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I Am The Other Woman

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    OMG only 4 days into his vacation!

    ! He's not coming back for 8 more days :(( Longest days ever!!!! This sucks!
    Changedforever9514 Changedforever9514 36-40, F 4 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    jupsta jupsta 36-40, F 4 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    I am beyond excited! Weekends are usually NC

    or very sparse. I didn't hear from him until tonight, where he confirmed our meeting for tomorrow and said he was looking forward to it! How that man makes me feel is out of this world!!!!! 💜
    addicted2him1966 addicted2him1966 31-35, F 1 Response 20 hrs ago

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    Last night while we lay in each other's arms.

    .. We broached some intense topics We talked about having a baby together... Well that if/when we become a couple that neither of us is opposed to the idea of having a child together... We talked about her... His wife... He agrees that he is in an abusive relationship... But he...
    jupsta jupsta 36-40, F 3 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    I realize I am dreading some up

    and coming dates... Her birthday And their anniversary I don't know if I can handle either
    jupsta jupsta 36-40, F 9 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    I am painfully becoming aware

    that he is done with me. His actions are speaking much louder than his words ever could. When we first met and got together, it was with the intention that it would be a physical only relationship. After a month, he told me point blank that he was in love with me. He would...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 2 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    My Secret Gold Coin

    You don’t know it, but I think of you as a beautiful, precious, shiny gold coin that I keep secretly hidden in my pocket. I feel happy knowing that you are in there, but unhappy knowing that you have to stay hidden. I wish I could show you off to friends, but they wouldn’t...
    jenn80 jenn80 51-55 18 Responses May 23, 2013

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 12 Responses Jun 2

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 21 Responses May 6

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 44 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 43 Responses Feb 24

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    jupsta jupsta 36-40, F 2 Responses 24 mins ago

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 21 Responses Jan 2

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    Things I don't miss from my affair.

    .. 1. Waiting for my phone to ding 2. Lying to spouse about where I am going 3. Making sure I erase texts 4. Time 5. Mind control that the affair holds not mm 6. Questioning of myself and actions 7. Guilt not for the affair but for my husband and his wife 8. Time 9. The panic...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 27

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    Out of almost 3.5 billion men.

    ..why did it have to be him? He's not even that great looking (of course I think he is :/ ) and I'm a total steal. I could be in a normal relationship with someone who would make me their number one and yet I'm stuck on HIM!!!! Aaaaahhhhhh
    pearl26ab pearl26ab 26-30, F 4 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    I just want to first thank all of you

    incredible ladies for the supportive words on my last post. It's nice to have the support, it helps me to not feel alone. I'm very tired today. I couldn't bare sleeping in my bed because it still smells like him, so I cried myself to sleep on my couch. Luckily he wasn't at...
    PrincessLolita PrincessLolita 26-30, F 7 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    So good recap thus and fri got to spend time

    together sat and sun we texted and in contact all weekend long really nice things were really looking up we were back to us and connection and everything was good.... Today he tells me that he got surprised yest and they are going to Orlando fri - sun for his bday. The kids and...
    ap05 ap05 26-30, F 1 hr ago

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    Emotionally and mentally drained.

    Days when you don't feel like being the other woman. I know I am on my way to being "The Woman" or I would walk away. After so many days of hurting, there's a dull numbness that overtakes me. I look forward to those days. When you're numb, you don't feel. Not feeling is...
    blackheels4me blackheels4me 36-40, F 10 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    I look at being the other woman

    as a business deal...especially if the OW is also married and seeing another MM. Every business arrangement is different...for me and my MM, it was supposed to be exclusive. He nor I was supposed to see other people. Meaning I was his main and only side chick and then he could...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 1 Response 12 hrs ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 139 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    Moving On.....I Didn'T Think I Would Ever Be Able To Say That

    I must admit that I have been pretty much obsessed over the man I cheated with. I haven't talked to him in over a year since the truth about us came out. But everyday I think about him and wonder how he is, what he is doing, how his son is, if he thinks about me at all...
    SS81 SS81 31-35, F 64 Responses May 8, 2013

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 31-35, M 14 Responses Apr 19

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    I am a married woman having an affair with a

    married man also. We been on& off for about 7 years now. Lately he has just got to controlling & expects for me too listen to him like if he where the one paying my bills. I am fed up with it is hard to let go .
    confused7years confused7years 31-35, F 2 Responses 56 mins ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 22-25, F 19 Responses Apr 18

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    Please, do not stop posting.

