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I Am The Other Woman

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 81 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 20 Responses Jan 2

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    Got another message from MM today.

    I had sent him a message a week ago to him through an online writing forum we met through three years ago (we lived nearby at the time, and met-up with local writers, began our writing group, and thus. . . our affair). I told myself he wouldn't go back to the website, so he...
    mrsteacherlady84 mrsteacherlady84 26-30, F 2 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    No time alone with him today.

    Frustrated!!!! He hasn't been real interested lately. He told me tonight he is just stressed out. I know he is. I do. But old insecurities are rearing their ugly head. Insecurities I thought I'd beaten. And realizing I still have some bad habits to break. The conversation we...
    GenieH22 GenieH22 36-40, F 3 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    So after my crappy post

    and Millie's supportive messages today I find out I got a job to start on Monday! I'm really happy because I won't be sitting at home constantly waiting for his messages and going insane. It's not my ideal job and it's a few weeks contract but will hopefully help rebuild my self...
    Missy1179 Missy1179 31-35, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 16 Responses May 4

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 11

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 42 Responses Feb 24

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 30 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Has this happened to you?

    I tried to kiss really french kiss my husband and I was unsatisfied. My MM kisses me OMG and gives me so much pleasure! I could kiss him for hours, not the same with husband. Before I used to kiss my H and it was ok, now that I have been with my MM doing the same things it is...
    kylee2013 kylee2013 36-40, F 12 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    So, going to spend some time with my MM today

    probably for the last time. I will see him at work still but this will probably be the last time we get to actually spend time together for awhile at least if not forever.
    MartiniLynn MartiniLynn 18-21 2 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Despite being lied to

    and despite all the bullshit he's put me through I'm seeing him again. I took everyone's advice they gave me to heart- to walk away and never look back. And I tried. I made it four days before I broke down and texted him. He apologized, I said I didn't buy the apology. I asked...
    kittentoes kittentoes 22-25, F 2 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    I'm a total nut bag! A totally crazy person!

    I cannot handle these strong feelings I have for this guy. Falling in love sucks! I almost want to run away. I'm so scared of getting hurt! Things are great right now but what if??? I'm officially psychotic!
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 3 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 162 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 36 Responses Sep 23

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 20 Responses Apr 18

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    Alright ladies, how did you go about sharing

    your true feelings with him? I know we both have them and neither of us have the nerve to approach the topic in fear of changing the dynamics, because they really are amazing. We beat around the bush and jokingly say things to each other. As much as I don't want a thing to...
    surfandturf surfandturf 36-40, F 15 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 39 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 68 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    Ok here goes... I have be married

    for 20 years... I have knew my mm for 23... We have been in a relationship for six months... We are so in love and I don't ever want to lose him.....
    Fix1975 Fix1975 36-40, F 1 Response 16 hrs ago

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    I wasn't able to see him last night like we had

    planned and I probably won't be able to until next week. I was a little disappointed but I'm learning to just let it go because there's no point in getting upset over something I can't control. He did get his phone back but he hasn't mentioned how things are going with the wife...
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 3 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    Fragileheart100 Fragileheart100 36-40, F 2 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    I know I haven't posted my story on here

    and I probably should start with that but right now I just want to vent. You see, my MM is 1000 miles away from me. We have only met three times and spent 7 days together. We have known each other for a little over a year and he has changed my life... When I'm with him, I'm in...
    asta20 asta20 31-35, F 3 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    To all OW that feel needy

    and wanting contact all the time.. Remmber he is married and does not want a teenager being needy all the time. Be a woman! He misses you, he is crazy about you but he is not single and cannot do it all the time. Cherish the time he gives you. Just bear and enjoy him all you can...
    kylee2013 kylee2013 36-40, F 5 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 76 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 31-35, M 17 Responses Apr 19

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    Why would anyone on earth want to stay with a

    cheating lying person. It just blows my mind. You'll haven't learn by now that don't care for u. And the ones that really get me is the ones that blame the spouses that **** is just to funny.
    pleasestoplying pleasestoplying 51-55, M 10 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    Went and looked at a place last night.

