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I Am The Other Woman

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 101 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    Hopefully everyone on here is enjoying great

    time and it is getting easier every day, the tomorrow sun is always much brighter than tonight's moon. Thinking of all of you ladies that don't feel positive right now, and perhaps are feeling the "battle is over", or just started, or even the fact that you believe the battle...
    monty1212 monty1212 26-30, F 4 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    About a week or so ago we had a D day.

    MM chose not to reconcile and pretty much came over after work that day and spent that weekend at mine.He has since moved into a temp apartment because he is still working through things with W and his son lives directly behind me. His daughter seems to be going ok and they are...
    NNIP888 NNIP888 22-25, F 3 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 154 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    I know I haven't left my H,

    and so shouldn't be judging anyone here, but what I have is more of a question surrounded by a statement. [I am divorced once from an abusive man] I've watched people for years, in relationships [marriages], then they split, sometime all the way to the point of completing the...
    whynot13 whynot13 46-50, F 9 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Warning this TROLL is psychotic she is

    certified, all she do is post on all our stories watch out for her and block her. She is not in the OW group and this is what she lives for to harass all of us on here. (TROLL BE GONE) flor45 responded to an "I Am The Other Woman" response 49 mins ago flor45 responded to an...
    Imbrokenhearted Imbrokenhearted 36-40, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I haven't loved myself

    since I started loving him. Now that I'm in town and possibly not seeing him am I starting to love myself again-3 years later? It used to be emails all day for weeks on end every two weeks overnights and say trips for a year before dday it was magic. Then he pulled all intimacy...
    Readytomoveon2015 Readytomoveon2015 31-35, F 3 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    I know many women here feel this way,

    but I feel like I will never get over this. It has been almost 2 months apart after over 3 years together. He went back to his wife and daughter and filing for divorce and then couldn't go through with it. We have had some contact which I know is making this worse because...
    Widow68 Widow68 46-50, F 3 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Ok well now I'm starting to get worried.

    It's been 5 days since we last talked and that's unusual for us. He asked last week if he could see me tonight but that was before the I love you on Friday so now I'm not sure what's going on. I think I should continue to wait but what if he is waiting for me... Ohhh man this...
    moepeep moepeep 22-25, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    Women won't mess with a man

    that lives with his mom but will mess with a man who lives with his wife.
    reeessa reeessa 13-15, F 28 Responses Oct 23, 2014

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    I am my worst enemy. cooked dinner

    and put mm to bed. can't sleep. his iPad is propped up as though he was facetiming which we haven't done since this am. why do I assume the worst? I want to look but he would be so mad. do any of you catch yourself snooping?
    justinsneedow justinsneedow 41-45, F 14 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 81 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    Hey ladies... I've recently reached out to a

    childhood friend with help on a project. I've been having a hard time with this project of mine and out of no where thought about this guy. I looked him up online and sure enough his expertise in his field is what I need for my project. He texted me a couple of months ago to...
    RedHotPepper RedHotPepper 26-30, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I am the other woman.

    the usual story I suppose except I met him when he was still an "unhappy" newlywed(ish) with regrets and a lot of sorrow in his heart yet determination also to try and make the marriage work......he had only been living with his W for 2 months when we met and feel in love...
    jeebeez2015 jeebeez2015 31-35, F 2 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 17 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 17 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 17 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 54 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 25 Responses May 6, 2014

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    To the woman that D-day has come

    and you have had no choice but to move on........ My D-day came on October 5th. I was with my ex mm for 4 years. But everything came crashing down on that day and I didn't know him at all. He treated me horrible when it happened and I never seen it coming. I didn't think he was...
    Jennbme Jennbme 36-40, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    Good Morning My Lovely Beautiful Ladies.

    I'm wishing you all have a blessed day that will be filled with nothing but LOVE & HAPPINESS. There are a lot of people aka TROLLS that just don't understand us, and its ok they suffer from an ugly bitterness inside that we cant help them with nobody can. They hate us for...
    Imbrokenhearted Imbrokenhearted 36-40, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Tonight will be our first full night together.

