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I Am The Other Woman

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    I am not the OW, but I'm

    so proud of you ladies. You go through hell and back for these men. You love, comfort, support, and love these men. I do not know how you do it. I read your stories and I'm in awe....sheer breathtaking, gutwrenching, heartbreaking, overwhelming, love-infused awe of you all...
    soldiergirl2 soldiergirl2 41-45, F 11 Responses Apr 6

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    I'm still the other women

    and he's still the other man. The sex, the sex, the sex. How will I ever stop having this passionate of sex?
    spilledpurfume spilledpurfume 31-35, F 6 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 16 Responses 6 days ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    we broke up march 13.

    don't even know how many weeks its been guess that's a good sign. I've talked to him everyday since. just joking yesterday and I told him I was just using him for sex. he replied not anymore. I said well for now. we could just have sex once in awhile just to keep us both honest...
    libby59 libby59 46-50 2 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 26 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    We met this morning. Excellent.

    He's supportive. So caring of me. Soon. I feel it soon that he and I will be able to be together again full time... It's just a feeling. But intuition for the job thing wasn't wrong and that's what I'm going on. My heart. My intuition. I'm not mad it's Friday.
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Never have I experienced a person going through

    all my posts and commenting on them. Calling me names, telling me I'm selfish and a bad person. It's kind of sad that one person could find the time and effort to write such hateful things. Not the best way to start my day when I'm already feeling kind of low.
    moepeep moepeep 22-25, F 5 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 17 Responses Mar 25

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    I've been used to only posting

    when I've felt really ******. I don't feel that way today. I feel...good. I think part of my issue is that I believe if I admit that I feel good with certain points of my life, then that means I've grown complacent & this affair is one thing I am not going to be okay with for...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 3 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    I had affair with my boss

    who was married with children. He still is married but he has moved in with me and my children. He was confused and has left us 3 times. He has had sex with his wife a couple of times, but he said that she made him and that he didn't enjoy it. He is still helping her renovate...
    bizzbozz bizzbozz 36-40, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 168 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    Day 6 NC. Running errands

    and random thoughts of him...of us keep popping into my head. How you referred to my house as "home". Saying this is where he belongs. How he said we have to be together because no two people have ever been so in love. And yet he can't leave his W and I'm left alone and broken...
    heartbroken1234 heartbroken1234 36-40, F 5 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Ladies, I think I am over thinking things.

    For the most part my posts are positive because my relationship is very positive. Today we had another one of our amazing days of wonderful conversations. Even finished our day with a little visit before heading home. Now, for those who aren't familiar with our story, we...
    Randomgirl1122 Randomgirl1122 31-35, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 72 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    change. it seems to be what we all OW desire

    most. we all believe things will change, he'll leave her, "he'll settle down with me", he wont alwayd be hers and one day he'll be all to myself. we all know achieving this is almost impossible and the odds are so against us. but we stay. we love our MM. that seems crazy. doesnt...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    so today was an ok day.

    .since he stopped instant chatting I barely look at my phone or charge it and as it may last nyt he sent me an instant msg but my phone was off so then smsed me saying my data is off...all of which I read this morning. ...well today he massaged me and I kissed him...but it was...
    ANGELKZ ANGELKZ 26-30, F 1 day ago

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    Had the thought today (not

    for the first time) that I don't want to be the OW. That I should be in a real relationship with someone who can give me all of himself. But the heart wants what it wants and I wouldn't even begin to know how to walk away.
    BrandedScarlet BrandedScarlet 36-40, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 47 Responses Jan 10

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    MM had msg me Friday afternoon saying "I'm just

    thinking about the crazy time we had together yesterday. I keep replaying it in my mind. I hope you are having a wonderful day." He msg this good morning today and he hopes I have a great day. I msg back " so you are replaying in your mind. What is your favourite memory from...
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 2 hrs ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 14 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    Mm said "we are so good together--I'm crazy

    about you". My day is made:)
    ladylove0113 ladylove0113 36-40, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 54 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Dear ladies, For those of you trying to

    maintain NC, I feel for you. My heart breaks for those of you who are hurting. Although I am not in this situation right now, I did go through a period of NC with my MM. I found this gem on the ol' interweb and thought it was fantastic! Stick to No Contact If NC is a struggle...
    MadameMirage MadameMirage 36-40, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    So this happy mistress is off on a girls

    weekend to majorca , love my freedom, love my life!!! has he been rather more communicative the last few days of course he has!!! Off to have fun/laugh/sun bathe/ drink prosecco and be grateful that not only am I alive and breathing, I'm alive and totally living ! Don't make...
    MRGFF MRGFF 36-40, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 204 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    Well yesterday I responded to someone else

    that I was on day 15 of NC and the hurt had finally started to subside. Tonight, somehow all the hard feelings came rushing back and I'm not sure what triggered it. I need every bit of willpower to not just sit and look and his photos and re-read our conversations, or cry. I'm...
    Julianne2222 Julianne2222 36-40, F 38 seconds ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 152 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 18 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 24 Responses Mar 22

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 51 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 28 Responses May 6, 2014

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 18 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    He finally came over,

    after a few days of very sexy text messages (basically sex on phone). It was great, just like the good old times and we had amazing sex. Then I told him I discovered (I was told, I never investigated) the identity of the other woman (in addition to me and the wife) and he was...
    loveariel loveariel 41-45, F 4 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 48 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 80 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 52 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    hi ladies. This will be my last post

    and I have to leave. My husband (will be ex) has lost it. He's stalking me on any social media, he's threatening custody and. A number of crazy things Even if you don't think you will be caught. Prepare for being cAught. Store away money. Make copies of things. Just for safety...
    deleted deleted 26-30 14 Responses 1 day ago

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    NC. Day 5 Cant sleep last night.

    .. Woke up with a heavy head and heavy heart.. Can this be any easier? Does mm comeback? Mine did the first time.. Now i think its for good. Still hoping but i know i shouldnt.
    Rogue9926 Rogue9926 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    so here goes my final post

    as I am no longer the ow..our d day has arrived..not bcos our partners found out but well I'm looking for a new job and well leaving him behind or vice versa I guess as our company is not doing good...my heart is breaking..a life with out him...it wasn't only about sex..I luved...
    ANGELKZ ANGELKZ 26-30, F 2 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 6

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    Today was actually okay.

    Cried a bit about the job but he was there for me. He met me this morning and he made me feel calm. He said today that he's using counseling to process what he's got going on. We had good conversation today. He says he means what he says to me. I'm okay.
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 22 hrs ago

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    Today's been hard for some reason.

    I saw mm last night for a couple hours. We just sat and talked, I really like when we do that but I woke up feeling very insecure and uneasy. This is usually when I become irrational and do or say something stupid to him. I decided to write him an email. I'm not going to send it...
    moepeep moepeep 22-25, F 2 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 86 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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