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I Am The Other Woman

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 22 Responses Jul 30

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 10 Responses Feb 13

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    Okay am I the only ding bat

    who didn't realize that there are two forums with the exact same name?! I spent all afternoon in and out of the other one and kept thinking...who are these people and where is everyone?! Except you, Koko, I saw you there. Jeeze. I guess I need to pay closer attention.
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 15 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 142 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    My second post and I want to thank everyone

    for being so nice and supportive especially since I'm in a lot different situation than most of you but still basically the same in most ways. Today was a good day until I wrecked it. I tried the whole "I'm not going to talk to you today. I'm going to be strong" thing. I had...
    newyork2687 newyork2687 31-35, F 2 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 44 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Just want to put this out there to all you

    other "other women" you keep me positive... You nail my feet to the ground... You make me smile ... You put my heart back in my chest ... Thank you and when I see you pouring your heart out I feel it... I hope all the best for everyone of you misunderstood beautiful women ... I...
    jupsta jupsta 36-40, F 8 Responses Jun 9

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    Okay ladies....I need some advice.

    I have never really actually told my MM exactly how I feel about him. I want to set him down and tell him how I feel about him so bad. I guess it's just because it makes me nervous. We've been together 21/2 years. I don't want him to leave his wife and I will not leave my...
    shopgirl74 shopgirl74 36-40, F 2 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    I had a great birthday weekend with him.

    He took me to this waterfront restaurant. The view was beautiful. We walked along the waterfront holding hands like a normal couple. It was nice. We ended up at a party of a mutual friend. Now I'm going through withdrawal.
    dolovf dolovf 26-30, F 9 hrs ago

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    My Secret Gold Coin

    You don’t know it, but I think of you as a beautiful, precious, shiny gold coin that I keep secretly hidden in my pocket. I feel happy knowing that you are in there, but unhappy knowing that you have to stay hidden. I wish I could show you off to friends, but they wouldn’t...
    jenn80 jenn80 51-55 18 Responses May 23, 2013

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    "I miss my tempurpedic

    and you" Oh, I definitely miss you too. I've been okay these last few days and now this has me on the verge of tears :( I wonder if he thinks about what it would be like if I were with him, and not her? Idk. Time to take a nap for a little bit so I can be awake to talk to...
    lifeisajourney14 lifeisajourney14 22-25, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    Ugh I just saw him here at work.

    ..and he wants to talk but I really don't
    Sidechic79 Sidechic79 31-35, F 2 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    Ugh, I got that dreaded message this afternoon.

    My MM telling me he couldn't see me this week. I realize it's not the end of the world but the disappointment was so overwhelming. I was feeling kind of crappy and in a bit of a funk and that certainly didn't help matters....
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 31-35, F 3 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 48 Responses Feb 16

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    The one major thing I am most thankful

    for with my MM and our whatever it is... The fact that we are such great friends and can talk about any and everything :)
    lifeisajourney14 lifeisajourney14 22-25, F 1 Response 8 hrs ago

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    I hate waiting for him to text me!

    !! It's the worst how one minute you can be so sad because you think he's never going to text, but the minute you get his text everything changes and I can't stop smiling....
    AnthroRiotGRRRL AnthroRiotGRRRL 36-40, F 2 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    Hi! This is actually my first post.

    .. wasn't sure if I should post it here or somewhere else. I just feel that if I get this off my chest - then just maybe I will heal a little bit faster... I do like reading everyone's posts on here so...if i should post somewhere else - please do let me know. Thank you everyone...
    yogachic76 yogachic76 36-40, F 4 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 17 Responses May 4

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 43 Responses Feb 24

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 21 Responses Jan 2

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    I welcome the overwhelming workload today.

