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I Am The Other Woman

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 14,558 People

    Vodka hidden in lemonade.

    I'm killing the pain and still functioning. After confronting him, he said he walked out on two marriages before, including kids. He cannot do it to this daughter. It is amazing how I cannot get through his head that the children he left behind was due to his walking away from...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 77 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    I have to be honest here .

    ..Not only Am I The Other Woman , I have 3 MM And not one knows about the other ! It's hard to juggle sometimes .And guess what I love it !!
    peachy115 peachy115 51-55, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Is she still my gf? Is she my ex?

    ? Are we "just friends"??? I surely don't know, and she doesn't know either! I love her, she loves me, I know she loves me, she knows I love her, and my wife knows all about it. My wife knows all about us, and she doesn't like it one single bit, but -- by the same token -- she...
    BinaryBill BinaryBill 61-65, M 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Mikun15 Mikun15 26-30, F 4 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Yesterday: Realization.

    It's been thirty-four days. Thirty-four days since I last "heard" from him. Since his vague... and yet still somehow sentencing, 'Going through some family issues. Please don't text.' Thirty. Four. Days. Of silence. And not our usual comfortable silence, where we...
    OneSweetThing OneSweetThing 31-35, F 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    I met a SG. A good one.

    First date at a coffee shop yesterday lasted for six hours. Just talking. And an amazing kiss afterward. Then we texted until bed. He is beautiful and sweet and smart and athletic. And he digs me a whole bunch. Best of all, he has been divorced for nearly 20 years. He was so...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 26 Responses Jan 11

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    Nothing like an impromptu movie night with the

    man I love. He texted and asked when I was up to. I told him I was starting a movie and 10 minutes later..while I was waiting for a return text.. he walked in my door :)
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 4 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 19, 2015

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    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 9 hrs ago

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    A How To List

    Hello to everyone especially those drawn here by the Facebook postings. For the record, I am not "Keeping it real in Kendall". Since most of you are brand new to EP let me be the first to welcome you! Please take a moment to read the Terms of Service before commenting. This is a...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 100 Responses Aug 25, 2013

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    ...No More... Although I've been lurking in

    this forum for quite some time, aside from this story EP Link posted in August last year, I have not been very active. How most people end up here? With the exception of the so called "Spider Women" who make it their life's mission to go around messing up with people's lives...
    neeia neeia 41-45, F 10 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Well the good news is he's been really sweet

    and loving and attentive towards me. There has been some major medical issues with me.... Was in the er all day Wed. My BP was 149/100 and I had CT head and chest scan and ecg and blood work and urine and cheek swab and they can't figure out why. My BP yest was 165/105 and the...
    ap05 ap05 26-30, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 41-45, F 73 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 19 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 29 Responses May 6, 2014

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    MM is so cute. He is

    so excited about fixing up my laptop for me. He has it all ready to go, just needs to come and put it in, he said I will like it. It's very fast. The original specs on the motherboard list 4g of ram, this one has 8g, so it seems someone added a stick. This made it an extra...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 9 hrs ago

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    He just left to go on with his day.

    And I have things I need to do as well. He came this morning with a huge bouquet of flowers. I helped him with a resume. Then we snuggled and watched a bit of tv, and made love as well. It's been a wonderful morning. Filled with laughter and love.
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 3 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 15 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 51-55, F 169 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    Well that went more south.

    .. He called me to tell me that he's sorry for what happened and that he and I can no longer talk at all forever. Then I was acting mad and snippy and he didn't understand why I was. Huh? He's on his way home because apparently their kid was freaking out that he wasn't there...
    AvaLennon1 AvaLennon1 31-35, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 44 Responses Jan 10, 2015

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    How is it that our site is flagged; it's a pain

    for us to find it; and YET, the idiots still find us to give us their unwanted two cents. I had hoped the hidden lining would be that we could talk, support, communicate amongst ourselves.
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 9 Responses 1 day ago

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 17 Responses Mar 25, 2015

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    I have married men tied up in my basement.

    Most of them are delivery drivers. :)
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 10 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 48 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    We started out as best lovers,

    We fight, we cry, and we laugh, In everything were together, Even through the crazy and foolish ones.. We're the best of friends, Holding on to one another, Drinking and teasing, Sharing each others problem.. We fight for nothing, We cry for dumb things, We laugh at small...
    sonofangel24 sonofangel24 22-25, F 2 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    Honestly I'd beat the life out of ANY b!

    tch who tries to ruin my family and my marriage. There's enough men out there, there's no need for sharing ladies.
    Cleopatra05 Cleopatra05 18-21, F 28 Responses Dec 28, 2015

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    The Universe’s Plan

    for You Cosmic Support by Madisyn Taylor Nothing happens in our lives and in the world without purpose. The path that speeds us toward our dreams can be a challenging and complex one, so it’s easy to get bogged down in confusion and insecurities. We often hesitate at the...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 9 hrs ago

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    Best reply to a text from me.

    .. "I was just thinking about you :)" He worked on the blazer a bit and now he's working on the laptop he picked up with the motherboard I am getting. No network drivers, but he's working on it. :)
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 19 Responses Mar 22, 2015

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 47 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    If you told your man

    that you want out? Will he let you go ?Or will he try to make you stay ?
    peachy115 peachy115 51-55, F 14 Responses 2 days ago

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    No longer!! It hurts like hell right now

    but I believe I can get through......somehow. I've been literally shaking, nauseous, and can't stay out of the bathroom most of the morning. The turn of events that have occurred today......has me sick to my stomach! I can't say that deep down im not happy that its over but...
    Lishadntplay Lishadntplay 26-30, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    The other woman isn't always a home-wrecker.

    Sometimes she's a home-mender. I had been faithful to my dear husband for over 20 years. For many years I thought there was something wrong with me. Maybe I wasn't sexy. Why didn't he want me the way I wanted him? I grew to understand that we just had very different desire...
    livingasme livingasme 51-55, F 17 Responses May 15, 2015

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 53 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    It has been 28 yrs since I first walked into

    his house almost to the minute right now. This afternoon we talked about it and how it's been 15 yrs since I came back. He said, "I wish you hadn't. Because you could've found someone else and had help with the boys. I feel guilty even if you don't believe me." I told him that...
    independentandstubborn independentandstubborn 51-55, F 1 day ago

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    After 2 years, he continues to surprise me

    and make me smile. We had a wonderful Friday. He just called as he had a moment outside alone. (His mother-in-law is in town). He sent me sweet text all evening last night. Tomorrow we will snuggle and watch a movie together.
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    inexperiencedbloke inexperiencedbloke 31-35, M 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 33 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    OH. MY. GOD. It's final,

    he's single, and as of 9:37am today I am no longer the OW!!!
    Shardsofsorrow Shardsofsorrow 31-35, F 66 Responses Jul 29, 2015

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    I have to be honest here.

    Not only am I the other woman but I also am the other woman in outer space. I fly in a rocket ship to other planets. I've successfully been a home wrecker on Mercury, Mars and Venus. Jupiter has been challenging because of the toxic gases. Happy joyful alien wives of...
    Tullia1510 Tullia1510 46-50, F 4 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    I had to tell him we need to calm down.

    For the past couple weeks we have met every single day except for one that I was out of town with my husband and that killed him, not that I was with my husband but that I said we would have to wait until next day, he kept texting to see if I could meet him when I got back. I...
    SweetSunnyRiley SweetSunnyRiley 22-25, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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