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I Am The Other Woman

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 22 Responses Mar 22

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 19 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    They aren't even together

    and I'm still the other woman! It's so stupid that I still have to feel like a secret...
    Kiaersanne Kiaersanne 18-21, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 45 Responses Jan 10

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    I mean really? I see freedomnow1 is continuing

    her trend of attacking me over the Internet. Oh if only I could see her in person ;) ... SFGamer has also jumped on her one woman bandwagon. Do women really get a kick out of bringing others down? It makes no sense to me. It seems to me that happy people do nothing other...
    AvaLennon AvaLennon 31-35, F 10 Responses 1 day ago

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    My mother has been a cheater,

    and a mistress to the same man for 9 years now. I resent her so much for it, due to the fact that my father has been so heart broken and loves her so much, he hasn't left. I am 18 years old now. I have been " the other woman" for technically 3 years now. Although I feel as...
    amariss13 amariss13 18-21, F 5 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    So I have been the other woman now

    for 5 months. I am also in a LTR for over 10 years with kids. Not completely sure what the hell I'm doing. I have met someone that fulfills so many things I'm missing or that I never knew I could feel that way again. I went and met him today. It was amazing to get to see him...
    Sunkitten Sunkitten 31-35, F 1 Response 18 hrs ago

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 18 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 170 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    Well, I talked to my MM about our relationship

    and I told him that if he didn't make more of an effort to see me I was out of this relationship. Well he took it as a breakup and he went into a depression posting all kinds of sad things. We still texted and he seemed so so sad. Then he tells me that he was going to kill...
    4bdnluv 4bdnluv 31-35, F 5 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 19

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    Met MM at lunchtime today.

    What a difference it was from the last two times we me. When we met after his family vacation, my wall was a bit up. Then we met for "the talk". Both times there was some stress in the air. Today when we met, we both just couldn't stop smiling. And I forgot how much I missed his...
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 1 day ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 16 Responses Mar 25

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 32 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    This is truly what I want one day.

    What I need. I sent it to MM as well. He agreed that it is the hardest part of our relationship, but frankly it is also what will kill it because one can't be in the shadows forever. Hugs my friends. Just thought it was beautiful
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 6 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    I cant do this anymore,

    its too hard and hurts too much. How can one man cause so much pain and so much self loathing! I hate him for the way he's making me feel but I miss him. I cant stop the tears today, I just want it all to just go away.
    Prettybutterfly88 Prettybutterfly88 26-30, F 5 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    My soon to be exH is a complete *** hat,

    and has no organization at all. My daughter won't be coming back until tomorrow.
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    Miss him like crazy tonight.

    I haven't felt this kind of a painful, sad yearning for him for years... this is how I used to feel quite often way back when, before we were even together and I was falling in love from afar. I had almost forgotten how painful this feeling can be. We just texted our good...
    ladyquaintrelle ladyquaintrelle 22-25, F 8 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    He's revealing so much about his wife with this

    fake account that I'm on...but not with me.
    newgurlxo newgurlxo 18-21, F 1 Response 18 hrs ago

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    catfishing this MM is interesting.

    ...he's telling "me" all information about his wife ...she sounds gorgeous. I'm sad. lol.
    newgurlxo newgurlxo 18-21, F 20 hrs ago

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    I think this says it.

    Read this caption
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 14 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 53 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    ExH and situation around him wasn't

    as terrible as I anticipated. My kids back- thank God!! I was so happy to see her face today. She comes home fully on Saturday. I spent two days perseverating over ExH and that situation that I was letting it seep into my relationship with MM. I've had to apologize all over...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 16 Responses Feb 6

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    Tomorrow I'm getting out of town

    and spending the afternoon with my mm. I'm so looking forward to it. It's been a long time since we've had an opportunity to do this. My period hasn't come yet this month and if it does in the next 24 hours I'm going to be so bummed out!!
    Janna78 Janna78 46-50, F 9 Responses 1 day ago

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    I feel so insecure. looking at my body,

    and can't help but to get emotional. ..but it's my fault fishing for information.
    newgurlxo newgurlxo 18-21, F 2 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    NO LONGER THE OTHER WOMAN!

    !! I am now the only woman :) it has been officially ended this morning, he was straight on the phone to me who was awesome at playing it cool despite up all night worrying! He was going to come over but we both decided against it as he needs time to recover maybe. He has gone...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 12 Responses Mar 21

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 48 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    ...and that sums up my summer.

    .. My daughter comes home tomorrow- how trilled I am to hug her and see her face! At the same time I'm anticipatory about my time with MM... And while he offers words of comfort I know, and so does he, that our time is changing now because of our sweet children. He moves into his...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Good Morning ladies don't have answer

    if you don't want to. How old we're you when you turned in your V Card?
    LadyScorpio95 LadyScorpio95 18-21, F 15 Responses 1 day ago

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    Some days I'm okay and others in not.

    I haven't spoken to her in nearly 3 weeks. The last 6 1/2 years of my life I've seen the woman I had an affair with 8 months of it engaged into the affair. I hate this emotional roller coaster I'm on. I know it'll get easier and on some days it is. Ladies that are going through...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    My feelings toward (ex)MM have been all over

    the place lately. I found a piece of plastic that had chipped off his cell phone case, and I lost it. It was the dumbest thing to get sappy over, but it took me back to the night it happened, a night not all that long ago when I was still foolishly swooning over this man. It...
    ashadams244 ashadams244 26-30, F 10 Responses 1 day ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 95 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    Ok so over the last few days I have been

    involved in an unhealthy exchange with another member here. I got my back up because of some of her posts and the insensitivity that seemed to be contained in them. I wanted to call her out and challenge her behavior but it has gone too far. She is over stressed about all of...
    Freedomnow01 Freedomnow01 31-35, F 3 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 29 Responses May 6, 2014

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    Call me crazy but I'm currently catfishing my

    MM. He's giving me the silent treatment..because I went off on him. whatever. since we've been in contact (November of 2013) he has never sent me a picture!!!! but sends this ***** a picture (the ***** is really me) but not with his face in it...but still!!!! I'm annoyed. I can...
    newgurlxo newgurlxo 18-21, F 5 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    OH. MY. GOD. It's final,

    he's single, and as of 9:37am today I am no longer the OW!!!
    Shardsofsorrow Shardsofsorrow 31-35, F 77 Responses Jul 29

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    Tmro marks one week of nc.

    ...why am i not feeling stronger???? He is on his holidays with his wife and family and here i am STILL stuck in this pain.... I cant help but wonder do i ever cross his mind...i have thought a million things this past week,today i feel like such a fool and an idiot....i am so...
    Jellytots2412 Jellytots2412 36-40, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    b4realz b4realz 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    After silence of 2 years.

    His wife,called me yesterday. She was upset cause he is having an affair. I was put through hell by his,wife. My current lover isn't happy,about her calling. I thought I was over him. All her calling did was make wonder .Why I can't forget him? I been in faithful relationship...
    butterflylady21 butterflylady21 46-50, F 7 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 41-45, F 75 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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