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I Am The Other Woman

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    These days of highs and lows.

    After a great conversation yesterday, I have not heard from him. I called throughout the day and texted with no response. Perhaps he didn’t go into work today. Of course, I would have no way of knowing whether or not he did. Not returning texts simply blows my mind...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 4 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 11 Responses Jun 2

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 204 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    It would be really interesting to have a

    convention of all of us women in person for a weekend to all tell each other our stories with our voices and faces. I think we'd have to keep it on the D.L. to avoid getting attacked though. LOL
    elainedastolat elainedastolat 31-35, F 12 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 64 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    WOW!! What a wonderful morning.

    My baby put me on a pedestal this morning, and on a table and the floor. Lol. Had an amazing time, just wish it could have been longer. But I got ths sweetest love and sweetest kiss. Nothing can ruin this day!!!!!
    candybuck candybuck 36-40, F 2 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    My love is leaving on his vacation (his first

    one since we've been together, he's had to deal with a few for me already so it's only fair!) only I am better at sneaking away and texting! Need tips on how to deal with this week and less contact! Luckily I just saw him and we had a long conversation about how much he loves me...
    Changedforever9514 Changedforever9514 36-40, F 1 Response 10 hrs ago

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    Its finally here!! I am impatienly waiting on

    him to be here. In less than 2 hours I will be his and he will be mine. Even if its only for a while!!
    candybuck candybuck 36-40, F 2 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Please, do not stop posting.

    ... I may not be the best person to make this request because I have only participated on the forum for just a few months. But I am so glad I had a place to go. I can not begin to tell you how supportive you ladies have been during my time of heart aches, up swings, troubles...
    saiyagyrl saiyagyrl 36-40, F 4 Responses May 26

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    My Secret Gold Coin

    You don’t know it, but I think of you as a beautiful, precious, shiny gold coin that I keep secretly hidden in my pocket. I feel happy knowing that you are in there, but unhappy knowing that you have to stay hidden. I wish I could show you off to friends, but they wouldn’t...
    jenn80 jenn80 51-55 18 Responses May 23, 2013

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 36 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    I'm torn..... So I send him a text reminding

    him the week is half over and that he said we could spend some time this week..... He tells me he knows and it's hard cus the w is working days.... Then he tells me Saturday night we could hang out... So I am going to a wedding Saturday.....I could leave early and get to spend...
    PrincessLolita PrincessLolita 26-30, F 2 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 48 Responses Feb 16

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    Crap. Letting myself go down

    that road. That 'I can't believe this is my life' and 'we will never be a real couple' and 'all i want is to just be able to touch you every day and wake up to your smile' part of the roller coaster. Pity party central. We would be so perfect together. Every day. Forever. But we...
    neverendingmadness neverendingmadness 36-40, F 6 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    Okay ladies ...... i have 3.

    5 weeks before kids go back to school and somewhere in that time he is suppose to move out......i can do this and wait lol he will never give me 100% def. But he says 86% and he's said things like I wanna do it next month and I need to be with you and his w does know he wants to...
    ap05 ap05 26-30, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    We did not just meet by chance.

    We were not just two people passing in the breeze. We were always going to find each other. But we are not meant to be. There is no us. There is no future. Time to accept things as they truly are.
    pearl26ab pearl26ab 26-30, F 3 Responses 1 hr ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 44 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    He just landed from his business trip.

    He texted me this afternoon and I didn't expect a phone call from him while he was being driven. Omg how i miss this man so much! How I miss his voice over the phone! How he said that we would be meeting soon and it will be late of next month...aarrghhh!!!
    prettygoddess prettygoddess 26-30, F 1 Response 8 hrs ago

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    Anyone have a post accidentally end up on the

    "I am tired of being the other woman" forum? In case you were wondering...not so friendly folks over there when you are talking about being in love with your MM...lol.
    ynoTme83 ynoTme83 26-30, F 4 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 43 Responses Feb 24

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    Even though it's been two years,

    I'm still sad to see him drive away. I wanna hug him and kiss him and laugh and be with him all the time. He calms me. He makes me Laugh. He makes me laugh like no one else ever. He's my twin flame. He's the light and the love in my life and every time we part I feel as if I'm...
    MarieVon MarieVon 36-40, F 3 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    So, I just got my first private message from a

    *helpful and concerned* stranger chastising me, telling me what to consider, feel, etc. about my MM and his W. I am sure I am not the first OW to get one of these messages, what do you ladies do when you get them and if you respond, what type of things do you say? She clearly...
    addicted2him1966 addicted2him1966 31-35, F 6 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    I was the other women

    for a year but now I am the wife. We will be celebrating our 3 year wedding anniversary soon. We were both married to other people when we met. We were both in bad marriages. We are both so much happier now. If anyone wants to hear my story I am happy to share.
    magic2929 magic2929 46-50, F 17 Responses Apr 29

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 40 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 152 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    If we met on the street.

