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I Am The Other Woman

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 46 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 9 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    So he says I'll see him tonight,

    that he's coming home and he asked me to be at his place.. But so far no call. He's been with the kids all day! And I'm really happy for him that he got to be with them. I don't have a clue if she was there or anything because I didn't ask and he has said he didn't think she...
    megansunshine megansunshine 18-21, F 7 hrs ago

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    Merry Christmas to all of you wonderful women.

    I want to thank you all for being here and for your support. I hope this coming year brings peace and happiness to all of us. I treasure you all.
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Merry Christmas and Happy Hanukkah ladies.

    .. I hope you all have a wonderful holiday and an even better 2015! My boyfriend just left the house to go have dinner with his girls and their mom. It's a first. This is the first Christmas Eve as a new family. Tomorrow will be the first Christmas morning as a new family. When...
    RedHotPepper RedHotPepper 26-30, F 2 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 208 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    This is gonna be a hard Christmas I think.

    I saw him today, first time since what happened Monday. He asked me how I was and I just shrugged and said "sad." Then he asked if we were ok and I said yes. The thing is, I'm not mad at him, I'm just sad.....sad that he left so abruptly just to save face with her. It just...
    PrincessLolita PrincessLolita 26-30, F 3 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 20 Responses Apr 18

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    Women won't mess with a man

    that lives with his mom but will mess with a man who lives with his wife.
    reeessa reeessa 13-15, F 29 Responses Oct 23

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 17 Responses Sep 10

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 40 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 81 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 51 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 84 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 50 Responses Feb 16

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    he came to see me again.

    he said "i could see you like surprises. and I miss you so much." I feel so very loved!!!
    Violetbeauregard Violetbeauregard 26-30, F 1 Response 10 hrs ago

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    Merry Christmas Ladies.

    Hope everyone has a good one. I'm wishing Santa would come to my house, but that's not be this year. (For any that may not know, my MM does the Santa gig) I want to thank you all. Everyone here has been so very helpful and supportive. It's good to know I'm not alone.
    whynot13 whynot13 46-50, F 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    What songs remind you of your relationship with

    your MM and your time together?
    confusedhearts confusedhearts 41-45, F 10 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 20 Responses Jul 30

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 31 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Merry Christmas :) I am at home with my kids.

    He is at his house. Busy but still finds time to message me occasionally. It is nice. I hope all are having a good eve and a happy day tomorrow.
    marveld marveld 41-45, F 6 hrs ago

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    I am at a beautiful resort with my H

    and son. I have fantazied all day of what me and mm would be doing at the jacuzzi in our room, the huts near the pool and laying on the beach. So awful I want to enjoy my time with family but my mind plays these games of all the adult fun I'd be having with my mm. Any of you...
    liberty2014 liberty2014 36-40, F 4 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    He's at his nieces with his son.

    (His is wife is home alone) He's still texting me. :)
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Tonight will be our first full night together.

    No time constraints. No looking over our shoulders. We have a suite booked with a fireplace. Sushi & wine. I am so looking forward to 8 hours of normalcy. It is crazy we have never even eaten together. We spend our blips of time only focused on eachother. We get to talk for...
    tauriangirl tauriangirl 36-40, F 27 Responses Nov 15

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 16 Responses May 4

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 162 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 24 Responses May 6

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 79 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    Why do you married woman post under the other

    woman? Your cheaters why don't you'll post under I'm having a affair where you belong.
    tobad8 tobad8 41-45, M 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    So ... For the very first time I tested him .

    .. I texted him using a different phone number and pretend to be his prospective customer and told him that I'm being bored at home alone and wanted to go see the house tonight where he listed for sale. After some back and forth texts, he said no and that he has a lot of work to...
    oxoi oxoi 26-30, F 9 hrs ago

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 20 Responses Jan 2

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    Saw him today for a short time.

    He's still not feeling well. :( I'm glad I got to see him though and give him a big hug as we said goodbye and Merry Christmas. Hope you all have a wonderful Christmas Day!!
    blurrdlines blurrdlines 36-40, F 9 hrs ago

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 10 Responses Feb 13

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 16 Responses Jun 2

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 103 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 31 Responses Sep 23

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    Tomorrow is Christmas.

    I am happy that I will be seeing him but anxious at the same time. He is hosting their family Christmas and I'm invited, (I am friends with his parents and known to be mm's friend and former co-worker). I can't stand being around her because of the things I've heard her say...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 2 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    I think the hardest part of the holidays is

    knowing that he is home, loving his wife and kids and playing with them and having fun. All the while, my husband is ignoring me, and making me feel horrible about myself and yelling at our daughter. I miss MM so much. I haven't physically seen him since before Thanksgiving. I...
    sugarbabysub sugarbabysub 31-35, F 4 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    How hard is it for him to at least wish me a

    merry frikkin Christmas back? We did much worse than talk to each other before now!
    BeckstaOnSquidoo BeckstaOnSquidoo 26-30, F 2 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    ladylove0113 ladylove0113 36-40, F 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Okay so MMs wife found out about us.

    She went absolutely insane, blocked me on his phone and his Facebook, on everything else too, and then told me to stay away from. I just rang him and he's pretty cut up about it, not just a bit but a ******* lot, what a great Christmas present. I'm not sure what to do, I'm...
    drunkandinlove drunkandinlove 18-21, F 1 Response 14 hrs ago

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    Last night was our last possible chance to see

    each other before New Years. He gets here extra early I start a movie pop a pizza in the oven....then it hits me...overwhelming nausea. If I had the slightest clue it was coming I never would've let him come over last thing I want is to make him sick...well that's tied with...
    ynoTme83 ynoTme83 31-35, F 1 Response 18 hrs ago

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    A really interesting shift has happened

    and I am surprised about it. We video chatted this morning for almost an hour. Sent me an email with a quick hello and thinking about you. Wife posted a pic of the both of them of fb with merry christmas.... And I am wondering what do I see in him. He has aged a good bit...
    blue963 blue963 51-55, F 6 hrs ago

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    "I LOVE spending time with you!

    This is my favorite thing to do in my life. There's nowhere else I'd rather be. I want to go home with you." ~ My MM
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 2 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Merry Christmas to all my favorite people on EP.

    Some of you are happy and some of you may be in the midst of a difficult time. Regardless, I wish you all the best. I know how hard it is to be away from the one who has your heart. Weather times are great or terrible, it's still no fun. Try to make the best of the holiday...
    surfsway surfsway 36-40, F 16 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 11

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 148 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    I got a blank space baby ,

    and I'll write your name. New year, new queen in search of a new Single king
    justinsneedow justinsneedow 41-45, F 12 hrs ago

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    So yesterday was very little contact

    since both MM and I were both busy with our families and I spent most of the day cooking. But H and the kids and I went to 4:00 mass and 3 rows in front of us were MM and his family. So I had to sit there an hour looking at the back of his head thinking of all the things I...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 1 hr ago

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 41 Responses Feb 24

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    My vacation from work started yesterday.

    Waited all day and night for the green light to go visit my man ... The all clear !! It never worked out :(. Wanted to celebrate my vacation . !! But once again I was left waiting and then eventually disappointed. Made a decision right there I am taking today and tomorrow to...
    elizabethmariejazz elizabethmariejazz 36-40, F 4 Responses 17 hrs ago

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