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I Am The Other Woman

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 29 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Hi ladies... I know I haven't been on here in a

    while I guess after I let my MM go I wanted to also get away from this site and see if a couple days away from reality would help me but then I struggled because I had to get urgent surgery and I've been in and out the hospital for a whole month now and things haven't been...
    sadpreciosa sadpreciosa 26-30, F 2 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    I feel like I'm going to get

    so much crap for posting this but.. I am not here to impress anyone or to get anyone's approval. I'm not happy in my current situation nor will I ever be happy.. I guess only time will tell what will happen. Yes.. I am the other woman. I can't help but be attracted and the...
    mercifulpennies mercifulpennies 18-21, F 1 Response 5 hrs ago

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    Okay ladies, I need some advice.

    Most of you know my story and that my ex-MM sent me an email on Monday after almost 6 months of NC. What do you think would affect him the most? Me not responding at all or responding nonchalantly? Thanks in advance!!!
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 36-40, F 9 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Idk why but I am in anxiety attack cycle.

    just took 2 klonipin and sat on tub floor with shower water pouring over me. sobbing, shaking fidgiting. i am too dependent on him. mm. although he has committed to me/us 1/1/15 fully, reinitiated divorce, W is aware. 4-5 nights together , face time etc, my exes now aware of his...
    justinsneedow justinsneedow 41-45, F 6 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    My MM called me today,

    he wanted to talk and then demanded an apology as if. I was so happy to hear from him but very guarded at the same time. He told me he missed me and wanted to see me today in a mutual public place because he doesn't feel safe coming over to the house lol. I miss my days...
    Imbrokenhearted Imbrokenhearted 36-40, F 4 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    I haven't seen him for a month

    and we hadn't talked for 2 weeks. In my warped mind, I figured he was done with me. We've had an emotional affair for years, that turned physical. One time sexual experience so far, so naturally, I figured he'd used me or regretted it. I was depressed, but today was a new day. I...
    ilycc06 ilycc06 31-35, F 4 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    I am the luckiest girl in the world.

    My guy is such a sweetheart.
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 2 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Today was an okay day

    for me. He's out sick so not at work. We did talk for an hour. I left work in a good place, came home to my daughter, and now sitting here with her, I can't help but feel heavy and sad. I hate that I can't keep it together for more than a few hours at a time and that I want...
    Cjlm79 Cjlm79 31-35, F 18 hrs ago

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 32 Responses Sep 23, 2014

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    It's so nice to hear his voice on the phone

    when we haven't seen each other much this week. He sends me links to songs to say how he is feeling. We made plans for early next week. We will spend most of the day together. I'm really liking and enjoying how simple this this. So different from ex MM where there was always...
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 6 hrs ago

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    Holy Sh**! He came over

    for coffee this morning. We sat and talked, really talked. He's started planning, saving and is looking for a therapist to walk him through the emotional roller coaster that will happen. Yes talked about it before, but now he's actually gone and done it. We are still not...
    40Creek 40Creek 41-45, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I never wanted to be your whole life.

    ...... just your favourite part! I love this x
    MRGFF MRGFF 36-40, F 1 Response 22 hrs ago

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 15 Responses May 4, 2014

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 79 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 18 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    This relationship just keeps getting better

    and better. The love we have been blessed with is deep. We continue to open our hearts and souls to one another is ways we haven't with any other human. I respect him and trust him. And for those of you getting ready to pounce on me for loving a married man, just go away. I...
    yourlastlove yourlastlove 51-55, F 3 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 11 Responses Feb 13, 2014

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    When I was 20 I had the boyfriend from hell.

    He didn't love me at all. I fell in love by myself. He didn't want people to even know we were a couple. It was awful and I swear I adored him. I ended it when he literally told me "Why do you love me when I all I give you is crap?" Today in my 30's I can say it happened again...
    liberty2014 liberty2014 36-40, F 3 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 154 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    "I think a part of me will always be waiting

    for you" Always, my lion, regardless, until I am no more. ox
    Scorpionchild Scorpionchild 46-50, F 4 hrs ago

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    Lunch date today Don't feel much like it Since

    realigning his position in my life a few weeks back we are less connected Even our overnight last week felt different Clarity with distance It's not a bad thing Happy Friday Ladies! Do something YOU enjoy today. Something that makes you laugh, smile or simply feel good.
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 5 hrs ago

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    So MM came over earlier this week.

