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I Am The Other Woman

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 39 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    He makes me feel like no one ever has.

    Just his presence in a room makes me happy. How is it possible to get butterflies in my stomach every time I see him even though we have seen each other every day for years? I can't explain any of this but I do know I just love the feeling. One day he asked me if I used a...
    surfandturf surfandturf 36-40, F 2 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    So my BF has forgiven me I guess.

    I told him the truth. I didn't lie to him. I didn't tell him more than anything he asked but I answered him honestly. He said he was scared if losing me. He wanted me to go back to Texas with him but I'm supposed to be getting a better job Monday. I guess we are just going on...
    MartiniLynn MartiniLynn 18-21 1 Response 16 hrs ago

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    Had a great weekend. Got to see my MM last

    night. That is a never happens thing. I must say he was fine looking!
    JuliaH JuliaH 41-45, F 2 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    Hi everyone, I have been reading the stories

    here for the past few days, of how many of you are best friends with your OM, and also a recent story, where most of you say your contact with OM has just increased over time.... Well, I've been wondering, because mine seems to have reduced significantly, to be fair my OM has...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 3 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    So Thursday night I had planned on getting

    together with my MM (ended up having to call a home repairman because I had a pipe bust)... Big let down of course BUT the really bad part is that the guy who came to do the repairs is someone that I briefly dated around a year ago. My MM knew this and all was going well UNTIL...
    aulaLaine aulaLaine 41-45, F 2 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 160 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    It's been 2 weeks since the 2nd initial time

    she found out about me. This time she found my facebook and knew I worked for him ugh! Yesterday and today have been miserable!!! It's like he's trying to appease her by not being on his phone as much. I've hardly heard from him at all and it's never been like this. I tell him...
    prettygirl1981 prettygirl1981 31-35, F 4 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 43 Responses Feb 24

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    Almost a week since I've had sex.

    .... This is unacceptable!!! Yeah I understand that he had a 2 funerals back to back, I understand that he had other things to do, but 1 week?????That's too long... I have needs.... Sigh.... I should have stayed married!!! Where at least I could have had sex daily...3-4x a week...
    Lilypad718 Lilypad718 31-35, F 9 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 81 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    Super Troll Sunday is probably the most clever

    title anyone could ever come up with for what happens here. I love when someone makes nasty comments on your post and then when you respond they get the last word in and block you. All I can say is WTF.
    surfandturf surfandturf 36-40, F 8 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Have you ever made an excuse to not see your MM

    even though you could just to see if it makes him want you more or so they don't feel like you are desperate for any morsel of time he offers, like a loyal puppy?
    forbidden67 forbidden67 46-50, F 4 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 16 Responses May 4

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    Oh, emotional whiplash.

    That's what I call all this back and forth. He's been pretty great lately, back to rapid responses with texting, calling me without me asking... whatever was stressing him out last week seems to be done. Maybe it was a flash of guilt, but I'm fine with no knowing. Today is an lc...
    Ahmazing Ahmazing 31-35, F 5 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 76 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    It's like he can read my mind,

    calls or messages every time just as I'm losing faith in him. He's consistently inconsistent .. A roller coaster. He says his wife knows something's up but not what. Well not surprising .. It's taken this long is. He told me she straight up accused him of being obsessed with...
    megansunshine megansunshine 18-21, F 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    Most statistics say that MM will never leave

    their wives. However I know at least 5 people who have split up and ended up with their affair partners. One close friend of mine waited 7 years before both their marriages finally ended. Anyone one out there now with their MM or know of any success stories themselves? Would...
    Danni11112 Danni11112 31-35, F 10 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    He's married now but I saw him today just to

    discuss the future of our baby and he couldn't help but to flirt and make sexual jokes. I know I shouldn't deal with this **** anymore but God I can't wait till he touches my body again
    HisCharmedOne HisCharmedOne 26-30, F 7 hrs ago

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    To the people and trolls

    who are trying to save our souls.... Let me explain something: Our (OW) defenses go up when you use hated phrases like... Side Piece Having his cake and eating it too If he cheats with you, he'll cheat on you ...and so many more. Be original. All we need to do is read those...
    BlackHiHeels4Me BlackHiHeels4Me 36-40, F 44 Responses Jul 30

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    So it's officially been a week

    since I had any contact with my guy. I've heard all about not of his family things just because his wife talks to me every day but he hasn't gotten a hold of me and this time I was like, **** it.. And made not attempt to get a hold of him either. I've had a couple hard days...
    megansunshine megansunshine 18-21, F 5 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    I am gonna see him this week!

