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I Am The Other Woman

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 170 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    Looking back it is funny how easily I fell into

    the trap of becoming 'the other woman.' The first flash of distress - a wounded soul no less, and I dived into the murky water. He told me that I was his oxygen. I was a mermaid Saint Bernard with the reviving elixir strapped to my neck. Strangely, I found two unmarried men...
    Faerylight Faerylight 41-45, F 17 Responses Jun 21

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    So I guess I can't be too upset

    that MM wasn't here for my birthday considering that today is his W's birthday and he has left out of town on business. I am hoping I get to see him at the end of this week before he heads out again for a huge bid defense. This once every two weeks stinks and I seriously miss...
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 1 Response 10 hrs ago

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    Being the OW, no matter how you look at it can

    be a very difficult journey and I believe we meet people for that reason. Along with reconnecting with my MM again who stole my heart 13 years ago, I have also met some amazing, strong women on here who are so brave and even through their pain are able to still give love. I...
    Aisurukoto Aisurukoto 41-45, F 10 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    11 long, terrible, days.

    When I have moments of acceptance that it's over, all I do is cry. Crying is a norm now. Then I have these moments of maybe it's not over ?? If I just give it some time ...? In those moments I'm at least not crying. Then the moments where I realize he goes on life as usual with...
    elizabethmariejazz elizabethmariejazz 36-40, F 9 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Do you ladies celebrate milestones with your

    MM/AP? He made mention of our "anniversary" a couple of weeks ago. It actually falls on a day after he returns from a week long trip so I know we won't see each other, as he will need to be home after having been gone. He is always full of surprises though, not getting my...
    SunshineGrey78 SunshineGrey78 36-40, F 4 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    Sometimes it truly is the simple things

    that matter the most...... MM headed out of town for business today. Whenever he goes to this one town, he stays at a hotel that is on the waterway and every time he is there, he sends me a pic of the sunset by the pier. Today he sent me another one with a sad face 'no sunset...
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    myrtle67 myrtle67 26-30, F 2 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 15 Responses Feb 6

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    I fully love him and I somewhat hate him

    simultaneously. Lately I have had intentions on ending this relationship, yet everytime I get a message,a call or a visit I turn into mush. For the past 2 years, I have been in love with a man that told me he was divorcing, had divorce papers filed and it was coming very soon. I...
    solost17 solost17 41-45, F 35 mins ago

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 22 Responses Mar 22

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    ...today is the day he's suppose to receive

    that Edible Arrangement I sent early Sunday morning ..main so nervous and unsure of what's going to happen ......[deeeep breath].......holy ****. I feel trouble is coming my way ....oooh
    plusisamust plusisamust 26-30, F 8 hrs ago

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 18 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    To hate, to love. He's the center of my world

    right now. Things have gotten rough between us. He's kinda of seeing the light on his mistake. If I show him the real extent of this hurt he will run away. To tell or not to tell.
    coolvolatile coolvolatile 31-35, F 2 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    b4realz b4realz 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 48 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 14 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 160 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    So my life feels like it's falling apart.

    The project I'm working on at work is just about over and with it comes the end of my job. Feels like I was sold ocean front property in the middle of the desert. I've been with the company for 5 years and when I was offered this job 2 years ago, I was promised that we were...
    Arubaskies Arubaskies 41-45, F 4 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    So it's been a little over a month

    that I haven't talked to mm. I seen him cause he's a close of the family but the last time I saw him was about two weeks & I honestly could say I'm doing better. I don't miss him as much.
    confused7years confused7years 36-40, F 2 hrs ago

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    OH. MY. GOD. It's final,

    he's single, and as of 9:37am today I am no longer the OW!!!
    Shardsofsorrow Shardsofsorrow 31-35, F 91 Responses 5 days ago

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    Guess it's time for an update

    as it's been awhile and as always so much has happened. Last update was things were still over with MM and exMM and I ended things yet again. I had randomly run into my high school love. Okay we will start with exMM. He only stayed away a day. Things have changed drastically...
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 4 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Finally got some good news this morning.

