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I Am The Other Woman

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    FYI I have been taking care of personal things

    that I haven't been able to post or comment. So hoping to catch up with everyone. Lots of reading ahead of me.
    Dreamingofhim0514 Dreamingofhim0514 26-30, F 1 Response 19 hrs ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 45 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    It happened, we had our time together

    for the first time! *You can skip to paragraph 3 for the good stuff, lol.* This is LONG, btw... As most of you know, we had been talking every day for 3 months since we live across the country from each other. The weekend started out a little rocky. Originally, the plan was...
    Ahmazing Ahmazing 31-35, F 5 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 16 Responses May 4

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 31 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 39 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Question! What's your no response limit

    before you get upset? 2 hours? 3?
    Ahmazing Ahmazing 31-35, F 10 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 103 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 36 Responses Sep 23

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 11

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    So I need some serious advice.

    I think I just want my cake and eat it too. I told my H that I wasn't in love with him like a wife should be. Oh what a sad day. Then I did an overnight trip with my SG and it was fabulous. Most fun I've ever had. But I'm afraid I've made things worse. We have fallen in love (SG...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 5 Responses 1 hr ago

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    How are you ladies doing tonight?

    I promised MM I wouldn't text while drinking, because I got a little intense the last few times, so I am posting here instead. Question time! What is your favorite thing about your MM, or your favorite memory of the two of you?
    DarlingEll DarlingEll 26-30, F 17 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 50 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 20 Responses Jul 30

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    I got to see my MM! Just

    for an hour but my goodness... How I've missed his face. I didn't know if I'd see him tonight. But he called randomly and all he said was "come open the door." And there he was! :D It's the little things...
    kc5316 kc5316 22-25, F 2 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 51 Responses Feb 16

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 78 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    October is almost over

    and this has been the biggest roller coaster month that mm and I have been together. We had ups and downs. We had times of NC and multiple days in a row that we saw each other. Had amazing days and complete messed up days. But... In the long run I love what we have. He makes me...
    Dreamingofhim0514 Dreamingofhim0514 26-30, F 1 Response 19 hrs ago

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    How to screw everything up in one hour.

    Was it me or him tho? I know his communication habits inside out. Its been a 3 year relationship of sorts. Tonight was a case of reading my txt and not answering. Sometimes this happens. Soon as I say goodnight though I get a goodnight back. It's like phew, she will leave me...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 3 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 161 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 23 Responses May 6

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 18 Responses Sep 10

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    Well here goes. I've been lurking

    for a few months now and decided it's time for me to write my feelings out. Married to a good man and an amazing dad. We have not been intimate in 4-5 months. In the last year, we have not been out on a date and I think we're at the point where we love each other but not in...
    kikimarie1978 kikimarie1978 36-40, F 48 Responses Oct 20

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    Every time you say, "you know I love you!

    " It makes me want to punch you in one of your vulnerable areas. I don't flipping know, ya donkey. Show me!
    lostanddistraught lostanddistraught 22-25, F 6 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 7 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    So I'm my mm's 4th affair.

    ... The first one was before he had his kids with his wife, they were together for 2 years and she never knew he was married as she lived in another state and he would go down to visit her there and she would visit him and stay in hotels with him (he use to be able to leave for...
    Lilypad718 Lilypad718 31-35, F 4 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    I would like to ask you ladies a question out

    of curiosity but also because I am missing him alot today! What are the chances that my MM will contact me again in the future? It would make me feel very good if he were to contact me again without me making the first move. I was just wondering how common it really is to hear...
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 31-35, F 3 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    What is your biggest fear?

    All week, I have felt more and more scared, and I can't even pinpoint why. I'm scared of so many things right now, and I'm trying to figure out how to articulate to him what I'm afraid of! What keeps you up at night most of all?
    NCheartinNY NCheartinNY 36-40, F 4 Responses 50 mins ago

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    I have been the lover

    for almost a year now. We have each dated other people which is something we really never discussed. In May he reconnected with someone I'm guessing was his high school crush. She lives in Mexico so it seemed like it was just another connection. Meanwhile he and I still had our...
    catalyst0609 catalyst0609 46-50, F 1 Response 19 hrs ago

