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I Am The Other Woman

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 14,593 People

    Off another post here about would affairs be

    more accepted if they were same sex. I am wondering why divorcing with or without a affair is frowned upon..... After all usually when you buy a house it is with a 30 year mortgage contract but when your needs change and you decided to sell people don't condemn you, when you go...
    Ttiffany330 Ttiffany330 41-45, F 3 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    Looking back it is funny how easily I fell into

    the trap of becoming 'the other woman.' The first flash of distress - a wounded soul no less, and I dived into the murky water. He told me that I was his oxygen. I was a mermaid Saint Bernard with the reviving elixir strapped to my neck. Strangely, I found two unmarried men...
    Faerylight Faerylight 41-45, F 19 Responses Jun 21, 2015

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    It's Valentine's day tomorrow

    and I just feel like crying. Just cry myself to sleep. Ugh frustration and pain ..knowing what I once had was possibly a joke kills me and at the same time I miss him and passing by each other at work like we're strangers makes me sooo upset. It looks like he wants to come to...
    plusisamust plusisamust 26-30, F 5 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 33 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Ok I'm not quiet sure

    if this photo is cut off or not. It's a treasure and feel free to send this to your lover who deserves the world best award. ;) I sent to my lover early and he deserves it
    ReflectedSoul ReflectedSoul 41-45, F 2 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 51-55, F 169 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    Such a difference a year makes.

    I can't wait for Valentines Day. He made reservations at a restaurant we've not been to, and it's a surprise. We have a 4-day-weekend and today spent the day getting him a new sports coat, shirt and tie (my choices ) for his interview Thursday. It...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 2 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    He came back and was restoring my Windows,

    it ended up reinstalling, and it took forever. We snuggled up on the couch, I had a nap and spent time caressing him under his shirt. He wrapped his arms around me, and I felt him kiss my head. Then he said, I have never worked on a computer quite this way, I could do this...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 23 hrs ago

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    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 24 Responses Apr 30, 2015

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    He put 3 dozen red roses in my room with a Orcid

    and he got me earrings to match my ring for valentine's day. I've been really tired and sick. My BP is still not on control and the Dr I saw Wed said to come back In 4 weeks and we would re evaluate and he didn't want to put me on any meds heart is still twice as fast.... It's...
    ap05 ap05 26-30, F 4 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    I'm going to have to step away

    for a bit. Mm feels the comments of the trolls are making me feel like what I get are scraps. I'm going to try to be more present in life and less on line. Hugs to you all. I've loved the support, and needed it. Later
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 12 Responses 2 days ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 53 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Yippee! I am out of town next week one night on

    business, how fortuitous that he has a promotional job interview in the same town on the same day! I am going to have an unexpected getaway with him! Next court date in 3 weeks. Come on divorce!
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    Thought and question.

    I have been watching a NETFLIX show called "Grace and Frankie" [really good BTW]. The premises of the show is these two couples who have known each other for years, their husbands are law partners. In the very first minutes of the show the husbands announce that they have...
    whynot13 whynot13 46-50, F 8 Responses 1 day ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 42 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    I was reading the New York Times book review

    and just had to post a snippet from a newly released book. It's called "Alive, Alive Oh!". It is written by a 98 year old woman! She was a long time book editor and this particularl book is just her musings. She has found inner peace and writes about the joy in the ordinary...
    Tullia1510 Tullia1510 46-50, F 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    So... we all know what antibiotics can cause

    right? Back to the pharmacy for me. Good grief, I can't win.
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 19 Responses Mar 22, 2015

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    Since some people are

    so big on numbers and stats. I thought I would supply some numbers of my own.. How long we have been together. 7yrs, 4mths, 27 days, How many days I have heard from him ..2705 days..in a row. And I averaged out (3x/wk) how many times we've been sexual.. 1158 give or take...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    OH. MY. GOD. It's final,

    he's single, and as of 9:37am today I am no longer the OW!!!
    Shardsofsorrow Shardsofsorrow 31-35, F 66 Responses Jul 29, 2015

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    I met a SG. A good one.

