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I Am The Other Woman

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 88 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 154 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    Thank you all for saving me from myself today.

    I was overwhelmed by the outpouring of support, advice, kind words, wisdom, suggestions, encouragement & ((hugs)) Even the T's managed to help as I like to needle them a little with a response (but who could top KoKo's? ROFLMAO) and then block them. I'm not a crier, however...
    forbidden67 forbidden67 46-50, F 1 Response 11 hrs ago

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    We've been trying to end things

    and say goodbye since the end of January. Its the beginning of March and here we still are. Saying this time is the last time, saying our farewells. He isn't leaving her. And I can't keep doing this. But we have a magnetic attraction that keeps us drawn to each other. I'm not...
    IamLisaSimpson IamLisaSimpson 26-30, F 3 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    So MM came over earlier this week.

    We spent a few hours together. As he was leaving he noticed a pizza box on my stove and asked how old it was. I told him "two days". He then questions "so you had company?" I told him yes, Sunday evening. He shrugged it off and left. Later that evening, he calls me and goes into...
    kc5316 kc5316 22-25, F 1 Response 48 mins ago

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    "I think a part of me will always be waiting

    for you" Always, my lion, regardless, until I am no more. ox
    Scorpionchild Scorpionchild 46-50, F 2 hrs ago

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    When I was 20 I had the boyfriend from hell.

    He didn't love me at all. I fell in love by myself. He didn't want people to even know we were a couple. It was awful and I swear I adored him. I ended it when he literally told me "Why do you love me when I all I give you is crap?" Today in my 30's I can say it happened again...
    liberty2014 liberty2014 36-40, F 3 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    hi- i am going on day 5 of not contacting him,

    and he hasn't contacted me. i have a confession to make, and i am not proud. so no contact to me also means not looking at his facebook page, and I haven't done that. but in a self indulgent moment, i google street mapped their house. why? i guess i wanted to see what their life...
    hardtiming hardtiming 41-45, F 9 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 51 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 48 Responses Jan 10

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    I feel like I'm going to get

    so much crap for posting this but.. I am not here to impress anyone or to get anyone's approval. I'm not happy in my current situation nor will I ever be happy.. I guess only time will tell what will happen. Yes.. I am the other woman. I can't help but be attracted and the...
    mercifulpennies mercifulpennies 18-21, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    Things just continue to grow

    and become so much deeper. I guess I'm slightly spoiled to have someone who puts my needs and desires ahead of their own. I know that desire to bring pleasure and happiness to that special person. Today I did for him what he never gives me the chance to do. Wow, I think it felt...
    Serendipitous1 Serendipitous1 36-40, F 2 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    It's so nice to hear his voice on the phone

    when we haven't seen each other much this week. He sends me links to songs to say how he is feeling. We made plans for early next week. We will spend most of the day together. I'm really liking and enjoying how simple this this. So different from ex MM where there was always...
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 4 hrs ago

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    Okay ladies, I need some advice.

    Most of you know my story and that my ex-MM sent me an email on Monday after almost 6 months of NC. What do you think would affect him the most? Me not responding at all or responding nonchalantly? Thanks in advance!!!
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 36-40, F 9 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    Such a strange rollercoaster / push

    and pull being the OW... This morning driving in the car I was thinking how MM and I have grown apart a little since our argument last week. He's still my best friend. We are still talking and everything fine, only I'm filling my life with other things, getting a healthier...
    daisyblue222 daisyblue222 36-40, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Hi ladies... I know I haven't been on here in a

    while I guess after I let my MM go I wanted to also get away from this site and see if a couple days away from reality would help me but then I struggled because I had to get urgent surgery and I've been in and out the hospital for a whole month now and things haven't been...
    sadpreciosa sadpreciosa 26-30, F 2 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 101 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 54 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Today was an okay day

    for me. He's out sick so not at work. We did talk for an hour. I left work in a good place, came home to my daughter, and now sitting here with her, I can't help but feel heavy and sad. I hate that I can't keep it together for more than a few hours at a time and that I want...
    Cjlm79 Cjlm79 31-35, F 15 hrs ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 46 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Well I've started talking to a married man,

    and I must say he's a little more eager than I am. I also found another guy who was more local, I hope the local one works out more. ;)
    doublemajorfever doublemajorfever 18-21, F 4 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 85 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    Hurting today. I thought things would be better

    by now but they aren't. This post isn't really directed at the relationship though. I mainly want to thank everyone who took time to support my situation and give advice, whether it be good or bad. I feel very thankful I have people to share my experience with because it isn't...
    subgirl26 subgirl26 22-25, F 3 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    Lunch date today Don't feel much like it Since

    realigning his position in my life a few weeks back we are less connected Even our overnight last week felt different Clarity with distance It's not a bad thing Happy Friday Ladies! Do something YOU enjoy today. Something that makes you laugh, smile or simply feel good.
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 3 hrs ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 17 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    I just sent a long text message to my engaged

    man...telling him I can't keep putting my heart through this with him. He has two kids with her...I'm just a distraction to him. It makes me so sad to think I might not get to kiss him again. But, he's not going to leave her for me so what's the point? I'm not someone's second...
    Superwoman300 Superwoman300 26-30, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 19 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 11, 2014

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 165 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 18 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 79 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    This relationship just keeps getting better

    and better. The love we have been blessed with is deep. We continue to open our hearts and souls to one another is ways we haven't with any other human. I respect him and trust him. And for those of you getting ready to pounce on me for loving a married man, just go away. I...
    yourlastlove yourlastlove 51-55, F 3 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 11 Responses Feb 13, 2014

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    I'm gonna need your strength today ladies (and

    gents). Today is 12 days no contact but is also 10 months since our first contact. I'm struggling because I really want to message him and say, "10 Months today & thankful for the times we spent together and memories made" Yet I know I would be reaching out in the hopes of...
    forbidden67 forbidden67 46-50, F 38 Responses 1 day ago

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 6

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    The Emptiness Afterwards You spend a day with

    your MM. The both of you are elated you get this encumbered time together, it's been almost a year since you've had an entire day (8hrs) together. The minutes tick by like seconds. It's over. You both shed tears as he holds your face in his hands, his eyes looking into your...
    serendipity65 serendipity65 41-45, F 6 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 205 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    The last couple times MM

    and I have been together he has casually mentioned that we need to have a weekend away together. Currently we see each other once a month and it's usually an overnight. Anyone ever pull a weekend off? How'd you do it? It would be wonderful!
    ladylove0113 ladylove0113 36-40, F 3 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 29 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 53 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    I'm married but I'm having an affair with my

    best friends husband. I know we can never be together as it would rip his family apart but I feel so lost without him. I made a huge mistake marrying my husband and can only be thankful we have no children. I want a divorce but I know it would crush him. It's so difficult being...
    kimathy86 kimathy86 26-30, F 116 Responses Feb 19

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 32 Responses Sep 23, 2014

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    Holy Sh**! He came over

    for coffee this morning. We sat and talked, really talked. He's started planning, saving and is looking for a therapist to walk him through the emotional roller coaster that will happen. Yes talked about it before, but now he's actually gone and done it. We are still not...
    40Creek 40Creek 41-45, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I am the luckiest girl in the world.

    My guy is such a sweetheart.
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 2 Responses 3 hrs ago

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