Post
Experience Project iOS Android Apps | Download EP for your Mobile Device

I Am The Other Woman

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 10,079 People

    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 50 Responses Feb 16

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Justification - the trolls write about it,

    we write about it. In the end there a million reasons either way. Is what we are doing right? For us? For our MM? Is what we are doing wrong? For whom? And who are they to judge? Nobody other than us know our entire story, no matter how much we type our experiences - nobody...
    kanga4 kanga4 36-40, F 7 Responses 5 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel

    This is more of a question,

    but wasn't sure how to post it .... And this is my first experience and I hope to share mine like so many of you have. Is there a good substitute name for u and/or ur MM in your phone contacts? One that doesn't draw attention?
    BluCoastGal BluCoastGal 36-40, F 6 Responses 46 mins ago

    Your Response

    Cancel

    So....I watch Grey's Anatomy

    and was catching up on it today (rainy, cold day here). The newest episode set me off.....good thing I had a lot to do this afternoon so I couldn't wallow in self pity. Anyone else know what I mean?
    greeneyes2232 greeneyes2232 41-45, F 3 Responses 22 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel

    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 103 Responses Oct 12, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I’ve known my MM for 4 years.

    We were just friends and he was very supportive when things crashed and burned with my previous MM. At the time we lived relatively close, but 3 years ago, I moved 1000 miles away. We have kept in touch the entire time but haven’t seen each other except to Facetime on...
    greenacres33 greenacres33 36-40, F 4 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel

    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 20 Responses Apr 18

    Your Response

    Cancel

    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 15 Responses Jun 2

    Your Response

    Cancel

    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 146 Responses Apr 9, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Almost a week since I've had sex.

    .... This is unacceptable!!! Yeah I understand that he had a 2 funerals back to back, I understand that he had other things to do, but 1 week?????That's too long... I have needs.... Sigh.... I should have stayed married!!! Where at least I could have had sex daily...3-4x a week...
    Lilypad718 Lilypad718 31-35, F 9 Responses 20 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I just responded to a post on here

    which got me to thinking (yes, y'all are in trouble while I ramble). If you're not mature enough to handle being an OW, sugar don't go down that road. The statement was made that his OW called W and said they were getting married. Excuse me? She (the W) is not your...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 26 Responses Oct 8

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 20 Responses Jan 2

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Why does it bug me so much

    that he calls is GF his W? He doesn't know that I know he isn't married. When we started he told me he was married but I have since found out that he is not. I have found her on FB and even know where she lives. I also know where he lives and they are not even close to each. Is...
    lilymn lilymn 46-50, F 4 Responses 1 hr ago

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Oh, emotional whiplash.

    That's what I call all this back and forth. He's been pretty great lately, back to rapid responses with texting, calling me without me asking... whatever was stressing him out last week seems to be done. Maybe it was a flash of guilt, but I'm fine with no knowing. Today is an lc...
    Ahmazing Ahmazing 31-35, F 5 Responses 22 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Ladies I just wanted to take a moment

    and thank y'all for accepting me for who I am, even tho we live different life's. I've had the chance to talk with quite a few of you and made some knew friends that I gotta say are pretty darn awesome. And to those that have come to my defense against these God forsaken trolls...
    Ldylvlylcks2002 Ldylvlylcks2002 26-30, F 3 Responses 1 hr ago

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 16 Responses May 4

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Hi everyone, I have been reading the stories

    here for the past few days, of how many of you are best friends with your OM, and also a recent story, where most of you say your contact with OM has just increased over time.... Well, I've been wondering, because mine seems to have reduced significantly, to be fair my OM has...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 7 Responses 17 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel

    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 81 Responses Feb 18, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I am really looking forward to spending some

    quality time with him tomorrow. Time away from work is the best. The bad part is having to go back to work and reality. Our fun usually takes place toward the end of the day. Tomorrow I will have to walk back into the office and act like I didn't just have fun. This will be all...
    surfandturf surfandturf 36-40, F 1 Response 1 hr ago

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Thank god the weekend is almost over.

    I was suppose to see him tomorrow but his parents decided to stay an extra day to watch a damn football game. So now that's off. I was very understanding of course but I miss him, it's just another long *** weekend and another lc day to deal with.
    rainydays2 rainydays2 31-35, F 1 Response 20 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel

    To the people and trolls

    who are trying to save our souls.... Let me explain something: Our (OW) defenses go up when you use hated phrases like... Side Piece Having his cake and eating it too If he cheats with you, he'll cheat on you ...and so many more. Be original. All we need to do is read those...
    BlackHiHeels4Me BlackHiHeels4Me 36-40, F 44 Responses Jul 30

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 22 Responses Jul 30

    Your Response

    Cancel

    It has been WAY too many days

    since I've had the chance to get my hands on him!! Ugh!!!
    GenieH22 GenieH22 36-40, F 3 Responses 1 hr ago

    Your Response

    Cancel

    So that was unexpected.

