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I Am The Other Woman

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 14,593 People

    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 51-55, F 169 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    I must say I feel better today.

    Its been kind of weird with MM lately. Our conversations have been short and kind of terse. But today he apologized and explained because he has not been feeling well, he gets quiet. Which I totally understand. I do the same thing - like it takes too much energy to even hold a...
    PressPToPlay PressPToPlay 46-50, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    I'm going to have to step away

    for a bit. Mm feels the comments of the trolls are making me feel like what I get are scraps. I'm going to try to be more present in life and less on line. Hugs to you all. I've loved the support, and needed it. Later
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 12 Responses 1 day ago

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    Such a difference a year makes.

    I can't wait for Valentines Day. He made reservations at a restaurant we've not been to, and it's a surprise. We have a 4-day-weekend and today spent the day getting him a new sports coat, shirt and tie (my choices ) for his interview Thursday. It...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 39 mins ago

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    A How To List

    Hello to everyone especially those drawn here by the Facebook postings. For the record, I am not "Keeping it real in Kendall". Since most of you are brand new to EP let me be the first to welcome you! Please take a moment to read the Terms of Service before commenting. This is a...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 100 Responses Aug 25, 2013

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    I wanna say thanks to the ladies here,

    whose advise has given me and my guy a incredible change in a good way. I used to be struggled and get myself down when I couldn't see him much by insecurity. I changed all the negative thoughts into a anticipation like ' how great it will be of seeing him after a while?' and...
    honeybutterchip honeybutterchip 41-45, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    And valentine's day is around the corner.

    I hate holidays. They are like a milestone. They are check points in time flagging my loneliness. Here I am, another 12 months have gone by and I am still single, unloved, alone and lusting after a man that is not mine. I wonder if he will do anything romantic for her. I wonder...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    I can't wait for Valentines Day.

    I have 5 days off now, so MM can make loads of time for us. I am hoping to give him his card in bed, on Sunday sometime. He asked last night what my hours were today, I was already sleeping, so I replied first thing in the morning. I bet that means he will be by today. :) We...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 47 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 48 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    He put 3 dozen red roses in my room with a Orcid

    and he got me earrings to match my ring for valentine's day. I've been really tired and sick. My BP is still not on control and the Dr I saw Wed said to come back In 4 weeks and we would re evaluate and he didn't want to put me on any meds heart is still twice as fast.... It's...
    ap05 ap05 26-30, F 2 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 24 Responses Apr 30, 2015

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    Perception Making Life Yours by Madisyn Taylor

    A simple shift in attitude can help us recognize the hidden potential for fulfillment in every event. There is no secret recipe for happiness and contentment. The individuals who move through life joyously have not necessarily been blessed with lives of abundance, love...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Are you giving your MM a Valentine's Day gift?

    I doubt I will see him this weekend like we had hoped. I do not know what to do for him.
    PressPToPlay PressPToPlay 46-50, F 6 Responses 2 days ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 205 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    b4realz b4realz 26-30, F 150 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 47 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    It will never work. As long

    as you continue being deceptive and cruel, you will all experience heart ache, loneliness and your affairs will be brought to light.
    euphoricbeauty euphoricbeauty 26-30, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    I met a SG. A good one.

    First date at a coffee shop yesterday lasted for six hours. Just talking. And an amazing kiss afterward. Then we texted until bed. He is beautiful and sweet and smart and athletic. And he digs me a whole bunch. Best of all, he has been divorced for nearly 20 years. He was so...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 25 Responses Jan 11

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    Since some people are

    so big on numbers and stats. I thought I would supply some numbers of my own.. How long we have been together. 7yrs, 4mths, 27 days, How many days I have heard from him ..2705 days..in a row. And I averaged out (3x/wk) how many times we've been sexual.. 1158 give or take...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 19, 2015

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    Valentine's Day is vastly approaching

    and I know the majority of you will be stricken with pain. Not only is it Valentines Day but it also falls on a weekend. You will not be with the man you love. Even if he gets you a gift, its just to prolong the pain. Guess I will check back on Sunday to see how you all have...
    euphoricbeauty euphoricbeauty 26-30, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    deleted deleted 26-30 17 Responses Feb 6, 2015

