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I Am The Other Woman

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 164 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    Tonight will be our first full night together.

    No time constraints. No looking over our shoulders. We have a suite booked with a fireplace. Sushi & wine. I am so looking forward to 8 hours of normalcy. It is crazy we have never even eaten together. We spend our blips of time only focused on eachother. We get to talk for...
    tauriangirl tauriangirl 36-40, F 26 Responses Nov 15, 2014

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 20 Responses Jan 2, 2014

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    Me and Steve used to meet up almost everyday

    after work, and he used to come over my house early in the morning sometimes before work. He would go to the gym at 4am so sometimes he would come to my house instead while his wife thought he was at the gym. But he recently hurt his arm and hasn't been to the gym in 2 months...
    Tiffanyportelli Tiffanyportelli 22-25, F 1 day ago

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    This spoke to me today.

    Some days are filled with longing. I know the grass isn't necessarily greener on the other side. That "side" being with MM, a man who knows how to demonstrate loving behaviour, but sometimes I can't stop myself from having hope.
    TrulyMadlyDeeply38 TrulyMadlyDeeply38 41-45, F 4 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 25 Responses May 6, 2014

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    I was looking through the pictures on my phone

    and I came across all of the screenshots from all of the conversations I ever had with ex-MM. I was reading through some of them and I just can't believe him! So wishy-washy and full of it! He said all these wonderful nice things to me that seemed to show that he cared then 2...
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 36-40, F 5 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    My affair I can honestly say has been the

    destruction of my life. If I could go back and change things I never would have done this. My marriage was never great and I guess that's why when my ex MM approached me I went with it. I read all your wonderful stories of your MM and wonder how I ended up with someone worse...
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 12 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    Ok, it's Sunday morning.

    MM said he was going to be out of contact for a week or so. Tomorrow, Monday, will be a week. I'm bracing for the whirlwind of emotions that will come whether he contacts me or not. The worst part? I did meet someone during this break. And guess what? Yes. You guessed it. He's...
    sugarbabysub sugarbabysub 31-35, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Nothing will make you feel like a big steaming

    piece of crap more than still sneaking off to see your MM when your daughter complains of a tummyache and returning to have to bring her to urgent care and then the ER for a possible case of appendicitis.
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 15 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 31 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 50 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    I have been involved with a MM

    for almost a year now . I haven't seen or heard from MM in almost 3 weeks. The longest since this whole thing started. We worked together, but he recently quit to go back to school. I went from seeing him everyday to seeing him once a week. And now he has just disappeared...
    andwhatnow andwhatnow 31-35, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    I will see my other married man tomorrow!

    Hopefully in 24 hours I will be in cloud9! I hope you all get to see your mm and heal the wounds. He just makes me so happy it is ridiculous!!! I hope it all goes well! Hugs to you all! Is it Monday yet??? yey!!!
    liberty2014 liberty2014 36-40, F 4 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 78 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    I am FUMING. Absolutely FUMING.

    Does anyone want to talk on the phone so I can vent? Messenger is OK too.
    asta20 asta20 31-35, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    So... My mm said he wanted to "try to have a

    normal marriage"...BUT wanted to be friends. I asked, "what happens when you try and figure that you can't?" He said "we will see". My gut feeling or perhaps just common sense tells me "no way! You will end up in the same place". So to my ex OW or just OW, bad idea right...
    musicandnotes musicandnotes 22-25, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 17 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 17 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    Just venting with a long post.

    .. It is such a roller coaster ride of emotions to be the other woman. Seriously! Sometimes it seems too much for me. I try to not have feelings but I know I love him so much, I am in love with him but I can never tell him so. I love my H but in a different way. Because we share...
    liberty2014 liberty2014 36-40, F 4 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Just when I start feeling guilty about having a

    MM my husband acts like a jerk and I'm reminded why I started things with my MM.
    ladylove0113 ladylove0113 36-40, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 46 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 20 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 16 Responses May 4, 2014

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 154 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 53 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    So I posted something uplifting

    and empowering a few days ago....and today I am missing him so much. It's been no contact for about a week and a half. Anyone else have a MM with whom your relationship has mostly consisted of texts, email, and phone due to long distance? I miss his daily texts, his...
    Journeys2013 Journeys2013 41-45, F 2 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 11, 2014

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 31 Responses Sep 23, 2014

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    Maybe this is the end.

    .. I have a feeling this is the end. And honestly I think it's for the best. Maybe. It's hard to believe that it would ever get this way because I came with no expectations and never wanted him to get a divorce. But after 7 months, I'm starting to wise up a little. He has...
    asta20 asta20 31-35, F 3 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 67 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 88 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 41 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Women won't mess with a man

    that lives with his mom but will mess with a man who lives with his wife.
    reeessa reeessa 13-15, F 28 Responses Oct 23, 2014

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    Does anyone have any experience with how long a

    man can stay in an unhappy marriage for the sake of the child or children? I know many of us here are in that situation and hoping that these men can realize that it will not work long term, or can it? I know there are many men who use their kids as an excuse, but I truly...
    Widow68 Widow68 46-50, F 13 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    the heart wants what it wants

    but sometimes the universe intervenes and gives it what it needs instead. if the two things are the same i guess it's meant to be <3
    MillieJadexx MillieJadexx 36-40, F 2 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Hello I know what I'm about to post has nothing

    to do with being an OW but there's such a large group of supportive women on here and I really need some advice. My mom took off two months ago with a new boyfriend of hers she divorced my dad and left out the country without telling me anything ..I found out from my younger...
    NewYorkDream NewYorkDream 22-25, F 8 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 17 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 20 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    I work with my MM. I get to see him 10 hours a

    day! We run an office together. After some time I feel like we play the push n pull game. Mostly because we feel one is lying to the other. He gets jealous when other guys hit on me. And thinks I'm playing him. But I don't throw out that idea. Because I want him to have fear of...
    izzyperez88 izzyperez88 26-30, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    My bestfriend found out

    that MM is married. He is devastated by it, and gave me a long lecture. I know that it's horrible to be with another woman's husband... And I feel so guilty about it. However, it's not like either of us started this on purpose. 💔apart of me wishes I could go back in time and...
    lildaydreamer lildaydreamer 26-30, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    So I decided to meet him

    after work on Wednesday and we talked. He said he moved out of his house to stay with a friend to figure things out. He has been staying w his friend since Monday. I was shocked because he said he was gonna work things out with the w but now he changed his mind. Even though he...
    sadpreciosa sadpreciosa 26-30, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    One of the few people

    that know about him sent me this. I was in a better mood, I'd find it hilarious, but oh well.
    Doloboo85 Doloboo85 26-30, F 4 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 50 Responses Jan 10

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    Another disappointing Sunday.

    MM didn't show, and didn't text me. Afraid I have pushed too hard and may have screwed up this wonderful arrangement. Some say to not over think and just know he isn't going anywhere. I hope that is the case as I am not ready. He says he is still "in", but has become distant...
    kringle6691 kringle6691 46-50, F 5 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 10 Responses Feb 13, 2014

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 81 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 50 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    So....I learned a lesson in "be careful what

    you wish for" last night. I was at home, watching movies, having a drink and I got a bit carried away.....got drunk. So in my drunken overthinking things state I texted mm and kind of went off at him. Telling him I don't think he cares, that I hate how easy it is for him etc...
    PrincessLolita PrincessLolita 26-30, F 1 Response 11 hrs ago

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