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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 51 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 45 Responses Jan 10

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 155 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    can someone update some with terms.

    like what is MM. lol please :)
    Aprilbaby4 Aprilbaby4 22-25 1 Response 7 hrs ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    H was on my *** last night not believing

    where I am going. I was able to prove him wrong so he apologized. MM W was also causing drama today. See we both had other affairs before and have had DD with those affairs. MM is now paranoid but still willing to see me on Thursday. Thank god. I need to see him. Even though we...
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 3 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 93 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 48 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    I wish he had of never said "when".

    I wish he had of never said "I ****** up and will continue to feel this way until we are back together". I wish he wasn't pretending at home. I wish I could shake the new nagging anxiety.
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 1 Response 18 hrs ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 14 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    and im beginning to feel comfortable with my

    position. is this weird? like my relationship with him doesn't effect my life negatively.
    Aprilbaby4 Aprilbaby4 22-25 1 Response 1 day ago

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    If any of you women or

    whoever decides to get on this forum and happens to read my post and don't like what I have to say and wants to start being a bully, a nag, or has the urge to start drama because u don't like what I have to say on my page. make life easy for yourself....block me! simple as that...
    newgurlxo newgurlxo 18-21, F 4 hrs ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 23 Responses Apr 30

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    whos needs someone to chat with

    and express some things I'm this subject. hmu! :)
    Aprilbaby4 Aprilbaby4 22-25 1 day ago

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    NO LONGER THE OTHER WOMAN!

    !! I am now the only woman :) it has been officially ended this morning, he was straight on the phone to me who was awesome at playing it cool despite up all night worrying! He was going to come over but we both decided against it as he needs time to recover maybe. He has gone...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 14 Responses Mar 21

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    So except for a 'thanks' text

    after I texted him this morning, I have not heard from MM. I KNOW he's on a business trip. I KNOW he's in meetings. I KNOW he's going to have a client dinner. I KNOW on these trips the chances were are going to talk much are slim to none. I just wish I KNEW for a fact that these...
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 4 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    Well , everything been going smooth .

    He will be going home next month hopefully to sort out everything . I told him we can't be sexually involved while he still married , so he is ready to sort out the mistake he says he did when he was young . Waiting patiently ...
    BluePearl64 BluePearl64 31-35, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    the only time is if my ex,

    my first love, comes calling on me. and if he happens to be in a relationship at the time, it can't be helped. I know we will end up together anyway, it's just right now we can't be.
    kleeeohh kleeeohh 26-30, F 7 hrs ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 152 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 27 Responses May 6, 2014

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 86 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    Goodness, my pregnancy hormones are off the

    charts. I have zero patience with my MM. I got sooo mad at him that I send him to hell. I hate hurting him. I wish I could control these outbursts. The
    4bdnluv 4bdnluv 31-35, F 2 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    So today I told mm I needed him.

    .. that I needed to see him that I was just at my breaking point... I told him I needed him to help me out of this hole I am in and that I needed his reassurance.... I got nothing I got a couple of texts and an idk we will see... well ur right we will see... I don't want him to...
    emeraldprincess1003 emeraldprincess1003 22-25, F 5 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 78 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    See her come down, through the clouds I feel

    like a fool I aint got nothing left to give Nothing to lose So come on Love, draw your swords Shoot me to the ground You are mine, I am yours Lets not **** around Cause you are, the only one Cause you are, the only one I see them snakes come through the ground They choke me...
    subgirl26 subgirl26 22-25, F 2 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    I really miss him. ??

    I miss being there, seeing his mom, sharing laughs. I was good with his kids. like sometimes I envy his gf. but sometimes im glad im not her. as mean as that sounds. ugh idk.
    Aprilbaby4 Aprilbaby4 22-25 2 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 71 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    Read this if you wanna check out the mental ups

    and downs of this whole other woman experience! As you all know he ended thins with her two months back, got with me, I had trust issues and him and her kept contact which inevitably led to us ending and them getting back. I called him out on it and we argued-huge big row and...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 5 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 170 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 19 Responses Mar 25

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    So yesterday we had sort of planned to see each

    other. It was a holiday and we were going to do what we could. He had friends of his wife's show up the night before unexpected (to him at least) and so timing was up in the air. We texted in the morning and he replied that he was working on it. I'm not really patient, so...
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 7 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 28 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    It was never my intention to be one I just

    can't get myself to leave I love him too much. I know at the end it will never be an us that someday he'll need to go back to his rightful place. is it wrong to stay w/ a person you love even though that person wasn't yours to begin with?
    agreelx2 agreelx2 22-25, F 3 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    so I had *the* conversation with OM.

    .. (sorry if this is a bit long...) for those of you who didn't know, we had a little incident on Saturday. so we met up on Saturday, had a wonderful time together. as we left, it started to rain very heavily. we were using 1 umbrella, so naturally, I hung onto his arm to...
    gianneisstuck gianneisstuck 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    An update I don't want to write.

    .. My new reality is him being gone all through the week, brief times I see him at the office with a quick kiss if there is an opportunity, long-distance texts full of "I miss you" and "I love you", and weekends of NC because he is home doing home things... It's been this way for...
    ElsieJay ElsieJay 41-45, F 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 51 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    I'm scared that MM is going to end things.

    He is so unavailable these days. Yesterday he sent me 2 lines all day. The day before the same. And he is not checking his WhatsApp regularly now so doesn't see when I text him wanting to talk. This morning he went online, read my messages from last night, but didn't even text...
    daisyblue222 daisyblue222 41-45, F 9 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    The W's who lurk on this forum.

    ..you guys are so pathetic. Why come on this page? I mean you're asking to get pissed off. Don't judge another woman because she sins differently than you. simple
    newgurlxo newgurlxo 18-21, F 3 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Is it really possible

    for a man to love two women at once? I would suspect that a MM seeks out an OW because his love for his W has decreased... But what do you do when he loves both equally?
    hiddennlove hiddennlove 18-21, F 8 Responses 1 day ago

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 6

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    Another vent... Still haven't heard from him,

    he's gone to ground. In the past he's done this to help my marriage but now we are separating and I know I need to get out, it's been emotional abusive for months. I could just do with his support, but it's nearly a week now of nothing. It breaks my heart to the extent that I...
    NicoleMantel NicoleMantel 36-40, F 6 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    Um... What does this mean?

    ! He called me and said "I've been thinking about something for a long time and wanted to share and ask, but have been hesitant. I know we both need vacations so I was thinking we could go to Vegas mid week at the end of June." Wait. What just happened here? He went on to say...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 3 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Sometime the strongest person is the one

    who allows themselves to become the weakest by opening up and by being vulnerable. By admitting that they have faults and that they mess up (often) and ask for forgiveness and for the help and support to be the better person they want and know they can be.
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 3 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 41 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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