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I Am The Other Woman

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    Our Saturday morning run got rained out.

    A lot of street flooding in the city this morning. I honestly wasn't bummed out. It's to be excepted for this time of year. We texted on our way to yoga. The sun was shinning when I left practice. I always feel even better after yoga. We talked yesterday about how happy...
    Randomgirl1122 Randomgirl1122 31-35, F 2 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 152 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 18 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    It's been a great week

    for me. I know I started of strong thinking I could walk away lol. But he was just so loving this week. Gave me lots of attention and wants to know if we are feeling the same way about each other. We are planning a night together (his idea not mine). I am excited a whole night...
    OneStonedGirl OneStonedGirl 31-35, F 1 Response 16 hrs ago

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    I made a treasure map (it's like a vision board

    for life) in January. It was designed to help me grow this year and heal. What I wanted to see accomplished in 2015. On my treasure map I listed what I wanted this year for myself: relationship with self including the sub categories of learning to be alone, letting go, etc...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 6 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    I reconnected with a old male friend .

    He tells me that he's married for 16 years.That he has a female friend for go good 10 years , Who is also married That friendship sure did change to bff to an emotional affair ,then physical ....They feel in love and were going to leave each others spouse to be together ..But it...
    peachy115 peachy115 51-55, F 11 hrs ago

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    I don't know if I was overly sensitive.

    .. so last night, OM and I met up, and we made love again. it was incredible for both of us, it always is.. makes me feel connected to him. but as soon as we finished, he saw a message come through on his phone, it was his girlfriend, and he responded right away. it bothered...
    gianneisstuck gianneisstuck 31-35, F 10 Responses 1 day ago

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 51 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 15 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    He is now invading my dreams most nights,

    as well as being in my thoughts every minute of everyday. Cant I just have 5 minutes peace when he's not in my head. It would make the heartache a little bit easier.
    Prettybutterfly88 Prettybutterfly88 26-30, F 2 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    I am so, so damn lucky!

    I am incredibly blessed. I am going to marry him.
    Randomgirl1122 Randomgirl1122 31-35, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 26 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 15 Responses May 4, 2014

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    SUSTAINING GROWTH! Through relationship

    characteristics. The OW forum is full of love ! I joke its power could hold the secret of regenerating a new life form. It is full of stories of OW falling in love, navigating taboos, getting explosively intimate quickly deeply. However the stories of happy committed women...
    warriormama warriormama 41-45, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    How do you move on from this?

    ? How do you move on knowing he loves you and you love him? Ugh. This is soooooo hard. It's all I can do to make it through a day without crying, today I cried on my way home. It's soooooo hard. How can someone be married but fall in love with someone else? If everything...
    PrincessLolita PrincessLolita 26-30, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 47 Responses Jan 10

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    I've tried to get the story below up

    and running , now banned 10 times. Nothing over the top . So I've posted in the response section below, let me know what you think please ?
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 2 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    It was an incredible week.

    Day 5, no tears, although I did come close today. He couldn't stop telling me how gorgeous I was today. Every time I would turn around. Met at our special spot after work for 5 minutes. Just kissing before the weekend... I wasn't going to ask him on our phone call home about all...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 41 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    I hope that everyone is having a good day!

    So far today has been great here.
    memery7 memery7 46-50, F 1 Response 18 hrs ago

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    Question for the OW that are married

    or in their own relationship also. Do you find it harder and harder to be intimate with your partners? How do you deal with this?
    joyfulcloudofsorrow joyfulcloudofsorrow 31-35, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 6

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    MRGFF MRGFF 36-40, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    NO LONGER THE OTHER WOMAN!

    !! I am now the only woman :) it has been officially ended this morning, he was straight on the phone to me who was awesome at playing it cool despite up all night worrying! He was going to come over but we both decided against it as he needs time to recover maybe. He has gone...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 14 Responses Mar 21

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 52 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    Update. So he was supposed to tell his W this

    weekend but just found out his best friend's kid is in serious condition after a car accident. So now it won't happen this weekend. I feel terrible for everyone involved but there's always a reason. So I guess I stay once again. I can't even believe I'm in this situation.
    heartbroken1234 heartbroken1234 36-40, F 2 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    Banning my entry ( story posting ) I'm on

    that subject yet again . EP censorship . It's the most ridiculous aspect of this site that causes severe annoyance to me. I can understand if it's my grammar or punctuation . Because that annoys the hell out of me as well. I know there's an appeal process , which is pure...
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 7 hrs ago

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    Just a few questions

    for kindred spirits in this group :) 1. Do your APs run kinda hot and warm (won't say cold) but up and down? Sometimes it's like he can't get enough and it's intense and others it's just a bit low ( hard to explain). 2. I know some work with their AP so "see" them most days but...
    onlymeonlyme onlymeonlyme 46-50, F 11 Responses 1 day ago

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    My guy is showing some signs of frustration.

    Family stuff has been building this week. Wife's upset with their house since seeing the new house her sister just bought. Son just broke up with long distance 4 month girl friend (only seeing each other every other week was to hard, really can we talk about 5 months). 30 year...
    whynot13 whynot13 46-50, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    I'm not going to win any "Best OW" award.

    I let fear and envy keep me from him. I let my desire to be first with him for a day keep me from seeing him at all. He's angry and he should be. I'm just sad.
    yourlastlove yourlastlove 51-55, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 28 Responses May 6, 2014

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    Missing you. I miss you .

    I miss the way you Look into my eyes . I know your away for a few days . We Skype , we ignite . Why are we so far away ? Why is it so hard ? I'm only thinking about you. You love me . You show me how life can be so delightful . Hold my hand and hug me. I miss you . I love you...
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 1 day ago

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    This is probably the dumbest story I've ever

    posted but this is bothering me and EP is all about sharing. So my b/f mm of 10 years is at the rock and roll hall of fame this weekend. Escorting and probably hanging out with celebrities. Last week he was in the Swiss alps with a multi million dollar friend/boss from work. I...
    Janna78 Janna78 46-50, F 4 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 153 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 79 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    Today is a bad day...

    But I'll get through it because i have to.
    Prettybutterfly88 Prettybutterfly88 26-30, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Where do I begin? Didn't cry today.

    Took my daughter on a grand adventure while MM took his child (and W) to a local event. Saw his pictures on IG, none with her as per usual. He was texting all day, and did start off my morning with a call. I posted this morning about the treasure map and how I cut out the...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 168 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 85 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    (See previous OW posts) Yesterday afternoon,

    the couple invited me out for a late lunch. They live on a big ranch, and since the weather was so nice, I enjoyed having lunch outdoors in the nude. They have a beautiful large deck area right next to their pool and since their property is very large, there is a ton of...
    DesiredEmily DesiredEmily 22-25, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 31 Responses Sep 23, 2014

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 89 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 18 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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