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I Am The Other Woman

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 14,551 People

    Wow I just keep learning new things!

    !! As I said last night MM called me on his way back to his house. He then went and promptly was kicked out again. He's back at his moms. He told me his wife is not going to change her mind and they will be getting divorced and he will be representing himself. Yeah because...
    AvaLennon1 AvaLennon1 31-35, F 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 33 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 19 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    I believe at this point I am my own worst enemy.

    I need a mental sabatical. I seriously loath this sort of disgruntled me. I still can't seem to maintain the positive. I pick, peck and poke things until they are bloody and near death. Then comes the guilt and horror of damage done. I start treating and nurturing the wounds...
    infinitymdc79 infinitymdc79 36-40, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Oh, the roller-coaster.

    He has to go meet her tonight...she offered to help him with payroll. I was with him and I said "Im afraid you'll get back together" to which he didn't reply. I pressed and he said "I think that's what she's thinking, she told me she loved me the other day." I didn't ask if he...
    underpressure85 underpressure85 26-30, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Happy today. It's Friday.

    He has been talking about just us in the future lately. And then we get one of our Fridays together today. A long lunch at my house together, than swimming laps after work. We will get some time on Sunday as well, which will be nice. happy Friday everyone
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I met a SG. A good one.

    First date at a coffee shop yesterday lasted for six hours. Just talking. And an amazing kiss afterward. Then we texted until bed. He is beautiful and sweet and smart and athletic. And he digs me a whole bunch. Best of all, he has been divorced for nearly 20 years. He was so...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 26 Responses Jan 11

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    OH. MY. GOD. It's final,

    he's single, and as of 9:37am today I am no longer the OW!!!
    Shardsofsorrow Shardsofsorrow 31-35, F 66 Responses Jul 29, 2015

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 29 Responses May 6, 2014

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    Vodka hidden in lemonade.

    I'm killing the pain and still functioning. After confronting him, he said he walked out on two marriages before, including kids. He cannot do it to this daughter. It is amazing how I cannot get through his head that the children he left behind was due to his walking away from...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 4 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    Since I am getting the run-around trying to

    appeal my flagged post I am going to try and repost with certain words edited for a more inoffensive read.... I am finding it difficult to justify going out for coffee with my mm to my eldest daughter and I am not sure how to deal with it. She will be 17 in April and is really...
    ElsieJay ElsieJay 41-45, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    Ho hum just another day of posting subtle

    profile status updates to the wife and her to me. We'll never block each other. Honestly I'm kind of flattered she sees me as a threat. She's going on and on about how you can't fix ugly. And my response was Miranda Lambert's song lyrics "I'm just like you only prettier...
    AvaLennon1 AvaLennon1 31-35, F 1 day ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    b4realz b4realz 26-30, F 150 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    If you told your man

    that you want out? Will he let you go ?Or will he try to make you stay ?
    peachy115 peachy115 51-55, F 14 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 19 Responses Mar 22, 2015

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    Happy friday!! feeling a little blah.

    Looking for a little silly, light hearted and/ or funny stories! 1. something he does for you often to show he cares. 2. a funny story or experience 3. one thing you think is perfect about him. 4. one pet peeve or something that he does that make you less then thrilled. :)
    infinitymdc79 infinitymdc79 36-40, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 15 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    inexperiencedbloke inexperiencedbloke 31-35, M 3 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 17 Responses Mar 25, 2015

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    Got my early Friday today :) His son was

    finishing up a woodworking project, and he sent his dad a picture before he left here to pick him up. It is a beautiful cabinet. The boy has some skills. Not that I am surprised.. I know where he gets them from. His dad made me a small stand for my Mastiff's food dishes after...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    Is she still my gf? Is she my ex?

    ? Are we "just friends"??? I surely don't know, and she doesn't know either! I love her, she loves me, I know she loves me, she knows I love her, and my wife knows all about it. My wife knows all about us, and she doesn't like it one single bit, but -- by the same token -- she...
    BinaryBill BinaryBill 61-65, M 1 Response 49 mins ago

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    I had to tell him we need to calm down.