    Turns out my husbands work decided to keep him but they are putting him on contract. Which means he's not considered a full time employee anymore, so no benefits or anything. They've given him an end date of November 4th. It's not perfect but it's much better than being...
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 3 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    I love looking up and seeing his smile.

    It's perfect. Somehow it has the power to make me forget everything that's attached to him and reminds me that in those moments, it's just us.
    kc5316 kc5316 22-25, F 1 Response 14 hrs ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 53 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 24 Responses Apr 30

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 50 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    I'd like to be my old self again,

    but I'm still trying to find it... :'(
    subgirl26 subgirl26 22-25, F 3 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 41-45, F 75 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 78 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    Ding dong crazy w (witch) reappeared!

    She showed up at his house last night (at bedtime for the kids), with a police officer and her boyfriend to retrieve her things, even though she can't be within 1000 feet of the kids. She claims to have a paper that says she can enter the house, but she didn't have it...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 4 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    Her birthday is tomorrow.

    I only know because we are supposed to be swimming on Tuesdays and he said "I'm not doing any training tomorrow". When I asked why he hesitated and told me. I then pictured their evening, him making her dinner, giving her gifts, her smiling. Ugg! I hate this. I know when we...
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 9 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 29 Responses May 6, 2014

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    Sorry EP my mistake !

    !! and thanks John for your advice on posting much appreciated. I managed it. Silly me What a saga. would like any comments from OW's and OM. Wives need not apply. on the Posts 1-3 Thanks
    LotusLIL LotusLIL 46-50, F 14 hrs ago

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    My love. My angel. The woman I am supposed to

    be with. You can call me any one of these things. You can tell me we will get married after my boys finish school and your daughter is older and can understand. We can plan where we are going to move. We can say we want a house, a pool, a man cave for you, huge closets for...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 2 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    My husband and I are talking about trying to

    have a baby. MM knew this would come eventually, we have talked about it a few times, but I haven't told him yet that it's now a real possibility. Even though I've been slowly pulling away and I have been feeling like things between us are ending, it's still hard and I don't...
    DarlingEll DarlingEll 26-30, F 2 hrs ago

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    I'm dating a MM for almost 4 years ,

    he used to have a dysfunctional marriage ,his wife was cheating so was he,but now that he announced he wants to return to his country, she is changing around,she is cooking everyday,which she never used to do,she takes him in dates.He never used to really care to go home late at...
    myrtle67 myrtle67 26-30, F 14 hrs ago

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    I see my mm 2-3 times a week.

    It's been going on for years. Three years ago my H went on second shift so I am available every night, much like a single woman would be. My mm has a wife at home waiting for him every night. Anyways for most of our affair it's been me sending messages asking to hook up, I'd...
    Janna78 Janna78 46-50, F 2 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 51 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    Do any of you OW feel guilty,

    like you're betraying your AP's spouse? I don't even know MM's W, but it feels like a serious violation of the "female code" to sleep with another woman's man. Some have said that what the spouse doesn't know won't hurt them, but I'm not sure that's true. If the husband is...
    ashadams244 ashadams244 26-30, F 9 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    NO LONGER THE OTHER WOMAN!

    !! I am now the only woman :) it has been officially ended this morning, he was straight on the phone to me who was awesome at playing it cool despite up all night worrying! He was going to come over but we both decided against it as he needs time to recover maybe. He has gone...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 12 Responses Mar 21

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    Ever have days where you just feel like giving

    up? I mean he hasn't done anything wrong really. But I'm questioning everything. Like maybe it'd be easier to stop now because most likely one day it'll all end in a lot of pain anyway. So maybe I should just cut out the middle and skip to the end to save myself from more hurt...
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 11 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    I'm just curious on something

    that may be flirting. So if you guys can shed some light on it that would be great. Let's say you have an apron on and a guy comes up behind you trying to untie it and whether he be successful or not at untying it is that flirting?
    devin456 devin456 41-45, F 1 Response 7 hrs ago

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    Thanks ladies for everything

    but I'm deleting my account. I just didn't get the support I thought I would all bc my married men are my bosses. It's ok I do have a friend who understands and is helping me thru this. Good luck to you all.
    devin456 devin456 41-45, F 3 hrs ago

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