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    I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN.

    There are many labels I could have. But "the other woman" is not one I use. That is NOT how I define myself or this relationship! It annoys me that we seem to be identified solely in that context here. No doubt that's who I would be from where she stands ... I'm sure that's...
    SafetyNotGuaranteed SafetyNotGuaranteed 46-50, F 18 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    MM is so jealous lately.

    I can't take it. You don't get to be jealous of me being single and enjoying myself if I can't be jealous of you having a wife and newborn daughter now. There's no fairness in any part of the situation. Not for either of us.
    kc5316 kc5316 22-25, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Haven't been on today

    so I haven't seen all the troll post but wanted to give a big hug to the OW's out there that are having problems. Remember if the MM was happy at home he wouldn't go look for it elsewhere. That sounds cold but it is true in 90% of the affairs. Same holds true for women who...
    shouldntbethishard shouldntbethishard 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 11, 2014

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    Honestly I know it's not very noble

    and most people condemn it but I've always wanted to be the other woman at least once. It's in-grained in most of us to do something wild and forbidden at least once. I kinda want the Sugar-Daddy thing too...just once. Once.
    doublemajorfever doublemajorfever 18-21, F 1 Response 16 hrs ago

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    To All The Negative Wives

    **to all the wives who have messaged me** I have been messaged and ridiculed by many wives for being a "home wrecker". I for one never knew he was married and let me just say this. If you would provide the love and affection (including taking care of yourselves) your so "loved...
    Livedandloved Livedandloved 22-25, F 89 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    "Hopelessly In Love With A Married Man" - I

    swear I didn't mean for this to happen. Loving you was an accident. It just, well, happened :) Love, Misty Starr
    MistyStarr1969 MistyStarr1969 46-50, F 12 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    AgeMeet.com is promoting the concept of age gap

    dating where older men can date younger women. The trend of older men younger women dating of getting popular day by day and the website will prove helpful in bringing men and women together to help build a successful and loving relationship. For many people, loneliness can be...
    norahmarlin norahmarlin 26-30, F 2 hrs ago

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    Ooooookay....I pick up my phone this am

    while having my coffee, to catch up on what's been going on with you ladies. What do I find? Haters, trolls and generally just nonsense going on. Who are all these people and why, suddenly, are you here telling us what's best for us, when you know not a thing? Get out, shoo...
    CherokeeEyes CherokeeEyes 41-45, F 19 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    I've been seeing my MM

    for a ling time. Maybe 6 years? His wife had a baby in the beginning of December and got very sick the first week of January. I've totally been giving him space, and have been trying to help out as much as possible at work and just being light and cheerful around him during...
    bpmmlt bpmmlt 31-35, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    10 Myths about being the other woman & FAQ.

    1."You must be doing things in bed his wife won’t." Not true. I have limitations and desires as well. I’m not a prude by any means but I’m not doing anything in bed that a typical couple doesn’t do. 2."He’s just using you for sex." I doubt it, he doesn’t need me for...
    somebody999 somebody999 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    Yahoo for last minute plans with MM.

    He snuck out of work and we had a great hour. Was talking to ex MM today as I was hoping maybe we could just remain friends. He wants more so I decided I'm just going to leave it how it is. New MM asked what is it that I miss so much from ex MM. I said def not the sex bc you...
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 1 day ago

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    Society calls us cheaters

    and home wreckers and a few other not so nice names, but we are mothers, daughters, sisters and grandmothers like everyone else. The only difference is that we have a relationship outside of our marriage that helps us feel whole. I don't see myself as being any different from...
    KathyJ304 KathyJ304 26-30, F 48 Responses Jan 10

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    How Do You Resolve conflicts?

    Sitting in my office with a woozy head, a massive headache, sore throat and jolts of lightening in my lower back and knees... Yup! this is how Malaria feels like. I can still think and smile and most of all I can miss like crazy the OW friends in my life.... I will be offline...
    warriormama warriormama 41-45, F 10 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    What a horrible weekend.

    I got into a massive row with MM and we discussed splitting up. He says he doesn't want to lose me. But I'm not sure if we're OK, even after talking for hours online. It started over something so trivial... I questioned his motivation for a decision he made at work. FFS! We...
    daisyblue222 daisyblue222 36-40, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    What The Wife Doesn't Know..

    What you don't know is.. I never initiated this contact with your husband. I was never out to get him or you. Him being married is NOT a turn on for me. I have never thought ill of you. I wish I could, but never have been able to. I DO have morals; whether you wish to believe it...
    AyoMK AyoMK 22-25, F 29 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    MM and I have been so connected lately.

