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I Am The Other Woman

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 43 Responses Feb 24

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    MM and his fam are being evicted.

    He laid it on thick today, boy. he manages to beg me for money without ever coming out and asking me for a cent. w was blowing up his phone.."You better come home with the rent." "You're not where you said you were going. I can tell you"re lying...I am not getting evicted...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 4 Responses 51 mins ago

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    Just want to put this out there to all you

    other "other women" you keep me positive... You nail my feet to the ground... You make me smile ... You put my heart back in my chest ... Thank you and when I see you pouring your heart out I feel it... I hope all the best for everyone of you misunderstood beautiful women ... I...
    jupsta jupsta 36-40, F 8 Responses Jun 9

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    To the people and trolls

    who are trying to save our souls.... Let me explain something: Our (OW) defenses go up when you use hated phrases like... Side Piece Having his cake and eating it too If he cheats with you, he'll cheat on you ...and so many more. Be original. All we need to do is read those...
    BlackHiHeels4Me BlackHiHeels4Me 36-40, F 28 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    Please, do not stop posting.

    ... I may not be the best person to make this request because I have only participated on the forum for just a few months. But I am so glad I had a place to go. I can not begin to tell you how supportive you ladies have been during my time of heart aches, up swings, troubles...
    saiyagyrl saiyagyrl 36-40, F 4 Responses May 26

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    Yay!!! I get to see my baby in the morning.

    I got a call this afternoon saying he misses his baby and asked me if I could meet him in the morning. Sooooo......guess where I will be?? Wrapped in the arms of the sexiest man I have ever met.
    candybuck candybuck 36-40, F 3 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    I feel terrible everytime I talk to my MM he

    always tells me how horrible things are with his wife, I wish with everything within me that I could change it for him. All I can do is sit back, watch and comfort him during my time :(
    bowerstoy bowerstoy 26-30, F 19 Responses 1 day ago

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    So I've been the ow for about 2 years now.

    I started looking outside my marriage for sex, and found someone very quickly. I'm pretty naive when it comes to men as I was married very young. It feels like this guy is always so hot and cold it's making me nuts! He got caught by his woman with me or someone else I'm not sure...
    shauna2013 shauna2013 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 hr ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 29 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Today he told me he loved me!

    ! 💞 this is only the second time he's said it. The first time he said it he had been drinking quite a bit, so I didn't take him seriously. But this time we were on our lunch break & sober! He's been talking to his family about me...so I believe him this time! 💞
    Sidechic79 Sidechic79 31-35 7 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    Get to spend the next 4 days with my guy!

    ! Starting tomorrow night! We see each other everyday at work but it's been 2 weeks since we've had alone time. He promises to spend the next 4 days making it up to me...super excited
    Sidechic79 Sidechic79 31-35 28 mins ago

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    Having one of those days of connection; texting

    each other, all day long. Some days it's a message or two here and there. Some days we're both so crazy busy we don't send anything for several days. Today, I woke up to his text and we've been texting all day, with not more than an hour between texts at most. It's been good...
    OneSweetThing OneSweetThing 31-35, F 3 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 36 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Looks as though I have been pushed back down

    the rabbit hole again... "He calls me beautiful like it's my name."
    lostanddistraught lostanddistraught 22-25, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 82 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    I was the other women

    for a year but now I am the wife. We will be celebrating our 3 year wedding anniversary soon. We were both married to other people when we met. We were both in bad marriages. We are both so much happier now. If anyone wants to hear my story I am happy to share.
    magic2929 magic2929 46-50, F 17 Responses Apr 29

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    Things I don't miss from my affair.

    .. 1. Waiting for my phone to ding 2. Lying to spouse about where I am going 3. Making sure I erase texts 4. Time 5. Mind control that the affair holds not mm 6. Questioning of myself and actions 7. Guilt not for the affair but for my husband and his wife 8. Time 9. The panic...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 27

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 44 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    My Secret Gold Coin

    You don’t know it, but I think of you as a beautiful, precious, shiny gold coin that I keep secretly hidden in my pocket. I feel happy knowing that you are in there, but unhappy knowing that you have to stay hidden. I wish I could show you off to friends, but they wouldn’t...
    jenn80 jenn80 51-55 18 Responses May 23, 2013

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    I was experiencing an EXTREMELY stressful

    morning today with a whole ton of family crap and I was texting my mm about it!! He was SOO sweet and caring and wanted to drive up (I was an hour away) to come and rescue me .. And he gives me the courage, the wherewithal and a phenomenal support system when I need it!! I love...
    MarieVon MarieVon 36-40, F 1 day ago

