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    Long post warning!! There was an issue last

    week concerning his birthday dinner. I wasn't invited (we share mutual friends). My first thought was "oh **** she knows!" But one of our friends said that according to W because I wasn't in their circle of friends prior to their engagement, that I had no business being at the...
    kc5316 kc5316 22-25, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    And I accept my place

    as the other woman. I don't wish to be the only woman. I don't wish for someone to be my only man. Being "second" to someone has changed a lot of my beliefs. Why do we have to be "first"? Why do we put so many expectations and rules on something as simple as love? I accept the...
    AnnUrban AnnUrban 22-25, F 1 day ago

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 17 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 6

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    For the past few weeks I neglected my tire

    light on my dashboard and ended up with a flat tire... Prior to that I mentioned it to my mm and all he did was tell me that I should know how to put air in a tire.... He actually got upset because another man I interact with during work offered to follow me to the gas station...
    Lilypad718 Lilypad718 31-35, F 6 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    Using the "F" word . It's used more widely now.

    We used to say that it was used because the person saying it couldn't find the correct word for what they wanted to say. Of course it's sometimes used in the throes of intense passion. I admit that when I get angry , or injure myself I've been known to utter it. But I'll share...
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 152 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 19 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 71 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 92 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    She is a close friend.

    I love her. She has two children with him. She stays at home while he works full time and goes to school. But while I love her, I've loved him longer. We met K as teenagers. I was dating my now husband, J. I didn't like K much at first. He was quiet but his eyes, so blue like...
    trashclass trashclass 22-25, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    its been a long day finally got to see mm

    after 6 long days it was great. but then later I feel like we had a disagreement and he said he was going to bed early. with that on my mind my husband felt the need to have the why are you so distant lately talk. I just want this night to be over already.
    13butterflyblue 13butterflyblue 26-30, F 1 Response 9 hrs ago

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    I think this was done

    once before. But it's a slow day at work and I'm trying to will the clock to move faster towards 5pm. So let's play a little game of sorts. 1. Name a song that best represents you and how you feel about your relationship with your MM. 2. Name a movie that reminds you of...
    thathurtgrl thathurtgrl 36-40, F 5 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 54 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 13 Responses Apr 19

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 48 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Do any of you ever wonder

    if monogamy is not for you? I knew H would never give me all I needed, so MM is filling a void. But even when things were good with H, I still often felt I wanted more. When I mention it to my friends, they say things like "you just haven't found the right man yet" but when I...
    Julianne2222 Julianne2222 36-40, F 21 Responses 1 day ago

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    what's wrong with me?

    he is just busy, he doesn't forget me or stop loving me. I feel so depressed , he doesn't pay attention to me that much. I wanna cry, i wanna scream, how i feel this kind of pains inside my heart. I could not stop think about him, not even single minute. He doesn't care that i...
    angelamaxy angelamaxy 22-25 1 Response 9 hrs ago

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    He wants to see me. He keeps pushing

    for it now. I don't know if he's just testing me to see if I will take the bait or if he is scrambling now because I have pulled away so much! Either way I guess it doesn't matter. I keep blowing him off. I don't feel like I can trust him. I wish that could because then it would...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Wow! What a day!!! Where do I start?

    He was waiting at hotel for me. Got the biggest hug. We talked a bit but my urges could not contain themselves long. I dove right into him on the bed. I missed him so much. Our love making is beyond describable. My favourite part is lying in his arms afterwards. It seems that...
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 4 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    I hate my MM. I hate him

    because I very stupidly love him, and lately, it's gotten very stupid. I've barely spoken to him, because he hung up in my face when I asked if he still loves me. He said in that moment he couldn't handle fighting or handle anything else. He just complete shut down with a...
    lit4love lit4love 26-30, F 2 Responses 55 mins ago

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    So ladies, I know I don't post here very often

    and I am no longer the other woman but I feel like the only people that could understand might be some of you. Sorry in advance for this rant! I accidentally came across ex-MM and the W's IG. I have the both of them blocked everywhere else and now they are blocked there too. I...
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 36-40, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    I ended it...again but I'm really ready this

    time. I keep saying that but it really does feel different now. It isn't worth it anymore, he'll never give me what I want, what I need and I've finally realized it. It breaks my heart because I tried so hard to keep it together, to keep us going but in the end it just wasn't...
    moepeep moepeep 22-25, F 12 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    If you are "not the other woman"

    and are lost here somehow please come to "I am not the other woman"
    paliglass paliglass 31-35, F 16 hrs ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 170 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    You just never know what someone may be going

    through, or what got them there
    kathrineh kathrineh 46-50, F 3 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 79 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    The man I love is not the man everyone else

    sees. The man I love is the man that only I know. The man I love shares with me all that he holds inside - his hopes and dreams for the future, his memories and experiences of the past. All the things that make him who he is today. The man I love is the man who's most...
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 14 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 41 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 28 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    so my phone is on my mothers contract plan

    but I'm pay for it... well she found out that I was seeing mm and told me I shouldn't see him she doesn't know that he is married... well since I wouldn't stop seeing him she decided she was going to cut my phone off so we would have NC and I'm like really?!?! how is it ur...
    emeraldprincess1003 emeraldprincess1003 22-25, F 3 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 28 Responses May 6, 2014

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 204 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    Anyone here when your with your lover do watch

    Adult Movies together? I do with my girlfriend.
    ForbiddenFruitLove95 ForbiddenFruitLove95 18-21, F 5 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    NO LONGER THE OTHER WOMAN!

    !! I am now the only woman :) it has been officially ended this morning, he was straight on the phone to me who was awesome at playing it cool despite up all night worrying! He was going to come over but we both decided against it as he needs time to recover maybe. He has gone...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 14 Responses Mar 21

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 51 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    3.5 hours!!! The countdown is on

    until I'm in his arms:) We got our room for the day and I'm oh so excited. So much sexual tension needs to be released. It's been a long two weeks since we last saw each other so I can only imagine what today will consist of;) One very happy lady right here!!!!!!!!
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 155 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 51 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    I hate who I've become.

    I went to the gym. Alone. To work out with my personal trainer. While you were at dinner with her and friends celebrating a birthday. I found out because I did some good old fashioned Facebook stalking. And when I asked "did you have a nice night tonight?" Your response was...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 12 Responses 1 day ago

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    Actually I am not the other woman ,

    don't know where this story fits . Well the story is about my father . He is not a bad man or a bad father . My mother is also not bad one . All my childhood I witnessed how much they love each other and appreciate each other . In my teenage more like when I was in 16...
    ordinarymomof2 ordinarymomof2 36-40, F 9 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    Man, my soon to be ex has really done a number

    on me mentally and because of it, it really may mess up things with MM to the point that after almost two years I may call it quits. I know I will regret this decision and I keep trying to talk myself off that ledge, but it's sooo hard to do. My H has let me believe for years...
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 5 Responses 9 hrs ago

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