    First date at a coffee shop yesterday lasted for six hours. Just talking. And an amazing kiss afterward. Then we texted until bed. He is beautiful and sweet and smart and athletic. And he digs me a whole bunch. Best of all, he has been divorced for nearly 20 years. He was so...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 25 Responses Jan 11

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 77 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    it's Valentine's Day tomorrow.

    here's wishing all you my lovely ladies a sweet day full of love and positive thoughts!!! :) Hope you guys get to meet your MM :) Valentine's Day happens to be MM's wedding anniversary as well. He didn't mention what he + W has in plan. Probably he's careful to not make me...
    rei126 rei126 26-30, F 2 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    b4realz b4realz 26-30, F 150 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    I must say I feel better today.

    Its been kind of weird with MM lately. Our conversations have been short and kind of terse. But today he apologized and explained because he has not been feeling well, he gets quiet. Which I totally understand. I do the same thing - like it takes too much energy to even hold a...
    PressPToPlay PressPToPlay 46-50, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Are you giving your MM a Valentine's Day gift?

    I doubt I will see him this weekend like we had hoped. I do not know what to do for him.
    PressPToPlay PressPToPlay 46-50, F 6 Responses 2 days ago

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    What's the best compliment you've received from

    your mm?? I get many about my looks but I think the compliments that have meant the most are him praising me for what I've accomplished business wise, for being smart and most of all for being a classy woman.
    Janna78 Janna78 46-50, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 47 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    MM texted just as I got home with my groceries.

    Would be nice to have help hauling them in at -40, but whatever :) He was on his way to his casual maintenance job, and just sent me pics of the cabinets he needed to take down. Went much better than he expected, but now he needs to paint. Since the removal didn't take as...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 2 hrs ago

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    Has anyone gone bunny boiler on mm

    or exmm? He's been distant and pushing me away since Saturday. It's been like talking to a stranger. So I lost it and totally blew up, was sick of not knowing we're I stood and what was going on. To which he didn't read the message till hours later. Then found out he's been...
    Prettybutterfly88 Prettybutterfly88 26-30, F 12 Responses 2 days ago

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 17 Responses Mar 25, 2015

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    He called me last night.

    It was his last evening in the Midwest for business, and he is headed home. He told me there is a very strong possibility that he will be sent to Honduras for six months beginning in April. I guess in a moment of weakness in talking with him again was shattered by divine...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 2 days ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 205 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 44 Responses Jan 10, 2015

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    My story I posted here in June.

    Since I have had time to heal, process and although I still yearn for what we had, I know we made the right choices. I met a man. We were waiting in a line to go into a museum. We got talking, ended up going through the museum together then spent the weekend together. No...
    ifoundmehere ifoundmehere 46-50, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Rollercoaster day. Today I finally signed

    everything ready to join MM's company and quit my current job. We had been working towards this for months. He texted me one word ("excellent"), I expected him to be happier. He was busy. I poured some wine and toasted us alone. He then told me clearly and matter-of-factly...
    daisyblue222 daisyblue222 41-45, F 5 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    A How To List

    Hello to everyone especially those drawn here by the Facebook postings. For the record, I am not "Keeping it real in Kendall". Since most of you are brand new to EP let me be the first to welcome you! Please take a moment to read the Terms of Service before commenting. This is a...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 100 Responses Aug 25, 2013

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    Just a heads up... IndigoAlive is just

    Experience1954/YupandNope/RoboChicklet come back as another.
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 8 hrs ago

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 48 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    Honestly I'd beat the life out of ANY b!

    tch who tries to ruin my family and my marriage. There's enough men out there, there's no need for sharing ladies.
    Cleopatra05 Cleopatra05 18-21, F 28 Responses Dec 28, 2015

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    It will never work. As long

    as you continue being deceptive and cruel, you will all experience heart ache, loneliness and your affairs will be brought to light.
    euphoricbeauty euphoricbeauty 26-30, F 6 Responses 2 days ago

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    Well it's definitely over.

    Has been for a week but I'm just really thinking about it now. Been so busy that it hasn't resonated. The thing with my sister I don't know what'll happen yet. Probably nothing. I haven't cried, I'm a little sulky today but I'm also so tired. I have been sleeping well...
    AvaLennon1 AvaLennon1 31-35, F 55 mins ago

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