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I Am The Other Woman

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    ap05 ap05 26-30, F 3 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 21 Responses Jan 2

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    Omg. The husband started at me again two days

    ago. I'm never home, what about quality time, what about me, blah, blah, blah.. Selfish bastard. Started again at 8 this morning when I'm at work and cannot take his crap. Throws the kids in the mix just to make me feel guilty, when I know that I spend all my spare time with...
    ElsieJay ElsieJay 41-45, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Things I don't miss from my affair.

    .. 1. Waiting for my phone to ding 2. Lying to spouse about where I am going 3. Making sure I erase texts 4. Time 5. Mind control that the affair holds not mm 6. Questioning of myself and actions 7. Guilt not for the affair but for my husband and his wife 8. Time 9. The panic...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 27

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 12 Responses Jun 2

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 82 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    You ******* claim that you know every creek

    and corner of him. And when he whines that the world doesn't know him. You think it's your insult because you think you know him more than he knows himself. But wait a second, do you know that you're only seeing whatever he's showing & hiding the rest. Do you know who i'm ? And...
    Xyanii Xyanii 22-25, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I'm sorry but I don't care

    who this might **** off or annoy. I'm already getting hate mail and we've been harassed all weekend. There are many positive's and negatives about any relationship. We all know the negatives but hopefully just to **** a few people off, I'd like to tell everyone the positives...
    sweetmae79 sweetmae79 31-35, F 15 Responses Apr 20

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    Got a phone call from my MM a little

    while ago. He had just left the doctor's office with W for the first ultrasound. Although, I'm obviously still shaken by the news, I can't help but be happy for him. I can sense the happiness in his voice, he said it's finally sunk in that he's now got a child on the way. I just...
    kc5316 kc5316 22-25, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 21 Responses May 6

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    I was the other women

    for a year but now I am the wife. We will be celebrating our 3 year wedding anniversary soon. We were both married to other people when we met. We were both in bad marriages. We are both so much happier now. If anyone wants to hear my story I am happy to share.
    magic2929 magic2929 46-50, F 18 Responses Apr 29

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    So yesterday I got to chat online with my MM

    for an hour and he confirmed the plans we had made for Monday. I get to see my love in less than 2 days!!! I cannot wait, I miss him so much already even though I just saw him on Wednesday. Spending time with him makes all the other crap in this life bearable!!! :-)
    addicted2him1966 addicted2him1966 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 hr ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 140 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    I'm single. Never been married.

    No kids. Hold a doctorate degree. Good looking (I actually have many single guys are interested in me). And I'm in love with a married man who doesn't want to leave his family but he loves me. We are 3000 miles apart... I have been wondering every single day what is wrong with...
    iloveuox iloveuox 26-30, F 4 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    It's my birthday party tomorrow (I'm away

    for my actual birthday so doing it early) R has guaranteed he will be there.. Promised over and over.. He keep pushing to meet my friends and this us the perfect time.. But I why am I so terrified he's going to not show.. Again... Surely u need to trust him in this one... I...
    mellymoo6886 mellymoo6886 22-25, F 3 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    I am the other woman.

    . You can't charge me with a crime You can't charge me for my time I am the other woman So seductive so sublime I am property in my prime I am the other woman I love living under fire being featured in Town Crier I am the other woman my spreadable, edible, peaches, will...
    Tannasheart Tannasheart 46-50, F 1 Response 15 mins ago

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    Do you ever worry that

    if you and your other can finally be together "in the light" that things will go wrong? We live in this fantastic bubble.....we are happy, given the circumstances. I'm worried that it might dissolve when we start injecting the outside world into it. Am I the only one?
    greeneyes2232 greeneyes2232 41-45, F 8 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    Oh what is this sweet man doing to me?

    ?? I just got a dozen long stem red roses delivered to me. The cards reads "to my sweet love. You are my everything." Oh I am gonna bask in my happiness!!!
    candybuck candybuck 36-40, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 9 Responses Feb 11

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    Got a good morning text

    that said he woke up thinking about me (of course my heart melted) we both have yard work to do today. Said he would come help me but wasnt sure if the yard would get done.....hehe. gonna be a good day!! Hope everyone has a great day! :)
    candybuck candybuck 36-40, F 3 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Great morning despite telling him the truth.

