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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 41 Responses Feb 24

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    Day 13 NC from me his emails have gone in

    answered-he knows I'm upset. Every time I feel the grip of the affair loosening a little I realize when it no longer hurts it's over. He will move on if he hasn't already I will be replaced. I breathe for the first time in 3 years and I almost immediately think of the next woman...
    Readytomoveon2015 Readytomoveon2015 31-35, F 7 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    Well, never heard from him today.

    My previous SG has initiated contact over the past few weeks. Although it has been nice to have someone to chat with, it is making it very hard. In the past 6 weeks I have seen MM once briefly. I know it will be difficult to get together thru the end of the year on both our...
    forbidden67 forbidden67 46-50, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    Day 3 nc has been harder

    than I thought out would be. I almost texted him twice and now I'm at work which is when we usually talk a lot. So to help me get through work here's a question... What's the longest you've gone without talking to your mm? Was it a choice or did it just happen that way?
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 8 Responses 1 hr ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 208 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    Well....not anymore im not!

    !! Oh my lord...this is the most difficult thing ive ever gone through... We had a 2nd dd,well...his w went crazy about suspiscions and it was enough of a scare for us to decide we had to let this go without either of actually ever having said it out loud.... I finally got him...
    Jellytots2412 Jellytots2412 36-40, F 8 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 162 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 17 Responses Sep 10

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 68 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 46 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Ahhhhhh holy ****!! So my boyfriend just calls

    me Says his Ex wife is sending him screen captures of my fb and my friends fb too Seriously?!?! This woman is a Crazy *****!! What do I do? Short of losing my cool !? I'm gonna snap
    jupsta jupsta 36-40, F 9 Responses 1 day ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 103 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    Hmmm. Today is day 6

    since I've seen him while he's away, with limited contact. I'm finding it much easier to go about my day and not think about him. I went the whole day at work without once checking my phone. Don't get me wrong, he's still very much on my mind, and I can't wait for him to get...
    greeneyes2232 greeneyes2232 41-45, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Annnnd he emailed and it hurts

    and I didn't respond back and I'm wondering now again why I'm doing NC. I hate this: All perky happy thanksgiving quick sentences have to go out of town friends Mom passed away I feel like a jerk not saying something. That one stings a little
    Readytomoveon2015 Readytomoveon2015 31-35, F 5 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 84 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    Where is my boyfriend?

    10 hours ago he was meeting her to see his son... I have heard NOTHING since... She is crazy! And I wouldn't put it past her to hurt him... At this point I am praying he is just cheating on me with her... Cuz the alternative of him chopped up under her pillow is far worse...
    jupsta jupsta 36-40, F 10 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Day 14-woke up knowing today was going to be

    hard-he won't even attempt contact until aid may if he doesn't today before he heads home for his family thanksgiving. One more day then one more day then one more day then one more day
    Readytomoveon2015 Readytomoveon2015 31-35, F 3 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Women won't mess with a man

    that lives with his mom but will mess with a man who lives with his wife.
    reeessa reeessa 13-15, F 29 Responses Oct 23

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    I miss my guy so much.

    Miss his goodnight texts. I want to text him sweet dreams...and tell him I love him. I don't want his gf to see the text and have him be in trouble again 😞. Between his guilt and her watching his every move and assigning things to him constantly... I never have quality...
    nitrolove nitrolove 46-50, F 22 hrs ago

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 34 Responses Sep 23

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    Hurting this morning.

    Woke up not feeling well in the middle of night. Could be all the stress. Every time I close my eyes I have visions on how this will end. My heart hurts...I don't think I can do it. I think I have to walk away from the best feeling of my life.
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 2 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 24 Responses May 6

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    I may have a problem

    and need to contact this MM but because I am not sure won't say nothing yet. I am kind of scared and thinking why did I ever get involved. He really just used me.
    stupid28 stupid28 31-35, F 2 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    This afternoon my MM texted me with "just

    thinking about you" It's been awhile since he's said anything like that to me since mini dday. Makes me feel good. While we were chatting I ruined my momentum by of course looking at his wife's FB. She is doing crafty things all of a sudden and took a pic of a wood thing...
    AvaLennon AvaLennon 31-35, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Hard couple couple days

    since he found out he has moved on She is completely impossible She sends him emails a mile long of demands if he wants to see his son He is to see him in a public place She stated he is to come alone If she sees another person around i.e ME she will drive away She doesn't...
    jupsta jupsta 36-40, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 10 Responses Feb 13

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    I need some perspective on what's going on with

    my MM. We have been together a year now. We have sex on average 4-5 times a week and some weeks everyday. Now there are times when we don't. We do other things like movies, dinner, shopping etc. We had NC for 15 days. Since being back together the first time we hashed things...
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 5 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    I had a dream about him last night.

    It was a simple dream, we were texting. He was telling me how much he missed me and that he wanted to see me. I woke up, checked my phone and realized it wasn't real. It wasn't the best way to start my day but I know if I can just get through today, I'll be able to get through...
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 4 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 20 Responses Jan 2

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    Had the most wonderful day with MM.

    Well Ok so weren't together, but he and I talked on the phone for over 8 hours today. It just worked out that we had the time. He said,"I'm not letting you go until the last second. I need this to get tomorrow without you." My God I love that man.
    whynot13 whynot13 46-50, F 4 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 16 Responses May 4

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 31-35, M 17 Responses Apr 19

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 51 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 11

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 80 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 56 Responses Nov 6

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    So I'm due to return in 2 months

    and my MM and I have been trying to lay put dates of when so that he might be able to be there. We were unable tower up before I left resulting in an emotional departure for 7 mths. Now I have my H back home try to win me back an planing all these romantic getaways. All I want...
    tdymedic tdymedic 31-35, F 1 Response 20 hrs ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 8 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 78 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    lostanddistraught lostanddistraught 22-25, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    He is the best! Such a passionate

    and amazing guy. Today was just perfect. It didn't start out so nice but it certainly ended in a magnificent way. The day started with that idiot woman I posted about a while back. The flirty one we work with who seems to make him incredibly uncomfortable. She always seems to...
    surfsway surfsway 36-40, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    I am causing myself stress.

    I dont know if Im just trying to prepare myself for this possibility or what. We have chatted for the past 6 years after major holidays. I have this weird feeling that its not going to happen tomorrow night. I know I shouldn't worry about it because it wont do anything. But...
    blue963 blue963 51-55, F 3 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 20 Responses Jul 30

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    Tonight will be our first full night together.

    No time constraints. No looking over our shoulders. We have a suite booked with a fireplace. Sushi & wine. I am so looking forward to 8 hours of normalcy. It is crazy we have never even eaten together. We spend our blips of time only focused on eachother. We get to talk for...
    tauriangirl tauriangirl 36-40, F 29 Responses Nov 15

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 31 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 148 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 40 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Dat 18 without any interaction with my

    co-worker MM. Saw him today and tried chatting, but he kept it professional. I think this is probably the start of one of our "breaks" that last 4-5 months.
    BPMM BPMM 26-30, F 3 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Thought for the day..

    . I think at times we read things into a lack of text or call that simply is not there. If he is way, as circumstances are different it may be harder to text or call. Work may be busier on a given day or so many other factors. We have to remember to keep things in perspective. If...
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 5 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    Ugh. Talk about extremely uncomfortable?

    Today I got a call from a number I didn't recognize, but with the same area code as him. I answered, figuring maybe he got a personal cell to use. I answered with, "hello" and there was complete silence on the other line but I could still tell someone was there, so I said "hello...
    kittentoes kittentoes 22-25, F 29 Responses 1 day ago

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