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    Well, never heard from him today.

    My previous SG has initiated contact over the past few weeks. Although it has been nice to have someone to chat with, it is making it very hard. In the past 6 weeks I have seen MM once briefly. I know it will be difficult to get together thru the end of the year on both our...
    forbidden67 forbidden67 46-50, F 3 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    Women won't mess with a man

    that lives with his mom but will mess with a man who lives with his wife.
    reeessa reeessa 13-15, F 29 Responses Oct 23

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 56 Responses Nov 6

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 51 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 41 Responses Feb 24

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    Hmmm. Today is day 6

    since I've seen him while he's away, with limited contact. I'm finding it much easier to go about my day and not think about him. I went the whole day at work without once checking my phone. Don't get me wrong, he's still very much on my mind, and I can't wait for him to get...
    greeneyes2232 greeneyes2232 41-45, F 4 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 15 Responses Jun 2

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 80 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    Hard couple couple days

    since he found out he has moved on She is completely impossible She sends him emails a mile long of demands if he wants to see his son He is to see him in a public place She stated he is to come alone If she sees another person around i.e ME she will drive away She doesn't...
    jupsta jupsta 36-40, F 7 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 11

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    So today hasn't been the best

    either we are still fighting and lunch wasn't very good... Went off about things and he was yelling and I was crying and yelling and then we got his kids involved and he says I don't understand bc I don't have kids. And how he wants to shield them from this and I told him he...
    ap05 ap05 26-30, F 1 Response 14 hrs ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 50 Responses Feb 16

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 17 Responses Sep 10

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    This afternoon my MM texted me with "just

    thinking about you" It's been awhile since he's said anything like that to me since mini dday. Makes me feel good. While we were chatting I ruined my momentum by of course looking at his wife's FB. She is doing crafty things all of a sudden and took a pic of a wood thing...
    AvaLennon AvaLennon 31-35, F 3 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    Well tomorrow is the day.

    ..the ex gf finds out how far along she is, gets to hear the heart beat, gets to finalized the destruction of a young mans life because she didn't properly manage her birth control. She will likely decide against the abortion agreement they have and bring another child into this...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 6 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 40 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 68 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    I have a good family: I have great children

    and my husband has finally learned to appreciate me after so many years of marriage. Too late for me though... I felt alone for such a long time, but finally I found someone I could call both my soulmate and my twin soul. Yes, this has made me the other woman in a sense. Not...
    Piscesrose Piscesrose 46-50, F 8 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    I'm sure his phone is just dead

    and he's crazy busy at work with the holiday coming up, but I cant help but worry. His brother in law found one of my insurance documents in his car, and I've been worried since yesterday whether that was going to blow up. I haven't talked to him since he left work yesterday...
    SweetHeresy SweetHeresy 22-25, F 5 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    Where is my boyfriend?

    10 hours ago he was meeting her to see his son... I have heard NOTHING since... She is crazy! And I wouldn't put it past her to hurt him... At this point I am praying he is just cheating on me with her... Cuz the alternative of him chopped up under her pillow is far worse...
    jupsta jupsta 36-40, F 1 Response 7 mins ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 20 Responses Apr 18

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    I miss my guy so much.

    Miss his goodnight texts. I want to text him sweet dreams...and tell him I love him. I don't want his gf to see the text and have him be in trouble again 😞. Between his guilt and her watching his every move and assigning things to him constantly... I never have quality...
    nitrolove nitrolove 46-50, F 7 hrs ago

