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I Am The Other Woman

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 23 Responses Mar 22

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    Hello everyone, He is back from his vacation,

    finally. Lol. It certainly can send you into a reflective mood with all this time, missing him for so long, trying for contact when the daily rituals are taken away. He missed me. It was a struggle for him as well. As soon as he returned I was away for the weekend. I was in a...
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    Hi friends. Uterine biopsy came back negative,

    no cancer. YAY! My hormones are out of whack, which he said was normal for my age. Have a beautiful day!
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 7 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    I know there are my OW sisters

    that struggle on here. They aren't treated well by the ones they love. And I feel sorrow for each of you. But as I pan through the pages of Facebook I see my ex H and his girlfriend (likely an affair while I was putting him through grad school) as they play at an event with...
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 1 Response 24 mins ago

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    so, the drama continues.

    .. (I'm usually a drama-free person, so to me, this is already unnecessary, anyway...) we started talking again, but his responses have been very short, and cold. so I just called him out saying "u can't deny u have been cold and short with me", and to that, he said, "u...
    stillgianne stillgianne 31-35, F 2 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    when the radio doesn't help clear those nagging

    voice out your head I know what will. when the bottle of wine is finished the bestie and me will be in giggling fits!! cheers girls!!! hope everyone's night is a great one!!!
    emeraldprincess1003 emeraldprincess1003 22-25, F 12 hrs ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 170 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    a bitter sweet day. H was served divorce

    papers. I never wanted it to come to this. He made the choice by his actions.
    blue963 blue963 51-55, F 9 hrs ago

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 50 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    coolvolatile coolvolatile 31-35, F 9 Responses 1 day ago

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 45 Responses Jan 10

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 29 Responses May 6, 2014

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 18 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    It's not about the sex,

    I know BUT. He got stung by a wasp TWICE on his neither region last night. Why you need to go around in shorts without underwear while grilling. Ouch. And we haven't been together for two weeks.
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 7 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    Well, MM and I are coming up on almost two

    months since we've seen each other. We've been fine with long distance but have always seen each other once a month at least. He's been very busy since June and traveling for work. I knew it would likely be August before I saw him again, but we haven't made plans or set a date...
    Julianne2222 Julianne2222 36-40, F 1 Response 9 hrs ago

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 19

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    I have no idea what is happening with Us.

    We have had a "break up " thrice in the past 20 days, these break ups last for about 2-3 hours before he starts texting ! And I respond happily! But we seem to be very frustrated with the situation, me asking for more time than he can give , him getting angry with with me for...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 6 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 48 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    For those of us who just ended things,

    or are hanging by a thread, the positive side of this freedom... No more watching them text back and forth like tweeners on our dates. No more lonely Sundays, feeling sad that it's an NC day. No more laying in bed every night wondering what they're doing in bed together. No...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 19 Responses Jul 12

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 6

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    I don't know what the hell im doing.

    Her and I went thru 9 days of NC, I deleted this app because what was the point of being on it.....I wasn't the other woman anymore. Then she hits me with the "I miss you." Scenario. Of course, being the one who was dumped.....naturally my pride took over and said I missed her...
    imouttie imouttie 31-35, F 1 Response 16 hrs ago

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    Why is it that when I make bad decisions with

    my life my bank account has to deal with the consequences? Son of a B****
    imouttie imouttie 31-35, F 2 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 158 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    NO LONGER THE OTHER WOMAN!

    !! I am now the only woman :) it has been officially ended this morning, he was straight on the phone to me who was awesome at playing it cool despite up all night worrying! He was going to come over but we both decided against it as he needs time to recover maybe. He has gone...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 12 Responses Mar 21

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    Picked me up in his truck the other night

    and we drove to the river.. Started by getting a little steamy inside but quickly moved into the trees under the stars.. Can't even explain!!! Was rough and crazy and I was a complete mess after, his favourite. One of mine just because I'm obsessed with his pleasure it's a...
    SweetSunnyRiley SweetSunnyRiley 22-25, F 13 hrs ago

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    right before bed.... I get a text from a number

    I don't even know.... the person said" he's lying... he is with his wife and just using u..... he doesn't love u and will lie to get what he wants. I hope ur OK Taylor..... if u need a friend I'm here... " idk what to think... I'm in tears and falling apart... I dont want to...
    emeraldprincess1003 emeraldprincess1003 22-25, F 4 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Who can you be constantly on whatsapp to from

    half 7 last night till 1am this morning, then back on again at 7am.... Especially when I still haven't had a reply to my message on Sunday!!! Fu@k you *******!
    Prettybutterfly88 Prettybutterfly88 26-30, F 2 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    How do you deal with the two faces you put up?

    One for the MM and the other for the family & friends around you? How do you deal with the spiritual conflicts? Tu as comprendre moi?
    Sarahneeds Sarahneeds 26-30, F 2 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 30 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    wordweapon wordweapon 41-45, F 6 hrs ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 50 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    when ur left with nothing

    but time to think.... my thoughts have been all over the place and my emotions just the same. when u know its all for the best but it doesn't feel that way... when all u want is to forget.... that's what I want... to just forget. ugh
    emeraldprincess1003 emeraldprincess1003 22-25, F 1 Response 19 hrs ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    Does this mean we're over?

    We had a small rift, from my point of view, mainly it was an issue of miscommunication, misunderstanding. 2 days ago, I wasn't in a good mood to begin with, and I told him maybe we shouldn't meet up, cos I didn't want to take it out on him by chance. He said he really wanted...
    stillgianne stillgianne 31-35, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    b4realz b4realz 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 17 Responses Mar 25

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 77 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    I hope the photo comes through I'm not sure how

    to download memes can anyone help? Thanks
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    So get this... The last guy I dated

    before I dated my husband and I have been friends throughout. He got married about the same time that I did and has a daughter as well. There has always been sexual tension between us. However, the reason we broke up originally is because he is like some of the guys talked about...
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 3 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Good Morning ladies I wonder have gotten hurt

    during love making. Like last Thursday on steps sounds like a good idea but bad on the back that's for sure.
    ForbiddenFruitLove95 ForbiddenFruitLove95 18-21, F 5 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    Looking back it is funny how easily I fell into

    the trap of becoming 'the other woman.' The first flash of distress - a wounded soul no less, and I dived into the murky water. He told me that I was his oxygen. I was a mermaid Saint Bernard with the reviving elixir strapped to my neck. Strangely, I found two unmarried men...
    Faerylight Faerylight 41-45, F 17 Responses Jun 21

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    He just walked into my office with a bouquet of

    roses for my birthday. Unbelievable. I live in cubical land. Then he grabbed me and hugged me and told me he loved me. My ex NEVER once brought me flowers to work in 20 years.
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 8 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 24 Responses Apr 30

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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