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I Am The Other Woman

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 84 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    I wanted to post this

    as a comment to Surfsway's last post....enjoy :) lol
    ynoTme83 ynoTme83 31-35, F 3 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 8 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    Updating my hickie situation.

    My mm gave me one that was so obvious I had no idea how to hide it. After trying everything ICE did the trick. 20 min on it a couple times a day will make it look way better and disappear fast. Don't do the twisting chapstick top or the spoon or even the coin. The ice really...
    kylee2013 kylee2013 36-40, F 21 mins ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 80 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    Ok ladies! It's been a week

    since I asked all of you to post some tips and tricks on how you have helped yourself to try and move away from the situation we have all placed ourselves in. Now we all wanna know who tried some this week, and what were your results! I had reposted an awesome tip from...
    LightningXIII LightningXIII 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Women won't mess with a man

    that lives with his mom but will mess with a man who lives with his wife.
    reeessa reeessa 13-15, F 29 Responses Oct 23

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 24 Responses May 6

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    Have any of you heard of Sunny Sweeney.

    I was looking for some songs done from the our point of view. This woman sings from the heart, she covers many of our feelings, and a great voice.
    whynot13 whynot13 46-50, F 3 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    We slept together three days in a row last

    week-I emailed him the day after expecting LC over last weekend and expected maybe not getting a response until Monday but it's been over a week - this isn't normal behavior - he's done this once in the last 3 years. My mind is racing I'm not sure what's going on. He doesn't get...
    Readytomoveon2015 Readytomoveon2015 31-35, F 2 hrs ago

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 42 Responses Feb 24

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    So yesterday at work my MM

    and I were alone in a plane for a little bit and actually had the time to talk. We kissed here and there and it was adorable. We couldn't do much because he was training someone and they were back and forth coming up. I could tell he was soo nervous about something and he ended...
    Maybe0neday Maybe0neday 18-21, F 1 hr ago

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    Something is different.

    The dynamics are definitely changing. Our conversations are different and I almost sense some sort of need. Not quite sure what it is but he seems so vulnerable and is reaching for something.
    surfsway surfsway 36-40, F 5 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 208 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 16 Responses May 4

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    We met up this morning.

    Frankly, I needed to be held. I wish I had stayed home in my warm bed. Each and every time I leave him, I glow and burst with happiness. Today, not so much. I always get there before he does, get the room and go in. He comes in after I text him with the room number. This...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 10 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 31-35, M 17 Responses Apr 19

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 51 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    He's gonna leave his wife

    for me. We talked last week, I'd ended it with him as I just couldn't fade the risk of getting caught knowing that he didn't wAnt me. I'd loose everything for nothing. So he gets back in contact, we meet and talk and he wants me to be his wife!! He loves her as the mother of his...
    Danni11112 Danni11112 31-35, F 5 hrs ago

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    Today I feel a mixture of emotions.

    Saw the car which means his wife is there. I left home just looking over there. Then my mind was on something else. But after seeing family I came home and looked hoping car was gone and she and kids had gone away. I just feel I needed him to talk to. But deep down best we ended...
    stupid28 stupid28 31-35, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 34 Responses Sep 23

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 11

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    Well yesterday we celebrated my MM's birthday.

    I decided to take him to Disneyland, since AF decided to show up. Boy, it had a little bit of everything. We ended up having a wonderful time. Everyone would stare at us. We seemed like we were on our honeymoon. We were constantly kissing and hugging. It was so amazing. Everyone...
    4bdnluv 4bdnluv 31-35, F 2 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 17 Responses Sep 10

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    Your beauty tip of they day: Mr Clean magic

    eraser sponges takes hair dye off the skin. You're welcome ;)
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 8 hrs ago

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    Saw this and thought it perfect

    for the long distance relationships here. Love you ladies! Xoxo
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 1 hr ago

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    So I'm sure this will be the first of a few

    posts this weekend as I'm a norm on the weekends lol I'm still sick but much better than Tues so thanks for the support :) Today I was suppose to go and be with my man and he was to move out. Now he made reservations and everything and his soon to be ex came back behind him...
    ap05 ap05 26-30, F 2 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    I know there are stages of grief.

    So what I'm wondering is there a stages of being the OW?
    whynot13 whynot13 46-50, F 2 Responses 1 hr ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 46 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 20 Responses Jan 2

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    I have not written here before.

    I just am very glad there is a group like this one, to vent off steam, and I hope to be of support to others, in the days to come.
    SoulmanBillysgirl SoulmanBillysgirl 41-45, F 11 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    I've been thinking today.

    ...I had a little time to myself, thinking about the past almost 4 1/2 years, and my relationship with my OM. I thought about our really happy times, how much fun it was, how close we were, and just how happy and excited we were just to be around each other. We were lovers, but...
    LightningXIII LightningXIII 31-35, F 2 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 68 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    Who says long distance means we don't get to

    spend time together. Today I had some free time before a meeting and so went to a local museum that had a new display set up. A love of history is what actually brought us together in the beginning. My MM called me on my way to the museum, and we spent 3 hours together with...
    whynot13 whynot13 46-50, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 20 Responses Apr 18

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 40 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    What an amazing start to my weekend.

    Weekends are usually LC. So for him to make early contact was a surprise then to hear him say he would like to spend time today. We had the most amazing morning together. I love that we're just awesomely fun together. On cloud nine right now. Hope I don't crash land anytime...
    123Frozen 123Frozen 36-40, F 3 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    So... most of my life I have been closed off,

    too shy to have a serious relationship other than the typical 'holding hands' puppy dog love. That sort of changed when I turned 16. Junior year I joined backstage for the show the school was doing. There I met a lot of new friends, among them I met someone who became one of...
    GallowsCalibratorx GallowsCalibratorx 16-17, F 1 day ago

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 10 Responses Feb 13

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    Ladies, we should all feel very special.

    People seem to really enjoy dedicating their days to despising us. I even got a special shout out in this one. EP Link
    surfsway surfsway 36-40, F 23 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 161 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    Well he has spent a lot of time checking on me,

    supporting me. Very nice, but not sure. Maybe just too many emotional things going on right now
    blue963 blue963 51-55, F 4 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Tonight will be our first full night together.

    No time constraints. No looking over our shoulders. We have a suite booked with a fireplace. Sushi & wine. I am so looking forward to 8 hours of normalcy. It is crazy we have never even eaten together. We spend our blips of time only focused on eachother. We get to talk for...
    tauriangirl tauriangirl 36-40, F 30 Responses a week ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 15 Responses Jun 2

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    ap05 ap05 26-30, F 1 Response 8 hrs ago

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 56 Responses Nov 6

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    Been thinking about taking a break from mm

    for a while. I think it will help me to clear my head and figure stuff out. Have any of you taken a break from your mm? How did it go? How long did the break last?
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 3 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Back from a wonderful 2 days

    and nights with my MM. Lots of talking, drinking, eating, cuddling... Oh yeah, and tons of amazing sex and possibly the best of all... 2 nights sleeping in each others' arms. I am positively glowing :-) I know I will come crashing down soon, but wanted to share here before I...
    daisyblue222 daisyblue222 36-40, F 7 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 103 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 21 Responses Jul 30

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