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I Am The Other Woman

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 14,547 People

    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 41-45, F 73 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    I had to tell him we need to calm down.

    For the past couple weeks we have met every single day except for one that I was out of town with my husband and that killed him, not that I was with my husband but that I said we would have to wait until next day, he kept texting to see if I could meet him when I got back. I...
    SweetSunnyRiley SweetSunnyRiley 22-25, F 3 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    The other woman isn't always a home-wrecker.

    Sometimes she's a home-mender. I had been faithful to my dear husband for over 20 years. For many years I thought there was something wrong with me. Maybe I wasn't sexy. Why didn't he want me the way I wanted him? I grew to understand that we just had very different desire...
    livingasme livingasme 51-55, F 17 Responses May 15, 2015

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 17 Responses Mar 25, 2015

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    A How To List

    Hello to everyone especially those drawn here by the Facebook postings. For the record, I am not "Keeping it real in Kendall". Since most of you are brand new to EP let me be the first to welcome you! Please take a moment to read the Terms of Service before commenting. This is a...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 100 Responses Aug 25, 2013

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    If you told your man

    that you want out? Will he let you go ?Or will he try to make you stay ?
    peachy115 peachy115 51-55, F 10 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    Happy friday!! feeling a little blah.

    Looking for a little silly, light hearted and/ or funny stories! 1. something he does for you often to show he cares. 2. a funny story or experience 3. one thing you think is perfect about him. 4. one pet peeve or something that he does that make you less then thrilled. :)
    infinitymdc79 infinitymdc79 36-40, F 5 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    I had a fabulous time with mm this evening.

    And it's left me wondering... I was thinking on my drive home. My husband and I never had this kind of passion. My mm has told me how beautiful I am more in one week than my husband has in 30 years. I guess my husband and I have just never had the kind of connection that I...
    Janna78 Janna78 46-50, F 10 Responses 2 days ago

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    OH. MY. GOD. It's final,

    he's single, and as of 9:37am today I am no longer the OW!!!
    Shardsofsorrow Shardsofsorrow 31-35, F 66 Responses Jul 29, 2015

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    Why do I keep thinking

    that my gf is *finally* out of the picture? She texted me last night at 10:30 (I was already in my PJ's). Said she happened to be "in the area" and would I like to hang out and have a smoke? Why would she "happen" to be near my house late at night? She lives 45 minutes away...
    BinaryBill BinaryBill 61-65, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 33 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 19 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 51-55, F 169 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 44 Responses Jan 10, 2015

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    I screwed up by letting him back in,

    I did ok last weekend without him. Realised I can live without him but stupid me had to give it one last shot! Things have been testy all week and now I'm back to ignoring him, after more cancelled plans. But he got what he wanted on Monday so thats ok with him I guess. And I...
    Prettybutterfly88 Prettybutterfly88 26-30, F 9 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 42 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Here it is ladies!!! Full on Dday As I've

    said MM was going to sex addiction therapy. Today I was at my chiropractor appointment and I could hear my phone start blowing up. When I got in the car there were missed calls from him and texts from his wife on his number. I called him back and he said we can no longer...
    AvaLennon1 AvaLennon1 31-35, F 5 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    He's been talking about his separation

    for a while now. He specifically mentioned - no divorce, only separation. Now, I find out he's gunning for divorce. It's all locked and loaded. I am speechless. And more scared than elated. Trolls stay out of this.
    coolvolatile coolvolatile 31-35, F 6 Responses 2 days ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    It has been 28 yrs since I first walked into

    his house almost to the minute right now. This afternoon we talked about it and how it's been 15 yrs since I came back. He said, "I wish you hadn't. Because you could've found someone else and had help with the boys. I feel guilty even if you don't believe me." I told him that...
    independentandstubborn independentandstubborn 51-55, F 1 hr ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 47 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 167 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    Last night in the middle of ma.

    ... Love I took mm's face in my hands we were looking into each other's eyes and I told him "I love you." I've come a long way this past year. He use to tell me and I struggled to tell him back. I know my trouble expressing my feelings bothered him. A minute later he asked me...
    Janna78 Janna78 46-50, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 47 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    In her post, Janna talked about the type of

    marriages we have been in. Some started out with passion and fizzled, while others, like mine, were sexless at the outset. . I posted the story below a week ago in the, "I Live in a Sexless Marriage," forum. Mostly because I had a lightbulb moment when my MM gifted me with...
    TrulyMadlyDeeply38 TrulyMadlyDeeply38 41-45, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    Just before saying goodnight last night.

