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I Am The Other Woman

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    I am human I am flawed I am having an

    affair what does an affair look like? this is my experience ... Living in different cities - an hour+ apart He now works here (started 5 months ago) that's been amazing! text every day, little back and forth texts over the course of the day always a much longer chat late...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 14 Responses Nov 11, 2014

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    I don't gush about soulmates,

    but I do believe in them. Days like today make it that much harder to deny that the two of us are connected. I posted not too long about having a hard time and wanted to reach out to him. Well, he beat me to it. He said he loves me and misses me and can't move on. He said he's...
    ravenofthedark ravenofthedark 41-45, F 3 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 51 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    I am reflective this morning.

    Trying desperately to not fall into my quiet space where things get noisy in my head. Trying to stay in the blissful space I was in yesterday, and not turn mustard seeds into giant unwieldy plants. I'm content, too. I feel like I am taking a baby step towards fitting where I am...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 2 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    It's been a rough weekend

    and week beginning for me. A lot of emotions running thru me. Some to do with him. Some to do with my grandmothers illness. I'm trying to work on my openness and honesty with him and im sensing it might have a backfire effect the more I do it. He just doesn't realize the hold he...
    kc5316 kc5316 22-25, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    It's impossible for any of us to judge anyone

    on here. It's just too hard to express feeling and all the tiny details and signs that occur between MMs or MWs and OWs or OMs. We have to remember that we come here for an outlet. Some sort of relieve so that someone else in the world hears our cry of pain or joy or whatever...
    LoveExplorer78 LoveExplorer78 36-40, M 7 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    I'm glad that "us" never grow old.

    Being together, planning for the next dates, and looking forward to the future is bliss. It's only yesterday since we saw each other but we both feel like it's months since we've been apart. I hope we can stand through the trials that are yet to come. I want to share my...
    isch71 isch71 26-30, F 1 Response 12 hrs ago

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 15 Responses May 4, 2014

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 101 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    Pillow talk in bed last night.

    .. Me: I think that having sex should be a time to connect intimately on a deeply personal level with your partner My H: Only women would think that way Me: Seriously? Is that what you really think? My H: Yes. Guys don't want to connect on a deeper level. Me: So to you it's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 5 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 88 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 79 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 54 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 27 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 28 Responses May 6, 2014

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 70 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 18 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    When you and MM talk every day

    and you have a day where you don't hear from him ugh!!!! This is super normal but we've just been talking so much lately. He's a legit drug to me.... Ever listen to the song "Addicted" by Kelly Clarkson?? So fitting...
    AvaLennon AvaLennon 31-35, F 1 day ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 41 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Damn, our trolls aren't

    even creative anymore. All they can say is "IT'S JUST SEX." What do they have templates for responding to posts? All I can do is laugh.
    Serendipitous1 Serendipitous1 36-40, F 3 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    "...Research shows that 90% of women would

    chase a taken man" ...uh..... http://elitedaily.com/dating/research-behind-guys-with-girlfriends-are-hotter/977009/
    autumnsx autumnsx 18-21, F 2 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    I feel like I'm slowly not caring

    so much anymore. even though it hurts to feel like I don't matter. I love him. I've known him many years and I miss him, but if I don't get the attention I need from him, I go cold. It's been 8 days and no contact. I was the last one to text. I'm sure he's busy and I respect...
    ilycc06 ilycc06 31-35, F 4 hrs ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 19 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    My MM and I are long distance.

    It started as an online relationship. He's alone this weekend, but is so afraid of getting caught that he won't meet me halfway- only part of the way. He doesn't want to jeopardize our "future" ie everyone realizing he was seeing me and not just getting away for a couple days...
    Journeys2013 Journeys2013 41-45, F 3 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 17 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    Ok this is seemly a bit off topic.

    But how do you feel about rain storms. Do you love it when it rains or wish it would just hurry up and stop?
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 2 Responses 1 hr ago

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    So I've absent for awhile

    but we're Still going strong so thankful he's around on those days that my H drive me crazy. Makes the smiles he makes That much more meaningful
    tdymedic tdymedic 31-35, F 41 mins ago

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    Day 13. Still miss him.

    Still love him. Still no contact. x
    Livealifeyoulove Livealifeyoulove 36-40, F 6 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    sethlw sethlw 36-40, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    It's been a month since I've seen mm.

    Mainly because I've been working so much but also because neither of us has put much effort into trying. There have been a few times I could have seen him but I just wasn't in the mood. We hardly even talk anymore. I don't wait around to hear from him or even contact him first...
    moepeep moepeep 22-25, F 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 154 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 48 Responses Jan 10

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 171 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    NO LONGER THE OTHER WOMAN!

    !! I am now the only woman :) it has been officially ended this morning, he was straight on the phone to me who was awesome at playing it cool despite up all night worrying! He was going to come over but we both decided against it as he needs time to recover maybe. He has gone...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 14 Responses 5 days ago

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 17 Responses 1 day ago

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    I broke down last night in a fit of tears

    followed by tortured dreams. Woke up this morning with him on my mind and have spent the day trying to supress the sadness to no avail. Had to take the pup to the vet to get her sutures removed only to have Sam Davis' "Lay me Down" come on the radio at 11:11. (a significant...
    ravenofthedark ravenofthedark 41-45, F 4 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 51 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 11 Responses Feb 13, 2014

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    Nothing else needs to be said.

    ...Leann Rimes "BORROWED" 
    LEXUS46 LEXUS46 46-50, F 2 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Wednesday. Had special amazing alone time with

    MM. Am I in a space now where I am content? Suddenly? That all of a sudden, a switch has flipped and I see our situation different? Maybe it's the serotonin from our time together this morning. Maybe the internal deadline and hope that I carry is settling. Maybe I really...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I can't do this anymore.

    I have to stop this and hope for the best. Starting Monday I will go on NC. Please help me God and I ask all the support I can get here.
    sadpreciosa sadpreciosa 26-30, F 5 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    He hurt me so bad. Guess it's my karma.

    He says he loves me more than anything in this world. But he lied to me when I never once lied to him. Even if it would hurt him I was always honest. I left my husband for him. He promised to handle things on his end with his ex gf but yet here we are again with her in the...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 4 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    I had a really bad day.

    Caught my bf in a senseless lie. Only time will tell if we will make it after this. I snapped like I've never snapped before. I felt like I turned into a differe