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    I ended things with mm this morning.

    It was kind of a sudden decision but I think it was the right one for right now. I care for him deeply but I just can't do it right now. Between my family, school and now both of my vehicles have died, I just have too much going on. I don't have time to worry about or put work...
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 4 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    It's been a long time

    since I posted here. Last time I did, my affair ended and I was struggling with feeling inadequate compared to his wife. Four months after things ended, I got a letter in the mail from him saying that he had an accident and it made him reevaluate everything. It led to us...
    inaraserra inaraserra 31-35, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    Well, I'm not shocked.

    More resolved. I broke NC in less than 24 hours. He got the message and stayed away to "respect my wishes" then when I crack and call him he says I dumped him. So for someone who's never had an affair, he knows what no contact means. Is this all a game for married men. No matter...
    2loveornot2love 2loveornot2love 46-50, F 4 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 170 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 45 Responses Jan 10

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 13 Responses Apr 19

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    I am in a different space,

    remiss of last April when he officially separated from his W. His attitude is very similar to what it was then. The attention. The looks. The future planning. The conversations. His ability to sit with me in some really deep places of pain. I have told him several times now...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    What a ride ....I love it ,

    hate it, happy ,sad,clear,confused...I been feeling real happy about our relationship its taking a turn in the right direction.It makes me so sad when i look at other women post.About how it over and they feel great about it,It confuses me ,We should know what we are getting into...
    peachy115 peachy115 51-55, F 4 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    So I did it, I got married!

    It's been a little over a week and I never knew I could love in such a way. I am so utterly in love with my husband. Everyday spent on our honeymoon was magic. Now we're home, back to real life. I saw MM at work today. I promised myself I wouldn't go back there; not now, not...
    Tiffanyportelli Tiffanyportelli 22-25, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Im sitting here thinking about the day you

    won't want me anymore and it made me feel sad. However, I soon realized that although it may happen one day I shouldn't worry about it. You see, I'm more than just a pretty face, I have tons to offer someone despite settling to be your secret, which you only talk about when you...
    AmazinglyBootyful AmazinglyBootyful 31-35, F 4 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 14 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 27 Responses May 6, 2014

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 55 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Morning ladies! I wanted to give you an update.

    Hopefully my updates give those of you going through NC/breakup hope and strength. Day 13 and everyday just gets easier. I got rid of all of him, blocked his number, threw out his cards, erased his photos and in turn....he is fading away. I was laying in bed last night...
    MadameMirage MadameMirage 36-40, F 13 Responses 1 day ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 42 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 51 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    Do you girls keep your text messages with your

    MM? I delete them off my phone but keep them in a hidden file on my computer to reminisce... Would it be extremely weird if he knew I did this? I think it's a good reminder of the good times we've had together.
    hiddennlove hiddennlove 18-21, F 12 Responses 1 day ago

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 24 Responses Mar 22

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 29 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 78 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    MM2 phoned me last night.

    We were able to talk for quite a long time about everything that's been going on. He said he did msg me on Thursday and can even show me. I guess it just didn't come thru to me. We spoke a lot about him. He's very overwhelmed with his life right now. As I've said before he...
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 4 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    It's been nice spending time with my grandma

    but I am so ready to go home. Mm texted me last night, his competition went well but he didn't make the cut for the big job he wanted. He is a little down about it but he's going to keep trying. He said he misses me and asked if my distance the past week is my way of keeping him...
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Day 3 of the break Even

    though I initiated the break, I'm surprised he let it happen. I've heard from him once, but he just sent me a song, nothing else. Even though I said I'd call him Sunday, part of me wonders if I even will. If I can go a week without talking to him, then I'm stronger than I...
    macwellgirl macwellgirl 26-30, F 2 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 94 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    Not very long ago, I just got home from

    spending the day with my MM. This makes the 3rd day spent with him since 7 days ago. Tomorrow I have a dentist's appointment in the town he lives in and we are going to maybe meet up at one of his rental properties for some intimate time together. Even if this comes all crashing...
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 36-40, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 24 Responses Apr 30

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    We all want our relationship to be the one

    that's different from all the others we read about. After reading something heartbreaking, I would think, "yes, but we are different, he's different. We will be the success." I'm here, heartbroken without a shred of evidence that we were different. I have chat logs, pics...
    serendipity65 serendipity65 41-45, F 15 Responses 1 day ago

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    Trying to navigate a relationship with a man

    who is an emotional blackmailer, even for the sake of a future relationship for him with the kids, is killing me.. Yes I'm talking about the ex. Everything I try to do to be nice, to keep things friendly, he takes as a sign I want to be back with him, but then nothing I do is...
    ElsieJay ElsieJay 41-45, F 4 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    It's awesome now being able marry now

    if I'd love it for there to be an option. Finally it's legal. But still enjoy my freedom.
    ForbiddenFruitLove95 ForbiddenFruitLove95 18-21, F 1 day ago

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    It's amazing to be on the other side of the

    fence. I called it off. He never responded. And it just solidifies my feeling that he never cared for me...my instincts were right. I feel a weight lifted...but I am sad in a way because I have lost something that I though I had...even though in reality, there was never...
    untenable untenable 41-45, F 32 mins ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 77 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 15 Responses May 4, 2014

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 18 Responses Mar 25

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    I know I complain about him a lot.

    .. Because I'm not really getting what I want and get so fed up.. But some days are totally different... Today he texted me and asked me to call his work... I haven't heard his voice in a few weeks and it just.. God I love it... It was nice to just reconnect a bit... Figures the...
    AvaLennon AvaLennon 31-35, F 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 48 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 102 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    Ladies.... It's time

    for me to say goodbye. Coming here has gotten too painful for me. I know I didn't post much but I was usually at a loss for words. In a way, this is hard too... Just like saying goodbye to MM, I'm moving on from here. I wish each and everyone of you the very best life has to...
    serendipity65 serendipity65 41-45, F 26 seconds ago

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    Dear S., You don't know me,

    but I had an affair with your husband for two years. It started when you were living apart because you didn't like the city he was transferred to, and continued briefly after you all relocated to a third city and moved back in together. Before me, he cheated on you with lots of...
    inaraserra inaraserra 31-35, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    Looking back it is funny how easily I fell into

    the trap of becoming 'the other woman.' The first flash of distress - a wounded soul no less, and I dived into the murky water. He told me that I was his oxygen. I was a mermaid Saint Bernard with the reviving elixir strapped to my neck. Strangely, I found two unmarried men...
    Faerylightonleave Faerylightonleave 41-45, F 19 Responses Jun 21

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    I do not understand why he is the only man I

    feel interested in. There are so many other good men, single men out there. He stays on my mind 24/7. How did this start! Ugh! How do I let it go? This feeling is the same feeling I had the last time I was in love. Am I in love? How do you know when you're in love and not in...
    Aimee3 Aimee3 26-30, F 6 Responses 2 days ago

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    I have to share this.

    Things are not going well in his house tonight. Trying to carry on a normal text conversation with him and he's distant. "Sorry. I'm over here fighting. I know you feel it." I'm smiling- not because they are fighting but because I don't have an H to fight with anymore. In...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 6 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 50 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 18 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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