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I Am The Other Woman

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    For the past few weeks I neglected my tire

    light on my dashboard and ended up with a flat tire... Prior to that I mentioned it to my mm and all he did was tell me that I should know how to put air in a tire.... He actually got upset because another man I interact with during work offered to follow me to the gas station...
    Lilypad718 Lilypad718 31-35, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    NO LONGER THE OTHER WOMAN!

    !! I am now the only woman :) it has been officially ended this morning, he was straight on the phone to me who was awesome at playing it cool despite up all night worrying! He was going to come over but we both decided against it as he needs time to recover maybe. He has gone...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 14 Responses Mar 21

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    Actually, I am married.

    .. I haven't ever cheated on my husband either because the sex and love is so good! 😘😍
    TexWest1311 TexWest1311 26-30, F 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 51 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 78 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    so my phone is on my mothers contract plan

    but I'm pay for it... well she found out that I was seeing mm and told me I shouldn't see him she doesn't know that he is married... well since I wouldn't stop seeing him she decided she was going to cut my phone off so we would have NC and I'm like really?!?! how is it ur...
    emeraldprincess1003 emeraldprincess1003 22-25, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 170 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    Man, my soon to be ex has really done a number

    on me mentally and because of it, it really may mess up things with MM to the point that after almost two years I may call it quits. I know I will regret this decision and I keep trying to talk myself off that ledge, but it's sooo hard to do. My H has let me believe for years...
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 8 Responses 1 day ago

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    I ended it...again but I'm really ready this

    time. I keep saying that but it really does feel different now. It isn't worth it anymore, he'll never give me what I want, what I need and I've finally realized it. It breaks my heart because I tried so hard to keep it together, to keep us going but in the end it just wasn't...
    moepeep moepeep 22-25, F 12 Responses 1 day ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 54 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    If you are "not the other woman"

    and are lost here somehow please come to "I am not the other woman"
    paliglass paliglass 31-35, F 1 day ago

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 23 Responses Mar 22

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    I'm probably going to get trolled on

    for this but... I went for my annual Pap smear a month ago and was told I have HPV. Yes I should have used protection bla bla I'm stupid I know. It's freaking me out a little but I know it's common and usually goes away on its own. I guess I just feel tainted... Like soiled...
    AvaLennon AvaLennon 31-35, F 7 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 86 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 6

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    Oh wow. I haven't been in here

    since June last year. I didn't think I'd be back. But I need to just vent. Since my last post, my guy and his gf had broken up and things were amazing and I felt like we were really making progress. I met his family and I spend alot of time there and it was simply amazing. Just...
    Kryast Kryast 18-21, F 2 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 19 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    MM is now 3 weeks into his new job

    and I'm still struggling with things. I know he is working hard and I know he misses me. But he is never free to chat anymore, some days I'm lucky if I get 5 mins of his time. Although I do always get a good morning and maybe 1-2 lines during the day. We used to chat online...
    daisyblue222 daisyblue222 41-45, F 9 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    This is funny. It happened a long time ago

    and I just thought of it and I wanted to share it to make you ladies smile or maybe even laugh. So my mm and I are meeting at the regular hotel we meet at. I pull in and see his car parked in front of a room. I pull up beside his car and look at him. He looks at me through our...
    Janna78 Janna78 46-50, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 155 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    You just never know what someone may be going

    through, or what got them there
    kathrineh kathrineh 46-50, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 28 Responses May 6, 2014

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    Maybe this is what's going on.

    .. http://www.elephantjournal.com/2015/05/mercury-retrograde-its-time-to-make-things-right/
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 1 Response 15 hrs ago

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 45 Responses Jan 10

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 48 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 204 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    Actually I am not the other woman ,

    don't know where this story fits . Well the story is about my father . He is not a bad man or a bad father . My mother is also not bad one . All my childhood I witnessed how much they love each other and appreciate each other . In my teenage more like when I was in 16...
    ordinarymomof2 ordinarymomof2 36-40, F 9 Responses 1 day ago

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    Time to celebrate! Its Memorial Day Weekend,

    3 day weekend, and....today is 30 days of NC!!!! I'm super celebrating today! I made it to 1 month, and its been amazing! Hope everyone has a great weekend! Enjoy yourselves!
    LightningXIII LightningXIII 31-35, F 2 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    not a very good day today.

    came across something this morning and it reminded me that he has a girlfriend, and I'm the third person in this relationship. makes me wanna walk away...
    gianneisstuck gianneisstuck 31-35, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I am not the OW, but I'm

    so proud of you ladies. You go through hell and back for these men. You love, comfort, support, and love these men. I do not know how you do it. I read your stories and I'm in awe....sheer breathtaking, gutwrenching, heartbreaking, overwhelming, love-infused awe of you all...
    soldiergirl2 soldiergirl2 41-45, F 11 Responses Apr 6

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    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 23 Responses Apr 30

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    I am having an amazing day with my mm.

    we have laughed and played and ahoped. great sex and gawd. I just love holding his hand. this is so crazy. make the feelings slow down
    spoiledlittle spoiledlittle 31-35, F 5 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 28 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Anyone here when your with your lover do watch

    Adult Movies together? I do with my girlfriend.
    ForbiddenFruitLove95 ForbiddenFruitLove95 18-21, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    A quick meet up with mm

    after work. We both depressed today, he just not had a good day and mine was coz of him. We just sat there and hug in silence for 20 mins. Just hug and felt the warmth from each other's skin. It's such a silence moment. I tried so hard to not cry. The only thoughts in my head...
    TOWTD TOWTD 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 152 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    A first for us ... a selfie with

    both of us in it. Last night was a dirty loving overnight with late checkout. On the train home alone now ... Can't tear my eyes off our pic Fully clothed. Leaning in heads touching. Warm easy smiles. It's weird to see us like this. An image that can never be seen...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 12 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 14 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 71 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    Although we started off our morning great,

    and we are great, and he's talking about going somewhere with me later, I don't feel great. I don't feel great about it being a 3 day weekend. I don't feel great about missing him the way that I do on a deep intrinsic level. I don't feel great that I can't spend more time with...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 2 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    He tried to call once yesterday.

    That was it. It was their 10 year anniversary. I didn't answer.
    lit4love lit4love 26-30, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    can today get any worse?

    !?!! two days NC and I think I'm going crazy!! not to mention mm's w will be back tomorrow :( ugh.... I need something to distract myself :'( can't believe I am balling my eyes out like a baby
    emeraldprincess1003 emeraldprincess1003 22-25, F 3 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    Sometimes I make a dream of what'll be like

    when he tells me it's me & him... He will call or text me... "I want to take you out tonight." Sure it'll catch me off guard because it hasn't been like that since he was separated. But I'll be excited. Not thinking any thing of it. We will plan on a time and he will take me to...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 5 hrs ago

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