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I Am The Other Woman

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    I just responded to a post on here

    which got me to thinking (yes, y'all are in trouble while I ramble). If you're not mature enough to handle being an OW, sugar don't go down that road. The statement was made that his OW called W and said they were getting married. Excuse me? She (the W) is not your...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 26 Responses Oct 8

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    I'm a total nut bag! A totally crazy person!

    I cannot handle these strong feelings I have for this guy. Falling in love sucks! I almost want to run away. I'm so scared of getting hurt! Things are great right now but what if??? I'm officially psychotic!
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 3 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 68 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    Why do all the haters say you're always going

    to be second choice? Maybe we are second choice when he "has" to go home but in reality we aren't second choice in his heart or his mind. I can almost promise that he's thinking about me more than his wife. I can almost promise his heart is starting to lead him else where and...
    tc57 tc57 31-35, F 87 Responses Aug 10

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 31 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 23 Responses May 6

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 46 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 45 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Omg men.... Married not married.

    ... Single.... Taken..... Men r just ridiculous
    ap05 ap05 26-30, F 36 seconds ago

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 10 Responses Feb 13

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    Missing my MM so much today .

    .. What's the longest affair that you have known of? Doubts creeping today ....
    dsuzy dsuzy 36-40, F 12 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    I have had the best day today with MM

    and we are not even physically together. But he has been on a business trip away from his W and constantly texting and messaging me about everything and nothing. Declaring his love, talking about problems & plans, exploring our fantasies. This morning he was even late for a...
    daisyblue222 daisyblue222 36-40, F 4 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    Today was an ok day. MM

    and I texted like normal. Bad day to be a motorcycle cop in the weather we are having. Had to deal with a bus accident so got soaked to the bone. On his way home he said he didn't feel well. I feel bad for him. I would love to be there, make him chicken soup, have a hot shower...
    Sweetpea379 Sweetpea379 46-50, F 3 Responses 1 hr ago

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 11

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    So after my crappy post

    and Millie's supportive messages today I find out I got a job to start on Monday! I'm really happy because I won't be sitting at home constantly waiting for his messages and going insane. It's not my ideal job and it's a few weeks contract but will hopefully help rebuild my self...
    Missy1179 Missy1179 31-35, F 2 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 7 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    I remember my mm and I having a conversation

    about 6 months into our relationship of him not being able to see someone that lives around his neighborhood because he wouldn't want to disrespect his W in her face. I remember his saying how he wouldn't want to have a woman being around her in the supermarket, at the gym...
    Lilypad718 Lilypad718 31-35, F 7 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 50 Responses Feb 16

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 20 Responses Jan 2

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    Facts about me, please do not judge!

    I have been married for 8 1/2 years. Met my mm a year and almost 5 months ago. I was a happy good fairhfull wife till him. I know if we get caught we will ruin our lives. He got married later separated and now returned to his W three years ago. He makes me feel like the most...
    kylee2013 kylee2013 36-40, F 3 mins ago

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    So I am doing a happy dance

    because I flat out asked him if I was wasting my time and should give up hope for a divorce and he (FOR THE FIRST TIME) told me not to instead of where he in the past has said he doesn't know. I know not to get my hopes up because sometimes they lie to get what they want, but...
    lostanddistraught lostanddistraught 22-25, F 6 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    What a sucky day. It's been over a week

    since I've seen him. He's such a runner. He knows he messed up, and when I got my feelings hurt, he ran. Now I don't know when I'll see him again and that hurts.
    rainydays2 rainydays2 31-35, F 1 Response 18 mins ago

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 16 Responses May 4

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 36 Responses Sep 23

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 103 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 20 Responses Apr 18

