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I Am The Other Woman

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 157 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    Question for the women

    who are married or in a relationship. I was reading an article that talked about how married people in affairs often have difficulty going back to normal when the affairs end. Maybe seeking out new ap's because they miss the thrill of excitement. like an addiction. Opinions?
    joyfulcloudofsorrow joyfulcloudofsorrow 31-35, F 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    He has done it. Even without me really grasping

    that it was happening. He has left his wife of nearly ten years and the child that is as old as his marriage. We have been together for nine months and in that time I have gone from married to divorced and he has gone from a man I met on the internet to a man that cannot live...
    covertcoitus covertcoitus 36-40, F 2 mins ago

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    well life's hectic. .

    .last month working with mm as our comp is closing... n I got admitted in hospital, he visited me evry day since he found out ;) gave me strength actually having his support. was quite upset I ddnt tell him immediately but I told him it was week end n his fam tym so didn't wana...
    ANGELKZ ANGELKZ 31-35, F 17 mins ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    NO LONGER THE OTHER WOMAN!

    !! I am now the only woman :) it has been officially ended this morning, he was straight on the phone to me who was awesome at playing it cool despite up all night worrying! He was going to come over but we both decided against it as he needs time to recover maybe. He has gone...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 14 Responses Mar 21

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    Every time he looks at me his eyes sparkle.

    Sure they did in the past, but lately is constant. Something is changing for him. He is even taking time to listen to hours of my music, which I know can be hard to handle. Such a sweetheart
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 1 day ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 170 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 78 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 19

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    I'm done. Uncle. After 2 weeks of fawning all

    over me, he sexted with me all day Friday until he had to go, at which time he shut me off with a "Headed out. Thanks for entertaining me." Text. I guess you could say that text summed up our entire relationship. I never replied to that, and never heard back from him until this...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 15 Responses 1 day ago

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    And still...nothing. I have not heard one word

    from him. I am really in a miserable emotional place right now and this.....this just makes it hurt even worse.
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 36-40, F 3 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    Keeping Busy ! I have another dilemma

    that i need clarity on... My MM and i are in a long distant relationship (LDR)....miles apart... So spending most of the year apart is our reality. I have been reading OW posts and experiences. Some OW, are lucky that they can count on having regular in person interaction with...
    Strawberrygiggles Strawberrygiggles 41-45, F 4 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    i never imagine i will be the other woman.

    .. i meet him on 2013,, we are working in same project but different company... our story begin with one email sending by him,,,,i know he interested with me.. but i try to refuse since he already have fiancee,,,,,, but after a few month, i agree to going out with him,,,and...
    ipaurina ipaurina 22-25, F 2 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    "Nothing hurts more than being disappointed by

    the person you thought would never hurt you" :(
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    How did you meet your married man?

    How did it all started?
    ithinkithink ithinkithink 26-30, F 11 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 24 Responses Apr 30

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    Looking back it is funny how easily I fell into

    the trap of becoming 'the other woman.' The first flash of distress - a wounded soul no less, and I dived into the murky water. He told me that I was his oxygen. I was a mermaid Saint Bernard with the reviving elixir strapped to my neck. Strangely, I found two unmarried men...
    Faerylight Faerylight 41-45, F 19 Responses Jun 21

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    Would really like to talk to a guy

    and get a male's honest opinion about my current OW situation!
    BluCoastGal BluCoastGal 36-40, F 3 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    He called 10 times. I didn't answer.

    He showed up at my house, knocking on my door, trying to pet my puppy through the window. I didn't answer. My mom was here. He started texting me "Do you not think enough of me to tell me what's going on?" "I'm going to assume you don't want a relationship with me. I'll leave...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 4 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 50 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    Ugh, I am having an emotionally rough evening.

    I spent around 7 hours today with MM but he hasn't been feeling well and was a bit cranky and not himself. He had some things going on so we weren't intimate. Slightly disappointing for me but not the end of the world. Made tentative plans to get together next Monday but not...
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 36-40, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 17 Responses Mar 25

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 14 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    He leaves on Saturday

    for a two week vacation where he will have very little cell service. Last year he went for only one week and it was really hard. He called me once from the middle of a river where he finally found service. I'm already starting to feel the pull of the separation. He said today...
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 5 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 48 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 94 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 55 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 27 Responses May 6, 2014

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    Are any of you Christians?

    I don't mean wear a cross, so you believe in God. Or I have a cross tattoo so I'm a Christian. Like goes to church, studies bible, born again, washed in the blood, saved Christian. If so, we need to talk. We need each others help
    Tiffanyportelli Tiffanyportelli 22-25, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    Janeccaa Janeccaa 26-30, F 2 hrs ago

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    So after my recent post I totally planned to

    cut it off. well that didn't work. He knew exactly how to draw me back in. And maybe I wanted him to.. he did tell me what he was looking for in this 'relationship'. he doesn't plan to leave his wife at all. which I'm okay with. He says he just wants to feel wanted and needed...
    klm0701 klm0701 22-25, F 1 Response 16 hrs ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 42 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 23 Responses Mar 22

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 50 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    I am still feeling as emotional

    as I was last night. This sucks. I still have received no reply to my email. I have been reflecting alot over the past 12 hours and something has struck me over and over again. At the end of our time spent together yesterday, we were sitting in his car just talking. It was a...
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 36-40, F 7 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 45 Responses Jan 10

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    I'm really irritated,

    aggravated, upset and honestly I don't know if I should be or not. Let me preface this by saying I have been medically diagnosed with anxiety disorder. I over analyze and blow things out of proportion. I take anti anxiety meds as needed. Yesterday, I sent MM a couple...
    AvaLennon AvaLennon 31-35, F 5 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    or rather WAS ... LOL .

    .... Well - I think I'm past the worst of it ... actually sleeping again - not crying every morning and getting on. I still don't know what the he77 the last 14 years were about, LOL - BUT - I'm at least here now ... WHEW. Been so hard -
    kitty1958 kitty1958 56-60, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 78 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    It hurt today when we were discussing his sons

    first birthday party coming up. I knew these feelings were going to come up. I knew this day was coming, and regardless of where he and I were, I knew that I wouldn't be able to attend. He invited a mutual co-worker from work, and her son. I'm not even worried about her being...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 2 Responses 2 hrs ago

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