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 20 Responses Jan 2

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    Day 13 NC from me his emails have gone in

    answered-he knows I'm upset. Every time I feel the grip of the affair loosening a little I realize when it no longer hurts it's over. He will move on if he hasn't already I will be replaced. I breathe for the first time in 3 years and I almost immediately think of the next woman...
    Readytomoveon2015 Readytomoveon2015 31-35, F 5 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Anyone else nervous to post your whole story,

    because the wife might be on here? This is the only place I have seen where other people might understand. He is not my first affair. My second, and I am beginning to think I am not made for this. I walked away from my first, and there is some, actually a lot of emotional...
    justabovetheknees justabovetheknees 41-45, F 14 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 208 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    Ahhhhhh holy ****!! So my boyfriend just calls

    me Says his Ex wife is sending him screen captures of my fb and my friends fb too Seriously?!?! This woman is a Crazy *****!! What do I do? Short of losing my cool !? I'm gonna snap
    jupsta jupsta 36-40, F 9 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    So I'm due to return in 2 months

    and my MM and I have been trying to lay put dates of when so that he might be able to be there. We were unable tower up before I left resulting in an emotional departure for 7 mths. Now I have my H back home try to win me back an planing all these romantic getaways. All I want...
    tdymedic tdymedic 31-35, F 5 hrs ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 46 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Well....not anymore im not!

    !! Oh my lord...this is the most difficult thing ive ever gone through... We had a 2nd dd,well...his w went crazy about suspiscions and it was enough of a scare for us to decide we had to let this go without either of actually ever having said it out loud.... I finally got him...
    Jellytots2412 Jellytots2412 36-40, F 4 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    My MM and I met online.

    Yeah... So cliche. We live in the same city and we have very similar tastes and interests. He's the only person I think of calling when I'm excited about something or sad about something. We are both very open about our lives with our spouses. But, sometimes... It really hurts...
    sugarbabysub sugarbabysub 31-35, F 2 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    Yep I knew this was going to happen.

    I got suckered back in. I knew I was going to give in. Don't we always do this back and forth. Ughhh
    Truone16 Truone16 31-35, F 5 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    Do you guys all watch Sister Wives

    and wish that was your life?
    sparklestef sparklestef 22-25, F 12 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    My love is 23 years older

    than me. We met a few years ago online via AgeMeet.com. It was totally platonic but I broke off contact due to doing other things in my life, I wasn't quite ready to explore my spirituality. At the beggining of the year we got back into contact and basically fell in love over...
    toylycc11 toylycc11 26-30, F 2 hrs ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 78 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    So, yesterday MM head was hurting a lot,

    and he told me to go and spend the night with him, but I couldn't because I was going to go with my family to a tree lighting, I told him I would go today and to take care of him self, he said he was going to go home, and stop texting me, today in the morning I text him to see...
    SweetDiz SweetDiz 26-30, F 6 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 148 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 10 Responses Feb 13

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 24 Responses May 6

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 34 Responses Sep 23

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    I feel so blessed. MM

    and I have an incredible relationship. We just spent another few hours together. And of course, the sex is absolutey amazing. My favorite part though, is after. Just laying there, talking for hours and laughing. We talk about absolutely everything. From cooking, to music, to...
    tauriangirl tauriangirl 36-40, F 11 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 21 Responses Jul 30

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    My poor MM. He is at the hospital.

    Getting his back scanned as he, erm, injured it whilst spending the weekend with me. I'm being sympathetic of course, but it is also a little bit funny. We don't get to see one another often so have to make the most of our time. Just wondering what he has told his W...
    daisyblue222 daisyblue222 36-40, F 5 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Today was such a great day.

    Spent some nice quality time with MM just talking. 1.5hrs of just talking. We went for a walk. Sounds boring but sometimes it just shows how much we enjoy each other's company. We talked about our overnight. Not sure when it's going to happen but we talked about what we want...
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 3 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 16 Responses May 4

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 103 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    Tonight will be our first full night together.

    No time constraints. No looking over our shoulders. We have a suite booked with a fireplace. Sushi & wine. I am so looking forward to 8 hours of normalcy. It is crazy we have never even eaten together. We spend our blips of time only focused on eachother. We get to talk for...
    tauriangirl tauriangirl 36-40, F 29 Responses Nov 15

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 162 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    He is the best! Such a passionate

    and amazing guy. Today was just perfect. It didn't start out so nice but it certainly ended in a magnificent way. The day started with that idiot woman I posted about a while back. The flirty one we work with who seems to make him incredibly uncomfortable. She always seems to...
    surfsway surfsway 36-40, F 5 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 31 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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