile coolvolatile 31-35, F 4 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 42 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 78 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    I dont get it! Didn't get a reply to message to

    my message on sunday so text Tuesday asking if everything was ok...got a reply few hours later saying he's having bad week, so I reply: Ok, here if you need me. He's been constantly online on whapsapp for days now, and I mean constantly! He was even online at half one...
    Prettybutterfly88 Prettybutterfly88 26-30, F 9 Responses 1 day ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 170 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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