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I Am The Other Woman

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    Sometimes I wonder if there is a

    such thing as a happily ever after. I am no longer the other woman, but sometimes I still feel like I am. Sometimes those old haunting questions still sneak into my consciousness. "If he would cheat on her, will he cheat on me?" Am I really lucky enough to be the **% that this...
    PearlRo27 PearlRo27 31-35, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    how many of you have had the MM stop

    communicating with no explanation? did you ever find out why? how long did it last/did it end? how long did it take you to "get over" it? It has been almost 3 weeks since I have heard from him- last i heard was a short email saying he was thinking of me, how could he not, and...
    hardtiming hardtiming 41-45 5 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Reading posts about others stories resonate

    with me and I'm glad I don't feel so alone. The support here is magnificent. I had an odd realization this morning. I might becoming to complacent with this current MM/OW relationship. I swore upon leaving my marriage that I would never be complacent again. I told him this...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 70 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 54 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 41 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    It's just me :-) Another day gone by

    that he hasn't contacted me. 3 weeks tomorrow. I can get through most days now. Try not to think of him as much. I do wonder how he is though and how his separation is affecting him. But, none of my business eh?
    Livealifeyoulove Livealifeyoulove 36-40, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 15 Responses May 4, 2014

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 11 Responses Feb 13, 2014

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    Hi, any books you can recommend about affairs

    and how to help with a brakeup? I need them thanks!
    liberty2014 liberty2014 36-40, F 8 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    Do you ever have anxiety

    so bad that it paralyzes you. ....After it's over. It's been over since November. Sometimes my thoughts get carried away and I can't breathe. Is this all there is? Lonely marriages and possibilities of affairs that cause so much stress and anxiety that it isn't worth it in the...
    Tapeti Tapeti 31-35, F 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    Just took my first pregnancy test

    since being i this whole thing.. It's negative. But I'm still late. Fml right now.
    Missmetomorrow Missmetomorrow 22-25, F 2 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    I know for some being the OW maybe very

    challenging and only you will know when its time to walk away or hold on and fight for the man you love. I just hope that all my ladies out here find out sooner than later if the MM is worth it or not. Today my co-worker broke down during our lunch break and decided to let...
    4everhislady 4everhislady 36-40, F 5 Responses 1 hr ago

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 50 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 16 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    So he ended it but what's the first thing I get

    when I come back to work today. I saw chocolates on my desk with a sticky note that says preciosa which is what he called me when we were seeing each other. And then as soon as I sign in to my computer I get an instant message from him saying "Good to see you're back"... He...
    sadpreciosa sadpreciosa 26-30, F 10 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 79 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 48 Responses Jan 10

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    Day 3 NC. I'm hurting.

    It's my idea. He says he's going to leave her, and that he will love me until the day he dies. But it hurts so much to not be his priority- even if it is due to circumstances. MM- I miss our good morning and good night texts. I miss your poetic way with words. I miss the...
    Journeys2013 Journeys2013 41-45, F 3 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Excited for tomorrow night!

    Our first night together being single yay :) I'm looking forward to seeing how it feels, like will he be more giving and touchy feely and will I feel less nervous to hold him because he's not someone else's? Not that I felt that before but it did hold me back a bit, letting...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 4 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    I feel like I'm the news source here in this

    group lol. Sometimes articles are just that interesting! http://m.theglobeandmail.com/life/relationships/a-realistic-look-at-monogamy/article23671828/?service=mobile&click=sf_globefb
    autumnsx autumnsx 18-21, F 15 hrs ago

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    Since it seems a lot of affair experiences tend

    to be clouded in doubt sometimes I thought it would be nice if we could post the things today that really make it worth the challenge. I will say that living with someone so completely different from me for so many years had taken a toll. My lover shares so many personal...
    joyfulcloudofsorrow joyfulcloudofsorrow 31-35, F 16 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 27 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Dear MM: Plaese text me I am dying to hear from

    you. Tell me all is good. Tell me you want to see me. Tell me we will see each other today and you are available. I am dying to see you. I am begging you, your silence is the worst poison I have ever tasted. You are the most delicious human being I have ever, ever tasted. I miss...
    liberty2014 liberty2014 36-40, F 8 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Women won't mess with a man

    that lives with his mom but will mess with a man who lives with his wife.
    reeessa reeessa 13-15, F 28 Responses Oct 23, 2014

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    you hurt me, made me feel worthless.

    i went numb,no tears were shed. all i want is to say hi to you...
    xalotlikex xalotlikex 22-25, F 2 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 31 Responses Sep 23, 2014

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 47 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    I've done a bad thing.

    Not affair related but you girls know me by now. I've screwed over my sister and she has found out. It's a money thing. I'm the worst person in the world and my husband (who I left in December) is taking the blame for me. I disgust myself. I feel the lowest ever right now. If I...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Feeling so happy right now.

    Not seen my MM for almost 2 weeks as I've been out of the country but I will do tomorrow. I so can't wait to see him and kiss him.i missed him so much,I know he missed me to as he reached out to me every day first whilst I was away. This relationships can be hard at times but...
    sooty1977 sooty1977 36-40, F 4 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 18 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    Coming here each day helps me In

    so many ways. So many stories I resonate with. Recently MM has pulled back emotionally and I know full well its because he was getting in too deep, it takes a lot of strength to carry on and let him do this. It's easy to advise others but actually doing it is difficult! During...
    MRGFF MRGFF 36-40, F 9 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 171 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    NO LONGER THE OTHER WOMAN!

    !! I am now the only woman :) it has been officially ended this morning, he was straight on the phone to me who was awesome at playing it cool despite up all night worrying! He was going to come over but we both decided against it as he needs time to recover maybe. He has gone...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 14 Responses Mar 21

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    Well officially 3 weeks

    since I've heard from him. I got good news in work today and it was something he knew I was waiting for. I so wanted to call or text him. But I didn't...... still hanging in there x
    Livealifeyoulove Livealifeyoulove 36-40, F 5 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 51 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    The love of my life returned last week from his

    trip. Long and painful trip for me. Part of me was happy he was back but another part of me was super down and actually upset. Maybe cause i knew deep inside me all that it happened and was just pissed off about it. Well, i wasnt wrong... He was super excited telling me all...
    Chicadelcaribe Chicadelcaribe 31-35, F 4 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 6

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 87 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    (See previous OW posts).

    .. I spent most of tonight over at the married couple's house. Tonight was a bit more adventurous...
    DesiredEmily DesiredEmily 22-25, F 5 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 88 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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