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    Last night was really a nice surprise he had

    gone out with a friend to a game but stopped by my place on the way back for a few I had fallen asleep. He tried calling me but I was out and I woke up to him walking Into my apt. Just for a few min but it was great soooo lucky to have him
    ap05 ap05 26-30, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    I seriously think if I would have never found

    this group I would have lost my mind a long time ago! You ladies are so supportive and amazing. A big thanks!
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 14 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 10 Responses Feb 13

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    Do you ladies experience a "down" period

    after spending intimate time with your MM? Feeling mopey, almost?
    greeneyes2232 greeneyes2232 41-45, F 15 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Terrible day.. I should have never responded to

    that email last night. I'm so not the person I have become because of this relationship and break up. I'm such a mess.. I'm so disappointed in myself. I really feel like he ruined me. Day 1 NC needs to start again tomorrow.
    4kari 4kari 31-35, F 4 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    My MM is having some really stressful problems

    at work and, since we are ex-colleagues, I have been chatting to him a lot about this and trying to help. Today he told me, "You are a massive influence on me. You are so very clever and I love you!" Awwwww. He also found the time to record and send me a very sexy video. I love...
    daisyblue222 daisyblue222 36-40, F 1 Response 20 hrs ago

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    I am no longer I don't know

    where to write anymore lol I don't have a place to post I feel so comfortable here with you ladies even though I am no longer an OW I just feel so connected to all of you
    jupsta jupsta 36-40, F 1 Response 23 mins ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 78 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 20 Responses Jan 2

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 42 Responses Feb 24

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    Touching him in the most intimate ways without

    ever taking it all the way makes for a better time when we finally do connect. I love how we have these many little teases leading up to that amazing event. I've never been so into kissing someone in my life. Sometimes we kiss and time really gets away from us. I'm talking...
    surfandturf surfandturf 36-40, F 5 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    Another day down. I know he worked today

    and could have called from there but I also know his home life is hell right now. Kept myself busy trying to respond/help/encourage/chat with my EP Peeps, worked out & sold some things online #score! I'm excited about working out. It helps relieve a lot of the anxiety Im...
    forbidden67 forbidden67 46-50, F 4 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Hi ladies, I'm soon to be 19.

    Most of you would probably consider me a child still. I've had a tough up bringing in South Africa. I've lost my mother, lost a brother to drugs, I live in the "ghetto" as some would call it. My life is anything but perfect. Through it all there was a guy, I always felt like I...
    Jessiekah Jessiekah 18-21, F 3 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    After still not hearing from him: "I don't do

    these radio silence games. I'm not fifteen. If you do something that hurts me I'm going to tell you. You should have wanted to be with me on Saturday even if it was just to sleep and you didn't. So yeah, that hurt me and made me think. Just like you not saying good night to me...
    lostanddistraught lostanddistraught 22-25, F 5 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    I guess he isn't mad.

    He asked to see me tonight! I'm so excited it's been over a week. That's too long for me. Work can't go by fast enough!
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 4 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    I decided to make the first move

    since it was my fault we got into the argument anyway... Me: "Hi." Him: "Hey. Me: "How's your day been?" Him: "Good. How about you" Me: "Busy but good. I've had a lot to do at home before tonight" 30 minutes later... Me "Well I just wanted to say hi. Hope you have a good...
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 4 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 31-35, M 17 Responses Apr 19

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    Well you ladies are right.

    ... Like usual. The shock has worn off and the unbearable pain has set in. One minute its anger and the next it is a breath taking pain. I feel so stupid. Stupid for not seeing him for what he really is. Stupid for feeling so hurt by all this. Stupid for all the tears that I...
    Jennbme24 Jennbme24 31-35, F 10 mins ago

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    Naked floating in warm soft water.

    .. my thoughts free flowing... kids, house, work, dinner, to do lists all fade and I get to connect with my inner thoughts... with myself... not the mother.. the manager... the wife... the lover ... but with me... plain old me he apologized to me just now... for the other night...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 5 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    Oh the trolls! how can anyone not understand

    that someone could be capable of loving more than one person at a time? and that we can love people we are married to (sexlessly so) and also love someone who is married to someone else AND also care about the other wife? Many people have more than one child or more than one...
    Katertoten Katertoten 46-50, F 30 Responses Jun 23

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 15 Responses Jun 2

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 81 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 20 Responses Apr 18

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