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I Am The Other Woman

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    OH. MY. GOD. It's final,

    he's single, and as of 9:37am today I am no longer the OW!!!
    Shardsofsorrow Shardsofsorrow 31-35, F 89 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    Good Morning ladies how are all of you getting

    better everyday here. So you ladies have favorite body part or quality you love about your lover? For me it's her Smile and her kindness and don't hurt she got a nice ***.
    ForbiddenFruitLove95 ForbiddenFruitLove95 18-21, F 8 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 45 Responses Jan 10

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    I think this question has been asked before

    but I always love hearing the responses. When did you first realize you loved your mm/ow? Did you tell them right away or wait? Share your first "I love you" story if you don't mind :)
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 14 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 14 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 78 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 18 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    So every day I find myself wondering

    if I could ever tell him my true feelings for him. I don't think I'll ever get the nerve. I'm so afraid things will change. We don't talk about our feelings towards one another. I have no idea how he feels and he has no idea how I feel. I know we are each other's best...
    AvaLennon AvaLennon 31-35, F 4 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 170 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 53 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    I don't always agree with people's choices,

    they may not be what I would do but they're your choices. We all makes mistakes, we all have things we've wanted to undo and put behind us. I know this thread must get a lot of backlash and hate from people. I think we all are broken to some degree and not one of us is perfect.
    PrivateEyes1980 PrivateEyes1980 31-35, F 3 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 22 Responses Mar 22

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    Learning to let go. He is too precious of a

    friend to live without. So I broke NC. We have not met and barely talked, which is different than the norm. He did ask a couple of times why I din't call or text him. He din't because he was waiting for me to calm down. He misread hurt as anger. Feelings led me to think he had...
    coolvolatile coolvolatile 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 48 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 50 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 42 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    NO LONGER THE OTHER WOMAN!

    !! I am now the only woman :) it has been officially ended this morning, he was straight on the phone to me who was awesome at playing it cool despite up all night worrying! He was going to come over but we both decided against it as he needs time to recover maybe. He has gone...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 12 Responses Mar 21

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    I'm actually not, but this is a fantasy of mine.

    .. Like I'm ******* his brains out and then his wife walks in, and she's like "ooooh... I'm joining in." And then me and his wife run away together. :D (Is that like a movie or sth? )
    Storiesnotforthefaintofheart Storiesnotforthefaintofheart 18-21, F 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    For those of us who just ended things,

    or are hanging by a thread, the positive side of this freedom... No more watching them text back and forth like tweeners on our dates. No more lonely Sundays, feeling sad that it's an NC day. No more laying in bed every night wondering what they're doing in bed together. No...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 19 Responses Jul 12

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    Such a great day it has been.

    We've had some wonderful time together the last week and I'm amazed that I'm more attracted to him in every possible way after so long. He's been a great friend and an unbeatable lover. For this I'm grateful.
    Serendipitous1 Serendipitous1 36-40, F 3 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 94 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    He told me this afternoon

    as we rode along in his truck, holding hands, "I think we make a good team". That made my day.
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 7 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 24 Responses Apr 30

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    Looking back it is funny how easily I fell into

    the trap of becoming 'the other woman.' The first flash of distress - a wounded soul no less, and I dived into the murky water. He told me that I was his oxygen. I was a mermaid Saint Bernard with the reviving elixir strapped to my neck. Strangely, I found two unmarried men...
    Faerylight Faerylight 41-45, F 17 Responses Jun 21

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    I have huge feelings

    for him and I felt like everything was perfect just he had a girlfriend but when he broke up with her for me. My life literally could not get any better. I love him so much now me and him are as happy as any two people could get ^.^
    jessythekittenx jessythekittenx 18-21, F 1 Response 17 hrs ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    I cursed him out 3 weeks ago.

    haven't heard from...tried to do some damage control...Complete fail. he's still ignoring me. I don't know if we are done for good or not. but I do remember my palmist saying it will be over for good by the end of summer. so...I don't know ...although I got fired. .everything...
    newgurlxo newgurlxo 18-21, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    So I've been thinking all today

    and i turned angry. After everything we have shared and understand about each other I thought he would at least find a way to call me and talk things out. I feel like he just.don't care about me anymore. I know he's trying to be careful but I thought I matterd enough...
    plusisamust plusisamust 22-25, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 30 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    NC officially over. I saw him last night to

    talk about my need for a mental break and personal relationship evaluation. The behavior change when he is home now, the phone block, his new jealousy issues, and our mutual feelings on leaving this relationship for the others sake. Thank you redsheep2 and emeraldprincess0010...
    Mama2ljre Mama2ljre 36-40, F 2 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 50 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 158 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    I dont get it! Didn't get a reply to message to

    my message on sunday so text Tuesday asking if everything was ok...got a reply few hours later saying he's having bad week, so I reply: Ok, here if you need me. He's been constantly online on whapsapp for days now, and I mean constantly! He was even online at half one...
    Prettybutterfly88 Prettybutterfly88 26-30, F 9 mins ago

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    They say everything happens

    for a reason and I am such a true believer of that. Two weeks ago I was dreading this week. I had already pictured in my mind that I was going to be miserable, that I would be drinking large glasses of wine every night and that I would be crying myself to sleep. Is this a norm...
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Quality vs quantity I've had a hard time with

    this one because I haven't been able to see him as much recently. When we are together though, it feels like we are really 'together' and connected. He gives me his full attention and it's just us. I don't feel sad or confused after we leave. I feel adored and content. Of course...
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 9 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    The questions... Oh, the questions.

    .. For the 10 months he was figuring out his own journey, for the 10 months that (in hindsight) I was working on myself (but at the time felt like I was dying everyday), for the 10 months he had to reassure me he "liked me", "missed me", "wasn't going anywhere", there was still a...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 5 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    For the past few weeks he's been

    so attentive... Sees me almost daily, tells me and shows me he loves me and it has lit me up inside. I wonder when it's going to end, but most importantly I wonder why.... But as I'm sitting here I'm thinking about why do I need to question it?? I wanted this! I wanted to feel...
    AmazinglyBootyful AmazinglyBootyful 31-35, F 8 hrs ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    I don't need your lecture how I need end my

    affair. I'm not "asking her to divorce her husband for me and to marry me" well One I am 19 I am not looking to getting married anytime soon. Not at least until 25 that not for another 5 years my bday is Nov 15 btw. Two I don't want her to leave her husband for me if she want to...
    ForbiddenFruitLove95 ForbiddenFruitLove95 18-21, F 7 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    RELATIONSHIP FAST DAY: 6 lessons from Day 5

    that shaped DAY 6. The emotional equivalent of a shaky learner riding a bicycle without training wheels. I did a lot of falling propelled by adrenaline and sheer will. I had no pictures, messages to re-read , no app to contact my special person , no e-mail address or telephone...
    Strawberrygiggles Strawberrygiggles 41-45, F 3 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 29 Responses May 6, 2014

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 19

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    Carefully I'm allowing myself to believe a

    little more each day. Slowly I'm allowing myself to let down little pieces of my wall again- a wall he doesn't know is there. Little by little, inch by inch, he & I are moving forward together...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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