    I hadn't talked to mm since Friday night. I decided to text him today and he responds telling me he doesn't want to see our talk to me anymore. He didn't give me any explanation and I didn't ask. If he can walk away so easily I guess I should be able to as well. I'm hurt but...
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 15 Responses 4 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Well here goes. I've been lurking

    for a few months now and decided it's time for me to write my feelings out. Married to a good man and an amazing dad. We have not been intimate in 4-5 months. In the last year, we have not been out on a date and I think we're at the point where we love each other but not in...
    kikimarie1978 kikimarie1978 36-40, F 23 Responses 4 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Have you ever made an excuse to not see your MM

    even though you could just to see if it makes him want you more or so they don't feel like you are desperate for any morsel of time he offers, like a loyal puppy?
    forbidden67 forbidden67 46-50, F 9 Responses 18 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 19 Responses Sep 10

    Your Response

    Cancel

    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 6 Responses Dec 15, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    He's married now but I saw him today just to

    discuss the future of our baby and he couldn't help but to flirt and make sexual jokes. I know I shouldn't deal with this **** anymore but God I can't wait till he touches my body again
    HisCharmedOne HisCharmedOne 26-30, F 19 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Does your MM know you post on here?

    Why or why not does he know?
    eapple eapple 31-35, F 27 Responses 21 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 11

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I finally the app for this!

    I'm excited I no longer have to log in every time I want to check it. It's going to take some time to get used to it though.
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 4 Responses 7 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel

    During my employment with a medical clinic,

    I have worked and liaised with many regular doctors. I have made good friends to some. Recently, when i have problem with my ap, i turned to this one particular doctor. He knows about my ap from our first meeting all the way to our sex life. Now he is hitting me, trying to fix...
    prettygoddess prettygoddess 26-30, F 4 Responses 14 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 46 Responses Apr 12, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 10 Responses Feb 13

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 76 Responses Feb 19, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I am gonna see him this week!

    I can't wait! Last time I saw him was Oct 1st yes I am literally counting the minutes! Can't wait for his magical touch and be in heaven with his kisses! Oh Love!!!
    kylee2013 kylee2013 36-40, F 20 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    blue963 blue963 51-55, F 3 Responses 53 mins ago

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 162 Responses Oct 3, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 36 Responses Sep 23

    Your Response

    Cancel

    After not talking for almost two week

    after the entire story of My MM wive finding out and he that cut of all contact with me , i was walking in town today and he stopped at the robot , rolled down hes window and looked me staight in the eyes , and i looked away but he looked at me again , and drove off , kinda...
    flower242 flower242 18-21, F 1 Response 11 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 39 Responses Jul 6, 2008

    Your Response

    Cancel

    And I will love my MM till the day I die!

    Even if it ends I have had the best time of my life with him!!! Oh love!!!
    kylee2013 kylee2013 36-40, F 3 Responses 20 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel

    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 45 Responses Apr 22, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 43 Responses Feb 24

    Your Response

    Cancel

    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 68 Responses Jun 2, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Just a heads up lady's - Joeshmoe

    and Blondeboy are one in the same - God - WHEN will these bored, angry and lonely people get their OWN life! BLOCK. Joe or Blonde - yes these posts can be commented on, but we all have the freedom to eliminate stalkers - anyone that would take the time to have multiple...
    kitty1958 kitty1958 51-55, F 2 Responses 8 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 23 Responses May 6

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I know that he is hurting

    and mad that I ended it, and told him I would tell his wife if he contacted me again (not sure that I really would.. Just was the only thing I could think of that would get him to leave me alone). But now he is doing things to be purposely hurtful to me.. Changing his google...
    4kari 4kari 31-35, F 7 Responses 2 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 78 Responses Feb 21, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Why do all the haters say you're always going

    to be second choice? Maybe we are second choice when he "has" to go home but in reality we aren't second choice in his heart or his mind. I can almost promise that he's thinking about me more than his wife. I can almost promise his heart is starting to lead him else where and...
    tc57 tc57 31-35, F 87 Responses Aug 10

    Your Response

    Cancel