    I can't wait! Last time I saw him was Oct 1st yes I am literally counting the minutes! Can't wait for his magical touch and be in heaven with his kisses! Oh Love!!!
    kylee2013 kylee2013 36-40, F 8 hrs ago

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    Thank god the weekend is almost over.

    I was suppose to see him tomorrow but his parents decided to stay an extra day to watch a damn football game. So now that's off. I was very understanding of course but I miss him, it's just another long *** weekend and another lc day to deal with.
    rainydays2 rainydays2 31-35, F 1 Response 8 hrs ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 46 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    I'm exhausted. I was part of a bridal party

    for a close friend's wedding. The best part was by MM was there with me :)
    dolovf dolovf 26-30, F 2 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    The only proof I have

    that he actually exists in my world.
    lonelyone80 lonelyone80 31-35, F 3 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 23 Responses May 6

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 31-35, M 17 Responses Apr 19

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 22 Responses Jul 30

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    Does your MM know you post on here?

    Why or why not does he know?
    eapple eapple 31-35, F 24 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 45 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 36 Responses Sep 23

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 78 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 10 Responses Feb 13

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 146 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    I didn't contact him today

    and not on purpose. I just woke up later than him. He texted me probably feeling like an OW waiting to receive a text. I actually felt bad about this. It does show that they feel the same way we do from time to time. He is getting really good with non verbal communication too...
    surfandturf surfandturf 36-40, F 1 Response 15 hrs ago

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    So....I watch Grey's Anatomy

    and was catching up on it today (rainy, cold day here). The newest episode set me off.....good thing I had a lot to do this afternoon so I couldn't wallow in self pity. Anyone else know what I mean?
    greeneyes2232 greeneyes2232 41-45, F 3 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    Why do all the haters say you're always going

    to be second choice? Maybe we are second choice when he "has" to go home but in reality we aren't second choice in his heart or his mind. I can almost promise that he's thinking about me more than his wife. I can almost promise his heart is starting to lead him else where and...
    tc57 tc57 31-35, F 87 Responses Aug 10

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    We clutch and we cling

    because we love. And when you're seeing them slowly fade from the scene, LET GO!
    Anthurium Anthurium 31-35, F 3 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 6 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 20 Responses Jan 2

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    Oh, I keep dreaming of him.

    Almost every night. The dreams are all so vivid that when I wake up, all the memories of us together are right there and it seems like I can smell him and feel his touch again. *sigh*
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 31-35, F 2 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    And I will love my MM till the day I die!

    Even if it ends I have had the best time of my life with him!!! Oh love!!!
    kylee2013 kylee2013 36-40, F 3 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 103 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    I hate weekends and this lc crap.

    It just sucks. I know in my brain he's very busy. Studying for an exam for his job and his parents are stopping by and spending the night on the way down to Florida. Still though, not hearing from him makes my heart ache. I go back and forth from feeling on top of the world...
    rainydays2 rainydays2 31-35, F 3 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    I miss him ugh my first love I've known him

    going on ten years I just wish he never would've married her he regrets it but he's gotta try to get her to mess up so he can get his kids ugh why why why. he tells me he loves me and we still make love I just wish we were free to be us again
    elyayamama elyayamama 22-25, F 1 Response 18 hrs ago

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    During my employment with a medical clinic,

    I have worked and liaised with many regular doctors. I have made good friends to some. Recently, when i have problem with my ap, i turned to this one particular doctor. He knows about my ap from our first meeting all the way to our sex life. Now he is hitting me, trying to fix...
    prettygoddess prettygoddess 26-30, F 2 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 30 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 15 Responses Jun 2

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 19 Responses Sep 10

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    I just responded to a post on here

    which got me to thinking (yes, y'all are in trouble while I ramble). If you're not mature enough to handle being an OW, sugar don't go down that road. The statement was made that his OW called W and said they were getting married. Excuse me? She (the W) is not your...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 26 Responses Oct 8

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