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I Am The Other Woman

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    My Secret Gold Coin

    You don’t know it, but I think of you as a beautiful, precious, shiny gold coin that I keep secretly hidden in my pocket. I feel happy knowing that you are in there, but unhappy knowing that you have to stay hidden. I wish I could show you off to friends, but they wouldn’t...
    jenn80 jenn80 51-55 18 Responses May 23, 2013

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    If I could talk to him

    now I would tell him How much I want to lay next to him & feel the warmth of his body and breath on my skin How much I've fallen for him How the mere thought of him gives me butterflies How my thoughts go to him every minute of the day How I can't wait to wake up in his arms...
    thatdresstho thatdresstho 41-45, F 5 hrs ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    How close has everyone been to getting "caught"?

    MM and I have been together for 6 years. In the beginning I was his secretary. We've always talked daily on the phone never been much for texting but one day we started sending funny little messages. Later that day he was coaching his daughters softball team and the wife...
    ynoTme83 ynoTme83 26-30, F 1 Response 5 hrs ago

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 82 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    Both Sides of the Fence!

    I lived in a sexless marriage for many years. My spouse did not. He like dripping his wick elsewhere, through our entire marriage. I didn't want to catch any thing so... glad he was getting taken care of ...cause he wasn't touching me again... that was for sure! I am divorce...
    MorningBreeze MorningBreeze 56-60, F 26 Responses Feb 15

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    Anyone have a post accidentally end up on the

    "I am tired of being the other woman" forum? In case you were wondering...not so friendly folks over there when you are talking about being in love with your MM...lol.
    ynoTme83 ynoTme83 26-30, F 4 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 48 Responses Feb 16

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 204 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    Being with my MM is absolutely amazing!

    !! We both have the same marriage situations!!! Jealous, not loving spouses. We could not help it that we were attracted to each other. It was the caring about each other that did it!!! We were not looking for anyone else. But we have falling in love with each other. I can't...
    lollipopgirl2 lollipopgirl2 41-45, F 2 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    So, I just got my first private message from a

    *helpful and concerned* stranger chastising me, telling me what to consider, feel, etc. about my MM and his W. I am sure I am not the first OW to get one of these messages, what do you ladies do when you get them and if you respond, what type of things do you say? She clearly...
    addicted2him1966 addicted2him1966 31-35, F 7 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    Its finally here!! I am impatienly waiting on

    him to be here. In less than 2 hours I will be his and he will be mine. Even if its only for a while!!
    candybuck candybuck 36-40, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 8 Responses Feb 13

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 36 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 29 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    I went to work and didn't hear from him.

    For the first time, I was the first one to text him. He seemed happy. I brought the whole thing up and he started replying as if I just don't understand him. Well why doesn't he just be straight up with himself and stop dancing circles around everything? Everything led back to...
    PatientHeart PatientHeart 31-35, F 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 21 Responses May 6

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    It would be really interesting to have a

    convention of all of us women in person for a weekend to all tell each other our stories with our voices and faces. I think we'd have to keep it on the D.L. to avoid getting attacked though. LOL
    elainedastolat elainedastolat 31-35, F 16 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    Crazy week!!! Me and my MM went on a trip

    for a week! He works with his dad for a sound company every year. He's done this since he could walk and I felt so special that he took me. We stayed in a camper with his dad, who already knew me, but he knew me as a kid babysitter and family friend... On the plus side, my MM...
    StuckInEternity StuckInEternity 18-21, F 6 hrs ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 152 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    So I was taking to a friend

    if mine. Known him for years. He's somebody I trust with my life and he would give me the shirt off his back and be there for me in the blink of an eye. So I was giving him highlights of my affair with a MM. He's been married a few times and has had numerous affairs. He's just a...
    tc57 tc57 31-35, F 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    My guy doesn't want me talking to

    or sleeping with anyone but him even though he goes home to HER every night. Anyone else have this issue!?
    Sidechic79 Sidechic79 31-35 23 Responses 1 day ago

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    WOW!! What a wonderful morning.

    My baby put me on a pedestal this morning, and on a table and the floor. Lol. Had an amazing time, just wish it could have been longer. But I got ths sweetest love and sweetest kiss. Nothing can ruin this day!!!!!
    candybuck candybuck 36-40, F 2 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 22-25, F 19 Responses Apr 18

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    So I love this man so much!

    ! He last text to me was, love you.. That is what I've or any other women been wanting and longing to hear that golden words everyday...!
    prettygoddess prettygoddess 26-30, F 1 Response 21 hrs ago

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    When I was a teenager,

    I met the love of my life. We instantly connected and I can still recall the first time I saw him. He moved to a different state and it ended. I was still in high school and could not go with him. This was in 2001. In 2008, I found him on Myspace. We instantly connected again...
    jd2001 jd2001 31-35, F 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 139 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    My love is leaving on his vacation (his first

    one since we've been together, he's had to deal with a few for me already so it's only fair!) only I am better at sneaking away and texting! Need tips on how to deal with this week and less contact! Luckily I just saw him and we had a long conversation about how much he loves me...
    Changedforever9514 Changedforever9514 36-40, F 2 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    Things I don't miss from my affair.

