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I Am The Other Woman

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 28 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 19 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    It seems that a "revenge **** hacker" hacked

    into AdultFriendFinder and put 3.5 million customer files up for sale on the dark web: http://money.cnn.com/2015/05/22/technology/adult-friendfinder-hacked/ Could have been Ashley Madison instead. Or EP, for that matter. One has to marvel at the ease with which some people...
    BoudoirWhispers BoudoirWhispers 46-50, F 3 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    Updated. Ok so things haven't gone

    as planned. I ended up having a close family member pass away. He ended up comforting me and next thing I know we were making out. I've met him one other time and we made out. We both agreed that it can't go further then that. We agreed that my first time shouldn't be with a...
    Forensicbutterfly Forensicbutterfly 22-25, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 13 Responses Apr 19

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    I just want a real date,

    not a hotel room. Maybe I misunderstood the terms of the relationship or maybe he thinks this is what I want. He can't be busy 24/7. Id be happy even if we just talked more through text. I guess I could understand his absence if he talked to me more about what was going on in...
    littlemissdazed littlemissdazed 22-25, F 8 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    NO LONGER THE OTHER WOMAN!

    !! I am now the only woman :) it has been officially ended this morning, he was straight on the phone to me who was awesome at playing it cool despite up all night worrying! He was going to come over but we both decided against it as he needs time to recover maybe. He has gone...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 14 Responses Mar 21

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    I really think it’s time to just walk away

    from him. I hoped it would work this time because everything seemed okay for once. One of you guys here told me that before I decide whether to start seeing him again, to remember exactly why I left him in the first place. There was definitely a reason. Yes, he was married, that...
    FrancesFoster FrancesFoster 26-30, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    newgurlxo newgurlxo 18-21, F 2 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    Okay, freaky story. I went to yoga the other

    night because I desperately needed it after a crap day at work. I normally go on weekends cause trying to get to anything on time after work is practically impossible these day. Anyway, I took a class with an instructor I've never had before and she was good. It was definitely...
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Alcohol, alcohol has started to become my best

    friend yet again. My strong confidant. Although this has nothing to do with MM I feel I should share this somewhere. Until recently I hadn't drank since New Year's Eve, not as a resolution but it just happened to be bin day and upon emptying my bins I discovered that the black...
    Twighlightsparkle Twighlightsparkle 22-25, F 5 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Fireworks at home again.

    Just had a big row with wife , because she stood up for Youngest son and friend who were sitting in the kitchen eating with their caps on. Everyone knows including his friend that we have a no hats inside rule . It was 7.30 Sunday night . The kitchen was occupied by son and...
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 2 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    I often ask myself why?

    Why did I bother extending the olive branch in trying mend something that simply...did not exist. Why? Its clear to see, that you're damaged to the point of no return. Its clear to see, that you're use to pain and misery. Until...you finally meet someone who genuinely cares...
    newgurlxo newgurlxo 18-21, F 6 hrs ago

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    What kind of things have you done romantically

    or even fun to spoil your mm? Just thinking of sentimental kinds of things that have no trails left behind. Possible??
    lexabear15 lexabear15 26-30, F 11 Responses 1 day ago

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    I never thought of myself

    as the other woman until someone told me that I was JUST his mistress. It was said to cut me open as wide as possible. WE have done a lot of talking this past month or so. He has asked me if I remembered when we first met and got together. We both remember even though it was...
    memery7 memery7 46-50, F 1 Response 10 hrs ago

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    Trolls come in all forms of life .

    Some appear to be human in their own way. We may have one living next door to us . We all know the type . They peer out of their window at passers bye. They stick their ear to the wall . They look for a reason to complain. They thrive on misery . In many cases they live on...
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 2 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 54 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 170 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 14 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 48 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    It has been 2 to 3 months

    since I've been on Experience Project. I deleted my old profile... I was going through so many emotions, me and my MM got into a huge argument which led to us having no contact for 2/3 months. I got off EP so I don't see any stories about peoples MM situations ...I just didn't...
    newgurlxo newgurlxo 18-21, F 1 Response 10 hrs ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 28 Responses May 6, 2014

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 86 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    To the OWs, have any of you had men

    who write you private messages pretending to care about the situation or "bumps" you're having with your MM when their intentions were to take over hoping you will choose to have a fling with them instead? I know I'm going to have negative comments with this post but it seems...
    Aisurukoto Aisurukoto 41-45, F 8 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    Just got off the phone with MM.

    I love when he calls just to hear my voice. Great chat. We talked about our little video we made. He loves it and well so do I. This I know this can't be normal. I normally wax but I'm a little overdue for my next appt. I have an ingrown hair that is hurting(tmi I know) but MM...
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Still NC since last night.

    He's mad, I'm hurt and we are both stubborn as heck. His W went to the beach today with their daughter. She either did not invite him or he declined as usual. Guess I should be thankful our argument did not cause him to run to her. Oh well. My chores of the day are done and it...
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 3 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    We are both married and are more like friends

    then anything else. Sex is amazing but not what our relationship is all about. We see each other a few times a week and talk every day. I would miss the friendship the most if we stop seeing each other.
    sara263 sara263 31-35, F 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    ForbiddenFruitLove95 ForbiddenFruitLove95 18-21, F 1 Response 8 hrs ago

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    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 23 Responses Apr 30

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    I am not the OW, but I'm

    so proud of you ladies. You go through hell and back for these men. You love, comfort, support, and love these men. I do not know how you do it. I read your stories and I'm in awe....sheer breathtaking, gutwrenching, heartbreaking, overwhelming, love-infused awe of you all...
    soldiergirl2 soldiergirl2 41-45, F 11 Responses Apr 6

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    Four months... And I still think about him

    EVERY DAY! It's usually just something simple. I'll wonder how he is doing, wonder if he thinks about me, try to convince myself that he MUST think about me, a song will take me back to the early days of our relationship, the scent I wore when I finally saw him... The moments...
    pinkismysignaturecolor pinkismysignaturecolor 36-40, F 5 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 92 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    three days nc and I feel OK?

    !?! Idk y I feel alright with this but something has come over me!! mms w returned late last night and I just glad to have a time out... seems like I have overloaded my system... but mm knows me I can go out like a candle at any point in time?!?! I am just hoping when my phone is...
    emeraldprincess1003 emeraldprincess1003 22-25, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    What a day . Was it good .

    No, back to normal. Normal, now that's a word that describes things that are normal. There's nothing like that in my household . Why do I need to be half drunk to spill the beans about my sometimes miserable life. It's not always like it is now . But when it's like this, why do...
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 1 Response 7 hrs ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 204 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 155 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 41 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Need advice ladies...

    Its mm's birthday next week,i have already told him he will be taking a half day so we can spend the afternoon together but i am at a loss for what to do for him!! Of course there is the obvious (that goes without saying!!) but id just like to do something different,we have...
    Jellytots2412 Jellytots2412 36-40, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 45 Responses Jan 10

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    It's going to be my second time walking away

    from him and I still dread the idea of it. Confronting him of the truth, another argument... I find myself going through a whole scenario in my head about what he's going to say and things like that. It never ends. I'm sick of it. He's seriously tiring me out. But it's so...
    FrancesFoster FrancesFoster 26-30, F 10 hrs ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    Really struggling today,

    he's just ignoring me... I'm newly separated and coming off some antidepressants as they're actually interfering with my health... He's just not there He's never there What's the point even... I fell for this guy and he's probably just a complete *****
    NicoleMantel NicoleMantel 36-40, F 2 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 6

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 51 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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