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I Am The Other Woman

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 10 Responses Feb 13

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 20 Responses Jul 30

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 31 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    we chatted this morning

    for a while, but in six years he has always just emailed me throughout the day. Thinking of you...miss you. None of that yet this year and half of the day is gone. If we dont chat tonight before bed, i am going to be a basket case. Every holiday we have done that. I need...
    blue963 blue963 51-55, F 2 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    Tonight will be our first full night together.

    No time constraints. No looking over our shoulders. We have a suite booked with a fireplace. Sushi & wine. I am so looking forward to 8 hours of normalcy. It is crazy we have never even eaten together. We spend our blips of time only focused on eachother. We get to talk for...
    tauriangirl tauriangirl 36-40, F 28 Responses Nov 15

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    HAPPY THANKSGIVING TO EVERYONE!

    I am using this day to be happy about the time I do have with my mm. Thankful about my soon to be one year mark. Thankful that this relationship has worked on my patience lol We've text all day today and he was going to make an appearance but I know that is never guaranteed so I...
    youngnbeautifulme youngnbeautifulme 36-40, F 2 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    I broke nc yesterday

    but only to wish him a Happy Thanksgiving. Haven't talked to him since because I want to wait until I know exactly what I want to say to him. I hate when I don't think things through because then I don't say what I want too or worse, I say things I shouldn't. This time I want to...
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 2 Responses 1 hr ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 103 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 46 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    How do you ladies cope with the fact

    that he sleeps with his significant other/wife/gf, sees them probably 90% of the time, quarrels with them(to me I feel thats spending time too) and claims that he loves you and wants only you... when nothing is being done? he's not married, so am I, but she lives at his place...
    kathxshell13 kathxshell13 22-25, F 6 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 8 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 17 Responses Sep 10

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 16 Responses May 4

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 20 Responses Apr 18

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 41 Responses Feb 24

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    I am a very lucky woman,

    I found an amazing man. I did not expect to hear from him at all today. We are far apart, and both have families, so with the holiday and all....he knows that I have to go to the MIL's birthday at 10 [the woman has hated me forever, after all I was the wrong religion, and not...
    whynot13 whynot13 46-50, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Women won't mess with a man

    that lives with his mom but will mess with a man who lives with his wife.
    reeessa reeessa 13-15, F 29 Responses Oct 23

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    I know it's not Thanksgiving all around the

    world, but my goodness, for the people who are celebrating it, can you at least take a day off of being a hater?
    surfsway surfsway 36-40, F 8 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    This holiday season is f***ing depressing.

    I don't even know why I feel that way...it's not cause of the whole "my boyfriend's married" thing (I've felt that way even before him)...it just sucks. Hasn't been the same since I moved out at 18 and most of my family moved away. But I will try to enjoy the day. I'm hoping...
    SweetHeresy SweetHeresy 22-25, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 34 Responses Sep 23

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    The coached call we all know this one don't we

    ladies? the phone rings I hear her voice "tell her it's over tell her she's a w-ore" tell her you just used her" he says nothing "tell her you don't want her tell her you're coming back to me" again he says nothing "tell her!!" She shouts He says nothing CLICK The phone...
    jupsta jupsta 36-40, F 30 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 40 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    I think i had my last straw with him not

    contacting me last night. I have ALWAYS been there for him. In almost 7 years we have always communicated on holiday nights. I really really needed him this year with both of my parents gone and having no siblings. Yes he was there connecting via chat for 2 days when this...
    blue963 blue963 51-55, F 1 Response 22 mins ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 148 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 15 Responses Jun 2

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 68 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    Has anyone been fortunate enough to chat with

    their AP today? He texted me this morning and we have been chatting as much as possible throughout the day. He said he wished we were just laying together in bed. What a nice thought that is.
    surfsway surfsway 36-40, F 15 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    I have a question for you ladies.

