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I Am The Other Woman

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    You ******* claim that you know every creek

    and corner of him. And when he whines that the world doesn't know him. You think it's your insult because you think you know him more than he knows himself. But wait a second, do you know that you're only seeing whatever he's showing & hiding the rest. Do you know who i'm ? And...
    Xyanii Xyanii 22-25, F 1 Response 12 hrs ago

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    It was supposed to be our weekend.

    Our first over night. Finally out to dinner or movies, be together for more that 2 hours. Have our normal for the first time in 8 months.... But, it fell through. He couldnt get out of this inlaw trip. I feel sad and disappointed. Im missing him like crazy and he wont have any...
    ariapg ariapg 26-30, F 5 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 140 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    I'm not a religious person by any means.

    .... However tomorrow it am attending a wedding and I have to read prayers to the couple and I have to say, I find myself feeling pretty terrible about myself right now. I've always loved weddings.....but I feel really sad going into this one. I've never felt guilty about...
    PrincessLolita PrincessLolita 26-30, F 4 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    Hearing his voice on the other end of the phone

    for just those few min eases all the anxiety I was feeling...
    Sidechic79 Sidechic79 31-35 2 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 21 Responses May 6

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 11 Responses Jun 2

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 8 Responses Feb 13

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 31-35, M 14 Responses Apr 19

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    Great morning despite telling him the truth.

    I told him the truth about being with someone else. I cried and he held me. Even though he is the married one I felt like I cheated on him. We had some really intense good bye sex and I hope he continues to come to me. I love him still and the passion of this morning made me...
    Lost4him2 Lost4him2 26-30 5 hrs ago

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    Things I don't miss from my affair.

    .. 1. Waiting for my phone to ding 2. Lying to spouse about where I am going 3. Making sure I erase texts 4. Time 5. Mind control that the affair holds not mm 6. Questioning of myself and actions 7. Guilt not for the affair but for my husband and his wife 8. Time 9. The panic...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 27

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    In his eyes, I'm kind of a

    "too-good-to-be-true" to him. In the beginning he thought i just wanted to have fun and i dont really love him. I have done everything I can to show him that i love him and after many ups and downs, eventually he now believe me. However, he has always had the thought that I will...
    iloveuox iloveuox 26-30, F 3 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 43 Responses Feb 24

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 17 Responses May 4

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    Omg. The husband started at me again two days

    ago. I'm never home, what about quality time, what about me, blah, blah, blah.. Selfish bastard. Started again at 8 this morning when I'm at work and cannot take his crap. Throws the kids in the mix just to make me feel guilty, when I know that I spend all my spare time with...
    ElsieJay ElsieJay 41-45, F 4 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    I am the OW and the MW.

    I am also a mom. I have officially been the OW since February, but there's always been an underlying linger in our friendship since 2007. For a long time, he had no idea I even had a spouse. I knew he did, and I knew he was unhappy, but I kept my real life hell out of my happy...
    PrincessLG PrincessLG 31-35, F 4 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    He is out of town for work

    until tomorrow. You'd think since he's out of town alone we'd talk more. He's ignored me now twice today and all I can think is that maybe he's not alone......maybe I'm not the only ow.... I don't understand why else he'd be ignoring me and it hurts!! I'm afraid everything he...
    PrincessLolita PrincessLolita 26-30, F 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    If I could talk to him

    now I would tell him How much I want to lay next to him & feel the warmth of his body and breath on my skin How much I've fallen for him How the mere thought of him gives me butterflies How my thoughts go to him every minute of the day How I can't wait to wake up in his arms...
    thatdresstho thatdresstho 41-45, F 1 day ago

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    Why do people assume his feelings

    for me aren't real or genuine? We connect on an emotional level not just sexual? I'm giving him the emotional attention his " live in " is not.
    Sidechic79 Sidechic79 31-35 5 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    I love hearing from all you ladies.

    I love being able to share in your joy and try to encourage when you're sad. In sitting here waiting for him to get home from work for dinner, my stepson (his oldest) is sitting on the couch with me and we're laughing at his baby crawling around on the floor. He is my grandson...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 10 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    How close has everyone been to getting "caught"?

    MM and I have been together for 6 years. In the beginning I was his secretary. We've always talked daily on the phone never been much for texting but one day we started sending funny little messages. Later that day he was coaching his daughters softball team and the wife...
    ynoTme83 ynoTme83 26-30, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 82 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 44 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Question, If ur man is a type of giving actions

    more than words, does he like it when u consistently give "words" to him ? Like ending any conversation with "ilu" or ending any text with "ilu" etc. ? I'm thinking if he is not the type of "saying" - would he think I'm being fake if I say too much of those stuff ? Or he still...
    iloveuox iloveuox 26-30, F 6 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    I went to work and didn't hear from him.

