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I Am The Other Woman

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 148 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    My MM and I have been seeing each other

    for 7 months now, and who knows if this will last or not. But regardless, we are in a wonderful relationship where we both have the same expectations. Neither of us will leave our spouses but when we are together there is magic between us. My MM is the best lover I've ever...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 7 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    he came over yesterday.

    we went and got a couple tattoo. we drank and he opened up to me even more. i ended up getting sick and slept 2 hrs while he was here. he then had to go home. after what he told me last night i woke up with a moral hangover. i just dont feel good doing this anymore. I've also...
    xalotlikex xalotlikex 22-25, F 4 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Oops... I just offended someone

    who would "never cheat on his partner" by pointing out that it's still cheating until your divorce is finalised regardless of whatever agreement you have in place. Why do I always find the stupid?
    BeckstaOnSquidoo BeckstaOnSquidoo 26-30, F 4 hrs ago

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    Made cookies to bring to work tomorrow

    and made sure to make MM's favorite. I sent him a pic and he told me he can't wait to have one. It'll most likely be the only day I see him this week.
    DarlingEll DarlingEll 26-30, F 3 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    It's sad that you can't really put what you

    want here cause others down you for it. Wishing I had someone to talk to about things....
    dsuzy dsuzy 36-40, F 8 Responses 1 day ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 50 Responses Feb 16

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    Way he has his desk situated she walked in

    while we were video chatting. I got off right away, not sure if she saw but said she didnt say anything. Not sure why he doesnt turn is desk a different direction. Would make his life easier. She has walked in multiple times and caught him. smh.
    blue963 blue963 51-55, F 3 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 51 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    We had our Christmas together last night with a

    dinner at our favorite restaurant. I got a huge surprise from him- a beautiful ring! Not an engagement ring, YET, a lovely Luckenbooth! He gave me a Luckenbooth necklace last year now I have a ring. It was magical and romantic!!!!!
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 5 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    Tonight will be our first full night together.

    No time constraints. No looking over our shoulders. We have a suite booked with a fireplace. Sushi & wine. I am so looking forward to 8 hours of normalcy. It is crazy we have never even eaten together. We spend our blips of time only focused on eachother. We get to talk for...
    tauriangirl tauriangirl 36-40, F 27 Responses Nov 15

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 10 Responses Feb 13

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 17 Responses Sep 10

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 31 Responses Sep 23

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 16 Responses Jun 2

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    missed a call from him yesterday

    because an old college bf (first true love, which I compare my heart meter to know the level of feelings , comfort and intensity to. like does this man make feel like I did with bf???). mm is the first in 20 years to get a yes to everything. not even my ex H did. my ex H once...
    justinsneedow justinsneedow 41-45, F 1 Response 17 hrs ago

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    Women won't mess with a man

    that lives with his mom but will mess with a man who lives with his wife.
    reeessa reeessa 13-15, F 29 Responses Oct 23

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 55 Responses Nov 6

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    What plans do you all have

    for Christmas? I will be home with family and doing the usual Christmas stuff. Minimal company for Christmas Eve and the same for Christmas Day.
    surfsway surfsway 36-40, F 14 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 208 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 69 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 162 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 41 Responses Feb 24

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 31 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    No trolls please (read previous stories he was

    NOT married when we were together) Dammit I miss you... Everything I do... Look at Think about Dream about Somehow relates to you How did you infect everything in my life so much? I feel like I can't function like a normal person without you.. I am not the kind of...
    jupsta jupsta 36-40, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Today i waited for his text all day

    and nothing....wasnt upset and actually kept myself busy at work...then out of nowhere he texts me asking how i am amd he says he thought about me all day...how ᤾??? Anyway, he told me i am a great person and he wishes he would have met me before he met his wife and be married...
    clamar44 clamar44 26-30, F 2 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    tonight he said: I like it

    when you misbehave. it makes me feel desirable. I want to make you happy I wish I could have you all the time he makes me love him so handily.
    Violetbeauregard Violetbeauregard 26-30, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Even though he wanted to talk it out,

