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I Am The Other Woman

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 81 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    Interesting.....he gets online to tell me

    that the tickets he bought to take his wife to an event today were scalped and thats how his credit card numbers got stolen.... There is so much wrong here... am I crazy? I am wanting to send some smart *** reply back and block him.
    blue963 blue963 51-55, F 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 68 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 208 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 16 Responses May 4

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    Looking forward to work on Monday.

    My time off was refreshing but I'm ready to see him again. As much as I hate not being with him, we definitely share more when we just talk. He's had some crappy days and I'm glad he's been able to talk to me about them.
    surfsway surfsway 36-40, F 17 Responses 1 day ago

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    Times that I am glad we don't live together:

    food poisoning. I'm going to go out on a limb and say that while vomiting, in general, is unpleasant, vomiting up salad is definitely in the top 5 worst experiences.
    lostanddistraught lostanddistraught 22-25, F 4 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 20 Responses Jul 30

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    Wife who cheated on their husband still get

    jealous and doesn't want him to leave and/or have gf ? I don't understand ... :/
    oxoi oxoi 26-30, F 2 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    Quick qu-my guy is back home

    for Xmas. He told me ages back he had plans to see his friend and a family party. Friend was yesterday/last night and party all day today. He was so quiet yesterday, Altho a txt every hour or so. Same today. He then apologised just now for it. I said don't be daft. But really, I...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 3 Responses 54 mins ago

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    Women won't mess with a man

    that lives with his mom but will mess with a man who lives with his wife.
    reeessa reeessa 13-15, F 29 Responses Oct 23

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 162 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    Hello ladies. Though I don't post here much

    anymore, I still come here to read through the posts, especially lately. Although I am no longer the OW, I immediately feel a connection to anyone who is or has been. I know that deep love, sadness, NC, and sometimes jealousy that most of us all go through. I haven't spoken to...
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 31-35, F 3 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 40 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 9 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    Advice please? My guy has called every day.

    We talk for at least half an hour. And also some emails in between. Not a ton of contact because of family around but always at least 1 or 2 long conversations by phone and some emails But he has been in WORST mood - tone by phone and email is just dead. He is usually super...
    needfixin needfixin 41-45, F 4 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 20 Responses Jan 2

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    "If you want me, earn me" - Olivia Pope.

    http://youtu.be/8dhV4-0rXo8
    oxoi oxoi 26-30, F 2 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    Did he wish you a merry Christmas?

    Mines away with family and we haven't talked but every morning he had contacted me in some was so far.. He sends mixed signals a lot and this is our third Christmas holiday in the affair.. And he always has went real quiet during them so I expected that but this has been much...
    Missmetomorrow Missmetomorrow 22-25, F 8 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 85 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 55 Responses Nov 6

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 79 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    Hahahahahaha, I know he's not real

    but I do get a kick out of ToBad8. Can't even spell his name right. Soon after calling him on his lies I was blocked. As if we didn't know who he was anyway.
    surfsway surfsway 36-40, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    Is there a quick fix to mend a broken heart?

    anything I can buy to numb the pain?
    Imbrokenhearted Imbrokenhearted 36-40, F 5 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 10 Responses Feb 13

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 24 Responses May 6

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 16 Responses Jun 2

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    Am I missing something?

    ? He's supposedly stressed, obviously not happy be cause he's having an affairs but yet last night they went to see her family. He said He has plans on leaving but if that's the case, why are you attending family gatherings or going to see her family?? He could stay home while...
    Truone16 Truone16 31-35, F 4 Responses 1 hr ago

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    darned FB. She posted a pic

    and some common friends liked and unfortunately i saw. Sitting all cozy at a holiday event with arm wrapped around his both all smiles. And sure I wont hear from him again today. To be honest feeling pretty lousy today.
    blue963 blue963 51-55, F 8 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 51 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 18 Responses Sep 10

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    So mm and I were texting today.

    After what happened Xmas eve I haven't been able to really sleep or eat or anything. I laid awake until 5am last night terrified waiting for the guy to come back. Anyways....I ended up telling mm today what happened. He told me if he comes back to text him and he'll put his...
    PrincessLolita PrincessLolita 26-30, F 2 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    He said he was going to a black tie event -

    and was going to send me a picture of him. I flew into a rage. I told him I didn't want a picture of him on a date night with his wife. Then I told him I hope he has a great time with the women he tricked me into helping him cheat on! I will never go to any event with him! I...
    caddriss caddriss 36-40, F 3 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Tonight will be our first full night together.

    No time constraints. No looking over our shoulders. We have a suite booked with a fireplace. Sushi & wine. I am so looking forward to 8 hours of normalcy. It is crazy we have never even eaten together. We spend our blips of time only focused on eachother. We get to talk for...
    tauriangirl tauriangirl 36-40, F 27 Responses Nov 15

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 46 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    I don't know who on this earth is more

    compassionate ,loving,caring then my MM..... I have bruised ribs and never been in so much pain and he knows how to make that pain go away and ,make me feel good.. OMG never had this before
    peachy115 peachy115 51-55, F 5 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    As you may have read my recent posts had to

    contact my ex MM. Well to me he took what I told him well considering. But we are close again it seems because of this. He made a joke saying he will takecare of me. The weird thing I said was going my mums and he asked me something. We can never go there in terms of having sex...
    stupid28 stupid28 31-35, F 21 hrs ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 148 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 41 Responses Feb 24

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    So dreading this next weekend .

    .. Will have no contact for 10 days due to a trip with his family. We haven't gone a day without communicating in over a year! How can I get through this????
    confusedhearts confusedhearts 41-45, F 22 mins ago

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 31 Responses Sep 23

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    The more and more I read the experiences on

    here the more convinced I am that there is hardly any hope for OW! No offense ladies, I am on this wagon too. It just seems that being the OW entails of waiting on him for trickles of 'love' and attention. The only time many of us light up is the times spent together or put...
    Strang3r Strang3r 22-25, F 10 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 103 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 20 Responses Apr 18

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    What is the matter with me?

    I've been gone for a week. He has texted and called constantly. He has been texting all morning. He will be here in about an hour and a half for a bike ride. For some reason he is only coming with enough time for my small window before I have to take my daughter somewhere. And...
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 6 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 50 Responses Feb 16

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 17 Responses Apr 19

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    Everybody is moving on with their life,

    and I'm stuck here hoping for a text that's not gonna come. Just some kind of acknowledgement that I meant something to you at one time. I wish I could go to sleep and when I wake up all the pain would be over.
    Blueeyes65 Blueeyes65 46-50, F 8 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    I love sucking on big ample boobs any real

    busty ladies with a personality n don't rip pics of the net and bit scared to show their face let's chat uk based plz
    TeddyboyUK72 TeddyboyUK72 41-45, M 46 mins ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    I miss him... We communicate everyday,

    but I want him in my arms.
    lonelyone80 lonelyone80 31-35, F 2 Responses 4 hrs ago

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