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I Am The Other Woman

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    Ex MM has been blowing up my phone

    since Monday. It had been six weeks of NC. He asked if I missed him. I told him no, I'm pissed. He wanted to know why. I told him it was because he didn't bother to check on me after my surgery. He says he doesn't remember me telling him that I was having it done. He said that...
    goodgirl9691 goodgirl9691 46-50, F 8 Responses 1 day ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 80 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 95 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    Dreamt about him today.

    He was trying to contact me. I was ignoring him. He asked why. I said because I loved him and trusted him and that he wasn't who I thought he was so I needed to stay away from him and let him go. I hate when I dream of him.
    Freedomnow01 Freedomnow01 31-35, F 16 hrs ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 19 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    I think my ex MW expected a tearful

    and happy hello from me last night. I can't be fake and I'm not gona be either. I've pushed my feelings aside for way to long as if my feelings in this don't matter.....hey you know what?! **** THAT! I don't know what's changed in me since nearly 3 weeks of no contact.....but I...
    Imouttie1 Imouttie1 31-35, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    When someone you love,

    supports you, you feel like you can accomplish anything and you have the courage to tackle everything! Could not have made it through this month of work, especially this last week without MM's support. I have a hard time saying no and I took on way too many projects. This week...
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 18 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    You ladies really should check this website.

    I bet you're on it... Lmao shesahomewrecker.com
    DeIuxedEdition DeIuxedEdition 18-21, F 6 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 25 Responses Apr 30

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 29 Responses May 6, 2014

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    https://youtu.be/igNVdlXhKcI?

    list=RDigNVdlXhKcI
    peachy115 peachy115 51-55, F 1 Response 23 hrs ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 42 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Needing some thoughts😢.

    I'm halfway out of this mess but I broke nc today only to tell him he has forgotten me. I was expressing my hurt to a man who doesn't care, doesn't bother to check up on me and pretty much lied and manipulated me. He sent quick reply just to pacify me then nothing. I dont want...
    ayliffe ayliffe 41-45, F 1 Response 8 hrs ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    Okay. I feel in my particular case,

    that I feel very frustrated because I'm married as well. I have been for a long time. My marriage is more like a friendship , with my wife most prob being my best friend . I love her as a friend . It's always been like that for me. There is no romance in my marriage . There hadn...
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 25 mins ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 48 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 32 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 22 Responses Mar 22

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 45 Responses Jan 10

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    I've decided to give myself an uppercut ,

    pull myself together .as the OM , I have a similar feeling that many OW feel, obviously in reverse . So many write their own stories , their feelings, their woes . I want to be positive and constructive to all who really know me. I was told that I'm a very well organised man. I...
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 3 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 48 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    Frustrated because I can't tell

    if it's real Mad because I don't know how you feel Upset because we can't make it right Sad because I need you day and night Angry because you won't take my hand Aggravated because you don't understand Disappointed because we can't be together But still I'll love you forever
    Arubaskies Arubaskies 41-45, F 1 Response 12 hrs ago

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    Spent the evening with girlfriends.

    Heard from him off & on via text. The feeling was remiss- except this time I was able to talk about him in a positive light. These friends saw me so broken nearly a year ago when he broke up with me. They aren't sure what to think this go... Also, he & I chatted briefly about...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 170 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 16 Responses Feb 6

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    Have any of yall experienced your MM being asked

    if he's 'happy' in his relationship? My best friend came down this weekend and she asked him quite a few questions, that being one of them. His answer wasn't quite what I expected. He answered her 'I mean I have a daughter, trying to buy a house, living at home, trying to get a...
    kc5316 kc5316 22-25, F 3 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    OH. MY. GOD. It's final,

    he's single, and as of 9:37am today I am no longer the OW!!!
    Shardsofsorrow Shardsofsorrow 31-35, F 77 Responses Jul 29

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    Yesterday, he introduced me to his work

    colleagues in this order - 'friend', good friend, sweetheart. Today met his older kid as his best friend. Today was a bad and good. Bad for other reasons and good because he sensed it, drove down and supported me like a best friend would. Touch wood.
    coolvolatile coolvolatile 31-35, F 4 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 16 Responses Mar 25

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    Looking back it is funny how easily I fell into

    the trap of becoming 'the other woman.' The first flash of distress - a wounded soul no less, and I dived into the murky water. He told me that I was his oxygen. I was a mermaid Saint Bernard with the reviving elixir strapped to my neck. Strangely, I found two unmarried men...
    Faerylight Faerylight 41-45, F 19 Responses Jun 21

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    He yells, he screams,

    he accuses, he gaslights, he has all the traits of being a classic narcissist. I wonder with his two previous marriages and this present one, which is falling apart, did they see the man that I saw and was strong enough to turn and walk away for good? Why is his present wife...
    Aisurukoto Aisurukoto 41-45, F 3 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    Not in a very good place tonight

    and pushed and pushed to the end. Maybe i should just go to sleep and try to avoid it all.
    blue963 blue963 51-55, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 49 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 161 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    I'm done with men. MM is being

    so strange. Can't stand my exH. I don't want to talk or interact with either of them at all. I'm done.
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 7 Responses 2 days ago

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    Sometimes I sit and wonder

    which direction my life will go... Will I stay married to my husband for the rest of my life?? If I do when and how will things end with my mm. Will I live my life with regrets? I know that when and if the time comes that my relationship ends with mm I will be devastated, part...
    Janna78 Janna78 46-50, F 5 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 19

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    I have a question....

    . How do I not get so defensive about the Indesgreshions I did against him..... He said let me go through my fazes with it but he's always doing digs at me and it's not healthy.... I said if u want to talk about it in a healthy convo until we are blue in the face I'm all ears but...
    ap05 ap05 26-30, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    Yesterday I went with my angels (my nephews) to

    a sunflower maze farm. Most of the sunflowers were half dead and we noticed people had made smiley faces etc. into the faces of the dying sunflowers. So what do I do? I traced my initials and MMs initials into a sunflower when no one was looking lol While religious, I do...
    AvaLennon AvaLennon 31-35, F 1 Response 23 hrs ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    NO LONGER THE OTHER WOMAN!

    !! I am now the only woman :) it has been officially ended this morning, he was straight on the phone to me who was awesome at playing it cool despite up all night worrying! He was going to come over but we both decided against it as he needs time to recover maybe. He has gone...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 12 Responses Mar 21

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    I ponder over my life.

    I'm wondering where I'll be in 10 years . Will I be posting crazy stories on here . If I'm unlucky , I'll be letting others decide my life. To be honest , that's never going to happen . I've lost contact with many of my friends on here . Have they ticked off their Christmas list...
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 53 Responses