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    four days of nc and we have talked a little

    today not much. I have no interest in talking to mm since I found out he lied about loving w... not that I didn't suspect he still loved her but I would have liked it much better had he been honest about his feelings for her... I'm not looking for him to leave I'm not waiting...
    emeraldprincess1003 emeraldprincess1003 22-25, F 55 mins ago

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 51 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    It seems that a "revenge **** hacker" hacked

    into AdultFriendFinder and put 3.5 million customer files up for sale on the dark web: http://money.cnn.com/2015/05/22/technology/adult-friendfinder-hacked/ Could have been Ashley Madison instead. Or EP, for that matter. One has to marvel at the ease with which some people...
    BoudoirWhispers BoudoirWhispers 46-50, F 3 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    I am not the OW, but I'm

    so proud of you ladies. You go through hell and back for these men. You love, comfort, support, and love these men. I do not know how you do it. I read your stories and I'm in awe....sheer breathtaking, gutwrenching, heartbreaking, overwhelming, love-infused awe of you all...
    soldiergirl2 soldiergirl2 41-45, F 11 Responses Apr 6

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    What a day . Was it good .

    No, back to normal. Normal, now that's a word that describes things that are normal. There's nothing like that in my household . Why do I need to be half drunk to spill the beans about my sometimes miserable life. It's not always like it is now . But when it's like this, why do...
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 1 Response 22 hrs ago

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    I feel very worn out.

    ..What a night. It was so messed up. I finally left him for good. Before that, I also told my best friend about everything. Maybe it was all the alcohol, or maybe I had come to a point I couldn’t keep it locked inside me. I have always kept things to myself. I never told anyone...
    FrancesFoster FrancesFoster 26-30, F 15 mins ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 155 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 19 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 28 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 86 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    I hate it when an afternoon together doesn't

    work out. Sure I'll make the best of it- stuff around the house and the pool with girlfriends, but :-( Miss him.
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 24 mins ago

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    newgurlxo newgurlxo 18-21, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    We are both married and are more like friends

    then anything else. Sex is amazing but not what our relationship is all about. We see each other a few times a week and talk every day. I would miss the friendship the most if we stop seeing each other.
    sara263 sara263 31-35, F 3 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    It has been 2 to 3 months

    since I've been on Experience Project. I deleted my old profile... I was going through so many emotions, me and my MM got into a huge argument which led to us having no contact for 2/3 months. I got off EP so I don't see any stories about peoples MM situations ...I just didn't...
    newgurlxo newgurlxo 18-21, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Dear Self: You Married

    as a kid. And then, You waited 15 years for your H to pull his out of the sand- to make you feel appreciated, to feel loved and beautiful. You thought having a baby would make things better. So you stayed. You waited some more. He developed addictions and mental health issues...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 7 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 78 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 204 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 13 Responses Apr 19

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 48 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    All I can think of the MM not leaving his wife

    is that he is looking for genuine reason to leave his wife but can't find one which he doesn't have to explain his children why he left their mother in the first place . If the MM has no plans to marry the OW just be clear to that poor woman let her be free from this false...
    ordinarymomof2 ordinarymomof2 36-40, F 4 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 152 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    norahcc11 norahcc11 26-30, F 9 hrs ago

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 19 Responses Mar 25

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    we met up the day before

    and had a wonderful time together.. inside of the room where it was just us two, we felt so connected (well at least for me.....). then when we left, it started to rain really heavily, so we were walking under 1 umbrella. naturally, I hung onto his arm to get closer to not...
    gianneisstuck gianneisstuck 31-35, F 13 hrs ago

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    To the OWs, have any of you had men

    who write you private messages pretending to care about the situation or "bumps" you're having with your MM when their intentions were to take over hoping you will choose to have a fling with them instead? I know I'm going to have negative comments with this post but it seems...
    Aisurukoto Aisurukoto 41-45, F 8 Responses 1 day ago

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    Last night he texted me,

    "can I come stay with you tonight?" My heart stopped. I knew that meant his W and him were in a massive all out fight. I texted back. "yes. Just got home, getting in the shower, I'll leave the door unlocked." He never showed, never called, never texted back after that, I didn...
    lit4love lit4love 26-30, F 3 Responses 58 mins ago

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 17 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    I just came from my home town today.

    I spent 2 days with my family. it was wonderful time. I did not expect him to contact me, i just made my mind free of him for those 2 days. Now i m alone again here, i start missing him. What can i do? i could call or send him a message, he went home and stay with his kids and...
    angelamaxy angelamaxy 22-25 12 hrs ago

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    My soon to be exH is rolling into town on the

    31st hell bent on delivering a piece of paper for our D... That would be our 17th wedding anniversary. Really, dude? When I keep deferring the conversation back to our daughter like "you can pick her up for supper I won't be available" he doesn't get it... I don't wanna see you...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 3 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    Alcohol, alcohol has started to become my best

    friend yet again. My strong confidant. Although this has nothing to do with MM I feel I should share this somewhere. Until recently I hadn't drank since New Year's Eve, not as a resolution but it just happened to be bin day and upon emptying my bins I discovered that the black...
    Twighlightsparkle Twighlightsparkle 22-25, F 6 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    Happy family photos posted on Facebook

    shouldn't bother me, especially after such a good day with my husband, and yet...blah. I even "liked" it, because I'm messed up like that.
    DarlingEll DarlingEll 26-30, F 2 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 23 Responses Apr 30

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    NO LONGER THE OTHER WOMAN!

    !! I am now the only woman :) it has been officially ended this morning, he was straight on the phone to me who was awesome at playing it cool despite up all night worrying! He was going to come over but we both decided against it as he needs time to recover maybe. He has gone...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 14 Responses Mar 21

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    Any OW here is single

    and unable to date anyone else but can only wait for their MM to leave his wife? Me follow the social norm blindly, I forced myself to date someone else in order to force myself to leave my MM (at least mentally), but it was a complete failure. I went on a date arranged by a...
    ayako18 ayako18 31-35, F 7 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    ForbiddenFruitLove95 ForbiddenFruitLove95 18-21, F 1 Response 23 hrs ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 28 Responses May 6, 2014

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 14 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    Yes, I am realizing now I should have been more

    honest from the start... I am in a happy, maybe one day open, relationship with my husband. Right now, I am learning how to understand the relationship my best friend has had with her MM, but through that I am learning about how my H will be with an ow (or om - he is bi) and how...
    TexWest1311 TexWest1311 26-30, F 10 hrs ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 51 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 71 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    Still NC since last night.

    He's mad, I'm hurt and we are both stubborn as heck. His W went to the beach today with their daughter. She either did not invite him or he declined as usual. Guess I should be thankful our argument did not cause him to run to her. Oh well. My chores of the day are done and it...
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 3 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    I resent him today. 2 weeks of no contact

    and I am so angry with him I don't mind this. I resent him because he was never honest with me, he never told me he'd never leave his wife. He never found the courage to tell me he lost interest in me and found another mistress. He continued to seek me. He's just a...
    loveariel loveariel 41-45, F 6 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 23 Responses Mar 22

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