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I Am The Other Woman

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    Im excited.. Less than 2 weeks im seeing him

    again for another 4 days.. And surprise awaits for me.. Oh gosh this man is spoilling me..
    prettygoddess prettygoddess 26-30, F 2 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    MM asked me to skype him last week

    and I told him I couldn't because I had plans already. He didn't contact me for four days. I didn't contact him either. I figured he was upset because I told him no. He asked me to treat him as I treat others, so this is what I did. I used to drop what I was doing...
    Guilty1982 Guilty1982 31-35, F 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 37 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 43 Responses Feb 24

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 30 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    We have a pretty much standing time to see each

    other on wednesdays. He has gotten on fb and been on there 20 minutes without ven saying good morning or anything. I so feel like I am being taken for granted. I am to leave in 15 minutes and not a word. (I know it sounds weird on my end but). Very disappointed and tired...
    blue963 blue963 51-55, F 5 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 49 Responses Feb 16

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    Lots of thinking the past 3-4 days.

    ... After his last text of "can't get up and leave" I've been asking myself "Do I want to be 2nd forever? Is this the way I want to spend my life? Waiting for him to have a free moment for me? Is he really going to stay with her forever" The answers are frightening... No I won't...
    Newlife48 Newlife48 46-50, F 16 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 23 Responses May 6

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    Why do all the haters say you're always going

    to be second choice? Maybe we are second choice when he "has" to go home but in reality we aren't second choice in his heart or his mind. I can almost promise that he's thinking about me more than his wife. I can almost promise his heart is starting to lead him else where and...
    tc57 tc57 31-35, F 88 Responses Aug 10

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    So I've been seeing my MM

    for about 4mths now. I'm also a MW an unhappy just like him. Right now were long distance and I have been questioning if we were just a fling or it's something more. Well the Other night I got my answer. Typically we go 2 weeks with NC, but last night we messaged back an forth...
    tdymedic tdymedic 31-35, F 1 Response 13 hrs ago

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    So my MM who really I guess is the ex MM has a

    bday coming up. I spoke to him last week via texting app but he was sorta rude and mean to me. Well to exactly..but I sensed that he has checked out from me and my drama. And he is just being nice by responding to me. I thought that two weeks ago when I saw him, that we really...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 7 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 22 Responses Jul 30

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    To other women, to wives,

    to all women in various relationship choices, You are unique. You are special. We are all equal human beings. We all have feelings, weaknesses, strength. Not one of you is first. Not one of you is second. Not one of you is third. Wherever you place yourself is wrong. Measure...
    paliglass paliglass 31-35, F 9 hrs ago

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 80 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    getting closer and closer to ending this

    for good. Once I do there will be no allowing him back ever.
    blue963 blue963 51-55, F 1 hr ago

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 21 Responses Jan 2

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 18 Responses Sep 10

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 145 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    My AP opens up a little bit more everyday.

    Today he told me that he feels very protective of me but must keep himself in check around others. It's nice to hear this. I work in an area where people are often rude and miserable and sometimes just say downright in appropriate things. I honestly didn't know he took any of it...
    surfandturf surfandturf 36-40, F 3 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 15 Responses Jun 2

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 35 Responses Sep 23

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    Got a text from his early this morning about

    7am. He texts, "My wife has found my texts. She is ending our marriage."
    Asheera123 Asheera123 41-45, F 7 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 31-35, M 17 Responses Apr 19

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    He took a half day today

    and we spent such an amazing afternoon together,i cant remember the last time i laughed so much or felt so alive. I love that we just fit...we just get eachother...its amazing....its crazy...its beautiful...I love him from the guts of my soul and i value every single second we...
    Jellytots2412 Jellytots2412 36-40, F 1 Response 18 hrs ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 152 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    I was the other women

    for a year but now I am the wife. We will be celebrating our 3 year wedding anniversary soon. We were both married to other people when we met. We were both in bad marriages. We are both so much happier now. If anyone wants to hear my story I am happy to share.
    magic2929 magic2929 46-50, F 19 Responses Apr 29

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 10 Responses Feb 13

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    So the question in the back of every OW mind.

