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I Am The Other Woman

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    I was the other women

    for a year but now I am the wife. We will be celebrating our 3 year wedding anniversary soon. We were both married to other people when we met. We were both in bad marriages. We are both so much happier now. If anyone wants to hear my story I am happy to share.
    magic2929 magic2929 46-50, F 17 Responses Apr 29

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 68 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    A few we ago we discussed me having/going out

    with male "friends", one in particular. He wasn't a big fan of it but he agreed because he knows he's not always available for me. So today he asked when's the last time I saw him & I said "Monday" His attitude instantly changed. He didn't want to kiss me or nothing. He said I...
    Sidechic79 Sidechic79 31-35, F 7 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    Overnight date was of course every bit

    as spectacular as I knew it would be. From visiting tons of attractions, to going for walks, making out in parks, sneaking up to the hotel roof and looking at the amazing views, to going out for dinner and drinks together like a normal couple, and going back to actually fall...
    Changedforever9514 Changedforever9514 36-40, F 4 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    I found out today that my name in his phone is

    "Matt"! Lol...anyone else have a male alias??
    Sidechic79 Sidechic79 31-35, F 18 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    On Monday I talked about how my mm rarely

    contacts me anymore and I tried not answering him but I gave in. He was worried when I didn't answer right away and asked if I was mad at him. Well I was pretty pissed off because I feel like he is taking advantage of me, especially since I told him I'm starting to have real...
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 2 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Things I don't miss from my affair.

    .. 1. Waiting for my phone to ding 2. Lying to spouse about where I am going 3. Making sure I erase texts 4. Time 5. Mind control that the affair holds not mm 6. Questioning of myself and actions 7. Guilt not for the affair but for my husband and his wife 8. Time 9. The panic...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 14 Responses Apr 27

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 10 Responses Feb 13

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    Today wasn't fun like yesterday.

    My AP was close by to save the day at work, but this meant very very little time alone. I must say it was pretty exciting to be in a meeting and sitting at a conference table with his hand up my skirt and the people we were meeting with having no clue at all. A quick kiss while...
    surfandturf surfandturf 36-40, F 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 71 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    Almost a month since the break

    and I keep thinking that loving J was not the mistake I made it was the two years I wasted for him to love me back that was............
    iheartnono iheartnono 31-35 2 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    Last night i dreamt of him.

    It was hurtful. He was texting me, checking on me, telling me it would all be over soon and that he loved me. I woke up. I hated that it happened. It only made me sad. Here i am today again, without him or a text, just with the understanding that it continues to be over...
    Grace7277 Grace7277 31-35, F 3 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 31-35, M 16 Responses Apr 19

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    Morning texts 👍👍👏love them!

    This morning he was feeling a little vulnerable. His oldest is off to college for a week now and he couldn't wait to share his feelings with me. Before I could even ask he's telling me how he's feeling and what she's experiencing and he's forwarding me messages they've...
    MarieVon MarieVon 36-40, F 5 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 80 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    I don't even know what I'm doing.

    We have fought during work via text message every day this week. I don't know how to act, how to feel, what I want....... I am friendly.......then I miss him. I tell him I miss him, he says he misses me too.... Then he does something and I'm mad and then I get mad at him and...
    PrincessLolita PrincessLolita 26-30, F 4 Responses 1 hr ago

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    OMG! I have a weird problem.

    Almost every man I've ever been with still has feelings for me. I'm not sure why they feel the need to even admit that to me, but the ones I still have any form of contact with, do. In the midst of my mess of ending things with my exAP and losing my mind, I had a brief FWB type...
    dropdeadredhead dropdeadredhead 36-40, F 3 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Today I feel like was kind of a setback,

    but I guess not all days can be progress. I think I also said a couple stupid things. I should probably run more things by the OWs on here before I tell my OW. Yesterday my wife said that my OW had called her and wanted to chit chat, but I think my wife got confused with an old...
    wakeupdead wakeupdead 26-30, M 5 hrs ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 21 Responses May 6

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    Just want to put this out there to all you

    other "other women" you keep me positive... You nail my feet to the ground... You make me smile ... You put my heart back in my chest ... Thank you and when I see you pouring your heart out I feel it... I hope all the best for everyone of you misunderstood beautiful women ... I...
    jupsta jupsta 36-40, F 8 Responses Jun 9

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 47 Responses Feb 16

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 152 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    Peanut... You're sound asleep in your room.

    I'm snuggled in bed in my room... Just 50 feet away. It was my brothers bday today, I went out with him and our friends... You went out with your friends. I met you back at home a few hours later. You already drunkenly asleep yet still thanking me for making your bed earlier in...
    RedHotPepper RedHotPepper 26-30, F 1 Response 44 mins ago

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    My MM was supposed to leave in a few weeks to

    take a new job out of state, where he would once again live with his wife and fix their broken marriage. Now the new company isn't responding to his request to alter their offer, nothing is in ink and he's moving into a hotel since he gave up his lease to take this new job...
    inaraserra inaraserra 31-35, F 4 hrs ago

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    Ladies beware...shadesofgrey sending perv pics.

