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I Am The Other Woman

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    "Nothing hurts more than being disappointed by

    the person you thought would never hurt you" :(
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    I recently got a new job

    that I have to travel for. It would be easier .. and I would live closer to colleagues of mine if I move about 4 hours away, but.... I don't want to because of him (and a fee for ending my lease early). I know I should think of myself first since we will never be together, but...
    andwhatnow andwhatnow 31-35, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 42 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 6

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    My ears are burning. He left about 30 minutes

    ago. The words didn't come out the right way as I knew that they wouldn't but I did touch on a few subjects. I let him know that I have went by him telling me if they're talking about me they're leaving someone else alone. But that there are somethings that I don't want him to...
    independentandstubborn independentandstubborn 51-55, F 1 day ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 170 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    Ok... For those who were reading my story.

    Right after he said all the really mean things he did. He said he was trying to convince me he was an *******. That we wouldn't work. Was trying to convince himself it wouldn't work. We hang out twice this week. It was great. I started to get some acceptance. I said we would...
    heartbreak13 heartbreak13 31-35, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Kind of wish that I wouldn't have said anything

    yesterday morning. He's mad but won't admit it. Instead he's sarcastic and mocking. Really wondering when he's going to run. I've seen him do it when we were together many, many years ago.
    independentandstubborn independentandstubborn 51-55, F 1 Response 9 hrs ago

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    Are any of you Christians?

    I don't mean wear a cross, so you believe in God. Or I have a cross tattoo so I'm a Christian. Like goes to church, studies bible, born again, washed in the blood, saved Christian. If so, we need to talk. We need each others help
    Tiffanyportelli Tiffanyportelli 22-25, F 5 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    I am finally going to spend the night with my

    MM, also on the phone last night he told me something..he said "do remember when I first met you and I told you about the other girl that things ended badly with?" And I honestly didn't remember so I said no but asked him what it was about, he told me he was cleaning out his...
    avey10 avey10 18-21, F 3 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    I've decided tomorrow is the day I end it,

    I should probably do it now but I'm pretty emotional the minute from something he has just said and I'll just say things that I will regret. I dont want to be hurtful to him even who he's breaking my heart right now. My mind is made up and I just hope I have the courage to do it...
    Prettybutterfly88 Prettybutterfly88 26-30, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    Adjusting. Lots of future talk,

    suddenly. I didn't prepare for this level of emotion when it came to this stage. Seems like there is a lot of processing that goes along with a transition from being the OW to not being that any longer. I'm still secret though and quite honestly, won't feel like I'm "out of the...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    I'm done. Uncle. After 2 weeks of fawning all

    over me, he sexted with me all day Friday until he had to go, at which time he shut me off with a "Headed out. Thanks for entertaining me." Text. I guess you could say that text summed up our entire relationship. I never replied to that, and never heard back from him until this...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 14 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    I am no longer... all ties cut with my A.

    .. Can I still be here? Although it has been a long time since I logged in...
    MillyFlwr55 MillyFlwr55 41-45, F 4 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    or rather WAS ... LOL .

    .... Well - I think I'm past the worst of it ... actually sleeping again - not crying every morning and getting on. I still don't know what the he77 the last 14 years were about, LOL - BUT - I'm at least here now ... WHEW. Been so hard -
    kitty1958 kitty1958 56-60, F 3 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Shortly after I posted this morning,

    he called. Wondering if I wanted to hang out. So we did. All day. And the best part of it was that we got to talk. Talk deeply about what did happen or didn't; the pain that I felt; my desire for him to not feel like he had to now overcompensate for "what he did to me". He feels...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 2 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 48 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 50 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 55 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 24 Responses Apr 30

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    I don't know who I am anymore

    or what I am doing. One thing is for sure, I love him. But I want to do the right thing. I have no regrets. I met him at my previous workplace & he was married. I was only 22 then. This married guy used to text me, share jokes through emails and found me to be someone whom he...
    Sarahneeds Sarahneeds 26-30, F 1 Response 19 hrs ago

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    "Don't light yourself on fire trying to

    brighten someone elses existence."
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 2 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 157 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 17 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    Married 3x I have had enough of marriage.

    . I have been single 2.5 yrs.. and now I find I am seeing a married man.. Is this my natural need to be loved? or is it the attention, compliments, passion that all keep my heart turned towards him. I am probably going up a road I don't need to be on I am sure. I guess I am here...
    Pamela3x Pamela3x 56-60, F 3 Responses 36 mins ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 29 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Over a year later so many things are vastly

    different while others are the same. Things that are the same are how happy he makes my days and how my heart really does skip a beat when I see him. What's different is that it's so much deeper than it was a year ago. I'm not looking for an HEA since I feel like I'm living...
    Serendipitous1 Serendipitous1 36-40, F 6 hrs ago

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    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 2 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Well, another unexpected turn of events.

    H, who is generally introverted and quiet, spoke to someone about our relationship. I don't know who, but this person shared ridiculous information about me having slept around and cheated on him over the past year. It's untrue, but since I recently told H about MM (and we were...
    Julianne2222 Julianne2222 36-40, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    Blissful Boundaries! I have been obsessing

    over what boundaries really means when you are the OW. Does it mean that we hold MM accountable for the realization of mutual dreams, sexual fidelity, emotional fidelity. Can we escalate this further and hold him accountable for setting a schedule for HEA or even something as...
    Strawberrygiggles Strawberrygiggles 41-45, F 4 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 50 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 94 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    so my bffs bf added me on google+

    and i looked through his profile and saw that he was posting pics asking for girls to add him on snap chat. i told a mutual friend and they told her and now im the one being called a s###t. did i do something wrong
    xalotlikex xalotlikex 22-25, F 2 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    Every time he looks at me his eyes sparkle.

    Sure they did in the past, but lately is constant. Something is changing for him. He is even taking time to listen to hours of my music, which I know can be hard to handle. Such a sweetheart
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 7 hrs ago

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    Back Story: My BF and I have been together

    for 6 years. we have a one year old together. He recently got a new job. with that him and I meet his supervisor. From the first moment I seen this guy I feel in love. idk why, I would think about him all the time even know I only seen him with my BF a couple times and only...
    klm0701 klm0701 22-25, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 78 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 17 Responses Mar 25

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    Looking back it is funny how easily I fell into

    the trap of becoming 'the other woman.' The first flash of distress - a wounded soul no less, and I dived into the murky water. He told me that I was his oxygen. I was a mermaid Saint Bernard with the reviving elixir strapped to my neck. Strangely, I found two unmarried men...
    Faerylight Faerylight 41-45, F 19 Responses Jun 21

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    So today I found out

    that one of the other women is pregnant with his child.... i see her on a daily basis... I don't know to be relieved, happy or sad....
    isolatednlonely isolatednlonely 36-40, F 2 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    I apologize for this very sad post.

    Today I was given some horrible news, my childhood friend, the first boy I ever kissed, died on Friday of a heroin overdose. I had not spoken to him in over a year because he was in and out of rehab so to hear this was rather upsetting and surprising. I told mm about it...
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 3 Responses 1 hr ago

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