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    Since Dday, about 3 weeks ago,

    my man and I can really only chat during work. We all know I have pmdd and it really affects my mood. Well today I missed an unimportant meeting bc I was on the phone with my man. My boss came to update me and realized I was on the phone with him. Now, at 1pm, I have a meeting...
    CCBatman120 CCBatman120 26-30, F 5 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 139 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    Hello and thank you so much

    for allowing me to tell you my story, as I feel I can relate so much just from reading yours... I am a 38 year old mother of one daughter, who just graduated high school two weeks ago. My husband and I met when we were 19. We have always had a good relationship for the...
    ROBINANN1 ROBINANN1 36-40, F 6 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    I have a question and I'm wondering how I

    should go about it (approach the subject) my "married man" always offers to give me money to help me out w/rent/utilities/clothes and over the phone/via email/text messages says "I'm gonna give you money when I come over to see you" and sometimes says "I have a surprise for you...
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 8 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    He cares for me on so many levels

    and SHOWS his love and caring and it touches me SOO deeply. Today, he asked about my family situation and issues and he LISTENS to me! He actually LISTENS and care about my feelings. Even when he may not like what I have to say, he listens and validates my feelings. Always...
    MarieVon MarieVon 36-40, F 3 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 21 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    I think my MM is trying to ease his way back in.

    He's being a lot more flirty. Calling me baby,babe,honey or dear. He will go out of his way just to walk by where I'm at. But I'm at a good place in my life. He can come back into my life but as a friend only. We started out as friends so no reason why we can't just be friends...
    tc57 tc57 31-35, F 3 Responses 1 hr ago

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    On Saturday it's my mm's big vow renewal/

    remarriage.... 150 guest.... She's picked out a gown ( probably a wedding dress).... He is writing his vows and I'm here tormented over the whole ordeal. Yesterday I hysterically laughed in order to not cry In front of him when he mentioned that he had to come earlier to see...
    Lilypad718 Lilypad718 31-35, F 5 Responses 1 hr ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 21 Responses Jan 2

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 31-35, M 14 Responses Apr 19

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 47 Responses Feb 16

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    Seeing him today...waiting.

    ..for...his...call.... He said he would call as soon as he is done with his appointment, then he is free for the day. That appointment has been going on for 1 hour and 7 minutes. Oh crap, I have reverted to high school freshman behavior. The anticipation is killing me. I have...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 5 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 22-25, F 18 Responses Apr 18

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    I'm sorry but I don't care

    who this might **** off or annoy. I'm already getting hate mail and we've been harassed all weekend. There are many positive's and negatives about any relationship. We all know the negatives but hopefully just to **** a few people off, I'd like to tell everyone the positives...
    sweetmae79 sweetmae79 31-35, F 15 Responses Apr 20

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 65 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 12 Responses Jun 2

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    I would like to ask everyone’s opinion on

    this. Have any of you trying to end your relationship with your MM gone back to him because of physical needs? Do you think it is a good idea?
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 1 Response 11 hrs ago

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    MarieVon MarieVon 36-40, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    So so really i didnt expect any meeting

    while he is here with family.. Never at all!! But i got a surprised text he would like to see me even just for a short time.. Im so in love with this man!!
    prettygoddess prettygoddess 26-30, F 3 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    Help my sanity please?

    ! I will post here as most will see this then. Brief background if u don't know- 2.5 yrs of friendship started online. Emotional affair. Physical affair for last couple months. Ended with her and with me a month back. Me and him on constant contact and arranged upcoming 'dates...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 3 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 69 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 9 Responses Feb 13

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    Well I had him for almost a week.

    He even was my date to a wedding over the weekend. We had fun. :)
    dolovf dolovf 26-30, F 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    I know I am being ridiculous

    and need some sense talked into me. Saw each other for 2 hours today. Very enjoyable time. (were are both self employed). He was busy today, there was some confusion about not receiving medical clearance and they were going to cancel the surgery. So in between work and...
    blue963 blue963 46-50, F 10 mins ago

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 17 Responses May 4

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 79 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    I think Betty White said it best on one of her

    shows... - "The best way to get over a man, is to get under a new one" -
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 4 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 40 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Today was a better day.

    Was very busy doing interviews all day and in meetings......didn't have time to concern myself with what he was doing. I do have to meet with him tomorrow about work and I am nervous...... He has the tendency to make me talk to him and be happy with him when I'm mad and I...
    PrincessLolita PrincessLolita 26-30, F 2 Responses 37 mins ago

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    *controversial post alert* I don't blame my

    boyfriend's wife if she is defensive or worries about my friendship with him. I often wonder why ow hate on the wife. I admit I have thought some pretty bad things about her, when she is mean or abusive to him or the kids. But, why hate the wife because she's the wife? She, in...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 3 Responses 42 mins ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 152 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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