    We spent a few hours together. As he was leaving he noticed a pizza box on my stove and asked how old it was. I told him "two days". He then questions "so you had company?" I told him yes, Sunday evening. He shrugged it off and left. Later that evening, he calls me and goes into...
    kc5316 kc5316 22-25, F 4 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 51 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    Well I've started talking to a married man,

    and I must say he's a little more eager than I am. I also found another guy who was more local, I hope the local one works out more. ;)
    doublemajorfever doublemajorfever 18-21, F 4 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 165 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    Things just continue to grow

    and become so much deeper. I guess I'm slightly spoiled to have someone who puts my needs and desires ahead of their own. I know that desire to bring pleasure and happiness to that special person. Today I did for him what he never gives me the chance to do. Wow, I think it felt...
    Serendipitous1 Serendipitous1 36-40, F 2 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 54 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 11, 2014

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 19 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    Thank you all for saving me from myself today.

    I was overwhelmed by the outpouring of support, advice, kind words, wisdom, suggestions, encouragement & ((hugs)) Even the T's managed to help as I like to needle them a little with a response (but who could top KoKo's? ROFLMAO) and then block them. I'm not a crier, however...
    forbidden67 forbidden67 46-50, F 1 Response 14 hrs ago

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    hi- i am going on day 5 of not contacting him,

    and he hasn't contacted me. i have a confession to make, and i am not proud. so no contact to me also means not looking at his facebook page, and I haven't done that. but in a self indulgent moment, i google street mapped their house. why? i guess i wanted to see what their life...
    hardtiming hardtiming 41-45, F 9 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 67 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 88 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    Women won't mess with a man

    that lives with his mom but will mess with a man who lives with his wife.
    reeessa reeessa 13-15, F 28 Responses Oct 23, 2014

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    I'm married but I'm having an affair with my

    best friends husband. I know we can never be together as it would rip his family apart but I feel so lost without him. I made a huge mistake marrying my husband and can only be thankful we have no children. I want a divorce but I know it would crush him. It's so difficult being...
    kimathy86 kimathy86 26-30, F 116 Responses Feb 19

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 17 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    I'm gonna need your strength today ladies (and

    gents). Today is 12 days no contact but is also 10 months since our first contact. I'm struggling because I really want to message him and say, "10 Months today & thankful for the times we spent together and memories made" Yet I know I would be reaching out in the hopes of...
    forbidden67 forbidden67 46-50, F 38 Responses 1 day ago

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    MM got back early from his business trip

    so we are getting to have our "We made it to Friday" lunch. I love these lunches. So therapeutic and a great way to wrap up the work week. Only thing I'm nervous about....we need to discuss our apt lease. It's up for renewal. I feel so weird talking about finances with him...
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 3 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Sitting at a crossroads.

    ... Do I give in to his guilt and for the betterment of his family walk away? Or Do I follow my heart and tell him I want all in, knowing there's probably heartbreak at the end but the chance to experience the connection and passion to me is worth it. Or Do I say nothing...
    lexabear15 lexabear15 26-30, F 4 mins ago

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    Thought for this morning: some of you know my

    story- but I left this gem out. Maybe it's not a gem. My mm, despite his current living situation is still not wearing his wedding ring. I know this bothers his W, (he's told me). Does this matter? Do your mm's wear their rings?
    Cjlm79 Cjlm79 31-35, F 9 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 27 Responses May 6, 2014

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 205 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 101 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    I am in so much pain right now

    but I know I will get through it. I am married and got involved with a married man while gone away for work for 6 months. We both felt an instant connection and we both knew needed to leave our spouses. We planned our lives and shared so much with each other. There are many...
    slimdunn slimdunn 31-35, F 3 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 85 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses