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I Am The Other Woman

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 27 Responses May 6, 2014

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    I fell down a well this morning of reading

    articles about infidelity, partly because I think I'm an emotional masochist and partly because I need it reinforced that he's never leaving and he's never coming back. They all, unequivocally, said 99% of married people don't leave and they lie to you just as much, if not more...
    inaraserra inaraserra 31-35, F 11 Responses 1 day ago

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    I know he and I will take time to be able to be

    out in the open. He's fully using the word separated now. I have plans with friends today, and for that I am thankful; estranged W is with MM and his family today for 4th of July. He told me, "so I wouldn't be angry." I get it. It's like the times I go to dinner with my exH with...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 3 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    I remember being 14 years old,

    hearing about those "nasty" women who homewreck married relationships- thinking, "ugh! How disgusting! Don't they have feelings or emotions? How heartless" I never knew that they were just normal women. Or, even better, I didn't know I'm going to become one of those women I...
    RedShootingStar RedShootingStar 18-21, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    I don't even know where to begin,

    my husband and I are married 2 yrs - have a 1yo son. My husband asked for an open relationship. I have started "seeing" R, my married best friend for years and years. Knew I loved him but only since I have let these feelings out did I realise how much. His wife has given...
    iamnooneyouknow iamnooneyouknow 31-35, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 50 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 17 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    Still sitting in my pajamas wondering

    why the words that I want to say won't come out of my mouth. Usually I just don't want to ruin a good day. I worry about him all the time. I have followed what he said to me long ago. "If they are talking about me they are leaving someone else alone." But there are some things...
    independentandstubborn independentandstubborn 51-55, F 3 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    I hope all of you strong

    and beautiful ladies have a great 4th of July! I plan on it myself! On the MM front, I have been very surprised this time around. I have let him take the initiative on contacting me and he has. Also last time I saw him, he said he wouldn't be able to get together this coming...
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 36-40, F 1 Response 12 hrs ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    Seems like all is well today with you.

    I however feel sick. Mentally, physically, and emotionally. I can't stop thinking and playing out how this ends. I feel anxiety. My soul doesn't feel well. It feels all wrong. Wrong that I allow him to treat me this way. Wondering what he gets from this. Why he did it to begin...
    Aimee3 Aimee3 26-30, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 24 Responses Apr 30

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 42 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Just read this and it describes exactly my

    relationship with exMM. http://www.elephantjournal.com/2015/06/the-toxic-attraction-between-an-empath-a-narcissist/
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 29 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 55 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 18 Responses Mar 25

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    Good Morning to all the beautiful ladies

    that have been going through the rough times ... Just wanted to share ... As I was looking up at the beautiful moon last night I thought of yous .... thankful that we have each other to lean on in this group to support and express ourselves...Much love to you all and baby steps...
    isolatednlonely isolatednlonely 36-40, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Yesterday I wrote something here

    that really got me thinking. Life is complicated and messy and disgusting and sad but we can make it beautiful and amazing if we choose and I think the only way we can get through it is by taking it one day at a time. My faults, my mistakes and my guilt is my responsibility. I...
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    He continues to be crazy busy at work,

    working loads of overtime and he still makes time. Things are just amazing.
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    He emailed me this morning he got a new job

    which is great! He's well educated and this is a new career for him not just a job. But I wonder why he chose to share this great news with me as we are not all that close. His fiancé is well educated and has a great job as well. I am not as accomplished as they are but I am...
    Aimee3 Aimee3 26-30, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    NO LONGER THE OTHER WOMAN!

    !! I am now the only woman :) it has been officially ended this morning, he was straight on the phone to me who was awesome at playing it cool despite up all night worrying! He was going to come over but we both decided against it as he needs time to recover maybe. He has gone...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 15 Responses Mar 21

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 13 Responses Apr 19

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 14 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 157 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 77 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 170 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 24 Responses Mar 22

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    I'm actually going to get my HEA.

    .. Is this real life... He's sleeping in the guest room, will be moving temporarily into his parents next week. He was texting me... He was quiet. Just said he was reflective. Then all of a sudden he knocked on the door... We made love, laughed, cuddled, talked... This is for...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 12 Responses 1 day ago

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    I thought this beautiful man the sparkling

    stars in the sky raining down light like laughter into my waiting fertile heart. He said he was in no man's land. I painted the sky with colour and I blossomed for him. I quivered, expanded and exploded with love. And yet, we remained divided. By a chasm that was only a metre...
    Faerylight Faerylight 41-45, F 7 Responses 2 days ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 78 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    He seems to really be trying to get back into

    my life in some capacity. Mutual friends have sent screenshots of his FB posts to me that have subtle references of me. He has recommended me for two positions that would require me to work closely with him. One in particular would be a good opportunity for me as I am...
    ravenofthedark ravenofthedark 41-45, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 48 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 6

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    Hi ladies! I hope you all had a wonderful 4th

    of July! I have a question to ask. Do you expect to hear from MM on holidays/weekends? Why or why not?
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 36-40, F 57 mins ago

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    I'm starting to feel

    that "how will I ever do it" feeling. Leaving tomorrow morning for a family camping trip for a week. It will be the longest MM and I have gone in almost a year, without talking to each other. H and I have done this trip every year since our boys were little, I know that once...
    whynot13 whynot13 46-50, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 50 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    My affair ended after 5 years.

    We have been in limited contact for 2 months. Rarely I have slipped and flirted with him. This past week he has been finding excuses to contact me and flirt with me. My feelings on this have been numb to quietly happy. We work together so complete NC is not possible. Well...
    just2night just2night 41-45, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    I am the other woman.

    Could not be happier! Not a soul knows except the two of us. I consider him safe, the relationship safe. He fulfills my every desire and need. I will his other woman till he says goodbye.
    jeepgirl2012 jeepgirl2012 36-40, F 10 Responses 1 day ago

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    Looking back it is funny how easily I fell into

    the trap of becoming 'the other woman.' The first flash of distress - a wounded soul no less, and I dived into the murky water. He told me that I was his oxygen. I was a mermaid Saint Bernard with the reviving elixir strapped to my neck. Strangely, I found two unmarried men...
    Faerylight Faerylight 41-45, F 19 Responses Jun 21

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    Stressing out about NC.

    It's been about 3 weeks. He's given me no real concrete evidence he cares at all.....why do I still think he cares? Is it because I love him so much? No one ever truly "got me" like him. I know I'll never replace that. His wife saw out texts and hatefully confronted me...
    Blissfulbeauty Blissfulbeauty 26-30, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    This is the trend in South America.

    Where are the cheaters, where is the husband...no where!!! Video.
    Prokamin Prokamin 36-40, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 15 Responses May 4, 2014

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