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I Am The Other Woman

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    My mm has been telling me he loves me

    for a few months. Last night I said those words back. He was shocked and happy. Moments later there were fireworks in the sky. It was like a dream, and it was a perfect night.
    lacey2020 lacey2020 31-35, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    NO LONGER THE OTHER WOMAN!

    !! I am now the only woman :) it has been officially ended this morning, he was straight on the phone to me who was awesome at playing it cool despite up all night worrying! He was going to come over but we both decided against it as he needs time to recover maybe. He has gone...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 14 Responses Mar 21

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 85 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 54 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 72 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 41 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Well, I may as well be honest seeing

    as I am in the business of being DIS-honest most of the time and it's exhausting. Telling the truth feels good, but not without guilt and disappointment in myself... After 7 days of not seeing each other, and with MINIMAL but civil communication, he's somehow swept me right...
    DefinitelyDollie DefinitelyDollie 22-25, F 4 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 47 Responses Jan 10

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 89 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    Why am I letting it be

    so difficult to make a clean break? All it does is cause more hurt and anxiety for me. We hung out with a group of coworkers on Friday and as the night went on, I drank more and felt the pull towards him. First I told him no, stuck with my resolve to end things, but later I...
    DarlingEll DarlingEll 26-30, F 4 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 18 Responses Mar 25

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 52 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    Been with my MM off and on

    for about 3 years. We were just coming back from an "off" period, but honestly I'm not sure I'm into him anymore. Our relationship is very complex, and fulfilled a need of mine, but now I'm just thinking is it really worth it. He is separated from his wife, almost a year now...
    44curious 44curious 41-45, F 1 day ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 153 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    I am done. Moving on,

    accepting the inevitable that our "friendship" will go back to the way it was before any of this ever started. I'm done with men who won't man up and say what they mean or what they feel. I have said from the get go I don't want him to tell me what he thinks I want to hear...
    lexabear15 lexabear15 26-30, F 1 Response 9 hrs ago

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    I have done more thinking over the weekend.

    .. I know sooner or later me and OM would have to end things, and logically speaking, the sooner we do, the sooner we can begin the healing process and move on. Of course this is easier said than done, and I'm hesitant to go "cold turkey", do complete no contact, in case it's...
    gianneisstuck gianneisstuck 31-35, F 2 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    I think I am over it.

    the sex is getting over played. the conversations are the same and boring, i ignore half of what he texts and it don't bother me or him. I kinda think we are just doing the routine. I like seeing other people because it takes away from the boring. not to add to it. blah. .. .
    spoiledlittle spoiledlittle 31-35, F 1 Response 10 hrs ago

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 17 Responses 1 day ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 204 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    It's Sunday. Sunday's feel opposite of Friday's

    for me, but I'm starting to wonder if Sunday's feel good or make me feel uneasy. I really need to do the task that Warriormama encouraged us to do. But for now, I'm sharing. It's spring. Spring is time for new birth, new stories, and right now I feel so empty and alone. This...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    So it struck me..I've become extremely

    independent in the past year since I left my husband. Bought my own house, fix things that break, built myself a fire pit...learning to do so many things on my own. Admirable, no? Well guys like helpless women. They like to feel like the hero rescuing the damsel in distress...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 6 Responses 1 hr ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 26 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Through text: Me: I miss you MM: why It's like

    he doesn't seem to care much about me right now... Why? That's your response??!! Why do I miss you? Because I haven't talked to you in a few days and we've been having a full fledged affair for an entire year of my life....I rearranged my life, called off my wedding, moved out...
    lit4love lit4love 26-30, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 6

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    I need advice ladies.

    My husband found out. My life is over as he will drag me through the mud and kill me slowly. What do I do?
    Tapeti Tapeti 31-35, F 9 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 79 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    Talked to my MM today,

    he told me he doesn't talk about emotions anymore, because he doesn't want to get in the same cycle where we end up fighting. Needless to say, what was so wonderful about him was how loved I felt with him. And now he's taking that away. I guess it's better now, than later. And...
    lit4love lit4love 26-30, F 2 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    Well for those following my story.

    We got together to pick a new date for him to tell his W and he said he doesn't think he'll ever be able to do it and we should break up. While I kept saying I thought this would happen I think I'm in shock right now. He's my best friend.
    heartbroken1234 heartbroken1234 36-40, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 152 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 28 Responses May 6, 2014

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    Being the other woman is hard.

    This is not a post coming from any place of judgment or anger, just raw feeling. When you fall in love with someone who is taken, it can be one of the most passionate experiences of your life. Every moment makes you feel so alive. So excited. But then when you have to be away...
    AnnUrban AnnUrban 22-25, F 6 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    I told him I cant help

    and he is getting mad with me =(
    jwyhln jwyhln 26-30, F 9 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 15 Responses May 4, 2014

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 18 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    My world was turned upside down a few hours ago

    when he ended it. We talked, hugged, kissed, cried. I told him I was blocking him from my cell so don't even bother. I took down my Facebook and deleted texts, pictures, voicemails and notes from my phone. I had plans with friends so I had to pretend things were okay. Came home...
    heartbroken1234 heartbroken1234 36-40, F 18 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    When I get over this heartbreak I will NEVER

    consider for one second dating a MM again!!!!!
    heartbroken1234 heartbroken1234 36-40, F 12 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Yesterday rolled over into today like I feared

    it would. 4 texts from him since wake up this morning, 45 minute later call then normal, and our 30 minute phone time was terrible. I was trying to explain yesterday & my space... He just wasn't vibing with me. I'm feeling disconnected, discouraged, alone and anxious. I've seen...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 3 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 48 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    I cannot concentrate on anything Need to get

    this off my chest. To end it with him. Let him know I am tired of being the other other woman and all his lies. Good things will come my way once I get rid of the bad ones, people say. And yet my heart aches. I will come here and ask for your support.
    loveariel loveariel 41-45, F 5 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    I just responded to a post in

    which someone stated that we only get the best of MM and he of us. That the bullshit of life doesn't get in the way. That we are living a fantasy, it's not real life. I know in some situations that's true but I think there are many of you that would agree with me.....we are like...
    wordweapon wordweapon 41-45, F 7 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    Spending my Sunday alone.

    I decided to take this time to do some gardening, planting some flowers, sprinkle some grass seeds in the back yard and buy some gold fish for my pond. I'm all dirty and wet from watering the grass but I must say this is such peaceful moment. The weather broke and we should...
    4everhislady 4everhislady 36-40, F 1 day ago

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 51 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    I think my ex MM is gone forever now.

    I'm not sure if I'm relieved or offended lol. I got bored with it all anyway. I moved 75 miles away from him and for a while it seemed to help me resist the temptation of wanting to be around him again but we still ended up seeing each other he drove all the way here to see me...
    Taumilynn Taumilynn 36-40 2 Responses 13 hrs ago

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