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I Am The Other Woman

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    Days like today are tough.

    I know we are supposed to be trying to just stick to the FWB thing. But today was a fairly important day for me (last day at a job that has been making me miserable for over a year now), and I haven't heard from him. One of those "seriously, how long does it take to type...
    Katsstory Katsstory 36-40, F 2 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 37 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Woke up with butterflies in my tummy.

    ..we're getting a room tonight...second time this month...record breaking! Usually we only go once a month. The rest of the time we steal moments in the car... I'm not complaining!! :-)
    Sidechic79 Sidechic79 31-35, F 6 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    Have you ever thought

    that one of our fellow OW is an imposter??? The other day I had someone PM me and it made me question their intention due to some questions.... It wasn't intrusive or anything but they were questions that's H would want to know or my mms W would want to know... I got scared a...
    Lilypad718 Lilypad718 31-35, F 3 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Ladies I require a little assistance please.

    Not sure if these little pictures work on here but let's see. Yesterday I finally, after almost 4 weeks, met up with my MM very briefly. It was so wonderful but also a painful reminder to me if how deeply in love with him I am. Anyway, afterwards, I text him just this...
    dizzygirl5 dizzygirl5 31-35, F 7 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    The laws of the universe.

    Wanted to watch a movie on netflix. Picked a really old one.. thought it was humor. Storyline turned out to be about a bunch of men having affairs and one woman trying to kill herself because of it. she recovers and finds love...but sheez! cant seem to catch a break
    blue963 blue963 46-50, F 4 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 44 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    i am the OW... somehow I got in this And i am

    still here after 2 years ... before know him i was the type That ' i will never be the 3th one in a relațion' ... life is stronger:) anyway, I know that are women's in this type of relation.. and I want to ask if somebody in quality of ' OW' was meeting the wife and how it was...
    Maymon Maymon 31-35, F 2 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 103 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 40 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 15 Responses Jun 2

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    I was the other women

    for a year but now I am the wife. We will be celebrating our 3 year wedding anniversary soon. We were both married to other people when we met. We were both in bad marriages. We are both so much happier now. If anyone wants to hear my story I am happy to share.
    magic2929 magic2929 46-50, F 17 Responses Apr 29

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    My mm just invited me to visit him at his house

    this weekend because his wife is going out of town. We haven't done this in over a month and it will be amazing to be able to spend more than an hour with him. I just want to lay with him on his couch and watch a movie. Lets just hope the plan doesn't change!
    RedSheep2 RedSheep2 26-30, F 4 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 11

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    I'm tired of reading comment like "stop being

    the second best"... He is staying with her because of his kids. She is not his "first best" or whatsoever because if she is, he would not love me and sleep with me. I am his only best. The fact is I came to his life later than she did ..but that doesn't mean I'm second best to...
    iloveuox iloveuox 26-30, F 2 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    He's filed for divorce

    and she has already moved out of state. No one really knows about us, but I'm sure they have their suspicions about why he left her after 23 years. He said he wants to move on with our life together and doesn't care who knows, bc he's tired of hiding me (almost 2 years now...
    dontrust dontrust 51-55, F 4 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 47 Responses Feb 16

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    I know you are afraid to give yourself up to me

    because you don't feel like I have a good reason to be in love with you. Is my love real? Do I still love my wife? Once I really got to know you I realized for the first time what I really wanted in a wife. You have everything I've been missing in my relationship with my wife. I...
    wakeupdead wakeupdead 26-30, M 6 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    No matter how often we communicate all day

    and how much I feel he truly loves me, it's never seem enough for me to feel secure about our relationship. Just having one of those days when I doubt everything about us. Do you get those feelings too?
    ownomore ownomore 26-30, F 6 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 80 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    Just want to put this out there to all you

    other "other women" you keep me positive... You nail my feet to the ground... You make me smile ... You put my heart back in my chest ... Thank you and when I see you pouring your heart out I feel it... I hope all the best for everyone of you misunderstood beautiful women ... I...
    jupsta jupsta 36-40, F 8 Responses Jun 9

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    My ap dreamed of us went

    for vacation which we planned sometimes ago and having good time there. Eat, pray and love.. Lol.. It got me concern if the dream is the other way round. A night before his dream, my long lost contact guy friend also dreamt that he was making love to me. A night after my ap's...
    prettygoddess prettygoddess 26-30, F 52 mins ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 22 Responses Jul 30

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    My Secret Gold Coin

    You don’t know it, but I think of you as a beautiful, precious, shiny gold coin that I keep secretly hidden in my pocket. I feel happy knowing that you are in there, but unhappy knowing that you have to stay hidden. I wish I could show you off to friends, but they wouldn’t...
    jenn80 jenn80 51-55 18 Responses May 23, 2013

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 10 Responses Feb 13

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 72 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 41-45, F 3 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 31-35, M 16 Responses Apr 19

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    My mm officially ended it today.

