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I Am The Other Woman

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 49 Responses Jan 10

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 11, 2014

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    gawd I miss him we have

    both been really busy. I jave worked more than 60 hours this week and have kids to be home for and his kid is sick and we haven't seen each other in over a week. it's killing me. I want to be like gawd I need to see you bit do not want to sound needy or clingy because I know he...
    spoiledlittle spoiledlittle 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 150 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    MM and I met in 2011.

    We became close friends in the fall of 2012 when w went into psychiatric treatment. He then filed for a divorce. We became a couple in early 2013. Almost to the day we started, he withdrew the divorce filings. He has now kicked out W. I am terrified when he says " I think...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 205 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 54 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    I have to stop my affair with him.

    I just realized today. If we were caught, I would be done with my job, marriage, family business. He would have trouble, but would bounce back and end up on his feet without much loss. I feel like I love him, but then again I don't even know him. I am not around him enough...
    shitbyrd shitbyrd 36-40, F 3 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 15 Responses May 4, 2014

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 79 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    So down in the dumps.

    . Since I cannot work I feel I have lost my identity. Since I cannot drive, I have lost my independence. Since I can't be with him I have lost my happy... So frustrated, alone, and miserable. My family thinks what a great deal to have this time off work, but I am lost.. So much...
    ElsieJay ElsieJay 41-45, F 5 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 54 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 17 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    Today is a special day

    for us . Us, yes because it's exactly 1 year and 8 days since (19th Feb) we met on here. Yes EP has its critics . So many of them tell me that this site has changed, and as a result have abandoned it. Because it was a community . As far as I'm concerned it has a broad spectrum...
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 154 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 101 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    Coping with the loss of illusion may be more

    difficult than losing the love itself... I am a very private person and have never posted in a forum like this, so I am somewhat anxious, but like so many others, if I don't talk about this I will go insane, so where to begin? Oh my, where to begin? My story is not unlike the...
    ravenofthedark ravenofthedark 41-45, F 8 Responses 1 day ago

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    We got a little bit of time today alone

    and he brought me flowers.
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 5 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    I only have to wait six more days to have an

    entire weekend with him. The wait is killing me! I've never been a patient person, on the contrary I am terrible at it. I've read a few times that some women here only get to see their MMs once a month or even less. How do you handle the wait??!
    Natalie012 Natalie012 26-30, F 3 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    My MM just informed me he got a promotion at

    work to a management position. I am very happy and excited for him, but I also know this means we will not be able to see each other as much with his new hectic schedule. We had a wonderful morning together today, and now I don't know what's gonna happen. I am hoping for the...
    Tiffanyportelli Tiffanyportelli 22-25, F 1 Response 21 hrs ago

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    On my way to 5 star hotel

    for an overnight with mm. Why do I feel sick to the stomach? Haven't seen him for a month and he has been weird due to guilt.......he seems Ok now but I'm still very nervous!!!! Wish me luck, fingers crossed a night of passion will reconnect what can't happen over text x
    MRGFF MRGFF 36-40, F 1 Response 24 mins ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 41 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    As you know I'm really the other man ,

    a man who adores my lady ...... I love to cuddle after making love It is so beautiful to cuddle the one you love after making love together. Kissing her gently on her neck, her warmth , her love the tenderness that she feels towards you. It wasn't just sex we had ,I made love...
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 6 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Today, South Korea's Constitutional Court

    overturned a law that made adultery a crime. From the court ruling: "The precondition of human dignity and right to pursue happiness is for each individual to have their rights to choose their fate... And the rights to choose their fate includes rights to be engaged in sex and...
    BoudoirWhispers BoudoirWhispers 46-50, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    I'm married but I'm having an affair with my

    best friends husband. I know we can never be together as it would rip his family apart but I feel so lost without him. I made a huge mistake marrying my husband and can only be thankful we have no children. I want a divorce but I know it would crush him. It's so difficult being...
    kimathy86 kimathy86 26-30, F 118 Responses Feb 19

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    I got to spend some time with E tonight.

