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I Am The Other Woman

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 71 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    Yes, I am realizing now I should have been more

    honest from the start... I am in a happy, maybe one day open, relationship with my husband. Right now, I am learning how to understand the relationship my best friend has had with her MM, but through that I am learning about how my H will be with an ow (or om - he is bi) and how...
    TexWest1311 TexWest1311 26-30, F 9 hrs ago

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    Four months... And I still think about him

    EVERY DAY! It's usually just something simple. I'll wonder how he is doing, wonder if he thinks about me, try to convince myself that he MUST think about me, a song will take me back to the early days of our relationship, the scent I wore when I finally saw him... The moments...
    pinkismysignaturecolor pinkismysignaturecolor 36-40, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 86 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    I wanted to write this story from the

    perspective of a Married person(MM or MW) having an affair. This was triggered by a question someone posted yesterday, asking Why MM needs the other woman and why the MM can't leave the Ws so easily. Talking from the perspective of a Married person, sometimes things are very...
    Jazz045 Jazz045 36-40, F 19 Responses Mar 25

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    It's going to be my second time walking away

    from him and I still dread the idea of it. Confronting him of the truth, another argument... I find myself going through a whole scenario in my head about what he's going to say and things like that. It never ends. I'm sick of it. He's seriously tiring me out. But it's so...
    FrancesFoster FrancesFoster 26-30, F 23 hrs ago

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    newgurlxo newgurlxo 18-21, F 2 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 19 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    I am not the OW, but I'm

    so proud of you ladies. You go through hell and back for these men. You love, comfort, support, and love these men. I do not know how you do it. I read your stories and I'm in awe....sheer breathtaking, gutwrenching, heartbreaking, overwhelming, love-infused awe of you all...
    soldiergirl2 soldiergirl2 41-45, F 11 Responses Apr 6

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    We are both married and are more like friends

    then anything else. Sex is amazing but not what our relationship is all about. We see each other a few times a week and talk every day. I would miss the friendship the most if we stop seeing each other.
    sara263 sara263 31-35, F 3 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 14 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    A Letter To The Other Woman

    His wife, his mistress...a role we both seem to share. If I am happy and in his arms, there are tears in your eyes. If you are happy and in his arms, then there are tears in my eyes. Both caught in a web, both being toyed with. You being told that he is going to leave me, Me...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 152 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    norahcc11 norahcc11 26-30, F 8 hrs ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 155 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 54 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    Dear EP, I am "the other woman"

    and I have come to this site for wisdom and support from other women in my situation. While on this site I have run into people who have ridiculed and bashed me and other's who are here sharing their experiences. Definitely not offering authenticity, support and respect that...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 51 Responses Feb 16, 2014

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    Trolls come in all forms of life .

    Some appear to be human in their own way. We may have one living next door to us . We all know the type . They peer out of their window at passers bye. They stick their ear to the wall . They look for a reason to complain. They thrive on misery . In many cases they live on...
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 2 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    So 24 hours with NC and guess what.

    ...I'm still here. I survived the day by staying busy doing the things I enjoyed. No meltdown today. :) I know I am being stupid by not contacting him but the few times we have had arguments and then did not talk the next day, it has always been me to reach out first. His...
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 1 Response 11 hrs ago

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    All I can think of the MM not leaving his wife

    is that he is looking for genuine reason to leave his wife but can't find one which he doesn't have to explain his children why he left their mother in the first place . If the MM has no plans to marry the OW just be clear to that poor woman let her be free from this false...
    ordinarymomof2 ordinarymomof2 36-40, F 3 Responses 1 hr ago

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    It seems that a "revenge **** hacker" hacked

    into AdultFriendFinder and put 3.5 million customer files up for sale on the dark web: http://money.cnn.com/2015/05/22/technology/adult-friendfinder-hacked/ Could have been Ashley Madison instead. Or EP, for that matter. One has to marvel at the ease with which some people...
    BoudoirWhispers BoudoirWhispers 46-50, F 3 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    Dear Self: You Married

    as a kid. And then, You waited 15 years for your H to pull his out of the sand- to make you feel appreciated, to feel loved and beautiful. You thought having a baby would make things better. So you stayed. You waited some more. He developed addictions and mental health issues...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 7 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    Really struggling today,