    ..this came to me cause of something that happened last night. Are you or your mm a jealous person? We went out last night to the bar to see some friends of ours play, well a friend of mine showed up and I couldn't wait for her to meet my guy, so she gives me a hug and I tell her...
    sensitiveme sensitiveme 31-35, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    I'll start by saying Happy Thanksgiving to all

    those celebrating...now, moving on.... MM and I had a conversation once my deadline approached. I asked him to be honest and tell me what he needs from me. With tears in his eyes, he said he has no right to ask anything of me. After a lot of pushing, he finally told me that he...
    BlackHiHeels4Me BlackHiHeels4Me 36-40, F 2 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 56 Responses Nov 6

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 24 Responses May 6

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    for those ladies who are no longer the ow,

    how did you cope with the dropped connections? It's been a tough a year and a half. because of him I lost self respect, self love, and I lost myself. I sank into depression the following week I met him(i was crazily in love but a huge blow since we couldn't be together) and it...
    kathxshell13 kathxshell13 22-25, F 8 mins ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 80 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 208 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 84 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    I am literally upset.

    Im not sure if those are signs of breaking up. Can someone assure me that its not true. After dday contacts as back to normal. Daily text and calls but its just for 2 weeks. Then went missing for 3 days in a weeks. And went missing again week after. I couldnt help to know so i...
    prettygoddess prettygoddess 26-30, F 6 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    Happy Thanksgiving Everyone!

    !! Sending all of you smiles and hugs. May you have a wonderful day.
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 1 Response 22 hrs ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    Had a lovely evening,

    2 hours texting with MM last night. It's been a week since we were together and we were chatting about our highlights. For him, totally unprompted, the highlights included "the love and tenderness between us". Awwwww... I'm in a happy place right now :-)
    daisyblue222 daisyblue222 36-40, F 2 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Well I am not feeling too good right now.

    We chatted this am. On holidays, I usually get an i miss you email thinking about you etc. throughout the day. Didnt happen. And at this point, it doesn't look like he will be chatting tonight. First time during a holiday in 6 years. I really dont want to hear any excuses...
    blue963 blue963 51-55, F 2 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 78 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 162 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    he makes me sick.....

    ..............
    shitbyrd shitbyrd 36-40, F 3 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    He was unhappy, neglected.

    ..as was I. We started talking as friends, commiserating I guess. He was admittedly a little nerdy, which I also thought was cute. He was super polite and shy. Totally not what I'm used to. He said that he and his wife were roommates. Hadn't had sex in 7 yrs. they lived pretty...
    sunnygrlamy sunnygrlamy 36-40, F 3 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    I feel so angry at myself.

    I was worrying about something and contacted MM. Why worry him over nothing over this now. I hope he don't think I want him back.
    stupid28 stupid28 31-35, F 23 hrs ago

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    Happy thanksgiving to you

    and yours ladies !
    dsuzy dsuzy 36-40, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I am usually the eternal optimist.

    I am usually quite content with us. Not today. Holidays have a way of highlighting the negatives. On my drive home from Thanksgiving dinner at his sister's my brain was going a mile a minute. I laugh at those who would contend that I take him from his family. It's not about...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 7 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    I AM NOT I STILL REMAIN I have been lied to .

    . And aparently cheated on... I have been manipulated and lead on I gave my heart only to have it torn up and danced on by a malicious ex wife... But all this doesn't change that he and I had something real... We talked about going on trips, and our children growing up...
    jupsta jupsta 36-40, F 5 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    Today Today I am sad My heart has sunken

    somewhere to the bottom of my empty stomach I still cannot eat I can only breath and even that takes effort How can all I had be gone? I remember looking in his eyes For any hint of doubt After all I had been through After everything I had seen I felt confident I would be...
    jupsta jupsta 36-40, F 1 Response 15 mins ago

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 20 Responses Jan 2

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    Ugh I just can't win with him!

    I tried to plan a nice day with him next week. Told him about it and then he says he's not interested and I'm too emotional!!! Seriously WTF?? I say u get mad when I'm all about sex so I tried to plan a fun day of doing stuff. Now u don't want that. What is it u want. I'm so...
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 5 Responses 17 hrs ago

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