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I Am The Other Woman

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    Well, I believe it's really over

    for good this time. He's the one who ended it. The other times when I've tried to end it, it was all me. This time it was all him, and I tried to do what I could to make him change his mind. I'm a mess, and for sure have a broken heart. There have been incidences leading up to...
    Ditto85 Ditto85 26-30 1 hr ago

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    Yup. No response text.

    He had officially hurt and pissed me off again. He can wallow in his miserable life. I'm going to do my best to salvage mine.
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 3 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    I just know anymore I want it

    and it's soooo close I can taste it but I just don't know
    ap05 ap05 26-30, F 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Mwahhhh! I'm so upset with myself right now.

    I broke down last night and texted my OM. Was out with friends and asked him to come out. He started his reply with "Sweetie" which was the first time he's ever used a term of endearment. Needless to say, I was on cloud 9. But, I'm not gonna read anymore into it. Anyway, he...
    thatdresstho thatdresstho 41-45, F 2 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 82 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 22-25, F 19 Responses Apr 18

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 11 Responses Jun 2

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    So begins a 24 hour shift with my MM :-) it's

    gonna be a great day!!!! Hope everyone else has a great day as well!!!
    Newlife48 Newlife48 46-50, F 2 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 69 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    Hey all. Was out of town

    for the weekend trying to get my own thoughts together. A lot going on. Seriously thinking of how to proceed with my life. I am putting my relationship with my mm on hold. I need to take some time to recoup and figure out if this is what I really would like to pursue. As much...
    lilred101 lilred101 41-45, F 2 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    It freaking amazes me how he can be

    so open on the phone telling me he's in love with me and has been for awhile then in person he's completely different. Ugh and then wonders why I'm so insecure and confused in our relationship.
    ynoTme83 ynoTme83 26-30, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    My MM failed with his first love

    when he was 22. She left him for someone else but they already had a boy together. His boy was pretty bad (almost became a drug addict etc.) and he always blamed himself for that because he spoiled his son since he felt bad that his son doesnt have his mom beside him. He stayed...
    saigonrita saigonrita 26-30, F 1 Response 19 hrs ago

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    Just want to put this out there to all you

    other "other women" you keep me positive... You nail my feet to the ground... You make me smile ... You put my heart back in my chest ... Thank you and when I see you pouring your heart out I feel it... I hope all the best for everyone of you misunderstood beautiful women ... I...
    jupsta jupsta 36-40, F 8 Responses Jun 9

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    hey all ! ... this is important

    and big. can i have a small time of yours, just little.. few minutes.. i sign up here around a year back to share my story with people and i did. i expected people will help me out from my heart broken stage and yes to maximum extend people helped, thanks a lot... then i began...
    heartless2 heartless2 22-25, M 6 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 43 Responses Feb 24

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    Please, do not stop posting.

    ... I may not be the best person to make this request because I have only participated on the forum for just a few months. But I am so glad I had a place to go. I can not begin to tell you how supportive you ladies have been during my time of heart aches, up swings, troubles...
    saiyagyrl saiyagyrl 36-40, F 4 Responses May 26

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 29 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    I need feedback. His birthday today.

    He took the day off and had lunch with the W. We chatted some in the morning. Did say he wished he could see me today. (words) Said he was just going to be lazy. Have not heard from him since. He does work every week and 3 weekends out of 4 each month. Now I'm thinking...
    blue963 blue963 46-50, F 6 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 152 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    I've got sone great advice.

    In drawing my own conclusions from this affair and from people who know him their opinions. I think the wife got suspicious. She calls more comes to our work more. Doesn't go out of town like she used to. He even said she always wants to go with him when he rides his Harley. I'm...
    tc57 tc57 31-35, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 31-35, M 14 Responses Apr 19

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    I got too close to my teacher.

    I got too emotionally involved. We were more like friends, not teacher/student. Flirty friends. About 8 or 9 months after I graduated, I told him I was in love with him. He actually kept talking to me. He told me to keep emailing him and sending him funny pictures. He acted like...
    atadbitinlove atadbitinlove 18-21, F 4 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 162 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    Moving On.....I Didn'T Think I Would Ever Be Able To Say That

    I must admit that I have been pretty much obsessed over the man I cheated with. I haven't talked to him in over a year since the truth about us came out. But everyday I think about him and wonder how he is, what he is doing, how his son is, if he thinks about me at all...
    SS81 SS81 31-35, F 64 Responses May 8, 2013