    Omg I don't shy easy but it hit me right in the eye if u know what I mean. Just looking after my gals in the site 💋💋
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 36-40, F 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    Please, do not stop posting.

    ... I may not be the best person to make this request because I have only participated on the forum for just a few months. But I am so glad I had a place to go. I can not begin to tell you how supportive you ladies have been during my time of heart aches, up swings, troubles...
    saiyagyrl saiyagyrl 36-40, F 4 Responses May 26

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    Day 1 of NC Made it to 23.

    75 hours of NC and he sent me a message about a project he has been working on and finally completed today. It was a two line message with no mention of 'us'. I responded in the same manner, saying "Good job". He responded to that saying "Thank you, wanted to share with someone...
    JulyBug JulyBug 36-40, F 3 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    I never planned to fall in love with him.

    That part was a mistake but at the same time.. I had to know I would! I tell myself that now but what good does that do. I wish I could spit the truth out to so many people. But I never will.
    Missmetomorrow Missmetomorrow 22-25, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 142 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 44 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    My story is alittle different then the ones

    posted, I'll give a brief history so all of you can understand. Nearly 2 years ago now, the father of my grand daughter passed away. It was unexpected and tragic, I needed answers, things didn't add up to me at all. I began talking with his mother prior to his death, she...
    hlloyd44 hlloyd44 41-45, F 6 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 17 Responses May 4

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 103 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 40 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    It's been 12 hours since I have heard from him.

    His w has not posted anything on fb which is so not like her attention needing self. My mind keeps going those bad places....my heart says he's fine and to have faith. I'm so tired from talking and texting with him all night last night, but I'm dying to know if he's ok. I'm...
    leigh8133 leigh8133 31-35, F 3 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    NEWS FLASH***** pleasestoplying is back under

    the new name of soevil11. Block him now and save yourself the aggravation.
    surfandturf surfandturf 36-40, F 7 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    This morning I woke up by myself on my bed

    and thinking about him... Thinking about the last 2 days i was with him, thinking about what he did for me during the time we were together ... He always hold my hand while driving... When i asked if he loves me or miss me, he looked at my in the eyes and kisses my lips instead...
    iloveuox iloveuox 26-30, F 2 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 163 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 43 Responses Feb 24

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 11

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 15 Responses Jun 2

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    So last night at midnight I get a text with one

    of those smiley faces- the cheesy one that you use after someone is embarrassed and their teeth are clenched. I hadn't heard from him in a whole day- and he deletes my texts after he gets them so I don't think it was in response to unloading all my feelings on him the previous...
    lostanddistraught lostanddistraught 22-25, F 3 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    Pleasestoplying : please report this person

    so they can remove him . He has nothing to offer on this particular forum. He can start his own and have all the trolls follow him there. But then, he will get no attention.
    sunset4ever sunset4ever 46-50, F 9 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Well since my last post.

    .. my mm has been calling & calling what should i do ....
    confused7years confused7years 31-35, F 4 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    My birthday Tomo. I guess thats

    why I gave in and went to see him tonight. Despite the lying over still having his girlfriend in his life last week. Well I'm glad I went!! I held back, no affection and me all needy. I was ME again! We played sport and went for a walk, it was fun! Then for a meal and he began...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 3 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 29 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Update for those of you

    who are following, he's in the icu. When I texted and asked what his Dr says he didn't answer which is his way of saying it's not good. He did take a selfie for me, but he looks so darn miserable it breaks my heart. What I wouldn't give to be able to be there, but the icu would...
    leigh8133 leigh8133 31-35, F 6 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    My friends ask 'Why a married man,

    can't you find a man of your own'? I've been trying to find 'a man of my own' and have been met with more heart ache than my mm have ever given me. It seems that only married men have enough confidence to even make an attempt with me. I am involved with one married man and...
    Breeze62 Breeze62 51-55, F 3 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    My Secret Gold Coin

    You don’t know it, but I think of you as a beautiful, precious, shiny gold coin that I keep secretly hidden in my pocket. I feel happy knowing that you are in there, but unhappy knowing that you have to stay hidden. I wish I could show you off to friends, but they wouldn’t...
    jenn80 jenn80 51-55 18 Responses May 23, 2013

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    How on earth do I wrap my head around the fact

    that I am in love with a man who I can't have fully, and may never? How do I function every day when every day is another day he has chosen her over me? Every day is harder than the last. Every "I love you" he utters is a knife to the heart. Every kiss is torture. Yet there's...
    greeneyes2232 greeneyes2232 41-45, F 8 Responses 1 hr ago

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    Can any of you please tell me a good app to use

    to get that allows me to text or call my AP that will have all traces of out text deleted once we log out of the app so that if his GF breaks into his phone she won't see anything between us....someone had said before that there are many apps that he can use to secretly text me...
    Cagirlie Cagirlie 36-40, F 3 Responses 25 mins ago

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