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I Am The Other Woman

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 14,553 People

    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 77 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    Honestly I'd beat the life out of ANY b!

    tch who tries to ruin my family and my marriage. There's enough men out there, there's no need for sharing ladies.
    Cleopatra05 Cleopatra05 18-21, F 28 Responses Dec 28, 2015

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    It has been 28 yrs since I first walked into

    his house almost to the minute right now. This afternoon we talked about it and how it's been 15 yrs since I came back. He said, "I wish you hadn't. Because you could've found someone else and had help with the boys. I feel guilty even if you don't believe me." I told him that...
    independentandstubborn independentandstubborn 51-55, F 1 day ago

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    Best reply to a text from me.

    .. "I was just thinking about you :)" He worked on the blazer a bit and now he's working on the laptop he picked up with the motherboard I am getting. No network drivers, but he's working on it. :)
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 2 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Vodka hidden in lemonade.

    I'm killing the pain and still functioning. After confronting him, he said he walked out on two marriages before, including kids. He cannot do it to this daughter. It is amazing how I cannot get through his head that the children he left behind was due to his walking away from...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    How is it that our site is flagged; it's a pain

    for us to find it; and YET, the idiots still find us to give us their unwanted two cents. I had hoped the hidden lining would be that we could talk, support, communicate amongst ourselves.
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 9 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    Well the good news is he's been really sweet

    and loving and attentive towards me. There has been some major medical issues with me.... Was in the er all day Wed. My BP was 149/100 and I had CT head and chest scan and ecg and blood work and urine and cheek swab and they can't figure out why. My BP yest was 165/105 and the...
    ap05 ap05 26-30, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    As much as I know how he feels

    and what we are to each other for these 3 years ,I still get confused and so does he . These feelings are strong ..... Wow
    peachy115 peachy115 51-55, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    The other woman isn't always a home-wrecker.

    Sometimes she's a home-mender. I had been faithful to my dear husband for over 20 years. For many years I thought there was something wrong with me. Maybe I wasn't sexy. Why didn't he want me the way I wanted him? I grew to understand that we just had very different desire...
    livingasme livingasme 51-55, F 17 Responses May 15, 2015

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 17 Responses Mar 25, 2015

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    I have trouble transitioning in times of change.

    He was away on vacation for 8 days with the w. Got emails but they seemed so bland. No miss you or anything. The two second chat told me he's craving me Gets home and middle of the night sends me an email to let me know he's home. This morning sends an email wanting to...
    blue963 blue963 51-55, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 24 Responses Apr 30, 2015

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 51-55, F 169 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    Is she still my gf? Is she my ex?

    ? Are we "just friends"??? I surely don't know, and she doesn't know either! I love her, she loves me, I know she loves me, she knows I love her, and my wife knows all about it. My wife knows all about us, and she doesn't like it one single bit, but -- by the same token -- she...
    BinaryBill BinaryBill 61-65, M 3 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    After 2 years, he continues to surprise me

    and make me smile. We had a wonderful Friday. He just called as he had a moment outside alone. (His mother-in-law is in town). He sent me sweet text all evening last night. Tomorrow we will snuggle and watch a movie together.
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 5 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    A How To List

    Hello to everyone especially those drawn here by the Facebook postings. For the record, I am not "Keeping it real in Kendall". Since most of you are brand new to EP let me be the first to welcome you! Please take a moment to read the Terms of Service before commenting. This is a...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 100 Responses Aug 25, 2013

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    I believe at this point I am my own worst enemy.

    I need a mental sabatical. I seriously loath this sort of disgruntled me. I still can't seem to maintain the positive. I pick, peck and poke things until they are bloody and near death. Then comes the guilt and horror of damage done. I start treating and nurturing the wounds...
    infinitymdc79 infinitymdc79 36-40, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 47 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Nothing like an impromptu movie night with the

    man I love. He texted and asked when I was up to. I told him I was starting a movie and 10 minutes later..while I was waiting for a return text.. he walked in my door :)
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 3 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    inexperiencedbloke inexperiencedbloke 31-35, M 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Happy today. It's Friday.

