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I Am The Other Woman

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    So we went for dinner

    and drinks tonight and were having a fine time talking about sex and processing our overnight on Saturday. He was talking about his mom who reads the bible every year and I casually mentioned that some people believe there is no proof that Jesus ever existed. I didn't present...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 3 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 164 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    autumnsx autumnsx 18-21, F 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    Women won't mess with a man

    that lives with his mom but will mess with a man who lives with his wife.
    reeessa reeessa 13-15, F 28 Responses Oct 23, 2014

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 67 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 25 Responses May 6, 2014

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    Tonight will be our first full night together.

    No time constraints. No looking over our shoulders. We have a suite booked with a fireplace. Sushi & wine. I am so looking forward to 8 hours of normalcy. It is crazy we have never even eaten together. We spend our blips of time only focused on eachother. We get to talk for...
    tauriangirl tauriangirl 36-40, F 26 Responses Nov 15, 2014

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    Ladies I need help...

    And he may see this and I don't care... Got into another fight with MM tonight after a couple days together. An amazing couple days I might add. He texted me about an issue he's having and i did my best to help him as I always do. He then flipped out on me talking about...
    AvaLennon AvaLennon 31-35, F 7 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    some days are harder

    than others. most days I do fine with my circumstance. today I wish I were getting ready to go to bed in his arms rather than to bed with my roomate of a husband. I just want to be held. to be snuggled tightly till I fall asleep.
    spoiledlittle spoiledlittle 31-35, F 1 Response 8 hrs ago

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    I think my anxiety has reached critical levels.

    Between the flight cancellations into New York, work issues, and a medical problem, I don't need him to be distant right now. There is too much anxiety in this small body of mine.
    lostanddistraught lostanddistraught 22-25, F 17 hrs ago

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    The last time we were together .

    . As he was leaving asked if I found a boyfriend yet .. And then said.. "Or you're going to be stuck with me." Then disappeared .. What is this suppose to mean?! Is it just part of the game ?
    andwhatnow andwhatnow 31-35, F 16 hrs ago

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 20 Responses Jan 2, 2014

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    He came into my office to visit

    and was just hovering around while I was working. My heartbeat didn't accelerate, I wasn't excited. I simply didn't care. I hope this indifference continues.
    DarlingEll DarlingEll 26-30, F 1 Response 19 hrs ago

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    What would you do? Havent connected in two

    days because he lost his internet. Gets it back today and tell he was too distracted to carry on conversation. Said would he back after one client because everyone else cancelled. So he had wide open time today. Then later this evening, he is available on gmail like he is...
    blue963 blue963 51-55, F 4 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    So this weekend I dropped kids off at the mall,

    I was gong to go shopping but changed my plans real quick when I seen this sign while driving that said Psychic Fair in this hotel. Ok there was people everywhere, it was a full house, I was nervous didn't want to see anyone there I may know. Lord I had Questions and I figured...
    Imbrokenhearted Imbrokenhearted 36-40, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    Feeling lonely today with out MM,

    no talking or texting. I don't know what to do with myself now. This is gonna be a long lonely road to forgetting and getting over him.
    Blueeyes65 Blueeyes65 46-50, F 6 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 20 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 17 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    I will not text him. I will not text him.

    I will not text him. I will not text him. It's been a week. He said no contact for a 'week or so'. It's killing me. As much fun as I've had in this 'break', I still feel deeply for him. The heart wants what it wants. Who am I to question that? I will not text him. I will NOT...
    sugarbabysub sugarbabysub 31-35, F 9 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    Update. Why NC? His wife is depressed

    because she hates living here. As someone who ACTUALLY suffers depression, that sounds like whiny bullsh** to me. But what do I know? Right? I know, I should be supportive. And I sound selfish. And bitchy. I'm hurt that that's the reason he didn't want to speak to me for a week...
    sugarbabysub sugarbabysub 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 hr ago

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    I feel good, I feel great,

    I feel wonderful...
    pinkismysignaturecolor pinkismysignaturecolor 36-40, F 1 Response 10 hrs ago

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    The past 10 days have been a rollercoaster.

