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    Do you agree?? Please share your thoughts.

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    prettygoddess prettygoddess 26-30, F 2 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 68 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 208 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    So, yesterday MM head was hurting a lot,

    and he told me to go and spend the night with him, but I couldn't because I was going to go with my family to a tree lighting, I told him I would go today and to take care of him self, he said he was going to go home, and stop texting me, today in the morning I text him to see...
    SweetDiz SweetDiz 26-30, F 2 Responses 39 mins ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 51 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 8 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 80 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 34 Responses Sep 23

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    I have a good family: I have great children

    and my husband has finally learned to appreciate me after so many years of marriage. Too late for me though... I felt alone for such a long time, but finally I found someone I could call both my soulmate and my twin soul. Yes, this has made me the other woman in a sense. Not...
    Piscesrose Piscesrose 46-50, F 7 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 16 Responses May 4

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 21 Responses Jul 30

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    I guess I stirred something up yesterday with a

    simple question. I didn't quite expect the response that post got. On a better note, has a great day with him. It's always nice to work together. We actually get a lot done despite the distraction.
    surfsway surfsway 36-40, F 6 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    I made it another day

    and did not email today he emailed around 12PM with something vague and non compelling. I lasted 12 days with no response and only 12 hours in of not replying to his email yesterday he emails me? Sucks for him. 12 days later I don't feel bad for that feeling of why is she not...
    Readytomoveon2015 Readytomoveon2015 31-35, F 2 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 20 Responses Jan 2

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 24 Responses May 6

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    I am honestly not sure how I feel about anyone

    or anything at this point. Just feeling plain miserable. He was really excellent about being there for me. Today I am feeling a shift from him. All things come to an end I guess.
    blue963 blue963 51-55, F 25 mins ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 31-35, M 17 Responses Apr 19

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    Holidays and his bd are coming .

    .. I hate this time of the year so badly ... :( i will be working like crazy to keep myself distracted so I won't be feeling sad and lonely. I will be checking on his FB and bare the pain of seeing pictures of his family and friends get together for the count down ... This would...
    oxoi oxoi 26-30, F 2 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 15 Responses Jun 2

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    Women won't mess with a man

    that lives with his mom but will mess with a man who lives with his wife.
    reeessa reeessa 13-15, F 29 Responses Oct 23

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    Yep I knew this was going to happen.

    I got suckered back in. I knew I was going to give in. Don't we always do this back and forth. Ughhh
    Truone16 Truone16 31-35, F 4 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 103 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    So today hasn't been the best

    either we are still fighting and lunch wasn't very good... Went off about things and he was yelling and I was crying and yelling and then we got his kids involved and he says I don't understand bc I don't have kids. And how he wants to shield them from this and I told him he...
    ap05 ap05 26-30, F 1 Response 52 mins ago

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    My poor MM. He is at the hospital.

    Getting his back scanned as he, erm, injured it whilst spending the weekend with me. I'm being sympathetic of course, but it is also a little bit funny. We don't get to see one another often so have to make the most of our time. Just wondering what he has told his W...
    daisyblue222 daisyblue222 36-40, F 1 Response 54 mins ago

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    I wish I could rip you out my heart.

    I wish I could erase every memory I have of you. I love you so much that it physically hurts. I feel my insides turn and just ache when I think of you not being with me. When I see your picture pop up it hurts to see you. I miss you every single day. And I wish that you could...
    musicandnotes musicandnotes 22-25, F 2 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    I feel so blessed. MM

    and I have an incredible relationship. We just spent another few hours together. And of course, the sex is absolutey amazing. My favorite part though, is after. Just laying there, talking for hours and laughing. We talk about absolutely everything. From cooking, to music, to...
    tauriangirl tauriangirl 36-40, F 35 mins ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 78 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    Tonight will be our first full night together.

    No time constraints. No looking over our shoulders. We have a suite booked with a fireplace. Sushi & wine. I am so looking forward to 8 hours of normalcy. It is crazy we have never even eaten together. We spend our blips of time only focused on eachother. We get to talk for...
    tauriangirl tauriangirl 36-40, F 29 Responses Nov 15

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    I'm sure his phone is just dead

    and he's crazy busy at work with the holiday coming up, but I cant help but worry. His brother in law found one of my insurance documents in his car, and I've been worried since yesterday whether that was going to blow up. I haven't talked to him since he left work yesterday...
    SweetHeresy SweetHeresy 22-25, F 4 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Thanks girls, am finding this forum very useful

    since there's no one to talk to. Had another scare today when we think someone might have seen us together. He's gone short and sharp on the texting front since and I'm scared this is it! Last time we were close to getting caught he broke it off which lasted 4 days. I'm scared...
    baab2 baab2 41-45, F 3 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 31 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Just thought about it I'm used to his crumbs

    he's used to getting 100% from me....this will be very foreign to him-it HAS to affect him some
    Readytomoveon2015 Readytomoveon2015 31-35, F 1 Response 13 hrs ago

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    Well as some of you know I am not anymore.

    I've just come out the school and walked past my ex MM wife and little boy. I obviously know as living so close and my son and his daughter am always going see him. I feel sick now. I have not heard from and not seen and been feeling happy. I know it's over what if somehow she...
    stupid28 stupid28 31-35, F 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    Christmas music is playing at my house already

    ;) Hey, it's corny but I wait all year to hear it!
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 20 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    He texted me saying that it's going to take him

    some time to get over me because his love for me is real and that no matter what, he's going to hold me down whether I'm with him or not. Awww. This man touches my heart. I'm torn
    Truone16 Truone16 31-35, F 18 hrs ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    BOUDOIRWHISPERS !!! Hey hey gf!

    !! Holding up airplanes?
    jupsta jupsta 36-40, F 4 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 56 Responses Nov 6

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 161 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 148 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 11

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 10 Responses Feb 13

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    One of the most irritating things in the world.

    Having a serious conversation about why you are upset with him. He keeps deflecting with humor so finally you say that maybe he should reevaluate where his head and heart are at and he replies: "Goodnight my love. I love you!" That's not how this works. THAT'S NOT HOW ANY OF...
    lostanddistraught lostanddistraught 22-25, F 4 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 41 Responses Feb 24

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 46 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    I read so many similar stories

    yet each one has its own uniques spin that makes it all its own. I am very fortunate with my mm and I do believe I will be with him til the end. I occasionally get the "I'm lonely" attitude and he can tell from my text lol We are completely in love with one another but I don't...
    youngnbeautifulme youngnbeautifulme 36-40, F 2 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Are you guys truly happy living a lie?

    Pretending your life is a bliss but really having a man on the side? Pretending in front of everyone your marriage is ok? How do you deal with this? I think I am happy. You?
    kylee2013 kylee2013 36-40, F 11 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 50 Responses Feb 16

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    My guy left for a week's vacation with his wife

    yesterday. So, I get to look forward to a week of no contact. It's only been 2 days and I miss him already. I'm used to texting and/or talking to him every day. How do the rest of you get though periods of no contact?
    nikalpikal nikalpikal 41-45, F 6 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 17 Responses Sep 10

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    ap05 ap05 26-30, F 5 Responses 17 hrs ago

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