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I Am The Other Woman

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 72 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 26 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 153 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 48 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 18 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    So we won't be able to have the private time

    together we usually have on Fridays, so he is coming over to cook dinner for my daughter and I instead. And of course he is a great cook.
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 15 Responses May 4, 2014

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    I'm back after 10 wonderful days away with my

    MM. MM had a work conference out of town and it worked out so I was able to go with him. Being together for 10 days only strengthened our feelings for each other and being able to wake up together every morning made it so special. So I just wanted to let all my friends know...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 9 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    NC. Day 5 Cant sleep last night.

    .. Woke up with a heavy head and heavy heart.. Can this be any easier? Does mm comeback? Mine did the first time.. Now i think its for good. Still hoping but i know i shouldnt.
    Rogue9926 Rogue9926 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 52 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 89 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    Today was actually okay.

    Cried a bit about the job but he was there for me. He met me this morning and he made me feel calm. He said today that he's using counseling to process what he's got going on. We had good conversation today. He says he means what he says to me. I'm okay.
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 21 hrs ago

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    MM had msg me Friday afternoon saying "I'm just

    thinking about the crazy time we had together yesterday. I keep replaying it in my mind. I hope you are having a wonderful day." He msg this good morning today and he hopes I have a great day. I msg back " so you are replaying in your mind. What is your favourite memory from...
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 1 hr ago

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    Day 6 NC. Running errands

    and random thoughts of him...of us keep popping into my head. How you referred to my house as "home". Saying this is where he belongs. How he said we have to be together because no two people have ever been so in love. And yet he can't leave his W and I'm left alone and broken...
    heartbroken1234 heartbroken1234 36-40, F 5 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    We met this morning. Excellent.

    He's supportive. So caring of me. Soon. I feel it soon that he and I will be able to be together again full time... It's just a feeling. But intuition for the job thing wasn't wrong and that's what I'm going on. My heart. My intuition. I'm not mad it's Friday.
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 6

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 16 Responses 6 days ago

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    Dear ladies, For those of you trying to

    maintain NC, I feel for you. My heart breaks for those of you who are hurting. Although I am not in this situation right now, I did go through a period of NC with my MM. I found this gem on the ol' interweb and thought it was fantastic! Stick to No Contact If NC is a struggle...
    MadameMirage MadameMirage 36-40, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    His car broke down on Wednesday.

    It's actually pretty comical because he has a really nice car. Either way, for those of you who read my posts, you know he had a baby 5 weeks ago, and since then he's been distant and different. It's put me through hell, but we came to an understanding, and I have pushed forward...
    lit4love lit4love 26-30, F 5 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    I am not the OW, but I'm

    so proud of you ladies. You go through hell and back for these men. You love, comfort, support, and love these men. I do not know how you do it. I read your stories and I'm in awe....sheer breathtaking, gutwrenching, heartbreaking, overwhelming, love-infused awe of you all...
    soldiergirl2 soldiergirl2 41-45, F 11 Responses Apr 6

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 80 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    Ladies, I think I am over thinking things.

    For the most part my posts are positive because my relationship is very positive. Today we had another one of our amazing days of wonderful conversations. Even finished our day with a little visit before heading home. Now, for those who aren't familiar with our story, we...
    Randomgirl1122 Randomgirl1122 31-35, F 3 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    I've been used to only posting

    when I've felt really ******. I don't feel that way today. I feel...good. I think part of my issue is that I believe if I admit that I feel good with certain points of my life, then that means I've grown complacent & this affair is one thing I am not going to be okay with for...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 3 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    I'm not the other woman how ever I caught my ex

    girlfriend cheating. Anyways here Question have any of you that married or dating anyone accused anyone of cheating on you I mean your way of project guilt to throw the scent off of you like my ex.
    Raina79 Raina79 31-35, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    change. it seems to be what we all OW desire

    most. we all believe things will change, he'll leave her, "he'll settle down with me", he wont alwayd be hers and one day he'll be all to myself. we all know achieving this is almost impossible and the odds are so against us. but we stay. we love our MM. that seems crazy. doesnt...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 14 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 204 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 51 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    So this happy mistress is off on a girls

    weekend to majorca , love my freedom, love my life!!! has he been rather more communicative the last few days of course he has!!! Off to have fun/laugh/sun bathe/ drink prosecco and be grateful that not only am I alive and breathing, I'm alive and totally living ! Don't make...
    MRGFF MRGFF 36-40, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    hi ladies. This will be my last post

    and I have to leave. My husband (will be ex) has lost it. He's stalking me on any social media, he's threatening custody and. A number of crazy things Even if you don't think you will be caught. Prepare for being cAught. Store away money. Make copies of things. Just for safety...
    deleted deleted 26-30 14 Responses 1 day ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 41 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    NO LONGER THE OTHER WOMAN!

    !! I am now the only woman :) it has been officially ended this morning, he was straight on the phone to me who was awesome at playing it cool despite up all night worrying! He was going to come over but we both decided against it as he needs time to recover maybe. He has gone...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 14 Responses Mar 21

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    Had the thought today (not

    for the first time) that I don't want to be the OW. That I should be in a real relationship with someone who can give me all of himself. But the heart wants what it wants and I wouldn't even begin to know how to walk away.
    BrandedScarlet BrandedScarlet 36-40, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    we broke up march 13.

    don't even know how many weeks its been guess that's a good sign. I've talked to him everyday since. just joking yesterday and I told him I was just using him for sex. he replied not anymore. I said well for now. we could just have sex once in awhile just to keep us both honest...
    libby59 libby59 46-50 2 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 28 Responses May 6, 2014

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    Mm said "we are so good together--I'm crazy

    about you". My day is made:)
    ladylove0113 ladylove0113 36-40, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Update.... And just like that,

    we are back to good. That's not to say we were in a bad spot. We just hit a bump in the road. I got my 5:45 am wake up text. We talked it over before and after the Saturday Morning run and It all boiled down to he had a bad day, and he wasn't prepared to have an emotionally...
    Randomgirl1122 Randomgirl1122 31-35, F 11 hrs ago

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    MM is out of town on business

    and I always feel like a insecure child when he's gone. His texts and calls are sporadic and short. In my rational brain I know he's busy and entertaining clients. But there's that little part of me that always thinks "Why doesn't he need me as much as I need him?"
    BrandedScarlet BrandedScarlet 36-40, F 3 hrs ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 152 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    Getting random sweet texts out of the blue.

    Songs of the heart and I love you's.. One thing that made us closer; the conversations smoother, is that we share and sing songs to each other. It's like 90% of our phone calls we've sang to each other. Honestly, it's mostly him singing, although, I love to sing too! It's just...
    isch71 isch71 26-30, F 9 hrs ago

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    We met this morning. It was nice.

    I'm kinda bummed he flaked on our plans for later today. Next week he's starting his new department and I think it's going to be really hard to see each other now. I don't want to say good bye. I feel like it's going to fizzle out.
    OneStonedGirl OneStonedGirl 31-35, F 1 Response 9 hrs ago

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    so today was an ok day.

    .since he stopped instant chatting I barely look at my phone or charge it and as it may last nyt he sent me an instant msg but my phone was off so then smsed me saying my data is off...all of which I read this morning. ...well today he massaged me and I kissed him...but it was...
    ANGELKZ ANGELKZ 26-30, F 1 day ago

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