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    Looking back it is funny how easily I fell into

    the trap of becoming 'the other woman.' The first flash of distress - a wounded soul no less, and I dived into the murky water. He told me that I was his oxygen. I was a mermaid Saint Bernard with the reviving elixir strapped to my neck. Strangely, I found two unmarried men...
    Faerylight Faerylight 41-45, F 19 Responses Jun 21, 2015

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    Has anyone gone bunny boiler on mm

    or exmm? He's been distant and pushing me away since Saturday. It's been like talking to a stranger. So I lost it and totally blew up, was sick of not knowing we're I stood and what was going on. To which he didn't read the message till hours later. Then found out he's been...
    Prettybutterfly88 Prettybutterfly88 26-30, F 11 Responses 1 day ago

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 17 Responses Mar 25, 2015

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    He came back and was restoring my Windows,

    it ended up reinstalling, and it took forever. We snuggled up on the couch, I had a nap and spent time caressing him under his shirt. He wrapped his arms around me, and I felt him kiss my head. Then he said, I have never worked on a computer quite this way, I could do this...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 3 hrs ago

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 19 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 29 Responses May 6, 2014

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    Thought and question.

    I have been watching a NETFLIX show called "Grace and Frankie" [really good BTW]. The premises of the show is these two couples who have known each other for years, their husbands are law partners. In the very first minutes of the show the husbands announce that they have...
    whynot13 whynot13 46-50, F 3 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    I wanted to share a paragraph from an email mm

    sent me today. He is constantly showering me with compliments. Here it is:... BTW, I have to tell you, last night you looked exceptional, just really turned me on. Your eyes, your face, smile…… I loved it!!!!!! What an inspiration to keep working hard on looking good...
    Janna78 Janna78 46-50, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    OH. MY. GOD. It's final,

    he's single, and as of 9:37am today I am no longer the OW!!!
    Shardsofsorrow Shardsofsorrow 31-35, F 66 Responses Jul 29, 2015

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 44 Responses Jan 10, 2015

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    Today marks 7 months without you in my life,

    BW. Guess what? I am getting stronger and stronger everyday! You can go **** yourself!!!
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 36-40, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 15 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    Honestly I'd beat the life out of ANY b!

    tch who tries to ruin my family and my marriage. There's enough men out there, there's no need for sharing ladies.
    Cleopatra05 Cleopatra05 18-21, F 28 Responses Dec 28, 2015

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    My story I posted here in June.

    Since I have had time to heal, process and although I still yearn for what we had, I know we made the right choices. I met a man. We were waiting in a line to go into a museum. We got talking, ended up going through the museum together then spent the weekend together. No...
    ifoundmehere ifoundmehere 46-50, F 4 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    He called me last night.

    It was his last evening in the Midwest for business, and he is headed home. He told me there is a very strong possibility that he will be sent to Honduras for six months beginning in April. I guess in a moment of weakness in talking with him again was shattered by divine...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 1 day ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 167 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    What's the best compliment you've received from

    your mm?? I get many about my looks but I think the compliments that have meant the most are him praising me for what I've accomplished business wise, for being smart and most of all for being a classy woman.
    Janna78 Janna78 46-50, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    I hope I can post this without being attacked.

    I live in a land of confusion these days. Love MM so much, but I know I need to end it. I just don't have the strength. We are both married. My marriage is not good. I have an exit strategy, it's just a longer term strategy. I've already tried to leave once, and husband...
    tidbits32 tidbits32 41-45, F 7 Responses 2 days ago

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    I get asked quite a bit

    why I'm still hung up on ex-mm, why I can't "just get over it." It's like asking a drug addict why they can't just stop using. The answer to why I can't just move on is quite simple really: I'm addicted. The better question is, why did I allow this poison into my life to...
    ashadams244 ashadams244 26-30, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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