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I Am The Other Woman

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 19 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    MM is now 3 weeks into his new job

    and I'm still struggling with things. I know he is working hard and I know he misses me. But he is never free to chat anymore, some days I'm lucky if I get 5 mins of his time. Although I do always get a good morning and maybe 1-2 lines during the day. We used to chat online...
    daisyblue222 daisyblue222 41-45, F 9 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    I am having an amazing day with my mm.

    we have laughed and played and ahoped. great sex and gawd. I just love holding his hand. this is so crazy. make the feelings slow down
    spoiledlittle spoiledlittle 31-35, F 5 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    its been a long day finally got to see mm

    after 6 long days it was great. but then later I feel like we had a disagreement and he said he was going to bed early. with that on my mind my husband felt the need to have the why are you so distant lately talk. I just want this night to be over already.
    13butterflyblue 13butterflyblue 26-30, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 48 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Time to celebrate! Its Memorial Day Weekend,

    3 day weekend, and....today is 30 days of NC!!!! I'm super celebrating today! I made it to 1 month, and its been amazing! Hope everyone has a great weekend! Enjoy yourselves!
    LightningXIII LightningXIII 31-35, F 2 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 14 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 71 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    I am not the OW, but I'm

    so proud of you ladies. You go through hell and back for these men. You love, comfort, support, and love these men. I do not know how you do it. I read your stories and I'm in awe....sheer breathtaking, gutwrenching, heartbreaking, overwhelming, love-infused awe of you all...
    soldiergirl2 soldiergirl2 41-45, F 11 Responses Apr 6

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    He really opened up yesterday.

    There were things I didn't know, feelings he had I wasn't aware of. He wants to see me. I'm still weary! He could be just blowing smoke. Telling me what he thinks I want to hear. They are all great at that aren't they!!! I don't know. I'm still on the fence. I have a couple of...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 2 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 13 Responses Apr 19

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    Anyone here when your with your lover do watch

    Adult Movies together? I do with my girlfriend.
    ForbiddenFruitLove95 ForbiddenFruitLove95 18-21, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 23 Responses Mar 22

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 86 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 41 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    so my phone is on my mothers contract plan

    but I'm pay for it... well she found out that I was seeing mm and told me I shouldn't see him she doesn't know that he is married... well since I wouldn't stop seeing him she decided she was going to cut my phone off so we would have NC and I'm like really?!?! how is it ur...
    emeraldprincess1003 emeraldprincess1003 22-25, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    This is funny. It happened a long time ago

    and I just thought of it and I wanted to share it to make you ladies smile or maybe even laugh. So my mm and I are meeting at the regular hotel we meet at. I pull in and see his car parked in front of a room. I pull up beside his car and look at him. He looks at me through our...
    Janna78 Janna78 46-50, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 152 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    A quick meet up with mm

    after work. We both depressed today, he just not had a good day and mine was coz of him. We just sat there and hug in silence for 20 mins. Just hug and felt the warmth from each other's skin. It's such a silence moment. I tried so hard to not cry. The only thoughts in my head...
    TOWTD TOWTD 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 17 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 170 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 204 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    what's wrong with me?

    he is just busy, he doesn't forget me or stop loving me. I feel so depressed , he doesn't pay attention to me that much. I wanna cry, i wanna scream, how i feel this kind of pains inside my heart. I could not stop think about him, not even single minute. He doesn't care that i...
    angelamaxy angelamaxy 22-25 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I hate my MM. I hate him

    because I very stupidly love him, and lately, it's gotten very stupid. I've barely spoken to him, because he hung up in my face when I asked if he still loves me. He said in that moment he couldn't handle fighting or handle anything else. He just complete shut down with a...
    lit4love lit4love 26-30, F 4 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    can today get any worse?

    !?!! two days NC and I think I'm going crazy!! not to mention mm's w will be back tomorrow :( ugh.... I need something to distract myself :'( can't believe I am balling my eyes out like a baby
    emeraldprincess1003 emeraldprincess1003 22-25, F 3 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 78 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    I ended it...again but I'm really ready this

    time. I keep saying that but it really does feel different now. It isn't worth it anymore, he'll never give me what I want, what I need and I've finally realized it. It breaks my heart because I tried so hard to keep it together, to keep us going but in the end it just wasn't...
    moepeep moepeep 22-25, F 12 Responses 1 day ago

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    You just never know what someone may be going

    through, or what got them there
    kathrineh kathrineh 46-50, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 19 Responses Mar 25

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    I think this was done

    once before. But it's a slow day at work and I'm trying to will the clock to move faster towards 5pm. So let's play a little game of sorts. 1. Name a song that best represents you and how you feel about your relationship with your MM. 2. Name a movie that reminds you of...
    thathurtgrl thathurtgrl 36-40, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 51 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    Wow! What a day!!! Where do I start?

    He was waiting at hotel for me. Got the biggest hug. We talked a bit but my urges could not contain themselves long. I dove right into him on the bed. I missed him so much. Our love making is beyond describable. My favourite part is lying in his arms afterwards. It seems that...
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 28 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 45 Responses Jan 10

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    Actually I am not the other woman ,

    don't know where this story fits . Well the story is about my father . He is not a bad man or a bad father . My mother is also not bad one . All my childhood I witnessed how much they love each other and appreciate each other . In my teenage more like when I was in 16...
    ordinarymomof2 ordinarymomof2 36-40, F 9 Responses 1 day ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    Does everyone understand the meaning of

    Memorial Day? Tell me what you think it is and I'll tel you what I know it to be.
    Serendipitous1 Serendipitous1 36-40, F 5 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 51 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    Man, my soon to be ex has really done a number

    on me mentally and because of it, it really may mess up things with MM to the point that after almost two years I may call it quits. I know I will regret this decision and I keep trying to talk myself off that ledge, but it's sooo hard to do. My H has let me believe for years...
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 8 Responses 1 day ago

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    not a very good day today.

    came across something this morning and it reminded me that he has a girlfriend, and I'm the third person in this relationship. makes me wanna walk away...
    gianneisstuck gianneisstuck 31-35, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Actually, I am married.

    .. I haven't ever cheated on my husband either because the sex and love is so good! 😘😍
    TexWest1311 TexWest1311 26-30, F 1 Response 44 mins ago

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    For the past few weeks I neglected my tire

    light on my dashboard and ended up with a flat tire... Prior to that I mentioned it to my mm and all he did was tell me that I should know how to put air in a tire.... He actually got upset because another man I interact with during work offered to follow me to the gas station...
    Lilypad718 Lilypad718 31-35, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 54 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    A first for us ... a selfie with

    both of us in it. Last night was a dirty loving overnight with late checkout. On the train home alone now ... Can't tear my eyes off our pic Fully clothed. Leaning in heads touching. Warm easy smiles. It's weird to see us like this. An image that can never be seen...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 12 Responses 6 hrs ago

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