    For the past couple weeks we have met every single day except for one that I was out of town with my husband and that killed him, not that I was with my husband but that I said we would have to wait until next day, he kept texting to see if I could meet him when I got back. I...
    SweetSunnyRiley SweetSunnyRiley 22-25, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 41-45, F 73 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    After 2 years, he continues to surprise me

    and make me smile. We had a wonderful Friday. He just called as he had a moment outside alone. (His mother-in-law is in town). He sent me sweet text all evening last night. Tomorrow we will snuggle and watch a movie together.
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 5 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 44 Responses Jan 10, 2015

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 53 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    UGH!! Four months of waiting

    and now we BOTH get sick - fever, chills, runny stuffy nose... And worse, this is his birthday weekend. Does anyone have any ideas what I can do for him for his birthday when I am 2 hours away? I want to show him I care! Also... Still don't know if his wife is going to visit...
    PressPToPlay PressPToPlay 46-50, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Why do I keep thinking

    that my gf is *finally* out of the picture? She texted me last night at 10:30 (I was already in my PJ's). Said she happened to be "in the area" and would I like to hang out and have a smoke? Why would she "happen" to be near my house late at night? She lives 45 minutes away...
    BinaryBill BinaryBill 61-65, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    A How To List

    Hello to everyone especially those drawn here by the Facebook postings. For the record, I am not "Keeping it real in Kendall". Since most of you are brand new to EP let me be the first to welcome you! Please take a moment to read the Terms of Service before commenting. This is a...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 100 Responses Aug 25, 2013

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 167 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    Looking back it is funny how easily I fell into

    the trap of becoming 'the other woman.' The first flash of distress - a wounded soul no less, and I dived into the murky water. He told me that I was his oxygen. I was a mermaid Saint Bernard with the reviving elixir strapped to my neck. Strangely, I found two unmarried men...
    Faerylight Faerylight 41-45, F 19 Responses Jun 21, 2015

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    deleted deleted 26-30 17 Responses Feb 6, 2015

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    I didn't think it was possible to fall

    even more in love with him that what I already was. We are enjoying being with each other so much on this trip. He is busy in meetings all day and most of the evening, but pops in to our room at least once every hour to give me a kiss and cuddle. Each time he enters the room...
    Mikun15 Mikun15 26-30, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    Here it is ladies!!! Full on Dday As I've

    said MM was going to sex addiction therapy. Today I was at my chiropractor appointment and I could hear my phone start blowing up. When I got in the car there were missed calls from him and texts from his wife on his number. I called him back and he said we can no longer...
    AvaLennon1 AvaLennon1 31-35, F 7 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 24 Responses Apr 30, 2015

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 47 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 19, 2015

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    Just before saying goodnight last night.

    . MM: I miss you... I wanna curl up..that feels so good. Me: It sure does :) Today it was extra good. MM: It was, pure intimacy, so close, omg, I still go wow (kiss emoji) Me: Yup me too. MM: I love that feeling, it is like floating ... :) Me; It is (kiss emoji) No...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 1 day ago

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    I screwed up by letting him back in,

    I did ok last weekend without him. Realised I can live without him but stupid me had to give it one last shot! Things have been testy all week and now I'm back to ignoring him, after more cancelled plans. But he got what he wanted on Monday so thats ok with him I guess. And I...
    Prettybutterfly88 Prettybutterfly88 26-30, F 9 Responses 1 day ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 205 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    Honestly I'd beat the life out of ANY b!

    tch who tries to ruin my family and my marriage. There's enough men out there, there's no need for sharing ladies.
    Cleopatra05 Cleopatra05 18-21, F 28 Responses Dec 28, 2015

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    Well that went more south.

    .. He called me to tell me that he's sorry for what happened and that he and I can no longer talk at all forever. Then I was acting mad and snippy and he didn't understand why I was. Huh? He's on his way home because apparently their kid was freaking out that he wasn't there...
    AvaLennon1 AvaLennon1 31-35, F 4 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    Well the good news is he's been really sweet

    and loving and attentive towards me. There has been some major medical issues with me.... Was in the er all day Wed. My BP was 149/100 and I had CT head and chest scan and ecg and blood work and urine and cheek swab and they can't figure out why. My BP yest was 165/105 and the...
    ap05 ap05 26-30, F 5 Responses 19 hrs ago

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