    It is a very painful day for me. I did not hear from him today, although from what he has told me in the past, he may be off today as well. Since he was on leave last week, since yesterday was a Federal holiday, he is entitled to either the next day off or the prior day off...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 12 hrs ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 20 Responses Apr 18

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    So today he tells me that,

    me and him are a selfish part of his life...the one thing in his life he doesn't have to share with anyone else, he's not with me to fulfill obligations like he is at home. So to me that's pretty much saying this is never going anywhere. And he was just telling me last week...
    ynoTme83 ynoTme83 31-35, F 5 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 29 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    My OW woke up super early today to talk to me

    but we only talked briefly. Probably didn't make me feel any better than if she hadn't contacted me at all, but it's a very nice gesture especially after the long weekend. During our normal time to start talking she messaged me, but I was in an important meeting. About 30...
    wakeupdead wakeupdead 26-30, M 5 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 31-35, M 16 Responses Apr 19

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 21 Responses May 6

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    Lost0808 Lost0808 26-30, F 4 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 68 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    I am debating sending flowers

    and just putting get well soon on the card.....any thoughts?
    leigh8133 leigh8133 31-35, F 11 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    I hate that my "fun" week is over.

    Last week was the best and made for every office fantasy a person could have. Now I have to go back to having fun only when it fits my bosses schedule.
    surfandturf surfandturf 36-40, F 1 Response 9 hrs ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 163 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 3 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 80 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 15 Responses Jun 2

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 41 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    ap05 ap05 26-30, F 3 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Things I don't miss from my affair.

    .. 1. Waiting for my phone to ding 2. Lying to spouse about where I am going 3. Making sure I erase texts 4. Time 5. Mind control that the affair holds not mm 6. Questioning of myself and actions 7. Guilt not for the affair but for my husband and his wife 8. Time 9. The panic...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 15 Responses Apr 27

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 152 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    I feel like i love this guy Please read my

    experience about I met a guy online before continuing. I would love all the help i get in making my decision with such an awesome community Its been 6 months that weve been talking. He has a gf whom he loves and she loves him too. But the way that he gives up time with her to...
    nchikkala nchikkala 16-17, F 2 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    My exAP has been talking to me more lately.

    He is lost and miserable and confused. I told him something he didn't want to hear on Friday, so he went quiet...always does when that happens. Then this morning I talked to him again. He said he feels lost and stuck, so we decided to help him work through things like we have...
    dropdeadredhead dropdeadredhead 36-40, F 1 Response 10 hrs ago

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    I feel somewhat helpless

    and weak today. I texted him and emailed him. I know I will hear from him eventually but just feel weak!! Why in the world I do that to myself. I have to be stronger and forget him. But he comes up in my mind constantly!! Especially today. I just wish someone can tell me he...
    sunsetocean sunsetocean 31-35, F 4 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    It's been a while since I posted.

    Just needed to vent a bit tonight. But before I do let me do a little catch up on all that's been going on with me and my "ex" mm. Since he pushed me away I swore I'd let it be. Let him work on his and his fiancés issues. And wouldn't push anything having to do with us. He...
    Livesforme Livesforme 26-30, F 2 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    I was cheated on, many years ago,

    by my first big love in my life. I broke it off and never looked back, but was devastated. Dated again after that. Fast forward to now- years later...had been single for awhile,got involved with a man who I did not know was married when we first connected, no ring, drinks were...
    ExaminedLifeGurl ExaminedLifeGurl 36-40, F 53 mins ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 103 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    It's days like today

    that I make me appreciate my mm so much more. I got a call for a job interview, it's not a great job but at least I can start making my own money and become more independent from my husband. Well when I told my husband about it he said "okay" but when I told my mm he was...
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 2 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Has anyone received a message from

    work2experience? She asks us to tell our stories on camera. However, when you google the email address, her emails to everyone at EP come up. I blocked her. Just curious if anyone else heard of her. I would never want my face out there!
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 4 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 37 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    And another side note.

    ..think my relationship with my SG has also hit graveyard status. Haven't heard from him in a while and he never responded to me on Sunday when I messaged...which isn't like him... Today I feel like it's not even worth it anymore. I think I'm going end my affair with the SG via...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 4 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 11

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 72 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    Please, do not stop posting.

    ... I may not be the best person to make this request because I have only participated on the forum for just a few months. But I am so glad I had a place to go. I can not begin to tell you how supportive you ladies have been during my time of heart aches, up swings, troubles...
    saiyagyrl saiyagyrl 36-40, F 4 Responses May 26

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