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I Am The Other Woman

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 16 Responses May 4

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    Do you all get men that lurk this site

    for a booty call? I messed up one time and you would think I am the worst person in this world. I have broke things off and want to work only marriage. I have met some nice people and supportive people. The men are really desperate to think I would hook up with someone I don't...
    intimateginger intimateginger 41-45, F 11 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Have we advanced to messages from trolls now?

    Wtf In not saying every person with an opposing opinion is a troll but people who have multiple profiles are. Also, people who badger have troll tendencies for sure.
    surfandturf surfandturf 36-40, F 5 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    So, it's time I tell my story.

    I have a committed relationship with a MM. I'm married as well. Both of us have been married 20+ years. I was lonely and needing connection. My H is not a bad man. He's a good provider, a great father, and a respectable man. But, I was missing something. I found myself...
    Fragileheart100 Fragileheart100 36-40, F 4 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 30 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Well ladies I was not aware that

    so much would be stirred up over me posting and being nice and respectful to y'all. I know we are all aware that y'all and I love two different lives and I was just trying to be nice as some of you have come to my defense when I have been attacked in my group. So now that the...
    Ldylvlylcks2002 Ldylvlylcks2002 26-30, F 6 mins ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 76 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 46 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 162 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    blue963 blue963 51-55, F 5 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Why do all the haters say you're always going

    to be second choice? Maybe we are second choice when he "has" to go home but in reality we aren't second choice in his heart or his mind. I can almost promise that he's thinking about me more than his wife. I can almost promise his heart is starting to lead him else where and...
    tc57 tc57 31-35, F 87 Responses Aug 10

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 81 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 39 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 10 Responses Feb 13

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    I've cried so much for the last 2-3 wks i

    actually felt i was gettng stronger and the things that would really hurt or drive me insane seemed easier to deal with. Today i was with him and this i was trying to burry inside of me came out once again and im now back to square one. Missing him, wanting to call him, wanting...
    Chicadelcaribe Chicadelcaribe 31-35, F 5 hrs ago

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    This is more of a question,

    but wasn't sure how to post it .... And this is my first experience and I hope to share mine like so many of you have. Is there a good substitute name for u and/or ur MM in your phone contacts? One that doesn't draw attention?
    BluCoastGal BluCoastGal 36-40, F 12 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Why does it bug me so much

    that he calls is GF his W? He doesn't know that I know he isn't married. When we started he told me he was married but I have since found out that he is not. I have found her on FB and even know where she lives. I also know where he lives and they are not even close to each. Is...
    lilymn lilymn 46-50, F 4 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 103 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    I’ve known my MM for 4 years.

    We were just friends and he was very supportive when things crashed and burned with my previous MM. At the time we lived relatively close, but 3 years ago, I moved 1000 miles away. We have kept in touch the entire time but haven’t seen each other except to Facetime on...
    greenacres33 greenacres33 36-40, F 10 hrs ago

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    Well here goes. I've been lurking

    for a few months now and decided it's time for me to write my feelings out. Married to a good man and an amazing dad. We have not been intimate in 4-5 months. In the last year, we have not been out on a date and I think we're at the point where we love each other but not in...
    kikimarie1978 kikimarie1978 36-40, F 42 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    It has been WAY too many days

    since I've had the chance to get my hands on him!! Ugh!!!
    GenieH22 GenieH22 36-40, F 4 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    How often are you ladies with your guys

    sexually? And how often are you with him non sexually? When you're not intimate what do you do together? I'm just being nosey.
    surfandturf surfandturf 36-40, F 15 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    I am not -------- I want everyone to know I

    am not angry at my ex mm... In fact I thank him... He helped me be a better me... Knowing how deeply I cared about him ... I am happy he is going to respect his vows and stay with her... For now I guess.. There was no way I could wait for a day that might never come... I...
    jupsta jupsta 36-40, F 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 7 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    Never in a million years I could've imagine

    there are so many women going thru same situations like mine. I was very hesitant to start writting things here (you pshychos out there) but i am glad i did and glad i can talk about this and people actually understand without judging me!...
    Chicadelcaribe Chicadelcaribe 31-35, F 2 hrs ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 23 Responses May 6