    . MM: I miss you... I wanna curl up..that feels so good. Me: It sure does :) Today it was extra good. MM: It was, pure intimacy, so close, omg, I still go wow (kiss emoji) Me: Yup me too. MM: I love that feeling, it is like floating ... :) Me; It is (kiss emoji) No...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 16 hrs ago

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    Honestly I'd beat the life out of ANY b!

    tch who tries to ruin my family and my marriage. There's enough men out there, there's no need for sharing ladies.
    Cleopatra05 Cleopatra05 18-21, F 28 Responses Dec 28, 2015

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    b4realz b4realz 26-30, F 150 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    Looking back it is funny how easily I fell into

    the trap of becoming 'the other woman.' The first flash of distress - a wounded soul no less, and I dived into the murky water. He told me that I was his oxygen. I was a mermaid Saint Bernard with the reviving elixir strapped to my neck. Strangely, I found two unmarried men...
    Faerylight Faerylight 41-45, F 19 Responses Jun 21, 2015

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 77 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 205 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    I didn't think it was possible to fall

    even more in love with him that what I already was. We are enjoying being with each other so much on this trip. He is busy in meetings all day and most of the evening, but pops in to our room at least once every hour to give me a kiss and cuddle. Each time he enters the room...
    Mikun15 Mikun15 26-30, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 19, 2015

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    'Sometimes you've got to be able to listen to

    yourself and be okay with no one else understanding' A lot of people don't seem to understand women (or men) who become the OW (or OM) but that's the joy of living a life you've chosen for yourself, right? Not caring about what makes other people happy; rather, focusing on what...
    kc5316 kc5316 22-25, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Big contrast of my day.

    I met my lover for "lunch" that was both nurturing and passionate. Then tonight my husband managed to insult me in front of another dad we both know at our son's sport party. And we heading back to see our therapist. Btw this won't help me...just helping him to see my...
    ReflectedSoul ReflectedSoul 41-45, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    Ho hum just another day of posting subtle

    profile status updates to the wife and her to me. We'll never block each other. Honestly I'm kind of flattered she sees me as a threat. She's going on and on about how you can't fix ugly. And my response was Miranda Lambert's song lyrics "I'm just like you only prettier...
    AvaLennon1 AvaLennon1 31-35, F 1 day ago

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    Well the good news is he's been really sweet

    and loving and attentive towards me. There has been some major medical issues with me.... Was in the er all day Wed. My BP was 149/100 and I had CT head and chest scan and ecg and blood work and urine and cheek swab and they can't figure out why. My BP yest was 165/105 and the...
    ap05 ap05 26-30, F 4 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    I met a SG. A good one.

    First date at a coffee shop yesterday lasted for six hours. Just talking. And an amazing kiss afterward. Then we texted until bed. He is beautiful and sweet and smart and athletic. And he digs me a whole bunch. Best of all, he has been divorced for nearly 20 years. He was so...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 26 Responses Jan 11

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 29 Responses May 6, 2014

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    Since I am getting the run-around trying to

    appeal my flagged post I am going to try and repost with certain words edited for a more inoffensive read.... I am finding it difficult to justify going out for coffee with my mm to my eldest daughter and I am not sure how to deal with it. She will be 17 in April and is really...
    ElsieJay ElsieJay 41-45, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 24 Responses Apr 30, 2015

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    Well that went more south.

    .. He called me to tell me that he's sorry for what happened and that he and I can no longer talk at all forever. Then I was acting mad and snippy and he didn't understand why I was. Huh? He's on his way home because apparently their kid was freaking out that he wasn't there...
    AvaLennon1 AvaLennon1 31-35, F 4 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Oh, the roller-coaster.

    He has to go meet her tonight...she offered to help him with payroll. I was with him and I said "Im afraid you'll get back together" to which he didn't reply. I pressed and he said "I think that's what she's thinking, she told me she loved me the other day." I didn't ask if he...
    underpressure85 underpressure85 26-30, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    UGH!! Four months of waiting

    and now we BOTH get sick - fever, chills, runny stuffy nose... And worse, this is his birthday weekend. Does anyone have any ideas what I can do for him for his birthday when I am 2 hours away? I want to show him I care! Also... Still don't know if his wife is going to visit...
    PressPToPlay PressPToPlay 46-50, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 15 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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