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I Am The Other Woman

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    'Say something, I'm giving up on you' Tears

    everywhere right now. Could be him or me singing some of this. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=O23-OjPyR9A
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 4 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 41 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    He still texts me here

    and there and tells me that he loves me before he has to go for the night. It's nice to still be friends without all the secrecy and hassle of knowing certain things. I still love him dearly and I hope for the best for both of us. Right now I am keeping busy and staying...
    strivingforsanity strivingforsanity 22-25, F 43 mins ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 3 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    Peace out to you "ow" I came here,

    by accident, and always felt sorry for you "ow" and I still am but now I am sick to the stomach with your poor me's and will I get a happy ending and boo hoo he's spending time with his real woman. WOman up.
    paliglass paliglass 31-35, F 11 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 20 Responses May 6

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 163 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    Please, do not stop posting.

    ... I may not be the best person to make this request because I have only participated on the forum for just a few months. But I am so glad I had a place to go. I can not begin to tell you how supportive you ladies have been during my time of heart aches, up swings, troubles...
    saiyagyrl saiyagyrl 36-40, F 4 Responses May 26

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    So so sad today. A week ago at this minute we

    were getting on the train together for our amazing overnight trip. I think being with him for all those hours and enjoying every second together is making it so much harder for me to be away from him now. I just want us! Killing me today. How do you all do this ?!?! It would be...
    Changedforever9514 Changedforever9514 36-40, F 5 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    lostanddistraught lostanddistraught 22-25, F 8 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 43 Responses Feb 24

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 22 Responses Jul 30

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 68 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 29 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Last night was one of the best nights of my

    life. We left work early and went to our special spot- a little private beach. We brought blankets and pillows and beer and he FINALLY opened up to me. He even was telling me about his life before me and cried. It rained on us and it was so romantic. The sex was phenomenal as...
    lostanddistraught lostanddistraught 22-25, F 1 Response 13 hrs ago

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    I'm married and the other woman.

    I need advice. I feel overwhelmed. My husband and I have been going through hard times for years. I'm not sure I was ever truly happy. Something was always lacking. Anyways, in Jan of this year I met someone on EP. Not the first man I had found and had a connection with. But...
    NothinginmyWAY NothinginmyWAY 31-35, F 10 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    He's back!! He called me the moment he got a

    toenail in the US. He had sound so awful when I spoke to him He said he was hit with a virus or food poisoning. It hit him when he got on the plan. 5 hour flight of sickness. AAAARRGH....I can only imagine. Everything was coming out of both ends. He said he all but...
    saiyagyrl saiyagyrl 36-40, F 2 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Update: he just texted me they are sending him

    to a much larger hospital two hours from here. I'm not sure why, but they are sending him now.
    leigh8133 leigh8133 31-35, F 10 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 10 Responses Feb 13

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    blue963 blue963 46-50, F 4 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    I was the other women

    for a year but now I am the wife. We will be celebrating our 3 year wedding anniversary soon. We were both married to other people when we met. We were both in bad marriages. We are both so much happier now. If anyone wants to hear my story I am happy to share.
    magic2929 magic2929 46-50, F 17 Responses Apr 29

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 20 Responses Apr 18

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 21 Responses Jan 2

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    I'm pretty sure he's dying.

    He's been in the icu for a week now, he's on a picc line and now a catheder, they keep him looped on morphine. The only time I've ever known a hospital to do that was when the man was dying. I would never tell him my fears, but I'm so scared...what if I don't get to say goodbye...
    leigh8133 leigh8133 31-35, F 11 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    My Secret Gold Coin

    You don’t know it, but I think of you as a beautiful, precious, shiny gold coin that I keep secretly hidden in my pocket. I feel happy knowing that you are in there, but unhappy knowing that you have to stay hidden. I wish I could show you off to friends, but they wouldn’t...
    jenn80 jenn80 51-55 18 Responses May 23, 2013

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 152 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    Things I don't miss from my affair.