    No time constraints. No looking over our shoulders. We have a suite booked with a fireplace. Sushi & wine. I am so looking forward to 8 hours of normalcy. It is crazy we have never even eaten together. We spend our blips of time only focused on eachother. We get to talk for...
    tauriangirl tauriangirl 36-40, F 26 Responses Nov 15, 2014

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 31 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 16 Responses May 4, 2014

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 78 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    Day one without him was tough.

    please let it get easier from here.
    typist123 typist123 36-40, F 7 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 88 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 46 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    I'm feeling so anxious.

    We've seen each other 5 times since DDay (New Years eve).. But only before work or during lunch. Very little communication outside of work hours. I feel differently about him.. The connection isn't there anymore. But I'm still not ready to let go. He has a baby, and he stays...
    4thislife 4thislife 31-35, F 2 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 11, 2014

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    It's not a break. It's over.

    So, my MM sent me a note on Saturday that he wanted break. We ended up chatting and he said he wanted to end it. I wanted a minute to gather my thoughts, I wanted to be able to say everything I ever wanted to say to him or I would feel open ended. I need closure. I was happy...
    pinkismysignaturecolor pinkismysignaturecolor 36-40, F 7 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    I see my baby in less

    than a day! The only good thing about the end of my vacation!!!
    lostanddistraught lostanddistraught 22-25, F 51 mins ago

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    Driving myself crazy just wondering

    when my guys partner away he kept his distance from me again when I left mine for a month and mine been away 5 days my FB won't come near me.i dont understand it we live 5 mins apart both been sat home alone in the day no reason not to see each other...
    Pommy8 Pommy8 51-55, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    I Am The Other Woman - And It'S Driving Me

    Crazy About a year and a half ago I met this guy D. We work in the same building. A day after meeting him, I didn't even remember his name. I was not remotely interested. If anything, he was that short, slightly chubby guy. We met again and again and I felt nothing. I wasn't...
    MD122 MD122 26-30, F 20 hrs ago

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    So happy that did the roles have someone

    switched and mm seems to be fueling and driving this more. He calls he texts he face times first the minute he thinks I'm done with work he calls to see what my plans are for the evening and asks if he's going to see me where in the past he Lake roundabout allusions to getting...
    justinsneedow justinsneedow 41-45, F 4 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    If me and my mm are just friends now.

    Why is he blowing me kisses and whistling at me?
    tc57 tc57 31-35, F 3 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    I just got off a wonderful surprise video chat

    with my MM. The first one since his surgery. It was short, but he looks so good. He's not in a lot of pain, mostly just when he has to get up and move around. He's bored with being stuck in bed. [Told him he wouldn't be if I was there...you know, I'd read books to him ;-) ] He...
    whynot13 whynot13 46-50, F 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    I am all over the place in my head today.

    as the weekend nears I have an internal panic that mm will choose to go out of town to see daughter. he mentioned it once but changed his mind when I reminded him of super bowl thene said I could go if he goes. I told him he owed me a month of a lot of attention after the...
    justinsneedow justinsneedow 41-45, F 4 Responses 56 mins ago

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 10 Responses Feb 13, 2014

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 31 Responses Sep 23, 2014

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 67 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 20 Responses Jan 2, 2014

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 164 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    I had my no contact for month ,

    yesterday I call him to tell him I've already move out from the love nest that he rent for me and I left something there . at first he sounded frustrated , he ask me not to leave anything there so that he can just stop the rental by giving agent a call without travelling 4 hours...
    Pocarii Pocarii 26-30, F 2 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    When he says he's feeling guilty does

    that mean he's on his way out ?
    kringle6691 kringle6691 46-50, F 22 Responses 1 day ago

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    I feel MM pulling away from me.

    He doesn't talk to me as much anymore. Evening and weekend talk is almost nonexistent. The flirty banter we used to have is almost gone. I feel like I've done something wrong to make him not like me, or that I'm not keeping his interest anymore. I've asked him why he's not as...
    AmyFarrahFowler AmyFarrahFowler 31-35, F 4 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 49 Responses Jan 10

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 20 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 20 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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