    For the first time, I was the first one to text him. He seemed happy. I brought the whole thing up and he started replying as if I just don't understand him. Well why doesn't he just be straight up with himself and stop dancing circles around everything? Everything led back to...
    PatientHeart PatientHeart 31-35, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 79 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    Moving On.....I Didn'T Think I Would Ever Be Able To Say That

    I must admit that I have been pretty much obsessed over the man I cheated with. I haven't talked to him in over a year since the truth about us came out. But everyday I think about him and wonder how he is, what he is doing, how his son is, if he thinks about me at all...
    SS81 SS81 31-35, F 64 Responses May 8, 2013

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 69 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    lavc lavc 46-50, F 6 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 64 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 36 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Please, do not stop posting.

    ... I may not be the best person to make this request because I have only participated on the forum for just a few months. But I am so glad I had a place to go. I can not begin to tell you how supportive you ladies have been during my time of heart aches, up swings, troubles...
    saiyagyrl saiyagyrl 36-40, F 4 Responses May 26

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    Wheeeee!! Down I go!

    I got into this relationship because i needed attention. I want ALL THE ATTENTION. ALL THE TIME. Completely unreasonable, I know. I can't have all the attention. But that doesn't stop me from wanting it. Craving it. And being pouty when I don't get it. So drop whatever you're...
    neverendingmadness neverendingmadness 36-40, F 5 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    He contacted me just now

    and I broke into tears. I'm always waiting and this time I just broke down. He thinks we are going to be friends like we were before so we are talking as friends. That is the reason we are in contact....as friends. I can never go back. I will never be the same. I desperately...
    pearl26ab pearl26ab 26-30, F 8 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 48 Responses Feb 16

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    I'm single. Never been married.

    No kids. Hold a doctorate degree. Good looking (I actually have many single guys are interested in me). And I'm in love with a married man who doesn't want to leave his family but he loves me. We are 3000 miles apart... I have been wondering every single day what is wrong with...
    iloveuox iloveuox 26-30, F 4 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Eck!!!! Last night was amazing just

    for a few simple reasons :). I was out to din with a new friend and he was out with a friend too but then he txtd me and said why don't we all meet up lol. Sooo we met at a world of beer *I hate beer* but it was nice he told his friend about me and not every detail but he knew...
    ap05 ap05 26-30, F 7 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    ap05 ap05 26-30, F 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Just want to put this out there to all you

    other "other women" you keep me positive... You nail my feet to the ground... You make me smile ... You put my heart back in my chest ... Thank you and when I see you pouring your heart out I feel it... I hope all the best for everyone of you misunderstood beautiful women ... I...
    jupsta jupsta 36-40, F 8 Responses Jun 9

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 9 Responses Feb 11

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 29 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Ugh just got into an argument with my guy.

    I've always been honest & upfront with him so I told him my sons father is moving back ( he's been out of state for 3 months). And he freakin lost it! Saying we should end things now because he knows we're gonna end up back together... Blah...blah...blah. Which is totally not...
    Sidechic79 Sidechic79 31-35 5 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    For those of us whose lives would be enriched

    by a divorce or two, sharing this brief bit of laughter and perspective for a Friday. :) A must watch. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W6cQRFfpZck
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 6 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    My Secret Gold Coin

    You don’t know it, but I think of you as a beautiful, precious, shiny gold coin that I keep secretly hidden in my pocket. I feel happy knowing that you are in there, but unhappy knowing that you have to stay hidden. I wish I could show you off to friends, but they wouldn’t...
    jenn80 jenn80 51-55 18 Responses May 23, 2013

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 40 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    I am NOT the other woman any longer

    but then again I never did feel that way…..For those that know my story already know that my relationship was an open book for all including his wife….we didn’t hide or sneak around meet in the car….we went out in public, we held hands when we shopped together, did lot...
    daisydew1973 daisydew1973 41-45, F 40 mins ago

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    Well I've been talking to this man

    for about 4 months now and 2 months ago we were on the phone and he told me that he had a girlfriend this whole time, but we weren't together we just were intamite so really there was nothing I could do but I was stupid and eventually forgave him. Now as of right now he still...
    tcbaby231 tcbaby231 36-40, F 5 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    A different perspective.

    (This will be long...sorry) I'm going to change names and certain details purely because this is not my own experience, but observations I've made about a relative's situation. My cousin, we'll call him "Johnny", has been married for 23 years. He married at 18 and mainly because...
    dropdeadredhead dropdeadredhead 36-40, F 4 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    I'm sorry but I don't care

    who this might **** off or annoy. I'm already getting hate mail and we've been harassed all weekend. There are many positive's and negatives about any relationship. We all know the negatives but hopefully just to **** a few people off, I'd like to tell everyone the positives...
    sweetmae79 sweetmae79 31-35, F 15 Responses Apr 20

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    Got a phone call from my MM a little

    while ago. He had just left the doctor's office with W for the first ultrasound. Although, I'm obviously still shaken by the news, I can't help but be happy for him. I can sense the happiness in his voice, he said it's finally sunk in that he's now got a child on the way. I just...
    kc5316 kc5316 22-25, F 4 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 21 Responses Jan 2

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    I was the other women

    for a year but now I am the wife. We will be celebrating our 3 year wedding anniversary soon. We were both married to other people when we met. We were both in bad marriages. We are both so much happier now. If anyone wants to hear my story I am happy to share.
    magic2929 magic2929 46-50, F 17 Responses Apr 29

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