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I Am The Other Woman

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 17 Responses Sep 10

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 51 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Women won't mess with a man

    that lives with his mom but will mess with a man who lives with his wife.
    reeessa reeessa 13-15, F 29 Responses Oct 23

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    I hope everyone had a great Christmas

    and had the contact they desire with their AP's. I can only speak for my situation and say that I'd be totally heart broken if mine didn't have something to say to me. Fortunately I've not had to deal with LC/NC and not so sure I'd handle it too well. It's important that I know...
    surfsway surfsway 36-40, F 5 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 9 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 208 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    I spent my Christmas with my family,

    I kept checking my phone to see if I got a text or a vm message. I guess I shouldn't of expected that but I did. I didn't even get a Merry Christmas from him. I am hurt, outraged that after all I've done, all I've been thru with him that I couldn't even get a dam Text. His sorry...
    4everhislady 4everhislady 36-40, F 4 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 24 Responses May 6

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 162 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 79 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    At mm's house now helping him set up a

    remodeled room for one of the kids. I got here and started chatting up the kids. W came in the living room and told me mm wanted my help. W was having a fit apparently when he went outside for something. She is outside talking to someone on the phone now. His parents will...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 2 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    Most awkward Christmas ever,

    although I was as uncomfortable around his w as I am when around my mother. They are similar in some ways. W was not at all happy that I arrived an hour before everyone else. Mm was working to get one of the kids' remodeled rooms completed for a surprise. To keep the kids...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 3 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    It seems that once again everything happens

    for a reason and I was reminded why I broke it off with him in the first place. Update on the text asking me to spend the day with him tomorrow, I debated and stalled big time not sure I wanted to go down this path after breaking it off with him. I even draft a text to him...
    WalkInMyShoesB4UJudge WalkInMyShoesB4UJudge 41-45, F 13 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    Merry Christmas ladies!

    I know the holidays can be tough but I hope everyone is enjoying themselves despite the fact that we can't be with the men we love. Hugs to you all!
    sleeplesssecretary sleeplesssecretary 22-25, F 1 Response 22 hrs ago

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    Hope all you lovely ladies had a wonderful

    Christmas. Hope you all heard from your man too xxx
    sooty1977 sooty1977 36-40, F 2 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    A letter to my ex-OM:- I could really use a

    friend right now. I've been alone for 11 years... and though I must accept my share of the fault, it wasn't entirely my fault. You don't know that H found out about that night when we bumped into each other - that was why he isolated me from not only you but everyone I knew...
    BeckstaOnSquidoo BeckstaOnSquidoo 26-30, F 1 Response 14 hrs ago

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    Merry Christmas, ladies!

    ! I hope Santa was good to all of you!
    nvragain1024 nvragain1024 31-35, F 1 day ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 68 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 17 Responses Apr 19

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 16 Responses Jun 2

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    After waking up at 4am was thinking of my ex MM

    as he had his lights on all night in his place so thought him and his wife must be having a great time.I was scared as got to tell him I about I got this STD. Then fell asleep and wake up he had message me merry christmas so reply the same saying we need to talk urgently one day...
    stupid28 stupid28 31-35, F 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Merry Christmas ladies!

    I hope you have all had a nice day. I have focused all my effort on having fun with family and it has been good. Even my usually v distant H has been relaxed and attentive.( To the point where he even initiated sex, a twice-a-year activity here...!) MM has been in contact every...
    daisyblue222 daisyblue222 36-40, F 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 31 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Had a wonderful day with my husband

    and in-laws. My husband definitely spoiled me. I didn't even think about MM, it was great. Then I scrolled through Facebook and saw his wife posted a pic of the gifts she bought him, with the caption: "Looks like daddy's been good this year!" Made me feel sick, and sad on her...
    DarlingEll DarlingEll 26-30, F 1 Response 20 hrs ago

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    I am a 57 year old male looking

    for a younger woman to exchange email with on an ongoing basis. Maybe eventually meet if we get tired of typing. I am kind and easy to talk to and also discreet. I am in the Ottawa, Ontario, Canada area. Drop me a line and lets get acquainted.
    seethruman seethruman 56-60, M 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 81 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    Ladies, I feel soo good today.

