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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    "Call your girlfriend.

    .. its time you had the talk... give your reasons... say its not her fault... and when she gets upset tell her that you never meant to hurt no one... and you tell her that the only way her heart will mend, is when she learns to love again... and it wont make sense right now but...
    horsegirl33pony horsegirl33pony 16-17, F 19 hrs ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 29 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Thoughts for today. I've been crazy busy this

    week. We have only gotten to see each other for our morning parking lot hugs, no other times, really. Well, he did stop by my office once. Yes, I know we are terribly spoiled, but it's hard on us. It's the craziest thing. When he is apart from me, I feel this pull in the area...
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 5 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    I'm the other woman but the guy I seeing is

    also the other man because I'm married, too. Yes, we are both in relationships with other people. Pretty ****** up. He's actually engaged to someone he gas two kids with but doesn't have a problem seeing me too. I told husband last night that I've been unfaithful. I've moved out...
    Superwoman300 Superwoman300 26-30, F 14 hrs ago

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    Cjlm79 asked a question in another post about

    the odds of an MM marrying his mistress. That got me curious and I started researching. Well, I knew the odds aren't good. But it's much worse than I thought... From multiple sources and studies, it appears that only 3% - 10% of MM who DIVORCE end up marrying their OWs. That...
    asta20 asta20 31-35, F 11 Responses 1 day ago

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    okay, well he asked me last night

    if i was in love with him, i lied, said no im not ready to face this rejection cos i know he doesnt feel that way about me, i dont want us to end up together, just a secret love affiar lo, sumone to tell me he cares and miss e, and show me affection but i cant tell him this
    ANGELKZ ANGELKZ 26-30, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Paring IT Down !! I like simple things in my

    life... friends, music, structure, patterns and puzzles, kids , sunrises, light rain, alone time, chocolate flavored ice cream ...yummy body hugging dresses simply cut..... i am predictable. Of course HappyMan Is on the top of this list ( am being cheeky !!) I have been...
    warriormama warriormama 41-45, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    Haha I made him mad. We were together this

    morning. Didnt contact me after. I had said i would do something for him. I did it and wasn't working exactly as I thought. Got on chat. He said I let you go to work on it. (hint he is busy). Said fine if your busy. Next thing I know he is on FB. I sent an email "haha...
    blue963 blue963 51-55, F 2 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Counseling today for me was rough.

    Learning how to take care of my "inner child" and not pass her off to people who say they will care for me but really don't. Doesn't make this "space" easier with mm and he is out from work again. Kinda wish he would stop texting me...
    Cjlm79 Cjlm79 31-35, F 3 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    It's been three days

    since I contacted him telling him I needed to "get better," and needed to get over him, that the crumbs of communication from him were preventing me from accepting reality. so, he hasn't contacted me. and i know this is good- that if he is married, and not going to leave, there...
    hardtiming hardtiming 41-45, F 4 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 32 Responses Sep 23, 2014

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    It's been 2 months now

    since i started seeing this MM. He was a long time friend and while we were young, he tried to date me but it was just a wrong time because i was in my first relationship then and still young. Now, he came back to me and came with this kind of proposal of having kids with me and...
    peachhouse peachhouse 26-30, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Being invited by the wife to enjoy her husband

    kinda takes the thrill away from it.
    DesiredEmily DesiredEmily 22-25, F 2 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    Well... that was interesting.

    .. My ex ex MM... God that sounds awful... The one I am in love with.. the one I was best friends with in high school.... well we were talking today.. and he said he was bored at work. We used to play that game Trivia Crack against each other all of the time so he goes...
    AvaLennon AvaLennon 31-35, F 14 hrs ago

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    alisoncc11 alisoncc11 26-30, F 4 hrs ago

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    Its been over 2 yr now

    since my MM moved away. I don't get the chance to see my MM as much as most do although we text and video chat often...I still miss him. He sends random poems and lovey messages from time to time. Sometime I get the drunken I love you text which usually make me wish I was there...
    waitingonfaith waitingonfaith 31-35 10 hrs ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 17 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 79 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    This is story 365, even

    though I can't believe it. I'm sure EP is tickling my ego. Does it need it , you can judge for yourselves . Do I miss good sex you ask. Yes of course I do , I'm tired not dead . I'm not going to talk too much about sex because right now there's no such inclination in my...
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 5 mins ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 101 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 19 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    OK ladies, just wanted to get your input on

    this....for those of you who have flaky/emotionally unavailable MMs and tumultuous relationships with them i.e. you are on again, off again, have problems, yet can't stay away from each other: If you and your MM went NC and then you heard from him a significant amount of time...
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 36-40, F 7 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Next week my mm's wife will be out of town.

    It's our first opportunity to spend the night together. Oh how I want that more than anything in the world. I can only imagine what it would feel like waking up in his arms, kissing him goodnight. I just have no excuse to tell my husband. So I guess it will remain just a dream...
    Janna78 Janna78 46-50, F 1 Response 11 hrs ago

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 89 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 51 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 11 Responses Feb 13, 2014

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 19 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    I am insecure, but I will be ok.

    I am afraid, but I will find courage. I am confused, but I will obtain clarity. My heart has been broken, but I will heal. I am lost, but I will find my way. I ended the relationship with my man abruptly and for a week I was a mess. Questioning, did I over react? Oh no, have I...
    ravenofthedark ravenofthedark 41-45, F 6 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    I know that now I've written 364 stories

    since joining this site 20 months ago now . I guess I either talk too much or just enjoy sharing my views and feelings as mixed as they often are. But I enjoy doing it ..... I say it to you every time we chat .i say it to you when you're asleep thousands of kilometres away from...
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 5 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 53 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    The first time I went to bed with a married man,

    I was much younger than I should have been. The experience was a thrill and I love it. The thrill of the taboo and the powerful feeling of being lusted after.
    DesiredEmily DesiredEmily 22-25, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 85 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 41 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    I'm married but I'm having an affair with my

    best friends husband. I know we can never be together as it would rip his family apart but I feel so lost without him. I made a huge mistake marrying my husband and can only be thankful we have no children. I want a divorce but I know it would crush him. It's so difficult being...
    kimathy86 kimathy86 26-30, F 117 Responses Feb 19

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 48 Responses Jan 10

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 67 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 27 Responses May 6, 2014

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    I never thought this is how it would end up

    but it has and its amazing......for over a week I get to wake up with you beside me. I get to watch you sleep with such a peace its comforting I am the one that gets to hold you in my arms now every day no matter what happens. I get to kiss you and tell you that you are the only...
    TheOnlyOneDamaged TheOnlyOneDamaged 22-25, M 2 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    "I've tried so to forget,

    at times I do, and yet The memory of you lingers like our song The things we did last summer, I'll remember all winter long...."
    MeAsAnon MeAsAnon 36-40, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 6

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 154 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 18 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 12 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 15 Responses May 4, 2014

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    How do you let them go ?

    I wish there was a way to turn these feelings off like flipping a switch. I'm tired of the pain and emptiness where my heart is.
    Blueeyes65 Blueeyes65 46-50, F 6 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
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