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I Am The Other Woman

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    I've identified my issue.

    I want a time line. I want an answer to when. I enjoy our times together so much. I want unrestricted access. Any suggestions on how I can just be "okay" with how things are?
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 2 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    I'm happy. Out of the blue today,

    he calls. Asks me & my daughter to meet up with him and his son. My daughter didn't want to join, but I did. I got to play with the kiddo. Just because he wanted to see me. Just because he needed to see me. Just because... My mind gets the best of me.
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 21 hrs ago

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 51 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    Anyway back to my original post.

    ..they're going through with the divorce. I knew they weren't staying together, but honestly I was still pretty surprised when he told me the other day. I do feel guilty. He says everyone is upset with him...he doesn't blame me but I still feel responsible. Guess it's gotta...
    SweetHeresy SweetHeresy 22-25, F 2 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    I really do love how these trolls run amok on

    this page harassing and namecalling and whatnot, yet I make a legitimate post and I am flagged and deleted within minutes. Stay classy, EP. Carry on, ladies. ♡
    SweetHeresy SweetHeresy 22-25, F 3 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 28 Responses May 6, 2014

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    The weekend was hard.

    I'm missing him so much. I cried myself to sleep for the first time in awhile. When I woke up I just kept thinking about how bad I'm feeling and how I'm glad it's me not his family going through this pain. Hoping that's a start toward healing.
    heartbroken1234 heartbroken1234 36-40, F 1 Response 7 hrs ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    I feel like I'm more.

    ..the girl who can't let go. Does anybody else feel like they got obsessive and depressed? Wondering where it all went wrong and then blamed themselves for being too needy, too emotional. Where o where did I suddenly go from being ok with just "having fun" to feeling like I...
    lexabear15 lexabear15 26-30, F 4 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 79 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 152 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    As a woman who has been the victim of a

    cheating husband I find it disturbing to read these posts. Knowing that there's a hurt family how do you continue to invade that?
    girlwithabrain girlwithabrain 31-35, F 3 Responses 1 hr ago

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    I spent last weekend with a pack of my

    girlfriends at a beach house. As I'm newly divorced, and my ex has been prancing around them with his new girlfriend, it was to be a "we love you" (to me) weekend. These are my best friends. We are spread out into various states around the country, but still manage to get...
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 1 Response 7 hrs ago

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    NicoleMantel NicoleMantel 36-40, F 6 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 204 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    Now my intentions were never to hurt

    or judge. I came here with my sites set on one person. The rest of the OW's, you don't effect my life. I hope that you can all see past that. My issues with this person are deeply personal and right in my backyard. I apologize if I have offended anyone in the process.
    peteristheman peteristheman 31-35, M 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    Who are the most belligerent trolls in this

    forum? I'd like to block them now before I start posting again. Thanks!
    spilledpurfume spilledpurfume 31-35, F 5 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    Sometimes you forget

    that every moment shared could be the last. Well my last moment was a week ago and he's ended things once again. This back and forth is destroying me. I've lost a lot and he's afraid to lose a lot. I feel a bit bitter that I lost everything for someone that couldn't give me 100...
    Lost4him2 Lost4him2 31-35 4 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Well well well, what a popular little group

    this has been over the last few days. Haha. I'm not really sure I have much of an update. I just fancied popping on to have a chat with some ladies to be honest. MM is away at the moment :/
    Twighlightsparkle Twighlightsparkle 22-25, F 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    What's up with everyone blocking insignificant

    trolls and wimping out? How about we stop blocking and stand up for ourselves? I'm married and having an affair so what? That's my choice. I won't be blocking any trolls. I talk to one or two. Haters got hate. Players gotta play. It all makes the world go round. Without crime...
    melusin3 melusin3 31-35, F 12 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    Please be careful of

    who you befriend here. There are people with multiple accounts, befriending "other women" with the sole aim to view, store, then re post personal photos on other web sites. I'm glad we have full lives.
    ifoundmehere ifoundmehere 46-50, F 12 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 47 Responses Jan 10

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 71 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 28 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    After 6 years, I tried Lingerie

    for the first time Friday. I was shy and embarrassed, asked if it was dumb and he said "no, not at all, you did this for me?" Both encounters last week were.... Just so amazing. The sex is once in a lifetime and there's just no reason to walk away from it.
    spilledpurfume spilledpurfume 31-35, F 2 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 12 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    Today I ended it....again with him.

    I am hoping it sticks this time. I know this is what needs to be done to allow me to live my own life and give other men a chance. I don't doubt he loves me and cares, but he doesn't love me enough nor does he view me as a priority. Therefore it's time to step into reality and...
    New2ThisToo New2ThisToo 36-40, F 6 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 14 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 41 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Read my experience. I believe I posted in wrong

    group. Advice needed. More like support. Ive reached my end with this situation.
    New2ThisToo New2ThisToo 36-40, F 1 Response 18 hrs ago

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 23 Responses Mar 22

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 15 Responses Apr 19

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 17 Responses Mar 25

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    i am married... he lives with the mother of his

    child. The short version.... he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. It scares the hell out of me to consider change. I am unsure what to do. All I know is when i am in his arms i find it harder and harder to leave.
    sweetplumeria sweetplumeria 36-40 6 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 168 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 154 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 91 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 51 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 26 Responses 4 days ago

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    You can all cheer because I'm gone.

    No I don't have multiple accounts. There are other people out there who really do object to you. I didn't so much object as wanted to help but you talk about me behind my back and make up nonsense. So I did make one other account. Be warned the only other account I had was...
    paliglass paliglass 31-35, F 8 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Ok I know I'm probably gonna hear it.

    He called me last night and I was doing so well. He said that he was a mess. He got in trouble for stalking me online. She caught him. He didn't even care because he felt so heartbroken about us. She driving him crazy and won't leave him alone because she obsessed with him...
    OneStonedGirl OneStonedGirl 31-35, F 6 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Update on my crazy life: Things with my SM

    couldn't be better. We had a great weekend together just hanging out and doing stuff with his boys and my daughter. He keeps hinting at us living together... I'm not even close to ready for that! Logistically, it won't work... we both have full houses. It would also make it...
    goodgirl9691 goodgirl9691 46-50, F 2 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 86 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    "If you're having a problem with your woman,

    you don't go out and get yourself another woman. Now all you have is two problems."
    UmThatsWhatYouThink UmThatsWhatYouThink 26-30, F 6 Responses 20 hrs ago

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