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I Am The Other Woman

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 3 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 43 Responses Feb 24

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    I will probably sound crazier

    than I already do after writing this, but here goes anyway. My ex talked to me via messenger all day yesterday while I worked. I didn't mind, as it isn't really intrusive on my work and we had a real conversation, not just checking on me or fishing to see if I'm happy in my...
    dropdeadredhead dropdeadredhead 36-40, F 3 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 152 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    After days of her minimizing contact I found

    out she's engaged so I felt a sense of urgency telling her how I feel. I did tell her on Sunday and then more on Monday and she is back to wanting to talk to me constantly. Today we even talked all the way through lunch so neither of us had a chance to eat. She's trying to...
    wakeupdead wakeupdead 26-30, M 3 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Since i didn't answer his phone calls earlier

    today he came over to my house with the excuse his phone wasn't working.... so he hugs& kisses me telling me he misses me & no matter what where always going to be together & he wishes i were his & only his. ...& that he loves me. ... i wanted to melt ... What should i do
    confused7years confused7years 31-35, F 1 Response 13 hrs ago

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    .... or at least it seems

    that way... I'm pretty sure that someone I've been talking to/involved with, lets call him M, has a girlfriend. We met online about 3 years ago, not constantly, there have been gaps and breaks but recently we've been talking more and more. The way we talk to one another is...
    HaightStreet HaightStreet 22-25, F 3 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 71 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 17 Responses May 4

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 142 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    Morning texts 👍👍👏love them!

    This morning he was feeling a little vulnerable. His oldest is off to college for a week now and he couldn't wait to share his feelings with me. Before I could even ask he's telling me how he's feeling and what she's experiencing and he's forwarding me messages they've...
    MarieVon MarieVon 36-40, F 2 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    Day 0 of NC It took a month,

    but today MM and I are officially over and nc. I wrote to him yesterday saying that I couldn't do this with him anymore. A month ago I ended the physical relationship and we thought we could remain as friends. It was a nice thought at the time and made finally ending it easier...
    JulyBug JulyBug 36-40, F 6 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 11

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 163 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 40 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Things are just so weird

    now with my MM. I mean I've been mentally preparing myself for this move him and his wife may be doing but not sure bc he hasn't completely said anything. Every time I ask he beats around the bush. From what he said they may move not sure where or she may get a job in the next...
    tc57 tc57 31-35, F 1 Response 13 hrs ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 68 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    I'm beside myself..he's in unbearable pain

    and agony with his illness, his w had to work so he's alone at the hospital. I went for a few hours last night but now I wish I would have stayed. He needs someone there for him. Now here I am, at home crying because I just want to be there with him. No one is there getting...
    leigh8133 leigh8133 31-35, F 3 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    I wonder what could be going throw a dying

    persons mind when they find out there spouses is cheAting own them? The hurt must be so painful. Not only are you fighting for your life now you have to realize there's no one that cares for you. The only person you thought would be there for you cares not. I bet it makes you...
    pleasestoplying pleasestoplying 51-55, M 5 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Today I saw my wonderful handsome man

    after 2 weeks and 4 days of not seeing him! I love how he hugs me and looks into my eyes and makes me laugh like crazy! And I love, love, love having my best friend back! :D
    CCBatman120 CCBatman120 26-30, F 14 hrs ago

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 21 Responses Jan 2

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    Please, do not stop posting.

    ... I may not be the best person to make this request because I have only participated on the forum for just a few months. But I am so glad I had a place to go. I can not begin to tell you how supportive you ladies have been during my time of heart aches, up swings, troubles...
    saiyagyrl saiyagyrl 36-40, F 4 Responses May 26

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    Well my mm called today from a pay phone

    since he's number is blocked ....i didn't answer
    confused7years confused7years 31-35, F 2 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18

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    On Monday I talked about how my mm rarely

    contacts me anymore and I tried not answering him but I gave in. He was worried when I didn't answer right away and asked if I was mad at him. Well I was pretty pissed off because I feel like he is taking advantage of me, especially since I told him I'm starting to have real...
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 2 Responses 1 hr ago

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 22 Responses Jul 30

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    Pleasestoplying : please report this person

    so they can remove him . He has nothing to offer on this particular forum. He can start his own and have all the trolls follow him there. But then, he will get no attention.
    sunset4ever sunset4ever 46-50, F 6 Responses 1 hr ago

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    You asked me why you think you are special.

