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    He continues to be crazy busy at work,

    working loads of overtime and he still makes time. Things are just amazing.
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 3 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Good Morning to all the beautiful ladies

    that have been going through the rough times ... Just wanted to share ... As I was looking up at the beautiful moon last night I thought of yous .... thankful that we have each other to lean on in this group to support and express ourselves...Much love to you all and baby steps...
    isolatednlonely isolatednlonely 36-40, F 1 Response 17 hrs ago

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    It's like watching a freight train trash.

    Slowly. At the slowest slow speed possible. I was in my own freight car once not too long ago. I didn't see it. I was in it. Watching is something else. I feel in ways I never knew I could feel. Old, familiar feelings. I'm doing all I can to stay up.
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 45 Responses Jan 10

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    Today I love you but I am mad at you more.

    You bit my head off for showing concern for your son when he wouldn't answer your texts. You brought me into this problem then bit my head off for asking if you talked to your ex to make sure he was ok. I only ask because I care and know what his past year has been like for him...
    tiltheloverunsout tiltheloverunsout 41-45, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 18 Responses Mar 25

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 14 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    I thought this beautiful man the sparkling

    stars in the sky raining down light like laughter into my waiting fertile heart. He said he was in no man's land. I painted the sky with colour and I blossomed for him. I quivered, expanded and exploded with love. And yet, we remained divided. By a chasm that was only a metre...
    Faerylight Faerylight 41-45, F 2 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 24 Responses Apr 30

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 50 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    Here question if it to personal then don't have

    to answer. I been wondering when making love do like to start totally clothes or get completely undress. I love start fully clothed and peal off like a banana. I love undressing my lover.
    ForbiddenFruitLove95 ForbiddenFruitLove95 18-21, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    So after the many hours spent with him in the

    last week, we have no future meeting set up as of right now. When I was with him the other day, he let me know what his schedule looked like in the upcoming week and a half or so therefore this was expected. As far as I know now, I won't be seeing him until almost 2 weeks from...
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 36-40, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Someone had once said out here ,

    that the minute they feel guilty about the affair, The H ends up doing or saying something that reminds you why you got into the affair in the first place and Why it is that you are still in it. Been having a crazy few days, One of the things that initially attracted me to OM...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 5 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Just an update to my post from yesterday: he

    emailed me this evening! How great do I feel by not making myself too 'available' and having some sense of control?! I actually like playing hard to get....so he will get a response tomorrow. ;-)
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 36-40, F 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 42 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 94 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    Dianecc11 Dianecc11 26-30, F 26 mins ago

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 13 Responses Apr 19

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    Seems like all is well today with you.

    I however feel sick. Mentally, physically, and emotionally. I can't stop thinking and playing out how this ends. I feel anxiety. My soul doesn't feel well. It feels all wrong. Wrong that I allow him to treat me this way. Wondering what he gets from this. Why he did it to begin...
    Aimee3 Aimee3 26-30, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 27 Responses May 6, 2014

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 29 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Mm was not very happy yesterday

    when I told him I wanted to end it because my life is overwhelming at the moment. He thinks I'm using this as an excuse to push him away. He said everyone's life can be complicated and overwhelming at times but we still make time for the people we care about and we don't shut...
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    Dear J, I'll never forget the day

    that I met you, August 20th, 2014. I thought it was one of the best days of my life. For months, you were my twin flame, my soul mate. As the months grew, so did your lies. The thing is, I was always smarter than you. I was always on your tail. I was always one step ahead of...
    MadameMirage MadameMirage 36-40, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    I'm starting to feel

    that "how will I ever do it" feeling. Leaving tomorrow morning for a family camping trip for a week. It will be the longest MM and I have gone in almost a year, without talking to each other. H and I have done this trip every year since our boys were little, I know that once...
    whynot13 whynot13 46-50, F 5 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 6

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    Stressing out about NC.

    It's been about 3 weeks. He's given me no real concrete evidence he cares at all.....why do I still think he cares? Is it because I love him so much? No one ever truly "got me" like him. I know I'll never replace that. His wife saw out texts and hatefully confronted me...
    Blissfulbeauty Blissfulbeauty 26-30, F 1 Response 5 hrs ago

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    I don't even know where to begin,

    my husband and I are married 2 yrs - have a 1yo son. My husband asked for an open relationship. I have started "seeing" R, my married best friend for years and years. Knew I loved him but only since I have let these feelings out did I realise how much. His wife has given...
    iamnooneyouknow iamnooneyouknow 31-35, F 1 Response 17 hrs ago

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    Well exMM goes to court today,

    2nd offense DUI, a total of 5 convictions, this time he doesn't have me to be his taxi and take care of business if he goes away, I'm kinda glad I'm out of that mess!! Hadn't heard from him in a year and all the sudden he wants and needs my help and I know exactly why, he needs...
    kathrineh kathrineh 46-50, F 8 Responses 1 day ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 55 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    I can't explain to you all of the madness

    that's happened in the last 24 hours. But here it goes. I met his sister. I told her I knew him and we had worked together. And a few hours in, I found out so much. Honestly, it's so much I don't even know where to start. But I'll stick with what hurt me the most. He had told...
    macwellgirl macwellgirl 26-30, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 77 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    Yes the block button works .

    ...I have tried it and is still using it ..For the idiot who said i am emotional and full of rage .You can not be so wrong I am Happy as can be...Perfect time in my life.All is good on this end lmao
    peachy115 peachy115 51-55, F 1 Response 11 hrs ago

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    Why can't I get over him?

    It's been a few weeks since we ended and a couple weeks since d day with his woman. I don't know if they got back together after I told her everything but him and I have exchanged a couple emails here and there. We don't hate each other although I'm still sad he left me again to...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 9 Responses 1 day ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    Looking back it is funny how easily I fell into

    the trap of becoming 'the other woman.' The first flash of distress - a wounded soul no less, and I dived into the murky water. He told me that I was his oxygen. I was a mermaid Saint Bernard with the reviving elixir strapped to my neck. Strangely, I found two unmarried men...
    Faerylight Faerylight 41-45, F 19 Responses Jun 21

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 170 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 15 Responses May 4, 2014

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    I don't know if I should talk to him about this

    disconnect I am feeling. I don't feel fully engaged in this anymore. I want to be, but I don't know how to fix it. On the other hand, I don't want to put a lot of effort into 'fixing' this if it is a better place for him. I would probably not even consider talking about it with...
    solace73 solace73 41-45, F 3 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    This is the trend in South America.

    Where are the cheaters, where is the husband...no where!!! Video.
    Prokamin Prokamin 36-40, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Dying to see him soon.

    .. wish I could just have him all for me so soon!! Love him till death what else can I say? I adore him.
    liberty2014 liberty2014 36-40, F 1 day ago

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 50 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 48 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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