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I Am The Other Woman

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    I just responded to a post on here

    which got me to thinking (yes, y'all are in trouble while I ramble). If you're not mature enough to handle being an OW, sugar don't go down that road. The statement was made that his OW called W and said they were getting married. Excuse me? She (the W) is not your...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 26 Responses Oct 8

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    I've cried so much for the last 2-3 wks i

    actually felt i was gettng stronger and the things that would really hurt or drive me insane seemed easier to deal with. Today i was with him and this i was trying to burry inside of me came out once again and im now back to square one. Missing him, wanting to call him, wanting...
    Chicadelcaribe Chicadelcaribe 31-35, F 15 hrs ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 30 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 36 Responses Sep 23

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    I need to forget him.

    Time to go no contact.
    TheFirstMrsDeWinter TheFirstMrsDeWinter 31-35, F 3 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 68 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    The highs and lows of all of this is just

    so overwhelming at times!! But, oh, those highs he can put me on just by the sound of his voice! I miss him terribly when we can't talk and melt like butter when we finally get a few moments to talk .... Not to mention the times we are together .... Never thought this would be...
    BluCoastGal BluCoastGal 36-40, F 1 Response 5 hrs ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 20 Responses Apr 18

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    Just a heads up ladies it seems

    as "David" has return o my this Time as an older female the name is lletslaugh987
    Ldylvlylcks2002 Ldylvlylcks2002 26-30, F 3 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 78 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    The only reason I post this in here is

    because the level of support is high and i truly appreciate you. My stress level is at an all time high. I lost my godmother to Alzheimer's at the end of September. I will have a boss change soon, and it is hush hush from higher ups. An off site employee has had two nervous...
    intimateginger intimateginger 41-45, F 7 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    Just a thought: Too bad Monica Lewinsky

    didn't have EP & listened to the original troll, Linda Tripp.
    forbidden67 forbidden67 46-50, F 1 Response 8 hrs ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 7 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    So.. It happened. He told his wife about me.

    He told her pretty graphic details I would guess because she was very specific in what she knew when she screamed at me.. I feel kind of broken right now.. He said he would come over when he could be he's trying to talk to her right now. She says she is taking the kids. I feel...
    megansunshine megansunshine 18-21, F 6 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 39 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Well he emailed me, which he never does,

    so I knew something was going on. His wife did find out and she's the one who wrote the text. He said he was trying to wait until he got to work to contact me and tell me what was going on. She took his phone but he said he's not going to let that happen again. He apologized for...
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 8 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Going to see my MM and enjoy this last week we

    have together. And explain to him all what has happened because he has no clue.
    MartiniLynn MartiniLynn 18-21 3 hrs ago

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    Why do all the haters say you're always going

    to be second choice? Maybe we are second choice when he "has" to go home but in reality we aren't second choice in his heart or his mind. I can almost promise that he's thinking about me more than his wife. I can almost promise his heart is starting to lead him else where and...
    tc57 tc57 31-35, F 87 Responses Aug 10

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    I am not -------- I want everyone to know I

    am not angry at my ex mm... In fact I thank him... He helped me be a better me... Knowing how deeply I cared about him ... I am happy he is going to respect his vows and stay with her... For now I guess.. There was no way I could wait for a day that might never come... I...
    jupsta jupsta 36-40, F 4 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    I need some help. I have decided to break up

    with my boyfriend of six years. I don't know what to say or where to begin. We barely see each other, we don't have sex, but he thinks it is just because my job is so demanding. I am no longer in love with him, but I do LOVE him, so I'm going to set him free. He deserves someone...
    lostanddistraught lostanddistraught 22-25, F 1 Response 48 mins ago

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    Some people dream of living a life of comfort

    or luxury, married to a rich partner. While many have turned this dream into reality, others continue to wonder if it is possible to approach a millionaire. If you really want to marry a millionaire, are you a gold digger. Recently, online dating is more popular, more and more...
    Rachel0823 Rachel0823 22-25, F 1 Response 7 hrs ago

