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I Am The Other Woman

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 41 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    So much for my good mood!

    ! I'm seriously thinking of finding myself a sexy, lady lover and being done with this mess. We could have wonderful sex and then we can go shopping... Seems smarter :) Anyone else ever feel like this?
    joyfulcloudofsorrow joyfulcloudofsorrow 31-35, F 4 Responses 1 hr ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 27 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 50 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 28 Responses May 6, 2014

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    I have an OM and I would like to share my side

    of the story. I just recently separated with my husband but agreed to still live under the same roof for the sake of my child. My husband doesn't want us to divorce until our child is 18 and out of the house which is well.. another 10 years. My AP apparently is not happy to hear...
    myheart99 myheart99 36-40, F 15 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 88 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 19 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 171 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 48 Responses Jan 10

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    As I posted on Monday,

    I decided that day to "stop rowing our boat" for some time, and see if MM starts rowing with me, since I felt that I had been giving too much and not receiving what I once did in our relationship. It's Wednesday afternoon and I still haven't heard from him. It hurts. We almost...
    ladyquaintrelle ladyquaintrelle 22-25, F 9 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    I really need a friend.

    Feeling terribly alone and it's finally eating up at me. If anyone of you ladies could inbox me and help me out, I'd appreciate it... Only if you're willing to deal with a long story lol. Thanks
    lostmyself19 lostmyself19 18-21, F 7 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 70 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    Let me preface this by apologizing

    for being so wordy. This is my first post, and I have a lot to vent. Call me crazy, but I am the OW, and I believe it is going to work. I am in a loveless marriage. In 2012 my H and I attempted to try to "save" our marriage by making it an open marriage. It was an easy...
    Randomgirl1122 Randomgirl1122 31-35, F 1 Response 36 mins ago

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    So who here is a big book nerd like me?

    I wanted to let you all know about this guy who has never written a book before but documented his affair and turned it into a book. I could not put it down! He is so amazingly honest about his feelings I could feel everything he was going through. He turns out to be nice nice...
    joyfulcloudofsorrow joyfulcloudofsorrow 31-35, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 154 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    "The Broken Woman" are we responsible

    for protecting our own hearts? If we seen a burning bridge would we still be so willing to walk across for the sake of having a lil piece of him? Will he ever see the pain he caused us or feel the emptiness we carry in our hearts when we cant get not even 80% of him, will he...
    4everhislady 4everhislady 36-40, F 5 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    If there would be a mm rehab center,

    I would check myself in right about now and take the most intensive program. I am feeling pretty low right now... Only thing I can do is pray again.
    sadpreciosa sadpreciosa 26-30, F 11 Responses 1 day ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 47 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 79 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    bethcc11 bethcc11 26-30, F 20 hrs ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    Haven't posted for a bit.

    I know a lot of you don't agree with my choices and think I should just leave my husband if I'm still going to be with MM. It's just not that simple. Okay so here's the update: I'll start with H. We went to that marriage retreat. It was great and it's teaching us how to get...
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 6 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 18 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    You have got to read this book!

    !! The Other Woman Code Of Conduct by Kiki Richardson The Other Woman Code of Conduct by KiKi Richardson https://itun.es/us/wc1sz. I am overwhelmed!!!
    liberty2014 liberty2014 36-40, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    I fking hate that i love him.

    I hate that he wants to be with someone that doesn't appreciate him. I hate that he can't get past his abusive father and has made his life revolve around his children to an unhealthy level. I hate that i know myself well enough, that i can't continue. I hate that i know myself...
    just2night just2night 41-45, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 31 Responses Sep 23, 2014

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    Today I danced around telling you what I was

    avoiding telling you. I made you frustrated. Today you acknowledged that where you have me places isn't fair and won't be forever. Today you said again that you and I have invested a lot in each other. You acknowledged that this journey we are on isn't just about you figuring...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 1 Response 53 mins ago

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    He called around to my home today.

    First time since I told him I needed space to focus on my daughter. He wanted to see her and find out how she was doing. He brought food, and dessert and she was so pleased to see him. He stayed for a few hours, gaming with the kids, and we all sat together, watching a movie...
    typist123 typist123 36-40, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I'm getting a trigger finger.

    He text me today, like everything is perfectly OK. That was almost 2 hours ago. Gotta keep busy and keep going. He can sweat about it.
    LightningXIII LightningXIII 31-35, F 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    Dear W: I am the OW. I know you've heard my

    name. I know you know of me. You don't know that your H was with me from March through September. You don't know that in September I was the one who told him if he felt like he needed to work on his family then he needed to do that; you don't know that in addition to his deep...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 11 Responses Feb 13, 2014

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    i am in this situation.

    i know where should i stand. but there are times , im loaded with jealousy,insecurities, bitterness, hurt. in these moments,my mind ,my emotions, becomes illogical and evil. i wanted to hurt her, i want to let her know that there is " me" whos exist in his husbands life, i...
    annettesan annettesan 36-40, F 3 Responses 1 hr ago

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    Day one We went to the gym today like always,

    and like I've said, things have changed. You finally admit it and tell me the "dynamics of our relationship have changed." There's nothing I can do. I can feel your frustration with me. You blame me for everything, instead of taking accountability for what you've done to us...
    lit4love lit4love 26-30, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Well - one solid month

    and not word one. LOL ..... I didn't expect it because I called him on all his lies, his wife's lies and made a scene at the base. LOL I never imagined what a coward he really was. I was SO stupid for believing in someone that just didn't exist! NO ONE knows this person - not...
    kitty1958 kitty1958 56-60, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 27 Responses Mar 22

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 151 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    We are slowly working to our HEA.

    Scary and exciting at the same time
    Sweetpea379 Sweetpea379 46-50, F 2 Responses 1 hr ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 16 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    Moving Closer to Authenticity.

    ... Every Day i receive a Good morning message that simply Delights Me... It's made more marvelous by the fact that we live in different timezones.... His day begins, closer to my sunset when my workday has slowed down to a glorious quiet.. when my whole being can be transported...
    warriormama warriormama 41-45, F 7 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 54 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Day 2 We had planned on you coming over today.

    .. You said you wanted to talk.... But every time we talk, you just hurt me more. Making yourself the victim, instead of owning up for any of the hurt you've caused me. You don't even seem to care how much you've hurt me. The last time I saw you and cried, you said, "stop being...
    lit4love lit4love 26-30, F 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    I had to smoke a cigarate today,

    I have not smoke 1 in months but today I went thru a pack.
    4everhislady 4everhislady 36-40, F 4 Responses 5 hrs ago

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