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I Am The Other Woman

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 171 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 70 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    shitbyrd shitbyrd 36-40, F 1 Response 12 hrs ago

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    I feel like I'm the news source here in this

    group lol. Sometimes articles are just that interesting! http://m.theglobeandmail.com/life/relationships/a-realistic-look-at-monogamy/article23671828/?service=mobile&click=sf_globefb
    autumnsx autumnsx 18-21, F 9 hrs ago

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    If someone who knows they have a deep emotional

    and physical connection and obsesses over you, why wouldn't they make an effort to change their lives to make room for the kind of happiness that you could offer each other? I understand hurting others is sometimes involved which is terrible! But wouldn't it be more fair to...
    joyfulcloudofsorrow joyfulcloudofsorrow 31-35, F 8 Responses 1 day ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 16 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 51 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    Coming here each day helps me In

    so many ways. So many stories I resonate with. Recently MM has pulled back emotionally and I know full well its because he was getting in too deep, it takes a lot of strength to carry on and let him do this. It's easy to advise others but actually doing it is difficult! During...
    MRGFF MRGFF 36-40, F 9 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    I don't know how I feel anymore

    or how he feels it's been going on for so long now we've seem each other at least once a month since we met-maybe it's because I expert to see him again I dunno-but I'm just numb-starting our 4th year and beyond being addicted I'm just wondering if I'm worn out. I have my heart...
    Readytomoveon2015 Readytomoveon2015 31-35, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 79 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 154 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    So, today he invited himself over again.

    I'm not strong enough to leave him knocking on my door... I forced an argument that began as a discussion... It then spiralled into a full blown row about how unhappy I am, how I can't do this, how I love him more than anything but he can't expect me to do this. The argument...
    DesperatelyDollie DesperatelyDollie 22-25, F 7 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    Day 3 NC. I'm hurting.

    It's my idea. He says he's going to leave her, and that he will love me until the day he dies. But it hurts so much to not be his priority- even if it is due to circumstances. MM- I miss our good morning and good night texts. I miss your poetic way with words. I miss the...
    Journeys2013 Journeys2013 41-45, F 2 Responses 1 hr ago

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 27 Responses Mar 22

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    I've done a bad thing.

    Not affair related but you girls know me by now. I've screwed over my sister and she has found out. It's a money thing. I'm the worst person in the world and my husband (who I left in December) is taking the blame for me. I disgust myself. I feel the lowest ever right now. If I...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 4 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    Just had an hour long video chat.

    Im totally confused. But at least I am positioned perfectly for some good, honest, clear communication soon.
    blue963 blue963 51-55, F 1 Response 12 hrs ago

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 19 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    Feeling so happy right now.

    Not seen my MM for almost 2 weeks as I've been out of the country but I will do tomorrow. I so can't wait to see him and kiss him.i missed him so much,I know he missed me to as he reached out to me every day first whilst I was away. This relationships can be hard at times but...
    sooty1977 sooty1977 36-40, F 4 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    So he ended it but what's the first thing I get

    when I come back to work today. I saw chocolates on my desk with a sticky note that says preciosa which is what he called me when we were seeing each other. And then as soon as I sign in to my computer I get an instant message from him saying "Good to see you're back"... He...
    sadpreciosa sadpreciosa 26-30, F 10 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    I feel like it's been ages

    since I've had anything to say. My birthday came and went and he was so sweet! Surprised me in the morning before work with kisses and flowers :) and we had an overnight a few days ago. I'm back at work, which means back to trying to sneak around. Although, it seems to be people...
    lostanddistraught lostanddistraught 26-30, F 1 day ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 54 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    you hurt me, made me feel worthless.

    i went numb,no tears were shed. all i want is to say hi to you...
    xalotlikex xalotlikex 22-25, F 27 mins ago

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    It's just me :-) Another day gone by

    that he hasn't contacted me. 3 weeks tomorrow. I can get through most days now. Try not to think of him as much. I do wonder how he is though and how his separation is affecting him. But, none of my business eh?
    Livealifeyoulove Livealifeyoulove 36-40, F 5 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    (See previous OW posts).

    .. I spent most of tonight over at the married couple's house. Tonight was a bit more adventurous...
    DesiredEmily DesiredEmily 22-25, F 4 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 48 Responses Jan 10

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    The Clarity From Relationship Uncertainty.

    ... I read something from another OW's post that started me off on an introspective journey ... To paraphrase her " If i do not hear how much MM cannot live without me and longs to make me his, the rest of what he says fades in to idle chatter " Ping ! i got her ...I have...
    warriormama warriormama 41-45, F 9 Responses 1 day ago

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    Since it seems a lot of affair experiences tend

    to be clouded in doubt sometimes I thought it would be nice if we could post the things today that really make it worth the challenge. I will say that living with someone so completely different from me for so many years had taken a toll. My lover shares so many personal...
    joyfulcloudofsorrow joyfulcloudofsorrow 31-35, F 15 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    Well it didn't go as terrible

    as I thought it was going to go today, or be. We started off on our usual morning conversation via text. He said he was excited to talk to me which blew me away because we ended so ugly last night. The phone call went well. When I asked him on the phone why he was excited to...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 5 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    NO LONGER THE OTHER WOMAN!

    !! I am now the only woman :) it has been officially ended this morning, he was straight on the phone to me who was awesome at playing it cool despite up all night worrying! He was going to come over but we both decided against it as he needs time to recover maybe. He has gone...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 14 Responses Mar 21

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 31 Responses Sep 23, 2014

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    Its been a while since i have posted.

    ...its been a crazy time,we went three months without seeing eachother,the longest we managed with no contact was 2 weeks over xmas holidays and it was hell... When we finally did agree to have a coffee at my house it was one of the most emotional things ive ever been through...
    Jellytots2412 Jellytots2412 36-40, F 2 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 15 Responses May 4, 2014

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 6

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 88 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    This song.... https://m.

    youtube.com/watch?v=KeUJTwRpjMY
    PearlRo27 PearlRo27 31-35, F 1 hr ago

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    If you could ask your MM one question about

    your affair, what would it be ?
    Blueeyes65 Blueeyes65 46-50, F 17 Responses 1 day ago

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    Sometimes I wonder if there is a

    such thing as a happily ever after. I am no longer the other woman, but sometimes I still feel like I am. Sometimes those old haunting questions still sneak into my consciousness. "If he would cheat on her, will he cheat on me?" Am I really lucky enough to be the **% that this...
    PearlRo27 PearlRo27 31-35, F 4 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    Mammogram this morning.

    Once a year if you like it or not. Thing is it's on my mind that I am the exact age my Mother was when she found her breast cancer. But I'm thinking good thoughts.
    whynot13 whynot13 46-50, F 9 Responses 1 day ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 28 Responses May 6, 2014

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    (This is long – but please read through all

    of it , if you have the time) The last two or three weeks I have felt like MM and I are just stuck. Our relationship was growing more than ever up until about three weeks ago, and now we‘re just stuck. It started in the middle of a wonderful time for us, with problems I won...
    ladyquaintrelle ladyquaintrelle 22-25, F 7 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 11 Responses Feb 13, 2014

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