    .. 1. Waiting for my phone to ding 2. Lying to spouse about where I am going 3. Making sure I erase texts 4. Time 5. Mind control that the affair holds not mm 6. Questioning of myself and actions 7. Guilt not for the affair but for my husband and his wife 8. Time 9. The panic...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 14 Responses Apr 27

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 48 Responses Feb 16

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 11

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    He's away over night at a wedding with the w.

    The pictures in my head are driving me crazy. He doesn't have to deal with these thoughts if me having sex with my h because he knows that I am on the way out of my marriage. He as always said that I am the only one he is being intimate with. Im sure it is lies. I don't...
    blue963 blue963 46-50, F 4 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    Looks like everyone is posting songs tonight.

    Here is one I love... http://youtu.be/N1GfEl8XUc4
    Dreamingofhim0514 Dreamingofhim0514 26-30, F 1 hr ago

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    blue963 blue963 46-50, F 13 hrs ago

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    He's getting sloppy..

    . And I caught myself letting him do it until I feel that it gets dangerous.... A few weeks ago my mm fell asleep after the end of our sexcapade.... I fell asleep too which was different and when he woke up it was after 3:30am.... Wife questioned him and she let it go..This week...
    Lilypad718 Lilypad718 31-35, F 3 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Bad day today....lost my strength.

    ..showed weakness. Really bad day today :-(
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 3 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 142 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 17 Responses May 4

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 31-35, M 16 Responses Apr 19

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    He said "I love you" today,

    I mean he's said it a couple times in the past usually when I'm one foot out the door. But today I was just having a rough day and contemplating returning to an old habit and he said "I love you, don't do it" :)
    ynoTme83 ynoTme83 31-35, F 4 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 72 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    I feel bad 2 Weddings

    and funeral coming up and his told his wife he wants to go alone Surely she must think that's odd Do you think the MMs wife knows deep down it's Over the signs must be obvious
    Lost0808 Lost0808 26-30, F 2 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 37 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Great new country song!

    Every time I hear it I think of my MM!!! You hit me like fire, shot me like a bullet. Burned me up and down, no way to cool it. But every time you kiss me it's like sunshine and whiskey. It's like a bottle of Jack straight to the head. One shot, two shot, copper tone red...
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 31-35, F 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 44 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Just want to put this out there to all you

    other "other women" you keep me positive... You nail my feet to the ground... You make me smile ... You put my heart back in my chest ... Thank you and when I see you pouring your heart out I feel it... I hope all the best for everyone of you misunderstood beautiful women ... I...
    jupsta jupsta 36-40, F 8 Responses Jun 9

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    We relapsed. I couldn't help it,

    I've fallen back into it and it felt so good because it's exactly what I want but now I have to deal with the guilt again. I wish I could just throw caution to the wind in enjoy it with my MM...
    LoveBytes LoveBytes 26-30, F 4 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 79 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 103 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 15 Responses Jun 2

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    How should I say this to my OW?

    I want her to make the best decision for herself between me and her fiance. I want her to figure out what she really wants in a man, what she expects from a man, what she wants in life, and how she imagines her future. I think answering those questions will help her make the...
    wakeupdead wakeupdead 26-30, M 2 Responses 41 mins ago

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    So sad today :( 7 weeks in

    and I noticed he was already behaving distant and inattentive towards me. I broke it off on Saturday night via email and he hasn't said anything via email OR text. The most f***ed up thing is that I tried to break it off a month ago (before we had sex) and within 4 hours, he...
    MonaeJanelle MonaeJanelle 26-30, F 3 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    I'm flying back home today

    and he and his soon to be ex are going to tell the kids today. Sooooo any advice as to what happens next or what to do? Yes he is moving out this week
    ap05 ap05 26-30, F 4 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    So SG gone away on holiday

    for 2 weeks today. What am I going to do now to distract me from reaching out to MM?! Things have been good that past week, started having a lot more feelings for SG other then him just being a distraction but no contact for 2 weeks is going to be hard. I really don't want to be...
    Prettybutterfly88 Prettybutterfly88 22-25, F 3 Responses 15 hrs ago

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