    he's just ignoring me... I'm newly separated and coming off some antidepressants as they're actually interfering with my health... He's just not there He's never there What's the point even... I fell for this guy and he's probably just a complete *****
    NicoleMantel NicoleMantel 36-40, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 28 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    To the OWs, have any of you had men

    who write you private messages pretending to care about the situation or "bumps" you're having with your MM when their intentions were to take over hoping you will choose to have a fling with them instead? I know I'm going to have negative comments with this post but it seems...
    Aisurukoto Aisurukoto 41-45, F 8 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    I haven't posted here in a long,

    long time. Mostly it's because I had a hell of a D-day in early February. My H discovered the affair, confronted me & threatened to send his proof to MM's wife. I use the opportunity to end my marriage. And so did MM. But, we did not end it to be with each other. We took...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 23 Responses Apr 30

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 6

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    Fireworks at home again.

    Just had a big row with wife , because she stood up for Youngest son and friend who were sitting in the kitchen eating with their caps on. Everyone knows including his friend that we have a no hats inside rule . It was 7.30 Sunday night . The kitchen was occupied by son and...
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 23 Responses Mar 22

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    What It's Like Being The Other Woman

    So many of you have no idea how many of your stories I’ve read and wanted so desperately to reply. Ultimately, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. There is not ONE story I’ve yet to read which is not already written about in my book. I’ve started replying and then I stop...
    Micalle Micalle 36-40, F 48 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    I never thought of myself

    as the other woman until someone told me that I was JUST his mistress. It was said to cut me open as wide as possible. WE have done a lot of talking this past month or so. He has asked me if I remembered when we first met and got together. We both remember even though it was...
    memery7 memery7 46-50, F 1 Response 23 hrs ago

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    Here on EP I met another 'other woman'

    and we clicked. Almost a year ago now and we talk every single day. Well yesterday we travelled the country and met half way for the first time an had an amazing weekend away together! Lots of good food, drinks, dancing and laughs! Best friend for life!! Just thought I would...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 13 Responses Apr 19

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    I often ask myself why?

    Why did I bother extending the olive branch in trying mend something that simply...did not exist. Why? Its clear to see, that you're damaged to the point of no return. Its clear to see, that you're use to pain and misery. Until...you finally meet someone who genuinely cares...
    newgurlxo newgurlxo 18-21, F 19 hrs ago

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 17 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    NO LONGER THE OTHER WOMAN!

    !! I am now the only woman :) it has been officially ended this morning, he was straight on the phone to me who was awesome at playing it cool despite up all night worrying! He was going to come over but we both decided against it as he needs time to recover maybe. He has gone...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 14 Responses Mar 21

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    Still NC since last night.

    He's mad, I'm hurt and we are both stubborn as heck. His W went to the beach today with their daughter. She either did not invite him or he declined as usual. Guess I should be thankful our argument did not cause him to run to her. Oh well. My chores of the day are done and it...
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 3 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 41 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    I'm sitting at home trying to relax

    and slow the chances of having a heart attack due to the always negative approach to life that wife oozes out of her very narrow mind. Why does she make derogatory comments about my 92 year old mum, simply because I'm having a disagreement with her ( wife) Often referring to my...
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 2 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    Any OW here is single

    and unable to date anyone else but can only wait for their MM to leave his wife? Me follow the social norm blindly, I forced myself to date someone else in order to force myself to leave my MM (at least mentally), but it was a complete failure. I went on a date arranged by a...
    ayako18 ayako18 31-35, F 6 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    It has been 2 to 3 months

    since I've been on Experience Project. I deleted my old profile... I was going through so many emotions, me and my MM got into a huge argument which led to us having no contact for 2/3 months. I got off EP so I don't see any stories about peoples MM situations ...I just didn't...
    newgurlxo newgurlxo 18-21, F 1 Response 23 hrs ago

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 78 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 170 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    I just came from my home town today.

    I spent 2 days with my family. it was wonderful time. I did not expect him to contact me, i just made my mind free of him for those 2 days. Now i m alone again here, i start missing him. What can i do? i could call or send him a message, he went home and stay with his kids and...
    angelamaxy angelamaxy 22-25 11 hrs ago

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 45 Responses Jan 10

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