    Will there ever be a happily ever after in this situation. Read this story about a colleague who was the OW for well over 10 years. She worked with her MM and his W worked for the same company but in another department. OW and MM tried to keep their relationship a secret but...
    123Frozen 123Frozen 31-35, F 4 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    A bit off topic, but the stress of being in

    this relationship, combined with life stresses in general have made my skin freak out like a hormonal teenager. Anyone have any suggestions? I hate having to put makeup on to go work in a hot kitchen. It's making me feel so hideous!! :( Thanks ladies.
    lostanddistraught lostanddistraught 22-25, F 5 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    So I am trying to get over my MM.

    I love him loads but as you know, he hadn't been treating me right of late, so have been practicing detachment for while now (hope that word makes sense).. Anyway, I want to talk to new people, new men, just a chat buddy to help wean myself from thinking about him and longing...
    Ruru7 Ruru7 31-35 3 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    I am still waiting for him to break up with his

    girlfriend and be together with me. But I have waited so long, and I am very tired. I just want to rest in peace... I am still waiting because he said he would give me a decision, but I have been waiting for 1.5 years now and nothing happened. He is living with his...
    ayako18 ayako18 31-35, F 2 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    It was pretty nice to be able to lay in his

    arms this morning, but however I have to go back home today for the weekend. Hopefully I will be back to see him Monday.
    MartiniLynn MartiniLynn 18-21 3 hrs ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 161 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    I have friends on on my FB page

    that write nasty things about women who their husbands have cheated on them with. I have no interest in commenting on those posts because I find it ridiculous that the same friend would tell me that she and her husband agreed not to have sex any longer. What I really believe any...
    caitlin563 caitlin563 46-50, F 5 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    Found out today that the woman

    who wants to be with my mm is leaving her husband in February.. she has been texting and calling him a lot lately, telling him that she's losing weight and feeling so healthy, and asking him about his marriage.... Not that he's interested in her or anything (he swears!), but it...
    ElsieJay ElsieJay 41-45, F 4 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 45 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 78 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    Upset, annoyed, mad..

    . that's all happening at 2:45am. The last few days he has been letting our conversations drop... the first time it was a couple hours and I sent a smart *** response. The second day, I just let it go, but last night? I can't ******* do it. He went on a trip with his band, so we...
    Ahmazing Ahmazing 31-35, F 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 11

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 103 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    Feeling incredibly lonely today.

    I went from having a "friend" (mm) and another friend (ex) to feeling like I have nobody. Girlfriends (the 2 that I have) are of course busy with their lives, husbands and kids. Totally understandable. But when you are stuck at home on bed rest, you don't exactly get to meet...
    nonameplease74 nonameplease74 36-40, F 3 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 16 Responses May 4

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    About to endure a month

    if NC starting tomorrow. I have been mentally preparing myself for this. Believe it or not, my fear is that this time away might make me stronger and I'll learn to live without him.
    SleeplessNites SleeplessNites 41-45, F 2 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    In spending less than 2 hours together guess

    who offered for me to stay with him? Starting to wonder why he is being so nice.
    MartiniLynn MartiniLynn 18-21 20 hrs ago

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    I'm too close to this to see clearly.

    The guy I was chatting to has left his woman and gone to stay at his brothers. I stopped talking to him, refused to meet him - eventually - because he was already attached. He text me yesterday saying they are finished and I spoke to him today. He's gone to stay with his...
    paliglass paliglass 31-35, F 4 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Do any of you have children from your MM?

    Or did you ever have any scares? If so, what was the outcome?
    beneboo beneboo 26-30, F 6 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 46 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    I struggle every day.

    I have so many questions so many feelings. I saw him the other day, we spent time laughing and talking, yet before we parted he made a comment that I haven't been able to get off my mind. It showed his lack of trust with me and now I don't know what to say or do. I'm pissed off...
    Girlygirl35 Girlygirl35 31-35, F 1 Response 12 hrs ago

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    So tomorrow his youngest son is arraigned

    and sentenced and will very likely be incarcerated. So MM is understandably a wee bit preoccupied. Yesterday he took him to get a flu shot then fishing. If you've ever wondered what you do with your about to be locked up kid, yep....flu shot and fishing. MM told me he'd call me...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 10 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Wow! Who knew that one "venting" session would

    have so many negative responses!! Thank you to the ladies that understood what I was venting about :-). Some comments I would like to delete, but everyone is allowed their opinion (and I'm not computer smart and don't know how to delete them lol) Time to head out for a run and...
    Newlife48 Newlife48 46-50, F 2 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 5 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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