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I Am The Other Woman

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    One of those days where you find yourself just

    daydreaming about cuddling him and sleeping the day away. It was so effortless to fall asleep when he was there. Even with that jack hammer snoring! He went to go see his family earlier this week. He is so happy when he is there. I don't want him to leave, but I do hope he moves...
    lostanddistraught lostanddistraught 22-25, F 9 hrs ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 103 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 50 Responses Feb 16

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    Things have been decent lately,

    then not being bothered so much with connecting again. So Im just trying to get myself in order.
    blue963 blue963 51-55, F 2 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 20 Responses Jul 30

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    I'm sure ill survive

    but right now it doesn't feel like it. damn him for making almost 4 years feel so insignificant! I'm counting my blessings. can't say I'm able to wish him well because a throat punch is about all I feel sending. I'm going out on a date with the bf I've neglected . I'm ashamed of...
    justinsneedow justinsneedow 41-45, F 1 hr ago

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    hi everyone. belated merry christmas to all.

    I've been sick and still is. my dilemma is still the same. it is hard to be o.w. ,the roller coaster ride ,those times that we needed them the most, christmas, holidays, being sick, he is not around. i felt so alone. i don't know when will i wake up on this madness, on...
    annettesan annettesan 36-40, F 4 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 41 Responses Feb 24

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 9 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 79 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 46 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 51 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Sorry I've been absent beyond a quick post here

    and there I have so many of you to catch up with-I'm partially staying away to try to keep from dwelling on him and the situation. I am in a better spot now still wanting a 2015 free of this kind of pain but I've home about it a different way. Cold turkey NC just isn't going to...
    Readytomoveon2015 Readytomoveon2015 31-35, F 4 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 17 Responses Apr 19

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 16 Responses Jun 2

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    Talked to my mm on Monday

    and was so excited because we made plans to have an overnight in a couple weeks. Now it's Friday night and I've haven't heard from him since. I know he's off work and home with the family but so am I. How hard can it be to send one text? Not sure what to do. Maybe I'll just...
    ladylove0113 ladylove0113 36-40, F 2 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    Looking forward to work on Monday.

    My time off was refreshing but I'm ready to see him again. As much as I hate not being with him, we definitely share more when we just talk. He's had some crappy days and I'm glad he's been able to talk to me about them.
    surfsway surfsway 36-40, F 4 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    I miss him more than it seems possible.

    I want to text and say things... I want to know if he's well again...I want to fight... but I won't do anything. I won't have another tantrum as my mood change may be called. I sometimes wonder... those of us posting here under this experience- how many of us believed we would...
    Piscesrose Piscesrose 46-50, F 3 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    Tonight will be our first full night together.

    No time constraints. No looking over our shoulders. We have a suite booked with a fireplace. Sushi & wine. I am so looking forward to 8 hours of normalcy. It is crazy we have never even eaten together. We spend our blips of time only focused on eachother. We get to talk for...
    tauriangirl tauriangirl 36-40, F 27 Responses Nov 15

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 31 Responses Sep 23

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    Last night my husband forced the "let's talk

    about our crappy marriage" conversation. On Christmas night, no less. To make a long story short, we are going to separate. He said he would be out by the end of January. He doesn't know about my affair and I don't want him to. If he knew, he would think that was the reason...
    goodgirl9691 goodgirl9691 41-45, F 10 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 11

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    Ladies, I feel soo good today.

    I've been on vacation with the family (awesomeness BTW, you must visit Mozambique it's beautiful.). That's not all that's making me warm and fuzzy inside though. I was worried a few days back that I was getting addicted to this MM, developing some deep attachment to something...
    Strang3r Strang3r 22-25, F 1 day ago

