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I Am The Other Woman

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 54 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 101 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    I recently reconnected with my ex boyfriend.

    Everything was charming and innocent until he started kissing me, and suddenly our relationship was physical again after 2 years apart. The real kicker is, he has a girlfriend who is in another country. The physical part of our affair will end in the next 24 hours, as I am going...
    miserablegirl95 miserablegirl95 18-21, F 33 mins ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 41 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    forbidden67 forbidden67 46-50, F 4 Responses 1 hr ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 18 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 48 Responses Jan 10

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    sadpreciosa sadpreciosa 26-30, F 4 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Hauntingly beautiful https://www.

    youtube.com/watch?v=mWecuhUUvX0
    Blueeyes65 Blueeyes65 46-50, F 1 Response 9 hrs ago

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    Damn, our trolls aren't

    even creative anymore. All they can say is "IT'S JUST SEX." What do they have templates for responding to posts? All I can do is laugh.
    Serendipitous1 Serendipitous1 36-40, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    I am human I am flawed I am having an

    affair what does an affair look like? this is my experience ... Living in different cities - an hour+ apart He now works here (started 5 months ago) that's been amazing! text every day, little back and forth texts over the course of the day always a much longer chat late...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 14 Responses Nov 11, 2014

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 31 Responses Sep 23, 2014

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    Need advice: I'd go ask my friends.

    .. But since it deals with an affair, I feel I can bring it here. My MM and I got in a blow out fight at the gym a week and a half ago. His wife just had their baby and it's been a world of hell for me. He dropped the bomb on me when we were fighting that he probably won't leave...
    lit4love lit4love 26-30, F 4 Responses 36 mins ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 27 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Don't know if its worth it anymore to do this.

    Basically it comes down to.... He is where he wants to be,right. Sorry... But... Kids. Family Obligations No longer an excuse. You're where you want to be, if you weren't then you wouldn't be. Plain and simple. Need closure. Not sure if I want to...
    lexabear15 lexabear15 26-30, F 4 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    forbidden67 forbidden67 46-50, F 5 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    "...Research shows that 90% of women would

    chase a taken man" ...uh..... http://elitedaily.com/dating/research-behind-guys-with-girlfriends-are-hotter/977009/
    autumnsx autumnsx 18-21, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Two days now I've gone without tears.

    Two days now where I've felt moderately okay. Saw him less today than normal. It was okay. We were both ridiculously busy. I was sad about it, but so busy that it wasn't terrible. We texted less than normal. Bothered me a little. This day felt different though. I didn't have as...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 1 Response 21 hrs ago

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 18 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    Never Thought I'D Be One Of 'Those Women'.

    Where to start.... I always thought I was an honest trustworthy wife/mother/daughter/sister/friend but now I have strayed into the territory of cheater. If you'd asked me what I thought about women who sleep with married men I'd have said 'home wreckers' and had a rant. But now I...
    AnotherBondiBlonde AnotherBondiBlonde 36-40, F 79 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 20 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    My copy of 'The Mistress,

    myths, histories and interpretations of the other woman' has arrived ! very much looking forward to a good read :-)
    MRGFF MRGFF 36-40, F 1 Response 11 hrs ago

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 88 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 16 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    Guilt...question for you married women.

    Do you feel it? I've been with my H for almost 20 years. He is a good man. However, we live as roommates. No intimacy for almost a year. I'm a very type A and he is very type B. When I was younger, I thought that was a perfect match for me. However, when you're trying to...
    MadameMirage MadameMirage 36-40, F 10 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    Yet again... I'm back

    where I was before. He came over early... Normally I would have been happy. But my mind was swimming with everything bad about "us" and about this "relationship"... Today was the day I would start my life allover again. End my suffering and guilt... So when he got here I went...
    DesperatelyDollie DesperatelyDollie 22-25, F 5 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Qu! Anyone have any experiences they would like

    to share please regarding the transition period after he finished with wife/partner and begins with you?
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    I don't know why this groups stories come up on

    my feed. There are so many stories posted too. Every time I see one it disgusts me. What's wrong with you "women"?
    hadyourchance hadyourchance 36-40, F 11 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    ravenofthedark ravenofthedark 41-45, F 15 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    He's bringing his baby to work today.

    It's been months since I've seen him. Friday. Then he will only be around the office half day. Which I feel secretly glad about. Only because seeing the baby is going to stir emotions in me. Although I fell asleep not even half way through, I found a guided meditation on...
    UnrequitedControl UnrequitedControl 31-35, F 3 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 87 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    I ended things for good yesterday.

    I think he was surprised, but it was a very emotional ending. He is a very strong person by nature, but I could tell he was hurting. He asked me if there was someone else. I told him no. I cannot even date with him in my life. I simply said I wanted more. He said I deserve more...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 27 Responses 5 days ago

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 11 Responses Feb 13, 2014

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    Ok this is seemly a bit off topic.

    But how do you feel about rain storms. Do you love it when it rains or wish it would just hurry up and stop?
    iunderstand1234 iunderstand1234 51-55, F 10 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 171 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 70 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 15 Responses May 4, 2014

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    NO LONGER THE OTHER WOMAN!

    !! I am now the only woman :) it has been officially ended this morning, he was straight on the phone to me who was awesome at playing it cool despite up all night worrying! He was going to come over but we both decided against it as he needs time to recover maybe. He has gone...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 14 Responses 6 days ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 206 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    So I usually keep the messenger on Facebook off,

    because I don't want to see mm on there. I just went on, clicked on messenger, and there he was. :(
    ilycc06 ilycc06 31-35, F 3 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    So I've absent for awhile

    but we're Still going strong so thankful he's around on those days that my H drive me crazy. Makes the smiles he makes That much more meaningful
    tdymedic tdymedic 31-35, F 1 Response 22 hrs ago

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    So this post is for all you dam haters of us

    "OW" or "OM" you continue to bash us for straying...not being faithful...try to communicate more with spouse...there is no reason to cheat....blah blah blah...you tell me this.... I have been a dam good wife to my H for 21 years...put my dreams on hold so I can make his come...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 51 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    I did something I said I wouldn't do.

    .. I made him a copy of my house key. Eeek. Let's just hope W never sees it LOL!
    kc5316 kc5316 22-25, F 2 Responses 34 mins ago

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    I Was The Other Woman; Read If You Want To Walk Away

    I'm 29 years old and I live and own a house with my boyfriend of 11 years. About 2 years about I became involved romantically with my co-worker, a married man with three young children. I still work with him very closely with this man...but about two months ago I completely...
    marygold1983 marygold1983 26-30, F 154 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    It's been a month since I've seen mm.

    Mainly because I've been working so much but also because neither of us has put much effort into trying. There have been a few times I could have seen him but I just wasn't in the mood. We hardly even talk anymore. I don't wait around to hear from him or even contact him first...
    moepeep moepeep 22-25, F 2 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    Good Morning My Beautiful Women,

    let not the worlds troubles trouble you today, for there is so much opportunity out here in this World we live that we all often don't take advantage of what it has to offer. Lets try not to forget to Live. Time has a way of creeping up on us, with the time we share with our...
    Imbrokenhearted Imbrokenhearted 36-40, F 5 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    Friday. And you're not over yet.

    Is it ridiculous for me to believe that just maybe there is a reason he wanted me to have so much contact with his kid today? Is it also more ridiculous that I'm planning on canceling plans to go a "party" because he isn't going to be there? (And quite honestly I don't want to...