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I Am The Other Woman

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 48 Responses Jan 10

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 54 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 27 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    I caved :-( I sent him a msg to tell him about

    my work news. he seen the msg but didn't reply. Damn that weak moment. I was doing so well..........
    Livealifeyoulove Livealifeyoulove 36-40, F 7 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 50 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    Excited for tomorrow night!

    Our first night together being single yay :) I'm looking forward to seeing how it feels, like will he be more giving and touchy feely and will I feel less nervous to hold him because he's not someone else's? Not that I felt that before but it did hold me back a bit, letting...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 9 Responses 1 day ago

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    As I posted on Monday,

    I decided that day to "stop rowing our boat" for some time, and see if MM starts rowing with me, since I felt that I had been giving too much and not receiving what I once did in our relationship. It's Wednesday afternoon and I still haven't heard from him. It hurts. We almost...
    ladyquaintrelle ladyquaintrelle 22-25, F 8 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Do you ever have anxiety

    so bad that it paralyzes you. ....After it's over. It's been over since November. Sometimes my thoughts get carried away and I can't breathe. Is this all there is? Lonely marriages and possibilities of affairs that cause so much stress and anxiety that it isn't worth it in the...
    Tapeti Tapeti 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I think I'm addicted to my MM's daily texts,

    the daily distraction from all the stresses of the day it provided me. Anyone have good ideas on things to replace that with? (Besides EP-lol)
    Journeys2013 Journeys2013 41-45, F 3 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    I really need a friend.

    Feeling terribly alone and it's finally eating up at me. If anyone of you ladies could inbox me and help me out, I'd appreciate it... Only if you're willing to deal with a long story lol. Thanks
    lostmyself19 lostmyself19 18-21, F 4 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 47 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Haven't posted for a bit.

    I know a lot of you don't agree with my choices and think I should just leave my husband if I'm still going to be with MM. It's just not that simple. Okay so here's the update: I'll start with H. We went to that marriage retreat. It was great and it's teaching us how to get...
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 6 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Dear W: I am the OW. I know you've heard my

    name. I know you know of me. You don't know that your H was with me from March through September. You don't know that in September I was the one who told him if he felt like he needed to work on his family then he needed to do that; you don't know that in addition to his deep...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 5 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    I know for some being the OW maybe very

    challenging and only you will know when its time to walk away or hold on and fight for the man you love. I just hope that all my ladies out here find out sooner than later if the MM is worth it or not. Today my co-worker broke down during our lunch break and decided to let...
    4everhislady 4everhislady 36-40, F 8 Responses 1 day ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 70 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    NO LONGER THE OTHER WOMAN!

    !! I am now the only woman :) it has been officially ended this morning, he was straight on the phone to me who was awesome at playing it cool despite up all night worrying! He was going to come over but we both decided against it as he needs time to recover maybe. He has gone...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 14 Responses Mar 21

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 88 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    bethcc11 bethcc11 26-30, F 13 hrs ago

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    He called around to my home today.

    First time since I told him I needed space to focus on my daughter. He wanted to see her and find out how she was doing. He brought food, and dessert and she was so pleased to see him. He stayed for a few hours, gaming with the kids, and we all sat together, watching a movie...
    typist123 typist123 36-40, F 3 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    Well officially 3 weeks

    since I've heard from him. I got good news in work today and it was something he knew I was waiting for. I so wanted to call or text him. But I didn't...... still hanging in there x
    Livealifeyoulove Livealifeyoulove 36-40, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    Needing help with no contact?

    I found an app that helps, it is amazing! get it at the app store. It is called "No Contact". It truly helps! No Contact Rule by Melissa Hardy https://appsto.re/us/oEjP3.i
    liberty2014 liberty2014 36-40, F 7 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    Day 3 NC. I'm hurting.

    It's my idea. He says he's going to leave her, and that he will love me until the day he dies. But it hurts so much to not be his priority- even if it is due to circumstances. MM- I miss our good morning and good night texts. I miss your poetic way with words. I miss the...
    Journeys2013 Journeys2013 41-45, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Well - one solid month

    and not word one. LOL ..... I didn't expect it because I called him on all his lies, his wife's lies and made a scene at the base. LOL I never imagined what a coward he really was. I was SO stupid for believing in someone that just didn't exist! NO ONE knows this person - not...
    kitty1958 kitty1958 56-60, F 2 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    I initially wrote this in response to someone

    else's question-"what would you ask your MM" but now I wonder if anyone else wonders this as well.... "I always, always want to ask if there is anyone else. I think I know deep down that there's not but I've seen him around other women and I don't know if I'm reading into...
    lotsofquestions86 lotsofquestions86 26-30, F 5 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 16 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    Moving Closer to Authenticity.

    ... Every Day i receive a Good morning message that simply Delights Me... It's made more marvelous by the fact that we live in different timezones.... His day begins, closer to my sunset when my workday has slowed down to a glorious quiet.. when my whole being can be transported...
    warriormama warriormama 41-45, F 7 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 19 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 154 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 6

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    "The Broken Woman" are we responsible

    for protecting our own hearts? If we seen a burning bridge would we still be so willing to walk across for the sake of having a lil piece of him? Will he ever see the pain he caused us or feel the emptiness we carry in our hearts when we cant get not even 80% of him, will he...
    4everhislady 4everhislady 36-40, F 5 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 15 Responses May 4, 2014

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    Just took my first pregnancy test

    since being i this whole thing.. It's negative. But I'm still late. Fml right now.
    Missmetomorrow Missmetomorrow 22-25, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 27 Responses Mar 22

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    So this week has been interesting.

    It's hard to explain. But new sex stuff was ******* fun! We are gonna try some super crazy stuff soon.... Well if they don't implode. Ehhh even if they do. Either way, I ain't mad. Also, Mrs. Please stop asking me to give your husband *******. I know you don't want to sleep...
    BobbyBlack7589 BobbyBlack7589 22-25, F 1 day ago

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    You have got to read this book!

    !! The Other Woman Code Of Conduct by Kiki Richardson The Other Woman Code of Conduct by KiKi Richardson https://itun.es/us/wc1sz. I am overwhelmed!!!
    liberty2014 liberty2014 36-40, F 5 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    Thought I would give you some insights from

    what I have found from mine and my best friend's experience; things We ignored because We wanted to, but now we realise what is what. Is mm constantly asking for naughty pics, meeting for sex without the dates but full of promises for the future, but never ever in public? It's...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 2 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 41 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 31 Responses Sep 23, 2014

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 87 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    So who here is a big book nerd like me?

    I wanted to let you all know about this guy who has never written a book before but documented his affair and turned it into a book. I could not put it down! He is so amazingly honest about his feelings I could feel everything he was going through. He turns out to be nice nice...
    joyfulcloudofsorrow joyfulcloudofsorrow 31-35, F 6 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 51 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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