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I Am The Other Woman

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 42 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    b4realz b4realz 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    My feelings toward (ex)MM have been all over

    the place lately. I found a piece of plastic that had chipped off his cell phone case, and I lost it. It was the dumbest thing to get sappy over, but it took me back to the night it happened, a night not all that long ago when I was still foolishly swooning over this man. It...
    ashadams244 ashadams244 26-30, F 10 Responses 1 day ago

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    I deleted my account

    and started over. So let me retype my story. Some of you already know me- from all the advice and words of encouragement that I constantly dispense, but I guess I should post a story for any of my reader fans to refer to. Why the heck am I giving advice? Here's why... I am not...
    tinyivory tinyivory 36-40, F 4 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 48 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    I don't come on this forum to argue with women

    on here, let alone this site. We are here to share our experiences with each other, relate to them, give and get advice, and to get support. Because most of us women don't really have anyone to talk to regarding this situation. So, it really bothers me that women on this to...
    newgurlxo newgurlxo 18-21, F 10 hrs ago

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 45 Responses Jan 10

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 14 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    wordweapon wordweapon 41-45, F 1 day ago

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    I'm done with men. MM is being

    so strange. Can't stand my exH. I don't want to talk or interact with either of them at all. I'm done.
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 7 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    I cant do this anymore,

    its too hard and hurts too much. How can one man cause so much pain and so much self loathing! I hate him for the way he's making me feel but I miss him. I cant stop the tears today, I just want it all to just go away.
    Prettybutterfly88 Prettybutterfly88 26-30, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    NO LONGER THE OTHER WOMAN!

    !! I am now the only woman :) it has been officially ended this morning, he was straight on the phone to me who was awesome at playing it cool despite up all night worrying! He was going to come over but we both decided against it as he needs time to recover maybe. He has gone...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 12 Responses Mar 21

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    he thinks its okay to just talk.

    remain friends. says he understands why I left. needs me in his life... not sure this is a good thing. thankfully he leaves soon for school. 8 weeks of no potential suprise visits. I don't want to have to block him...seems so juvenile. it makes me feel weak, confused and...
    infinitymdc79 infinitymdc79 36-40, F 2 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    Well, I talked to my MM about our relationship

    and I told him that if he didn't make more of an effort to see me I was out of this relationship. Well he took it as a breakup and he went into a depression posting all kinds of sad things. We still texted and he seemed so so sad. Then he tells me that he was going to kill...
    4bdnluv 4bdnluv 31-35, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    My friend asked me about ex MM today.

    She wondered if he's tried to contact me. The first thing out of my mouth was 'nope and I don't want him to'!! I really truly meant it.
    Freedomnow01 Freedomnow01 31-35, F 1 Response 14 hrs ago

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    They aren't even together

    and I'm still the other woman! It's so stupid that I still have to feel like a secret...
    Kiaersanne Kiaersanne 18-21, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 161 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 25 Responses Apr 30

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    ap05 ap05 26-30, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Ok so over the last few days I have been

    involved in an unhealthy exchange with another member here. I got my back up because of some of her posts and the insensitivity that seemed to be contained in them. I wanted to call her out and challenge her behavior but it has gone too far. She is over stressed about all of...
    Freedomnow01 Freedomnow01 31-35, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    OH. MY. GOD. It's final,

    he's single, and as of 9:37am today I am no longer the OW!!!
    Shardsofsorrow Shardsofsorrow 31-35, F 77 Responses Jul 29

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    Well, I just booked my flights to go

    and see MM, for the first time in 5 months! We will get 2 evenings and a whole day. And he will come to me to visit in Oct. It's been a really tough time and we almost didn't survive, but now we have this to look forward to. Just 2 weeks to go... :-)
    daisyblue222 daisyblue222 41-45, F 2 Responses 1 hr ago

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    My mother has been a cheater,

    and a mistress to the same man for 9 years now. I resent her so much for it, due to the fact that my father has been so heart broken and loves her so much, he hasn't left. I am 18 years old now. I have been " the other woman" for technically 3 years now. Although I feel as...
    amariss13 amariss13 18-21, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 18 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    mySweetestMistake mySweetestMistake 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Met MM at lunchtime today.

    What a difference it was from the last two times we me. When we met after his family vacation, my wall was a bit up. Then we met for "the talk". Both times there was some stress in the air. Today when we met, we both just couldn't stop smiling. And I forgot how much I missed his...
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 1 day ago

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    After silence of 2 years.

    His wife,called me yesterday. She was upset cause he is having an affair. I was put through hell by his,wife. My current lover isn't happy,about her calling. I thought I was over him. All her calling did was make wonder .Why I can't forget him? I been in faithful relationship...
    butterflylady21 butterflylady21 46-50, F 10 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    What a day mm and I both still have our jobs

    and are thankful.... All together 8 managers fired about 25-30 reps gone.... It was really scary today I've never seen anything like this before... When he and I went to lunch it was like u could cut the tension with a knife everyone was on edge.... He was afraid for his job and...
    ap05 ap05 26-30, F 2 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    (Ex)MM texted me tonight to ask

    if it was okay to call me. I was surprised that seeing his name on my phone screen didn't cause my heart to skip a beat quite like it always has. It's been an emotional week and I've been missing him terribly, so it was reassuring to discover that missing him doesn't mean I'm...
    ashadams244 ashadams244 26-30, F 4 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    For those of us who just ended things,

    or are hanging by a thread, the positive side of this freedom... No more watching them text back and forth like tweeners on our dates. No more lonely Sundays, feeling sad that it's an NC day. No more laying in bed every night wondering what they're doing in bed together. No...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 20 Responses Jul 12

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    My soon to be exH is a complete *** hat,

    and has no organization at all. My daughter won't be coming back until tomorrow.
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 95 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    Women don't waste your time on married men .

    I got involved with one and my heart is bleeding now . He told me that he was going to leave her , to my surprise Is it was all a lie . I got so fed up and messaged his wife. I hope she forgives him , but I will never forgive him for what he did to me . He blamed it all on me...
    liveforever1 liveforever1 22-25, F 9 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 22 Responses Mar 22

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 19 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    This is truly what I want one day.

    What I need. I sent it to MM as well. He agreed that it is the hardest part of our relationship, but frankly it is also what will kill it because one can't be in the shadows forever. Hugs my friends. Just thought it was beautiful
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 6 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 16 Responses Mar 25

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    I think this says it.

    Read this caption
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 49 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    Miss him like crazy tonight.

    I haven't felt this kind of a painful, sad yearning for him for years... this is how I used to feel quite often way back when, before we were even together and I was falling in love from afar. I had almost forgotten how painful this feeling can be. We just texted our good...
    ladyquaintrelle ladyquaintrelle 22-25, F 8 Responses 1 day ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 53 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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