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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 15 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    Basically how I am feeling through a series of

    quotes. It has surely been a roller-coaster of emotions these last few days. I just want things back to normal. :( God is up to something. There is a reason why you went through what you went through. Trust the process. He’s got you! We assume others show love the same way...
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 3 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    MM finally texted me about 3 hours ago.

    Let me know he was back in town safely and meetings were good. I know I should be happy but over the last few days, I've been filled with much hurt and anger. All I could get out was 'I'm glad things went well.'
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    There seems to be a lull in the fighting .

    Considering the circumstances . I'm not ready for battle every waking second as has been the case for months now. It's taken a bit of a toll on me . I'm still waking in the middle of the night , heart pounding like crazy .wondering if I'm about to have a heart attack. I then...
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    'You are cheating, you're a cheater,

    you opened your legs and yes of course he came running, any man would! You disgust me and I hope our daughter doesn't get told to go after another woman's man when she's older, maybe you she tell her now what you're doing wrong'. Nice little quote from the ex husband to be...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 19 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    so he is guilt tripping the **** out of/me!

    ! he is saying things that he knows is going to make me worried and he is only saying them because he isn't getting his way... ugh y does he have to do this today...
    emeraldprincess1003 emeraldprincess1003 22-25, F 2 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    Call me a Slot if make feel better about

    yourself, if you need to bring me down by calling me a slot. Your jealous cause you can't be me. Is because I like being nude?
    ForbiddenFruitLove95 ForbiddenFruitLove95 18-21, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 28 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Dancing the night away .

    It's been too many years to count since those disco nights. Frolicking around the dance floor with a few top buttons on my shirt undone to show the start of chest hair , that was supposed to be sexy, or was it the way I danced , it definitely wasn't that, because I've 2 left...
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 6 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    So I think MM is about to break up with me.

    He replied back and I took that opportunity to ask him if we were ok. He relied back; 'Last weekend, or whenever it was, was pretty harsh. I can only think it's not the last time. Whats gonna happen when I go to NY in a few weeks for a grad party and go on vacation this...
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    He is back today from his home.

    His flight was canceled in the morning, he sent me message just to inform he would be flying in the evening flight, and at the end of it he said don't reply me. He was scared i would send him message, before he left his home. Now he reached, he sent me message said "i miss you...
    angelamaxy angelamaxy 22-25 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 6

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    He came over first thing yesterday morning

    and weed whacked and mowed my big back yard which we were referring to as the Serengetti. I hadn't mowed it since I bought the house. It Was a major project. It took him hours- he was determined. I made him coffee, lay in the sun in underwear and watched him. taking pictures...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 2 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 86 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 54 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    yes I unfortunately have been in an affair

    for eleven years. I love him more than life itself and in the meantime lost who I am. just looking for people to talk to on here, this is a lonely lifestyle to live.
    thisjadedangel thisjadedangel 36-40, F 12 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    I think he sucks the life out of me.

    He takes all of my positive energy and feeds off of it for the week. I then feel absolutely depressed after the initial high wears off- hours after. Things are the way they are. He will never leave his home, I don't know if I would either. I am starting to see his age more...
    shitbyrd shitbyrd 36-40, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 13 Responses Apr 19

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 17 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 23 Responses Apr 30

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    It's been hard for both of us this week.

    We look at each other while on video chat and the desire is so strong you could cut it. Our time that was suppose to be coming in June has fallen apart, on my side this time. So now we are looking for August. One full year from our first time. How could have a year slipped...
    whynot13 whynot13 46-50, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 205 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    So disappointed:( W stayed home from work today.

    There goes our day. Probably won't see him until Monday now. On the bright side I'll catch up on housework and go meet up with a friend. Enjoy your day every one!
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 5 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    "If it wasn't for you I wouldn't have cheated

    again.... I had 7 years without cheating and didn't even think about it.... After you I don't see myself doing it again or at least not for a very long time" 😕 I never pursued you... You approached me... You went and asked me for my number... Yes I found you attractive, but...
    Lilypad718 Lilypad718 31-35, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 153 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    I am not the OW, but I'm

    so proud of you ladies. You go through hell and back for these men. You love, comfort, support, and love these men. I do not know how you do it. I read your stories and I'm in awe....sheer breathtaking, gutwrenching, heartbreaking, overwhelming, love-infused awe of you all...
    soldiergirl2 soldiergirl2 41-45, F 11 Responses Apr 6

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 22 Responses Mar 22

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 51 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    I'm trying to find a hotel/motel with a

    waterbed. Not coming up with anything. One of MM fantasies is to have us on a waterbed with bottles of oil. I really really want to make this happen for his bday next week. I know if I can't find one my backup plan is to get plastic drop sheets to put on top o the bed.
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 4 hrs ago

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    Were we meant to be able to take all this pain?

    Sometimes I think I've taken too many wrong turns. I thought I truly loved him, and he I. We said our goodbyes 9 months ago, when life moved us away from each other. He and W had their first baby, the same day H and I finalized our divorce. He reached out a few times over the...
    ijustkeepswimming ijustkeepswimming 31-35, F 5 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 78 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 19 Responses Mar 25

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 74 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    I'm spoiled by my MM.

    I realize this. Many of you don't even live near your guy. Your relationships are built on video chat and text, seeing each other every couple of months. All of you who are in these types of situations are much stronger than I am! I have a hard time venting because I realize...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 5 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    So in the biggest and most annoying of

    coincidences, I heard from my ex-MM today. But he didn't know it was me. You see, a year ago, I signed up for one of those free texting apps so I could text with him. Well, that was short lived because his W goes through the phone bill with a fine toothed comb. He never saved...
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 36-40, F 6 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 155 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 48 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    I know that I am not his first,

    second, or even third priority, but I want to be more than just a convenience to him. I want him to put some effort into me. Into us. I know what this is and I don't have expectations for more. However I have a family and responsibilities as well, but I have always managed to...
    solace73 solace73 41-45, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I lay in bed , I listen

    as the calm of the evening takes over. The peace and tranquility is priceless . I wonder what your doing right now . Are you sipping coffee , are you reading my thoughts . Have you been able to calm my mood , my feeling of desperation my love . As you stroll around the garden...
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 15 hrs ago

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    UPDATE: MM and I had a looooong chat last night

    and this morning. It got off to a shaky start and we were both defensive. He said we needed to think about the "type of relationship" we have. I offered to walk away... But what I love about us is our deep connection and understanding. The ability to be completely open and...
    daisyblue222 daisyblue222 41-45, F 9 Responses 1 day ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 93 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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