    It's truly the best thing I've ever experienced in life. I found him during a really dark time in my life and he saved me from so much sadness & pain. I remember in the beginning our relationship was so playful and cute but he never really let me into his world. A year later we...
    subgirl26 subgirl26 22-25, F 8 Responses 1 day ago

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    Lonely vs Being Alone.

    Something really weird is going on.When i was in my twenties i was fierce ! In a hyper sexual, confident way before i was in a relationship... However the minute i got into one i morphed into the perfect "Idiot Stepford wife " girlfriend... hair perfect, nails immaculate...
    warriormama warriormama 41-45, F 7 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    I Applaud "The Other Woman"

    I've looked through this "experience" and have read comments made by both sides. One against "the other woman"...and one supporting. I'm not out to hurt anyone, just merely wishing to provide my experience. Sometimes, speaking from experience, the "other woman" is actually "the...
    seeinglife2x2 seeinglife2x2 46-50, M 54 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    I am posting this letter from a married man

    again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its been..to the minute...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 27 Responses May 6, 2014

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    Stages of an affair Ladies,

    I have been involved with a MM fit 18 months now. It's gotten very serious, to the point of he is leaving his wife and family in a matter of weeks. (I too am married) Could you ladies that have been involved a lot longer tell me on some level what I can "expect"? I know everyone...
    serendipity65 serendipity65 41-45, F 8 Responses 1 day ago

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    More drama from ex MM.

    Text for 3 hours. He wants me back and when I deny him he starts getting nasty. I told him I was blocking him and I deleted whatsapp. I didn't actual block him but I stopped responding to his texts. He actually apologized which he never does. I still ignored him. He hasn't msg...
    Lust2much Lust2much 31-35, F 1 Response 12 hrs ago

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    Sitting with family at dinner on Sunday,

    my brother, without knowing it, gave me a pretty good idea why men who are miserable in their marriages stay. After 13 years and one eight year old boy with his crazy wife, my brother finally is divorced. He is dating my best friend and is very happy for the first time in ages...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 32 Responses Sep 23, 2014

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    As is normal, we were on the phone

    or video chatting all day today. From about 8 until about 5. We go through our day together, clean the house, make dinner, run through the to-do list, in the office, etc. But for some reason tonight, even though we said our goodbyes, I feel like I can't let go of him. He feels...
    whynot13 whynot13 46-50, F 7 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    MM asked to meet up today.

    . Obviously To fck. And I decided to divert the conversation and then I stopped replying to him.. And it feels sooooooo good to just say no. It's not about getting even with him. I miss him so much that it hurts. But I'm not his fck toy. I would never subject myself to that...
    Xf1234 Xf1234 26-30, F 19 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    To The Married Men

    *I hope this helps the other women who have felt this way* There are some things we, the other women, need you, the married men, to know and understand. Being the other woman is a difficult position. Given a choice, this is not a position we would choose. We are in the...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 67 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    I just got accused of enabling a woman here

    because I support her decision to stay with her married man. And I said it in that thread but I also want to say it here as well... Oh ffs.. I am not enabling her.. I am supporting her in her decision. If you look around, I also support other woman who choose to leave their...
    Kokopuffy Kokopuffy 51-55, F 15 Responses May 4, 2014

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    Don't You Women Get It?

    Don't you women get it yet? Most married men are not going to leave their wife for the other woman. These men want the best of both and as long as you're giving it to them that's how things will be. These men are just missing that spark that passion that their marriage has lost...
    totallytea totallytea 46-50, F 165 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    I used to come to this forum to read stories

    that made me feel less alone, and to give me some sanity and hope. In the midst of my affair, and the lengthy and painful ending of that journey I was here often.. Sharing my story, getting advice, and reading all of the other stories similar to mine. If gave me a sense of calm...
    lyrics101 lyrics101 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 6

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    To all the trolls and the ones telling the ow

    to go kill yourselves....get out of your moms basement and get your own life...I'm sorry your parents didn't hug you before but is very coward to bully the ow users in an Internet forum... Let me tell you as an MM, I see how important the OW are for us and how they make the mm...
    floaty2001 floaty2001 36-40, M 17 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    I'm not the other woman,

    but I love the support you get (I too was once the OW & this group has helped me get thru some pain from MANY years ago) . I heard Rascal Flatts song "Riot" & fell in love with it. Maybe this song is for some of you OW & OM out there. http://youtu.be/nTwpGrWzGpI
    DreamGolfer DreamGolfer 46-50, F 1 Response 7 hrs ago

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    I WAS the other woman.

