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I Am The Other Woman

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 152 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    I am actually in need of advice.

    MM and I talked on the phone not too long ago for closure. The only closure that came out of it was that he's still in love with me but we can never be "us" again, probably never even friends, but if we see each other at work occasionally it would be all right to say hi... He...
    renae85 renae85 26-30 3 Responses 1 hr ago

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    1:00 AM, I can't seem to fall asleep.

    Bored, playing with my phone. Went over some pictures and videos, then there it is, the video I recorded of you showing me how to do a certain assignment at work. It's only your voice but enough to bring me watery eyes. I still see and hear your voice in meetings and such at...
    lostsoul0311 lostsoul0311 26-30, F 1 Response 12 hrs ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 162 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    ******* shame if that's the case

    for many women! Have respect for your self! Don't settle for someone that obliviously has someone else.. The same sh*t he doing to her he will do to you eventually when he gets bored... Ain't none of my business Thoe
    BabyCakex BabyCakex 18-21, F 1 Response 33 mins ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 31-35, M 14 Responses Apr 19

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 204 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    Please, do not stop posting.

    ... I may not be the best person to make this request because I have only participated on the forum for just a few months. But I am so glad I had a place to go. I can not begin to tell you how supportive you ladies have been during my time of heart aches, up swings, troubles...
    saiyagyrl saiyagyrl 36-40, F 4 Responses May 26

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 48 Responses Feb 16

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    Anyone here is also in a long distant

    relationship with ur MM ? It is SO freaking hard to handle and i can't believe I have been in it for 2 yrs ... How often u guys see each other ?
    iloveuox iloveuox 26-30, F 3 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 69 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 22-25, F 19 Responses Apr 18

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    Wow, so I can't believe

    that in less than 12 hours, I will get to be intimate with him for the first time in 4 years! I have heard many of you say that the first time as the OW and MM is unforgettable and magical, I am hoping that will be my feelings as well. Do any of you ladies have any words of...
    addicted2him1966 addicted2him1966 31-35, F 4 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Things I don't miss from my affair.

    .. 1. Waiting for my phone to ding 2. Lying to spouse about where I am going 3. Making sure I erase texts 4. Time 5. Mind control that the affair holds not mm 6. Questioning of myself and actions 7. Guilt not for the affair but for my husband and his wife 8. Time 9. The panic...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 27

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    Today was a great day.

    We got to talk twice then after he got home he texted me and told me that I am all his Thursday!! Excited!!!! I have missed him so much.
    candybuck candybuck 36-40, F 17 hrs ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 29 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    One more.. Because I like it

    and I think we ALL need to do this on a daily basis!! Our relationships are complicated and oftentimes can be a roller coaster.. Yet our happiness is in OUR own hands ladies!! Xoxox hugs and kisses
    MarieVon MarieVon 36-40, F 2 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    I don't think I would ever have a problem being

    the orther woman as long as it understood how far to go n on some level of respect ?am I wrong
    crissyred33 crissyred33 31-35, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    Moving On.....I Didn'T Think I Would Ever Be Able To Say That

    I must admit that I have been pretty much obsessed over the man I cheated with. I haven't talked to him in over a year since the truth about us came out. But everyday I think about him and wonder how he is, what he is doing, how his son is, if he thinks about me at all...
    SS81 SS81 31-35, F 64 Responses May 8, 2013

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 21 Responses Jan 2

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    MM and I were texting

    and he said he was getting into bed, everyone was on the beach talking and watching the sunset. I told him that I would love to be sitting in the sand, head on his shoulder.... his arms around me, a kiss so passionate it makes my insides ache.... enjoying the sunset. He...
    blackheels4me blackheels4me 36-40, F 3 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    This just struck me as funny!

    !! ;). Something a little light to give a little laugh!!
    MarieVon MarieVon 36-40, F 3 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    We spoke on the phone this morning.

    It was so good to hear his voice. It was a nice, light conversation, and it felt so good. He told me he still loves me and always will. If I just wanted to be friends, he was okay with it, but he will always want more. I said if it goes back to a physical relationship, it...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 3 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    My Secret Gold Coin

    You don’t know it, but I think of you as a beautiful, precious, shiny gold coin that I keep secretly hidden in my pocket. I feel happy knowing that you are in there, but unhappy knowing that you have to stay hidden. I wish I could show you off to friends, but they wouldn’t...
    jenn80 jenn80 51-55 18 Responses May 23, 2013

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    I guess today is a NC day.

    :( I seriously think he just sees me as a "good friend," one who he can be physical with and share stuff with occasionally but someone who he could never see himself with. A legit affair (such irony). I know I've mentioned that before and this too.... He said If I don't contact...
    pearl26ab pearl26ab 26-30, F 2 hrs ago

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    2 questions 1. Does your mm wear a ring?

    2. What is your favorite thing your mm?
    PrincessLolita PrincessLolita 26-30, F 13 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    He said he'd try and spend time with me this

    week. The week is half over, no plans..... I'm so frustrated!!! I feel like he is just messing with me at this point. I want to remind him what he said Monday and that the week is 1/2 over, but I don't want to seem needy. I wish he'd just tell me yes or no so I don't have to...
    PrincessLolita PrincessLolita 26-30, F 3 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    I miss him so much. But i have to let him go.