    At a bar. In a bookstore. Grocery shopping. Would we still be us? Are we together because of the danger? The mystery? The secrecy? What would we be if we weren't this? Who would I be? Who would you be? Id like to think the same.
    neverendingmadness neverendingmadness 36-40, F 3 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    Why do people on here feel the need to tell the

    OW or OM to just move on and find a single person. Yeah because it's just that easy to drop feelings or love and act liked it never happened. We don't seek out to find someone's other significant other and fall for them. Most of the time we just get to know the person and or...
    tc57 tc57 31-35, F 7 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    My guy doesn't want me talking to

    or sleeping with anyone but him even though he goes home to HER every night. Anyone else have this issue!?
    Sidechic79 Sidechic79 31-35 22 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    On cloud 9 today. I didn't think he'd be in

    the office today and I was in a board room by myself all morning and I sent him a text saying I wish he was in the office so he could come see me.....and he was! So he did! We made out against the door......I just love how he kisses me. His big hands on both sides of my face...
    PrincessLolita PrincessLolita 26-30, F 3 hrs ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 69 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    I think it's over. I called him out on their

    relationship. Seems like he's been waiting around for her to leave him. I'm tired if waiting for hell to freeze over. I told him if neither of them are gonna leave each other, it only leaves me with one option. I have not received a reply text yet. It's been half an hour.
    PatientHeart PatientHeart 31-35, F 3 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    I was. I want to contact him,

    it's been a year. How should I do it? I just want answers.
    greenpinky greenpinky 36-40, F 2 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Both Sides of the Fence!

    I lived in a sexless marriage for many years. My spouse did not. He like dripping his wick elsewhere, through our entire marriage. I didn't want to catch any thing so... glad he was getting taken care of ...cause he wasn't touching me again... that was for sure! I am divorce...
    MorningBreeze MorningBreeze 56-60, F 26 Responses Feb 15

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    Sitting here with happy tears!

    !!! My MM isn't one to get really emotional but he just sent me a text that said "I do love you, listen to Breathe by Angels & Airwaves" oh I love that man so!!
    Newlife48 Newlife48 46-50, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 82 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    Things I don't miss from my affair.

    .. 1. Waiting for my phone to ding 2. Lying to spouse about where I am going 3. Making sure I erase texts 4. Time 5. Mind control that the affair holds not mm 6. Questioning of myself and actions 7. Guilt not for the affair but for my husband and his wife 8. Time 9. The panic...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 27

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    He just left! I love his smell on me all over

    me, so he tells me he's going to download some series onto his iPad because all he does is check his phone to see if there's a message from me and it's getting very unhealthy and he needs to stop thinking about me so much to start functioning properly. Sad to hear he wants to...
    Missy1179 Missy1179 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Moving On.....I Didn'T Think I Would Ever Be Able To Say That

    I must admit that I have been pretty much obsessed over the man I cheated with. I haven't talked to him in over a year since the truth about us came out. But everyday I think about him and wonder how he is, what he is doing, how his son is, if he thinks about me at all...
    SS81 SS81 31-35, F 64 Responses May 8, 2013

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 79 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    I never planned to be the other woman.

    I just wanted to be there for him, as he was for me. When we met, we were both absolutely miserable in our marriages (both spouses are verbally abusive), but in a place where we felt it best not to be divorced (finances, kids, etc). So we decided to become a support to each...
    dontrust dontrust 51-55, F 6 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 9 Responses Feb 11

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 17 Responses May 4

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 21 Responses Jan 2

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    I may sound selfish. I can never get enough of

    MM. I spend everyday at work with him and I still would love to talk or text him at night. Night and weekends are family time, and I know but......
    rjh3 rjh3 46-50, F 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    Just an update. I posted a

    while ago that my MM's art career took off and he left the job where we worked together. This allowed me to break it off once and for all and finally get him to agree to NO Contact for a period of up to a year. My life is great. I don't miss the roller coaster and I don't allow...
    nycgrrrl nycgrrrl 41-45, F 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    He met me at my most vulnerable.

    I was recently divorced, my only child was off at college and I was feeling like I didn't matter anymore. I was minding my on business, sitting quietly on a bus reading a book. I don't even recall him stepping on the bus. He said he noticed me right away and couldn't keep his...
    Breeze62 Breeze62 51-55, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    So I love this man so much!

    ! He last text to me was, love you.. That is what I've or any other women been wanting and longing to hear that golden words everyday...!
    prettygoddess prettygoddess 26-30, F 1 Response 11 hrs ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 162 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 22-25, F 19 Responses Apr 18

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 8 Responses Feb 13

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    The time today that I spent with him meant

    so much to me! He turned his phone on silent for the time we were together so it was just him and I. How magical and emotional it was for me, to be in his arms, to hold him, touch him, kiss him again after the years we have been apart. I cried during the time we were intimate...
    addicted2him1966 addicted2him1966 31-35, F 5 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    I'm trying to be thankful

    for the time I get - but it's just not enough. I know I'm supposed to just enjoy the moments - but they are so few and far between. I know I've put myself here and should just accept this for what it is - I'm trying but I don't know if I can continue to. I love him with all...
    firstlove111 firstlove111 41-45, F 6 Responses 20 hrs ago

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