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I Am The Other Woman

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 14,593 People

    I was reading the New York Times book review

    and just had to post a snippet from a newly released book. It's called "Alive, Alive Oh!". It is written by a 98 year old woman! She was a long time book editor and this particularl book is just her musings. She has found inner peace and writes about the joy in the ordinary...
    Tullia1510 Tullia1510 46-50, F 34 mins ago

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    deleted deleted 26-30 17 Responses Feb 6, 2015

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 47 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 47 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    He came back and was restoring my Windows,

    it ended up reinstalling, and it took forever. We snuggled up on the couch, I had a nap and spent time caressing him under his shirt. He wrapped his arms around me, and I felt him kiss my head. Then he said, I have never worked on a computer quite this way, I could do this...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 16 hrs ago

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    Such a difference a year makes.

    I can't wait for Valentines Day. He made reservations at a restaurant we've not been to, and it's a surprise. We have a 4-day-weekend and today spent the day getting him a new sports coat, shirt and tie (my choices ) for his interview Thursday. It...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 2 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    He called me last night.

    It was his last evening in the Midwest for business, and he is headed home. He told me there is a very strong possibility that he will be sent to Honduras for six months beginning in April. I guess in a moment of weakness in talking with him again was shattered by divine...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 2 days ago

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    What's the best compliment you've received from

    your mm?? I get many about my looks but I think the compliments that have meant the most are him praising me for what I've accomplished business wise, for being smart and most of all for being a classy woman.
    Janna78 Janna78 46-50, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 19 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    I get asked quite a bit

    why I'm still hung up on ex-mm, why I can't "just get over it." It's like asking a drug addict why they can't just stop using. The answer to why I can't just move on is quite simple really: I'm addicted. The better question is, why did I allow this poison into my life to...
    ashadams244 ashadams244 26-30, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 44 Responses Jan 10, 2015

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    My story I posted here in June.

    Since I have had time to heal, process and although I still yearn for what we had, I know we made the right choices. I met a man. We were waiting in a line to go into a museum. We got talking, ended up going through the museum together then spent the weekend together. No...
    ifoundmehere ifoundmehere 46-50, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    it's Valentine's Day tomorrow.

    here's wishing all you my lovely ladies a sweet day full of love and positive thoughts!!! :) Hope you guys get to meet your MM :) Valentine's Day happens to be MM's wedding anniversary as well. He didn't mention what he + W has in plan. Probably he's careful to not make me...
    rei126 rei126 26-30, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 19 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 19 Responses Mar 22, 2015

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 33 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Are you giving your MM a Valentine's Day gift?

    I doubt I will see him this weekend like we had hoped. I do not know what to do for him.
    PressPToPlay PressPToPlay 46-50, F 6 Responses 2 days ago

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    Since some people are

    so big on numbers and stats. I thought I would supply some numbers of my own.. How long we have been together. 7yrs, 4mths, 27 days, How many days I have heard from him ..2705 days..in a row. And I averaged out (3x/wk) how many times we've been sexual.. 1158 give or take...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I must say I feel better today.

    Its been kind of weird with MM lately. Our conversations have been short and kind of terse. But today he apologized and explained because he has not been feeling well, he gets quiet. Which I totally understand. I do the same thing - like it takes too much energy to even hold a...
    PressPToPlay PressPToPlay 46-50, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Rollercoaster day. Today I finally signed

    everything ready to join MM's company and quit my current job. We had been working towards this for months. He texted me one word ("excellent"), I expected him to be happier. He was busy. I poured some wine and toasted us alone. He then told me clearly and matter-of-factly...
    daisyblue222 daisyblue222 41-45, F 5 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    The other woman isn't always a home-wrecker.

    Sometimes she's a home-mender. I had been faithful to my dear husband for over 20 years. For many years I thought there was something wrong with me. Maybe I wasn't sexy. Why didn't he want me the way I wanted him? I grew to understand that we just had very different desire...
    livingasme livingasme 51-55, F 17 Responses May 15, 2015

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 48 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    My husband sent me a message tonight.

    We work opposite shifts so a lot of our communication is through text. He's decided to take tomorrow off of work. Tomorrow was the only time I would be able to see mm for Valentine's Day. Kind of stinks. On Monday I told mm we need to spend as much time together as possible...
    Janna78 Janna78 46-50, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I wanted to share a paragraph from an email mm

    sent me today. He is constantly showering me with compliments. Here it is:... BTW, I have to tell you, last night you looked exceptional, just really turned me on. Your eyes, your face, smile…… I loved it!!!!!! What an inspiration to keep working hard on looking good...
    Janna78 Janna78 46-50, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    OH. MY. GOD. It's final,

    he's single, and as of 9:37am today I am no longer the OW!!!
    Shardsofsorrow Shardsofsorrow 31-35, F 66 Responses Jul 29, 2015

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 53 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Looking back it is funny how easily I fell into

    the trap of becoming 'the other woman.' The first flash of distress - a wounded soul no less, and I dived into the murky water. He told me that I was his oxygen. I was a mermaid Saint Bernard with the reviving elixir strapped to my neck. Strangely, I found two unmarried men...
    Faerylight Faerylight 41-45, F 19 Responses Jun 21, 2015

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    I wanna say thanks to the ladies here,

    whose advise has given me and my guy a incredible change in a good way. I used to be struggled and get myself down when I couldn't see him much by insecurity. I changed all the negative thoughts into a anticipation like ' how great it will be of seeing him after a while?' and...
    honeybutterchip honeybutterchip 41-45, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    I met a SG. A good one.

    First date at a coffee shop yesterday lasted for six hours. Just talking. And an amazing kiss afterward. Then we texted until bed. He is beautiful and sweet and smart and athletic. And he digs me a whole bunch. Best of all, he has been divorced for nearly 20 years. He was so...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 25 Responses Jan 11

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    Just a heads up... IndigoAlive is just

    Experience1954/YupandNope/RoboChicklet come back as another.
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 1 hr ago

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 17 Responses Mar 25, 2015

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    b4realz b4realz 26-30, F 150 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    He put 3 dozen red roses in my room with a Orcid

    and he got me earrings to match my ring for valentine's day. I've been really tired and sick. My BP is still not on control and the Dr I saw Wed said to come back In 4 weeks and we would re evaluate and he didn't want to put me on any meds heart is still twice as fast.... It's...
    ap05 ap05 26-30, F 4 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 167 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    It's Valentine's day tomorrow

    and I just feel like crying. Just cry myself to sleep. Ugh frustration and pain ..knowing what I once had was possibly a joke kills me and at the same time I miss him and passing by each other at work like we're strangers makes me sooo upset. It looks like he wants to come to...
    plusisamust plusisamust 26-30, F 5 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 24 Responses Apr 30, 2015

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 205 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    Ok I'm not quiet sure

    if this photo is cut off or not. It's a treasure and feel free to send this to your lover who deserves the world best award. ;) I sent to my lover early and he deserves it
    ReflectedSoul ReflectedSoul 41-45, F 2 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 77 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 51-55, F 169 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    It's been awhile since I have been on here.

    Time for an update. Last time I wrote I had just finished writing the poem for MM for our one year anniversary. Unfortunately we did not see each other that day. MM was going thru a lot of stress at home. Him and W have been fighting all the time. He basically told her that he...
    abeautifulove abeautifulove 31-35, F 3 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    independentandstubborn independentandstubborn 51-55, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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