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    The only reason I post this in here is

    because the level of support is high and i truly appreciate you. My stress level is at an all time high. I lost my godmother to Alzheimer's at the end of September. I will have a boss change soon, and it is hush hush from higher ups. An off site employee has had two nervous...
    intimateginger intimateginger 41-45, F 4 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    I am really looking forward to spending some

    quality time with him tomorrow. Time away from work is the best. The bad part is having to go back to work and reality. Our fun usually takes place toward the end of the day. Tomorrow I will have to walk back into the office and act like I didn't just have fun. This will be all...
    surfandturf surfandturf 36-40, F 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 19 Responses Sep 10

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 31-35, M 17 Responses Apr 19

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 36 Responses Sep 23

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 68 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    I finally the app for this!

    I'm excited I no longer have to log in every time I want to check it. It's going to take some time to get used to it though.
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 4 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 20 Responses Apr 18

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    Well he emailed me, which he never does,

    so I knew something was going on. His wife did find out and she's the one who wrote the text. He said he was trying to wait until he got to work to contact me and tell me what was going on. She took his phone but he said he's not going to let that happen again. He apologized for...
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 8 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 50 Responses Feb 16

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 45 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Well ladies, I'm having a great time playing

    with the haters and trolls tonight, but my honey is home from work. Time to curl up on the couch and watch some Monday night football...then take him to bed. Love you all, see you tomorrow. Same bat time, same bat channel. Oh and to smitten and shellwhatevergirl, see you two...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 3 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 15 Responses Jun 2

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 22 Responses Jul 30

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    Back in the States after 10 days in Japan with

    my son & his family!!! Amazing time but jet lag is going to suck! Lol. Spending 24 hours with my MM Thursday---God I've missed that man!!!!
    Newlife48 Newlife48 46-50, F 2 hrs ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 146 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    It really irritates me

    that the trolls automatically assume that the H/W is a pedestal worthy saint. Trust me, that is not always the case!
    aulaLaine aulaLaine 41-45, F 8 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    So.. It happened. He told his wife about me.

    He told her pretty graphic details I would guess because she was very specific in what she knew when she screamed at me.. I feel kind of broken right now.. He said he would come over when he could be he's trying to talk to her right now. She says she is taking the kids. I feel...
    megansunshine megansunshine 18-21, F 5 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    I just responded to a post on here

    which got me to thinking (yes, y'all are in trouble while I ramble). If you're not mature enough to handle being an OW, sugar don't go down that road. The statement was made that his OW called W and said they were getting married. Excuse me? She (the W) is not your...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 26 Responses Oct 8

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    To the people and trolls

    who are trying to save our souls.... Let me explain something: Our (OW) defenses go up when you use hated phrases like... Side Piece Having his cake and eating it too If he cheats with you, he'll cheat on you ...and so many more. Be original. All we need to do is read those...
    BlackHiHeels4Me BlackHiHeels4Me 36-40, F 44 Responses Jul 30

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 78 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    So he didn't tell the kids bc his daughter

    didn't come home until 730 Sunday and now we are waiting another week for the weekend. So now what do I do
    ap05 ap05 26-30, F 7 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    I know that he is hurting

    and mad that I ended it, and told him I would tell his wife if he contacted me again (not sure that I really would.. Just was the only thing I could think of that would get him to leave me alone). But now he is doing things to be purposely hurtful to me.. Changing his google...
    4kari 4kari 31-35, F 8 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Ladies I just wanted to take a moment

    and thank y'all for accepting me for who I am, even tho we live different life's. I've had the chance to talk with quite a few of you and made some knew friends that I gotta say are pretty darn awesome. And to those that have come to my defense against these God forsaken trolls...
    Ldylvlylcks2002 Ldylvlylcks2002 26-30, F 8 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Justification - the trolls write about it,

    we write about it. In the end there a million reasons either way. Is what we are doing right? For us? For our MM? Is what we are doing wrong? For whom? And who are they to judge? Nobody other than us know our entire story, no matter how much we type our experiences - nobody...
    kanga4 kanga4 36-40, F 15 Responses 11 hrs ago

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