    I told him the truth about being with someone else. I cried and he held me. Even though he is the married one I felt like I cheated on him. We had some really intense good bye sex and I hope he continues to come to me. I love him still and the passion of this morning made me...
    Lost4him2 Lost4him2 26-30 1 Response 17 hrs ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 69 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    For those of us whose lives would be enriched

    by a divorce or two, sharing this brief bit of laughter and perspective for a Friday. :) A must watch. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W6cQRFfpZck
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 17 Responses May 4

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 40 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 79 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    He is out of town for work

    until tomorrow. You'd think since he's out of town alone we'd talk more. He's ignored me now twice today and all I can think is that maybe he's not alone......maybe I'm not the only ow.... I don't understand why else he'd be ignoring me and it hurts!! I'm afraid everything he...
    PrincessLolita PrincessLolita 26-30, F 3 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 22-25, F 19 Responses Apr 18

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 48 Responses Feb 16

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 29 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    He contacted me just now

    and I broke into tears. I'm always waiting and this time I just broke down. He thinks we are going to be friends like we were before so we are talking as friends. That is the reason we are in contact....as friends. I can never go back. I will never be the same. I desperately...
    pearl26ab pearl26ab 26-30, F 8 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    Many people ask us, "Why do we do this to

    ourselves? Why don't we find a single man?" So I'm asking. What does your MM, MW, or AP do for you that makes you want to be with them? I need this weekend to fly by so I'm hoping this will spark a conversation that can keep me busy when I'm feeling like it's dragging.
    GenieH22 GenieH22 36-40, F 12 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 65 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    I am NOT the other woman any longer

    but then again I never did feel that way…..For those that know my story already know that my relationship was an open book for all including his wife….we didn’t hide or sneak around meet in the car….we went out in public, we held hands when we shopped together, did lot...
    daisydew1973 daisydew1973 41-45, F 1 Response 13 hrs ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 162 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    I am sooooo incredibly confused right now.

    We have a good day Thursday, we make out at work and talk about getting together tonight......then he leaves out of town. I ask him to text me when he gets there......he doesn't. The next morning he tells me he forgot his charger and his phone died so he had to get a new one...
    PrincessLolita PrincessLolita 26-30, F 7 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 152 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    It's morning here and I'm laying in his bed.

    He's been out of town for the past couple of days and I've been staying at his place. He loves this and so do I. Actually I haven't slept at my place in over a week. This feels sooo nice!
    RedHotPepper RedHotPepper 26-30, F 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Going to be a rough morning.

    Having to clean up a problem that H created between me and my inlaws. He through me under the bus with lies cause he couldnt be a man and admit what he had done and put our whole family in danger. I am shaking all over. Going to see them. Said they no longer want to see...
    blue963 blue963 46-50, F 10 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Please, do not stop posting.

    ... I may not be the best person to make this request because I have only participated on the forum for just a few months. But I am so glad I had a place to go. I can not begin to tell you how supportive you ladies have been during my time of heart aches, up swings, troubles...
    saiyagyrl saiyagyrl 36-40, F 4 Responses May 26

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    lavc lavc 46-50, F 6 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    My Secret Gold Coin

    You don’t know it, but I think of you as a beautiful, precious, shiny gold coin that I keep secretly hidden in my pocket. I feel happy knowing that you are in there, but unhappy knowing that you have to stay hidden. I wish I could show you off to friends, but they wouldn’t...
    jenn80 jenn80 51-55 18 Responses May 23, 2013

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 44 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Just want to put this out there to all you

    other "other women" you keep me positive... You nail my feet to the ground... You make me smile ... You put my heart back in my chest ... Thank you and when I see you pouring your heart out I feel it... I hope all the best for everyone of you misunderstood beautiful women ... I...
    jupsta jupsta 36-40, F 8 Responses Jun 9

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 204 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    I'm not a religious person by any means.

    .... However tomorrow it am attending a wedding and I have to read prayers to the couple and I have to say, I find myself feeling pretty terrible about myself right now. I've always loved weddings.....but I feel really sad going into this one. I've never felt guilty about...
    PrincessLolita PrincessLolita 26-30, F 6 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    Question, If ur man is a type of giving actions

    more than words, does he like it when u consistently give "words" to him ? Like ending any conversation with "ilu" or ending any text with "ilu" etc. ? I'm thinking if he is not the type of "saying" - would he think I'm being fake if I say too much of those stuff ? Or he still...
    iloveuox iloveuox 26-30, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    I love hearing from all you ladies.

    I love being able to share in your joy and try to encourage when you're sad. In sitting here waiting for him to get home from work for dinner, my stepson (his oldest) is sitting on the couch with me and we're laughing at his baby crawling around on the floor. He is my grandson...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 10 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    Ugh just got into an argument with my guy.

    I've always been honest & upfront with him so I told him my sons father is moving back ( he's been out of state for 3 months). And he freakin lost it! Saying we should end things now because he knows we're gonna end up back together... Blah...blah...blah. Which is totally not...
    Sidechic79 Sidechic79 31-35 6 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 31-35, M 14 Responses Apr 19

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    Hearing his voice on the other end of the phone

    for just those few min eases all the anxiety I was feeling...
    Sidechic79 Sidechic79 31-35 3 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    In his eyes, I'm kind of a

    "too-good-to-be-true" to him. In the beginning he thought i just wanted to have fun and i dont really love him. I have done everything I can to show him that i love him and after many ups and downs, eventually he now believe me. However, he has always had the thought that I will...
    iloveuox iloveuox 26-30, F 4 Responses 17 hrs ago

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