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    So this question is for the married men having

    affairs. What conditions would make you go distant with your other woman? Also would you end an affair with the other woman or would she have to end it?
    tc57 tc57 31-35, F 3 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    I was the other women

    for a year but now I am the wife. We will be celebrating our 3 year wedding anniversary soon. We were both married to other people when we met. We were both in bad marriages. We are both so much happier now. If anyone wants to hear my story I am happy to share.
    magic2929 magic2929 46-50, F 17 Responses Apr 29

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 138 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 40 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    "If you are unhappy, you should leave" -

    if it could be done as easy as it sounds like, then there won't be us here finding ourselves in love and in pain ...
    saigonrita saigonrita 26-30, F 2 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    My Secret Gold Coin

    You don’t know it, but I think of you as a beautiful, precious, shiny gold coin that I keep secretly hidden in my pocket. I feel happy knowing that you are in there, but unhappy knowing that you have to stay hidden. I wish I could show you off to friends, but they wouldn’t...
    jenn80 jenn80 51-55 18 Responses May 23, 2013

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    So happy for the contact he's maintained

    while he's on vacation. We texted everyday last week so I had decided to just leave him alone as much as possible this week and I told him that. First thing this morning he texted me and periodically throughout the day. :-) I still plan to lay back this week but if he texts I...
    GenieH22 GenieH22 36-40, F 5 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    I told him today that I thought he should leave

    his other, especially since she's threatening to take his kid, then I apologized for being out of line. I really have no business telling him that when I knew he wouldn't from the start. Surprisingly he wasn't mad and he's talked to me more today than in the past few months. I...
    SeraphineL SeraphineL 22-25, F 19 hrs ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 21 Responses May 6

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    The W nailed him via text!

    This is kinda long sorry. So for those that know my back story my MM and I have been an official couple for over a month now. I still try and post my experiences on here even though I am no longer the OW in hopes I can help others or get advice from those who have got their...
    saiyagyrl saiyagyrl 36-40, F 4 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Was up at 5:30 this morning thinking.

    (I don't have to get up until 7:45) This time I was planning my "exit" strategy.....that if he didn't make an effort to see me by the end of the week I was going to end it. I laid awake thinking about what I was going to say. That I would tell him how selfish he is, and how...
    PrincessLolita PrincessLolita 26-30, F 2 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    I do believe that's 3 'dates' set up!

    ! Ok so I'm probably heading for heartache. As you know, it's been 3 weeks since he broke it off, he's single and I'm still married. Guess he's had enough space. Asked me to go to beach for drinks and sunset watching this weekend! He asked me! That's rare. I also asked him about...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 3 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    19 hours left!!! I can't flipping wait,

    I hope this day goes very slow so I can bask in the anticipation!!! :-)
    addicted2him1966 addicted2him1966 31-35, F 2 hrs ago

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    I had such a wonderful day!

    !!😍😍😍 The hugging and holding each other this morning was amazing and then an unexpected afternoon hug. He was in such a good mood today. The talk on the way home was so awesome!!! I can't wait until tomorrow morning!!!!!
    lollipopgirl2 lollipopgirl2 41-45, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 8 Responses Feb 13

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 9 Responses Feb 11

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    Loving him is a pain .

    .. But living my life without him is also a pain... I need to decide which pain I can endure ...
    saigonrita saigonrita 26-30, F 6 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    Both Sides of the Fence!

    I lived in a sexless marriage for many years. My spouse did not. He like dripping his wick elsewhere, through our entire marriage. I didn't want to catch any thing so... glad he was getting taken care of ...cause he wasn't touching me again... that was for sure! I am divorce...
    MorningBreeze MorningBreeze 56-60, F 26 Responses Feb 15

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    Things I don't miss from my affair.

    .. 1. Waiting for my phone to ding 2. Lying to spouse about where I am going 3. Making sure I erase texts 4. Time 5. Mind control that the affair holds not mm 6. Questioning of myself and actions 7. Guilt not for the affair but for my husband and his wife 8. Time 9. The panic...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 27

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 36 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 21 Responses Jan 2

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 64 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 204 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    Setting a goal for myself.

    .. I'm not sure how well I will stick to it though... September 1, 2014. That will be the day I completely walk away. And go through with erasing my MM out of my life, despite what he says, if he isn't out of his current situation. I only give him that much time because he is...
    Brokenhearted14 Brokenhearted14 22-25, F 1 Response 27 mins ago

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    I have such an urge to email right now

    and I know I need to have my head on right. No am so devastated right now. I won't email but it is so hard
    blue963 blue963 46-50, F 4 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    He literally changes from day to day

    or sometimes hour to hour or moment to moment. Very talkative and sweet and affectionate to no contact, cold and distant the next. We are almost like a couple to no we are just friends having fun. Gawd im so confused right now!!!!!
    pearl26ab pearl26ab 26-30, F 4 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 44 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 48 Responses Feb 16

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