    Says he loves his wife too much to keep going. I deleted our messenger we used and told him I don't want to stay in touch. My heart is completely broken. I really think I'm better off without him, but it hurts so bad right now. I guess I'm no longer the "other woman". I...
    megw16 megw16 31-35, F 43 Responses Feb 24

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 79 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    This is inspired by a very old post

    that popped up, and is not very PC as far as this group goes, but it's on my mind and I wanted to get it out. My (ex?) MM used to always talk about how complicated life and marriage is, and how sometimes you have to go outside of your marriage to get your needs met but "can't...
    inaraserra inaraserra 31-35, F 6 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 152 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 29 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    A year has passed since I have met this man.

    This man who was so strong, so brave, so together. He made me feel things I have never felt in my life. So loved. So protected. He also broke my heart. I cry. I have a difficult time focusing on daily, routine things. I constantly think about him. Why did I meet him at this time...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 2 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    Sorry I posted this on the wrong forum.

    ... I am the other woman!!!! (insert Maury voice lol) EP Link
    Lilypad718 Lilypad718 31-35, F 5 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 163 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 20 Responses May 6

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18

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    I hate that this week is over.

    The boss comes back to work after the holiday weekend which means my desk will be used strictly to do my job rather than the fun it has seen this week. The AP came by again today, but we didn't have sex, we just talked and it was really nice. I love that he comes to me. I had...
    surfandturf surfandturf 36-40, F 7 hrs ago

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    Please, do not stop posting.

    ... I may not be the best person to make this request because I have only participated on the forum for just a few months. But I am so glad I had a place to go. I can not begin to tell you how supportive you ladies have been during my time of heart aches, up swings, troubles...
    saiyagyrl saiyagyrl 36-40, F 4 Responses May 26

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    Sometimes he frustrates the **** out of me.

    Yesterday, he got upset because we hadn't spoken for a good part of the day, both of us being at work and all. When we finally did speak he said "Am i just not going to see you at all before I leave? That's what it seems like." I have been trying to see this man since Monday...
    kc5316 kc5316 22-25, F 1 Response 16 hrs ago

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    Picked up some KFC and met my man in our

    secluded spot for dinner. We had a nice visit, then laid in each other's arms for over an hour before I could tell he was starting to worry about getting back on his route. We talked about everything and laughed so hard...he promised to make an effort to contact me on the...
    ynoTme83 ynoTme83 26-30, F 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    Things I don't miss from my affair.

    .. 1. Waiting for my phone to ding 2. Lying to spouse about where I am going 3. Making sure I erase texts 4. Time 5. Mind control that the affair holds not mm 6. Questioning of myself and actions 7. Guilt not for the affair but for my husband and his wife 8. Time 9. The panic...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 14 Responses Apr 27

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    Today was another great day.

    My OW is taking steps for us to be together even if she isn't fully committed yet. Encouraging her and reassuring her everyday is working wonders for me. I don't think she thought I was really serious until this week. Today she was trying to make me jealous by talking about...
    wakeupdead wakeupdead 26-30, M 2 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Any men care to share please?

    So you have this other woman you say you love and the wife/girlfriend....do you have sex with your wife still?? And if so, why?
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 13 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 68 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    My MM is packing up his/our apartment right now,

    waiting for his wife to come and help him load up the truck. He'll be living alone in a hotel for the next few weeks, then moving to another state and then at some point his wife and kids will join him. He had to throw out all the sheets and towels because my makeup is on them...
    inaraserra inaraserra 31-35, F 4 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    I tend to lose my cool

    and say snippy things to people that come here and share redundant advise. Like "leave him" "you shouldn't be second", etc. Anyway, love all you fabulous women, I hope you have a great day! Three day weekend coming up, and I'm ready.
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 4 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    I'm in a bad place today.

    I'm hating my partner a lot today, I've been felling this way for a while and it gets worse with each day. I need my space, I don't want him around. His attitude is really bugging me and I feel like saying 'Duck off!'... As much as I want him to leave I know I can't leave him...
    LoveBytes LoveBytes 26-30, F 1 Response 13 hrs ago

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    I like coming on here

    and reading stories and reading the comments left by others. Sometimes though I feel like it's not beneficial to myself. For example, I haven't tried to make any kind of contact with J since November. BUT. After talking about him and reading about others and the stupid holidays...
    nothingbetterthanlaughing nothingbetterthanlaughing 31-35, F 21 Responses Jan 2

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    Went trolling yesterday on the I am not the

    other woman forum, after some OW suggested they are in denial and prone to projection. Was curious. Interesting how they simplify things, hear one thing from some marriage counselor and chalk up the entire affair to hubby's self esteem problems. They grasp on to whatever...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 7 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    We got to chat about an hr today.

    Hes busy at work on Fridays so that fine. end of work day is 7:30 tonight for him. Im feeling out of sorts today. Things have been fine between us. But he is going out of town for a wedding with the wife for a business associate. I guess its bothering me that I dont know...
    blue963 blue963 46-50, F 2 Responses 9 hrs ago

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