    He has been talking about just us in the future lately. And then we get one of our Fridays together today. A long lunch at my house together, than swimming laps after work. We will get some time on Sunday as well, which will be nice. happy Friday everyone
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 167 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 47 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 15 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    Happy friday!! feeling a little blah.

    Looking for a little silly, light hearted and/ or funny stories! 1. something he does for you often to show he cares. 2. a funny story or experience 3. one thing you think is perfect about him. 4. one pet peeve or something that he does that make you less then thrilled. :)
    infinitymdc79 infinitymdc79 36-40, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    No longer!! It hurts like hell right now

    but I believe I can get through......somehow. I've been literally shaking, nauseous, and can't stay out of the bathroom most of the morning. The turn of events that have occurred today......has me sick to my stomach! I can't say that deep down im not happy that its over but...
    Lishadntplay Lishadntplay 26-30, F 2 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    Well I think it's over now.

    .. I blocked him and her and neither have attempted contact thankfully. He texted me this morning asking me if I made a fake FB profile. What the hell he doesn't even have FB. I don't know what that was about and didn't ask. Yes I went with my sister and brother in law to...
    AvaLennon1 AvaLennon1 31-35, F 1 Response 8 hrs ago

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    I have married men tied up in my basement.

    Most of them are delivery drivers. :)
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 8 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    OH. MY. GOD. It's final,

    he's single, and as of 9:37am today I am no longer the OW!!!
    Shardsofsorrow Shardsofsorrow 31-35, F 66 Responses Jul 29, 2015

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    Just before saying goodnight last night.

    . MM: I miss you... I wanna curl up..that feels so good. Me: It sure does :) Today it was extra good. MM: It was, pure intimacy, so close, omg, I still go wow (kiss emoji) Me: Yup me too. MM: I love that feeling, it is like floating ... :) Me; It is (kiss emoji) No...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 1 day ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 33 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    b4realz b4realz 26-30, F 150 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 19, 2015

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 19 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    I met a SG. A good one.

    First date at a coffee shop yesterday lasted for six hours. Just talking. And an amazing kiss afterward. Then we texted until bed. He is beautiful and sweet and smart and athletic. And he digs me a whole bunch. Best of all, he has been divorced for nearly 20 years. He was so...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 26 Responses Jan 11

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 42 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    He finally responded to me

    after over two months of the unexplained NC. He claimed he told his wife about me. Not who I was or the extent of things. He said he's faced the affair head on with his wife, his family and his therapists. He said he was sorry for leaving with no word. He said he was trying to...
    infusedheart infusedheart 31-35, F 5 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    If you told your man

    that you want out? Will he let you go ?Or will he try to make you stay ?
    peachy115 peachy115 51-55, F 14 Responses 1 day ago

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    Looking back it is funny how easily I fell into

    the trap of becoming 'the other woman.' The first flash of distress - a wounded soul no less, and I dived into the murky water. He told me that I was his oxygen. I was a mermaid Saint Bernard with the reviving elixir strapped to my neck. Strangely, I found two unmarried men...
    Faerylight Faerylight 41-45, F 19 Responses Jun 21, 2015

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 205 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 48 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    It's been two weeks since I've heard from ex-mm.

    For fourteen mornings, he's woken up with the knowledge that I'm waiting on his call to reschedule the 'date' he's been requesting for six months. It's annoying, but I haven't been letting it get me down or doubt myself like I normally do. That is, until today. I had to...
    ashadams244 ashadams244 26-30, F 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 41-45, F 73 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    UGH!! Four months of waiting

    and now we BOTH get sick - fever, chills, runny stuffy nose... And worse, this is his birthday weekend. Does anyone have any ideas what I can do for him for his birthday when I am 2 hours away? I want to show him I care! Also... Still don't know if his wife is going to visit...
    PressPToPlay PressPToPlay 46-50, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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