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 39 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    So he saw a friend guy text me

    and he freaks out uugghhhh so much for a promise ring
    ap05 ap05 26-30, F 3 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    Once your affair was discovered did you have to

    deal with a lot of backlash from wife or friends and family? I've been called so many names the last couple days, and I haven't responded at all but I really do feel sick and terrible. Do I respond? Would that just make it worse?
    megansunshine megansunshine 18-21, F 18 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    Question, what kind of birth control do you use

    to not get pregnant by your MM? Do you use a couple of methods or just one? Mine is gonna get a vecactomy soon (he already has 5 kids) but till then I want to protect myself!
    kylee2013 kylee2013 36-40, F 18 Responses 1 hr ago

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    He finally locked his damn iPhone screen

    after failing to delete some texts she found the other night. Not sure what it was, but it was enough for him to lock her out and "**** her off worse than if she walked in and watched us have sex." Had a 4-hour lunch together yesterday. Mexican food, a park nap, Halloween...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 3 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    I am sure everyone is tired of hearing it lol.

    But this is where I come to vent and the over powering emotions have caught my breath again today. I miss him so much. He is still not at home and according to her Facebook they are still having problems. I just don't understand how he can not contact me or anything. We have...
    Jennbme24 Jennbme24 31-35, F 3 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 146 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    On a scale of 1-10, with one being none

    and ten being wide open, where would you put your communication level with your MM? Why do *you* think you're at the level you're at? Is it at where *you* want it to be?
    eapple eapple 31-35, F 7 Responses 1 hr ago

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    I need to grow some and end it.

    No fun anymore and so mean to me.
    Pommy8 Pommy8 51-55, F 7 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 42 Responses Feb 24

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    What can make the W to stay with her H knowing

    he still communicates with someone else? According to him shes found messages between us a couple of times and hes admitting to communicating with me "sometimes" and shes done nothing. Only thing i've noticed has been her in her "best behavior". I have no interest or intention...
    Chicadelcaribe Chicadelcaribe 31-35, F 2 Responses 10 mins ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 15 Responses Jun 2

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 81 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 20 Responses Jul 30

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    So, going to spend some time with my MM today

    probably for the last time. I will see him at work still but this will probably be the last time we get to actually spend time together for awhile at least if not forever.
    MartiniLynn MartiniLynn 18-21 2 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Well here goes. I've been lurking

    for a few months now and decided it's time for me to write my feelings out. Married to a good man and an amazing dad. We have not been intimate in 4-5 months. In the last year, we have not been out on a date and I think we're at the point where we love each other but not in...
    kikimarie1978 kikimarie1978 36-40, F 47 Responses 2 days ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 162 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    From ep support......

    "this member has been removed". You're welcome my friends. 3 guesses who.
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 5 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    I can't do it...there's no way I can end this

    in a week none nope not gonna happen :( I guess no matter how much I hate the situation, I love him enough to tolerate it. Maybe I won't share this new revelation with him until next Friday though...the thought of us ending has got him thinking about things.
    ynoTme83 ynoTme83 31-35, F 1 Response 7 hrs ago

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    I knew by his tone yesterday

    that he was in trouble. He left his wallet at home and was trying to figure out how to run his route all day with the cash he had. I was in town not too far from him and didn't leave him much of an option "if you want a hundred or so speak now before I pass you". I pulled up...
    ynoTme83 ynoTme83 31-35, F 9 hrs ago

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    This is a long one...

    I became involved with a MM at the end of July. This man began working at my job as my new boss in February. Being only a couple of years older than me and coming from similar backgrounds/upbringing, I found it easy to get along with him and relate. Pretty much from the jump...
    hermosa33 hermosa33 26-30 9 mins ago

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    I've been the OW for over a year now.

    Last night I just told him I can't deal with things the way they are. It kills me when I am with him because he can't be mine, but it kills me when I am away from him. It's always "I can't get divorced yet" because of this or that, he can't deal with change, blah blah. I told...
    thedokken thedokken 22-25, F 6 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 76 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    One of those days I feel I'm losing my strength

    and faith to be able to hold on to this roller-coaster relationship ... ;(
    oxoi oxoi 26-30, F 4 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 19 Responses Sep 10

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