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I Am The Other Woman

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 162 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    from hero to zero....

    .for d first tym today he yelled at me..so dissapointed but glad..ges it was the wake up calli needed..d one person I tawt I cud count on let me dwn in d most unforgiving way..by disrespecting me...nt evn angry just dissapointed but now I know better u can't trust anyone even as...
    ANGELKZ ANGELKZ 26-30, F 1 Response 12 hrs ago

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 41 Responses Feb 24

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    A little cliche but it makes me cry every time.

    Hope you ladies are having a goodnight. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=-2U0Ivkn2Ds
    Lost4him2 Lost4him2 26-30 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 24 Responses May 6

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 103 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    I love how good of a mood he's in.

    I told him I was going to come by to visit him in his office some time today. We emailed back and forth for awhile and about an hour after my first message he replied and said "When are you coming to see me?" I said, "When do you want me?" He said, "Now." After I visited him...
    DarlingEll DarlingEll 26-30, F 12 hrs ago

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 20 Responses Jul 30

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 10 Responses Feb 13

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    This week was the first time I really felt like

    that. It was the first time I felt more of a burden to his life than anything else. I'll give a brief (at least try to make it brief) background. I started see him in about a year and a half ago. We are both married, both in terrible marriages. His seems worse than mine...
    jencpa jencpa 31-35, F 3 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    It's the middle of the week

    and while I don't feel great I feel better than I did. At least we had a text talk which i am glad of. Evidently his W came to him a week from this past Friday and talked acknowledged all the mistakes that she had made. He listened to all that she had to say and he didn't...
    Sweetpea379 Sweetpea379 46-50, F 2 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    So i'm kinda new to this.

    Anything I should be prepared for? :x
    Hewwoe Hewwoe 18-21, F 24 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    He's down with W as of yesterday

    and today. She will be here this weekend til early next week. I haven't seen him since last week and I'm going thru withdrawal. I've started to ignore his calls/texts when he's with her. I feel like he shouldn't be calling me while he's with her. You tell me you want to cut...
    kc5316 kc5316 22-25, F 16 hrs ago

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    Already got my first visit today.

    I guess he's listening. :-)
    DarlingEll DarlingEll 26-30, F 1 Response 17 hrs ago

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 84 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 55 Responses Nov 6

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    They're coming back from vacation late tonight.

    I blew up at him a few days ago with everything that was on my mind, and his response to my hostility was surprisingly accepting and comforting. I'll see him first thing in the morning. He has plans for us the next 2 days. But I have work, and I leave in 72 hours for my own...
    yesto8 yesto8 26-30, F 2 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 79 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    He texted 30 mins ago saying

    that despite what i may think he misses me and that hes got a lot going on right now. That he wants to see me tomorrow if possible...too much going...is always something going on that i have to adjust myself into... I think i should delete any thoughts and plans i have about...
    Chicadelcaribe Chicadelcaribe 31-35, F 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    I don't usually listen to this kind of music-

    I'm more of a country girl, but I think all of us should give a good listen to Ed Sheeran's song, "Thinking Out Loud," when we need a reminder of how we deserve to be loved. Gets me every time!!
    lostanddistraught lostanddistraught 22-25, F 3 hrs ago

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    Tonight will be our first full night together.

    No time constraints. No looking over our shoulders. We have a suite booked with a fireplace. Sushi & wine. I am so looking forward to 8 hours of normalcy. It is crazy we have never even eaten together. We spend our blips of time only focused on eachother. We get to talk for...
    tauriangirl tauriangirl 36-40, F 28 Responses Nov 15

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 17 Responses Sep 10

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 16 Responses May 4

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    whitneycc11 whitneycc11 26-30, F 1 hr ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 208 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 20 Responses Apr 18

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    Do any of you live by these rules?

    I didn't know that were real until I looked them up one day. It was amazing how many I was doing and didn't know they were an understanding . I just picked up on it. I do understand not all relationship will fall under these rules, I know my does not. These rules are written...
    yori1983 yori1983 46-50, F 15 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    I had an interesting day yesterday.