    It is like magic when we are together. He stares at me and tells me how beautiful and radiant I am. He makes me feel like the most desired woman on earth. I could lay with him and do literally nothing and I'd be perfectly content. <3 -K
    subgirl26 subgirl26 22-25, F 1 day ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 19 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    Having some issues...

    Need to vent... Any kind words would be appreciated Most of you have read what has happened between me and now ex MM since Sunday. I really do feel like I am okay but I am angry and feel like I am mourning a loss. Everything this man told me.. Promised me... Promised me he...
    AvaLennon AvaLennon 31-35, F 16 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    Sad, sad day. Had to work with MM

    after H confronted him. It was very awkward and strained, and he avoided me most of the day. When we finally talked, he basically said that until things blew over, it's best that we don't talk to or see each other. When I said I don't want to not be able to talk to him, that I...
    AmyFarrahFowler AmyFarrahFowler 31-35, F 2 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    I haven't post in awhile

    and I felt like this is the only place where I can actually talk about my issue and have some type of support. I've read many of the post here and some sound familiar to mine which tells me that I am not the only one suffering from heartache. I have kept in contact with my MM...
    waitingonfaith waitingonfaith 31-35 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 18 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    Late yesterday night,

    I posted a short piece on South Korea's decision to abolish their adultery laws (in order to not make this overly tedious, I will attach the original post below). Now, abolishing adultery laws is, in and of itself, rather commonplace; after all, most of the civilized world has...
    BoudoirWhispers BoudoirWhispers 46-50, F 2 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 27 Responses May 6, 2014

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 32 Responses Sep 23, 2014

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    Have an overnight planned with MM on Tuesday.

    We only get to see each other once a month as he lives 2 hours away..and I just started. Uh! Why does this have to happen. Disappointed. Not sure how to tell him. Suggestions??
    ladylove0113 ladylove0113 36-40, F 5 Responses 1 hr ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 51 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 46 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Has anyone walked away from this

    and survived? Nothing is changing here for me. I'm very scared of losing what is essentially my closest best friend after sharing every second of my life with him in some capacity, for the last three years. If it was just a sexual thing with all the 'I love yous' and promises...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 7 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 89 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 165 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    HOW OUT IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP?

    I am having a sweet cup of Ethiopian, very milky coffee . Looking at a friends Facebook page. Laughing and liking everything. Mine is about me..I rarely post my children's pictures .However, I do include my friends pictures...Lots of random funnies that are pieces of me. I...
    warriormama warriormama 41-45, F 11 Responses 1 day ago

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 19 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    We didn't spend a great deal of time together

    today but we did spend quality time with each other. Just that one hour in the middle of a workday is fabulous. He's so gentle and sweet. I love that I can retreat to his office whenever. But as I was leaving a coworker of ours stopped me and said he was going to start...
    surfsway surfsway 36-40, F 1 Response 16 hrs ago

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    Wow he must really miss me.

    He won't give up. I actually feel sorry for him. If only he had treated me better. I have better now! Guess next step is to block him....
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 9 mins ago

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    I read a post the other day

    and it went something like this: If we treated our husbands like we treat our mm, and treated our mm like our husband there would be a lot less affairs and happier marriages. At first I thought "true".... And that started me thinking about how I can go up to my mm wrap my arms...
    Janna78 Janna78 46-50, F 3 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    He is dealing now with the leaving process,

    so many painful things to deal with, lots of anger, and time consuming for him... I feel for him... I told him yesterday... I know that this is not easy for both of you, for him and for the W. I told him that I dont like to seeing him in pain like now. Would you want to...
    ssally123 ssally123 41-45, F 8 Responses 1 day ago

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    I just hurt tonight-no other way to say it-I

    want to leave him but I haven't been away from him for more than a month. I'm scared to break the cycle in case at some point I want him back and he doesn't need or want me anymore. I can do this for a long time but I can't continue if he won't tell me how he feels. It hurts...
    Readytomoveon2015 Readytomoveon2015 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I hate to having to compete with the television

    . That's an UNDERSTATEMENT . If we look at the countries around the world where they don't sit down and watch the television at every waking moment, the population I would is on a constant increase . I know in my own case, chance would be a fine thing. I've often considered...
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 83 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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