    It's the right thing to do. I'm seeing him tomorrow. I hope i can brace myself.
    Moonstrucked Moonstrucked 26-30, F 4 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Just want to put this out there to all you

    other "other women" you keep me positive... You nail my feet to the ground... You make me smile ... You put my heart back in my chest ... Thank you and when I see you pouring your heart out I feel it... I hope all the best for everyone of you misunderstood beautiful women ... I...
    jupsta jupsta 36-40, F 8 Responses Jun 9

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    My partner is a cuckhold.

    Recently the next door neighbor started hitting on me and I so want to go over there but its a small town and although my guy is good with it, we don't want everyone to know. I am going crazy holding back!
    OdysseyCMV OdysseyCMV 41-45, F 5 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 17 Responses May 4

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 43 Responses Feb 24

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 11 Responses Jun 2

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    Well, I am the other woman to a married woman.

    We've been together for almost 2 years now, have fallen head over heels in love, and she's now giving up on us and moving to Colorado with her family in a little over a week. She says she "loves me more than anyone she's ever loved" but she "has to know that it's not going to...
    idiehami idiehami 26-30, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 40 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 64 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    Both Sides of the Fence!

    I lived in a sexless marriage for many years. My spouse did not. He like dripping his wick elsewhere, through our entire marriage. I didn't want to catch any thing so... glad he was getting taken care of ...cause he wasn't touching me again... that was for sure! I am divorce...
    MorningBreeze MorningBreeze 56-60, F 26 Responses Feb 15

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 44 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    I got to see my love again tonight.

    Folded the seats down on my SUV laid back and watched the stars. Just being wrapped up in his arms I feel at peace, safe and cozy...wish I could've just went to sleep.
    ynoTme83 ynoTme83 26-30, F 1 Response 16 hrs ago

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    Yesterday he was extra sweet all day.

    Stayed in contact with me from morning until night, never missing an opportunity to tell me I am pretty, how much he misses me (sometimes right after we say goodbye), he bets I am so cute in the morning, how much he wants to spend time with me I saw him for an hour or so at the...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    He just left! I love his smell on me all over

    me, so he tells me he's going to download some series onto his iPad because all he does is check his phone to see if there's a message from me and it's getting very unhealthy and he needs to stop thinking about me so much to start functioning properly. Sad to hear he wants to...
    Missy1179 Missy1179 31-35, F 31 mins ago

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    The past 24 hours were amazing!

    !! Being together is when we are both at our happiest!! Sleeping in the same bed with him, even if it's a twin bed, lying in his arms is the way it should be :-)
    Newlife48 Newlife48 46-50, F 1 Response 5 hrs ago

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 8 Responses Feb 13

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    I was, how do you move on?

    I cannot stop thinking about him. I cry a lot and I really don't wish these bittersweet feelings for anyone. He was my king! my everything! I would of done so much for him! and now it is over. Help please! How do you move on?
    gweneth gweneth 36-40, F 12 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Today wasn't so great.

    He's been really good for quite a while about sending me texts throughout the day during work hours and it became a very common thing. From early in the morning until it's time for him to go home. And if she works in the evening, he will continue through the night. Today, he...
    PatientHeart PatientHeart 31-35, F 3 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 36 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 9 Responses Feb 11

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    HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME!

    ! Another birthday has come and gone. And now...as I sit alone in my empty house, all those feelings and questions begin to emerge. I received my birthday call from my MM. Like each birthday since we met...he's never forgotten my birthday. Except that year of the D-Day, but I'm...
    insouciant1 insouciant1 41-45, F 14 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    I was the other women

    for a year but now I am the wife. We will be celebrating our 3 year wedding anniversary soon. We were both married to other people when we met. We were both in bad marriages. We are both so much happier now. If anyone wants to hear my story I am happy to share.
    magic2929 magic2929 46-50, F 17 Responses Apr 29

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    Am I? My guy has a girlfriend

    but he is very honest. The girlfriend knows about me, we have met. First thing he said to me was he has a lady and he is not a one woman man but will not go with anyone who asks. He is protective of me but not jealous, I can have other men as long as I am honest. I choose not...
    vampirish vampirish 46-50, F 2 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    Oh what a title we hold.

    So glorious in thought, crappy when it comes to reality. It takes a strong woman to be in this position, despite what others think. To be the "perfect" other woman, you need to be lovingly firm. If you want it to be about just sex, say so! If you have deeper feelings for the...
    Brokenhearted14 Brokenhearted14 22-25, F 2 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 21 Responses May 6

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    So everyone knows my MM went distant about 6

    weeks ago. Well he just stopped calling and texting outside of work. Today he was messing with me like he always does. he grabbed my hand and I thought he was going to bite me but he was like o ur hand and I went to smell it and he it my hand into my lip and it busted my lip lol...
    tc57 tc57 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 hr ago

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