    Not anymore. It feels so good to ignore the texts that say I miss you or I love you because I don't feel the same anymore. They keep coming, and I keep ignoring. I am now in another relationship where I am his one and only. No more doubts. No more questioning. No more sadness...
    lilly1988 lilly1988 26-30 11 Responses Feb 13, 2014

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    For all my EP friends,

    I have changed my screen name from Surfsway to Serendipitous1. It's still me.
    Serendipitous1 Serendipitous1 36-40, F 8 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    So my guy emailed me,

    he took the day off of work yesterday to hang with me. However, I wasn't excited about it. He came we played around, cuddled, talked a little and then he got up to leave cuz in had errands to run, then he can back again later and then left to go to a birthday kickback. I don't...
    YankeesOTW YankeesOTW 26-30 11 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    A Letter From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying dark...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 101 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    At first i was happy about my MM getting a

    promotion, but now i am just sad. I know this means I will most likely never get to see him again. Saturday was the first day I was at work and he wasnt there working beside me. It was miserable. Everyone was talking about his new job and how great it was. All i wanted to do...
    Tiffanyportelli Tiffanyportelli 22-25, F 2 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    INFIDELITY: Wrecking a home is NEVER the work

    of a single person. Have you ever seen a construction worker doing demo on his own? It takes multiple parties to tear a thing apart. You, your partner and the other. However, the wrecking is much more easily done when the foundation is weak to begin with. Don't just get upset...
    OrangeTwist OrangeTwist 36-40, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    I Can't Believe It... I Actually Left

    If you read my last story, you will know that I was the "other woman" in my last relationship. Yes, last. I finally got it all together and I left him. When it came down to it, I finally just said, "Its me or her. I can't live like this anymore." And he begged...
    fuego fuego 18-21 41 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Can The Other Woman Ever Really Become The Wife?

    I've read a lot of judgmental comments on different sites but we should never say what we would or would not do because we honestly never know until we find ourselves in a place called "here". I became the other woman (OW) a little over a year ago. We were both married at the...
    essenceoflaneen essenceoflaneen 31-35 84 Responses Feb 19, 2011

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    Another week down... He's changing.

    Part of it has been hard to watch, he has grown stronger and in doing this has shut me out in some ways. Today, he opened up a little, he is in turns; sad, bitter, tired, angry. I know he needs to go through his journey on his own, I can no more do it for him, than he could...
    40Creek 40Creek 41-45, F 5 hrs ago

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    Sorry, Ladies...

    I know I'll probably catch plenty of flak for this, but I'm gonna say it anyway. I have slept with married (or otherwise "spoken for") men before, and I'm sure I'll do it again.  Why?  Because I want to.  Because he wants to.  Because there's not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 205 Responses Jul 28, 2008

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    I just read an article about two individuals

    that were sentenced to prison time for trolling and sending online threats. Just because your user name doesn't include your first and surname, doesn't mean that you're anonymous. Yay, computer forensics! Boo, trolls!
    lostanddistraught lostanddistraught 22-25, F 1 Response 7 hrs ago

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    Sometimes I hate having to be the better person.

    MM and I usually meet every Monday and Friday for lunch and if we are lucky, one other day during the week/weekend for "us" time. Well I knew he was going to have a crazy work day before he has to fly out of town again on Wednesday. Telling how stressed he was about his...
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 5 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    I don't expect my MM to leave his wife

    or children and I don't want him to. Just like I'm not gonna leave the life I have created for myself either and he wouldn't want me to. I didn't plan on falling in love with him. Idk what my plan was. I didn't have one and I still don't. I can see myself getting too attached to...
    Tiffanyportelli Tiffanyportelli 22-25, F 7 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    Women won't mess with a man

    that lives with his mom but will mess with a man who lives with his wife.
    reeessa reeessa 13-15, F 28 Responses Oct 23, 2014

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    His family didn't make it to trivia last night,

    roads were a mess, but we still had a good time. I read all the messages between mm and w over the past week. Not an easy read. He is having to say certain things to keep her talking that cut pretty deep. Things are coming to a head. This week will show what he's made of...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    The day that my best friend told me over

    and over would come has finally arrived! Oh ladies, help me!!! I received a message tonight from my ex-MM! I know that it's been said before here time and again that most of them come back, I just never expected that mine would. With all of that being said, it makes me feel much...
    ArlingtonRose ArlingtonRose 36-40, F 3 Responses 4 hrs ago

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