    .. 1. Waiting for my phone to ding 2. Lying to spouse about where I am going 3. Making sure I erase texts 4. Time 5. Mind control that the affair holds not mm 6. Questioning of myself and actions 7. Guilt not for the affair but for my husband and his wife 8. Time 9. The panic...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 27

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    I just got the sweetest text.

    My mm saying how I have brought him back to life. How amazing he feels when we are together. And just making sure that I am ok. Makes my heart melt to hear him say that I am the most beautiful, sexiest, sensual woman he has ever seen. Trying not to fall in love with him but he...
    candybuck candybuck 36-40, F 7 hrs ago

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    We did not just meet by chance.

    We were not just two people passing in the breeze. We were always going to find each other. But we are not meant to be. There is no us. There is no future. Time to accept things as they truly are.
    pearl26ab pearl26ab 26-30, F 4 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    I'm trying to be thankful

    for the time I get - but it's just not enough. I know I'm supposed to just enjoy the moments - but they are so few and far between. I know I've put myself here and should just accept this for what it is - I'm trying but I don't know if I can continue to. I love him with all...
    firstlove111 firstlove111 41-45, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 21 Responses Jan 2

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    Please, do not stop posting.

    ... I may not be the best person to make this request because I have only participated on the forum for just a few months. But I am so glad I had a place to go. I can not begin to tell you how supportive you ladies have been during my time of heart aches, up swings, troubles...
    saiyagyrl saiyagyrl 36-40, F 4 Responses May 26

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    I was. I want to contact him,

    it's been a year. How should I do it? I just want answers.
    greenpinky greenpinky 36-40, F 3 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 79 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    Just an update. I posted a

    while ago that my MM's art career took off and he left the job where we worked together. This allowed me to break it off once and for all and finally get him to agree to NO Contact for a period of up to a year. My life is great. I don't miss the roller coaster and I don't allow...
    nycgrrrl nycgrrrl 41-45, F 2 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    On cloud 9 today. I didn't think he'd be in

    the office today and I was in a board room by myself all morning and I sent him a text saying I wish he was in the office so he could come see me.....and he was! So he did! We made out against the door......I just love how he kisses me. His big hands on both sides of my face...
    PrincessLolita PrincessLolita 26-30, F 2 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    I may sound selfish. I can never get enough of

    MM. I spend everyday at work with him and I still would love to talk or text him at night. Night and weekends are family time, and I know but......
    rjh3 rjh3 46-50, F 4 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    Moving On.....I Didn'T Think I Would Ever Be Able To Say That

    I must admit that I have been pretty much obsessed over the man I cheated with. I haven't talked to him in over a year since the truth about us came out. But everyday I think about him and wonder how he is, what he is doing, how his son is, if he thinks about me at all...
    SS81 SS81 31-35, F 64 Responses May 8, 2013

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 44 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Yesterday my guy asked me what I wanted

    for Christmas. I am honestly one of those people who never can think of anything when asked this question, and I certainly didn't expect it from him! I had no idea of anything to tell him, and have been sort of mulling this over in my mind today. So I thought who better to talk...
    ElsieJay ElsieJay 41-45, F 5 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Well tomorrow is Friday & we

    both work, but not together :-( Hopefully we'll see each other at the ER... Then the NC weekend that I hate! But Monday we work 24 hours together 😊
    Newlife48 Newlife48 46-50, F 1 Response 9 hrs ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 40 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    A small excerpt from our conversation yesterday.

    .. "You see there's this woman...this one woman who in such a short span of time has changed my life in so many ways...I will not allow myself to ever lose her, and I will fight for her in ways I'm not sure she fully realizes... I love her so deeply...she had become my truth...
    autumnsx autumnsx 18-21, F 2 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    Just want to put this out there to all you

    other "other women" you keep me positive... You nail my feet to the ground... You make me smile ... You put my heart back in my chest ... Thank you and when I see you pouring your heart out I feel it... I hope all the best for everyone of you misunderstood beautiful women ... I...
    jupsta jupsta 36-40, F 8 Responses Jun 9

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 31-35, M 14 Responses Apr 19

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 69 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 43 Responses Feb 24

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    Crap. Letting myself go down

    that road. That 'I can't believe this is my life' and 'we will never be a real couple' and 'all i want is to just be able to touch you every day and wake up to your smile' part of the roller coaster. Pity party central. We would be so perfect together. Every day. Forever. But we...
    neverendingmadness neverendingmadness 36-40, F 9 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    These days of highs and lows.

    After a great conversation yesterday, I have not heard from him. I called throughout the day and texted with no response. Perhaps he didn’t go into work today. Of course, I would have no way of knowing whether or not he did. Not returning texts simply blows my mind...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 4 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 11 Responses Jun 2

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    Why do people on here feel the need to tell the

    OW or OM to just move on and find a single person. Yeah because it's just that easy to drop feelings or love and act liked it never happened. We don't seek out to find someone's other significant other and fall for them. Most of the time we just get to know the person and or...
    tc57 tc57 31-35, F 8 Responses 20 hrs ago

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