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    I have been coming here

    for close to a year now. Although I am no longer the other woman I still come and read and comment sometimes. I am not trolling or anything like that I can still relate to how some of you feel and for the things you want. My situation was different as some of you know. The...
    daisydew1973 daisydew1973 41-45, F 3 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    I know I'm supposed to be enjoying my vacation

    but I really am looking forward to going back to work on Monday. Apparently he's feeling the same way about having time off too. It's been nice doing the holiday thing but at the same time it's been constant company and running. I'm over it.
    surfsway surfsway 36-40, F 2 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    Here's a poem I wrote

    for my OM... It's called "Will you be the One?". Will you be the one that holds me tight Can you guide me through this endless night And give me the strength to fight Until morning's light Will you watch me fail And be the light in the dark Can you stay strong when I am weak...
    BeckstaOnSquidoo BeckstaOnSquidoo 26-30, F 22 hrs ago

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    Hahahahahaha, I know he's not real

    but I do get a kick out of ToBad8. Can't even spell his name right. Soon after calling him on his lies I was blocked. As if we didn't know who he was anyway.
    surfsway surfsway 36-40, F 2 Responses 1 hr ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 40 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 162 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 10 Responses Feb 13

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 208 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 81 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 55 Responses Nov 6

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 148 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 85 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    So Christmas turned out to be an emotional one!

    He has been acting so differently with me since Sunday...since my 'fake date' and we have had lots of talks since. Everyday he still seems on the same page (usually by now he backtracks a little) and he still hasn't decided but I've been a lot stronger and telling him he either...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 3 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    Can anyone relate to their mm saying

    that the biggest issue in leaving would be giving that he would be in financial ruins because she would get more than half of their assets if she found out about the relationship? Idk. I may be too into my own fantasy land but I would let go of so much to be truly happy instead...
    youngnbeautifulme youngnbeautifulme 36-40, F 3 Responses 17 mins ago

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    Sometimes i feel bad.

    Because i know some of my clients have wives, they'll sit and ***** to me about them. What none of them know is I've been engaged once before. I was the other women then too, but she left her girlfriend for me. I never expect or want these guys to leave their wives for me. I...
    iamaphrodite iamaphrodite 18-21, F 1 Response 14 hrs ago

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 24 Responses May 6

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 31 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    i really miss you. It's only been today

    since I've heard from you but that's been to long. :( i love you baby
    xalotlikex xalotlikex 22-25, F 19 hrs ago

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    Alright Ladies I need some practical advice

    from of those of you who have done it already. I'm not ready yet to walk out the door on my marriage, but after the fight on Christmas Eve, I realized that I don't care and it's time to begin to prepare. So for those of you who have been through a divorce what did you learn...
    whynot13 whynot13 46-50, F 6 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    nc x 1 week today. 1 merry Christmas text.

    today , nothing. I'm coming to grips with the end. I just hate the shell of me that remains. the chore of rebuilding seems insurmountable. I feel I'll never trust again .if someone new were to ever say he loves me i don't think I'd believe him. I feel sorry for those that may...
    justinsneedow justinsneedow 41-45, F 3 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 16 Responses May 4

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    I just left him. After weeks of heartache

    and missing him, reading bogus public posts on FB, we saw each other. It was okay. He was holding me in his arms, looking into my eyes, telling me he loved me. She can keep the social media. Anyway, he was telling me he was so confused and overwhelmed. He has five more years...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 3 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Update on the Christmas Email - yes,

    I hit send even though I wavered about sending it that day. Just as I thought though, he didn't read it until today. I got a response from him this morning that has had me in tears all morning. He has never told me he loves me, until now. He said he loves so many things about...
    WalkInMyShoesB4UJudge WalkInMyShoesB4UJudge 41-45, F 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 68 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    I am a 57 year old male looking

    for a younger woman to exchange email with on an ongoing basis. Maybe eventually meet if we get tired of typing. I am kind and easy to talk to and also discreet. I am in the Ottawa, Ontario, Canada area. Drop me a line and lets get acquainted.
    seethruman seethruman 56-60, M 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 20 Responses Apr 18

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    Heartbroken... My MM just left

    and is on his way to Colorado for a family vacation. He won't be there that long, but when he comes back he will be on a different schedule than he's on now. He's the captain on a boat and instead of running it in the same state, he's going to be running it all the way up north...
    lildaydreamer lildaydreamer 26-30, F 1 Response 21 hrs ago

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