    Much, much soul searching later and I've decided to start to pull away from my guy. We had arranged to meet for lunch, but I made my excuses, same for a quick coffee on his way home. we messaged this evening, but not as much as normal, and I kept the conversation to general...
    typist123 typist123 36-40, F 4 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 50 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 41 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    I have just heard from MM.

    They are moving up his surgery. He is heading for prep, with surgery to start about 10am. He sent me a picture from his little room. Start to finish they tell him about 4 to 5 hours. It's going to be a long day.
    whynot13 whynot13 46-50, F 8 mins ago

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    I haven't posted in over a month

    because my MM and I have been NC. Totally thought it was over... Then out of the blue, he texts me, "Round 2"?... Apparently, someone missed me a lot lol. Never have we had the "over before it even started" problem until now hahaha.
    aulaLaine aulaLaine 41-45, F 6 hrs ago

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    I had been no contact

    for almost two weeks (I initiated). We have been "together" for 2.5 years. I've never gone so long without texting or emailing him. I broke down today. Rather than ignore me or be angry with me, he wrote that he wants to text me every hour, that he misses me, that he loves...
    Journeys2013 Journeys2013 41-45, F 6 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 154 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 31 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 17 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 46 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 10 Responses Feb 13, 2014

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    I worked with him early this morning.

    . Too early in my opinion, but work happens when it happens. A half hour before my alarm was to go off he texts to ask me to come early to meet him, he wants to see me before work. I drag my behind out of bed and head over to the coffee shop he is at.. We didn't have the chance...
    ElsieJay ElsieJay 41-45, F 2 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    Any ow out there have a mm

    who is much older, and extremely brilliant, charming and successful? I feel like I will never catch up to him. He is happily married (happily cheats) - has a great fun group of friends - hobbies that would blow your mind - published - owns companies. I hate him. Everything...
    caddriss caddriss 36-40, F 3 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 17 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    We spent the day together [so to speak,

    thank you God for video chat]. Only one break between 8 am to 6pm, which was when he had to take the call from his surgeon. But now... MM's surgery will be at 11am tomorrow. He is riding in with his W [she works for his surgeon] at 8am. They are telling him he should be...
    whynot13 whynot13 46-50, F 4 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Me: I love you and miss you.

    It's so hard when I know you are stressed and anxious. It's horrible. MM: hearing you say (seeing you text) that is enough to help. Xxx Me: well I guess I just have to accept that. It's the hardest thing about this. X MM: I know. I love you. Xx
    free69spirit free69spirit 41-45, F 16 hrs ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    I am constantly amused by the people

    who come onto this particular experience forum to pass judgement. As if they are the epitome of perfection, goodness & light. This forum was started because infidelity is a truth of life and those of us that are in these relationships are still good, caring people. The fact...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 5 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 16 Responses May 4, 2014

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 49 Responses Jan 10

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    I am going freaking crazy.

    Someone tell me what you do.
    kringle6691 kringle6691 46-50, F 6 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    I terribly need advice.

    I know it's wrong but I'm a 22 year old having an affair with a 46 year old married guy. It's been going on for over a year. I love him, he loves me. But overtime I'm starting to see how much it really means to be settling for a relationship like this. And I worry about not...
    monzdp monzdp 22-25, F 2 Responses 1 hr ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    I don't know how some of you work along side

    your MM everyday. Mine came into the office today and I was completely distracted... I think it was even harder knowing that he's leaving out tonight to go up North. So I won't see him for the rest of his hitch, then he flys home for ten days...
    lildaydreamer lildaydreamer 26-30, F 4 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 101 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 50 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 78 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 81 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    A drama free post... I had a friend in town

    this weekend - we got together with a group of eight girlfriends. My 'MM' and his best friend met up with all of us as well, as a few hadn't yet met him. It was a pleasure introducing him. There isn't a person who doesn't appreciate his presence. They were all in 'awe' of my 'MM...
    AdelW AdelW 22-25, F 4 Responses 21 hrs ago

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