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 19 Responses Sep 10

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 16 Responses May 4

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    Never in a million years I could've imagine

    there are so many women going thru same situations like mine. I was very hesitant to start writting things here (you pshychos out there) but i am glad i did and glad i can talk about this and people actually understand without judging me!...
    Chicadelcaribe Chicadelcaribe 31-35, F 3 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    I am writing this post in hopes

    that it gives some of you ladies, waiting to be with your mm, hope and encouragement to hang on. First a little backstory on me. I have been with my mm for a total of 4 years. I left my H a little over 2 years ago. So for the last 2 years I have been waiting, hoping, wishing my...
    sensitiveme sensitiveme 31-35, F 6 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Well ladies I was not aware that

    so much would be stirred up over me posting and being nice and respectful to y'all. I know we are all aware that y'all and I love two different lives and I was just trying to be nice as some of you have come to my defense when I have been attacked in my group. So now that the...
    Ldylvlylcks2002 Ldylvlylcks2002 26-30, F 3 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    Sweetpea379 Sweetpea379 46-50, F 9 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 31-35, M 17 Responses Apr 19

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    It's been over a month

    since I broke off my relationship with mm after my husband confronted me. We've had contact a handful of times since. Two weeks ago we Wrote each other epic goodbye letters. Love letters, really. The things he said...killed me. How he hated to watch me go, but I was the strong...
    mrsteacherlady84 mrsteacherlady84 26-30, F 9 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    **Update** We sat in his car

    for an hour and talked. She found out on Sunday night. He didn't want to have sex with her so she got pissed and suspicious since it's been months since they've slept together. After he went to bed she went through his phone. He forgot to delete our texts and she found some...
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 5 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    I am wondering, especially

    as of late... Why do any of us feed the trolls? I mean, I get that the ones who come in just to abuse people have to be blocked, reported, deleted... But don't you guys get tired of justifying yourselves over and over again to people who don't want your words, just want your...
    ElsieJay ElsieJay 41-45, F 4 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    So, it's time I tell my story.

    I have a committed relationship with a MM. I'm married as well. Both of us have been married 20+ years. I was lonely and needing connection. My H is not a bad man. He's a good provider, a great father, and a respectable man. But, I was missing something. I found myself...
    Fragileheart100 Fragileheart100 36-40, F 8 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 76 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 146 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 10 Responses Feb 13

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    I am going to try this.

    ...music to heal the heart. http://www.elephantjournal.com/2014/10/music-to-mend-a-broken-heart/
    blue963 blue963 51-55, F 14 hrs ago

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    Well ladies, I'm having a great time playing

    with the haters and trolls tonight, but my honey is home from work. Time to curl up on the couch and watch some Monday night football...then take him to bed. Love you all, see you tomorrow. Same bat time, same bat channel. Oh and to smitten and shellwhatevergirl, see you two...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 3 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    To the people and trolls

    who are trying to save our souls.... Let me explain something: Our (OW) defenses go up when you use hated phrases like... Side Piece Having his cake and eating it too If he cheats with you, he'll cheat on you ...and so many more. Be original. All we need to do is read those...
    BlackHiHeels4Me BlackHiHeels4Me 36-40, F 43 Responses Jul 30

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 46 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 162 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 15 Responses Jun 2

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 23 Responses May 6

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 42 Responses Feb 24

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 22 Responses Jul 30

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 103 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    Alright I guess I don't know what to do.

    My affair with my MM started around April a few weeks before that my boyfriend of four years told me he never wanted to get married. When he told me that I was hurt. I hadn't intended to get married any time soon but one day I did. I felt like he basically just told me I was...
    MartiniLynn MartiniLynn 18-21 4 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    Something that has always bothered me.

    .. Specifically brought to mind when (I think it was stalked?) posted on koko's trolls thread... Why is it that having a secret relationship- that is SECRET- hurts my kids? Don't understand where people are coming from in that one... 1. I am not cheating on my kids, I don't have...
    ElsieJay ElsieJay 41-45, F 8 mins ago

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 20 Responses Jan 2

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    Back in the States after 10 days in Japan with

    my son & his family!!! Amazing time but jet lag is going to suck! Lol. Spending 24 hours with my MM Thursday---God I've missed that man!!!!
    Newlife48 Newlife48 46-50, F 2 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    Have we advanced to messages from trolls now?

    Wtf In not saying every person with an opposing opinion is a troll but people who have multiple profiles are. Also, people who badger have troll tendencies for sure.
    surfandturf surfandturf 36-40, F 5 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 50 Responses Feb 16

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