    ... I may not be the best person to make this request because I have only participated on the forum for just a few months. But I am so glad I had a place to go. I can not begin to tell you how supportive you ladies have been during my time of heart aches, up swings, troubles...
    saiyagyrl saiyagyrl 36-40, F 4 Responses May 26

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 48 Responses Feb 16

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 204 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 79 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 36 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Ladies.. I need your help!

    Should I send him this text?? Thoughts? "I’m feeling ignored by you. I’m trying not to be a total girl. And I know it’s not like we’re a couple or anything. And I know you’ve been busy lately. I can’t help but notice that you use to always say good night and good...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 152 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    Picking myself up bootstrap style.

    Making a new commitment to myself today. :)
    neverendingmadness neverendingmadness 36-40, F 1 Response 12 hrs ago

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    I pretty much have moved in.

    My house is just an expensive closet at this point. I only go there to grab clothes and mail. Sometimes I'll do laundry, only because my washer and dryer are much nicer than his. I haven't slept in my own bed in almost two weeks. He's on the family vacation this week. I used to...
    RedHotPepper RedHotPepper 26-30, F 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    Starting to think I make myself too available

    for him...I usually go to the job & see him on my days off...days when we're both working I go by his department....and he's gotten used to that..my question is....if I pull away a lil...maybe don't go see him or txt less will he notice? Will that make him make more effort to...
    Sidechic79 Sidechic79 31-35 6 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    This Question is for Married men with OW: I am

    also married and My mm has told me several times in the past that i will be his wife one day while holding his hands to my head. Looked me right in the eyes. And has also said that he wants to have a child together. We have been seeing each other for about 9 months now and are...
    Amb505 Amb505 26-30, F 4 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 9 Responses Feb 11

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 162 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    ok so the whole world knows ke$ha likes beards

    lol..what's a sexy physical characteristic your man has that drives you crazy. mine? green eyes, black hair & facial stubble that re-appears like 12 hrs after he shaves. gotta love that 5 o'clock shadow - i LOVE masculine in a man!
    MillieJadexx MillieJadexx 36-40, F 3 Responses 23 mins ago

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 8 Responses Feb 13

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 69 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    All is right in my world.

    ;) Ke$ha - Your Love Is My Drug (Lyrics On Screen): http://youtu.be/o1JXZ1ZXRjw
    GenieH22 GenieH22 36-40, F 3 hrs ago

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    prettygoddess prettygoddess 26-30, F 8 Responses 33 mins ago

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    So tonight it hit me.

    I've spent months planning a future with my MM, I really thought we had something. But the more and more I think about our future in a technical standpoint, it just doesn't work. For one, finances aren't there. Two, he has a child, and I can't bare that he's going to lose...
    StuckInEternity StuckInEternity 18-21, F 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    Just want to put this out there to all you

    other "other women" you keep me positive... You nail my feet to the ground... You make me smile ... You put my heart back in my chest ... Thank you and when I see you pouring your heart out I feel it... I hope all the best for everyone of you misunderstood beautiful women ... I...
    jupsta jupsta 36-40, F 8 Responses Jun 9

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 29 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 82 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 17 Responses May 4

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    D day how do you lie your way throw it.

    What's some off the crap you tell your spouses. What are some off the crap you tell yourself to make your lies feel like truth to you
    Trueman1944 Trueman1944 66-70, M 3 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Damn, it's been almost 3 months

    so why can't I shake him off?? I still find myself thinking about him and I don’t think there has been a day since the split that he has not crossed my mind. I just returned home from being out on vacation the last 2 weeks. I finally had 1 day of alone time at home with no...
    Lauryn0114 Lauryn0114 31-35, F 4 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    I was the other women

    for a year but now I am the wife. We will be celebrating our 3 year wedding anniversary soon. We were both married to other people when we met. We were both in bad marriages. We are both so much happier now. If anyone wants to hear my story I am happy to share.
    magic2929 magic2929 46-50, F 18 Responses Apr 29

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    Why I respect my MM’s wife: • If he would

    not have married her, he would have gone to college on a baseball scholarship and I may have never met him. • Together, they brought two of the most gorgeous and awesome kids into our lives. • I am tearing apart HER dream life. She married her high school sweetheart and...
    CCBatman120 CCBatman120 26-30, F 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Food for thought, but that's none of my

    business, lol! Happy Monday :-)
    Itonlytakesone Itonlytakesone 26-30, F 18 hrs ago

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