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I Am The Other Woman

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 170 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 86 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    so I am spotting and cramping two weeks

    after my period finished!! ugh y can't anything ever go right!! y does my bc have to fail... I'm really hoping its just stress... I need a drink
    emeraldprincess1003 emeraldprincess1003 22-25, F 4 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    I love you all to the moon

    and back, instead of putting us down and judging us they should be admiring us, we deal with alot!! And if they only knew us or our circumstance, they woud. Love and appreciate my O.W
    kathrineh kathrineh 46-50, F 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    Happy family photos posted on Facebook

    shouldn't bother me, especially after such a good day with my husband, and yet...blah. I even "liked" it, because I'm messed up like that.
    DarlingEll DarlingEll 26-30, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Last night they had a fight.

    He told me that via text in no uncertain terms. Today he called. He was at a store. He stopped off before going into the office for a few. He was looking at stuff for him, but navigated his way to the women's section. He was looking through my sizes. Asked if I needed anything...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    I'm pregnant by my MM.

    I'm in my country right now on business and I couldn't hold it in anymore and I told him. I'm so scared. How could this happen if I was on bc? Well, I get back home on Thursday and he wants to talk. He wants to tell his family but I'm not ready for that. I have other health...
    4bdnluv 4bdnluv 31-35, F 4 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    so I had *the* conversation with OM.

    .. (sorry if this is a bit long...) for those of you who didn't know, we had a little incident on Saturday. so we met up on Saturday, had a wonderful time together. as we left, it started to rain very heavily. we were using 1 umbrella, so naturally, I hung onto his arm to...
    gianneisstuck gianneisstuck 31-35, F 16 mins ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 41 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    I hate it when an afternoon together doesn't

    work out. Sure I'll make the best of it- stuff around the house and the pool with girlfriends, but :-( Miss him.
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 3 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 71 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 78 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    It is just so difficult

    when you have emotional events in your lives and you cant be there for one another. (chat with video doesn't cut it - need hand holding, hugs, and talking). Major stuff for him and the wife isn't being there for him. So hard not to say something negative. I know that I can't...
    blue963 blue963 51-55, F 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Yes, I am realizing now I should have been more

    honest from the start... I am in a happy, maybe one day open, relationship with my husband. Right now, I am learning how to understand the relationship my best friend has had with her MM, but through that I am learning about how my H will be with an ow (or om - he is bi) and how...
    TexWest1311 TexWest1311 26-30, F 1 day ago

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    I'm sitting at home trying to relax

    and slow the chances of having a heart attack due to the always negative approach to life that wife oozes out of her very narrow mind. Why does she make derogatory comments about my 92 year old mum, simply because I'm having a disagreement with her ( wife) Often referring to my...
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    So 24 hours with NC and guess what.

    ...I'm still here. I survived the day by staying busy doing the things I enjoyed. No meltdown today. :) I know I am being stupid by not contacting him but the few times we have had arguments and then did not talk the next day, it has always been me to reach out first. His...
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 152 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 204 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    norahcc11 norahcc11 26-30, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Help! some of you know me,

    this time last year I met and fell in love with a terminally ill married man, later he did pass, it seriously broke my heart. I am talking to another married man, he does not know I know he's married but I do, I looked it up. What about me wants to keep talking to him when I...
    leigh8133 leigh8133 31-35, F 8 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    It's so easy to hate

    and so easy to love it depends on where your heart is, I choose to love...
    kathrineh kathrineh 46-50, F 4 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 54 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 19 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 92 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 17 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 28 Responses May 6, 2014

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    heart racing 24/7 not to get caught.

    ...sneeking around every corner to talk to the other person without anyone hearing you....distancing yourself from your friends and family because every single moment you have alone you call him....anxiety attacks that really never go away.....cold sweats of getting caught...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 7 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 48 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    I am not the OW, but I'm

    so proud of you ladies. You go through hell and back for these men. You love, comfort, support, and love these men. I do not know how you do it. I read your stories and I'm in awe....sheer breathtaking, gutwrenching, heartbreaking, overwhelming, love-infused awe of you all...
    soldiergirl2 soldiergirl2 41-45, F 11 Responses Apr 6

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    I feel very worn out.

    ..What a night. It was so messed up. I finally left him for good. Before that, I also told my best friend about everything. Maybe it was all the alcohol, or maybe I had come to a point I couldn’t keep it locked inside me. I have always kept things to myself. I never told anyone...
    FrancesFoster FrancesFoster 26-30, F 3 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 155 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    I just came from my home town today.

    I spent 2 days with my family. it was wonderful time. I did not expect him to contact me, i just made my mind free of him for those 2 days. Now i m alone again here, i start missing him. What can i do? i could call or send him a message, he went home and stay with his kids and...
    angelamaxy angelamaxy 22-25 1 day ago

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    How are all of you doing in this long weekend?

    I was holding up strong in the first two days and then the down hits just now. It's nothing out of place happened, Been msg with MM here and there. Knowing his mom visited and he spent the evening with W at their friends place. It just the normal things, and it is because the...
    TOWTD TOWTD 31-35, F 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 28 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 7 hrs ago

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 6

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    Had the day with MM today

    but I was in a weird mood and couldn't snap myself out of it. He picked up on my mood and tried to get me to talk but I was very closed off to him today. I'm not sure why. Well actually he had something to me last night and I got offended. He was only joking and I know he never...
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 1 Response 13 hrs ago

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 51 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    Any OW here is single

    and unable to date anyone else but can only wait for their MM to leave his wife? Me follow the social norm blindly, I forced myself to date someone else in order to force myself to leave my MM (at least mentally), but it was a complete failure. I went on a date arranged by a...
    ayako18 ayako18 31-35, F 8 Responses 1 day ago

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    and im beginning to feel comfortable with my

    position. is this weird? like my relationship with him doesn't effect my life negatively.
    Aprilbaby4 Aprilbaby4 22-25 3 hrs ago

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 13 Responses Apr 19

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    four days of nc and we have talked a little

    today not much. I have no interest in talking to mm since I found out he lied about loving w... not that I didn't suspect he still loved her but I would have liked it much better had he been honest about his feelings for her... I'm not looking for him to leave I'm not waiting...
    emeraldprincess1003 emeraldprincess1003 22-25, F 2 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 23 Responses Mar 22

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    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 23 Responses Apr 30

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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