    I realized I can't do this anymore. I told him he was right, there is nothing keeping me here and said goodbye. He replied with "So that's all you got out of it." I'm not even sure what he meant by this but I decided I didn't care and never responded. I feel bad but I don't...
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 6 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 103 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 46 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 11

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    Since we had that extra time to hold each other

    he's been so close to me. He said he can't stop thinking about it. Neither can I. Of all the very pleasurable times we've spent together, that one simple thing seems to be most important to both of us. For anyone who wants to condemn an affair and say he can't possibly love you...
    surfsway surfsway 36-40, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    On vacation with my family

    and feeling disallusioned. I think its time to let go of my AP. He is also married and his wife was recently in the hospital. He pulled back and I feel like the truth is he will say anything to me so we can keep having sex... including love words and such. I am not sure...
    sweetplumeria sweetplumeria 36-40 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    he told me tonight that his wife accused him of

    having an affair. with none other than my best friend. the same friend that practically nominated his wife for sainthood while condemning our affair. oh, sweet irony!
    Violetbeauregard Violetbeauregard 26-30, F 4 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 16 Responses May 4

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 84 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    So much for a slow rekindling.

    I get to spend the morning with him tomorrow and I absolutely cannot wait to see him. I will probably cry. It will be sixteen days since we saw each other. We talked for a long time yesterday. Talked about all the events that happened with his daughter. The suicide attempt. The...
    tauriangirl tauriangirl 36-40, F 5 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 17 Responses Apr 19

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 40 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Tuesday cannot get here fast enough.

    ... I will be able to spend alone time with my MM. Excited!!!
    girlin23112 girlin23112 36-40, F 4 hrs ago

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    I don't usually post stories.

    I get a lot out of reading experiences, and responding. But sometimes I feel sheepish for being a semi-lurker. So I will share my week without MM. It's a crazy time of year; everybody has more than enough on their plates, including me and MM. We had plans to see each other...
    TrulyMadlyDeeply38 TrulyMadlyDeeply38 41-45, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 20 Responses Jan 2

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    Seeing mine for almost a year.

    I know he loves me. Guilt finally catching up and he's pulled back. Can't see me or else he will want me. Talk when we can still. I hear his pain. What do I do? Do they usually pull back then realize they miss us and come back? My heart is broken. Thanks for any advice.
    greeneyes41 greeneyes41 41-45, F 5 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    adeleccaa adeleccaa 26-30, F 1 Response 5 hrs ago

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    I get that if he's married,

    then he's an mm... but what if he's now divorced? Mm doesn't seem like a fitting label for my former mm anymore...
    BeckstaOnSquidoo BeckstaOnSquidoo 26-30, F 1 Response 14 hrs ago

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    How do you guys do it?

    How do you end it? How? I want to but I can't... It's like, impossible! Maybe I should just let it run its course... I don't know. I love him so much. But I know this can't go on forever. Which I'm ok with. But I just don't think he loves me like he says he does. I think he...
    asta20 asta20 31-35, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    He's feeling it, the time away from each other.

    He's been initiating contact all day and he's found ways to call me. We had a great talk and no sooner did we hang up, he texted. He's also going to come see me. He said the week away was just too much for him. In the beginning I just assumed this would fade out at a certain...
    surfsway surfsway 36-40, F 3 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    One more day in this loosy long weekend.

    I had no idea until the H got home last night, just how much being able to talk to my MM has saved my marriage. Yes Trolls that's right my MM is keeping me in my marriage. Normally when my H comes home and starts in on something, I go quietly in my head to my MM, and calmly...
    whynot13 whynot13 46-50, F 11 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    ok ladies I'm going personal here.

    I assume that some of the ow are married or have bf. are you also intimate with H or bf? if so is mm intimate with W? big question how is birth control and sexual health approached? this may go unanwered in public but I just wondered. pm me if you want. I'm a fertile mertile and...
    justinsneedow justinsneedow 41-45, F 12 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 20 Responses Apr 18

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