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I Am The Other Woman

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    I guess I'm finally free.

    It doesn't feel so great right now. He told me that he was going to make things work with her for the sake of their son. That it's too hard for him to be without his son and that all of the back and forth with custody is starting to affect him. That it's breaking his heart to...
    Lavender25 Lavender25 26-30, F 8 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Well here goes. I've been lurking

    for a few months now and decided it's time for me to write my feelings out. Married to a good man and an amazing dad. We have not been intimate in 4-5 months. In the last year, we have not been out on a date and I think we're at the point where we love each other but not in...
    kikimarie1978 kikimarie1978 36-40, F 46 Responses 4 days ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 23 Responses May 6

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    I had a bad night last night

    and couldn't sleep. (I shared that with him this morning and he knew i was going to the therapist today) It may sound silly, but I am disappointed that it is late afternoon and he didn't check in to see how I am. He knows I have so much going on in my life. I never complain...
    blue963 blue963 51-55, F 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Tomorrow is not looking good.

    He will let me know in a little while. This was an hour ago. I told him I was disappointed, but it is what it is. Yesterday, he asked me about my ex-boyfriend. He asked if he was still in a relationship. I told him no, he was now single. He asked if I still talked to...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 11

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    Okay ladies it's pretty much the weekend he's

    not gna be at work today bc kids have off so he's gna hang out with them today before he tells them tomorrow. He told them during the week that they have some important things to discuss Saturday and to not make plans he's talked about it more and I'm pretty sure this time he's...
    ap05 ap05 26-30, F 1 Response 11 hrs ago

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    For lavc, and the rest of us

    who spend entirely too much time here. You can get so confused that you’ll start in to race down long wiggled roads at a break-necking pace and grind on for miles across weirdish wild space, headed, I fear, toward a most useless place. The Waiting Place… for people just...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 2 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 20 Responses Jul 30

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    Recall my last post about how I think his

    feelings for me a disappearing, trust a woman's instinct. He said yesterday all these arguments I keep causing have really pushed him away. He doesn't know if things are fixable but when he thinks of me now all that comes to his head is stress I give him. This happened because...
    Missy1179 Missy1179 31-35, F 14 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 103 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 146 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    Aaaand I've fallen off cloud 9.

    I'm trying my best not to cry while here at work...FML....I'm just going to jump into a big black hole of the unknown. Get out of my comfort zone I guess...maaaay not be on here for a while now....good luck....
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 4 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 42 Responses Feb 24

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 51 Responses Feb 16

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    I love flirty Friday lunches

    that morph into unexpectedly urgent passionate afternoons... Mmmmm now that wasn't planned!
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 2 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    What a great week with him.

    I was leaving today and he asked me to stop by his office. I am always amazed by the passion in his kiss. But as I have him one last kiss I got this really tight hug that spoke louder than any words. It's odd and I can't really explain it. It was almost as if he just really...
    surfandturf surfandturf 36-40, F 4 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    Some thoughts... Now I wrote my story,

    recounted everything, I'm actually starting to wonder if I love MM, or if it's simply the overwhelming sense of gratitude and the joy of being with someone who cares about me. The serendipity of how we met (I'm the only stranger he's ever messaged), etc. What is love anyway? I...
    asta20 asta20 31-35, F 5 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 36 Responses Sep 23

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    Saw MM today...ya know,

    to break things off so I could get clarity. Welp, that did happen, kind of. It also ended in mind blowing sex. I swear, the man has some sort of voodoo spell on me. One day at a time.
    kikimarie1978 kikimarie1978 36-40, F 6 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    I am a little confused here today maybe some of

    you have know someone that has been suffering with bi-polar.My MM told me yesterday he thinks that he's going to lose her soon ?I didn't want to pry but i am confused .They upped her meds i guess nothing is helping .I don't know about bi-polar and don't know what he meant by it...
    peachy115 peachy115 51-55, F 3 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Okay my girls, I can't count the stories I've

    read in this group over the last couple days in which you all are in the red tent! And my boobs hurt and I'm breaking out so mine's next! Is it possible that the OWs have synchronized cycles? Time to grab the Haagen Daaz, some rom coms and a box of kleenex. And thank you mother...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 5 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    I don't usually like to play games,

    but today I feel like making him work for it. He's been pretty busy lately and a bit distant. He asked me to come by his office for a visit, and ordinarily I would jump at the chance, but instead I just told him maybe later if I had time. Make him miss me instead of running...
    DarlingEll DarlingEll 26-30, F 5 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Would love advice , especially from wives

    or husbands, that isn't, get a divorce. I have been in my affair for just over two years.. It's more a friends with benefits situation with a lot of emotion wrapped up. We do not meet or talk every day , even every week sometimes, but it's enough and necessary not to get caught...
    Missmetomorrow Missmetomorrow 22-25, F 6 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    Been with him for a about 2hrs

    now just running around helping him with some work stuff. No conversations yet but he's acting super nice and very attentive to me today. Aaahhh i dont want to do this! I think he's trying to avoid talking to me. I hope i get something done today...
    Chicadelcaribe Chicadelcaribe 31-35, F 5 hrs ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 31-35, M 17 Responses Apr 19