    I think it's the one!! It's in a complex still being built so I have my pick of units. Thinking I like the ones facing east.....gorgeous views of the mountains. If you don't remember my story, I'm the one who is separated from husband but we are still living together until March...
    greeneyes2232 greeneyes2232 41-45, F 4 hrs ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 7 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 146 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 45 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Things are shifting in my feelings more

    and more. Since his surgery he is having less pain and able to get around more. (which means less time to connect) He is so driven with work. I dont want a physical relationship with someone who doesn't make time for me. Slowly backing away.
    blue963 blue963 51-55, F 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    To the people and trolls

    who are trying to save our souls.... Let me explain something: Our (OW) defenses go up when you use hated phrases like... Side Piece Having his cake and eating it too If he cheats with you, he'll cheat on you ...and so many more. Be original. All we need to do is read those...
    BlackHiHeels4Me BlackHiHeels4Me 36-40, F 43 Responses Jul 30

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    I know his feelings for me are dying

    if anything maybe already dead. I knows he loves the sex and I know he still cares but I have a feeling because of the rough time I have been going through he has had enough of my sad face and constantly having to pick me up and he just can't be bothered anymore. He even said I...
    Missy1179 Missy1179 31-35, F 4 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 22 Responses Jul 30

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 46 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    I wrote this a long time ago

    but it feels very fitting at the moment and I need the reminder. "Sometimes you hang onto something with both hands so tightly to keep it from slipping through your fingers... You end up choking it to death."
    GenieH22 GenieH22 36-40, F 3 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    I just responded to a post on here

    which got me to thinking (yes, y'all are in trouble while I ramble). If you're not mature enough to handle being an OW, sugar don't go down that road. The statement was made that his OW called W and said they were getting married. Excuse me? She (the W) is not your...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 26 Responses Oct 8

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    I have had the best day today with MM

    and we are not even physically together. But he has been on a business trip away from his W and constantly texting and messaging me about everything and nothing. Declaring his love, talking about problems & plans, exploring our fantasies. This morning he was even late for a...
    daisyblue222 daisyblue222 36-40, F 2 Responses 27 mins ago

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    I saw him again last night.

    We had fun, although we still haven't slept together since we began talking again. we agreed when we saw each other the first time that we would take things dad by day and just go with the flow and have fun. His words not mine. I told him today I was interested in seeing other...
    Unexlove Unexlove 26-30, F 4 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    You know when your feelings are

    so strong for someone and you're so scared of getting hurt? When you always hide your feelings until finally that one person breaks you and you're a puddle of mushiness and all you do is tell them how much you care and love them? Yeah...that's where I'm at...and I'm getting so...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 1 Response 12 hrs ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 15 Responses Jun 2

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    Why do all the haters say you're always going

    to be second choice? Maybe we are second choice when he "has" to go home but in reality we aren't second choice in his heart or his mind. I can almost promise that he's thinking about me more than his wife. I can almost promise his heart is starting to lead him else where and...
    tc57 tc57 31-35, F 87 Responses Aug 10

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    Of course Friday is a big fat no.

    I shouldn't have asked but I was just really hoping. My inlaws are in town and they hate me. I haven't gotten much time lately and I went ahead and asked. I shouldn't have bc Fridays and weekend are always no, so it's just me getting my hopes up. I was suppose to see him...
    rainydays2 rainydays2 31-35, F 2 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    I'm so confused by him.

    When I pull away because he doesn't talk to me about what's going on with him he comes running back. A few days ago he blurted out he's frustration with his (in his words) So called wife. The the next day apologies for dragging me into his issues. Then he goes silent. Yesterday...
    123Frozen 123Frozen 31-35, F 3 Responses 39 mins ago

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    I just realized I haven't posted in a long time!

    Things with mm have been good, until today. We were spending the afternoon together and just talking. He asked what I did over the weekend since we didn't talk at all, which is rare and to be honest I was a little mad about it. I told him what I had done and he said he should...
    Gingerishere Gingerishere 22-25, F 7 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    Today goes down in history

    as my best day ever with him. We had a work thing to do and we were away from the office for quite some time. After getting back we were able to hook up for a bit and had some mind blowing sex. All I can say is WOW. He's just an all around great guy. He's so passionate and...
    surfandturf surfandturf 36-40, F 4 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    Sooo he got me a promise ring today

    and says Saturday it will happen he told the kids to not make any plans and he's giving them hints.......
    ap05 ap05 26-30, F 1 Response 22 hrs ago

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    I've decided to take a break from him

    for awhile. Last week he cancelled our lunch date because he was busy with work (he didn't leave his office at all that day). Then we missed our usual Friday night out because I had plans with my husband and friends. This week he has plans with his family on Friday, so I...
    DarlingEll DarlingEll 26-30, F 3 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    Hello everyone. I am

    so glad I found this site, and all of you wonderful, encouraging OW and OM. I was the OW for 3 of the most wonderful months of my life, until his wife found out about us. Long story short he moved out of their house, but she was telling their young children lies about him and...
    donsgirl2014 donsgirl2014 36-40, F 8 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 103 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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