    I've been on vacation with the family (awesomeness BTW, you must visit Mozambique it's beautiful.). That's not all that's making me warm and fuzzy inside though. I was worried a few days back that I was getting addicted to this MM, developing some deep attachment to something...
    Strang3r Strang3r 22-25, F 2 hrs ago

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    Some advise I need to remind myself all the

    time... He is married and cannot text all the time, he has his wife all over him and as a woman she can sense when husband is up to something. He thinks of me often and when he has the time the first thing he wants is to be with me. We have a friendship and emotional...
    liberty2014 liberty2014 36-40, F 8 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Laying in bed having our typical morning texts.

    Telling each other about what our day will be. Mine is filled with training and then time with cousins. His will be time with his animals and the dinner and a play with their good friends. I lay there and start to feel, how can I do this? If he leaves her he will loose that...
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 4 hrs ago

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    Well, this was already going to be difficult

    having a holiday without my mm again, BUT I feel it's even worse now ladies. My mm was due to come see me Sunday, and he did, although I knew something was really wrong when I had not heard a word from him until he got to my house. I asked what was wrong and he said, well "she...
    VirgoKnows VirgoKnows 36-40, F 1 Response 21 hrs ago

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 41 Responses Feb 24

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 31 Responses Sep 23

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 10 Responses Feb 13

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    We just had a Skype date!

    Made my Christmas so much better. Merry and safe Christmas to all!
    Doloboo85 Doloboo85 26-30, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 20 Responses Jan 2

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 20 Responses Apr 18

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    Well Merry Xmas... My marriage is officially

    over! My Husband knows everything. Well almost everything. He hates me. Well deserved I guess. Some how I knew this was coming on this day when we had our first date. Now it's our split up. He vowed to basically ruin me. Tell my parents and all his friends and family. Guess I...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 6 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 50 Responses Feb 16

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    So......I had a pretty scary Christmas Eve.

    I was alone most of Christmas Eve, which was lonely to say the least. Given what happened with mm on Monday, I was sad. I received a text from a guy I had previously dated asking if he could stop by for a Christmas drink on his way to his moms. I agreed to it, I was a few...
    PrincessLolita PrincessLolita 26-30, F 6 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    It's Christmas and I'm thinking about him-huge

    fight with my H yesterday before our holiday trip. We don't do presents because well he's cheap - I fight for every gift I buy because well he's cheap. He wasn't raised like me which is fine but he has completely taken the magic out of the holidays and well everything anymore...
    Readytomoveon2015 Readytomoveon2015 31-35, F 21 hrs ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 103 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    Ex mm texted and wished me Merry Christmas

    today... Was nice Thank you To him I still miss my ex boyfriend though Even ex mm's kind wishing of a Merry Christmas couldn't take the hurt away I miss you Mike I hope you had a good Christmas
    jupsta jupsta 36-40, F 2 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    I am wishing you all a Merry Christmas live

    just a little, laugh as much as you can, and love those that love you more. Stay Blessed Everyone
    4everhislady 4everhislady 36-40, F 1 day ago

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    I just wish it felt over.

    ....i just wish i had something that even came close to closure.... It was my b-day xmas eve and even tho there has been alot going on with him (crazy time of year in work followed by w in hospital) and contact has been very limited he still sent me flowers for my b-day....he...
    Jellytots2412 Jellytots2412 36-40, F 3 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 20 Responses Jul 30

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    Tonight will be our first full night together.

    No time constraints. No looking over our shoulders. We have a suite booked with a fireplace. Sushi & wine. I am so looking forward to 8 hours of normalcy. It is crazy we have never even eaten together. We spend our blips of time only focused on eachother. We get to talk for...
    tauriangirl tauriangirl 36-40, F 27 Responses Nov 15

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    I've said it before but I'll say it again.

    It's the little things. I wasn't expecting a text today at all and wouldn't have been disappointed in any way if he didn't. But he did. One simple Merry Christmas. Made me smile.
    blurrdlines blurrdlines 36-40, F 4 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 11

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 16 Responses May 4

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 148 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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