    I have held back saying how and I feel and that I love you so many times. I love you because you can always make me laugh. You always have a bright and cheerful attitude that makes me happy to be around you. I like how you enjoy joking and teasing. It makes me happy just to hear...
    wakeupdead wakeupdead 26-30, M 5 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 31-35, M 16 Responses Apr 19

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    This is misery. He's hurting,

    having a procedure done today we just don't know what and I'm having to Facebook stalk his wife and hope by chance she posts about it. I want to cry. It's not fair! I am harmless, i haven't asked him to leave his wife or his family, i just want to be there for him. Even if it's...
    leigh8133 leigh8133 31-35, F 3 Responses 24 mins ago

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    Been seeing my MM off

    and on now for 4 years. Started out as a mutual agreement of just sex. He made it clear that he was never leaving because of his kids. He attempted to leave before and she turned his daughter against him. I am a busy single mom and it worked for me. He would call once every...
    Jennbme24 Jennbme24 31-35, F 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    So he was off today. Figures

    since I wore my prettiest dress. I cried at work again so I'm pretty sure they all think I'm insane. He never answered me after I gave him a big long speech pouring my heart out. I guess he loves her more. Or he just can't leave. Or won't leave. I don't know. We never go a day...
    lostanddistraught lostanddistraught 22-25, F 4 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    Trying to keep strong

    and not send any more messages but mm is still really angry with me over the mess I made before he went on holiday with his family. He texts me only once a day and it's extremely cold. He is right in being angry as I acted like a kid and threw my toys out the pram. So really I...
    Missy1179 Missy1179 31-35, F 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    I miss him so much today,

    today I found out I'm pregnant. I cant believe it, I'm just sinking into a deep depression, a black hole that I am having so much trouble climbing out of. I seen him on my b-day and I broke down we made love, I cried. I miss him so much, this is not easy at all. I don't...
    4everhislady 4everhislady 36-40, F 17 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    My Secret Gold Coin

    You don’t know it, but I think of you as a beautiful, precious, shiny gold coin that I keep secretly hidden in my pocket. I feel happy knowing that you are in there, but unhappy knowing that you have to stay hidden. I wish I could show you off to friends, but they wouldn’t...
    jenn80 jenn80 51-55 18 Responses May 23, 2013

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 103 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 21 Responses May 6

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 15 Responses Jun 2

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 10 Responses Feb 13

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    Ladies, the men never leave is a false

    statement. I have been with my MM for 3 years now and 2 years before he left.. So five years total. HOWEVER, DO NOT ALLOW HIM TO LEAVE HER AND BE WITH YOU UNTIL THE DIVORCE IS FINAL.. BECAUSE HE WILL NEVER GET ONE and you will be left wondering everyday if he is going to wake up...
    arbosslady arbosslady 31-35, F 2 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 44 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 47 Responses Feb 16

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    Just added the EP app to my iPad.

    ..and I have to say I'm not diggin that pic of the couple cuddling on the park bench and the other woman gets one hand behind the bench. Maybe I'm just irritable today
    ynoTme83 ynoTme83 26-30, F 17 hrs ago

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    30 minutes until my MM arrives

    for our day together. A whole day of laughs, hugs, smiles, naps, films, cuddles, kisses, sex and talking. I wouldn't change anything about days like these. Except that he didn't have to leave at the end of it. Happy Wednesday!
    boinnkk boinnkk 26-30, F 2 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    I was the other women

    for a year but now I am the wife. We will be celebrating our 3 year wedding anniversary soon. We were both married to other people when we met. We were both in bad marriages. We are both so much happier now. If anyone wants to hear my story I am happy to share.
    magic2929 magic2929 46-50, F 17 Responses Apr 29

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    "I am just so busy." "I sent you an email.

    Oh, you didn't get it? That's strange. " Just a few of the lines I have heard from my MM recently. I messaged him yesterday and asked if I could call, he said sure. We talked for 14 minutes. I last saw him last Wednesday, he emailed me on Friday. (I oddly enough received that...
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 31-35, F 4 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 80 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    Maybe its just because I had a rough day today,

    but some days I'm not sure what I get out of this relationship. I few minutes of questions, back and forth banter, a few smiles. But sometimes I wonder, at the end of the day does he think about me or miss me. If I was gone would he even care? Some days I'm feeling yes and...
    blue963 blue963 46-50, F 3 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 37 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Things I don't miss from my affair.

    .. 1. Waiting for my phone to ding 2. Lying to spouse about where I am going 3. Making sure I erase texts 4. Time 5. Mind control that the affair holds not mm 6. Questioning of myself and actions 7. Guilt not for the affair but for my husband and his wife 8. Time 9. The panic...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 14 Responses Apr 27

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    Just want to put this out there to all you

    other "other women" you keep me positive... You nail my feet to the ground... You make me smile ... You put my heart back in my chest ... Thank you and when I see you pouring your heart out I feel it... I hope all the best for everyone of you misunderstood beautiful women ... I...
    jupsta jupsta 36-40, F 8 Responses Jun 9

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    So last night at midnight I get a text with one

    of those smiley faces- the cheesy one that you use after someone is embarrassed and their teeth are clenched. I hadn't heard from him in a whole day- and he deletes my texts after he gets them so I don't think it was in response to unloading all my feelings on him the previous...
    lostanddistraught lostanddistraught 22-25, F 2 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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