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 39 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    I just responded to a post on here

    which got me to thinking (yes, y'all are in trouble while I ramble). If you're not mature enough to handle being an OW, sugar don't go down that road. The statement was made that his OW called W and said they were getting married. Excuse me? She (the W) is not your...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 26 Responses Oct 8

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 45 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    I am just not in a good mood today.

    My visitor arrived this week and I guess that is it. I'm questioning everything today. Moodiness I can't stand it. I don't need any of the regular trolls responding to this. So please respect me and don't. Thanks
    Sweetpea379 Sweetpea379 46-50, F 3 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 81 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 78 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 15 Responses Jun 2

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    The potato pancakes and our visit were

    both wonderful last night. I was nervous and was going to act like I didn't make a snack this time but he's gotten spoiled to me feeding him every time he comes by...dang it. He loved them. I'm hoping to see him again tonight, but my H decided yesterday to swap cars him...
    ynoTme83 ynoTme83 31-35, F 9 hrs ago

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    Our 24 hours together was amazing.

    .. Even if we were working. He has so much stress on home right now with one daughter joining the military, the other daughter he had to bail out of jail, helping his parents as his father goes through chemo and radiation for stage 3 colon cancer & "she" isn't helping at all...
    Newlife48 Newlife48 46-50, F 4 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    Oh someone kill me now!

    So a while earlier I was moaning about him ignoring me. Well I left him a message basically saying what I had written here. He's messaged me and said his grandma has passed away and to leave him alone. I feel awful, I've said I'm sorry but he doesn't want to know.
    Prettybutterfly88 Prettybutterfly88 22-25, F 7 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Our Story part 7 After the show was over,

    I asked MM, "Did you go on there...?" He said, "No... I can't." H was nearby. I told him, "He didn't go on." H said, "Yes he did. He just doesn't want to admit it." So I asked MM, "why can't you?" MM said, "I guess I could have." Whether MM saw it or not, H never made me tell...
    asta20 asta20 31-35, F 2 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    Our Story part 8 (final) Since I filed

    for D, things with MM didn't change a whole lot, but the subject of sex was slightly more in our conversation. One month after the separation, MM told me, "I'm flying to W----, I can make a pit stop to see you if you like." I agreed, even though I was nervous. I didn't want to...
    asta20 asta20 31-35, F 3 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 162 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    No I'm not one but I read the stories on this

    forum regularly for my own reasons and occasionally comment, never condescending but only to add my two cents. Hopefully my story can add to it. I was ending a 10 year marriage in the early 90's not because of "another woman" but one did become the deciding factor. After years...
    Mrperfectstranger Mrperfectstranger 51-55, M 4 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Of course today starts my two night over night

    with him... Of course it also starts my period. -_-
    lostanddistraught lostanddistraught 22-25, F 10 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 31 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 7 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 47 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 20 Responses Apr 18

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 20 Responses Jan 2

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    I cannot wait to see him next week.

    I miss my mm so much it is so heartbreaking I need him. hugs!!!
    kylee2013 kylee2013 36-40, F 1 Response 19 hrs ago

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    NOT ANYMORE...It's done.

    Six years and one month...and it's over. My MM told me today that he thought it best that we break up. He's never broken up with me before except at D-Day and one time when he was suspended from work because he was caught with me during work hours. Each time, I waited for...
    insouciant1 insouciant1 41-45, F 18 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    I was the other woman

    for a while. It was with a man at work. I am 19, he is 40. When I was hired at this place, I found out from the other girls there that he is married, but is a cheater and flirtatious. At first he and I were just friendly with each other, but then this summer when we were talking...
    pixieanddixie pixieanddixie 18-21, F 4 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    I am new here. I don't know any of the

    abbreviations. Any help would be appreciated. I have been in an affair with a married man for 3 years. I am also married, been not quite 12 years. I just miscarried a baby that was not my husbands. I'm a wreck. I guess I am hoping to find other women out there so I don't feel...
    BB262 BB262 41-45, F 9 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Women won't mess with a man

    that lives with his mom but will mess with a man who lives with his wife.
    reeessa reeessa 13-15, F 35 Responses 1 day ago

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