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I Am The Other Woman

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    For those of us who just ended things,

    or are hanging by a thread, the positive side of this freedom... No more watching them text back and forth like tweeners on our dates. No more lonely Sundays, feeling sad that it's an NC day. No more laying in bed every night wondering what they're doing in bed together. No...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 19 Responses Jul 12

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 50 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    Having a frustrating day.

    We had a great night together and things have been good. We email back and forth most days. It seems like we get close and then all of a sudden he goes quiet. I particularly hate this because I try and keep my walls up and as soon as he senses I've let them down he does it to me...
    joyfulcloudofsorrow joyfulcloudofsorrow 31-35, F 6 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    Such a great day it has been.

    We've had some wonderful time together the last week and I'm amazed that I'm more attracted to him in every possible way after so long. He's been a great friend and an unbeatable lover. For this I'm grateful.
    Serendipitous1 Serendipitous1 36-40, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Love is a powerful drug

    and we succumbed to its power against all logical reason. Under its influence comes a power and a strength that yes we could get through anything...but could we really? Could we survive discovery and loss of love from our family, friends, co-workers or would we turn that loss on...
    solo007 solo007 51-55, F 3 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 29 Responses May 6, 2014

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 42 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    My mm has been out of town on business

    for two days. Sometimes I send him messages and or pictures, he is always happy to hear from me and almost always replies promptly and thanks me for thinking of him. Sometimes I leave him alone. He will not initiate messages not knowing when my husband might be around. This time...
    Janna78 Janna78 46-50, F 1 day ago

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    Mm do not have a clue of what they make us go

    through. My Exmm was so cruel. I feel sorry for his wife. Wish I never met him. I regret so much pain he made me go through. I just had to make it stop. I feel free but the pain does not go away at all. How could he do this to me? I knew that it was not gonna be perfect. But I...
    liberty2014 liberty2014 36-40, F 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    Disclaimer: I am not the other woman anymore.

    Just waiting for the divorce to be finalized. He was separated when I met him- I in NO WAY condone having a child to keep a man around. That is manipulative and horribly disgusting and 99% of the time you will not get what you want and your child will suffer. I was on birth...
    lostanddistraught lostanddistraught 26-30, F 10 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 159 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    I told him a few days ago

    that I wanted to make this a long term relationship and I wanted to fight for a way to make it work, he responded today that he did too. I told him I didn't want to remain in the shadows, but that I want him. Slowly things are changing. He talked today about wanting to go on...
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 6 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    He told me this afternoon

    as we rode along in his truck, holding hands, "I think we make a good team". That made my day.
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 9 Responses 1 day ago

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 45 Responses Jan 10

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 50 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 53 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    So i ask my MM today

    if i get married, would he still be with me or do we go our separate ways... His response was, its never going to happen so why worry about something that isn't..... At times like these i actually wish i had someone to call my own... i wish i could leave him and walk off as...
    Sarahneeds Sarahneeds 26-30, F 3 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 30 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    any one know if there is s good read about our

    situations. maybe a non fiction? positive side?
    Mama2ljre Mama2ljre 36-40, F 4 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    Arghhhhhhhh! One tiny step forward yesterday,

    and I fall 5 steps back today. When does a broken heart heal? How do I not care anymore? Why is it hurting me and not him? Age old questions taking my spirit down in a spiral.
    Aisurukoto Aisurukoto 41-45, F 2 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 14 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 17 Responses Mar 25

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 48 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 6

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    I wonder how it feels to be the other woman.

    Knowing that maybe your not his first choice or maybe that all of this is just a stage in his life, and you just came at the right moment and time. And maybe knowing that he doesn't love you as much as he says he does, you never know. There's a lot of maybes. I hope if I ever...
    lilacadventures lilacadventures 18-21, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    NO LONGER THE OTHER WOMAN!

    !! I am now the only woman :) it has been officially ended this morning, he was straight on the phone to me who was awesome at playing it cool despite up all night worrying! He was going to come over but we both decided against it as he needs time to recover maybe. He has gone...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 12 Responses Mar 21

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    The questions... Oh, the questions.

    .. For the 10 months he was figuring out his own journey, for the 10 months that (in hindsight) I was working on myself (but at the time felt like I was dying everyday), for the 10 months he had to reassure me he "liked me", "missed me", "wasn't going anywhere", there was still a...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    I don't always agree with people's choices,

    they may not be what I would do but they're your choices. We all makes mistakes, we all have things we've wanted to undo and put behind us. I know this thread must get a lot of backlash and hate from people. I think we all are broken to some degree and not one of us is perfect.
    PrivateEyes1980 PrivateEyes1980 31-35, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    OH. MY. GOD. It's final,

    he's single, and as of 9:37am today I am no longer the OW!!!
    Shardsofsorrow Shardsofsorrow 31-35, F 91 Responses 1 day ago

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    I feel like we are in a cold war.

    NC's broken, the ice remains. Every passing day, I feel I am loosing the grip on reasoning. It's getting darker. It's getting colder. Too much cold can burn.
    coolvolatile coolvolatile 31-35, F 4 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 170 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    Good Morning ladies I wondering

    if have favorite place for love I mean I like pretty much any where I love it on her balcony and the shower.
    ForbiddenFruitLove95 ForbiddenFruitLove95 18-21, F 3 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    Question.....How does he your MM/AP share with

    you about his W/GF? Do you ask questions? How much do you want to know? My AP doesn't share much about her or their relationship or home life at all. It sometimes drives me crazy. I want to know more. The days/nights he gets home from a business trip are the hardest for me...
    SunshineGrey78 SunshineGrey78 36-40, F 16 Responses 1 day ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    Looking back it is funny how easily I fell into

    the trap of becoming 'the other woman.' The first flash of distress - a wounded soul no less, and I dived into the murky water. He told me that I was his oxygen. I was a mermaid Saint Bernard with the reviving elixir strapped to my neck. Strangely, I found two unmarried men...
    Faerylight Faerylight 41-45, F 17 Responses Jun 21

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    For the past few weeks he's been

    so attentive... Sees me almost daily, tells me and shows me he loves me and it has lit me up inside. I wonder when it's going to end, but most importantly I wonder why.... But as I'm sitting here I'm thinking about why do I need to question it?? I wanted this! I wanted to feel...
    AmazinglyBootyful AmazinglyBootyful 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I'm actually not, but this is a fantasy of mine.

    .. Like I'm ******* his brains out and then his wife walks in, and she's like "ooooh... I'm joining in." And then me and his wife run away together. :D (Is that like a movie or sth? )
    Storiesnotforthefaintofheart Storiesnotforthefaintofheart 18-21, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    I dont get it! Didn't get a reply to message to

    my message on sunday so text Tuesday asking if everything was ok...got a reply few hours later saying he's having bad week, so I reply: Ok, here if you need me. He's been constantly online on whapsapp for days now, and I mean constantly! He was even online at half one...
    Prettybutterfly88 Prettybutterfly88 26-30, F 9 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 24 Responses Apr 30

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    D-Day ... Two hours ago MM called me

    frantically ... He had received a call on his cell with my H's caller ID name. He answered ... but no one spoke ... just background noise I arrived home and checked H's phone ... yep he called MM
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 9 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 94 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    I didn't plan to let MM know.

    .. but when we met up today, he found out that I was pregnant. Yes, I was. I went through the process by myself without telling him. The thought back then was that I didn't want things became complicated. After that, I just didn't know how to bring it up. He made it very clear...
    TOWTD TOWTD 31-35, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 22 Responses Mar 22

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