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I Am The Other Woman

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    b4realz b4realz 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 16 Responses Mar 25

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    A poem for you guys :) They Went Home They

    went home and told their wives, that never once in all their lives, had they known a girl like me, But... They went home. They said my house was licking clean, no word I spoke was ever mean, I had an air of mystery, But... They went home. My praises were on all men's...
    tiki18 tiki18 13-15, F 4 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    I suggested we take a "pause" (great term btw.

    .. thanks to whomever put that in my head today... it was one of you) I am tired of feeling so distant. Detached. He's either gotten too comfortable or he's pulling back. He will say he's not pulling back. But that how I experience him lately.
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 4 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 36-40, F 1 Response 18 hrs ago

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    I'm sick and all I want is a hug

    and for him to ask me how I'm doing. Instead I'm laying in bed and he's sitting on the floor. Talk about distancing himself... he said when I'm sick I want distance. Yet I just begged you to come over. So now I'm sick and feel alone. I get that he's tired, he's been flying for...
    UnchartedHeart UnchartedHeart 22-25 3 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Dreamt about him today.

    He was trying to contact me. I was ignoring him. He asked why. I said because I loved him and trusted him and that he wasn't who I thought he was so I needed to stay away from him and let him go. I hate when I dream of him.
    Freedomnow01 Freedomnow01 31-35, F 1 day ago

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    OH. MY. GOD. It's final,

    he's single, and as of 9:37am today I am no longer the OW!!!
    Shardsofsorrow Shardsofsorrow 31-35, F 77 Responses Jul 29

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    You ladies really should check this website.

    I bet you're on it... Lmao shesahomewrecker.com
    DeIuxedEdition DeIuxedEdition 18-21, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 80 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 18 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 41-45, F 75 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    Sometimes I sit and wonder

    which direction my life will go... Will I stay married to my husband for the rest of my life?? If I do when and how will things end with my mm. Will I live my life with regrets? I know that when and if the time comes that my relationship ends with mm I will be devastated, part...
    Janna78 Janna78 46-50, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    Another member here actually brought up a good

    point in a response to one of my posts, leading to some questions. A relationship post affair- how can it change the nature of the bond you share? How can this relationship that was born in the shadows emerge successfully into the light? The new challenges that present...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 1 Response 17 hrs ago

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    Sorry for the multiple posts today.

    .. I'm feeling so incredibly alone. Daughter is back today... It's obvious she's in a rough spot of transition. She's barely talking to me... My anxiety is through the roof. MM isn't available. When I get in these spaces it's very dangerous cause I just shut down.
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 12 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 19 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 48 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 49 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    Yesterday, he introduced me to his work

    colleagues in this order - 'friend', good friend, sweetheart. Today met his older kid as his best friend. Today was a bad and good. Bad for other reasons and good because he sensed it, drove down and supported me like a best friend would. Touch wood.
    coolvolatile coolvolatile 31-35, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Looking back it is funny how easily I fell into

    the trap of becoming 'the other woman.' The first flash of distress - a wounded soul no less, and I dived into the murky water. He told me that I was his oxygen. I was a mermaid Saint Bernard with the reviving elixir strapped to my neck. Strangely, I found two unmarried men...
    Faerylight Faerylight 41-45, F 19 Responses Jun 21

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    peachy115 peachy115 51-55, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I cannot write too many details about my

    relationship here, as OM is on EP too, at ILIASM, he knows I'm over here at "I'm the OW" to keep myself sane! But I always was apprehensive about writing any identifying details of our "story" But WTH I am in the mood today! I am exhausted and drained! I did not write the...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 5 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    I've decided to give myself an uppercut ,

    pull myself together .as the OM , I have a similar feeling that many OW feel, obviously in reverse . So many write their own stories , their feelings, their woes . I want to be positive and constructive to all who really know me. I was told that I'm a very well organised man. I...
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Well the fun news. Background first.

    My guy is older. He was once a great athlete. He has been sitting on his but eating Cheetos for the last 20+ years. He met me. Found out I was a triathlete. He told me that to do one was a life long dream. I said, well do one. I'll help you. 9 months later he bought a bike. I...
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 16 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 19

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    Also this: Just in general

    as a woman, and not OW/MM specific. You're dating a guy. You have a kid. He has a kid. He has a female friend who's married who has a kid. They hang out once in a while to have the kids play. He's not attracted to her because well she's not his type. Do you accept the friendship...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 10 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    Yesterday I went with my angels (my nephews) to

    a sunflower maze farm. Most of the sunflowers were half dead and we noticed people had made smiley faces etc. into the faces of the dying sunflowers. So what do I do? I traced my initials and MMs initials into a sunflower when no one was looking lol While religious, I do...
    AvaLennon AvaLennon 31-35, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I love my guy. Yes, this is hard.

    True I don't know how it will play out, but he treats me well, and we fit.
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 3 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    Have any of yall experienced your MM being asked

    if he's 'happy' in his relationship? My best friend came down this weekend and she asked him quite a few questions, that being one of them. His answer wasn't quite what I expected. He answered her 'I mean I have a daughter, trying to buy a house, living at home, trying to get a...
    kc5316 kc5316 22-25, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    The hard times never seem to stop.

    Maybe the fates are keeping us apart? The last week I'll be at work he is going to be working nights to my days, and his w cancelled her trip next weekend so I don't even have that blissful time to look forward to anymore. She usually goes away twice in the fall but this year it...
    ElsieJay ElsieJay 41-45, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 48 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    earthlingcc11 earthlingcc11 26-30, F 47 mins ago

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    Frustrated because I can't tell

    if it's real Mad because I don't know how you feel Upset because we can't make it right Sad because I need you day and night Angry because you won't take my hand Aggravated because you don't understand Disappointed because we can't be together But still I'll love you forever
    Arubaskies Arubaskies 41-45, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 16 Responses Feb 6

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    I really just feel broken

    if he can get so. Mad at me for looking at a damn picture I'm sure my ex h has no idea I even saw it nor would he care... But my mm told me to let him know when I can stop living in the past.... So he's mad at me bc I told him.... Wtf why am I always wrong wtf is so wrong about...
    ap05 ap05 26-30, F 4 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 45 Responses Jan 10

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    Okay. I feel in my particular case,

    that I feel very frustrated because I'm married as well. I have been for a long time. My marriage is more like a friendship , with my wife most prob being my best friend . I love her as a friend . It's always been like that for me. There is no romance in my marriage . There hadn...
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 3 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 161 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 22 Responses Mar 22

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    Men are ********. I think I'm going about this

    OM thing the wrong way. Supposedly women have the upper hand. But I always seem to lose hand and end up having to dump them. I must be doing something wrong. Hmmm... Please share...
    untenable untenable 41-45, F 2 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 14 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    I'm having this affair with a married man.

    We don't see each other very often, only every two or three weeks. I saw him yesterday and everything was fine. We had a great time together. I always feel like the time we have is precious because like i said, it doesn't happen often. The problem I have now is that he invited...
    Kikaninchen Kikaninchen 26-30, F 4 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 42 Responses