    All last week and weekend, I have just been slammed with stuff. Constantly doing something, at work and outside of work. Not even really Christmas related (did some decorating, but just other stuff). So I really haven't even had time to think about my OM. He really kinda did it...
    LightningXIII LightningXIII 31-35, F 11 hrs ago

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    What did we do to deserve this?

    I love this man more than anything.
    Lost4him2 Lost4him2 26-30 2 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 11

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    ...I am drained. I haven't really been posting -

    for a few reasons. Quite a bit going on in my mental. However, I just need someone to talk to. Two weeks ago Friday - while my 'MM' and I were having a pretty intense conversation/passion session...he pocket dialed the 'W'. Not that he hasn't already asked for the divorce - he...
    AdelaidW AdelaidW 22-25, F 3 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    I text him around 8:30 to say mornings

    and ask what his plan for the day was. Just looking to see if i could spend some time with him since we havent at all. His reply: "you can not text this phone this early". So i waited a bit to see if he'll call or text me back and around 10:30 i asked him if he could talk. He...
    Chicadelcaribe Chicadelcaribe 31-35, F 5 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 17 Responses Apr 19

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 51 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    No word from him since 5:30 this afternoon

    when he came by my job to pick up some documents. He said before leaving he will text me later and as he was saying that, his phone was ringing with that special ringtone he has for her. His cue that is time to go home. I knew he wasn't going to contact me at all but i still...
    Chicadelcaribe Chicadelcaribe 31-35, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Things that make me question

    whether I would actually want him Is when times like this morning occurred when he came to my place And I ignored him. I never opened the door. I just wasn't feeling like being bothered. Aren't we supposed to jump on every opportunity? He emailed me today saying that I don't...
    Truone16 Truone16 31-35, F 6 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 50 Responses Feb 16

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    Things have been going very well,

    mostly because I decided to embrace the happy, only be ms positive, ms fun, never say a negative thing or share my hurts with him. I did a complete turn-around figuring if I'm going to let go, if the end is coming, I'm going to go out being the person I was for so many years to...
    elizabethmariejazz elizabethmariejazz 36-40, F 3 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    Lots of questions tonight.

    Wish I knew the answers to all of them or at least a few would be nice. MM had an office worker stole money from him before he found out about it. Now his W is real mad about their retirement. I don't blame her. But now I'm afraid they will never afford divorce. This is his...
    yori1983 yori1983 46-50, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    I haven't talked to him

    since Sunday night. I'm not surprised, he usually does this after we have an overnight. I must say though, it is really starting to **** me off. My birthday is Friday but it is also his wife's birthday. Let's hope he doesn't forget about me or I will be one unhappy lady.
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 6 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 9 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    We are supposed to see each other today.

    I dont think we will get to see each other again until after the new year. But I dont feel like seeing im today. Perhaps I am just protecting myself. Not sure. I dont want to go see him today and just have normalcy and then poof I will barely hear from him again. He is...
    blue963 blue963 51-55, F 3 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 32 Responses Sep 23

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 16 Responses Jun 2

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    Wow, I got 5 "I love you"s from my MM today.

    He is being so lovely. I don't think my H has told me he loves me more than twice all year... I know that actions speak louder than words, but it is nice to hear :-)
    daisyblue222 daisyblue222 36-40, F 1 Response 9 hrs ago

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    So I didn't get to talk to my MM

    for a while he went home and I don't text when he is home and right when he was going back to work my bf got laid off so he can't text me. So it was about a month and a half NC I did manage to text him yesterday to tell him happy birthday and I was surprised to him telling me he...
    MartiniLynn MartiniLynn 18-21 3 hrs ago

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    After contemplating whether to go generic

    or sentimental with the office secret Santa gift, I went sentimental and hit the jackpot. After 2 weeks of NC, he looked happy again. I couldn't help but beam at both his happiness and my resolve. After we returned to our offices he initiated contact, apologized for the fight...
    CoreyCross CoreyCross 26-30, F 3 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 31 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 69 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    blue963 blue963 51-55, F 5 Responses 5 hrs ago

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