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I Am The Other Woman

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    wordweapon wordweapon 41-45, F 1 day ago

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    mySweetestMistake mySweetestMistake 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Ok so over the last few days I have been

    involved in an unhealthy exchange with another member here. I got my back up because of some of her posts and the insensitivity that seemed to be contained in them. I wanted to call her out and challenge her behavior but it has gone too far. She is over stressed about all of...
    Freedomnow01 Freedomnow01 31-35, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 53 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 19 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    This is truly what I want one day.

    What I need. I sent it to MM as well. He agreed that it is the hardest part of our relationship, but frankly it is also what will kill it because one can't be in the shadows forever. Hugs my friends. Just thought it was beautiful
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 6 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    Met MM at lunchtime today.

    What a difference it was from the last two times we me. When we met after his family vacation, my wall was a bit up. Then we met for "the talk". Both times there was some stress in the air. Today when we met, we both just couldn't stop smiling. And I forgot how much I missed his...
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 1 day ago

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 16 Responses Feb 6

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 80 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    (Ex)MM texted me tonight to ask

    if it was okay to call me. I was surprised that seeing his name on my phone screen didn't cause my heart to skip a beat quite like it always has. It's been an emotional week and I've been missing him terribly, so it was reassuring to discover that missing him doesn't mean I'm...
    ashadams244 ashadams244 26-30, F 3 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    My friend asked me about ex MM today.

    She wondered if he's tried to contact me. The first thing out of my mouth was 'nope and I don't want him to'!! I really truly meant it.
    Freedomnow01 Freedomnow01 31-35, F 1 Response 9 hrs ago

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 16 Responses Mar 25

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    I'm done with men. MM is being

    so strange. Can't stand my exH. I don't want to talk or interact with either of them at all. I'm done.
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 hr ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 14 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    Good Morning ladies don't have answer

    if you don't want to. How old we're you when you turned in your V Card?
    LadyScorpio95 LadyScorpio95 18-21, F 15 Responses 1 day ago

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    Miss him like crazy tonight.

    I haven't felt this kind of a painful, sad yearning for him for years... this is how I used to feel quite often way back when, before we were even together and I was falling in love from afar. I had almost forgotten how painful this feeling can be. We just texted our good...
    ladyquaintrelle ladyquaintrelle 22-25, F 8 Responses 1 day ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 161 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    Well, I talked to my MM about our relationship

    and I told him that if he didn't make more of an effort to see me I was out of this relationship. Well he took it as a breakup and he went into a depression posting all kinds of sad things. We still texted and he seemed so so sad. Then he tells me that he was going to kill...
    4bdnluv 4bdnluv 31-35, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    OH. MY. GOD. It's final,

    he's single, and as of 9:37am today I am no longer the OW!!!
    Shardsofsorrow Shardsofsorrow 31-35, F 77 Responses Jul 29

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    I cant do this anymore,

    its too hard and hurts too much. How can one man cause so much pain and so much self loathing! I hate him for the way he's making me feel but I miss him. I cant stop the tears today, I just want it all to just go away.
    Prettybutterfly88 Prettybutterfly88 26-30, F 6 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    What a day mm and I both still have our jobs

    and are thankful.... All together 8 managers fired about 25-30 reps gone.... It was really scary today I've never seen anything like this before... When he and I went to lunch it was like u could cut the tension with a knife everyone was on edge.... He was afraid for his job and...
    ap05 ap05 26-30, F 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    After silence of 2 years.

    His wife,called me yesterday. She was upset cause he is having an affair. I was put through hell by his,wife. My current lover isn't happy,about her calling. I thought I was over him. All her calling did was make wonder .Why I can't forget him? I been in faithful relationship...
    butterflylady21 butterflylady21 46-50, F 10 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    b4realz b4realz 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 41-45, F 75 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    NO LONGER THE OTHER WOMAN!

    !! I am now the only woman :) it has been officially ended this morning, he was straight on the phone to me who was awesome at playing it cool despite up all night worrying! He was going to come over but we both decided against it as he needs time to recover maybe. He has gone...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 12 Responses Mar 21

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    So I have been the other woman now

    for 5 months. I am also in a LTR for over 10 years with kids. Not completely sure what the hell I'm doing. I have met someone that fulfills so many things I'm missing or that I never knew I could feel that way again. I went and met him today. It was amazing to get to see him...
    Sunkitten Sunkitten 31-35, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Women don't waste your time on married men .

    I got involved with one and my heart is bleeding now . He told me that he was going to leave her , to my surprise Is it was all a lie . I got so fed up and messaged his wife. I hope she forgives him , but I will never forgive him for what he did to me . He blamed it all on me...
    liveforever1 liveforever1 22-25, F 8 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Tmro marks one week of nc.

    ...why am i not feeling stronger???? He is on his holidays with his wife and family and here i am STILL stuck in this pain.... I cant help but wonder do i ever cross his mind...i have thought a million things this past week,today i feel like such a fool and an idiot....i am so...
    Jellytots2412 Jellytots2412 36-40, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 19

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    So when I express annoyance at many different

    things going on right now, MMs communication included, and he says, "you're not annoyed, you're needy." And I say "okay I'll work on that too." Realizing I was quick to the jump to say that, and starting to say something else to gain clarity and MM says- "nope never mind- you...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 11 Responses 1 day ago

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 18 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    I don't come on this forum to argue with women

    on here, let alone this site. We are here to share our experiences with each other, relate to them, give and get advice, and to get support. Because most of us women don't really have anyone to talk to regarding this situation. So, it really bothers me that women on this to...
    newgurlxo newgurlxo 18-21, F 5 hrs ago

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    For those of us who just ended things,

    or are hanging by a thread, the positive side of this freedom... No more watching them text back and forth like tweeners on our dates. No more lonely Sundays, feeling sad that it's an NC day. No more laying in bed every night wondering what they're doing in bed together. No...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 20 Responses Jul 12

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    They aren't even together

    and I'm still the other woman! It's so stupid that I still have to feel like a secret...
    Kiaersanne Kiaersanne 18-21, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Well it's official...

    I accepted the job. Too decent to refuse and it makes so much more sense for single me and my kids. . . . I am devestated.
    ElsieJay ElsieJay 41-45, F 2 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    ap05 ap05 26-30, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 48 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 95 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    I deleted my account

    and started over. So let me retype my story. Some of you already know me- from all the advice and words of encouragement that I constantly dispense, but I guess I should post a story for any of my reader fans to refer to. Why the heck am I giving advice? Here's why... I am not...
    tinyivory tinyivory 36-40, F 4 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    he thinks its okay to just talk.

    remain friends. says he understands why I left. needs me in his life... not sure this is a good thing. thankfully he leaves soon for school. 8 weeks of no potential suprise visits. I don't want to have to block him...seems so juvenile. it makes me feel weak, confused and...
    infinitymdc79 infinitymdc79 36-40, F 1 Response 5 hrs ago

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    My feelings toward (ex)MM have been all over

    the place lately. I found a piece of plastic that had chipped off his cell phone case, and I lost it. It was the dumbest thing to get sappy over, but it took me back to the night it happened, a night not all that long ago when I was still foolishly swooning over this man. It...
    ashadams244 ashadams244 26-30, F 10 Responses 1 day ago

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    So off topic... Yest at my work they fired 3

    managers and supposedly they are going to fire the reps today.... A bit nerve raking going into work AND on top of that I have an interview today too.... I cried a little when one of the managers left bc I really really liked him and enjoyed him. Just a down to earth really...
    ap05 ap05 26-30, F 2 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 170 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 45 Responses